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Time to close up the house and get private. Make quality time or lose him to a girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/24 06:37 AM
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You're so welcome! Glad to help!
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 08:42 PM
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I clean for a customer of mine who is Asian but doesn’t look like the stereotype, I couldn’t tell but she informed me on the first day working together anyway, to explain her preference for crystal chandeliers lol, her and her husband have been married 20 years and he’s a good guy that does what he says he’s going to do, except he’s part of the reason I’m hired, and their kids too, although older now, the husband and kids habits create a buildup in the house she cannot keep up with. My advice to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 07:49 PM
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My husband wasn't the best support in postpartum but I've been able to tell him that, we had the difficult conversations, and he was shocked I said he did things that he couldn't imagine himself doing, adding to his frustration. The best way I can see thing working out, is new steps to a healthy status quo. I don't get much hobby time unless it's nap time or after bedtime, and if we have together time then my hobby time will be even less. I accept that because I value together time more than hob…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 03:42 PM
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What you like isn't bad, it's going overboard and arguing/indoctrinating others into your world that puts others off. I like anime and digital art, physical art, screamo rock music which my husband and I go to concerts to see, and we mesh really well. I try to stay connected to my generation by mindfully listening and taking in both sides to understand why we're at where we're at politically. Stay true to what you like, it's okay and it's your generation. The more you stay open minded and in the…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/24 07:18 PM
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Thank you! GO CHIEFS!
/r/RedPillWives12/02/24 05:37 PM
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THIS
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 04:29 PM
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These flags right here are incompatible. This is not husband material and not a team player, and if you have kids it will be worse. These are my deal breakers for a long term relationship, one person cannot monopolize the relationship because of what they bring to the table. This is also the seesaw phenomenon, if you don't feel equal to your partner through communication and compromise, then you are on the bottom, if you feel superior to your partner and like most things should be what you want,…
/r/RedPillWives12/02/24 04:24 PM
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I'm 24, married, with an 18 month old. I work part-time as a business owner and house cleaner at 25 an hr, flexible schedule, bring my kid with me when I can so I can comfortably buy wants and needs whenever I feel I need or want it. How I got here? My family was extremely dysfunctional and still is, but a little less as my younger siblings grow up. I was quite isolated growing up aside from school, books and the internet, so even though my dad created a shut in, I made up for it by school frien…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 07:09 PM
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Difficult conversations set the stage for the next difficult conversations. Just because he doesn't agree with you doesn't mean your feelings don't exist, and your difficult seasons are not his warrant to punish you forever because of his perception of it. Tell it like it is for you, even if it's a blow up, because he's silencing your perspective and experience. A husband who loves his wife listens, even if it's difficult and hurts him. He's making himself an unsafe person to talk to, and you're…
/r/RedPillWives17/01/24 10:24 PM
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I'd get irritated if my husband kept brushing me off. What did I do? I took myself and my baby out, and communicated how I felt he was pushing our time together out. I understand to an extent, but sometimes in that postpartum time, a lot of things just need relief like time together and getting out. If he isn't ready yet, take yourself out, make it fact based as much as you can, communicate that, and keep yourself taken care of until he's ready to get date night on.
/r/RedPillWives24/09/23 02:54 PM
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This
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 07:04 PM
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You are absolutely high value!!!! The best thing you can do is have a spine of steel when you find your next partner, the best book I've ever read is why does he do that by Lundy bancroft, I can't recommend it enough. I feel like a broken record when I recommend it, but it's just a perfect "textbook" for squashing the abuse mindset when it rears its head. I've been astounded by my friends and family by how prevalent abuse transfers from generation to generation whether people realize it or not, …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 07:03 PM
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This sounds like a severe case of "I am so fucking sick of your bullshit if you don't shut the fuck up and let me influence in our relationship then I'm ready to be fucking DONE". Obviously you have to be strong enough to enforce that if he decides to be a blindsided little bitch, but just be clear. Every time he does this it's embarrassing to you and extremely rude and downright abusive. He needs to be told these things in a "I'm about to fucking leave you" type of volume, unfortunately, as thi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 08:10 PM
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Some men are so disconnected that they need us to raise hell to get them to f****** listen, please please please raise all hell.
/r/RedPillWives07/02/23 01:03 AM
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I'm so sorry, I hope you can find new happines.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/23 05:08 AM
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It's up to you to draw the line where you no longer will tolerate bad behavior from someone who won't respect you. Respect yourself to choose a path that honors you, respects you and loves you, loving yourself first will help you find others who will also love you as you are. Looks aren't everything, it is what's on the inside that counts, the outside is a bonus, and we also can't stop aging so I wouldn't try to focus on looks much. Just take care if yourself, honor yourself, and check out of th…
/r/RedPillWives30/01/23 08:13 PM
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Yes I would also mention that men who teach their wives how to do a large majority of the work could risk being left. Yes it's nice he helps but the hobbies without her having much fulfilling time would be extremely hurtful and rage inducing to me, another topic to bring up. He gets to be a person but she has to stay just "mom"? This could also benefit as a written out text or on paper, sometimes a message sinks deeper when it's in print and non interruptable.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/23 11:08 PM
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Read The Dance Of Anger, you can buy it or dive into self help on kindle unlimited, it will help you make your communication constructive instead of detracting from your message. A lot of people, women, haven't been educated in communicating effectively about their wants needs, boundaries, worries, this habit is huge but I think your communication style evoked resistance in him which escalated to lying. The only way you'll get through to him is by taking responsibility over what you have control…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 12:05 AM
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When I find our wires are crossed… I take a moment to breathe separately. Then I come back and tell my whole-truth. “When we’re doing/talking ABC and you do/say XYZ it makes me feel (insert your truth here) and sometimes you react so hotly to it I don’t even want to talk about it. I don’t like that I have a list of things I feel I can’t even bring up because it turns into a fight.” He’ll probably want to argue at that as a knee jerk response but it will / should put his mindset into perspective.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 09:10 PM
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He probably feels emasculated from being taken care of for a long time, and that you run the show so well. So well that where is his spot light, I wonder. If my spouse said these things about me and then left for a time because of it, I'd definitely be hurt first, but then I'd be pretty pissed at the fact that not only does he want to sleep with other women but also that he's willing to stress me tf out about our relationship. It's fair that he feels he missed out on casual dating, but tough s**…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 07:57 AM
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I love my son and am happy with him and keeping my house and man happy, too. I work selectively as a professional house cleaner so that keeps me fit, make some money, etc. I love my plants, trying new cleaning tactics, reading, slowly learning how to cook more things. Maybe sewing nice things for yourself would be fun? I got even better at my cleaning because it was necessary for my sanity with a new baby lol
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/22 03:40 AM
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This is a recipe for postpartum psychosis, which is worse than postpartum depression. It creeps up the longer you have little to no sleep, you begin taking less care of yourself which only exacerbates the vicious slippery slope. ​ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X0DqsflQbk0 Despite the title as being a bit gruesome, your situation, although you say you get some help, is unfortunately not enough to keep your sanity. I don't want to say you should leave your husband and divorce, but there is a thi…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/22 08:24 PM
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Theramin Trees @ youtube is a wonderful channel that can help you understand that it's amazing you're here now and it's not your fault. I'm glad you made it out and are here with us. Can't recommend the channel enough, it really helped me dismantle self blame that wasn't warranted in the end.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 05:17 PM
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He seems nit picky to the point of a detriment... I couldn't stay with my fiancé if he felt the need to "teach" me these things. We are all on our own path. Either our partners love us and help us when we ask, or they pick at us thinking we'll "get better", when I've found that nothing satisfies them enough. They just like watching us struggle to please them.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 03:28 AM
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Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza full audio book is on YouTube for free to listen on the channel Learning With Jaygeo, I've been listening to it today while I work. It sounds like an oxymoron, don't we want to be ourselves? So far I'm in chapter three and it's really helped me to change my thoughts from passive, helpless negatives, to empowering, positive, future seeking thoughts. Obviously we can't stop being ourselves, but we can recondition our thoughts that send signal…
/r/RedPillWives17/05/22 01:37 AM
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Thank you!! I was wondering if there would be better tips for the oils than just what I already have
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 06:04 PM
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Udemy just had a sale so I bought two courses, one relaxation Isla Verde course and the next was deep tissue, I just bought a starter massage table last night so I'm very excited for that. Yesterday as well, there was a vacation package on sale, a cruise and a vacation that saves more money if you go out of country (separate vacations), cruise will have 4 people so my step son and daughter will love it. He's paying half, it was 1200 and then who knows how many things we'll buy while out there lo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 02:35 PM
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Strongly agree. I've been reading the red pill and a lot of the men on there bitch about their wives but don't offer insight as to why they're acting that way?? / done trying to understand or connect, it's incredibly confusing to me that RPW is this way and the red pill is that way. Maybe I haven't read enough, don't know yet
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 10:05 PM
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Congratulations!!! 🎊💐💝
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 01:05 AM
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Hard second this. It took me almost 2 years and 2 boyfriends to learn this lesson. Do not give "wife material" to boyfriends. The only way to learn if your boyfriend is husband material is if he listens to you and compromises when you've realized you just "can't" do this anymore. Can't means help me, not "I won't". It's hard to say, but he needs to know that your self care is your responsibility and it only makes you a better partner. If he can't see that even after talking about it, I'd be look…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 12:05 AM
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For valentine's day I know my fiance loves charcuterie meats but hardly buys it for himself, so when I went to sprouts to pick up some yogurt I bought him his $15 meats, a super food ice cream and his favorite sour candies. It's the little things 💝
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 11:55 PM
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I'm so happy for you that you made this post, this was me at the beginning of my relationship and I only finally broke it after 4 1/2 years. How did it work for me? Having the support system to be able to leave if I absolutely needed it Talking about my boundaries and being vocal when an ask or situation is violating them Choosing the right partner is sooo the hardest part RPW have an easier time picking the "cream of the crop" but it still doesn't mean our boyfriends/fiancés/husbands aren't hum…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 11:23 PM
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I haven't seen it but I'm fairly new as well. I'm pregnant with my first and enjoying this group a lot and doing the readings, seeing how the little changes boost my relationship. Maybe we can start a discussion about it? I don't know if there's enough pregnant RPW to keep it active, but maybe even with the other groups I would think wanting the traditional route is to be respected and the only times it may not be is if our relationships have become unhealthy / abusive. I love the idea!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 05:52 PM
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I'm glad I could help! Sounds like more of an "introspective" conversation, what rubbed you the wrong way? Stuff like that. I know when my hormones are up I'm much more sensitive to word use, and guys may be more prone to use words we go (???) to haha. I know when my fiance and I bicker I've gotten descriptive if I feel my hormones are high or if one word poked me wrong, the feeling disrespected in front of people is thankfully long gone, growth and patience is key! But ultimately only you know …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 02:55 PM
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I love this you're absolutely right. A man that wants a woman is willing to learn how the ladies world works, and it's confusing!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 02:30 PM
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It depends on what he says. Is it disrespectful to you? If you feel repetitively disrespected by his "jokes" I wonder if he is masculine and mature enough to respect you the way you need to be. There's a reply saying to STFU, which if it applies, I agree. But if what he's saying is a put down, controlling, eyebrow raising, they might be red flags for the future if he doesn't want to change, and you don't want to change a man, he should want to change and grow on his own. Does he subscribe to red…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 02:27 PM
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Well said! 😁
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 11:06 PM
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As an active member in r/agegap with an 18 yr AGR, engaged and very happy with my life, I find all relationships like this rather funny. All boys and men that contradict themselves, like another reply said, don't write a novel about it, point out the hypocrisy and then leave it there. Good men, good young men, and good older men, have the working brain cells to respect you and honor you, part of making sure your partner does that is by having a spine and not falling for red flags, or just things…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 11:01 PM
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It took 5 years for my boyfriend and I to feel the deep love and unity that comes with naturally proposing and my lovingly saying yes. No demands, no unequal splits where they're at the advantage and you're scratching your head. The way your relationship grows now should be what your marriage looks like, if your gut says you don't want to live without how you're living now, stick with it. His "demands" would be fine if you were already happy to live that way, but it sounds like you're not. Your …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 02:26 AM
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If you put it on the neck and we are near, and it's a good cologne, yes!
/r/seduction08/01/22 06:08 PM
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I definitely don't believe in exes being friends, talk about distraction / repulsion (depending on who they are) My bf is lucky I didn't have kids with any of my exes so he doesn't have to see them But he's still a little fresh when I voice that I couldn't care less about his ex wife (probably hurt that she's his kids mother but I don't care, ex is ex, and I'm pregnant so I MEGA dgaf) All relationships suck when they don't work out, but it helps to put them in a box and dislike they're guts for …
/r/seduction08/01/22 01:42 AM
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