CTEcowboi Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	Am I in the position to put myself out there or should I sit on the sidelines a while longer?	Lifestyle	CTEcowboi	/r/seduction	07/05/24 05:13 PM

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4	Deleting all dating apps Height is everything on dating apps having anything under 6 foot is a killer. As a guy They are suboptimal in any situation other than if you are in the top 10% of looks and have zero charisma. You are actively competing against 1000s of men. The biggest obstacle that I have encountered as an adult with dating is trying to find out where to do it that’s not a bar. I dropped out of school super early and financially it was a great choice but I’m starting to regret it because it seems like the onl…	/r/seduction	15/06/26 12:44 PM
3	Crazy seeing so many attractive guys single It’s 100% self inflicted with alcohol and food. I’ve cut drinking implemented a daily 10k step goal and have cut down to one meal a day. It’s an easy fix but it’s not quick going to take some time	/r/seduction	08/05/26 04:46 PM
1	Crazy seeing so many attractive guys single DUDE!! You are in a great area. I was in Tampa recently for a bachelor party and holy smokes there are beautiful women all over the place. There was a really cool outdoor / indoor restaurant bar area on the water that we went to that was swarming with 7-9s. Perfect place to run some game and just hang out. If I find the name of it I’ll send it over to you. I would make it a priority to move to a cool part of Tampa if I were you	/r/seduction	08/05/26 01:16 PM
1	Crazy seeing so many attractive guys single California, NYC, and Florida are outliers if i lived in one of those areas I’m sure I’d be “retired” from game already lmao. I live in the southeast and there are definitely pretty women but they are a very limited commodity compared to those places I mentioned above or Europe in general. It’s just market forces at play they can afford to be more selective so they are. Assuming you don’t live in the places I mentioned above Just as an exercise for a week, go about your business as you normally w…	/r/seduction	08/05/26 01:06 PM
1	Crazy seeing so many attractive guys single I have almost everything women want in a guy (Hair, charisma, height, good job, blue eyes, fun, ect) except I’m fat so I’m not hard locked out of relationships just ones with above average looking women. I want to get lean and try for at least a 6 or 7 but expectations are pretty crazy these days for prettish girls in the US because there really isn’t a whole lot of them. I set my tinder to a few European cities this week and the difference is stark most young women are conventionally attractive…	/r/seduction	08/05/26 12:18 PM
21	The worst rejection you’ve ever received. Go! At a college party talking to a girl way outside my league but drunk enough to try anyways. She hits me with a soft rejection not an outright no so I ask her if she can name one good reason not to grab dinner sometime. She basically looks at me from floor to face and then says “well look at you and look at me”. That shit still stings a little Unbeknownst to her I was really good friends with the people hosting the party and they ended up kicking her out for that comment lmao	/r/seduction	21/04/26 01:26 PM
11	If you’re always available over text, you’re probably less interesting Right. If someone doesn’t like me because my response time is too fast or too slow they can find someone who is watching the clock more carefully than me	/r/seduction	15/04/26 12:56 PM
2	Best way to get with older women? Hey go DM OP he is looking for you	/r/seduction	14/04/26 12:40 AM
5	Best way to get with older women? You’re probably going to want to start scouting out the local bars at night and not the cool ones just the plain Jane local ones. Older people like to chill and drink they arnt the type to dance to club music. Outside of that i really have no idea where you would find older women specifically	/r/seduction	13/04/26 06:21 PM
1	How do you handle being tested/challenged? Laugh at them	/r/seduction	12/04/26 11:16 PM
1	Men who date 10/10 (gorgeous type of women), what was the experience like? I Can’t answer this but another question for the lucky few who got to experience this: how in the world did you even get into a relationship with a 10? They seem impossible to talk to online and cold approach seems unlikely to work with all the other attention she gets	/r/seduction	29/03/26 08:19 PM
10	Mother of five who falsely accused good Samaritan of rape after he gave her a lift home when he found her drunk and crying in the street is jailed Yuck. Throw her under the jail	/r/PussyPassDenied	10/02/26 12:48 PM
3	Base level attraction matters — no game can override it I agree 100%. It’s almost like applying for a job in a way and looks are almost like your “resume”. If you don’t have the prerequisites for a woman with really high standards it doesn’t matter how well you “interview” or how much game you have. Much to the disappointment of many men Apple is not looking for a college dropout with a 10 year tenure at McDonalds and a 9 has no desire to date a fatty who has a decent level of charisma. To the same point some people interview themselves into jobs the…	/r/seduction	30/01/26 02:15 PM
0	Date was going very well until I said one sentence You were 100% in the right here. If a girl says she isn’t comfortable it’s better to back off instead of trying to pass a hypothetical shit test because you could end up getting into hot water If she decides in the morning it was a mistake. The only thing I could see that maybe you could’ve done differently was maybe wait for the bar to shut down and then “invite her back for drinks”. It sucks to say but being crystal clear with your sexual intentions can really put women off even if you feel li…	/r/seduction	27/01/26 06:36 PM
7	Should I just breakup w my gf and get back to the game Was in a sort of similar situation when i broke up with my most recent ex and i think it will end up being a good thing for me but it hasn’t been easy. I guess the main difference was my ex was generally alright but i never felt truly looked after emotionally or sexually. She definitely loved me but that love never manifested itself in ways i really wanted. I would say I’m very good at communicating my needs and making sure im fulfilling my SOs but it just felt like I was doing everything to mak…	/r/seduction	05/01/26 02:23 AM
1	Role playing in the bedroom kinda screws up your perception of women Forgive my rambling. The backbone of human progress starts with knowledge being passed along from parents to kids. Sure people may learn things along the way but the prerequisites are set up early. In order to set this type of arrangement up there needs to be trust and a shared continuity between everyone in the unit especially the parents. If men and women are basically trying to deceive each other from square one across the board it’s going to start eroding the social trust that is necessary f…	/r/seduction	11/12/25 05:14 PM
–	Role playing in the bedroom kinda screws up your perception of women In my experience, most Men will try to act dangerous and stoic to hide their inner feelings which are often pretty kind and loving. Some are assholes but most have been burned and are doing this out of self preservation. Most women however will show a kind / loving front but are secretly freaks on the inside. No girl wants to be known as the freak / whore but today’s culture is making it a lot less taboo so you are seeing it more. As someone who can look at the bigger picture of life it’s easy t…	/r/seduction	11/12/25 04:26 PM
0	How many of you are using condoms? I don’t agree with your second point. A lot of women who are on BC don’t want you to use one and will get frustrated if you do. Always wrap up boys	/r/seduction	24/11/25 01:46 PM
14	Change my view: leading women on is the most effective way to be a man who sleeps around. I think people generally like to do life on their own terms. When someone gets a car they never talk about how the salesman sold them the car it’s always “i bought a new car” The guy who ACTUALLY wants the relationship comes off too strong because a relationship is a pretty serious commitment but the guy who only wants sex comes off as nonchalant and casual when floating the idea.	/r/seduction	17/11/25 11:27 PM
1	My bf doesn’t know what turns him on or what seduces him Here’s the winning playbook if this doesn’t work you have some way bigger issues at play that need to be sorted out When he is not busy and relaxing sit on him facing him and basically just start making out with him and take off your shirt. Basically instruct him at that point to do whatever he wants to do and that you want to be along for the ride. If you don’t get some kind of enthusiasm by doing this something is broken and it’s going to be up to you on weather or not you want to diagnose and…	/r/seduction	03/11/25 09:31 PM
43	As a life long nice guy, this video hits home Life becomes exponentially easier once you realize striving to be good person is completely different from being a “nice guy”. Part of being a good person is being respectful to people and that includes yourself. Sometimes that means not simping around for uninterested women	/r/seduction	29/10/25 12:22 PM
2	She is so out of my league Exactly this super low risk super high reward. No brainer investment	/r/seduction	28/10/25 01:07 PM
2	What Does It Mean if a Woman Says That She Doesn’t Feel A Connection? If she went out with you multiple times you are passing whatever threshold she has for looks so you can eliminate that possibility. Something that you are saying or doing is putting them off in someway and since your getting to second and third dates before this happens I’m inclined to believe you are making them feel bored. Solution here would be to escalate physically faster or if you are looking for something more serious and want to put that stuff off you need to be mentioning that so she do…	/r/seduction	23/10/25 01:55 PM
7	Why I quit dating apps forever (and what I now do instead) Hot take: if you don’t have enough money to afford pretty mundane social outings you have bigger problems to solve than being single	/r/seduction	21/10/25 02:45 PM
4	do girls prefer guys that barely text them? I think a lot of this is that if you look the way they want and you don’t talk to them they imagine that you’re everything they want. It’s almost like a fantasy but when you start talking about your actual interests and feelings you destroy this little fantasy they built up in their brains.	/r/seduction	18/10/25 10:53 AM
5	50 first dates, they all say no "spark" If you went on 50 first dates we can eliminate a few things. The good news is You are more than likely attractive enough and outgoing enough to have dating success, that’s probably the hardest barrier to entry when it comes to dating for guys. You are failing on the actual date itself in some way. You are either being too boring or putting out some kind of red flag they can’t get over. Obviously I can’t tell you more than that because I’m not there to see what you’re doing but it seems like we h…	/r/seduction	26/06/25 02:47 PM
2	Is there a ceiling to being yourself? Starting to fell like I’m not built for this dating game or being desired Quick Look at your post history tells me your problem you are way too insecure and that scares people away. If you’re attractive you need to just focus on volume of approaches until you are completely desensitized to rejection. After you get into a headspace of not giving a fuck things will become a lot easier and less emotionally taxing	/r/seduction	11/06/25 11:47 PM
3	Got 10 numbers in a day and none messaged back? I’m no expert but something that helps me after I get a girls number and send that first text is to delete the whole conversation out of my texts Sounds strange but it not being there to stare at makes me feel a lot less anxious about it and if she doesn’t end up responding it makes me get over that shitty feeling a lot quicker because I don’t have the constant reminder	/r/seduction	29/05/25 03:27 PM
7	Categorizing women I’ll bite here are my opinions In a professional setting you shouldn’t do anything even close to sexual unless you’re willing to risk your job / career. I know it sucks especially if the girl is attractive and is into you but ultimately you don’t want to end up losing your main income stream for some box. In a social scenario where you’re around friends of friends you should tread carefully but still look at people as perspective prospects for a relationship or a fling. The biggest thing here is…	/r/seduction	21/03/25 07:06 PM
1	Someone who doesn’t have a social circle or many friends for that matter. How can one meet women outside of online means? I think a person should have good interpersonal relationships before they venture into a relationship, but if your just going for a fling bars are probably your best bet	/r/seduction	18/10/24 02:09 PM
1	PSA: seduction =/= basic social skills I fall under this umbrella. I have above average social skills and have no issue approaching new people and making conversation but for some reason things it doesn’t really translate to romantic relationships. I suspect for myself it’s because I’m overweight and the girls I’m interested in are not looking for a fat guy (understandably)	/r/seduction	15/10/24 12:48 PM
3	Is it worth it to break up, date around and experience more? If kids are something you’re not willing to compromise on I would end it now but if you could live without them I would probably suggest trying to find some new excitement in your current relationship then make a decision. I left a LTR a while back and I think I forgot about how hard dating actually is for a normal looking dude. I don’t regret my decision but knowing now what I didn’t then I would have probably tried a lot harder to just fix what I already had instead of taking what was behind d…	/r/seduction	30/08/24 03:34 PM
72	Losing confidence after a bad night out Well if it helps with your mood I’m reading this and my main take away is that you’re in Italy solo traveling while I type this in an office somewhere way less exiting. Go get some pasta, see some historical sites, and have some wine. One of my main goals in life is to do exactly what you’re doing right now so go enjoy the other aspects for my sake. After that i promise you will feel a lot better about everything	/r/seduction	30/08/24 01:15 PM
1	How to deal with a bad reputation At this part of your life dating is probably a waste of time anyways. Just enjoy the high school experience and your friends because it’s never coming back. After you graduate I would go to college several hours away if that’s your plan or work towards moving somewhere different for work if it’s not.	/r/seduction	29/08/24 03:11 PM
5	I'm having a hard time believing that looks aren't that important when wanting to hookup or something casual I can’t stand people being so hyperbolic about looks. People here are so dead set on looks just not making any difference but will still brag about bagging attractive women in the same breath. On the other hand you have the average joe who probably could easily be with an average woman if he just went out a few times a month instead of whining on Reddit about being ugly.	/r/seduction	19/08/24 08:31 PM
10	I'm having a hard time believing that looks aren't that important when wanting to hookup or something casual This sub is so polarized around this topic but as always the truth falls in between the 2 extremes. In my opinion being attractive makes all the difference in your initial interactions with women. The worse you look the more game you need. Being a 7 and up is like shooting fish in a barrel. There are people who have made a profile on tinder with a models pictures and they can literally get away with being an actual nazi. Girls still don’t care and to be completely fair most guys wouldn’t either,…	/r/seduction	19/08/24 06:00 PM
1	Why do women say: "The bar is so low for men" yet to get any results from cold approach as an avg guy, the interaction has to be exceptional basically. And even then nothing is guaranteed Rare well explained and thought out response	/r/seduction	19/08/24 05:20 PM
2	Got ghosted after getting her phone number and exchanging a few innocent texts I have no helpful advice but I do have a few personal anecdotes from this weekend. I was talking to about 4 different women and I’m pretty sure I have torpedoed my chances with 2 of them. I have had the problem with playing it to safe and boring and I decided to get more a little more risky with one of the girls when I got some suggestive pictures sent to me. I thought that it was a no brainer but nope I was basically told it was too soon for that kind of talk even though it wasn’t too soon for …	/r/seduction	12/08/24 12:47 PM
2	Why is it that the answer to a man's inceldom is, 99.9999% of the time, to "just work on yourself bro," even if its for the next 50 years, "just work on yourself bro?" There is a ton of truth in this and it’s probably only going to get worse as time goes on. There is nothing you can do to change the trajectory of the dating world but what you can do is adjust your outlook and goals. If you’re looking for love the easiest and quickest way to get into a relationship is to adjust your expectations. Maybe you will have to settle for a 3-5 on the attractiveness scale. If that won’t work then I would suggest trying to get your looks to the level that you want to dat…	/r/seduction	09/08/24 02:39 AM
4	How to make a move on a friend who’s had a glow up? If you have actual feelings for her I would just let her know and go from there but if you don’t i wouldn’t risk potentially messing a friendship up over a quicky	/r/seduction	20/06/24 12:35 PM
9	When I want them they don't want me, when they want me I don't want them Same tbh. Girls I’m interested in are never interested but the ones that I would describe as physically repulsive have thrown themselves at me to the point where I physically feel uncomfortable. I think less attractive people have to try harder and be more aggressive while attractive people have options. What kills me a little inside is that I have probably hit on a girl who felt exactly like this about me 🙃	/r/seduction	04/06/24 06:38 PM
1	Am I in the position to put myself out there or should I sit on the sidelines a while longer? You’re definitely correct. When I was younger I experienced a ton of harsh rejections and it’s warped my perspective a little bit. I wouldn’t say I’m scared to approach or talk to anyone but I would be lying if my mentality going into an interaction with an above average looking woman wasn’t cynical at best.	/r/seduction	07/05/24 06:28 PM
1	¿How can I meet a "goodie"? I think the majority of really good women AND men are in the range of 4-6 on the looks scale. Anything above that and you feel like the world owes you something because you’ve been treated that way your whole life and anyone sub 4 is jaded because they’ve had the opposite experience. You want someone who has been given a fair chance with dating and has actually had to develop a personality in order to keep a SO around. I would probably start asking your friends and family if they know anyone sin…	/r/seduction	30/04/24 11:14 PM
1	Hook ups but no connection You mentioned earlier in a comment the women you slept with were not the type you wanted to date so I would recommend turning these flings into friends and using them as a resource to meet someone you would want to date	/r/seduction	12/03/24 06:30 PM
76	Is this a good text to ask out my crush? Hey x want to get sushi Friday night around 8? if she says yes make reservations and tell her you did. Bitches love reservations	/r/seduction	07/03/24 03:09 AM
–	Response to the critical & nostalgic sticky post here Without seeing you I really don’t have a good point of reference. If you’re not getting any matches at your height and weight it’s definitely something physical though not personality or game related. I would ask a lot of women and see what they say in common. If that doesn’t work I would consult a professional who focuses on glow ups	/r/seduction	05/03/24 11:42 PM
–	Response to the critical & nostalgic sticky post here Not necessarily but you basically reduce your chances with every one of those things you can’t accomplish. You may end up in a situation where you have to settle or invest more time trying to find someone worth while. Some of those things like body fat % and genetic potential are a lot more important than paying for a dating app.	/r/seduction	05/03/24 11:09 PM
–	Response to the critical & nostalgic sticky post here Yes I completely agree. Dating apps and social media have completely changed the average woman’s expectations of men and however anyone feels about that doesn’t change the fact that it’s true. As a man you can choose to live in denial, give up or adapt. All this stuff is pretty new and I’m honestly scared about the long term consequences of all of this junk	/r/seduction	05/03/24 10:45 PM
3	Response to the critical & nostalgic sticky post here I agree with most of this. Anyone who says this is wrong or sexist or whatever has to stop and think about their last vehicle purchase because dating has become VERY similar to that. There are an abundance of men on dating apps and so women can basically just find the best looking guy who will give them attention and go with that similar to looking for the cheapest lowest mileage vehicle within 100 miles. I’m not saying game isn’t real or whatever but in an ever changing dating market you have t…	/r/seduction	05/03/24 09:46 PM
3	Sex Well at 15 your priority needs to be fitness because that’s a factor that takes a while to change. Learn the rest along the way you got plenty of time	/r/seduction	05/03/24 06:21 PM