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This is exactly the right answer. She apologized. The right way forward was to proceed as usual unless and until she did it again. Instead of moving forward, OP showed that she was still in his headspace, and then he went nuclear by delivering an ultimatum.
/r/askTRP17/12/19 07:10 PM
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I tried disengaging - didn't work. I tried going for it even more to make her even hornier - didn't work You can't be so hot-and-cold with LMR. What you do is back off a little bit. Like if you slide your hand under her shirt and she objects, go back to just making out until she's comfortable/horny enough to want to do more. Maybe you do break off eventually to go get a glass of water or something, but not immediately after the LMR. Right after the LMR, she wants things to slow down. You don't w…
/r/askTRP21/11/19 01:55 PM
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THIS IS WHAT I WOULD WANT OTHER PEOPLE TO DO TO ME. Made this mistake with my first serious girlfriend. Did stuff for her to show her I was serious about the relationship. But I knew nothing about women; I assume they thought about this stuff the asme way I did. BZZZ! Wrong! All it did was kill her attraction. Turns out, men and women are different. Don't treat other people they way YOU want to be treated, treat other people the way THEY want to be treated. And what most women want is for a stro…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 02:22 PM
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There are ways to be good without being nice. You should be fun; you should be a leader; you should be competent. Notice that none of those things require that you be an asshole, either. A nice guy enters a woman's world to try to make her feel better when she's upset. Instead the goal should be to get her to move from her shitty world into your fun world where you do what you want and do it so well that she's happy to be along for the ride. Asshole vs. Nice Guy is not the right dichotomy. Her f…
/r/askTRP15/09/19 09:37 PM
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Good stuff. I'd add a reasonably early bedtime, too.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 02:14 AM
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Lift weights and get a better haircut.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 08:36 PM
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Couldn't you say the same thing about a college dorm, though? You can shit in the same room where you eat if everyone is only eating there short-term. If OP is never going to see any of these people again after the program is over, I'd go for it.
/r/askTRP14/07/19 02:56 PM
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How do I find motivation? It just seems a bit too hard to me right now. The decision-making process itself is the exhausting part, right? Having to decide to go take a shower is hard; once you make that decision, taking a shower is easy. You just get naked and stand under some water. The trick is not to have consistent motivation; the trick is to minimize the number of decisions that you have to make. Make a decision once, but make it over a medium time horizon, rather than just for the immediat…
/r/askTRP05/07/19 01:32 PM
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Get on your purpose; build your business. If you got one girl to marry you and another to tattoo your name on your arm, you clearly don't lack a natural ability to snag women. Get your own underlying stats up, and then you'll be able to attract a higher quality woman. I'd also be very wary making any long-term commitment to any woman who's under 25. I know a lot of girls who were pretty in their teens and early 20s and whaled up hard in their late 20s. Since you're only 20 yourself, that means y…
/r/askTRP28/06/19 03:56 PM
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History. That's the only genre that shows what the actual real-world consequences of a person's actions and decisions were, rather than what the author thinks they should have been.
/r/askTRP28/06/19 03:48 PM
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I used to run pretty much every day, but I switched to swimming every day and running once or twice a week. Swimming is easier on the joints, you work more muscle groups, and unlike running where you have to deal with a variety of surfaces and weather conditions, the pool is always the same 25m and 88ºF, so I know my PRs are legitimate and not because I had a 15MPH tailwind or something.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/19 02:03 PM
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She agreed to come over, and she's already pointed out that that usually means sex. Despite what she says, it probably will here too unless you screw it up.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 09:26 PM
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You should quit porn first and foremost because it makes you waste So. Much. Fucking. Time. If you get rid of the porn, you'll have time and energy to do other things. Those other things can be activities that build skills. Getting good at something after working at it is the only way you'll ever feel a genuine source of pride. You'll never be proud of yourself for how much porn you watched the previous day. Maybe you never will attract a woman, but Jesus Christ, you should at least be able to a…
/r/askTRP17/06/19 09:24 PM
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Here's what worked for me. The unhealthiest part of watching porn is the "hunt". Opening a hundred different tabs from three different sites, hoping that one of them has exactly what you're looking for, watching them all, and ending up disappointed 95% of the time. To start weaning myself off, I found one video that I really liked. A good one. Classy, or at least relatively classy compared to the rest of the crap out there. And I told myself, "you aren't going to find anything better than this; …
/r/TheRedPill17/06/19 02:29 AM
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Very interesting how 25 is a real milestone, ie. you better be a fucking man by this point. Is it that society is more complex and there is so much more you must master, or that young men are being coddled by parents? At 25, "next steps" stop happening by default. You're out of college, you can drink, you have a job and are making money. Your brain has stopped physically developing. If you sit around and do nothing, your life can remain exactly the same straight through 30, 35, 40... You might g…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/19 02:10 AM
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I agree, but since as a society we no longer send 14-year-olds out with a spear and tell them to return when they've stabbed a bear to become a man, alcohol has pretty much become the universal rite-of-passage. I'm not for telling someone to completely swear off alcohol if that means he's going to spend every Saturday night at home playing Jenga with his mom and sister so as to not be one of the "bad kids". I wish I had started drinking three years earlier than I did, and I wish I had stopped fo…
/r/TheRedPill16/06/19 06:39 PM
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Sums up pretty much everything. Interestingly, you'll notice the post barely mentioned women. Knowing how to handle shit-tests and LMR and all that is very useful stuff, and there's a reason that Step One is reading the sidebar, but we get a lot of guys here who need to know how to start at Step Zero.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/19 06:32 PM
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This is so fucking true. In my early 20s, I spent so much time thinking about What It All Means. My brain wanted to think about the world like I was a robot: all I had to do was find the one answer to life, and then apply it to everything. My friends and I would stay up until 3:00 talking about life and God and women, and we thought we were so deep and philosophical. Nope. We were just young men who needed more life experiences and a smaller sense of grandiosity.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/19 06:24 PM
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The more decisions you make, the more you'e almost unconsciously homing in on where you need to be Or as someone once explained it to me: trees grow towards the sunlight
/r/askTRP11/06/19 11:00 PM
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Getting your shit together will help you become less emotional. The lows aren't as low because you know that your underlying fundamentals are fine. Options. Abundance. A consistent routine that builds you up. Any particular thing is a smaller percentage of your world, so any one thing becoming faulty is less of a big deal. Add tools to your toolbag. Add stats to your character sheet. Lift. Read. Make higher-value social connections. Learn how to manage money. Learn proper nutrition. The goal isn…
/r/askTRP11/06/19 12:32 PM
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Maybe I should forget bitches for a while and come back when I have my shit together. Yep. Monk mode. Getting better at life is pretty fucking fun, particularly the physical stuff. If you're thinking to yourself "I'm not good enough" then the women you are trying to attract will pick up on that, reject you, and it becomes a vicious circle. Step outside the circle until you can convince your own brain that you're well on your way to kicking ass. Just don't use Monk Mode as an excuse not to talk t…
/r/askTRP08/06/19 03:27 PM
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Nothing ever seems to go my way Because you don't do jack shit except sit on your ass. My goal in life is to become financially well enough that I don't have to work, or work as little as possible That's not a goal. That's an outcome. A goal is something tangible that you can work towards. Losing 20 pounds. Running a 5K. Getting a professional certification. Let's say genie snaps his fingers and you get $500,000 deposited in your bank account overnight. Now what? What are you going to fill your …
/r/askTRP07/06/19 05:17 PM
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This is a longer answer than I probably ought to write, but what the hell, I was a 17-year-old nerd once, too. To get where you want to go, it'll take a three-pronged attack. ONE: GET YOUR UNDERLYING STATS UP Part of the reason you are anxious is because you have it in your head that you are worthless. Or at least that other people are better than you and they can tell. To be in a position to say "Fuck those people, I know I'm awesome." You have to be somewhat awesome, or at least on the way the…
/r/askTRP05/06/19 04:28 PM
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Do you guys check out a girl's social media before talking to her How would this even work? See a cute girl at the zoo, ask her for her name, then step away, look her up on Facebook, and if she has less than 150 friends then go back and give her your best pickup line? "Dammit, 153 friends; she's out of my league." Wtf? If you're only talking to women via social media, there's your problem.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 02:25 PM
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What are some tips for guys that are basically losers that somehow landed a really hot girl? Stop being a loser. She's not as hot as you think. Enjoy it while it's your turn; recognize that your turn will come to an end. Peter Griffin should not be used as a serious example for anything.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 02:17 PM
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She’s tried so hard, but the gym can only change so much. Exercise is great for cardiovascular health, but proper nutrition (low carb macros with fasting) is the only real way to lose weight. Hopping on a treadmill for 45 minutes a day doesn't do jack shit to burn fat, especially if someone's hammering back soda or coffee throughout the day.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 12:31 PM
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Men and women can be friends if: Both parties recognize that there is zero mutual sexual interest Each person brings something to the relationship that the other does not
/r/askTRP02/06/19 02:37 PM
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Don't give a damn about girls Because you suck at it. Trust me, your description of yourself describes a past version of me perfectly, right down to studying for an exam. It's safer to sit back and be above it all than it is to put yourself out there and risk failing. Your task to work on is to get comfortable with failure. Do you think anybody gets good at playing piano without hitting thousands of sour notes along the way? Do you think that people make fun of them for hitting a bad note? Do yo…
/r/askTRP01/06/19 03:36 PM
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It's possible to love when you are red pilled. It's no longer possible to love blindly.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 03:19 PM
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Just wanted to add that while most of the rules are applicable to a man's professional life as well as his personal life, this is one where it might even apply more in a work environment. There are people at my company that feel the need to apologize for aspects of their work product. (And I'm not talking about stuff like, "Sorry I missed your email" when you did inadvertently miss their email. I'm talking about more subtle stuff like, "As usual, I probably could have worded this better...") The…
/r/askTRP01/06/19 03:18 PM
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Like he stops chasing her? He shouldn't be chasing her in the first place. When a man gets lazy, he loses the qualities that make her chase him. That usually means developing a "dad bod" and/or demonstrating that he doesn't have other options for pussy.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 10:07 PM
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Sounds like OP didn't shoot his shot. "OK, let's just be friends [wink]"
/r/askTRP29/05/19 06:58 PM
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It depends on the attitude behind it. I'll ghost her for three days; that'll show her! Bad. This bitch ain't worth my time right now Good.
/r/askTRP28/05/19 07:26 PM
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Get in the habit of making tax-advantaged long-term investments. Given your age and the power of compound interest, significant contributions every year plus an aggressive asset allocation will likely make you a millionaire in your 40s. You can't contribute to a 401K unless and until you get a job working for an employer that sponsors one, but you can and should open an IRA. The money that you're going to put in this first year won't make you rich; the habit that you build from doing it every ye…
/r/askTRP20/05/19 02:24 PM
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When you react emotionally to the things that she says and does, either positively or negatively, that's neediness. The man needs to be the one who sets the emotional cadence of the relationship.
/r/askTRP18/05/19 12:01 PM
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We don't use condoms Dumbass. Get tested irrespective of what your girlfriend wants or suggests.
/r/askTRP15/05/19 05:23 PM
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gain weight So this is something I didn't realize until recently. The idea of "gaining weight" is poor framing that leads to poor nutrition. Your goal is not to gain weight; it's to add muscle mass and drop body fat. Dropping body fat is more or less a matter of calories, but adding muscle mass isn't. 3,000 calories a day is shit if it's all carbs and no protein. Pay attention to your macros.
/r/askTRP15/05/19 05:16 PM
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If this was one of the very first things she said, she's letting you down easy; move on. If this came up after some flirting and some EOIs, it's a massive shit test. My favorite response is a knowing smirk coupled with, "I don't want to be your boyfriend."
/r/askTRP15/05/19 12:16 PM
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I've done Guys' Trips and those are great. Planning out your week through the mountains, deserts, beaches, cities, and rainforests of Puerto Rico is a fucking blast, especially if you have friends who'd rather cook a big meal back at the airbnb than go eat unhealthy restaurant food. I've done Guys' Teams and those are great, too. Playing together with your bros in a competitive Ultimate or flag football league is excellent for physical and character growth. Guys' Nights kind of suck, really. Peo…
/r/askTRP14/05/19 05:20 PM
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Look up Snake Diet on YouTube. You can cut weight on that faster than just about anything else. The guy who came up with it is a semiprofessional powerlifter, so obviously you can and should still lift.
/r/askTRP13/05/19 05:36 PM
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Jealousy is a fun emotion So make her feel it herself
/r/askTRP04/05/19 08:29 PM
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applying dread You can't apply dread to a girl who has zero investment in you applying preselection You don't apply preselection by volunteering information about yourself out of the blue. That comes off as try-hard. You've read some material and understood some terms, but you've missed the big picture. TRP isn't a way to get a particular girl; it's a system to help you maximize your overall success with women. In this case, when a girl flakes, here's what you should do: https://www.youtube.com/…
/r/askTRP04/05/19 08:25 PM
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Having him read this stuff is just going to start a debate, and that debate isn't going to do either of you any good. You should instead strongly hint that he should start Brazilian jujitsu or something similar that will make him physically dominant and spike his testosterone.
/r/askTRP02/05/19 04:46 PM
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Flirt with them, go to the events that they invite you to, and hit on their friends at those events. If they ever ask you out directly, tell them you have a policy against dating coworkers.
/r/askTRP02/05/19 04:42 PM
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