Butterfly21482 Archive

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0	Don't date men who use porn!! Well, consider this. I was able to make waves in a small-ish community and make sure action was taken. Women who are in regular dating pools like Tinder or OKC have zero chance at knowing that guy has a history of being a creep or abuser. The instances that it happens are really no less than in standard dating, but in this community we have more knowledge and protection. In fact, recently the women in this community banded together and formed our own squad and we share information about anyone (…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/11/19 03:37 PM
1	Don't date men who use porn!! I said, and this is a direct quote, “some (but not all) mix.” I didn’t mention my own preferences. Is English not your first language? Or do you just need reading comprehension classes? So to answer your question, yes, you’re missing something. Like literally all of it lol.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/11/19 10:15 PM
1	Don't date men who use porn!! How on earth did you arrive at that conclusion? “Trading partners” is called swinging. We are talking about kink or bdsm. They have literally nothing to do with each other. In the fetish world we.....have fetishes. And explore those fetishes with consenting adults who share those fetishes. Some (but not all) people mix kink and sex. You seriously need an education.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/11/19 07:40 PM
11	Someone else’s boyfriend discovers his GF is an FDS member. Y’all gotta stop leaving your browsers open. Or......now hear me out.......or........trust your partner and be open and honest with them and don’t have things to hide that require 12 levels of security??	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 09:08 PM
-1	Don't date men who use porn!! That’s your personal experience. My local community of 50-60 people disagrees with you. It’s like any other site. Do I get gross emails about nasty things guys wanna do to me? Sure. Do I get any more of them than I do on Tinder or OkCupid? Nope. It’s a numbers game and your mileage may vary but I think telling people that the whole site that serves people all over the world is total garbage just because you had a bad experience is a little off-base. It’s like saying no one else in the universe s…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 08:51 PM
0	Don't date men who use porn!! I’m sorry you had that experience but it is not the same for everyone. My local community is pretty big on consent. I actually did some active campaigning 1.5 years ago because someone sexually assaulted me (very very rough repeated groping) and the leaders of local groups said this would be his “first strike.” I raised holy hell because I said a predator should not be given a second chance to hurt people. This particular guy had also been banned a few years ago after harassing a girl and follow…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 07:18 PM
2	Don't date men who use porn!! I understand that. It’s difficult to open up about that stuff and hope that it all lands well. Rejection sucks so it’s hard to make yourself do or say things that you fear he might reject you for. But if that’s going to happen, it’s going to happen anyway and you may as well rip off the bandaid.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 07:10 PM
6	Don't date men who use porn!! I don’t want to make assumptions about your age or dating experience. But in my experience, if you can’t be honest with him and he judges you or reacts negatively to what makes you tick, you guys need to speak very frankly and deal with that to know if the relationship is viable for the long term.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 04:52 PM
1	Don't date men who use porn!! Go on FetLife, find local groups, meet up with like-minded folks who are happy to help you explore what you are interested in. Much better than porn.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 03:01 PM
8	Men who are intimidated by women who make more money than them aren’t intimidated because they feel like inadequate providers. They are intimidated because they feel that won’t be able to domineer the relationship nor get away with doing less housework/ childcare. Yeah, there’s a Fallout Boy lyric “I became such a strange shape from trying to fit in” and it reminded me of all the times I bent and twisted myself to be what my partner wanted me to be. Never again.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/11/19 05:19 AM