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I don't follow "streamers" and none of this stuff crosses my algorithms.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:00 AM
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Every day on this sub there's a post that's like "I'm sure we're all familiar with the Brampton Blurpus situation that's been all over social media" and I never have any idea wtf you're talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:50 AM
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I have two kids I desperately wanted and love more than anything. Pregnancy was very worth it for them and I'd do it all over again to have kids. But the process objectively sucks. It's painful, humiliating, you get sick, you get poor sleep, you can't poop, it makes every task more taxing and annoying and inconvenient, especially in the later months. It can have weird permanent affects on your body (after my first pregnancy I developed a bunch of new allergies, during the second I developed two …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 08:38 PM
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I don't care about the money thing. That's how my marriage is and has always been. But I do want him to be protective and chivalrous, and I also like to be the main one who cooks and cleans. A guy who wears makeup would completely gross me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 03:51 AM
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If my family threw a party celebrating my first period I'd walk into the woods and kill myself
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 11:50 PM
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He wants to spend most of his free time with me, he calls and texts when we can't be together, he brings me around his friends and family and starts making near-future plans that involve me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:57 PM
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Confiding in friends seems like a good idea, he should do that. In my experience men never bring up a sexual preference or desire to their woman just for the sake of honesty and being seen, it's always a way of testing the waters to see if she'll let him indulge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:48 AM
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I wouldn't want to know. I don't understand the point of telling your spouse this. If you plan on staying married and faithful to them, you're only going to be having sex with them anyway, so what difference does it make what other categories of people you find yourself attracted to? If he did tell me, I don't think I'd divorce over it, but I'd have a hard time trusting that he wasn't going to act on it and wasn't trying to warm me up to the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:35 AM
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They can be very pushy, aggressive and scary at times, even the nice ones. I don't think it's malicious (usually), I think a man's sex drive is a very powerful thing and in the throes of passion it can override his rational thinking/self awareness and make him do things even he doesn't realize he's doing. That's why there's so much incongruence between what women claim to experience in the bedroom and what men claim they/their friends would never do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:56 PM
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What a horny man is like behind closed doors.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:36 PM
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No, I've always been very vanilla and I'm still very vanilla.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:26 PM
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I pretty much do orgasm every time and always have. I still don't have the sex drive of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:34 AM
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This is true, but I think there's nuance, and I do think a lot of women prioritize their kids over their husband to an extent that isn't good. (I'm speaking as a mother of two young kids.) Obviously your kids' health, safety, and physical needs should be your first priority, and unless you married a total shithead, he'll agree with that. But once that baseline is met, I actually do think you should prioritize your spouse over your kids. Your spouse is your teammate. They're also the adult in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:23 PM
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First kiss, I think I was 17 or maybe 16 First relationship at 17 or 19. I'm not sure whether to count the first one, we "hung out" for a summer and I considered him my bf but we never made anything official. Stupid teenage bs. First official bf, I was 19. First casual sex, I'm not sure how to answer that. Was hooking up with my teenage situationship "casual sex"? Was having sex with my college boyfriend before we were official "casual sex"? Or is casual sex only hookups/ONS, in which case I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:21 PM
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"Good dick" is a synecdoche. It just means good sex. Like when guys talk about "getting pussy."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:12 PM
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It's impossible for an adult man to be in the same state of vulnerability as a baby. You're acting like the only difference between children and adults is aesthetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:15 PM
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I would never "choose" my father over my husband. For advice about practical things I might go to my dad over my husband if it's something my dad has more experience with like, idk, how to string a guitar. My boss? No, unless I need advice or guidance on something specifically job-related. My husband's mom is dead, but if she were alive, I would expect him to choose me over her, whatever that means. Again, exceptions for practical things she's more familiar with than I am. Tbh I'm too first worl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:20 AM
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He just has severe adhd
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:18 AM
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He does chores halfway. Like he puts leftovers in containers but forgets to put them in the fridge so they sit out overnight and we have to throw them away. Or he does a load of laundry but forgets to put it in the dryer, so it has to be washed again. He doesn't put anything up where it goes so every morning it's a frantic search for his phone, wallet, keys etc. I've mitigated both of these things by just doing a sweep after him and making sure things are done and put up. Before I go to bed I fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 03:57 PM
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Altenrate title for this post: “here is anecdotal evidence from me, a man, on why women should avoid dating men” More like "here is an anecdote made up by ChatGPT"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 05:24 PM
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I have also been called a transphobe many times. In fact I was put on a "TERF list" and doxxed on Tumblr like ten years ago for my opinions on this topic. Oh well. I don't particularly care what mentally ill people call me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 09:23 PM
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Question 1: No, I'm not a lesbian. Question 2: I would probably get the ick but can't say for sure. He should probably never tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 09:17 PM
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I would be completely devastated. Literally I have nightmares and intrusive thoughts about this on a regular basis, it's the worst thing that could happen to me besides losing one of my kids. Knowing how I've reacted to loss in the past, I'd fall into a deep depression and wouldn't want to get out of bed. But I have kids, so I'd have to, and hopefully the desire to be a good mom to them and help them navigate their own grief would give me some kind of will and purpose. I don't even know how to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 08:40 PM
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If he were to become disabled or something I would. If he just didn't want to work or couldn't keep a job, I wouldn't respect him and probably wouldn't stay married to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:22 AM
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Then OP should have used those statistics in his post, because the childbirth argument is nonsensical.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:38 AM
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Yeah the idea that women are safer than men in childbirth is very very silly. There's one person involved in bringing a new baby into the world who's not in any danger at all, and his name is Dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:07 PM
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Here's the one that surprises people most. A baby boy is statistically more likely to die in the process of being born than his mother is to die giving birth to him. This doesn't surprise me at all, but also doesn't really make sense to me as an example of women being safer than men, since there's another variable here (adult vs. infant) that's just as if not more relevant. It makes sense that the mother would be more likely to survive than the baby -- babies are more fragile, and things can go …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:01 PM
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I always offered or pulled out my wallet but I never had a guy accept my offer. They always insisted on paying, at least on the first date. What I would usually do is let them pay for one part of the date and then I'd insist on the next part -- e.g. if he paid for dinner I'd pay for the movie, or if he paid the cover I'd pay for the first round of drinks. Or if he paid for a date, I'd invite him over the next night and cook for him. There are ways to make sure there's reciprocity without going t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:59 PM
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I've never been with a man who didn't. I really can't relate to a lot of the anecdotes I see online about men being selfish in bed and not doing oral/foreplay/etc. Just not my experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:54 PM
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It has as much to do with love as you want it to. Most people in the west in the 21st century don't marry someone they don't love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 03:34 PM
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It's not a substitute for love, it's the solemnification of love and the formation of a new family unit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 08:16 PM
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At home I am in wife and mom mode. I'm the lady who gets the kids dressed and gets dinner ready and does laundry and has all these little responsibilities and to-do lists bouncing around in my brain at all times. I don't mind that role, I quite enjoy it, but it doesn't exactly lend itself to feeling sexy or tapping into a carefree, sensual headspace. Going out, being with JUST my husband, doing something fun outside of the home environment and away from all the reminders of chores that need to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 06:32 PM
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I have no idea what you're asking
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 06:27 PM
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People who sleep with acquaintances within a few hours of being alone with them for the first time This one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 06:26 PM
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I have two kids. I wanted a family and to have more people in the world to love and be loved by. Pregnancy sucks and I do have lasting effects from it that will never go away but oh well. It was worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:22 PM
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Having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:19 PM
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Same. I find finding and maintaining friendships much more difficult than romantic relationships. And I just don't feel driven to have that kind of emotional closeness with anyone but a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:42 PM
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I love my husband so much more than any previous partner that it feels ridiculous to use the same word to describe the two.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:57 PM
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I didn't date in high school. My two best friends married their high school sweethearts, divorced a few years later and are remarried.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:56 PM
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I would prefer to be approached, even if it's unpleasant sometimes, over never being approached. I'm older and for the life of me I can't understand this hysteria over "unwanted approaches" now. It seems like a general trend among young people of extreme aversion to any situation that could potentially be awkward or uncomfortable. Ok you suffered an "unwanted approach"... and? Did you die? If he's not aggressive or scary, wtf is the big deal? Being a human means we have to interact with the othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 02:11 AM
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I mean yes obviously but I'm answering the hypothetical question posed by the OP
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 07:46 PM
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So what if they're "not into" it? It's not gonna kill them. And the cost of getting male attention you want is that sometimes you'll get male attention you don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 07:46 PM
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Because for the most part young women want and like attention, regardless of what a big game they talk on the internet. You can tell by the way they attention whore online, often even baiting for the attention of male populations they claim not to want the attention of. Even talking about how much they hate and don't want male attention is a way of fishing for said attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:17 AM
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I'm old so probably not, but it would increase the number of young men who give young girls "unwanted" attention in public, which is good actually
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:06 AM
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My last several reddit accounts have been Texas-related puns. The Cadillac Ranch is a weird art installation/tourist attraction outside of Amarillo TX (that's what my pfp is a picture of). Catallaxy is an economics term but mostly I just think it's a cool word. One day the phrase "Catallaxy Ranch" popped into my head and I thought it was funny. That's pretty much it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:25 PM
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I would zap dating apps from existence and force everyone to go out and meet people in person again
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:20 PM
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Truly impossible to express how little I care about this
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:18 PM
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Yeah, they put me under when I had one. That's pretty standard I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:16 PM
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I've never had a bad experience with a doctor/nurse of either sex tbh. And I've had two babies and a reproductive surgery. My IUD insertion was really painful, but I later learned that was a physical issue on my end, it wasn't really the doctor's fault. To be honest, while I definitely think medical misogyny exists and I'm sure some medical professionals are more gentle than others, I am skeptical of a lot of these stories and wonder how much of it is just people with medical anxiety or a lower …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:24 PM
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There are ways to communicate clearly and respectfully that don't involve making a chore chart like your spouse is a kindergartner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:54 AM
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No. I literally never gave this a second thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:59 AM
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There's no patriarchy in the west. It was dismantled a long time ago. Yay, we did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 05:56 PM
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I don't think this is true. In fact, hilariously, I've seen stats that say the average lesbian has slept with more men than the average straight woman. Staunch lesbianism is often ideological, not purely attraction based.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:16 PM
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What language is this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 09:53 PM
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aellagirl. There may have been an underscore or something in there, I'm not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:34 PM
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She used to post here years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:55 PM
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I'm 37. If you only wanted to ask women of a certain age range you should have specified that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:36 PM
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Yeah, I looked into this a while back because I heard of a woman in, I want to say Germany, who was prosecuted for using pepper spray on a would-be attacker. I was like, "There's got to be more to this story, no way is using pepper spray illegal" but sure enough it is, in multiple countries!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:07 AM
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Banning pepper spray is so fucked up. Guns are one thing, but not even allowing non lethal forms of self defense is pretty much announcing open season on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:48 AM
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I have, and married him. He makes more than me now, but for the first ~12 years of our relationship, he didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:38 AM
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Texas. Stray dogs (specifically pit bulls) are a huge problem here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:35 AM
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I carry a gun sometimes, but even in the US there are local or state laws that limit where or how you can carry. A gun won't protect you while walking through the parking garage if you have to leave it in your car because you work in a school or hospital, for example. Self defense law is also a lot more complicated than people think. There are very few attacks that legally justify shooting someone, and some states are stricter than others in that regard. By the time a man is physically attacking…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:40 AM
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Because this is cunty, infantalizing and passive aggressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:34 AM
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I met most of my exes and my husband through friends, but they still had to 'approach' me, as in initiate one-on-one contact and escalate the situation from friendly acquaintances to romantic/sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 06:18 PM
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Doesn't matter, had baby Edit: In seriousness, the women on this sub are largely not of the demographic that becomes single mothers, and the women who are of that demographic generally lack the conscientiousness and future time orientation to contemplate the questions you're asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 11:06 PM
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People also don't want to admit that being conventionally "hot" more often than not overlaps with higher socioeconomic status. If you run into a thin, young, hot Chili's waitress with a natural hair color and no tattoos, chances are she is a high school or college student working there part-time and will stop working there as soon as she graduates or gets her first internship. She is not really of the demographic people are contemplating when they say "broke waitress," and the individuals who ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 05:46 PM
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Mutual friends (my husband) Mutual friends Tumblr (ex bf) Work Mutual friends Edit: I'm over 35 now, the above took place roughly between ages 21-23
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 03:07 AM
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Yeah...that's my point. They pull options based on the celeb's personal style, and the celeb selects from them or rejects those options and they pull more. It's similar to when a woman buys a wedding dress. You go into the shop, you tell the salesperson the kind of look you're going for, and they pull options that fit your criteria, help you try them on and give you feedback. But which one you go with is ultimately up to the client. There are usually meetings months before the event where the ce…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:19 PM
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The celebrity is in charge of the stylist, not the other way around. The stylist doesn't just tell them what to wear. Usually they collaborate and the stylist pulls multiple options that the celeb chooses from. You can see that multiple celebrities who work with the same stylist still have different, distinguishable styles.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 02:44 PM
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I think maybe this is true for men but not for women. The uh...side effects...of PIV sex are far greater than with any other kind of sexual activity. I don't just mean pregnancy but soreness, infection, mess/odor, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 01:45 AM
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I've never used the latter two things so that wouldn't change anything for me. In a world with no contraceptives, I'd only have sex in a serious relationship and track my cycles to avoid pregnancy. (I'm doing this right now because I don't want to go back on birth control.) I don't understand the question about balancing finances with sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:25 PM
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For me, abortion is 100% about bodily autonomy and the right to end the physical process of pregnancy. At present, ending the pregnancy necessitates killing the fetus. But in a hypothetical scenario where we could incubate the fetus outside of the mother, I'd be fine with that. The mother can then surrender the baby, give it up for adoption or whatever if she doesn't want to be a parent, but to me that's an entirely different issue than the right to terminate a pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:03 PM
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This in reference to the size of their breasts, not just being overweight in general. It certainly was not common. No, it's not. The woman in that picture I posted does not just have large breasts. She is chubby. I'd say she's more chubby than most, but if you look at old photos of middle aged women, they are by and large not svelte. (Unless you're looking at pictures from the depression or peasants who literally didn't have enough food to gain weight.) There's a reason women used to wear girdle…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:37 PM
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This is not a "today's society" thing. It has always been understood that women become a little plump in middle age. This is what's referred to as a "matronly figure" and it's very common in old photos. <image> If women are fatter after having kids now than they were in the past, it's because they started out fatter to begin with. Obesity is a society-wide issue. But if anything I'd say there's more pressure for women to be lithe and fit after kids now than there used to be. It's just mostly con…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:10 PM
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Then cosmetic enhancements will remain a luxury for those who can afford it which I'm also fine with. We've got bigger fish to fry as a society.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 03:47 AM
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Exactly lol. Like how about we invest in the strength and prosperity of our country so that citizens have the freedom and wealth to buy all the cosmetic procedures they want with their own money.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 06:30 PM
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I'd rather no one's "gender affirming care" be subsidized. It's not healthcare. Get cosmetic surgery on your own dime.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 04:26 PM
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I think in theory this is true - like, if you surveyed childless men and women and asked them how many kids they want, men would generally say a higher number. However, with only one exception, the couples I know where one partner wants more kids and the other is done, it's the husband who put a hard stop to it and the wife who would like to have more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 03:05 PM
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Probably 1, but in my experience both are fairly common. More often than either of these in my experience is just a mutual awkwardness and avoidance until it blows over.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 03:58 AM
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This doesn't make any sense because men and women are different. Like biologically, physiologically different. It would make more sense to look at a woman's male relatives if you're trying to figure out what her genes would look like in a son.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 12:13 AM
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I'm 5'7, my husband is 5'10 and our oldest son is on a trajectory to be 6'+ as an adult. Boys grow taller than their parents, and especially taller than their moms, all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 05:01 PM
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If you believe there is nothing denigrating or humiliating about doing OF Well for one thing I don't believe that. But putting that aside, I wouldn't do it for the same reason I'm not trying to make a living as a podcaster or a writer or something, even though theoretically those are jobs I'd really enjoy. Being any kind of content creator takes an entrepreneurial spirit that I really don't have. I'd rather just be an office drone and collect a regular paycheck. Why aren't you doing OnlyFans, OP…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 04:49 PM
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I don't think I'd be scared of either of these guys. I'd probably be more comfortable with the Chad since he's outgoing and easier to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:21 PM
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I think it would be years before I was even interested in finding one. I have young kids. If I got divorced tomorrow I'd just focus on raising them and co-parenting with my (ex) husband. I wouldn't want to bring another man into the dynamic, at least until my kids are older and more independent. But if I set my mind to it I'm sure it wouldn't take me long to find "a" partner. Finding a good one is another story.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 06:28 PM
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Yes. I'm not motivated by novelty or diversity of experiences. I would have been fine having one partner for life. Just didn't work out that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 07:33 PM
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Definitely the second.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 05:19 PM
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No thanks. Too high maintenance, and I don't like the look of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:40 PM
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I think there's probably a difference in being submissive in one very specific context, outside of which you get to live your life on your own terms, vs. submission to a partner in all aspects of your life forever. idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:50 PM
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Again, I assume in the first place it was physical attraction. He wouldn't know anything else about me at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 06:01 AM
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This seems like something men are more equipped to answer. I assume the initial draw is always sex/physical attraction, and then the reasons he decides to stick around vary from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 03:45 AM
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Companionship and building a life/family with someone. Most average women don't have aspirations of being an instagram sugar baby getting flown to Dubai. They just want a nice domestic life, sex and companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 03:47 PM
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Everything I've ever read said that women with kids live longer. Where are you getting that they don't? As for happiness, I think raising kids causes a lot of acute stress and unhappiness but has the potential for greater life satisfaction in the long term. In general I just don't really buy into "happiness" surveys because the word is slippery and means entirely different things to different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 11:31 PM
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I have met ugly charismatic men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:45 PM
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I have aphantasia and I love to read (fiction and nonfiction). I love prose and language and stories. "Seeing" the story in my head never seemed like an essential part of it to me. My dad apparently is the opposite, he vividly imagines everything and can "see" it in his mind. If anything that sounds like it would be distracting lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:43 PM
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The triumph of the individual is like THE core value of western civilization, and especially American culture
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:36 PM
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It's the same in the US. Usually the attacker has to surreptitiously intoxicate the victim (like spiking their drink) for consent to be invalidated
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:25 AM
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I don't think I've ever been sober the first time I had sex with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:06 PM
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Sounds like your attractive, hardworking friends should start frequenting the venues where these women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:03 AM
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No. For one thing that doesn't make any sense; if I thought women should get the option of casual sex, then that necessitates men having that option as well. Assuming women aren't all lesbians. Moreover it's not my experience or observation that men can't have sex outside of serious relationships. I haven't heard of a relationship starting, let alone becoming "serious" before any sex was had since I was a freshman at a Christian college 20 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:05 PM
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Get off dating apps, get a job at a restaurant, make friends with your coworkers, go out, drink, have fun and meet girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:20 PM
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I’m pretty sure everyone’s seen the video of the MMA incident. Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 08:19 PM
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Women project and call it empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:33 PM
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All my boyfriends started as hookups or vague situationships. I probably wouldn't have had explicit upfront no strings attached sex with anyone because I find negotiating terms like that weird, just kiss people and see what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:44 PM
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Or even watched some basic pop history documentary on TV. The ignorance on display in threads like this is astonishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:11 PM
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From The Path to Power by Robert Caro A woman would put her clothes into the first washtub and wash them by bending over the washboard. Back in those days they couldn't afford store-bought soap, so they would use soap made of lye. "Do you know what it's like to use lye soap all day?" they'd ask me. "Well, that soap would strip the skin off your hands like it was a glove." Then they'd shift the clothes to the vat of boiling water and try to get out the rest of the dirt by "punching" the clothes w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:06 PM
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My son is in gymnastics and tee ball which takes us out of the house 2-3 evenings a week, plus we're constantly going to the park, pool, library, farmers market, family's house etc. This doesn't cut down on the amount of laundry I have to do (if anything it creates more - playing outside means getting dirty), the amount of cooking and dishes I have to do (I still cook at home on evenings we do other things, for health and money saving reasons), the amount of dirt that gets tracked inside when we…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 07:31 PM
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I'm in my 30s, bought my first house this year and will spend the next 30 years paying it off, spent the last 10 years paying off student loans, buy all my clothes and furniture secondhand and have barely traveled outside of my home state. You do not have to be wealthy and priveleged to be an intellectually curious person and find ways to have fun and entertain yourself even at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 09:27 PM
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I don't know any married couples with kids who don't have interests, do DIY projects (tbh if you own a house and aren't wealthy it's essential to learn DIY), cook for their families or watch shows/read books. It's actually IMPORTANT for children to be able to observe their parents doing things like that, and once kids are old enough you can start sharing those things with your kids (my 4 year old helps me cook and garden, and we read books together and talk about them). Obviously if you work and…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:54 PM
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Do you really believe that a married man is going to have the time for all of this? My husband and I are married with two kids and we both have time for all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:45 PM
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Can you give an example of a fun and interesting person who simultaneously has to have a 9/5 job, work at least 40 hours a week, do housework, take care of the kids, etc. This describes my husband. He is and does all of those things, but he also makes me laugh until my sides split every day, he has creative hobbies, he has interesting observations and thoughts about the world around him. He's not boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:44 PM
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No sense of humor (or unfunny NPC sense of humor), no ability to flirt or tease or find the fun in the mundane, no interest in the arts, general stick-in-the-mud attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:42 PM
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You can buy lamps that melt actual candles instead of burning them. I have several. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 08:09 PM
2

I was in a bad accident several years ago and most of my injuries were from the airbags. They hit me in the throat and shoulder and I was in physical therapy for weeks because of it and still have shoulder problems. Obviously it's preferable to what would have happened if there weren't any airbags at all, but if the airbags had been properly calibrated to my body size/center of gravity, I wouldn't have been injured.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 09:58 PM
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Yeah this is always conveniently left out of these conversations lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 09:42 PM
3

You never know what life will bring, so I would prefer someone with demonstrated character and work ethic. Even if you're born into a fortune, it can be squandered if you don't know how to manage your money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 07:03 PM
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Because sex is non negotiable for me in a relationship and I wouldn't be able to fall in love without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:35 PM
20

I wouldn't be with this person in the first place, let alone marry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:27 PM
5

"if he can't get a woman there must be something wrong with him" ignoring there might be factors outside a guys control that contribute to his sexual undesirability. Factors outside his control would still be something wrong with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:47 PM
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Intersex conditions are not separate sexes, they are an anomaly of one sex or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:37 PM
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I’m talking a professionally taken and lightly edited photo of a woman in a field or similar scenic spot that clearly was not part of a different purpose outside of either a dating app or to capture that specific moment. Most pictures like this are because the girl has a friend who's into photography as a hobby or trying to start a photography business and asked her to model. I had like four friends of this description in my 20s and as a result there are a lot of professional-looking photos of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:08 PM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 10:22 PM
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Male and female aren't "categories of personality," they're biological sexes, and certain personality traits tend to be tied to the male and female sex. Just like there is a range of heights most women and men fall into, there is a personality spectrum that most women and men fall into. But that doesn't mean a man with personality traits more commonly found in women is a woman, any more than a 6'3 woman is a man. They're diversions from the norm, but ultimately your sex is determined by your rep…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 01:05 PM
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You do not get the same kind of companionship from friends that you get from a romantic partner/spouse, and masturbation is not remotely the same as having sex with another person. Plus, a lot of people want families.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:57 PM
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You are depending on your man to give you what you fail to give yourself I literally cannot give myself what my husband gives me, which is the love and company of another person and a shared life that we built together. I could find other ways to be happy on my own, but a person literally cannot give themselves romantic partnership. It's not a "failure," it's literally impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:29 PM
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Yes we should all hold ourselves accountable and strive to be better people, but at the end of the day everyone has flaws and shortcomings, and it is an act of love to meet people where they are and serve them in ways they need to be served. My husband is more forgetful than I am so I anticipate things he's likely to forget and I remind him or put things in places where he will see them instead of having to search for them - that's love, not infantilization. I'm more tightly wound and prone to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:44 PM
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I think it's a cynical and shamey way to describe normal variances in human personalities and how people show love and care for partners who don't have the same strengths they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:07 PM
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This is my concern too. Everyone else is saying they're worried he wouldn't be as freaky with them, but in my experience men never get less freaky.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:01 PM
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The slut phase wouldn't be an issue. The pegging and bisexuality would.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:58 PM
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One partner has to routinely try and calm the other partner down, because they have mood swings, or start panicking. I see men doing this for women more than the reverse. One partner is not the intellectual equal of the other partner, and dumbs things down for them. I don't see this often at all in either direction, tbh One partner tries to avoid saying things which might upset the other's ego, because it might start a fight. I see women doing this for men more than the reverse. One partner is f…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 08:48 PM
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Yes! This exactly. My favorite thing in the world is reading or working on a puzzle while my husband games. And we can talk to each other about our individual interests without sharing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 12:49 AM
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Lol yeah. My husband would probably be diagnosed ADHD if he ever cared to step foot in a psychiatrist's office. To me (and to himself) he's just a high-energy scatterbrain. All this shit is made up and arbitrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 12:45 AM
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I think they're either unattractive so the guy doesn't care to put in effort, or they're too in their own heads to relax and let themselves enjoy it and show enthusiasm. Even guys who are good in bed need cues to know what you enjoy or don't enjoy. If you're stiff and silent you're not giving him anything to go by.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 11:52 PM
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I've never once felt like that. We connect over the things that matter (family, goals, lifestyle, sense of humor). Baseball and music are just not that important in the grand scheme of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:02 PM
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My husband has nerdy interests (video games, comics etc.) that I could not possibly give less of a shit about. Likewise I have interests (baseball, music) that he doesn't care about. As long as you don't make one interest your whole personality, it's unlikely that you'll have NOTHING to connect over, whether it's religion, politics, other shared values or just the shared life you build together over time. After being together for 13 years I can tell you that our "interests" comprise very little …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:03 PM
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The NEETs I know are plenty consumerist, they just consume on mommy and daddy's dime.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:06 PM
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I don't want to know about his masturbation habits, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 11:44 AM
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My cousin did this. It was possible because everyone involved was methed out trailer trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 09:33 PM
1

My ideal man is one who approaches me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 01:11 PM
2

Did this study control for sexuality? The disparity could probably be chalked up to gay men using condoms and lesbians not, for obvious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:17 PM
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Just say this to her verbatim https://x.com/BadAdviceDog/status/447840354935795712?t=HTCBNZ_RlNeCCsEsbY36dA&s=19
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:17 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Synecdoche
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 02:08 PM
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Yeah, I've thought of this perspective too and I understand it 100%. I just don't agree. At the end of the day I just think the "legacy" aspect of having kids is more important to men than it is to women. Maybe that's culturally engrained, I'm not sure. It's not that I think a father's love is 100% contingent on the kid having his last name. But I think, at least in cultures where that's the norm, there's likely a small part of him that feels more detached from a child who doesn't share his name…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 03:38 AM
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Moms have a tangible, irrevocable connection to our children -- we carried them in our bodies. Dads don't and can't have that sort of connection, so I think at least sharing his name with his kids is important. It's my suspicion that most men would not feel as invested in kids who don't share their name, so I think it's important to give them that. I know this varies across cultures, and again it's not something I really judge other people for if they feel differently than I do. But that's my fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:12 AM
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I don't think less of a woman or her husband if she doesn't take his last name. There are a lot of valid reasons to make either decision, and at the end of the day it's none of my business. I took my husband's name because the idea of not sharing a name with my spouse and kids is weird to me. And I do think it's important for kids to have their dad's name.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:21 PM
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I think it feels better after an orgasm personally. Everything is more relaxed physically, and psychologically if I'm not focused on trying to have an orgasm I can focus more on the intimacy and his pleasure, which I enjoy. 30 minutes is a lot though lol, but that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 12:25 AM
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I'm standoffish and cold with all men who aren't my husband or my family. I'm not rude, but I'm not warm and friendly either. Because of this, I don't have the sorts of interactions with men that might make me flustered or smitten. A man simply being good looking is not enough to elicit that response. This is not difficult for me to do because "cold and standoffish" is kind of my default personality. When I was younger and actively trying to date, I actually had to make a conscious effort to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 12:09 AM
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Not at all true in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:58 AM
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I think everyone should stfu about their feelers
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 04:40 PM
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Never. If I'm slacking and something is bothering him he'll clean it himself. He'd have some nerve complaining to me about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:14 PM
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Objectively, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:43 PM
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It has an upper size limit when it comes to length. The cervix is a hard stopping point. Even during childbirth, when the baby's head is crowning, most of its body is still inside the uterus and you have to push to get it through the cervix. Girth is a different matter, but just because something can fit doesn't mean it's painless or enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:59 PM
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Mutual friends tried to surreptitiously set us up by inviting us both out on the same night and introducing us. We flirted and exchanged numbers, but unbeknownst to me (or to the friends who introduced us), he was in the process of getting back together with his on-again-off-again girlfriend. When I saw him again a few weeks later, he was with her, and they continued to date for about a year while I crushed on him and went more and more insane about it. Eventually they broke up for good and she …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:47 PM
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non-asexual? Is there a term for that? Normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 02:55 PM
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5-10 minutes usually, which to me is plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 04:02 PM
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Still your child. Quite literally not my child.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:32 PM
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I'm not anti cop by any means, have lots of family members I love who are cops etc. But the kind of man who generally becomes a cop is not the kind of man I'm generally attracted to. Plus it's a dangerous job and that would stress me out. It's not a hard no for me, but probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:50 PM
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Would You Date A Man With The Following Qualities? Would you date a man who uses marijuana at least once a month? I'm married to one. Would you date a man who considers himself to be a devout christian? No, but I doubt he'd want to date me either. Would you date a man who dislikes physical exercise? Does he still do it sometimes despite disliking it? Sure, I'm in the same boat. If he refuses to do any sort of physical activity then no. Would you date a man who doesn't believe that gay marriage s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:12 AM
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I was always raised by the notion most couples met as strangers organically I mean, everyone "meets as strangers" given that everyone is technically a stranger until you've met them. But most people weren't total unknowns -- you met through mutual friends, at school, at work, at church, etc. Those environments themselves are a type of vetting, since they generally select for people from similar socioeconomic classes, backgrounds, lifestyles, values, etc. The phenomenon of meeting a total strange…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 06:55 PM
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No. I have never done any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 12:51 PM
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And to whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 11:40 PM
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I think it's possible, but I'm not gonna hang around to find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 11:39 PM
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Just because you're flirting doesn't mean you have to have sex? You can flirt and build sexual tension while getting to know someone before escalating to actual sexual contact. Or you can flirt and literally never talk to the person again depending on the circumstances. But yeah, sometimes if you're a high sociosexuality person you end up in bed with someone you turn out not to like that much, then you just don't see them again. It's not the end of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 07:19 PM
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Flirtation signals attraction and surface-level interest, not "I genuinely like you as a person." It takes time to get to know someone on a deeper level to ascertain that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:07 PM
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The first one. Second guy sounds overthinking and neurotic. Half the point of flirting is figuring out of you like someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 05:23 PM
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Dads AND fathers? In this economy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 12:20 PM
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I really really enjoy sharing a bed with someone, it's seriously one of my favorite things about being in a relationship. So I wouldn't be thrilled about it. But if they snored, or I snored, or they had some kind of sleep disorder or something I would understand and be okay with it. Good sleep is really important. We literally just couldn't do this in our current house though, unless one of us slept in the office. We've already got the kids sharing a room.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:15 PM
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No one's forced. But usually how it shakes out is that the mom stays home, for the reasons I listed. Having the person who is biologically tied to pregnancy and young offspring ALSO be the person who can't quit their job just doesn't make logistical sense in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:04 PM
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I mean sure, every family has that choice and should do what works for them. But women are the ones who breastfeed and the ones who will have to take time off for future any future pregnancies if the couple wants more kids, so if someone's going to stay home in the early years it usually makes sense for it to be mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 03:39 PM
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Thank you! You too!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 03:37 PM
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There are a lot of reasons aside from death that a woman might need to take extended time off work after a birth. Even just a baby who gets sick a lot (which a bunch of them do in the first couple of years) makes holding a job difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:55 PM
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I worried about his size and health since he was born small and had jaundice, but he's in good health now and meeting growth milestones so I'm not worried about it anymore. Who knows what the future holds for either of my sons or how they'll develop at puberty or how society will treat them when they're older. We'll cross that bridge when we get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 12:10 PM
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I have two sons and one was a preemie (just by a few days) but I've gotta be honest, I'm not sure what you're asking here
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:02 AM
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I wouldn't want to wait until we're in love to have sex. I'd want him to sexually charge our interactions and escalate sexually early on. This guy doesn't sound like he's interested in doing that, so we probably wouldn't be compatible. Edit: Wait, he's never even kissed anyone? Is he waiting for love to do that too?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 03:47 PM
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That's great if you're on an app, doesn't really work in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:41 PM
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No one is gonna die if your partner is cheating on you. I know more than one woman who got cancer as a result of an STD spread to her by a cheating husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:39 PM
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For that matter female teachers probably wouldn't know either. Public employee salaries are public information and easy to look up. They would absolutely know.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 03:58 PM
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No he couldn't. This would violate civil rights law which can't be overridden by the states or an executive order.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 03:56 PM
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This. When you give a reason, they see it as the start of a negotiation. It's a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 03:47 PM
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Being aware of it is inherent to what preselection is. The theory is that women see a man who's been pre-approved by other women and are drawn to him because of that, because if other women like him then there must be something special about him. If she doesn't know he has other women then that's not preselection, that's just her being attracted to someone who other women also happen to find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:37 PM
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For me, and I think for a lot of women, sex is very "out of sight out of mind." If I'm not in a relationship or spending a lot of time with a man who keeps my libido stoked, I'm not thinking about sex at all. But when I'm with such a man, I think about it and want it a lot. This is what's meant by responsive libido. It's not a constant need or desire for sex in a vacuum, but once the desire is stoked, it's unsatisfying to go without it. I can and have gone months/years without a relationship or …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 02:19 AM
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Nothing can make up for NO physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:21 PM
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A vagina isnt rarer than a penis. I wonder if there are other things that are rarer in one sex than the other that undergird the entirety of our sexual behavior as a species. Hmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:14 PM
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There is a window to legally contest paternity if you are married (the birth certificate has nothing to do with legal paternity, but marriage does). In most states it's at least 2 years, sometimes more. So you can do an over-the-counter test, and if it comes back negative, that's when you start the legal process of divorce and relinquishing paternity (which will require another, court-ordered test).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:47 PM
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And for me, which of those responses I have to a guy is often just as dependent on my headspace, mood, relationship status, the environment etc. as it is on the man himself. If I'm not in a headspace and environment where I'm open to interacting with a man in that way, then I'm not going to feel that way, no matter how good looking he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:45 PM
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When I said "feel" I meant literally FEEL the PHYSICAL sensation of arousal. I wasn't talking about emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:31 AM
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Oftentimes to get the attention of a man you are attracted to. And sometimes just out of curiosity or for the thrill of doing something taboo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:25 PM
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It's a physiological response. Are you saying there's NOTHING on earth you find beautiful except hot women? You've never thought that idk, a sunset is beautiful?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:18 PM
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Sexual attraction is a literal physical response. Arousal, burning in the loins, desire to touch/kiss/fuck. I feel none of that when looking at a beautiful woman. It's like looking at a nice painting or a particularly regal-looking German shepherd. It's beautiful, but it doesn't stir up sexual desire. To be honest, there are men I feel this way about too. They are aesthetically beautiful but for whatever reason don't elicit a sexual response from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:05 PM
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Oh for sure man
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:01 PM
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I went to public school, my husband went to public school, everyone I've dated went to public school. I don't think I've ever even met anyone who went to private school unless you count weird Christian homeschool co-ops.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 12:21 PM
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I have two sons (7 months and nearly 4 years). I do worry about it, but I think the best thing I can do for them as a mom is: nothing. As in, stay out of their way, let them be their own people. I want them to build confidence and self assuredness which means letting them solve problems on their own and learn to trust themselves, even when I'm tempted to intervene or help them. My oldest son is in gymnastics and loves it. I want him to always be involved in a physical activity that forces him to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 12:27 AM
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My non-work time is spent on the following in descending order: My nuclear family (kids and husband) - quality time, caretaking, cooking/cleaning My house (we bought a fixer upper and are working on fixing it up) Extended family (parents, siblings, grandparents, cousins) - we spend every Sunday with them Entertainment (music, TV, books, podcasts) - indulge in these things throughout the day as I have time Exercise Investments and future planning My husband mostly values the same things I do alth…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:00 PM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:32 PM
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Women don’t pursue lower-paying careers; the careers that women pursue are socially devalued and more poorly compensated. How is "more poorly compensated" not the same as "lower paying"? You can argue about whether these careers should be paid less, but the fact is that they are paid less. You're literally making my point; women choose careers that are "valuable to society" and personally fulfilling, such as teaching, over careers that are better compensated in the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 07:53 PM
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which of women's issues do you think stem from their unwillingness to just do things differently and in ways that seem intuitively obvious to men? The wage gap. Women tend to pursue lower paying careers, or even when they pursue higher paying careers, they tend to focus on work-life balance or personal fulfillment at the expense of making more money. They also aren't as assertive about pursuing new opportunities or asking for better compensation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 03:35 PM
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I never made this distinction. They all started out as hookups and then some became boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 05:33 PM
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Well yeah, that was my point. I was being sarcastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 12:33 AM
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In my early 20s I dated a guy who nearly drove me insane with his aloofness. The sex was fire but I wasn't sure how serious he was about me because he always held his cards close to the vest. He had a mohawk and snakebite piercings, smoked a ton of weed, was an erstwhile college athlete turned semi bad boy and graffiti artist. He stayed out late partying every night and was pretty impulsive and at times irresponsible. Now in my mid-30s I'm married to a guy who hasn't had a sip of alcohol in year…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:17 PM
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I don't understand how people have the mental or emotional energy for ethical non monogamy. I pour my heart and soul into my marriage, I don't have anything left for another romantic/sexual partner. And that's not even getting into the time investment. There's just nothing about it that appeals to me, I like giving everything to one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:16 AM
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I don't think I've ever seen one that was notable in either direction, they were all just...penis sized
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 07:28 PM
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Teachers have been defanged by administration. I used to teach high school and I quit because I wasn't allowed to enforce any discipline in my classroom -- if I tried, I was reprimanded and the student faced no consequences whatsoever. It's extremely demoralizing to deal with, and kids know there are no consequences for anything they do, so they just verbally and sometimes physically abuse you all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:23 PM
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Both our paychecks are direct deposited into two accounts (a certain % into checking and the rest into savings). Everything is 100% shared and we both have 100% access to whatever's left in checking after bills are paid. If we need to dip into savings for something, then a conversation is had. Before we were married, we divided up bills so the split was roughly proportional to what we each earned.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 04:25 PM
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A part time minimum wage job is fine for a college student, or as a temporary measure to make ends meet while looking for more stable/lucrative employment. But 35, working a job like that AND not trying to find something better - I wouldn't want to date him either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:26 PM
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I'm aware, but you've said the same thing verbatim like five times in this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:34 PM
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Is this a bot?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:16 PM
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Lol that's what I always think. My husband and I have both been through periods of unemployment over the course of our marriage. Do people like this keep a running ledger of expenses they cover while their spouse is unemployed and present them with an invoice once they're back to work? What happens when the wife has to take time off for pregnancy/kids or one of them gets dementia and needs a nursing home? So weird to go into a marriage with a bean counter mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:55 AM
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I don't understand the concept of splitting income and bills in a marriage in the first place. In my marriage all the money goes into one pot, all the expenses come out of that pot, and we have equal access to whatever's left. I'm not really interested in any other setup in a marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:04 AM
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I always find it interesting that people generally don't have a problem with the concept of socioemotional needs except when it comes to sex. Everyone knows that love is a need (not necessarily romantic love, but affection and care from other people, particularly parents in early life). A sense of belonging and purpose is a need. Acceptance and understanding are needs. Will you literally die without these things the same way you would without food or water? No, but we all understand that "need" …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:32 PM
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All of these are disloyal and would be a problem for me, I don't really care whether or not they technically cross the line into "cheating."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:13 PM
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Charisma makes a man attractive which increases the likelihood of a good sex life which contributes to the longevity of a relationship. And confidence is an asset in all aspects of life. There's nothing worse as a woman than being saddled with a timid, self-pitying man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 08:55 PM
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You said that confidence, charisma and capability don't make a man a good long term partner. I'm saying they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 05:09 PM
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Those things do make a man a good long term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 05:06 PM
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Silicon cup that you insert into your vagina to catch period blood. Safer/more comfortable/more ecological alternative to tampons.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:40 PM
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Not really. He seemed to think it was a literal cup and that once it's full you like, carry it around in your purse, blood and all. It was very weird lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:39 PM
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I have two brothers. They're significantly older than me and neither of them were ever losers so I'm not sure it gave me much insight into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:53 AM
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The guy on this sub years ago who said he wouldn't date women who use menstrual cups because it demonstrates bad character.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:49 PM
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I think men and women would both do well to keep in mind that the version of their peers they see is not what the opposite sex sees. People behave differently in intimate romantic/sexual relationships than in any other facet of life. I know I have done and said things to boyfriends behind closed doors that would shock my friends, and I'm sure the same is true in the other direction. I don't even think it's active deception most of the time, romantic and sexual relationships just elicit different…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 01:01 AM
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A person who legitimately can't read is either severely mentally disabled or from some impoverished country. I would not be interested in such a person but it's possible he could be "sexy" to women more like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:23 PM
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Ask a man what he likes about his phone or computer. He'll talk about processing power, screen size, battery life and other technical details. Ask a woman what she likes about her phone or computer. She'll talk about what she uses it for, what it looks like, what it feels like to use. More broad, vague statements. This is just a difference in how men and women think and speak. Women don't have specs brain, when they think about attractive men they're thinking about an overall vibe, not specific …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:08 PM
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If you are fine with being alone, it doesn't matter if you price yourself out of the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 07:49 PM
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I've had sex on the first date and even before the first date. The guys who got me into bed didn't do it by explicitly laying out their expectations for sex like some work performance review, they did it by being cool and sexy and seductive. Talking dryly and explicitly about sex upfront is the biggest turnoff imaginable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:57 PM
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Is women's sexuality just different from men's? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:09 PM
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I really cannot relate to women on the internet who want their men to be all informed and involved with their periods. I can't think of anything on earth that's less a man's business. If I need something I will ask, otherwise just don't talk about it and leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 07:43 PM
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he has really stable family, group of guy friends Then he has other people to care for him in his last days. Not my responsibility. How did I even end up talking to this guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 07:14 PM
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Men are more visual than women. This one is not true, what proves it is the fact that 80% of women find men unattractive and this is proven due to the disparity in success in online dating. No, this LITERALLY proves that it IS true. Men are less successful in online dating precisely because women do not respond to still photos of men the way men do to still photos of women. Women need more than pure visual stimulation to be interested. The gap is shrinking and it is getting closer to 50/50, at l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:14 PM
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I do agree with your last bit. I'm raising two sons and it bothers me that they were born into a world where women have full rights and equality (and even advantages over men in some respects), and simultaneously a world where there is still rhetoric about male privilege that's designed to make them feel guilty and complicit in atrocities for being born male. So yeah, you're right that the feminist narrative is louder and more legitimized in the mainstream, although I do see the tides slowly sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:01 PM
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If your problem is with unequal access to expensive legal representation that seems beyond the scope of feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:54 PM
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First, I'm not of the "gynocentric thought space." Second, something can be dehumanizing/misogynistic/whatever and still be meaningless. Obviously a lot of guys on the internet are misogynists. They're also inconsequential, their screeching easily ignored and unlikely to ever have any impact on the real world. Same with shrill misandristic feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:29 PM
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It was.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:15 PM
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What were feminists actually trying to do to Johnny Depp? From what I could tell they were just screeching on the internet. A lot of people screech on the internet, who cares, it's meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:06 PM
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And yet, Johnny Depp won his case 🤷‍♀️ I guess feminists aren't that influential.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:50 PM
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You seem to be conflating two things. An occurrence being rare does not mean that the few people it happens to are undeserving of sympathy, or that we shouldn't have legal or social mechanisms in place to help them. Pointing out the statistical unlikelihood of an event is more meant to put it into perspective and keep people from spiraling into paranoia. To use your example, obviously the thousands of victims of 9/11 and their loved ones are deserving of our sympathies. But someone like me in ru…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:37 PM
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I'm right leaning and anti-woke but he sounds obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 01:18 PM
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To me it's pretty much six of one, half a dozen of the other. I am not "GGG," I can and have had my enjoyment of sex entirely ruined by a guy constantly wanting to introduce new things and up the ante. That's why a guy being really into a specific kind of porn would worry me -- eventually he's either going to want to incorporate it into our sex life or he's going to just sink further into porn addiction. Either way it's relationship ruining.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:55 PM
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I didn't say I control it. The question was what would make me uncomfortable. That would make me uncomfortable but I probably wouldn't say anything about it unless it became a bigger issue. Even if he asked me to do foot fetish stuff I probably would, but I doubt I would enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:33 AM
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Well there's no way of knowing whether he will or won't ask me to do it down the line, so I'd just rather he not watch that kind of stuff or not know about it if he does.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:29 AM
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I assume any fetish stuff he watches would be something he wants me to indulge at some point and I'm not interested in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:26 AM
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Pretty much anything outside of basic vanilla porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:45 PM
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We had mutual friends and had hung out in the same friend group for a year before we started dating. For the first several months I had a crush on him but he had a girlfriend. Eventually they broke up and she moved, and one night we got drunk at a party and started making out and ended up having sex. That happened a couple more times before we actually started dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:51 PM
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Sure, but these questions wouldn't make a lot of sense for me given that we've been together since I was 23, we have kids together, and we slept together before the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:06 PM
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Oh sorry I misunderstood
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:59 AM
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Sure, but it's still about 15 years out from perimenopause and 10 years from geriatric pregnancy. I wouldn't call that "adjacent."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:57 AM
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Other men say 30. I say 25. Neither of those are "adjacent to menopause or geriatric pregnancy"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:51 AM
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If you think it's depressing looking at them, try being one!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:51 AM
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There was definitely some verbal communication back and forth, usually after the fact, or as foreplay, but we never had that awkward, unsexy “no, a bit to the left, a little slower “ type of talk during sex. Exactly! This is my experience too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:33 AM
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I've read accounts of both. I've personally spoken to men on this sub and in related spaces who married prudish women who were uptight and ungenerous in bed from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:32 AM
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Yeah, that's been my experience. Men love to give pleasure and find a great deal of validation in it. Plus it enhances the experience for him too. At the risk of veering too close to a banned topic, I'd guess there are cultural factors at play in some of these stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:20 AM
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Dunno, you'd have to ask them. It baffles me as much as the men who marry prudish women who won't give blow jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:15 AM
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Well, I lost my virginity kind of late to a guy who himself wasn't a virgin, and to my knowledge I've never slept with a virgin. I imagine it's different when you're both virgins, that's just not an experience I ever had. And to be clear I'm not saying I've never once talked about sex with a partner or given verbal feedback, but it's never been necessary for them to get me off. It's more like refining things later on or just "Hey why don't we try this." But I've never spent a first encounter (or…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:14 AM
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No that's definitely true too, don't get me wrong. But still, the men I've been with have all been attentive, generous, and just generally good in bed without needing direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:10 AM
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Literally yes, every one of them. I've either been really lucky or I have a nose for good lovers because I really can't relate to the stories you see on the internet about men being selfish and clueless in bed. Edit: I will say that I do "communicate" in bed in that I'm very responsive when I like something, so I think I give guys good feedback to go off of. But I've never had to be like "No don't do that, do this, no over here." Sounds tedious.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 12:19 AM
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If they're highly sensual, good dancers and good kissers, I've found those things translate to good sex. I've never been with a guy who was good at those things and bad in bed; I struggle to even imagine how that could be possible. But I don't think "burning through an n count" is a big deal either.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 10:45 PM
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You should dump him and find guy #2.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:44 PM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 07:26 PM
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Or I can just sleep with men who like making women feel good and are good at reading my cues and know when, where and how long to touch me without me giving verbal instructions every five seconds like some Simon Says game. Hasn't been a problem for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 07:17 PM
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Intersex conditions are not separate sexes, they are defects of one sex or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 04:38 AM
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No, I don't think I as a woman have the capacity to give good advice to a man on this topic, and I'm not sure why a man would ask me instead of another man. At best I could maybe give him advice on how to pursue a specific woman who I know well, like a friend or something, but even then I'm going to be looking out for my friend's best interest more than the guy's.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:55 PM
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This is the default for me. I'm usually not thinking about anyone or anything while doing it. It's just scratching an itch, or in some cases I just do it to relieve cramps. On the rare occasion I do fantasize it's pretty abstract, I'm imagining a scenario or specific act that would feel good, but I'm not really thinking of a particular person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:33 PM
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Marrying a man that much older than me really, really doesn't appeal to me, for a number of reasons. But if I happened to meet someone 20 years older and somehow date them and fall in love with them I might consider it. But I wouldn't do it just for the sake of not being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 11:50 PM
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The blood relation is unconditional sure, but the relationship isn't. Tons of people don't have any relationship with their blood family, and most people prioritize their spouse over their family of origin, as they should.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:03 AM
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This seems like a self fulfilling prophecy. Considering my husband my family is WHY I have a high level of devotion and commitment to him. I'm not giving someone family-level devotion if they're not my family. I also don't agree with your premise that familial relationships and friendships are more stable than marriages. Family members fall out for all kinds of reasons. Even if they don't, those relationships are often fraught and distant. And friendships end all the time for frivolous reasons o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 08:58 PM
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What
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 01:39 PM
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I value liberty over security. That said, I do think most 16-year-old girls are naive and that a 50-year-old man pursuing a girl that young is a creep, even if it's legal. I don't necessarily want the man prosecuted and jailed, but I think the adults in the girl's life have a responsibility to protect her to the best of their ability. There are a lot of things that are legal for my kids to do, that I don't want to be illegal, but would still try to protect them from until I think they're old and…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:39 PM
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Your post was hard to follow so let me make sure I understand the scenario. He saw a girl and guy fighting in the street, steps in to defend the girl, the guy beats him up, and now both the guy and the girl are pressing assault charges against my son? Is that right? Obviously I would take my son's side and do what I can to get him good legal representation. Not sure what kind of answer you're expecting here. I'd do that even if I did think he was guilty of assaulting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:37 PM
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No it couldn't, because affection and attraction are organic, subjective human emotions that can't be forced. They're not cut-and-dry like housing or voting. You can't MAKE someone like a person. I guess you could make people hang out with and date people they don't like, but there's literally no way to guarantee affection or attraction without some sort of mind control technology.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:48 PM
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I have a friend like this and it is really annoying. Everything you do with her has to be a photo shoot, so many moments ruined because she needed to get the perfect shot or because she wanted to do some viral tiktok video. It's really irritating and tbh has damaged our friendship. She's the only person I know who's like that though, so I'm not sure how prevalent the problem really is, although I suspect it's worse in gen z than millennials (which I am). I'm sure it's a bigger problem for women …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:53 PM
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And by "friendship" I mean a close friendship, where the man joins your social group and you hang out, turn to each other for emotional support, etc; I don't mean mere acquaintances or casual work friends. I don't have these sorts of friendships with men and to be frank I don't really have them with women either. To me, a friend is just a person I hang out with; doesn't have to be a deep, intimate bond. My standards for male and female friends are the same - be funny and fun to hang out with. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:50 PM
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I mean I already said that women have those flaws
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:18 AM
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I’ve noticed a lot of women want a man who provides, protects, and loves unconditionally, but then get offended at the idea of cooking, cleaning, or maintaining a home. I wouldn't expect those things of a man who isn't my husband (and I would never expect them "unconditionally," even from a husband) so why should I do those things from him before I'm his wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:31 PM
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Yeah. I kind of assumed OP meant they weren't looking for mental health diagnosis responses like just saying "BPD" or something. But I wasn't really sure so I just kind of sidestepped that part of the prompt lol but I don't take psychiatry heavily seriously anyways. Ditto.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:02 AM
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I'll be honest, I don't really understand what "mental health related things" means. Almost any personality trait in excess will be the symptom of some mental illness or other, but I don't think a person who's neurotic or passive aggressive is necessarily diagnosably mentally ill. What's an example of a character flaw that isn't "mental health related"?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 02:52 AM
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The men of ppd are very girl brained
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:30 PM
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I think almost all negative traits have a correlating positive trait that's carried on the same gene, so to speak. So I don't think you can "solve" these issues without also erasing the things that are wonderful about women. For example, neuroticism is just the extreme manifestation of the very necessary maternal instincts that keep helpless babies safe and alive. Women are capable of emotional manipulation because of their heightened emotional intelligence and perception. Women with martyr comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:20 PM
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WIC is specifically for women WIC is specifically for nursing mothers, infants and small children, and men who are the primary caregiver of an infant or small child are eligible for it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:37 PM
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Blue collar guys do not go out in hard hats and coveralls.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:32 PM
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Martyr complex, passive aggression, emotional manipulation, neuroticism
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:27 PM
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Also, the test is free if you ask for it at the child's birth ??? This is not true. No medical test is "free," and paternity tests aren't even covered by insurance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:17 PM
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That's what I use. "Sensitive skin" products just exclude the most common allergens, but if your skin is just hypersensitive in general it doesn't really matter. My own sweat irritates my skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:47 AM
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I started shaving because I'm a woman and it's societally expected. I was never itchy when I had underarm hair. I get itchy without it because the deodorant and sweat irritate my bare skin. When the hair wicks it away it's less irritating. And once the stubble grows back in but it's too short to shave again, it's incredibly itchy. I'm not arguing with your personal experience but it isn't universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 11:04 PM
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Yeah, I hate this about things like not shaving, not wearing makeup etc. I would naturally prefer not to do those things because I don't enjoy it, don't feel better when I do it, shaving often makes me break out in rashes etc. But when you don't do it, people think you're making trying to make a statement. It's easier to just go with the flow and do the normal thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 11:01 PM
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I'm a woman and I shave my armpits, but there was a period of a couple of years when I didn't. Once the hair grows out, it's much less itchy and uncomfortable to have underarm hair than to shave.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:53 PM
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I don't know why feminists like to pretend men don't shave armpits, maybe less do then women but the majority of them do, because it's just beneficial to hygiene. I think perhaps this heavily varies by country or region. I live in the southern US and have never dated, lived with, or possibly even met a man who shaved his underarms.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:50 PM
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Their opinions on his looks or income don't matter at all to me and I can't imagine anyone in my life even commenting on that. But if one of my loved ones who I consider a good judge of character has a problem with someone I'm dating, I take notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:45 PM
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My advice for any loved one would be that you can't change a person. Going into a relationship with the intent to try and change them is a losing strategy. Cut your losses and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:52 PM
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No, but I was always pretty feminine in personality so I didn't have to change much there, it's the appearance stuff I struggle with. I also think women are given more leeway to behave in masculine ways than to physically present in masculine ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 05:23 AM
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The rationale is that it frames the issue as a societal failing rather than a failure on the part of the person. Homeless = you are lacking a home; unhoused = society has failed to provide you with housing. In actuality I think progressives just get bored and make up new rules to police and browbeat each other over.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 03:30 AM
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I didn't get any attention at all from men until I started performing femininity to a socially acceptable standard -- shaving, styling my hair, wearing makeup, wearing flattering and feminine clothes. I was really behind the curve on that stuff growing up, and the difference when I finally started doing it was mind-blowing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 03:26 AM
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I literally said she can and should give you warm compassion. But she isn't going to give you the unconditional love of a mother. Men shouldn't do that either, you absolutely shouldn't be willing to take a bullet for a woman unconditionally, you should only do that for women who have earned that kind of sacrifice from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 12:05 AM
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And I'm saying the mother part of what you want is not realistic. Your significant other is never going to love you like your mother did, because she is not your mother, and that kind of love is rightfully reserved for children. Your partner can and should give you soft, compassionate love as well as amorous, passionate love. But neither of those are unconditional, motherly love.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:36 PM
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so as a man wanting to be loved by your partner essentially reduces you to a toddler? Wanting motherly love from her does, yes. Your wife is supposed to love you like a wife, not a mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:05 PM
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A woman with kids and multiple jobs doesn't have a lot of time to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:48 PM
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I'm old and married now, but when I was young it was very common. Friends host parties or invite you to parties, you go out to a bar with a friend and run into another person or group your friend knows, etc. That's how I met my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 06:06 PM
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He's pretty reserved with you regarding intimacy, affection, and romance in general. He gives you light kisses sometimes, but never any intense make-out sessions or anything like that. It's impossible that this person would have ever become my boyfriend in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:37 AM
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I already don't post pics or have random convos on social media. If I did, I might delete it, depending on his reasons for wanting me to do so. I wouldn't give him control of my business accounts though, that's kind of crazy. I use Facebook to keep up with family and to find used furniture and kids clothes on Facebook Marketplace and Buy Nothing groups. It's saved us a lot of money. So ideally I'd be able to use it for those kinds of things. I don't care if he has my passwords if he's really wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 12:39 AM
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I can't speak for other women, but for me porn is more of a voyeuristic thing than a self-insert thing. I'm viewing it as a detached observer, I'm not really interested in seeing it from my "POV."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:07 PM
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This is taking me out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 07:30 PM
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Again, how is it a "waste" if you are investing that time in something you care about and find rewarding? It's an INVESTMENT of time, for sure, but that's not the same thing as a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:30 PM
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How is it a waste? A waste is spending time/money/energy on something with no return. Having children is very rewarding most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:28 PM
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It certainly requires a lot of time/energy/resources, but I'd hardly call it a "waste"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:08 PM
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I mean we can shame fat people who eat too much fast food while still recognizing that food service is a legitimate job. I don't see the contradiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 02:51 PM
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What I've found over the course of my nearly 13 year relationship is that while the initial honeymoon phase does end, you periodically go through what I call a relationship renaissance. It's really fun and fulfilling to go through the ebbs and flows of life with the same person and feel your love for them grow and change. People are too quick to assume that the first lull will last forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 02:37 PM
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Anyone has the right to make any request they want, and anyone has the right to walk away from someone making unreasonable requests (and I think most people would consider these requests unreasonable) Generally, I think most people who value their relationship and respect their partner will self-police in certain respects. "No social media of any sort" is too far, but I think most people intuitively know that DMing and flirting with members of the opposite sex would be disrespectful. Getting app…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:54 PM
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Ok sure. I was speaking about the US, I don't care how it works in other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:15 PM
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"A committed relationship" and a marriage are two different things. A marriage literally joins two people into a single financial unit. Even if you keep your money in separate bank accounts, if you're married, it still legally belongs to both of you. Obviously couples can handle this however they want and everyone's situation is different. But there comes a point of entanglement where keeping everything separate and splitting 50/50 just doesn't make a lot of sense. I am married with two kids. My…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 08:57 PM
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There is also just straight-up not a test for HPV in men, while women are routinely tested for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 09:20 PM
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Masculine and feminine aren't accurate. Beta describes a suite of traits that are masculine/male-coded but conducive to civilization building and cooperation (stability, providership, honor, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:10 PM
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Probably more times than I can count
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 01:43 PM
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Do you think your great-grandparents would have had 8 kids in those conditions if birth control existed and they had the choice not to?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:16 PM
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But I'm saying you're asking if this will happen in the future when it's literally already happening now. You can look up the statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:11 PM
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Basically women were mean to men. So men voted to take away their abortion rights. Roe v Wade was overturned by the Supreme Court, not by men voting to overturn it. And Roe being overturned didn't do away with abortion rights, it just sent them back to the states. Since then, many states have put abortion rights up to a direct vote, and most people voted in favor of preserving them, even in conservative states. So like, this just didn't happen at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:04 PM
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I'm a little baffled by how many posts on this sub are basically "Do you think this thing that's already happening will happen?" We've been trending toward more childless marriages for a couple of decades now. That isn't likely to change any time soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:00 PM
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I mean...that is kind of my point. The degrees a lot of these women have (yes, including myself) aren't really prestigious or hard to obtain, they are just necessary to get decent employment in the more female-coded career paths that are roughly equivalent in earning potential to male blue collar work. So a woman could earn a higher level of formal education (degree) than her spouse but they're still at the same level socioeconomically. I completed my master's while working two jobs so you don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:49 AM
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Nah, I was definitely born this way. I've been an introvert since I was a very very small child. I was never bullied or mistreated, I had a great childhood, it's just how I'm wired. Any parent can tell you those traits are evident by the time a baby is a few months old. I'm not saying adverse experiences can't cause an extroverted person to retreat into themselves, but to say that introversion is never inborn is silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 09:30 PM
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This just doesn't bear out in my experience as a female, first gen college grad from a working class background. Woman with "pink collar" college degree/blue collar man with no degree is literally the common pairing among my social circle. Just off the top of my head: Me, with a masters degree in communications working for a university, married to a welder My sister-in-law, a nurse practitioner (masters degree), married to my brother, a construction superintendent Her sister, a social worker wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 06:02 PM
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it freaks the shit out of me whenever a female police officer points her gun at me This is something that has happened to you? More than once?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:15 PM
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This. I don't understand why people find this so hard to wrap their minds around. Love and the practicalities of life are not so easily separated, at least if the end goal of love for you is sharing a home and family with someone. I love my husband, which is WHY I wanted to buy a home with him, plan a future with him, have children with him, etc. All of that involves finances. It's impossible to enter into the entire joint endeavor of life with another person and not consider money.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:59 PM
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I wouldn't care because being spoiled with gifts and vacations isn't something that matters to me, in fact I find it off-putting. If I cared about that kind of thing I would be unhappy with someone who didn't do it for me, regardless of what they did with anyone else before me. If I'm with him, presumably he is doing the things that DO matter to me, so I don't see the issue. Sounds like he is just more financially responsible than he was when he was younger, which is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:20 PM
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Yeah they were all teens or early 20s except the one who got knocked up after her divorce, she was late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:08 PM
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Knew a couple girls who had babies in high school and went on to get married and have more kids with their husbands. I know another woman who got pregnant by a guy she was casually seeing after her divorce, they ended up dating for real a few years later and getting married when the kid was like 5 (he also had an older kid from a previous relationship). My husband's cousin had a baby out of wedlock, broke up with the dad not long after, and now they amicably co-parent. I've never known of her da…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:37 PM
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I wouldn't ask and don't care to know. If asked I would be honest, but I've never been asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:02 PM
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Birth control, illness, stress, insomnia, depression, pregnancy/postpartum, general exhaustion etc. have all had dampening effects on my libido at various points over the years. But it's not like a consistent downward trajectory, it's peaks and valleys through various seasons of life (at least until menopause, which I assume will deplete it pretty significantly and permanently). There is a common misconception (if it is one) that most women typically retain the same sex drive across their entire…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:42 PM
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My thinking was I don't really care if he has a simple assault charge from a bar fight when he was 21 or something. Obviously rape or murder or beating up an innocent victim or something is a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 05:12 PM
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I'm too lazy to rank them so I'm going to put them into categories. Red flag: watches anime, follows thirst traps, weird kinks, specific diet, shy, bad relationship with mom, single father (only bc I wouldn't want to date him, not saying it's a bad thing in itself), knocked someone up and bailed, depression, no friends, demanding, 25+ virgin Yellow flag/needs more info: plays video games, nonviolent crime, violent crime, watches porn, into crypto, huge debt, illegal drugs, extreme political opin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 05:05 PM
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Having casual sex with someone I have a huge crush on, knowing it can never lead to anything more, isn't fun. It's excruciatingly painful. So I wouldn't do it for that reason alone. Add the fact that he's married and it becomes stupid and reckless. I don't want to take part in destroying a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:22 AM
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I just see it as blowing off steam. It's not constant in my friend group by any means, I agree that sounds exhausting. But over the course of years knowing people, sometimes they do things that frustrate you or that you feel are ill advised, and rather than confront them about it (or sometimes before confronting them about it), you commiserate with other people who share your frustration. I had a roommate in my early 20s who was and still is one of my best friends, but living with her drove me c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:58 PM
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Don't worry, women get mad at me for saying things like this too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 09:46 PM
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Do you even have any childhood friends still? You don't keep those by talking behind backs. Yes, I do. I have had the same two best friends for ~30 years since elementary school, and several more friends for ~20 years from middle/high school. You don't keep friends "by" talking behind each other's backs, but it's something that happens and isn't usually a friendship-ender either. Sometimes you find out a friend has been talking about you behind your back and your feelings get hurt, then you figh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 08:35 PM
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I talk shit about my dumbass friends to their faces. I'm guessing you're a man. Women do it behind each other's backs. I'm 100% certain all my friends have talked shit about me behind my back at some point, that's fine, they are still my friends. The idea that a TRUE friend would never gossip about you sounds nice but it's just not how female friendship works in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 08:24 PM
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Show me someone who claims to not occasionally talk shit about friends who are acting like dumbasses and I'll show you a liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 06:44 PM
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I've never had a friend do this, that I'm aware of. I would definitely judge her. Probably wouldn't end the friendship but would talk shit behind her back tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 04:33 PM
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What I'll do in bed hinges on two things Whether I'm comfortable with the act in the first place (doesn't change depending on the man, I'm either into it or I'm not) What the man pushes for I'm not going to be the one to up the sexual ante so if he wants something specific he needs to initiate it. That's the only way I'd end up doing it for one guy and not another - if one guy initiated it and the other didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:32 PM
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I think gradual but consistent escalation is the key. I always wanted to take it a little slow because I was intimidated by PIV and need to be really comfortable with a guy before that happens, but I was still very physical in the meantime. Lots of heavy making out, touching, groping, hand stuff and eventually oral and PIV. As the guy it will probably be on you to keep pushing the envelope and calibrating to what she's okay with, but if she's into you then she will be comfortable with some degre…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 09:19 PM
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If "men" could get pregnant then for all intents and purposes they would be women, and would be subjected to the same (positive or negative) treatment women are currently subjected to. You can't divorce the male and female roles and treatment in our society from the ability/inability to get pregnant, everything is downstream from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:20 PM
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Men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 08:29 PM
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If the majority of women are indeed straight then how on earth is it possible for them to enjoy watching two women having sex together if they're apparently not sexually attracted to women that's doesn't make any sense to me at all. I am 100% straight, have never been remotely interested in doing anything sexual with a woman, frankly even giving a woman a hug kind of icks me out. I don't watch porn, but I used to a little and would often seek out lesbian porn because it, for lack of a better ter…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 08:15 PM
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It's frustrating if there's something I want to do that I don't have the physical strength to do, like move a piece of furniture or something. But I never really think about it "in comparison to men." I guess more than the strength differential what I envy is male musculature and metabolism. My husband sheds lbs so much more quickly than me with so much less effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:32 PM
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This is like asking which is more important, the left leg of your pants or the right leg.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 04:15 PM
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I mean there are literally options for purple, purple leaning red and purple leaning blue. You don't have to just choose 100% red or blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 02:16 PM
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Impossible. We've spent pretty much our entire adult lives together. There's no way to have that shared history with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:48 PM
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Depends on the day and my mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 04:04 AM
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Feminine/domestic and competitive/ambitious aren't typically traits that travel together.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:41 PM
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Do I see "NFL wives seeking attention online" as a moral issue? Not really. I have personal qualms about posting my kids online and I only do it under very specific circumstances, but that's my and my husband's personal decision and not one I care to impose on others. Anyway I'm not really sure why OP is asking this question specifically about NFL wives when it seems pretty rampant across demographics.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:57 AM
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I mean your question was how the women here feel about it and that's how I feel: indifferent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:11 AM
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I've never cared less about anything
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 01:28 AM
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No they weren't. They literally said initial attraction is a prerequisite.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 12:15 AM
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That's not true at all as long as you get the test within the window for contesting paternity, which in most states is 1-2 years. If the storebought test shows you aren't the father, you can then go through the process of legally contesting and relinquishing paternity, and the court will order their own paternity test.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:56 PM
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I think they're talking about sexual attraction being there at the beginning but fading over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 11:29 AM
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Might be generational.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:25 AM
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We never talked about it and I don't really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:04 PM
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Of course you know people who have relationships that didn’t start as hookups. No one is saying that’s always the case, but it’s extremely common. Yeah I know a few people like this but they were all religious and got married very young. Everyone else was dating in the normal millennial way which always included a period of undefined situationship before official commitment. It's hard for me to imagine two secular people getting into a relationship before having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 10:46 PM
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This question gets asked all the time here and I never understand it because these aren't different categories for me. My boyfriends and eventual husband were just hookups who I continued to hook up with until we became exclusive. This is how pretty much everyone I know dated and met their long term SO's/spouses.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:54 PM
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They match each other's autistic freak
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 05:25 PM
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People should do whatever they want. If sleeping separately is what makes them happy and allows both people to get the rest they need, then do it. For me personally, my husband and I both get better sleep when we sleep together, it makes having sex easier, and because we're working parents, it's the most time we spend together some days. It would make me very very sad to not share a bed with him every night. We also don't do anything in our bedroom BUT sleep (and have sex, which we usually do im…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:58 PM
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Do I have reason to suspect, or am I doing it "just in case"? If the former, maybe, although if I suspected the cheating was a long time ago I would probably just leave it alone. If the latter, no. That's just neurotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:34 PM
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I'm confused - in this scenario, is my objective to go on dates/have sex/get a gf or to collect likes on a dating app?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 03:56 PM
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According to EthicsDaily.com, 5 percent of practicing Christians in the United States have adopted, which is more than twice the number of all adults who have adopted. In addition, a survey showed that 38 percent of practicing Christians had seriously considered adoption, while only 26 percent of all adults had. https://adoption.org/who-adopts-the-most
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:17 PM
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I legitimately can't tell what you're trying to say
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:30 AM
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ostrichsized Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 01:15 AM
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No, I don't feel like other people's relationships are my business or that it's my place to "hold my friends accountable" for anything. I'm not the relationship ethics police. This applies to my male friends too. ETA: Well, ok, if my friend was telling me or asking for advice about an ongoing conflict with her bf/husband and I thought her behavior was contributing to it, I would tell her so. But for me that's not so much about holding her accountable as trying to help her resolve whatever proble…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 01:11 AM
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Personally I like to rent out a billboard
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:52 PM
2

Yes, girls start puberty 1-2 years before boys do, on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:43 PM
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I wouldn't want a daughter who has a bunch of out of wedlock children with married men either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:18 PM
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No. I'd rather have adopted grandkids I can spend time with than flesh and blood being raised by someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:16 PM
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It's effectively the same because you don't get to be in your grandkids' lives in the Caleb scenario because he's knocking up these women and then abandoning them, and/or tricking their husbands into raising them. I don't care about muh genes, I care about having grandkids I can cook for and buy Christmas presents. If I don't get to do that then for all intents and purposes I don't have grandkids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:15 PM
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South of which border? Because birth rates in Mexico are well under replacement. In fact, Mexico's birth rate was lower than the USA's in 2023.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:07 PM
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I don't know where you live that hasn't been hit by the fertility crisis (yet), but it's not just a western problem. Check out the birth rates in Japan and Korea. Birth rates are even falling in Africa, just not as quickly as in other places.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:02 PM
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Two, a 3 year old and a newborn.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 03:00 AM
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I have a toddler and a newborn and thankfully work from home (currently on maternity leave) so I can do laundry during the day. Personally we just don't have enough clothes, towels, burping cloths etc. to go a week without doing laundry. I do a load of socks/underwear/towels/burping cloths every single day. My husband runs every day and his workout clothes have to be washed or they stink, same with my workout clothes and usually the toddler's PJs, so all that gets washed most days too. I use mic…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 02:58 AM
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I know of no families that do laundry every day, most only once a week. Kids usually have multiple sets and PE is not everyday. Hi, I'm a mom and I do at least one load of laundry every day. I don't know any mom that doesn't. I could maybe skip a day or two, but there is no way I could go a whole week without doing laundry (and if I did, I'd spend a day catching up because that's like 7-10 loads of laundry at that point.) Also when I was in school and when I was teaching school, PE was every day…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 05:53 PM
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If you're worried about normalizing casual sex that horse left the barn about six decades ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:26 PM
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I don't think this is "normalized" outside of whatever weird algorithm you've been sucked into.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:23 PM
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I trust people who behave in trustworthy ways, which all the men in my immediate circle do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:57 AM
2

...duh?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:00 PM
3

Yes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:17 AM
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All of my boyfriends, including my husband, started out as hookups/FWBs/situationships. There weren't different buckets of guys, some sexual relationships just led to more and some didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 12:51 AM
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Sure, but I think there are also a lot of men who bottle up emotions in front of everyone but their women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:38 PM
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Everything happens sometimes, but I don't think it's remotely common. I don't think people are "lying" necessarily. I think people are unreliable narrators and tend to retcon situations in their minds so "the frequency of sex dropped down gradually over the first 5-10 years of marriage and eventually we stopped having it at all" becomes "we stopped having sex AS SOON as we got married." I also think people hear someone describe the former situation and interpret it as the latter. Both situations…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:34 PM
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I'm skeptical of these stories where sex "suddenly" stops "as soon" as they get married. More likely, it's a gradual decrease over time, especially once kids enter the picture. It's a frog boiling in the pot scenario until it becomes too big of a problem to ignore. I don't think many people in the west enter into marriage planning on stopping sex as soon as they get a ring on their finger.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 05:03 PM
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Capitalism has ended far more human suffering than it's caused
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:49 PM
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I think people of both sexes cheat for a lot of different reasons, and I don't really consider myself the moral arbiter of other people's relationships. What happens between them is between them, it doesn't affect my friendship with the person at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 02:08 PM
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Women don't call sex in general "sex work." Sex work is when sex (or making sexual content) is your job and you get paid to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:59 PM
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