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Not true at all. Me and my gf both initiate and both reject when we’re not feeling it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 11:55 PM
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Because I’m not gonna have my sex life be controlled by somebody else? Any relationship where sex is a reward is a dogshit relationship. Sex is not some privilege, it’s needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 11:51 PM
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It’s the delusion. They think that just because they choose to only interact with the top tier guys, that’s the level she’s on. Unfortunately there’s way more pretty girls than top tier guys. Try telling someone the average western guy is about 5’9, makes about 30k a year is a little overweight and not confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:39 PM
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If i were a woman I’d approach guys because I’d be 1000% certain i could get every single one i want. Y’all girls don’t know how easy it is. Just show interest, don’t be a hoe and don’t play hard to get. It’s genuinely that easy for men to feel appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 09:32 PM
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You can’t buy emotional support. You can’t buy a soulmate. You can’t buy genuine intimacy, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 01:45 AM
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If that’s the only asset she has then she’s not the one for you. A girlfriend is supposed to compliment you in many ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 12:37 AM
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I have no problem being single for long periods of time if that’s what’s needed. I will never accept a narcissistic or overly masculine girl, a girl who had the hoe phase or the hot girl summers, or an overweight girl because she’ll make me miserable in the long run. If she’s not gonna add value to my life then what’s the point? The kind of men you’re talking about, the simps, the cucks, etc. are sad creatures and it’s because of them that women think they hold all the cards. I hate to say it bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 12:00 AM
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Mans thought he could brag about what a terrible person he is and that we wouldn’t notice. Disgusting individual honestly. The girls you described are not to be taken seriously but you yourself are the worst of the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:05 AM
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As much as it might help for some people, most advice for men’s mental health is something along the lines of “man up and go to the gym” and that’s a big problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 01:43 PM
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Be on the lookout for men who are attractive and kind but not arousing. Unfortunately these men are often really good men. It’s also the type of men who get played and cheated on the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 01:39 PM
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I’d say it’s a good thing. Theres no reason for it to be put on such a pedestal either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:08 AM
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Men are starting to figure out that chasing sex leads to nothing but distraction from the things that really matter. Another thing that’s not talked about enough is that since boys are like 13, they hear how awesome no commitment sex is and after they find out that it’s actually pretty awkward and rarely pleasing they stop caring.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:59 AM
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Most of them earn €50 or something a week at most. Which is a nice bonus don’t get me wrong, but the really rich cam girls or onlyfans girls were already famous before they started doing it. (Corinna, Bella Thorne, Bhad Baby, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 09:32 AM
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They stay because Stockholm syndrome is a thing. What a disgusting post.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 09:52 PM
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Not at all. Just have to assess firm boundaries so they do not get too clingy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:26 AM
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Trying to make it seem like she’s inexperienced without lying. The most unattractive thing is when she talks about experiences with other guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 04:56 PM
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Rejection leads to mental health problems. Terrible advice overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:38 AM
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Yes I’m young, and I already understand that that’s her own fault and not that of any of the men. If she actually gave some of them a chance they could become the one she wants. Newsflash, attraction (especially for women) isn’t only about looks. Actually come up with something of value instead of “you look like a teenager”. That’s not an argument that’s basically showing you have no argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 05:36 PM
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Disagree completely. Every woman i know has literally thousands of likes and hundreds of matches on dating apps. Most of these guys are not disrespectful like people here always say for some reason? Most of them just start off with something that caught their attention about their profile. Sure, she might get the generic “I’m free tonight wanna fuck” but that rarely happens and guys wouldn’t do it if it actually worked. The problem a female friend of mine has is that they get overwhelmed by the …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 04:57 PM
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It is because i choose to not seek casual sex that i put the same standards on my future partner. It’s a value i share and I won’t change it. Similar experience and values is very important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 10:43 AM
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Yeah, but it only works if I’m not attracted to her. I’m not gonna be a backup boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:29 PM
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No offence i respect your opinion but you're basically arguing against basic biology. Female bodies create a hormone when they sleep with someone that bonds them to that person. Men don't have this hormone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 05:40 PM
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Not on pictures lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 09:17 AM
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Yes. Especially while traveling. I’ve met every girl that way so far. I’m too shy for cold approaches and not photogenic enough for online dating. (Look at my PFP) Common hobbies always worked out the best for me. Edit: typo
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:02 AM
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Why is little sexual experience a yellow flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 10:57 AM
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It might seem a bit cringe but I’m both like excited to lose my virginity but also a bit anxious?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 04:01 PM
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Or because i am very inexperienced and want to figure it out together who is also inexperienced? I don’t have a body count but I’m only 20 so that’s normal. Whenever i feel like I’m ready for it i wanna figure it all out with someone who’s in the same boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 02:29 PM
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I’m still waiting to see a male hormone suppressant come out like a male form of the birth control pill to help men control their sexual urges while also helping them to not get a woman pregnant at the same time. I would commit a crime for medication to decrease my sex drive when i'm not in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:30 PM
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Yeah i think it’s just healthy nervousness. I just really like girls in general. But you’re right they’re human beings with insecurities too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:14 PM
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It’s definitely true, but not as black and white as you make it out to be. I was mostly isolated in my childhood. I didn’t have siblings, my parents friends didn’t have kids, and i got neglected by my parents in general. My social skills were never that good. Now as an adult my social skills are kinds bad (i had a disease as a teen and i was majorly depressed too which didn’t help). I’m definitely learning social skills now but it’s difficult because everyone around me is already so much further…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 12:22 PM
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It seems silly to me that men on here make their dating struggles seem like some big worldwide problem that needs to be addressed. I think these men are so self centered they do not realize there is far worse thing a person can go through than simply not getting dates. Every day I hear of the atrocities women face at the hands of men- gang rapes, murders, kidnapping, molestation, pedophilia, domestic violence, sex trafficking etc. Just because one is clearly a big problem doesn't mean the other …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 03:20 PM
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A lot of people are completely driven by impulse on top of being absolutely dogshit at communicating. Not a good recipe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 03:16 PM
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Women can be just as good, if not better friends as long as you’re not attracted to them. As for me, I’ve had very great friendships with women. I’ve also had friendships where I started falling for her and that complicated things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 11:02 PM
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The only way for OLD to work is if there was significantly more women on it than men. Which is not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 11:00 PM
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Every guy needs to stop using them. It’s a sellers market and you’re massively outnumbered.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 10:03 AM
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Most men would fuck anything with a pulse and some don’t even have standards that high.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 09:53 AM
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Men need to look for women in different places. Get off dating apps, get out of the night life. Go see the world. Women need to be less flaky early on. You’re barely giving these guys a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 09:43 AM
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Kylie and Kim are mostly popular because suburban moms and teenage girls want to be like them and follow their TLC shows and shit. It’s not exactly because guys are so attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:21 AM
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It takes a pretty strong mind to not be affected by the feeling of how replaceable you are. Especially after countless rejections, ghosting, etc. I’m a social work student and the amount of mental health problems that come from OLD is insane. I see it every day. Young men who are complete dopamine addicts who get physical reactions from that sound you hear when you get a tinder match. (Yea I actually try this quite regularly). You gotta understand that apps basically made dating the capitalist f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:17 AM
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Uhhh no. It’s not that different compared to the US except on a smaller scale. We have relatively the same issues in the NL except health care and politics, even though these are far from perfect too. The NL has a whole different set of issues, like the fact that it’s a country of almost 18 million people, which is at least 10 million too much. Salaries are worse too. About 30k a year is average for a full time job. Especially now with inflation, the working class is struggling. Young people hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 10:06 PM
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Bold of you to assume i attract women😳. No but in all honesty, there’s not really a lot of common ground between girls that have been attracted to me in the past except that they were all a bit older than me? Idk why either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:20 PM
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Sounds like horror and a fairy tale at the same time
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:09 PM
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Girls with BPD aka bomb pussy disorder have that insane grip 🐱so you can’t possibly abandon them. Guys with BPD aka big pp disorder dick her down so good that she can’t possibly walk away from him. Coming from a guy with BPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 03:31 PM
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I have two female friends who find it to be very toxic to disqualify somebody for that reason. Though my grandparents and male friends totally understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 01:21 PM
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When i get the idea she's a party girl or she's dated a lot in her teens i kinda just lose interest immediately. You'll never catch me ghosting a girl because i feel like everyone is entitled to an explaination but i'll just say something like ''we have significantly different values, experience and backgrounds. I just don't think it'll work.'' Edit: typo.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 01:17 PM
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Guys in this position have the same issue that people with no job experience do- companies want people with prior experience but you have no way of getting experience without a job. This is unfortunately very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:58 PM
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I lived in the Netherlands for 18 years and there’s nowhere I’ve seen more depressed people than over there. Especially in stores and public transport it just seemed like everyone hates their life. I’ve never seen more frustrated drivers on the road either. Like i wanted to get some basic therapy and there was a 27 month queue. That says a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 11:57 AM
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Thank you my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 11:52 AM
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I am 20 years old. When i was 15 i experienced it for the first (and pretty much only) time. It was a girl i met on vacation. We made out a lot but didn’t have sex because we both figured we were not ready for that yet. We also met up about 8 months after that but we haven’t really spoken since. We lived very far apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:30 AM
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Pretty positive. I’m pretty insecure about my body because I’m still recovering from a long term disease. (Between age 12 and 19 i had anorexia. Along with major depression . Yes it happens to boys as well). Even though I’m far from insecure about my private parts, I really wouldn’t want to send pictures of my body. Luckily barely anyone ever asks, and if they do I honestly explain the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:27 AM
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There's like 3 different generations of both men, women and anything in between simping over them, surely nobody will ever say they're mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 10:11 PM
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I unfortunately experienced this too and i'm ashamed that i didn't do anything about it. About 2 months ago i was on a date with a Romanian chick. She started saying some pretty anti LGBT, anti gay rights, and (funny enough) misogynistic stuff. I said i didn't agree with what she said but if a guy said those same things i probably would have left immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 10:05 PM
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Are you telling me Scarlett Johansson and Keira Knightley are not average? (/s i hope that was obvious).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 10:00 PM
1

That's fair. I get what you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:48 PM
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Because Women see it as exploiting a vulnerable Woman's body But picking up a girl from a club who is drunk is not? Yes i understand why people think it's bad, but where i'm from, sex work is completely safe and even regulated by the government.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:47 PM
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Well, luckily I don’t live for other people. I have personally never done it but if I wasn’t in a relationship and wanted a quick fuck I’d take a sex worker over trying to get casual sex any day of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:43 PM
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Why? I have never done it but I don’t see why it’s bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:39 PM
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though never tell people you saw an escort Why? There's nothing weird about seeing an escort. It's just like casual sex, except there's a different transaction. For casual sex, the man has to entertain and win the woman over. With an escort, you just pay $50 for half an hour and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:03 PM
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You probably live in a major metro where people are more attractive than average, or in a college town with the same. I don't even live in the US at all. I'm a Dutch guy living in Queensland Australia
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:24 PM
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Are we forgetting that 70%+ of the US (both men and women) are overweight and 40% of that is obese? I can't imagine that being the case for people aged 18-24 which is the age range in which i'm willing to date (i'm 20).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:21 PM
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Yeah forgot about that part too. I've probably had times where a girl was testing my confidence or giving me signs and i genuinely didn't know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:14 PM
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I have a ton of female friends who simply can’t be alone so they’re always in a relationship or jumping from guy to guy. See, that's a really good point. They might really struggle with being alone or single, but at least they have the option not to be. Most men unfortunately don't have that luxury, that's why they seem more desperate about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:08 PM
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or if what they actually want is attention/approval/affection and the only way they know how to ask for it is through sex, and if they don't have sex it makes them feel insecure. Damn, did not have to call me out like this. It's true tho. Spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:06 PM
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Not really. I’m basically the first one except I’m 6’3. Even if you’re attractive like me, you’ll still have to be the one to make the approach. Every single time. If you have genuinely no confidence with pretty bad social anxiety (yes I’m calling myself out) you’ll still have no success.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:33 PM
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I can’t really comment on that, but I’d imagine it’d mostly be that they know for a fact they can match with whoever they want. If she’s thin and somewhat attractive with no visible red flags in her bio, there’s a big chance every guy who’s seen her profile has swiped right.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:44 AM
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There’s something you’re not even taking into consideration. All the big dating apps have a “newbie boost” which means they show your profile to everyone. After that, your profile will be burried beneath the most attractive guys. Unfortunately dating apps are made for men but designed for women. The algorithm shows the most attractive guys first so the women stay interested in using the apps. If all they see is Brad and Tyler who are overweight with a bad skin, the women will leave. This means t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:38 AM
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If she actively dodges and disregards questions about her past. I completely understand it if she has childhood trauma and stuff like that. But let’s be real there’s one general reason why girls dodge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 01:38 PM
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But honestly, when you’re traveling and join say, a diving class, or even just a local Facebook group of travelers in that area (for shy people) you’ll get talking easily. It’s not that difficult. But one thing I’ve learned is that if you’re doing those things just to meet women and not because you like the activity, it’s not gonna work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:35 PM
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I hope you’re very happy together. Not saying it can’t happen, but the amount of mental issues dating apps have made vs the amount of relationships they have made is probably shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:24 PM
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Literally not important at all. Everyone does things at their own pace and that’s ok. If there’s anything that’s overrated it’s having sex when you’re young.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:01 PM
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Girls being 100% hypergamous. Some girls are, but it’s not a vast majority. You shouldn’t take the ones seriously who are hypergamous
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:02 PM
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The fact that the life of the average man is brutally depressing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:46 PM
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Yes, and that’s the part of the red pill I don’t agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:34 PM
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There’s a big problem with what you are saying and that is that for guys it’s very hard to get laid when they’re young and beyond easy for women. From my entire friend group, the only ones getting laid are the ones in relationships and we are all relatively good looking, on our grind, etc. From my female friends who are single, most of them only hook up with guys of considerable social status. I also don’t know what a good solution is, but AF BB is not the answer for men. And it’s slowly startin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:27 PM
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Yeah I’d hit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:42 PM
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Definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:20 PM
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Most notably by telling them that they should be in top precent of whatever, to be desired by women thus worthy of a relationship and companionship. This is undoubtably true. These girls have an endless buffet of cock to choose from. You'll have to stand out. ​ It tells men that they should first reach some goal, satisfy some condition, before they can even begin to think about connecting with women. It depends on what goal it is but in general this is where the red pill is wrong. If that goal i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 12:55 PM
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To be fair, i have a female coworker who is married (but also celibate) and she's basically begging for me to make a move. She keeps mentioning how needy she is and how much she wants to be with a young man for once (i'm 20 she's 42), and makes genuine provocative comments towards me. (example: ''i also have a passion fruit you can taste and that's a lot more juicy'') I tend to kinda ignore it and sometimes i make jokes back, but i don't really know how to feel most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 12:47 PM
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a) What have you done to make yourself 'relationship material'? Working on my social anxiety and social skills in general. I already have the looks and for my age i have a lot of money. ​ b) Where do you go to meet women? While traveling, martial arts classes and my work as a bartender.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 12:42 PM
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Jeez I’m so glad I’m not “most young people” and my social circle also isn’t. Sounds like an extremely stressful and toxic environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 11:36 AM
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Casual sex also isn’t normal dating. Idk why some peeps keep claiming it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 11:16 AM
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Why not? Casual sex is basically the same. Except you have to take her out to a restaurant or risk extreme embarrasment. Sex workers are easier, probably more pretty, cost about the same as a nice restaurant, and won't reject you. I don't get the problem here. I personally won't do it because i want to save myself for a genuine relationship, but i don't see why it's bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:58 AM
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Top 20% is not difficult. If you have your stuff together, invest, have your confidence built up, groom yourself nicely, most people can reach top 20%. Top 5% is near impossible if you’re not born into a good family, in a favorable part of the world, and don’t have good genetics. The difference is that if you’re self improving for women, you still won’t succeed. You have to do it for yourself. As for your other question, the 80/20 rule is absolutely true in that sense. Most guys are not sexually…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:11 PM
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Honestly just stop dating girls from the big cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:32 AM
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It’s the whole package. A caring, nurturing, empathic, supportive personality, a sweet high pitched voice, the way she dresses, etc. That’s what i want. Unfortunately in America and most of Western Europe, women are relatively manly, which most of us just aren’t really attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:13 AM
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Most guys, not every guy, but most guys who are invisible are that way because they check whether females have randomly spawned in their life and that's the only effort they take. No, making a tinder profile is not taking effort. 95% of guys aren't attractive enough to use tinder. If you stay away from party girls and tinderella's you'll find that dating isn't that hard. Most girls / women i know are also beyond desperate for a guy to treat them right. Tinder, bumble and nightclubs don't get mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:33 PM
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It wouldn’t matter. The 80/20 rule wouldn’t change a bit. It would only get worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:02 PM
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I like that last part. Especially because women have too many options, which makes it really suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:54 AM
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What do you think is a number at which it starts to get concerning then? I think three or more. What do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:39 AM
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The big dating apps already have these algorithms. It’s exactly why they don’t work. They only show the most attractive guys to like 90% of the girls. If you think it’s because your profile is bad, it’s not. Most girls just never get to see your profile. It’s burried somewhere underneath the most attractive guys, and after girls get 20 matches with those guys, whats the point of swiping more? That’s why most guys never get matches. You’re basically shadow banned. Buying boosts doesn’t help, beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:34 AM
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Real intimacy definitely still exists. It’s just not something you find in bars or on tinder. That’s why i look for it while traveling, during hobby’s, volunteer work, etc. The modern dating culture is cancer, there’s no denying that. But if you look in the right places it can still be okay. I don’t want anything to do with people who hook up either.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:49 PM
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I understand. I’m doing fine, but obviously i still have some desires. Hands don’t cure the desire for intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:37 PM
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When i jerked off an average of 8-12 times a day it didnt decrease sexual desire either.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:12 PM
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Fellas, in case you haven't already noticed, male thirst and desperation can cause a lot of problems for you. And jerking off doesn't change those things. It does however trick your body and mind into releasing dopamine that's meant for when you actually have sex, which is beyond unhealthy. Having a genuine purpose, whether that be getting rich, getting fit, looks maxing, etc. is a lot better of a substitute. Because not only are you having gratification in the long run, it also makes you more a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:16 PM
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When you haven't eaten a meal for a week, you can't think of anything other than food. Same thing with sex. If you haven't done it in like a year, your body will basically beg you to go do it again since it's basically hard-wired into our brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:13 PM
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I get what you mean, but honestly if she's giving mixed signals she's not interested enough. If she really wants you, you'll know. If she's testing your confidence or leaving her options open, she's not interested enough and you're honestly wasting your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:09 PM
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No, i like having female friends. The problem is mostly that no matter what, i always fall in love with them if they're a bit attractive. This further complicates things because i want to be more than just friends but i also don't wanna ruin what we have. I especially don't want to be around her if she dates / sleeps with another guy, so usually when i catch feelings i immediately confess it. Hasn't had a positive result yet, but i've saved myself from a lot of pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:30 PM
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Being taught how to treat girls by my mom, aunts, even grandma basically since i first started talking. Be a gentleman, make her feel comfortable, be honest and up front, be romantic, etc. Then when i was about 15/16 and girls started to become interesting to me, i noticed that how i was taught to treat girls was not a good strategy to get a girl interested in me. I also noticed that the guys who had all the girls were basically treating them polar opposite of how i've been taught how to treat a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:11 PM
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It is if you want to try and have children with this woman. 20-30 is a way better age to get kids than after.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:55 PM
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Purity, but we can't say that unfortunately. Most of us want a GF who hasn't slept around. It's not a matter of insecurity, it's not a ''who hurt you'', it's because men are territorial. I can give thousands more reasons but this is the main one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:53 PM
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