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but talking about your struggles and emotions is a very feminine activity that women like doing and benefit from more than men Therapy helps both men and women, and calling getting therapy feminine is part of toxic ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:21 PM
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The women who tolerate abusive men have most likely had abusive parents. Unfortunately, that's usually where both abusive men and women learn to be abusive is from abusive parents, who then abuse their own kids and continue the cycle. It takes a remarkable amount of self awareness and mental work to undo the damage. It's one of the most devasting inherited things there is. Plenty of dudes on this page think all of this - gestures broadly at all the things - is a woman's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 05:49 PM
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That's the difference-we know some people, even if they seemed decent before, can make shitty, marriage-ending choices. Are you to blame? I don't know the whole story, but it's entirely possible what you've represented here is the truth and you have little to no blame in the situation. On this page, it is ALWAYS the woman's fault if the man leaves. She should have picked a better man, she shouldn't have had kids with him, she shouldn't have kept having kids with him even though he was a great hu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:32 PM
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I don’t think it makes sense to substantially cut your schedule. In my experience, it was better to make a point of your partner being the number one priority for a day or weekend, or take time off to do something she wants to do. Yes. It's unlikely that a woman means for you to actually cut your hours (unless a dude is working like 60+ hours a week) as most people understand you can't just work less as jobs are typically NOT flexible like that. Sometimes you have to say this is my job, the hour…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 11:39 AM
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Wow, truly men are victims in society. It's such a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 05:25 PM
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The Middle Class TM is a policy decision. Every law or policy that deters having affordable homes, healthcare, job stability, solid pay and opportunity is an assault against the middle class. I have long said a lot of what we see today is because the mines and the factories have largely been shut down and nothing has replaced the hole created.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 09:22 PM
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See I figured we were talking about anal here-seems like other dudes always get pissed if she did anal with someone else, hated it, and now won't with a new guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 08:10 PM
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If the "compromise" is guilting/pressuring/coercing her into sex (whether a certain act or a certain amount of frequency) she isn't comfortable with, then the only option is to break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 08:07 PM
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We tend to be attracted to SOs with the same emotional health patterns that our parents modelled for us. If an attractive woman is only in relationships with dirtbags that mistreat her, it's because of her parents. If a man is only attracted to women who are problematic, it's because of his parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:54 AM
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Thank you for the daily edition of "I'm not like the other girls". I was worried we wouldn't have this here today.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 03:38 PM
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The world crumbles if his way ends up becoming a norm. That's a wild take. Can you explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 02:47 PM
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Trusting men or trusting women in general is naive. Trust with the man or woman you have a long committed relationship with is essential. Don't be in a relationship with someone you can't trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:02 PM
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When men are lacking both SOs and male friendships, that's a recipe for loneliness. Many men enjoy the company of other men rather than that of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 12:28 PM
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It will be a while before this happens, as, depending on the data you look at, only 8-30% of of those making 100K or more are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 12:50 PM
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This sub is obsessed with the mythical man making 100K or more. According to data I found, in 2001, only 8.4% of those making 100K or more were women. The wealthiest men are still out earning woman and it's not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:15 PM
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the whole requirement of women to expect men earn as much as them or more should be abolished Is there a word that combines cringe and hilarious? Because that's what this statement is. What men or women prefer cannot be mandated without a loss of most other freedoms. Further, a preference doesn't mean a person will never date someone outside of that given preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:09 PM
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Societies don't fall apart because wealthy people attract other wealthy people. That's been going on since social class was a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:33 PM
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I like how you went straight for the ad hominem and evaded bringing any critique to her actual argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:13 PM
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Their point is men don't hate women, but even when they clearly do, it's okay because they said so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 09:58 PM
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What got him in trouble was the false accusation, not speaking to her per se.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 12:32 PM
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If you are sitting there pleased, like this was some kind of gotcha ' that proves men > women, then the secondhand embarrassment I have for you isn't wasted.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 06:26 PM
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It's a dog whistle. Men I've run across who use these terms got them from RP or incel content. You can say it's nothing, which is the beauty of plausible deniability.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 12:34 PM
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I don't understand the men that haven't built ride or die relationships around them, nor the excuse that they aren't possible. They are and they're great.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 12:01 PM
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r/MenAndFemales Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 11:58 AM
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I don't think the men you are referring to have robust social lives either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 12:55 AM
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So are women happily ditching dating because they have satisfying friendship circles or is that a lie somehow?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 12:53 AM
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Your first tip is going to be to stop calling women feeee-males. You ain't the Grand Nagus bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 12:52 AM
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I get what you are saying about the organized groups and their numbers. That wasn't what I was going for, and I can understand others not knowing the nuance I meant to convey. I should not have used the term white supremacist per se. But, being a white person myself, and the things other white people say to me when they think no minorities are around and even when they are, even my liberal friends, are telling. I don't think everyone one of these people belongs to an organized group, but I do th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 03:35 PM
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White supremacists are already the dominant majority. Women, especially those in poor countries, are not. It's funny you can't see the difference between an in-group and and out-group. White supremacists in the US for instance want to force non-white people out of neighborhoods and whatnot, to rollback any programs that helped to level the playing field for minorities. Women just want to not be raped and have equal treatment and rights as men. The two are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 11:30 AM
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What's wrong with the UN article? The title is "The Future is Female" and the article demonstrates the way women are suppressed yet still do much unpaid work that benefits their communities. Wanting women to be seen by men as equals is VERY different from the shit Tate is grifting on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 11:25 AM
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I've read from various sources that only 15% of people with an ASD diagnosis are able to work and even then many have a hard time maintaining employment.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 06:49 PM
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I can't believe this is that far down. Them: STOP HAVING CHILDREN YOU CAN'T AFFORD... birth rates decline Them: NOT LIKE THAT!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 06:42 PM
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For women in other countries, it also means a loss of or huge reduction of their pension, which will literally impact them from the time the retire until they die. For many (not most or even a majority), abusive behavior on the man's part emerges upon the birth of a child. Many women find out the men they thought they knew decide that they don't have to do anything for the kids or the home once a baby comes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 01:31 AM
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I say freaking bravo to anyone who does the mental math and realizes they are not an adult who should also be a parent
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 01:27 AM
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What are you saying-that women are having sex with men more than ever before and men are still unhappy and unhealthy?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 09:05 PM
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You might add /s as some will read the first half and not think you are being facetious. This is PPD after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 08:59 PM
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IKR? Like this guy-surely it's the women that he'd have to edit his speech around that's the problem and not his toxic views.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 09:30 PM
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Have you tried not holding problematic views?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 08:37 PM
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For some women, it can be very difficult or impossible to orgasm, even though she and her husband try their best. That is nobody's fault, and sometimes there is no other option than just accept it. Sex can be loving and pleasurable without it. True love is worth it, even without orgasm. Unless there is a physical or mental health reason a woman cannot orgasm, then it is likely the man's fault if a woman never gets an orgasm from him. A man who actually loves a woman will care about her orgasm as…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:51 AM
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That’s a particularly tough one as people either used facts or a YT video to form their opinions on vaccines.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 12:31 AM
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I'm here because I see so much nonsense wrong thinking. Someone has to reject the echo chamber, and I'm glad for the other people here for the same reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:53 AM
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Majority of men on this sub need friends, whether male or female, before they get girlfriends
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:52 PM
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So if men are similarly striking out, the issue is with the individual man, not women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:37 PM
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I meant it’s unsubstantiated that feminists at large demand men make more money than them. I agree in the US that men are often expected to pay for a first date which is whack. It’s a cultural norm. When I lived overseas (Germany) this blissfully was not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 10:33 AM
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IDK. That’s an unsubstantiated claim you are making that they do. Marriage should be a partnership and people should certainly discuss roles and expectations long before any kids arrive or are created. I think people need to embrace inexpensive initial get togethers like coffee or going for a walk. As has been mentioned at times as well, women can have internalized misogyny as well. It sucks for both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 09:46 PM
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What makes me the most skeptical of feminists is that I’ve never, ever, heard them put forth an idea they don’t directly benefit from. Can you share an example of what you mean? Of course women do not want to be expected to work full time for money and then also take care of everything related to child rearing and the home and are the majority of rape victims are going to seek societal changes to counteract this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:34 AM
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I'm sorry that was your lived experience. I hope you can kick a$$ and progress to earning more. I hope that people like you will share your story about the reality of what you endured.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:10 PM
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TRADLarp. I love this. I don't think that SAHM/SAHW work is always subjugation. It is no doubt very difficult to do. The subjugation happens when the work is forced and/or when the money-earning spouse cuts the SAHP off from money that should be shared between them (and other financially abusive actions).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:04 PM
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It would be. Give me a rich spouse and no kids and I'd happily cosplay well kept spouse and homemaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:43 PM
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I’ll be in the Philippines in a few weeks, anyone want anything? I want the type of community you have. One of our kids has developmental challenges and it's been so isolating. I've forgotten what it's like to be social, or to have disposable income (OT, SLT and the other therapies we've paid for over the years are the cost of a European vacation each year).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 10:28 AM
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These must haves for women will often revolve around safety-is he physically abusive, does he have a volatile temper, etc. These are not things men typically think of when they think of their must haves.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:07 PM
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A woman who doesn't have to have a man loves the man she's with. Unless-are you saying the only value men bring to women is their money?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 11:33 AM
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They prefer the benefits they get from more traditional dynamics They prefer having leverage over women. It's so much easier when when she has no other options but to marry and then to appease her husband in every way. Even better when there are no more no-fault divorces and she has no recourse out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 11:29 AM
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What I want is an institution that would provide me with what I need Maybe YOU should vet better. You'd rather burn it all down for everyone than to take responsibility for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:10 PM
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This is a monstrous take. You are an extremist. It sounds like you want to make it illegal for a woman to divorce you because you've deemed these many abusive situations as merely irreconcilable differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:36 PM
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Victims can prove the spouse is at fault. Just world fallacy much?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:32 PM
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Not that I wish to exploit them but where are all these women with zero self esteem? The women with low self esteem, unless they've undergone a lot of interventions, are going to gravitate to the same types of men they saw growing up and not the emotionally whole man who would actually treat her better. If you are not attracting women with low self esteem, it's a sign that 1. they fixed their broken picker before encountering you or 2. you yourself resolved a lot of trauma and are attracting fel…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 10:35 AM
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I'm glad it ultimately worked out for you. And isn't that sad that she was incapable of seeing herself as worth more? That she needed to work on why she rejected more stable men and was worth the effort to fix her broken picker?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 11:21 AM
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Most people do not know that they are attracted to the same dysfunctional types that raised them. They don't "choose" it. It's the world they grow up in and it's very difficult to recognize, much less change that dynamic. That's why I sit here and shake my head about these posts. Men and the woman are playing out everything they've learned about relationships, whether you came from a healthy family and have matched to a similarly emotionally healthy spouse or if you matched to a similarly emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:38 PM
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Ironically, humans would rather choose a known hell, than an unknown heaven. Most people do not know that they are attracted to the same dysfunctional types that raised them. They don't "choose" it. It's the world they grow up in and it's very difficult to recognize, much less change that dynamic. That's why I sit here and shake my head about these posts. The men and the woman are playing out everything they've learned about relationships. If a woman is attracted to terrible men, there's a reaso…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:36 PM
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If it's someone you care about, why wouldn't you get them something on such obvious gift observances?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 11:18 PM
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When women have a choice, they will opt not to when there is a lack of support. Poor women in poor countries don't have that choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 01:33 PM
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I am sorry to hear that. I overstepped and I apologize. Having $hitty parents is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. There’s a lot of us over at r/raisedbynarcissists and other subs of those of us with similarly dysfunctional upbringing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 05:39 PM
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The best case scenario was for you not to grow up a toxic asshole, yet you are still blaming your mom for trying to keep you from becoming an abusive person. My dad also sucked. Every adult in my life sucked actually. It sounds like you had at least one parent who gave a damn about you, and here you are showing her efforts were in vain.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 03:45 PM
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Have none of you dudes gotten relationship advise from anyone but their mums? First, no, I don't believe every mum would say "just be yourself!" unless her son already had the other pieces in place. This whole 'mums are the ONLY ones who originated BS relationship advice' makes for a pretty easy strawman red/blackpill likes to think it defeats. Where were your dads or the dad-figures in your life? Did you have friends to talk to about this? I know I did. I'd reiterate that if you didn't have the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 10:07 PM
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Sorry, who in this scenario is supposed to give the dude the bullet points panacea to his dating woes?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:57 PM
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Are you saying that when women report that certain men that have hit on them had not taken care of even basic hygiene-are you saying this never happens to women? Dunno' about you but one of my friends looked like he's never flossed his teeth and that crap was nasty. I mean, yellow-white soft scum around every tooth. Barf.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:53 PM
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You can know. You ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:49 PM
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What do you expect women to do about your plight?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:46 PM
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Would it be hypocritical if a masculine man wanted a trad woman who's faithful and defers to him as the head of the household, but also brings in an income? If that's what they both want, of course it would not be hypocritical. It's springing these things on someone/bait and switch that is crappy behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:27 PM
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The opposite of non-violent isn't masculine. A man who feels safe to be around and is emotionally whole isn't feminine. You're missing his point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:24 PM
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Ron Swanson-that you? What do you even say to other men that opine you are being taken advantage of by your wife? I don't think that way. I've been married almost 18 years with a very equal/equitable partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:17 PM
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Men dressing in nice business clothes doesn't make women horny. Lots of women are turned on by a man in suit. If you don't think women are visually turned on by what a man is wearing, maybe that's just your experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:16 PM
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they appear to literally believe you just be good looking and women show up and sit on your dick while you act like a plank of wood We don't always agree on here, but this is grade a based. This is now my image of the black pilled man's expectations. Thanks I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 09:14 PM
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Wow, I expected so much more introspection from the dudes who unironically inhabit this sub /s, but yeah, that is telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 10:33 PM
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On this sub, typically not
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 06:45 PM
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Men *not all men* get in their own way. They could have the kinds of friendships and support systems that women have.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:10 PM
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My grandfather beat my grandmother in daylight outside and no one "interfered with family business".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:09 PM
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I don’t think my wife would have done well if she had to juggle a full time job and young children at the same time. Why wouldn't it have been both of you juggling a full time job and young children at the same time?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:48 PM
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Don't PP/black pill/incel men always say that women should have chosen better? Why don't they ever think they themselves should have chosen better?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:42 PM
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Birth control is the responsibility of any man who doesn't wish to get a woman pregnant. The woman should also be using some form of birth control. There is zero chance I'd rely solely on a woman saying she's on the pill/has a IUD, etc. The reason you don't use your own BC is because you like not having to use it, because sex w/o a condom can be a lot more fun than sex with one. If she gets pregnant because you didn't feel like putting on a condom, then the fallout is legally going to be shared …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:21 PM
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I can see a lot of problems in the US with one’s genetic info available to be able to deny you health insurance
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:16 PM
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It's strange to me that you don't see a reason for a man to stay with a woman he's built his life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 03:00 PM
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Are you new on here? If so, and you stick around, you will see that lots of black-pilled men believe women ONLY want men over 6 foot tall with a 6 figure income.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 02:56 PM
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*All after her full day of work and picking up the kids on her way home
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:05 PM
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I am shooketh as I have never agreed with a red-piller more than this comment. Thank you for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 09:18 PM
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Dang, it used to be required that the dude made 100K to be datable. Now it's 500K? Inflation's really a bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 09:11 PM
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That's not exactly a robust study. It IS data reflecting opinions. It does not measure how much men are actually doing in the home.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:14 PM
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, but also damn near every post brought up that they had to contribute financially Yes, if you are being expected to take care of kids as soon as you get home, take care of the household, the kids' social calendar, the sign ups for all the activities, meal planning, shopping, cooking cleaning, homework etc. AND shoulder almost half the financial burden while the husband goes and does whatever he likes because he expects his wife to do all these things and thinks it's beneath him to shoulder thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 01:30 PM
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Do you really believe that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 12:26 PM
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Thank you for such a predictable answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 04:22 PM
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I think I'd be more helpful for you to state why you identify as conservative and why you break from the orthodoxy, rather than attempt to show up, say hashtag not all conservatives, get all shocked Pikachu when someone states something from the platform that you happen not to identify with, when it is very much still most conservatives and what they are known for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 12:20 PM
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If they are pro-choice or endorse exceptions in addition to mother's life is in danger, then they probably aren't conservative or Evangelical. Not all Christians are conservatives or Evangelicals.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 12:15 PM
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My mom is perfectly okay with a 10 year old being refused an abortion and believes in no exceptions. So, once that newborn is birthed it can starve for all she cares, because in her economy the only thing that matters is that the baby be born. I am on the Christian subs and can confirm the Evangelicals, conservatives and Catholics are quite united on this front.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 07:20 PM
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You are aware that USian conservatives are not known for their support of programs that would reduce the demand for abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 07:17 PM
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This made me laugh. And, realizing you are not wrong, that let the wind right back out of the proverbial sails.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 11:28 AM
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while men are expected to take care of the car, move anything, hang everything, clean the gutters, take out and bring in trash, mow the lawn, irrigate the lawn, replace anything that needs to be replaced, pay bills. Imagine thinking that those occasional things are harder than the unending hours of tasks that women typically perform daily
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:34 PM
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I honestly think they don't realize that they are completely lacking in social skills and/or looks. I mean, it makes sense, Dunning Kruger effect and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 09:06 PM
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If I'm reading into their comments correctly, I think steliogural would say their approach is tough love, just as some Christians think it's loving to confront what they see as sin in others. "It's not loving to let people stay in their dysfunction". I'm not saying I agree with this rationale, just that this is an attitude I see repeated often enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:45 PM
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You can have whatever personal definition of non-dysfunctional you like. If you like the results, then I'm happy for you. I have one woman friend who might think this behavior is initially attractive, and yes she's been through a lot of trauma and her picker is broken. The rest would run.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:06 PM
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If you understand why traumatized people often don't make great relationship decisions, then you know there is more to it but ignore it anyway, then you lack empathy. Or, if you don't know why traumatized people often follow their parent's shitty examples, then you are lacking knowledge. If you legitimately want to help people, stop victim blaming and help people understand the types of boundaries they can put up and encourage them to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:56 PM
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You think like a cuck You think like someone who has been burned. While it's terrible to deceive a spouse/partner, living your life for the worst possible outcome comes at a huge cost to intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:05 PM
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I figured. More dudes on TPP need to realize that LOTS of women like option #2. They can't conceive that the Nice Guy TM is boring as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:38 PM
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If you need to believe that emotionally available, non-dysfunctional woman are falling for your schtick, then God speed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:06 PM
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It depends on the sensitivity that is attractive? Are you are flocking to self-hating men who are constantly down on themselves or are you attracted to introspective men who are interested in more than football?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:22 PM
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It sounds like all you did was corner the dysfunctional ladies market. I mean, if the goal is just sex, congrats. If you want a relationship, you're going to have to become an emotionally whole dude who knows how to interact with emotionally sound women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:14 PM
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You lack empathy and you are ignorant of why people stay with abusive people. It has nothing to do with "smart".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 01:59 PM
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It's really unhealthy that you don't trust anyone and can't grasp that trust is vitally important in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 08:21 PM
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If you are a woman making more than your husband, and you make friends at work, then it stands to reason your friends will be similarly situated.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 04:00 PM
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Is this concept really that difficult for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:14 PM
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People who react like this would show their true colors pretty quickly even if the woman said yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 08:26 PM
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That sounds like a man who needs good therapy so he doesn't end up in a relationship like his parent's. And yes, women from narc parents also need therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 08:24 PM
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It's pretty sad that you've got dudes on here that can't even make friends with other guys, but somehow women are at fault for not dating them even when the dudes clearly have broad spectrum issues with socialization.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:29 PM
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Ariana Grande Why isn't Ethan Slater in your thoughts as a homewrecker?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:21 PM
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Oh they clearly see women being able to date as somehow a zero sum game for them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:18 PM
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You want women to abort just because the sex is male?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:17 PM
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Women are biologically adapted to give birth. The rest of the things you mention have to do with culture and gender expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 11:11 AM
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Bruh, your meltdown here is something. You being upset about not getting a date is not the same weight or importance as evolving a society that doesn't use rape against others.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:06 PM
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Wait, is your sample size only 25 women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:53 AM
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Look at Col. Sanders No one wants to look at Col. Sanders. Please explain what you mean bc this is hilarious. ETA: I looked at pictures of young Col. Sanders. I can confirm he was never hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:50 PM
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Hes just proving why not to marry. He's proving why he needs to make a ton of money so he can support a trad wife. I'm happy for them both if that's what they want, and he was honest about it before hand (though I weep for any woman who signs up for a relationship where she will knowingly be thought of as doing menial work).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:29 PM
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They whine about having to show any sort of gratitude towards men for doing the simplest of tasks, but what they don't understand is why men seek and need that gratitude for these task. Doing housework is emasculating for a man, because he's concerned that he's being less attractive by doing it. Since your default is that housework is women's work, you're going to be completely unappealing to those who want a partnership relationship. I'm sure you're good with that. If you are seeking a relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 11:17 AM
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magically enjoys sex after it not being important to her enough to be a virgin (VERY low chance) magically enjoys sex after being told all her life it's dirty and sinful FIFY
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:14 PM
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Take a lesson from all the Evangelicals who fell for the hype of "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". If you are not in a closed religious community where courting is the norm, then there's a very small chance you are going to meet your dream young virgin or get asked to court their daughter because if you are not in their circle, you will never be a consideration. The Evangelicals who attempted to follow courtship paradigms but were not in a community where courting is the norm found themselves single.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:10 PM
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We laughed at the MGTOW movement I didn't, as I'm sure many others didn't. If being in a modern marriage relationship, or modern marriage relationship doesn't suit a man or a woman, you don't have to do it. Based on studies showing increased singleness and celibacy, we do know that more and more women are not finding the men they want and more and more men are not finding the women they want. Why is this? That's the entire discussion now, isn't it. But anyone who decides to opt out entirely, I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:34 PM
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LOLs. Thank you for confirming you were not actually doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:13 PM
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Working to provide money is often stressful. However, it's delusional to think that providing home management isn't also a large, stressful task. I mean, if you half ass it I suppose you'd really cut down the amount of work it is. But meal planning/grocery shopping/cooking/clean up is work, as is managing the bills as many women do, along with cleaning the entire home, or managing the laundry, or ensuring the kids have sports sign ups during the year, taking kids to said sports, getting all the …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 10:24 AM
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Have you missed the entire exposed phenomena of 'tolerable level of permanent unhappiness'? Women have generally made it obvious to men they are sinking due to the man's utter unwillingness to contribute to the management of their home/kids, but he's chosen to ignore her pleas for partnership. He goes to work and comes home and increases to the work his wife has to do, and eventually she realizes life would be easier without an extra, incompetent adult in the home. https://www.youtube.com/watch?…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 10:11 AM
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If we take the case of the deadbeat dad, why on Earth would we criticize the mother when she is the one who stepped up and took on the role of parenting, while the other parent just noped out of all responsibilities It's PPD. These dudes are committed to one thing: women bad
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 08:24 PM
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There's way more to having kids than bringing them into the world, and I'm tired of the blase attitude that ignores this otherwise. And again, the US government isn't doing anything that would address the immense challenges parents face. If people want to brag about not having kids, why should you care? I don't see most of SM persona bragging, just existing as single people. If people don't want to have kids, why would we pressure them to do so anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:27 AM
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If you get angry that she mentions she's single and childless, the problem is with you. If she didn't point out she's single/child free, you'd have haters saying she's neglecting her SO or child by living her life. I'm a married breeder and am happy when people are happily child free. And yeah, she's has a lot more free time than those in a relationship and/or with kids. Why shouldn't she or any other single person enjoy their time?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 10:56 AM
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Hey look at how easy my life is, since I decided to not contribute to the continued existence of humanity." I'm in the US. My spouse and I make good money. We have two kids. I'd never expect anyone to have kids in this country unless they were well prepared to do so. Our society does fuck all to support those who have kids. For the years our kids were in day care and PreK, we shelled out over 70K. Jobs generally do not support work-life balance. Asking people to make immense sacrifices for human…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 10:51 AM
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So I went down the rabbit hole on this one. Yes, this is a bunch of AH women calling ick on thousands of the most benign things. One woman said a man using a seat belt was her ick. May she spontaneously yeet into the sun. We all have those goofy moments (most would be equally cringe if a woman was recorded doing it) and it's shitty behavior to put these men on blast for doing nothing other than living their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:33 PM
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How does the government make it so that it's only men's tax dollars that pay for WIC, Medicaid, SNAP, TANF, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:09 PM
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Hair replacement is a thing. If you're going to complain that it's expensive, women already have lots of experience paying for expensive products just to be presentable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:43 PM
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"You'll find someone when you least expect it" is only true for women and boomers" So, just who are these women finding someone with? Only other women and boomers?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:57 PM
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Alternately, the men who are able to provide well for their trad-families will also be successful. Women will still want their men to be active fathers, and that's where many trad-dads still fall short.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 02:15 PM
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I've read that the rate of those who stay married is actually higher than 50% if you back out those who divorce more than once. A prior divorce makes one more likely to divorce again. The reality is that dysfunctional people tend to pair with one another. People who grew up with instability are also more likely to inadvertently pair with a narcissist. Let's not pretend that it's only women or only men who contribute to bad relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:04 PM
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It may be meaningless to you. Marriage is still meaningful for many. The fact that marriage can end is good for both parties. The fact that no one has to prove a right to a divorce is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:59 AM
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It sounds like you have been to the nether regions of the interwebs and have formulated some bizarre beliefs about women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 04:12 PM
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But OP would still blame her in that case, because in OP's mind everything is the woman's fault
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 04:09 PM
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For the 4-5 years that each of my two kids needed daycare and PreK, we paid out a combined 70K in a LCOL-MCOL area. Our day care/PreK bill was far more than our mortgage payments and utilities combined.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 10:42 PM
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As much as I want to believe it's all women's fault for not teaching you everything you needed to know /s, the thing that has drastically changed is our level of social engagement and the amount of socialization we are expected to engage in-and our ability to practice and master social situations has likewise collapsed. The Boomers knew how to be social. I'll give them that. It was generally along strict gender norms. The Gen Xers were on track until video games and computers arrived, only for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:07 PM
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Defending. He does sound interesting and cultured.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 01:27 PM
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Yes, and it sounds like he’s accurate in that summation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:36 AM
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PPD faithful are committed to a male victim narrative. Men largely left teaching because it became unsavory to be a man and a teacher and the wages are low for what you do. Men are welcome to come back to teaching and to be nurses. They'll encounter far less sexsism and harassment than women attempting to enter male dominated fields like construction and engineering.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:44 PM
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Hopefully you recognize that many women don't approve of circumcision and believe in bodily autonomy for both men and women. Also, women only have reproductive rights before, during and after pregnancy insofar as their state allows it. Do you think the women filing suit in Texas have reproductive rights? Who makes the laws around here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:28 PM
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I read a very good article about some of the issues affecting boys in US education. I wish I could find it. It was written from a male perspective. One of the TL;DR suggestions was to delay entry into Kindergarten for boys to offset the gap when girls surge in middle school. Essentially, this is when boys most fall behind girls due to girls onset of brain changes associated with early puberty. Also, to have incentives for more men to become teachers again.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:20 PM
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Why so angry, bro? It's not a definition. It's just one decoded aspect of what is meant by "work on your personality". Many feel having common interests are vital to a relationship. It's not enough to love a person-you gotta' like them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 11:27 AM
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When people say 'work on your personality', a big part of that is to develop hobbies and interests. If all you do is work and spend time on screens, be it TV, video games or (gasp) Reddit, that means you don't have much interesting going on in your life. That is not attractive. And yes, personality matters and I've met lots of wonderful and a few terrible people memorable bc of their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:07 PM
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You should be able to have a conversation. Not an interview of her, not a soliloquy about yourself, but a nearly effortless back and forth about any topic series you share common interest in. That's where the feeling of chemistry comes in, because it's usually not easy. Some people are really hard to talk to, common topics are hard to come by, and unfortunately nerves can get the better of us and diminish our vibe. During the conversation, especially on the first 1-2 dates, you keep it easy and …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 01:01 PM
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Or, hear me out, it's not a reflection of US women but it's just a cultural difference? Many women would prefer the equity found across the pond. Here, if you are a woman and insist on splitting the check, you'll come across men who say she's not feminine enough because she won't let him pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:23 PM
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Can confirm: Almost every woman at the WF in Louisville is fit and our WMs other than the affluent areas are as you describe
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 08:06 PM
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Seeing the other side as the enemy is sure to sow loads of toxic views. I'm not sure if solutions are possible when so many enrich themselves monetarily deepening the problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 01:21 PM
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You sound emotionally healthy, at least for sure in this respect. I would imagine you do just fine in the dating world?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 11:34 AM
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how can intimate chemistry develop without doing intimate things? That's not how it works. Positive interaction leads to attraction which leads to chemistry which leads to physical intimacy. Do your conversations flow? If there is awkwardness, lots of lulls in the conversation? Did you click effortlessly with these women, with them being as into the conversation as you? With the right person, it's not even a challenge to keep it going. Moreover, it's fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:10 AM
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Chef's kiss on this one. Perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:12 PM
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If normies like myself and my spouse found love and companionship for 17 plus years, it's good to share what got us here. Also, to sit here and SMH when I hear men have to be a 12 on a 10 point scale just to get a date with a 5, when I commonly see the opposite in married folks in real life. I honestly want to understand how people come to think the way that they do about dating and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:05 PM
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Hardly. He's a straight up neck beard, but with $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:40 PM
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Whether you are a man or woman, no one expects you to date someone you find completely unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:16 PM
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Both sides are socialized in ways that lead to the conflict seen on this page (and society writ large) day in and day out. Or do you think only men have a difficult time finding a good partner because of socialization?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 01:09 PM
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I think it's more proof that both men and women receive contradictory and self-defeating socialization that does not translate into the current economy of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 11:07 AM
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Haven’t read comments, but I think what you’re describing in the first paragraph is a capable and mature man. Not necessarily traditionally masculine. There’s a certain lack of people possessing these qualities overall so it makes sense that it can be hard to find one. I agree. I'd add that she could assess the why for the 50/50 dates and some of her other potentially superficial deal breakers, she could winnow through the men who are 50/50 on dates due to selfishness and those who do it because…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 11:05 AM
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My spouse and I started out thinking we were complementarian, which is where most trad relationships reside, but we've long since discovered we are both functionally and inherently an egalitarian coupling.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:56 AM
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even though confidence and security are traditional masculine expectations, Confidence/self acceptance/self worth is universally attractive, male or female. Lack of confidence, male or female, is a huge turn off. That type of woman doesn't draw men in. While men (nor women) are not a monolith, I've been here long enough to see men unironically complain about dysfunctional women, especially those who pair up with lousy mates. Men get so mad at the women whose partners turn out to be arses or were…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:47 AM
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We may actually agree here? I am stating it's absurd to think women are living it up on food stamps. It's Reddit and TPP and I have absolutely seen this stance taken unironically. /s goes a long way if you meant this sarcastically, especially on this page
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 06:54 PM
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They would have to see the woman as human and an equal. It's so much easier to determine that she is sub-human.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:16 PM
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Your statement would be hilarious if not so sad and demonstrably wrong. The info is out there for the income limits to qualify for food stamps.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:14 PM
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Are there any subs on Reddit that more robustly represent a circle jerk than PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:08 PM
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That's awesome. Y'all truly sound like a team.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 12:13 PM
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Who takes care of the infinite details, like doctor appointments, gifts for Christmas/mother's day/birthdays/vacations?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 07:56 PM
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Pre-nups are an option
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 07:55 PM
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This is what I came to say-that ASD women have generally better masking ability
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:02 PM
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There is a big difference between approaching a woman where it isn't socially acceptable and having happened to strike up a mutual conversation in said places and it leads to something more. It's okay for woman to not find you attractive and not want to chat. It's okay for a man not to find a woman attractive. If you can't tell the difference, maybe the woman isn't the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:56 PM
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This has been one of the more difficult aspects of this sub. There's little logic involved and conflicts with itself so frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:41 PM
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"Jesus hold me tight and give me smooches". Bonafide hilarious. Modern worship and praise music can be so painfully cheesy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:20 PM
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If the religion specifically gears people to roles dictated by sex, why would it be otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:14 PM
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I am aware of the No True Scotsman fallacy, but if a conservative girl is suddenly willing to rebel against her upbringing, that doesn't seem like the girl an earnest young Christian man would want anyway? I live in a Bible college and seminary town. These kids are married in their 20s. When I attended seminary, I was one of a handful of single students (I didn't attend undergrad there). The college is a veritable singlehood to marriage pipeline.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:57 AM
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Do above average guys go after below average girls for relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:37 AM
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Did you know that WW2 ended more than 75 years ago? Modern day Germany rocks. Relationships are far more egalitarian, so it's not the man doing all the paying and the planning. You don't have to make 6 figures, because robust social nets provide for citizens. Parents actually receive money from the government for each child, and you never have to worry about paying a huge bill for college.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:31 AM
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Don't you think the reality is that generally no one wants to be hit on by someone they find unattractive and/or awkward?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:23 AM
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Don't confuse things that generally true with possible outliers. When I lived where there were trains, it was generally true that you kept to yourself. It was very, very rare to strike up a conversation with someone you didn't already know. When such a conversation occurred, could one of those lead to more? Sure. Once I definitely saw chemistry flying, but it was two attractive people being receptive to talking to each other. If they went out later, I wouldn't be surprised, but I wouldn't have c…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:17 AM
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NGL I thought it would be common sense not to approach a woman with a child in a parking lot. She's not just thinking of her safety, but also her child's. I think it's sus behavior to approach a woman in a parking lot in general, so I'm not sure how one would do that in a sociable way. It you two were talking on the way out and you come back to ask for a number, sure. But cold calling essentially, where she's never even seen you before, nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:03 AM
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I would imagine single moms face similar discrimination. Unfortunately, when kids are involved, it does add a layer of challenge to a relationship, and I can't really fault some for not wanting that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:53 AM
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Men telling on themselves with that
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:40 AM
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If redpill causes you to go from obese with no hobbies to fit with hobbies (such as working out, hiking, literally anything that isn't in front of a screen), and you had a good personality already, then yes, redpill can make a VERY positive change in your success with women. You've learned to invest in yourself, you feel more confident, and you've learned about major turn offs. If redpill gets you abs but you have anti-social traits and/or toxic views of women as , much less develop even more to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:40 PM
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I wonder if the people who refuse to believe that emotional wholeness is what's needed is because it's just so hard to attain for those who truly struggle socially. You have someone with the aura of desperation, tell them all they need is some abs and cleverly placed negging, and voila-instant sex god. When that doesn't work, because the person is still prone to emotional instability and lots of women pick up on manipulation like negging and run, they go further in and further out into the manos…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 06:06 PM
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Understandable. Once trust is broken enough that one thinks cheating is a possibility, there's not much left worth redeeming.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:41 PM
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I hate that for her-for any woman. I'm starting to think the pills are helping men attract increasingly dysfunctional women, because emotionally healthy women look at the behavior and nope out. ETA I watched the videos. I'm sad for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:22 PM
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I only mention this because you say you are intelligent, but, did you know your writing has many grammar errors? If English is your first language... Also, if most have a negative reaction to you, the rest of us aren't the issue. Third, you are using circular logic: I say I won because I won so I won doesn't mean you won. Lastly: if I can put people off by using complexity of thought about topics THEY like, that says something about me. It does, and it's not the flex you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:23 PM
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Men don't merely do it too, they commit these types of crimes as the dominant demographic, like only 5 of the almost 2500 mass shootings were NOT men. Surely you are rage baiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:33 AM
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People have memorable dating experiences, both good and bad. It's not any more mysterious than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:44 PM
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I'm not sure of your take here. She's talking about him because he was horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:07 PM
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I am aware of the unspoken rule, which is why I asked if you both work to sort out plans. That's great that you both do the legwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:27 PM
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Whomever pays and/or drives should definitely get a thank you from the other person. Do you collaborate on coming up with activity ideas, or are you pretty much responsible for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:03 PM
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guess you’re hot enough for me Negging is for emotionally stunted men. At least he made it obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:42 PM
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Did you offer to pay for these trips? What are you providing that feels exploitative to you? Does she pay for anything? Are they expensive outings or inexpensive? You don't have to answer obviously, but I am curious what you feel the expectations are. When you say shuttle, do you mean your car? Does she have a car? If so, why not use hers?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:58 PM
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The language is but a peek behind the curtain. These men really think of women is such ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:48 PM
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Women are not a monolith. Some might like this treatment, or see it as college experimentation, but many won't. Some will see it as abusive. I'm not sure it's a win to have relationships with women who like what seems to me is emotionally manipulative behavior. Women want an exciting sex life, but usually that's found with a trusted person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:36 AM
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Do you get dates? Have you had LTRs? I'm curious because it seems like such an outlook would repel women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 11:01 PM
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So, how do you explain this phenomenon? Men are desperate to pin their frustrations on women. All the manosphere stuff that points to women being less than for XYZ is just giving men a place to point their anger. What you are seeing is that plenty of men think differently than you and they are able to pursue LTRs including marriage. Calling all these women sluts is a pretty good tell of anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 07:30 PM
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My friend is a woman who was in the US armed forces. She said that according to men she served with, all women were bitches or sluts, and a bitch is a slut that won't go out with you. Great caliber of people we have defending the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 07:08 PM
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My post will not address ONS. I've yet to see a post that properly emcompasses the reasons men are having issues dating, namely because there are so many reasons. Differing men have differing reasons. The solution for an incel is not the solution for the insecure man which is not the solution for the man who works 70 hours and still barely makes enough to pay for his own basic bills. Those raised in dysfunctional homes don't even see that's why they are attracting/not attracting the right kind o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 04:10 PM
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Agreed. If you think to yourself "I'm a bum magnet" or only attract women who use you, you have to work on the common denominator-yourself-as to why you are attracted to such behavior in perspective SOs. Most people would rather continue the same bad relationship but with a new person rather than sort out their own dysfunction.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:06 PM
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You don't know what you don't know. Many of us had to go through different flavors of dysfunctional relationships to learn what to look for in a partner. Also, maybe narcissists shouldn't be manipulative monsters?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:03 PM
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Sometimes only first hand experience can teach us what unhealthy patterns look like. I'm so glad you learned to recognize such unhealthy behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:00 PM
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Man and I got made fun of in this sub yesterday referring to MLP FIM. I mean, I'm not criticising y'all. HSM3 was the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 02:27 PM
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In most countries in Western Europe , there is more of an egalitarian mindset for both parties to share in earning income and childcare duties AND significant social safety nets 2 is very important. You don't need to make 6 figures to have a nice life with a family in most of these countries. Health insurance is baked into your taxes or somewhat covered by your job. People are less desperate (though the fuel crisis in the UK is no joke) because of social supports.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:54 PM
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you hold the characters up as feminine ideals is a look. Yeah, I never said they were. Don't hyperextend yourself reaching, now
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 03:28 PM
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Probably bc some quantity of men want to pluck a field of virgins and not remain so themselves. I get this was likely your point, but, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:27 PM
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I wish I could find the thread, but there was an excellent article and discussion on this topic a few months back on another men oriented subreddit. TLDR was girls brains develop sooner (earlier onset to puberty) than boys, allowing them to both behave and succeed academically, and then boys tend not to recover. If you are from a family that helps your boys to succeed, they overcome these obstacles. But those who don't fall behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 01:31 PM
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Dude, I watched MLPFIM with my kids. It's got mythos, plot lines, and character development.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 01:00 PM
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Who is making men ask out women they don't actually want to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 12:55 PM
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Literally all the mane 6 are female characters and represent both feminine and overall strengths.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 06:11 PM
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We do have differing perspectives there-I legitimately would watch the movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 04:31 PM
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I agree with you here. I don't think the financial risk should be outsourced to men. I think the man should be up front about wanting casual, get-to-know-you dates at first-a coffee shop, a walk in the park...I've never understood a spending a lot of money on a first date dinner and a movie when 1. it's hard to talk while truly hungry and eating and 2. there's no talking during the movie so you don't come away knowing much about the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 03:29 PM
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Men have agency and choose who to ask out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:17 PM
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Reply edited.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 04:20 PM
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My "on good terms" ex is still attractive, I'm just no longer attracted to them. I love updates on their life. I wish them well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:06 PM
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Someone hurt you badly
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:04 PM
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I'm sorry that happened. It was never your fault. It's only a rapist's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 10:25 PM
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Women out there aren't fretting bc sex work exists. OP I find this mostly a delusional diatribe against women. Men don't have to "simp". It's an option not to. Why would a woman care that a prettier woman is dating a man she herself isn't interested in? Like, please help me understand your logic here. I'm sorry your experience with women has apparently only been highly transactional, but most women don't date for freebies. Well, what if some of those men, who are just looking for someone to spen…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:50 PM
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Working a job with breaks and lunchtime and 40 hours a week is generally going to be a lot easier than a job where you are on duty all the time. If the person working expects to do nothing while home, and the other person is expected to keep working regardless, IDK sounds like a recipe for conflict to me, as it's inherently unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 06:55 PM
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I think if it seems invasive to you, trying to control you, I agree, and vote pro-choice
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:44 PM
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Being legitimately interested in others is hot. Faking it is not. Sorry, I didn't set out to rhyme.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 04:10 PM
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You’re thinking how do I get what mom and dad and all my friends parents have, how do I get what all the main characters in the media I’m exposed to have. ​ It wouldn't matter, bc all the normies on here, such as myself, tell you pills that you've lost your grasp on reality and your hate for Chad (and that you think every woman is a Chad-banging Stacy) makes it impossible to explain how good relationships form and thrive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 03:06 AM
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Many here in PPD are convinced married women are just whores who eventually settle down with an ugly or unattractive dude. They hate women, and have NO idea how healthy relationships form and stay together, and it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 02:57 AM
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That's really awesome and incredibly healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 12:11 AM
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He's unlikely to be attracted to someone who doesn't offer a similar amount of emotional availability. I don't think it's a unique problem for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 11:55 PM
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Emotionally unstable people tend attract other emotionally unstable people. Emotionally healthy people tend leave unhealthy people quickly. They nope right on out. One of the biggest mostly unrecognized privileges in life is to be raised in a safe, loving environment so you don't grow up lacking security and self. Emotionally healthy women can find men that are highly confident, unpredictable, and a risk taker without the bad qualities. When I see women with lackluster men, it is usually down to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:11 PM
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Movies made for women are often filmed with more of a "female gaze", which also usually means the desired men in these stories are not typically muscled, macho men. This gives actors like Mark Ruffalo, Tom Hanks, Javier Barden, Ethan Hawke, Paul Rudd, Adam Sandler and other similar "everyman" types to shine.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 10:37 PM
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King of Queens According to Jim Everybody Loves Raymond* The Big Bang Theory* Still Standing The Honeymooners The Flintstones Family Guy *These two don't have overweight husbands but the pairings are of a physically beautiful woman with a far less conventionally attractive husband
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 10:24 PM
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We'd have a better society if men and women were allowed to express emotions similarly and raised similarly. Not every mom raises their son and squashes their emotions. It's a societal work in progress. This is not the fault of women, though. It's reinforced by both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:37 PM
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Your question made me think you were an American man. Folly on my part there, for sure. A couple could accomplish the same financial goals if not married but in a long term committed relationship. I don't actually care if others are in a financially transactional relationship, but it will likely be fraught with a lot more points of contention than those of us for who have an "our money is our money" approach (unless both prefer the transactional model). After explaining how not having a financia…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:30 PM
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There's far more nuance to "money issues", though. Treating a spouse like they have lesser value bc they earn less is kind of a money issue, but more so it's an issue with the spouse who wants to treat their partner with less importance Treating a spouse who make less with a very transactional mindset is a money issue and again, more so a relational one. One spouse spending far more than the other is comfortable with is a money philosophy issue. Not having enough money for the bills is a money i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:35 PM
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If you feel you have to ask this, you are not marriage material. That said, I can only put the legally allowed amount into my 401K each year. My income is W2 based, so socking money away pre-tax is the only tax relief I get right now. If my relationship were wholly transactional, I'd have no influence or say over my spouse's financial decisions so long as they were paying their 50/50. So if I said hey, you should also put the maximum in to your 401K pre-tax and help lower our tax burden, my spou…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:48 PM
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Damn y'all exhausting. I think it boils down to this: If the thought of a woman being advantaged by being in a relationship with you angers you so much, why be in a relationship? It seems like you are very concerned about only paying the minimum, watching your kids the minimum, and cleaning the house the minimum. Sorry, but relationships aren't 50/50. They are 100/100. If you are consumed with not doing more than your share, then what you really want is a transactional relationship. If you are g…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:07 PM
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Both should have the discussion before they go on the date. Getting this out of the way can weed out people who are already not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:38 PM
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I'm not sure the true PPD men on this sub want connection, or are maybe just not capable of it, hence their issues dating
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 04:42 PM
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I thought that too. As people get older their standards tend to change due to their own life experiences. PPD sees this as fine if you're a man but unfair if you are a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 12:21 PM
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I largely agree. If you have money though, you can buy yourself some great skin and other cosmetic enhancements.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 12:05 AM
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If you're looking for reassurance that women and only women hit a wall, then I'd ask for where you are getting what you're smoking. If only younger women have any value to you, that's a problem likely rooted in a lot of misogynistic trappings (and let's be honest, sets most up for a lot of unhappiness when their promised, most assuredly deserved virgin doesn't materialize). Both men and women lose their looks as they age. If they fail to take care of their skin and/or gain a crap ton of weight, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:49 PM
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I mean, at least the hypertension hasn't caused erectile dysfunction yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:29 PM
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If the choice is between waiting or having sex with someone who believes they are post-wall and ran through, then yeah, women with standards will wait it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:24 PM
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Yeah, yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:12 PM
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Again, oddly still oddly specific. There's more here than I am willing to try and unpack, so I'll summarize. I wouldn't like women if I had your perspective, either. I'd hate to be the only smart one in the couple, as I'd never have that intellectual connection with my partner, and that type of connection is the stuff that gets you enjoying life with another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:26 AM
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This is an oddly specific and bitter reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:17 PM
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In marriages, I usually see people pretty evenly paired when it comes to what they offer in physical attractiveness, so none of these posts about average women locking down hot guys makes any sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 03:14 PM
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Liquid nose jobs, surgical nose jobs, chin implants, botox and skin treatments are all things men can do to raise their DMV. A good chin implant can change a man's face to hot if he had a weak chin to start with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 01:32 PM
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If you want to increase the number of women willing to have casual sex, then kill off the view that women with body counts is unattractive. More women would have sex outside of commitment if it were more socially acceptable. I mean, if there are more men willing to have casual sex than women, doesn't that mean there are MORE desirable, low body count women available for you to sweep her off her feet? Instead of fussing at all the high body count women, why aren't you snapping up the low body cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:21 PM
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Not "suicidal". Suicidal. Have a good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 10:40 PM
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Some ND children are more difficult, no matter how you want it to be otherwise, and it isn't due to a lack of love or knowledge about the experiences of ND individuals. It's hard to be ND, AND it can be hard to be the parent of an ND child. Both can be true. Go join a FB support group and see all the nearly suicidal parents that can't stand the thought of another day with a violent child who beats them and their other children, parents of a child who screams day and night and no one in the home …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:59 PM
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That's your opinion. I know and know of far more parents who have a different one from you on this topic. You are entitled to your opinion. You are not entitled to cancel the lived experience of other parents. Nor does their experience cancel yours. If I ever see hordes of parents of special needs kids agree with you, I will certainly change my thinking. Until then, I'm going to stay in the support groups with other parents of special needs kids and empathize with their struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:08 PM
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We aren't more difficult to raise than NT children. I know many parents of children with autism/ADHD/etc would very much disagree with you,. Your statement isn't based in the lived reality of a lot of parents. I'm truly sorry if that hurts your feelings, but to pretend that some of the challenges unique to raising special needs children are no more challenging than raising the average NT child is naïve at best. In the US, having a special needs child can also be financially devastating. There ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:36 PM
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I have acquaintances that are living this scenario out but do go on how it's a made up thing to demonize all persons with autism. Of course it's a spectrum. I'm not sure why you are convinced only you know this. Don't you think people should be aware of what a child with a disability might entail and to make a responsible choice about whether to become a parent or not-before having kids? You must thing it's bad to understand what the possibilities are and have kids that you can't take care of. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 02:26 PM
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What an intellectually dishonest statement. There is no inference to be made that one hates autistic simply by stating risks of autism go up with parental age. . Here are some potential realities if you have an autistic child: If you have a child with autism, I hope you have $250,000 extra dollars laying around for therapies and interventions while growing up and someone who can spend hours a week driving between said therapies. Goodness help you if that child requires support the rest of their …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 12:35 PM
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It sounds to me like you don't know how much things cost now. If you are single, that's dramatically less costly than having a spouse and/or a family. While there certainly are those that are in debt due to excessive elective spending, many are in debt because cc was the only way to say, pay off doctor or hospital bills, or to fix a car, etc. If you're going to ignore the very real valid reasons many people are struggling, then maybe go to a Dave Ramsey fan site where you won't be confronted on …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:23 PM
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You can care about whatever you want. That doesn't mean a particular view isn't steeped in misandry or misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:37 PM
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1.I see much of the issues arising out of economics. You didn't have hordes of desperate men when a man working a blue collar job could provide for a family of 4 with a house, a car, and a yearly vaca and get a healthy pension in retirement. The rising costs of existing have ducked us all over. 50% of jobs in the US make 50K or LESS, and it takes more than 50K to be able to pay for the things already mentioned (and other necessities not already mentioned, such as food, utilities, health insuranc…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:25 PM
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Some preferences are rooted in misogyny, some in misandry. While one can hold any preference for any reason, that doesn't change the fact that some reasons may be one rooted in societal issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 03:30 PM
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Adoption has a TON of issues, including that most children would rather be with their biological families except when the bio family are monsters. Unfortunately, taking a child out of their biological family can have devastating consequences. It's not an easy fix, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:34 PM
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Personal energy level is not the predictor of introversion/extroversion. Most people are not either/or introverts or extraverts. Most people trend somewhere along the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:26 PM
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Women generally only find incels repulsive. Otherwise not being attracted to certain men is no different than men not finding certain women attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:10 PM
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I'd never say looks are unimportant. I've seen plenty of average dudes with great personalities that many women, even those more objectively attractive, were attracted to. When people make you feel seen, you feel good around those people. Confidence is universally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 03:47 PM
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If you acknowledge average looks are not really a hindrance, are you really a piller or are you like me and just interested in those who hold that mind set?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:52 PM
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Seems they don't actually like women then
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:17 AM
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I've encountered thousands of married couples over the years and what you describe is not reality. The spouses offer about the same in intelligence, personality and attractiveness. Since most of these people I've met in church (ie more likely to have somewhat of a "traditional marriage"), most men are the breadwinners. But, that doesn't mean these men are making 100K each. Some higher, but most less.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:57 PM
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I want a woman who's intelligent, has a good personality, is kind, is attractive to me (not supermodel tier but cute), is younger (preferably early 20s) and has a low to 0 body count. Don't women want all those things as well, other than the need for the man to be younger or have a specific body count? Aren't YOU lowering YOUR standards by accepting a woman who is merely attractive to you but not supermodel beautiful? Why is it so hard to believe that women run the same mental maths in what they…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:22 PM
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Well, that's understandable ! ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:50 PM
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Do women find hard core bodybuilders attractive? Veins popping out and crap? Bigger pecs than them? Really? I doubt it. There's a big difference between Stephen Amell in his Arrow prime and Arnold Schwarzenegger at his Mr. Universe prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 06:04 PM
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I think the good news and the bad news is that you'll attract what you are. If there is an ample supply of well educated men in your area, then awesome. Hit up the university panel discussions, book clubs, art installations, and other places where people are enjoying the things you do. It is possible to find intellectual compatibility with those with fewer academic credentials than you. Men who might not have had the opportunity for an expensive degree program have still read and educated themse…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:56 PM
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I don't think this is a new struggle. Eons ago when I was in a college sociology class, the professor covered pairings. On whole, we attract those like us, who have about the same intelligence, educational level, financial prospects, attractiveness, grew up in same socioeconomic class, etc. Man or woman, you have to have some strong positives to "date up" from these constraints.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 12:33 AM
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American water parks should make most people feel just fine about their body.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:13 PM
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"...why should he be the one to pay the price for it?" It's a red flag waving kind of day already.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:47 AM
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Red/Purple Pill Fan Fiction
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:26 PM
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Emotionally healthy people of any gender don't want you planning to move in by the second date or planning the wedding by the fifth. If you are moving too fast, that's a good indication of dysfunction. It's going to be extremely off-putting behavior unless that other person is also emotionally dysfunctional. Intentionally causing the other person insecurity is just dysfunctional behavior. Average men pair with average woman all the time. It's the norm, in fact. You typically pair with someone wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 05:23 PM
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How are you single then? Pick a faith. Go to that church. They’ll fix you right up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:34 PM
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The science shows you tend to attract what you have to offer. I learned this in Sociology back in the early 90's and people just refuse to accept it. If you are of average looks, overweight without a degree, you're going to most likely pair with someone with someone with average looks, who is overweight and has no degree or few academic credentials. This is the reality so many are unwilling to deal with. It's very rare to have one extremely good looking partner paired with an average one (Hence …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:36 PM
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"Nice Guys" are transactional-you only do XYZ to attempt to get what you think you deserve. And the moment you don't get what you think you deserve all hell breaks out. If you think spending money should get you sex, just get a prostitute or an Only Fans subscription and make it officially transactional. Kind men aren't transactional. "If I get bonus points for doing the thing, great." A nice guy holds the door open because he wants to be able to describe himself as a nice guy. A kind man holds …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 05:24 PM
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Women, especially older women, don't want to have to be full time maids and nursemaids to yet another husband. These men are helpless, their wives having done everything, and these men often carry the expectation that the new wife will again shoulder the burden of all the daily affairs, even though he's now retired.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 03:23 PM
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I'd encourage you to google 'narcissism increasing in the US'. That way, you can mull over the sources that are available. Here is just one from the American Psychological Association https://www.apa.org/monitor/2011/02/narcissism
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 11:50 AM
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It really is a red flag. I do believe, in almost all cases, we attract our emotional twin. There are exceptions as anyone can have a one-off unhinged relationship, learn from it, and not repeat it. However, when all the past relationships are characterized by chaos, then that is what that person is living in. I don't think a well-emotionally-regulated person is going to stay attracted to someone who has huge struggles with emotional regulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 11:47 PM
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I've read that narcissism, like for real NPD, is on the rise. NPD parents do an incredible amount of emotional damage to their kids. It's almost unbelievable just how bad. Trauma in general can have really bad impact on people and on their ability to regulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 10:29 PM
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What you're describing is emotionally regulated/stable people. You can have a horrific childhood but work through it and be just as emotionally stable and mature as those who grew up in great families. You can grow up in a great family and still somehow miss the plot. Either way, you want an emotionally stable someone who doesn't describe ALL their ex's as crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 10:23 PM
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The Serena Joys of the world
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:58 PM
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I’ve met a handsome millionaire. Then he opened his mouth and the more I got to know him the more any attraction I had to him died. Sorry not sorry, we are all a package deals and most likely we’ll pair with someone who offers the same overall value in looks, intelligence, financial prospects, and values. No, I don’t see hot men with physically unattractive women. I see far more women who are with men less physically attractive than them than the reverse. But mostly, I see couples who look like …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:32 PM
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I’m not interested in toxic masculinity behaviors, machismo, etc. That posturing is so ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 10:13 PM
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I did read his post. I think some of what he says is quite toxic. It seems with his modified behavior, he’s attracting women that are as problematic as he is. We tend to attract our emotional twin. You don’t have to be an a$$, be someone with a modicum of self confidence. My point in general being that people don’t seem to realize that if they have no desire for personal growth, no inspiration to do different things, no activities or hobbies they engage in, etc., their dating fortunes will be li…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 10:02 PM
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That’s not how it works. Women don’t magically get partners that are more attractive than them. Unless you are talking about just sex/FWB, but most want a relationship not just hook ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:05 PM
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I’m never surprised that people who express toxic opinions about women and dating have a hard time with women and dating. Whether a man or woman, you’ll attract the type of person that reflects what you have in kind to offer as far as the sum of your looks, upward mobility, education level, fitness level and interests. If you are an overweight neckbeard who plays video games when not working, don’t expect a motivated woman who wants more personal success in life and strives to keep physical her …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:15 PM
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The bottom 20% of men will have great success with the perceived bottom 20% of women. It seems like a lot of people don't realize that if you end up with someone, they are most likely to offer as much in personality, money, looks, and education level as they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 05:13 PM
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