CUTigrr Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	Help		CUTigrr	/r/RPChristians	08/07/17 03:49 PM
7	Thanks		CUTigrr	/r/RPChristians	08/07/17 08:58 AM

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1	Help Yes. whether that be through overt "lessons" or less obvious example. You obviously have something else in mind. I'd like to hear it.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 04:02 PM
1	Help I have attempted to disciple her. She rejects anything I try to teach her.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 03:04 AM
2	Help "take a minute, start over, because whatever you want to communicate, it's not working,"* This I am going to use.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 03:02 AM
2	102 - Desire and the Curse Very interesting. Men are to lead; women are to help. This was and still is a problem in my marriage. 20 years ago my wife was hired as the director of children's ministries at our church. I became the supportive spouse and began helping her. Of course she was the boss. One day I suggested something that was obvious and made perfect sense. She didn't want to do it my way. I tried to convince her. She finally responded "Because I'm in charge. Do it my way." That was the end of my helping her. Sin…	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 02:21 AM
1	Help OK. That I get. I'm very in control of my emotions. As a child I was punished for loss of control. (Strict child of military man upbringing). That also predisposes me to not like her loss of control.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 02:09 AM
1	Help Yeah, I misread the discipling. Edited the response. Thought I caught it in time. Evidently not. There are a lot of times when I struggle to see how I am at all at fault for her outbursts of anger. Even if I have done something she doesn't like, I'm not responsible for her anger. We can discuss it in a calm manner. Yeah, I know...BPD.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 01:59 AM
2	Help I like the article. I will begin to use some of it. The "I've got it...don't worry about it." will only make the conflict worse in the short term. I don't know what might happen in the long term. I've tried some of that and it usually ends up in explosive anger on her part. She is very good at the Righteous Martyr. She learned that one at her mothers knee. I mostly ignore it or call it out. So far the time frame has been 6 years.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 01:50 AM
1	Help Is there any concrete action to be derived from this knowledge?	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 01:35 AM
1	Help Yeah, I think this is a large part of the problem. She feels "bait and switched". I don't really care other than the practical consequences of the issue. It's been a rough road. I'm about worn out.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 01:33 AM
1	Help Wow, that´s a lot to chew on. Thanks for the effort. I am going to try to respond in an organised fashion. Fogging- I will give it a shot. It might work. One of her big objections is that I don´t admit to doing something wrong when she blows up at nothing. I did that for 20 years and promised myself I wouldn't´t do it any more. Just as an aside: I got so frustrated with her one day I told her to stop acting like a 3 year old. It seemed to have a positive effect. I tried it again another day and …	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 01:30 AM
1	Help We come out of a Southern Baptist background. Don´t look here. I know of one POSSIBLE good example of a pastor friendly to men.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 01:15 AM
2	Help Yeah, this might have been part of the problem in the beginning, but she has now had several years to get used to the idea.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 01:13 AM
2	Help I don´t know that she is able to see the incongruence in what she says she believes and how she acts.	/r/RPChristians	10/07/17 01:13 AM
2	Help Thanks Sloth. All classic good advice. There are a couple of complicating details I left out earlier. (Aren't there always?) I have started exercising with body weight stuff. Will start with weights in the fall. We are missionaries in Europe. There are NO churches here that view gender roles the way I do. There are no other men that view gender roles the way I do. I am not free to change this situation other than to quit and come home (I have considered this). I have implemented much red pill, b…	/r/RPChristians	08/07/17 07:06 PM