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I'm no patsy at all. I just decided to not let it affect me nor to dwell on it. I left her to sleep in the bed she made while I went on with my life. I'm not going to be bitter or sad about it. I accepted it and moved on with my life. And now I am better off for it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 02:49 PM
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Yes. But she will never let you see it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 12:53 PM
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we will be doing a prenup, but she is much better off financially than I am. It is in her best interest. :)
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 12:22 PM
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My mother in law was amazing. She even encouraged me to take a cruise to try to save my marriage. She texted me constantly to check on me and tell me how she was confused about her daughters behavior. She swore that there was no affair. All my wife did was sit at her house and cry about the affair. Once the divorce papers were signed, I found out that there gad been an affair. My MIL was babysitting my daughter while my wife went with her lover who was a doctor. My father-in-law who was like my …
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 06:24 PM
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My wife met someone else, and it led to a divorce that took 8 months to complete. Just a week after it was finalized, she came back asking for another chance. She wanted to undo the divorce and we went through months of counseling. During this time, I learned that she had only come back because she realized that the other guy was not a good match for her. After 18 months of trying to make things work, she met a doctor, and we ended up going through another divorce. It was tough because I looked …
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 01:16 PM
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After my divorce, I waited a year to date anyone. Then my first three "relationships" only lasting around 5-6 months. I just couldn't connect with any of them. It felt like I had lost something important, and I doubted if I'd ever find it again. Then, I met a really great lady. I started developing feelings for her, but a small argument destroyed that. Discouraged, I resumed dating, and the same pattern repeated six months later. By then, it had been almost four years since my divorce. I decided…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 12:01 AM
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They were supportive at first and tried to stay out of it. I cried on their shoulders too much and it turned them against me and they took her side. I thought her mother would rebuke her for having an affair and my friends would distance form her. Instead her mom babysat while she stayed with her boyfriends and my friends congratulated her on finding a new love..
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 03:22 PM
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We attended a course called "Re-Engage" It was a 16 weeks course that was fantastic. It was church based, but religion was not pushed. You can find videos on Youtube about it. It only cost us about $20 for the workbook and we got to keep it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 08:53 PM
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My ex did this. We got back together long enough for her to save enough money to plan a better exit strategy than the first round. If you take her back, plan on restarting the trauma and healing soon.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 07:50 PM
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My ex refused to budge on anything. At first the mediator was optimistic and said "your wife is asking for full custody and for you to only have a couple of hours of supervised visitation every other weekend. That is unreasonable but I hope we can reach a fair agreement today." She went away for a few minutes and came back and said "Ok. She won't budge on anything. I am sorry, but I am not going to be of any use to you today. Looks like you are going to court. That will be $400. I accept any for…
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 12:28 PM
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She's Vietnamese. Her family moved here when she was 7 years old. She's a citizens with no accent etc. But the culture and values are different. I quit dating American girls 3 years ago. If this one doesn't work out I'll find another Asian or Latina.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 05:10 PM
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I had to accept it like a burning coal in my chest. I pictured the worst and accepted it. I had to let it hurt until it couldn't hurt anymore. I imagined her being a drunken 304 and participating in orgies and everything else you can imagine. Then when I accepted the worse, I opened my eyes and realized the reality wasn;t as bad and I could deal with it. And I had to just start letting the calender pages flip until I lost count of days. And now I can see her with the new guy and it doesn't affec…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 07:21 PM
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Hang in there. I was in the same boat about a year or two ago. I couldn't connect with anyone after I learned about hypergamy etc. Then I met an amazing Asian lady. She has more money than me, is happy to be submissive, and is very peaceful. We have been dating for about a year. She is happy to just make sandwiches and watch tv for dates. I could go on and on until I sound like a simp. I am keeping my eyes open, but she seems to be everything I didn't know existed. I thought I'd never be capable…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 07:15 PM
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After retainer and 3 months of payments my lawyer called the day before a court meeting and knew nothing about my case. He asked if she used drugs. I said no. He recommended we submit to drug tests. I agreed. He billed me $1300 for drug test research only to say it wouldn't help us. Then did the same to subpeona text records. $1300 and he didn't request them. He could never remember from one call to the next what he advised on the last call. His wife was going through chemo. During Covid moved a…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 01:04 PM
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She was beautiful. He just saw her as a toy. She thought he would win him over and he'd fall in love with her. He didn't. After a few months he moved on.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 06:19 PM
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I owned a business with 9 locations. She wasn't happy so I closed them all and went back to work. She said she wanted more family time and the company was hogging my time. Within 4-5 years we were broke and she left for a doctor. I lost my job and had to move into a spare bedroom at my sisters house as I fought to be more than visitation dad. I lost my house, car, and job. It took 3 years ti get back on my feet. Now I am rebuilding. I have a better car, job, house, and girl. Don't lose hope.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 05:41 PM
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My ex told me what she "needed." We got back together and I changed everything. My job, the city we lived in, the kids' school, her career, annual cruises, 2 date nights alone each month, I bulked up, sent flowers, etc. She cheated again 2 years later. It isn't always you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 07:18 PM
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The best thing is my new girl. She is peaceful. She is content and easy to please. As long as I am kind and respectful, she is happy just to spend time together even if it is taking a walk through the neighborhood.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 10:55 AM
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I was with my ex 10 years. It took 2 yrs before sex with anyone else. I had to call up a high school girlfriend. I rented a room, drank, bought gas station pills, and watched porn on the way to the room. It was over in 30 mins and I was on my way back home crying my eyes out. It was horrible. But it put a buffer between my ex and I. Not saying it was the best solution. But it is my story.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 01:40 AM
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Great job. Stay strong!
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 03:15 PM
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Divorced 5 years ago. I have been with a super amazing lady for 8 months. I still get nervous when a text pops up or if she has to go to her mom's unexpectedly. She understand and says anytime I ever feel suspicious all I have to do is Facetime her. She gave me the password to her phone etc. Since I know I can check these things, I never do.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 08:23 PM
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Accept it. Kick, scream, cry and then get up and start rebuilding. It's like being drug behind a horse. The longer you hold on, the more damage you're gonna do to yourself. The best revenge you can do is to become the best version of yourself and make her regret leaving. Hit the gym. New clothes, new haircut. happy attitude. Fake it till you make it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 08:00 PM
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Great Idea. And some of those going thought it will hopefully journal. Not only to help others, but for their own benefit.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 05:28 PM
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Thanks for responding. I don't really have questions I want answered. i would rather it be like a compilation of mini-bios with each man telling the story of his divorce. Things like how long you were married. how the split happened. what the divorce process was like. how you dealt with it. Those types of things. I just want 20-30 men to tell about their divorce process. i'm thinking 10-15 pages each. It is a lot to ask but I think a lot of men will be helped. In my case, she cheated. We divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 09:03 PM
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In 2019, my ex moved out leaving me with all of the bills. She moved in with her mom so she could afford a lawyer. I was stuck with all of the bills plus now added lawyer fees. In one year I lost my house, car, and job and had to move into a spare bedroom at my sister's house. It took another year to get back on my feet, then another year to get ready for dating. I am now dating a stunning Asian lady with the cutest personality in the world. My kids love her. I have a bigger house and never car …
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 03:00 PM
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Not watching Coach Corey Wayne & Tyler the Fiend on youtube and not Reading The Comeback Chronicles sooner
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 08:52 AM
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I learned to notice red flags early and end relationships before they get serious.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 12:06 PM
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I'm not a legal expert, but generally speaking, the purpose of mediation is to arrive at an agreement both parties find acceptable. If both parties have signed a mediation agreement and it's been made part of a divorce decree, changes to that agreement usually require mutual consent. If one party wants to change the wording afterward for their benefit, without the agreement of the other, that's generally not how mediation agreements are supposed to work. Once the agreement is signed and made a p…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 02:29 PM
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I was friends with her and her whole family for 8 years before we started dating. Then we were together for 8 years before we divorced. We have a daughter. Now when I see any of them it's like seeing my old friends. not my former in-laws. It has taken me 4 years to get there, but they have been part of my life for 20 years. and will be for many more because of our daughter. The turning point was when I just accepted it like a fire in my chest and just let it burn.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 07:42 PM
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I am 49. My girlfriend is a 32 year old petite Asian beauty. I watched Coach Corey Wayne and Tripp Advice on Youtube. It worked for me
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 07:11 PM
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There is a book on Amazon called The Comeback Chronicles: Men's Divorce Survival Guide. I recommend it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 05:29 PM
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Thanks friend
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 12:49 AM
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Button's Bounty Montgomery's Mission Desoto's Dagger They are local based mysteries for young adults. As one tries to solve the mystery they learn about how their hometown was founded, etc. I have a series called "My Town Mysteries" More are on the way
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 12:06 AM
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At 45, with four kids , my world fell apart. I lost my house, my job, my car, you name it. I ended up in a spare room at my sister's, just trying to get joint custody of my kids. To be honest, there were moments I just wanted everything to end, and I couldn't imagine ever feeling happy again. Fast forward to now: I run my own business, have written three books, live in better house, and have an amazing job. Plus, I am now in a relationship with a more beautiful lady who is much more loyal and ea…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 06:18 PM
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I moved with my two sons into a bedroom at my sisters house for the same reason. I watched a Dr.Joe Dispenza's video about reprogramming your mind. I disagree with him on almost everything else but that one helped. I am now in a relationship with a beautiful sweet lady. It took 3 years to heal
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 09:31 AM
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Yes sir it is. I thought I'd die. I do wish my daughter wasn't in a broken home splitting time between two locations. Otherwise I am good. 3 years later my house is bigger, my bank account is larger, and my girl is prettier.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 05:21 PM
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I had a chance to start a business that would me to move 2 ours away for the summer for training. It did not impact my custody. I agreed to make the drive. etc. It was during covid. Two days after I moved I was served papers for custody modification because I of the move. I spent 1 year and tens of thousand of dollars to not lose custody. Lost the business opportunity and more. Ex thought it was funny
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 03:26 PM
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My ex had a female attorney. I had a male. Her lawyer destroyed mine. It may not be related. Just a fact. You can get a lot of good advice on https://divorcehelpfordads.com. This will give you some good tips to save money. My attorney was $425 per hour. It was $25 every time he answered an email, no matter how brief the response. Be careful about bogus charges. My attorney asked if drugs were a problem. I said absolutely not for either side. Neither of us had ever even smoked pot. He said he wan…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 08:12 AM
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I lost a lot of my family during my divorce. It's tough when your family seems to be hanging out with your soon-to-be ex-wife like nothing happened. You expected more support from them during this difficult time. It's natural to be bothered by it all, especially if you feel like your ex is getting a pass despite ending the marriage under questionable circumstances. And the fact that she's trying to take custody away from you only adds to the frustration. If you want, try talking to your family o…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 08:01 AM
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