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CMVCaptslackbladder/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:36 PM
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Thanks 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:47 PM
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We started as just friends and in the last few months it's shifted into more and we are meeting up in July, so if all goes well we are going to start properly dating then.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:41 PM
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You are making perfect the enemy of the good. No one has given men such lofty numbers to follow; and being better versions of one's self means being more of a jack of all trades, certainly not a master of all, as you are claiming.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:34 PM
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Oh I did, it's been around a year now. Thank youu 🩷
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:19 PM
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Honestly, I am of two minds here. Because I get it, I find most men, people actually, dull as dishwater. On the other hand, I also know how to make my own fun and I feel like people who complain too much of boredom and other boring people are actually the boring ones themselves and are searching for others to entertain them and pull them into a more exciting life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:15 PM
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Haha there was more of it with some posters that used to be active. Now, sadly not so much. Though who knew that I would get so lucky to meet a basically perfect guy in the cesspool that is PPD of all places.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:10 PM
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^ So you expect him to know what the deal is after a point?... That's interesting. I would have to say, though. I do not think this is as easy as you think it is: I expect us both to know what the deal is after a point; yes, there can be some minimal directing involved every now and again, but one is supposed to learn and discover their partner, know them intimately the way you know them mentally and emotionally. ^ Maybe after the fact (sex), but not before. I really hate when people make such a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:06 PM
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That man is not nearly good looking enough to be waving such red flags. Please, don't lower the standards for us all 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:07 AM
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Women don't like a man that would simp for women or any woman, but most like their man simping for them, prefer it in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:02 AM
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Currently have no experience, but at least half of it is mental. Also, it's not that hard to ascertain which men get turned on by pleasing women, e.g. if he is enthusiastic about going down and non-egoic, willing to listen which actions feel good, we'll both have a good time. I have no issues directing a man and I would expect some feedback in the form of dirty talk to make it both hot and more pleasurable for him back as well, but I do not want to direct a man forever, after a few months I expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:58 AM
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Oh my lived experience has led me to believe that pink pill applies for most hetero couples, but that statistically a smaller percentage of couples can still find compatibility and true satisfaction. Overall, I'm leaning more fds than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 12:46 PM
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Saaaame, my favourite period romance 🫠
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:55 AM
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Hahah wouldn't go for that anime personally, but thanks 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:53 AM
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Oh you'd go for a similar type probably, you'd totally get it. I've never known a guy that is structurally that exceptional, and I'm talking: intellectually, emotionally, sexually, aesthetically, psychologically... Okay, I'm stopping 😂 Naturally, good vibes sent, may you find one too soon ✨✨
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:51 AM
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No, that would be disgusting. He lives in a different country, so we are long distance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:37 AM
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Ah, an inspired choice that is endlessly rewatchable 🥺 I also totally do not meltingly cry at this or the look back at me scene 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:35 AM
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What's a girl to do when she senses she has likely found the love of her life, more, her soulmate, and the circumstances are stacked against her aaaaaa I could wax poetic about him for hours... I fear it may be him or no one for me 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:19 AM
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Haha very glad I could be of service
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:13 PM
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Lamo, as opposed to your own word salad? How about that you don't even understand the female fantasy and that you consequently made a grotesque caricature of it to suit your own silly rantings? It is evident that the core components are beyond your understanding, which I suspect is because you haven't actually attempted to observe or study it unbiasedly before talking out of your ass. That doesn't surprise me, men love to pontificate even when they lack a required rudimentary understading of som…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:01 PM
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And you didn't counter a single point, but tried to reduce mine to a strawman, yet again. Come on, sweetheart, try harder, your pattern is showing. If this is truly your best attempt at a bon mot, no wonder you are so fired up about the female love of charming Chad, so I shall take it in the spirit of your reality 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:41 PM
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Yes, the protagonist is usually leaning more passive, but the point of them is the explosive connection with the man of their dreams. Once the begining hurdles are overcome they have great sex, great and fun dates, deep and open talks, mutual understanding and devotion, so assuming he is a one-woman man that takes care of chasing for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:27 PM
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Ah yes, the classic “both sides are the same” cope, conveniently ignoring how power structures actually work. Lol, what a dumb strawman. No, deluded women don’t desire just a 'deeply invested' partner, no more than deluded men desire just 'casually permissive' partners. They desire an alpha orbiter; a HVM who will worship her as his personal goddess and devote his entire life to her pleasure and happiness." Lol, correcting your pompus treatise and bringing it back to the basics does not a strawm…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:18 PM
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I understand, that does quite change things. He may be just the right kind of partner that is not bothered by your own monetary contributions if he has more than enough on his own and thus understands that you can contribute in many other ways. I hope it works out for you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 07:25 PM
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I think it can depend on if this is a temporary or a permanent situation for you. Men and women alike are a lot more understanding if the earning potential of their potential SO is likely to be increased in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 07:11 PM
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Ah yes, because wanting one deeply invested partner is exactly as delusional as wanting an entire harem of submissive women. The difference? Men’s fantasy erases female agency, women in their “harem” are objects, interchangeable and devoted by default. Meanwhile, the so-called "Chad obsession" fantasy still requires mutual emotional investment. One is a power imbalance, the other is just a desire for reciprocal passion. Learn the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 07:06 PM
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Nothing bad and unfixable, that's actually good news. I know it sucks for now, but imagine yourself 20-30 years in the future with more life wisdom yet wishing you didn't waste your younger years. Imagine you looking back and thinking how lucky you were and you didn't even know it. Let go of blackpill, that makes us all self-sabotage unnecessarily. I hope you find your cute young woman in the not too distant future :)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 01:14 AM
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Yeah but have you tried sussing out why? At least part of it is surely fixable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 01:01 AM
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With your lacking success with your looksmatch?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:58 AM
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Height like that is a little boost, but not jumping over canyons level boost. Even it can mean nothing if the proportions are off, e.g. really long torso and stubby legs. I shouldn't have to be begging my looksmatch to date me, she should be doing it instead. No one should be begging anyone to date them as that means attraction is just not there and even if magically you stay together deadbedrooms are going to await you in the future. I'm curious, leaving general demeanor to the side for the mom…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:52 AM
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His flaws are the snub nose and the recessed looking chin he is hiding behind that beard. She has awful eyebrows and also something is a bit off about either her mid face or lower face, I'm leaning lower face. They match face wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:45 AM
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Because height is expected of men, so it's neutral. By and large women understand that plastic surgery is the only fix for facial unattractiveness, so what's holding men back?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:38 AM
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That's basically my height and average male height is 6'0 where I'm from. Maybe I can't be the best judge of that. That said, that's not how that works, you can be tall and ugly, doesn't mean you are in the top 20% of attractiveness. To get the number you need to do a weighted average as face is quite a bit more important than height, unless we are talking extreme ends of the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:32 AM
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The fact you are obsessed with bigger boobs doesn't mean everyone is. We are not looking at individual parts, but an overall body. So bigger boobs are a plus for most, but not having them is neutral. If you are nitpicking we could also look at his dick, ass, legs etc. But to conclude, if she has a good face, yes she is looksmatched. Also, to you height-challenged Americans, 6'0 is a neutral height, on the tallish side, but by no means noticeably tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:15 AM
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No, his three strands of hair are of superb quality while her outdated birds nest marks her as below average at first glance. He is handsomely slim while she is flat and too narrow-eyed. Also, eww big feet and hands on a woman. The despairingly low standards today's Chadlites have to accept are really demoralizing 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 11:59 PM
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Lol he is beardfishing, his jaw looks slightly recessed from this angle. That's a neutral height, and he is probably 5'10.5 with the way men round that up. I think he would deserve a slim thick Latina that has a huge bum and boobs, with fuller lips. Sure, a cute guy would deserve a bombshell. Have fun living in delulu land
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 11:51 PM
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We are not rating men to put them down, we are doing so based on attraction. And while his looks are inoffensive and on the cute side, he can't pull without personality and rizz. Sure they'd be. Being tall for a man is neutral, short is a minus. Fit is a plus tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 11:46 PM
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That's just because women on average put in more effort than men when it comes to looks. One of the hottest out of a hundred? Lol. He is like a strong 6 facially. She is around it too. Now if he was tall and fit it may bring him a point above, but no way is any woman giving him casually a second glance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 11:22 PM
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Hotter? Based on what?? Men really suck at telling what appeals to women
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 11:00 PM
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Agree on the rest, but not buccal fat removal. I'd say it's pretty obvious jaw and chin implants in her case and that makes her look more defined. She didn't have that jawline nor those gonial angles before. It is also possible she had filler injected instead of implants, but that is not a smart long-term solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:35 PM
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Look, women from my city and county are infamously known as domineering, bossy and the opposite of passive. That's all I've ever known, so please explain to me how location doesn't play a part. Also, no need to censure my username lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:59 PM
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Q4A: How important do you think (emotional) stability and security is for women's satisfaction in relationships? I wonder if male and female answers will differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 06:01 PM
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Now you know how women feel. Also, you'll get over it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:55 PM
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Was that previous gf early 20s at the time maybe? I've already accounted for inexperience. Lots of women don't realise that most men aren't sensitive and can take criticism. We'd actually like some feedback to improve. Probably there is a big enough percentage of such cases. But these things also usually iron themselves out in time, they are natural hiccups of new relationships where maybe the comfort level is not yet established. If they don't tho, that's a bad sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:54 PM
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It's seriously not where I'm from, so, yes, it is location dependent lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:50 PM
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I don't know what kind of women you've been encountering, but it's not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:48 PM
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Probably depends where you are from, but no lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:46 PM
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But they are listening to find out how to get women, which is basically a component of what turns women on. I doubt that there is a significant number of hate watchers, I think most of them drop off with time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:45 PM
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I've never said communicating, but independent research. Even still, I'd argue only really inexperienced or passive women are bad at communicating, the rest, not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:37 PM
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Fashion does't help below average men, true. Granted it is also not a single solution, but fashion is one of the things that helps average and above average men shine more compared to their peers. It's similar to natural makeup for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:34 PM
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Why do men generally suck so much at understanding what turns women on and how to bring us off? And why are they usually listening to male grifters who are at best only partially-right instead of just looking into what women read and watch??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:30 PM
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That was something I worried about when I was with my first girlfriend too, but I was worried over nothing. Good to hear, reassuring even. These things are distinctly happening to someone else, not to me, which I guess helps distance my own sexuality from it. That makes sense. I was never fond of reading any kind of first person stories, erotica included, for a similar reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:08 PM
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May you choke on shitty eardrum piercing music, amen.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 05:02 PM
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Thank you, I remember when you did it before too, big fan
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:58 PM
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That early on, absolutely. Why would she torture herself especially if she has no vested interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:55 PM
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You. Did. What.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:54 PM
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One thing I was careful with myself about was not getting desentisized to most degenerate fetishes as I find a lot of them morally repugnant, as well as believe they would impair my ability to have a happy and fulfilled sex life with a partner down the line. That said, I get it, I hope they didn't affect you and you were able to make money off them. and I'd have to see his writing first! Maybe he's got the touch, lol! I highly doubt it, but one never knows lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:53 PM
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Be our guest, maybe our resident gay guy will be gentle on you for your first time 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:36 PM
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Solid, sounds like you really know your stuff. Fanfiction.net and AO3 for me since the degradation of the former. I've also written some short stories a while back, but deleted them. I did writing commissions in college for extra pocket change Damn, that's a whole another level, really impressive. You should school our credential lacking, yet boastful og commenter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:35 PM
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Ah my non native English skills tripping me up, oopsie. Will correct it, thanks 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:27 PM
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Lol yes, better post some highly improper ankle action to convince the skeptics
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:24 PM
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Considering I chose it, I'm aware yes. For some reason you doubt my identity, so may as well tell me why?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:16 PM
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Ohh one confession down. Which site/s, if you don't mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:13 PM
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I am a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:11 PM
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Men rarely know how to write good hot kinky smut, unless they've been avid readers of it for a good while. So, it this a confession of a long-held erotica obsession or just another way to disappoint women?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:07 PM
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Style is one of the mating calls of quality. Higher status men know how to dress well and occasion appropriate, and it is one of the easier ways to scan for socioeconomic compatibility and ambition in men. I find all of this Chad obsession baffling, as an average/above average man who's visibly worked on himself and improved is the one majority of desirable women find highly appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:02 PM
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This is like the Women who think a Man paying on a date means he wants to take care of her No one smart thinks it proves that, just that the one who will not pay for his date absolutely will not take care of her. Having the flu or a period is a short timeframe and intense. This is not a rule. It's just an observation that if he can't hold out a week or two without being snappy or trying to push you into a BJ as soon as you feel a little better, it's a bad sign for the future, and one a woman sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:35 AM
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Can be a more time thing, if one wishes for more than one child. Regardless, it's a thing that lasts a good while, as well as produces a baby which also reduces the frequency for some time at least. A man must prioritise your needs over his. I said a man must choose my needs over his wants, which is true in reverse too, but that wasn't relevant to the example at hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:26 AM
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Instead of these silly test you can straight up tell him you're planning to dead bedroom him somewhere in the future, that'll save you both some time, lol No tests, just observation. Also, women not being able to perform sexually for a few months postpartum does not a deadbedroom make lol. Shockingly sometimes it starts even sooner, in the last trimester as it's medically necessary to abstain due to a high-risk pregnancy. Well, that's an interesting dynamic you are looking for Do tell, how so?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:11 AM
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I'm glad to hear it was both a positive experience as well as that it was an acute thing that passed, even when so serious. Mine had been hit and miss, but you are right they broaden your perspective when you manage to connect with others dealing with similar issues too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:02 AM
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There is no hard and fast rule. I think this mostly is valid when you are actually spending time together and are in each other's space so he is also reminded of it (I hope whatever it was the hospital stay helped and you are doing well now, as I know how unpleasant they can be). I'd say it's also libido dependant, it's different for those who like having sex daily vs say those who are into it once weekly. My point just being if he isconsiderate and thinking of your well-being first, you two sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 11:52 PM
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It doesn't have to be a period at all, it can be an illness, horribly stressul time at work, grief, whatever, something that is going to leave you unable to engage sexually for a little while. If he is not supportive, but keeps brining up when you'll feel up for sex, you have your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 11:37 PM
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Yes!! I ghosted multiple men for how they acted when I was on my period. Exactly, as it should be done!! Like you may think it's not big deal that he is whiny and sulky baby about it now, but imagine how that irritability is going to grow once he has to endure months without or even a longer period of draught. We must always think ahead and never saddle ourselves down with men whose first consideration are their own wants over our needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 11:30 PM
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Vetting a man's behaviour during your period, illness or generally a tougher phase in your life, anything that potentially inconveniences him, is the best predictor of his potential future cheating/unhelpfulness postpartum or even likelihood to leave his chronically, or terminally ill wife. The signs will be smaller and thus more easily brushed aside, but they will almost certainly be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 11:19 PM
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Depends on what kind of submissive he is, I'm into taking charge and being somewhat domineering in bed, so that's actually a plus for me. That said, I wouldn't want it all the time, being a switch is where it's at.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 10:40 PM
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Quite right, empathy for other's, but in this case, women's perspective. One cannot raise children with someone who lacks it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 09:40 PM
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Male virtue, male excellence, male philosophers, need I go on. With an obvious Nietszche influence
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 09:36 PM
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Lol I should hope so, considering I'm not trying to troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:40 PM
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Agreed, a man who is not healthily and rationally interested in the safety of his family, and his wife as its nucleus, is not the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:39 PM
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A great example of male black and white thinking in action. I have said generosity of spirit, is that beyond your understanding, as well as beyond your reading comprehension? Oh dear, not to worry, your sad attempt at inaccurate deductions and their consequential intellectual implications could never hope to attract a woman like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:23 PM
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The one true Chad ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:59 PM
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Unlikely, considering your huge and obvious blind spot
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:51 PM
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Ahh yes, because prostitues are the ones that attract hapless men and suck out their generosity out of them. Spare me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:50 PM
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Who said anything about expensive? I'd also treat him too going forward. But if someone has to religiously keep track, they are going to be an exhausting person to share a life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:47 PM
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Then you are good haha
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:45 PM
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If he is being stingy, or wants everything to be equal split of 50/50 without any leeway. That he cannot just buy or give you something without either holding it over your head or expecting something in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:44 PM
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Women who are grossed out by recieving are usually also grossed out by giving. Better be prepared to give it up as well
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:39 PM
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Women need to vet men for generosity of spirit and one of the easiest ways to do it is to see if he is nickle and diming you when you start dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:37 PM
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Hang the virtue, I pity the woman that accepts such a poor deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:19 PM
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Go do it then, so you can finally find that unreachable ideal of womanhood you can virtuously enslave into marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:11 PM
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Sure, he does look above average, but I'm saying that a lot of his appeal is carefully curated, which honestly proprs to him for. But bundle him up and remove the peacocking performance and I'd not be even a little tempted seeing him in a casual setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:03 PM
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Women need to respect the man more and men need to love the woman more to be happily coupled. Everything else is a bonus, but these are the fundementals.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 06:40 PM
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He looksmaxxed, but remove the beard and put him in some less tight clothes and he doesn't get a second glance without the performance. Also, he doesn't have the voice for this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 06:33 PM
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No one talks bigger game than a man who hasn't yet had sex with a woman. The future will tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 05:47 PM
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Because you called them virtuous. How can the epithet of virtue be so carelessly applied to our ancestors based on their lacking treatmant of their women contemporaries? Or are the only virtues to be considered the ones that praise the masculinity?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 05:38 PM
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Some women don't like it, but that's what vetting is for. Picking an unemphatetic woman and complaining as if you've had no choice in the matter truly boggles the mind. The answer is simple, leave her. On the other hand, a lot of men often engage in black and white thinking. There was a guy who I cared a lot for who became more and more self-destructive and who expected me to be there to pick up the pieces and console him after. Once I left him he was shocked, and has since claimed that he can't…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 05:29 PM
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Same reminder to women. Dream girl is the one that gets whatever she wants and the one men move mountains for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 05:15 PM
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Gorifying our forefothers whilst ignoring their subjugation of our foremothers is truly the prime example of virtue lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 05:12 PM
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Why are you catastrophizing that the marriage is in jeopardy at the first sign of trouble? How do you know the woman in question hasn't brought it up before, that it hasn't been something she has struggled with and communicated to him over the years? You cannot know, but you still answered these questions to yourself with answers that align with the stance you've already taken. His qualifications are certainly admirable, but a relationship is neither a fixed thing nor does it live and die on qua…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:19 PM
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As a Catholic woman, my values are non negotionable. In such an imaginary scenario, even where I would find a guy attractive, I'd never go through with it. Wanting something a little in the moment doesn't invalidate wanting other thing harder through all other moments. Frankly, I'd think less of a man who tried to pull something like that off, because that implies he doesn't respect me as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:07 PM
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Neither do you have evidence of presupposition that women were happy with their societal role and status in 1950s. Tbf neither position is easy to defend as psychological studies of the time largely weren't focused on such a thing. Here's the artice from which that quote was derived: Francis, Andrew (2013). "The Wages of Sin: How the Discovery of Penicillin Reshaped Modern Sexuality". Archives of Sexual Behavior. I can easily make the counter claim that if enforced monogamy was so intolerable wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:04 PM
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Show proof that most women at that time were unhappy in their relationship. You show proof they were happy. There is the Rolling Stones song, Mother's litte helper, which wouldn't have been so popular at the time if the sentiment expressed didn't ring true. They were drugged out of their minds to cope, usually with barbiturates and diazepam. Sure seems like something a happy person would do. Besides, here's a quote from wiki: "Indicators of non-traditional sexual behavior (e.g., gonorrhea incide…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:30 AM
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Oh I absolutely agree about statistics, there are many limitations, caveats and possible reasonings behind actions that are often neither understood nor represented. Thanks for the link, I'm looking into it. It is evident the gap is quite a bit smaller than previously thought and resources should be advertised and provided for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 12:50 AM
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This is clearly a cherry picked and biased interpretation of statistics (where did they get the 31% from, I don't know); but even disregarding that, incidence of male on female abuse isn't lower than the opposite per your own linked source. For men in heterosexual relationships the percentages are as follows: * Slapped, pushed, or shoved - 26.3% * Any severe physical violence - 13.9 % * Total - 40.2% For women in heterosexual relationships: * Slapped, pushed, or shoved - 29.8% * Any severe physi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:09 PM
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There is a difference between using something as a mean or seeing it as a goal. Of course there is, you're right, but working backwards from effect to cause, someone who cares about that as a goal, should know that all things being equal, that's what must likely to yield desirable results. Because those are inevitable. Agreed, but they usually fly in the face of consistency. Men don't tend to value those traits that much. Men who seek that elusive more and aren't satisfied with the bare minimum …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:50 PM
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Not my issue. I still want my partner's best as defined by her past. Yeah I got it. Though it seems to me it's just not wanting to be settled for with extra steps. Functionally that's what most would do for the love of their life, so even if the feelings don't matter to you, for the other party to maintain it that's what's usually required. Maturity. Social skills. Confidence. But how can someone have maturity if growth and change are not encouraged? Anecdotally and in my experience an average w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:25 PM
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I don't do anything with anyone unless I know my limits first. To a lesser extent same but I know many, possibly most people learned them through trial and error. I am talking about traits. Not external possessions. Fair. Now do tell, what kind of traits may those be? He is dead. He doesn't care. He can't care. Well debatable. But even if so, you have one earthly life and living a lie your whole life just for some subpar companionship seems hugely wasteful to me. I am from South America. That's …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:01 PM
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I don't do anything with anyone unless I know my limits first. To a lesser extent same but I know many, possibly most people learned them through trial and error. I am talking about traits. Not external possessions. Fair. Now do tell, what kind of traits may those be? He is dead. He doesn't care. He can't care. Well debatable. But even if so, you have one earthly life and living a lie your whole life just for some subpar companionship seems hugely wasteful to me. I am from South America. That's …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 02:57 PM
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No. I know myself first and interact with others after I know my limits. Your whole life? Even when you were a teenager or when you first started dating? You know I thought so too, but I found my attempt at a diary from 10ish years ago when I was 16 and boy was it cringy lol. It wasn't anything really bad, I was just trying to be pathetically poetic. A caveat to that is that I was always more mature than my peers because of some unavoidable life circumstances and knew myself well, but that also …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 02:30 PM
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Everything I have done for, done with or tolerated from previous partners becomes base treatment for the next one. It is called consistency. Yes, that is your watchword, I've seen. But consistency is such a weird hat to pick for most people. So you never have a bad relationship, where you learned something from it and didn't want to repeat those patterns? Isn't the defintion of madness or stupidity repeating something over and over again and expecting a different result? So if those relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 01:33 PM
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Sounds like a convenient excuse. No, that's just regular human condition. We don't stagnate, or aren't supposed to, through our lives. Ok. Growth sounds undesirable anyways. That's such an unbelievable statement to me. Why?? Good thing I don't force people then. Good of you, but that wasn't the point. Asking for someone's whole past on a platter "gives" you their worst self too. See, that is where your argument falls apart if you keep insisting on wanting someone's previous best, as with your ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 10:31 AM
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You have a really flawed view of relationships and getting to experience someone's best. People change, grow and evolve throught years and molds into which they used to fit now no longer work. Pushing someone to fit into the same mold as their past self, the one they've outgrown or discarded, is impending that growth. If they've been their worst self with someone previously, making them dwell on it and relive it is not getting any kind of best anything as results.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 01:52 AM
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Hahah no need for the finest ones, I'm not that strict; just not falling beneath the mean between the finest and the poorest ones
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 08:14 PM
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I'm not watching with binoculars and looking at other tables at all, but if at close range and across from me someone is eating in an unpleasant way and we are talking and eye contact is thus an expected occurance, how can I not see their manners? Mind you I'm being really reasonable here, I'm not talking about the way they hold their cuttlery or other cultural ways people eat or even being pedantic about no elbows at the table. It's as simple as social situations require social graces if you wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:15 PM
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Nah not viewing it thought the fat slob lense at all. I've tangentlly known decent looking men and women and the way they ate gave me the ick; from swallowing down food without chewing, to talking with their mouth full, to missing and having food and sauces all around the outside of their mouth, smacking and loud slurping. Even being excessively picky isn't good. Most of my girl friends agree that they cannot stand it either and it's not ridiculous in the slightest. Of course that doesn't at all…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 01:46 PM
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I don't know if I'm European and we are more conscious of it or if it's a more regional thing where I'm from. It doesn't mean someone can't get a gf if they don't care about inhaling food, but that women who were raised to behave differently will take a dim view of it and will be put off by it and not want to continue dating that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:56 PM
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I've had to drill my brother on this as basic table manners are important; they are very much a part of how someone presents themselves and therefore tied to how attractive someone comes across
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:33 PM
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It is not realistic at all. Most women in heterosexual relationships desire their partners. Where I will concede is that women on average have a higher disgust treshold than men, so that can attribute to women having negative visceral reaction to some men or some action that a man did. Though as women have less and less trouble leaving relationships that aren't working for them, when they stay it is as good of a reassurance as any that they love and want their partners (in most cases of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:14 AM
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Having most comments agree or disagree on something on here is not really a representative sample tho, especially that small a number.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:50 AM
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Thank you, likewise! One of the reasons why I like lurking here more every now and then instead of engaging haha
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 06:44 PM
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Yeah they completely missed the point and the timeline. The divorce process and the break up last a while and that was finished while she was 33. IVF process also lasts and they likely would have been trying that way anywhere from 30-32. Then you have to try naturally for at least a year for the doctors to start testing and treating for infertility. So she would have started trying in her late twenties most probably, and that's not someone who was smacked with it in the face at 36 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 06:34 PM
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Oh yeah I agree and I think her situation deserving of compassion and empathy. I was just pointing out that it's smth she has no control over and it's not as simple as work more, get more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 06:10 PM
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Another thing is she very likely can't use those embryos because ex would have to give permission and most ex partners wouldn't do that. I think that's her big issue, she doesn't have the money to try more and the embryos she makes now are probably less viable. The ones she could have had back then she doesn't have the access to anymore, even were she to get the money rn (and that is also out of her reach).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 05:52 PM
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More than fair enough, being fit and having muscle mass definitely means looking better and being healthier.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:46 PM
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I agree with you that those who get hung on the number don't know about healthy weight for the taller women. I don't look overweight, but I definitely look closer to it than slim. I'm talking as someone who is currently not active enough, I imagine one probably carries it better the more active they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:33 PM
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Oh come on, I'm 152 and 5'8" as a woman and pearshaped. I can wear a size S top and have visible ribs and an ideal waist to hip ratio. Still that doesn't mean much when you take in the whole of me, I'm clearly mid sized and need to lose about 15ish pounds. And yeah 130 probably is too low, but 150 is high for us as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:21 PM
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In Ancient Rome being the keyword. Gee what even is the point if not progess/enlightement, and you want us to go backwards?? Besides, single women are not having any kind of cost on society, not any different one than single men, at least those that are working and paying taxes. Where did you even get the cost to society from or is that some imaginary intaginable figure that conveniently aligns with your personal opinion? Also, getting married and having kids are two different things. Not to men…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 12:22 AM
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I got your point. But you're the one who made it black and white, one guy has intelligence/studious nature and we don't know about his personality (nice and helpful aren't personality, that's character), and the other two are just hot. So, even in your extremely flawed one-dimensional system hot people are compatible and the not-hot one can likewise find his match with a not-hot high achieving girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 10:13 AM
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How will the "Chad" take what could be yours, when first women aren't property and second the nerd guy is the one reaching?? As per your story the young woman is really hot, i.d. a "Stacy", and we all know people are mostly pairing up in their league or thereabouts. So, "Chad" and "Stacy" actually belong together and the nice nerd boy is the one who is shallowly pining for the hot girl. After all, if he isn't shallow why is he not crushing on a-bit-frumpy-as-she-spends-most-of-her-time-studying …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 09:16 AM
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aka platitudes. "just use moisturizer bro" is equally useless if you're a 5'4 balding indian janitor. No one said the situation is as dire as that. Now you are catastrophizing. Lol. What the actual fuck? "Just die, bro" Do you know how to answer without playing the reductio ad absurdum card? No one was condemning anyone to death. Visible rethrognatia can and does cause dental issues, speech issues, breathing issues and obstructive sleep apnea. Minor cases can be fixed with orthodontics. uess bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 10:34 AM
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Just be a millionaire bro. You are oversimplfying. He was talking about social skills, skincare, fashion and style as well as career. All of your "stats" also don't mention height, jawline, hairline, etc which have WAY more of an effect than any of the other shit you've spent your whole life fighting for. So height matters, but most men can still get over that bar. Besides, jaw surgery exists? Visibly weak jaws are also a medical issue and sign of ill health. With decent face/jaw/teeth/not being…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:11 AM
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As of half a year ago, I have the thing you mentioned and I hate it, mine's due to the right eye abducens nerve palsy. For me the biggest one is glasses, not the hipster kind tho, but the one that are purely functional. Also eye crinkles, lightly imperfct teeth, crooked smile, dimples, sharp canines are all stuff that's on my radar and are definite bonuses too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:13 PM
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You can't date outside your race/ethnicity if everyone around you is the same race/ethnicity as you. With the globalization nowadays you can. I'm Croatian and almost everyone here is "white". As I said, my friend and I are dating Asian men, so while uncommon it's no longer that unusual. In a mixed-race/ethnic society however, your race/ethnicity DOES become a factor. A large one actually. OkCupid data shows that black women and asian men were the least desirable, while white men are the most des…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:02 AM
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Height thing is fair, but race/ethnicity less so. Money is also ridiculous, because of course women prefer men to have some money over the opposite, but there are no numbered tiers to it. There are attractive men of all ethnicities and they don't suddenly become unattractive just because they are not in possession of white skin colour/eye shape. Besides, regular use of internet has oppened so many horizonts and through watching korean shows or anime or listening to kpop the Asian man is slowly g…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 09:25 AM
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Ahh the same thing happened to me as well, just with chatting with men online until I found my bf. Every single time I've been distant and casual everyone got hooked and pushy about feelings and future and some even kept asking to send me gifts etc. A time or two I was more open about the possibility of smth serious and you could feel it in my interactions from the begining, the tide turned so quickly it was almost comical. Even the guy who wanted to send me gifts, who was genuinely a decent fel…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:26 PM
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It has to do with intelligence, both IQ and EQ, tho EQ is more important here. It has to do with pattern recognition, awareness and emotional maturity. If she doesn't recognize the pattern and actively works on fixing it, she is not really broadly intelligent, she just has a niche at which she excells. As if the interesting scumbag and boring nice guy are the only options. That's such black and white thinking. Many, nay most women of my acquaintance would and have chosen neither of those, but go…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:14 PM
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I've just pointed out that women who respond to those kind of approaches are dumb, ergo he is fishing for dumb women. It follows from that that making conclusions about all women based on the bahaviour of dumb ones is incorrect and silly. Savvy??
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:14 PM
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I think there are unfair standards placed on both genders and I don't dispute that things are tough for modern men. But I don't think of dating as a place where fairness plays a part in any way. Also, invoking fairness usually doesn't much help in solving the issue and can sometimes even derail the discussion towards suffering olympics vs looking for solutions where they can be found. I have a brother and I have first hand knowledge about how demoralizing it is out there. There are a lot of toxi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 12:04 PM
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I think there is a large sample size of red pilled men over here and if anything they are leading the charge in propagating the generalizations about men. Unless you are talking about more general generalizations, in which case sure, but that is hardly relevant to what I've said.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:22 AM
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Dear Lord, I've said it before and I'll say it again. Half of the population is below IQ and/or EQ mean, for all that it's harder to measure, it's so obvious when lacking. So even having a sample size of 50% means nothing except that one is selecting for the dumber half; which tells me all about which half they consider their equals. Okay, so there exist women that are dumb and you developed a filter that lets mostly them in. How about instead learn to select them out instead of applying sweepin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:55 AM
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Oh yeah I know, I had the same assumption! There is a not insignificant number of women that will be cruel to a guy's face for a stupid or no real reason. My bro's a bit younger than me and decently attractive too, the only thing is the hair and it's still such a hurdle to get through for only one thing. Absolutely no one would blame him, especially when one sees what kind of hard world it is out there. E.g. my bro goes and gets his chest and back waxed on a much more regular schedule than I do,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 03:46 PM
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I'm very glad to hear that there are other close brother sister bonds, that really gives me hope. That sounds really tough, both physically and mentally, to go through and I really admire your perseverance. May your transplant last and function as it should for a long time! My bro has some kidney issues too, and if he ever needs it, I know we are the same blood type and there is a good chance I'm a match, so I'm prepared for the possibility. I'm really sorry to hear you've been treated so badly …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 03:26 PM
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He said women do this and then he did indeed give one anecdote from a based source of himself. Very convincing. How are they shooting themselves in a foot by not going out with the kind of guy who clearly feels that he is doing them a favour by being willing to go out with them?? Besides, being single is soo much better than being in a relationship with someone who merely settled for you and they missed nothing by not being willing to get into a lousy situationship/relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:16 AM
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There is many, like the expectation for men to peacock and woo the women shortterm as well as longterm, without adequate reciprocity encouraged in return. The blame that gets put on men when an individual guy fucks it up, from something as comparatively small as breakups that leads to trashing of the male gender as a whole in name of comfort. That way women/people slip into a way of thinking that builds a picture full of mistrust and bitterness that ultimately becomes an (unhealthy) us vs them v…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:04 AM
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Lol what morals? I'm talking about perspective and he is not merely talking about experience, which no one has an issue with, but drawing ludicrous conclusions based on a singular experience, aka a data sample of 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:14 AM
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Are we supposed to believe that you were genuinely super interested in this woman, this woman who you described in quite unflattering terms and also felt superior to? Please, spare me. Of course, everyone feels bad about rejection and that's completely normal and understandable, but making outlandish hypotheses to soothe your ego is where the sympathy runs dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:40 PM
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The way you were describing her here, emphasizing her "undesirable" qualities, what other goal could there have been?? Otherwse, wouldn't you have just filed it under a decent evening spent flirting with a semi-attractive stranger that didn't go anywhere, as most in fact don't. There wouldn't be any need for "conclusions" to be drawn, as per your own language, you didn't come across that invested either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 03:05 PM
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That is of course always an option, or one can find a niche that's different from mainstream and try their luck that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:42 PM
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How is it entitlement to not want casual sex, with a stranger no less?? That has nothing to do with self-assessment and everything to do with values and comfort levels. Seems like you are drawing weird conclusions based on something as simple as mismatched expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:39 PM
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Why does that matter tho, as long as one doesn't go overboard? Women care more about their appearnace, I do agree, but I consider that a good thing (within reason of course, there are many cautionary tales). After all, working on improving oneself, appearnace and plastic surgery very much included, is merely a part of being a well-rounded individual and attracting a partner one finds desirable. If men are struggling, there is always women's example to try and follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:25 PM
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Did you ask them? Cause if you did, they most likely lied
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:13 PM
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Of course confidence is very important and it's never a bad idea to commit to a way of getting more of it, lifting very much included. There is a reason why women like confidence, it heavily implies competence, which is just as important to women as it means someone knows how to get by in the world and excell at it. There are many other ways to get more confident as there are many other ways to get more competent, lifting is not necessarily the only way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:07 AM
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Look, I can tell you didn't understand what I or other women have been trying to say as you didn't address any of my arguments correctly. I never claimed that being muscular and lifting aren't good for you. To expand and clarify, my argument is that when overweight and obese men slim down to their optimal weight, that's where majority of their glow up comes from. It's not the muscles, it's the being in visibly good shape that make them more popular with women. Muscles can help a bit, so they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:59 AM
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I said "easiest" for a reason. It's "easiest" in the sense it's the most widely achievable advice given to an otherwise relatively healthy individual, naturally only if one only has the organization, dedication, self-discipline plus a little money down. None of which is remotely easy. But, imo it's still "easier" than to say to someone to just make more money, develop an eye for aesthetics and use and apply it well on a daily basis, fix a weak jaw or get a hair transplant and keep taking pills f…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:07 AM
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I personally am sick of everyone harping about personality. Of course it's one of the top things (I'd never date a douchebag, nor would more than half of women), but we all know that. Looksmaxxing, sense of style/fashion and the way you present yourself also matter. Lifting is the least helpful, but is the most promoted because it's the "easiest" to attain. The thing I've noticed is that while men sort of get the appeal of looks to women, they are very narrow-minded about it. There is so many me…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 10:52 PM
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They were told before, nowadays the situation is different. Also, yes most women want a partner they can conceivably have kids with, but that won't help some that are not even close to the bar. Honestly, my controversial opinion is that, apart from gym, plastic surgery may be the answer in a lot of these cases of near misses if one can assess one's strengths and deficiencies relatively objectively and only if it would lead to a net gain obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 02:23 AM
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So do women these days. Also, money isn't actually sexually attractive. Which was my point, men do less to attract women physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 02:07 AM
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How so? By all the ways I numbered already. I though they did all those things for themselves, not to attract thisty men It is mostly for themselves and also to attract the right guy. A smaller number may also do it for the validation from thirsty men. But the point is that men don't do nearly as much to be attractive to women and then act shocked when they indeed don't miraculously end up attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 02:00 AM
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Yeah he won't be for every average woman that's true, there still are preferences on both sides. Allow me to go on a tangent about the 80/20 rule of all things. An individual woman will find about 20% or less men in her "league" or thereabouts attractive, the lucky ones that correspond in some way to a traits that her type possesses. The ones that are universally hot and are above her will mean that that percentage grows, but the same is true for men. Hot people are indeed conventionally attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 12:31 AM
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I think it's splendid and absolutely commend their efforts. My point was that an in shape guy, that has an okay job, whether it's blue or white collar, that also dresses nicely and maybe wore braces or took steps to cure his acne here is considered above average and thus proof that women want above average men (which if so, yes). So either average man does it, or average man is overweight, has let himself go, lowish income, and dresses kind of sloppily. The average man can't be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:49 PM
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Yes, men are thirstier and so approach more, but women try more. They buy push up bars, wear makeup, paint their nails or put on fake ones, wear flattering clothing, dye their hair, curl or straighten their hair, remove their body hair, straighten their teeth, whiten their teeth, get plastic surgery much more. Even the unconventially attractive women do it and raise themselves up. Men on average are more content to wallow in mediocrity and don't try as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:42 PM
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No, women want an average/decent guy that is working on becoming the best version of himself and hasn't let himself go. I believe the distinction is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:22 PM
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Look, I'm not here to say an average woman has no place to improve, she does quite a bit indubitably. But women are on average better at attracting men and offering at least something that inspires the other side to at least partially want them physically, while men underestimate the importance and so struggle more at the attracting part.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:19 PM
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Yeah but again, according to a lot of men "here" lol. Guys on reddit are something else, most people irl are just regular joes and they end up finding a gf/bf Very true. But since I'm here I play by different rules, as they do. Yeah playing the victim constantly is unappealing on a visceral level and induces the opposite of I want to fuck you hormones. I agree with you that people who instead of complaining think about what they could do to be better, end up finding someone. It's well within the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:04 PM
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No it doesn't. Getting a decent guy they are attracted to is not the same as getting "Chad", nor would anyone consider that a real struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 10:59 PM
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No, I very much mean both, tho it is easier for women to get dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 09:58 PM
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Oh yes, agreed. But according to a lot of men here, a guy that takes care of his looks and isn't weird is above average now and proof of the infamous 80/20 rule lol. I concur that both sides exaggerate in their favour and are not good at judging their attractivness to the opposite gender, but most truly average guys or gals that work on improvement in more than one area don't really struggle that much dating wise, at least not long term. Indeed I don't trust the interent venting sessions, but I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 09:07 PM
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Haha fair, but no. In my part of the world and my generation there is much less of those kinds of issues, but the times I've tried to say what women like on internet, I've got answers that basially boil down to tough luck, average man is now overweight, gave up, works for a minimum wage job etc. I have a brother so I am decently aware of a man's perspective and I know he has to try harder than say I do, but it's not in any way not doable and worth waving the white flag for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:23 PM
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That's because an average man has become unattractive; out of shape, a recluse, usually too attached to porn and video games to learn how to socialize with women, with teeth and skin that he doesn't care to improve, a sloppy dresser and so on. Some women may want the best, but most women would be really happy with the version of an average guy that has worked on to become his best self, which is an absolutely normal thing. If an average guy was 5'8" to 5'10", in shape, maybe cared to wear braces…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:03 PM
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You are right, he is definitely well above average overall. But mcdonalds employees to my understanding don't have the money for sugar babies or transactional relationships anyway, so for those, you are probably looking at guys who do relatively well financially in any case. And I'm just saying that if those men enrich other aspects of their lives a bit, they can absolutely find happiness in successfully pursuing whatever relationships they like, like my uncle did. Oh yes, they both love each ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:20 AM
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Well it depends. I know a case where it works, my aunt and uncle, and they are the happiest dysfunctional couple I know. My uncle is not at all bad looking, it's just that she is better looking (an example for easier visualization with the celebrities they most resemble, it's as if Bruce Willis got Margot Robbie; a Margot Robbie that's an acceptable 7 years younger, but looks as if she is actually 15 years younger and is an accomplished doctor). That said, my uncle is very much a manly man, he i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 07:58 AM
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Yeah I agree. I don't think majority of either men or women are like that. But it's not just crying. I have friends who dated guys that were depressed and they broke up with them after a few months because they would drag their depression into most, if not all of their hangouts and fun times became scarce. I also kind of know a few women emotional vampires, so it's not just men that can be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:45 AM
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Well I mostly "judge" others based on myself and most of the women I know behave similarly. Basically, if it deviates too much from what my response would have been too frequently to willfully ignore I'd get uncomfortable and have to reevaluate. It might just be that my mum would get angry at us when we cried as kids, so anyone wallowing is not my thing. That said, occasionally needing reassurance and a shoulder to cry on for out of the ordinary stuff is more than fine, but when it is for regula…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:31 AM
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Yeah, I think I accidentally dissed the guy too hard when that wasn't my intention and when I agree with you that he is in fact quite decently attractive. The first photo shows how easily he cleans up with minimal effort (I know you could say the same for the girl but to me not as much. plus makeup ect.) Agreed, he really does. I just really don't get it why people when minimal effort is needed for very attainable and maintainable goals don't try to go for it. Also yes, she does wear makeup, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:54 PM
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Nah he wouldn't. As a woman I can tell you he isn't attractive at a first glance, he may be able to add to it with charisma or smth else, tho I quite doubt it since his posture noticably sucks through all the photos which indicates he is not full of confidence, so he almost certainly very much lacks in the raw attraction department. But, as I've said, he has potential, so he can get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:05 PM
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Yes, she is in the first picture, tho she doesn't look to have any or maybe just barely any in the second picture. And as a woman very familar with makeup, I can also tell she is okay, but not great at it, her makeup style ages her. She is not great at hairstyling either. I look at both the face and the body on both of them to be able to tell fairly. She has better body than him and arguably even a better face; her imperfections are mostly her eyebrows being far apart and slightly her nose (I'd …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:54 PM
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Really?? Because I think that the woman is slightly better looking, tho he has more potential to improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:32 PM
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Ahh but that's a totally different argument. You changed it from women shouldn't be able to vote to there has been no successful matriarchy. Which is also not true, there is a woman prime minister in New Zealand, there is a woman prime minister in Finland and those countries are doing just fine, just at the top of my head. There have also been many queens in history during whose reign there was prosperity (Elizabeth the 1st, Victoria, Isabella of Castille, Catherine the Great) and even a woman k…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 09:50 AM
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Dear Lord, read it again. You are of the opinion that women are more emotional on average, so they all shouldn't be able to vote. Now, that's very easy to counter, you yourself admit that men are more aggressive, which comes from emotions they can't control, meaning that men are more emotional where it counts, with their tendency towards destructive emotions. Now since you want consequences for the whole gender based on a belief of yours, that's as extreme as e.g. someone suggesting that all men…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 09:06 AM
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Of course she is appalled because you basically said that you think we should all lose our right to vote. Regardless of if your baseless observations have merit or what would the implications be, you want consequences for them. Also, the example of you saying you wouldn't have issues if someone stated that men are more aggressive is a false equivalence on 2 counts; firstly, because the consequences on a societal level are not suggested after that, can you imagine if something like men should all…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 08:50 AM
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It's not at all unlikely it happens online, most of my friends and I very much included found a relationship that way. Also, aren't good options straight out of relationships usually not looking for anything for a little while and a good number of the ones that are actively looking are actually looking more for something casual? Hence, they will use other apps for that and maybe even accidentally find a great connection and a LTR along the way. So I'd imagine that most of the good options still …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 11:26 PM
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Yes, but in my experience observing both men and women around me, most of the ones that are semi-catches to catches and are actively looking for a LTR find one in an acceptable time frame. Besides, people always prefer the path of least resistance and smth like what you are describing is not exactly a quick, easy fix. So the ones that are doing fine on typical OLD or in general won't have the incentive to switch. The ones that are doing poorly on the other hand will be more likely to try it, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 10:58 PM
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A mix probably. But the kind that either side wouldn't agree with him fully
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 10:37 AM
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It sounds too convoluted and time consuming, so for that reason it doesn't sound like it would make it big imo. It would also likely mostly attract people who didn't have luck on traditional dating apps and irl, because generally attractive decently smart people don't keep failing at both, which would ultimately mean lower quality matches and no one would want to use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 09:55 AM
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My bro is likely codependent and has some weird views about relationships; there is also some physical and mental health issues that he just won't go to the doctor for. I'm so fucking worried. I just wish that I could see a solution, but so far no such luck
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 09:47 AM
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Oh yes, same here. Besides, it's also quite fun to discover other ways others have enjoyed the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:32 PM
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I'm not quite at the level of your husband, but it's very good to hear you two watch your shows and movies in peace and harmony despite different preferences!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:03 PM
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Lol a similar one I saw in the comments on another sub that went smth like: "Jada was the bullet Tupac successfully dodged".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 05:44 PM
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I'm of the opinion and I will die on this hill that what Will Smith did for his wife wasn't in any way appropriate or alpha behaviour. It came off as purely unhinged, unstable and intellectually very weak. It proves that he has no wit, maturity or the emotional bandwith to handle the situation without escalating it and getting out of it as a clear victor. After all, the true alpha/boss/whatever never gets into brawls when eviscerating someone with words can serve them so much better. Hence, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 05:27 PM
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Let me try, they crazy lol. I believe they are roleplaying some kind of BDSM lifestyle that's based on John Norman's sword and planet novel series Chronicles of Counter-Earth, if that helps any.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 04:32 PM
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You'll get no argument from me there lol Hahah a woman of culture I see ;) The reason I say it's objectively halfassing it to read spoilers when it't an agreed co-watch is because a significant part of doing a shared activity is getting to see and revel in each other's emotions. I can see your point. I guess it's because of us being in a ldr and watching some episodes together schedules permitting and some not, I had not considered it fully like that. You are right that it's more special that wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 04:17 PM
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Yeah I got that and I don't mind you disagreeing or sharing your different opinion at all. That said, people have all kinds of qualifications and expectations for shared experiences and mine don't trump yours or vice versa. I still don't see how wanting to experience content through more than one media is halfassing anything. Allow me to counter, I'd say that just watching a show when there are books to be read about it as well is much closer to halfassing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:50 PM
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Well possibly. But the cameras do pan to the people being teased to catch their reactions and he could have done it then, so I'd say there is a chance stronger than mere hope they would have caught it. As indeed they have caught it when he was emotionally yelling about it after. Besides, he could have walked to the microphone if the goal was to make sure everyone in the audience heared him and said his piece Kanye West style, but hopefully briefer and with an actual good point, without ever reso…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:29 PM
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Haha I feel like my answer won't be satisfactory as it's a bit needlessly pedantic. If I was postponing watching the episodes for some reason and he watched them when he had free time and I was out, I wouldn't be annoyed. On the other hand, if we had plans to watch it and the episodes aired quite recently, I would be a smidge annoyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:18 PM
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Oh no, he watched it all the way. Tho if he starts watching the show first, he won't reads books about it until the show is finished (he won't read ASoIAF books as they aren't done). I'm the opposite, if I like the show and if there is books on which it's based on, I'm gonna read them regardless of spoilers for future seasons/episodes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:14 PM
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Especially if starting the anime was what he was very much into - more so than you. Why does he have to be into something more than me? If I'm reading fanfiction about it, that means I'm very into it. I do get most out of the show, mine is just a different approach. And since there is going to be a wait time for the ending, I figured I'm fine with getting spoiled if I can read more in universe stories. It's not like I'm on third season and googling what's going to happen in the forth one. That s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:04 PM
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Yeah I mean I get it, and in most cases I do it the regular way, but since there is probably going to be a decent wait ahead of us for the ending and I like my fanfiction, I couldn't resist anymore. It's just different approaches, but I don't view it as halfassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:48 PM
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Oh yes I know! And I managed to hold out for this long, I'm lowkey impressed with myself. It's just that he has the patience of a very spoiler adverse saint in these kind of cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:43 PM
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My husband doesn’t understand it, but he’s ok with it as long as I don’t spoil it for him. Yeah that sounds reasonable and is very much the philospohy I keep too. He is not really annoyed, he just teasingly whined about how I was a traitor amd such. Also, it's more like he would have rather I didn't as he strongly dislikes spoilers and wants everyone to have an organic reaction to the reveal. But he knows how much I like fanfiction so he very well knows he would have lost that battle ultimaitely…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:39 PM
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Yeah I think he thinks a similar way to you. I do get it, but in my defense, we will have to wait for a movie or smth similar for an undisclosed amount of time to wrap it all up and waiting that long to read fanfiction for me would be nigh impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:01 PM
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Oh yes, I'm the same way! Well upset is a strong word for it. I know that he'd prefer I didn't, so he is mostly like playfully whining about how could I lol. He is generally very anti spoilers as well as praticularly in this case because that's his favourite show.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:55 PM
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I wasn't sure because seemingly everyone on the internet is now very anti spoilers, but yaay people like me exist haha
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:41 PM
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Bf is annoyed at me because I've read some Attack on Titan fanfiction and spoiled the ending for myself lol. Tbf we've been watching it together. But do people generally mind when their SO's read spoilers even when their preference to remain spoiler free is respected?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:32 PM
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Oh come on, I'm a woman and what Will Smith did for his wife wasn't in any way appropriate or attractive. It came off as unhinged and unstable to anyone who isn't or doesn't promote those things. I detest weak men. What he did was intellectually very weak tho. It proves that he has no wit, maturity or the emotional bandwith to handle the situation without escalating it and getting out of it as a clear victor. After all, the boss never gets into brawls or concerns himself with the opinion of thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:00 PM
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Nah your experience is quite common. Women love having male friends in my experience. It can be like having foreign friends a bit in that you can pick their brain for different perspective as well as that you are not surrounded by yes men ironically enough, but it's also almost a status symbol sometimes (so much so, I'm not surprised that men complain about friendzone all the time).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 11:33 AM
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Eh well, yes that is a part of it, but quite a bit more importantly, it also works in reverse. If someone that passed the threshold is amazing at things you respect/admire/like that can still make you absolutely and passionately crazy about them. Since most people are average to averagely above average, that's how attraction and attachment functions for us all. Thus, working on being the most desirable match you can be by using some curated and clever strategizing is never the wrong choice and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 01:16 AM
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Yes, that study did. And about 1/4 to 1/3 of women did it between two studies. Which fair, those women suck and men should be aware of the phenomenon so they can act accordingly. Alas, there is a not an insignificant percentage of both genders who suck in similar ways, so that wasn't surprising or news to me. In any case, it shouldn't be so alarming if one applies risk minimasing techniques and works on refining one's picker to be able to recognise and avoid the undesirable candidates.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 10:25 AM
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Well, part of that is because women are socialised to give a man a chance if there is nothing outwardly objectionable about the guy, plus most of the times the romantic interests takes a little while to develop for women, especially so if you just met and don't actually know someone. Hence, I'd argue that women feeling neutral and accepting dates to see how they'd feel after happens much much more than women having any kind of crush pre-date in general. Now I'm not saying the practice is in any …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 09:15 AM
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Yeah here it's a bit of a mixed bag, but a gendered first date norm still exists and is slightly more prevalent than the alternative (but also no one ever goes for a dinner date for a first date).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 10:18 PM
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Yes, same here! We usually just take turn paying for stuff and it comes out about the same in the end. I prefer it cause in my experience it fosters the spirits of generosity and camaraderie. and I always pay when I suggest going somewhere and/or asking someone out Right, same here. And if someone is kind of tight on money there is always an option of just inviting everyone over to their home/park for a picnic, getting some snacks and pizzas and making your own cake, in case of a birthday.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:00 PM
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I am the one planning and organizing the event for everyone to have a good time, do you want me to buy the guests birthday gifts for as well? Now you are just being absurd for the sake of it. Does that mean you expect both the birthday presents and for the guests to pay for themselves? Cause if so, yikes. If someone takes the time to invite you to a scheduled party and you still expect them to pay for your meal, on their birthday, you probably will not be invited to many more. I've just been inv…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 03:51 PM
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But it's your party and you are inviting people. It's not really fair that someone pays for you since it might not be to their tastes as they had no input in picking the place. Plus you would have to pay approximately the same amount for the other people's birthdays through out the year, this way it's just in one go and you don't have to constantly keep it in mind budget wise. Not to forget, if you get presents, any additional payment would be ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 09:43 AM
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Imagine I have a small birthday dinner and invite my close buds, then PAY for them on top of that. That's so funny to me, cause that's exactly how it works in my part of the world, i.e. the birthday person pays for everyone. I do vastly prefer it our way, so I don't get the outrage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 09:04 AM
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Oh yes, absolutely. If anything, the opposite of a baby boom is better for the planet and us all; and I say that as someone who has a language and culture on the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 12:34 AM
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Since the population overall is growing to fear for the species is to see boogymen where there are none. Firstly, people get the privilege of working on being smart, kind and resillient when all their basic physiological and safety needs are met. Secondly, people who are or have the potential to be smart, kind and resillent can immigrate to and assimilate in the western society, that's basically what the US as well as the rest of us kind of are already, a melting pot of such people. The history …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 12:30 AM
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Western values are mostly individualistic in nature. So wouldn't you say that you also don't seem to align that well with western values? Survival of the fittest applies here rather well and it's what's going to happen. The world will find a way to progess once more, even if it slides back for a little bit. Such things are rarely linear and in any case, in time everything and everyone either evolves or perishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 12:16 AM
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Yeah it really does read like that, doesn't it? I'm truly shocked that the undertones are both sexist and racist, shocked I say.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 12:05 AM
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Lol talk about an irrational fear. There is currently 7.9 billion humans on Earth and the number's steadily rising. The species will do just fine and the society along with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:32 PM
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Just don't say it doesn't matter to you, when it actually does matter. She never said it doesn't matter to her, in fact she said that she doesn't like it, but that they shouldn't be shamed for it on a societal level. That's a completely different thing. Let's say that she said she was fine with meat eaters, but if a guy ever ate meat in his past, it's a deal-breaker. It's a different than being a prostitute connoisseur in the past for sure, but maybe she wants lifelong compatible ideologies. Bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 11:46 AM
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Oh yes I know, there was a period when I just started having one, but then it wasn't really sustainable so I dialed it down quite a bit and I'm all the happier for it. Pasta, bread and beer > a cut stomach. Haha hear, hear!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 10:09 AM
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So what if there is something unacceptable to her about it? She is not judging them and saying that they are a bad person, she is judging them on being an incompatible boyfriend material. Everyone is allowed that, and moreover, it's a privilege that should be exercised more often. You would say it's obvious that she has an issue with people who eat meat. Not necessarily at all, it's a shared life vision thing. If she cut out meat out of her life and home having to tolerate and compromise on meat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 10:05 AM
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You are not wrong, but it just means that for some it looks a little better both before the start of it and in the end. Also, it requires a little less time and hard work than an average gym goer, but by no means can the hard work be skipped. Ultimately, one simply can't look like an athlete without being (relatively) as active as an athlete.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:57 PM
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I know quite a few guys with good genetics, but good genetics doesn't give you a six pack like that. Most I've seen was calves, shoulders/arms/back that pop with some work. A mild six pack still needs almost daily work, a really defined one needs it to be a proper part time job in my experience. He's giving the impression of good genetics. Good genetics are thought more highly of, see halo effect. Some good genetics do count, but it might be because I'm looksmaxxing myself I view someone who kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:17 PM
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No, I wouldn't believe you. I've lived my whole life with men like my dad and bro who actually do put in moderate-ish effort with swimming, gym, tennis and the like and I know exactly what it ultimately looks like. I think anyone who has a point of reference of any kind will be able to gauge it relatively well. So, if anything, lying about it would be worse in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:28 PM
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Look, of course the assumptions are wild, but respectfully, you missed the point. There is a certain image we all project and occasionally someone is in contradiction with their image, which often times can lead to preplexingly unsatisfactory outcomes for that person. All of the pictures show you doing something athletic and active, that's why people are getting the impression of you being super intense and extra all the time as it's in all of your pictures. Their impression is not wrong based o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:56 PM
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To my knowledge around 30-40% of male population in the age range of 18-35 is overweight, so by that metric it's still below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 09:18 PM
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Depends entirely on the part of the world. In my part of the world gen z guys average height is a little above 6 feet, so that would actually be a bit below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 08:59 PM
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That very well might be an average 45+ guy, but it's not an average 20-35 year old dude. What you described is a below average dude in the younger age range (possibly so in the older one too). A lot of average people have stuff that's a little worse and a little better that together forms an average or they are average all the way through; basically that they don't have too many unattractive features that are not balanced by something else. Look, as per your despriction, your dude's height is ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 08:49 PM
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Where’s the data supporting your “risk” claims? Are you arguing it doesn't happen then? “Revenge porn” is just one of many ways people can hurt each other. Spreading rumors, false narratives, printing and publishing personal diaries and journals, showing unflattering pictures or videos, all are types of ways people try to hurt each other, attack and blemish reputation. Revenge porn is one of the ways people can illegally hurt others, which mere rumor spreading isn't, until it raises to the level…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 11:49 AM
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Lol don't you just look silly. I didn't quote you out of context, those were your exact words from the first comment I replied to. You called it "erotica" in print exactly, with the quotes, before you started to suddenly pretend those words are beneath you. This is too funny. I get why you, and others have to make the false distinction though because you’re really attacking the imagery, the “exploitation” of the actor, even though the actor can choose for themselves. But to make a point you have…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 11:21 AM
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Now don't strawman me. I never said that all porn is evil. Obviously a couple that has an exhibitionist kink having consensual sex and posting it online is on the right side of things. That said, I claimed, and I still stand by it, that most of the evil acts in porn happen in adult film industry. It’s seems self evident that written stories of violent rape are far more harmful to consumers and society in general, assuming one is claiming harm, then a video of two people having consensual sex How…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:46 AM
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I’m not making an assertion of evils of anything. Allow me to quote you: "erotica” in print ... for the negative effects it has and perpetuates on society or if it’s somehow different. Strong claim. What are the supposed negative effects that erotica in print allegedly "has and perpetuates", since you are the one that seems so sure they exist? How badly are the imaginary characters affected? Many people mistakenly overlay their individual ideas of what’s acceptable, often based on hypocritical r…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:18 AM
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It's so very simple, it's common sense. You haven't explained nor enumerated the supposed evils of erotica either. Please try to make a case for how it's in any way even close to comparable. Physical labor can and does indeed have negative impact on health. But people doing the physical labour in the western world don't sign away their rights to their own personhood for forever. The point is that pornstars can't properly quit even when they have quit. Their body of work is still out there even w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:54 AM
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I'm not the one you are asking, but it's not. Hell, it's not even close. Because erotica has basically zero ethical concerns, barring some really nasty stuff. Zero humans have been harmed during the making of it. I believe that porn negatively impacts the actors' mental health and it basically makes them undertake the kind of serious and long lasting commitment that isn't even expected of people marrying. If at any point in their life the performers have been young/impulsive/in need of cash/self…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:13 AM
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I don't want to invalidate anyone's experience as I know via both my bf and my brother how tough and just how very disheartening it is (bf told me he used to tell people he was black online to avoid being labelled as creepy and passed over). But I know that I disagree with it and after meeting him my family and friends are much more open as well. Also, in my friend group, one of my friends is dating a Korean guy and I'm dating an Indian fella, so I'm just saying that there are normal people that…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 12:45 PM
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Not true. My boyfriend is Indian and he is very handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:20 AM
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Just for my peace of mind, 180 cm is 5'11" and 5'9" is 175 cm. So Europeans and Americans have a really similar preference. Also, it absolutely is about how height looks like in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 10:34 AM
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I think that's wrong in several ways. I do agree with a few of your points and you do have good insights, but this one is just wrong. It feels viscerally disgusting on a primal level because sex for hetero women generally means being penetrated, letting someone into your body. That can be physically painful, but besides that it's a loss of control of your own self to an unimaginable degree. It is one of the worsts possible violations. So getting spanked by someone you don't have that kind of rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 02:22 PM
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Men gas them up too for the same reason (don't believe me, check out the amihot, amiugly etc subreddits). It is a socially acceptable simple kindness that takes someone a few seconds and makes them feel charitable and like a nice person without doing any actual charity. It's partly kind, but mostly self-serving, at least in the case of someone going out of their way to do it. It's different when put on the spot as no one wants to be the bearer of bad news. Those who enjoy that too much are moral…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 05:53 PM
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Yes, it really does. But since a lot of the people are followers who don't have a grand vision of their own, those who do have one really stand out. Having a brand/type of your own in terms of aesthetics is also very important and can go a long way in charming the opposite sex into liking and wanting to date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:55 PM
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I'm mid twenties and depends on a pretty boy, Timothée Chalamet, youngish Brad Pitt, David Bowie, MGK yes. One Direction and JB no. The whole look is important, if they carry it well, so e.g. I think Adam Driver is very attractive too. Hair midlength is kind of perfect, but if they can pull of Legolas hair it's a point in their favour too lol. I think redpillers are not wrong, some women do prefer that look, but it's nowhere close to AWALT, not even a MWALT imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:18 PM
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TRP do not mind being a nice placeholder and being in casual relationships with women. It's actually the goal for many. Oh yes, I know, TRP has made it very clear over the years. And there is going to be some women like that too, but they are in a minority, so it's an understandable thing that FDS is in the lets learn how to avoid this scenario club. It's rather silly for people to assume that women in FDS do not have options already available to them. You can't vet men if you got no men. Agreed…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 11:01 AM
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FDS opperates under seemingly truthful observation that men (or at least desirable men) more often than not have a type and if you are relatively close to it, you are in; then again if you are the opposite of it, you are out of the running for a lifelong commitment, but can still be a nice placeholder. The latter is obviously unappealing to anyone who doesn't want a casual relationship. That's why FDS doesn't give advice about attracting someone who is not into you, it's very much swimming again…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 12:13 AM
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But bad can come from this hurt. Of course, you are not wrong. And breaks, whether temporary or permanent, can be useful if someone notices ill-effects on their mental health and outlook on life. I'm at the point of looking at it through a classic Schmosby kind of way with quite a few regulars, so it really doesn't bother me. Also, I mostly lurk, so that helps. Much appreciated, because I'll need it, lol Lol don't we all. Cheers mate!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 10:44 AM
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Nah listen, I don't disagree that people are easily led and influenced and that can become a problem, with subs like this doubly so, but some of us enjoy flammable topics, people watching and different perspectives and know how to be divorced from our ego and don't let what others write poison our thoughts. Besides, it has been helpful, it has helped me empathise with male perspective quite a bit more, so I'd say that for me it has been a net positive. It has also humanised the internet users fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:57 AM
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A few inches taller than me ideally, so 180/5'11"+, couldn't care less about a particularly strong jaw/chin, but not recessed. I'm a sucker for a nice smile (currently wearing braces myself lol) glasses and hands. I prefer non-short tousled hair, strongish shoulders and lanky look (abs do nothing for me), but it's by no means a requirement. Apart from lanky, my ldr is all that with heartmelting bonus dimples (tho I may have to cross hair from the list, but since my bro is also losing his I've be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:35 PM
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You do know that a tiktok algorithm feeds you what you most watched, right? E.g. if you've watched several videos about cheaters bragging, that's what it will keep showing you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 10:34 PM
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They all sound not good as long term options (except maybe woman #1), but guy #2 sounds positively the worst imo. Everyone else has a passion, a drive, whether that's their social life, career, health or beauty related (8-9 woman must have maintenance rituals for her to ping as consistently stunning). Everyone else is living their life on their own terms and that is attractive. The women #1 and #2, and the guy #1 don't appear to have a place or a temperament needed (excepting woman #1) for a ser…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:20 PM
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This goes to show that, if you're a guy, people simply HATE the idea of you taking the initiative to improve your own prospects. It is both a good observation, a good point and fair enough. I don't disagree. But I have noticed the same thing with women too, you have to stay in your lane so to speak. There is barely concealed vitriol if you dare improve, and heaven help you if it's in the form of makeup/surgery/weight loss. There exist both men and women that will find ways to constantly bring it…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 12:40 PM
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See, I very much agree that there is exactly the thing you mentioned, people, women imcluded are having a disproprtionate reaction to his post and ascribing to it all kinds of made up things, exaggerations meant to scare him off as well as going on the offensive. It is both absurd and appalling. I just disagree with you that it has anything to do with the "Woman are wonderful" affect. It's anecdotal, but I have seen people having a very similar reaction on comments and posts made in gender rever…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 10:59 AM
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I do love the 2005 version, but I also love 1980 and 1995 versions too, tho 1995 is my favourite of the 3. Oh yes, both Bingley and Jane as characters, and their story are just so endearingly beautiful. The focus is not on them, so we don't get enough, but what we do see is very charming and arresting. It does feel like a more realistic bridge to Lizzy's and Darcy's more fantastical story arc, as you've said. Also I dont just love the romance between the leads, I love the other characters (one o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 09:31 AM
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Yes, I very much agree. Poor girl, may she rest in peace. That is truly the stuff of nightmares, and the other is simply death, which eventually comes for us all. And even the law recognises the severity between manslaughter and first/second degree murder, so it's so much more serious then "just" the act of taking someone's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 11:06 PM
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Pride and Prejudice is my number one pick, regency era enemies to friends to lovers best story. And not just for Mr Darcy who is brooding, yet fair, gallant, capable of introspection, growth, and most importantly with a heart of gold, but because I'd really like to experince the falling in love while attending balls under the enchanting and flattering golden hue of candlelight, where entire sentences filled with longing are spoken in stolen glances and mere accidental brushes of hand are electri…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 10:55 PM
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Of one you die, and of one you are potentially brutally murdered by. Trust me, there is a big difference
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 10:41 PM
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Fair enough that they are. But look at it through the lens of half the population is below the median intelligence in IQ, and who even knows about EQ, but I'd wager that the results are not too dissimilar. My point being that intellectually and emotionally dumb people exist and make a significant percentage of population. In the wise words of Forrest Gump: "stupid is as stupid does". And dumb people will always behave in dumb ways and misrepresent the group that they belong to. I guess because t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:20 AM
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Lol look at who is downvoting now. And women can communicate however they like, if you are not well versed in nuance and subtlety, that's your own problem to solve. And mind you, it's a problem. As if anyone's stopping you saying whatever you like. Some women do that yes. But I found that usually like attracts like, so if that's all the experience with women you have, maybe you should work on your picker and yourself, and maybe, just maybe you'll see some better results.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 09:34 AM
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Of course no guy consciously wants it, I completely get that. But then you have men who supposedly don't want it going and asking women to give a guy she is largely indifferent towards a chance because he is a "good guy". How do you think betabux arrangements happen? They happen because some men manage to wear down some women and then proceed to ignore the signals that she is just not that into him. The vast majority of the people cannot hide their true feelings long term, so I guarantee you the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 01:53 PM
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I apologize, you are right, it temporarily slipped my mind what sub I was on, but I have rectified it now. Thanks for reminding me. Well yes, but you and the guy above you seemed to be in consensus that women should go against the natural attraction they feel towards some men, and instead give the chance to the ones they don't feel anything towards. I'm of the opinion that settling just breads misery. I do agree that it's at least a partially self-inflicted state and that some women indeed behav…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 06:59 PM
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Lol sure, but no more complaining about betabux then, because that's how a woman ends up in a relationship with a guy she is lukewarm at best about, and everyone has a miserable time
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 02:29 PM
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Lol no offense, but yours is exactly the post that disproves OPs hypothesis. He says men are not looking for bangmaids, and here you go in all your brightly shining glory going, but a bangmaid is how I feel loved. I mean sure, you do you mate, but the irony is delicious. And yes, some women do indeed want for no one to ask them for any initiative or accountability, alas some men are very much in want of a bangmaid, as their actions keep demonstrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 08:51 AM
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Thank you, you are kind. I dearly hope so too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:49 AM
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Oh yes agreed, but if people sense that honesty will not serve them well, then in a lot of cases honesty will not be what you get. So you shouldn't let them know which side of a fence you are sitting too soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:45 AM
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Haha very succinct, I like it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:42 AM
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Yes, rarely is it needed, active listening with some minimal prompting does the job very well. And you are right about the plausible deniability, that is one of the favourite techniques of many men when dating. It's just that I've encountered a subsequent overlapping minority that have taken plausible deniability to another level. My lovely and intelligent friend is enamoured with one such man. She was a bit too direct and gave away all her cards, so all he needed to do was say that he was searc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:41 AM
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You are a good egg. I too would answer honestly, because I don't mind either way. The point I'm not sure I successfully made was not about either you or me or many other people who would also be truthful, it's that there exist many others who wouldn't be. And at the begining it's hard to tell one apart from the other, so better not give anyone any ammunition so to speak, before you know the person well enough to tell which category they belong to. Your point about healing from past trauma is val…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:48 AM
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Absolutely, and keeping my cool too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:36 AM
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That kind of a man or a woman, will unfortunately find it much harder to navigate the dating scene. That said, if they are high functioning, by the time they've grown up and are ready to date they are in all likelihood aware of the facts that people sometimes lie, as well as that people behave differently than they themselves would if the roles were reversed. It depends on the individual of course, but autistic people are capable of developing the skill if they have a well meaning friend, family…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:06 AM
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Haha well spotted, a staggeringly high number of people ignores a blatantly obvious parade of red flags and are then absolutely gobsmacked when it all implodes. Love apparently cloaks reason completely in red, so red flags look like just flags I guess. I meant more along the lines of people being very obvious in the wording of their questions of what they consider a desirable outcome. Then that leads to unknowingly and foolishly allowing others to feed them the correct answer and them then patti…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 11:46 PM
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The main point would be that that hypothetical man and woman in question are incompatible. And neither side is necessarily more right or wrong than the other. Well sure, he could be. But such a man is likely to find a better fit if he realised that the mere fact of asking the question in such a way is saying something about him that might be offputting to some women, as well as giving her an insight into his values that she may not use in his best interest if it clashes with her own.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 11:21 PM
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Hahah I completely get that. But it does help me to test out/better understand/expand my own opinions as well, so that's another plus as far as I'm concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 11:11 PM
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Oh no, I absolutely do believe in clear communication in relationships, otherwise what's the point. I just think that the period leading to it should be used wisely to spot any incompatibilities that the other person might not readily volunteer, so there is minimal time wasting on both sides. Yes, I very much agree with you that it's not healthy to bring past issues and baggage into a new relationship. The fact that someone is asking and bringing it up early on is a sign they probably will keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 11:07 PM
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Oh yeah very much same here, but it's helpful to read about how people think and behave. Knowledge of anything new learned and observed can very much come in handy irl, so it's a net positive for me even when I find it frustrating or disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:13 PM
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I definitelly agree, the blunt approach will just warn them that there is a right answer, and in vast majority of the cases it's very easy fo figure out what is it based on how the question is worded. And yes, very true, if you are listening more than talking and know how to make people feel at ease, they will tell you all you need to know themselves, with minimal prompting from you. You should know more than enough in anywhere from couple of dates to couple of months to draw your own conculsion…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:06 PM
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Fair enough. But my point was that disregarding other data that people give out other then their words and answers raises the risk for ending up in an unsatisfactory, or even worse, a bad relationship. I meant more for the questions that are important and that indicate compatibility. If you are interested in the actual truth, there is a better way to ask the questions that will tell you what you need to know instead of the direct approach that will put someone on their guard and give away the an…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:57 PM
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Yes I agree. Someone's behaviour is much more indicative of the truth then things they say (assuming those two things clash). And people are much more comfortable doing something they did before, once the ice has already been broken. So if someone had ONS before, they'll do it again more easily. Oh absolutely, if you project the nonjudgmental and nonchalant air and are not numbering dealbreakers, they are more likely to organically confide in you. Also, if for some reason they are now modest and…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 05:05 PM
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I do agree with you about that being the crux. Imo selection with most people is not that hard, skilled manipulators are rare. Where people usually go wrong is that they vet how someone makes them feel, and everything else is a very distant second. I mean I get it, connections are tough to find, so when it's finally there, common sense goes out the window. People often reveal themselves in questions they ask you, those are things near and dear to their heart. E.g. Women often have the mindset of…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 10:53 AM
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Everything is hightened when you are a teenager, and rare are the lucky ones who escape unscathed and unscuffed by the tempestuous years. I appreciate P&J's relationship for how real, emotionally raw and messy it felt, but generally while they have their moments I wouldnt look up to them and model the behaviour off of either of them; imo they missed the mark just as often as they hit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 11:22 PM
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That's just online dating for you. There is no preselction of having met through college/work/church/friends so you have to really know how to vet people, and can't rely on having the social circle doing it for you. And you are going to have to sort through heaps of incompatible people along the way, so you have to be prepared for an uphill battle. It can wear on you mentally and emotionally; alas that's just the pound of flesh demaned of everyone who wants to continue playing, men and women of …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:55 PM
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Yes, the desperation does often lead to an endless loop from which it's very hard to escape. Because everyone else can smell it a mile off, that makes the escape even harder. People do value people who have more options, it's a sad truth. Well generally sure, but it's more like people who are aware and confident wont entertain the desperate, because they have no need for that kind of validation and attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:26 PM
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Oh yeah absolutely I agree, and controlling yourself is not even that hard, or at least it shouldnt be
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:13 PM
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I mostly disagree, though not fully. It might be because I come from a European country and our standards differ, but I do have close male friends with whom there is mutual no romantic or sexual potential, at all, on both sides. I was raised with lots of male and female friends from childhood, so having friends of both gender was very much normalized. To this day, we catch up, sometimes on whatsapp, sometimes in group settings, sometimes 1on1 and catch a coffee or a movie when we can. Extrapolat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:57 PM
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