| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 163 | Lovely bit of standard shaming by TikTok Pickminique 🙄 | PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAME | CatullusKitten | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:12 PM |
| 155 | My ex-collage! It’s been two years but I wanted in on the fun anyway. It’s good to remind ourselves so we don’t get into similar situations again 😅 | #JustLVMThings | CatullusKitten | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 12:12 PM |
| 30 | Pick me! Pick me! Pick me! | PICKME CULTURE | CatullusKitten | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 01:36 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 2 | FDSers who are married to or dating HVM, what brought you here?I found FDS before I found him and I think it helped me to find him tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 05:39 PM |
| 2 | FDS Fiction - What Are You Reading?https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Tenant_of_Wildfell_Hall This is a really good synopsis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:32 PM |
| 3 | FDS Fiction - What Are You Reading?I would highly recommend The Tenant of Wildfell Hall by Anne Bronte to anyone who likes Victorian/period fiction (it’s a great companion read to wuthering heights). It’s often cited as a proto- feminist novel and it’s also just excellent. Especially relevant to anyone who has a bit of a savior complex for broken men. It’s from two perspectives, at first it is letters from the male main character, then diary entries from the female main character, Helen. Helen is one of the best examples of a HVW… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:29 PM |
| 7 | Lovely bit of standard shaming by TikTok Pickminique 🙄We can only pray 🙏 🙏 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Lovely bit of standard shaming by TikTok Pickminique 🙄Yeah it was the bed frame comment that gave me specifically anti-FDS vibes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:39 PM |
| 7 | Lovely bit of standard shaming by TikTok Pickminique 🙄I agree, I personally don’t care hugely about height unless the guy has a complex about it. So many guys are just so weirdly outraged about the fact that some women have a preference they can’t meet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:37 PM |
| 8 | Lovely bit of standard shaming by TikTok Pickminique 🙄HAHAHA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:10 PM |
| 10 | Lovely bit of standard shaming by TikTok Pickminique 🙄Oh I know, the one about not needing a bed frame because she’d ‘break it anyway 😉’just so cringe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Date ideas that don't revolve around food but where he still pays something?Museums are a favourite of mine! Or botanical gardens, art galleries, special exhibitions etc. I love that you get something cultural out of it even if the man ends up being trash 😂 I agree with others about movies not being a great first date but I think they’re fine for a 2nd or 3rd date, especially if you incorporate something else. For my boyfriend our first 3 were: 1) fancy retro themed cocktail bar/club (he paid) 2) cat cafe (he paid for entry and food) 3) little museum, dinner and a movie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 10:05 AM |
| 4 | Isn’t it interesting that men get more violent when they’re depressed?Women internalise and turn their issues on themselves (eg not eating enough), men externalise and make it everyone else’s problem | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 08:34 AM |
| 27 | What if the statistics were suddenly reversed?This reminds me of the book The Power by Naomi Alderman. It’s about all girls and women gaining a kind of electric power that makes them physically stronger than men and how that impacts the world/ their lives/ men as the weaker sex. Like one of the protagonists is a politician who used to be overlooked because she’s female before she had the power. I’d definitely consider it a feminist novel and it’s really well written so recommend for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 07:09 PM |
| 14 | Saw multiple men repost this on FB - especially the "if I'm giving her (money), she giving me money" took me out... What's your take on that ladies?Not a smart move at all to let him pay rent/mortgage and pay everything else. Like hmm I wonder why he wants everything to be in his name 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 07:18 PM |
| 3 | What do you guys think of this? (My personal opinion is in the comments)I have a good relationship with my dad and still all my previous relationships were very negative. My current boyfriend is absolutely lovely but it still took me time before I met him to realise I deserved someone who was actually nice to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:41 PM |
| 31 | "For all the raging feminists..."This is the best description of Reddit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:31 PM |
| 2 | New FDS Spotify Page! Now with SIX Playlists! Please post any songs you would like to nominate for the playlist under "FDS Anthems" on the Subreddit or the Website! Thanks!These are awesome and I’ve been especially loving the rage against the manchine one lol Anyway I recommend: The Opener - Camp Cope !! Man from the magazine - Haim Oh bondage! Up yours! - X-ray specs !! Men explain things to me - Tacocat Nameless faceless - Courtney Barnett Never been wrong - waxahatchee Old man - Stella Donelly !! Youre a germ - wolf Alice She’s dangerous - adickdid Don’t mess with me - Brody Dalle Witches - waxahatchee Good boy - dogbite !! Ain’t it fun - paramore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 08:49 PM |
| 13 | Ugh. How do you avoid people like this who keep you as an option? Audacity is all he has. His poor girlI would but I’m honestly kind of scared of him, he has been known to show up to my previous flat uninvited and he carries a knife. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 09:28 AM |
| 12 | Ugh. How do you avoid people like this who keep you as an option? Audacity is all he has. His poor girlUgh I have an ex like this. It’s been 4 years and he still messages me a couple of times a week at least to check I’m still not interested. I haven’t blocked him because whenever I do he freaks out and will call my number from someone else’s phone or something. So I just have him on mute and let him scream into the void 🙃 he also has a serious gf who he’s been living with for like 3 years | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 09:06 AM |
| 4 | When did your HVM tell you he loves you?Around 3-4 months, after I met his family | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:13 PM |
| 3 | Do you use hinge?I met my boyfriend on it and I (obviously) consider him to be high value. However I used it for 9 months before I met him. The ones I met before him were variable. But from our first date he was just amazing - respectful, interesting and interested, generous etc and has continued to be like that in the year we’ve been together. He genuinely makes my life better and easier, which I can’t say about anyone I’ve dated in the past. My best friend also met her boyfriend on it and they seem to be very … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever heard a man say his love language is NOT physical touch?I think my boyfriend’s is probably physical touch but not in a gross muh penis way, he’s just a very cuddly, affectionate guy. Could potentially also be acts of service though as he does do a lot of nice things for me to make my life easier like cook nice meals, housework etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:28 PM |
| 6 | My ex-collage! It’s been two years but I wanted in on the fun anyway. It’s good to remind ourselves so we don’t get into similar situations again 😅Idk where you could have got that from 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:10 PM |
| 19 | My ex-collage! It’s been two years but I wanted in on the fun anyway. It’s good to remind ourselves so we don’t get into similar situations again 😅I tried to find one that accurately conveyed ‘living with mum at 30’ and the tiny bed was the best I could do 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:14 PM |
| 18 | My ex-collage! It’s been two years but I wanted in on the fun anyway. It’s good to remind ourselves so we don’t get into similar situations again 😅Honestly me too 😂 unfortunately idk how many alternative looking guys there are that are also HVM. Maybe I’ve just been put off by bad experiences though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 01:07 PM |
| 25 | My ex-collage! It’s been two years but I wanted in on the fun anyway. It’s good to remind ourselves so we don’t get into similar situations again 😅Moody man child being moody 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 12:57 PM |
| 17 | My ex-collage! It’s been two years but I wanted in on the fun anyway. It’s good to remind ourselves so we don’t get into similar situations again 😅Ugh tbh my current boyfriend does this and it drives me nuts! Can’t imagine he’d appreciate it if I did the same in the shower 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 12:23 PM |
| 8 | What the actual f*** is wrong with menShe needs to read ‘why does he do that?’ by Lundy Bancroft This is abuse and she needs to realise that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Yes, because not having sex with a man is definitely the same as domestic abuse.Ew at the laugh react and that comment. This is so horrible, I hope he rots in prison | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:34 AM |
| 19 | Share the most cringy date you’ve been on?Omg. Drinks date with a 35 year old that still lived with his parents and had no ambition beyond his job as a dish washer. He made it clear that he was SUPER into me and brought me little gifts but it was just so cringe I had to leave after 1 drink (I was 22) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 04:53 PM |
| 4 | Movie/series suggestions?Ooooo seconding Fleabag, also glad I wasn’t the only one that said midsommar lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 06:31 PM |
| 4 | Movie/series suggestions?Silence of the lambs - Clarice is just a badass The Love Witch - it’s super trippy and weird and kinda fucked up but I love it. Maybe not exactly ‘inspiring’ but I consider it a feminist movie because of its honesty about men Gone Girl - Same kind of thing to above. It’s a satisfying exposure of a LVM, and pick me culture with the ‘cool girls’ speech, although you definitely wouldn’t want to be Amy Midsommar - personally my favourite horror movie. Female centred, just amazing. Series: AHS - espe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 06:26 PM |
| 12 | Pick me! Pick me! Pick me!Oh I know but from that thread I’m guessing most of them think treating your girl AT ALL is outrageous 🤷♀️ Tbf was more like first month maybe? And we went official fairly early like around 6 weeks maybe And now we’re in lockdown together so not like anyone’s treating anyone to fancy dates :/ we split groceries and earn almost exactly the same so I think that’s fine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 02:47 PM |
| 12 | Dating a HVM puts everything into perspective - don't settle!It so does!! I would never have found my amazing boyfriend if I hadn’t grown a backbone and stopped settling. It seems actually insane to me that I used to think it was normal to date someone for 5 months with no signs of commitment. Or shudder be with someone for 2 years and never hear ‘I love you’. Everything’s gone so easily with my boyfriend because he’s actually good at communicating his feelings :o And puts effort into making me happy and making my life easier. This is what a man who truly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 10:13 AM |
| 1 | How do you like to dress on dates?When I was in dating stages with my boyfriend I normally dressed as I thought fit where we were going, so nice dress for a fancier date. I try to go for ‘subtle sexy’. Like there’s a hint of sexuality like exposed collarbones or a form fitting dress, but not like tits out or legs completely out. Now our ‘dates’ are mostly cooking together nights staying in so I just wear my favourite jeans and a nice top. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 05:39 PM |
| 3 | How do you get men to approach you?Eye contact. Apparently men think they make the first move but women really do subliminally through eye contact and body language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/19 01:36 PM |
| 7 | Be on the lookout for this type of man. There's a lot of them out there.They want us unwilling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/19 08:50 PM |
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