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CaptainPsyche/r/askTRP16/10/18 03:54 PM
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CaptainPsyche/r/askMRP29/12/18 11:41 PM
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CaptainPsyche/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 08:27 PM
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Honestly, Probably not. But maybe knowing the truth is worth it. Or maybe by placing the truth over things like you mentioned is selfish on my part.
/r/askMRP31/12/18 03:48 AM
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Maybe you're right.
/r/askMRP31/12/18 03:47 AM
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After saying that, I did mention something about female psychology, saying how all women are emotional and stuff like that.
/r/askMRP31/12/18 03:46 AM
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Hey bro try not to be bitter about it. He's still your father after all. He just so happened to never know the truth for whatever reason.
/r/askMRP31/12/18 03:45 AM
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I'm pretty scared to talk to him about all of this because I don't know how he will react. I want to tell him, I just hope I can push myself to do it.
/r/askMRP31/12/18 03:41 AM
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I'll check it out thanks.
/r/askMRP31/12/18 03:36 AM
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I'm working on myself. Been lifting, approaching, working on all areas of life, working on my mission. There are a couple 6s who are down to fuck but I've got higher standards than that. I'm talking with a few 8s, 9s, right now, so let's see where that goes. I stopped with Jp a long time ago. I've read the book of book. Now it's just about action. It will come. I find no harm in working on myself and helping my dad at the same time.
/r/askMRP31/12/18 03:36 AM
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When? If it's relevant to my situation I'd like to know so I don't make a mistake.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:27 PM
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This is an interesting approach. Haven't thought about doing it anonymously. How would you recommend doing it exactly?
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:25 PM
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Maybe there's still hope. He could find someone else or at least know the truth. Maybe I'm just naive though.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:24 PM
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Thanks man I'll check it out.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:23 PM
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This is the best thing I've heard so far. I agree, yet so many people both on this sub and on the red pill have told me it's a mistake.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:22 PM
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So you don't think it would be too much to handle for my dad?
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:21 PM
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This is what scares me. Maybe it's better to not show him the truth. I don't want him to go insane or anything. But he is pretty open minded so I'm not sure that would happen.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:21 PM
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Do you think it's not worth the risk then?
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:20 PM
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Like I said in another comment, I think it would be very awkward for me to hand him that book, let alone read it together with him. We have never talked about sex. I don't think this is the way to go. Also, he's still married to my mom, I very much doubt he'd start fucking 30 year olds.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:20 PM
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Man that would be quite awkward I think. Haven't read the book, haven't even had sex yet. Me and my dad never even talked about this type of stuff (sex) so I'm not sure that book would be the best way to go about things.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:18 PM
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Thank you. I'll check it out.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:17 PM
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Thank you. I'll check out all of that.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 07:15 PM
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Thank you.
/r/askTRP25/12/18 02:23 AM
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Thank you.
/r/askTRP25/12/18 02:20 AM
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Perhaps I should have been more clear. She was comfortable enough to have me put my arm around her. She was even flirting and saying we should watch a movie. But I tried to go further and she didn't go for it. Invited her over she said she was busy and promised her friends to spend the night with them. Got her number though.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:27 PM
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Yea my game is probably shit. Would you recommend the book "The Game"?
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:25 PM
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like 40 x 6-8 with each each
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:24 PM
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Alright. How do you dance? I just kind of go with the flow of the music. I'm not much of a dancer though.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:23 PM
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yea maybe that's it.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:22 PM
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Ok fine it's so easy, then tell me how to meet a girl then. What's your technique? Do you try to talk? Music is too loud? Do you make eye contact and dance? or do you just go with a wingman?
/r/askTRP23/12/18 05:53 AM
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Okay what do you mean by dance a little bit? Like how do you approach? What's your framework when going to the club?
/r/askTRP23/12/18 05:12 AM
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How is it for losers? It's something I do once a week max. I already mentioned I work on myself at all times during the week. How is it so bad to out on a Friday night? Out of curiosity, what would you say is the best way to get girls then?
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:39 AM
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But he is kind of looking now. He's asking me questions and telling me he's thought a lot about what I've told him about using emotion rather than logic with my mom. I have an update on the situation I just replied another guy with. You really don't think I should show him it seems though.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:14 AM
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Thanks man. Update is that he met up with her. Convinced her to stay (I played a large role in that). So far they've been talking and it's much better. Mom is probably using this to her advantage a bit. Giving conditions like he needs to start lifting at the gym and shit like that. Overall my dad has learned that playing with her mood/emotions is better than using logic. He thanked me a lot for teaching him that. Wants to know more it seems. I think the one thing left to do on my part is to just…
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:12 AM
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Thanks man. Update is that he met up with her. Convinced her to stay (I played a large role in that). So far they've been talking and it's much better. Mom is probably using this to her advantage a bit. Giving conditions like he needs to start lifting at the gym and shit like that. Overall my dad has learned that playing with her mood/emotions is better than using logic. He thanked me a lot for teaching him that. Wants to know more it seems. No other guy for my mom by the way. She's too religiou…
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:09 AM
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Working on it. Even saw a psychologist. Told me it's best to just focus on practical shit that will make my life better. Told me to use elastics. And every time I overthink, slap my wrist with the elastic. Conditions your mind. Used it to try to stop cracking my knuckles as well. I think this technique works. Message me if you want to know more.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:04 AM
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Unscripted by MJ Demarco
/r/askTRP22/12/18 06:18 PM
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So earlier today, I returned home from university. Apparently I learned that my mom just left randomly a couple days ago after the argument I was talking about. She said she's staying with her sister that she might rent out an apartment soon. So I hear this talking to my mom on the phone, and then go to talk to my dad. He says he has no idea what's happening. He shows me a text he sent to my mom saying he wants to meet and talk to her. My mom ignores this text. She tells me she's considering get…
/r/askTRP21/12/18 07:38 AM
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So earlier today, I returned home from university. Apparently I learned that my mom just left randomly a couple days ago after the argument I was talking about. She said she's staying with her sister that she might rent out an apartment soon. So I hear this talking to my mom on the phone, and then go to talk to my dad. He says he has no idea what's happening. He shows me a text he sent to my mom saying he wants to meet and talk to her. My mom ignores this text. She tells me she's considering get…
/r/askTRP21/12/18 07:38 AM
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Can I private message you, I have an update on the situation ?
/r/askTRP21/12/18 03:18 AM
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I think my dad is ready right now. Can I private message you I have an update on the situation?
/r/askTRP21/12/18 03:18 AM
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Hey can I private message you I have an update on the situation ?
/r/askTRP21/12/18 03:17 AM
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I have an update on the whole situation can I private message you?
/r/askTRP21/12/18 03:17 AM
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Hey I have an update on the whole situation. Could I private message you?
/r/askTRP21/12/18 03:16 AM
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I've been into philosophy from a young age. Always questioning everything. Always taking responsibility for everything. So it happened naturally for me. All it took was one relationship with a girl for me to start digging at my mistakes. I knew something was off. I knew I lacked an understanding of psychology. I knew I didn't have the right framework in place. So once the fling ended with that girl, I looked around for a few weeks, found some great resources like trp and some books. Ever since I…
/r/askTRP17/12/18 06:49 PM
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I used to get involved a lot a few years ago. Even once kind of saved the marriage when they were at the brink of getting a divorce. Kind of stupid on my end now that I understand trp. I"m not saying I should be part of the dysfunction. Simply having a talk with each, or at least with my dad for now. I'm not a nice guy, that's for sure. This is just different since it's my parents. I'm already working very hard to on myself, as I mentioned in another comment. I've already figured out how to deal…
/r/askTRP17/12/18 05:52 PM
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I've already been applying it all to my life. Lifting, being social, approaching girls, finances... Would it really hurt to at least just talk to my parents about this?
/r/askTRP17/12/18 05:47 PM
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If I don't talk about it, how will he ever learn? How will he ever have that knowledge?
/r/askTRP17/12/18 05:46 PM
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This is going to be very difficult to do on my end. Goes against every other comment here saying I should lead by example and just focus on myself. But I think you're right.
/r/askTRP17/12/18 05:45 PM
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Will Durant books. Lessons of history.
/r/askTRP17/12/18 05:34 AM
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I've seen a few too. I'll look them up. I was never satisfied with the responses, saying shit like "It's not your problem". Why not just show him trp? Pains me too much to see them like this.
/r/askTRP17/12/18 05:13 AM
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Its my parents. Of course its my problem.
/r/askTRP17/12/18 04:52 AM
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Just curious, what are the better ways to get those? Being an entrepreneur comes to mind. But what else?
/r/askTRP15/12/18 08:53 PM
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No dogs allowed in residence.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 04:48 PM
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No dogs allowed in residence.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 04:47 PM
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enough of reading, it's time to start approaching more and taking action.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 04:46 PM
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exactly. I completely agree. Better to improve and to approach simultaneously.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 04:44 PM
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lmao I'm not making up anything. I see a doctor because of this issue. And to answer your question, I don't know what will happen once I have sex. Better to try than not to try.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 04:42 PM
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Same shit happened to me. We vibeb well in person. I got her sc. I message her to meet up. She ignored but kept sending pics. I decided to just ignore her.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 08:35 PM
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Thousands, it's big. ​
/r/askTRP16/10/18 08:19 PM
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Bro I'm 18, in college. I'm not just gonna get laid with anyone. Reputation matters.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 07:18 PM
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"Fix your problems". That's the goal. I'm trying to figure out a HOW. That's why I'm asking questions in the first place.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:46 PM
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Thanks for the advice.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:45 PM
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I'm 18 lol. No hookers around here anyways.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:44 PM
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Yea I just need to keep pushing as hard as it is. It's fucking painful, especially emotionally. Most of my days are complete shit. Hopefully it gets better as I keep chipping away at it.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:00 PM
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Bro it's literally a human need. You need sex and you need affection in order to function properly. It's biological like you said. I'm not able to jack off like I've explained in my other replies.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 04:59 PM
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I'm not able to jerk off. It's a unique psychological problem. Only way to get release is from wet dreams and probably sex. Wet dreams happen like once a month so you can guess how fucking horny I am all the time.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 04:58 PM
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1) I can't get sex from my hand. Long story short, I'm not able to jerk off. It's psychological. 2) Fuck that. I'm not started that low. I have high standards. I only go for 8-10s. The last girl interested in me was a 9. I fucked it up by being beta. That's when I found this sub. 3) I don't like pets. What would recommend instead of a pet for affection?
/r/askTRP16/10/18 04:57 PM
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I don't mind doing it at first, especially if a girl is showing IOIs, but I won't be doing it to this chick anymore unless she comes to me.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:09 AM
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okay will do thanks ​
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:01 AM
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alright thanks
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:01 AM
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soft next for how long? And what if she tries to sit next to me in class (she's done this in the past once I've taken my attention away). should I just kind of ignore her?
/r/askTRP16/10/18 04:54 AM
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Bro that's what I do. Read my reply to the other guy and tell me what you think.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 04:49 AM
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I've walked her to her bus stop like twice after class. Even invited her to lunch once and she came with me. I tried setting up another date by telling her "let's hang out tomorrow". She said "sure". I hugged her then left. I text her the next day and she takes 24 fucking hours to reply. Today in class, for the first time she seemed kind of uninterested in me. I tried talking to her and her friend once, got a short reply after I made a joke that she probably didn't understand, and she walked awa…
/r/askTRP16/10/18 04:47 AM
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It’s all sorts of validation. I want to be recognized as great. I want attention. It really pisses me off when I don’t get attention and praise and recognition and shit lile that. (I don’t show this tho, that would be pathetic). However, it’s always at the back of my mind.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 07:17 PM
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Ok I’ll definitely try that. I usually exercise later in the day and my sleep hasn’t been good lately. Just started university.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 05:15 AM
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I’m having a tough time enjoying myself or having fun when I’m craving this affection. It’s like I can’t think straight sometimes because it feels like my really needs it.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 04:35 AM
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I don’t think a frat is for me. Luckily my residence is a super social place. My problem is that I’m having a very hard time right now doing so. It feels suffocating at times. I crave affection and it’s messing with my mind.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 04:34 AM
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It’s so easy to say “stop worrying about girls”. How? I try very hard to do so but it feels suffocating at times. It’s like I can’t breath or concentrate. I just can’t stop thinking about it.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 04:32 AM
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I sent you a chat on reddit. You're able to chat here aren't you?
/r/askTRP22/08/18 01:37 AM
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Hey man I've tackled with this same idea. I try to be pragmatic about things. The thing that drives my pragmatism is experience. It's all a process. Try not to overthink things and just go with what you feel is right in the moment. Sometimes it's better to not give a fuck and sometimes you need calibrate socially. Most times, a balance is optimal. No amount of theory will give you the answer. You need to go out and live. Your experiences will show you what works and what doesn't. It depends on a…
/r/askTRP21/08/18 08:05 PM
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Ok sure that might work this summer. But I’m starting university after this summer and I’m not sure if cold approaching is the way to go. Nobody wants to become “that guy” on campus. Is social circle game the way to go?
/r/askTRP27/07/18 03:31 PM
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Yea.
/r/askTRP26/07/18 08:04 PM
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Won’t work, parents always home. Maybe just going to the movies?
/r/askTRP26/07/18 07:24 PM
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It’s more like hanging out. Hasn’t been framed as dates.
/r/askTRP26/07/18 07:24 PM
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That’s a great quote. I’ll keep that in mind thanks.
/r/askTRP26/07/18 03:38 PM
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Ok thanks man. I’ve just never kissed before so all this sounds different but I’ll do it no matter what next time.
/r/askTRP26/07/18 03:38 PM
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What would you recommend as a date idea? Also, should I go for the kiss even if there’s no tension?
/r/askTRP26/07/18 02:55 PM
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well we ended up going on two dates. Last one didn't go so well. If you want I can private message you.
/r/askTRP26/07/18 02:17 PM
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Fine I’ll just pay for both. So that is where trp stands on this?
/r/askTRP25/07/18 09:48 PM
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She does. She has two jobs. I don’t have a job. It’s 15 bucks per person. That’s like two hours of work for her.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 08:34 PM
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It’s 15 per person. Are u saying to pay for myself only?
/r/askTRP25/07/18 08:33 PM
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I’ve concluded that the least awkward thing would be to just tell her when we’re at the cash “do you have enough for your ticket”. If she says yes then cool f she says no I’ll just pay for her.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 07:05 PM
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We did that last time and planned to go bowling this time.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 06:42 PM
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Well techcincally worst case scenario I have enough to pay but it’ll be a pain in the ass cuz I’m using my dads card and he only wants me to spend so much. Can I ask her if she has enough to pay for herself? Or is that awkward.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 06:15 PM
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She probably doesn’t know what going Dutch means.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 05:41 PM
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Can I be like “you got enough to pay for yourself? Cuz I gotcha of you don’t”
/r/askTRP25/07/18 05:33 PM
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So you think I should pay?
/r/askTRP25/07/18 05:25 PM
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We have to pay before the game.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 05:25 PM
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Well she has two jobs so she should be able to pay for herself. We’ve already decided to go go bowling. I just don’t know how to go about this because I don’t know what she expects.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 05:25 PM
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What about using both hands on her face? Or should I stick with one? Also, what do you mean by “wet your lips before”? You mean with saliva?
/r/askTRP23/07/18 04:17 PM
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Do you put your hand (or both hands) on her face when u do it?
/r/askTRP23/07/18 04:15 PM
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Yea you’re right. For example, if you do kino and you’re nervous, then the girl will uncomfortable. Thanks.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 05:04 AM
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Thanks that helps me visualize it.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 05:02 AM
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I agree with everything except for smacking her ass. Way too soon bro.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 04:55 AM
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So do you say that line and then wait for a response or just go for it? Also, do you say it after making eye contact for a few seconds or just out of the blue?
/r/askTRP23/07/18 04:53 AM
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What do you mean “don’t linger on it”. I’ve never kissed a girl before so this next date might be when it happens. Say the mood is right and I go in for a kiss and kiss her. What next? Should I step away and smile and then talk about something? Or should I step away, smile and then go in for another kiss?
/r/askTRP23/07/18 04:27 AM
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That’s hilarious lol.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 08:17 PM
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Ohhh I thought you were talking to me haha. Yea I can see that working. Thanks bro.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 02:29 AM
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I will thanks.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 02:14 AM
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Explain what you mean...
/r/askTRP22/07/18 02:12 AM
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I can’t. I’ve got no abundance. I fake an abundance mentality. This is still big for me though. It’s my start. In a year I’ll be looking back laughing.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 01:52 AM
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Haha I like that one too. What really surprised me was what she answered when I asked her the same question. She started talking about her and this guy and how they’re in a “pretend” relationship because they work with kids and the kids think they look cute together.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 01:20 AM
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Fuck that would have been good.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 12:09 AM
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Date was great for the most part. Thanks.
/r/askTRP21/07/18 03:43 AM
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I just need personalized advice right now because of my psychological limitations (I can only push myself so far outside of my comfort zone). For example, I need plausible deniability for meeting up with her first.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 02:53 PM
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Holy fuck finally someone who’s open minded. I agree with everyone as well but we all start at different stages. I have psychological limitations right now and I can only push my brain so much outside of its comfort zone.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 02:53 PM
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I just need personalized advice right now because of my psychological limitations (I can only push myself so far outside of my comfort zone). For example, I need plausible deniability for meeting up with her first.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 02:52 PM
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I just need personalized advice right now because of my psychological limitations (I can only push myself so far outside of my comfort zone).
/r/askTRP20/07/18 02:51 PM
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I just need help with specifics bro. We’re not all at the same stage in this. It will help me feel better about this date.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 02:24 PM
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That’s easy for u to say. We’re not all at the same level. I need help with details and shit to help calm myself down and to better plan shit.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 02:23 PM
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Can I message you?
/r/askTRP20/07/18 03:46 AM
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Can I message u?
/r/askTRP20/07/18 03:46 AM
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Isn’t that beta af? Texting her “see ya tonight” is already a double text and just sounds weak considering I made that shit clear already.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 02:09 AM
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Great book.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 01:55 AM
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Plus she waited a day so I tried to counter that if that makes sense.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 01:50 AM
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Same day technically. She texted in the morning. I replied late at night. Thought that was the equivalent of a day. Anyways, you have any advice?
/r/askTRP20/07/18 01:49 AM
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Change the subject. Be a leader. You’re in her frame. If she’s boring you, let her know by teasing her. Or make it obvious. Girls often know when they’re being boring and annoying.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 01:48 AM
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I would just go ahead and ask her when she’s free. Hard to tell thought. Just go ahead with your gut feeling. You’ll learn something either way. Edit: Spelling.
/r/askTRP19/07/18 05:15 AM
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Only gym around me. Only in this city for a couple more months tho.
/r/askTRP19/07/18 05:13 AM
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can you message me, I'm having trouble doing it for some reason.
/r/askTRP18/07/18 01:32 AM
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Can I message you? She just answered back and I don’t know what to say.
/r/askTRP18/07/18 12:42 AM
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The way I think about it, we have two psychological states: our intellectual state and our emotional state. What’s happening is that you’re waking up to reality (trp). It takes time for you emotional state to adapt and align itself to your new intellectual state, where you understand how the world really works. It will take time for all that dysney love bullshit that you’ve been fed all these years to go away for good. Best thing you can do is fake it til you make it. Act and follow your intelle…
/r/askTRP18/07/18 12:39 AM
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Yea I fucked up. Should have called instead. Reason I didn’t do this was because I wanted to be more like “hey I’m doing this fun activity, wanna come along?” Like as if I was going with or without her. Anyways, do you think I handled it okay? Still worth going?
/r/askTRP18/07/18 12:33 AM
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It’s all about balancing push and pull. Don’t be texting too much and giving your attention too quickly. Abundance mentality bro. Approach more girls. Soon you’ll gain good experience and you’ll learn what works and what doesn’t. Also, abundance mentality. So what if you fuck up with one girl? It’s all a process my guy. Remember, you need to be less emotionally invested than she is. Seems like you get invested too quickly and that turns off girls. Edit: Spelling.
/r/askTRP18/07/18 12:24 AM
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This is a difficult concept for me to wrap my head around. On one hand, we’re suposed to not give a fuck. On the other hand, we sorta have to give a fuck about making sure we’re not goofy and shit. I think it all comes down to experience. Soon I’ll get better at reading social situations and knowing when to be serious and when to make a joke. Any thoughts? What’s the best framework to have?
/r/askTRP18/07/18 12:21 AM
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Good thing I don’t do it.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 07:01 PM
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No I was exaggerating. I meant I excercise enough. I try to do something everyday whether it’s sports or lifting or just walking. I think I’ve learned to pace myself right.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 07:01 PM
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I want to get your opinion on this: I offered a day. She countered with another day. This went on for a few minutes. Finally I offered another day. She took an entire day to respond that she couldn’t but offered another time. I feel like if I agree I’ll be playing into her frame. I’m thinking of maybe just waiting a day or two to call and confirm.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 06:41 PM
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Great list. I probably fall victim to the first 3. Dehydration and poor sleep habits for sure. Testosterone, not sure. I’ll make an appointment. I excercise everyday and I rarely drink alcohol so 4 and 5 shouldn’t be issues. Thanks.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 05:21 PM
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You’re completely right. I should have called. Anyways, I offered to hang out. She texted back and gave me another day. Should I call to confirm?
/r/askTRP17/07/18 05:19 PM
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I agree with this. What’s the alternative. Should I call instead? I decided not to call because I knew I’d sound nervous on the phone. My nervousness usually goes away face to face (that’s where I thrive). So if not texting, calling seems to be the alternative right?
/r/askTRP17/07/18 03:08 PM
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Can you explain what you mean by “the buffer of texting”
/r/askTRP17/07/18 02:07 PM
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Yessir. But never made a move. We hadn’t talked in months and now I’m a changed guy.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 05:40 AM
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I want to at least give it a shot. It’s honestly my fault for not making a proper move yet.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 05:25 AM
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Plenty of IOIs. I can always tell when a girl likes me. She initiated conversations all last weak and texted me that she wanted to see me
/r/askTRP17/07/18 05:23 AM
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I believe I am Chad for her. She’s just got long ass hours at work sometimes. She literally cannot make time but it is quite clear she’s into me. Edit: Spelling.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 05:20 AM
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Exactly what I did.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 05:20 AM
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Jeez thanks that makes a lot of sense. I’m 18 and I’m not coming from a place of abundance right now. That’s the problem. I know she’s into me and I’m into her. Now I gotta just take a step back.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 04:43 AM
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Great question. I’m kind of wondering the same thing myself. Where should we draw the line? Honestly, if I’m considering a girl for LTR, her having beta orbiter and consciously taking advantage of that is a huge red flag for me. It means she needs constant validation and attention and isn’t able to fight those urges and work to improve herself.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 04:22 AM
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I’ll be honest with you bro, I absolutely hated the book. The author talks about concepts like vulnerability which might give you the wrong impressions on what you need to do. Read “how to be a 3 percent man” instead. It’s a much better read and it’s the book which led me to trp. Edit: I am referring to Mark Manson’s book.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 04:02 PM
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Read the sidebar bro. You shouldn’t be overthinking petty shit like this. If you want to go for her, go for her. If she’s not down, on to the next one. It’s not that complicated.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 03:25 AM
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Can you elaborate?
/r/askTRP15/07/18 03:12 AM
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I like that mindset. Thanks.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 03:11 AM
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Hm that’s interesting. How do you instill this mindset? Do you watch a particular video or listen to some sort of music? Or is it purely from your imagination?
/r/askTRP15/07/18 03:04 AM
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Yea bro give it another shot. Make sure her friend isn’t there when you guys hang out next time. I had a similar situation happen to me once. Seems like this girl is into you. You didn’t hold frame. Outcome independence is key. Be more chill next time. You shouldn’t have left and been irritated. When she asked you to come back that was your cue.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 02:42 AM
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Hm I’m in one of those situations. I’m talking to a girl and we’re planning to hang out soon. She’s into me but I just heard from a friend that she’s still not fully over her ex. Still worth it?
/r/askTRP14/07/18 02:57 PM
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Make sure to escalate. Try not to be nervous and just have a good time with the food. After some escalation and kino, you should definitely go in for a kiss.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 02:53 PM
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This is all explained in the sidebar. It shows her that you’re a high value man. She will definitely start to chase. However, keep in mind that’s it all about you, not about her. You’re not going to ghost a girl like this so that she can chase you. You’re doing it for your self-respect. You’re the prize.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 02:51 PM
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If a conversation stalls either you have a low smv and she’s not attracted/interested. Or you lack game, which means you need to practice more.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:56 AM
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Exactly. It’s like my brain freezes and the discomfort or fear or whatever u want to call it is simply too much to handle. It’s a huge turn off.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:42 AM
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Try this: Flip a coin to decide. Truly believe this is how you’ll solve your dilemma. When the coin is in the air and right about to land, deep down you’ll know what you truly want.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:41 AM
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You’ve got options bro. 1) “Hey how’s it going?” Tell them your name. 2) “Thought you were cute, I had to say hi” 3) Mention something interesting about one of their recent posts. Honestly it’s about having a DGAF attitude and outcome independce. Don’t forget abundance mentality as well. Know who you’re taking to. Don’t play it too safe but also don’t be a retard.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:37 AM
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For sure bro. I used to have a similar way of dealing with things. I would talk to girls and only ask them questions. The problem with this, I found, was that I was getting sucked into their frame and their reality. If you have a DGAF attitude, you’ll ask questions but you’ll also balance this by talking about yourself and your life. There should be a balance and this comes with experience. Don’t forget, you set the frame and they’re supposed to get sucked into your reality, not vice versa.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:33 AM
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Don’t stress bro. Sooner the better so you can get good experience but not if it will damage your reputation. Be smart about it. Take risks but don’t be stupid.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:27 AM
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The way I think about it, we have three states. 1) What we think. 2) What we feel. 3) What we do. These three states act as feedback loops with each other. I will explain further. Your problem is that you’re emotional state (feeling anger and not feeling like a stoic) has not yet adapted itself to your intellectual state (wanting to be stoic). Best way to solve this issue? Control your third state (what you do) despite the fact that it is not yet aligned with your second state (what you feel). E…
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:23 AM
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Already seeing a psychologist for something else. I was told to see a sex specialist or something like that. I’m generally not supposed to be an anxious person. I’m decent looking, got a mission...
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:07 AM
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I’m already seeing a psychologist for something else and I was told I got to see someone more specialized for this shit.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:02 AM
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Thanks for tip bro. Appreciate it.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 05:01 AM
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I’ve tried it all. Porn just doesn’t really turn me on for some reason. It’s psychological I’m sure. It’s like My body freezes and I’m overcome by anxiety and I’m no longer able to stay turned on if I try to reach orgasm. This shit has lasted years.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 04:59 AM
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Ya man I should try to figure this out ASAP before uni starts.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 04:57 AM
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Great advice thanks.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 11:11 PM
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No my barber went on vacation so I went ahead with another one. He fucked up my hair badly. Really bad. Worst timing too. I usually style my hair pretty nicely but I can’t work with this shit right now.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 05:31 PM
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Thanks bro that makes a lot of sense.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 05:27 PM
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So you’re saying I should still go for her?
/r/askTRP13/07/18 03:35 PM
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We all start somewhere big guy... experience will definitely kick that lil bitch out of me.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 03:04 PM
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Alright bro I appreciate it. It’s my first time going on a date so I’m stressing a little bit.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 03:02 PM
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I’ve got no experience bro. I’m not ready to bang either as I’ve got I problem I’m dealing with. Your comment is my worry... I don’t want to be a fucking back up. I didn’t strike while the iron was hot but maybe after striking a bit later she realized I was still “Chad”.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 03:01 PM
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She’s got a nice personality and she’s attractive too. I think it’s my fault that she lost interest in the first place because I never made a move. I’m just wondering why she decided to come back to me after seeming distant a week ago. Like someone mentioned, is it because Chad didn’t want anything to do with her?
/r/askTRP13/07/18 02:58 PM
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I did. For about a week after she gave me a bs reason why she couldn’t hang out. This past week she’s been texting non stop starting conversations with me and even asked me if I wanted to hang out a couple times.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 02:49 PM
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She’ll definitely agree. She’s been showing me all sorts of signs of interest and has been starting conversations a lot. What bothers me is that maybe I went from being her top option to her second option and back to her top option. Maybe I’m just overthinking.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 02:48 PM
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Thanks for the information man. I think my problem is that I leave room to be misunderstood. I seem to have some sort of mental block. Perhaps it's because she knows my friends and other people that I'm close with. Or because I've known her for over a year and we've been friends. The cognitive dissonance is driving me nuts. I'm being a massive pussy and that's not who I want to be. Maybe I just need some reinforcement that I'm being a bitch. I didn't call it a date when I texted her. I called it…
/r/askTRP12/07/18 09:47 PM
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Oh Fuck. Should I just delete this and copy paste it to asktrp?
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