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I had a fantastic conversation with my dad where he gave me relationship advice.. My dad is a good and amazing man, but in the past when I've been on the feminist band wagon, we have only ever butted heads on these topics. My mom left my dad for no reason except to "explore herself" with her feminist friends when I was young, destroying our family, and so I could never seek advice from her. Finding more and more common ground with my dad, bonding through it, and getting really solid advice from …
/r/RedPillWives13/10/20 01:33 AM
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I just listened to the audio book Mating in Captivity, by the incredible Esther Perel. It is specifically about this and I cannot recommend it enough Also, if you can the audio book is great because she reads it herself and has a beautiful voice!
/r/RedPillWives01/10/20 10:55 PM
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I've always been attracted to men 10-20 years older than me. Just my two cents.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 11:53 AM
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He really is! We were able to reconcile. I need to listen to him because he absolutely knows what he's doing. Strange how even really good things can be so disorienting when they're a new experience
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 04:40 AM
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This is so helpful thank you! I think that route would have played out much more favorably for both of us.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 02:54 AM
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This is actually super helpful. Thank you! Also made me realize he doesn't know me well enough yet to understand how upset I was, or how on edge I was leading up to the conversation, which makes his response way more understandable.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 02:51 AM
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That portion of the situation is the type of advice I would seek from a trusted professional. Here, I am looking for general red and green flags in men's communication as well as general toxic dynamics I could be perpetuating unintentionally
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 02:47 AM
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After the heat of the argument when I said I still felt upset, he told me it was unfair because we already resolved it. He told me that it was not rational for me to be upset for how I interpreted what he said. The biggest thing may have been that the disagreement centered around him being upset over something I said that relates to intimate partner violence. He admits he brought it up at a bad time and didn't prepare me, but the result was that it was very triggering and I quickly became emotio…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 12:56 AM
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I am clearly trying to learn. This isn't advice ^
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 12:41 AM
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This is so helpful! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 02:31 PM
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I see what your saying. Definitely observing the Hugh value men in my life and their partners is really helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 11:21 PM
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Very helpful perspectives-- thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 12:16 PM
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Yeah. I don't understand it either. Its really just a physiological response and its so uncomfortable and confusing. I think you're right that it isn't lucky. More of a curse. I hope I'm not just wired to want that now because logically I really don't mind
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 12:35 AM
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I don't know.. I think its very natural or primal to seek a fit man, but having a body type be a dealbreaker doesn't align with my values.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 12:00 AM
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Thank you! I think that's why I am so conflicted. We have heaps of physical chemistry. And i think he is so handsome and only moreso as i get to know him. My reaction honestly was such a curve ball
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 11:34 PM
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Hard with the pandemic, but that's a good option. I am considering also what it would look like to be frank about my feelings
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 11:32 PM
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He mentioned he does want to. I really think he could get to a fitness level attractive to me within 6 months of trying (I say this as someone with three years of weightlifting experience, but of course I don't know how that changes with age). I do not want to walk away, I just don't know how to make fitness feel like less of a necessity for taking the next steps.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 11:31 PM
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Reminder that there is a whole person behind this post and it is my story- not yours. A few points. Firstly, I am extremely diligent about my own fitness. I am not put off by signs of aging in myself or my partner but that is different than being out of shape. Secondly, I made this post for and have been most receptive to advice on how to not be so shallow about it. I see that as the ideal solution, and it is a change I want to see in myself but do not know how. If being less shallow is somethin…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 11:25 PM
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Lol I love your approach
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 10:12 PM
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Yeah that's the thing- it has not stopped me from being really into him. And I know I've been lucky in only dating extremely fit men which sets the bar unreasonably high. So I really want nothing more than to adjust my standards and not be bothered, as you say
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 10:05 PM
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Do you have any suggestions about being upfront about it?
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 10:03 PM
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I’m always here repping lifting weights... but beyond possibly giving you more of a figure, it really has helped me be more physically confident and hold myself with more poise.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 10:32 PM
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Find small moments of pleasure, and savor them together. A toast, a moment of anticipation before you start eating, pointing out something beautiful and admiring it together for a minute, asking them if you can que up a song they’ve been enjoying lately and enjoy it together...
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 10:36 PM
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I really like the podcast “speaking of sex with the pleasure mechanics”. Since listening, I have made groundbreaking progress in my relationship with my own body, and with sex. I think hearing them talk about it so freely makes it feel more accessible for me to talk about too. They provide sort of thought exercises you cans do, ways to frame conversations, and so much wisdom about accepting and cultivating pleasure in all aspects of life.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 03:50 AM
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Thank you, this feels very straightforward and applicable, definitely a few things I’ve already been trying. Also I’ve been as explicit as possible when I feel it’s relevant, like telling him I like it when he leads if he asks me what workout we should do at the gym, saying I trust him to protect me if he asks if I’m scared/worried in a situation, etc. Still giving it time to see how he responds in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/20 12:13 AM
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I’ve been wondering the same! I consider myself a feminist, but I really vibe with a lot of the content on this sub and see a ton of wisdom and high quality women on the discussions. Redpill spaces for men seem to be full of a lot of hate and outlandish perspectives, and don’t even seem to be the kind of men that RPW are looking for. I hope some more experienced RPW will chime in with their perspectives. Thanks for asking about this.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 08:00 PM
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