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| 1 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Agreed 💯! Plenty of men AND women hate condoms. This isn't only a "men don't want to wear condoms" thing. I don't like how the burden of condoms are put solely on men (even though it IS their only line of full defense aside from a vasectomy). Oof... I've never had a copper IUD. I chose the hormonal IUD, & after 3 years of problems, I decided to get it removed. Unfortunately, my removal appt was 6 weeks out. Once I made the decision to have it removed, waiting 6 weeks became unbearable... I kept … | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Thank you for your kind words! It actually helps a lot! I do hope he comes around & we can come to an agreement that is fair to all of us. I don't want to financially destroy him, or make his life harder, but I do want my daughter to know her dad, sisters, & extended family (THIS is more important than $$$). I can't force that, but I'm hopeful. If it doesn't work out, we will be ok. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 07:47 PM |
| -1 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Please, just try & put yourself in the shoes of a woman who would use Safe Haven laws: A woman, broken, battered, hopeless. She doesn't feel any worth bc she's never been treated as a person with worth. Her boyfriend/husband (also a broken human being) regularly beats the shit out of her. She gets pregnant, she's terrified, doesn't get an abortion (so many reasons this would happen). She fears her SO will beat & abuse her child too A woman with schizophrenia, or other mental illness, wants to di… | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 07:02 PM |
| 0 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Oh my goodness, some ppl are monsters, some ppl live lives so traumatic (they feel hopeless), some ppl suffer from severe mental illnesses. The human condition is fragile. Some ppl don't care well in this life at all. Those ppl still get pregnant. It isn't ok to turn a blind eye to the real struggles & conditions some of our fellow humans face. Yes, infants born to the most fragile amongst us should be rescued. I'm blessed none of those things apply to me, but I still have compassion for those l… | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Believe me when I tell you that female hormonal birth control is no walk in the park. It's very unhealthy for our bodies. I have been fucked up by birth control (several different types) many, many times. When I say fucked up, I mean FUCKED up. I've determined that I'm very sensitive to hormones (most especially, progesterone). The sad part is, a lot of women are unaware that the problems they are having is due to hormonal birth control. A lot of avoidable ailments are normalized bc Americans ov… | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 06:28 PM |
| -1 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.It's a very, very sad reality. Men can use Safe Haven laws too in the event the mother abandons a newborn with the father. Women typically use it bc they give birth & have already been abandoned by the father during pregnancy. No, infants should definitely have the opportunity to be saved from parents SO fucked up that they would chuck them in the garbage. Safe Haven laws are for infants, not parents. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.I truly appreciate your perspective & taking the time to write this thoughtful reply. Bringing the perspective of men facing unwanted pregnancies is very important & valid. How they handle/view this situation is important. Men's wants, needs, & mental health is very important. They make up half of our society. I'm the daughter of a very good man (the GOAT). My brothers are amazing ppl. I'm raising sons & daughters. Most of my friends are guys. The father of my other kids is a complicated person,… | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.That would be nice. We need more/better forms of birth control & more awareness. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 05:33 PM |
| -4 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.How often are safe haven laws actually used? Those laws were specifically created to protect babies who would otherwise be thrown in the garbage, not to relieve parents of their rights & responsibilities. Anyone who would use Safe Haven instead of adoption is most likely very desperate & living in extreme fear/conditions. For those reasons, I don't think it's right to include this particular law in the paper abortion debate. Just my opinion. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Thanks, but I have thought through my options thoroughly. I love her & want her. IF I was to give birth & felt differently, (didn't want her), she has family that would take her. ❤️ | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 05:18 PM |
| 3 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Thank you so much. I know things will get better for me, bc I know how to make myself happy, this is just a low point. Your advice is spot on! I won't forget you said it. Best Wishes & take care! | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Yes, I used my personal life as an argument. I started doing that to inject a different perspective into these debates. The longer my pregnancy has gone on, the more upset I'm getting. It's getting harder for me to offer my perspective without feeling hurt & exhausted by the whole debate. I feel like I'm in preparatory. It's been 25 weeks since I took the abortion pill. The whole pregnancy has been an emotional rollercoaster, high risk, painful, & unpleasant. Before getting pregnant this time I … | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 05:40 AM |
| 4 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Mmmm... Ok. You know NOTHING about my personal relationships. I was with the father of my other kids for over a decade. We were a family. It ended. He's a good dad & we coparent well. Also, I waited over 3 years to have sex after my relationship with my ex ended. I waited bc I wanted to be ready & healthy. I finally met someone I wanted to fuck, took the plunge, got carried away, & it ended... like this. Yup, I fucked up. But Gawd, the picture you're trying to paint of me is so far from reality. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Thank you for your kindness. Honestly, I've been having a bad week & I'm truly tired. It is MY fault for even commenting in the first place bc I opened myself up for debate I didn't feel like engaging in (maybe I'm lashing out rn). I assure you that I'm capable of debating these issues, I just don't feel like it. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 04:57 AM |
| 6 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Thank you. I've been a mom for 20 years. It isn't easy. God, my heart breaks for men fucked over by the system & choose to give up. I've been fucked over A LOT in my life, but I've always pushed through. I can understand why some ppl don't make it through their darker times. The child support laws are fucked up. I've personally chosen to put my feelings aside & NOT give the father of my children are hard time about being present/consistent during times he has struggled with personal issues. I've… | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 04:53 AM |
| 0 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Bc I've fleshed out these issues & shared my position on this issues multiple times on multiple threads. That isn't your fault I'm currently over debating those specific aspects, but I am. Paper abortions would really be used by men who don't want children that the mother's ARE keeping. That's the only aspect/scenario that really matters. Bringing up adoption & safe-haven laws is about compounding their point that women have THREE extra choices that men don't have (fml). Bringing up sperm donati… | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 04:34 AM |
| -2 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.I addressed that as well as expressed how disgusting it is for women to give up a child without the fathers consent. This needs massive reform. Fuck women who do shady shit like that. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 04:22 AM |
| -5 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Um...just look up stats on women paying child support. Wtf? Also, when are babies taken from fathers and given to women without their input? Ppl are advocating for paper abortions bc men who already choose to walk away from kids want to be free of financial responsibility as well. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 04:20 AM |
| -8 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Idk man... I shouldn't even engage in these conversations anymore. I'm tired & upset. I'm carrying an unwanted pregnancy. I made the decision to abort. It broke my heart, but I identified very good reasons to do it, including the fact that I didn't want to hurt the father by bringing a child he doesn't want in this world. My heart breaks for him (I'm also hurt & a lil mad at him rn). It isn't just the money. I put him in the position to take care of a kid he doesn't want, or live with the pain o… | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 04:14 AM |
| -9 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Oh, yes... If the father keeps the child a mother doesn't want... she can (and is) held to the same legal requirement to pay child support. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 04:02 AM |
| -13 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Adoption mostly requires the consent of both parents (as it should) exceptions are Utah (maybe other states idk), special circumstances (ie, domestic violence), & cases of women LYING - falsely presenting their pregnancy as a special circumstance to avoid involving the father. There should ABSOLUTELY be more protections for fathers & required due diligence to get consent of the fathers. If the woman doesn't know, isn't sure who the father is... Sorry for your luck, lady... time to get uncomforta… | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 04:01 AM |
| -7 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Woah....taking hormonal birth control is HARDLY as simple as "taking a pill" no biggie. That shit can fuck you up. I know. It's put me through the ringer. Physical, mental, & emotional problems. I've been on several types, each one has fucked me up. Also, men should NOT be pressured to get vasectomies just bc hormonal birth control sucks ass! | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 03:05 AM |
| -37 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Annnnnnd here it is. Yup, children need to be supported. Mom & dad need to both contribute (in some combination of money & physical care). Leaving your own DNA out to dry, fend for themselves, or for the other parent to absorb ALL of the responsibility is fucked up. Creating a child means time and/or money into their upbringing. This isn't a my body, my choice issue once they are born. They are a separate being created by 2 ppl. Unwanted pregnancies suck for men & women. The children shouldn't b… | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 03:00 AM |
| 16 | Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice.Nah... a vasectomy falls under his body, his choice! | /r/MensRights | 12/02/23 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Menstrual leave is not practicable or justified, employers' organisations sayNow THAT should be the standard. European countries prove it's possible. | /r/MensRights | 11/02/23 06:47 PM |
| 0 | Menstrual leave is not practicable or justified, employers' organisations sayPregnancy CAN absolutely be debilitating. Sickness, pain, complications, life-threatening developments. Each pregnancy is different. Some pregnancies are fantastic (those are still hard) with very little symptoms. Some are standard (sick in the 1st, good in the 2nd, uncomfortable af in the 3rd). Some are fucking awful. I've experienced all 3 types. My current pregnancy has been debilitating. The way my body reacted to the hormones was like having several chronic diseases thrown at me at once. Fo… | /r/MensRights | 11/02/23 06:33 PM |
| 2 | The Fatherless Crisis in AmericaI love everything you wrote right here. I admire your perspective, introspective thought process, & open mindedness. | /r/MensRights | 03/02/23 06:08 PM |
| 1 | The Fatherless Crisis in AmericaOh, ok. Yes, I misunderstood. Abstaining is a wonderful choice, for SO many reasons. I chose to abstain for 3 years after my 12 year relationship ended. I wanted time to work on myself & focus on my kids. Also, I wanted to avoid falling in a spiral of sharing myself in meaningless encounters while trying to navigate the modern dating culture. I could foresee how sleeping around could become a habit & didn't want that for myself. I waited for someone special... & then got pregnant.🤦🏼♀️ Thank you… | /r/MensRights | 03/02/23 05:59 PM |
| 1 | The Fatherless Crisis in AmericaThank you for this recommendation. I will definitely watch it. I'm sorry about your sister. I LOVE those quotes! ❤️❤️❤️ | /r/MensRights | 03/02/23 05:11 PM |
| 1 | The Fatherless Crisis in AmericaNot sure what tl;dr is, but that's fair. It was A LOT! Take care | /r/MensRights | 03/02/23 05:09 PM |
| 1 | The Fatherless Crisis in AmericaThank you for your post. Sorry I replied in a manner not really pertaining to your subject. I saw the comment that was the opposite of what you were saying & just opened the floodgates. Lol. Thank you for caring. You're right, chastity classes aren't helpful at all. Sex ed needs a complete overhaul. Take care. ❤️ | /r/MensRights | 03/02/23 05:07 PM |
| 2 | The Fatherless Crisis in America1) I'm NOT a feminist. I'm a human being. I care about men & women equally. I have sons & daughters & care about the challenges they face as ppl, individuals, AND the unique gender specific challenges they face. 2) I assumed you were referencing abortion bc the words you used are frequently used by paper abortion advocates. Finally, I see someone post about the negative impact of fatherless children on a sub that frequently advocates for paper abortions & you chimed in with "well... akshually it… | /r/MensRights | 03/02/23 10:41 AM |
| 6 | The Fatherless Crisis in AmericaThis take is garbage. Each person is responsible for stepping up (or not). Life's not fucking fair. You either step up for your offspring, or you don't. Placing all the blame of unplanned children on women simply bc abortion EXISTS is all kinds of fucked up. Have you spent anytime listening to personal accounts of women who are faced with the choice to abort or keep? Women (like men) aren't fucking robots. Abortion isn't a simple button that can be pushed. The biological & hormonal changes that … | /r/MensRights | 03/02/23 09:29 AM |
| -3 | Should child support be illegal?You think abortion is that simple & easy for a woman? Lol. | /r/MensRights | 31/01/23 01:50 PM |
| 7 | Paternity fraud is around 30 percentage for which test are done, real will be way more than that.Paternity fraud is fucking horrific. If a woman isn't 100% sure, she really should be honest & face the consequences. For the women who are 100% sure, this is an area where we can help out men. We can help normalize ^ destigmatize men getting paternity tests by granting them without ending relationships, threatening partners, or getting offended. Put your pride aside & respect the fact that a man can never be 1000% sure bc they don't carry babies in their bodies. | /r/MensRights | 28/01/23 04:19 AM |
| 2 | ExhaustedYw. Enjoy the rest of basketball season & take care. | /r/MensRights | 19/01/23 05:41 PM |
| 22 | ExhaustedYou aren't a whiny bitch for feeling this way or for expressing these feelings. Life can be fucking exhausting. Your feelings are valid. Also, unless you've had something happen... you already have a pair. My suggestion... invest in some self-care (not just for women). You stated that alcohol makes you MORE exhausted. Alcohol is a crutch that isn't good for your health & perpetuates the cycle of feeling overwhelmed. Try cutting that out & investing that time into healthy habits. Pick something y… | /r/MensRights | 19/01/23 04:38 PM |
| 1 | So how common is it to have been told “I’ll always love you…unless you turn into a rapist or abuse women” by a parent💜💜💜💜 I love that! | /r/MensRights | 18/01/23 01:03 AM |
| 2 | So how common is it to have been told “I’ll always love you…unless you turn into a rapist or abuse women” by a parentThank you soooo much. Fyi: I LOVE your advice. Fuck 'em! ✌ | /r/MensRights | 17/01/23 11:57 PM |
| 3 | So how common is it to have been told “I’ll always love you…unless you turn into a rapist or abuse women” by a parentYw. I'm never sure if my perspective will be welcome, but sometimes I just go for it. Lol. If I'm wrong... I'm wrong, but maybe I will touch on something that sparks thought. You seem to be a very introspective & level-headed person. Those are very valuable assets. As for the feminism & counter culture from men slapping back.... I WISH we could just start with a fresh slate. Forget about the historical patriarchal system & focus on the issues that face everyone & gender specific issues. Can't we… | /r/MensRights | 17/01/23 07:26 PM |
| 6 | So how common is it to have been told “I’ll always love you…unless you turn into a rapist or abuse women” by a parentA new parent lesson I learned recently: in regards to family planning, I want my kids to have the number of kids they want. Whether that's zero or 6+. It's their life... not mine. They don't live to make me happy or fulfill MY needs. I want them to pursue their own happiness. Whatever tf that looks like... I support them. I had never put much thought into this, until I faced a very unwanted pregnancy (30+6 weeks today). You live & you learn. Lol. | /r/MensRights | 17/01/23 07:18 PM |
| 6 | So how common is it to have been told “I’ll always love you…unless you turn into a rapist or abuse women” by a parentWhat a hurtful comment... & over a freaking haircut🤯. I don't think ppl realize how cutting these comments are. I love how you have made your relationship with your boys better. 💙💙💙 | /r/MensRights | 17/01/23 06:41 PM |
| 6 | So how common is it to have been told “I’ll always love you…unless you turn into a rapist or abuse women” by a parentOh of course I would be horrified if my child committed horrifying acts. I would be sad for the victims & sad that my child had lost a piece of their soul, but I would still love them. Honestly, it sounds like your momma loves you, but is also entrenched in women's feminist stuff. Sounds like she holds those values super high up. I care about women's issues & how they differ from men's issues, but more than that... I care about issues ALL of us face (regardless of gender & gender specific). Idk … | /r/MensRights | 17/01/23 04:29 PM |
| 54 | So how common is it to have been told “I’ll always love you…unless you turn into a rapist or abuse women” by a parentThis makes me sad. My love for my kids is unconditional. It doesn't matter what they do... I will always love them. Even if one of my kids turned into a rapist, I would love them. Hear me out... I would support the victims getting justice & have the utmost empathy for them. Also, I would love & support my child through the process of (rightfully) paying for their crime/s. Help them grieve for the parts of themselves they lost. The rest of the world could hate them, but I would still love them. M… | /r/MensRights | 17/01/23 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?Lol. I'm not a feminist & idk what a tradcon is. Before my recent experience, I was strictly prolife. I've even made paper abortion arguements in the past. I still believe that abortion is ending a life. Hence, why this choice broke my heart. I really struggled with this decision. I, ultimately, decided that I would choose life - the lives of my children, the lives of his children, his life, & my life. I couldn't see any way that I could have this baby without negatively impacting everyone's lif… | /r/MensRights | 15/12/22 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?Hey, I've got an idea that will completely even the playing field. How about we outlaw abortions, adoption, & safe haven laws. Then, we can use the FULL FORCE of the government to make parents be equally responsible for their offspring. Even Steven. Fair is fair. Welcome to dystopia, homie. Hope you like it here! 😂😂 | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?Dude, how often are infants actually abandoned through safe haven laws? Safe haven laws exist solely to protect infants that were being disposed of & left to die...not to offer another way for parents to neglect their parental obligations. Protection is offered to the parents to incentivise the type of ppl that would throw away their infant to protect the INFANT... not the parent. We need these laws to protect vulnerable infants. Safe haven laws shouldn't even be apart of the paper abortion deba… | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?You're right that my comments are meant to appeal to emotion, but you're wrong about my intent. I comment on these threads & share my experience through an emotional lens bc emotion is human & humans learn & grow through experiencing life/sharing life experiences. I do NOT believe I'm the victim. I'm very aware that the hardships I've faced are a direct, or indirect, result of my choices & actions. I'm not sharing to look for sympathy, but rather, bringing a different perspective to this debate.… | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?The solution of paper abortions seems to be predicated on the notion that men are the victims of unwanted pregnancies which is incongruent with the reality of real life & real ppl. Unwanted pregnancies cause trauma & are unfair to all parties involved. It fucking sucks! I think we can all agree that 1) men & women are equally responsible for unwanted pregnancies (in cases of consent & free of lying about birth control), 2) forced abortions are a terrible idea, 3) abortions means a kid doesn't ex… | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?With an actual abortion... no kid exists. With a paper abortion... a kid exists. If an abortion was as simple as signing a piece of paper stating I don't consent, I wouldn't be pregnant right now. There would be no kid that has a right to be cared for, a right to know their extended family (if they're willing), etc... | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?You comparing my thought process to a pre civil war slave owner is weird. It isn't a good comparison & introduced bad faith into this discussion. It's a FACT that paper abortions aren't equivalent to real abortions. I'm glad you agree that forcing women to undergo abortions would be horrific. Your tunnel vision on this topic is exhausting. There is no way to make things entirely fair in regards to unwanted pregnancies. | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 02:13 PM |
| 0 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?No. You didn't get it... at all. I don't think men are subhuman beasts... WTF???? The guy who is involved in this isn't even a deadbeat. Lol. He takes care of his kids & my baby hasn't been born yet, so he can't be a deadbeat to this one... yet. The kids are innocent. Women take on a heavier load when it comes to unwanted pregnancies bc of biology. Paper abortions aren't equivalent to real abortions. Those are the points. Life is fucking crazy & unpredictable. Nobody WANTS to face life-altering … | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 01:56 PM |
| 3 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?We will BOTH be parents on the hook. Not just him. Honestly, I felt terribly guilty about having a kid a man doesn't want. That shit ate me up for a couple of months. My emotions change & right now I'm currently angry. I'm working on it bc being angry only hurts me. I prefer to be happy. It's a shitshow. If I could financially afford to let him walk, I would. Realistically (I've thought about this a lot), I can't. I offered him this... in lieu of child support, I would like him to provide diaper… | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 01:39 PM |
| -2 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?My Dad is the GOAT. I have sons... they are sweethearts... I care about their rights as children & adults. I have brothers... they are dope af & good dudes. All of the friends I have irl that check up on me (while I'm going through this weird shit) are male. I don't hate men. I love them. I care about men's rights & see a lot of areas where we, as as a society, are failing them. I'm not jaded on MEN, I view each person as an individual, not as a group to be judged based on my experiences with a … | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?That's fair. Yes. The cost of my time, money, my well-being, mental mental health, etc... was very high. The latter 2 being most important. Bc if biology, those costs had to be paid by me. That's just life. Signing a piece of paper isn't equivalent to a real abortion. That's my point. | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 01:23 PM |
| -2 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?We both opted out. It didn't work out. | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 01:10 PM |
| -3 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?I don't think he's a POS. That is certainly not how I view the world, or men. My point was that paper abortions aren't equivalent to real abortions. | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 01:09 PM |
| -4 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?Lol. That was your takeaway? Not what I was saying. My point was paper abortions aren't equivalent to abortions. | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 01:07 PM |
| -16 | Should a man be able to opt out of a child's life without child support?No. In the event of an abortion, no child exists to care for. In the event of adoption, both parents are off the hook for supporting a child that exists. If a child is born & kept, both parents are responsible for that child. Abortion is an alternative to pregnancy. Pregnancy is HARD on a woman. Also, pregnancy can be life threatening. Women get the choice to abort bc it takes place in their bodies. Abortions are HARD for most women. It isn't a simple process. It has physical, mental, emotional,… | /r/MensRights | 14/12/22 06:25 AM |
| -24 | Relinquishing mothers or deadbeats?Fun fact: except in the case of extenuating circumstances (ex: domestic violence), a lying birth mother (ex: doesn't know who dad is), or if you live in the wild state of Utah... women CANNOT unilaterally relinquish rights of a child for adoption. That means (in the overwhelming amount of cases) that BOTH the mother & the father relinquished rights AND responsibilities of a child. I think adoption agencies are predatory. They should be required to do extensive due diligence to find, contact, & o… | /r/MensRights | 12/12/22 03:45 AM |
| -22 | Relinquishing mothers or deadbeats?Yup. Lol | /r/MensRights | 12/12/22 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Baby trapped don’t know how to feelMuch looooove, homie! 💜💜💜💜 | /r/MensRights | 11/12/22 08:25 AM |
| 2 | Baby trapped don’t know how to feelI'm very capable of taking accountability for my own actions. I have low moments. Unless you're a robot, I'm sure you can relate. Here's the bottom line. Idk you. You don't know me. You know nothing about my life & vice versa. Neither one of us are in the position to cast judgement on one another. You can call me whatever you want. I don't care. Wishing you the best. ✌✌✌✌ | /r/MensRights | 11/12/22 06:41 AM |
| 2 | Baby trapped don’t know how to feelYou're right. I'm a horrible, terrible, awful human being. I deserve the current shame & guilt in my heart. I deserve the tears I sometimes shed bc I wish this wasn't happening. I appreciate the supportive comments bc I'm trying very hard to keep my head up. My kids are depending on me to keep my shit together. It's a daily struggle. But you're right. Maybe I should just say fuck it. Give into the despair & give up. At least that way, that guy you're white-knighting for (whom you don't even know… | /r/MensRights | 11/12/22 05:52 AM |
| 2 | Baby trapped don’t know how to feelUgh... I typed out a long, detailed reply outlining how hard & conplicated abortion (for a woman) is, but my finger closed all my open pages, including Reddit. This won't be anywhere near as detailed. I'm carrying an unwanted baby. I decided to have an abortion (for personal reasons & bc I didn't want to force an unwanted child on the father). My medical abortion FAILED. I'm 25+2 weeks pregnant. ALL of the mental, emotional, financial, moral, & physical burden fell on MY shoulders. Why... bc bio… | /r/MensRights | 09/12/22 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Baby trapped don’t know how to feelGetting stuck in this victim mentality isn't doing your mental health any good. Does it suck what happened? Yup! A lot of things suck. Getting cancer, losing loved ones, losing your livelihood suddenly, getting injured, etc... Try & accept your reality for what it is (it's hard. I'm currently struggling with that right now. Not for the 1st time in my life). If the kid is yours, you should try to get to know the child. Think about how terrible you feel right now - about the emotional damaged you'… | /r/MensRights | 08/12/22 01:17 AM |
| 30 | Family Court is an Evil and Corrupt Institution💯💯💯 | /r/MensRights | 07/12/22 06:18 AM |
| 4 | My brother might have knocked someone up ?!? What’s next?Thank you for saying this! All of it! | /r/MensRights | 28/11/22 06:59 AM |
| 3 | My ex-of-sorts just told me she’s pregnant. She’s now writing me handwritten letters on behalf of the unborn child claiming a psychic link with the child. Feeling abused here but struggling because I’m finding that, as a man, it’s that much harder to be taken seriously when asking for help/adviceStill laughing. Lol | /r/MensRights | 26/11/22 02:55 AM |
| 22 | My ex-of-sorts just told me she’s pregnant. She’s now writing me handwritten letters on behalf of the unborn child claiming a psychic link with the child. Feeling abused here but struggling because I’m finding that, as a man, it’s that much harder to be taken seriously when asking for help/advice"Or maybe claim you also have a physic connection to the child and write her letters back. /s" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 lol. I needed that laugh tonight. Funny af. | /r/MensRights | 26/11/22 02:33 AM |
| 2 | I regretted being an informal sperm donor and I'm now filing for custodyYou're welcome! ✌😁 | /r/MensRights | 25/11/22 08:51 PM |
| 13 | I regretted being an informal sperm donor and I'm now filing for custodyDon't listen to that shroomhunter person. This situation is WEIRD AF, but that's your baby. That baby deserves a mother & a father. Standing up & taking responsibility is the right thing to do. Good luck to you. | /r/MensRights | 25/11/22 06:56 PM |
| 0 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.Lol. Chill. I NEVER blamed him. I feel empathy & compassion for him, actually. I, simply, told my side of the story - what I went through, from my own perspective to illustrate the real life implications & complications of an unwanted pregnancy from a WOMAN'S pov. I NEVER said he forced me to have an abortion. He made his wishes clear...I agreed. I decided to take that pill. I own that. I own everything I did. Why did I do this? Bc ppl who vehemently support paper abortions SEEM to only care abo… | /r/MensRights | 09/11/22 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.Ty for addressing the problems that I presented (I disagree with your solutions - that they are fair. We can agree to disagree). There are many more problems that would have to he fleshed out that o didn't present. I appreciate your civility. I DID have an abortion. Lol. I was 9 weeks, 3 days. It failed. You're completely lacking empathy towards the human element behind all of this. Below, I've copy & pasted a post I made (in a private forum) of the conversation I had with my kids informing them… | /r/MensRights | 06/11/22 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.Well, my story highlights my point. Point 1: Implimenting a paper abortion law would be crazy difficult - a fucking nightmare to implement. Have you read the threads where ppl who seriously support this hypothetical law propose possible problems & troubleshoot solutions? Remember...ppl, relationships, & situations are messy af. Real problems are brought up, ie, what it the woman doesn't realize she's pregnant until after the cutoff date for abortion (it DOES happen...what if she's lying though) … | /r/MensRights | 06/11/22 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.Correct, I don't care about money. I have no interest in draining a man, or punishing him (financially, or otherwise) bc I got pregnant & he doesn't want it. I have to be realistic though. I know my circumstances & finances. As much as I hate it, I'm going to need SOME help in the early months. I don't want to file child support. I'd rather ask him to chip in with diapers & essentials. More importantly, I'd like him to be a dad. We both have HUGE extended families, children, & live in a small to… | /r/MensRights | 05/11/22 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.Lol. I don't want your sympathy, nor do I need it. I believe general empathy & compassion would go a long way towards healing & solving our issues. Advocating for my child means doing my best to encourage & support a child/father/paternal extended family relationship. I did this while my kids' dad was struggling & going through rough times. I could've took him to court & kicked him while he was down (fucking up), but I didn't. I took care of our kids while he figured his shit out (multiple times… | /r/MensRights | 05/11/22 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.I have a lot of empathy for men that face unwanted pregnancy & unwanted children...including the guy whose child I'm carrying. The guilt has fucked with me mentally for these past months. I did my best to do the right thing for EVERYONE, yet I'm still pregnant. What now? My child didn't ask for any of this & is the ONLY innocent party between the 3 of us. I will advocate for my child in every way, as I do my others. Imagine having envy over women for having the "final say" over whether a child i… | /r/MensRights | 05/11/22 04:14 AM |
| 2 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.Yes, I did. I picked him bc...i liked the way i felt around him. May sound dumb, but 3 years after coming out of a shitty 12 year relationship...it felt SO GOOD to feel amazing (about myself) around a guy. I had put the work into myself, got healthy, & was getting laid (finally). I was having the time of my life. Lol. Anyways, yes, I picked him to have sex with. I own the consequences of my actions. Tbh, I don't think he's a bad person, or a piece of shit. I just think he's reacting poorly to th… | /r/MensRights | 04/11/22 10:57 AM |
| -2 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.Nope. Ppl who advocate for "paper abortions," or parental surrender are ignorant of, or choose to ignore, the fact that ACTUAL abortions, or adoption, are very difficult options that levy a heavy mental, emotional, & physical tax on the woman. A man signing a paper to divest consequences of an unwanted pregnancy isn't equal to an actual abortion, or decision to adopt out. | /r/MensRights | 04/11/22 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.Seems nice in theory, but I've seen these scenarios played out (hypothetically). Life is messy. Whenever a possible problem to parental surrender is brought up, the solutions proposed are equally (or more) messy & would result in the loss of rights. As for adoption, that's a very, very difficult choice with far reaching complications for the ppl involved. When I told my kids about this baby last night, I brought up the idea of adoption. They said "absolutely not." They weren't happy about the ne… | /r/MensRights | 04/11/22 09:37 AM |
| 2 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.Thank you. Thankfully, my other kids have a good dad. We are good co-parents (12 year relationship). They are concerned that the new one won't have what they have. After the shock wore off from the news, they became protective of the new sibling. We will be alright. | /r/MensRights | 04/11/22 08:57 AM |
| 0 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.I suffered bc both of our actions. Yes, he's acting like a douchebag. I don't think a lot of men consider how hard an abortion is...see it as something simple...like Plan B. This is one of the reasons I'm speaking out about my experience. I was prolife before this abortion. It's been a WILD ride. I'm trying to stay positive. I work on my mental health everyday (it's been a little rough, but I'm getting better). I, actually, finally told my children about the baby tonight (I live alone with my ki… | /r/MensRights | 04/11/22 01:40 AM |
| 10 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.I'm seeing a specialist & the baby looks good. Ty for your concern. | /r/MensRights | 04/11/22 01:31 AM |
| -15 | Men too should be free to exercise their right to choose. Because fatherhood (not just motherhood) should be a choice too and no one, man or woman, should be coerced into parenthood.I support men's rights issues & used to find the idea of paper abortions compelling. Not tf anymore. I'm currently carrying an unwanted, unplanned baby. After informing the father of the pregnancy, he made it clear he didn't want it. I agreed. Other than staying on good terms... I had to organize & plan the abortion...ALONE I had to deal with debilitating 1st trimester symptoms...ALONE. I had to process my complicated emotions on abortions while in hormonal hell...ALONE I had to make peace with … | /r/MensRights | 03/11/22 10:35 PM |
| 65 | Is it common for a man's partner to want to get him to distance himself from his friends?Yup. Just bc something is common, doesn't mean it is "normal" or healthy. | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenI saved this post (and left your link open), so I can check it out after I sign up & have some time. ✌ | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenI will. For sure ty for sharing. I don't have any lists (or spotify) to share with you. I'm looking forward to checking out yours. | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenSure. I prolly don't have a lot to add tbh. I'm OBSESSED with Kevin Gates' songs. Like, there is a song, a line, a chorus, for every aspect of my life right now. Other than that, I listen to different classic rock, pop, hip hop songs that I, either relate to, or just sound good. Lol. The chorus of Perfect Imperfection by Kevin Gates describes me as a person. Lol | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenOmg YESSSSS! This is sooooo true. The current american lifestyle (junk food, sedentary, isolated, rat race) sets ppl up to be unhealthy & unhappy. This is the pipeline to preventable medical problems, prescription drugs to treat preventable problems, prescription drugs to treat problems caused by other scripts, & other chemical dependencies to fill voids & self-medicate unhappiness. If I could impart any piece of knowledge I've gleaned from my life experience, it would be...it doesn't have to be… | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenYes. It does! "Back against the wall what do you hold on to? I know it's something we all go through. Just aim for yours. When it rains it pours. I'll learn how to fly again." Fly Again by Kevin Gates | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenTOTALLY understandable. Lol. We are all prone to snap judgments, & my "advice & comments" reflect that (nuance & intention are lost through text on social media). I didn't mean to judge OP, just meant to challenge his view & give a different view to chew on. Thanks for the reading/viewing material. I'm always looking for different perspectives (sometimes I fail to seek new stuff bc I get caught up in my own shit). I really appreciate you challenging my comment & interacting with me. Means a lot!… | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 03:17 PM |
| 3 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenSad, but, currently, accurate. Despite that, I will continue to live & represent myself in a manner that is outside of this petty bullshit. My impact on this world is minuscule, but I will continue to be me, & won't succumb to a life filled with hate, resentment, or jealousy. I've been there, done that. I was MISERABLE! I will choose, happiness, empathy, & compassion everyday (somedays are harder than others) regardless of my circumstances. I hope other ppl figure this out for themselves. | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 02:20 PM |
| 3 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst women1st paragraph: Love, LOVE this approach. Let's break this shit down. Start with the stuff we agree on & then start working out the more tedious, emotionally triggering shit. 2nd paragraph: yes, "spoiled chidren" or emotionally immature ppl ruin things. 3rd paragraph: yup, corporations & societal norms/expectations reward the hysteria/emotionally immature bc it's profitable. 4th paragraph: agreed. I'm not suggesting anyone "just keep their mouth shut." If you have a question...ask, a concern...ex… | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenI know. It's rough. I don't have the answers. Well, maybe I do have some, but it doesn't matter bc ppl have their own worldviews & perspectives. These views are vastly varied. Different views/perspectives are wonderful, but we can't solve anything if we can't step out of our own perspective & consider other's perspectives. I wish that the men's & women's issues (that actually mattered most) could be addressed & solved without all the man/woman hating noise & bullshit issues drowning out what's r… | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 02:01 PM |
| -7 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenFruit basket is probably the best compliment I will receive today (life is rough right now lol), so thank you for that...it, truly, made me smile. Idk, man...maybe I'm just built different. I prefer ppl (men included) REAL, hate superficial expectations, & am not quick to judge. Hatefulness, jealousy, getting easily offended are EXAUSTING emotions. Tbh...I find man hating subs disturbing. I dip in there sometimes to see different views. I'm more interested in men's subs bc I'm not a man & would … | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 01:39 PM |
| -15 | Misandry is becoming so casual and accepted amongst womenEh... while misandry (and misogyny) are definitely real & disturbing trends. It concerns me that you are judging someone based on a BOOK you saw on thier freaking bookshelf. You don't know why it was there. Maybe it was a gift. Maybe she got it out of curiosity to see what crazy beliefs ppl have. Maybe she got it for research. Maybe she got it after a bad breakup to make herself feel better. You don't know. Just as having "Mein Kampf" on your bookshelf doesn't make you a Nazi sympathizer...havin… | /r/MensRights | 31/10/22 01:03 PM |
| 2 | “men should not be required to support biological children without prior agreement.”You responded to me with empathy & compassion & touched this internet stranger's heart. 😁 Man...all that hits home. It took me 36 years to figure out, but I found that joy comes from within. A lot of ppl turn to temporary pleasures/activities to fill that void. My advice is to turn inward. Identify something you don't like about yourself & start doing the hard work to change it. This process generates joy, builds self-confidence, brings purpose & meaning to ones life. I spent a lot of my adult l… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/22 07:08 PM |
| 1 | “men should not be required to support biological children without prior agreement.”Thank you so much for taking the time to read, respond, & the well wishes. Means a lot to me. I'm not a hard liner anymore either. I guess I see abortion as a necessary evil & have become pro-bodily autonomy. Crazy how life works, huh!?! I've been wanting to share my story, mostly, to highlight the fact that life is not black & white, but rather, many shades of gray. Our family court laws are completely fucked & need to be fixed. Men are fucked by blanket laws (ie. the inability to terminate chi… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/22 02:31 PM |
| 1 | “men should not be required to support biological children without prior agreement.”No, I GET what you're saying. What I'm saying is that the decision to abort/adopt is NOT a simple one & the idea of a paper abortion is narrow minded. It is a complicated, complex thing to go through (deciding to abort or not) while your body is being pumped with hormones biologically triggering an emotional attachment to the baby (obviously, all ppl are different & some women make the decision easier). The burden of going through this process falls on the woman. I'm not saying that men aren't a… | /r/MensRights | 18/10/22 02:52 AM |
| 2 | “men should not be required to support biological children without prior agreement.”Thank you for responding! Means a lot to me. You brought up 2 important points... 1) you can't build a written law that allows for extreme discretion on case by case basis. That's why I think it's best to err on the side of the most innocent party in the case of unwanted pregnancy...the children. 2) Yes, some women DO trap men. It's so, so sad & wrong. Lol about your sister. I hope everyone is doing well now. On the issue of baby trapping. I believe that sometimes it is malicious - done with int… | /r/MensRights | 17/10/22 10:54 PM |
| 2 | “men should not be required to support biological children without prior agreement.”So, financially coerced abortion or adoption? I'm a woman who cares, deeply, about men's rights & the emotional well-being of men. I USED to find the argument of paper abortion (while currently impractical) compelling. My recent experience & current circumstance has changed that for me. I still care, deeply, for men's rights. There are so many areas where society can work together to correct wrongs & make improvement. Paper abortions AREN'T it. There are many reasons financial abortions aren't p… | /r/MensRights | 17/10/22 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Is Onlyfans one of the reasons for lack of respect for men?Love this post/take. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/22 05:48 PM |
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