CaStoz3 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
272	Being openly sex positive is a game changer	Inner Game	CaStoz3	/r/seduction	22/11/25 07:42 PM

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8	What the fuck is wrong with me? I’d say really lean into hobbies, especially social hobbies. Do stuff that makes you talk to a lot of people (not necessarily female), actively work on your social skills outside of worrying about romance/sex/dating. Would highly recommend an active social hobby, eg running club. Beyond that? Keep refining your appearance, start approaching women first & escalating, work on that mental health stuff, and it’ll come… but it won’t come if you’re just being idle, you have to take the initiative.	/r/seduction	29/12/25 09:44 PM
2	Has anybody actually gone to "religious services" to meet women? I strongly identify as Christian — vacation bible school my whole childhood, church camp as a kid, youth group, counselor at church camp in high school, majored in Christian Studies, have done quite a bit of missionary work… even in a very progressive church (which mine was), it’s not an excellent place to go with the intent of seducing women. I would say it’s an excellent place to practice talking to different people & exercising your social skills though.	/r/seduction	15/12/25 05:06 PM
10	How are you hot but single? Mix of things. Little bit of commitment fear, some recognition that I don't have the time to give a partner the consistency they deserve, partly that I’m enjoying more casual relationships & fulfilling my sexual needs within friendships.	/r/seduction	25/11/25 04:19 PM
3	Being openly sex positive is a game changer That's just not always accurate, friendships can & do become more. People (both sexes) often try to surround themselves with people they find attractive. I don't expect that I'd be appealing to all of my friends, I don't want that nor do I expect it. But I will to some and that's ok. That's not really accurate either. Pretty much none of my friends have heard me so much as mention sex until this past year. Since then I’ve only done it selectively, carefully gauging comfort as I do, and never in …	/r/seduction	24/11/25 11:21 AM
16	Being openly sex positive is a game changer This is correct yes. Thank you for clarifying that for me. I’d argue it also benefits friendships that stay solely platonic, too. But yes what you said	/r/seduction	23/11/25 12:32 PM
4	Being openly sex positive is a game changer Pretty much everybody I’ve ever slept with has genuinely been a friend prior to it (and even in the situations where the sex ends I’ve continued to be friends with almost all of them). You can’t force it much, it just sort of has to come up naturally. I’ve had female friends fairly spontaneously share stories about weird or messy encounters. I’ll get consent from the listener to share my own stories sometimes. This is only just one way it can come up.	/r/seduction	23/11/25 03:12 AM
5	Being openly sex positive is a game changer With the sexual talk part, in the beginning it’s talking about sex with some detachment & in a manner that isn’t sexually charged or erotic. Then you say something that brings in personal feelings/eroticism or sexualizes the topic. Sort of a weak example, but going from talking about sex positions in an objective/detached manner to calling a position they describe hot is an escalation. One favorite conversational trick I like is vague accusations that invite questioning. Let’s say they’re talkin…	/r/seduction	23/11/25 02:44 AM
4	Being openly sex positive is a game changer With little experience, I’d say you’d just talk about fantasies and things you want to do, while continuing to elicit their stories. Another thing is the teaching angle, some girls very much so like the idea of a blank slate man with no sexual habits they find undesirable, you can leverage that for some.	/r/seduction	23/11/25 02:32 AM
4	Being openly sex positive is a game changer Despite being autistic, I’m extremely extroverted. I don’t really have a ton of free-time (nursing student & job), so I just have to make time. Study dates, moving around obligations. Texting is also a big crutch, I can text at pretty much any idle period during the day, even on a busy day there’s moments with enough time to shoot out a text.	/r/seduction	23/11/25 02:27 AM
11	Being openly sex positive is a game changer I’m somewhat sexually experienced but yeah, having more experienced partners can be very intimidating. I try pretty hard to combat those insecurities with tangibles. Even if you’re unskilled, you almost always can offer something others can’t, especially if you are willing to put effort in. Remember foreplay is apart of the sexual experience, actually doing that well (which doesn’t require skill - just read a lot about it & do) can set you apart from others. Maybe you’re willing to explore a kin…	/r/seduction	22/11/25 11:51 PM
15	Being openly sex positive is a game changer Prerequisites for any of this: They need to hang out with you in person 1:1, they need to be someone you know well enough to show you care about, and you need to be able to have other conversations so not every conversation is sexual or escalators. First I see how they handle talking about sex (not sex with them - just sex in general). I’ll sometimes initiate that with asking if I can talk about that stuff, I’ll tell stories, I’ll see if she will tell stories. That’s a pretty big point to test, …	/r/seduction	22/11/25 11:43 PM
2	Women and Emotional Attachment I’d suggest the reason they may be doing that is you’re offering an emotional depth other guys are not. There’s nothing to be scared of in a superficial relationship, but deep relationships require vulnerability which is very scary for avoidants.	/r/seduction	22/11/25 10:41 PM
2	Women and Emotional Attachment You may not be incorrect about an avoidant attachment style being involved, but you are the common denominator. I have the same situation. These girls often seek either consistency/stability that they themselves lack, or individuals with an anxious attachment style. If you’re the first option I’d say just be present, consistent, and independent. They’re like cats, they’ll come to you, don’t pursue or chase. When they pull back just let them, remind them of your presence & care occasionally witho…	/r/seduction	22/11/25 10:26 PM
7	Being openly sex positive is a game changer Even though I’m taking on a lot balancing social obligations with other obligations (college student with a job), I find the effort to be worth it. This is the only way that’s worked for me. I sorta do similar to what you do with the minimal expectations though. I went through a high volume cold approach, fuck-buddies only, highly sex focused phase. I also went through a very serious dating stage. Both were awful for my mental health.	/r/seduction	22/11/25 10:00 PM
84	Being openly sex positive is a game changer I would only do that when there’s already been sexual conversation & strong positive indicators. Generally I prefer slower escalation.	/r/seduction	22/11/25 09:49 PM
34	Being openly sex positive is a game changer Probably the first aspect is having volume of connections. I have lots of genuinely platonic female friends & acquaintances + do a good job of meeting/getting introduced to new people. Beyond that is offering safe opportunities to hang out (eg inviting girls to group events or offering tutoring is a big one for me), slowly building the 1:1 connections, balancing emotional predictability (eg consistently being present for them) with excitement (eg spontaneity/fun events/etc), getting more (emotio…	/r/seduction	22/11/25 09:12 PM
30	Being openly sex positive is a game changer I don’t think this is the entire picture, but I’m quite sure that’s one part of it. I also think one other part is this allows partners to better self-select, partners who align with my views/intentions can get closer without ambiguity or having to decipher what I want or if it’s ok.	/r/seduction	22/11/25 09:00 PM
8	Being openly sex positive is a game changer I think it sort of depends on your philosophy of what constitutes an approach? I’m not really making many planned/organized approaches with one specific end goal. But I am having to put a ton of energy into maintaining relationships, reaching out, and facilitating opportunities for escalation.	/r/seduction	22/11/25 08:50 PM