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Man, that was just brilliant. And I’m taking the prescription. The amount of retarded shit I do, particularly stealing emotion and being an autist. You pinpointed a range of automatic behaviours I adopt. Now here’s the biggie, the way you describe leading her feeling, swimming in them, shit, I am petrified of that. u/persaeus said I was looking for a ‘dude with tits!”. Here’s the thing about her feelings, I have always thought that if indulged them, I’d just get more of them. And I didn’t want t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/18 09:00 PM
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The beauty of this process is the slowness. The effects compound and create momentum exponentially. What I really like here is once the changes become habit and get internalised we get a new perspective. Then we are left with that perennial question “Do I still want this life, relationship or vocation?” And here we find that thing we tout but many of us have avoided: being the ultimate judge of own actions and desires. When that started to dawn on me I realised that the validation I was seeking …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/18 07:45 PM
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This.
/r/askMRP06/05/18 06:37 PM
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Yep.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 08:10 PM
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My money is on the above. Your waffling needs to be looked at. No more ‘leaking’ your achievement. Let them be discovered.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 08:09 PM
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Thanks for the compliment, man! Great to hear of the sexual transformation in your life. If you were actually Alpha and went hard Beta the likelihood is that the switch back will transform work, marriage and family with some momentum. Keep your ass in the gym! And look up some stuff on posture too. Simple hacks in this area give oversized returns.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/18 08:39 AM
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Ouch!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/18 08:27 AM
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Good man. It will be interesting to hear your next FR.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 06:32 PM
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Hey man, what did you do in a similar context? What’s your perspective here? I’m intrigued but I’m not gonna get through your history tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 07:41 PM
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Hey Man, you need a bit of fun in your life.> These words are fresh. After you made this comment a few people in The Real said it too me. Fuck, when did I get so serious and intense. I’ve been more fun and I’ve felt relieved!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 07:33 PM
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Nice one. Getting on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 07:29 PM
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Yeah, it be must shit one. I’m optimistic that she’ll follow my lead and it’s already started. I’m the one who let it slide. I’m not gonna judge until the month for every year of marriage is done. Clearly seeing the lag. 3-6 months on things I lead out on. That’s shortening now because I am demonstrating consistent follow through. Not in all areas is it obvious but I am working on everything so it’s getting sticky.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 07:28 PM
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you can point it at them and say without any anger, and even with a smile: "Go ahead. Make my day." Naturally this makes them wet. How could we have ever thought it would not?> Perfectly put.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 07:22 PM
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MRP is getting super-refined. The 10 Minute Turn Around. We could sell this!
/r/askMRP29/04/18 07:16 PM
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Good man. Remember this woman will fully transform herself to get that kid. Focus 100% on your mission. You should track through u/bluepillprofessor stuff on divorce. Please note, it will give you space to think and work through your theology etc. Also it will show you how the current theology demotivates female performance within a marriage in this society.
/r/askMRP29/04/18 06:54 PM
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and she'll still treat you like the faggot that your insecure mindset shows you are.> What I’ve realised lately is that it’s irrelevant whether you’re in good times or bad times. In the good times, I might be tempted to be a little more “happy go lucky” . This is not a good thing. It devolves quickly. They flap all over the place. What works is being fun but keeping the big picture in mind, never reevaluating decisions in the good times, play in the field of her feelsz but make no commitments, b…
/r/askMRP29/04/18 01:24 PM
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Ha, brilliant! Couldn’t wrap my head around comfort tests. I understood them. But I couldn’t pass them. Did it this weekend and it was just like you describe. Shocked by the power if it. Led to initiation from her too.
/r/askMRP29/04/18 12:49 PM
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Hilarious
/r/askMRP29/04/18 12:35 PM
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You popped your cherry 🍒! Congratulations. Now read the above and get BC on lock down. In 6 months you might be thinking I’m not into this chick. If you are religious you might think: I can’t divorce for no reason. That’s unthought theology. Dig deep into the materials here and you’ll read many counter arguments. You need to walk the path before you bring kids into the picture.
/r/askMRP29/04/18 12:33 PM
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Pithy and practical. I think I passed my first Comfort Test consciously this weekend. I struggled with this. The results are as good as passing Shit Tests. The way you describe is precise. I am keeping it in mind for next couple of weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 12:23 PM
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Can you disrupt this before the summer? Get a childminder and put the 2 days to actions on your MAP?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 12:20 PM
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This is a strong point. OP, how would you respond to this?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 11:41 AM
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No sweat man. Quick question: Do you work from home a lot?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/18 07:55 PM
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Did he do the 12 levels of Dread? Did he give a month for every year? Did he ever STFU. No one can comment on the practice if they haven’t practiced.
/r/askMRP28/04/18 01:47 PM
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What a tale ReddJive! You’ve got some level of persistence and determination.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/18 01:39 PM
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OK. So I’m calling a high level of trait openness with extroversion. If this is you you are creative, into abstract ideas, always seeking new angles and perspectives. You are charged by the interactions with others. You are overexcitable in this context because it’s an outworking of your personality. You can’t change it but you can play with it. Turn it into a game. For example ‘when I go out tonight I will say something about the appearance of everyone wearing white above the waist to their fac…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/18 01:32 PM
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You sound so nice. You should work on that by adding: Push/Pull Break Rapport Neg While remaining OI. Remember there’s a difference between kinoing and been cuddly cute church goer.
/r/askMRP28/04/18 10:01 AM
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Great linked post. Bookmarked.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 02:18 PM
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If her feelz are mad at you, so be it, that will change. Great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 02:17 PM
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OP, listen to him. I am a serial over talker. Guess what? STFU works. You’re scared of the hamster.
/r/askMRP27/04/18 07:55 AM
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Those guys didn’t mess around
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 07:30 PM
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The murderer had to wear the corpse of the dead on his back . Until it rotted. until that rot ate through his own flesh and killed him as well. > Yeah, Roman territories around 40 C.E
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 07:25 PM
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Behold the power of simplicity: Simple shit like good posture, making eye contact, being strong, dressing well go a long, long way to convincing people you're alpha, even if you never open your mouth. > These are all in the bag. And have been since early in my life. But it’s my mouth that’s the issue. I’m good with it. I worked well in sales, negotiation and other roles where communication and discretion were key. I am very sociable and quiet controversial but I always get this bad after taste o…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/18 07:24 PM
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Is it yours? The amount of times I’ve read this today is stupid! ROFL
/r/askMRP21/04/18 12:29 PM
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These should be mandatory for MRPers so we can recognise each other in public.
/r/askMRP21/04/18 12:25 PM
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Well done brother. You’ve really got the basics down. You stayed in your own frame even though it was tempting to go nuclear on that harpy.
/r/askMRP21/04/18 07:49 AM
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Ah yeah, that one works really well.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 08:00 PM
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Ha, I’m heading that way!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 06:23 PM
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Thanks, I’ll do that. Pushed on the goblet squats today and really felt it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 05:41 PM
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Really appreciate the feedback and points. yeah, i don't really understand how you guys fuck the fatties. i have hit a few back in the day; and it was a one (ok, maybe two) and done affair.> Me too. But what I have to acknowledge is that pre-MRP I simpering pussy pursuer and it was hers. I was after. One of the guys up here recently said something to the effect “I can believe some guys up here who would have been crying for the pussy from the land whale at home and now you all pissed off that sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 05:12 PM
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WTF, from fearing disrespect to I've been playing with manufactured drama and it has been a blast. Negging to full on acting mad about something I could really give 2 shits about just to get her rialed up.> What a dramatic change. It's like LMR used to mean 'No' now it means foreplay. Great overview.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 12:34 PM
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Ha, Honey I Blew up the Hamster! I have had my mouth mounted to the fire hose. You pointing to self-deprecating, and does not even invite the conclusion that your wife might actually like you.> is precise. I haven't even considered that for a moment in the process.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 12:20 PM
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Man, this made me think of how many goddesses I have set up in many different areas. How it made me a literal orbiter in so many ways. It's like some tattered and gross security blanket that I have been carrying around...that gives zero security.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 12:15 PM
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Shit, that's killer. Kicks it right back to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 12:10 PM
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Wow! Thanks for sharing this. I'm going to go through your story. Shit, that's hardcore what you went through. But the clarity of it has really helped ground me. Appreciate it man, you make so much sense and what you're saying is a smart strategy I can live out across time. Appreciated deeply.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 09:13 AM
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Ha, I like the water skiing metaphor.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 09:09 AM
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Your fears are dominating you. AND YOU STILL LACK FRAME! Don't I fucking know it! I'm gonna watch the Princess Bride and start reading Aurelius this weekend.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 09:09 AM
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Because I'm clueless. Would you have any pointers?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 09:07 AM
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This helps greatly. I need to do this. IOI's do give me a boost but I haven't done any approaches or number closes. This would definitely accelerate the abundance mentality. Would you point me to resources you would recommend when you have a moment?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 09:06 AM
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Thanks man. Yep, mid-MAP, spot on.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 09:00 AM
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If that happens, I will be moving on to younger hotter models. Yeah man. Simple, focused and planned. I need to keep this trajectory in front of me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 08:48 AM
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You nailed it for me. The question of: "has my wife cheated on me in the past?" will never get answered definitively for you or anyone else. Yep The way your hamster is spinning now, even positive paternity tests will not ease your mind. Oh, shit. That's true. But, it would prove to myself I'm not a cuck. However, I guess you'd say that's 'more fucking hamstering'. Outlogic the hamster.> Exactly. I am not doing the logic work. I need too pick up the shovel and get to work here. Now, I'm flouncin…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 08:43 AM
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Great response dude.> It perfectly on target to reorient my thinking. This should be mandatory reading for every faggot getting married.> You know if a man had told me that before getting married I would have believed it,
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 08:32 AM
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Y'know this is great to hear. I can act out IDGAF but it's a front 65% of the time. That works for banging but not for my internal state. That would then lead to me not doing what I wanted, getting resentful and eventually blowing up the place with pent up frustration. That has been true for so long. It's definitely changing but my 'oneness' is way off. Y'know, i read here about asking yourself "What do you want?" but excluding wealth, nice home, great family because that's what she wants. When …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 08:27 AM
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This is golden. Right. Bang on the money for me now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 08:18 AM
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Frankl has impacted me. So quoting him supercharged your advice. So your sense of responsibility is fair. But you cannot control (or be responsible for) someone else's emotions or actions. Those are on them. The way you broke things down put a fine point on where I am veering off course. It shows me that the work I have to do is to differentiate things more thoroughly. Further, it shows me that I'm hiding behind 'responsibility' in a quest for a silver bullet or a cure-all. That's pretty fucking…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 08:16 AM
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General Thank You: to each of the men who replied to my post I want to say I am truly grateful. Each reply has pulled my attention to key issues. I love studying the material here but what you've given me is precise coordinates of the areas I need to pay immediate attention to. Invaluable and appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 08:08 AM
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It 100% does have to do with my FR. I have exited that to some degree but the emotional chords are still strong. I think a huge a mount of it is what triggers my anxiety. I think it has to do with being overly responsible. Everything comes back to being my responsibility/fault. I think when people sense this rather that stepping up they pour on blame. I've put myself in this position. I am grateful the 6 month lag because pulling myself out of it is taking longer than I would have anticipated. w…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:22 PM
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Forgive me with the obtuse metaphors. I am working through some of my stuff and tend to be metaphoric when I do that. What I am trying to say is the things like the OI and being your own mental point of origin (gold) are found in these difficult interactions. Whatever activties I plan, with our without the family, she thinks is too much, too stressful, etc, etc. She wants to be the one in control at all times, but she's happy when I put in the work and arrange something that she suggests. So at …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 12:22 PM
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I hear you. But influence action and responses is key to sexual success right?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 06:01 PM
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Ha, yeah, you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 05:58 PM
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It's true that you can't control her but the level of influence you can create is akin to magic. If advertisers can make you buy shit you don't want by triggering automatic responses I think a man on a course can trigger loyalty on a huge scale. Every little external validator that builds on top of a man's changes has a compounding effect. So what she does is profoundly influenced by what we do.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 05:54 PM
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I'm unsuccessfully trying to hide my weaknesses> This. There is a temporary refuge in retreat. But it won't foster strength in you. You need to face this dragon of a women you have so you can take the gold she is gaurding. Whatever the outcome, get that gold. Now she has you reactive. Use her to overcome this. It will be invaluable to you for the rest of your life. Then do what you want, divorce her or not. But win the fight. I should go away and hide (metaphorically or literary) when I feel wea…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 04:37 PM
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There’s a word for this: hiding. It sounds like you are suffering from Impostor Syndrome. Look it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 10:41 AM
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Yep, but it’s testosterone for sexual desire in women. This is why I think the STFU, Lift and sidebar refrain is key at beginner (me) to intermediate levels. Because the heightening of testosterone via the lifting, not entering her frame magnetises women’s testosterone to the male now wafting it around the home. I am speculating here but there is some science to it. Scent/desire and mirror neurones in learning and behaviour adaptations. Here’s a little game that works flawlessly. When you are un…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 09:58 AM
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Yep! Here’s one. I found this very useful for where I am at. In the main it gave me a better lens to view my past through. It also reduced the volatile energy that I have been experiencing since MRP. That been said, I would still keep to lift, STFU and OI in all my advice to noobs. This is a sexual strategy afterall. But it is something else too. MRP adds value in more domains than one. For me, I would say I am sitting on serious gains in the sexual and relational context. I am intelligent enoug…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 09:45 AM
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Yeah, I really dig your point about alcoholics and addicts. I found the post useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 09:37 AM
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Bang on, stellar advice. Great article. WTF, OP is 6 weeks in and he posts this wall of shite. Has he read this sub? Does he not realise the big dogs smell blood and are coming for his weak sauce ass? Let the bloodletting begin.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 09:19 AM
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No more angry bullshit. Find the post in this sub about the Anger Phase. Read it. Then it’s a month for every year of marriage. That’s an MRP rule. Every motherfucker here wants to bounce when the wake up. You can leave. But you won’t have changed. You need to see it with your own eyes. Information informs. Experience transforms. Get to work bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 09:10 AM
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What was your back up plan? You didn’t have one, right. There needs to be a Plan B for you. If she’s not into it, you are happily kissing her platonically on the shoulder, saying something charming and leaving the room to lift until your body is crying out for you to stop. And if you still have a rager, take that shower and finish it off. You have no options for yourself, no back up plan, nothing but her response and you linger in it. She’s telling you to have a wank because you look like a wank…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 08:39 AM
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So true, that’s exactly what it’s like!
/r/askMRP17/04/18 05:10 PM
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Don't fight, don't argue. Continue to push through LMR, if you get a Hard No stop and do that other thing you'd lined up. Do not agree to sex later. Leave it hanging. You don't give a fuck. You'll get played by her. What she is doing is anchoring you on her deal. What you are doing is rejecting the deal, the terms and timing: Without words. Then initiate whenever you feel like it. If she Hard No's you: Rinse&Repeat. If she is a strong woman your pushing through LMR is a huge turn on. This can be…
/r/askMRP17/04/18 09:44 AM
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I am guessing this woman is strong woman. She is renegotiating everything to keep you in the beta position. So, like u/steelsharpenssteel says: J10 says it better.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 09:24 AM
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Great post. I needed this. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 09:18 AM
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Before you initiate, plan what you would do if you decided not to initiate at all.> This is works so well. I always make it something I would really like to do, not something that is a chore. Lift, write, read something I hadn't time for. And always drop that platonic kiss before you exit the room. In the end if it's not a sexual relationship, it's not a marriage. It's like friendship that seen better days. And she knows what happens those. If you see that downgraded friend once every 2 years or…
/r/askMRP17/04/18 08:07 AM
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Love this point. I think the speed is huge because one's wife and family are the basic unit of the tribe. we want to protect and provide. From an evolutionary stand point we are prone to being triggered by that which is proximal to the tribe. There is a great poster on this page to memorise the triggers; https://www.kapitalust.com/mental-model-lifemorts/ which shows the 9 triggers for snapping discovered by a neuroscientist. When you consider that these brain signals don't even send a signal to …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 07:08 PM
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I got my mind on my money and my money on my balls. Preach it bro!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 06:54 PM
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Nice one
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 06:50 PM
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DEER, is someone getting a little defensive?
/r/askMRP16/04/18 06:45 PM
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Understanding this allows me to see how the next 6 months to a year will unfold - which leads to a sense of calm and confidence which will only lead to better handling of shit tests.> The sense of calm is huge. When I internalised u/BluePillProffessor's prescription for 1 month for every year of marriage and simultaneously started to see the IOI's and figure out they were IOI's a sense of calm descended. I am coming up to my half way point on the prescribed timeline. If things keep moving like t…
/r/askMRP16/04/18 04:39 PM
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Yet again, I have to take my hat off to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 04:26 PM
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You could have your wife checked out for Post Natal Depression. In this instance, it would give you clarity. If you can help her clear the fog. It won't cure all but it will assist in her been able to see you. Which could shock up the dread impact. She'll see what she could loose. On the more difficult side of things. You went deadbedroom/daughter/deadbedroom. She wanted to have a baby before the clock went out. Now, she's got that. Now you're a monk with a family. The feminism thing is ideologi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 04:06 PM
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Sensitive guys are the best.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 01:06 PM
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Women prefer good looking men. Fuck me.
/r/askMRP13/04/18 10:19 PM
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💯. You’re right. OP needs to build those walls yesterday.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 03:28 PM
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Man, wear a condom if you do have sex with her. Get out now. What she said to you can’t be undone. If you ended up with a kid from this harpy, cruel woman you would never forget her request for other men’s cock. You will look at your children and wonder “are these mine?” What part of hell do you find so attractive? Next her.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 01:59 PM
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Excellent quote
/r/askMRP28/03/18 08:51 PM
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Do this
/r/askMRP28/03/18 08:50 PM
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You won’t find your path until you get the fuck out of that girls frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:59 PM
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This
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:57 PM
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Priceless
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:56 PM
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Shoalin sheeeit!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:42 PM
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You’re probably right.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 01:34 PM
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This is my suspicion in the case of LTR’s. I know that guy from TRP got slapped around here for over-theorising last week. However, his point that MRP is TRP for Blue Pill Relationships stuck with me. Over the lifecycle of a LTR I think the odds of what you’re saying here are most likely. And the basis for a generalisation. I am looking at this from the start of the MRP journey. Also, there is a bit of an unconventional TradCon thing going on with me.
/r/askMRP27/03/18 01:31 PM
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Here’s a thought. Just go ahead and initiate. The changes you have made should play your way. Seduction/Kino can be come another way of monitoring her. I have seen great results from just going for it even when the shop looks closed. And I would not say i am OYSing as well as you. He who dares, Wins.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 01:21 PM
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Hey Man, So good to hear of the 'change in the wind' It's amazing to see how things change so quickly. Do you have any specific thing that triggered the change? Specifically is there one thing that seems to be more impactful than the others? Or would you put it down to the global changes that you have made in your life and attitude.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/18 10:39 AM
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Yes.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 09:51 AM
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Know this.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 09:51 AM
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Quit Smoking in January. Cut weed from daily to a couple a shared spliffs at the weekend, every second weekend. But I’m suspecting it’s affecting my frame. Since January. Quit boozing a decade ago. Bar a couple of drinks once a year.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 09:33 AM
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Great analogy.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 09:32 AM
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🤪 Exactly, what straight guy inserts... oh shit, I just came out....Mommy!!!
/r/askMRP22/03/18 09:57 PM
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Love it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 09:50 PM
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Same. Yep, I'm counting on example and Dread. I noticed she's much more responsive to changes when I do what I do without trying to onboard her. As the dread levels rise I imagine the changes will accelerate too. She has gone from never having food ready for me. To cooking up keto for me and eating with me. But I see her blowing out on carbs and sugar with that dumb look of "but i ates well all day, whys I nots skinny". Doing some exercise too. Hardcore workouts but lacking in consistency. I lik…
/r/askMRP22/03/18 02:21 PM
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Yeah, great points on the context, the language and the exhaustion that ensues. He recently said men can’t stand up to crazy women because of the physicality. He made the point that saner women should do this. It begs the question from an RP perspective: how do you next a section of society?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 11:21 AM
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Here's a thought...J.P primes men for the MRP. And women for receptivity to MRP males with disposition for monogamy. I am not saying this is conscious but that does not mean it's not what's happening in fact. What are the possible consequences of this: 1). Education starts to be open to employing more men's men. Reduction in soy content. 2). Municipal Employment starts to shift to productivity over policy 3). Increased courage among Betas. They start on the path. 4). Positive Aggression starts t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 10:38 AM
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Read the above comment over and over. I’m still a bit of an idealist so I’m not going to say don’t get married. But you seriously need to take onboard the “business arrangement” element. If you’re not shitting yourself, you don’t get it. Secondly, she’s only saying she wants you around. And that guy at work... I bet you he doesn’t fuck. He’s trying to up his beta game so he can. It won’t work. Thirdly, it’s written here. And I have experienced this. When you have a family and develop your life o…
/r/askMRP22/03/18 09:59 AM
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So what? I hear you. You getting your dick wet? Yep. Transformed, since being here on MRP. Heading for 6 months in. You getting what you want in life? On the road. Need to improve my finances and business. Got to say though, when the screwing volume goes up, it takes care of a lot of mental obstacles. Also, the constant refrain to ‘Lift’ has been powerful.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 09:37 AM
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living in secret nice guy land That could be me. But...whenever a truth is reclaimed it tends to go towards the extremes. Dark Triad feels extreme and as per OP’s example: it works in survival conditions. I’m all for time in nature but I am still up for the uses of anaesthetics for dental work. I don’t want some RP MOFO doing bush surgery on me on a reality show. If that’s Blue Pill or Purple Pill, send me the novacaine.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 08:32 PM
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But no need to resort down to their level and play games. Strong point: Elevate or fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 05:32 PM
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“ Had a frank talk...” And he’s gay too.
/r/askMRP19/03/18 10:45 PM
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Good man. Go for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/18 02:38 PM
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Forget about partnership. Act single. You do you. And do it now or this is gonna spiral into a depression and then there will be nothing but excuses.
/r/askMRP16/03/18 11:38 PM
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Get out of the house 3 nights a week. Go to where men are.
/r/askMRP16/03/18 11:35 PM
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How many nights per week are you getting out of the house?
/r/askMRP16/03/18 10:21 PM
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Ha
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 09:09 PM
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Quality. Here’s something I’ve been thinking about across a number of domains. But particularly in relation to MRP. The good times are dangerous. It’s here your most likely to fuck up. When things are rolling, we’d be wise to be doubly conscious of our frame. Coasting is easy to slip into. I’ve been very happy with the outcomes from the strategy but I’ve noticed there a tendency coast.
/r/askMRP16/03/18 09:08 PM
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That’s it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 08:58 PM
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Truth
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 08:56 PM
1

How about dropping 2 words. "I NEED sex. I don't NEED you."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 08:54 PM
1

Succinct
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 08:45 PM
1

Inspirational. I really appreciated the tone and arc of this and your last post.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 06:43 PM
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The level of substance is found with a band of brothers. It can show up in your marriage when the strength of your leadership is trusted. But your frame has to be super strong and you must realise that you're 'surfing' and channelling that substance. You're not suppose to trust in it or receive validation from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:23 PM
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Great book.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:10 PM
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And again. Nice one.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:05 PM
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Telling her makes it easy to feel the causal link. This is spot on. It's what I'm after when I am rabbiting on. I want to feel like I initiated the change. But it's bullshit, it's short term reward over long term benefit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:03 PM
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Man, I hear you. And I'm with you but: "why are you talking with your wife?". Because I like my wife. I bet if you watch her while you're talking her eyes will glaze or you'll see signs of disinterest way more that you've seen before. The Professor said: If she wants to "talk" I would listen carefully with my arm around. After 30 minutes or so of this then deflect and redirect from her topic. I bet you're like me and in those 30 minute you'd be chatting away telling her your thoughts. If I'm rig…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 04:49 PM
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a man would understand the underlying test, and have a much more confident and aloof response, if he has one at all. I need to get this down. Works like a charm when I do it. It's when things are good I start talking to her like i was discussing a subject with a man. I can see it turning her off. Takes a while to get the changes down.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 04:33 PM
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Excellent
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 04:20 PM
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Eh, yes and no. Your OP is saying that when one can transcend the need for sex your power, attractiveness and independence sky rocket. In this case, the focus is now on your calling not an individual (your wife). I agree. Your comment to DDPirate is defensiveness because you took a few punches in the responses. Therefore the only way to deal with it are to a) shut it down, or b) fuck whoever, however, whenever. This is where you loose it. There are loads of men here who don't subscribe to fuckin…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 02:38 PM
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got it
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 06:27 PM
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LOL. love it.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 05:11 PM
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I didn't know that. Thanks. It was becoming a pain in the ass. Thanks for the tips on both counts. In relation to the body position it shines a light something I noted. I went into the bedroom. I'd been gaming a bit all day. Escalating and been way, way more aggressive than usual. At one point I even thought, shit, this is very hardcore. I could tell she was up for it. Sex quantity has been up to the point where I could take it or leave it last night. I went into the room after taking my sweet a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 05:06 PM
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Ok u/Persaeus. Gonna need some details. Drop todays knowledge bomb on me. Please and thank you man.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 02:14 PM
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This is it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 11:30 AM
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Yup
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 11:29 AM
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Exactly. You create a 'Category of One'. You win because it's customised to your strengths.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 11:28 AM
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💯 and doing that is IDGAF on steroids.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 09:23 AM
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Exactly. And when you’re in the room, strong posture. Shoulders back, head up & dick forward. Few words. Then watch for her subtle cues..,.wiggles, words and wants. Very subtle cues.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 07:47 AM
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Yeah, ‘cause you look too invested when you do.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 07:42 AM
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Good reply
/r/askMRP15/03/18 07:41 AM
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Or not. Being oblivious to the opinion of others is powerful.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 01:24 AM
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Here’s your problem: being a valuable man that woman want is to have your wife fuck you *Wrong. * Your wife has all ready fucked you. She sex starved you. That’s why you’re here. You fuck your wife. Not the other way around. To do that you must initiate. To do that consistently you can’t be butthurt. Always have an alternative activity lined up in case it doesn’t come together. The best a butthurt Beta can hope for is a charity ride. And that’s fucking awful.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 01:20 AM
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No and that’s very important. Put that in your notes. Other people tell me I am but they are all just ignorant or stupid.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 01:09 AM
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Man, fuck game. Study later. Just touch her and BE GONE. Then initiate, no response and BE GONE. Then initiate and it looks on and BE GONE. Be gone and it’s on.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 01:04 AM
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I'm starting to think it's like OP said: What do you want? Asking yourself this question is a hard thing to do. it's the deciding on what you want thats the hardest. Because it's exposes your soft underbelly that you want to protect. And everyone, while you are trying to attain your goal it is judging both your choice and your efforts. And none more so than your woman. So, the mommy validation kicks in. And because you're the origin: you're the target. She's a little pissed and we think that equ…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 06:21 PM
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Excellent
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 06:10 PM
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Now you're getting it. Whatever it was with her in the beginning has become codependency. Now it's time to let the Mommy Validation die and figure out where your own self begins. Do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 03:41 PM
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Yep u/donedreadpirate. You said it: hamstering fear of failure I think that's the key. If you aren't initiating every time you want to for sex and for OI practice, it's not TMRP. It's the fear. It's the fear of getting a real answer and having to take action on it. OYS becomes a way to schmooze up to the big guys in the playground. You feel strong by association but the harpy at home is kicking your ass. Because at home you're a bitch. Once I started here, that's what I heard: initiate and don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 03:30 PM
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It's getting a bit whiney in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 03:23 PM
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Dude, u/rian_stone called you out on it yesterday. Read that comment back out loud and record yourself. Listen to it. Then read your reply to me out loud and record it and play it back to yourself. You are deep in her frame she won't give you the Validgina. But get out of her frame and you might get some pussy. None of your number of cases: matter. There is no ground for assessment because you've no frame. or I am not as far in the process as I thought. 100% you're not. You can't negotiate desir…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 03:20 PM
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Okay. Copy that. **FR*** Married = 12 years. Children = 3 Took the RP = 5 months ago Previously = Negotiating Desire Status = Fucks Doubled Quality: + IOI = + SMV = + Hard No = - Lost Hamster = Found TMRP = ++
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 09:42 AM
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That’s rough.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 09:07 AM
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Brilliant. So to hear good man. I was pretty sure you had to be! The quality of your yearly report implied it. I'm looking forward to year 2 already. Keep Owning it!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:38 PM
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This is exactly what I thought was going on behind the scenes. Yes, you can come back for D -threats. You wouldn't believe how many feeble ones I dropped. I am cringing at it. Even during the last shark week I did it again. Seriously. This is a sign of how weak my frame is. But it's coming on by leaps and bounds. I can feel it. I see it. i am proud of my gains and it's influence on everyone around me. Just in case, I'm sounding down on myself. I am amping up everything. You have not fucked up al…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:24 PM
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Hey u/ice_walker. I am right in saying you are about 3 months in, right? And your going to serve divorce papers. You do you. But I think you're rushing it. Again, in this post I see you monitoring her activity: suspect wife has started to secure funds already. Taking countermeasures. Do what you gotta do but... If she hasn't said anything directly to you, you have to ask yourself whose hamster is on the wheel? Either way, I had this thought this morning. I've been watching the wife upping her ga…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 02:45 PM
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Yeah! I was buzzing by the end of your post. Great results. How's the bodywork going and what impact has that had over the 1st year?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 02:26 PM
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You Machiavellian Feelz Monster!
/r/askMRP13/03/18 07:54 AM
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Simple and powerful. I’m such a bitch I rarely throw comfort in. Loads of verbal diarrhoea instead. That’s the shift for March right there.
/r/askMRP13/03/18 07:50 AM
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Keep your foot on the gas. She can’t lead, she can’t be equals. You can have a friend or a lover. This. When you start getting more sex you’ll realise she ain’t as good company as your making out in this post. She knows your gonna discover this. And pass a comfort test once in a while.
/r/askMRP13/03/18 07:47 AM
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Ok, at your age and with that number of kids, combined with your affirmation needs and want for value from her. In her mind she is sure she’s nailing her end and thinks you’re lacking on your end. If she’s a high value individual you will have to work harder. MRP is the red pill on hard mode. If she is the type of woman I’m guessing your frame work will have to jump forward before you start to see results. Have you read the 12 levels of Dread in the sidebar?
/r/askMRP11/03/18 08:35 PM
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Yeah, good question u/straius. Here's another one u/Wtfdidy0ud0, does she Own Her Shit? Does she adult her end well?
/r/askMRP11/03/18 06:34 PM
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But, don’t fool yourself man. You are squarely in her frame. When you get out of it. The praise will come. And be sure of this, praise willl come and it will feel a lot ‘nicer’ but will also pull you into her frame. I’ve been here man, now i get praise for a lot and I have to work to not be sucked into it. Frame is everything. And DEER 🦌 , from your comments you’re trying to rationalise this away.
/r/askMRP11/03/18 04:48 PM
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To be a man is to do what is needed instead of what is wanted, and to do so without an expectation of appreciation. This right here, is what I needed to hear. It unravels a knot in my head.
/r/askMRP11/03/18 03:36 PM
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💯 u/triclops41
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 09:28 AM
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At least she put together a Power Point for him. Is that not real love?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 12:27 AM
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That’s what I thought haha!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 12:25 AM
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You’re reading it all wrong u/Reach180! He has Eight Six inch cocks. He’s a Medusa down there. Of course he’s puzzled why she’s not paying respect. Shhh! But it’s a chick posting, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 12:24 AM
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I dig this. Made me think that: Expressing frustration = Beta Signal. It signals that your saying “I’m working, it’s difficult, I’m contending here, this is hard”. While all your passengers are thinking “just drive the fucking car, everyone else can do it... oh shit, unless your one of those people who crash into...shit, do we need to help him out”. Not a good look. Be attractive. Don’t be unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 10:38 PM
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So true, it’s like we rail against using what we know because 1) we’re angry 2) we have a prescribed way we want things to happen 3) we are opposed technique because it’s not ‘authentic’ enough. The male hamster 🐹 in effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 10:27 PM
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Agreed, love your stuff Rollo but this is next level. The writing has great pitch and pace. A persuasive and open style.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 10:22 PM
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I like this analysis. It opens up the idea of introducing disrupters in the alpha trajectory. Out of the box behaviours that perplex. Heightening intrigue.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 10:17 PM
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Would you say that this Shepard boy could represent a Sigma? We see Sigma traits in his father David.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 10:13 PM
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Cool man, let me know how it rolls for you. But you know it’ll work. u/magamanarfarf reminded me this when I was bitching about being in The Anger Phase. He used caveman games. The Vampire 🧛‍♀️ is great ‘cause you can be all chill and then get the neck. A key is to not to initiate immediately, leave it simmer! Enjoy the weekend 😋
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 09:36 PM
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Did you hear the one from J B Peterson on women’s fantasies. https://youtu.be/1bVKIcP36es. Vampire 🧛‍♀️, werewolf, pirate, billionaire & surgeon 👨‍⚕️ are the main erotic fantasies. So, I’m going with your dread programme professor, coupled with playful nuances of the above. When we playfully introduce this into our kino game it has powerful effects. You’ve got to use some words and theatre 🎭. I actually think this is hard for men. The games boys play with each other growing up become increasingl…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 06:57 PM
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Every pattern becomes rigid when relied on. 💯
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 06:27 PM
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Oh wow, flipping it professor. Btw, thanks for all your work. You’ve been talking to me through my speaker 🔊 in my house for months. So many times your YouTube podcast and articles have steered and challenged me 🙏🏻. What happens often is the woman cuts off all the validation and great sex that charged him with Alpha emotions. He becomes a shell of the man he was and it is a tumble straight to the bottom. I think in most cases, if the woman did not cut off the validational sex. I agree that it’s …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 06:21 PM
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I hear the point your making and it is something I think about a lot. I agree that Tradcons face a slower turn around and it can be tough reading. And for TRP guys it’s frustrating. However, I think there are a few things that TradCons, particularly those involved in Churchianity believe that are impeding their progress. Bear in mind that the social revolution that ‘Christian Monogamy’ created meant that natural Betas had access to sex. Rather than the natural alpha order where the alpha gets mu…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 05:45 PM
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Bang on!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 04:47 PM
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Modus Operandi 101 🎯 for sure u/donedreadpirate
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 04:45 PM
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100% agree. They’re are not deductive. It’s how they felt. Hence, the admonition to remember what you were like when you first met each other. This shows us how weak our frame has become. Then we can see why she becomes a harpy in the face of our beta nature. Sex without the hunt and development of skills (see Frame) is catalyst for men’s devolution down into the lower order. That is if the relationship begun pre-wall.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 04:42 PM
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I like this. The reason you DEER, in the example of the sunglasses, is not to make others feel good. It's ego protection in that you want others to think you are the type of man .................[which] results of you being a pussy. For me, the blank is filled in with ‘who is cool and nothing fazes him’. Which results precisely with me being treated like a pussy. Other biggies that fill the blank are: • happy go lucky • can handle anything • is chilled out • a great guy • who has the cash to sor…
/r/askMRP07/03/18 09:40 AM
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Checked it out
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 10:28 PM
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I nearly shat myself laughing at “you’ve turned her into a wank sock”.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 10:11 PM
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HAHA, True.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:30 PM
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Yuck! That's sounds DEERish and victimish.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:14 PM
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I know man. But you zeroed in on some shit that was super helpful to me. The method is giving me the space to figure out what is the best version of me. how do i want people to perceive me. than be that way no matter the circumstances. this is your stoic frame. I am going there. And here's the bittersweet part. I am doing it consciously for the first time in my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:10 PM
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suggest Models, Practical Female Psychology, Day Bang; then SGM Sweet. Needed a sequence.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:08 PM
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how far one can get out of their own frame and common sense that "saying nice things to people makes nice things happen" is a revelation. I literally heard your words in my ears. I felt totally detached, like a dispassionate observer and just thought, Persaeus made a good point I'll try this. As it pertains to frame, I felt it exercised it. And that my historic reluctance to do it was something 'outside' of my frame. Something that grew from the adoption of an idea or a bad experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 01:54 PM
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Right on the chin, man. 100%. You're right. I'm on this. Awareness of this will help me practice. Thanks u/SBIII
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 12:38 PM
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She's maintaining the Main Frame, her's. Remember the 2/3 rule. Pull it back.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 12:34 PM
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I've no idea what my wife's languages are. Apart from womanese, of course. Haha. I hear you. The measure is key.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 12:33 PM
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You need to get to a place where you are doing your own things - both physically and mentally - where your world is your own. Once you get there, you start creating interactions rather than just reacting to them, you start controlling things rather than letting them happen to you. THIS!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 11:18 AM
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And here's another thing for you, the problem wasn't just tiredness you were trying to prearrange access to pussy. There can be no negotiation.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 11:16 AM
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I had the exact same shit happen. When I am tired I am the weakest. Which is weird because on projects I can deliver and run with no sleep. But, I bet, even in that context, I miss the real cream on the deal because I am emotional. Note to self: sleep before playing the Game or you'll loose!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 11:10 AM
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I know right u/SBIII! In the thread u/Persaeus went on to say that light ego stroking for her is important because if she 'adults' like a boss she is going to need it. "cause affirmation is one of her 'languages'. I fucking hated doing that. Dunno why. Just did. Felt weak or something. Twisted I know, but it's the truth. But u/Persaeus has been through the fire. It is one of my rules in life that it's easier to learn from the pain of another than from having the experience 1st hand. The man said…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 11:06 AM
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Good man. It is counterintuitive but you cannot enter a depressed frame and leave with your strength intact.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 10:10 AM
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'cause I thought myself I did OK. So maybe I need to have my butt kicked. Dude, you did shit. The period comment was gross. You were begging. Even if you were having a sparkling sex life that shit would be hard, if not impossible to pull off as playful & cheeky. The key to moving in power is to move in the right timing. It sounds like you’re frame is made out of noodles. Hopefully u/SBIII will take care of the ass kicking you need re: your wife and your buddy Chad. I'll share with you some conte…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 10:04 AM
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A trustworthy but unloyal wife is preferrable to a untrustworthy but loyal wife. A disloyal wife can be converted, but trust, once broken, is not repairable. This distinction added greatly to my understanding. Its utility increased my sense of resourcefulness and agency. A must read!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 09:11 AM
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This is great work. I had a scenario with my wife today that this speaks directly to. The big problem was I had ended up in her frame and my hamster was going mad on the wheel. Backstory: a month ago I’d called her out on abusing painkillers and hiding it (something I was guilty of in the past, years ago) and I was getting paranoid about ‘what was going on behind the scenes’ with her. Back Back Story: I had been super paranoid for a number of months prior to taking the RP . That was 5 months ago…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/18 11:49 PM
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u/MAGAManARFARF thanks for the encouragement man. This is gonna sound childish but sometimes I just don't want to. This is usually during Shark Week tho'. I tend to get introverted and angry and paranoid. Inwardly i become a victim. Your comment made me think about this. I know what I have to do. Thanks bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/18 04:17 PM
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Yeah, I hear you. Got flush out that resentment with extra fun. Helpful reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 08:14 PM
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Haha 😆
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 08:11 PM
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Thanks 🙏🏻. I’ll be in touch.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 08:10 PM
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This is exactly what I aiming toward. Everything you wrote rings through to me. I would like to get specific and I think that private messages would be best. I really appreciate it u/resolutions316.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 03:16 PM
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Hey 👋, I would like to onboard new clients and I need to work on my pricing/fee structure. At the moment, I charge by the hour and I have recently started outsourcing some work. I would like to be in a position, like you, where I would be able to confidently say I “provide an extremely good quality of life for my family”. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 11:54 PM
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Yep, sounds close to buckling u/Speak_Sense. Proud to hear you’ve taken it up a notch. Keep celebrating life. Let the weight of who you are register unapologetically. Don’t fear the experience of excess emotion if it surfaces as you pass through anger into reconnection with yourself. Keep interacting with everyone and turn into a smiling, nonchalant mute when she starts commenting on it. Unless you got your AM down and can just breeze through it. But I doubt it... ‘Cause I am as funny as fuck an…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 07:00 PM
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I do. Tell me about work online u/resolutions316. Very interested
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 06:35 PM
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Yeah man, definitely. Your own scholarship will give you a great foothold. Take a look at the wives in scripture, now in what I am about to write, it is one sided. But it is illustrative: Eve tells Adam, the goodies aren't where you said, let's do something else (what the snake says). Sarah, tells Abram, 'no the promise won't come true like that, have sex with Hagar and she'll bear us a son'. Then she gets rid of both the mother and Abram's firstborn son. Zipporah won't permit Moses to circumcis…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 06:11 PM
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Great stuff. Thanks for this u/Persaeus
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 05:55 PM
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Wah waaah wah. I got to work on my internet skills.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 01:46 PM
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u/resolutions316 everything you need is right here. this thing rambles way more than even my normal stuff. It's partly taken from personal journal entries, because I wanted to get down my actual thought process for reflecting back. "Let me share my diary with you men". You've got a crew of supporters here who are giving you advice you will never get anywhere else. And you're sharing your diary of your feelings? Do you think that recognises the value of the contributions that are being returned t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 11:41 AM
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I misfired the text when I was replying. This separation that you made is helpful. I’d notice a glazing in my wife’s eyes and exasperation if I share when ‘shit’ is in progress or has material that relates to her. Well, I am making those connections now. Previously, I was putting it down to me over talking. So, I’d stfu. That worked. But, this observation opens up another way. It’s the content not the word count.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 02:39 AM
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Steel
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 01:15 AM
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Dude, one really important thing and I am not a doctor 👨‍⚕️... be done with the depression narrative. I know, it’s complicated but from the sounds of it you’ve been very conscious of it. Just get her depression out of your head. And just keep moving forward as if it was inconsequential to you. You can do nothing about it. Also, if there is anything mawkish about your manner of dealing with it (and nothing you’ve said indicates that you are) but if...if...there is, be done with it. It’s a leach. …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 10:44 PM
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Yep, sounds close to buckling. Dude, proud to hear you’ve taken it up a notch. Keep celebrating life. I mean whatever, if you dance in the kitchen when alone, do it whenever. Open up those valves of the heart and be who you are. Let the weight of who you are register unapologetically. Don’t fear the experience of excess emotion if it surfaces as you pass through anger into reconnection with yourself. I would keep interacting with everyone and turn into a smiling, nonchalant mute when she starts …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 10:33 PM
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Back at it again u/Persaeus! at certain level intimacy subverts romance I think the 2 are often equated. If not synonymous. Care to use your scalpel to cut this malformed growth out? I for one would appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 09:28 PM
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I think this emanates from a theological error. And one that is carried by 'christian' traditions but not the Scripture. There is an equation in the mind of men that our 'attachment' is our fidelity/faithfulness. They are not the same thing. A man is called to be attached the Vision, The Word, The Highest. This is the ONE. By putting our women in the place of the One we get infected with Oneitis. The One creates liberty, Oneitis is a disease of the soul. Let me go one level deeper. All men fear …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 09:21 PM
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Do you fear that letting go of your Oneitis would be the same thing letting go of your belief in monogamy?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 07:51 PM
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This looks great. Got thru the first sections. Got to get back to work so I'll finish it tonight. 'As always the answer is yes, no maybe' will keep me going till then.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 04:31 PM
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PMSL!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 04:29 PM
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hypergamy is not conscious in her 'Hypergamy is not conscious' in general. That's what gives it power and resilience over vast periods of time. Thanks for your openness about your background, is it possible that your are trying to augment your reality (via your beliefs) to justify a resurgent Oneitis?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 04:23 PM
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Nugget!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 04:16 PM
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Good work. Look up the Slow Carb diet by Tim Ferriss. You will shed weight fast. At the same time start studying Keto cookbooks and principles. They are related. But Keto is precise. With your lifting your probably dropping into cyclical ketosis. This will help with your depression. Kill the grain and save your brain! Make BulletProof or Butter coffee for breakfast and lunch. 2 tbsp x grass fed dairy butter + 2tbsp of cold pressed coconut oil. Add coffee 500ml Blend in a blender. You can replace…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 08:32 AM
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Yep. Get fit and shut your mouth. 🤙🏻
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 02:34 PM
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Short, sweet, shrewd and sharp.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 02:33 PM
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Really clear definitions.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 08:09 PM
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So true.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 08:05 PM
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It means "Tits or Get the Fuck Off". Which means I ain't suspected of being here to undermined shit. With a bit a punch in gut attached because I'm a newbie. u/Rian_Stone may confirm if my interpretation is correct, perhaps? Or here may just not bother, because in the end why should he. haha
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 08:03 PM
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Haha
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 04:17 PM
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Yaymen! Preach it!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 04:16 PM
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Great stuff. That is super helpful. I haven’t read PFP. I will now. Your comments were insightful and full of immediate utility. Thank you. I’ve been doing very little ego stroking so I better throw some in.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 04:16 PM
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I am starting to think there is a filter that maybe very useful in looking at this type of content (Gottman et al). *Please note I am not referring to the lunatic fringe and ideologues. Academics are excellent at dissection, diagnosis and deliberate categorisation of the sickness. They usually demonstrate great skill at distinguishing symptoms. This is where their main contribution lies. However when it comes to the application of solutions they are routinely wrong. A Praxeology such as MRP exce…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 09:26 AM
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The interview is stunning. Flipping the traditional view on it’s head. And at only 29 minutes, it’s a must.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 09:06 AM
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Wow. Forget battle plans you just dropped a War Plan. In less than 50 words. ✊🏼
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 09:02 AM
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Great to hear. Dealing with mental health issues is a minefield . I have seen great progress with my own wife. She is unrecognisable in personality from a year ago. I regularly have moments where I remember why I pursued her in the first place. And for years I had thought I would never see that again. The reality distortion field was global for us for all the beta years. In relation to self sacrificing, it is a complex issue. Here is an idea that will help you work through the issue. It will hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 11:41 PM
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i had a lot of problem with this myself. i purposefully chose a woman that i saw as my equal . . . it wasn't an accident. i wanted equal - equal drive and earning power (don't want to support some lazy cunt), equal intellect (not boring dumb), and equal frame (the challenge . . .). don't really think i would choose different; but when you make this choice you have realize you just signed up for harder mode because there can only be one top and hypergamy dictates it's either you or you suffer. WH…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 07:17 PM
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However, when her body language indicates (legs closing, vag clamping down, physically recoiling), and she directly communicates that I am physically hurting her (9-10 on the pain scale), then this naturally fucks with my head. In my opinion, I have never done anything that would rate a 2 on the intensity scale, yet she reacts like it is 10+. My suggestion was not to go for penetrative sex at all. But to play for some other sexual activity the would give you release. In a related note, I have re…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 05:38 PM
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Me neither
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 05:13 PM
1

Here you go bro https://therationalmale.com/tag/birth-control/
/r/askMRP22/02/18 06:58 AM
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Cool. I’ve been tracking on your stuff. Hardcore man. You’ve had to endure some stuff. Right to the edge and back.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 12:53 AM
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Intriguing. Care to share the logic behind your deduction? And thanks for the BAM!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 12:45 AM
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u/Persaeus has said what needs to be said. I would like to see what happens when you drop the info about your 'raise' in a DNGAF manner. I would initiate sometime after that. Turn her around, with her back to you, fully clothed and do not let her turn back into. Don't let her equalise. This escalates risks, dominance and excitement. Work from there, concentrate on her breasts through her clothes for as long as you can resist. Escalate the depth of the kissing but as she responds keep her turned …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 07:57 PM
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A timely admonition. I’ll put some hours in.
/r/askMRP19/02/18 10:41 AM
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Useless
/r/askMRP18/02/18 11:38 AM
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I think the possibility of affected neural health and downward pressure on mood make one lest powerful. Also the fact the biologically ability to sire is now neutered decrease the power and worth of the stud.
/r/askMRP18/02/18 11:37 AM
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Dude, I knew that from the get go. I avoid hormonal BC like the plague. I’m the same as you expect in this regard I would be even more risk adverse (I wouldn’t take a 1% chance). Philosophically: i’ll Pick power over pleasure. One will lead to the other but not the other way round. u/hystericalbonding seems to have ad measured view and I have asked him about our shared concerned. Perhaps he’ll comeback on it. IUD Looks good so far. I hear you about withdrawal. However it does seem if she looks a…
/r/askMRP18/02/18 10:41 AM
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Is there a specific teaching and application in the letter that you are pointing to?
/r/askMRP18/02/18 10:28 AM
2

Clear and useful information. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and opinion. Have already considered mooted links between vasectomy and nuero degenerative disease in men (dementia & Parkinson’s)?
/r/askMRP18/02/18 10:19 AM
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Cheers Reach
/r/askMRP16/02/18 07:58 PM
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Don't get it
/r/askMRP16/02/18 07:57 PM
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Haha, Thanks man.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 07:00 PM
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Yeah, but I have this thing in the back of my mind that bullet in the gun create dread and danger. It's a thought not something I'ver research. Would you tell me does your wife know you're snipped and have you notice any changes in either yourself or her after the snip.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 06:40 PM
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good for you
/r/askMRP16/02/18 06:36 PM
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Thanks. We've started to look at that. Sounds good.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 06:36 PM
1

You're up for babies all the way then?
/r/askMRP16/02/18 06:12 PM
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You know, what, I needed to read these quotes. Been a hard ass is working well, but this provided some counterbalancing
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 05:36 PM
1

Gotcha. I promised 3 posts!?! Shit, my enthusiasm is running away with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 05:32 PM
1

Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 03:22 PM
2

Ha, I had to look that up! I'm so green.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 03:22 PM
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Yeah, nope the fat loss was rapid but not that rapid. I will up write up next post to give details. I'll do something comprehensive. Thanks for pointing this out. Is it best to post that under the post here or post it as a new post? Still learning the ropes.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 03:14 PM
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Stone Cold Clarity. This post had me grimacing at the computer screen and looking around my home office (there's only me in the room). I was searching to see if the phantom people were laughing at me. I was squirming at been discovered. I was humiliated because it appears that u/petersen2massive had been following me around years profiling me. Ouch I am trying to understand why I've operated in the manner described. I am a smart guy and have always had big doors swing open for me. Gates that wer…
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 11:49 AM
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The 1st Rule of Fight Club...
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 10:08 AM
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Dude, it could be argued that your inability to just say “Hannah is my Accountant”, gives your wife all the power. If you’re relying on the dread that this is creating I would say it’s working against you. She’s getting all the feelings she needs from your resistance. They’re negative feelz but she got your ass providing them. You’re not outcome independent. She’s owning you by pestering you. You’re doing your best to frame up but you don’t have the frame to blow it off in an IDGAF manner. Liste…
/r/askMRP16/02/18 01:11 AM
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This was so helpful. The way you broke it down was so clear and created a huge upward call for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 11:12 PM
1

Boom!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 11:11 PM
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Got it
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 11:09 PM
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Hey OP, this could be a bit surprising. Forget the Idea of Finding a Mission/Passion It will only cause you pain and destroy your energy in decision making. I know this flies in the face of most conventional wisdom. The idea of following your passion was popularised in career guidance and then in mainstream culture after the publication in the 1970's of the book: What Color is Your Parachute?. This book was commissioned by a huge North American Methodist organisation to prepare a large portion (…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 11:05 PM
2

Result. Well done. I got a lot from what you shared. Nice one
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 10:19 PM
1

Yeah I get that. I should clarify. I should have said in light of OP's described behaviour "this would be negotiating desire" then referenced your comment. It was context specific. I should have put an illustrative quote form the OP in my comment support my angle. I'm just figuring out the ropes here. Tell me u/allthewayup0000: the OP was so bad that a moderator removed it. Correct? I am new to MRP and to reddit so I'm trying to get a handle on stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 10:16 PM
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Commitment Skepticism Bias = Don't take it personal. Here's my antidote to butthurtedness.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 10:06 PM
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Haha, love it. Cheers for the clarity boost.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 09:57 PM
1

What the fuck! Do you menstruate too? The answer to sex is always yes. Or perhaps you like carrying your own hamster around for days on end. Please dude, wake up. You just fucked yourself instead of your girl. There is no thinking require on this one. Regroup bro and restart.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:04 PM
1

Agreed
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:00 PM
1

This is negotiating desire right? That's a no no. Pretty DEERish too, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:00 PM
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Ah man, this is so technically valuable. I laughed so hard that I was throwing out snot bubbles at the end. Shit, does that make me your bitch u/Rian_Stone? What a powerful communication. Snot bubbles just simplified my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 04:56 PM
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Thanks u/ReddJive. You men laid the ground work in practice which increased my confidence to implement rather that theorise. I can say every counter argument that arose in my mind was debunked thoughtfully by a cursory search our Subreddit. In addition to that, I felt it would have been an act of disrespect to start shooting out my views on the work of others with no consistent application. That was because you guys set the bar high. Further, the depth of analysis and support here is admirable. …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 02:57 PM
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u/SBIII, Dude, me and you are clearly on the arty side of the spectrum. Listen to u/Persaeus: "the iron is hot OP. strike before the metal cools". And have something lined up if she resists. And probably not that hotie Hannah. That's not now. Something, like one of your gigs or mix some music up for some millennials that you hook up with online (fiverr.com, Upwork.com). Find them, build you value and dowse your creative fires in gasoline. Do something that creates an inferno if she declines to l…
/r/askMRP15/02/18 12:48 PM
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What you wrote is very clear and exactly what I was going after. In my post I was trying to show the anatomy of the inner game for me. I am a creative individual. By temperament I am open to others and experience emotional excess all the time. I feel very intensely. I also have a high need for order. Hence my desire to line shit up in a row. The understanding I shared gave me the emotional frame to implement what you succinctly describe in your comment. Which is the creation of a field of dynami…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 12:31 PM
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'Dual' is a good word. This is related to what I was trying to get at in my post. In my case I was withdrawing attention. At the same time, I was going after what I wanted. The effectiveness of this stunned me. The western masculine mindset tends towards an "either/or" philosophy. The "both, and" philosophy (Eastern) has utility and worked best in my situation (early stage RP). This is due to my weak frame. As I outlined my frame is only starting to harden up. Applying multiple MRP tenets at the…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 11:23 AM
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Ha, true. I’ll take that. I use too many words. I do that to mitigate the intensity of reality. I have to deal with that. Today
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 08:07 AM
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Thanks man. Churning is a great description of my now. My stomach has been churning from the strong medicine administered here and the nausea that goes with riding this rollercoaster. Grateful for your encouragement.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 08:01 AM
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Stopping taking Her so seriously! There’s this evenings gold. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 10:17 PM
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u/Persaeus And man i have daughters and a son. It's all hidden there in plain sight. As infants the boys turn inwards to you. Cuddle in. The girls turn outwards towards the world (society). I remember a older lady from the neighbourhood I grew up in, telling me, my boy was my firstborn, "it's good you're having a boy first, the cuddles, the affection, it's wonderful. You'll love it. And they kinda stay like that as the grow. They're tough but they are always there for you. The girls...well they …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 04:20 PM
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Anyway, you seem to be missing the fun part. You go from supplicating to brooding to furious. Is there any fun between the two of you? This is so helpful. I am aware of my being so prone to this. But I not sure the wife is! Haha. STFU is buying me so much wiggle room that when I catch myself doing the above and I add the smallest dollop of positive she eats it up. Finally, that line that you wrote Reach180, about OP’s refrain “ I calmly explained to her”, caught me square in the my mangina. Than…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 11:28 PM
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