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Don't say it. Ignore her. She's flaunting to push your buttons. Your marriage is over. She's no longer your wife. She's trying to hurt you. If you confront her, she'll laugh in your face.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 02:35 PM
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Can you move her things out to the driveway so no one can come inside the house? You wouldn't even need to interact with her.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 03:38 PM
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I don't know why everyone, even attorneys, say to not move out. That's what brought me to this group. My hubs moved out to start his affair. He walked out on our teen, but with my encouragement, he stopped by to visit once a week. After securing his atty and filing, he found out child support would be reduced so he fought me for overnights. Long story short, is any of this hurting him? Nope! He's still entitled to half of the house and 50/50 custody, although in reality it won't exactly be that.…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 06:53 AM
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This is divorce. Sorry, but your marriage is over. Be on your guard, because she might trick you or do things behind your back. I wouldn't trust your wife. See if there is free legal assistance in your area. If you have retirement, use that. I'm able to pull money out of my ROTH the amount of money I invested and not get penalized, so I'm using that to pay my legal fees. Hoping my divorce will end soon.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/26 04:02 PM
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That's what I thought. He was lying to the court in court docs. His attorney even allowed it. I have proof--bank and credit card statements from 2006 to prove he lied. But I think all my evidence would/could be important if I go to trial. His credibility would be shot then, but I want to avoid trial. It would be costly and highly embarrassing for him. I could win big but is it worth it? I want this over :) Basically a lot of things I'm reading online and in this group does not translate in real …
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 11:52 PM
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Depositions are expensive. My STBX lied in the interrogation paperwork and so far, the judge could care less.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 04:26 PM
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Insert shock emoji!
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 04:20 PM
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Locking you out, preventing you from being with your kids, lying to the kids about you, bad-mouthing you to the children is called parental alienation and the court tends to frown on this, big time. She can get into big trouble. Horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 06:07 AM
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You can get a free government cell phone, but it's not an iPhone. Also, Watts charges have to be handled correctly for it to work, so make sure you complete the paperwork right and to do it immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 06:00 AM
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It's Watts charges, which can be offset by Epstein credits.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 05:54 AM
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In California, it's called Watts charges.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 05:00 AM
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No kids, so why wasn't she working? The court will probably tell her to get a job, so the support could be reduced. I hope you're recovering well.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 04:09 AM
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May I ask who the lender is? I've read that it's a long process. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 05:16 AM
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This is very hard to do, but speak nothing. Do not tell your family or friends details about what happened, especially about what's going on in the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 04:42 PM
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Dissometer is now Xspouse. My attorney likes Dissometer more, but the free online calculator for CA is pretty accurate.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 07:37 AM
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I'm so sorry this happened. 10 days and she's already proven to be untrustworthy. She and her family are a nightmare. It's a blessing you discovered this now and not later in the marriage. You didn't do anything wrong. Therapy can help you heal from this trauma.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 12:28 PM
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I motherly wouldn't say this, but don't feel bad about ruining her life. I often feel sorry for my lying, cheating husband, but now he and his attorney are not truthful in his financial disclosure and it's a reminder to me of who I'm dealing with. You need to protect yourself and your kids, so do what you need to do. She didn't have a problem putting a restraining order on you. Is that warranted? This is who you're up against. She's not going to back down if you aren't going to fight.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 03:20 PM
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That was one attorney's opinion. Get another free consultation until you find someone you like and someone who can fight for you. I had a guy tell me I can't get full custody. Another mentioned legal fees of $100k. Another makes deals with the other attorney and settles without my consent. If you do end up in court, attorneys can disqualify a judge if they are biased towards men/women. Both attorneys in my case did that and the final one seems more impartial. Hang in there.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 02:16 PM
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In my first meeting with my attorney, she told me she is not a therapist and to vent to my pastor, a friend, or therapist. She meant well. At the beginning, I was emailing her quite a bit, because I had some emergency situations. Once I got my first bill, I learned to keep my communication with her office at a minimum. When they send me an email, I do not reply with an acknowledgement. Try and educate yourself about divorce in your state by reading online. My local courthouse also has an attorne…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 05:00 AM
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So she knows you're not happy? She doesn't want to improve? Is she depressed? What dates did you go on? Did she get dressed up? Did she have a good time? She must've enjoyed the dates you guys went on before marriage. Do those things. I feel for you. You deserve to be happy, but maybe she feels so isolated from her family, culture, etc, even after so many years. You're going to have to be real with her. Talk to her gently and tell her how dire the situation is. She has to listen and she has to m…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 07:30 PM
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If she attacks you again, call the police and file a complaint...whatever it's called. Report and document it, because it will be useful in the custody battle. If you don't file a report, then that attack can't be used in court. Take pictures.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 06:07 AM
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I had plans to hang out with my Bible study group, but my kids' plans kept changing, so I couldn't go. They always come first...so I'm kinda by ma self. I BBQed earlier and baked a gooey, chocolate cake after my firstborn requested one. Kids are playing videogames now and soon we'll walk around the hood to see illegal fireworks. It's not what I wanted, but it's ok. I have Christian radio on right now. Do you have KLOVE in your area? It soothes my soul. Maybe that will help you. How involved are …
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 02:56 AM
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Once legal separation is finalized, yes, but during the process, you're still married, so it's marital funds. I might be wrong. My divorce just got started (California) and I am not allowed to spend money outside the norm w/o my spouse's approval. He has spent money on dates, flowers, gifts, after date of separation and without my approval. My attorney is going after that. I can't do anything about the savings he wasted during the marriage and before the date of separation, but it's different no…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 09:48 PM
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Better yet, stop posting on social media. Setting it to 'private' won't protect you if the spouse subpoenas the social media accounts. If you're dating during separation, divorce, then stop. Yes, you have a right to, but why complicate the divorce? Wait until you're officially single. The money you spend on dates and gifts is still marital asset and spouse can get half of that.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 09:28 PM
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Hey, not all of us are taken, but I'm picky too! Haha. Not looking to date even after divorce is done.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 02:51 PM
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OMG. Don't look overseas. How do you know she isn't out for a green card. Beautiful babes know how to sweet talk and act to lure you guys in. Just get the divorce, take care of the kids, and keep looking locally.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 02:21 PM
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Where's your hunting ground? Newport Beach? South OC? Maybe venture north. Either way, there are lots of natural beauties, but be careful someone doesn't fleece you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 02:10 PM
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Just got another invoice for $17xx. Regarding telling your family and friends, be careful, because it can backfire on you. There will be nothing more satisfying than to do a tell-all, but I have to protect my kids and God will not be pleased. Don't let this define you. Don't go on and on about it, bc ppl will get tired of hearing it to a point of not wanting to be near you. Lastly, you may not want to present your demands when you do the sit down. If she signs, then I can see her argument later …
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 07:01 PM
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My dear, kind husband turned cheater filed for divorce. My case is still in its infancy, so I don't want to say too much, but I've already spent over $13k! It's going to cost more, because he's not cooperating and my attorney and I will continue to get aggressive (more subpoenas, etc). I have to get as much as I can for my kids before the young hottie gets it. I had free consults and their retainers were between $5-7k, hourly fees $400-500. One place, a bunch of crooks, charged a $3,500 retainer…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 03:35 PM
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AZ is a no-fault divorce state, so her cheating won't matter unless she spends martial funds on the affair (buys him gifts, date nights, etc). I would wait until after the holidays and as mentioned, after you have prepared for the divorce. Research and get free consultations with local attorneys. Try and find one that's an Arizona Certified Family Law Attorney. They passed an additional exam and have met other requirements, so they are "elite." Retain that one if you end up needing a lawyer. I i…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 11:57 AM
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Your hesitation regarding counseling is understandable. I was open to it, but only if it was with someone good...so he and I never looked. Later, I found a good church with an amazing pastor, but it was too late. He wasn't willing bc he had found her. Keep trying. Don't suffocate her, but be kind to her. Work on your words and try not to react to her coldness. This won't change overnight. I hope she still has feelings for you. You have to convince her that you truly are sorry and that you're wor…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/25 12:32 AM
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You're probably not looking for a woman's perspective and I shouldn't be in this group, but well, here I am. She may be "done with you," but do you still love her? Yes, you should prepare for divorce. Research family law attorneys online and get free consultations (in addition to the one you have lined up). But if you still love her and if you deep down want to work on your marriage, then you're going to have to step up and make the first move. Talk to her. Apologize. I mean, you are sorry for y…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 10:47 PM
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As Zyo said, once she is served, she has x number of days to respond. If she keeps ignoring the divorce and misses that deadline and doesn't respond, your case goes into default and the judge will divide assets and debts in half. She won't get a say in how it's divided. She will have forfeited her rights. I think the judge will split things based on what you want. Stay calm. Don't ask her why she's being elusive. Don't show her proof. Don't talk about the divorce. Don't communicate with her. Kee…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 01:40 PM
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Me again. If he is 6 weeks booked out, I wonder how much time he'll have to devote to your case. I know attorneys juggle many cases at a time, but is he overloaded? What if he passes your case to a colleague or junior level attorney? You can't bank on this lawyer, so line up more. My friend offered me an attorney who the internet described as a super attorney. She's a minor celebrity. She doesn't do phone consults, much less free ones, but she was willing to help me. I had interviewed several at…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 02:18 PM
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I don't think your expensive lawyers are doing their job. From my experience, if she doesn't disclose the under the table jobs, then you should send her interrogatories that she has to answer under penalty of perjury. I'm doing that. One of the questions you can ask is what her current address is, who lives at the residence and their relationship to her. Another question is if she is supporting someone (the kids and boyfriend?) and if someone is supporting her (boyfriend?). You can ask about gif…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 05:36 AM
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I would line up more free consultations in case this great lawyer doesn't pan out. You don't have time to waste, so interview more people and compare them to this great lawyer. If your state has certified family law attorneys, then try and retain one. They have put in extra hours of study and passed an additional exam, but they don't necessarily cost more.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 02:40 AM
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Maybe you should serve her before she leaves the country. Serve her with proof of service filed to the court. Make sure in your petition to list all your demands on house, custody, assets, debt. You can indicate that these things will be discussed later (like I did), but you should put it in your petition. That way, once she's served, she has x days (30 in CA) to respond. If she leaves the country after being served and doesn't respond, your case goes to default and u get what's in your petition…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 05:26 PM
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California divorce: Do not hide money. I'm sure your wife knows your bank account. If she's smart, she'll subpoena for the bank records and she can go back 4 years if it's justifiable. She doesn't even need to know the account number. Name and social security number is enough. Do you have to complete a schedule of assets and debts? If so, you'll do it under penalty of perjury, so are you going to lie about accounts that she doesn't know about? Keep in mind that there are ways to find those accou…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 06:58 AM
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I think she can contest this. Most people would say that if you bought the house before the marriage and she did not contribute towards the mortgage, then it's separate property, but from what I've read and from my own experience, I'm just not sure. Your house was purchased before the marriage, so it's yours BUT I'm sure you used income you earned during your marriage to pay the mortgage. Income after marriage is community property, so the house is a mixed asset. Even if your bank accounts are s…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 06:36 AM
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My spouse got a certified attorney. It made me scramble to find one of the same caliber and thank the Lord, He provided. I have been educating myself as well, but my attorney knows how to expose lies and crazies and gather evidence through the court. You should be working with your attorney and he/she should be handling all this for you. Florida has board certified family law attorneys as well who are "elite." On another note, I'm sorry about the stress and confusion this is causing your son. Th…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 05:03 PM
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It might be too late, since your trial is coming up, but I think there are legal ways for you to deal with all this instead of bombarding the court with evidence and arguments. I don't have a pyscho spouse, so I'm not dealing with this, but I know my attorney has handled cases where husbands are falsely accused of domestic violence, drug use, etc. and she won. I think your attorney should do what mine would probably do: depose your daughters and your wife to question them about all this. Deposit…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 04:36 PM
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Florida is a no-fault state like mine (California). In my first meeting with my attorney, I brought evidence that my spouse was having an affair and who the AP is. She looked at what I had and shut that down fast: you are no longer going to talk about this. I am to play nice and not come across as the jilted, scornful spouse who got cheated on. It will hurt me in the end, my attorney said, especially with custody. What type of evidence do you have? The courts don't care if there's an affair unle…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 01:55 PM
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How the wife spends her money is important while the divorce is pending. In CA, both parties need to complete the Income and Expense Declaration, FL-150, which asks what the monthly costs are for gas, car repairs, education, groceries, housing, laundry, etc. These expenses affect spousal support, child support and paying attorneys fees.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 07:12 AM
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You guys should've waited for the divorce to be final before dating, because your affair complicated the outcome. Maybe it wouldn't have taken 2 years.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 06:58 AM
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Mental illness is rough. Has there been a formal diagnosis? Is she getting help? Medication? It's understandable for you to want a divorce, but there's a lot to consider. Is she working? Who is taking care of and who will take care of the little one? Do you have money for a lawyer? How do you think she'll respond to you wanting a divorce? So sorry you're going through this.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 06:31 AM
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Are you going to ask your wife for child support? Custody affects CS. What time does she work? Can she drop your daughter off at daycare and pick her up and vice versa when your daughter is old enough for school? If she can't do any of this, then I don't think she can get custody even if she wants it. She can only have custody one day/night, Sunday, right? How will you take care of your daughter if you start working? Sounds like you will take a job that will allow you to drop your daughter at da…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 01:23 PM
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I am going through the discovery phase now and will submit my Income and Expense next week. Answers to your questions: One of the credit card statements I am submitting allowed me to download 2 years worth of spending, so rather than giving a statement from the past 2 months, I opted to give 2 years...but my cc company just lists the spending with no monthly balance. It doesn't show an ending or current balance, but my court documents do AND the cc report I'm submitting is clearly from the cc co…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 05:41 AM
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Yep. My husband left. I told him to stay. He told the kids and me that he had to leave and would start dating. Wow. Still early in divorce, but he's trying to establish overnights so he can pay less child support. Not sure if I can keep the house.i would stay in the house. If you move out, take all your important docs. Everything important. I gave my hubs his docs and everything that belongs to him.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 05:01 PM
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If you know the name of the account and your spouse's SSN, your attorney can subpoena for x months/years of statements and records. The bank, credit card company, etc must produce them by the deadline. Nondisclosure in CA is serious. Frivolous spending, especially for an affair after the date of separation, is bad if said spouse claims they don't have the means to pay for child or spousal support.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:12 PM
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Aw, rats. Sorry. I hope things get better and that you'll find someone loyal, kind, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 03:03 PM
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Can you share his tips? Enquiring minds want to know :)
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 02:55 PM
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Happy belated birthday. I personally think you did a great thing. Are you prepared for Father's Day, since she most likely won't help the kids get you a gift? May I suggest you take the kids out? Remind them it's Father's Day, time to celebrate, because you're so grateful to be their father. We have to teach our kids. Hopefully, this is a subtle way to remind them that these occasions are special and they should honor you :).
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 02:50 PM
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So sad to read your comment. I thought you found a wonderful woman, post divorce. Wishing you well.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 01:46 PM
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I don't want to hijack the thread, but he has made it very clear, in his gentle way, that he has moved on. He found a pretty, younger pretty thang. It's over. Still, it is very hard to seek the support my son and I deserve. I do not want to hurt him. It pains me to see him destroy his life. I never intended to seek the max, but I will. He will not be homeless. He will not go broke. My marriage is over, but I believe very strongly that God can change him. My new pastor is ready, but I honestly sh…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 07:14 PM
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I guess you're talking to me. I don't check in much now that I've been served, but I found the group a few months ago when I was researching to prepare for my pending divorce. He wants the divorce and moved out last fall after starting his affair. I found the post on why men should not move out. That was a lot of great info. I stayed here, because believe it or not, almost everything that you guys went through, I, the wife, am experiencing as well--the betrayal, the utter heartache and pain, his…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 12:26 PM
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Just like some of the others said, your wife already told you she's in a dark place. Please help her or find her support. She's having a mental crisis or PTSD, possibly from the miscarriage. You've been there for her. Love her and support her. She needs you more than ever. Tell her doctor or OBGYN. Edit: I meant postpartum depression, but I think PTSD could be a factor also.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/25 05:03 AM
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CA has an online calculator on spousal support. It asks a lot of questions regarding taxes, so I had my accountant help.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 03:07 PM
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Yes, 20+ years of marriage in CA. I'll find out how long CS will be as I will be served soon. I thought it is til the child is 18.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 02:29 PM
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Isn't it lifetime spousal support if married 20+ years? CA has online calculators for spousal and child support. Since the kids are older, the court may calculate her support based on her earning potential. She can go back to work, can't she? Could she earn the same figure as before?
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 01:29 PM
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How did you get the house if you were the one who moved out? That's how I found this group: "Fundamentals: Do Not Move Out."
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 06:03 AM
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Glad it's over for you. Did you stay in the same house with the ex the whole 2.5 years?
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 07:59 PM
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No, high earning women have had to pay spousal support to their husband. She's trying to manipulate you. My STBX did the same to me, but I didn't fall for it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 06:03 AM
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Get several free consultations if you can. Ask them if you can petition for her to pay your attorney fees
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 05:56 AM
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50 is not old. You're only old if you think you are. You've been through a lot. Why not take your kids out. Get dressed up and take them to dinner and a movie. 50 is still young!
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 05:28 AM
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I'm sorry you're going through this. It's not your fault, so be too hard on yourself. Most women don't know they're suffering from PPD. Has she gotten any help for it? Is she willing to get help now? Is there service or support on base for this? Please hang in there and don't give up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 02:33 AM
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Can you DM me the OC attorney?
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/25 12:47 AM
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I don't think you should tell her your feelings just yet. She's madly in love with you (do we envy you!). She has no clue about your doubts. Once you tell her something is wrong, she's going to change. She might get hurt, defensive, sad. Before you have a heart-to-heart, why don't you try dating her again to bring back the spark? Surely, you loved her at one point and had a great time with her. Let her love for you continue. Now you have to work on yourself. Take her out. Spend time with her. Ta…
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 05:12 PM
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Sounds like you were attracted to her at some point. What happened? You want kids. Does she want kids? Did you guys discuss kids before you married?
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 03:57 PM
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What about before date of separation. In a no fault state, phone records showing the start of an affair wouldn't matter, right?
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/25 04:23 PM
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But you won't give her the happiness she deserves if you don't find her attractive and won't be intimate. You cheated for a reason. Sadly, I think you would cheat again. Now you've gotten her hopes up about remarriage. Let her down gently. Don't mention her looks. You absolutely have to apologize for cheating before, even if you've apologized already. There's no excuse for it. Be gentle, because she's probably fantasizing about marriage. She shouldn't get back with you, but she'll be so disappoi…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 06:25 PM
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You don't have to answer, but why did you cheat and walk out on her in the first place? Have you not read the posts on here about how utterly selfish and damaging infidelity is? You tore her heart apart and devastated her. It is the ultimate betrayal. Did you bawl your eyes out on your knees to this woman? Everyone, regardless of their looks, deserves to be loved and fulfilled. Stop stringing her along, so she can find real love. She deserves better...
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 05:19 AM
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Hang in there. Turn on some music to drown out the bad thoughts. If you're a Christian, remember that God has not forsaken us. I don't know why we're going through this trial, but there is hope.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 09:23 AM
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You guys didn't marry and she broke up? She cheated in another relationship and has "Ring of fire" ADHD? I hope she moved her things out of your house, because you're lucky she's gone. Count it a blessing. The breakup might be hard, but move on. Don't take her back. Too much drama.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 04:20 PM
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You have not failed them. You fought hard for them. You're a wonderful father. Don't give up. Take it one day at a time.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 05:43 PM
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You sound genuinely sorry. Has your wife changed her mind about reconciling? Even if she has, I encourage you to focus on improving yourself. You have to. Do it for yourself and with time, perhaps your wife will see how much you have changed. If you get the chance to see her or talk to her, you've got to apologize again. Write her a letter telling her what an idiot you are for cheating and how much you love her. Tell her what she means to you and although she deserves better, you still love and …
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 05:56 AM
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How could such a life-changing decision take a mere 5 minutes? Did the judge let you or your spouse speak or did the judge already decide based on the filing? I'm hoping to avoid court, but trying to prepare in case it leads to that. So sorry for the dissolution of your marriage, but I wish you happiness now that it's over.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 02:39 AM
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Can you explain why he'll get more in "affair fog"? The law usually doesn't care if there is adultery.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 04:35 AM
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I need more distractions. Just found out that he's going camping this weekend with coworkers--most likely with the coworker he left me for. He makes great money, but he's broke. Spent all his savings and is in debt. He won't file, because he can't afford alimony and child support. So bad. He was never this way. I felt sorry for him and paid the car insurance yesterday for all the cars. Then I found out he could care less about his debt, so why should I? It's okay. He willingly moved out last fal…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 06:40 PM
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Yes, one day at a time. There will be good days and bad days. Fill your mind with good thoughts. Music brings me to a happy place, so I listen to music. I stay busy. My husband spent his savings on material things. He earns great money, but he's now broke, in debt, and living paycheck to paycheck. I'm the low earner, but have quite a bit saved up. He won't divorce, because he can't afford alimony and child support. I still love him and dream that he'll wake up from his midlife crisis, end his ad…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 04:31 AM
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There is always hope, my friend. Life can stink and I'm so sorry about your circumstances. I met my husband while working a second full-time job to pay off a mountain of debt that I built up in my late 20's. I tried helping someone and instead of helping, I got pulled down in the ditch myself. It was bad, bad, bad. I worked that 2nd job until my health started feeling it. It worked. My debt got paid and the Lord was faithful to restore the years the locusts had eaten (verse in old testament). Th…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 03:57 AM
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I'm sorry for your pain. I am a woman whose husband gave up. I have been taking it very well, mostly crying for him, that God would change his heart and end his midlife crisis. Last week, however, I mourned for myself for the very first time. The hurt, the loss. Like your L, my hubs, whom I now abbreviate as H, left me for another woman. I am young for my age, but I am still old enough to be her mom. This past week was hard, but I am learning to give H up. He's gone. I don't want to live with hi…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 06:22 AM
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Sorry to hear that. You really went out of your way to provide and care, way beyond what was expected, to a spouse who cheated. Sounds like you have recovered and are doing well. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 08:35 PM
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Do you mind me asking if your spouse got the house due to the abandonment accusation?
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/25 02:48 PM
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