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Sexual compatibility is important. Its your choice to stay despite 4 extended paragraphs of whining and romanticizing cheating as if youre being held at gunpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 07:26 AM
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Mental health is more important than superficial benefits. Hated being around my miserable parents. Id never stay for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:38 AM
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I dont care for flirting unless ive gotten to know the guy well. Theres physical attraction initially, but i prefer to learn the guy's character before any flirting. I start as a best friend type of vibe focusing on fun dates, laughter, great experiences. Then the flirting gradually increases as i feel comfortable with him and the emotional bond. I communicate this early on. I dont flirt with strangers. I feel the need to guage their character and compatibility first. I can find a guy handsome a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 07:02 PM
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I am with someone and we have sex daily. If we stopped having sex for over 4 months i would friendzone and breakup with him. If sex was the only basis of our relationship i would breakup with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:08 PM
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Im not taking responsibility for some man's preference in being a fboy. People learn and grow as they age.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:57 PM
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Sex is only "elite" to ppl who struggle to get some. As a woman its not "elite" lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:46 PM
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Incorrect. In my relationships (current and past) sex is daily. If sex was the only thing that motivated a man in the relationship id rather be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:35 PM
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A fboy is a sex addict. It has nothing to do with "league". Theyre not the type of men to ever trust or settle down with. A woman who lays with a fboy has a high chance of contracting stds. Some women dont realize theyve babysat a fboy until its too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:19 PM
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Thats fine. Just communicate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:14 PM
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I could care less. Compatibility is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:13 PM
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They shouldnt do that they should definitely jist leave. There are situations where some people arent reciprocal or fair in relationships so the partner gets turned off to having sex. But at that point id rather leave than be passive aggressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:13 AM
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Anything can happen unpredictably in a longterm relationship where a woman or man temporarily cannot have sex. I cant imagine being immediately inclined to cheat if im in love with my partner and theyre going through a temporary rough patch. Injuries, health problems, death, etc The first thought wouldnt be (cant live without sex, gotta go find someone immediately). It speaks to their level of emotional attachment and respect for their partner if theyre quick to cheat. Should there be a limit on…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:49 AM
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No i have sex every day in my relationships. Pay for half of dates and everything. I averaged 0-2 sex partners a year. Sometimes abstinent for a year. Id pick a fwb and just see him a few times a month until i was bored with him then id block him and stay single until I was ready to date. Sex is only as valuable to those who struggle with getting access to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:07 AM
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Technically being emotionally unavailable is the biggest gap to "pairbonding". Though yes, sex addiction is usually a symptom of poor mental health and insecurity. Which can indirectly contribute to noncommittal behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:42 AM
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At that point thats the woman you picked and definitely not even half of women. This stuff is discussed all of the time at girls nights, outings, groups, etc. A very mixed bag. So it seems you go for the more sexually conservative women and virginal types. Or you trick women who want to date you into a fwb scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:37 AM
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they cant fathom that women want an emotional connection, friendship, AND lust. Men think lust should be all thats required to be with them. But even so, sex with men isnt better than solo masturbation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:27 AM
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Sexual attraction is a given when choosing a friend with benefits or serious relationship. A lustful dynamic in general prioritizes sex, and diminishes the emotional and friendship aspects of the relationship. There are some men who deprioritize those things and only engage their partner for sex. Its unsatisfyingly superficial in the long run. Im in a relationship (in the past and present) sex was daily. The only time id turn a man down was vomiting and diarrhea. But if a connection leaned into …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:26 AM
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Seems like youre insinuating that douchebag fboys dont exist and that all men who want casual sex, treat their sex partners well. And simultaneously that all women who have casual sex want to be with him monogamously. Its not a one size fits all scenario. Theres all types out there. Men who want sex and act entitled and rude about it. Men who want sex and actually make sure both are comfortable and satisfied. Women who have sex and who could care less about monogamy nor dating him. Women who hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:04 AM
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Fairness is too simple for many. They need power dynamics to give them an ego boost and possession.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:53 AM
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Im not religious. Per year I average 0 to 2 sex partners max. At one point i was intimate with the same fwb for 2 years. There's also been multiple times I was abstinent for over a year. The interest in casual sex dwindled because it did not measure above masturbating solo as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:48 AM
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exactly this. Also theres men that ive hooked up with that id never want to date and so that theory is weak as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:37 AM
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I don't care for the provider dictatorship nonsense. Reciprocity and teamwork only.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:32 AM
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It differs woman to woman. I dont flirt with men until weve been going out for a short while. I dont like to encourage lust prematurely so I avoid it to focus on curating a fun friendship in the beginning instead. Too much flirting can be shallow and attention-seeking. If i wasnt attracted to him i wouldnt want to date him to begin with so i dont care about proving lust. I like to uplift a deeper aspect getting to know each other. And if he couldnt manage anything deeper than lust and attention-…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:31 AM
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As long as its not me im good with that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:14 AM
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Any reason to validate their lack of likes on apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:07 AM
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its not amazing at all i commend you for not approaching women anymore its not pleasant
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:59 AM
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I still get approached twice a week despite having a boyfriend. If i was single i wouldn't dare date any of them because there's usually nothing in common besides them being physically attracted. Locations are grocery stores, parking lots, and gas stations. Errands 90% of the time, when im in a hurry. Cold approaches are pointless unless at a social event imo. I understad the urge that "I may not see them ever again" but i personally wish guys would limit approaching people to certain places or …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:55 AM
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I dont really care about who doesnt like me. Thats counterproductive to the point of a relationship. Therefore no one is "out of my league" that likes me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:17 AM
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Its because lack of reciprocity can make a man seem like a child. Its unattractive and thus a turn off sexually. But i definitely never dated those types for long. Not worth it in the long run. Women that marry into those dynamics tend to be brainwashed or idealistic. The point in which external validation is more important than reciprocity, is a worthless marriage and worthless partner. I agree that deadbedrooms are grounds for a breakup, but salt on wounds due to not wanting to reciprocate cho…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:13 AM
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Nah im just not shallow or ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:02 AM
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I dont date men who are sexually incompatible. I never cheat first but I do cheat back. The one guy that cheated on me, i was having sex with him everyday. He was obsessed with female validation. I watched him cheat, then hit him where it hurt before leaving him. No regrets. I can survive without male validation though it doesnt surprise me that many men cant survive without female validation. Its ingrained in those balls to be obsessed with getting a womans attention and body to boost that frag…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:49 AM
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The only man out of my "league" is one thats incompatible (family goals, religion, social life, politics, sex kinks)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 03:56 AM
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Theres a LOT of women like me. Im not rare. But what happens is people tend to hyperfocus on what they DONT want or DONT qualify for. And its self sabotaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 03:10 AM
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Most of this sounded like the garble homeless people ramble at gas stations off fent. Men who arent compatible.... (family goals, religion, social life, politics, sex kinks) ....with me dont even make a "rating" scale. Ive never had a problem finding men to fit those 5 things. Financially stable, no kids, no criminal history. (Same for me, Same for them)Income has never been some prerequisite, just not financially unstable. Most of my exes were 5'5 to 5'7. Construction work, Barber, Mechanic, En…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:45 AM
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I like bisexual men and have dated bisexual men. None of that bothers me. My current guy is hetero (I think). I dont desire women of any kind. So im definitely hetero. At most i find some masculine lesbians and transmen handsome but there's no romantic nor sexual desire for them if that makes sense. Real dck is a must for me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:23 AM
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Youre on your own with that one. A lover is meant to be a (compatible, reciprocal, and emotionally mature) best friend that you want to have sex with. Theres a mix of all the above out there with both genders. This is unsurprisingly another "Im a Victim" post. Typically from those whove never picked up a few books from relationship counselors. And who instead listen to whiny "get money get abs" podcast hos, who have no idea what it takes to actually grow and keep a relationship healthy. Money an…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 06:20 PM
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ah yes because your "experience" must be true for all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:30 AM
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the point is, if that was the case only a specific demographic would have girlfriends/wives, so obviously its not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 12:35 AM
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Correction: The women that youre attracted to (shallow types) are more attracted to the loudest flirtiest man in the room. Quiet Introverts or those who value emotional depth and compatibility are flies on the wall for both genders. Go find someone who has a lot in common with you (family goals, religion, social life, politics, sex kinks), instead of hunting attention seekers
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:01 PM
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Youve got some growing to do if thats the case. Youre highly attracted to the wrong types.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:53 AM
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Yep. Women complain about the same exact issue on girl's night. It always looks like a ginormous problem when one doesnt know how to pick emotionally mature partners. Theres a solution. Either one does something about it or continue whining. YOU are in control of what you "tolerate". Standards on both sides have to be the same. Its not a "gender" issue, this is across the board.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:55 PM
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If you cant comprehend his post, id go make an appointment with an 8th grade tutor. This isnt the victim olympics.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:55 PM
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Its an insecure take because the solution is rather simple. Keep things fair and reciprocal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:30 PM
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Insecure take. Dont date hypocritical women with double standards. The End.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:25 PM
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Simps and pickmes are kiss asses that are desperate for validation from the opposite sex. (Derrick Jaxn was indeed a simp) They usually dont even believe the things that they bend over for, its just that itd get them a lot of pats on the head. The better relationships require healthy boundaries, independence, reciprocity, compatibility. Theres no ass kissing, just fairness in effort and teamwork. You dont get teamwork from opposite goals, opposite beliefs, opposite desires. Ambiguity may get you…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:58 AM
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same. hookups are less sexually enticing. They scratch an itch but its not as good no matter how hot he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:52 AM
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I definitely have (love&lust). Multiple boyfriends. Its the only way to go. None of my exes are criminals or "bad boy" bs, ive never been attracted to those types. I do like artsy, philosophical, or nerdy men. My bf is 5'8 exes 5'5 and 5'7 im 5'4.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:51 AM
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Support is a nice to have, a luxury that requires mutual emotional involvement. Its something ot everyone has. In the modern world, yes its true that food, water, shelter, clitoral stimulation is covered independently which is why many women say that a man is not "needed". But if a man or woman is not a source of support or ease, they are indeed useless to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:25 AM
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our future sons will not grow up feeling like they are entitled to a woman and that life has no meaning if they don’t get laid. This.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:17 AM
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I believe people who cheat are emotionally unavailable. Its like the lights are on but no one's home. They like the familiarity, the comfort, but depth and mutual chemistry are weak. They settled but dont want to "date" so they collect that missing piece from someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:04 AM
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My mindset is quite different from when I was younger. There are many attractive people in the world. When i look at them I do think "wow theyre hot", but it ends there. To me the most valuable people are those that support me, are consistent figures in my life, and those who have a good bit in common. A stranger begins and ends at their appearance, I dont know anything about them, the chances of having things in common is low unless out at a niche social event of some kind, who knows if theyre …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:02 AM
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We're all responsible for our own "lonely" and "purposeless" life. You either pick up some books and figure it out or whine in a dark cave about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:28 AM
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Diversity is what makes so many people different so it makes sense to focus on compatibility rather than physical attraction alone. Thats why women seem "so complex" is because we embrace authenticity and target men based on our personal preferences rather than trying to appeal to the masses. Women are strategic, men date based on insecurity, they seek to cast a wide net and then blame women for their inability to get a relationship. You have to target your focus. The information ive picked up o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 06:34 PM
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Thats insinuating that 90% of men are emotionally available toward women, choose compatible partners, and seek reciprocal relationships, which is not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 06:18 PM
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Definitely not immature women. Im not of the belief that all women or even most are angels. You simply study whats healthy and navigate around immature dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 06:04 PM
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Dildos arent the most popular sex toys on the market, clitoral stimulants are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:37 PM
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sexual inexperience doesnt stop people from getting in healthy relationships, they just end up finding compatible people. The problem is, people are chasing after total opposites and people who are out of their league. And they morph their entire personality into a kiss ssa instead of being strategic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:35 PM
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No. Theres a lot of women that use toys rather than lusting after other people
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:28 PM
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Compatibility and reciprocity arent high standards. Lust is a form of validation-seeking, those people are only there for the high and dont pay attention to the traits that make a relationship last.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:26 PM
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If that was the case, alot if ugly men and ugly women wouldnt be in happy relationships. Lust attracts validation-seekers not genuine connections.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:22 PM
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If theres one thing that immature women and men have in common, it's validation-seeking and lust. Those are quick ways that they use to pacify themselves when they dont feel confident and when they feel bitter about past relationships. They flirt, they fish for compliments, they use "lovebombing" as a way to try to build fast, high passion connections (and completely miss qualities and behaviors that would help it last or not). Validation-seeking is the one thing that grants them attention, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:03 PM
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No. The basis of feminism is equality. Matriarchy would be a woman desiring to rule over men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 07:37 AM
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Im not into that stuff. But the big difference here is that one is consented and the other isnt. Its just like drvgs, one either does it voluntarily, which is their right, and the shady opposite is drvgging someone without their consent. Its a simple difference. A matter of conversation and establishing trust with that person first. Get a yes/no, read body language, get clarity multiple times. A giggle is not a pass go collect $200. Some people laugh when theyre nervous. And if its too risky jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:32 AM
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Immature women choose incompatible partners and users all of the time, so your lgbtq obsession is irrelevant. The difference is in peeping at the formula of relationships that actually last. What do those couples have that you dont or havent tried? Theres ugly and broke people in very happy relationships. This means that looks/money isnt the end-all, theres much more to it. The formula for sex and relationships is friendship, fairness, and compatibility. Why is that so hard for you to grasp?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:00 AM
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By definition, a friend is someone of mutual affection, care, support, and / or values. Im not someone thats loose with the word friend. Im nice and respectful to everyone. But a friend is more sacred than that. We can rely on each other for emotional, social, physical support (without any underlying sexual involvement). I dont friend women or men who dont hold my values. I consider non friends to be acquaintances (someone i know of, may laugh with, but won't get personal or visit each other). I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:05 AM
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And so what do you do, moan about it? Or do you target those with mutual appeal outside of sex/money? Have you ever approached women in a similar way as male friendships? Or is it sex first always?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 10:02 PM
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Idk. I picked my prior fwb. There was no catching feelings for them so there wasnt a "rejection feeling". They didnt have many relationship qualities to begin with, so it was a retty straightfoward arrangement. After my last 2 relationships, the sex was so good and consistent that a fwb is a step down now. So i didnt really indulge in casual sex after that. Im strictly relationship-only sex right now. Casual sex is like a 7/10 vs. relationship sex a 10/10. Ive had some amazing fwb but boyfriend …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 09:16 PM
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and what does someone having orgasm dysfunction have to do with me making sure i get pleasure in my relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 08:27 PM
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Women do not orgasm in the same way as men. And who knows where youre getting your lesbian stats from.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 08:01 PM
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Im in a great relationship, so your projections are just that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 04:04 PM
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Not sure. Ive never dated a bad boy. And I dont associate with women that do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:53 AM
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Thats your belief not mine. Relationships are meant to be reciprocal. Theres plenty of people who want something for nothing and chase people who arent the right fit for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:10 AM
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But you still seek it out due to benefitting from it. Some men want something for nothing in relationships and it shows. Now that women are rejecting men who offer nothing but want everything, they want sympathy from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 10:03 PM
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Women have spent the last millennium in hypergamy. They have always had to "work for it". It is men (especially those who arent in the top 10% of financial earnings) who dont "work for it". Those men offer nothing in relationships and get upset that women dont stay with nor want them. Loyalty, romance, shared responsibilities, friendship.... is too much for a man that wants something for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 09:51 PM
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Im cool with 50/50 percentage based connections as long as EVERYTHING is indeed 50/50. I understand that sickness and financial ups and downs can impact things temporarily, which is why im ok with percentile 50/50 in the first place. (Percentile 50/50 accounts for wage gaps, so the person who makes more, pays more and responsibilities are still shared in accordance with work hours) I know of women who are paying more than their boyfriends due to wage gap and I feel thats fair. Im also ok with a …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 09:38 PM
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You have to build a friendship or fair exchange. Alot of guys want something for nothing, and thats why they struggle so much in the first place. You have to give to get. And thats anything in life, im not talking about money either. Everything is a barter it has to seem worthwhile. Otherwise, you get nothing. Sex is mediocre to a woman unless she benefits in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:40 PM
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Men get respect from other men for being a hoe. But not from women. Women could care less if theyre viewed as a hoe or not by women or men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:57 PM
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tell that to the women whining about their husband not having sex with them in the womens groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:40 PM
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Men created their own struggles and women's. Its been a global patriarchal society for the last millennium. The feminist gender equality movement isnt widespread. Women have been able to vote and hold independent bank accounts for a whole +60yrs. Theres still a wage gap in same jobs, and gap in parenting. Women were bought/sold for marriage and traditionalists (of both sexes) cling to some of these practices still (the whole women want my money obsession). Men created all of these things, yet wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:34 PM
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Sex is better with an emotional connection and an orgasm. Most men dont prioritize either and thats boring for women. I vett men (boyfriends and a fwb) for sexual compatibility as a way to increase my chances of an orgasm and long term sexual pleasure. This is strategic and definitely helps. But its often that a good bit of men want something for nothing. Thus making it easy for a woman to use toys or settle for Abstinence.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:26 PM
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nope it definitely depends on the woman im in quite a few of women circles and its mentioned quite a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:36 AM
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lifes ups and downs are a given Relationships that lack compatibility and vulnerability tend to stunt and drift apart pretty quickly. Theyre far beyond typical highs/lows, theyre dry as the sahara desert and self centered.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:25 AM
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thats a major hint that shes not someone to be vulnerable with. Its almost like the signs could all be there and yet one still ignores them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:21 AM
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the behaviour of "toxic masculinity" is still what they'll want to see in public life. it would affirm your defeat sure. But its not true
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:13 AM
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because its not true
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:09 AM
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They absolutely can with the right woman. It absolutely exists more than men think. A man that lacks vulnerability is often superficial and acts like a roommate in relationships. Those are the very men that women these days cant stand. Its 1000% a trait that needs to be bred off the face of the earth because theyre very transactional and are like being with brick walls. Theyre the very ones that suck at relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:08 AM
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Thats part of accepting you cant be liked by everyone. Thats impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:03 AM
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A man and woman can be vulnerable, its just much easier to do that with someone compatible. You have to be vulnerable with people you have things in common with. Its often that men choose women dck-first and that woman has 0 in common with them. Then surprise surprise, she ridicules, laughs in your face, skips to her gossip circle, and then he shuts down for life. All of that could be avoided by being strategic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 05:15 AM
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exactly. I see a lot of whining here, but men created these very societal rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 01:17 AM
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As someone who dates bi men, im never romabtically threatened, though i do fear promiscious bi men more than anything else. The idea of having to use condoms with a lover sucks, but some bi men fck like jackrabbits...... women not so much. Thats the only real fear. Ive only been cheated on by 1 guy. But overall hetero leaning bi men and cvck bulls can be some of the most promiscuous men on earth. Theres preventable pills but id rather a bi man thats more sexually moderate than an addict.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 01:02 AM
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I know of 2 "bisexual" women (in person) that divorced their husbands due to realizing they were lesbian and preferred lesbian relationships. Bi partners don't guarantee anything. Some are straight for play and gay for relationships (and vice versa). A talk about if theyve been in a same sex relationships clears up some of this because at least they have experimented enough that they arent confused about their preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 12:50 AM
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Ive dated one before. Doms not subs though. And im not attracted to Transwomen.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 10:59 PM
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I must be a unicorn then. I love bisexual men. Im straight myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 10:20 PM
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A couple of things ive learned of this sub is that theres a ton of bitter people on here looking for affirmation of their ignorance and poor choices. Rather than picking up a book on how to build genuine connections, they whine and point fingers. Both men and women have to have healthy boundaries when dating, marrying. This protects from being used and serves as a barrier to superficial partners (only want money only want sex). Sex and money are a given but shouldnt be placed on a pedestal. Anyo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 09:52 PM
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If thats the case only wealthy men would be married and lower class men single. Even the homeless partner up or stay together post a downfall. Guaranteed its not to do with sex/money.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 09:34 PM
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They do love them but it wont ever be romantic unless theres some form of friendship or compatibility established.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 09:10 PM
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True. If all you have to offer a woman is dck. Youre of no use to her unless thats all she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 09:09 PM
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They do. Just because its hard for you to get a fwb doesnt mean its hard for other men. They each took time to get to know me first and build a friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 08:19 AM
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I dont. But I see itd make you feel better if I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:31 AM
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If thats the case id never have been in multiple relationships or had fwb. None of them were 9s 10s. 5s 6s are average 3s 4s are unattractive But my point is, looks arent everything in relationships. And most definitely, apps aren't the way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:21 AM
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Yes. Men should set boundaries and call it out. But typically any attention is good attention to some.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 11:01 PM
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Hell no. Both sides should just communicate like adults. And if there's little to no cooperation, move on to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:41 PM
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Theres some pretty unattractive men and women in solid relationships. People who have extensive dating issues circle back to a shtty personality where theyre living life and love as Mr. Scrooge. Or their expectations are unrealistic. Relationships are meant to be mutually emotional, reciprocal, and compatible. When one of those are lacking, it spirals every single time. There's also often too much focus on superficial values rather than the development of depth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:38 PM
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Lol. If you want sex, you have to have a mutual emotional connection and compatibility. If theres no connection or sexual compatibility, theres no interest. Men want the sex without having to have any appeal whatsoever. Compatibility (religion, socially, family goals, politics, sexual preferences) guarantees most of that. The rest is purely emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:31 PM
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No i dont agree. I do believe that a lot of families raise their daughters to be wives and sons to be independent. Obvioysly religious factors can twist this somewhat. There's still a good bit of men who arent lust bound and dont have Peter Pan syndrome. I will say that most people's problem is unrealistic expectations from men and women. And they often choose lovers that arent truly suitable for them due to insecurity and lust alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:51 PM
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Loyalty is far easier when both are satisfied (compatible), reciprocal, and genuinely in love. Willingness to try comes with emotional maturity. Those who dont try tend to struggle with too much relationship bitterness, or they realize too late that there isnt compatibility. I dont believe in "settling", it leaves too much room for error and control issues on either side.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:13 AM
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Im of the belief that red pill angst is just a social handicap and a struggle with fair exchange. There's this overwhelming desire for them to be in a position of power no matter what........ due to craving external validation. All it takes is some self analysis and focus on what's compatible and fair for both involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 02:21 AM
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Theres a balance to be had in everything. The strongest relationships in existence are built on strong friendship and compatibility. Some men skip those qualities to aim for the hottest or most looney possessive women they can find instead. Because extremism is more apealing than what will last and is reciprocal in healthy ways. We're all dealt different childhoods with expectations, hard or easy, and its not an excuse after a certain age to continue insecure habits. Man or Woman
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 01:50 AM
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Historically, wives have devoted far more effort physically and emotionally to upkeeping family units and the household than husbands. Unhealthy husbands have had a habit of limiting themselves to superficial effort (money) in families, and then get upset when the wife and children lack a close intimate bond, sexual attraction, or respect in old age. Maintaining healthy relationships requires quality time and emotional engagement with whomever is in the household. And that is why historically, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 01:41 AM
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True. And I work in Psychiatry. In (unhealthy) relationships, husbands typically devote more in superficial ways, whilst women devote more in romantic effort, family, emotion, and compassion. It ends up being that mostly wives are neglected when it comes to emotion and care whilst (unhealthy) husbands use finances as an excuse to devote low effort to a relationship. Sure. Both sexes being single means less responsibility, and less stress involved in taking care of others. But its usually wives t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 01:08 AM
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Could care less tbh. I know of just as many happy couples as unhappy ones. But is it worth it? Im one of those on the fence about a kid. Why subject a kid to such a torturous society based on egos. The barbarians can have their breeding champions trophy imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 11:09 PM
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No one's gatekeeping just because you cant get laid. It doesnt work like that. When i go find a man for a fwb, I pick one who is sexually compatible. I go out of my way to avoid fboys or those that look like they get enough flings to begin with, and go for someone a little lowkey, nerdy. I vett him and what hes into and then if it aligns we move further. If he seems too ambiguous in his interests or the opposite of my bedroom preferences....... i go vett someone else for a fwb. When I find the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 05:27 PM
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The majority of women in their 20s arent burning through flings. Most dont like the idea of casual sex at all or feel its not worth it given the rate of men who dont understand female pleasure and the fact that its not more enticing than sex in a relationship. The rate of women who are down for casual sex is moreso around 30%. Its a smaller group that indulges in flings-only all through their 20s. Then we motice they end up being romantic lesbians. Myself personally........ a fwb was usually whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 04:52 PM
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exactly. they dont lurk in the shadows. They're typically the more aggressive pickup artists and some women are so impressed by it that they dont vett the guy properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 04:21 PM
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Abusive men tend to be VERY assertive when picking up women. Ive never been in that type of relationship firsthand, though I notice that they have far more courage around women than those who dont. Could also be the fact that they look down on women, so having less shyness and introversion gives them a higher pickup rate. Just look at the serial killers who targeted women ........ not a shy bone in their body. Very aggressive, flirty, a somewhat "false confidence" that makes them seem attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 04:18 PM
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not my experience, but whatever makes you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 10:42 AM
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Present caring partners exist, so i dont see the point of doxxing casual sex. The only time i have a fwb is when i dont want a relationship and sometimes not even then. It hasnt impacted my love life
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 10:12 AM
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I for sure have boyish looking exes. So men th say its not that drastic, it could very well be other factors at play. I do prefer that look similar to the ultimate Turkish man thats hairy all over, bald up top, thick black beard, and 5'8 230lbs. Thats my ultimate sex symbol. But ive never dated nor had sex with such. And instead i accept the cards that im dealt.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 10:09 AM
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That would imply that only toxic men get laid, which isnt true. In reality social men have a much bigger chance of getting laid than someone who cowers in a corner or sticks to dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 10:01 AM
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what does he specifically lack that disqualifies him from being a fuck buddy to women? He doesnt lack anything. Women are less interested in casual sex than relationships to begin with because relationships offer sex and more. I personally pick fwb and boyfriends based on sexual compatibility. About 60% of men would automatically not qualify to have sex with/date me due to not fitting certain Dom/sub roles and opposing kinks/fetishes.The more compatible relationship qualities a guy has, the more…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 09:54 AM
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Because a husband has far more to offer than the hookup guy. Its not rocket science. A slice vs the whole pie
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:55 AM
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That doesnt correlate with what i said. Husbands have to have good sexual chemistry......... and more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:50 AM
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This is news to me. Never seen it or heard of it in the womens groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 05:49 AM
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amen to that especially considering the dating app profiles i saw 2 years ago..... no effort whatsoever
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 04:10 AM
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theres this phenomenon called not wanting a relationship ....... which is why some will choose the hot fwb temporarily, which is much lower interaction, effort, and responsibilities than long-term.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 04:00 AM
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so true. sex with a fwb vs a long term relationship are the same imo. One doesnt rank higher than the other. If one is insecure or incompatible with their longterm partner....perhaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:56 AM
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sex is as equally important as the intangibles in a marriage. The only time it isnt is in religious groups, or when they realize too late that theyre sexually incompatible. But to go animalistic, survival and thrive factor requires much more than sex. It seems like women consider that more than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:53 AM
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same. fwb are required to be sexually compatible for me because im into bdsm and only certain things turn me on/get me off. He has to be similar in interests ....... a hard on and cute face isnt a pass go collect $200. In contrast, boyfriend/husband gets much, and are required to bring more than just sexual compatibility. Theres a major difference there. Maybe prn has skewed some minds or the dead bedroom stories have men paranoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:46 AM
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same. A requirement for my fwb is sexual compatibility. About 70% of men are automatically disqualified. lol could care less how attractive he is. Dull is dull.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:42 AM
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exactly. fwb are bottom barrel. A temporary itch. Theyre inferior to husband material. The looks arent all that different either. I do not date men who i dont want to have sex with. The only time i denied sex in a relationship was when i had stomach flu or some sht. Actually maybe thats the issue.... men only want the sex, because its the only thing that makes them feel confident or masculine. So, husband material is less of an achievement for men, when its the opposite for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:37 AM
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exactly. Fwb requires next to nothing but sexual chemistry. How do you achieve sexual chemistry....... being turned on when you look at them. Spouses require sexual chemistry ........ and much more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:28 AM
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This makes 0 sense to me, wishful thinking at best. The requirements for a fwb is much shorter than a husband. And frankly, fwb appearance has never exceeded the looks of the relationships where marriage was a goal. The requirements of my fwb over the years.... sexual compatibility. The requirements of a long-term relationship........ similar belief systems, social habits, family goals, and sexual compatibility. Most men I involve myself are 5,6,7s that are 5'5 or taller (in both fwb and relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:25 AM
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Agreed, though this is pretty easy to weed out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:16 AM
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When a person is attractive sex is easy to get, but it won't guarantee them a relationship. Self-improvement is 20% looks, 80% mental health. A lover cant "see" most of your gains. The proof is in securing and maintaining a healthy relationship. A hot lover with trash mental health.....may cycle through a lot of people but lack the stamina or intelligence for something lasting. Sure, work on the weight, consult a stylist. But without vulnerability, compatibility, and healthy standards, it won't …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:14 AM
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Well, for me personally ive never been married, but most of my broken relationships occurred from codependency, aka extreme expectations or incompatibility. Imagine being with someone, and everything you do in the relationship has to be fast or passionate, like a red newborn scream or somehow you dont love them. As for finances, i always took turn paying for dates and such. A couple of guys did try to make me a sugar mama but they weren't disciplined or reciprocal to begin with, so that ended qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:03 AM
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I believe 60-70% of people settle. Keep in mind, some couples never divorce despite being unsatisfied. They get tired of shopping around and struggle with compatibility. Theyre eager to procreate and take family photos. So they settle for someone thats somewhat attractive, but deep down they have little to nothing in common or weak chemistry. They start a family, get bored, stop having sex, cheat, become poly, and/or divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:42 AM
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