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Truth 👍🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 10:56 PM
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It sucks. But the same thing happens to me, as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 10:55 PM
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It means when you're incapable of feeling naughty feelings for someone that you have wholesome sentimental connection feelings for?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 10:17 PM
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I love tall and thick and brown women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:59 PM
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💔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:58 PM
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Where do you meet these women? Hook a nigga up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:57 PM
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Yeah I think that there is nothing wrong with having whatever preferences that you have, as long as they're based on genuine attraction and not based on things like wanting to be accepted by society or wanting to be normal etc. Where would you recommend I find these tall, thick women who are into men who are shorter than themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:46 PM
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I would love to feel smaller than my women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:44 PM
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I also prefer to be smaller than my man, 💔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:43 PM
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Yeah it's f***** up that they would let Society's opinions dictate their dating lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:41 PM
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💔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:41 PM
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confidence is an aphrodisiac. Then I'm totally f***ed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:39 PM
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Tell your sister to hit me up 🤙
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:35 PM
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I hope I can find me some tall, thick and brown women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:33 PM
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Sorry about that. It's a very unfortunate situation
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:32 PM
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So we've evolved on complementing each other on that 👎
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:30 PM
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One was super self-conscious after a few dates with me, she said the pressure from being looked at weirdly by others was too much. Sorry bout that. It's unfortunate that she would let Society control her dating habits like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:29 PM
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Because tall women still want taller men 💔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:24 PM
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Tall women still prefer taller men 💔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:24 PM
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With all due respect, I feel a bit like you keep moving the goalposts of the conversation. It feels like the conversation goes a bit like this: You: "These are my preferences: [...]" Me: "That makes me feel sad that you have those preferences." You: "What? I don't have any preferences! I'm married!" Me: "But you just said that you have preferences."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:13 PM
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Also, isn't the average US woman like 5'4''? Someone at least as tall as them isn't a big ask. It's not about that. She can have whatever preferences she wants. It's just hard to be an outsider. When every girl wants to be the small and submissive half, whereas I'm not into that. I wanna be the little sub that gets molested by The Big Mama Bear. It sucks to see a beautiful, tall, thick and brown woman at like 1.83m... knowing that she would most likely reject me... and all because I'm just a cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 08:39 PM
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But this is how most women think. They want their men to be at least as tall as themselves. Which is very unfortunate
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:25 PM
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I'd prefer dating guys my height or taller than me 💔
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:12 PM
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Tell these tall and thick women to hit me up, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:10 PM
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Sounds kind of hot. A MILF Mommy molesting me and taking my virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:06 PM
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But you did say you wouldn't date a male virgin though, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:02 PM
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When directly calling a woman a slut yes. They just want to hurt her feelings. Yeah I think you're right. But I still think that many men dislike women with high body count, and many women dislikes male virgins. Hence why 'slut' and 'virgins' exist as such prevalent insults in the first place. They are the ultimate ways to insult a woman and man, respectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:59 PM
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It is a non-issue, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:51 PM
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And incels aren’t mocked for being virgins. Men are mocked for being virgins though. Just like if you wanna insult a woman, you call her a slut or a whore. Similarly if you wanna insult a man, you say "no woman wants to touch you with a ten foot pole. You're a neckbeard who live yo mama basement. I doubt you ever get laid. I bet you're a virgin!"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:49 PM
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I agree with some of you're saying, but wouldn't this same logic imply that when men call women sluts and whores, they don't care about your body count...? YouknowI'msayin'? Clearly many men seem to care about body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:46 PM
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Nah, it's just insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:50 PM
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I, for one, want to be wanted. I want that so badly. I don't know why it would be a gender thing. I view it as a very human thing (to want to be wanted).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:54 PM
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Okay, well, in that case, here's one of my unpopular opinions: women shouldn't be playing 'hard to get' or hide their interest or attraction toward their partner. A woman taking interest in me and drowning me in her clinginess.. is a GOOD THING. It's a good thing. I don't know why everyone says that women should play cold and hard to get. That's some fucked up shit. It's playing games. I want to feel validated. I want to feel wanted. It's not a bad thing. It's a GOOD THING, for the love of chris…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:43 PM
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That's one of my controversial opinions too - that it would be better if women did the initiating and approaching. Since women have supposedly better social skills, are less intrusive / forceful, are less likely to be seen as 'creeps' or be seen as intimidating, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:36 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:35 PM
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Again, not true for me. But I guess my opinion doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:31 PM
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Calling them 'pedophiles' is very loaded. I mean, are you seriously suggesting that being attracted to a tall, thick, big boobed 16yr girl is the same thing as being attracted to a little 10kg, 70cm tall 8yr dwarf running around?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:29 PM
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Definitely not true for me. But maybe I'm an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:23 PM
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I also get the guy’s lament that he only wants women who are attracted to him so much that he falls in that category. Thank you. That's my sorrow about her making me wait. I wanna be the ice cream to women. Not the apple. There's nothing flattering about being an apple. YouknowI'msayin'?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:12 PM
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I agree with the first paragraph. Men who talk about wanting to have sex with women who they hate. They say they wanna 'hate fuck' her or 'pump and dump' her. It's fucked up. Do these men have no pride or shame at all? I could never do that shit, despite being a very desperate and lonely 34m virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:03 PM
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But it's not necessarily 'pump and dump'. Men who use the saying 'pump and dump' are obviously complete assholes. It's not about using or dehumanizing anybody (AKA 'pump and dump'). It's about jealousy and insecurity. It's about feeling like she finds those other men (that she gave quick sex to) more attractive than she finds you. At least that's what it's about to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:55 PM
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If a woman breaks up with me because I'm sexually submissive, does that make her EnTitLeD? No, of course not. It's just a personal preference of hers. Just like if I break up with a woman because she makes me wait (or she makes me wait longer than previous men), does that make me eNtiTleD? Again, no, of course not. It's just a personal preference. People have the right to have preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 09:49 PM
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It's not entitlement. It's a preference. If she had sex sooner with previous men, then I would personally feel inferior and I would feel like she was more attracted to these other men than me. I'm very insecure. If that makes me a douche for having feelings, then so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:17 PM
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But it's not necessarily that he feels entitled. It's just his personal preference. Again, she has the right to make him wait for sex. That's her personal preference, and she has the right to have that preference. But he also has a right to have a preference for wanting a woman who's gonna have sex with him as quickly as she did with her previous partners. That's his preference, and he has a right to have that preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:49 PM
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" He's a douche for the assumption "she was fucking other guys right away and therefore I should also get that right away." " I don't see what's necessarily insulting about it. She has the right to make him wait, but he also has the right to feel hurt by it, insecure, break up with her, etc. He has the right to want someone who's gonna not make him wait for sex, if that's his preference. As long as he's not shaming her, calling her names, trying to force her, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:41 PM
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Yeah 'confidence' is so overrated. It is no measure of your value. I mean, who would you value more of the following two? A) A person who is truly convinced they're an amazing pianist, but when you hear them play, they're... not that good. Or... B) A person who is like "I'm not that good. I'm okay, you know..." but then you hear them play and it's like woahhhh they're f*cking amazing. I know who I'd pick. I'd pick person B, any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:35 PM
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It's not cool to call someone a douche just because they have certain personal preferences, feelings or insecurities. If a woman made me wait for sex, I wouldn't understand that. But I would respect her choice to do with her life and body what she pleases. I would never shame her or call her names for it. That's not cool
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:55 PM
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Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:25 PM
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Personally I prefer those thick women like in the link you posted. I'm not attracted to slim women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:33 AM
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So things like social anxiety translates to anger now? Boy oh boy...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:27 AM
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I'm gonna get shamed for this, but okay, here goes... It was a while ago. My memory may not serve me completely. But I remember I felt nervous and uneasy when she asked that question. And I said something like "Im not sure how to answer that. I mean, I like your looks. But beyond that, I'm not sure what else." She felt very hurt. And then, later I said some other things, which, in my naivete, I thought maybe would make her feel a little better. But it only made her feel worse. I may have said a …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:54 AM
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Why would I say that if it’s not how I feel? That would just be more lying. So you don't think it's wrong to judge people as dangerous simply because they're awkward? "You expect me to agree, apologize and promise to change because I should make myself sexually available to all men." Again, I'm not expecting you to lie. It's good to be honest. But it's one thing to be honest about your behavior. It's another thing to justify it. You can be honest without justifying the behavior. "So I should wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:43 AM
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A girl I had interacted with online for a while, eventually asked me "what do you like about me?" Let's just say it didn't end well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:05 AM
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But you're not arguing against these prejudices. You're justifying them. It would be one thing to say like "this is the subconscious feeling that comes up. I know it's wrong and it makes no sense, etc." as opposed to saying like "awkwardness is OFFPUTTING." And I'm sorry you were sexually assaulted. But there's a long road between awkwardness and sexual assault. I miss the days when us awkward virgins were seen as harmless geeks who were too afraid to ask for extra ketchip on our hamburger. Now …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 01:22 AM
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So because I'm not "confident," that means I'm dangerous? Jeez.. I realize that our planet already over-pedestializes "confidence," but you're taking it to a whole 'nother level here. This is what is, in fact, dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 12:49 AM
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How can u possibly equate awkwardness with danger? I miss the times when us awkward virgins were seen as harmless geeks who were too shy to ask for extra ketcchip on our sauce. Now we're somehow seen as dangerous 'incels' who will shoot up schools. It makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 12:42 AM
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I was referring to a comment in this thread, for the record. "I can want a super hot hottie but I’m not delusional, I know a super hot hottie is going to want to commit to another super hot hottie, he may fuck me but he’s not gonna commit to me. Now being a realistic woman who only operates in committed relationships it benefits me to know what my league is and to pick the best of the bunch from that league." So it sounds like you'd rather be with the super hot hottie if you could? That is if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 12:00 AM
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But didn't you kind of admit, in another comment, that you'd rather have the super hot hottie, but you choose to be realistic? Which, I get it if that's the case. I guess most people settle to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 11:21 PM
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I see. Aesthetic appreciation as opposed to aesthetic arousal. Can you be sexually attracted to others (but just not in a visual way)? What causes you to be sexually attracted to others?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:34 PM
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Hey. Are you saying that ur partner can become visually arousing to you (due to their non-visual traits), but that you never feel visually aroused by anyone if you don't know any of their non-visual traits... ??
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:24 PM
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Why would that raise her standards though?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:12 AM
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Do u ever feel visual arousal towards anyone (just out of curiosity)?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 01:36 AM
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But what women find us fat men sexually attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:24 PM
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I don't look at it as perceived value, personally. That would be very silly. If you feel a stigma when approaching, your feelings are valid. Just wanna say though that I feel that stigma too (as a man) when I think about it approaching. I feel it deep inside of me. Men often get shamed for having sexual feelings ("oh, another man pig, who only thinks about sex..."). And men are also seen as creeps, etc. for pursuing a woman. And to quote another hurtful comment from this thread, "Male sexuality …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:04 PM
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If I may ask, what kind of men do you feel this physical/sexual attraction towards? Just out of curiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:57 PM
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Well, some people will be attracted to people that most people aren't attracted to. That appears to be unusual though (unfortunately), otherwise it wouldn't be called conventional attractiveness. It's called conventional because most people find it attractive. That's very unfortunate. The fact that life is not fair. And that's certainly true in sex and romance. It's very unfortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:45 PM
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Sounds like 'reciprocal attraction' (which has been talked about in this subreddit before)? Sounds like you subconsciously realized these people were (roughly) in your conventional league, and thus you felt attraction towards them (because you felt they were somewhat likely to give you a shot, since they're roughly in your league) and thus it created an attraction that you felt for them...? But then you 'glowed up', and now you don't feel attraction towards them anymore, because you subconscious…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:38 PM
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I suppose though, not acting insecure is part of whst I mean by getting on with people with zero drama. Insecurity is bound to happen. If you come across someone who you think looks better than your partner, it's only natural that they're gonna feel insecure. To call them dramatic is not cool. Maybe it's looking at it through the lens of male sexuality, possibly. But this is how people tend to look at things, through their own personal perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:32 PM
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Hahaha what? No one reads this thread anymore dude. I'm not showing off for anybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 02:15 AM
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Its better if men are taught all those things. Whether they use it or not will be on them. Same thing could be said about femininity. "It's better if men are taught feminine stuff. Whether they use it or not is up to them." It's not your place to tell people what they should or shouldn't be.. all because of their genitals (!?). That's really arrogant, entitled and rude of you. "Men are raised to be nice amiable drones by their mothers." And you wanna raise them differently. That's all. You wanna…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 01:56 AM
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I said that not everyone is suited for the same lifestyle, just because they have the same genitals. And then he said nobody is suited for masculinity anyway. And I said that the same could be said for women. So how are men fit for masculinity and women are not? Just because you have a penis, you have to be forced to take a class on whatever society thinks you should do, all because of the genitals you have...? If you're gonna argue that men are by nature masculine (and women are by nature femin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:12 AM
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The same thing could be said for women. "Women aren't suited to masculine. It takes hard work, etc." But somehow I doubt that you'd advocate for a 'masculinity class' for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:48 PM
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The culture really does need to create a "masculinity class" to teach boys how to be men, and that class should not have sjw lesbians teaching the boys lol, it needs to be strong masculine men to influence the boys correctly This is such a terrible idea. Your way of living isn't necessarily gonna work for someone else. Not every man is suited to be what society deems 'masculine'.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:06 PM
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I disagree. It's kind of like regular TV. You turn the TV on, channel surf.. Even though there aren't any shows on that you actually truly enjoy deep inside, but you keep channel surfing for a while and watching stuff that you don't truly like deep inside. It's addictive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 09:03 PM
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I actually feel like NetFlix, dating apps, and social media have just as many and even more benefits to society than drawbacks. I'll give you reasons, why if you like? In my opinion, the problem with Netflix is that it's designed to be addictive. The way that they automatically skip the end titles and go on to the next episode. I think it would be probably beneficial to drop Netflix and watch movies/shows elsewhere. Plus Netflix is missing tons of stuff. Most of my favorite shows are not on Netf…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 06:36 PM
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You know what I mean. It's an appeal to unpopularity. Same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:08 PM
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You know what I mean. It's an appeal to unpopularity. Same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:07 PM
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Dude.. it's a debate. We were having a debate. You're the one who brought up minors. I just took the logical angle to its logical next place. It's a thought experiment. A debate. I'm not trying to date minors.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:02 PM
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100% the problem was this guy never escalated with me. I don't think we even held hands. Did you try to escalate yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 04:24 AM
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I do think it might help me personally. But it's hard to find the motivation to work out, etc. when no woman wants you. It also doesn't help when people virgin shame, like in the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:51 AM
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This is appeal to popularity fallacy. Just because the majority thinks something is right/wrong, doesn't necessarily make it so.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:28 AM
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Okay. I stand somewhat corrected I think. It's a good argument. Although I think you at least have to be slightly attractive to a man to get him to agree to fuck you. Though generally not nearly as attractive as a man has to be (to get women to wanna fuck him). Not sure how abortion is equivalent to sleeping with hookers or child killing, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:18 AM
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No idea how those are "equivalents." Neither of these two comments express "equivalents." Where do you guys come up with these "equivalents" from? The equivalent of a woman who slept around is a man who slept around. And the equivalent of a man who slept with hookers is a woman who slept with hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:55 PM
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I don't want a man that other women don't want. How come? You can't think for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:49 PM
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Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 05:07 PM
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Ok where are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:40 PM
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Interesting debate. I've never really understood what it means to objectify/sexualize/fetishize someone. I want to understand it. I made a post about it but it got removed for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:31 PM
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What false impression is it that you think people are under?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 11:18 PM
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How is it being presented as a relationship? I think the unicorn knows the deal. Maybe it's a one time thing, or maybe several times. Regardless, it's not a relationship. Don't you think the unicorn knows what's up?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 01:56 AM
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What makes you think they don't know? And even if there are cases where they don't know, that means the answer is to be more honest and upfront about things. But you say that there's no way to go ethical unicorn hunting. So what's the ethical issue in that case?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 11:52 PM
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Is every woman attracted to Chad? Like in the male gay community you have this thing called 'chubby chasers'. It seems there're no women who are chubby chasers..? It's quite odd, and as a fat man, it makes me feel quite sad. Call me naive, but there gotta be some women out there who are viscerally, physically and sexually attracted to me on a massive level, right? I realize I'm not conventionally attractive, but not everyone is attracted to the conventionally attractive folk, isn't it? But my re…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:13 PM
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The fact that you call people spoiled and entitled because they want partner(s) who's sexually/physically/viscerally special to them and who feel the same way about them in return.. that's the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:03 PM
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"Nope! Women and men should feel attraction to their partner" Isn't that exactly the point? You want partner(s) to whom you feel very attracted, and who feel very attracted to you. That's all. And then people like RainbowsAreAmazing will call you spoiled and entitled for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:00 PM
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That's what you took from this?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 04:32 PM
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What makes you say they don't know?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 04:28 PM
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There are risks involved yeah. But if everyone is aware of them, and they're still willing (and consenting) to go into the arrangement, I fail to see how it's unethical.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 01:56 AM
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I gotta disagree. I fail to see the ethical problem, given that all participants are willing, consenting adults who know what's going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 01:40 AM
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So you're able to do it but you have no idea how?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:29 AM
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What's your secret?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 10:59 PM
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I've been fat for a few years and I haven't had any negative effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:24 PM
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Those are all valid frustrations but none of them are inherently part of unicorn hunting are they? You can engage in ethical unicorn hunting, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 12:39 AM
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How is it predatory and hypocritical? And.. fuckdoll? What do you mean? I'm having a hard time understanding what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 12:14 AM
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I wasn't coming on to you. You seemed to equate virginity with vanillaism, so I'm just trying to provide a different perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 11:40 PM
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Why do you hate them?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 11:30 PM
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Hmmm.. I'm a virgin who wants to be gently dominated in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 11:29 PM
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To me, they're separate worlds. What would they have to do with each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 11:28 PM
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Not to be a dick, but it's "you're" and "than". But that's not heterosexuality. That's the norm. There's a difference between norm and orientation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 11:05 PM
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Women wanting men to be taller, as men want women to be shorter is just basic heterosexuality. It's not basic heterosexuality. Being tall is not equivalent to male. And being short is not equivalent to female.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:24 PM
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"yet the majority of women in YOUR STUDY say they prefer guys that treat them well for dates." Again, you are purposefully leaving stuff out. It says, "However, more than one half also reported a preference for a nice guy over a bad boy as a date. As hypothesized, women who placed a lesser emphasis on the importance of sex, who had fewer sexual partners, and who were less accepting of men who had many sexual partners were more likely to choose the nice guy as a dating partner." Emphasis on "wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:21 PM
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Isn't lifting a masculine thing though?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:02 PM
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Intellect and intelligence are two different things. The word 'intelligence' is a mix of 'intel' (intellect) and 'gence' (to 'generate' (to create)). So 'intelligence' is a mix of the left brain (intellect) and the right brain (creativity).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:49 PM
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I'm sure men aren't any better, but as a straight male (who never goes outside), I'm gonna talk about my impressions with women on dating sites here: Uninteresting: She seems typical, mainstream. The usual stuff, you know.. likes dogs, "make me laugh," "don't be boring," Netflix, brunch, foodie, travelling, hiking, The Weeknd, etc. And she describes herself in the usual, pedestrian, predictable terms, "I'm a loving, sociable, outgoing, fun, spontaneous, cheerful, happy, confident, sense of humor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:31 PM
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So you're not gonna explain anything.. Okay, no idea where all this hostility is coming from. Haven't I been civil? Maybe you could think about healthy communication in the future? All you're doing is encouraging people to keep things bottled up inside, for fear that you will judge them and attack them. You might want to think about treating people with kindness in the future. "even minors, your comment history is gross btw" It's a debate. It's a thought experiment. We're having a debate here. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:18 AM
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So you're not gonna explain anything? You're just gonna keep saying that it's wrong (without explain how it's wrong)? The fact that you have no problem being rude but you have problem with my "whininess" is quite mind blowing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:07 AM
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Why do you find it creepy? "would you seek 12-17 year olds out if you could?" It's a very controversial debate. It's very controversial to even bring it up, but, what is wrong with seeking out 12-17yos? I'm not saying that it's right, but what is wrong with it? There obviously isn't a cutoff time when someone becomes mature all of a sudden. All of sudden, when you're [18? 21? 25?] you're magically mature enough to make informed consent. If it's okay to date an 18yo, why is it wrong to date a 17y…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:58 AM
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So what are you saying? That I shouldn't show interest in people that I'm attracted to? That I should only show interest in people I'm only mildly attracted to? Is that what you want? That the only people who show interest in you are those that are only mildly attracted to you? It seems you're upset by what I said. It was not my intention to upset anyone. I don't know why you're being so rude. It's really not cool. I was being completely honest and open and vulnerable and confessional when I sai…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:47 AM
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Guess I'll disagree with that. "but how are you going to stay together if she has to focus on school and be in school while you're off doing God knows what having already completed your education and stuff?" People are busy regardless of whether they go to school or go to work or whatever it may be. It doesn't really make a difference. Also, not every young person goes to school and not every older person has an education. "When people date to become a family, knowledge and intelligence and ambi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:42 AM
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he was 32 when he asked out the 18 year old 🤢 Just more of that puke stuff. Why is it you can never explain how age gap relations are wrong? You just throw out buzzwords and name calling. "because they’ll have less experience which helps bc of his jealousy issues." That's not exactly what I said. Anyway, I was being open and vulnerable in these replies. And you're using that against me. I don't know why you're being such an asshole. Haven't I been civilized? So why can't you give me the same res…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:37 AM
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I messaged her on Reddit. It was just a few messages back and forth. And no. But again, what does that have to do with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:30 AM
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In war there's a strong chance that you and/or your friends will die, become permanently injured, develop PTSD, or kill others.. often all for a war that was started on false premises. You really need to be able to give informed consent for something like this. It's insane to me to think that sex or romance somehow is supposed to require more informed consent and maturity than war.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:29 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:23 AM
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Thank you. I guess I disagree about the family thing. Most parents might disapprove, but this is where I have to question society's conventions. It makes me wonder why people would disapprove of such a relationship. Sometimes family disapproves, but sometimes family is wrong. If my family disapproved of my partner, I frankly wouldn't listen. It's my own personal choice. If a woman finally shows interest in me.. I'm gonna throw that away, simply because my family disapproves..? That's so silly to…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:09 PM
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I never said that I want to date someone who rejected me. On the contrary. I would have way too much pride to do so. I was just saying that I told that story of being rejected by an 18yo girl, who had an attitude from the beginning. She rejected me for my age, which made me feel sad and old. It made me feel hurt. That's all I was saying. I wasn't saying I would still date her after she rejected me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:05 PM
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I'm a little confused by the questions. How old was I at 18 and what was my life stage at the time? I think things like profession and education, are not the things that make us kindred spirits or compatible. Who cares about someone's education level or their job? That's not what creates a deep connection between people. In my opinion anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:00 PM
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I'll be 33 next month. Before you puke, why do you ask how old I am?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:56 PM
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I didn't ask them why it was wrong to (re)live one's youth. I was asking you. But it was somewhat rhetorical. Why would you assume they're not into me? I feel the opposite. With how bad my luck with women have been (in other words, how high my rejection rate is), it'd be a pretty terrible idea to strengthen my filters on who I take an interest in. If I'm gonna stop taking interest in women under [25?] then my luck is gonna be even worse than it's already been. And so I'm even less likely (than I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:52 PM
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"Are you choosing this person because they don't have life experiences?" I don't only go after really young women, though I would prefer a woman who's really young (like in her late teens or early 20s or mid 20s maybe), because (and I'm being completely open and vulnerable here, I'm not proud to admit these things) I feel there's less rush. She has more time before she loses her beauty and fertility. I wouldn't say I choose someone because they have less life experiences. Though in some respects…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:45 PM
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That's the problem. I told them if they wanna have a debate, let's have it. If you wanna explain how I'm wrong, please do so. But they didn't want to. They just wanted to throw out accusations and call me names. So I don't know why they would assume. One person assumed I wanted to (re)live my youth. Which, is there anything morally wrong with wanting to (re)live your youth? What's wrong with that? All I said was that I felt old, that there was an 18yo girl I was talking to. She had an attitude f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:34 PM
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That's not true though. People were dunking on me, calling me a creep and a freak, simply because I told a story of being rejected by an 18yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:24 PM
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You think going to war is less risky than getting sexually/romantically involved?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:22 PM
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So because she can't get into a bar and maybe she's still in high school.. that means we can't be kindred spirits? I don't get it.. But a woman who's slept with many people (I haven't), travelled the world (I haven't), had many jobs (I haven't), has an education (I don't), and has children (I don't).. I'm supposed to be kindred spirits with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:09 PM
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You're generalizing. You don't know that the person has bad intentions. I've had people call me a creep and a freak, simply because I'm okay with dating an 18yo (I'm 33 next month). How are they supposed to know my intentions? They don't. They just have a problem with me for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:01 PM
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Exactly. I may be desperate, but I really really don't want to settle (and hope I never have to) for someone I'm not attracted to, and who's not attracted to me. It's such a sad thing to think about. Maybe I'm idealistic, but I want my partner(s) to physically/sexually desire me so much that they explode in their pants whenever they think of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:42 PM
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You have at some point looked at someone much prettier than any partner you have ever had or will have and decided they were hot without knowing that they do terrible things. That's very presumptuous. But given the fact that I've had basically zero partners, yeah your hypothetical is not very hard to achieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:38 PM
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Thanks :) Yeah, to be the man that women lust over... that's the dream right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:20 PM
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"I don’t understand, is it that you find no one but your specific type attractive ?" Yeah, that's basically what it means. Like for example, I have a preference for brown women. Does it mean that I cannot find white women or black women attractive? No, but in all likelihood I will find them less attractive than my type (brown women). "It makes little sense to me to limit yourself down to a specific physical feature in a person." It may sound shallow. And maybe I am indeed shallow, but at the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 01:31 AM
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Yeah I hate that 'don't be boring' crap. That's so vague. What does that even mean? Your idea of 'boring' might be completely different from my idea of 'boring', you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 01:08 AM
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Maybe, but the topic is when your partner is more attracted to that person than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 01:00 AM
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if it’s past the 1st or 2nd date or meet-up and y’all haven’t had sex, leave that girl alone. Some people want to get to know the person before they have sex with them. It doesn't necessarily mean they want a monogamous, serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:23 AM
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Maybe, but nevertheless that initial sexual attraction was there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:14 AM
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Maybe I'm a narcissist, but the idea that she's more attracted to that football player down the street, who bullied me in school... no.. Heart breaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:20 PM
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Indeed. That's why I don't wanna be with my looksmatch. I do believe that beauty is subjective though. Maybe it's just a coping mechanism but yeah.. Let's say I'm a conventional 5 and my dream girl is a conventional 5. Most people may not find her attractive, but maybe to me she's perfect, you know? And to her, I'm perfect. Or maybe she's a conventional 10 and she's perfect to me and I am to her. I never liked that saying "play within your own league." I think we should just go for people we fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:50 PM
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Well that's great to hear. I personally would find it heart breaking to have a partner who doesn't physically and sexually desire me, someone who settles for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 03:33 AM
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As an average girl, being with a man who watches porn involves the awareness that she's literally the ugliest woman he sees naked. In this respect, it doesn't seem like porn is the problem. If he's not attracted to you, he's not attracted to you. That's not gonna change, whether he watches porn or not. This whole 'date within your own league' thing is not good. I really hate it. You wanna feel desired, as I do, as we all do. Not that I have an alternative to propose. No one wants to be with thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 03:09 AM
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