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Seriously. If that’s what women want to do with their lives and bodies, it affects me not at all. I won’t be going on any sex strikes in the name of feminism because my man is not my oppressor, he’s my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:20 PM
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You’re making sweeping generalizations. Some women may feel that way. Others may be comfortable using protection to mitigate risk and blowing off some steam with a consenting partner. Both are valid perspectives, and are also subject to change. The only thing you can do with a new potential partner is communicate about your perspectives and objectives, ask about theirs, and not take it personally if they don’t align.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 08:39 AM
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I can’t speak for any perspective but my own (36F), but TBH I think I kind of needed to know that I’d be OK alone before I could allow myself to fully commit and feel safe in a relationship. That meant putting my career first til I was at a level that I’d always be able to support myself, having lots of hobbies I love and friends who are like family. I survived the teenage girl bullshit/drama actually pretty well, because my parent made sure I had groups of friends outside of school, so if there…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 12:28 AM
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I think part of this is cultural/socialized. Like commenter you responded to, my guy talks about my wins and achievements to his friends — I hear it all the time. But. I know there are plenty of men who it would not even occur to have those kinds of conversations, and I think it’s because that’s not how they think about the women in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 11:45 PM
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I think they’re a smart tool for couples to have a calm conversation about “what if the worst happens” —It lets everyone agree on the terms of engagement without all the ugly feelings of a breakup. My guy and I are on pretty even footing in terms of both income potential and family assets, so I think of it as more of a commitment to each other that if god forbid it doesn’t work, we’re not going to exploit the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:11 AM
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This sounds great tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:03 AM
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Literally never. I date because I’m interested in getting to know someone and determine whether we make a good team. My definition of what would make someone a good partner had evolved over time, but it’s always been in search of meaningful connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 04:40 PM
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I’m sorry that you experience that, but let’s call it what it is — bigotry. Lots of the same arguments, sure, but you don’t choose to be bisexual in the same way you choose to sleep with lots of people. Anyone who holds those views really isn’t worth your energy, but give it a little time and you will find someone who deserves you. It might take a few tries, so rack up that n-count with impunity —just be safe and kind to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 11:52 AM
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I agree, OP. I’m in a happy LTR, but still get propositioned now and then —even by guys who know I’m not single. Can’t blame ‘em for trying I guess (?) but it’s my responsibility to be true to my guy, and to choose him and the life we’re building together every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:54 PM
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Tough to say, but probably around 1mil-1.5. That’s what houses that aren’t haunted cost where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 03:29 AM
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Because any marriage I want a part of would be a partnership of equals, and until I know I can stand on my two feet (emotionally, functionally and financially), how could I possibly be the kind of partner my man deserves? Or reasonably expect the same of him? It’s not some man-hating bullshit, just that I have expectations for my partner and I want to make sure I hold myself to comparable standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:51 PM
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Yah, a lot of things that are not inherently misogynistic get called misogynistic, but can be indicators of general attitudes towards women/relationships, which in turn may be rooted in misogyny -- whether consciously or unconsciously. Gender discourse is not conceived in the mind of god or whomever. Its a hot mess to unpack and not everyone's equipped to do so, so end up resorting to generalizations, lol idk what else to tell you. Regarding negging, mostly when it feels like a strategy from som…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:09 PM
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It’s definitely part of it. I got my spidey sense from two exes in particular: One was emotionally abusive and developed a coke habit and a cheating habit a few years into things. The other wanted a diminutive stepford gf and got so angry he hit me when I didn’t fit that mold. We are all shaped by our experiences, but how you interpret them and behave is up to you. I know that when something sets off my intuition, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the dude is actually abusive —in fact probably ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:33 PM
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Of course. For me it’s usually been mind games, negging, or needing an uneven power dynamic that have set off the ol’ spidey senses. I can’t say for certain that any of those dudes would’ve escalated to abuse, but Im not about to stick around and find out. Either way, based on past experience alone, I would have difficulty trusting someone who exhibits those behaviors so a relationship would never work anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:13 PM
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Not all women can. For me, I couldn’t smell it until I had 1) seen/ experienced it enough to be able to identify it quickly, and 2) recovered my sense of self worth enough to know I don’t have to tolerate it. Having both of these things comes at different times for different people. For me, home life was loving and stable growing up and I started dating without knowing quite what to watch out for. I knew a few girls who grew up in abusive or misogynistic situations and thought it was normal, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:44 AM
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I don’t anymore. I just meant to point out that sometimes women not giving a fuck about her partners money (or needing to) creates its own problems. We broke up because he developed an inferiority complex about him working in retail management vs my holding a leadership position in academia. I had to constantly reassure him that he was “enough” (he was) but his insecurities were exhausting and he broke up with me because of it. The LTR I’ve been in for 4.5 years now is with a software engineer w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:15 PM
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I’m sure it doesn’t hurt. Given the structural barriers in the workforce for women (doubly so for POC women), it makes sense to look to pair up with someone who has better prospects. Anecdotally though, my most recent ex made a good deal less than what I did at the time and he was the one who it bothered to the point that it caused the relationship issues that ultimately ended it. I didn’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:05 PM
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Muscles are alright, better than being unhealthy, but they don’t replace a personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 04:31 PM
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I just reread that. Apparently the coffee had not taken hold yet…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 04:15 PM
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Yeah, cuddling was one I had to be careful with in order to consider peoples feelings. It only worked when the guy was emotionally and practically unavailable, and we talked about it. Like, ‘Only in the country every few weeks because of work travel’ kind of unavailable, or guy smiley who had emotional walls up so high I never did find out what was behind them despite a few tries.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 12:37 PM
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Monogamy was only really “put in place” if you’re hardcore religious, and most people in my country are not. There’s definitely still social norms around marriage etc., but no expectation of being monogamous when you’re not in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 11:48 AM
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I got the idea from one of my best guy friends, and a few of the people on my roster had rosters of their own, so yeah. It might not be an option accessible to all men, but I doubt that it would be to all women either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 11:11 AM
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When I was single I used to keep what I called ‘the roster’. Guys who I would be seeing but not exclusively. I liked things about all of them but in each case we both knew it was casual fun. I never felt icky or got bored because I got to know them, we would go on dates, and between the 2-5 guys I’d be talking to at any given time they kind of rounded out into the perfect anti-relationship. When I felt like cuddles, goofy movies and oral i’d call guy smiley, when I needed a date to something bla…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 12:58 AM
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The thing I don’t get about this whole line of thinking is the idea of 20s being womens best years. Most people are immature disasters for the better part of their 20s. I was tall, blonde, thin, decently pretty, educated, good job, great cook etc. and I’m sure I’d have made a fine housewife or whatever, but I had some stuff to work through and some learning to do. I met my guy at 31 and he IS getting my prime years, and most of my girlfriends are on the same trajectory. We are more emotionally c…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 01:45 PM
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I’ve heard this one in the wild before, and my response is always to look at who you’re surrounding yourself with. If it doesn’t reflect the kind of person you want to be or be with, make some changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 06:54 PM
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I’m 33 and still might do the kids thing someday, but I regret nothing so far. The relationships I had in my 20s were not stable enough (partly my fault bc of some hang ups I needed to work through) and would not have been a happy environment for a child. My current relationship is the first I’d consider suitable, and we are more focused on finding the right place to build a home at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:03 PM
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Even just an example. I’m curious at this point, in the spirit of PPD, and frankly I work as a researcher so general interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:04 AM
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Earnest question for ya, OP… what does an average guy look like? Now I’m curious and may do this. Send me a pic, and I’ll do it this week. Edit: remembered the word I was looking for…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 03:02 AM
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I met my guy online. He wasn’t my type, but we had a common interest. We met for a drink after both our plans fell through on a Friday night in a crazy storm. That was almost 4yrs ago. My ex before him was a 5, charitably but we were both very into the same music. Again, I’ll say: have interests (non-Internet) and you’ll find someone that has those interests too. I’d take an emotionally mature 6 with some cool hobbies over a 9.3 with a bad attitude and a reddit habit anyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:55 AM
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Or just have something about yourself that’s interesting, and with a little energy you’re going to find someone who thinks it’s interesting too. Classical music, 3D printing, psychiatry, cross country skiing, idgaf. Tell me what you care about. It’s fine to be conventionally attractive, but if you’re dull as dishwater it’s unlikely I’d go for a drink with you and/or anything further. (I’m 30s now and found my one&only, but I was a babe in my 20s)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:19 AM
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Right?? This comment seemed reasonable until “dream like Vikings”, then things went off the rails FAST.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 01:52 AM
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That’s what I was thinking…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:57 PM
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It is! I worked in politics in my 20s and used to binge that series to decompress after election campaigns.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 02:05 AM
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For the most part yes, it is something both people choose to do every day BUT.... provided there is mutual understanding and communication around what love and loyalty mean. Anyone who's spent time in therapy knows your thoughts can shape your feelings in a pretty real way. For instance, if I'm thinking "gosh I just have the best partner, it was so sweet that he made me coffee this morning and I like the way he plays with my hair" instead of choosing to notice and think about the little things h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 06:16 PM
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These requirements read like trying to mask some deep insecurities by grasping for control, which is the real 🚩for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 07:36 PM
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Ahhh ya that makes sense. Maybe she just isn’t ready to acknowledge that she wants to. Certainly in my instance there were torturous years of “this is wrong and I can’t want it”. We’d been dancing that line so long wasn’t til the end of a night, sharing a bottle of red and tales of our sector-relevant triumphs that I fully grasped that I needed to stand up for my relationship or something naked was about to happen. It can sneak up on you ..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 04:35 AM
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Fair. The main example I was thinking of is I had the hots for a former coworker for yearssss. Good friends, but with sex dreams that woke me up (🤦🏼‍♀️) and I was the only girl in the office and didn’t want to be THAT girl. Im 5 yrs into a new job and 3 yrs into a relationship and had an opportunity at the last big conference I went to before Covid but pulled the rip cord. The validation was nice but I’m pretty glad overall to have a) not cheated and b) not distilled a 7-year friendship to a wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 04:14 AM
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Idk, there’s a wide gulf between mutual attraction and jumping into the sack. I’m a straight too. It’s nice to have those “girl still got it 💃” moments when someone I find attractive is flirting with me, but at the end of the day I don’t want to hurt my guy. I may even have a little extra sexual energy to take out on him and tbh after a Saturday morning in bed I’ve forgot all about whomever. Everybody wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 03:24 AM
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Not if they’re told by their culture/society that they don’t… we’re all a product of our socialization. If you want women to understand and own their agency, it needs to be embedded in agents of their socialization. Ie/ family, education, community. Mandatory teaching of consent in sex ed might seem trivial or like a SJW issue, but it would actually reinforce what you’re arguing for.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 02:59 AM
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Lonely people with unstable attachment styles trying to rationalize their undesirability with “xyz societal occurrences are wrong and to blame” instead of considering looking inward? Idk. I went to college and dated a doctor, a lawyer and two bankers through my 20s who should have been perfect on paper. I was never happy with these alleged HVMs though, and wasn’t until I found someone who’s secure and confident in his own right, emotionally mature and genuinely kind, can communicate well, and do…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 05:56 PM
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What can I say? I do research for a living. I see A/B testing mainly as data points in a broader context —largely useless in isolation. If you are being literal and trying to infer anything at all through this line of questioning, you can only draw conclusions in a world where men are one of the two archetypes your present. That’s not reality, and so while this is a neat thought experiment, it has no practical implications unless you allow for input outside of the binary structure of the questio…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:27 AM
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Apologies if I misinterpreted the question. You gave two archetypes as options. I thought perhaps you were interested in understanding the decision making process and/or which features are attractive to women. I didn’t think we were being literal …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:50 AM
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I know that I wouldn’t be happy with someone who meets description A to the letter. I have no concerns with an average appearance, a relatively simple yet comfortable life, and I relish the organic moments of fun, romance, humor and love. But I would never be OK long-term with somebody who is uninterested in growth. Honestly, I’ve been with my guy for three years (yesterday🎉) and the sexiest things about him are that he is fundamentally kind, a critical and conceptual thinker, and we have simila…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:33 AM
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If I had to choose one, I would pick the one that sounds more pleasant to be around. My first answer however was “neither”, because I would rather be happy and alone than miserable and attached.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:22 AM
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Neither. If anything I’d go for the nice but boring one, but we would never last. I’m happiest with somebody with ambition and ideas, preferably veering in the direction of science and/or business. Edit: 32f
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:11 AM
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I mean, anecdotally when I was 18 I read a journal article showing that women in my country plateau in their career at the age of 31 because that was the average age at which they took time off from the career to start a family. On that day I resolved to not have children until I was financially stable and in a situation where it wouldn’t have to compromise my growth —and have stuck to that. Certainly some women will choose to be homemakers and prioritize family, but not all of them will and it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 02:58 AM
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I think it’s important to bear in mind that this is 84% of women polled by ForbesWomen and their partner, a website about pregnancy, in an article over 8 years old... I’m sure there are many who still feel this way, and it’s an interesting starting point for hypothetical conversations, but would submit that the data referenced is practically meaningless at this point because the sample was not representative to begin with, and the discourse and societal attitudes have changed dramatically around…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 05:07 PM
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A propos of nothing, I just looked up from my phone and said “Hello my pet. Have you been on your best behaviour?” ..... This slave is a lemon.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:50 PM
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Damn. Wish I hadn’t gotten rid of those riding crops...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:23 PM
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Idk, I haven’t heard that one irl in years so am legit a little baffled by this.. then again, I’m in Canada and most of the population is pretty chill (except about hockey).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 07:56 PM
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Who even uses language like “man up” unironically any more? Your whole argument only applies to people who are still holding on to the gender norms of 30+ years ago, are trapped in them because of economic position, or both. Welfare, affirmative action and alimony wouldn’t be nearly so prevalent if men took equal responsibility for raising children to the point that it’s possible for the majority of women to be financially stable and a good mom at the same time.... and, I’d take it a step furthe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 07:33 PM
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Lol this sub needs ISO standards on what “asshole” and “nice guy” even mean, because there is no consistency in the understanding of those terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 04:03 PM
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On the subject of comparison… This was the next post down on my feed: “Comparison is the thief of joy”. Relative deprivation, the belief that your situation is worse than others, or that others are doing better than you, can trigger anger and resentment, and is associated with risk taking behavior like gambling. Having hope for the future is protective against this. https://www.reddit.com/r/science/comments/kevqsj/comparison_is_the_thief_of_joy_relative/ https://www.uea.ac.uk/news/-/article/how-…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 03:40 PM
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Although we hooked up on the first date so clearly there’s attraction, my guy’s personality is THE reason I’m with him. He’s amazing. Kind, calm, rational, and funny. He’s got great communication skills, even about things like mental health and financial decisions. He’s got strong EQ, and he pays attention to my feelings to the point where he can often anticipate/read me without me having to say anything— and it took years to get to where we are, but he put in the effort. He’s a g-d grown up and…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 01:08 AM
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Women get polished, then they get elegant. I know plenty of women over 40 who are total babes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 12:03 AM
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I have no idea what my guys number is, nor do I know my own. We’re both healthy and attracted to each other so it’s been totally irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 05:28 PM
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INFO: Is a statergy an Internet thing or do you mean strategy? Either way, I would submit that the answer to your Q is the redpill and related world views do not fundamentally value all women as people. It’s inherently dehumanizing, unless you’re low-n-count/trad/have literally no ambition in life beyond being a diminutive mother figure. I personally consider myself a HVF. I am 32, tall, thin, active, reasonably attractive or at least well-maintained, make six figures, have hobbies you’d probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 01:54 AM
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Disagree. Younger women may be more idealistic about love, but I would submit that they would be more likely to be motivated by what the man can provide. At 18-22, most will not have financial stability or a fully formed sense of self. They’re still impressionable enough to have bought into the idea that men should be the providers, and haven’t been in the workforce long enough to realize the freedom of self sufficiency. By 28-32 they’ll likely have a career, some accumulated wealth, and be on m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 12:00 AM
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Disagree. Younger women may be more idealistic about love, but I would submit that they would be more likely to be motivated by what the man can provide. At 18-22, most will not have financial stability or a fully formed sense of self. They’re still impressionable enough to have bought into the idea that men should be the providers, and haven’t been in the workforce long enough to realize the freedom of self sufficiency. By 28-32 they’ll likely have a career, some accumulated wealth, and be on m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 12:00 AM
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Yeaaaah. I agree with OP, but only to the extent that both parties have secure attachment patterns and normal associations with sex...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 11:26 AM
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Earnest question—Does that actually work though or is that just what TRP wants to believe? Granted this is anecdotal, but I’ve always seen pics with a bunch of women as either contrived/desperation or an omen of skeezy behavior. My girlfriends and I spent long hours through our 20s discussing guys on dating apps, and all kind of assume (unless there was something else interesting in their profile) that those guys get matches on looks alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 11:01 AM
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So relatable, including the need to reset. I chime in on PPD here and there because I think perhaps foolishly that the red pilled folx might benefit from interactions with normal (rational, emotionally stable, secure attachment patterns, not necessarily “normies”) human beings, but I do have to take breaks because my god it’s corrosive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 07:40 PM
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No, lol unfortunately that comes from getting your heart broken a couple times, and hopefully learning a few things along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 10:26 AM
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Have your preferences, as long as you don’t use gendered or misogynistic language to describe it. Your loss. I personally find it easier to be with those who have a bit more experience, built up a little maturity, and know know what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 11:14 PM
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Upvote for the serious answer. The wild thing is, most of what you say about women / perceptions of women I have observed about men —right up until the sentence about SJWs, at which point, lol fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 06:17 PM
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Mines a Toyota FJ, but you’re on the same wavelength. We took her back country yesterday, but she’s pretty enough I can drive her in the city. Basically my perfect car, and they last forever if you take care of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 02:36 PM
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Lol you’re one of those.. I just know that a) I’d never want to drive it because I’d be paranoid about breaking something and b) even if I had a few hundred extra grand lying around, cars would not be a priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 02:23 PM
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Ahahah right? I don’t think I’d personally go higher than $20k, but at $50k, imma start questioning your judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 03:26 PM
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That’s fair. It’s not all dudes. But it caused friction more often than not through my 20s when I was working for the equivalent of a state governor in my country. I’d have to travel or pull 80-hour weeks, and while it set me up to jump sectors into a pretty senior position, I had to put that before any relationship I was in for years and several of my smart pretty girlfriends in the field went through the same. Most of us(myself incl) are married or on that track now, but it took some trial and…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 03:20 PM
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Finance I covered in a separate reply, but on cars.... nice things are nice, and I really like my vehicle, take good care of it, know how to drive stick, etc. but like... oh my god I just don’t care if some super rare fancy car passes on the street, I don’t want to watch car shit on YouTube, I think most aftermarket mods look tacky, and I can’t imagine paying more than $50k for a car unless it literally does magic. If you’re into that, cool, but I’m just not. Yknow?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 10:00 PM
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Analysts and retail bankers are dull as dishwater. Traders/anything higher stakes are lowkey sociopaths—or at least (before this gets jumped on) emotionally stunted and morally bereft.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 09:48 PM
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In my exp, ambition = not wife material to a lot of dudes. The trouble is not all realize it until weeks, months, sometimes years into dating. My n-count is pretty high partly because I’d say at least 80% of those I dated eventually tried to steer me in the direction of tradwife and I was/am not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 05:19 PM
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But is a high n-count the reason for or a function of being gatekept? I could see it going either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 05:12 PM
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Men who... - use hard drugs - work in finance - are picky eaters - are selfish in bed - are super into cars (I just dgaf, lol) - speak down to/about women - are religious - are uncomfortable going camping - communicate poorly - care too much about appearance, being seen out, etc. - have kids
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 01:35 PM
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Surprisingly well on the kinda dumb ones who fancy themselves smooth and/or PUAs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 11:07 PM
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If he was OK with me getting a live-in nanny maybe, but that would mean I’d be working and would expect to be an equal partner in financial decision making and .... yeah, this probably wouldn’t work so great.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:42 PM
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+1 to this. It’s such a minefield.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 04:28 PM
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It’s ok, I’m pretty open unless I feel like questions are coming from a malicious place :) I met my guy on Hinge. After a decade of serial irl and online dating in a large city I probably met hundreds of dudes, and then there were maybe two dozen casual and serious relationships ranging from a couple months to a couple years. I couldn’t even guess a body count though —I stopped keeping track because as long as you’re clean and not hurting anyone, who the hell cares? I had a pretty intense job th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 05:55 PM
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I don’t pretend to have a background in psych, but I was a pretty ruthless teenage girl once. IME it’s a bit of a mix of hormones, insecurity, and underdeveloped empathy. It passes after a few years, unless you peak in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 12:37 PM
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See, and society tells little girls about antiquated versions and ideals of courtship (thx boomers) from an era when women in often did not work. Some guys still subscribe to “chivalry” or w/e because they got the same indoctrination, but it sets up some pretty ridiculous expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 12:28 PM
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It may sound simplistic, but love. I (32f) don’t want to hurt or betray my guy, because I care about his feelings and dignity —we protect each other. It took me a long time to find him and I want him for life. I’d pretty well given up on finding a kind, interesting man who’s judgement I trust, and who pushes me intellectually and supports my career ambitions. It takes time to find the right fit, and along the way I met a lot of nice enough but either painfully boring or vaguely misogynistic dude…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 12:19 PM
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