CalonMawr Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
109	It's Time	Activism/Support	CalonMawr	/r/MensRights	24/05/17 11:28 PM

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6	Positive pregnancy tests available... Fraud and entrapment? I still have the "regular" positive pregnancy test I took in September of 2015, and it still looks positive. The digital one I took said "pregnant" until the battery ran out, too.	/r/MensRights	06/12/17 08:44 AM
1	Even as a Female FEMINIST, I hated Hillary and thought she played the gender card too much, now as a Female Meninist or MRA member I hate her more. I don't think anyone wants the suck things. But you're right in that there needs to be an understanding of the balance that exists between rights and responsibilities.	/r/MensRights	08/11/17 12:15 PM
1	Only violence stops mansplaining! - Wonder Woman comic #30 I think we (mostly) agree. I'm just not going to blame people whose reaction to being dismissed out of hand isn't a stellar example of "high ground" dialogue, ya know? Although as terms like "mansplaining" bleed out of gender studies classes and through the media into the common vernacular, I'm more inclined to say that engagement will be more likely to change perspectives. I'm never going to be accused of mansplaining, owing to my tits and all, but I am very likely to say "gosh, that is incredi…	/r/MensRights	08/11/17 03:10 AM
3	#MeToo Has Its Eternal Scapegoat - Sacked Labour minister Carl Sargeant found dead After Allegations Of Sexual Impropriety Made Against Him To give a little more info: He was called in to see the FM and told that allegations of a sexual nature had been received. He was then sacked. He posted to his Twitter feed hopes that the investigation would be treated as urgent so he could return to politics as quickly as possible. The fact that he had been sacked for allegations of a sexual nature was reported on many national news media sites, including the BBC and ITV, making afore-mentioned return to politics virtually impossible, whether t…	/r/MensRights	08/11/17 02:26 AM
2	Even as a Female FEMINIST, I hated Hillary and thought she played the gender card too much, now as a Female Meninist or MRA member I hate her more. This is definitely the way responsible adults explain complex concepts about indoctrination and partisan politics to teenagers.	/r/MensRights	08/11/17 01:33 AM
9	Even as a Female FEMINIST, I hated Hillary and thought she played the gender card too much, now as a Female Meninist or MRA member I hate her more. Hi! You don't need to be sorry for getting your things together, and you're not an "emotional little girl". You're a teenager, and you're still figuring things out. There's nothing wrong with that, at all. It's good that you're able to evaluate your positions and change them. Hold onto that, because it will become harder and harder as you get older and more uncomfortable with information that disproves your world view in some way. At more than double your age, I'm still "getting my stuff togethe…	/r/MensRights	08/11/17 01:31 AM
2	Even as a Female FEMINIST, I hated Hillary and thought she played the gender card too much, now as a Female Meninist or MRA member I hate her more. Teenagers are fickle, and constantly testing their place in the world and re-evaluating their opinions. Horrors.	/r/MensRights	08/11/17 01:00 AM
1	Only violence stops mansplaining! - Wonder Woman comic #30 Ah, gotcha. I don't think the onus is on men accused of mansplaining to avoid furthering the divide, though. Accusing a man of "mansplaining", regardless its origins, has become an overtly sexist silencing tactic in pretty much every instance of its use. It's not functionally different to telling a woman who's trying to explain something to "get back in the kitchen" - and the very last thing on my mind if someone seriously said that to me would be bridging any divide. I'm also not sure the Venn …	/r/MensRights	08/11/17 12:47 AM
1	Only violence stops mansplaining! - Wonder Woman comic #30 Sorry, I don't understand what you mean by this. Could you explain, please?	/r/MensRights	07/11/17 11:22 PM
1	Only violence stops mansplaining! - Wonder Woman comic #30 And, with respect, your suggestion that the "mansplaining" meme is born of misunderstanding and men just being shit at succinct explanation is wildly - unrealistically - generous to most people who use it. If that were true, it would be called "oversplaining", because men aren't likely to be any worse at succinct explanation than women.	/r/MensRights	07/11/17 03:51 AM
15	Michelle Obama says men feel entitled and rely on women to protect them This is what happens when someone knows there's something there. She's feeling the invisibility of men, she's being niggled at by the fact that boys fall by the wayside and get "loved" (ignored) while girls get "raised" (encouraged, protected, pushed, nurtured, given opportunities beyond imagining)... but that realisation is slamming headlong into the societal conventional wisdom that men rule everything and women and girls are oppressed victims. If you listen to it a few times, it's a very star…	/r/MensRights	03/11/17 02:33 AM
4	Cabal of Feminist bullies destroy the lives of 12 men, driving one to suicide, in a matter of days This. Women are told from a very young age that they're special. That they deserve a good man, a family, happiness, appreciation, respect. They're told that any propensity toward irrationally emotional outbursts or behaviour is not their fault - indeed that these characteristics are the "correct" way of doing things and that men are emotionally defunct cavemen. They're never told that having a good life requires work, that a good relationship is a two way street, that rights come with responsibi…	/r/MensRights	01/11/17 04:47 PM
1	I am a female who was the accused in a Title IX investigation. Yes, Title IX truly is unfair to men. I understand. But then how to we get past the gynocentrism of society as a whole, and the almost psychopathic way that huge swathes of the population can ignore men's suffering even when it's right under their noses? I suppose I've always seen the "woman suffers something that usually happens to men" stories as a way of breaking through that barrier with eminently more visible female suffering, in order to push the point "this happens to men, many men, daily". Edit: Off to bed so won't reply rig…	/r/MensRights	30/10/17 02:53 AM
1	I am a female who was the accused in a Title IX investigation. Yes, Title IX truly is unfair to men. it's this kind of bullshit that actually HURTS men's rights. By framing an issue that disproportionately affects men within the "male aggressor, female victim" paradigm and bolstering the invisibility of male suffering? Or something else? In any case, I see your point. I do think it can be helpful when women who are affected by ostensibly men's issues experience and speak up about them, but it's a double-edged sword.	/r/MensRights	30/10/17 02:34 AM
1	I am a female who was the accused in a Title IX investigation. Yes, Title IX truly is unfair to men. I do agree that the issue is with the legislation, but I think to ignore that heavy skew toward the "male aggressor, female victim" paradigm is to bypass how we got to the legislation in the first place - through feminist narrative built entirely on the presupposition of male aggressor and female victim as a default state of affairs across all of society. In ignoring how we arrived at Title IX, we can't hope to effectively end it. Further, while this story is one about a woman's experience with …	/r/MensRights	30/10/17 02:08 AM
1	I am a female who was the accused in a Title IX investigation. Yes, Title IX truly is unfair to men. So, to be clear, you don't think Title IX legislation is a men's rights issue?	/r/MensRights	30/10/17 01:21 AM
4	I am a female who was the accused in a Title IX investigation. Yes, Title IX truly is unfair to men. She really should be able to go after "Bobby" with some legal ramifications for him trying to literally destroy her life.	/r/MensRights	30/10/17 01:15 AM
1	Two problems: 1. The article (I posted in comments) she cited was 4 years old. 2. The study that article uses was done in 1992. All of the above?	/r/MensRights	24/10/17 08:08 PM
1	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? As did having an adult woman dependent upon him. Women don't feed themselves with air, clothe themselves with fairy dust and get their hygiene and beauty products from Santa.	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 09:14 AM
3	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? Well, not really. He could have paid a cleaner a couple hours a week and put his kids in childcare. The "contract" made was that he would work and support the family financially while she managed the house for the family. If the family no longer exists, the contract is void and the risk she chose to take has not paid off. That's life.	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 01:39 AM
6	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? ICYMI: The article also says, you will have noted during your thorough reading of it, that "The impact is also reduced if they start working after the relationship breakdown. So essentially, if a woman who does not work divorces her husband, and continues to not work, her no-income household will be significantly worse off than a single-income household. To which I say: Well, duh.	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 01:31 AM
5	A question: how is it wrong to say "most murderers are men, therefore manhood is murderous" but not "most terrorists are Muslim, so Islam is murderous"? Is it wrong to say "most child murderers are women, therefore womanhood infanticidal"?	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 01:30 AM
4	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? So you recognise that women are hypergamous, and that this might have some effect on their having a better standard of living when married than when not married, right?	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 01:17 AM
4	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? So she can do all the domestic labor and childcare so that he doesn't have to, so that he can focus on his career progress, in order to provide an increasingly good standard of living to the family unit and all people in it. FTFY	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 01:14 AM
3	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? For information, what your source study actually says is: The most significant drop in support for gender equity occurred on the issue of what is the ideal family arrangement. By 1994, an overwhelming majority (84 percent) of 18-to-25-year-olds disagreed that the male breadwinner/ female homemaker family was superior to other family arrangements. But by 2014 only three-quarters of youth disagreed. Here the decline was especially dramatic in the case of young men, who went from 83 percent disagre…	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 01:12 AM
1	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? Happy Cake Day!	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 12:51 AM
7	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? She was not an anomaly, and what he said about his sister getting most everything - including the house - does not conflict in any way with the information presented in the Guardian article you linked, which talks about available income, rather than existing capital. The article also says, you will have noted during your thorough reading of it, that "The impact is also reduced if they start working after the relationship breakdown. So essentially, if a woman who does not work divorces her husban…	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 12:50 AM
5	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? Well they probably don't like the idea of divorce, either. In single-earner families, (mostly) men make sacrifices, in terms of spending more time and energy in the workplace so that the standard of living of the family unit is improved. Research has shown that children with an engaging stay-at-home parent, in a household with both parents, have better outcomes than children with two working parents or just one parent. It makes sense to want this and to be prepared to sacrifice for it. Divorce i…	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 12:41 AM
2	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? She never does because it doesn't exist to her. If you're a man, you sit-around all day growing fat off of women's labor while watching money growing on trees and drinking cocktails. This is blatantly false. Men spend a lot of time expending labour calling their bros in the patriarchy to evilly plot against women.	/r/MensRights	12/06/17 12:13 AM
1	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? I'm an atheist and always have been, and while I don't have any issue with people holding whatever beliefs they want to, there is something incredibly strange, almost Pratchett-surreal, about listening to someone talk about something imaginary (to me, obvs) as though it's real. I get that same feeling when I hear/read these "men are awful, rapists are literally everywhere, I fear leaving my house" kids who've been indoctrinated by the ideology de jour. Edit: A word	/r/MensRights	11/06/17 11:19 PM
3	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? Yeah, I agree with you. I'm not OP - I was just pointing out how they seem to have calculated it. Which is - shocking nobody - disingenuously.	/r/MensRights	11/06/17 11:13 PM
5	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? You don't seem to be taking any male sacrifice into account here, at all. You're focusing entirely on financial gain and ignoring all of the nuance and messiness of life. Which is fine. You're 20 and you don't know any better yet. But if you're under the impression that it's not a sacrifice for a man to walk out of his door every morning and leave his wife and children to spend the day together while he slogs through 8+ hours - maybe in a cozy office, maybe down a sewer - your schema for men is …	/r/MensRights	11/06/17 11:08 PM
3	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? It just suggests that married men on average earn a lot more than their wives. Ergo, when they're together and their income is taken into account and split down the middle, her "half" is higher than her earning power. When they split, she can call upon (without alimony) only her own earning power for income. Given the apparently hypergamous nature of women, that makes sense. If you "marry up" your income increases. If you want your income to stay at that level, you stay married.	/r/MensRights	11/06/17 10:53 PM
4	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? Many of the choices we make in life carry risk. Women for whom the risk of being financially worse off should they divorce is untenable should ensure that they won't be financially worse off. They can do this by continuing to focus on their careers and either not have children, or place their children into the care of someone else while they work, like their spouse (as men with stay-at-home wives do) or other relative or childcare professional. That's equality. What's the problem?	/r/MensRights	11/06/17 10:48 PM
10	Why do most men want their wives to help their economic progress, but not ensure anything in return? But if they then choose to go and be a factory worker instead, the hospital at which they previously worked does not continue to pay them a wage to ensure that they maintain the lifestyle to which they became accustomed while they were a doctor.	/r/MensRights	11/06/17 10:19 PM
3	Reading this sub stresses me out. I needed some cheer-up. Thanks /r/memes Yes.	/r/MensRights	08/06/17 03:00 PM
5	Reading this sub stresses me out. I needed some cheer-up. Thanks /r/memes I'm a different poster to the one you initially replied to. Mimicry is a conscious endeavour, in the context of this thread. It's observing something and then copying it. It is impossible to "act" in that way while unconscious. You won't find citations for this, because it's not the sort of thing that is studied. It's a matter of definition of the word "mimic", rather than human behaviour. There are explanations for what you call mimicry in sleep. One is that the child was mimicking the adult an…	/r/MensRights	08/06/17 12:58 PM
6	Reading this sub stresses me out. I needed some cheer-up. Thanks /r/memes Mimicry in this context is a conscious endeavour, which is pretty hard to pull off while unconscious.	/r/MensRights	08/06/17 12:43 PM
2	A note to the few misogynists here: I agree with your first point. As for your second - it depends on what you hope to achieve and what the likely outcome is. I'm not sure what you hoped to achieve with this post (given that everyone knows that there are fringe assholes in every movement), and the net outcome is, in my opinion, negative. I would have handled it differently.	/r/MensRights	07/06/17 11:36 PM
3	A note to the few misogynists here: I know it's not the point of your post, but - women are the majority of the population and a higher proportion of women than men vote. It's fallacious to suggest that women are not equally represented in government. They are quite literally over-represented. My advice for the attacks for being a woman is... suck it up. Argue with what points you can, if you want to, and otherwise ignore it and move on. The work being done here is GOOD work, but as of right now, one of the posts in the front page…	/r/MensRights	07/06/17 08:47 PM
1	A Feminist explains why problems facing boys are actually caused by misogyny YUP. And even if we're not talking about men turning all supervillain - all the "progress" we've made in terms of "gender equality"? I'd bet my right arm that if by way of some natural disaster or something we ended up back in a situation where most available jobs were hard, dangerous manual labour? "Housewife" would be the hottest new job in town. Even if it had to be done without vaccuum cleaners, washing machines, dishwashers, and all those other gizmos that were made (by men) to free up wome…	/r/MensRights	03/06/17 01:28 AM
4	A Feminist explains why problems facing boys are actually caused by misogyny "This thinking is of course really damaging. It prevents boys from developing their nurturing sides, from having a full range of human emotions and causes them to bottle everything up- including feelings or thoughts of suicide which leads to a tragically high rate of suicide." I don't even know where this idea comes from, that men are somehow emotionally deficient. I'm not sure how anyone can manage to spend a significant amount of time around men and not realise they're just... people. Differen…	/r/MensRights	03/06/17 01:12 AM
1	Tumblr feminist defends a woman who raped an 8 year old boy. (x-post from r/CringeAnarchy) Any time :)	/r/MensRights	01/06/17 11:55 PM
6	Tumblr feminist defends a woman who raped an 8 year old boy. (x-post from r/CringeAnarchy) Try this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDYAVROaIcs	/r/MensRights	01/06/17 11:05 PM
2	CNN fires Kathy Griffin from show following Donald Trump 'beheading' stunt I honestly don't think so. I think it's more the case that the violent riots and so on were not widely reported. The left are so far inside their bubble of bullshit, far away from moderates, that they entirely, completely unable to understand that this was a step too far, so they spread it far and wide, expecting everyone to be in on the joke, and now they're flabbergasted by the response. This is the same reason thy're always SHOCKED whenever they lose an election. They have no clue where the l…	/r/MensRights	01/06/17 02:24 PM
1	How can we use the current WW situation to our advantage? This is absolute, total and utter fucking horse shit. I'm a woman in my thirties, a huge fan of comics, vidya and movies of all descriptions, and I have never once, ever, been dissuaded from, much less prevented from, engaging in geek culture. Neither have any of the other countless women I've met in these scenes. If anything, men in these spaces have been more than welcoming and pleased to see women in those spaces - as long as they don't expect special treatment for being women. And all while …	/r/MensRights	31/05/17 07:56 PM
3	The Ugly Truth About Single Motherhood by Stefan Molyneux (Very accurate, must watch) I watched this today. I subscribe to Stephan, and agree with a lot of what he says about parenting and gender issues. There are some other topics on which I disagree with him, but he had the foresight to set up his revenue stream in a way that's not dependent on the whims of Youtube advertisers and the harpies that hound them. I really enjoyed this episode. There are some very, very good points there, and he makes and presses the point that single motherhood necessitates and encourages the denig…	/r/MensRights	31/05/17 07:44 PM
1	So feminists are justifying the womens only screening of wonder woman You are the evil oppressors. Us anti- or non-feminist women are your dupes, suffering false consciousness and internalising misogyny because we're not woke enough to see the evil patriarchy.	/r/MensRights	31/05/17 07:32 PM
1	This person on my Facebook consistently posts things like this. I stay friends with her so I can poke holes in her logic. Nothing, but if you come to my house as a dinner guest you better sit your ass down and be fed and stop trying to get all up in my shit when I'm cooking. :D	/r/MensRights	31/05/17 07:11 PM
2	Not really men's rights, but you might be amused. Feminists being triggered that people use their own tactics against them. Or... ya know... incognito tab.	/r/MensRights	31/05/17 07:07 PM
12	My friend shared this on facebook. How should I respond? Don't respond. I'd normally argue that it's worth debating someone whose ideas are at the extreme opposite end to your own, because you might reach a few casual observers. But come on. Nobody this far gone knowingly has people on Facebook or Twitter who don't agree with them already.	/r/MensRights	31/05/17 01:28 AM
3	/r/4chan on Women's only movie screenings. I don't think it works the other way. There is literally no other demographic that could be excluded without an absolute shitstorm of an outcry. Men are socially, culturally, systematically under open season for any number of insults, exclusions and ridicule, and this is one of those occasions when it becomes incredibly blatant to those paying attention. To everyone else? Business as usual.	/r/MensRights	28/05/17 11:32 PM
3	/r/4chan on Women's only movie screenings. I completely agree that it's a publicity stunt, but that makes little difference. The point is that it is so socially and culturally acceptable to discriminate against men that this publicity stunt works in their favour, rather than being met with outcry about its blatant discrimination and exclusion.	/r/MensRights	28/05/17 11:26 PM
1	It's Time I don't think it's true in a blatant, malevolent way, and I haven't listened to all of the HB content, so I can't speak for them all, but I know Karen Straughan has previously spoken about her own tendencies toward - I don't recall if it was gynocentrism, hypergamy, or both - which she needs (or perhaps needed, now) to keep in check. And if it weren't for the internet and men's rights advocates, I would probably not be where I am today, in terms of men's rights. As a 30-something woman raised wi…	/r/MensRights	28/05/17 12:20 AM
1	It's Time Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Lots of great advice here. I appreciate your time.	/r/MensRights	26/05/17 11:27 PM
1	It's Time Oh, I do. I'm sorry that I was unclear. I really should have said "this documentary that acknowledges women's issues", not feminist ones. Mea culpa!	/r/MensRights	26/05/17 08:25 PM
6	It's Time I don't think that's universally true, but I say that from the privileged position of being female, and knowing as a matter of tangible fact that society gives a shit about me. I do absolutely agree, though, that as a rule, men are seen as disposable and are systemically dehumanised. Even, often, by other men.	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 10:29 PM
9	You should’ve asked... The sentiment in this cartoon pops up often in "mummy" spaces. My situation might be different, because I am a stay at home mum and my partner is in software and works incredibly hard - 3 days a week from home and 2 days a week in the office - but I brought this up to him the other day, after seeing this on a mummy sub, and we had a chat about it. Basically, while he's in work, my "job" is to (actively) raise our son and keep him engaged and learning, and I usually get laundry, dishes and dinner…	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 09:58 PM
1	It's Time Great. Thank you so much. I have no idea why I didn't find these organisations when I was searching.	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 03:56 PM
1	It's Time Ireland didn't treat its men well either. Oh, yeah, absolutely. But surprisingly (/s) the focus is entirely on women.	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 03:55 PM
1	It's Time "That's nice" ;-)	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 03:31 PM
6	It's Time Another thing would be highlighting and critiquing misandry, which is so common most people don't even recognize it, but which undermines men everywhere. I regularly play "reverse the gender" with popular media. Every time a woman slaps a man across the face, "throws her weight around" in a position of authority, when men are portrayed as bumbling idiots AND malevolently lazy, whenever a couple splits in a soap opera, and custody automatically goes tot he woman without even a single word about i…	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 10:22 AM
2	It's Time I absolutely will. I promise. I'm sorry for what you went through, and for the years you lost to its consequences.	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 10:16 AM
3	It's Time "Top bloke"? Are you sure you're really Irish? ;-) Nope! I'm a Welsh immigrant, but I'm well integrated by now. I even take my Guinness straight! I can confirm that the atmosphere here is toxic when it comes to gender issues. I try to be understanding of it - after all, was I not born in the UK with a woman in the throne and a woman in Downing street, while Irish women of the same age were born under a catholic regime where women could be (and were) sent to penal laundries for the sin of being t…	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 10:14 AM
3	It's Time Your empathy is welcome in proportion and context, but it's not infallible and it's not a solution to every problem. I just wanted to add - this was (some years ago now) something of a revelation to me. I'm sorry to admit that I was guilty in my youth of assuming that men were unemotional (raised by a bitter single mother in a village full of bitter single mothers), instead of realising that they are differently emotional and express differently - I guess because male emotion expressed as anythi…	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 01:40 AM
2	It's Time Beware the interaction of the apex fallacy (where average and below-average men, and their concerns and problems, are invisible) with the Lake Wobegon fallacy (where parents assume their children will turn out above average in everything that matters). I get what you're saying, but my baby really is the best baby that ever there was or will be. /s Some great advice here, though. Particularly about deferring to male relatives. I'm trying to foster those relationships for him so he'll eventually h…	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 01:34 AM
4	It's Time Thanks for this. I agree with you both. He does have a right to say no and have that respected - but as you say, it won't always be respected, and that is a systemic issue he needs to be aware of. Thanks for your perspective!	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 01:26 AM
2	It's Time I listen to the badgers regularly. Rantzerker in particular.I'd love to get involved, but I feel like I need to cut my teeth a little and prove I have something to bring to the table before I approach them! I have checked for MHRM groups in Ireland. I found http://www.menshumanrightsireland.org but it doesn't seem to have been updated in a while.	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 01:24 AM
8	It's Time I presume it's something to do with the fact that women have an in-group preference towards other women. (Just like men have an out-group preference towards women). So no one is naturally inclined to care about men, and for women it often seems to require the personal stakes of having a son to act as a "bridge" into empathy for the male gender. I used to sort of reject the idea of in-group preference. Or I suppose, figured it was something that affected other women, not me. I was always empathet…	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 01:22 AM
21	It's Time Tell your kids not to talk to strangers, don't add "unless they are pretty ladies" as a stipulation either. I hate this. I occasionally read "mummy forums" when I have a question about something going on with my son, and I stray into unrelated threads. The amount of women telling their kids to "look for a woman" if they get lost is unbelievable. They never seem to reject the help of men when the shit hits the fan and first responders show up.	/r/MensRights	25/05/17 01:02 AM