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Capable_Luck_2817/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:54 PM
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3

“Girls are too much drama.”
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 04:46 AM
8

Because they aren’t on dating apps or actively using social media—they’re quietly doing their own thing.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 08:11 PM
13

“We are like roommates.”
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 08:10 PM
14

It’s not so hard to imagine if your ex is an arsonist with money like mine was. I’ve managed to buy a house and rebuild my nest-egg in less than a year post-divorce because I no longer have her holding me back.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 08:09 PM
13

You aren’t going to get a lot of sympathy around here thinking like this. Most of us are victims of the same “grass is greener” syndrome. Guaranteed you will regret giving up in a fit of boredom.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 10:51 PM
1

I’ve never once paid for a notarization. Your bank should be able to do it for free.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 06:49 PM
6

Who says you have to forgive? Get busy doing things that are personally fulfilling and you’ll stop caring altogether.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 09:10 PM
1

Seems to be a theme. My ex was a nightmare on Adderall.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 03:00 AM
5

It’s not that bad. Feels like you got kicked in the nuts for about 24 hours and then back to normal.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 03:50 PM
1

The danger lies in “poking the bear” and triggering retribution from your STBXW and her lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 03:21 AM
3

Just trying to have your back. You may not have been doing anything wrong, but the optics alone can hurt. Better to avoid even the appearance of dating until the divorce is final.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 07:47 PM
4

You shouldn’t date before the divorce is finalized—it can come back to haunt you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 07:16 PM
4

Friendly reminder that you can move on without forgiving someone. “Forgive but don’t forget” is a backwards mentality. Forget but don’t forgive.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 06:19 PM
2

Digital culture erodes attention spans and promotes quick hits of dopamine. Relationships take long-term perspective and sustained work through ups and downs. So yes, modern culture plays a big part in damaging peoples’ capacity to be in a relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 06:24 PM
4

LMAO at “goat yoga and wine every day”. Perfect description. Although I still don’t think most of them would find contentment. It’s always a constant striving for what’s just out of reach.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 06:12 PM
1

You’re right, I just re-read it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 03:52 PM
1

6 months is too soon to consider a marriage under the best of circumstances. Why would she be pressuring you? That’s a huge red flag.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 03:31 AM
14

Her sister sounds like a good egg. My ex’s family was part of the problem. It was a toxic situation all around.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 07:24 PM
19

Exactly what happened to me. I never felt threatened by the guy or anything, because he objectively had less going on than I do (and I was a good partner). Ultimately, it made no difference.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 07:24 PM
2

Is the Old Testament not the Bible? I’m not sure what you’re getting at.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 08:15 PM
4

I had appetite issues for the first couple of months. Lifting heavy weights solved that problem.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 07:52 PM
2

The withdrawal symptoms go away within 8 weeks or so. But they are certainly unpleasant.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 02:19 AM
2

Yeah, mine had terrible anxiety for awhile after the separation too. It was heartbreaking but he’s back to his normal self now.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 06:58 PM
1

If circumstances allow, you should consider getting a dog. Mine has been godsend for me and helped alleviate the loneliness of an empty home.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 06:39 PM
1

I agree that getting out of your comfort zone is crucial. In OP’s case, that probably means dating rather than finding a partner. It’s been two years but he is still in the thick of it emotionally/mentally.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 12:24 AM
1

The last part of this is bad advice. OP shouldn’t date until he’s been able to regroup.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 04:38 PM
1

I went bald during the last couple years of my marriage. Thankfully, I pull off a shaved head pretty well.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 05:42 AM
5

Yeah that’s a big red flag as well—usually projection. My ex started by calling for a separation, saying she needed time to work on herself, etc. Turns out she was having an affair, which was not shocking. Sorry you are dealing with this.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 01:38 AM
4

That means she wants to sleep around. That’s always what it means.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 11:56 AM
1

Baby steps. Try to push yourself to go for walks or do some push-ups. You’ll start to get momentum to build on. It’s hard to break out of the funk but it’s worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 11:51 AM
1

I had a housekeeper and did the majority of the day-to-day housekeeping between deep cleanings but still got hit with the chores lie after my ex decided to leave for her AP.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 01:30 AM
3

Do you exercise regularly? That’s the best possible distraction. The endorphin boost goes a long way. Some forms of exercise also have the added bonus of getting you out in nature. Skiing, mountain biking, kayaking, etc., are very healing activities.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 07:03 AM
3

Motivation follows action, not the other way around. Once you string together a couple of weeks attending the gym consistently, you’ll find that you can’t go without it. Personally, I took up powerlifting post-divorce. Getting stronger, setting new PRs and competing against others is what keeps me going to the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 04:24 PM
1

Not my best friend, but a mutual friend—yes. We trained at the same MMA gym and I think back fondly on all the times I got the better of him in sparring.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 04:47 AM
1

It makes perfect sense that the first anniversary post-divorce would be hard. I honestly forgot about mine until my brother brought it up, albeit with the intention of checking up on me to make sure I was OK—but then I was depressed for days. I imagine it becomes easier to forget with each passing year.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 04:36 AM
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If people can’t show up for you at your worst, they aren’t your friends. I have been disappointed by all but a couple of friends during my divorce. The old adage that “you find out who your friends are when hospitalized or in prison” also applies to divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 04:33 AM
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I don’t think getting rid of social media is ever a bad idea, per se. But you could also just unfollow your ex and anyone else in her orbit causing you grief.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 10:42 PM
1

Not a new dog, but keeping my German Shepherd in the divorce has been godsend for me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 03:52 AM
3

Passive apologies drive me up the wall. My ex hit me with, “You didn’t deserve any of what happened to you,” as if her having an affair was something that happened in a vacuum, independent of her.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/24 02:21 AM
5

Same haha. But I see a lot of it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/24 02:13 AM
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When the wife starts posting selfies on social media constantly and never mentions the husband, you know it’s coming to an end.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/24 02:10 AM
5

This is a porno plot lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 01:58 AM
1

Ironically, my wife worked in my business and made similar complaints before getting her real estate license and having an affair with said 24 y/o who was also an agent.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 01:40 AM
4

I was also working two jobs at the time and pulling six figures. Still wasn’t enough to keep up with her insatiable need to spend.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 08:03 PM
2

Sheesh. That’s a whole other level of stupidity.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 07:57 PM
13

It’s weird to me how they always seem to cheat down while simultaneously convincing themselves that you weren’t enough and they deserve more. My ex left me for a 24 y/o kid who lived with his parents.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 07:34 PM
3

The answer is to stop looking for happiness in other people.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 09:11 PM
3

Sorry man. My ex kept two of our three dogs too and I miss the hell out of them. There’s really nothing you can do about it, as much as it sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 04:02 PM
9

Dangerous advice. Finding someone else is not a healthy way to move on. It’s continuing the same cycle
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 04:05 PM
11

21.) Brewing coffee at home and not spending $300 at Starbucks every month.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 04:52 AM
18

Is a paradox. They get mad at us for working hard but lose their minds when we sleep in (like you mentioned) or even relax on the couch for a minute. Watching TV means you need to be given chores to do.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 04:12 AM
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Nope. When I found out she was having an affair I started to see her in a disgusting light.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 03:49 AM
2

Unfortunately, this is not how women operate lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 03:47 AM
8

This is the way. I also came out ahead by lawyering up and getting it done while she was still in the affair fog.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 03:39 AM
9

“Karma”, as the OP is using it, really just means the consequences of his ex’s actions. There’s no cosmic force at work, just the predictable results of bad choices.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 03:37 AM
18

Your ex is a trash bag.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 12:23 AM
2

Why don’t you shift your focus to investments? Start acquiring rental properties, buying index funds, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 07:48 PM
1

This perspective will change with time/distance. Cheaters are not good people.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 05:23 AM
1

I would agree and also classify it as an over-correction to the misogyny of the past.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 05:14 AM
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It’s very easy for women to find sympathetic voices willing to blame the man when relationships end. For us, it’s not as easy, which gives us time and space to reflect.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 10:50 PM
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Denial is a helluva drug.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 10:09 PM
2

You are in the denial stage of grieving. Once married women distance themselves, it’s already over. You should get a divorce lawyer ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 02:55 AM
2

The album “When the Kite String Pops” by Acid Bath has come in clutch for me.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 11:23 PM
2

It’s more expensive to be married to a succubus/spendthrift. I’m in a wayyyy better financial position post-divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 01:02 AM
3

Your divorce was very recent. The more you love, the longer it will take you to move on. Gotta give yourself some time.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 08:06 PM
11

She probably doesn’t want to invite questions. It’s an avoidance strategy. But (like others have said), you should unfollow her socials.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 12:37 AM
1

Usually paying back MIL for botox, hair, nails, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 06:52 PM
2

You are the exception that proves the rule, unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 01:59 AM
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I can’t imagine why women would post or lurk here unless they had ulterior motives.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 10:19 PM
2

Get another dog. My ex kept two of our three dogs, even though I inherited them from my sister as puppies. I’m now in the market for another companion for my German Shepherd.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 09:30 PM
6

This is too relatable. It’s always Target or Starbucks.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 09:29 PM
0

If it's any consolation, the odds are against these relationships staying happy forever. Almost all relationships have a shelf-life. There's no catchall rule for how long that may be, everyone's mileage varies. Some stay happy for 20 years and then call it quits, others get an annulment within weeks of the wedding.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 09:20 PM
4

Coming from someone who struggles with depression and has left a cult—GTFO with your “God-as-a-cure” baloney.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 09:07 PM
14

Because narcissists try to provoke reactions so they can point to them and say, “See! You are the problem.”
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 07:17 PM
2

She will post lots of selfies while on these trips with no mention of you lol.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 03:26 AM
6

Therapists are only as good as the data they get. Unfortunately, it’s very easy to manipulate that data and present them with a skewed set of “facts” to work with. The patient needs some degree of self-awareness and accountability.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 01:42 AM
2

👏👏👏
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 08:51 PM
11

And in both cases, the cheating partner probably did a shit job of communicating their needs and feelings and decided to dissociate and pretend to be single.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:05 AM
5

Same. I’ve been propositioned by married women in the past and ran away. My ex, on the other hand, turns into Ms. Pac-Man around any and every strange dick.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:04 AM
11

If they had principles they wouldn’t be cheaters. Couple the lack of a moral compass with a total lack of self-awareness and you’ll have your answer.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 11:28 PM
5

100%, Ex-MIL is a thrice-married serial cheater obsessed with appearances (Nordstrom trips, Botox, lip filler, etc.). Let’s just say the apple didn’t fall far from the tree.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 05:00 PM
2

Ah okay. Was her studio supposed to provide down payment funds for your rentals? I honestly think you can accomplish this more quickly on your own. You need solid credit and strategic leverage more than cash anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 04:21 AM
4

Try to get half of her business in the settlement and use those funds to bootstrap your business. What are your and her businesses, if you don’t mind my asking?
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 03:18 AM
5

“Maybe it’s a ten-year plan?”
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 12:04 AM
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This has been my observation too. Men and women have different relationship arcs. Women commit more quickly but give up more easily. Men are slower to commit but also less apt to call it quits.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 04:05 AM
10

Are you me? My ex-wife also left for her 24-year-old coworker AP. She is 32.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 08:58 PM
16

Some people are completely insatiable. You could give them the world and it wouldn’t be enough. It’s their own flaw and the same thing would/will happen with any other partner.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 07:58 PM
1

Yeah rap is definitely hype music for me. Lots of trap on my gym playlist.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 11:47 PM
3

Nice. I’m all about Nails, Slayer, Meshuggah, Power Trip, Pig Destroyer, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 07:53 PM
3

I think we have different coping mechanisms. My playlists have all been metal and rap.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 07:36 PM
1

Is there such thing as an ironclad prenup? Prenups also don’t prevent you from losing wealth acquired while married.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 12:28 AM
1

Why have friends if they are only there to capitalize on the good times? We need to collectively hold people to higher standards. Maybe people would have more deference toward their marriages if we did.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 11:45 PM
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I think we all want that. I’m trying not to become too cynical in regards to dating. But my experience makes me worry that, even if I meet someone like this, they will eventually change and make my life hell. Not sure what the actual solution is to that double-bind.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 09:14 PM
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I don’t think that was the intention of the post. OP seems to be saying that it’s hard to be optimistic about being able to find more than a fleeting connection in this day and age.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 09:01 PM
9

I’m kind of in the same boat as you, OP. These responses are basically confirming in a roundabout way that dating is indeed pointless lol.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 08:54 PM
2

It was also mine, which is why I’ve culled my friend group considerably.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 07:04 PM
3

What good are friends if they can’t show up for you at your worst? Sorry, but this is a trash take.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 03:26 PM
1

Not at all
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 12:08 AM
3

I’ve gotten the following feedback from almost everyone I’ve talked to about my divorce: “If so-and-so and I were to split up, I don’t think I’d get remarried.” Not exactly a ringing endorsement for marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 10:26 PM
5

Aside from my siblings, a cousin, and maybe one friend—everyone has avoided me like the plague. My old friend group will watch stories I post on social media, but they will not reach out to express condolences or support. I’ve come to the realization that they are all drama goblins that love to gossip but are ultimately worthless as friends.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 10:25 PM
2

I’m a fellow ex-Mormon as well. Cheers.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 10:20 PM
2

Perhaps, but what is there to be gained by lowering your inhibitions? You might be over-correcting based on your experience, but that’s definitely better than trusting a prospective romantic partner completely in this day and age.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 08:59 PM
2

Trust your instincts. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 06:15 PM
15

People watch too many movies. Reconciliation isn’t really a thing.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 06:10 PM
3

Relatable
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 05:29 AM
1

One foot in front of the other. It will become empowering and rewarding in time, but you have to get busy doing things that are personally enriching.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 11:03 PM
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I did more chores than my ex, was the primary breadwinner, and also paid for a biweekly housekeeper. Somehow one of her excuses for cheating/leaving was that I “did nothing around the house”. I thought it was an interesting criticism, coming from the woman who left stacks of dirty dishes for me to clean up after all three meals every single day.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 09:07 PM
1

Every company SHOULD have bylaws, operating agreement, etc. But I’d wager that the majority of small business owners file their own LLCs and do none of those things.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 10:16 PM
1

Not trying to argue. I’m just saying that you are trying to apply a level of sophistication to OP’s business that mom-and-pop companies do not have. It’s as simple as I made it sound—his STBXW will likely just maintain her stake until the business is sold.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 10:06 PM
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Bold of you to assume he has bylaws 😂
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 09:45 PM
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Small, private company governance is never that sophisticated. STBXW will keep her shares or ask to be bought out at FMV, which is likely $0 in this case, so she will keep her stake until there is a liquidity event (provided OP reaches an exit eventually).
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 09:24 PM
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Nobody here wants to help you cheat. Most of us are victims/survivors of infidelity.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 09:15 PM
1

OP, if you are already 50/50 partners, nothing is liable to change.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 08:17 PM
1

What do you mean by that? A lien/levy? The IRS won’t do that if you have a payment plan.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 08:16 PM
3

Exercise and if you still need something melatonin (but only 2-3x per week at most).
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 04:02 PM
5

The Old Testament would indicate that God is indeed a sociopathic asshole.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 03:25 PM
5

Sounds like she is keeping you in reserve in case monkey branching doesn’t pan out. She will do it again if you get back together. Start planning for divorce and stop trying to win her over.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 03:19 PM
9

You seem to be conflating being a good person and believing in God…so I reject the premise of this post altogether.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 03:17 PM
3

This is why I think it is important to separate the concepts of “feminism” and “gender equality”. I’m all for equal pay, paid maternity leave, access to opportunities for all, etc. But feminism goes beyond equality to promote the whims of women at the expense of men.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 09:53 PM
0

This is extremely typical. My ex did the same. I would advise you to proactively move toward divorce. Lawyer up and prepare to fight. It’s a romantic notion to think you can save your family, but your wife has clearly already made the choice to destroy it. Your marriage is dead.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:19 PM
0

Sometimes they don’t have a man lined up but think that they will be the belle of the ball and have endless suitors.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 10:03 PM
5

Agreed. They deserve the retribution from their children.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 10:01 PM
7

This sentiment bothers me too. People are not mind readers—it is the individual’s responsibility to communicate their needs in a relationship. Moreover, the “failed to meet my needs” justification is often used retroactively to justify cheating, leaving or both. This was certainly the case in my marriage, where my ex had no qualms until she jumped into bed with another man.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 09:56 PM
3

Try to shift your focus to opportunities that have opened up by becoming single. What did your ex hold you back from doing or accomplishing? Mine spent every dime I made, so building financial security and treating myself occasionally are big wins.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 03:57 AM
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Lots of burned bridges, professionally and socially. Stories about her past that don’t add up. Children from a prior marriage (bonus points for tense co-parenting dynamic). Numerous male friends. Female friends who are unscrupulous. Constantly on social media, including posting thirst traps. Coming on to you too strong too quickly (love bombing). Lack of personal financial responsibility. Emotional immaturity or lack of emotional availability. Parents who are overbearing or otherwise shitty.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 03:52 AM
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You want to give her the benefit of the doubt, which is normal at the beginning. She also wants to let you down slowly so you don’t stick up for yourself. My advice is to get some physical distance and start working on the divorce. You will kick yourself later if you take it too easy on her now. And as others have said, there’s a 99% chance she is already cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 03:44 AM
3

Learn to love yourself enough that you don’t need anyone else. Take some time away from dating to work on self-improvement. That’s the only way to break codependency. You have to reach a point where you won’t accept any relationships that won’t improve your already kickass life.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 07:42 PM
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Personally, I read him the riot act and then deleted his phone number. It helped alleviate the white-hot anger to tell him off and allowed me to put him in the rear view mirror. YMMV.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 01:36 AM
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Wish I could tell you this was atypical. Our society makes it too easy for women to skirt accountability in situations like this and blame men. It’s the over-corrective aspect of modern feminism at work.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 01:26 AM
4

In keeping with the Seinfeld theme, you need a cologne that smells like the beach 😂
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 10:07 PM
3

You have a point there.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 01:03 AM
1

This is a good thought. Could also be depression-related (which can also be triggered by low T). I’d have a blood panel done and see a therapist simultaneously.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 12:20 AM
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If you don’t hold her accountable for this, who will? It’s on you to phone in an anonymous tip. She will still have the kids in her life, but she will be forced to behave more responsibly.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 12:19 AM
9

Calling gift giving a love language is just extortion haha. I’m of the opinion that this whole paradigm is just more pandering nonsense for women, a la astrology.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 12:17 AM
3

W reference. Love Blade Runner and all things PKD.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 08:34 PM
4

This forum is the closest thing I’ve found. But it’s a great resource.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 02:58 AM
6

Are you me? It got to the point in my marriage where I just gave up and let my ex drive us everywhere because I couldn’t handle the incessant bitching and micromanaging every time I volunteered to drive.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 07:20 PM
7

Individual counseling is extremely helpful. Couples therapy just tries to “both sides” everything, which is not helpful if one partner is checked out and unfaithful.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 05:17 PM
1

Every accusation is a confession.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 04:13 AM
1

Not to play semantics, but different = better. Things will absolutely get better.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 10:21 PM
4

This x100
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 10:19 PM
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I’m in the exact same boat man. Our mutual friend group is still normalizing my ex’s behavior by continuing to hang out with her and the AP. I guarantee your ex is shining them on and making herself look like the victim. Fuck ‘em. Make some new friends with actual principles.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 10:18 PM
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She’s not your friend man. That will become apparent in the coming weeks. She’s pulling the wool over your eyes. Nut up and prepare for a battle.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 08:59 PM
6

I think you meant “sunk cost fallacy”, but spot on, in any case.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 04:36 AM
3

About $100k but to be fair she blew through that immediately prior to the divorce itself. She also kept the house.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 04:34 AM
14

Definitely don’t work out to impress anyone else. Do it for your own health and wellness.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 11:45 PM
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Don’t dismiss the mental/medical conditions of others flippantly/ignorantly and you won’t get backlash.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 11:03 PM
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You sir are a raging jackass. Turn 6 already.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 09:20 PM
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Okay, doc. Have fun dying before 50 like everyone else before the advent of modern medicine.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 08:31 PM
0

What does that have to do with antidepressants?
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 08:21 PM
2

I don’t agree that forgiveness is a must. That’s a very Christian “turn the other cheek” mindset. Some things are unforgivable.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 06:04 PM
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I am a competitive powerlifter and still take Effexor for my severe anxiety. You are speaking out of your ass. At least offer some citations, or any proof beyond “I SEENT IT!”
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 06:03 PM
0

All good advice other than telling him to stop the antidepressants. Leave the medical advice to his doctor.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 01:31 PM
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If it’s in the divorce decree he can take legal action to force the sale.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 07:54 PM
2

Agreed. It’s so liberating to leave the circus behind.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 05:11 PM
8

It has certainly been a learning experience. I don’t necessarily regret anything because I’ve become a better and wiser man through the process. But the absurdity of my ex’s behavior (and that of her parents) still lingers in my mind. Time is medicine, I suppose.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 05:02 PM
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I don’t think platonic friends of the opposite sex really exist. They are just dormant prospects, at best.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 11:35 PM
2

The payroll provider generally pulls the funds by ACH/wire and pays employees through the same mechanism, in addition to withholding and paying taxes on their behalf. You can and should request payroll records to ensure there is no funny business.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 01:20 PM
6

It’s classic avoidance. She doesn’t want anything around that reminds her of you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 11:28 PM
1

OP, this is a good chance to also ditch religion and fully repair your psyche. You won’t, but you should. SOURCE: I am a former Mormon who is now happily atheist. Religion is always a net negative in your life. The positives can always be found elsewhere without the baggage
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 03:00 PM
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