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Mine went away for 90 days. It’s hard to find any info about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 12:49 PM
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I loved this movie so much! Need to go back and watch through an FDS lens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:30 AM
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This was my ex’s weapon of choice. He did it two weeks into dating. He accused me of being on a double date with a guy when I was just casually out with some friends. I continued to fall for it over and over again. What made it so insidious is that each situation was almost plausible or had a grain of truth to it so I felt like I needed to justify myself. What I should have done was told him to F off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:48 PM
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This is a fantastic list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 02:01 PM
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Trust issues? More like experience with reality. If we’re going to use labels, I’d say he has boundary issues with exes and he’s not 100% emotionally available.
/r/askFDS03/12/21 07:20 PM
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Great insight, thank you! No doubt he will hide this situation and / or lie about it in the future. I am glad I got the info early because I wouldn’t have expected it. I’ll talk about a “friend” next time.
/r/askFDS03/12/21 03:29 PM
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“Trying to erode my boundaries” was my very first gut reaction! Thank you!
/r/askFDS03/12/21 02:27 PM
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I dated an older guy who told me he would assemble an 8mm and project his dad’s porn when he was a teenager so you are not wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 12:42 AM
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He didn’t tell me but I figured it out. Hard to describe exactly but it would “pulse” when he got erect. He was not very big and here was a little scar on his abdomen that matched pictures from when I googled it. I think it was from when he was younger, not from ED but he was only 40. If he had some kind of trigger I never saw it. Anyone else encounter this before?!? Separate issue, but I was pretty sure he was pornsick. He would come in like 1 minute. Ive commented before that this guy didn’t p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 12:37 AM
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Yes, I dated a guy that had one….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:46 PM
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Well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 01:24 PM
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This is the best mash up ever! There goes my conspiracy theory that Savannah was secretly Natalie Lue though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 03:58 AM
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Wait, so it’s not biology?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 03:59 PM
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A friend’s husband calls it “two compliments and an insult” He swears it works every time. Be aware, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 04:28 PM
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Yes! This keeps happening to me. Chatting normally with a guy until he realizes I’m more accomplished than him in some way so he turns sexual to put me in my place. This study info makes me feel so much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:17 PM
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This is the real story!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:55 AM
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People I know who do this have cheating husbands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 10:40 AM
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See Black Mirror - White Christmas. Visual block and delete! Usually the tech in that show terrifies me but I’m ready for this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:48 AM
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Because that’s how they talk to their friends about women and every once in a while they slip and forget we’re not one of their bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 08:55 AM
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Same thing happened to me. I could see my eye in the corner of his stupid selfie. It sucks, but it doesn’t have anything to do with you. You trusted your gut and you were right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 12:49 AM
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When he admitted ex-girlfriends said he had a personality disorder! What a freaking sociopath that dude is. Completely self-serving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:40 AM
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I finally understand why they have been illegal in some areas for so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:18 AM
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Could you do a post about this? It sounds really interesting and I haven’t seen anything like that on here before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:26 AM
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These are awesome - great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 11:59 AM
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🚀 👸🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:45 AM
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I HATE it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:35 PM
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I’m over hearing that the guy is getting a psychological evaluation. It’s focusing on the wrong thing. He made it into med school. He’s not crazy, he’s just a misogynist. Stop associating mental illness with hating women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:08 PM
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Same - thanks! Have you made a standalone post for this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:44 AM
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I’ve listened to the audio book and the voice creeps me out. I can’t listen to it after dark, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:38 AM
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Love this show. That exchange definitely stood out to me - especially the “can’t harass girls” part. It seems like the son just accepts it and the dad’s the one who is struggling. Gotta educate them when they are young, before it’s too late. Can’t wait for the finale tonight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:09 PM
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The Dance of Anger is a good book and really helped me. The jist is that most women are angry for a legit reason and you should explore why and not feel guilty for those feelings!
/r/askFDS04/08/21 08:06 PM
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I’m on month 9 of a year-long hiatus. It may be permanent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:49 PM
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Yes! The physical withdrawal is such a good point!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:09 PM
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Please leave at the first sign of this. I excused it for 20 years and it messed me up so badly. Unfortunately he did not abandon me - it was my own (and cultural) excuse-making that trapped me. He’s not introverted or slightly autistic, he’s a sociopath!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:08 PM
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When it makes you angry, just watch the greatest SNL sketch of all time: https://youtu.be/MJEAGd1bQuc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:49 AM
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Looks like Texas just outlawed this - in June 2021! No doubt the law was passed due to increased awareness from forums like this. Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 12:46 PM
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This kills me. My ex would expect an assistant for every single thing he was supposed to take care of. “Hold this”, “hand me that” I would get so annoyed knowing how many things I do by myself. He didn’t even try to figure out and intelligent way to do it by himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:05 PM
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Or they have a small and/or weird penis and they need to emotionally trap you first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:40 PM
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This is why viagra should be illegal. Men love to talk about the natural world and our animalistic nature until it involves artificially making their peepees hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:20 PM
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I researched and invested in a good drill. I’m emotionally attached to it - it’s handier than most men in my life. Also I don’t throw tantrums, cuss and break other things in the process when I handle it myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:50 AM
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This was probably the worst part of my divorce. But so much peace with those people out of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 11:33 PM
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Clearly this guy was an abuser. No wonder his ex had a camera up. Imagine the premeditation he had to put into all that - the searing resentment that he had to take care of his own children. Why won’t they say his name? Was he cited or arrested? This is not a feel-good story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:04 PM
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Good for you! I love hearing this and all the other stores of us speaking up. “Microdefenses”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:15 PM
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“Just let it go….” No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:21 AM
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My therapist talks about giving people grace, but I’m sorry - when some scrote lets his dog take a dump on my yard and and I catch him, I’m going to call him the f out. No grace for white men. And no, that doesn’t mean I’m too hard on myself. It means I love myself because if I let that guy get away with it I would seethe and the anger would eat me from the inside. Fuck letting things go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:09 PM
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Was she the CFO? Or did the man face no consequences? Unfortunately in these situations it’s usually the woman who loses and is pushed out. I’m sure this guy tells his secretary how unhappy he is, how awful his wife is, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:01 PM
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Not sure if it helps, but if you search for similar threads on FDS, you will see how common it is. Not that it makes it okay but it has happened to some really smart, talented and remarkable women. It says nothing about your character.
/r/askFDS10/06/21 12:47 PM
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So, being in a relationship with a man is consent to be raped, according to the law. Got it. Adding this to my “reasons for never dating again” list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:54 PM
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I live near a major airport and there are SO many pilots on OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:03 PM
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You got me! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:02 AM
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I never knew about this until FDS. I live in a high-wealth area - lots of old dads on wife #2 or 3, lots of special needs kids. Not a coincidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:52 AM
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It’s hard to believe this is happening in Texas. Seriously… it’s time to rise up. Sex strike and what else?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:48 AM
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Yes - I’ve been working on this. No dating for me and I got a huge raise, tons of self improvement, life is just better. Imagine if we did it collectively...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:53 PM
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I literally just posted the same thing! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:37 AM
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I didn’t think this episode would be for me. But then the analogies were amazing. And THEN she mentioned picky eating and described my daughter to a T and now I have to rethink everything! Thank you so much for the insights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:37 AM
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This has saved me in every major relationship I’ve had. Even friends give me a hard time about it, like it’s some moral failure to care about self-preservation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:38 AM
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Seriously. I just watched a documentary series called Exterminate the Brutes about European colonialism and I can’t even stand men right now. The lunatics are truly running the asylum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:37 AM
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Government-instituted gaslighting: calm down! You’re being irrational. You’ll change your mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:52 AM
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“I truly believe that this community of women is changing the world. I feel like I'm part of something important, something incredible. I feel awakened and empowered and confident. I feel as though I've shed the skin of my former self and the woman beneath all that anxiety, shame, self-sacrificing, and compromising is a woman I am proud of becoming. These changes are unlike any other I've made in my life. These changes are soul-deep and permanent. For the first time in my adult life I have found…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:38 AM
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“he had paid a professional to write his profile to attract an open minded leftist like myself who'd be more likely into bdsm.” WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:57 AM
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It could be... but why the epidemic all of a sudden? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:46 PM
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Disease - what a nice spin for pharmaceutical commercials. Seems like it should be a disorder or a syndrome to me. Disease implies they were passively infected instead of mutilating themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:01 PM
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I hate parking garages. Every time I’m in one now I think of how it was designed by a man who has no idea how stressful it is for a woman to park in a dark, disorienting place with minimal exits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:42 PM
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They spent YEARS making laws regulating tv, music lyrics, movies and books. Even restricted commercials during Saturday morning cartoons to protect children from misleading ads. And then almost overnight there’s unrestricted, free hardcore porn for all. And I haven’t heard of one single law or movement against this. It makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:36 PM
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I LOVE 2048! Helps with not snacking too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:23 PM
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Me too on Black Mirror! I hate Byron but also can’t get enough of him trying to act like a normal bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:58 PM
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That’s my favorite part too. I can’t think of another show that consistently has that dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:07 PM
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It is in the first episode. The tone and intensity really change after that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:25 AM
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Her face at the end. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:28 PM
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I think you’re on to something with dopamine detox. It’s so true that getting away / change of scenery really helps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:04 AM
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What is frustrating to hear is - “go to therapy.” What kind? How long? How can I measure that it is working? How much will it cost? Even calling to get an appt can be so difficult. You’re in the depths of misery and finally pull together the will to call and the rude receptionist tells you new patients are being scheduled 3 months out. Everyone generally understands what needs to be done when they or someone they love has a drug addiction and wants treatment. If there was something like a rehab …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:50 PM
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If you look at it like: substitute drug addiction for trauma bond. you can’t get ahead of the problem when you are already in it. Like drug problems, abusive relationships are mental and chemical. How do we help women who are already in deep in their situation?.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:46 PM
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Im sad to see it was deleted. I thought it was a good viewpoint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:38 PM
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If you substituted drug addiction for relationships with your suggestions, wouldn’t it be kind of ridiculous to suggest that they go through all that to STOP using drugs? They can’t get ahead of the problem when they are already in it. Like drug problems, relationships are mental and chemical. How do we help women who are already in deep in their situation? And honestly, I don’t buy that this many women have attachment issues. I know many who are secure in every other way except for relationship…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:49 PM
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This is amazing- thank you. What is frustrating to hear (and you didn’t say this) is - “go to therapy.” What kind? How long? How can I measure that it is working? How much will it cost? Even calling to get an appt can be so difficult. You’re in the depths of misery and finally pull together the will to call and the rude receptionist tells you new patients are being scheduled 3 months out. Everyone generally understands what needs to be done when they or someone they love has a drug addiction and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:31 PM
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I’ve found antidepressants to only help with the symptoms but not the root cause. In a way, they made me stay longer because it made the bad situation more tolerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:50 PM
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So maybe these things already exist but just need to be “repackaged” and branded / marketed for relationship issues?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:48 PM
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This is the Alpha and the Omega. Amen. What can I pull over on you? How many other girls can I initiate chats with while still talking to you? His long can I go before being forced to commit? How much can I push your boundaries by talking to an ex? How many pictures of girls can I like? How far can I push you in bed? How little effort can I get away with? I am completely done. I cannot tolerate one more nudge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:15 AM
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The two I encountered were also willing to wait for sex. Short and thin - ugh. One I’m pretty sure had a penis pump! Honestly makes me torn about the whole “‘make them wait” policy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:21 PM
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Men think it's emasculating to receive direction from someone they perceive as inferior. <——- This <—This <—This <—This is the answer to this entire thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:21 PM
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Yes! New standard: must fit my aesthetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:33 AM
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I called out a guy for stealing my parking spot today. I told him he was a short little douchebag and he just stood there with his mouth open. Felt good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:19 AM
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Plus, I’m sure their wives can tell they are just doing it as a manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:01 PM
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This book is life-changing. Like having bad vision and putting on glasses for the first time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:00 PM
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I went to a male doctor for headaches. I was describing them and he couldn’t figure out what was wrong, got frustrated and yelled “what do you want me to do?!?” My super complex and rare problem diagnosed by a female doctor: migraines, lol. Men are so emotional and erratic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:47 AM
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She’s just a shill for the porn industry: https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/sisea-bill-porn-reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:36 PM
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She didn’t touch on the FDS porn stance but a quick search of her name on Twitter shows a pro-porn article she wrote in February. Makes it pretty clear what’s fueling this. Follow the money... Edit - here it is: https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/sisea-bill-porn-reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:32 PM
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Testing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:29 PM
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Correction, trying to comment on a post! Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:32 PM
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I’m trying to post over there but it’s not working...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:28 PM
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“Don’t have a sexual relationship” because the wife is on strict bed rest, pregnant with twins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:32 PM
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Read these tips, books, counseling if possible, but also: Don’t be so hard on yourself! They probably deserved it. None of these awful people go around beating themselves up over how they treat innocent people. The goal is to get to a point where you start talking to yourself the way a good friend would. Or think, what would FDS say? Every time you start blaming yourself or judging, think: Don’t be so hard on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:44 PM
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I used to wish I had a recording of everything my ex said because he would lie SO much about what I KNEW he said. If he couldn’t get away with that, he would lie about the TONE of what he said. I called it “rewriting history.” On a lighter note - home stenographer: https://www.cc.com/video/go8cre/chappelle-s-show-home-stenographer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:49 PM
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The “last longer guy” is definitely cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:41 PM
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An episode of Explained said it was 1997!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:57 PM
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Just watched a similar movie on HBO. It was made in 2019. So over it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:44 AM
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Yes! We need a “porn for women” thread! Rubs my feet and asks me about my day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:13 AM
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A silver lining might be that the burden disparity during Covid was so great that it put a spotlight on the issue and women will realize they are better off alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:36 PM
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These broke me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:24 PM
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Would love to be able to comment and participate. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:52 PM
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Of course they do! You forgot hunger. 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:30 AM
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Yes! They act clueless that things on a shelf are stacked across AND behind. Yet men are allegedly better at spacial relations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:55 PM
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This is what we need to be doing. Don’t lament their downfall - take advantage of the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:21 PM
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You deserve an upgraded flair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:27 PM
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This is SO true. I broke up “at the first sign” of indifference in my last relationship and it was really hard. At first, it felt like a huge mistake and that I was overreacting. Three months later I am STILL recalling yellow and orange flags that I must have glossed over or suppressed. The first conscious sign is the tip of the iceberg!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:52 PM
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Multiple divorced guys I’ve dated: great jobs, good looking, in shape, YOUNG children and the wives noped the f out: left very nice homes and moved into small apartments or back in with their parents, got jobs after being SAHM, and changed their last names back to their maiden names. It took me FDS to realize no rational woman would do that if the guy was half decent. (Which is especially ironic considering I went through the same thing - duh!) The worst part is these guys act like they have NO …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:09 PM
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I’m starting to think BPD is really just... men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:03 PM
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That and watching the video - need a spoiler thread to discuss this further!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:42 PM
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Thank you for the recommendation! It was well worth the $20 to support all the women who brought this movie to the screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:41 PM
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This works!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:18 PM
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Love this post. Thank you for sharing your stories!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:19 PM
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This!!! If you’re connected, send them a funny meme or something random via IG or FB DM early in dating so you can see their activity status. And pro IG snooping tip: if you’re not friends with him and his account is private, temporarily block his account, close IG, reopen and view his account (you’ll need to remember his full username and type it in). A lot of his connections will be listed under Suggestions for You! And my educated guess is that it’s the accounts he interacts with the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:32 PM
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This is the embodiment of an abuser getting violent when the woman tries to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:27 PM
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Every single stereotype about women is projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:21 PM
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This is why I left. Didn’t want my girls to think that’s what a relationship was supposed to be like. They are angry with me now, but hopefully they will understand in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:42 PM
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Just found this and can’t stop listening (with my FDS filter on). So many red flags right away in season 1!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:29 PM
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And so quickly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:12 AM
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And have the pharmaceutical for it 100% covered by all major insurers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:12 AM
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This is spot-on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:48 PM
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Oh, so he’s neighbors with my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:16 AM
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Agreed. Not the best execution but slight step above my ex who kept all 300 of his past options open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:10 AM
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This is why I hate the term Karen. I get the origin, but men didn’t need another thing to call us. And it’s a double bind. The more you protest, the more you’re a Karen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 11:40 AM
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Life-changing post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:49 PM
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Love it! I haven’t heard that in years! Could make a t-shirt quilt full of Google searches from the last relationship alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:39 AM
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We don’t have literal pissing contests. Am I the only one who thinks communal urinals are just bizarre?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:51 PM
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I came to this same realization recently! It’s not about the sex or the orgasm. It’s about the “power over” and the conquest, like hunting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:55 PM
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That’s insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:20 AM
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Thanks for clarifying. I’d rather have the KitKat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 12:46 PM
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I went to visit my grandmother a few weeks after my grandfather died. They had been married 55 years. I expected her to be sad but I walked in her room and she was happy as a lark, wearing a bright pink sweatshirt and hot pink lipstick. The Merry Widow made me question everything about the “ideal traditional marriage”, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 11:16 AM
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I vote for Character Disturbed. Does he have trouble with authority or holding a job? Being late? If you’re looking for answers, Character Disturbed - The Phenomenon of Our Age by George K Simon nails the compulsive lying and entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:09 PM
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Loved reading this! Sounds like you are lucky to have a cool best friend who gives good advice too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:30 AM
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I spent hours analyzing it, trying to understand. What got me to acceptance was: They know it hurts. They just don’t care. They think they are entitled to do whatever they want because women are not real people to them and only exist for their pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 10:41 PM
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Did you date my ex? Set a goal to go no contact for 40 days in order to break the trauma bond. In the meantime, give yourself grace and allow yourself to mourn. I had to see my ex this week after 50 days and I felt absolutely nothing. Space and time lets the brain fog clear and you will realize he was nothing more than a chewed up piece of gum stuck to the bottom of your shoe: annoying but can be scraped off and left behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 10:23 PM
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They love the smear campaigns, don’t they?!? I put all my effort into getting away and starting a new life, meanwhile my ex spent his energy trying to win the hearts and minds of our mutual friends by badmouthing me. Such a petty attempt at revenge and shows that it was always about their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:06 PM
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I got access to an NFL suite through work to entertain clients. I was fairly junior so the spots were hard to get. I made the mistake of excitedly telling my ex. Like someone else mentioned, I can still picture it so clearly. His whole mood darkened and the weekend was basically ruined. When pressed to tALK aBouT iT he said it was because he would have to watch our kids during the game. They are both over the age of 8 and literally the easiest kids in the world. Plus it was three months before t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 12:42 PM
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I needed that correction on his mispronunciation of “similar.” Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:01 PM
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Separated - right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:08 PM
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Dying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:10 PM
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Glad you realized this IS abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:43 PM
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My mom’s favorite - well, there’s something wrong with all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:40 PM
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Would love to hear how he tried to explain the breast milk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:18 PM
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You’re amazing! Could you build a HVM? If so, I might consider dating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:48 PM
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The scrote I recently dumped had an entire zoo of emotional support exes. Former girlfriends stringing all the way back to even the years before he was married. And they say we get attached. He couldn’t sleep with a girl once and not stay friends with her. Proud to say his smart ex-wife and I will be the only ones he doesn’t stay friends with. (The exes who really know him.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:39 PM
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You are the Scrote Whisperer. Needed this today. I almost started feeling bad for dumping my ex and calling him out as the loser he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:25 PM
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Love this so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:17 PM
15

OMG - He literally meant “girl.” When guys tell you who they are, believe them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:23 AM
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Do not waste one more second of your life feeling bad for anything you said or did to this dumpster fire. He deserved every single bit of it and more. I hope you got him fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:27 AM
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“a lot of women's desires to be in a relationship with a man stem from patriarchal brainwashing that benefits men by having two people focus on them and their goals rather than just one, while the woman becomes just an extension of her male partner.” You are really onto something key here. I put way too much into goals-by-extension for my ex, which were probably things that I really wanted for myself. He benefited immensely from my support but now that he’s gone, I get zero credit for “our” acco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:13 AM
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I got the - Why can’t you be the fun, confident, easygoing person you were when we met? Because you were talking to other girls behind my back, liking their pics and lying to me about it. He saw no correlation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:57 AM
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My ex-husband assaulted me during my divorce (district attorney took the case, pressed charges). SEVERAL of my closest friends at the time sided with him, invite him over to their homes to this day. One of the ones who was closest to me asked me if I was sure he meant to do it! Is it because they are secretly miserable but can’t leave because they are 100% dependent on their husbands for their lifestyle? Deeply rooted, internalized misogyny? Southern religion? Doesn’t matter, not my problem. I’v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:53 PM
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SoCial MeDia doESnt meAn anyThing. It’S alL fAke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:50 PM
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I bookmarked this thread because it was so enlightening and really helped pull me out of a bad situation. He Knows: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fm5xsr/he_knows_sis/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:58 PM
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Moment of clarity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:56 PM
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“I noticed that he was daily messaging 4-5 needy female friends who always needed his emotional support in some way.” No more dating guys with female friends for me! They are not nice guys, they are orbiting predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:30 PM
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Thirst-like!! Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:26 PM
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So dumb! Do they not realize EVERYONE can see? I dated a guy who did this and his teenage kids followed him! No shame. It really must be a disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:24 PM
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You really have to check who they follow and like. It reveals SO much and is a relatively easy way to find issues early. Who wants to be with some loser who likes and comments on other girls’ PUBLIC pictures when you’re in a relationship with them? “She’s just a friend” but he only likes the ones with cleavage and not the ones of her latest vacation or some stupid, inspirational quote? Turns out he’s still flirting with exes and spinning plates. It’s likely not their only interaction. IG is just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:19 PM
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I wish I had been able to read this six months ago. It would have saved me so much stress and anguish. Since the ex would lie or minimize when confronted, even calmly, there was no other solution but to leave. All this while he was the one escalating the relationship and pushing for commitment. I KNEW he was in the wrong but I would get mixed advice from friends. I really think it gave me PTSD. Thank goodness for this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:58 PM
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How annoying that he still won’t admit it was inappropriate. Kudos to you for being so strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:07 PM
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This is so insightful! This happened with me recently and I’m really struggling with it. Being made to feel bad - saying I’m controlling and manipulative or jealous of these so-called friends. Would love to see this as its own thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:06 PM
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I feel like I’ve finally found my people on this board.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:14 AM
3

Sounds like you dodged a hobosexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:37 PM
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