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ComprehensiveCanUnusual8729/r/seduction11/08/22 01:38 PM
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CanUnusual8729/r/seduction31/07/22 05:34 PM
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Try to be more balanced with your mentality. Don't narrow it down as much on the front end. Keep a larger pool so you a.) don't feel as attached to the ones who made it through the "gauntlet", and b.) don't reject as many of them making you feel bad/probably a little egotistical lbh. Also don't lie to the ones you reject. You might be slightly self sabotaging from guilt. If you just got done lying to 18 other girls that you've decided to discard, you MIGHT subconsciously not be rooting for yours…
/r/seduction24/10/25 08:57 AM
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Myth: you will start getting good results or any results if you bother enough girls with the same awkward and off-putting approach. Reality: you will eventually stop caring so much and building it up on your head. You will also probably start to be less awkward. Its natural for the brain to start figuring things out with enough exposure. The point is not to take a shotgun approach to getting girls. The point is to experience rejection enough times to realize its not that big a deal, that you act…
/r/seduction24/10/25 08:47 AM
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You have to approach it from the perspective that you may not find her interesting, and then actually excuse yourself. All of this advice falls apart if the underlying intention is to try to connect with every single person regardless of compatibility so you can sleep with them. Your issue is that most girls are not that interesting and you can't feign interest. So you have two choices: Get better at being a sociopath and fake it with all of them Be prepared to actually exercise your own freedom…
/r/seduction24/10/25 04:31 AM
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Talk to girls who wouldn't care
/r/seduction04/05/25 03:16 AM
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Not even gonna read the comments because someone's gonna try to sound smart picking at this and playing devils advocate. Dont. Stop. Shut up. Read this over and just take the good advice when it comes. This is all very accurate and realistic, and clearly not something that makes sense to you in your head but never actually tried. It's also probably going to sound too simple for some people. It's really not rocket science. Well said my dude.
/r/seduction25/10/24 03:11 AM
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This started off looking like an ad but yeah I agree with this. Lesser known fact is good looking guys do not automatically get girls if they don't know they are good looking and behave as if they weren't.
/r/seduction07/07/24 06:30 AM
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I think you should focus on changing your situation first. No judgement, I have been there and I didn’t even talk to women until I was on my feet. If you manage to still get girls while living at home there goes the last motivating factor you might have had.
/r/seduction17/03/24 02:24 AM
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Sure you can’t make yourself taller, you can’t get a “hawt bod” if you’re paralyzed from the neck down. You probably can’t build a business if you are severely mentally handicapped, and you can’t go swimming in the ocean while standing in a corn field. Those are logical limitations. 99.999% of people who have decided they “can’t” are omitting the latter part of that statement: “as quickly as Ive decided is reasonable” “as easily as Ive decided is reasonable” “with as much outside support/help as…
/r/seduction04/06/23 01:23 AM
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I went through this exact thing not long ago. What it took for me to finally get over her was to just sit back and observe the state she left me in. In order to miss her you have maintained some idea of her being special, for you, worthy of your affection. But where is she? You’re in pieces and the divine entity that you’re dying to be close to is 100% okay with never seeing you again. It took me a while to wrap my head around that but it’s true. Is that really her? Is she really that girl? Are …
/r/seduction21/10/22 04:47 AM
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It can be but don’t count that as a guarantee. If you spend your twenties improving yourself then it will be. If you slide throughout your twenties you will be in the same situation with less leniency for not being fit, having no money, no game, no life, etc. Being older brings with it some advantages but also a new set of problems so focus on doing what you can do now. The grass isn’t always greener
/r/seduction14/10/22 01:53 AM
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Good for you man!
/r/seduction11/10/22 09:39 AM
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This is good. Not what most people want to hear, but the path to success is usually the hardest and takes the longest. Good for you man
/r/seduction09/10/22 02:30 AM
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Oh man I can’t wait to unpack this when I get home
/r/seduction05/10/22 08:15 AM
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Yes, that’s about the clearest compliment she can give you
/r/seduction05/10/22 03:53 AM
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That’s tough but if you try to remain friends with her you will feel inadequate in her presence. She probably doesn’t mean for you to feel that way, but you will.
/r/seduction29/09/22 11:21 PM
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Yeah this is something less talked about simply because so much of our energy is focused on just getting into a position that other men would envy. I remember when it first hit me I was at the renaissance festival with one of the prettiest girls Ive ever dated. We’re standing in like at one of the vendor stands and this obviously drunk guy just appeared of nowhere and made some ridiculously rude comment like “ditch the zero get with the hero” type of thing. It was that bad. Fortunately she laugh…
/r/seduction26/09/22 05:02 PM
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Kakatheman yep took the words right out of my mouth.
/r/seduction20/09/22 05:25 PM
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I dont think we’re disagreeing on a fundamental level. We obviously have different definitions of social intelligence. I don’t see the basis for saying that socially awkward men are often affluent. Pretty broad generalization and I see any obvious correlation between social awkwardness and affluence? I think your kind of bottlenecking what you take me to mean by low social IQ, but that’s okay it’s not a hard science. It’s open to interpretation.
/r/seduction19/09/22 05:18 PM
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Yeah its all nature anyway. Game is just a way of describing it. Same as sales. We look for leads and then try to convert them into prospects and so on. The best closers in the word cant sell ice to a penguin. Not a good fit, market to your audience
/r/seduction19/09/22 02:08 PM
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Not physically, no. But it indicates a lesser capacity to be accepted and supported by society, or the more immediate “tribe,” friend group, whoever that is, which is something women value very highly, as a matter of survival, typically more so than men. Low social IQ is not the same as the “bad boy” thing. They typically have very high social IQs. High social IQ doesn’t have to mean good or obedient. Low social IQ manifests as being weird or “creepy”, making everyone else uncomfortable, making …
/r/seduction19/09/22 01:52 PM
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Yep. They aren’t video games that will respond exactly the same every time you push a button. They have a say in the matter too. Guys who get a lot of girls are usually better at creating opportunities to be noticed by girls that will be receptive to them and then leading them to a mutually desired outcome
/r/seduction19/09/22 01:46 PM
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Correct
/r/seduction19/09/22 01:43 PM
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I have had exactly that feeling you described. It’s wonderful feeling, but understand that it’s not her making you feel that way, it’s you. We have a way of painting over people with our fantasies and to a degree its cute, its sweet, its romantic. But there is a line where it stops being flattering and starts to be uncomfortable for the other person. It’s almost like a form of masturbation where, she might be the focal point or object to stimulate that pleasure for your senses but you’re really …
/r/seduction19/09/22 01:26 PM
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Its a semantics thing. The type of intelligence she’s referring to is social intelligence. Girls absolutely do love witty banter, more than almost anything. It’s a huge turn on for them because it stimulates the same part of their mind that micro analyzes guys behavior for signs of low social intelligence (creepy). This matters because women rely heavily on social structures for safety and stability. So I guy who is a little off beat and failing to pick up on those subtle social cues is likely m…
/r/seduction19/09/22 11:58 AM
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I always feel bad saying this but its exactly what Im thinking at least once a day. A huge part of improving your experience with women comes from a shift in mentality. These type of questions are A.) pointless because no one can accurately answer definitively. B.) counter productive because at least 50% of her attraction to a guy is going to be at least somewhat swayed by the way you move through life. Obviously don’t be abusive or impose yourself forcefully on anyone, but at the same time you …
/r/seduction19/09/22 11:42 AM
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Not sure if this is a humble brag or if you really that clueless. In the context given, “cute” is them saying “Im okay with us just having sex, but you actually seem like a sweet guy too!” -In this case not a bad thing because you’re outside the friendzone already. This is what girls refer to when they say they want a nice guy… A guy they can smash who happens to also be chill.
/r/seduction11/09/22 07:41 PM
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Well you’re obviously aware of what it is, if even from a bit of a distance. It’s going to go exactly how you think. It’s only a matter of time before you’re anxieties are confirmed so the question is, do you enjoy the physical side until then or dump her and walk away with a bit of an upper hand? Just know this, trust me on this… if you break up with her or show her any sign of rejecting her, she will unleash the a narcissistic cruelty like you can’t imagine. If you do turn away, do not look ba…
/r/seduction11/09/22 03:11 AM
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Yeah what I mean by that is when two friends are obviously into eachother, there’s usually this built up sexual tension, so the first time non platonic touch is initiated it’s like a huge sigh of relief. If the two friends have been super platonic and there’s not this obvious chemistry between them the first move will not feel like that at all. It will feel forced and awkward
/r/seduction07/09/22 07:06 PM
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I think if he saw even the slightest bit of evidence that you’re actually thinking about him it would probably surprise him. Just in this one comment the difference in how you text him vs how you briefly showed a little bit of vulnerability is hard to believe its the same person. Im not trying to make you feel bad, or like a bad person. You obviously have some walls up that make you want to mute your personality. I get it, but you have to understand that the way you were communicating with him i…
/r/seduction07/09/22 03:52 AM
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Im genuinely confused at how you don’t know why he lost interest. I can’t see any other way to interpret your communication as anything short of bored. If I were him I would have taken it as a pretty obvious sign that you want him to leave you alone without spelling it out for him. In all honesty he probably hasn’t lost interest just feels like a chump for continuing to show interest while you treat him like an after thought. Any guy with a shred of self awareness is going to force himself to to…
/r/seduction07/09/22 03:04 AM
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I used to struggle with this type of thing for a long time, and there could be a number of reasons, some of which may not even make sense to us even if they told us exactly what it is. Specifically what comes to mind: - Girls love connecting on a deeper level emotionally, spiritually etc, just as much as we do, but it’s best to let them dig that deeper more sensitive side out of you over time. Guy’s who try to get deep too early are usually assumed to be overly emotional and perhaps needy. Girls…
/r/seduction06/09/22 02:45 PM
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Getting girls is like getting a six pack, some guys are lucky enough to just sorta have one genetically, while the rest of us have to work for it. It also depends on what your starting point is. If you have a lot of weight to lose, it will take way longer and probably hurt a lot more in the beginning. We all know you don’t get a six pack by keeping things the way they are. You won’t get results by eating the occasional salad without ever really changing anything. You have to make significant adj…
/r/seduction06/09/22 01:14 PM
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It’s not this black and white. Sometimes it will work and sometimes it won’t depending on the person. Seeing guys ask this question is like when girls ask us if having sex the first date will ruin their chances. Answer is the same, no sending a text or hooking up with someone you just went on a date with and obviously like, is not in and of itself the determining factor. Problem is, as people we subconsciously tend to avoid hurting our own ego’s, so when we experience rejection, we want to pin t…
/r/seduction31/08/22 03:35 PM
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Looks really aren’t everything. Any guy can give the ick
/r/seduction21/08/22 01:53 AM
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Yep. It’s really not that complex. It’s not a math problem.
/r/seduction20/08/22 11:20 PM
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100% verified this works.
/r/seduction20/08/22 10:44 PM
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Yep it is just a matter of time. Most guys just don’t realize how much time it actually takes to improve. They want instant results, or they stick to it for a long time but lack self-awareness so much that they can’t see their holes to improve on. Best way to improve is to learn something, try it out, take notes on what went well/what didn’t, then go back to the lab and learn something else, rinse repeat. The good news is it sounds like you have the right attitude and you’re not being a crybaby …
/r/seduction20/08/22 10:42 PM
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Okay so clearly you’re the lowest status one of the bunch which, by how you describe them, is probably nothing to be ashamed of. You have two options, you can go out with lower status friends who will make you look more attractive by default, or you can continue doing what you’re doing, observing, analyzing, and working on leveling yourself up, so that you can pull on their level. The first option can work to an extent, but you will slowly lower to their standards and they might cockblock or kil…
/r/seduction20/08/22 10:25 PM
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Yeah it’s about congruency. The downside of being attractive is you do have to try, but can’t try too hard, which can be incredibly hard to gauge. If you don’t try at all you’ll only get girls who are way less attractive or who are very forward (which usually means something off about them). What has worked best for me is to be receptive to small cues (sustained eye contact, coy smile, hovering in your proximity) and as soon as she sees you notice you have to act. Casually turn towards her and m…
/r/seduction20/08/22 08:11 PM
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How are you meeting them?
/r/seduction15/08/22 04:36 PM
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No. No. No.
/r/seduction15/08/22 03:08 AM
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Yeah just show any level of interest. Put your hand on his dick over his pants. Boom
/r/seduction15/08/22 02:49 AM
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The real trick is understanding that it’s built in to the process. Even if a girl’s really enjoying talkin to you she’s gonna get nervous the day of the date. There’s a million reasons why she might flake and only about 10% have anything to do with you. She might be nervous, she might have family stuff going on, her best friend might call her to talk about her problems, she might be on her period and feel gross/bloated. She might just not be feelin herself. Or she might just want to see how you …
/r/seduction14/08/22 11:21 PM
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Oh man zooey is bae
/r/seduction14/08/22 06:30 PM
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If there’s any question don’t pull it out lol. There really shouldn’t ever be a situation where things won’t progress unless you whip it out while still clothed. If you’re somewhere private and things are escalating focus on her body, not yours. Take her top off, then her pants, etc. If it gets to that point then take your whole pants off, not just your dick. As a general rule just don’t take it out if you’re both still filly clothed. If she wants to give you head or a hand job in the middle of …
/r/seduction13/08/22 09:22 PM
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Yeah it means she doesn’t want the dynamic to change. I can tell you from experience, doing what she’s asking is a win-win for you. Here’s why: if you genuinely just don’t care and don’t make it weird one of two things will happen. 1.) Things never get awkward and she probably hooks up with you again as fwb since you’ve shown her that you aren’t needy and you can handle it. 2.) Once she sees that you can handle it and don’t catch feelings for her, there is actually a pretty solid chance that she…
/r/seduction13/08/22 07:47 PM
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Yeah I mean just think about it from your perspective. Would you rather have a fleshlight or a real girl?
/r/seduction13/08/22 12:41 AM
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Nah don’t be. It’s apples and oranges. You’re not in competition with a piece of plastic
/r/seduction13/08/22 12:06 AM
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Not at all. Ask her to let you use it on her
/r/seduction12/08/22 11:41 PM
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(:
/r/seduction12/08/22 07:47 PM
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Haha my guy there is a 99% chance I get more than you. Even if you do pretty well, still a 99% chance.
/r/seduction12/08/22 07:06 AM
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In the context of a “nice guy”, no. I’m not a people pleaser, or an ass-kisser. I don’t hide my intentions with women under false pretense. I don’t use guilt or pitty to try to negotiate attraction. And I definitely don’t hide in the friendzone waiting for my chance to get in a girls pants when she’s drunk. I do consider myself a nice person, though I prefer the word “kind.” I am way too authentic and honest sometimes to my own detriment😅 I have no need to manipulate people into liking me. I try…
/r/seduction12/08/22 06:34 AM
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I don’t understand why people are so eager to disagree with the main post. I’ve yet to read a comment that was contrary to my argument. But half of them are presented as a counter argument. How do you know I don’t pay attention? This largely comes down to a semantics issue. Different definitions of “nice.” Or rather misuse of the word as a crutch for people who have no other redeeming qualities. 99% of the comments are “depends on what you mean by nice” or someone saying the exact same thing as …
/r/seduction12/08/22 06:19 AM
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Well said
/r/seduction12/08/22 06:14 AM
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Yep, because being nice is not a personality.
/r/seduction12/08/22 06:13 AM
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This is good advice.
/r/seduction12/08/22 06:13 AM
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I agree with you partially. Only I would say that women really do want a nice man and men really do want wife material, but that only comes into play AFTER we’re attracted to eachother. I do want a girl I can wife up, but not just any girl. She had to be someone I find attractive. Those qualities don’t make you attractive, they make someone who is already attractive into a keeper.
/r/seduction12/08/22 06:12 AM
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Well said
/r/seduction11/08/22 04:16 PM
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Well we’re experience a big culture shift I’m gender norms, which I think is a good thing overall. A few years ago with the “me too” stuff, a lot of women were genuinely empowered by the voice it gave them. That was certainly a good and necessary revolution for women. Unfortunately, as with every other cultural movement that starts off as positive productive thing, there will always be people who take it too far, and illegitimate the whole thing. So now we have a culture that has demonized mascu…
/r/seduction11/08/22 04:14 PM
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That is a very short but accurate take on my post haha
/r/seduction11/08/22 04:02 PM
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Yeah I think you read that right. As far as whether or not to go sat morning, I think it just depends on how you feel about it. There is always a chance that of you see her in person again you could stoke that chemistry and try to build more attraction, as long as you understand it’s a hail mary. If you know it’s not going to bother you if it goes the way it sounds like it will, then you can just shrug it off and never see her again. Now if this was a girl that I still had a possibility of runni…
/r/seduction11/08/22 04:00 PM
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For the record this is not meant to just trash the “nice guys” or make it like an us vs them thing. I believe the majority are not bad people, or even intentional about it. They struggle with dating for a myriad of other reasons, and lack self-awareness. I just see someone posting that exact question or similar at least once per day.
/r/seduction11/08/22 03:38 PM
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Yeah I made that distinction in the post, that’s a key point. It’s a misnomer to call them nice guys. Being nice isn’t unattractive.
/r/seduction11/08/22 03:34 PM
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Agreed. I said that in the post. It’s long af though I doubt anyone will read the full thing lol
/r/seduction11/08/22 03:29 PM
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Yep exactly. I will say though in their defense, I think very few actually do this consciously. Most of what most people do is just kind of acting on however they feel and analyzing it later. It takes a lot of self-reflection to break out of that mindset.
/r/seduction11/08/22 02:25 PM
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It’s not just girls, people do this. I agree it’s an attachment style that is especially common in the west. It stems from childhood having a parent that was emotionally volatile. Not necessarily abusive per se, but just self-centered, inconsistent. When a child has a parent that is loving at times and then emotionally distant other times, the child learns that the most valuable love is a challenge. They feel like they have to earn it somehow. So when that child grows up, they get stuck in this …
/r/seduction11/08/22 05:29 AM
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Same. I get plenty of matches on tinder but they legit don’t even want to meet anybody. Ive found hinge is a little different. Ive met a few quality gals of there
/r/seduction10/08/22 10:31 PM
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Great book
/r/seduction10/08/22 05:18 AM
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Yes, you’re instincts are correct. As a general rule it will work against you. Someone will likely chine with the exception. If you are a super high status guy then you can probably make it work to your advantage by making the other girls jealous, but 99% of the time it will make you look thirsty.
/r/seduction09/08/22 03:27 AM
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This whole sub is such a contradiction. The entire point is for guys who struggle with dating to get some real honest help from guys who don’t struggle. And some of the guys on here are about it, but the majority are just negative and shoot everything down. When someone who actually knows what they’re talking about tries to give direct, real advice all the guys who need the advice get all bitter and insult them in the comments. They blame everything on looks, or in this guy’s case, call him an a…
/r/seduction09/08/22 03:17 AM
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After skimming through the comments, it sounds like a classic case of “I can’t catch a break man.” I feel bad for you having a less than ideal situation. Many of us do. The reality though is that the things in life worth having, are valuable because they don’t typically fall into your lap. I see a lot of people trying to come up with solutions that you immediately shot down. No one can change your life but yourself, and that starts with your mentality. Being stuck in a small town with elderly gr…
/r/seduction08/08/22 06:47 PM
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Man it sounds like you had a great night! Not sure why you’re so worried about it. If she was complimenting your looks and making out with you in your bed, you’re probably not in any danger of the friendzone… She told you her reasons and it sounds like she’s being sincere. Just keep seeing her and don’t overthink it.
/r/seduction08/08/22 05:54 PM
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Good for you brother!
/r/seduction06/08/22 05:34 PM
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Yeah every new girl you meet is already juggling multiple options until one stands out enough to date. Have the date and see what happens
/r/seduction06/08/22 05:01 PM
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Yeah dude the more you try to get out of the friendzone the deeper you will sink. It’s like quicksand. If this girl knows you like her and has made it clear she’s not interested but then goes over to your place to watch movies…she probably enjoys teasing you. It’s not uncommon at all. Stop prioritizing her. Chilling in your bed watching movies is a privilege reserved specifically for girls you’re intimate with. She has disqualified herself from those benefits. No need to be rude or anything, but…
/r/seduction06/08/22 04:10 PM
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Text her, “Still on for tonight?” That’s what I always do. Nothing pushy or unreasonable about that. If she doesn’t confirm by early evening forget about it and start making other plans. Treat it like you would one of your boys. If they don’t get back to you, just shrug it off. You wouldn’t watching your phone with baited breath, waiting for one of your friends to reply would you? Also keep in mind there could be many reasons why a girl would flake and they aren’t all a reflection on you. She mi…
/r/seduction06/08/22 03:34 PM
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My personal experience with finsteride was that it did work pretty well but I was one of the unlucky few who experienced SEVERE ED from it. Of course my doctor didn’t even mention it so imagine my shock and horror when I found out… went limp noodle on a chick that I really liked and had no idea why until I looked it up. I was only on it for like 3-4 months so the effects weren’t permanent after I chucked it in the trash, but I read that it can become permanent if you use it long enough… I’d rath…
/r/seduction06/08/22 03:30 PM
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Yeah I genuinely believed this too, but girls who knew me when I had hair have all unanimously told me on separate occasions that they like me better bald. I apparently have a “good head for it” whatever that means. Bonus points - some girls fetishize bald guys, so there’s also that.
/r/seduction06/08/22 03:27 PM
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I second this. Started early and shaved it at 24. Held onto it for way too long because my female friend used to cut it for me to look thicker. That wind is real lol..When I finally shaved it off every single girl I knew told me it looked better. Some tips: intentionally bald looks better than unintentionally balding. Resist the urge to hold on to your “hair.” Everyone can see that you’re balding, don’t be in denial, it’s sad. Women are more attracted to a confident, well groomed bald guy than a…
/r/seduction06/08/22 03:21 PM
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Because the guy is an old sugar daddy that they don’t want people to know about
/r/seduction04/08/22 05:01 PM
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Exactly. It took me a long time to realize this too after I hit puberty and started looking like a grown man. I still regarded myself as harmless, but other people see a grown man who could potentially be dangerous. Plus you have to think, men who ARE dangerous, are usually projecting similar body language. Only you know how vulnerable you are inside, but she has to be careful around men she doesn’t know. We get nervous about talking to strange women because we fear rejection. They have get nerv…
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:54 PM
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Women have a very hard time recognizing that a grown man twice their size could be intimidated by them. Plus with that argument it could go either way. Could you put yourself in their shoes and assume that it might make them feel unsafe if a grown man they don’t know approaches them and is acting weird? Not a put down, I get it. We all get nervous approaching, but that’s what game is. Being able to step outside of your own perspective and become self-aware enough to make all parties you are enga…
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:34 PM
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When a man walks up to a woman he doesn’t know and acts nervous uncomfortable it makes her feel like something is off. Why would he be uncomfortable if he’s not a threat? Imagine if you were about to rob a bank, how would your body language be? Or if someone walked in on you watching porn? Awkward, nervous, shifty, anxious. It sub-communicates that you’re worried about what’s about to happen. It could come across as making you look guilty. She doesn’t know what you’re planning to do, so if you s…
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:17 PM
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Just a quick head nod when you see her
/r/seduction03/08/22 03:43 PM
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Couldn’t agree more
/r/seduction03/08/22 03:18 PM
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Pick me
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:15 AM
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She’s in her late twenties so I would consider her a milf as far as approach being any different. Women with kids do tend to be more straight forward and relationship oriented, so if that’s what you’re into it can be a breath of fresh air
/r/seduction01/08/22 11:51 PM
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Of course more girls will creat an abundance mentality but if you’re struggling to attract more options, I think the best use of your time would be to invest 90% of your time and energy into building your career, a more lucrative skillset or working more hours to save money. Especially if you’re young, this is something you should be trying to do anyway to increase your dating pool and bring more to the table, so why not start now. You kill two birds with one stone, because you’re keeping yourse…
/r/seduction01/08/22 11:11 PM
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Every guy deals with rejection. A lot of times doesn’t even mean she doesn’t find you attractive. There are a million reasons why a girl might not be available. I work in sales and have a very high closing rate. Highest in my office actually. I still hear the word no far more often than yes. You just have to maximize your skillset and then expose yourself to as many opportunities as possible. Rejection is inevitable
/r/seduction01/08/22 10:08 PM
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Well the good news is use don’t seem to have any trouble creating opportunities. You’re just struggling with escalating. The only cure for this is more escalating until it feels natural.
/r/seduction01/08/22 11:46 AM
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Dude it’s over. First thing I read was “she only wants to be fwb.” Then you proceeded to get jealous about her ex. Friend-zone yourself and then tell her you want to date. You’ve made yourself look desperate and somewhat delusional and messaging her again will complete the “ick.”Every guy on Earth has done this so don’t feel bad, it happens. But you have to stop. Find another girl
/r/seduction01/08/22 10:45 AM
8

Yeah this is hard to decipher. I think I got this. I work with a bunch of engineers. This is engineer-ish for “Im worried my dick is too small.” It’s not. It’s not that scientific. Your dick is average-ish. It’s fine. When girls talk about dick size they’re mostly referring to girth anyways. The more you think about it the worse you’re gonna be in bed. You’’re best “performance” is when you aren’t worried about it. It only gets worse from there so might as well not worry about it. You’re gonna g…
/r/seduction01/08/22 10:28 AM
2

Ive had this happen to me a lot. The first way I dealt with it was by drinking more or forcing myself to act energetic which came across weird. The way I deal with it now is leaning into it. If I feel low energy I just act really chill and don’t put any pressure on myself. I openly say, “Man Im exhausted today, let’s do something chill. Lets go sit down over there.” And then just chat and have a drink, be pleasant and bring her into my frame. If you own it she will think its cool and match your …
/r/seduction01/08/22 09:42 AM
2

Most people vastly underestimate how much work it takes to get good at something.
/r/seduction01/08/22 08:55 AM
2

She’s into a new guy
/r/seduction01/08/22 08:53 AM
17

What turns men on is overt sexuality. Tits in face. Dick in mouth. Slapping ass in public. What turns women on is covert sexuality. “He just grazed my arm. Was that an accident?” “His leg is touching mine under the table, but he’s acting like it isn’t. Does he know? Of course he knows. If I can feel it he can feel it.” “He keeps looking at my lips while we talk. I wonder what he’s thinking?” “He invited me back to his place. Is he going to try to have sex with me? Would I let him? What if I go a…
/r/seduction01/08/22 08:50 AM
1

Dry, analytic, droning discussions about how things work are on the furthest end of the male side of the spectrum. Women predominantly like to talk about people, fashion, beauty, society, fantasies, things that make them feel happy or glamorous or excited. Men are intrigued by ideas. Women are intrigued by the flow of energy between people, social cues. Accept that they probably aren’t enthralled by the type of discussions you like and just play with them. Like a kid. Tease them and be silly. Do…
/r/seduction01/08/22 08:27 AM
3

This is a perspective issue. You said you go to the gym. How many people have you talked to that claim they “can’t lose weight” or they “can’t eat vegetables. They assume that you do can do those things because you enjoy being out of breath or you prefer broccoli to a pizza. It’s hard for you too, you just want the results bad enough. So you force yourself to go until it becomes who you are. It doesn’t actually get easy, you just learn to enjoy the challenge. Apply that mindset to approaching. Y…
/r/seduction01/08/22 06:50 AM
13

Scarcity works to amplify desire if there is already some level of interest/curiosity. Have a couple good interactions that make her laugh, feel good, intrigued. THEN step back and do other stuff. If you’re having a good back and forth don’t keep going all day everyday until she’s bored of you. Quit while you’re ahead and let her imagination do the rest
/r/seduction31/07/22 06:22 PM
3

This is everything I was thinking but you said it perfect. Completely agree. He’s on the right track about 9’s and 10’s not making the best long term partners, and how they do eventually get old. That is true. They are usually too addicted to attention and admiration to make good wives/gfs. And he’s right that you’ll have more success with women if you don’t freeze up and ignore women’s personality because of their beauty. It does matter though, we all care about looks. Looks are a prerequisite …
/r/seduction31/07/22 04:57 PM
2

Its just a vibe and he had the ability to flip that switch and just start spittin anytime any place. I can tell you what I think helped him develop his quit wit. Some of it was obviously just natural, but he claims to have spent most of his formative years reading. Reading trains the brain to think in dialogue and articulate better. It also deepens your vocabulary and access to ideas. That and he just got so much practice that it was like riding a bike for him.
/r/seduction31/07/22 04:51 PM
4

Russell brand has some of the best game I’ve ever seen when he was younger. There’s a few videos on youtube you could dig up of him chattin up gals and it’s pretty damn impressive.
/r/seduction30/07/22 08:02 PM
3

Yes because “game” is just the natural behavior of confident, dominant men. Just because the guy was rich doesn’t mean he was attractive. Money can attract women or men who want to be friends IF you use it to build a fun and interesting life. Having a lot of money sitting in the bank doesn’t make you less ugly or less of a dweeb.
/r/seduction30/07/22 07:45 PM
4

20’s I slept around way more. Partially because I didn’t have a lot of responsibility and I partied more, so I had more opportunities to meet girls. Now in my early thirties I’ve realized through others feedback that I’m more attractive than I was then and I can feel it. I tend to get more attention, more of those “looks” from girls so I guess I don’t look too old yet for it to be a turn off. But I don’t try as hard, I have a busy life and less free time/energy, and I just don’t care as much. Th…
/r/seduction30/07/22 06:42 PM
2

Bro I love that book. I think this is something all men toil over at some point and for me that book made a lot of it make sense. A lot of my perspective on masculinity came from that book. Highly recommend to anyone else reading this.
/r/seduction30/07/22 05:32 AM
5

This needs to be blow up, because there’s so much confusion among men about the “bad boy” vs “nice guy” dynamic and girls don’t fully understand it either. They just kind of “get it.” But it’s actually very logical if you can see the whole picture objectively. Unfortunately, its hard to see the whole picture if you’re in it. Every guy wants to be Mufassa and if they aren’t then this explanation hurts the ego. So we jump to all these weird conclusions that further confuse us. Anyway, moral of the…
/r/seduction30/07/22 03:27 AM
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Its not the bad behavior that they like. Nobody enjoys being mistreated and sad all the time. “Bad boys” are essentially very unattractive people who have built these layers of coolness to hide their darkness. They are self indulgent and hedonistic which usually manifests as them always being the life of the party, always doing something fun/interesting. They are impulsive and irresponsible which comes across as spontaneous and self-love. They are emotionally unavailable/avoidant which comes acr…
/r/seduction30/07/22 02:41 AM
27

The outcome of tonight does not matter at all. Its just practice
/r/seduction30/07/22 01:55 AM
2

Focus on social intelligence and self-awareness. A lot of guys over think it but if you are good looking just be around girls and be cool. Less is more. You can’t build attraction by trying too hard. Girls are like cats. Don’t follow them around trying to get their attention. Focus your energy on being attractive (gym, clothes, well groomed, having fun) and when you’re around women in a social setting just have fun and make people laugh. They will notice you and become more curious. Obviously th…
/r/seduction27/07/22 11:51 PM
10

Do it. Strip clubs are a blast and the environment might help sexualize the vibe between you.
/r/seduction27/07/22 11:29 PM
16

Less than she texts you
/r/seduction27/07/22 11:24 PM
-1

Great! See it’s not so bad. She’s a regular person who happens to have a vagina. Keep doin it
/r/seduction27/07/22 10:50 PM
1

So this is definitely more the exception than the rule. There’s a lot to unpack but short answer is if you aren’t an attractive guy who already does well with women, don’t do this. OP might have had experiences where this worked and more power to ya, but its by far the most difficult way to find a gf. Majority of men will see this and use it as a cop out for having bad game
/r/seduction27/07/22 09:01 PM
1

Buncha haters. I thought this was good and well worded.
/r/seduction27/07/22 08:35 AM
7

Basically, nice=pussy, and gentleman=polite masculine man.
/r/seduction27/07/22 08:34 AM
4

Well said sir.
/r/seduction27/07/22 06:34 AM
17

I’ve honestly never had this happen but I’ve definitely seen it happen.
/r/seduction27/07/22 06:26 AM
2

Fr
/r/seduction27/07/22 06:25 AM
2

There’s a very good chance that it will be easier to make it flirty when you have your beach date. That is a fantastic setting for romance. I would recommend easing up on the texting since you already have something planned. Unless she initiates, but if I had to guess its mostly you initiating. As men we have a tendency to want to apply MORE effort to get better results as the works in just about everything else in life. With women it does not. Less can be more.
/r/seduction27/07/22 04:40 AM
1

Three months and its still not official? Or does she think its exclusive and you’re looking to cheat on a technicality..? If she knows its casual and isn’t under the impression that you’re exclusive then go for it. Something tells me that’s not the case. Its okay to explore your options if you’re not being deceptive
/r/seduction27/07/22 04:15 AM
1

Yeah bro. She either likes you or likes attention. Most likely both. ….Or she thinks you’re gay
/r/seduction27/07/22 02:19 AM
4

Yeah it vastly depends on the prostitute but a lot of them are very careful about being clean and she probably is a safer bet than some random chick you don’t know. Obviously don’t go down on a sw again, but a pimple in your armpit is probably not what you think it is
/r/seduction26/07/22 02:17 AM
6

This is one of those lose/lose situations. Everyone says they don’t want to be ghosted but if you actually told most girls this they would probably react defensively. Pick your poison
/r/seduction25/07/22 09:01 PM
3

Could she be any more obvious? Lol if you want to then do it. Older women are typically more direct like that
/r/seduction25/07/22 07:21 PM
1

This lines up with all the other dating advice from women. I still think it’s all in the context of men they already find attractive.
/r/seduction25/07/22 05:11 PM
1

I don’t necessarily think it’s a conscious thought we all have, but if you take a step back and look at the whole game it more or less lines up historically. As with any and all reddit comments I have no doubt someone will offer a contrary opinion or exception to whatever is being said. That’s just my two cents
/r/seduction25/07/22 02:15 PM
1

Yeah but that is all catering to the fact that men are visual. They compete over looks because they know it matters to men. Just like how men compete for money and status, because we know it matters to women.
/r/seduction24/07/22 11:34 PM
3

When I call girls cute its def a compliment. If I say hot I mean she’s noticeably physically attractive but I have no idea if Id actually like her. Cute means she’s physically attractive but Im into her as a person to some degree. Orrr it just means she’s not quite hot. It could be either
/r/seduction23/07/22 06:35 AM
1

Some guys unfortunately have consistently been rejected by women their whole lives. So they start to associate women with pain.
/r/seduction21/07/22 05:30 PM
0

Yeah in most cases that’s gonna make it awkward and turn her off. If you’re gonna do it say it this way, “Do you want me to kiss you?” But if you do you’re gonna have to be super confident when you do it. Or my favorite is, “put my hand where you want it (;” That’s not good general advice though. The best approach is just sit close to her. Slowly work towards light touching, legs touching, move closer to her face, etc. she will either allow it or subtly move away. That’s how you know
/r/seduction21/07/22 05:17 PM
1

Nah not simpy
/r/seduction20/07/22 12:27 AM
1

As if they have* options
/r/seduction18/07/22 02:07 AM
4

So many guys 10x their luck with women by thinking and behaving as if they have options.
/r/seduction18/07/22 01:19 AM
1

Thats actually a really good way to put it
/r/seduction18/07/22 12:42 AM
22

Everytime a girl does that it means she is going to have sex with you and is laying the foundations early for plausible deniability so she doesn’t feel like a slut
/r/seduction18/07/22 12:38 AM
0

This is often less of a looks issue and more of a self/social awareness issue. Some dudes just don’t get what they’re doing or not doing wrong and blame it on the opposite sex. Life is a series of systems that can be broken down and understood. If you want to make money you have to become financially literate and then put a lot of work into learning and working along with that system in order to get results. Same with dating. The only people who will never make money or do well with women are th…
/r/seduction17/07/22 10:05 PM
6

This made me so mad just to read it.
/r/seduction17/07/22 04:04 PM
3

The best way to seem like you have a lot going on is to not talk about what you have going on. If you have you an abundance of something, it wouldn’t cross your mind to talk about it. If you want to make friends don’t show up places looking for friends. People can sense neediness from a mile away and it makes them uncomfortable. Just throw yourself into a career or hobby that genuinely motivates you and you will attract like-minded people who want to be friends. Or try to befriend a girl without…
/r/seduction17/07/22 02:20 PM
6

Yes. If you’re living at home so that you can set more money aside to advance your financial situation (investing, getting out of debt, etc) then keep your head down and keep grinding. If you’re living at home because you’re comfortable or you can’t afford your own place, invest in a more lucrative skillset, learn financial literacy and leave the nest.
/r/seduction15/07/22 11:31 PM
1

They shouldn’t be texting back they should be texting first.
/r/seduction15/07/22 09:12 PM
1

Touche
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:43 PM
1

Do you hear that? A stampede in the distance🫣 Get out while you still can brother
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:33 PM
0

They/them*** sorry
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:28 PM
1

Keep it in your pocket bro
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:25 PM
2

Better yet, date a dwarf
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:21 PM
1

I thought everyone did this
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:20 PM
3

😂😂😂 thanks I try. Yeah if you’re tall show it. (Picture of you standing tall holding a large fish for scale) If you’re short, just say it🤷‍♂️ nobody likes a catfish
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:17 PM
12

Make sure the pics are high quality. No grainy off-color shit, no mirror pics. Cant all be just you, pics with friends, doing active shit, having a life. If you’re tall show it. This is my bio and Ive been getting hella dm’s😂 “Don’t call me pretty I don’t wanna be pretty. I wanna be hilarious with a fat weeener. Lookin for a weird chick with an ass, who can make me laugh. I enjoy weed, adderall and sometimes people. 5’9. My dog is an empath.” Its okay to be arrogant if you’re funny. If not its s…
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:09 PM
2

Test me, get tested
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:36 PM
2

Well said
/r/seduction14/07/22 09:30 PM
1

On to the next
/r/seduction13/07/22 08:54 PM
1

Sounds like you nailed it. You’re about to see her in person
/r/seduction13/07/22 05:40 AM
25

You’re overthinking it. 1-4 hours is not anything to worry about, especially if she is still enthusiastic and double texting. Don’t let her catch you overthinking like that.
/r/seduction13/07/22 05:02 AM
2

Yep missed opportunity. Can’t get it back. It always seems to happen when you least expect it and by the time it registers it’s too late. Stay ready so you don’t have to get ready. (Beats chest)
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:23 AM
3

This is great advice👍🏼
/r/seduction12/07/22 08:38 PM
2

Yes it does get easier with time and experience. I cant think of anyone I personally know who had it all figured out at 17. You got plenty of time don’t sweat it
/r/seduction12/07/22 06:59 PM
2

Im not worried about it. I don’t struggle with women. Giving my two cents for guys who presumably do. There are plenty of situations where going out solo works. Ive seen guys who are clearly not socially intelligent go to a packed club solo and linger around with drink in hand trying to “sarge” or whatever and everyone is aware of it. There are exceptions to every piece of advice. If you are the exception don’t take my advice.
/r/seduction12/07/22 04:30 PM
1

People always look for an exception to whatever is said. If I said the opposite someone would pop in with a contrary opinion. Thats my advice, if it doesn’t apply to you then congrats!
/r/seduction12/07/22 04:28 PM
1

You asked
/r/seduction12/07/22 04:26 PM
8

Id be down for that
/r/seduction12/07/22 06:20 AM
4

Don’t joke about it, it comes across as insecure
/r/seduction12/07/22 05:57 AM
5

This was me at 22. You do it to prove to yourself that you can. So have you proven it yet? Do you have enough evidence? If not then keep going, if so then congrats you have game. Now slow it down and focus on quality. Body count won’t make you happy.
/r/seduction12/07/22 03:19 AM
9

Nah it just depends on the setting. Myself for example, Im on the short side so I tend to not do well in packed clubs because I don’t stand out. I do very well on dates or in more chill face to face settings. Gotta figure out how to place yourself in situations where you can be yourself and lean on your strengths, instead of trying to swim up stream and then being hard on yourself for not getting the results you wanted.
/r/seduction12/07/22 03:13 AM
4

Blurting in the context of a face to face interaction. Over analyzing when you’re alone*
/r/seduction12/07/22 03:10 AM
12

That would definitely be the exception, not the rule. Doesn’t mean the point is nonsense. Its a good point and for the majority of men it is true. I have a friend who’s 6’5 and looks like a male model/viking. He can go the club alone and girls will approach him. He’s also not going to the club alone, and he’s not asking for seduction advice on reddit. There are a lot of things that a small minority of guys can pull off, but wouldn’t work as well for the average dude. If someone goes online looki…
/r/seduction12/07/22 02:16 AM
2

I find that any form of exercise prior is a great way to get out of your head. It releases endorphins and sustained physical exertion tends to force you to “wake up” mentally and exist more in the present moment.
/r/seduction12/07/22 01:43 AM
4

Girls don’t always know that you’re shy or intimidated so if you don’t make a move she’ll take it as a rejection. Telling you face to face that you could sleep in her bed was a MASSIVE hint by girls standards. Its never going to be more direct than that. She definitely feels like you rejected her.
/r/seduction12/07/22 01:41 AM
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Going to a club solo is a pretty big red flag for most girls. So if you do, better have a really good story as to why you’re alone. Something temporary works best. Ex: my buddies ran across the street to get food, my buddies are still at the other bar and I wanted to come here, my friend had to leave early for work, I cant stay much longer, etc. I actually would not recommend talking to a bunch of different girls at the same venue, especially if you’re alone. People will notice and you’ll quickl…
/r/seduction12/07/22 01:18 AM
44

Women are actually not that hard to figure out. We confuse ourselves by not wanting to accept the obvious. If you’re confused it’s because you’re either being lied to or delusional. 90% of your game can be improved by getting in shape, dressing well/practicing good hygiene, and being self aware/not blurting out everything that comes to mind. Most guys would rather go down a deep rabbit hole over analyzing insignificant details, because they don’t want to address the elephant in the room. (Broke,…
/r/seduction12/07/22 12:36 AM
8

It sounds like you like this guy and are taking his jealousy as a sign to hold onto. He is in a relationship with someone else and views you as a backup or side piece. You probably wont take my advice but you’re wasting your time.
/r/seduction11/07/22 08:26 PM
71

It just plausible deniability. Girls don’t want to feel like sluts so they’ll often drop a disclaimer like that so they can say “it just happened.” However in my experience, when they say that it usually means they’re already thinking about it and often times will end up initiating when we get back the house.
/r/seduction11/07/22 05:56 PM
1

They weren’t simps they were hyper masculine so it didn’t work against them to be polite
/r/seduction11/07/22 01:59 AM
1

Some examples: “You look like trouble..” “How do you feel about drinks and witty banter with a cute boy?” “I have to tell you something…” “You seem fun😏” “Let’s play the question game..😏” Open ended. Open to interpretation. Not a yes or no question. Suggestive but not blatantly inappropriate or offensive. Don’t be in a hurry to wrap it up. Some girls will go straight to setting a date. Some will go back and forth with you. Trust me any of those lines will get a flirty, challenging response. She’…
/r/seduction10/07/22 11:53 PM
16

You probably come across too direct and over eager. Women don’t want to exchange small talk and then set an appointment. Its not a job interview its a seduction. You should be kind of flowing between flirting, light teasing, witty banter, innuendo. Give them something to think about, engage their imagination, fight the urge to clearly define every little thing. This is the number one mistake most guys make with women. We have this innate urge to relieve the tension of not knowing. We want to kno…
/r/seduction10/07/22 08:52 PM
1

Agree with all of those, great list! Especially the last one..
/r/seduction10/07/22 08:12 PM
2

Yeah she def would have hooked up with you when you were with her. Do you really want to do a long distance, self-imposed friend-zone with this chick you don’t even know? Just chalk it up to an L and make a move next time.
/r/seduction10/07/22 01:12 AM
1

The only thing that might be perceived as gay is if you are conspicuously preoccupied with your appearance. Having a good sense of style is a plus for most if not all girls. But being vain or insecure and talking about your appearance a lot is not. (Not saying you do that idk). I would take it as a compliment, and consider the possibility if you do come across as confident, she may have asked you that to see if it brought out any insecurities or if you’d just laugh it off. Girls will do that som…
/r/seduction09/07/22 12:13 AM
6

Say something ridiculous in a sarcastic way with a smirk. For example: “I want to introduce you to my goldfish.” Tongue in cheek. She’ll get it and that should lighten up the situation without having to be explicit about it. If she keeps asking in earnest she may be hesitant about going back with you. Or she may like you and want to go back but doesn’t want to go all the way right then. If she plays along and returns the smirk you’re golden.
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:23 PM
2

She’s probably trying to see if she can still capture your attention after you’ve leveled up. Don’t immediately start to fixate on her again or she will get bored pretty fast. She may be reconsidering if she made a mistake by rejecting you and if you act the same as before she will be over it for good
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:18 PM
1

Activity dates like the ones you’ve listed are very platonic in nature and its no surprise you haven’t found a good moment to make a move. I avoid those scenarios entirely in first dates until after we’ve already “broke the ice.” Take her to a popular bar with tables you can sit down at and have a conversation. She’s following your lead so don’t expect her to suddenly drop a bunch of signals if you aren’t being flirtatious. Try to get out of your head and let go of any outcome based expectations…
/r/seduction07/07/22 10:54 PM
6

Dont give direct answers. Answer her question with another question or something ambiguous to build her curiosity. If shes asking a lot of questions its probably because she is trying to keep the conversation going. You ask the questions so she doesn’t feel the need to try and stimulate the conversation as much.
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:57 PM
-1

This is actually great advice. I dont think its toxic to leave them in suspense. Girls love that shit
/r/seduction07/07/22 07:35 PM
1

But yeah avoid the corny rom-com stuff. That shit never works in real life
/r/seduction07/07/22 02:59 AM
1

Sometimes girls will stop you to build the suspense and they don’t think it will deter you if its obvious they are having a good time. Don’t act disappointed just smirk and keep gooding around with her. Act as if you know she’s just playing hard to get, and you both know she doesn’t mean it. If you’re right then boom you passed the test and she knows you’re confident. If she really isn’t about it she might reconsider based on how well you took it.
/r/seduction07/07/22 02:58 AM
3

It doesn’t have to be a one night stand. But all relationships start with sex, and putting it off will just send the wrong message. The biggest mistake dudes make is acting completely platonic with the idea that when the time is right I’ll ask her out. The problem with this is it comes across across very abrupt and totally unexpected. If you already have a flirty vibe established then simply asking her out for drinks or something one on one at night will be heard loud and clear and she will prob…
/r/seduction06/07/22 11:44 PM
3

Yeah its partially true. Similar to when people say “just be yourself.” It doesn’t mean make no effort to be attractive to women and talk to them. It means that a man who is ambitious, independent, and has a clear mission in life will not allow women to take an unhealthy priority over everything else. Men without purpose tend to be needy and look for a mother rather than a girlfriend. Women want to be with a man who already has a high functioning, and fulfilling life that she can be a part of. T…
/r/seduction06/07/22 11:21 PM
1

Been there. 21-23 I racked up quite a body count. It fed my ego while I was young and insecure but I realized it was starting to ruin it for me. It gets boring and you stop seeing them as individuals. Definitely gets old
/r/seduction04/07/22 10:36 PM
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