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Consider the perspective of how things went and how they could have gone in a very contentious proceeding. You avoided the intense strain and suffering that you and your children might have endured through a process that takes many months if not years. It's hard to feel better when you hear "it could have been worse" but take it from someone who has seen that darkness, you've made the best of a bad situation and avoided so much emotional scarring.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 02:01 PM
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I whole heartedly agree about disengaging. It's a death of a thousand cuts and while time will numb the hurt it never goes away. You just learn to live with it like a bad scar. Everyone here says work on yourself but I think the underlying benefit to that is that you hyperfocus on something else. Something healthy is obviously good advice but anything that sucks up all available attention and gets you through the next 3-6 months does a world of good. It's a bandaid but it was essential for me to…
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 01:08 AM
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This sub has been so amazing. This ordeal is exhausting and having some guys to bounce questions off and just commiserate with has been invaluable.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 05:50 PM
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I appreciate the response. In this particular case, this is to my benefit. There are several other items regarding investments and movement from account to account for 'reasons' so I wonder if the same applies there as that capitol (in general) was invested and recovered, and invested again.. etc. Not quite day trading but there was some of that.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 04:56 PM
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I wish I had that much idea of how this might play out. It sounds like you have a solid plan. I might be shopping for a new firm as I'm not certain my lawyers are representing me well. I told them this morning "She's going scorched earth and she and her lawyer have no issue going below the belt. I don't need decorum, I need us to kick her when she's down". That being said, I harbor no ill will towards her but when someone goes for the throat, the best defense is a good offense. I thought I knew …
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 07:57 PM
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Wow. Similar in many ways but so much but in terms of assets, ouch. I get it though. Just be done with it. I wonder though, how many guys are amiable to just get things over with, not be a complete ass, or grow so exhausted by the fight that they give away too much. I'm slowly getting the the last where I just need this to end so I can limit the exposure I have to her toxic personality. Unfortunately we have a kid so I'll never be completely free but once the dust settles, I expect a few years o…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 09:56 PM
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She's on the vengeance train and trying to reason with her only causes her to dig in more. She's a real nasty person to me at almost all times despite me being really diplomatic as much as anyone would be. This is all recorded in a court appointed communication app but she's so certain of her opinions on the matter that anything she does or says is justified.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 04:28 AM
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How is the advice bad? Should they be pushing back rather than trying to bring in an outside resource? Elaborate on this trust for protection. I'm not at all familiar with this. As far as a dirty lawyer goes, I agree that I should have hired someone that hits below the belt at every opportunity. Her lawyer is exactly that way.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 04:25 AM
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Yeah, I've told her that lawers will always say yes to more work. At this point she's so wound up on me having swindled her that she won't listen to anything I say despite any obvious sense it makes. As far as over-billing. I look at every invoice but how can I assess the amount of work to review documents or draft letters and convene with petitioners lawyer etc. I really don't know what is reasonable but with this amount of money having gone out to get me this far, it seems like a reasonable po…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 04:23 AM
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Wow. What a great thing to think on and it completely makes sense. It makes me wonder that with the judges knowing this why they'd do anything like that at all. It seems unethical to promote something they know isn't constitutional.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 04:46 PM
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I got that impression as well. Watching all those reruns of Matlock was a waste of time..
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 06:30 AM
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Her lawyer is a jackass and will take any available shots, below the belt or otherwise. Having a short list of violations if it comes to it would just be hedging my bets. I related some health issues I was having to my STBXW and in court they tried to use that against me despite it being a relatively innoculous condition. It was clearly out of some desperation but also just not cool.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 06:28 AM
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Her TO motions included a TRO which was withdrawn right before the day in court. The fact that they filed one was odd considering that we have uncontested 50/50 custody, there's no evidence of any sort of abuse or trauma, and she indicates I'm a good parent. My lawyers say that the only reason to file a TRO (aside from a real need) is to use it as leverage in getting more custody. As far as all the other motions filed? She got nothing. She asked for child support, alimony, a change in residentia…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 04:23 AM
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I feel terrible for you and hope this turns out as something you can manage. I know it's too soon but if you have something you can throw your attention into, some hobby, work, or learning, anything to occupy your mind, it can be a life saver. Time is your enemy here. Things will play out as they will but with all this time to overthink things and spiral, getting your mind off of all of this will be a healthly first step. I'm not suggesting you bury your head in the sand and ignore this shitstor…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 03:34 AM
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All too true. It was about the time that the motions were being created that she started having very adversarial conversations and intimating that she was afraid of me. This is all strange to me because we'd been hanging out over the summer post-separation to provide more to our kid. All of the sudden I'm some unpredictable scary guy? She had no evidence of this (nothing had ever happened) and was not contesting the 50/50 custody so it was all weird to my lawyers as well. You'd bring that stuff …
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 04:43 AM
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JFC, I'm in the middle of this exact situation to a T. Early on I said "let's keep this cheap and avoid doing much through lawyers. They'll just encourage you/us to do x,y, and z because it's billable hours for them". She agreed but here we are. I've spent 23k and we haven't even gotten to the lawyer driven mediation. She filed a bunch of motions that were essentially DOA before we got to court. Lot's of unsubstantiated crap.. She's also blowing through her part of the money from the sale of the…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 01:19 AM
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