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I'm no expert for sure, I just lived near Venice beach for 5 years and met way too many guys that talk like this. It could actually be transplants think it's totally the dope and chill LA way to talk
/r/seduction21/09/16 09:20 PM
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I live in LA and a lot of guys talk like that. I think it's the dude equivalent of a valley girl voice inflection. I thought it sounded a bit effeminate when I moved from the south but it kinda matches the relaxed vibe of West LA in a way and girls eat it up. I've met a lot of surfer types that sound like that, they're usually good natured guys.
/r/seduction21/09/16 11:02 AM
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I don't think most of the people here are autistic and desperately searching for some way any way to get in a woman's pants. It also seems pretty ridiculous that guys that actually are autistic can't benefit from learning healthy social interaction.
/r/seduction17/04/16 08:51 AM
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This is very true. You also touched on what a lot of guys don't internalize. Girls and the universe don't owe you anything. If a girl isn't attracted to you it's on you not her. Work on yourself as a person and the women will come, but don't act like you "deserve" anything, there's no cosmic power out there dispensing favors because you've paid your dues.
/r/seduction06/04/16 11:45 PM
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It really is true, and I think realizing that helps a guy take it less personally. I used to get annoyed when a girl flakes or I feel she "disrespected" me because to me my word is law, if I say I'll do it I do it. But in my opinion for many girls it seems their word is their current mood. They say they'd love to meet up but then they flake the next day. It does no good to get butthurt as she was likely being truthful in the moment.
/r/seduction30/03/16 05:10 PM
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I believe it just stands for "Hot Babe 9/10".
/r/seduction06/12/15 08:14 AM
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I think you'll get over this hangup with time if you give it a chance. It doesn't matter who she's had in the past, right now she wants you. I had a hangup a while when I found out the girl I was dating moonlighted as a stripper. I could only think of the guys she was grinding up on every night and it really turned me off. After dating her for a while though I found that I really didn't care, in fact it was an ego boost knowing she met so many guys every day but wanted to be with me.
/r/seduction03/12/15 08:50 PM
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I got it bad from an ex recently. She broke up with me and immediately got together with an extremely rich CEO. Like private jet and penthouses all over the world rich. She was 10/10 hot and it felt that she was just moving up to her appropriate level. That was a kick in the balls but I used it as an impetus to make big changes and take risks. It still stung pretty bad because I had fallen for her and developed Oneitis but it subsided quickly as I kept busy chasing my dreams. She was that kind o…
/r/seduction03/12/15 10:17 AM
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We probably sound like a not so subtle Old Spice marketing time. It's true though!
/r/seduction21/11/15 02:08 AM
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Totally agree with this. The more I've made myself an interesting person the more I meet women. Especially once you get in your late 20s or 30s. A lot of girls are really enamored with adventure so if you seem like the kind of guy that will show them new and exciting things it goes a long way. I like to explore a new city every few weeks, not planning the trip, just winging it; I've had some pretty amazing weekend dates inviting a girl to go with me.
/r/seduction20/11/15 12:39 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, where do you find models to photograph? I need to hire legit models for my design work sometimes but I don't know where to go about finding them. My pro friends all just seem to have an established network so it's just an issue of asking around for them.
/r/seduction20/11/15 12:36 PM
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I once dated a girl for a few months that constantly pointed out how amazing I smelled. I never told her what it was but it was just Old Spice deodorant. I always wondered if she truly loved that smell or it was some combination with my natural smell that drove her crazy.
/r/seduction20/11/15 09:15 AM
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I got a similar question once on a first date and just went for broke with "You should see the kinky shit I'm into". Turns out she wanted to see the kinky shit I was into.
/r/seduction03/11/15 11:45 PM
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I feel like both ways are valid really. I read Models and I believe he recommends doing things like asking girls for the time and such to slowly build up the skills. In my personal life the gradual approach ended up getting me there, and I think laid a very solid foundation. The all in approach can really jump start things but it seems you're gonna have some really rough times if your foundation isn't good. I think OPs approach can totally work if he can stick with it and learn from every encoun…
/r/seduction22/10/15 05:26 PM
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Man, I was terrible with college girls in college, but now at 30 I get dates with college girls like it's nothing. If you play your cards right it only gets easier as you go, especially if you put in practice over the years.
/r/seduction21/10/15 06:20 PM
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What's critical though is that you're in a good physical place for it. I was trying to date in the rural south and it was terrible, but in a big city it's great.
/r/seduction21/10/15 09:03 AM
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Exactly, ironically I'm less likely to settle down now because I have so many options.
/r/seduction21/10/15 08:55 AM
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I'll tell you my dating prospects have gone up exponentially as I get to my early 30s. 18-21 year olds are still interested and 30-40 year olds see me as mature enough now. If you're single and adventurous and in shape at 30 theres no better time in your life for dating.
/r/seduction21/10/15 08:05 AM
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I agree, I've always had good success with just talking to her as if it'd only been a day or two. Say there's a cool new restaurant you wanna check out and invite her or something. Just like you'd do with a friend you hadn't talked to in a long time. I think acknowledging the long time just makes it seem like you've been pitifully pining for her all that time.
/r/seduction21/10/15 02:23 AM
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This is a bizarre comment chain. All posturing and trash talking when we know nothing about each other. Sounds like Misslollipop just wanted to stir up some drama which you did quite nicely. In my opinion it's pretty useless to talk to girls about "pickup" as a lot of these techniques work on a subconscious level, so when confronted with a guy that presses those buttons all bets are off.
/r/seduction18/10/15 08:33 AM
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That's a great idea and could give you all sorts of opportunities to be a dick as you're beating her at whatever you play.
/r/seduction16/10/15 06:23 AM
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This was the biggest hurdle to my love life for years and years. She says something like "I'll go back with you but we're not gonna have sex". That would throw me and I wouldn't make a move, always the gentleman, and I'd never hear from her again afterwards. What took me a while to realize is that in my opinion she's just justifying the whole process so as not to seem easy or like a slut. It's all a social song and dance. Now I pretty much ignore that and make a move once we're alone. If she say…
/r/seduction13/10/15 02:57 PM
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Succinctly put. You wanna go gay and play video games in between butt sex?
/r/seduction13/10/15 01:23 PM
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Dude I did too. She fell for me at first because I was completely non-needy and outcome independent. She was pursuing me hard, but once I got really invested and started becoming clingy she completely lost interest. I got Oneitis pretty hard out of nowhere once I learned how rare of a catch she was. I think we all make that mistake at least from time to time.
/r/seduction13/10/15 11:45 AM
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I think the biggest theme of the book is to not be needy. Being needy is a huge attraction killer to a girl, it should seem that you're less invested than her.
/r/seduction13/10/15 04:02 AM
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I agree, most men are just genetically inclined to go for a certain type of woman. I feel for overweight men and women both but you can change that. Man I had no luck with women until late in college. I was scrawny and awkward and kinda bitter about it. Then one day I decided to nut up and change that. I went cold turkey on sugar and most carbs for a year and worked out hardcore. I went on date after awkward date trying to get better. It was a miserable existence for a long while. Now 10 years l…
/r/seduction09/10/15 12:23 PM
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Budapest was on my list along with Berlin and a couple other cities like Prague and Stockholm. The language concerned me though, do you think you can get by with English in Budapest?
/r/seduction08/10/15 10:08 PM
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Dude, it's the best decision you'll ever make. I moved from a tiny town to Los Angeles. The difference it'll make on your ambitions and life prospects is amazing. All my friends in small cities get bad jealous when I talk to them. I just recently switched it up and moved to Berlin and it's different but great. I say make the move and don't look back.
/r/seduction08/10/15 10:06 PM
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Definitely agree with this. If she straight asks I'd tell the truth but there's no reason to bring it up. I lost my virginity to a much more experienced girl and she had no idea. Things would have been much different if I told her.
/r/seduction08/10/15 09:29 PM
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In my opinion paying for drinks is pretty neutral, what matters is your frame while doing it. If you seem supplicating and like you're trying to please it looks bad, but if you seem like you're just taking charge and that's just what you do; it means nothing to you; then it can be very positive. I make enough money where I enjoy paying for drinks but there's no way I'll do it if it makes me feel like she's requiring it or trying to milk me for drinks. That said I would never buy a girl a drink i…
/r/seduction01/10/15 11:13 PM
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That's a great idea actually. I honestly don't mind paying for drinks but not unless they're at least a little invested in the interaction. That would prevent the girl just using you for a quick drink.
/r/seduction01/10/15 11:04 PM
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Nah Tinder is hard mode unless you're very photogenic. Lots of guys great with the ladies aren't that photogenic. I do well with girls in real life but absolutely terrible on Tinder. I even have very good text game but I just don't get many matches. If I actually get a girl on a date through Tinder then they seem to get excited; for some reason I'm much more attractive in person. Don't let Tinder chip away at your confidence, there's much more to a guy's attractiveness than just a photo.
/r/seduction28/08/15 02:31 AM
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For sure, it helps to be reminded other guys go through the exact same seemingly soul crushing experience and get through it. It's really nice to see a bunch of strangers so supportive of each other.
/r/seduction18/08/15 06:18 PM
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Hey man you're not alone. I'm going through the exact same thing right now. It was only a few months but I fell for this girl hard, I think I was smitten. Yesterday, out of the blue she told me she didn't feel the chemistry she did at first and needed to end it. One of the worst feelings I've felt. She was beautiful, enough where guys stared at her wherever we went and I could practically feel the jealousy from every guy we encountered. Our personalities meshed perfectly too, always laughing and…
/r/seduction18/08/15 04:48 AM
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It's pretty difficult but can be done. You pretty much need to be hired by a local company (good luck) or start your own in an industry they deem important. I've been working on incorporating there so I can get a pass to live there but it's quite a pain.
/r/seduction11/08/15 02:56 AM
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Sounds to me that he's just smooth, he didn't use any goofy scripts or anything, he was just charming. Besides, even if he was then that's just a way to break the ice and build attraction with each other. You obviously like the guy so there's no reason to question your attraction at this point if you ask me, he sounds like he was respectful and fun so I say go for it. If things progress in future dates I'd just say to be upfront with your intentions and ask about his. You can't assume you're the…
/r/seduction26/07/15 05:44 PM
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100% true. I made the same mistake when I was younger but things completely flipped for me once I started getting advice from successful guys.
/r/seduction26/07/15 05:36 PM
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I've always been under the impression that it's implied you're dating other people until you talk exclusivity or get to a point where it's clearly getting serious. At least dating in Los Angeles was like that for me. I once dated a woman for 3 months before she asked if I wanted to stop dating other people and be exclusive. I had assumed we were exclusive like 2 months before that, which was quite an assumption on my part apparently because she was still going on first dates 3 months in.
/r/seduction26/07/15 05:32 PM
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In my experience a second date kiss works well but I usually plan really short casual first dates so there's not much of an opportunity unless the chemistry is just off the charts.
/r/seduction26/07/15 05:27 PM
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I agree. Stinginess or cheapness is not attractive in a man. I get shit in online forums for paying, but the thing is I make good money and I like to treat a girl. I really don't care if she pays or not. I won't do ridiculous shit or buy drinks for girls at bars generally, but if it's a date or my girlfriend I like to pay. I understand that it's a question of respect and equality to a lot of dudes but you can pay for a girl without being a chump or a doormat, just have some class about it.
/r/seduction26/07/15 03:46 AM
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Yeah well I enjoy it, it feels right to me so to each their own I suppose shrugs
/r/seduction26/07/15 03:37 AM
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You're getting downvoted but I agree with you. I think it is a little old fashioned but most girls seem to appreciate old fashioned touches, and I would never schedule an expensive first date partly to avoid getting used for a meal.
/r/seduction26/07/15 02:50 AM
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I disagree with you on that. I've always been under the impression that the asker pays, at least the first time. But you also pick the spot so you can control the cost if needed. Sometimes a girl insists on splitting anyway and that's great, but I think if I pick the spot the onus is on me. Personally I pay for a girl most of the time, unless she just insists, but I know that can be a burden especially for younger guys, so it shouldn't be expected.
/r/seduction26/07/15 02:46 AM
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Exactly, boring questions get boring answers especially if you're the one that initiated. If you come into it playful and fun it's so much more likely she'll reciprocate. In my opinion the content of the conversation is unimportant just the feeling you give her.
/r/seduction25/07/15 10:33 PM
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Hey man, I was in much the same boat and I broke through it through online dating. You say you're a fairly good looking guy so you should be able to get dates no problem. From there it's just a matter of experience. I went from hopeless loser with the women to confident and pretty constant dates in less than a year Keep your chin up, there are tons of dudes in the same situation, you'd never know just looking at them. Fake it till you make it goes a long way if you're not confident.
/r/seduction28/06/15 01:47 AM
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I don't think that's true at all, maybe with a girl that is specifically looking for a one night stand. I never sleep with a girl till the 3rd or 4th date (just not into it before I get to know them a little) and it seems to drive a lot of girls crazy in a good way. If you're confident and clearly could hook up but don't then I think it adds a layer of intrigue to you that can really work in your favor. I like to leave them wanting more.
/r/seduction24/06/15 02:38 PM
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Well this article says he went to a UK high school so I guess they suck across the pond too.
/r/seduction16/04/15 02:29 PM
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I think it's almost never a bad thing to escalate quickly. If she's interested she'll say she's not ready yet but keep talking and if she's not into it then you're probably gonna go nowhere anyway. It's terribly frustrating to message someone for weeks to realize they're never gonna meet up so don't do that to yourself.
/r/seduction14/04/15 06:16 PM
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It's true, if the real you is sad and lonely you're sure gonna have to fake being confident and fun.
/r/seduction14/04/15 06:14 PM
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Great advice, I'd add a couple things that took me a while to get the hang of but get me great results now. Humor can be a huge leg up. Almost every message I get is some variation of "Haha you're funny." Making your profile fun and lighthearted is the way to go. Dear lord don't say you're chill and like to laugh. In the first few messages being funny is ideal, BUT you have to show you're interested ASAP and be serious sometimes. If she has no idea what, if anything, that you say isn't a joke th…
/r/seduction14/04/15 06:09 PM
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I always thought frozen yogurt or ice cream was the best when young with no money. It's fun and cheap and you can get up and walk around with it if sitting around is too awkward or something.
/r/seduction01/04/15 08:19 PM
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Be an interesting person. Travel, take risks, try new experiences. Dating becomes infinitely easier when you have fun stories or experiences to talk about.
/r/seduction06/03/15 07:10 PM
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I got stuck in an area where I couldn't date in person so I pretty much only texted all the time for a couple years. I think you can get a girl to purely fall for you over text if you do it well. I learned a few things through trial and error. It should be light and playful, your texts shouldn't be a chore to read! Any chance you get, flirt or give her a little jab. By far the worst thing is to be boring. A stupid joke is way better than dry facts. Try to get her trading jabs if you can. Also, d…
/r/seduction02/03/15 12:07 PM
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I mostly date 20-25 year old girls and smileys are pretty damn essential if you regularly text. You gotta keep it playful and that's the best way in my opinion. I think an easy rule is just to match her smiley frequency.
/r/seduction02/03/15 11:58 AM
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Well I mean it as a dismissive "oh well, moving on" and also it shows a little class, you don't need this girl so you're not butthurt if you get rejected. Besides just being a decent person you also stay on good terms with her if she has friends around or anything. I think keeping things playful is the way to go and just flat out turning heel and walking away is very rude any way you cut it.
/r/seduction27/02/15 03:15 PM
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Seems inoffensive enough to me. I wouldn't get pissed at all unless I'm standing right next to my girlfriend when a guy says it, then it becomes more personal.
/r/seduction27/02/15 12:13 PM
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It seems very "sour grapes" to simply leave without saying a word if she says she has a boyfriend. I always at least say something good natured like "well he's apparently a lucky guy" and promptly remove myself without seeming desperate or dickish.
/r/seduction27/02/15 12:07 PM
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I have a somewhat opposite response from girls in that I'm 30 and look 30 but it always seems to be the college age girls that are much more interested than girls my own age. I think it comes down to how you present yourself. I'm very spontaneous and joke and drink a lot and probably don't come across as the most stable "paying a mortgage" type. You say younger girls see you as a father figure type, do you think you act like a 40 year old would act? Lots of girls love older guys, but maybe you'r…
/r/seduction26/02/15 01:40 PM
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I agree, it's very cringe. Not only was he stood up but he told the whole world about it and took pictures of super mundane nightlife stuff to make it seem like she was missing out. Kind of a pity party.
/r/seduction09/02/15 01:23 AM
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I just hit 30 and I've found that the prospects are better than ever. I think a lot of it depends on where you are in life. I make good money and have a good career but I'm very spontaneous with travel and "adventure" and younger girls really respond to that. If anything I do better in the 20-27 range than closer to my age because 28-30 year old girls want more stability, I think. That said, I think if you act 30 as in not knowing pop culture or losing track of fashion or anything a 25 year old …
/r/seduction23/01/15 05:13 AM
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Excuse me Miss, you have such nice birthing hips.
/r/seduction20/01/15 11:11 PM
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That's exactly the opener I use at work networking events. It works really well because it seems to say that of course you're introducing yourself because that's just what you do. It makes it seem very natural.
/r/seduction08/10/14 12:19 PM
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Man, I disagree that it means she's not interested. Some people just aren't comfortable with that much contact with someone they just met. Maybe the moment just wasn't right, awkward timing. From my personal experience it doesn't mean much; certainly worth following up and going for a second date kiss.
/r/seduction16/08/14 12:07 PM
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I totally agree. Most of my relationships have been with a girl that didn't kiss on the first date. One turned her cheek on it, but then when I pursued her she just said she's never that comfortable with someone on the first date. Understandable! On a related note, I'm a dude and I won't sleep with a girl on the first couple dates. I just don't dig it if I'm looking for a relationship. Some girls get mad or offended thinking I don't find them attractive, but that's not true. I think it's a simil…
/r/seduction16/08/14 12:05 PM
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Realistically I would have done the same thing as you even though I think OP did the right thing which took some balls. I would have felt obligated since I initiated the date, but she has to know it's not much of a date at all just sitting in a movie.
/r/seduction04/06/14 05:00 PM
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My friend married a girl that he met on a flight while he was sitting next to the girl and her mother. He even got her mother's blessing to date. I've never seen it happen with the genders reversed though.
/r/seduction01/02/14 07:58 AM
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I was using OKC in a big city and only dating one or two girls at a time but I STILL managed to run into girls I'd dated. I even went in for a freelance job at a great company and my hiring manager was unexpectedly a girl I went on one date with a couple months before. Maybe it's different if you don't freelance around town but there's no way I'd messily burn bridges with girls I meet off of OKC.
/r/seduction07/01/14 02:06 PM
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I'm from the South and when I moved to CA I couldn't discern any accent for the life of me. The only thing I've noticed is a lot of girls in CA raise their voice at the end of a statement as if it's a question; I never really heard that in Georgia.
/r/seduction14/11/13 07:02 PM
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I play the drums and I've dated multiple women that say they only date drummers. I thought that was pretty out there, but I certainly won't complain. Guitar is a safe choice for picking up the ladies, although guitarists are kind of a dime a dozen, especially if you're in college.
/r/seduction20/08/13 04:24 PM
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I got to know my neighbor who invited me out where I met more people and it snowballed from there. But even then I bonded mostly over mutual hobbies. If you've got nerdy hobbies or specific music interests that's instant friend material right there.
/r/seduction11/08/13 02:35 AM
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