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To quote Daniel Sloss: "Wow! What are the odds! 7.5 billion people on the planet, and you found out your soulmate lives 20 minutes away from you."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 04:10 PM
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"The Red Pill" comes from "The Matrix", and is an explicit reference to feminizing hormone pill Premarin, which came in a variety of colors, mainly red. It's simultaneously hilarious and saddening that the metaphor has been completely co-opted and corrupted by incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 07:34 PM
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If Mike is a pussy, who can't stand the thought of his girlfriend being a fully realized person, with emotional needs that need fulfilled in his absence, then option A will prevent further strife in the relationship. If Mike is a real man, and is confident in his relationship with Amanda, option B is best. Never, ever do option C. This is the weakest option, and will definitely cause trust issues. (it's also a pretty common abuse tactic).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 11:50 AM
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As an incredibly popular African proverb (incorrectly attributed to Teddy Roosevelt) once said: "Speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 11:43 AM
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living as a woman means receiving praise and attention much more often than the equivalent man would - but scratch the surface, and it's largely fake. It's not fake, it's shallow. Praising a woman solely on looks is a doomed exercise, because looks fade, boners soften, and the beer googles will unfog in the morning. These "compliments" men provide to women are not fake or insincere, but they apply to a condition that is extremely subjective and can literally change with the wind. A girl that is …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 11:36 AM
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If the only reason you approached a woman was because she was hot and pretty and then you couldn't find anything to have a conversation about, then that is a signal to end the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 11:26 AM
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It originated in incel communities from a character (named Chad) who represented the stereotypically "ideal" attractive male. These days "chad" has become more of a catch-all word to refer to any very attractive male. chad = stud = heartthrob = ladykiller
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:09 PM
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It warms my heart to know that this is the top comment on this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 01:59 PM
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You're right that it is not a fight or flight response. It is a conscious choice made by the woman to rationalize a behavior post-hoc. However, that doesn't mean it's unjustified. The possibility of a man becoming frightening or physically dangerous is very real, and one that many women have contended with at some point in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:09 AM
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Play into it, by all means. If there's an indication of playfulness, that's a very good sign. The error that most men make is when the woman suddenly stops responding to their advances. When that happens, you should stop, and reassess the situation. Too many men just get butthurt and act like "I didn't do anything wrong. Why is she suddenly recoiling? Woman are so fickle!" There are 1 million and 1 things that could have happened that suddenly changed the dynamic. And you acting all entitled abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:03 AM
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Unfortunately, yes. Due to the inherent power imbalance in dating, men are responsible for making their date feel comfortable and secure. Most of the time in dating, the man has a distinct advantage, both physically and socially. As others have noted in this thread, if a woman is truly into you, there's very little you can do that will dissuade her from wanting to get intimate with you. And if she's not into you, there's very little you can do that will change her mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:47 PM
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BREAKING NEWS: Women find men with money/assets/stability more attractive than jobless, inept manbabies. Weather at the top of the hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:20 PM
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Now you're getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:07 PM
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They're even more terrified of rejection than men are They're not terrified of rejection, they're terrified of what the man will do if they reject the man. If you can easily excuse any flirtation as "just being friendly", that gives you a defensible position when the man starts pushing boundaries. Maybe he starts touching you in an inappropriate way. Maybe he's getting a little too personal or sexual in conversation. Even more frightening is that he could become physically intimidating and possi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:03 PM
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That sounds like you're doing great things and trying to make it work. Kudos to you! My stepson is the same way. I'm not "Dad" with a capital D, but he frequently tells others that he "has 2 dads" and it melts my heart every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 11:52 AM
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This is the best answer. As a stepfather myself, being a parent has absolutely 0% to do with whether you are blood related or not. I definitely see aspects of myself in my stepson. It's an inevitable part of spending a lot of time around another human being. Especially children, who are extremely impressionable and will quickly pick up on your habits and mannerisms. His father is also still in the picture, so it's interesting to see the blend of his mother, father, and myself forming the core of…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 11:46 AM
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A lot of ancient cultures were actually quite clean. Soap and other body washes were created pretty early on in human history (around 2800 BCE). While not exactly "ancient", when the Spanish arrived in Central America (early 1500's), the Aztecs were appalled at their horrible smell and general lack of hygiene. Technological advancement does not equal cleanliness, as many an internet neckbeard can prove.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 11:32 AM
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This dude seriously labels puritanical Christian dating norms as "ancient", meanwhile the actual ancient Romans were having pansexual orgies in bathhouses.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 11:15 AM
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"Social media is killing intellectual discourse!" he said, on a website specifically designed to have long, meaningful conversations on any topic imaginable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 12:33 PM
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Considering men are far more biologically and socially susceptible to fall for the sexual manipulation of other women. Okay, so let's assume that this statement is correct (it's not). If men are so easily able to be sexually manipulated into having sex without consent, that wouldn't be cheating. That would be rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 12:50 PM
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I see what you're saying. In your relationship, you both have agreed that coveting and protecting each other in that way is acceptable (and possibly expected) and that's fine. But that's an agreement that you two have made. If one of you breaks that agreement, then you need to reconsider the relationship. However, treating a partner as a thing to be protected and coveted without their consent is not okay. The key part is communication and consent. If you and your partner do not have a mutual und…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 12:31 PM
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Also I don't buy the whole "protecting his territory" attitude is inherently bad. But the way you describe how you and your partner treat intimacy wouldn't fall under "protecting your territory". That would be closer to the "preventing embarrassment", because if your partner showed skin like that and didn't mean to, then you adjusting her outfit is simply a way to help her. The toxicity of it is when you adjust her outfit because you don't like the way other people look at her. If she purposeful…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:56 AM
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The one thing I've always kept in mind when browsing online dating apps: All of these people are doing online dating for a reason. And that reason is generally because normal, day-to-day interactions or average social-life and social interaction are difficult for them. You have to adjust your expectations accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:15 AM
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this is still the equivalent of wanting to buy a ferrari because everyone else is rocking one No, because very few people can afford a Ferrari. Being in a relationship is like owning any car, they all do the same thing, but the quality of the ride is going depend massively on what you started with, and how much you're willing to put into it. There are '91 Toyota Camrys that drive like the day they rolled off the assembly line, and there are 2012 Lamborghinis that are sitting in a junkyard somewh…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:13 AM
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Another man walking past started looking at her butt, and in response the man with the woman, without saying anything, pulled up her trousers to make them a little less revealing. The question here is: would the woman have been upset by the man staring at her butt? Was the boyfriend trying to prevent her from being embarrassed? Or was he trying to "protect his territory"? Because one is a nice gesture to assist your partner, the other is treating your partner like a piece of property. A lot of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:06 AM
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Just before she died, my grandma gave me the best piece of advice: "Women are like trolleys. Another one comes around every 5 minutes."
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 06:33 PM
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First, we need to define attractiveness. For me, personally? Attractiveness is the sum of the Four P's which draw me to a person: Presentation: Are your outward characteristics appealing to me? Personality: Are you a person I could interact with easily? Practice: Do you treat people well? Is your composure stable and agreeable? Past: Are you know for having good relationships with people? Do we have common hobbies and interests? If we rate each of these 4 components on a scale of 1-10 (1 being a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 03:12 PM
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To use a (very) problematic quote from Tropic Thunder: "Check it out. Dustin Hoffman, 'Rain Man,' look retarded, act retarded, not retarded. Count toothpicks to your cards. Autistic, sure. Not retarded. You know Tom Hanks, 'Forrest Gump.' Slow, yes. Retarded, maybe. Braces on his legs. But he charmed the pants off Nixon and won a ping-pong competition. That ain't retarded. You went full retard, man. Never go full retard."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 08:50 PM
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Making your the other person laugh is an important part of any relationship. Laughter is an involuntary reaction, and it releases happy chemicals in the brain. So, of course it will increase attractiveness and connection, regardless of the person's gender or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 06:22 PM
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Sure, you should never expect special treatment from anyone. But it does sting when you find out the only reason someone was nice to you was because they wanted something from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 06:06 PM
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but if [he] doesn't flirt, compliment or otherwise show he's interested that's not going to get him what he wants. Flirting is a tactic for getting comfortable with a stranger. You don't need to flirt with a friend, because you should already have a comfortable connection with them. It wouldn't make sense to just one day out of thin air to ask her out. Why not? You're at an event with some friends and you want to ask her out, just find a time or spot where you two can talk privately and simply a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 05:09 PM
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If you think asking a person behave in a consistent and acceptable manner is entitlement, then I think you need to rethink all of your relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 04:59 PM
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What treatment is she expecting? If you meet someone and they treat you one way and then they suddenly change their behavior, how is that your fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 03:53 PM
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Tommy needs to treat Sally differently if he wants to be in a relationship with her. What does he need to do differently? Is being friends not enough to pursue a relationship with someone? It seems that you (and the OP) are suggesting that the man must "up the ante" so to speak before asking a female friend out on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 03:52 PM
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Maybe Tommy shouldn't be that intense in the first place? The crux of the argument is that Tommy's treatment of Sally is predicated on Sally rewarding him with a romantic relationship. That's entitlement, and it's a major stumbling block for a lot of men when they try to initiate relationships, especially with women. If you are giving something (attention, assistance, etc.) and you expect something in return, it's not altruistic friendship, it's a transaction. Relationships are not a transaction…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 03:31 PM
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Yeah my wife loves my tats. She can't fully express why, but she just finds them super attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 01:55 PM
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decent human being What a fantastically vague goal to aspire to. Thank you for that. ​ good hygiene and a good work ethic "good" is a pretty subjective term here. The standards for "good" hygiene and work ethic are extremely different for different groups and people. I guess a more accurate way of saying this would be "Ensure your hygiene and work ethic match the expectations of the people you want to attract". I highly doubt there are many supermodels who would consider dating an unshaven mount…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 01:53 PM
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Using a vulgar (and misogynistic) phrase like "swimming in pussy" when talking to someone with clearly feminist views is pretty tone deaf. "Lead with your penis" means that you only view the opposite sex as a set of genitals for you to engage in sexual activity. "Swimming in pussy" echoes this by equating women as nothing more than their reproductive organs. You literally did the thing the poster said men shouldn't do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 01:46 PM
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My wife is vegan and she's totally cool with me eating meat. A lot of vegan/vegetarian folks do it for health reasons. Red meat in particular is actually pretty bad for your health. But goddamnit it is so freakin' tasty. If you enjoying cooking or experimenting with food at all, you could try out some vegan/vegetarian dishes. If you can cook a veggie girl a good vegan meal, she'll go nuts for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 11:54 AM
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Here's a (highly simplified) example of what you're describing. Tommy meets Sally. They find a lot in common and become friendly. Tommy likes Sally, in a romantic way. Sally does not know this. Tommy begins doing extra things to appease Sally, because he believes she will reciprocate those things. (btw, this is the red flag. Tommy should not expect anything besides a thank you in return for his actions) Tommy asks Sally to date him. It may or may not be clear to Sally that Tommy had any romantic…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 11:48 AM
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So you're saying that the only reason you want a wife is to have sex with her? Why do you want to have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 11:20 AM
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If you don't want to have a social life, that's fine. But dating, relationships, marriage, childcare ... these are all highly social activities. Why do you want a wife and kids if you don't want to engage in social activity?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:41 PM
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Have you been to these groups? Do you know for a fact that they only have men there? If you're into engineering, have you ever considered going to a conference or even just a seminar about an interesting topic? I know my city has events at universities and museums where they will host a speaker or group that talk about a specific topic in a field of study. There's usually some kind social/networking hour afterwards. This would be a prime time to talk to other people. Even if there aren't a lot w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:36 PM
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So you would never attend an event or go to a place that you knew, with a high degree of certainty, would have activities that you enjoy?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:07 PM
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Can't join groups with the goal of asking them out.(and often there are basically rules banning it). If your only goal when joining a group is to date people, that's a bad reason to join that group. Aside from dating groups and events (like speed dating or a singles night or something) you should never go to an event or group with the sole purpose of asking someone out. Asking someone out on a date should be an organic thing that evolves from conversation. You hit it off with a nice stranger at …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:10 PM
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This is the best, simple, succinct answer. Men are trained from a young age to never communicate needs and to bottle up emotions. And, to no one's surprise, then they explode and do something drastic or violent or become massively depressed and with no warning or seemingly flimsy reasoning. TL,DR: Boys do cry, and we should let them. Healthy emotion regulation requires the ability to express emotions and find ways to fulfill the needs that trigger them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 11:59 AM
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That's not emotional maturity, that's stoicism, which can be very unhealthy in some cases. It's not just about "keeping emotions in check", emotional maturity is more than just recognizing and controlling emotion (stoicism). It's the ability to analyze the emotion and take steps to prevent or promote it. If you are upset and you don't know why you're upset or how to assuage that negativity, then all you're doing is bottling it up for it to explode later. Emotional maturity is being able to under…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 11:54 AM
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Men do get a fair share of sexual assault, but it's nowhere near the same level as women. And when it comes to rape, the difference is mind-blowing. 23.4% of men vs. 43.9% of women experience sexual assault in their lifetime. 1.7% of men experience attempted or completed rape, vs 19.3% of women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 04:20 PM
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Whataboutism is when you purposefully distract from the argument by pointing out that "someone else has it bad too". The poster was implying those issues were exclusively a men's issue. My post was to point out that they are not exclusive to men. It was a direct opposition of their point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 03:59 PM
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Going from the same study I used in my previous post (here, if you're interested), it notes that in a 12-month period, 5.5% of women were the victims of sexual assault, with 1.9% victims of attempted or completed rape. Thats almost 6 in 100 (and almost 2 in 100 for rape!) In your example of 10 dates, that means there is a 50% chance that the woman will experience sexual assault on at least one of those dates. That study also includes the same measurements for men. Even if you consider these numb…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 03:07 PM
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You are not correct. The often-cited "1 in 5" number comes from a study that measured attempted or completed rape. If we broaden it to your definition of sexual assault, the number jumps to a staggering 43.9% (almost half of the female population has encountered some form of inappropriate touching or worse).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:31 PM
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The average person will be in 4 car accidents in their lifetime. The difference is that the definition of "car accident" includes things as minor as a fender bender. Sexual assault is typically more akin to flipping a car at highway speeds. I'd wager a guess that far fewer drivers experience something that horrific.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:12 PM
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Fair enough but the question was for men. Your response is whataboutism. No, my response was pointing out that the issues they mentioned are not unique to men. Their post seems to indicate that only men are being abused and manipulated in these ways, which definitely not true. The fact that you put emotional labor in quotes (and even laugh at it) indicates to me that you lack the kind of maturity needed to understand the dynamics of a relationship. Also, if you consider the risk of sexual assaul…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:30 PM
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This entire post could just as easily be applied in the opposite direction. There are plenty of men who simply date women for looks, money, power, and sex appeal. There are plenty of men who engage in shitty and manipulative behavior to get what they want out of someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 12:40 PM
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Is dating fun for me, personally? Yeah, for the most part I have enjoyed myself on the dates I have been on. ​ ...you are sitting there stewing about the prospect of footing the bill If that's the only thing on your mind, that means that you're not into your date. It's a sign that the date should end. ...really anxious about getting a date This is not a good attitude to bring to a date. It can cause desperation and pressure and frankly, it's kind of rude to bring that kind of negative energy to …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 10:46 AM
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Echoing others here, it's the addiction part. Games are inherently designed to keep you playing as long as possible. Some people are extremely susceptible to it, others not so much. But even someone with a pretty strong resolve can get sucked in if the game really taps into something they really enjoy. I don't consider myself to be a game addict by any means. I play video games maybe about once a week if I'm lucky. But I did play Elden Ring to the point where it was actually causing me some dist…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:20 PM
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I apologize in advance for the rant. ...hold down the conversation by making it playful but not creepy and still interesting... That's not just the goal of the man. Both sides of the conversation have to do this. Men inherently can come off as more "creepy" due to the power imbalance, but I've been on plenty of dates where the woman failed to keep a good, playful conversation. I simply just chose not to go on another date with them. ... plan and pay for the dates This is, admittedly, a hold over…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:48 AM
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Why does that matter? If you're having a positive influence on the child and making their life better, why does it matter that they came from another man? What kind of insecurity do you have that the thought of raising a child who doesn't have your genes is so repulsive?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 05:03 PM
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Who the hell wants to raise another man's an innocent kid? Certainly not a man with an ounce of self respect dignity or courage. Fixed that for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:40 PM
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I wish I had an award to give you. So sad to see so many "men" in this thread too scared or lazy to take care of a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:36 PM
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How selfish are you people? The top comments here are like "Don't put your time and energy into the relationships because the kid will just choose their bio-dad over you anyway." Yeah. and....? I'm not a stepfather because I want accolades and regocnition. I'm a stepdad because I love my wife and I love her child and I want whatever is best for them. I'm okay with the fact that the kid is always gonna choose mom or bio-dad over me. I'm not here for glory. I'm here to make this kid's life better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:45 PM
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It's all about what crosses a boundary and what doesn't, which will be different for each person. "That’s a bold choice of skirt” to one woman might mean Your choice of clothing different and interesting. Whereas to completely different woman, it means You shouldn't be wearing that because it doesn't flatter your figure. Talking about other girls to one woman might communicate I like to brag about my prospects, while another woman may interpret it as You're a fool if you don't want to get with m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:39 PM
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...it is the idea that the average man will be expected to give much more to get much less out of a woman. Do you have some examples? I'm not sure I understand where this is coming from. What does it mean to "give much more to get much less"? What is more? What is less?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:21 PM
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An orbiter is someone (male or female) who befriends and remains friends with someone with sole expectation that someday they may have a romantic or sexual encounter with the person. You can be friends with someone and even do something nice for them with nothing in return and that's not orbiting. But if the expectation of an eventual romantic/sexual relationship becomes the only reason you continue to hang out with them, it becomes orbiting. It's creepy, it's entitled, and it's not healthy. Man…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:14 PM
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The problem with sex work is that as long as it is considered an "undesirable" employment, it will attract the scummiest people to run that business. And that's the danger. Look at the porn industry. It's legal (in the U.S. and other countries), but I would say a woman in that industry fares only slightly better than a prostitute. The job itself needs to be normalized and respected, because otherwise these women will be abused by the system, regardless of its legality. It needs to be run by peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:04 PM
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It would be interesting if there was a way to adjust for consensual sex. Because I suspect men have a number of sexual encounters that the other person would not consider when asked "What's your body count?" Maybe I'm way off, but I don't think many women consider sexual assault or r*pe as an increment to their n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:41 PM
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Depending on where you live, you can probably find something related to your interests that would introduce you to new people. Video Games or Board Games: Find a gaming cafe, look up local gaming groups, keep an eye out for conventions or special events. STEM-based fields and study: Plenty of interest groups and universities have nights where they'll host seminars and talks and then provide a light social / networking hour afterwards. Also, some museums do 18+ and 21+ nights where they're open a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:30 PM
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"Nice guy/girl" comes from the old line: "He's/she's a nice guy/girl, but..." The way it is used in dating is to indicate that there's nothing particularly repulsive about you, but there's also nothing terribly attractive about you either. And when someone says they "just want a nice guy/girl", what they're really saying is: "I wish one of the hot guys/girls I fawned over or dated would treat me better." Because, let's be real, if you could have someone who is both hot and nice, why wouldn't you…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:24 PM
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