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Social IssuesCazzaMcSpazza/r/MensRights04/04/23 10:20 PM
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Social IssuesCazzaMcSpazza/r/MensRights02/04/23 05:30 PM
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The same cases get posted on here over and over again. It creates the impression that it's a much bigger issue than it really is. There is something very insidious about creating this idea that men are massively at risk of false rape allegations that go all the way to court and are found guilty for. It's simply not true. It's almost as if there is a hidden agenda to create a narrative to make men feel like victims. Seems like just another way to create dissent amongst ordinary people so we don't…
/r/MensRights14/12/24 09:26 PM
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Of course it's relevant. It's the real life outcomes of the fable "The Boy Who Cried Wolf". A case of a woman lying about being raped will increase the very real probability of a woman who HAS been raped being called a liar and not getting the support and justice needed. I'm confused why you think it irrelevant?
/r/MensRights14/12/24 09:06 PM
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Thank you. I really appreciate that.
/r/MensRights13/06/23 10:21 PM
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I agree. Which is why I presented the study here. I don't agree with its findings. Only that there is plenty of content available to validate victimhood either way.
/r/MensRights08/04/23 12:44 AM
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True, people must get tired from all that jumping to conclusions and wild extrapolation. Trying to be moderate and objective is quite a struggle. A lot of people just want a flame war.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 08:34 PM
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The only outcome being increasing numbers of lonely men and women putting a lot of energy into arguing how much of a victim they are. Not an argument I'm keen to win. (Edit: I really appreciate the positive feedback, thank you.)
/r/MensRights07/04/23 08:10 PM
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It was reported that women and children are the biggest victims of war. Rather than just women. I'd like to say I don't agree. I think it's insulting to minimise the suffering of men in war zones. I'm not arguing that there isn't a case to be made for there being biased attitudes towards men. But it is also possible to make a claim for there being biased attitudes towards women. I'm currently on a mini-crusade to advocate for objectivity. I'm a 52 year old woman. I've seen a lot of change in my …
/r/MensRights07/04/23 07:47 PM
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I'm just pointing out how the tone of the post suggests that unfairness is only experienced by men. That that is also the prevailing theme on twox and how that isn't helpful if change is the goal.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 06:19 PM
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Not really. But ok.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 05:25 PM
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I have checked the facts. They suggest that both men and women are subject to unfairness in life.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 05:21 PM
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And this study suggests otherwise: (summery) https://qz.com/1812802/un-study-finds-almost-90-of-men-and-women-are-biased-against-women (fully study): https://qz.com/1812802/un-study-finds-almost-90-of-men-and-women-are-biased-against-women
/r/MensRights07/04/23 05:19 PM
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I could tell you the same thing. You are also reducing a complex argument to simplistic terms. How could I argue that not only men are the victims of unfairness without offering examples of women also being victims of unfairness? It seems to me as if you're only against unfairness if it means you're the victim of it.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 04:57 PM
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You can find incidents to back up either case. Such as a female rape victim unable to terminate the pregnancy caused by a rape due to restrictive laws regarding abortion. I do understand the lure of absolutes. It's comforting. But if you want real change then objectivity and unburdening yourself of the victim mantel is necessary.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 04:17 PM
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Maybe, That's more to do with challenging the law makers and those shaping society, which to be fair is very much both genders. But on a personal level people will always face challenges in life regardless of gender. Mostly due to circumstances unrelated to gender. Such as the circumstances of your birth and financial means.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 04:10 PM
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Is the believe here at r/mensrighs that women don't suffer any abusive societal standards, differential treatment and infringement on basic rights? Funny enough, they say the opposite over on twox. I think that believing either idea is reductive and counterproductive and ultimately self-defeating from a personal and societal point of view. Neither gender gets away scott free when it comes to unfairness. The only people who benefit from us squabbling amongst ourselves are those benefit from an un…
/r/MensRights07/04/23 04:00 PM
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I'll definitely put it on the "to be considered" list. Thank you.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 12:55 PM
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Makes sense if you're shaving everyday and enjoy a very close shave. I think there's pleasure to be gained from becoming very skilled at a personal care task such as shaving. Particularly if you're a man and it's your face.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 12:45 PM
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I'm just checked it out. I really like the aesthetic. What advantages does it have over the other style of razor?
/r/MensRights07/04/23 12:34 PM
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I'm in Scotland, they might not be available here. But I'll check it out. Thank you.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 12:24 PM
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I'm not saying they aren't. I'm just saying that some women (me for example) buy what makes economical sense.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 12:12 PM
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They do. I can't speak for other women as we don't tend to talk about what razors we buy. But I buy Harry's razors.
/r/MensRights07/04/23 11:54 AM
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Nice one. I'm glad.
/r/MensRights06/04/23 06:19 PM
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I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope things improve.
/r/MensRights06/04/23 06:04 PM
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I related one experience my own son had that he described to me. How he interpreted it. It's not about what I think. It's about what happened to him as told to me. I think there is plenty of evidence other than my son's experience to justify saying that men are discouraged from emoting fully by some people (of both genders). I did not say this was the root of the problem nor the only problem effecting men's issues in today's world. I'm not here to argue about all the ins and outs of gender polit…
/r/MensRights06/04/23 02:28 PM
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Good advice, already in practice.
/r/MensRights06/04/23 10:14 AM
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I'm sorry you've had bad experiences. But I don't think saying that I passed men's problems off as due to insecure macho pride is valid at all. I simply didn't say any such thing.
/r/MensRights06/04/23 10:06 AM
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That's a very good point. What we've experienced as a family is that trying to get people in positions of power, people who could potentially help my son access a normal teenage life, to understand the subtlety and nuanced nature of autism has been very fucking challenging. They just fixate on the word "disabled" and suddenly the tone of voice they use to talk to my son has gone up an octave or two.
/r/MensRights05/04/23 10:07 PM
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How do you tell men from women if not by their appearance? It boggles my mind that you don't understand that telling a woman to tell her son never to trust women is obtuse in the extreme. You opinion is akin to racism. Just because you've had bad experiences doesn't mean (a) that it was all the woman's fault your relationship didn't succeed and (b) that all woman are duplicitous. Are you so keen to avoid any personal accountability that you would abandon all objectivity and critical thinking?
/r/MensRights05/04/23 04:14 PM
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I'm genuinely curious, how do you expect me to receive a comment such as yours? Being a woman and all. I'm sorry that you've got so cynical that you think all women are just out to manipulate and deceive you. It actually makes me feel sad for you. It means that you have effectively ensured that you will never be able to make any meaningful connection with any woman. I read your comment out to my son and we discussed what you've said. That these feelings come from your own bad experiences and see…
/r/MensRights05/04/23 03:41 PM
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He already knows he's autistic. He's known since his diagnosis when he was 9. He was helped greatly by being diagnosed. It gave him an understanding of why he felt so "other". His diagnosis also lead to his Dad and me getting neurodivergent diagnosis. What we're trying to do for him is to encourage self acceptance rather than masking. He's signed up to join an acting group for neurodiverse young people. I appreciate that your advice came from your own experience. But that ship has sailed.
/r/MensRights05/04/23 02:45 PM
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You do realise I am a woman? There are untrustworthy people of both genders. Thankfully my son is able to understand that you judge someone on the content of their character. Not on appearance.
/r/MensRights05/04/23 02:14 PM
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I'll pass that info on. He's very keen to be financially secure. He's seen me and his Dad really struggle financially and the impact that has had. He's tight as fuck lol. So he's already amassing his pocket money.
/r/MensRights05/04/23 02:33 AM
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Honestly, I agree with you. I was sent to an all girls school from 14-18. Prime development years. It made me very shy and awkward around boys/men for years afterwards. The trick is finding environments where my son can interact with young people that isn't supervised by an overbearing adult who treats my son like "the special kid". Also, he has auditory processing disorder so noisy environments are prohibitive. It's a nightmare for him and as his parent.
/r/MensRights05/04/23 02:24 AM
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Ok, I'll think on how to help him with that. Circumcision isn't really a thing in Scotland unless you're Jewish so there's little to worry about there.
/r/MensRights05/04/23 01:11 AM
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That must suck. I have thought about how grim that must be to live with day to day. Being assumed to be the worst kind of man on a regular basis. I think not feeling the injustice of this must pose quite an internal struggle.
/r/MensRights05/04/23 12:21 AM
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I agree that a lot of life advice is not gender specific. I think if I can offer some helpful insights into the female psyche that could hopefully give him a better understanding. But given that I grew up in a different time I wonder how much has changed. Online dating wasn't a thing when I was in my 20's (I'm 52). In fact, the internet was barely a thing.
/r/MensRights05/04/23 12:09 AM
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Yes, we've touched on that already. That a lot of young women will already have experienced sexual predation. That they are also told that they have to take personal responsibility to avoid being in vulnerable situations with men or be held accountable for exposing themselves to harm. To understand that as a man without resentment or bitterness will be very helpful to him I think.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:57 PM
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I'm sorry, I have no idea what they are. Could you explain?
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:51 PM
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All excellent advice, thank you. He's really tall, 6'2", he's already been made aware that he's quite imposing to women. But he's a very gentle person. I will put your advice into practice and help him understand the female perspective without feeling shitty about being man.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:51 PM
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No worries. I appreciate you taking some time to help me out with insights into the male experience.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:46 PM
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I don't know. What prompts up and down votes isn't always clear.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:44 PM
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I've pulled right back now he's in his teens. But we spend a lot of time together chatting. He seems to value my anecdotes of when I was negotiating the world as a young person. But I understand that his experiences will be shaped by being a man. I want to offer any insights I can but I'm limited by my female perspective.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:40 PM
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We're totally on the same page as it's very much a human condition, regardless of gender. I've also fought against the limitations and expectations society placed on me as women. It's not easy to forge your own path. You experience resistance and judgement and a lot of continual pressure to conform. Being yourself is freeing but can be quite a lonely business.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:37 PM
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I did read your entire comment. I agreed with the comment that men should not be limited by being a man. I didn't disagree with you. I just stated I want to help him build his confidence to be himself. What more can I say?
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:30 PM
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That's very much a human condition. Finding out who you are, what you want as you negotiate the world.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:25 PM
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I agree. I think a man should be free to express himself without having his manliness questioned. I often see that. I watching MAFS Australia recently. A very lovely man was told he wasn't "man enough" by an absolutely awful woman. What I want is to be of use to my son in building the confidence to be himself freely.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:06 PM
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He's educated at home (via an online education provider). So he's not exposed to a lot of interactions with women. He's had to deal with a lot of social care professionals. Mostly middle aged women and they have left him with some resentment due to how badly they treated him. For numerous reasons I clashed with them a lot myself when advocating for him. I also clashed with his teachers at school when he did attend (we removed him when he was 9). He's sensitive and cries when he feels overwhelmed…
/r/MensRights04/04/23 11:01 PM
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From my experience women are also encouraged to engage in self-improvement. You only have to see the endless amounts of female lifestyle/fitness gurus on Insta/tiktok to see that. Perhaps the best way to view self-improvement is because it benefits your health, financial security and state of mind giving you a better chance at a long and stress free life.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 05:49 PM
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Oh, the irony. lol.
/r/MensRights04/04/23 01:12 PM
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Of course you can talk about issues without generalisations. Generalisations make it easy for people like you to exonerate yourself from accountability and blame. But all they are is a lazy way for people to excuse their prejudice. Perhaps we wouldn't have so many issues if men and women weren't so keen to blame the opposite gender for their problems. The only reason I opened myself up to the predictable amount of unpleasant interactions I've had on here is to try and learn what the male perspec…
/r/MensRights04/04/23 12:57 PM
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You definitely made me laugh and you sound so charming.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 06:46 PM
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Eww.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 12:18 PM
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So why are there so many men on dating sites?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 12:08 PM
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What do you like about Japanese women?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 12:04 PM
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Yes but unless you know what percentage of users are using the site for dating it's not really relevant.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 12:02 PM
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Single people dm each other all over the internet. Such is life. What's your point?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 11:51 AM
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Which country are you headed to?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 11:49 AM
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Ok, but it isn't a dating site. People don't sign up for instagram with the stated view of finding a partner. So I'm not sure how it's representative. They well be equal numbers of men and women worldwide. But how many are trying to date is questionable.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 11:43 AM
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I don't know where you've been hiding but both partners having to work full time isn't about having a super materialistic lifestyle. It's about getting the bills paid. I'm sorry the modern world is so abhorrent to you. I'm sure if you headed off to a more "traditional" (aka poorer) culture you'll be able to find a woman who will be willing to fit into your ideal of how a woman should behave. I'm sure it would have nothing to do with her desire to escape grinding poverty and she'd be super into y…
/r/MensRights03/04/23 11:38 AM
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I didn't say men owe me anything. But you said men only want sex. Why would I allow myself to used just for sex? How would that add value to my life?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 11:30 AM
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What does a man provide in a Western relationship when the norm is both partners have to work full time? I'm curious, what are these "resources" you speak of? If there is equal effort on both sides isn't it a partnership? Not one taking advantage of the other? But both being equally invested in building a life together, supporting each other and being there for each other for companionship and enjoyment?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 11:16 AM
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I've never had to present myself overtly sexual to get attention on apps. The idea that men don't want anything else but sex from women isn't really making being with a man particularly appealing. What does a man offer me?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 11:03 AM
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It's significant as it impacts on men (and women) finding partners. It seems that the mods are ok with it as it wasn't deleted.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 10:59 AM
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I strive for objectivity. Which is why I'm here. I have a 15 year old son and I want to understand the male perspective to be a better mother. But you dismiss sexism from men so casually that I don't know if you're objective enough to offer me a perspective that isn't just arguing over who has it worse. Which is want I'm trying to get away from.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 10:53 AM
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How do you know that? Why would a woman in her prime need to settle? A lot of men who aren't particularly good looking or rich have partners. How do you explain that? Most households both the man and woman have to work full time. The women isn't getting "kept". That isn't a thing anymore. Please explain how this fits into your world view.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 10:46 AM
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So why do you see so many ordinary men in relationships then?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 10:31 AM
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That's so ironic given how many incredibly generalised and sexist comments I've been bombarded with. As soon as I defend women from sexism I'm sexist. I also think it does apply to either gender and I would say it on twox. The difference is that women tend not to talk about why they're single. Because as it's been pointed out many times, women don't have to be single if they don't want to be. They're not being ignored, they're being bombarded. But a lot choose to be single. Because actually find…
/r/MensRights03/04/23 10:29 AM
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How do you know these couples didn't meet online?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 04:57 AM
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So when you look around in places like supermarkets and restaurants and see ordinary guys of different heights, sizes and handsomeness with partners, how do explain that?
/r/MensRights03/04/23 04:48 AM
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Great attitude.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 04:22 AM
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If a man is kind, confident and good company he'll be able to find a woman who wants to be with him. But the allure of blaming women for hypergamy is clearly hard to resist. A man who blames women for the worlds issues is not attractive to women funny enough. That is a universal truth that seems to have eluded so many men who wonder why they remain single.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 02:41 AM
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That isn't its primary purpose as far as I'm aware. But that aside, what's your point?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 11:59 PM
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So you think being sexually harassed is better than not being sexually harassed? That's an interesting take on the matter.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:47 PM
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I don't have to imagine it, I lived it. I'm in my 50's. I dated before online dating was a thing. I've seen the world change. I've seen how many men have refused to change with it. To bemoan how good it used to be. Ultimately, it won't be one gender triumphing over another. We're all doomed. Holding on to the idea that feminism is the root of it is fucking ridiculous. There are bigger demons then women wanting more. But go off.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:46 PM
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It's not good attention. There is a good reason why you rarely see women alone in pubs. Because it's dangerous. I find the reasoning you just laid out as really, really obtuse. Ignoring how many predatory men women have to deal with on a daily basis is bizarre. If a man cold approaches a woman in a supermarket or while she's getting coffee there is a very good chance he'll get rebuffed. Because she'll fear for her safety. Can we please start factoring in the reality of how it actually is for wom…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:31 PM
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So "after years of hard work" to not sexually harass women, what would you like? A parade? A medal? Take some accountability. Get some perspective. It's absurd that you think you deserve praise for not treating people like shit. And it's a respect issue because your sex drive is your problem and the only people who use being horny as an excuse for sexual harassment and rape don't realise that it's their lack of respect for other people that is the problem. That lots of men restrain themselves to…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:25 PM
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Yes, and the reason you're not getting any attention is because there are 8 men to every 2 women. What's frustrating is how so many men minimise how horrible it is for women to get sexually harassed online all the damn time. Suggesting it's equal to being ignored. It isn't. Not being sexually harassed isn't the same as being sexually harassed. Why is it so hard to get men to condemn men who sexually harass women?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:12 PM
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Wow. That's a weird and dark view of the world. No wonder he decided to forego women. He doesn't really like them.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:09 PM
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Seeing what you want to see. It's an online trend. Everyone just wants to make out that the opposite gender is having such a wonderful time. It's so redundant. Trying to have meaningful and objective discourse about what it's really like online dating is fucking impossible.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:04 PM
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Good attention is lovely. But creepy guys asking you if you have a tight pussy before you've even had a decent conversation isn't good attention. It's vile. I had to deal with so much sexual harassment online dating that being single and celibate has become preferable. You're projecting so hard you can't even see it. A lot of women aren't online dating because of all those creepy men sexually harassing them.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:01 PM
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As you have mentioned in a previous comment, you don't know what it's like to be a woman. But you seem to have drawn some very solid conclusions about how lovely and easy it is for us. I wish it was so. What it's actually like is scary as fuck. A lot of men don't treat women like goddesses but like objects for their gratification. It's dehumanising. It's really surprising how much men ignore how fucking awful it is for women to have to constantly deal with how thirsty men are. How little control…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 09:57 PM
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So who are they hooking up with???? Most women don't sleep around. They want to have monogamous relationships. So who are they having relationships with? Do you see how the numbers don't add up?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 09:52 PM
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Do they though? But the numbers don't really add up. Who are these options with? If women are hooking up with men, these men are hooking up too. So who are these women hooking up with if so many men are languishing on dating sites twiddling their "thumbs"? You mention in another comment that you don't know how it is for women. How do you know that the reason they aren't on dating sites is because they're meeting up with guys irl?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 09:50 PM
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I get that you have a strong sex drive. I have noticed. But why are single women not using dating sites? That's my question.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 09:46 PM
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That may be the case. But standards are a thing. My question is why single women are much less likely to use dating sites?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 09:44 PM
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That doesn't explain much. Women get horny too.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 09:39 PM
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I understand why that means it's easier for a woman to get sex. All a woman has to do is be willing. But how does that explain the disparity in numbers of men to women on dating sites?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 09:37 PM
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How does that explain why there are far more men on dating sites than women?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 09:31 PM
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You too. All the best to you. :)
/r/MensRights02/04/23 08:35 PM
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I understand that you don't have experience of being sex pested. Count yourself lucky, it's grim. What I'm trying to say is this, it's not women not liking "legit guys" that is the problem from my perspective. It's that a lot of men use dating sites, and any online site for that matter (I've been sex pested on here many times) to sexually harass women. That it's the behaviour of other men that is one of the reasons why men like you struggle with online dating. Perhaps if men started discussing t…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 08:34 PM
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Unattractive guys can be sex pests too. Being disrespectful isn't limited by looks or status. I spoke with lots of "legit guys" if the criteria is ordinary looking and bad photos but a lot of them still ended up saying some pretty disgusting things. I think you seem unwilling to address the issue head on. I wonder why?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 08:18 PM
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I totally agree that body positivity only seemed to include women. Although, I think that is gradually changing. I saw a fashion show recently that had men of all sizes. It was so damn refreshing. As to the dick size thing, that is fucking awful. I know that men with small dicks suffer a lot of insecurity. But I do think that big dicks aren't something that ordinary women care about. But I know that some women can be very insensitive when it comes to discussing that topic. Porn is somewhat to bl…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 08:08 PM
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They are out there. The trick is, don't get bitter, get better. There are no down sides to self-improvement. Good luck my friend.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:51 PM
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Online dating is just a gift for those corrupt elements of our society. No accountability and anonymous.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:49 PM
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I guess the best thing to do, now that online dating seems to be an absolute shit show for finding genuine person, is to put yourself about a bit. I wish you all the best of luck. I hope you find someone to love who loves as you deserve to be loved.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:44 PM
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I'm interested, what is the critique about male bodies? I think both genders experience quite a lot of that.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:42 PM
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The odds seemed to be stacked against those genuinely trying to find someone to be with in any meaningful way. When I hear about how women only want attractive tall high earners I can't help but scoff. All I wanted when I was online dating was someone who seemed genuinely interested and interesting. I literally don't give a shit about looks or status. I'm not impressed by material wealth and attractiveness is greatly enhanced by a good personality. So I'm willing to talk to anyone just to find o…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:40 PM
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I think scammers definitely target men. My ex was "romconned". He started talking to a woman who asked him to buy bitcoin for her. She would transfer money then he would buy the bitcoin, to "practise". Then all the money got charged back. We still had a shared bank account at the time. Lost £400. Poor bloke felt very humiliated. He kept the last deposit, didn't buy the bitcoin. He then started to get threats. From people saying they were "associates" of this woman. Threatened me and our son too.…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:32 PM
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So what is the perfect man? According to society?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:28 PM
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I've given up to be honest. It's just too draining and traumatising. I don't want to expose myself to that again. I think that's why a lot of women have come off dating apps, hence the disparity between the numbers of men and women on dating apps.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:26 PM
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Girls? How young we talking?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:18 PM
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I've noticed that when it comes to righting a perceived wrong the pendulum often swings too far in the other direction. Trying to have an objective discussion about gender politics is incredibly hard. Men what to bash women and women want to bash men. I hate it. I have a 15 year old son. I want to be able to help and guide him into the world and give him the tools he needs to find contentedness and success. Hence why I've been striving for objectivity and knowledge from a male perspective. It's …
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:14 PM
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Is that the way of it? That sounds really fucked up.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 06:57 PM
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So what do statistics say about why there are so many more men than women on dating apps? No one has presented actual statistics to explain that to me so far. I think online dating has become a dating wasteland. It's not representative of normal, everyday people. When I look around at couples when I'm living my life I see ordinary looking people. I see men of all shapes and sizes with partners. It belies the idea that the only men to achieve dating success are handsome 6 footers in a high tax br…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 06:54 PM
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That's a damn shame. Society seems to have it's priorities all messed up.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 06:49 PM
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How does a legit guy stand out? I found it impossible to tell. When I tried dating apps I was immediately inundated by messages. I tried to answer as many as I could. Trying to establish some rapport. But most of my efforts were rewarded by men who seemed to misrepresent themselves as "legit guys" only to segue to sex pesting as soon as the opportunity presented itself. For example, I got talking to a guy. We chatted back and forth for a couple of days, with talk of meeting up the coming weekend…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 06:47 PM
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Unfortunately it's too easy for people to misrepresent themselves. Not an ideal place to find a genuine connection. I've given up myself. I found it traumatic and too draining.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 06:34 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that you haven't been able to find a partner. I don't think online dating is a healthy environment for meaningful connections. It seems to promote the most superficial and shallow instincts to come to the fore.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 06:24 PM
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Oh yeah, you get dm'd all right. But it's not from men who are interested in making a meaningful connection. I was driven off dating apps by how many times I was traumatised by men who bypassed polite discourse and headed straight to gross comments about my intimate body parts. Most women have to deal with this. I think that online dating is so fucked up. It's fucked by sex pests, by bots, by scammers, by only fans women drumming up customers. It's a big mess. Trying to find a genuine connection…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 06:20 PM
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Please understand, I'm not suggesting you have become bitter or that you are prejudiced towards women. Only that I am actively avoiding becoming like that myself. But sweeping generalisations tend not to be helpful when discussing issues as complex as modern dating. There are always many factors influencing dating success. What do you think would improve things for you when online dating?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 06:15 PM
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I live in Scotland. Culturally there will be a lot of differences. But I think it's not helpful to assume that all women are the same. I think it's self-defeating. I've had my own bad experiences with the opposite sex. But I strive for objectivity. Hence asking this question in the first place. I don't want to end up bitter and prejudice.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 05:59 PM
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Maybe that's the type for some women. But do you genuinely think that all women are attracted to the same type?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 05:53 PM
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What puts a man in the top 10%?
/r/MensRights02/04/23 05:48 PM
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It's a shame that gender politics has turned into a race to the bottom. Arguing about who has it worse. I think both genders have their own struggles. To imply that life is easy for either gender is reductive. I only wish we could acknowledge that and be supportive of each other regardless of gender.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 04:39 PM
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What is a 100% traditional woman? I see that term a lot. I'm not sure I understand what that means.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 04:31 PM
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I think it is a good sentiment generally. But from the woman's perspective it's a retort to the oft repeated rhetoric of women only going for a certain kind of man, the so-called "Chad". That certain men are disenfranchised by female hypergamy.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 04:28 PM
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