TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

Cethlinnstooth Archive

View 0 posts and 2,478 comments by Cethlinnstooth on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Showing the 1,000 most recent of 2,478 comments.
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
-1

As in accept that your desire is such that enjoying your desire in certain ways is going to go really bad for you but enjoying it in other ways is totally fine. Maybe women are better at this than men because we've just come out of some thousands of years of basically just being murdered by patriarchy if we fucked the "wrong" dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 12:44 AM
3

I think there would be far fewer unsuccessful partnerships if men stopped lying to prospective partners and just accepted that it takes time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 12:17 AM
1

You don't need to eliminate desire you just need to recontextualize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 12:14 AM
1

If you're trying to get the acquisition of a significant other to solve or at least not complicate all your problems of reputation and status oh do I have news for you...every new family member is an opportunity for public mortification. This is just how it is. People got opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:52 PM
–

In my experience, men who claim to have standards are frequently just lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:38 PM
5

[ Removed by Reddit ]
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:22 AM
5

Well y'know.... there's a lot of women, myself included, who aren't into having a boyfriend who is really into that sort of martial art. And those that are into having a boyfriend who does MMA...well statistically they're gonna skew a bit more in a particular direction aren't they. I don't know how he could have saved his relationship nor do I care. It's basically none of my business. He should go ask other MMA guys how to deal with that. They're the ones working at that coalface and they are th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:17 PM
0

"one of the most hilarious things one can observe" etc etc etc OP tells us a story about women prefering the picture of a taller more built guy. I think OP probably wasn't laughing about it at the time. Not even a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:47 PM
2

You know what one of the least sexy things ever is? Men who argue with women that women are doing being attracted wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:05 PM
4

The adult world favours the self starting individual. You're not in school any more. The system in the adult world fails you if you can't work out for yourself what the fuck is going on. That's a feature not a bug
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:06 AM
1

Well...the few times it is performed as a matter of medical necessity are different, but most times it isn't medically necessary. And there's a small but tragic number of boy babies who bleed to death after the procedure. When it isn't medically necessary I feel it shouldn't be subsidised by the government, shouldn't be performed in public hospitals, shouldn't be covered by health insurance and it should be illegal to proactively offer it...those seeking it should have to go looking for it. Ulti…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:45 PM
0

If you're willing to do without completely should your standards not be met then you can set your standards wherever the fuck you want. Relationships take time and energy and resources. All that's stuff a person can use for a while lot of different things. They can please themselves rather than please someone else in the hopes that person reciprocates adequately.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:47 AM
2

You forgot the bit where his lifetime of sedentary behaviour catches up with him and his dick isn't as hard as it used to be. And the conversation about when they retire that involves the fact they don't get to retire together....she gets to keep working and also gets to do home care activities to keep him out a nursing home as long as possible. And her seeing elderly relatives on both sides go into nursing homes because they have needs beyond home nursing and the realisation that's about half a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:19 AM
7

The need to get rid of routine circumcision.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:13 AM
1

Yeah. It can involve a physical injury such as catching a disease off it and it can involve financial implications and it can have all sorts of detrimental practical effects and be an annoying waste of time ...but the bit that is mostly what keeps people returning to ruminating on it and let it fuck their reactions to the world and affect their life for decades far more than it should are the ego injury bits.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:49 AM
2

People say that about everyone who is being excessively complainy about relationships. It's like saying we don't care what you say any more because your dysfunction overshadows it completely so shut the fuck up unless you actually want us to drag out and inspect all the reasons you're a douche canoe. And it's not even necessarily a shot about ex partners. It equally covers all the other people who may have caused ego injuries. "Who hurt you?"has you fill in the gap and think of who hurt you. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:09 AM
0

But I haven't heard people saying that about red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:01 AM
-1

I thought redpill's main beef was that they think women not wanting to fuck them is a sort of attack... and they behave accordingly? I mean sure a lot of them get cheated on but a lot of everyone, male of female, gets cheated on. It's the math of cheating innit? A cheater is fucking more people than a no cheater and the chances are excellent just about everyone they fuck gets cheated on sooner or later. Cheating is the kind of behaviour that expands to as many places as the cheater would like it…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:58 AM
–

What happens when you have a situation in which saying the same thing as before is just stupid?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:50 PM
7

I've never been followed home from the train station by a cat lady desperately trying to get me to pat her pussy. But I have obtained much beloved family pets from organisations mainly run and funded by cat ladies. Just saying. Cat ladies have done right by me and my family and my pets for half a century. They are a demographic with a great amount of overall goodwill towards them in the community. They've worked hard for that, to have that, in spite of those few among them who are batshit insane…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:27 AM
3

"never met anyone as interesting as me" "blocked me" You do know that although "interesting" is often used as a compliment it is not always a positive description of someone or something? And not everyone wants to live in interesting times.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 08:41 AM
3

You've probably got a bit more social intuition than the guys who are complaining and therefore have a better sense about a bunch of different things than the guys who are complaining women refuse their coffee date invitations. Like you probably do a little run through in your mind of well how does this go if I ask her on a coffee date after work...how does she get home and how does she get fed after that...oh she looks like probably a public transport commuter I saw her one time in a big warm c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:21 AM
7

Well if you don't want to put in the effort/time/money/thought whatever she wants/needs you say no you don't want to do a meal date...and well a date doesn't happen. And that's okay. You can't make happen every date you want to make happen. You have to accept it and move and move on..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:05 AM
6

Every woman has different ideas about what's acceptable when in the way of dates. We're not obligated to hold the same standards or want the same things. Some of our ideas differ slightly and some of our ideas differ greatly. We're even allowed to change our minds about what we want as our circumstances change. And huge numbers of coffee dates happen. If you think coffee dates are fine but meal dates unaffordable and she doesn't want a coffee date with you well there's some sort of mismatch happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:58 AM
2

I don't particularly concern myself with supporting or opposing trans rights especially in sports because I consider the whole trans experience so alien to me I couldn't even begin and sports one of the most tedious things ever and I really don't care. Nothing against those who do care deeply but it's their fight not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:25 AM
10

It's not that simple. For example we regularly see some quite radically feminist types and some profoundly conservative MRA types being allies on opposing trans rights activists. We see crunchy mom style feminists allied with anti circ MRAs. Absolutely feminists and MRAs can be allies at times on specific issues. It's happening all the damn time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 04:00 AM
19

Politics makes some strange alliances at times. And it's not like there's only one type of feminist and only one type of MRA.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:52 AM
–

It's not a situation "women" have. It's a situation a few women have. And will always be a situation few women have. Just like eager no strings sex leading to a relationship if they want it and moving on to someone else quickly if they don't is a situation few men have. Most men won't even do the dishes. They might promise they will and do it twice then institute a campaign of passive aggression, shirking and weaponised incompetence until its obvious they never will. Just gotta be a grown up and…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:54 PM
–

My life could also be totally different if people did stuff for me that they really don't want to do. Just be a grown up and deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:10 PM
–

Once you're in the desert it isn't about want it is about need. https://youtu.be/s5G9nQTLB0U?si=N2Na-PdpMAD8Df83
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:56 PM
–

I think you should talk this through with the other guys first before bothering us with it. They'll say no. And we won't have to interact with you about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:27 PM
–

You've got access to the same tools we do. You want it done...you do it. Go make the look, the life the legend of it and sell other men on it. Maybe start by being cool and happy and single yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 10:47 AM
1

It's not just about the past. It's about preventing any possible future trajectory. Also to answer your question we'd have to start keeping deliberately collected statistics on whether particular crimes are committed are incels or not...since right now really all we are doing is noticing more obvious cases. Would you like that? It's doable. We could push the government to ask police to assess if a criminal is probably incels and ask the criminal himself if he's incel. I wouldn't be against that.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:54 AM
2

Subjective but it exists as a response in most humans and there's objective ways of describing numerous types of circumstances and attributes that commonly lead to the feeling and a large number of those things are agreed upon by a large number of people as being creepy. It's subjective that I feel creeped out when some guy shows up on my doorstep having secretly followed me home from the train station. That creepy feeling is happening in my brain it's subjective. It's however an objective fact …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:11 AM
–

Some of them are going to be a bit monstrous it's just a statistical reality. I'm not about to play a hug version of Russian Roulette where there's six lonely guy friends I know but not quite well enough to really know and I'm banking on the chances none of them is going to turn a few hugs into years of misery and stress for me. They can maybe start to hug each other more. They don't hug each other at all. Maybe in some other countries the guys hug each other but not so much here. That's a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:09 AM
–

Dude. I used to work at a workplace hiring lots of fresh highschool leavers to their first full time job. I've seen something similar happen to many girls who went from having all girl friend groups because they went to all girl schools, and as they accumulated a workplace social circle decided to treat the lonely male dudes they were getting in their workplace friends like they would treat female friends who are in need of a hug. It's always a bad idea to hug a guy unless you are damn sure how …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:46 AM
–

You're not a smart normal person if you can't/won't while living in a small town make the effort to find acceptable ways to meet people on one or more of the levels that interacting with small town social life requires. You might be smart. You might be normal. But you're not smart and normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:32 AM
–

This. In December you decide your New Year's resolution is to help fix men's touch starvation. In January you hug a bunch of desperate touch starved men in your social circle. In March you're being actively stalked by three of them and two others have called you prick tease or a gold digger or a ho or just seeking orbiters or whatever else they feel will hurt you most. By July half of your friends actually think you are a problem because they've heard so much shit being talked about you. No than…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:25 AM
1

They could do the political lesbian thing and set up two parent female led households
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:19 PM
0

It's not something I see or hear about unless it is through here..Forced to conclude the algorithm is at play. Anyhow there's a simple statistical observation to make and with social media we have the tools to keep track of people from our past and thus the ability to make this observation... about half the men we thought were possibly good men and maybe possibly worth a second look at age twenty were actually somewhere in the just barely adequate to actually good range and are married, and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:05 PM
0

Yes. One of those choices is the choice to make a man's life comfortable for him. Women gotta stop doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:39 PM
0

Dude... everyone who isn't a weirdo with no social aptitude reassesses someone when they find out the person has held hidden intentions towards them. And even some weirdos with low social aptitude learn to. .Maybe your friendship survives that reassessment and maybe it doesn't. And most people aren't anywhere near as careful as they need to be to not do anything that in retrospect will be assessed as unacceptable. And in particular... people who have done more socialising recently with NPCs in g…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:36 PM
5

They're violent enough and have enough crossover with other batshit insane ideological groups that I think governments should actively monitor them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 02:20 PM
3

I count the Bondi Junction stabbings in with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:04 PM
1

It isn't immoral if you aren't lying or behaving in a misleading manner. It's not particularly nice but it's not immoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:40 AM
–

That usually depends how much iodine is in the soil in which the crops you eat are grown.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:55 AM
9

Well you're going to need to not have your hand on your dick and eyes on the screen multiple times in your life if you want to amount to anything of worth. We just disagree about how much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:53 AM
1

It's not a difficult thing to understand. Hidden intentions are disconcerting and when discovered lead to reassessments. Whether that intention be romantic or not. The classic example that isn't romantic is someone at your new workplace is being all friendly and you maybe go out for a drink with them to discuss something happening at work and they are always interested in talking about your hobby which people usually think is boring then they invite you and your life partner out to an event...an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:43 AM
0

Property prices and the role of real estate in financial security. Western women who are responsible humans would rather keep earning and saving money towards a partnership that can work effectively to give a family financial security. Getting in a relationship where financial security is unlikely is regarded as dooming an entire family to poverty for many generations to come. Western women who aren't responsible humans are similar to every other irresponsible person of any gender in any country…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:16 AM
3

No. No it doesn't mirror normal dating preferences. For starters, women bloody hate the lack of both honesty and restraint men show when they think they have privacy and have deserted the apps in droves. The apps show you the preferences of the women who have decided to tough it out and stay. And in many cases those women aren't treating the apps like their primary form of making contact with men, instead treating the app like a lottery ticket...they may win big but they aren't expecting any win…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:34 AM
–

It's an almost perfect lead in for a joke that's been being told about short guys for longer than I've been alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 07:19 AM
–

"I simply want to stand up for short guys..." Oh god, don't give me straight lines like that, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 07:06 AM
1

The functioning adult explores their neighbourhood if they have the time to and no major impediment to doing so. I find it shocking when people who live in comparatively safe neighbourhoods tell me they've got nowhere to go because they've got no money for transport and I suggest maybe they could get in the habit of taking a regular walk when the weather is acceptable and explore everything in walking distance for possibilities...and they act like that's some form of insanity. Yes I know some ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 02:36 AM
1

Eh. Being predictable is bad too. If he knows you'll stay where you are exactly how you are without marriage...once again no incentive and no urgency. The trick is to have the chaos and change that keeps very very mildly threatening the relationship be undeniably good stuff that is a sign of positive change and increasing worth. She's got a new better paid job and has to go to Canberra for two weeks training. She entered an art show and now she has sold a few paintings and some rich handsome guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:16 AM
2

Some of them just get preggers to force the matter...if he won't marry you then he never will. It is therefore a somewhat risky lifestyle for a man. I'm in the odd situation of that being something I would never do or recommend...but am strangely ambivalent about other women who have done it. Sort of like how I feel about the occasional householder beating some teenage shithead within an inch of his his life when he catches the kid tagging his fence. Terrible terrible terrible buuuuuut...not wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:40 PM
1

Young people look sort of like babies to most older women. There's not much room left for lust if your first thought on seeing a shirtless young guy jogging isn't "broad shoulders yum" but is instead "I hope he wore sunscreen"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:45 PM
1

Are you circumcised?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:29 AM
0

It's not just traumatic experiences that get recontextualised, it's literally everything that gets recontextualised. Your mind automatically goes looking for things like what you are experiencing now and like what your child is experiencing now to better understand what you and your child are experiencing now. And this parenting ends up being a deep dive into one's experiences of childhood...one's own childhood, the childhoods you have witnessed both when you were yourself a child and when you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:34 AM
0

Yes they're going to make their own friends. That's why if you want them to have some some carefully selected friends you gotta start young. While you still have that control. I wish you all the joy and discomfort of seeing your own childhood and the childhoods of your peers that you witnessed as as child suddenly from the perspective of a parental adult. New experiences will jog your memory of old experiences to be reprocessed by you as you are now not you as you were then. It's often a bit of …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:42 AM
0

Two. Both adults now. You however come across as definitely having not sent kids to school yet...its when your kids get to school that you are most likely to lose your blind spot and realise how differently people do things...or living very tightly confined to a homogeneously working class and/or rural environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:56 PM
1

"just women who happen to be in the same area" Is actually a really good start to the screening process for a middle class person looking to find contacts. "A friend they only see on school holidays" Generally the people who deliberately collect play date options for their kids are also cultivating that collection of people all year round. As in there's a bbq most weekends, and usually they make sure to own a few items of major play equipment such as a swimming pool, a trampoline, a cubby house …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:29 PM
1

Like any other sort of advice it's best to just try to understand why it is being recommended, what it is trying to deal with. Then you'll have a better idea of if any individual part of the advice is relevant to you in some future situation. It's all somewhat functional advice...in specific situations if you're trying to get specific results with men of specific mindsets.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:47 AM
2

Well if he hadn't have had parents who gave him a car, money for petrol and let him live in the original house on a large lot they were building five other small houses on it wouldn't have worked. A job is still damn useful for most. I still scratch my head about how bloody stupid he was. If he'd got his act together, started putting effort into his degree and supporting the fact she had a job, then got himself literally any sort of halfway acceptable job after graduation he'd have solved most o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:14 AM
0

It's an entire world out there. And I have no doubt you've got some transferable skills for exploring it...you all don't seem to have trouble exploring a new game or porn website or dating app. Going out doesn't get you a girl. It definitely gets someone else any girl you might have had...if you choose to stay home
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:47 AM
1

Well yes. I'm not actually angry at men for not intervening. It's understandable that people prefer not to intervene. Intervening can go wrong. I'm angry at them for getting angry that women prioritise their own personal safety over men's general desire to talk to women they don't know...in a world where quite clearly there's usually no back up coming from men if a woman lets a stranger talk to her and it all goes to hell. If it's none of their business when some guy breaks the law to victimise …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:41 AM
0

It's real simple. I'll reduce it down to a simpler analogy to help even morons get the idea. Imagine a bunch of people. They're young and as is often the case they seek to establish someone's house as being a hangout house. Person A had been inviting everyone to come over whenever they want but there's a lot of general hassle with that and person B was the literal worst. Nobody else seems to care to stop person B doing what they do. Person A for a while contemplates just banning person B. Then c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:42 AM
2

Yeah that's basically how things go. If you're adjacent to or in some scene with a lot of sexually unsuccessful guys you see how it is. And when they do find someone they often manage to screw it up. Friend of mine eventually got together with a young woman who had just shifted from a rural area to the city. Another friend set them up...he could drive her round show her the city help her move in to her new place and maybe that extended period of time in goal directed activity together would work…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 04:50 AM
1

Men don't owe me protection. They owe it to themselves to shut the fuck up about how I choose to protect myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 04:27 AM
0

"SAHD during summer vacations" I'm not surprised. It's really hard to get a play date dynamic... most mothers have maybe half a dozen unrelated kids whose house they let their kids go to and some of those will be kids they met because they went to antenatal classes with the mothers...some because they work or went to school with the mothers...and some that they've courted pretty damn heavy to make sure their kid has access. Parents mostly don't get to control who their kids go to school with but…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 03:12 AM
0

You're a man I'd choose the bear over. If a guy says it's okay to beat someone because they didn't give a number, I'd rather be dodging a bear than dodging them. Just sit down in your seat and I'll keep making sure men don't get to have conversations with me on the train. You don't have to do anything but mind your own business.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:24 AM
1

Eh. If you want me to be willing to talk to weirdos and possible weirdoes on the train and let them attempt to chat me up, you and all your friends might also need to be willing to put a fist repeatedly in a weirdos face if he gets angry and starts yelling and raising his fists to me or tries to stalk me off the train because he chatted with me for fifteen whole minutes and still didn't get my number. I don't assume you're going to be willing to do that so therefore I avoid and as much as possib…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:14 AM
1

The acts of repeatedly and consistently not going outside, not socialising, pretty much guarantees someone a girlfriend...just it's not the shut in guy who will be that someone who is getting that girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:02 PM
0

Yes some people find going outside and looking around to be extremely difficult and to contain no pleasure. They're low value if you're not that way yourself. They're going to be a constant drag on anyone who is not that way and if they have a family they will be a drag on the development of the children. Most bizarrely though, they seem to think that extroverts should be making more effort to access them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:18 PM
6

Hi. I'm a volcel in her fifties. I don't go to the gym, I do my exercise alone at home. In my underwear. In winter I start from dressed in sweats over leggings and end in my underwear most times. Summer I just start in my underwear. I wore loose clothes when I used to go to the gym. I hate being approached and somehow being a fat old bitch in loose clothes never seems to stop the approaches. I guess I had to wear an entire condo to stop the attention? I can't really blame other women for still u…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:52 AM
1

You do know one can think spiritually and come up with very similar, possibly even more dehumanizing results? God gives to the godly both resources and attractiveness. To be closer to God one should date a Chad or a Stacey with a good job. There's a great many Christians who think exactly that way. Probably similar shit in other religions. Stuff about reincarnation and being lower class because of being punished for previous lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:39 AM
7

One of the reasons guys issue meal invitations is that it's kind of difficult to persuade an office worker who commutes to work to instead stick around in town after work if they aren't getting fed. And there's really only so many days in a week that aren't office days and only so many weekend date appropriate times that aren't around about lunch or dinner in the day. A man who looks good in his profile but is weird and off putting in person is playing the numbers at the first date stage and lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:26 AM
13

How about instead of giving people prescriptions for what they should or shouldn't do, you just confine yourself to discussing common dynamics and let them assess where they personally stand in regards to those dynamics? There's exceptions to all of it...not everyone cares for the hype around a first baby for example, they may have seen a sibling go through that and personally think shoot me now whenever contemplating living in a household that is heavily invested in getting the exact perfect mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:54 AM
11

I don't regard restaurant dates as mandatory at any specific point in dating but I don't think I could ever in my life have contemplated ever ever ever sleeping with a man I had never eaten a proper meal with. Knives and forks and spoons type of meal. Appropriate behaviour at table is such a huge revealer of upbringing, socialisation and ability to consider others. I don't come from a tipping culture so for me it's nothing to do with tips. It's whether he can eat without repulsing all around him…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:54 PM
–

Plus whatever extra time and energy women had in those climates was usually put into textile production and food preservation and firewood gathering...not making a fancier dinner. Because winter. Winter will fucking kill you if you don't have textiles, fuel and stored foods. So like a thousand different varieties of ham, preserved sausage and hard cheese. But only a dozen different types of stew.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:57 PM
1

I'm also not a licensed meteorologist but we don't need a weatherman to know which way the wind blows.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:52 PM
–

I think that if you're not emotionally or cognitively capable of requesting all such tests...be they for disease, pregnancy, paternity whatever needed consequent to your sexual activity you probably shouldn't be having sexual activity in the first place. You're not ready. You're not capable. Thus I think maybe compulsory tests should be required if the putative father is underage or under some sort of guardianship order due to mental incapacity. Everyone else should put on their big boy pants an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:57 PM
7

I think I will stay home and give my bathroom ceiling it's yearly preventative mold treatment instead of going on a date with any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:47 PM
0

Yeah whatever. People who marry don't know how it will affect them. People who have kids don't know how it will affect them. That's how youth is... lacking in insight. It's part of the human condition, suck it up buttercup.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:46 AM
2

Lol. If there's anything you guys hate more than noticing, it is mentioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:45 AM
3

Do you seriously think a neurotypical person wrote what we just read?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:53 AM
8

Plausible deniability is in the grey, and unsurprisingly people with autistic tendencies sometimes have difficulties dealing with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:31 AM
5

No. They're at an advantage because they know men better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:03 PM
7

Marketing hires are often the same sex as the target demographic. They should for best results apply for marketing jobs selling products that men buy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:31 AM
2

Nothing stopping the tech dudes applying for a job in marketing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:24 AM
2

No that's not the long house that's just one of the ways to market things to gen Z and gen Alpha. Y'know. The girls you're intending to have a chance with when you age like wine not milk, and will describe as terribly mature for their age. Musk's pet MRAs don't appear to like young women joyously laughing at themselves. It maybe shows a little too much resilience and adaptability for their liking? We're supposed to all our lives take ourselves terribly seriously so when we get negged or mocked i…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:09 AM
0

Nut up, man up, put on his big boy pants... however one describes it these guys are strongly opposed to that sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:35 AM
-1

It's not solved because they are deceitful and aren't telling you the whole truth about what they want. They don't want to do that because asking the woman to pay for herself means they've opened themselves up to it being acceptably polite for her to attempt to negotiate a different venue. Which leads not to their preferred outcome of her going out with them to a low lit restaurant and break her meal plan totally and eat a full meal and drink several glasses of wine and end up swimming in feel g…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:09 AM
2

Especially because he walks up with two drinks. Like hey chicky babe you fine looking woman just come off to the side away from your friends with an average looking man who probably doesn't have much chance usually with a fine looking woman and immediately drink this drinky drink he offers you that you didn't watch being prepared. He's an idiot. I've got no problem with idiocy being made a little painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:36 PM
1

You know who has it worst and gets rejected most painfully and mockingly? Idiots. Idiots have it worst. Whatever gender you are you're probably not getting regularly mocked and hurt much during rejections if you're not an idiot. All of you trying to prove your gender had it worst are just trying to prove your gender had more idiots. Stop being so cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:20 PM
1

Well it's attractive for a man to be in a particular size range so all other things being equal a guy who is the only one in that height range makes a better first impression than his identical but shorter friend. But ummm... that's true with any instantly observable physically attractive characteristic. And how many times is everything else equal, really. And seriously most cold approaches fail because they are cold approaches not because the guy lacks a particular aspect in their first impress…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:14 AM
1

But we learned it from you. All those ugly ass badly dressed socially inept guys with smelly breath who approach us at the train station or the supermarket or while we're sitting with friends drinking coffee. Those guys are the dregs but don't seem to be regarded by men as having a problem...other men vigorously defend their behaviour. Well if that's how things are, if people don't gotta keep to their lane... it's surely okay for a girl to scrape up enough money for membership at the local boati…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:26 AM
25

What changed was that technology got better at forming introverted and autistic young men into creatures whose purpose in life is to be consumers of online products. Games, porn, apps. The outside world didn't vanish. Certain types of male just stopped interacting with it voluntarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:06 AM
5

As adverse dating app experiences go that's fairly mild compared to most women's adverse dating app experiences. I can definitely understand why he's getting no sympathy. Newsflash for the app using dudes... women actually read your app profiles, if your pictures are all tickety boo but you never get a match from someone you think is close to your level then check what you've written.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 10:26 PM
6

Well for me it's because a guy who uses hookers is usually gullible and/or a spendthrift.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:23 PM
3

Well if you think those are the only reasons someone might have kids you're very much correct in not choosing to have kids. I'm not going to attempt to convince you otherwise. Nonetheless...people change as they get older and some of them change priorities around having kids. And even if you did see your mother that way at least you'd be alive to see her that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:32 AM
0

Well y'know...if they've boxed themselves into a corner then they've only got so many choices. They need to pick their poison. And it isn't like all kids of couples do well and are free of behavioural issues or all kids of single mothers are a mess. It's themselves, their resources their drive they got to look at to make that decision...the statistics are just one data point in that decision and the decision itself is about a specific situation not an average.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:03 AM
4

I don't think it's usually the women who have sort of tried off and on all along, however lazily, and just couldn't find a suitable man who have major problems. In my experience they've had a chance to come to terms with it and they give up with barely a murmur in their early thirties. The categories that I've seen have serious problems coming to terms are women who married with intent to have a kid then there's infertility issues, women who thought all along they didn't particularly want kids a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:36 AM
1

It's men's almost total lack of standards that makes women's extreme attention to standards necessary. It's like being on the roads and half the people drive like maniacs, never checking the blind spot, speeding and just pulling out into traffic whenever they want. And then they have the goddamn audacity to complain how carefully and defensively everyone else drives. In dating we've got that dynamic where men's recklessness has not only in effect appointed women the sole guardians of whether swi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 11:50 PM
2

Well it's the same for women...if groups of men aren't bitching that we won't fuck them because they are brokeass (insert the song "no scrubs here" to irritate these exact men https://youtu.be/FrLequ6dUdM?si=caRlgP4id7cOe3fI ) they are bitching because some pretty girl who goes to the gym and is working the MacDonald's counter doesn't have higher economic standards and won't give their tedious bland pudgy middle class engineer self the time of day and instead probably prefers to date a handsome …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:40 PM
4

The law can't make people like you, respect you, want you, love you. These can't be legislated for. Unhappy relationships in which someone is not getting needs met are also not the wonderland of joy for the slightly happier partner that your adolescent mindset seems to think they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:19 PM
–

When I assessed my chances I wasn't interested in whether I personally knew anyone. I live in a properly developed first world country that collects fairly accurate statistics. The data is there. What I was interested in was not some statistically average woman's chances. I was interested in my personal chances. Because my body and mind are my body and mind and not necessarily statistically average. And I wasn't just interested in mortality but also morbidity. I made the decision to have a kid t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:09 AM
3

I just let it get a bit dry between waterings in cold weather and gave it a pinch of osmocote fertilizer balls if the weather was warm but it hadn't grown in a week or two. Sometimes I worried a little that it would cook in the window during heat waves but eh...it got too large to be easy to move out of the window so I just gave it more water and hoped. Admittedly it was hoya carnosa and thats apparently an easy one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:36 AM
3

I don't understand how people tolerate hoyas inside. During the pandemic a woman on Facebook just a short walk away was selling hoya cuttings so I went and got some and put them in water where they took forever to make roots then I planted them all in one pot of potting mix and put them in an east facing window. They grew huge and lush and I looped the vines over the curtain rod to keep them all in the sun and then one year they flowered and the smell was so strong I could barely breathe. Walked…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:23 AM
4

Well... y'know...loss or lack of sexual desire always is in a context? And that context is going to vary. I mean maybe she's never shown much desire. Maybe she felt desire but just stopped after some event... possibly an argument where her feelings got badly hurt or maybe after he cheated or...well there's a lot of different possible contexts. Maybe she's got medical issues like chronic pain and never will enjoy anything physical again. So maybe he doesn't want to deal with addressing the contex…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:38 AM
5

A lot of men don't wish to lose access to duty sex and end up in a relationship that only involves sex if she can become aroused.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 11:44 PM
1

I don't think I've said it is easy Just that some men seem determined to make it more difficult for themselves than it needs be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 02:25 AM
3

Women's response to finding dating apps to be shitty is usually to get off the apps and formulate a real world strategy for meeting appropriate men. And after coming to that conclusion themselves they invariably think certain men who act like apps are the be all and end all are kind of stupid for remaining trapped in a monkey trap. https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/monkey_trap So yeah if you want attractive women to think average men are not only blah in looks but also dumb as dogshit....you go rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 12:53 AM
3

The reason I laugh mockingly about men who want sex robots but not women who want sex robots is because I have greater faith that women will keep the Chadmeister 2030 at home in the bedroom closet, cleaned and sanitized and ready for use and I will never have to deal with it, but the chances are fairly good that if sex robots become available one day I will encounter a dude taking his Stacycocksucker 2030 out with him on the train and she's gonna be a grubby stained hot mess who smells like five…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:38 PM
6

I haven't noticed attractive fathers being particularly bad at parenting on average? I've noticed a greater tendency for incompetent guys and lazy guys to be both worse at parenting and worse at being attractive. Same causes, right? Incompetent men and lazy men are more likely to be fat and not muscular, not have good skin or teeth, have poor hygiene, not know how to talk to people in a charming way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:27 PM
–

Well you do you. Me? I'd be more scared of of the girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:13 PM
–

Women would know what people are doing and why better. Better at getting in your head. It's the same as how I'd rather have to keep a secret from a male housemate than a female one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:06 PM
3

Prenups are a personal matter and I don't think it is wrong to want one or not want one. People are allowed to conceptualize love in different ways and often do so because of the environment they grew up in and examples of love they've seen. That's all fair enough. If someone believes that a prenup is the only way to protect love....or they believe that a prenup is a sign of insufficient love...well there's some argument to be made for both those points of view. The only issue I've got with pren…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:03 PM
–

Yeah whatever the spiders in webs strung between trees aren't usually medically significant species. Do the same with the round bodied little redback bastards found in the garden shed I will grant you a little awe
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 05:52 PM
–

I think as traditional warriors, men for the strength and personal willingness to get hurt...but I would be 1000 percent more scared of being hunted through a city by female drone operators.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 05:48 PM
2

She actually has significant economic worth on the homestead and you are competing against that to get her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 09:31 AM
3

Well for starters, any time before the industrialization of spinning and weaving you would have been competing against her worth to her family in making textiles. You would need to offer a bride price and be regarded by her family as someone worth being associated with on a continuing basis. And yeah a failed marriage was shameful and so her opinion of you would usually be taken into account too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:07 AM
4

I rate him 0/10. On account of him being dead which is very unattractive... significantly more unattractive than being fat, bitchy and old.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 04:53 AM
–

Because a lot of them are looking for one special asexual person they can be with the rest of their lives. Sort of like a brother or sister of choice? Someone they can share a house with, maybe share a room with, share resources and friends with, wake up and have breakfast with, share hugs with etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 11:32 PM
3

I don't know what could be done about either of them nor do I care. Those are personal problems not ones for collective action.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:19 AM
2

Yeah. It was a bit of a shock to me how deprived the situation was. I rocked into town to take up employment and omg...it felt like there was nothing. I had a boyfriend back in the big smoke but FFS....I wasn't about to stay home if a tribute band for some artists I actually like was playing one Friday night. I mean what the fuck else was there to do? Of course I was going to find a workmate who also wanted to go and go with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 07:51 AM
14

What clubbing is about varies? There's a huge difference between different nightclub scenes in different towns and different subcultures. For example I currently live in a population centre of over a million people. There's nightclubs with live entertainment, there's nightclubs centred on heavy drinking, there's nightclubs designed to hookup, nightclubs that tolerate drugs, night clubs that are places to go to be seen, nightclubs for gays nightclubs to dance nightclubs with an avant garde vibe e…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:00 AM
66

Orgasm gap isn't taken seriously at all. It's basically acknowledged it exists then fuck all is done about it. So yes I agree the orgasm gap and male sexlessness are on a par with each other. Things people talk about and nothing collective is done about or should be done about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:12 AM
1

You're acting like both couldn't be factors at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 01:48 AM
1

Dating is always going to make a lot of people uncomfortable especially when they first begin dating...this is not a bug it is a feature. Many people need their assumptions and sense of entitlement challenged by interactions with reality. Many people need to learn to stick up for themselves and have appropriate boundaries. I do agree that things have changed but what I feel has changed is the increased dopamine providing capacity of other inexpensive activities. It's become easier to start on th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 07:25 PM
1

I don't think anyone should seriously date someone who they don't think they could potentially make a happy and sufficiently prosperous life with should that person not drastically improve in major ways. I'm not saying don't date them at all...if you know you're capable of having a fling then walking away maybe plan to do exactly that. But if you tend to start serious or readily become serious you should avoid people who are not currently firmly starting somewhere you approve of and on a traject…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:14 PM
2

I personally see vaginal orgasm from PIV as an unnecessary novelty. I mean yeah sure I can with a fair bit of messing about to be fully prepared and do the right things...but like...why bother? The dick is an instrument that lacks finesse. Even if a man's good with his dick and has the perfect dick size shape etc he's still going to be better with his tongue and hands and I'm still going to be better with my hands than he is with tongue, hands and dick. Men have to be worth it as companions and …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 01:33 PM
0

Fat and childed status are not the only factors under consideration and never will be the only factors under consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 01:24 PM
1

If she doesn't feel like being called upon to come up with a conversation topic well that's her...she's not representative of women in general or people in general and for all we know it isn't even broadly representative of her and he just hit a nerve...that happens you know in communication...she may have read what he wrote and immediately heard the voice of some massive asshole she has known in the past. It's the price you pay for approaching strangers and especially the price you pay for appr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 03:22 AM
2

Because they don't have anything better to be doing with themselves.and because the things that are necessary to be successful with women overlap considerably with what is necessary to do well in general and thus the marginal utility in giving up on dating isn't that great if you're still trying to do well in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:55 PM
6

Yes. Back when I went through highschool, computer education was in its infancy. They let us have access to ELIZA on the BBC computers we were learning BASIC on. It feels like the way ELIZA would start a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:33 PM
2

She may be good at conversation. She's just not being what he defines as good at that one conversation on that one day. And that's fine. He's still got everything he came in with. He hasn't lost anything. And it doesn't warrant coming to Reddit to get them to hold his hand and comfort him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:29 PM
0

If you go talking to strangers, sooner or later you're going to encounter strangers who are difficult to understand or who don't mesh well with you or who you feel you just can't get a handle on or who just feel prickly. That's normal. This is the case for everyone even quite attractive people... people tend to work harder to please attractive people but that doesn't mean this never happens to highly attractive people. It doesn't mean they're like that with everyone or on every day or with every…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:13 PM
2

Getting that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:21 AM
–

It depends what you're calling low, what you're calling high, what age man you're talking about and it depends what women you're taking about being attracted to him? There's basically a curve? And that curve is different at say age 18 than it is at age 58. And at some point on the curve a man with a lot of ex partners starts becoming less attractive to women who take commitment seriously. So let's take say you're talking age 25. A 25 year old man has had no partners. That's probably for a reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 10:11 PM
4

Yes a lot of men don't think of themselves as fat just because they haven't got a huge overhanging belly yet, just a definite thickening in the waist/hips...but they in effect do have all the pounds that should be muscle at their weight taken up by fat. Skinnyfat. There's basically an ideal range of body composition for men and and ideal range of body composition for women. And the ideal range of body composition for men involves more bone and muscle and less fat. Not necessarily such that he lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 05:58 PM
11

Well... what's high is relative isn't it? For.example... a skinnyfat sedentary man 30+ with a low paid job, strong autistic tendencies and no particular charm, who holds a bunch of beliefs most women find repugnant and has so far not managed to persuade any woman to touch his penis, I suggest that "not fat" and "no kids" are actually extremely high standards, relative to his own RMV and SMV. I suggest that my example...let's call him Steve...is actually closer to Bob but thinks he's closer to Jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:49 AM
–

Buying real estate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:14 AM
–

It's important lifestyle preference information if you're looking for a long term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:55 AM
0

I haven't read 50 shades...it just didn't appeal enough or offer enough utility to make it to my reading pile. So y'know...even if that was a valid argument (I don't think it is because lol if even kinksters think something is creepy...but whatever) it still doesn't apply to me. Old men chasing young women are creepy creepy creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:20 PM
3

Women don't tend to see dating apps as a reliable source of life partners. Women who want life partners focus mainly on developing their social circles. Women like that are still on dating apps as a...how to explain this...well imagine you've got a disease like cancer. You go to the doc and get chemo or radiation therapy or surgery or whatever the fuck. Then you also decide to take some vitamin C. Extra couple of tablets a day. You do it for a week then forget. Is the vitamin C gonna work? Proba…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 07:47 PM
23

Same with my daughters. Who are currently in the 20 to 25 age range. Their opinion is "Ewwww" too. It's not a lot of girls who have it hot for old dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:25 AM
15

Creepy is a subjective experience. It's creepy if it creeps enough people out. And yeah when I see a young woman having an expression on her face that means she's feeling about that wrinkly old creep the way I would have felt when I was her age, I think she and I are in agreement... it's creepy. If you're an old dude feel free to keep introducing yourself to young ladies until you find one who doesn't find it creepy or is willing to endure a little creepyness if you keep spending. But ummm... do…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:51 AM
72

Well I certainly remember finding 40 year old men who were "interested" incredibly creepy when I was twenty. Ewww. Dirty old men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:27 AM
10

Give us something worth chasing and maybe we'll chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 04:59 PM
–

Maybe? Get your eyes checked you might need glasses now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 11:52 PM
–

Just because I'm not willing to pay for something doesn't mean that I will get the life I prefer without it. I'd burn the whole place down if the government started charging me for breathing I don't want a condom. I gave up men in 2017.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:44 PM
–

I think most girls nowadays would immediately decide that's probably a bad case of madonna/whore thinking on your part. Yeah you'd definitely be rolling the dice on the future of the relationship there. And no it isn't being a "girl boss" it's just... sometimes when you realise you've just had a peek into a can of worms it's easier not to open up the whole can of worms and try to deal with it. Just put the lid back on the can real quick and walk away like nothing happened, it can be someone else…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:41 PM
–

I'm not a man...I'm a woman. It's clear that men don't particularly value a lot of the benefits they receive from women. And that's a large part of why I don't want relationships with men any more. Isn't my job to be keeping his worthless arse more alive, healthy and socially respected and have it counted as nothing. He can live in a nest of dirty underwear, used pizza boxes and spiders that have come to live on the critters that eat the pizza rinds. My time is better spent providing benefits to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:21 PM
–

Well it's clear that people don't tend to calculate such things as a benefit for the purposes of working out if the relationship is fair. "I don't need the house to be that clean, tidy and presentable" is a classic example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:14 PM
0

Exactly. Nice looking phenotype. If you wanted to write a romance novel you could easy just use his physical characteristics minus the face tattoos for the main male character without any fuss. Nobody will ever know. The women jonesing for a piece of him they aren't gonna get are a bit crazy but aren't any more crazy than the idiot males who think that Kohlberger guy is a sweet innocent woobie not a batshit insane murderer just because they see somewhat of themselves in him. Very similar crazine…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 09:19 PM
3

Eh. The ones that want anything to do with him are crazy. The ones who admit they still like the packaging even though what's in the package is a do not want, those are actually incredibly sane....saner than most people. They are the ones who see clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:21 PM
0

The creeps is that sense of deeply worrying uncertainty about whether another human being's behaviour is going to cross societal lines of acceptability to profoundly harm you. It can be evoked in a number of different ways some of which involve very clear cut logic and some of which are more intuitional. A creepy guy is a guy...who gives you the creeps. It's like attractiveness in that there's kind of a heat map? Some things are creepy to more people than some other things are. I suspect you sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 08:33 AM
4

I think you and I have different definitions of having it easy. Your example 1. I, like most people, see having a regular SO in college who is on your level or just below or just above (functionally at the same level) and who you get to regularly indulge in sex with as what constitutes having it easy. I don't see having a very active dating life in college as having it easy, I see that as having made a problem for yourself. If you go asking your teachers they too will say that man or woman, main…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 07:49 AM
1

Just can't hold with fluffy pale eyebrows. Like two furry caterpillars marching across a guy's face. Ick. Ickity ick. No thanks. Every fibre of my being reads that as wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:47 PM
3

Most people, male or female, don't particularly want to share, and find a partner who has other sexual partners to be repulsive. There's a few exceptions of course, humans being so sexually diverse. I never cease to be amazed how quickly history is lost to the mind of the average man. I can assure you that under fault based divorce systems women frequently divorced cheating husbands...and continue to do so now just the whole world doesn't get to see the dirty laundry being publicly washed becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:57 PM
2

Depends how many and how similarly. Same goes for guys too though. Any guy who says all his many ex's were bitches is likely to be someone who would try anyone's patience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 10:16 AM
6

Well then don't then. Nobody is saying you gotta... they're just giving OP an answer to their question. If it's particularly difficult or you're not feeling motivated just don't. Go do something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 08:57 AM
1

Am I supposed to agree with a straight face that life's so hard once you've fixed your body, money presentation and started acquiring more skills and you are grievously put upon for having been part of this dynamic? Lol. Bet you hated your mother for making you clean your room too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:03 AM
1

It's also why women shouldn't be on dating apps. If you meet someone through your social circle you've got a much better chance of working out if he's being honest about his relationship status.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 01:28 PM
3

Do you mean a bio that is likely to attract replies or a bio that is strongly indicative that the person is sexually attractive? Because those two things are somewhat different even if there is an overlap.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:26 AM
3

Idk dude...she's your mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 04:44 AM
7

Idk. In the first case...ask your mother. In the second case...too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 04:43 AM
7

You didn't ask her for a complete explanation first? Well that's silly. Even if you disagree with her conclusions and parts of her thoughts it is entirely likely some of her thoughts about your situation are relevant and useful and stuff you just haven't bothered to think about yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:30 AM
10

Your mother probably thinks so. You should go ask her. All that stuff is very specific to culture, nationality, religion, generation, ethnicity, class etc. I'm sure she will explain her reasoning to you in great detail if you can bring yourself to ask politely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:26 AM
20

If multiple individuals have been pressuring you then that just gives you more choices of individuals to ask, doesn't it. So even less excuse not to ask. I don't think most women here at this moment think you personally should get married. You don't seem to have made an impression on us that leads us to think "omg what a total waste to the world it will be if that particular man doesn't have a stereotypical marriage and nuclear family" and obviously we aren't related to you so we've got no perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:23 AM
16

Fine. Your mother doesn't want to be still scrubbing the skid marks out of your underwear when she's in her eighties. That's why she wants you to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:13 AM
19

Then discuss it with the specific individuals who are putting you under pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:11 AM
9

In life, whether we are male or female, what we want most of all isn't always going to be there for us. Can't dwell on it...just gotta decide on what's best for us. And if you're a woman it is increasingly likely that what's best for you is yourself. What's best for a large number of women who aren't high value in the dating market is...to do without a man altogether. Low value men are fairly shitty on average. They've got all of that patriarchal sense of entitlement and no underlying value what…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:26 AM
11

Ooooh now we get into the point in the conversation where the dude who obviously is deeply deeply personally affected by the dynamics that apply to low value dudes starts claiming he's not a low value dudes. Like... whatever.. Whatever is happening in real life happens whatever. Women have worked out this whole don't wanna be alone thing is a guy thing. Women overwhelmingly get to be alone in the last days of their life. Congratulations you won two X chromosomes girl, you probably die alone. Can…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:09 AM
2

Goddess is a term that covers a lot of ground, dude. And if guys like you had learned mythology through sources other than Marvel movies and a few computer games they'd probably understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:01 AM
12

Well y'know...fugly is some guys' market value match. Some guys just don't have enough value to get more than fugly. Those guys need to either learn to be happy with fugly (because nobody truly wants a life or even casual sex with someone who is going to be permanently unhappy with them..those guys therefore aren't gonna find a fugly girl willing to cater to them and smile while she does it unless those guys learn to actually like fugly) or just learn to do without. I'd suggest self improvement …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:58 AM
6

There is no "who you should be with" that doesn't also require first answering the question whether it's maybe better to be by oneself than with that person. There's a lot of women who basically are going to get nothing but trouble and inconvenience from any match they are likely to make. Those women should probably just stop dating and concentrate on pleasing themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:46 AM
21

Whatever dude. You're also free not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:37 AM
25

Probably best if women who find a lack of appropriate men just stop.dating altogether. Kissing frogs rarely gives you princes in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:15 AM
1

Can we just make reliance on AI a delete/ban offence at the absolute discretion of the mods?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 01:42 AM
1

The average guy where I'm from...is Australian. And if he's a young guy he's probably working in hospitality or a service industry of some sort. He's a lot less shy than you describe, although still somewhat averse to rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 06:19 PM
–

Hahahahaha oh this is one of the things the lower level men from the middle class will never want to understand. The classes overlap. Top of the working class is better than bottom of the middle class. You don't get to just access all the top gals of the working class and expect them to be humble. If she's hot and cheerful she's going to know she will be better off and happier with some builder or plumber or whatever who is running his business and doing well. She's going to do better for hersel…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:26 PM
3

"looking off into the distance" Can't even take a moment alone to think without some dude trying to stick his dick in it. Nowhere and no when in public is safe. I don't think I know any average girls who are amenable to approach at times when they've deliberately elected to be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 10:53 PM
5

He has to be a regular part of my social circle where I have observed him for months or there has to be a clear path towards making him a part of my social circle to observe him. Once I observe him I have to like what I see AND it needs to make sense for both of us on a practical level. Then I would offer him increasingly opportunities to spend more time with me in increasingly more close contexts. At some point though he's going to need to be a little proactive. I might lean in for a kiss but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 02:15 PM
7

Well y'know... sometimes when two grown up people have some very special feelings for each other... maybe they'd even be up for spitting in each other's faces too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 06:40 AM
5

The advice women give and receive is framed differently and received differently depending on who else is present. This includes whether it occurs in forums or among a small group of friends or is one on one. All women know this. Different spaces different conversations. You're just not admitted to some conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 06:17 AM
6

If I ever do say something to my friends about their prospects it certainly is never something I do in front of the sort of men here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:37 AM
87

"I think it would be fair to say a majority of these men are sleeping with women on Tinder" I think you're overestimating Tinder's ability to provide easy casual sex to men who aren't young and don't spend most of their life at the gym. And underestimating men's willingness to stick around on dating apps that aren't giving them anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 11:51 PM
2

So... You think it's a problem women sometimes choose excitement. BUT You also think it's a problem when women ask a man questions about matters that pertain to responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 11:32 PM
2

If I've done the maths correctly OP is 38.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 11:28 PM
1

Well obviously when you can tell on the first date that you just don't think they bring much to the table there's nothing to be lost by them in making you prove yourself a little is there? Casual sex with a man who couldn't keep his last serious partner around, is pushing towards middle aged and who has already judged them to be inadequate... that's nothing of value, that's trash. Asking a few questions means they feel they could get possibly serious about you and want to check if you're worth g…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 11:13 PM
2

You are over a decade older. Of course they are asking you about your past, old man. You could very well have fathered a child during that decade. You could be in the middle of a divorce. You could be a total failure to launch. You could have been in prison. You could be bankrupt. That sort of stuff is not a trifling matter. You aren't a fresh faced youth. You've done stuff. Once people are old enough to have a past the past becomes a topic to be discovered and discussed. To me they just sound r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:05 PM
4

So...I grew up in the seventies and eighties...Gen X. I played netball and participated in Girl Guides. Quite a few traditional wives among the mothers of my friends. Nothing wrong with that. TikTok/YouTube Trad wives are creepy. That's not really being traditional as I know it... that's involving the rest of us in their exhibitionistic sexual fetish/gender politics theatre. Weirdos. Creepy. The traditional wives I remember from my childhood would recoil in horror. Wish they'd keep it to themsel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:48 PM
4

That's between them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 04:20 PM
3

https://www.science.org/content/article/strong-women-did-lot-heavy-lifting-ancient-farming-societies Yeah it's pretty clear that early agriculture was a time of immense hard work for women and "protecting women" back then was overwhelmingly an economic decision. Couldn't let an asset like that just wander off because she'd rather be somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:23 AM
6

My grandmother had a saying...if you marry for money you'll earn every penny. And I'm inclined to believe this is still true. Even with easily available no fault divorce. You're still going to have to build an entire new life once you've blown up the old one...even with money that's a nuisance. And of course putting up with some gross guy you aren't attracted to and don't respect is going to be years of body horror. I'm too lazy and loving of my comfort to gold dig. Working for a living and keep…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:50 AM
–

My thoughts are men are stupid as soon as sex is involved. All those guys who probably would spend a week researching what hot water heater to buy just put their hand up cheerfully and give their credit card numbers for a clear scam. If young women aren't lining up to fuck you for free in real life they aren't lining up to fuck you for free online either. It's not rocket science. Less scenic path to same destination doesn't make the destination more desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:30 AM
7

All this grown men thinking kids get a better grade of love is giving sibling rivalry vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:20 AM
1

Because people are rude as fuck nowadays and expect other people who have no particular attachment to them to help them with intricate emotional problems. Under no possible circumstances would I, as a gen X, have ever requested from almost total strangers the forms of assistance you guys seem all tickety boo in asking for from people you barely know. Of course you get told to take it to therapy. I'd also tell you to take it to an electrician if you asked me to rewire your house.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 12:03 AM
8

Has anyone ever addressed the fact you can't trust men to self assess how toxic they are...and that we'd need to independently assess in some fairly comprehensive ways how toxic and in what manner both these groups of men...the whiners and the men they whine about...are before we could address the concerns of the whiners? I mean just saying. There's some profoundly unlikable, unpleasant, unreliable toxic dudes out there who think they are just the sweetest nicest guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:36 PM
1

You know...if I lived in one of those neighbourhoods I'd probably have lived there all my life and have a job like working at a fast food place. And would probably have to walk home occasionally because well heck, my shifts would be all over the place and not always consistent with public transport. And you know what I'd probably be extremely tempted to do if some self righteous shit from another neighbourhood tried to lecture me about this? Hoik up a nice gob of lungbutter to spit in his burger…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:58 PM
2

Maybe we should allow financial abortion...but make it an open matter of public record. Open, searchable, with the bio parents faces and real names attached. I mean that would be fair, right? People still should know who is blood relative to who for the purposes of avoiding inbreeding. Maybe you think it's fair to just put the financial responsibility all on the mother, but the responsibility to avoid inbreeding is still serious and really can't be accomplished if the truth isn't out. And if a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:29 PM
8

Is trenbolone one of those drugs that gives a guy bitch tits and shrunken testicles?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:32 AM
5

I think there's some folks who will see themselves as immensely victimised no matter what life path they take. It's in them. And since they're the loudest voices it is kind of hard to work out how hard the normal experience is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:19 AM
5

A lot of kids are raised without any effort to make them accept hard work as normal. They get pissed if they have to do something. Someone raised to accept hard work as normal isn't going to readily resent having worked hard to get fit or become more social. Even if they work hard and don't get precisely the results they want, so long as the results are still in some way useful and the experience was a learning process they are likely to be positive about the experience. Someone raised to accept…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:15 AM
2

Dude...I wouldn't want a guy in my life even if he was promising me the open end of the deal. They're just inherently bad for a woman's well being.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:25 PM
3

I think it maybe is only relevant in that it has happened along a parallel time frame with a few landmarks in common such as improved access to employment. Basically we're looking at single women in their forties and fifties more often having made their own retirement provisions now. So when they find themselves single for whatever reason...be that divorce or just not having settled or deliberate avoidance of men or whatever...they are much more likely to have been making provision for themselve…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:25 AM
2

The only support that platform runs on is money... which I've never provided it. I think there's probably a solid correlation between spending money on Onlyfans and supporting age gap relationships. So ummm...like whatever?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 02:56 AM
–

If he needs me to tell him he wants to...does he really want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 02:43 AM
10

"their one true emotional entitlement" I'd rather lose a foot than be shackled to one of those guys. I'd rather saw my own goddamn foot off to escape. I seriously think I'd want to end myself if stuck with an old misery guts who feels entitled to endless amounts of emotional support but can't even be arsed going on a free date with me to something I think is fun. This is especially the case if I have no memories of past fun times with him. My own mental health is more important to me than the me…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 02:30 AM
1

Well...yeah...the sort of boys you can just take to soccer and then are happy with soccer tend to be more likely to be easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 05:10 AM
6

A fat dominant 40 BMI man is like... actually obese. And 25 is for a man on the borderline between overweight and ideal weight. You don't think going from solidly obese to the cusp of where over weight becomes ideal weight would make a big difference? Dude. I'm a big old fatty body positive woman and even I am willing to say that yeah no longer being well into obese territory is a huge advantage in the dating market for both men and women. It's the reality of the situation. Look if someone doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 03:22 AM
2

I don't actually go sharing that in detail online anymore. I'll talk about all sort of stuff but not that. The practical word is a comfort associated one. The aspirational one is a visual richness associated one. And the feelings word is a one you wouldn't be able to tell from just looking at my outfits...it's like an in joke with myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 01:08 AM
1

Eh. Doesn't match my three style words but I am sure it is somebody else's jam
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 12:53 AM
2

No dude...when you say "y'all" what you're talking about is the small percentage of women that are leftover for the likes of the guys who post whiney shit to PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:52 PM
8

I think it is more that a lot of people need to think it through carefully why they currently have their particular standards and whether that's actually working out in their favour or not. Then look at whether to rework their standards or not. The world is full of people and interest groups who see YOUR standards as a way they can implement the changes THEY want to implement in the world. Churches, political movements, your family, people who want you to define them as having met your standards…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:04 PM
3

Women are basically choosing to have no-one rather than a man who is just gonna trash up their life a lot of the time now...so what is it you think they are feeling overly entitled to? Themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 11:41 AM
0

If the men available to her aren't going to in her opinion improve her life at all then it doesn't matter if they are better or worse than her... it doesn't matter if any random nobody like you thinks she deserves them or doesn't deserve them. What matters is that clearly the most sensible decision she can make is not to have them. To decide to have them is to not only decide to embark upon having a lesser life...but also to eliminate the possibility of being with somebody who offers an improvem…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 11:12 AM
1

Well dare I say...if a man is going after this deal he's probably 35+, ugly and although capable of turning on some cookie cutter sort of charm he is also inherently boring... but is wanting a pretty vivacious 22 year old whose ethereal beauty and sparkling personality is a massive flex over all his friends. And he also isn't stupid enough to believe that's a stable situation to raise kids in unless he's being Mr Everything for her every damn day of the rest of her life. So now you know. Hope no…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:25 AM
-3

Well dating up does solve a variety of problems. For example it's easier to keep forgiving the exhausting and typically male constant attempts to gain more relationship power by being disagreeable if he's actually a bit better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 07:55 AM
-4

Hmmmm. No. Low value men tend to be very needy. If she can tell the effort she would have to put into a particular low value man offers less return than putting that effort into herself directly then she's probably not going to go for him even if they do have the same market value.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:47 AM
4

Every shit relationship that doesn't happen does in it's own way increase the possibility of a good relationship happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:43 AM
3

Yeah well, it would be nice if men took more responsibility for screening efforts to avoid bad relationships happening but I'm not gonna hold my breath waiting for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:28 AM
10

It's completely reasonable for anyone to reject connections that they feel, for whatever reason, will leave them substantially worse off overall. And for a portion of the low value people of each gender this will end up meaning no relationship at all is for them . And that's fine. We shouldn't expect people to get themselves into relationships that they know will make them even more unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:22 AM
7

And so what if she is? She's still allowed to decide she's better able to deal with her inadequacy alone than with a substandard man adding to her burdens and responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:12 AM
–

Having children should be an ordinary thing. Therefore it should be properly supported by the ordinary functioning of civil society. To expect continuing extraordinary sacrifice from citizens in order to maintain ordinary functioning of a state is a sign of a failed state. Let's first try insisting our states not be failed states. The sort of extraordinary sacrifices and risks a country expects of ordinary citizens are usually under extraordinary circumstances. For example the expectation that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:31 PM
–

I do already give up large swathes of my life to my country happily and without complaint. You think the money to pay taxes just gets shat out my arse without time or effort? Nope. It represents my time. It represents me spending time doing stuff that isn't all that great for me. I'm all for paying tax so we can collectively have nice stuff, lots of life options, second chances, good health, decency, security. Look...if the majority of people in a situation share the same opinion about a major d…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:06 PM
–

I'm not about to shift countries and I'm past child bearing age If one of my kids shifted countries I would suggest they treat the new country as a different environment...but that they don't totally lose their sense of caution. Breeding is always at one's own risk. You can be left, quite literally, holding the baby. But then again I wouldn't need to warn them. They are socially and politically aware young women who grew up in a location with a diverse range of wealth levels in it and all throug…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 10:48 PM
5

Meh. Don't smile because you're not feeling it? Men complain you aren't smiling. Smile when you're not feeling it? Men call you a liar and manipulative. Suggest that maybe men pay some attention to what actually makes you feel like smiling? Men complain you're trying to turn them into dancing monkeys. Give up and just don't bother with men? Men accuse you of attempting to destroy western civilization There's maybe just no point in paying attention to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 09:45 PM
1

I think human attraction is fairly complicated. It's complicated for men too...just they've got a larger element of generalized lust. I've been gradually changing my theories about how it works. I don't think there's a simple slider system that goes (for example) from muscular to scrawny or from honest to liar or from moral to psychopathic or whatever. I think there's something rather more like separate sliders for different qualities. So someone is attracted to both muscular and scrawny but dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:46 PM
1

Go hang out with other less appealing people who are also being shunned then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:54 AM
32

"I think universally we can agree that..." No. We don't all agree that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:47 AM
18

IKR? There's only really a handful of those sort of jobs that are repulsive enough to isolate someone who does the job. Your average electric lineman in Aust is masculine as heck, paid AU$100,000 or more a year, smart enough to find an office job but prefers physical work, and doing just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:13 AM
7

The majority of the guys who do traditional guy dirty work are very competent men who just enjoy working with things not ideas or people, get plenty of women and get paid really well in my country and could easy get a reasonably well paid desk job if they wanted. It's just about always barely employable guys with some sort of low level IT certification they aren't using because every interviewer sees what a liability they are who are the ones having the big fat whine about women. And if you're i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:08 AM
1

I'm looking forward to the day when uteruses can be transplanted into men and made to function. I'd happily donate my old blood bag to the OP so he can do the job he wants done himself rather than expect others to do it. I think a little realistic assessment of the situation while centering himself as a person who could also make this "sacrifice" would change his opinions damn quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 09:23 PM
1

I've already had a couple of kids, now young adults. I'm the only one of three siblings who has had kids. I don't really think my country has treated me or their father particularly well for having done so, neither has it provided to my children the state supported opportunities in housing education and employment that my own generation and even more so my parents generation had. Instead it has provided an almost constant stream of rhetoric about how it's all your own problem, you're broken if y…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:12 PM
1

Most starting points are better than no starting point
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:25 AM
2

"You can start your own dating app tomorrow" One of the reasons I give absolutely no time to considering any of the "but men like us make all the things you use...we're going to get together and put things back how they were" bullshit that keeps being spewed out is that even a small number of those men don't get together and do exactly that... start a dating app that actually does the job they want it to do, while making money and not turning women off so much they refuse to participate.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:40 AM
6

Nah dude. It's people who like to win who use your weaknesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:14 AM
4

It doesn't matter if it's a monopoly because if it is, it's a monopoly on a totally nonessential thing that a large number of people don't use or need and everyone has other alternatives to. Look....way back when, there was only one manufacturer of those compressed sawdust fire logs in town here. And nobody gave a shit that they had a monopoly because we all could burn mallee roots and cut redgum logs and scrap lumber and gathered windfall branches and charcoal briquettes and coal and probably h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:12 AM
7

Well it's more complex than that isn't it though? Sometimes it's for ourselves sometimes it's to be attractive to our preferred sexual partner type, sometimes it's to look more professional sometimes it's to impress other women sometimes it's because grandma loves to see us in a floral dress and lipstick...and it's rarely ever just one reason. Mostly there's a split of reasons. Except my toenail polish. It's a rare day anyone but me sees my toenails. Bright toenails just make me so happy though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:36 AM
–

Yes... but that doesn't stop me doing all that is reasonably possible towards reducing my exposure to the risk of being seen as a causative factor in the shit storms they help create. I'm very careful who I bring in to the juicy high quality centre of my social circle and who I introduce to who and how I organise those introductions and who I marginalise when they become too risky. Very similar to how I deal with hard drug users. I prefer not to be the person who introduced a friend to someone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:38 AM
2

Yes possibly...or possibly not depending on who you're going for. Junkies fuck a fair bit. Almost any functional social circle at all is a base to start from though. You could ask those neckbeards to go play D&D at the local games cafe and then meet more people there. You could ask your junkie friends what pubs they like and why. There's a reason we use the words "cultivate your social circles" it's because social circles are like gardens
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:53 PM
–

I prefer not to be the one to introduce someone to my friends who ends up assisting to break up a friend's relationship so I generally don't go offering social opportunities to meet my social circle to someone who expresses your point of view. This is very much a practical judgement on my part not an ethical one. I just don't want to get coated in mud when the shit hits the fan. I do have ethical opinions and concerns about cheating too...but I hope you understand that the practical concerns are…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:39 PM
4

No...we go to weddings to show support for the couple or have a chance to dress up or because we're bridesmaids or to meet social expectations or to enjoy all the juicy insights into the bride and groom's background that come from interacting with their families. Or some combination of the above. It's not forbidden to find a man at a wedding reception but it isn't really something we're anticipating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:23 PM
5

Most women have the inbuilt potential to have a problem with either stress eating or stress starving. Some just have it better under control than others either by force of will or having a less stressful lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:19 PM
1

Yes and no? Obvious makeup isn't deception. Men may not like it, they may prefer to just see what a woman looks like...but lol, tough shit... there's entire swathes of our bodies we don't show the full outlines of to the world and that's not deception either. Strangers aren't an open book. Less obvious makeup is deceptive but only a very limited amount is achievable without makeup being obvious and I think it's within the realms of social acceptability and on a par with stuff men do like careful…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 09:17 PM
5

This. Why would anyone use what they know about another person in a conflict? Oh idk...nature of human beings in conflict? Sometimes it's fair and principled and an observation that is relevant enlightening and important...for example it's perfectly reasonable to calm down, sit everyone down and calmly point out that just because someones mother was a nag who was always on their case about their room doesn't make them just throwing a corn chips packet on the floor and never picking it up ten yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 08:53 PM
-1

Dude...not every person who has not the gifts for math decides to cheat. A lot of them just cross off large swathes of the possible careers from their list and get the fuck on with life playing the hand they were dealt. There's always going to be losers. Someone is always going to get sub par results. Sometimes that person...is gonna be you. Fucking hell were you guys never forced to do stuff you didn't like and couldn't become good at? Why? Why didn't your parents ever just say no, fuck you, I …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 03:42 AM
2

This. It all depends on how good any evidence other than their testimony is. Even then with other evidence like camera footage from outside the place the events occurred, very hard to get a criminal conviction. But maybe not so hard to be found a rapist on the balance of probabilities if it's a matter in the civil courts Bruce Lehrmann should not have returned to the lions den to retrieve his hat. https://hamiltonlocke.com.au/mr-lehrmann-made-the-mistake-of-going-back-for-his-hat-what-potential-…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:30 PM
–

That's not the sort of choice I have a right to make for any of my kids. I have to go with the usual life for her because even if a genie is saying I can have that choice it's still not my choice to make. However if the genie were to offer me the option that any man who lays hands on her in a sexual manner against her will gets kicked in his balls by the genie so hard his future grandsons feel it I would be fine with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 10:21 PM
3

A random stranger who tells me this story I am immediately suspicious of because this is not a story one goes telling in great detail to random strangers. There's something goddamn wrong with a guy who starts telling me this stuff at the bus stop. Get away from me, weirdo. If it's someone I know well...I suppose it in part depends how well I know him when he's drunk. If I know he's just not like that when drunk I would believe him and be outright sympathetic and helpful...but I wouldn't voluntee…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 10:11 PM
1

He probably can't easily deal effectively with his insecurity without someone to talk to regularly about it if he's a profoundly insecure sort of person and has long made it his habit in life and been permitted to avoid uncomfortable introspection and self reflection about his deficits. He maybe needs to suck it up buttercup, and go to therapy, It isn't like women don't also have numerous insecurities about their bodies. And I hate to have to say this outright but turns out some people need to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:49 PM
–

You've got your own means of production, lad. You're just upset that it's a low quality one that attracts very little interest on the open market.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 07:01 AM
–

https://youtu.be/y0LhEdB5aFo?si=Kehtqbg2RQLNq0Ih She needs to ask for shelter on this guys farm.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:52 AM
–

Knowing what I know about guinea pigs, likening them to PPD posters is gross but strangely apt
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:48 AM
–

He does a lot of sitting in that gaming chair. Always a price to pay for the habits of our youth
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:45 AM
–

Ummmm that wasn't what I was trying to say...if you just drink up that milk quick in a latte you won't have to worry it will stick around and go gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:40 AM
–

They've already decided a man would be worse than useless and actually detrimental and doesn't belong raising kids. So the next decision is whether they personally belong raising kids without a man and can handle the hardship of single motherhood and what that would have to look like. Because y'know...if you're the only parent and you break under the strain well that's about the worst scenario. Final decision... If and only if they feel they could personally manage the stress of single motherhoo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:45 AM
–

Just buy new milk every week and the next coffee after you've bought a new carton make a proper latte with whatever is left in the old carton.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:24 AM
2

Nope. I think I was fairly clear. If you don't understand it how I have explained it and nobody else chooses to explain it, you're going to have to just find out for yourself through trial and error how this shit works.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:39 AM
1

So it's okay not to...so long as there is no things that necessitates a "we" type of dynamic? Well that's nice but I suspect you are going to try to smuggle in quite a bit of "we" into your relationship under the guise of "loyalty" I think maybe you'd get something out of reading I and Thou by Martin Buber
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:03 AM
2

Well don't then? Look it's real simple... sensible mate seeking involves immediately stopping all attempts to create a bond as soon as you realise that said bond would probably lead to a miserable or disastrous situation. Because if you like yourself and like the other person why the fuck would you make the both of you so miserable? Why would you latch on rather than let go? Because of this very sensible mate seeking behaviour that I estimate is shown by ninety percent of women and ten percent o…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:27 AM
–

Still quite early today where I am...I haven't shopped. Yesterday I didn't shop either. The day before that... AU$60 on groceries at Aldi, AU$40 getting stuff for a family member who couldn't shop for herself because she was at home taking care of a cat that has just had surgery, 2 X AU$5 for garments from the end of season discount rack at BigW, and AU$12 for a takeaway pack of sushi. Hmmmm, I should go eat the salad pack from Aldi before it goes sloppy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:17 PM
3

You don't need to lust after or even romantically love or practically need someone to grieve after they die. Grief is about loss but it isn't even just about that occasion of loss because one instance of grief tends to be connected in a mood and theme dependent network to many other instances of loss and grief. I'm waiting for my father to die. I hate the old bastard and death's too good for him. I'm still going to be a mess over it. Somehow even to the end humans hold on to the memory of having…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 09:53 PM
0

Meh. If you're like most of the guys here, you're looking for someone who actually wants you now and semi-insane because of it. I don't think there's a lot of guys here who'd do anything but settle right in to being the one who initiate 9 times out of 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:27 PM
–

This. We'll have a lot of feeble old people from muscle loss and people with fucked up ability to feel desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:15 PM
–

Meh. There were peep shows back in the eighties. One of the girls I worked with selling hamburgers took a second job doing that. Not exactly porn but not exactly stripping or classic prostitution either.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:12 PM
3

It's got very little to do with who does the work. That's tangential to this. It has to do with when. If she only feels like sex in the afternoon and evening.... you're never going to get morning sex unless you know how to turn her on. A lot of you guys have never been in a relationship and it damn well shows. If you want sex when you want sex not just when she spontaneously wants sex...it's a good idea to take responsibility for knowing how to turn her on. Don't think you can do that? Maybe you…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:03 PM
-2

Well don't then. There's porn and online games.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:37 AM
8

If you want someone to be turned on to your schedule rather than their own, it's rather a good idea to make it your responsibility to get them turned on. Because most of the time grown ups are busy doing the business of life and aren't particularly turned on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:46 AM
2

There's a bajillion other things we could be doing to attempt to address psychopathy but aren't. My guess is the powers that be actually like psychopathy very much because it gives them monstrous people they can make use of, and have no intention of removing it...but would cheerfully abuse any additional power I gave them over me. Therefore I wouldn't even consider any removal of my personal rights until all other possible avenues of eliminating psychopathy were honestly attempted. Not even on t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 01:09 AM
35

Well if he wants her turned on it is probably a very good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 12:18 AM
–

Under those conditions I would date either but I wouldn't sleep with them or form a romantic relationship with them. I guess both our Friday nights for all eternity are to be spent appeasing the gun carrying maniac. Dinner dates somewhere affordable of course so we can fit in a meal. Maybe a movie? You don't have to interact during a movie. Gym dates possibly? Oh... shopping dates he can pick me up and we both go get our grocery shopping run done, two separate trolleys of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:54 PM
2

I don't think any generation of women still living in the western world was in the habit of doing that. Do I know what they do in Assfuckistan somewhere east of Russia where they probably regularly have arranged marriages to their cousins? No I fucking don't nor do I care, it's a shit hole and totally separate from the rest of our dating reality. If you're living in Assfuckistan I grant you full rights to expound at length about what they do there in the smelly armpit of the world. We don't fram…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:33 PM
4

Yes. Usually they are very pretty, work very hard on their appearance are from poor backgrounds and dating up quite a bit. They've decided to prioritise resources over many other things including over getting to stay socially comfortable in the ways of the class in which they were raised. Quite reasonably they want to start any relationship as they intend to go on...so men who aren't all about that just fuck off and don't waste their time. And I think they represent less than 1 percent of women.…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:03 PM
11

No generation of women has framed it as "to get a man"... even back in the 70s the only women who framed it that way were interfering old grandmother's and there was no way they talked about it that way when they were young...it was a deliberate dig at their grand daughters. Women actually engaged in self improvement know it is for numerous reasons and that framing it as "to get a man" needlessly excludes a bunch of women and a bunch of self improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 09:15 PM
8

It's dozens of little things. One of the most annoying for me always been last minute pressure to include them in things like shopping and errands trips when they've clearly got no intention of being actually helpful and instead want to turn it into an impromptu date. This is how it sort of goes. Not an actual thing that happened so much as a distillation of the most typical things that happen. So I've got a huge goddamn list. I've got ten things to actively shop for at Spotlight (a fabric store…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 08:03 PM
–

OP, you come here and behave the way you do because you want to be mocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:39 AM
–

Every post I've ever seen from you has been horse shit. There seem to be basically no opinions you hold that are functional for getting anywhere with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:30 AM
–

Mr Rodgers never seemed to me like he'd be thrilled to become a sex symbol...more like he'd be deeply uncomfortable about how his wife would be affected by that. Amazingly enough...women on the whole decided to meet that energy, offer him the same kindnesses he offered others, and leave his sexual life the fuck alone and not sexually objectify him. OPs got some serious defect in thinking if he thinks there's something wrong with women who knew immediately that Mr Rodgers was off limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 11:56 PM
–

No, currently I'm having a cup of French Earl Grey tea and a Lemon Melting Moment and a good laugh at you and your silliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:00 PM
8

A lot of times men were only social to find a wife in the first place and it's just really convenient that once they've got one she's a great excuse to stay home. If you actually talk to and get the trust of married women a lot of them are also shocked at how much less social their husband is now they are married... they'd anticipated maybe a few years of doing things with their husband before life became all about children but nope, he's on his rapidly broadening arse in front of the computer p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:56 PM
–

Lol. Men:Women make bad choices in men, men do nothing to create this situation, women bad. Also men: My girlfriend is five foot tall and scared of mice, thunderstorms and men with loud voices but she is also a terrible person who treats me bad, cheats on me and tells me I'm shit, but I somehow just can't dump her, I do nothing to enable, create or perpetuate this situation. I'm shopping for an engagement ring and she wants a diamond how evil is that, I'm going to buy her a blood diamond and I b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:48 PM
–

Probably the thing that's most discouraging men isn't anything about women or about how approach is seen by society...but rather the simple fact they've got a computer at home and can go buy a game and just forget about everything until they get unbearably horny at which point it's really too late to be approaching and they rub one out instead. So I guess better, more engaging games that let them better ignore their internal drives would do it...if what you really want is discouraged men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:36 AM
5

Well obviously if someone is trying to hide what they are you can't always tell. Depends how good they are at hiding stuff. But it's fairly common to tell who redpillers are. The redpill community installs a lot of reactions in men without those men properly integrating the why of the reaction. So you're going to find yourself just naturally interacting with a redpiller and running into over reactions and under reactions to really basic ordinary stuff in life. Because at those points it's the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:12 AM
–

The momma's boy issues are very real. After years of experiencing and observing this stuff however I am of the opinion it can be dealt with...by moving beyond easy travel distance from said momma and getting him to agree that momma will never under any circumstances live with you and that if she moves to the same town you must move away. Stemlords are indeed just plain irritating. But I think most women are weeding them out pretty quickly...you probably don't even get to find out he's a late blo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:57 PM
2

I knew that it would be better for my daughters to be taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:04 AM
14

It's because he can't bring himself to challenge men about what they do. He'd really like if men didn't offer empathy but omg if he tries to persuade a man not to do exactly what a man wants to do that man might get angry, and angry men scare him...but angry women are just like mom when he didn't clean his room, no real threat. It's another episode in the continuing saga of men who are scared of men but think women should find them impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:12 PM
1

I'm volcel. You're not getting to get to fuck me or have a relationship with me no matter what I wear. Imma wear whatever I fucking want and it's not logically possible for it to be false sexual advertising. Whether I pad my body up with a thick cardigan under my jacket to deter approaches or use concealer cream to hide a spot none of it concerns the decision of a man to have sex or a relationship with me. Because he doesn't get to implement any yes decision he makes. Any woman who isn't going t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:08 PM
–

I feel compelled to point out here...that any man who has never had relationships with women has actually got close to zero goddamn idea if he'd be a "good" man once actually in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:44 PM
3

There's probably nothing you can do... increasingly any leeway that sexually unsuccessful individual men might find with individual women about their issues has already been used up by other sexually unsuccessful men being kind of turds online to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:23 PM
11

No, they've also been getting reports of it working on drug addiction, obsessive behaviours, behavioral addictions like shopping. Seems more and more that it turns down but not totally off the intensity of intense desire. All intense desire. So ummm....yeah....best wait on this one see how it goes. How do you think the world would be if say 50 percent of women experienced a 20 percent drop in their intensity of desire?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:52 AM
13

Don't get too enthusiastic just yet. It's becoming increasingly clear that Ozempic also minimises other forms of craving. It may just turn down the intensity of desire in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:21 AM
1

I want your very similar friends, oh Mr man whose reddit profile is slightly over a month old but has world weary tone of someone who has been making a new profile every few months for years to ask for help and will continue this behaviour basically forever, to learn there's a point at which nobody is going to offer more help because you've already rudely dismissed all the help they have offered...and at that point you're not getting any more and you've just got to put on your big boy pants and …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:22 AM
1

Generally it's only necessary to actively dismiss someone who refuses to see they have reached the point where no more help will be forthcoming.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:02 AM
5

Hmmmm. First ltr I thought could work because between his job and mine it looked good on paper and I found him very sexually appealing to interact with. Turned out he had no self discipline, kept losing jobs in some fairly egregious ways, cheated on me. It was real hard financially with all the job losses and I think if it wasn't for all the lying and cheating we could have still made it through but really it doesn't matter how fond you are of someone if it's hard times and they keep lying to yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:01 AM
3

You are what you are but if you are extrovert you tend to end up with social skills faster.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:25 AM
7

If you want to be agreed with its usually a good idea not to hold stupid opinions. I mean just saying even the most agreeable sort of people have their limits tested at some point. And that's why some guys ask for submissive instead. They know they are beyond the point at which agreeable is enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:31 AM
3

Sorry dude...too tired from playing with all the sealioning dudes in this thread to divide my attention so as give an answer on that one right now. Maybe put a post up asking the entire subreddit what reasonable efforts are... that's fair enough I am talking about what everyone else also sees as reasonable efforts too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:27 AM
-1

I am honestly engaging with you...you just don't like my opinions. If you want affection and acceptance for opinions that almost everyone else thinks are pathetic...it's real easy. Go live with others who are like you. Maybe idk...you can all go to your own rooms and wank to the same porn video and then discuss it after. When sexbots happen maybe you can buy one between you. Become little collectives congratulating each other over how smart you all are. What you really mean is not "affection and…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:24 AM
1

I'm not owed grandkids if my daughters decide there's no guy worth having out there. That's fine by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 12:42 AM
2

"Pay what they owe" Lol. You know what you aren't owed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 12:30 AM
2

No dude. I know you're beyond help.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 12:28 AM
2

If you want to be exempted from the possibility of doing everything right and still failing....lol no...none of us can exempt ourselves from that possibility either, you're asking to be exempted from one of the basic facts of reality in order to bet just a bit of time and effort on yourself to win. It's pathetic and we don't want to conceive children who carry that defect.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:40 PM
6

I don't give humans who are warm, fed and safe but have made no appropriate effort to get what they want sympathy because they don't have what they want. Sympathy just because you're human is reserved for if you're in some sort of goddamn peril or you're being starved or bombed or something like that. Guys should rub one out to pornhub and go play a game on their computer to distract themselves if not having a girlfriend is bothering them and they still can't be bothered making what just about e…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:36 PM
4

That's going to depend upon what you are personally lacking.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:26 PM
3

An average guy doesn't have to do it if he's feeling lazy or like he doesn't have anything to learn. Just...not a lot of people are going to feel sorry for him if he fails and hasn't done it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:25 PM
7

That's just how life goes sometimes. Ecclesiastes 9:11 and it's many different variants and interpretations right? We know the race isn't always to the swift or the battle to the strong. But ...we also know who to bet on. And in the case of average young men.. bet on the ones who put in some effort and learn a few things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:21 PM
9

Yes...extroverts have usually learned most of what must be learned already and pick the rest up pretty quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:09 PM
12

Average guys get girlfriends...after they've put in some effort to learning a few things. The guys who have to wait until they are thirty plus are usually below average or don't think they need learn anything or are very lazy. Nobody likes admitting they are below average, are unwilling to learn or are lazy as hell so these guys keep trying to tell us that it's a definitively average guy problem. But it isn't. We all see average 22+ year old guys with girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:05 PM
4

A normal person contextualizes advice normally by thinking how that advice relates to what they already know about themselves and the world before they go spending several years implementing that advice, and regularly revisits why they are taking that advice. That's how we take responsibility for having decided to take advice. You are responsible for what advice you decide to take, and how long you take it for and what other things you should be doing to support the advice you took. In the case …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:52 PM
4

I think it's more someone who chooses not to perform agreeableness some of the time... especially in a way that annoys the person who then calls her a bitch. A bitch can perform the rest of femininity to varying degrees of fullness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:44 PM
2

Example 1. Likes sex and hooking up but not the company of men. The second time she texted you she was feeling like hooking up and texted several guys and some other guy got lucky. Example 2. Cold feet or second guessing herself. Example 3.Have you chatted irl or through some sort of video chat? If no my guess is she's nothing like she has told you she is. If yes my guess is she's just someone who let's everything slide.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:29 AM
–

Avoiding seeing a particular elderly relative who is quite ill because she's probably going to notice I've lost weight and then because she's totally incapable of just saying nothing or giving a compliment she'll tell me I'm not losing weight fast enough. And then I'll probably get angry and call her something nasty. And then she'll probably up and die and I'd have called her something mean. Sigh. Maybe I should put on another couple of sweaters to bulk my look up, then go visit her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:11 AM
–

This. The brutal truth is that passport bro is not a cure all. If you're ugly, fat, bad socially, have poor hygiene or any other major dysfunction you're going to get worse results as a passport bro than a better man might. There's no way round it, seeking women overseas isn't a solution so much as it is a different set of problems. You're still gonna have to solve problems. Just different ones. Being attractive, clean, good social skills is real useful for solving problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:16 AM
–

Good for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:10 AM
–

Yeah but that antibiotic resistance was caused gradually built up over years and the antibiotic resistance that single instances of being sloppy about guidelines for prescribing is building up is going to take a while to accumulate. It sucks yeah but it's totally understandable and it's also completely unreasonable to put it entirely down to parents. The doctors sign off on it because they too don't want kids to be in pain even a few minutes longer than needed. There's doctors whose orderly happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:07 AM
–

That's a grossly oversimplified view of the sort of shit that's actually happening. It's more like you've got a minimum wage parent who has been off work today to care for a three year old with an ear infection and that kid's like a banshee screaming in pain and you take a look at that ear and sure you can tell the parent it doesn't look probably bacterial but come back in two days if it hasn't improved because if it hasn't by then it probably has something bacterial too and you'll also be able …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:32 AM
–

Then marry a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:44 AM
3

They certainly appear to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:01 PM
4

So what's your explanation for why men love bitches?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:55 PM
1

Sure I'm old and ugly. Guilty as charged. Not a problem...ugly and old go hand in hand and I'm profoundly grateful to modern medicine that I get the chance to grow old. But I was young and pretty when I formed the opinion that old dudes who chase young women are creepy, weird, pathetic, self deluding and the scum of the earth. I'm not going to change an opinion I've held for thirty-five years just because I'm older now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:25 PM
1

I think broadly speaking, normal men and women are similarly accountable. The vast majority....those in the bulging centre part of the graph for most of their measures...are similarly accountable. If you're looking at those who are in specific niches such as introverted sexually unsuccessful man or introverted homebody woman or crazy disinhibited individuals or whatever then it varies remarkably according to the group. So if you compare our problem child demographic we mainly deal with here, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:08 AM
3

Less...they think about sex far less than Gen X did as far as I can tell. But mostly they have absolutely no shame about it when they do have casual sex. If you had to equate it to food consumption they're like the skinny kid who on their birthday gets themselves an entire family size pizza just because they can and not a single damn is given what you think of that. They're like the opposite of most purity culture which is all about being obsessively carnal but FFS hide it. I'm liking them. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:35 AM
–

You're finding it hard. Congratulations you have had one standard early adult realisation...life is hard. Next realisation... ordinary people work damn hard all their lives to get ordinary results. Final realisation... you're not particularly special and despite having some quirks fit into the category of "normal"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:00 PM
–

That's like... about averages. It says very little about where any specific dude whining at me here about not being rich so he gets no bitches actually is in all his other attributes and his social context and his behaviours. And usually the dude whining at me that he's too poor to get a girlfriend stinks of excuses so bad that I've got every reason to strongly suspect that he's got options to make progress he's just making excuses because while he's perfectly willing to forgo working on his own…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:59 PM
6

I'm an introverted woman. If you're an introvert it all goes a lot easier on you if you take advantage of the natural peak in expansive outwards tendency that happens during adolescence and early adulthood. If you squander that, male or female, it's likely gonna be a hard trudge towards the finish line or not finding a suitable partner at all. Of course if a woman is spectacularly beautiful men will take crazy risks and be willing to look foolish to attempt to be with her so an incredibly beauti…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:33 PM
2

Those girls don't need to do anything for you....one look at them and you're the needy one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:53 PM
3

You can goddamn wish and whine and wail for backup till the cows come home, nobody is going to help you prudish guys out on this one. Everyone else is either very comfy with the sexualisation of the public sphere or a prudish woman who guys like you have never backed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:13 PM
5

And I wish I could to go to the gym fully clothed without crusty old divorced dads hitting on me while I try to exercise, and travel public transport dressed in a heavy winter coat without sad kissless fucked-up 35 year olds trying to sit next to me and chat me up. Gonna give you the same response I get everytime I've ever complained about that...suck it up and deal they are within their rights. Suck it up buttercup.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:03 PM
3

Tough shit. The women who are less comfortable with sexual displays have left the gyms because of how often male pervs hit on them. Without those prudish women you've got no damn chance of convincing the girls in scanty clothes to cover up. Go complain to management and see how far that gets you... precisely nowhere lol. I'm at home with my dumbbells because I took responsibility for the unwanted reactions my slouchy neck to ankle grey tracksuit covering my fat old body seemed to inexplicably be…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:57 PM
4

Hobbies in this case means activities that have a high likelihood of being happily repeated over and over. So it's a slightly more extensive set than the usual use of the word hobbies but includes hobbies as the word is traditionally used. Generally however hobbies are more...trusted...than nonhobby activities. Every dumb guy with an erect prick can lie and say he likes walks down by the river. But something like metal detecting or sail boarding or crochet....that you just have to do with him to…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:18 PM
0

Nah dude. You're just doing the usual blackpill bullshit of scapegoating abuse victims because it's easier than dealing with the reality that to get what you want you might need to repeatedly take time off from activities that offer immediate dopamine to exert long-term effort on stuff that doesn't have a completely certain pay off. Porn and gaming really are just that important to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 11:03 AM
-1

Nah.. Usually it's a family background in which those particular problems were present to some extent in a family member so reactions of natural caution and fear have been replaced with comfort and a home like feel. A woman can feel comfortable around an abuser and still not be attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:44 AM
1

It also assumes there aren't men who would abuse if given the chance but have never been given the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 07:55 AM
11

They do, frequently? The way it works is the particular abusive guys who get girls aren't sensitive to disapproval so they just keep going, giving girls the ick until they find a girl who has that particular flaw in her perceptions and reactions and screening processes that will allow their personal type of abusiveness to flourish.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:04 AM
–

If you're a man a UTI should be immediately treated with antibiotics that are recommended as a first line treatment and a test done to see if it is a strain resistant to various antibiotics and whether a different antibiotic needs to be prescribed. About 25 to 50 percent of infections are some degree of resistant to the first line antibiotics. The courses of antibiotics usually last two weeks. If you can't afford a doctor start looking for free clinics. If you can't find a free GP clinic at leas…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:39 AM
–

Sun in mostly gives brassy tones. I mean just saying that's a whole other product you will have to use if you want to tone down the brassiness. So might as well just see a hairdresser.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 12:24 AM
1

Well partly it is because they are still, like dumbasses, trying to save the marriage. And partly it is that the way people assess blame is sometimes fundamentally wrong and people are toting up the blame wrongly. It's possible for moral blame to add up to more than a hundred percent. That's not the way working out the paying of damages in court works but it is the way moral blame for shared wrongdoing works. If someone cheats they are 100 percent responsible for what they did...and the person t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:06 PM
–

It depends on the particulars doesn't it? And it's somewhat of a spectrum. At one end of the range is if your spouse is cheating with one of your first level relatives...parent sibling or adult child...at the other end of the range is if your spouse cheated with a stranger who they carefully gave no reason to suspect they are attached elsewhere, those people are victims too. Having been the victim of cheating I certainly have no affection for the woman who happily invited us over together for di…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:51 PM
1

Whispering grass don't tell the trees... But seriously I don't care, there's been plenty of times in my life when a tree was a better confidant than a man. https://youtu.be/zBrwaCjJIFU?si=I9VFp-R2hFoK_olL
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:31 PM
–

She's a bangmaid if she hears that term and with a sinking feeling in the pit of her gut knows it refers accurately to her and the intractable problem in her relationship that she's likely been trying not to put a name to. Bangmaids who wish to maximise their chances of happiness should in most instances seriously consider making a plan and getting out. If for whatever reason happiness is not a priority or maybe they actively want unhappiness then maybe staying is a better option.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:35 AM
18

Nice creative writing exercise but gives off heavy underlying vibes of divorced dad who barely has it together to feed house and transport his kids every second weekend imaging how life would have been if he was less of a screw up
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:02 PM
16

"in fact it should be the bangmaid's responsibility to prove that she can offer..." She should almost certainly move on instead. There's single guys who will after dating her a few months just see the things she has to offer that aren't sex and housework, who she doesn't have to prove anything to. She should go be alone so she can do a proper mate search and then look for one of those guys and then be with one of those guys instead. That way instead of one person being happy, two people can be h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:20 PM
–

Fair enough...I'd probably rather get a golden retriever and keep doing all the work myself than put up with a dude in my workplace so whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:01 PM
2

You just can't be bothered thinking can you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:51 PM
–

Well that would be a very similar list to the list of what's up with men who are hot and cold about hanging out.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:16 PM
2

Zero is still the same as zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:20 PM
1

Zero is the same as zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:17 PM
4

It might also be because she finds you personally repugnant, hygienically unacceptable, culturally unacceptable, ethically disturbing, possessed of some feature that just icks her or just plain too hard to understand sufficiently to get a read on the things she needs to know to no longer feel too anxious to think about it. We're not all the same. There's definitely a...how to describe it...heat map? Yes there's definitely a set of heat maps that shows the general location of what's most importan…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 06:43 PM
1

I don't have a problem with online spaces being carefully controlled for the comfort of those in those spaces and to enable specific tasks and discussions. Anyone who had a problem with that is nuts....we all know how spaces end up if no control is exercised. Your entire post is disingenuous. If you want totally free speech then go to one of the shit holes that allows it. If you want to butt into a carefully controlled and curated space that other people have made pleasant and comfortable, becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:24 PM
1

Some years ago a study was done of people's ability to tell how old someone is. Turns out young adults tend to be really good at telling if someone is significantly older than them....much better than older adults are at telling whether a well preserved older person is well preserved but old, or actually young. No I don't have a link to the study...I do remember it well though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:10 AM
1

The problem I have with passport bros is the unrealistic expectations about living in another culture some of them give to men who can barely deal with living in their own culture of origin.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:30 AM
–

I think a whole lotta men are a whole lotta clueless about how transparent their attempts to be covert about pretty much anything are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:44 PM
48

Well off you go. What's stopping you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:41 PM
0

Well...that rather depends on when one regards a breakup as having started.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:52 PM
–

Yeah. You could marry one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 07:23 PM
6

Boring. Tell us penis length and last year's taxable income.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 04:24 AM
-1

I don't go to the gym because I don't want sexual matters to intrude upon my exercise. I've basically already been driven out by male sexuality and bullshit like being approached while I'm going as fast as I can on the rowing machine. I'm not the only one. I'm fairly sure that you could graph female preference for modesty vs likelihood they own home gym equipment and there would be a strong correlation. So I'm coincidentally also not there to get offended at accidentally walking in on some OF gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:46 PM
10

I think that the guys who complain the loudest tend to not have a particularly realistic viewpoint on anything dating or relationship related and are unlikely to make it to the point of having a wife, kids and a mortgage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:21 PM
-2

No dude. I've suggested to these guys frequently that if they are striking out with some they should still try to make more irl male friends. The result is always wall to wall excuses. It's beyond obvious they aren't liked by other men and don't even particularly like other men who are just like them, and maintain as small a friend group as is possible without going insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 10:38 PM
–

My mother told me the red flag moment she shouldn't have ignored and why she ignored it. I'm grateful. Whatever other mistakes I may have made I avoided that particular one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 09:34 PM
6

I think it's more that very few people can put up with the shittiest most angry of those guys in real life. They're the sort of men who even other men eventually a few hours into interacting feel creeped out by, grossed out by. So it wasn't that men didn't talk about women, compare notes etc before the internet. It's that the men who other men quickly want to punch in the face if they stand within five yards of them in the flesh are now being tolerated by other men in various ways online. For ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 09:22 PM
–

Yes there's a whole lot of stuff that's a bit unacceptable around the laws concerning babies conceived in rape. One would think it would be a done deal that if a woman proved in court that a man had raped her and the medical evidence indicates strongly the rape was what cased the pregnancy she would be allowed to totally and irrevocably terminate any current and future parental rights he might claim...he wouldn't get a say in if the kid gets adopted out or be able to request visitation, but nope…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 07:39 PM
–

It is where I live...and probably various other places. There's basically an additional small amount put on top of fines and penalties that goes to Victims of Crime and helps compensate victims of prosecuted crimes with a final guilty verdict or crimes with an unknown perpetrator whose victims are unlikely/unwilling to otherwise be able to obtain compensation. However the amounts involved are rarely as large as child support can be so I don't really think it could be used as a slush fund to supp…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 07:32 PM
–

Sometimes? But it's certainly not particularly common. The statistically average age gap is what it is and that's about two years in many western cultures. And it doesn't tend to end well if they marry...turns out matching a young woman who is chomping at the bit to get the real work of life started with an inflexible guy who has a track record of being glacially slow on getting the real work of life started is a recipe for significant dissatisfaction and disagreement...and she usually finds the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 01:10 PM
7

I generally find that people who genuinely desire a situation of reciprocal love also make vigorous and persistent efforts to be someone who will make the life of anyone they love better. Because well... being ok with making someone's life worse isn't anything like loving them. People who sit at home in a house paid for by their father, on their arses touching their genitals while watching porn and playing games on their computer and eating food prepared by their long suffering mother (who they …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:30 PM
–

When I was young and single I was in the habit of meeting two slightly different but overlapping groups of friends at a cafe on Tuesday and Friday night, hanging out Saturday at a sharehouse some friends lived in, and going down to the local pub for a drink with workmates occasionally, maybe once every two weeks. I never regarded myself as particularly social.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:40 AM
–

Well obviously I wouldn't be particularly emotionally ok with being cut off from contact with a child of mine...but not having been permitted to complete my duty towards my child first would make me less ok with a situation in which I am cut off, not more ok. You should expect to have to do everything possible to do your duty by your child even if your child differs markedly from you in beliefs, even if your child finds it difficult to get on with you, even if your child is fated to slip away fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:30 AM
–

Eh. I've actually got kids. Unlike most of the people here for whom having kids is at best a pipe dream at worst something they resent the very idea of because they do not like the idea of more duty in their lives. If one of my kids thought I was unbearable and had to be escaped from I would still prefer they find a way to emotionally handle sticking round and receiving support until their education was complete. Because it's my duty to see them to that point. She should knuckle down, shut up, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 11:35 PM
10

The only reward for a woman defaulting to feminine, agreeable, nice and non-confrontational is getting walked all over, bossed around, held responsible for outcomes without being given the necessary power to achieve outcomes and just generally being treated like shit. If you're a woman and can't produce some bitchiness, if you can't channel a bit of Karen, if you can't hurt someone who should be hurt... you're screwed. Of course those women who are too nice by nature seek to nurture their inner …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:51 PM
1

That link talks about meeting online. Meeting online is a larger set of which meeting on apps is a smaller set. Meeting online includes all people you first interacted with in an online environment. Not just people first encountered on a dating app. Let's say your favourite band has a Facebook page. You join it and occasionally comment. There's some other person commenting and you discuss whether the band is likely to have the bassist with them on the new tour because the bassist has recently si…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 04:33 PM
1

Nope, not particularly confused right now. Bit disappointed anyone is left who chooses to give a shit what dating apps do rather than just kicking the whole industry to the curb.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 04:08 PM
1

It's a fairly solid possibility around here, that one is talking to a deeply confused person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 04:01 PM
1

I care a little bit if people are being dumbasses about it. And I posted under the automod which is the designated place for certain things...such as replying when the question isn't targeted at you but you still got something you want to say. Might want to read the automod comment I replied to if this confuses you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 03:51 PM
1

The first or the second queen Elizabeth?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 03:24 PM
1

Fine. He's lives with mommy so there's a high chance something a bit weird emotionally happening. He's that weird rare creature...a goddamn ten.... who lives with mommy. That does not exactly reduce the chances of some sort of weird enmeshment does it. I don't wanna walk into that house and feel the weirdness. My skin is crawling just thinking of it. His mommy can keep him. Deep enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 06:16 AM
5

Well y'know....men on average have never been particularly comfortable with the fact women have thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 12:32 AM
1

If there's a deal breaker already when a person is described in twenty five words or less then why would it take long to say nope?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 12:02 AM
2

Ugh number 2 is just ugh. Hate boats hate momma's boys. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 11:41 PM
–

There's people whose misdeeds and embarrassing moments go largely unreported. And there's people who are being watched for the slightest slip they make Every one of those women whose enjoyment of graduation day he tried to spoil will be watching and waiting to stick the boot in. He basically handed his wife a university educated cheer squad in the event of any future divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 09:42 PM
–

"I will construct a body of muscles and a masculine aura..." Nah. You're going to join a gym, go for all the three free personal trainer sessions that came with signing up then go to between two and six further sessions spending less time at the gym every time. Then you're going to go five months paying that gym membership without attending. Eventually you're going to contact the gym to cancel your membership and they are going to say they want you to go in and have an exit interview if you're c…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 09:07 PM
1

It's a business decision about a nonessential service and it doesn't bother me. Women don't need dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 08:45 PM
4

Is Jake autistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:33 PM
2

Personality sort of feeds into having an easier more rewarding time with everything that involves people. You're going to have a better career if people like you, more functional social circles for less effort, when you try to build your body up more people will praise and encourage you, you're likely to get better more motivated help from doctors etc. Plus y'know...most people have time when it's not exactly viable to be working on everything. So it's not like personality work is always going u…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:28 PM
1

I think whether it can have the term cheating applied to it is a different question to whether or not it is ethically sound or a sensible idea. You can expect a very high likelihood the person you do that to will treat it exactly like cheating when they decide what to do about the relationship. I think maybe the information you are looking for is if I do this and get dumped, will anyone else have the slightest sympathy for me and maybe try to prevail on her to return? And the answer is...no. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 08:35 AM
3

I think that someone can be a person's first plan for a variety of reasons and some of those reasons are just due to how things went with timing not who they are more attracted to or who is going to make a healthy lifelong partner. It's entirely possible that in a specific situation one person ditching another in favour of a third person is the best possible thing for everyone and the world in general. I also think that waiting around keeping oneself available hoping some person leaves their par…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:52 AM
–

I strongly suspect that if OP had to spend 24 hours in a cell with a random male convicted felon or a random female convicted felon... he'd pick the female convicted felon.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 11:01 PM
–

I haven't noticed women denying that social status is a factor in mate selection? We all understand the allure of being with somebody who is a someone. Women tend to however see things a little more complexly than men and that it makes perfect sense that frequently a woman will turn down an accomplished man of a much higher status socioeconomic group in order to persue men who are someones within her socioeconomic group. So we're frequently explaining to middle class 30 year old guys with well p…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 09:16 PM
2

It's not a person and it's not your partner in human society and it doesn't get a plus one when you're invited somewhere normal or get to reserve a seat next to you on public transport when the seats start running out. That said...I don't particularly care what computer games you play or what sex toys you use so you know...have an AI "partner" and play games privately with it as much as you want. It's not shameful to enjoy that sort of thing it's just delusional to expect anyone else to feel abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 04:51 PM
7

Not drop dead gorgeous, just someone who hates flair. I've never had anything remotely resembling those experiences... except one guy from a wealthy family that a sibling knew showed interest for a short time but he had an odd vibe something was very off and anyway he turned out to be a heroin addict so yeah freezing him out was the right choice because a rich heroin addict is still a heroin addict. Oh and sometimes I get contacted by people who are somebody but that's because I've got a life an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 10:13 PM
2

Yes a lot of asexuals would still like a significant other... just no sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:18 PM
1

Inkwell meet box full of unwanted items on the side of the road. Someone else can rummage I'm done.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 11:45 AM
1

And then, according to friends I have whose parents told them stories of living under communism, you had to treat him real nice and offer refreshments and other encouragements before he would work. And if there was something he had to source to make the repair well you'd better make him your new best friend if you want him to remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 11:29 AM
1

You'd be well advised to attend to what you've still got to accomplish in life, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 11:17 AM
–

Same here. Came back crying when he was old and feeble, promising a stake in his estate and wanting me in his life again after three decades of actively and viciously doing everything possible to estrange me. I heaved a deep sigh and said well I guess you're going to have to meet and get to know your two grandkids then. He paused a while and said no he thinks he's really got enough people without them. He's alone in the nursing home because even barely mobile and confined to a care home he's too…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 11:11 AM
1

Doing better is never going to be giving sexual or social opportunities to men who still need to seek professional help to learn how to interact with the rest of humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 09:58 AM
1

Having someone make provision for you is just all round endearing, this is true for both men and women. Whether it's bringing someone food when they are too unwell to fetch it themselves or buying them a piece of jewellery or holding a seat or place in line for them. It's a rare human indeed who finds no form of provision being made for them attractive. If you don't particularly want to endear yourself to anyone by being provident then don't. It just means you're a less endearing match.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:37 AM
–

Well I don't think he needs to gain weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:24 AM
–

While that's probably going to be very helpful to her in terms of giving her a bigger share of her parents eventual estate, I'm not particularly sure what the utility for you is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:06 AM
12

In all circumstances I've actually experienced personally it's been a friend or relative sharing their story about some guy I don't know and don't give two shits about and completely fucking irrelevant in practical impact on the formal processes of justice and only relevant to informal processes in terms of not shitting on a victim who is right in front of me. So I just believe them. Why would I go to the effort to attempt not to believe them? Sounds a lot of work and for what exactly? Now obvio…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 02:51 AM
1

It's an ongoing dynamic where women who aren't perceptive don't tend to live as long as those who are...and men who don't lie don't tend to leave as many offspring as those who are liars. And we're still all currently evolving in unison. I for one know which set of preferred strategies is just trying to deal with the other sex being jackasses and which is a grevious moral failing. You probably disagree because men lose all moral.perspective as soon as getting that pathetic flap of skin between t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 02:27 AM
11

Maybe she's just not feeling it, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 07:35 PM
1

Some women like the idea of a policeman very much and others are repulsed. And who feels each way isn't always related to how law abiding they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 06:45 PM
6

Whatever. Your advice isn't for successful men because they don't need advice. And it isn't for unsuccessful men because what unsuccessful men lack isn't permission or willingness to be an asshole...we daily see here their eager willingness to be assholes...they're lacking competence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 04:35 PM
10

Successful men can and will just keep doing whatever they are doing. And most unsuccessful men tend to have problems doing anything well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 03:19 PM
6

Because their economy for many decades really wasn't set up to provide things like nice kitchen renovations and lots of choices in furniture etc. So if you wanted anything nice and different in your home that very often meant you needed someone with the skills to make it and then you had to source the materials for them to make it. It was part of an overall problem of even if you got hold of a lot of money there was difficulties finding sufficient choice of ways to easily spend it. That sort of …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 03:06 PM
8

One of the few situations I think someone gets a free pass for cheating is if their spouse is cheating and refuses to stop and just declares it's ok for one of them but not the other. Faced with that sort of fait accompli tactic...I've no problem morally with someone finding a way to deal with it emotionally by quietly getting some on the side themselves. Would just leaving be better? Probably. But just getting some themselves so they lay in bed at night thinking the books are balanced instead o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:16 AM
1

I think that most times online and sometimes in real life they're just looking for the opportunity to for once get to reject something about a woman? They'll ask for advice purposely to reject it as meanly as possible. Then get shitty when it turns into an argument and she's landing a few blows on their ego... because that's not how they thought it should be they thought they would walk away with an ego boost.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:29 AM
0

A lot of guys here are autistic and lack ordinary common sense, resilience and nuance in their decisions about taking advice. Giving them advice and seeing to it they receive the advice in a useful manner is way beyond the pay grade of anyone other than suitably qualified paid disability professionals.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 11:38 PM
0

Autistic men should learn how to take advice from neurotypical people in the same way neurotypical people take advice from neurotypical people. Normal neurotypical people during that period of breaking away from their parents in adolescence learn how to receive advice in nuanced and cautious ways, how to analyse advice on several different levels and how to pick and choose what advice to experiment with. Normal neurotypical people do fine coming up with good strategies in life even when receivin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 11:32 PM
–

It is my firm belief that someone who wants to buy a home should be constantly keeping up with what it is they can actually afford. Even if they can't see a future in buying what they can afford, things change so maybe one day, and at least knowing what they're refusing keeps them in the zone where some of the locus of control is with them. It's mentally more healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:48 PM
–

Yes but I'm not a bro. Tell us what some of your interests are other than the weird gender based discussions we have here and maybe someone can suggest something?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:49 PM
20

This. You build a positive expectation of what a future with a particular person will be like. We'll work hard to buy a house and then we'll fix it up a bit and flip it and the next house is our forever house. We'll go to Melbourne once a year to look at secondhand bookshops until we have kids and then we'll take ten years off from that and it will be so fun when we start again. We'll have three kids after we've paid the mortgage down by fifty thousand. We'll play chess with the kids on the back…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:36 PM
4

Well in my first relationship I missed red flags...I was sixteen when the relationship started and he deliberately hid aspects of himself that would have tipped me off. So when I kicked him to the curb and divorced his lazy cheating spendthrift arse as basically being unsatisfactory for marriage full stop, I had zero sympathy for all the whining about it. Like dude...if you're gonna leave it up to a sixteen year old girl to get something right that is going to impact your life forever maybe it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:08 PM
11

There are men who whine a lot about women's feelings...women's feelings always seem to be in those men's way. Always being a problem to them and a waste of their time and energy Whatever. That's not about women really it's about those guys. That's why the most compassionate thing to do as a woman about such men is just completely avoid them and attend to ones feelings alone or in the company of someone who isn't of that opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 01:14 PM
0

That and the dating apps are at this point, as someone here once worded it, a toy box full of broken toys. So even their real world experience of humans is becoming increasingly unusual. They're trying to find ways to say "maybe everything's fine and normal with the crazies I find on tinder so long as I understand and behave in a particular way" and doing so leads to this sort of nonsense. They are in desperate need of extended interacting with a normal group of people their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 10:35 AM
7

The various social narratives women get sold to them as girls are fairly strong and usually it requires several turns around the maypole for a woman to start discarding the bullshit she was encouraged to believe in and replacing it with knowledge of what she actually wants. We see this regularly with for example women who started at one end range of opinions on traditional gender roles and then end up on the other end of the range. If you're serious about a woman, particularly a young woman, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:10 AM
2

The apps sure have handed you a glass of Kool aid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:01 AM
1

"I match with less attractive girls..." So what you mean is dating apps IN PARTICULAR are less effective for you in Toronto. The women in Toronto...those who even still bother with dating apps in an era when women are leaving the apps....and also choose your profile....while having their profile also chosen by you....are less overall pleasing to you in attributes and/or quantity...than the women you have matched with in small cities. Sounds to me like women in Toronto are just more fed up with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:35 AM
2

A lot of people at all levels of physical appearance live in cities and don't struggle. Maybe you struggle at dating because you kind of suck at living in a large city.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 08:03 PM
2

Well... whatever way you attempt to live your life the chances are fairly good you wish you'd tried a different way. That's just humans. Try to do it the way you want to do it. If you do it your own way and succeed the success is all yours. If you do it your own way and fail then we don't have you on our doorstep berating us for having steered you wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 07:03 AM
1

Take a male friend instead. One who is unlikely to be deserting you to chase skirt. Unless you just hate music and only tolerate it for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 07:23 AM
1

Give women your number isn't worthless advice, it is advice that you should think carefully about when to use...and usually given as an alternative to men who are fucking up in complicated and hard to address ways while trying to get women's numbers and just not progressing in learning because of this. Love will find you is the sort of advice offered to men who have told us they are giving up but we think they still should try to stop being bitter at least enough to allow them to take up the opp…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:40 AM
1

Well yes being burdened is not particularly sexy, being old presents aesthetic difficulties. There's not a lot of women who are thrilled to bits either upon discovering that the guy they've had two dates with has three kids he sees every weekend and is looking for help with so he can get week about custody or that the guy they have been talking with online clearly is ten years older than he said and has had hair plugs and lotsa filler and Botox to look ok in photos but all that's apparent as soo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:56 AM
1

After considering the case of Lauren Southern I am of the opinion that often not even the most insufferably traditional women deserve having to deal with the ghastly reality of being married to a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 01:12 AM
6

Well you should always take people seriously. You're gonna walk yourself right into a mess if you don't take people seriously. I just think you've got not a single clue about what taking a serial monogamist seriously actually involves.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:48 PM
–

Our "cause" isn't to make men like us.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:33 PM
1

I didn't say you can't tell Tony...I said you can tell Tony but there's a pretty good chance Tony is fine with it and will have a bit of a laugh at your concerns. Look I've been basically fandom adjacent my entire life and ever since I first started socialising with other fans in the mid eighties it was just a given...if there were only two or three or five or whatever fans in town with an unusually high level of enthusiasm for a particular thing those fans would be friends and spend time togeth…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 12:35 PM
3

100 people? Houston gets about 40,000. Tokyo gets about 22,000. And that's just those two large shows. There's some sort of long weekend quilting event in most large cities. There's also hundreds of other crafts all having their own events. And things like state agricultural fairs usually have cooking and craft competitions attached and women travel in groups to submit their works for judging. There's a whole hidden world of women, both single and attached, doing stuff that the algorithm isn't o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 09:29 AM
2

Dude...you seem to think the real world stops where your social media activity stops. It's a bit worrying that you made it to adulthood without working out that just isn't the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:55 AM
6

Yes! Why would anyone cancel any of that good stuff for dick? There's dick at home. And if one ever decided the dick at home is just no longer relevant there's other dicks a quite reasonable distance from home work, all the stuff you need to do regularly. No need to cancel stuff that one has made massive effort to go do with other women halfway across the globe. Just go basically anywhere once you get home...there will be men. With dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:40 AM
3

It's all the girls trips I'm ever likely to wish to make...married or single Well... quilts for a weekend and maybe if there's a big musical show on (I live in the Australian equivalent of flyover country and we often get left off itineraries) an overnight stay with raiding the local fabric stores in the morning and doing a few hundred damage to my savings because once again... flyover territory. There's literally hundreds of thousands of women out there having trips like that. You just don't se…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:20 AM
1

You can tell Tony. Just don't act surprised or outraged if both Tony and the guy's wife knew exactly what restaurant they were at and it was to feed themselves and talk together about a movie they just saw together that neither Tony nor the guy's wife had the slightest interest in watching or discussing. And this has happened every time that particular movie franchise put out a new movie in the past decade. And everyone is cool with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:58 AM
1

The same reason some people will happily stay friends with a friend they suggest a romantic relationship to and get rejected....and others won't. Some people don't see it as burdensome to learn to reframe and moderate their expectations and feelings to keep good people in their lives they see it as just something you do. Some people find it easier to say no to themselves. Some people are examples of a flexible strength not an inflexible strength. Some people chose to master their own behaviour r…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:49 AM
–

It is different, but it isn't weird. A ring is a fairly traditional gift to a man who is your husband boyfriend father or son, just not usually on engagement. You're just putting another layer of meaning on something ordinary. Weird would be idk ...an engagement genital piercing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:18 PM
–

Can't stand fuzzy pale eyebrows or very pale eye colours.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:02 PM
–

I've no idea about the omegaverse and that whole genre. But for some reasons rather more related to plot than anything else I've played a woman in a tabletop RPG who was married to a werewolf.And there were certain very satisfying aspects to it as fantasy. I mean... your kids are puppy kids. And you roast entire oxen to feed the family. And if you want the family to come running you howl. It's.... cute. Edited to add...or maybe I just saw the cute side and played to that because I wasn't into it…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:00 PM
19

Guarantee you that after tagging along to one quilt festival the average man will give up totally on this sort of nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:15 PM
–

https://youtu.be/34u_3Z9_LUw?si=Ru0dFEmaTABTGzdl
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:40 PM
10

Every woman will go to Mexico? Whut? Dude...the thing about women who don't want to go to Mexico because it's too dangerous is they mostly don't actually go round loudly declaring it. I mean what's in it for them in doing that? Someone decides to have an argument with them and calls them racist? The racist dude at work decides she's a kindred spirit? You don't have to ask for time off work to not go to Mexico. You don't need to ask your friends if they want to not go to Mexico with you. You don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:51 PM
14

They're hoping one day that when your husband gets back either... 1.He will storm off leaving you with no means of transport home and at their mercy. 2.He will have finally gotten on your last nerve and you will go home with them to spite him Basically just putting a little pressure on your marriage in hopes it breaks in their direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:49 PM
6

It has probably escaped your notice because modern men don't tend to have a decent grounding in history, but we're still in, but on the cusp of leaving, an era in which western women had it pretty firmly placed upon them to be the civilising emotional influence on the supposed rational but beastly nature of western men. Rousseau and all that similar shit. Also a lot of evo psych especially as argued by modern men who lack even the basics that a classical education may have provided and know basi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:13 AM
1

I think they replace one set of big problems with another set of big problems which is a valid type of strategy but it's important to assess such a strategy very carefully before investing in it. And I don't think a lot of the talk about it here actually encourages men to make that careful assessment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:11 PM
1

Well y'know...if there's a winner there isn't always a loser somewhere..but oftentimes maybe most times there is. And I hardly think one can class Bumble in with WeWork. If Bumble went broke tomorrow I'd still classify it in with the successful businesses of that era rather than the unsuccessful ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:21 PM
1

Did the woman first approach really fail? Bumble achieved a degree of public awareness of its existence and stuck around making ok money through a period of time when numerous other attempts at launching dating apps failed totally and we don't even remember their names. It was obviously doing something more "right" for itself and those with some sort of stake in it during that era than those other apps. I argue that the woman first approach was a good move at the time and profitable and many men…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:40 PM
–

Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:47 AM
–

What I generally recommend to people who live in built up areas but don't live in simply terrible neighbourhoods is to get started map out an area within which everything is easily walkable...then dress in a socially acceptable manner that won't get you suspected to be a criminal and gradually over the course of weeks walk it all investigating everything that is publicly acceptable to investigate. So look at shops to see what they sell and parks to see what amenities they have and community cent…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:05 AM
–

Not as quick and as easy for most as going for a walk until the shit on the liver they've been afflicted by lessens a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:53 AM
–

I don't care what the woman in the initial example in particular was or wasn't. I care that it's a really easy test for a childless woman with a pet to apply and a bunch of guys who she's not going to want because they'd rather jump to fait accompli than have difficult conversations will just fuck right off if she applies it. It's perfect. Thanks gonna tell my daughter to tell a specific one of her friends this can be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:44 AM
–

If it isn't obvious where would be a good idea you can ask what outside locations they recommend and why.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:36 AM
–

Awwwww adorable
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:34 AM
–

Nah it's a great test for use by women who don't have kids but have a pet. A decent guy who doesn't want kids and is highly interested in you is still going to check that what you said means what he thought it did. And then maybe be a bit brusque about how he cuts off the relationship if he finds out he wasn't mistaken. Or laugh if you tell him your son is your cat. Storming off is the mark of someone who has a deeply avoidant nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:33 AM
–

What aspect of the advice annoys you the most? Is it that it is free, or that it is actionable for most, or that anecdotally it provides benefit to many who try it, or that unlike most advice it has a little bit of actual research backing it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:27 AM
–

Ooooh I'm gonna have to suggest that as a good test for women to apply to men. If you own a male cat or dog or parrot or whatever say you tucked your son in. Or daughter if the pet is female. If he ghosts instead of saying "I didn't know you had a kid" you dodged a bullet. Perfect. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:15 AM
–

Sometimes UTIs can have no symptoms but fever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:52 AM
–

Most of us would never voluntarily enter the bear habitat woods without a medium to large group of friends. So if we're just suddenly alone in the woods but for one man whose character we do not know...the overwhelmingly likely story is that this isn't random at all and he brought us there against our will. And he's thus probably significantly more dangerous than the average rapist who just sticks his dick up some chick who's a bit too drunk to say no then skulks off and hopes she doesn't work o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:49 AM
1

I've no interest in cooperating with being clumsily wedged. Zero interest in that. It's a whole lot of fuss for absolutely no benefit. I prefer to sidestep it and go on my way. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedge_strategy_(diplomacy)#:~:text=Wedge%20strategies%20in%20diplomacy%20are,arise%20because%20of%20wedge%20strategies. That doesn't mean I think identically to everyone else who is broadly in a agreement with many of my views and it doesn't mean I am never in conflict with them. I've frequen…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:33 AM
–

Nobody cares enough to even properly oppress them. So a big no to the registry.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:24 PM
–

I think it's mostly that if a guy in your social circle wouldn't even chat for five minutes about things like mutual interests when you were fat (or married, or whatever it was that was the problem) and suddenly you're a sexual prospect and he's feigning interest in every small thing you say... including things you've said to him before and he just grunted in reply. It's insulting and not because he's suddenly interested sexually...it's because he's stupid but thinks you're stupid. That's always…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:19 PM
–

Those guys aren't the sharpest tools in the shed. Look, they don't get to feel properly victimised unless there's a solution and we're just not providing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:54 PM
2

Well...how do you actually know anyone here is what they say they are?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:06 PM
3

They're not dating those guys even if those guys aren't fucking the local hookers. Duh. Look if you're stuck and going nowhere you probably want to unstick yourself somehow. And well... having seen a prostitute might give a man problems later on when a girlfriend is upset about it but really... there's a distinct possibility if he doesnt get unstuck somehow he won't even get the chance to be dumped because he won't get even the start of a relationship at all ever. Some guys who decide to unstick…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:01 PM
6

Or y'know...a goth. Where are all the guys who claim to live goth girls when this sort of conversation happens? They just sorta y'know...skulk off and let other men disparage the stuff that gets their dicks hard
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:43 PM
14

She's clearly wearing at least three different products (concealer, foundation, powder) to perfect an even appearance of her skin. It's likely she's wearing small amounts of some form of contour to correct a flat appearance due to all that product to give her even skin tone. Her lips aren't just glossed, she's wearing actual lipstick and lip liner, just she has blotted it to allow some of her natural lip colour and texture through. She's almost certainly wearing a clear brow styling product and …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:08 PM
4

Man on Reddit thinks he's to be respected like a mighty general because his share house bedroom has multiple bunk beds in it and thus resembles a barracks. I'm gonna go take a piss in my toilet that I never have to wait in line for, fetch myself a pair of bed socks from my second bedroom that I use as a dressing room then go to my fridge in my kitchen to fetch myself an iced coffee and a couple of chocolate biscuits that I know will still be there because it's my real estate I am living in. I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:24 AM
1

Well it depends on your perception of what honour is. Where I'm from, honour is far more about your own conduct towards others not the conduct of others towards you. People use a word like "cuck" as an insult but I m not sure it's a type of insult that is being applied with precisely the same intent by everyone who uses that insult. In some cultures it mostly just gets shrugged off if no actual cheating has occurred and in others it is fighting words whichever way. The main element to it as an i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:44 PM
1

We know men can get frostbite because Harry told us!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:24 PM
–

It's always been common from both sexes. Usually it's the sign of a stalemate about an issue. One person thinks A, the other person thinks B...they fight each other to a stalemate and then eyerolls and heavy sighs and sniping abound forever. It's a signal they give each other that they aren't going to separate over it but this isn't fucking over...the whatever it is will still be opposed. Had a friend who did it whenever his wife cooked bubble and squeak. She wasn't about to stop using up leftov…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:18 PM
1

I can't imagine myself ever being a dating app user. So obviously I wouldn't be finding anyone on a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:05 AM
-4

Aha! You have confirmed what I have always suspected...PPD dudes are one loser guy sitting diapered at his computer with no life other than arguing here. But seriously... nobody I know watches the view and nobody really cares. It's still around because it costs fuck all to make and has a very small but very reliable viewer base...and serves as a convenient vehicle to keep a few old celebs ticking over and available in case someone with a name is needed for something at short notice. There's no w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:59 AM
–

I don't have sons and never will. That's something I've never had to deal with in that immediate visceral way that one feels when when thinks about ones actual child.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:40 AM
1

They give me anxiety...had a relative who was using one while flipping a house and it sorta bounced and let off what seemed two at once and he ended up with a nail right through his finger bone. If I walk pass a building site and see nail guns in use I cross the road. He showed me an x-ray it was so horrifying it made my butt clench. Similar can be found if you image google "nailgun finger x-ray" It's a good thing the only carpentry I want to do is minor household stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:27 AM
0

Stay off social media then. You don't need to buy a nail gun either if you don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:21 AM
1

You're refusing a tool that other people are using to great effect. Imagine if you were a first fix carpenter (I think in some countries they call that a framing carpenter) who refused to use nail guns. Can you still build well? Sure. Houses... excellent houses...were made before those nail guns were invented during WW11. Are the people who use nail guns correct in assessing the huge improvement in efficiency and productivity nail guns provide? Yeah. They're right about that. They're completely …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:53 AM
0

I think its fairly clear that panel style shows have always included some edgy opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:42 AM
-1

Then why are men worrying about what the women on The View say?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:37 AM
–

However they fucking want...they got enough problems with people trying to take away their self determination as a country and I'm not gonna say anything about what they are doing other than regularly request that my government provides them more resources to do it That said if it was Australia, I'd far rather I (woman in her fifties) go to war than that my daughters did. I wouldn't be terribly impressed if the nation took my daughters but refused me going instead of them because I'd had kids. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 06:54 AM
1

I had one... public service job. They did a urine test for drugs but not for pregnancy, took a brief medical history focused mainly on working out if you had a mental health condition that could be worsened by stress (this didn't disqualify you it just meant it would be part of the context if you went off the rails due to stress) and they did an eye test to see if you needed vision correction before starting to use computers all day...this was in the early 90s and it was sort of an issue as some…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:01 AM
4

This. The unwritten rule is that any aspect of information about your sex life or lack thereof you can reasonably gatekeep at work you probably should gatekeep that at work. I've noticed that some of the people here... sexually unsuccessful men especially although OP is claiming to be a woman...seem to have so little social life they have started to blur some lines at work. That is not good Obviously workmates find stuff out sometimes. You can tell whose dressing on Friday to go hang out at bars…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:41 AM
-1

Then if women have come to expect men are useless, be a man who isn't useless. If you're not actually useless and can and do prove it, the View has in effect been working for you...right? Suddenly you're a creature like no other. Just by...not being useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:05 AM
1

Yob or wanker? https://youtu.be/GiHdpAVIHgo?si=yNllZQxPvZePDqYy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:48 AM
3

It's the chaotic lack of space and privacy they claim they are willing to tolerate that I can't understand. Five guys to a room all with different work schedules and sleep schedules. You'd be breathing someone else's farts and listening to someone else scratch his balls and sniff and hock up phlegm basically all the time. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:24 AM
3

That's not my personal experience of mindless jobs vs jobs that require thought and complicated decisions...my experience of mindless jobs is the pressure to make increases in productivity never fucking stops even if you're the top performer in the workplace...and you can ease it for a while by changing jobs but that means that for a long while the new job is no longer so mindless as you do the learning curve to settle in. I just can't imagine anyone with any real sense and life experience havin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:04 AM
4

To be more appeasing to them why? They aren't gonna ease off on their bullshit permanently because you appease them. They're just gonna get more demanding . Appeasement is a short term tactic not a long term strategy. It buys you time to exit a party politely to avoid a red piller who has showed up or to transfer out of a team run by a red piller and into a team run by a woman or to covertly motivate and organise your social circle to stop inviting the redpiller to things. It's not a way to live…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 02:56 AM
5

They just evict red pillers from their social scene and get on with life. Faking anything for redpillers involves too much dealing with their crazy ass nonsense. It's like... don't touch the poop.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:34 AM
6

IKR? It's like cat lady that's an aspiration. You don't just start out with a cosy home you own and don't have to justify your cats to a landlord and you're allowed to install as many cat doors as you want and fence the yard with catproof fencing and build little cabins in the backyard so the ones that prefer that can sleep there and landscape it for the cats and a whole room for litter trays and another room to feed them in and building shelves all over the walls high up and pass throughs from …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:22 AM
2

Sharing a room with 4 other guys...so basically you only get to masturbate or have a good scratch or whatever in the bathroom which will of course be in fairly heavy use? That doesn't sound like the fun times version of incelhood to me. Oh and sleep quality that can't possibly be good in a room with four other people arriving and leaving and dressing and accessing their stuff like whenever.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:10 AM
7

Is this sexually unsuccessful men's "I don't dream of labour"...sort of like women's not dreaming of labour but more pissy and resentful and of course incomplete without taking pot shots at women? Whatever dude if you want to start a YouTube channel you go do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:04 AM
5

Yeah. Women have been rediscovering femininity more on their own terms recently. Either individually or collectively through fashionable trends. Cottage core, crochet etc. Being soft and nurturing towards themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 12:54 AM
3

I'm a middle aged woman who is around a couple of young women a lot They're basically watching for anything that indicates red pill bullshit and cheerfully remove men from their lives even as just friends if a pattern emerges. They don't care whether their actions make men think red pill is right. It's like...do you go editing your behaviour to cater to crazy ass conspiracy theorists? Of course you fucking don't. You do what you do and you tell them to piss off if you work out someone is nuts th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 12:47 AM
1

Depends on if the women were young, middle aged or a mix. I don't really want to be with a group of just young women. Btdt in my youth... society fucks with their heads so theyre too emotionally centred around male attention and what that does to their behaviour rather messes up their effectiveness as human beings and well getting them past that point of doing stuff to appeal to men that aren't even present would take weeks of dramas and patient guidance so I would rather be alone, but I'm cool …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 12:02 AM
–

Pfffft. You're gonna age eventually. Every woman who had been with one man long enough knows he's not as good as he was but there are younger men who are as good as he was. Basically memories of your past self will eventually cuck your current self. Whenever I read a post here like yours I am reminded how the men who understand women the least are always the ones who think they understand them the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:56 PM
2

Well probably not while state funded mental health research is so crap in most places. There's no money for creating a sufficiently solid evidence base to work from and without a solid evidence base any attempt at innovation in treatment runs the risk of not only making things worse but also it taking many years to work out how it was making things worse. It's very similar to problems women have faced with regards to catching up in medical outcomes for things like being diagnosed with a heart at…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:00 PM
1

Well...it's more like if I'm alone in the woods with a man the chances are damn near 100 percent he has brought me there against my will. And the woods are where you get taken to disappear forever. I can't let this "well how did we get there" aspect go. Because that's where the answer to whether he's gonna kill me is. If me in the story doesn't know how I got there none of my reactions are gonna be "well just trust this dude he's a mensch" I just don't go hiking or camping alone with a man. Not …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:34 PM
–

Sounds to me like you've either got a type or you're showing basically no selectivity and are always taking the first girl who shows interest and you're the type that particular sort of woman goes for.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 10:17 AM
-8

Would it have been a wise thing for her to stick around while she's very drunk and very angry and you are also very drunk and and angry and seem determined to make her angrier? Would it have made things better? If she'd tried to get you in the car with her to get you away from the angry dudes before she went off alone to get away would you have gone? To me it seems like at that point leaving is the most constructive thing she can do. She's no longer around to antagonise you or be antagonised by …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 08:09 AM
1

"while she got put in a cab and drove off" Were you upset they didn't encourage her to stick round?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:30 AM
-3

Good. We can all stop tormenting each other. Enjoy your porn and gaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:27 AM
-7

Well they should stop being so angry when I don't want to allow myself to be chatted up at the bus stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:55 AM
25

Proving fault publicly is really hard on everyone and most times involves the victim of the bad behaviour basically acting like nothing is wrong while collecting evidence. It forces them into betraying what's left of the relationship completely in a sustained premeditated manner just to be able to remove themselves from the relationship. People who haven't initiated a divorce rarely understand this. You can be leaving but still not ruthlessly taking every penny and every piece of property you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:44 AM
-5

Sooo...not only am I doing myself a favour by not having relationships and sex with men I'm statistically doing them a favour. Cool beans.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:18 AM
–

The organisations that run most official chess competitions have women's events to help guarantee the future quality and reach of the sport. Its not particularly to help women. I can assure you that high level chess officials don't give two shits about whether anyone, male or female, feels bad about losing a game or not being catered to. The situation is that the best chess players are made at about age four to seven. You're always going to be a better and more dedicated chess player if chess ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:05 PM
2

Gina Chick's win on Alone Australia points to what sort of woman to choose though, if someone chooses a woman for such a challenge. That massive 19kg fat accumulation she did to prepare plus her lower metabolism as a woman in her fifties really served her well and gave her time to have a learning curve without getting sad or taking a health loss. The first few weeks were hard both physically and mentally on the young muscular guys, they started burning a lot of muscle to stay warm and get things…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:53 AM
8

Sex that is enjoyed by both binds the emotional bond tighter. Sex that isn't being enjoyed by both breaks and loosens the emotional bond...even more so if it is sex that is demanded.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:44 PM
–

Well next time...say exactly that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:15 PM
–

They aren't illegal in France, you just need to have either the agreement of the mother or a court order that is in most cases relatively easily obtained. Something isn't illegal just because it requires more paperwork. Driving isn't illegal in countries that require you to get a driver's licence and register your vehicle.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 02:34 PM
1

The Jolly Swagman solution https://youtu.be/-yILM3L2sXM?si=EZ7em9V7pOXcC2yo
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 01:59 PM
1

Well...the polar bear is gonna eat me and forget it. The rapist will rape me, kill me, and masturbate to thoughts of it later. He might share his account of it later to a cellmate so they can both masturbate. Sure there's a possibility I can talk the rapist out of it. Maybe explain that I could give a glowing character reference if ever he's in court again. He's actually a hero, right? Helped that poor old woman gets out of the woods. There is also the possibility the polar bear finds other game…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:02 AM
–

It's a difficult part of dating. The guys running what is basically a numbers game want first dates to happen quickly and they do not usually want to pay even if it is only coffee because the maths on that is really terrible for them. But they want the dates to be plush and create feel good neurotransmitters in women because that's the point of a date from their point of view...to hurry you along so fast you can't tell they are crap. So what they are really wanting is the woman to pay for chemic…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 03:19 PM
–

There's clearly countless ordinary working women paying their share and working hard their entire lives.You see them if you interact in person with their workplaces. The problem is that many men do not receive those perceptions at the same rate they would have in the nineties because we've become an economy that involves less person to person interaction. And uptake of these no contact options has been exceptionally high among young men. Instead, contact with the small percentage of women who ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:53 PM
1

"This is a man who is completely safe and causes zero harm to women." And who I probably don't know particularly well and therefore have no reason to know for sure he is completely safe and causes zero harm to women...men...fluffy kittens... etc. You seem to think that everyone should assume the best about you all the time based upon the tiniest slivers of information about you they get from very casual interaction. That's not how the world works. Your close friends are your close friends. Every…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:25 PM
9

The undesirable man is a wager with a massive flaw in it. He's likely to be a seething mess of FOMO who will accept any offer purely so as not to have missed out. You're relying on other women who may be significantly less attractive than you not to make themselves available. And if he does cheat there's very much zero chance you will be persuaded to forgive him... having been incredibly insulted by his choice and having spent years turning down more attractive men for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:58 AM
–

Look at yourself though... getting all worked up because a bunch of people online feel differently to you about something that would be an intensely personal and stressful experience. Literally the only time my reaction to rape would make a significant difference to you would be if you or someone you cared about was so ill mannered as to rape me and I managed to kill them. And yet you've got yer knickers in such a twist over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 10:05 PM
–

I think he's already quite mentally damaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:50 PM
–

Because we might get raped and kill a dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:46 PM
–

No dude...I'm not making a joke. I'm not obligated to react emotionally to the possibility of rape only in ways you approve of. From the moment a rape started, killing the rapist as soon as possible would be my first and only priority. And if I could make dying painful for him all the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:24 PM
–

You do not understand how angry I would be. Basically if my labia could explode shattering us both completely I'd do it if I was being raped. If my cervix could secrete sulfuric acid I would do it. If I could roll us both off a tall cliff together I would do it. If I could drop a shipping container full of heavy weights on us both I would do it. The only way I would wish to delay his death would be if I could have him helpless and then torture him to death. There would be no patiently waiting it…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:33 PM
–

It's more complicated than that. I know that if I'm being raped I am going to be enraged and probably in my rage going to be doing things to mess with the rapist that make him killing me more likely than not. You know....attempt to bite his nose off, see if I can hurt his balls, tell him I he's a rapist because his mother was raped, ask him whether it's in because I can't tell...that sort of thing. So...all things considered...I think I'd rather just skip straight to being murdered and avoid the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:18 PM
–

Six months later bear says #metoo
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:14 PM
–

This is one of the numerous reasons so many women aren't willing to have relationships at all...or aren't willing to unless it is with a man who brings numerous significant benefits to her to compensate for his inherently problematic nature. A man who is on paper her equal really isn't her equal because of all the other shitty things about men, like this particular thing. If she doesn't have a relationship she doesn't ever have to deal with the male propensity to stray. She doesn't need to come …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 07:01 AM
3

Well we should make what good of it we can and rejoice that due to the wise learnings of weirdos on the internet we now have discovered such a simple foolproof method of detecting real bad guys. We can just put all dead beat dads in prison and that will not only limit their future capacity to breed but also improve general crime statistics remarkably. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:16 PM
–

My senile old grandma used to fight any woman who tried to bathe her but flirt with any man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:03 PM
–

Or... y'know... there's not a lot of comprehensively "bad"people or "good" people and most people live in the grey and you happen to be indulging heavily in a psychological defence mechanism known as splitting. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Splitting_(psychology)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:10 PM
–

You know... applying Occam's Razor to this tale of your frequent rejection the most likely cause of your problems understanding why things are as they are is that nobody else in this story is quite as terrible as you think they are and you aren't anywhere near as wonderful as you think you are. Now I'm not saying that terrible people don't sometimes do okay in dating...a terrible person of either gender can do pretty well if they know how to be fun. Being at least a little bit fun is important e…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:54 PM
1

I'm guessing he wanted to stay out of jail
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:30 AM
1

If he's that smart and wants me he will never let me know he thinks he's smarter than me. It will be a total nontopic if he's willing to make it a nontopic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 06:52 AM
7

He hates the women who won't have him because they assess him correctly and don't want him...and he hates and mistreats the women who assess him incorrectly and will have him because he knows they aren't playing with a full deck and being able to get them means basically nothing other than he has low standards. He knows he's not as smart as his father was and any sons he has would be conceived on fools and are likely to be fools too Tate's father's chess rating was in the 2400s. Tate says his ow…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:39 AM
–

So? This is part of the "you are the prize" stuff you guys want for yourselves so much and like to go on about. Some prizes are just shinier than others. Like unusual eye colours... women with blue eyes ended up all over the damn place as brides because of an attribute nobody had any control over giving them a scarcity value. Do blue eyes mean any functional difference? Not a lot. Even less functional difference than height does. Them's the breaks. You don't get to be "the prize" without this so…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:11 AM
–

It's phones. People like to occasionally pull out their phones while talking to show each other stuff they are talking about. It makes holding hands for a lengthy time awkward, and we're gradually dropping hand holding as an expected behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:59 AM
–

Gotta take the rough with the smooth. Introversion and extroversion both come with advantages and disadvantages. If you were suddenly extrovert you'd have all the problems of extroversion to deal with and lose all of the advantages of introversion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:53 AM
–

Maybe put on some cologne or burn incense? Taste and smell are related and you might be able to scratch that itch just a little without actually eating anything tasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:49 AM
4

Wealthy men don't care about money but they do care exquisitely about a woman's ability to move gracefully through the social environment of wealthy people and attract praise. There's not a lot of J. Howard Marshall types out there who don't mind becoming laughing stocks. The men that care very much that a woman brings assets and income are the aspirational men who are still working for wages and aspire to live off earnings from capital but haven't made it yet. If he gets basically twice as much…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:58 PM
–

It's not making sense because you're not hearing the bit they leave out when they say they want women to be accountable. What a guy means when he says that is usually that he wants the women to be accountable to him. Not that he wants her to be accountable to all the other people and things that anyone with a lick of sense would think come way way ahead of him in any sane woman's assessment of where she must be accountable. He doesn't really want her accountable to her family...or her future chi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:52 PM
5

The good news is you discovered this young. The bad news is the courage that it takes to still go ahead and have kids knowing this is difficult to muster.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:59 AM
1

Your complaint in what I think is the comments you are referring to...that some woman can just say you're making her uncomfortable and it is game over in that social group...maybe that is your perception but from the other end of the process thats not actually how it tends to go except maybe if it's a very ad hoc short term social group involving say two groups at a bar who have started merging for the past half hour or so. Mostly if someone has a serious gripe about someone else...it isn't alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:38 AM
0

There's no central authority saying what you or anyone else gets to complain about in public without experiencing an adverse reaction from individuals who observe your complaining. That sort of bullshit is for totalitarian regimes. When you speak to the general public their individual reactions are their own. Nobody with a lick of sense is going to vouch for the reaction of every human being who hears your words.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:22 AM
0

I've worked in a workplace that semi-regularly had critical incidents where some customer lost their shit and made mayhem. You don't know who is going to step up until the critical incident happens and women are almost as likely to as men. And when I say you don't know...you really don't know. I've seen the six foot two guy who lifted weights and always talked big and masculine just book it to the other end of the office and hide in a store room while a softly spoken male financial advisor, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:07 AM
–

Then if you have chosen things to grind at that also give a payoff direct to you...you've at least got the direct payoff for your efforts. You can use your money to live how and where you want. You can use your social skills to have the friends you want in an abundant number. You can use your social status to be respected and have an easier time of it in a great many interactions with other people. You can use your fit body to be healthy and feel good for a longer part of your lifespan.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:26 AM
1

I don't care what men think the term means. It's basically just another term to insult women and like most such terms through history men become extremely flexible in its application as soon as there's a target they wish to insult and they think will feel suitably insulated should the term be applied. And thus like much of what comes out of men's mouths when they are angry it means basically nothing except "I am a man who is angry at a woman or women in general" Just like ho and slut mean basica…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:59 AM
2

The biggest modern turning point to progress in women's knowledge of and acceptance of and willingness to publicly discuss their bodies was the book Our Bodies, Ourselves. It is in the context of that book and the changes in thinking it set off that the acceptability of Billie Eilish discussing masturbation has been built. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Our_Bodies,_Ourselves So um.... you could go form a collective of men to write the male equivalent?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 07:42 AM
0

What's particularly just about picking up porn and gaming habits before one is really capable of telling what those habits will do? It's no more just than getting fat before one is really capable of planning and implementing a proper diet and exercise regime.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:33 AM
-1

OP asked about men. He didn't ask about women. If someone asked what's the primary cause of obesity in men I would say "eating too many calories and not moving their bodies enough" and sure that's also the primary cause of obesity in women too..but they weren't asking about women were they. Really I'm not surprising a lot of you guys have difficulties forming relationships, you're weirdly combative about stuff that isn't the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 02:34 AM
-3

The easy availability of porn and gaming from quite a young age is a part of your environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 01:48 AM
–

I know that when I like someone in a parasocial way I don't really know them. So I don't think sending me my celebrity crushes would work at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 01:27 AM
-6

Gaming and porn. They get so used to dealing with being upset about the little stuff that with porn and gaming that they don't develop enough other strategies to think their own way out of their problems or many helpful social structures around them. Then when something becomes the issue in a way gaming and porn won't cut it they are in real trouble and have to stop caring or they will implode.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 01:23 AM
2

He's also got a duty to open up communication and try to work towards answers if the situation is unsatisfactory. Doesn't sound to me like he did that. He's also got a duty not to cheat. He could have sought to negotiate an arrangement whereby he gets to play away occasionally...that too would have opened up the necessary conversation. The woman you talked to is behaving like a responsible grownup and identifying the things she personally could have done differently, the hurdles she could have j…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 12:49 AM
–

Well I'm not sure that particular height difference actually makes much difference to most women...but let's humour you and for the moment say it does. Someone informs you that you must fight to the death against one of those guys. Given no more information than that diagram you must choose which one to fight. Which do you choose?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:27 PM
–

You're acting like that's something new.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:20 PM
–

If you can't tell how much she weighs just by picking her up, do you even lift?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:18 PM
–

And it is entirely down to him not you whether he defines this as a success or a failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:01 AM
–

Huh. That's the second such instance I know of one of those sort of guys underestimating what it takes to chop off a head then making a helluva mess of it. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12795157/tetraplegic-axe-attack-ex-wife-extradited.html
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:12 AM
1

"had comments about how Tesla is against trans people" Sigh.. Social skills 101 time again. In my experience about as many people detest Elon and his works as adore him and his works. If a person asks a random stranger of either gender what that stranger thinks of their Tesla, they should assume it's very much a coin flip what sort of response they will receive. Also... people who like Elon and his Tesla cars will usually just volunteer the information anyway if there is a Tesla owner in the imm…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:53 PM
1

Well if they don't reciprocate when you flirt you know that what you thought was an indicator of interest wasn't one. Which was what this thread was about...the incessant waaah waaah waaah from losers that somehow there is absolutely nothing they can do to work that out. If you think something may be an indicator of interest.... flirt...reciprocation means yes it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:00 AM
5

Probably easier to get than things like people stop bitching.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:29 AM
35

I would like better housing affordability. So young people at all levels of income could be more independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:16 AM
1

I don't think a man would say "because I'm well educated and successful in my career" He might say something like "because I'm a member of the SAS" or "because I'm a cop" or something like that if he was chasing after those women who find all that a bit gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:00 AM
0

So your answer to the bear question is probably different to mine...right? And that's ok. We live different lives. Neither of us are wrong when we answer the bear question. The people who are wrong are the guys who are throwing a shit fit about that original tiktok because there's women whose immediate response based upon the way they live their lives is oh fuck no if I'm alone in the woods with a man there is no way that is voluntary and a hopeful situation I am still in control of...but maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:24 PM
4

It's bums all the way down.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:17 PM
11

It wouldn't matter if they knew what it involved, a lot of them would just lie about being up for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:08 PM
1

Hiking isn't random. You do it deliberately and if you work you generally have to plan the timeframe to do it in. You've got the option of carrying bear spray, a gun, ammunition... whatever makes the local environment safer to be in. Getting abducted by a man and taken to the forest is a little more random though, right? Probably won't have anything much with you then.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:05 PM
1

But are city dwelling people ever randomly in a forest nowadays?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:26 PM
–

There's racial issues but it's a mistake to assume they run completely the same as the racial issues in other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:48 AM
–

Settling here isn't even close to a done deal until you've got at least permanent residency. And even if he does want to settle theres a fair chance he will go for an arranged marriage to a girl from home anyhow because that way he gets gifts from her family...and if it doesn't work out they can just wait until they are both secure in Australian residency and divorce under Australian divorce law and so long as they haven't had kids or accumulated a lot of assets yet it works out fine, they both …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:49 AM
2

If we're talking bears that aren't bears then fuck yeah I will happily be in the woods with a koala bear. They are too busy fighting each other to bother me. https://youtu.be/HhehGZqKhTo?si=ewK_dOoBhag4hIkG
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:17 AM
–

Australia. We've got lots of single male Indian students. On temporary visas. We've got some people of Indian descent with permanent residency or citizenship...but they are mostly already married. If you meet a young man who looks Indian and when he talks he hasn't got an Aussie accent .. don't bother he's going home in a few years
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:58 AM
–

Mostly they don't have permanent residency in my country. And mostly women don't want to shift to their countries to marry and have kids. Soooo...yeah they are assumed on sight to be lower value to a woman. Which I guess is unfair for those comparative few that actually do have permanent residency. But those who don't? It isn't an unfair assumption, that a relationship with them would be nothing serious and lead nowhere and therefore is of lesser value than a relationship that is more likely to …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:50 AM
2

They should also worry about what the various government departments in their home country think. In Australia for instance there's three government departments that have put in place different policies over the years that make life harder for passport bros. There have been changes to portability of disability payments that make it harder for disability recipients to go live long-term overseas. There have been changes to the fees structure and procedures for getting both short term visas and per…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:12 AM
–

Well you're most likely to retain a language if you use it...so pick one you're likely to end up using for travel, social stuff or employment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:57 AM
7

In some settings there has to be an agreed on correct way. A kitchen loses substantial functionality if the plug for the sink, the can opener, the salt, the tea, the chopping board and other vital tools and ingredients are being put in random places every time. If only one of you is willing to be consistent in that sort of situation, that person's way is by default the correct way because consistency is the only type of way that could work correctly. It is reasonable for that person to eventuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:40 AM
–

I'm fairly sure that's not how the question was presented to those girls though. I'm fairly sure it was just "a bear" not specifically a grizzly, that it was presented in a way that it was reasonable to assume that you ended up being alone in those woods with the man or bear in ways that it is most likely to happen in your life...on account of the wording being "you are..." You guys who are so hung up about this are such a bunch of whiney sooky little crybabies. There's some women who would take…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:46 PM
1

No dude. Try on hauls are usually just mass market fashion that the fast fashion brands give fashion influencers for free. The influencers then make content, and the content is watched by that most valuable of YouTube viewers... people who are actually looking to make purchasing decisions. The dynamics at play are that Onlyfans girls in skimpy dresses can have their stuff push the limits and escape deletion a good longer than most other problematic material because they operate on the margins of…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:34 AM
24

As someone here once said, dating apps are a toy box full of broken toys. You're one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:26 AM
4

The algorithm gives you the search results it thinks you need. And you've probably just clicked on the two links in the original post plus who knows what else in the past. I deleted those links from my Facebook history because I didn't want suggestions for skimpy dress links every time I did searches for sewing pattern reviews and then searched. I also search frequently for Australian brands and videos about what is a proper fit. This was typical of what I got. Some older woman with a bunch of w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 06:05 AM
1

What ... we're not allowed to just find partners without that matchmaker? Are we allowed to opt out totally and be celibate? Also you do know the international conflict over who gets to control such immense power would be huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:25 AM
–

If someone has lied to you in courtship they've removed your other options by pretending they fit into the category of that option. Which is like whatever if it's something like a push-up bra or wearing lifts. Person gonna work those ones out soon enough, it's trivial. But if it's a sustained lie about basic motivations then it's eventually devastating. We've got just about all men lying to just about all women. And we've got a small number of women lying to a small number of men. And yet is alw…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:05 AM
–

The overwhelming ease of getting involved with and even marrying and having kids with a man who is vigorously pretending to like you when really he can barely tolerate anything about you that isn't your vagina. Look we never hear the end of it from men about the small amount of women who lure in men they detest and do it because those men have money. It occupies a huge amount of space in their heads. Is it that damn hard to realise that this sort of "advantage" where people lie to you to set up …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:38 AM
–

Chickens came to Western Europe as more than just novelties relatively late in human's development of mythology. Less than a thousand years BC. I ended up doing a fair bit of research on the mythological context of farmyard animals as relates to war gods (it was for a tabletop rpg) and chickens relationship to gods of the major pantheons in the west is somewhat limited but does tend to show up in a slightly war related context. Alectryon who didn't keep watch well enough for Ares and was turned …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:01 AM
–

If a cop is breaking the rules to take away a citizen's rights in one way for his own gratification he's very likely to be breaking the rules to take away citizen's rights in other ways. Just saying. Today it is jiggling some girls tit, tomorrow it is shooting your safely chained up dog just because it was barking, the next day it's stealing money from your coat pockets when they search your home because your housemate has been a bad boy. The cop needs to face consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:45 AM
–

He is a bit. https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2024/apr/20/elon-musk-and-x-to-fight-australian-esafety-order-remove-content-sydney-stabbing-ntwnfb
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:05 AM
–

You're the one who went inviting a woman you weren't sure of to dinner. You did that. You had other options like just talking for longer or inviting her to something that was free or very cheap or doing something like ask if she wanted to go on a picnic...like let's sit in the parklands and watch this mornings classic car rally go past, I bring sandwiches and you bring dessert, we both bring our own drinks. You had other options but you invited her to dinner. You're resenting her because it's ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:02 AM
–

Nuh-uh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 12:35 AM
–

She'd look a bit pretty if she did the right things... hairstyle makeup clothes etc but she's all caught up in the belief that men don't like women who do that stuff. It wouldn't take much...just actually looking at herself then not making the stupidest possible choices would go a long way. I'd love to see some fashion influencers pick apart her looks and give her make overs by drawing new hairstyles, outfits etc on her and explain why it works better...but alas they've got more sense than to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 12:30 AM
–

Meh. There's alternatives but mostly they aren't great. https://youtu.be/SaP7qmsQbSI?si=5twFSE5mthawxi2w
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 12:17 AM
–

Bored now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 12:06 AM
1

Well I'm not about to go into the woods where bears are. But it's not unreasonable to say I would take a gun if I ever decided to. I've used guns...airguns, shotguns and 22s and a little bit of experience with an old bolt action ruger that was mostly kept as a collector item but was slightly more powerful than the 22s. Also...I have had a small amount of experience with apex predators getting predatory. I've experienced basically having two german shepherds decide I needed to die when their owne…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:15 PM
11

Either firmly re-educate him by stopping a sexual encounter if after a couple of attempts at redirections he won't accept redirection to meet your needs or just kick him to the curb and replace him without attempting to re-educate. Which you choose is probably going to be based upon if the rest of his behaviour is ok or if he's kind of all around selfish and does the bare minimum. Him shrugging when you've got a concern like this? Just lost him any rights to be treated like someone who can just …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:17 PM
–

It's the downside to the main male mate seeking strategy. You've decided she's a good possibility and the process needs to be hurried up before some other guy gets her...while she's still seeing you as a nothing and a no one. Of course she's not going to want to go on a date if you aren't paying the cost of it. Why should she? You're nothing to her yet. Instead of buying a plate of overpriced pasta to eat with some random guy who wants to poke his dick up her but doesn't really know her... she c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:10 AM
7

Well....the bear is a snoozer about a quarter of the year but men are rapey pretty much any day so statistically speaking you gotta credit the bear some there. And the chances are good if I've entered the bear filled woods willingly just to hang out in nature that I have a gun on me and if I then manage to kill a bear that attacks me I get to answer maybe half a dozen questions from the authorities and well that's that. But if I manage to kill some dude who is being a problem to me in the woods …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:24 AM
8

Look...do what you want within the law but people will always judge. You obviously are gonna judge the women who reject you and people will judge you if you're forty years old with wrinkly old man balls and dating a twenty year old. Judgey judgey judgey that's humans. Don't like it? Fuck off and become a hermit somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 06:12 AM
–

You've never been a daughter have you? And you didn't grow up as close female friends with other girls experiencing being daughters. You grew up as some dude...and probably a socially isolated weird one at that if you fit the usual pattern for dudes on PPD who support parental involvement in mate selection. A lot of fathers would, if given that power, feel compelled to fully use it. As in deny all matches except those that personally please them the most. I probably would have eventually weakene…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 02:59 AM
–

If I'd had to marry the sort of man my father would have chosen for me I would be in prison serving a life sentence for putting an axe through him while he slept.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 02:36 AM
–

Sounds like American bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 02:33 AM
0

That's what flirting is for. You think you see an indicator of interest and so you flirt in a way that is also plausibly deniable. Cue as many plausibly deniable flirts as it takes to either decide to give up or be sure that yes the other person is behaving in an encouraging way. It's like going up a staircase...not like just teleporting. At any point you can just stop...or nonchalantly turn round and go back down like you only went halfway up the stairs to have somewhere to tie your shoe lace o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 02:09 AM
1

If a woman wants to put more effort into mate hunting she mostly does it by increasing her social circles so she can get to know some attractive men she feels are a realistic match for her and that eventually she feels secure giving solid indicators of interest to. She probably also works on her appearance. She's not doing absolutely nothing to get a man. She's doing the things that work with her preferred strategies and her priorities. Probably working quite hard at those things. If you want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 02:02 AM
2

Because you lack the good humour to assign yourself a song, I'm going to assign you one against your will. https://youtu.be/EVOIg_lHRzk?si=W-P1wxjKhzYyxJ85
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 01:00 AM
1

Well...It took me two serious relationships to work out men are kind of a shitty deal for me so I definitely feel it listening to Paul Kelly singing Dumb Things https://youtu.be/L-3Je7Br4SQ?si=MUMqxtKepYFcIrhl
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 12:48 AM
0

Well to me it sounds like filling a leaky bathtub in Tartarus is a better option.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 10:58 PM
2

Yeah that's the unfortunate truth of it. Especially the washed up teachers pet girls...fortunately pedo dudes are still less common than the socially manipulative girls who are there so they can be the queen bee they were or wanted to be in school. They aren't all like that but enough are that parents are wary and have a low general opinion of them. Then whenever a parent tells the truth out come the teacher supporters to try to silence them. It's a bit like copaganda.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:00 PM
1

People have always been like that even before social media, they just found other ways to get the same result.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 07:13 AM
1

Who?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 02:53 AM
–

Good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:33 PM
1

Yob or wanker? https://youtu.be/GiHdpAVIHgo?si=_DjswufS2Quz4Nou
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:31 PM
–

Oh so you just want to reduce effort right up until you are at the very brink of destroying the viability of the relationship...then complain about the other person when your calculations were out by a tiny bit and the relationship goes over the edge. Sounds shitty to me and not the sort of thing that inspires a partner to stick around.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:25 PM
–

Because you want your partner to keep putting in effort on your behalf. It's simple as that. You want continuing efforts? You gotta make continuing efforts. Or she's going to take all that effort and direct it to pleasing herself instead and you'll be unhappy because you're not getting what you once had, and she'll decide like whatever let's just shoot this relationship in the head so I can get rid of old grumble-bum there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:22 PM
–

If there's basically nothing you are willing to do on an ongoing basis to keep making your partner feel like the relationship is special, you guys shouldn't have been together in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:15 PM
3

I'm talking about traditional dating way back when it was still socially enforced...not the few hold outs who still date only traditional nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:38 AM
2

The main effect of traditional dating forbidding women that option of being "forward" by even so much as initiating flirting is that they are forced to concentrate on appearance and making themselves visible if they want anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:37 AM
2

Yes, that's probably the case. What we've got now is kind of shit, especially in primary school where the degrees are just straightforward teaching degrees and not a normal degree plus a teaching certificate or similar. The highschool teachers aren't great but they aren't as hopeless as the primary school teachers, the highschool teachers either break and then leave first year of teaching or seem mostly capable of starting ok then gradually learning the job. The high school teachers that break f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 02:17 AM
–

I worked in the same office but on a different team as a woman who was missing a hand. Yeah it's impossible to ignore. The eye just keeps being drawn to that fake hand. How often one automatically checks hands out without noticing wasn't something I was aware of until then and it made me aware how much people must be conveying through hand gestures that we learn to just keep checking for. I think, after that experience, if I was missing a hand I would probably go with something like a hook or a …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 11:16 PM
2

They are both playing stupid games for stupid prizes. I don't really think it's possible to say who is worse unless you've got the actual people you can observe... terrible behaviour is in its details usually very particular to the individual. Similarly I can't say they are different sides of the same coin... there's plenty of people who aren't like that despite similar stories and the reality is that they've chosen this probably because of other stuff about them that makes them kind of crappy, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:09 PM
–

Yeah whatever it's not like married women don't basically support the social lives of all the husband's unmarried pals. The vast majority of parties and BBQs and other social events are organised by married women and it's the female friends and wives of male friends who show up with real contributions and the single male friends who bring a pack of Aldi crisps if anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:10 PM
1

My experience is more recent and from a different angle...I've raised a couple of kids. I think partly it's the modern era's improved social networking that does it, we're noticing more. We're all polite to the teacher's faces in the wake of some of their frankly bizarre behaviour then now we all know how to get in contact with each other to chinwag about the teacher. So you get a message from another parent asking for contact and you see her at the local cafe after dropping of your kid and it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:28 PM
2

Yes they do. Even well preserved 35 year olds look positively ancient to 22 year olds. Young people are exquisitely sensitive to signs of aging. When I was a kid this song was in the charts. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tonight%27s_the_Night_(Gonna_Be_Alright) It kept being played occasional on a local rock music tv show occasionally all through my teens and twenties. https://youtu.be/IZr6AE-u2UM?si=hZUY3VoMKHReCHD4 I remember thinking in my teens and early twenties how goddamn ancient the then…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:03 AM
-2

Most places in the western world. It's a job that attracts people with issues. Power issues. Political issues. Issues about liking school and wanting to be a kid too damn much because that's when they peaked or disliking it too damn much and wanting to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:47 AM
7

"even in respected professions like teaching" Hahahahahaha oh. Teaching is not a respected profession any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:27 AM
2

Yes. Unless he's been making slow consistent progress in a number of things then he's not going to do a whole lot better in his thirties..
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 02:09 AM
3

It all depends on the individual. There's people of both genders doing very well and doing very poorly in both those demographics. I think by their mid thirties though what has usually happened is that men who were socialised to think that they should just speak up and demand what they want in their personal lives have learned the virtues of shutting the hell up. And women who were socialised to stay quiet and not say anything have reached a breaking point and started complaining. The other way …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 02:00 AM
–

Cheese. If you can't handle icecream then cheese is close enough but without the sugar. You can pack down a whole lotta calories by snacking on cheese.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:26 PM
–

Johnny Haysman https://youtu.be/kqWAzA3zzkc?si=w5UpYTgK7SO_jSyh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:07 PM
–

Then improve yourself for your own sake in ways that please you. Improve yourselves gladly and willing for you because you are worth it. ,And maybe you can pivot that one day to being pleasing to a woman who meets your standards. Or maybe not but at least you still get to be more pleasing to yourselves. You're going to live a long time in your own company whether you get a girlfriend or not. Have a healthy body...for your own sake. Don't be a no friends Nigel...for your own sake. Have a decent j…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:14 PM
–

Of course. But y'know... you're never gonna learn to cook if you don't stand facing the stove.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:40 AM
–

Whatever dude. Have you considered that hanging out here ain't getting you laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:24 AM
–

A significant number of guys who aren't trying in life don't really want to provide for anyone...not even themselves. And don't want to even please anyone other than themselves. It's always been the way. At the bottom end of the range of marriage quality a wife has almost always ended up supporting and pleasing her shitty lazy useless unattractive husband more than he supports her...and prior to widespread labour market access for married women that was a lot of work for a fairly shitty squalid …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 10:47 PM
–

There's the dedicatedly childfree and then there's the dedicatedly child focused and in between those two extremes are the women who would sort of like to but could adapt to letting it go... and understand that the time to make a difference on that is now even if there's no clear path It's a form of thinking thats noticeably different to how many of the unsuccessful men here think. Those guys have their formula for failure and that formula involves never doing anything major and difficult and ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 09:48 PM
–

One of the reasons the most responsible women work so hard to be prosperous early in adult life and accumulate and save is that they know it's all going to dry up for a while if they take time to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:20 PM
2

We currently discourage the sort of romance that men are better at than women because it's regarded as frankly antisocial in modern society. Consider the story of the Wooing of Emer https://www.ancienttexts.org/library/celtic/ctexts/emer.html
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:29 AM
1

Why would she let you have the freedom of her home while she sleep? You could install trackers on her stuff, snoop into her medicine cabinet and steal from her lingerie drawer. And why should she hesitate to throw you out? Men are often "don't care, had sex" so obviously they are resilient to this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 12:16 AM
1

Well y'know... every job comes with advantages and disadvantages...and some of that flows through to the person you cohabit with. When I was working fast food that meant smelly uniforms and a smelly body until I bathed, truly repulsively dirty shoes, occasional burns, industrial dermatitis, odd shift times I found out less than a week ahead at times and being called in occasionally. I would understand if some of that wasn't appreciated by a man in his female partner or vice versa. I don't think …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:15 AM
3

The only woman I know who fits that profile was basically being manipulated by her mother for years to be the child eternally needing care of two parents. This was done to maintain the family unit despite everything being a bit shit. She eventually woke up that she had nothing of her own. Normal women in normal situations know if they don't want kids, if they do or don't want a relationship, make a decision then stick to it. Those articles get released because there are people who want us to bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:07 AM
–

And do you actually have anything those women want enough to care what your opinions are?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 08:26 AM
0

What the fuck does "thought experiment" even goddamn mean? Nothing, that's what. It's a question and a stupid one at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 01:06 AM
–

People lie..But more often they've just got a different angle on the truth. Look...the big awful lie that was told to autistic dudes was told to them mainly by the schools and was that it was a disability that the world would cheerfully accommodate enough for them to have wonderful unproblematic lives. That, plus the temporary situation of technology being an emerging market gave them unreasonable expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 12:26 PM
–

Most men here in this.subreddit are autistic. Just about all the ones that lazily puke up the "why did nobody tell me the truth" line despite living in a culture saturated with cultural depictions of the truth are autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 12:18 PM
–

The problem isn't that other people communicate as usual it is that most of you are goddamn autistic, don't get the subtleties of anything at the best of times....and when there's hard truths involved this not understanding is exacerbated by the fact you'd really rather not understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 12:11 PM
1

Some people are literally obsessed with trying to find fine distinctions that may not even exist in who has it easier. That can't possibly be a healthy or balanced way to go through life. It's not reflective of the reality that having it easy is actually quite uncommon and most people you think have it easy are just making it look easy. The reality is that to achieve average results the average person born at a time of average opportunities works damn hard all their lives. Male or female. Life i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 02:36 AM
2

Politics too. The desire of most men to be led outstrips all reason and rationality they manage to have in choosing who leads them. It's all a bit disturbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 12:21 AM
1

If I don't want to have sex with someone it is fair and just that they don't get to have sex with me. Multiply that by four billion other women in the world. Then reflect it in four billion men, none of who would think it fair and just to be having sex with a person they didn't want sex with. You can always have sex with yourself though. There's always someone who wants you. And if you don't even want sex with yourself that'd be a personal matter between you and yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:52 PM
3

Lol. That time one of y'all went off about me because my opinion of Mr Beast is that he's just some guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:44 PM
1

Well if a guy ever has a good case it's probably not gonna be a guy who has fifty women all saying the same thing about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:06 AM
1

Wear heavier weight fabrics than are most usually available for that particular item of clothing...where possible natural fibres. Make sure you've a good fit. Wear a decently made watch that truly suits your style. Good shoes. Own functional hats...do not buy a fucking fedora for looks, buy hats that fulfill a necessary function for you and use them when that function needs to be fulfilled. Regular haircuts from a good barber or hairdresser. If you wear glasses make them current in style, nothin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:22 AM
–

"Just look at women's behaviour on dating apps." Dating apps are sausage fests. Most women don't stick round long on them...and leave after a few shitty dates with shitty men. Those who stay are atypical. They have a toughness to them that allows them to tolerate and work with the environment the dating app creates.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:53 AM
–

I've been with two. But I've got eyes and ears and family and friends and social participation and some quite good pattern recognition. And I don't want a third. I don't need to fuck 4 billion men to work that out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:46 PM
–

Hi! It's been about seven years since I walked out on a relationship with a man who was absolutely great in the bedroom. He'd become too disruptive to my peace. He's still in my life as a friend and still wants me back. If I called him up right now I could have his dick up me in under an hour. Hell no I say. First it would be sex and then it would be his stressful bullshit all over my life. I regularly dismiss approaches by men. I don't want an intimate relationship with a man. They are too disr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:33 PM
1

Thirty years ago neuro typical kids didn't really get to see the kids who are at the start of the low end of the spectrum. They were naive about how bad it can get and also about how stress can bring out low functioning behaviour in people who otherwise seem ok. Doesn't take much. An incident of the new kid being ok but weird for a week then bringing a knife in and showing it to someone and saying it's for if the teacher won't let him leave and go for a walk whenever he wants can very easily mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:09 PM
1

There has been mainstreaming of increasingly more disabled autistic students.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:15 AM
5

Yes. Maybe you too will live to be old. Or maybe not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 12:23 PM
1

Your parents can't solve all your future problems for you by how they choose to raise you. Nor should they...they are not you and may differ markedly in temperament and aptitudes. Generational change is also a huge factor...we prepare our kids for a life we can barely imagine. Your parents equip you with some sort of game plan for each of the major areas of life to get you started but what that game plan is will depend on a multitude of different factors and just about everyone has to choose to …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 12:06 PM
1

If someone is met through a dating app they are assumed by many to probably be good only for hook-ups. I thought everybody knew this? Same with men who cold approach. And anyone who is meeting up at venues where everyone is drunk The way to be more likely to be assumed to have relationship potential is to meet sober, at an activity or event you are both attending.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 10:56 AM
13

That's a bit odd isn't it. In real life conversations I expect people with opinions that are negative about travel for sexual purposes to use the term "sex tourist" to refer to those men. Maybe OP is making shit up...feels a bit judged for approving of travel for sexual purposes and wants to talk about it here so makes up a story to post here. Or maybe the term "passport bro" which was specifically made up to avoid the connotations of "sex tourist" has now picked up all those connotations anyway…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 10:16 AM
8

It sounds to me like you've been attempting to insert yourself into the lives of strangers who have no interest in allowing you to and they have been vigorously refusing to allow you. And you see this as rudeness on their part not on your part. Stop bothering strangers, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 03:50 AM
0

Ummm....no....this is not an advice sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 09:20 PM
2

Permission to sit isn't the same as agreeing to a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 09:17 PM
1

If you want to sit at a table where someone is already sitting then asking is the correct thing to do. However a yes to that question isn't a yes to having a conversation with you. If you sit and start talking and she says "I am not interested in having a conversation" then you should gracefully accept that now you are in what may be a socially uncomfortable situation and that socially uncomfortable situation is entirely your responsibility. You should not question why is is she doesn't want a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 09:15 PM
–

Eh. Men here don't really want women to stop fucking Chad. They'd be all for Facebook groups like that if they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 08:27 PM
0

Dude. You know your argument is self serving tripe.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 01:02 PM
0

I'm probably not going to just let someone sign a legally binding contract without me saying something to stop it if it is clearly going to dud them though. Just like imma cock block hard if some 40 year old weirdo is following a tipsy 18 year around the club trying to find opportunity to stick his crusty herpes infected dick up her. People do this all the time, people attempt to assist other people who have been targeted by someone with an agenda they are keeping hidden. We do it in all sorts o…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 01:00 PM
0

There's no point addressing your argument as being an argument about agency though. Because it's so obviously flawed an argument (which I addressed in my reply to you) that it is clearly not about agency it is about your visceral desire not to live in a world in which women are not controlled by men. Tough shit, suck it up buttercup.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 12:42 PM
0

Your process of thinking on this is typical of a specific form of psychological defence mechanism. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Splitting_(psychology) The reality is that losing ones agency as an individual for a short time or in a limited way does not mean permanent loss of agency or total loss of agency. It's also quite silly the way you're generalising this to all women when quite clearly women have different lives and different levels of self actualization in different areas of their lives.…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 12:29 PM
–

If you're not attracted to men you know basically nothing about being attracted to men. Come back and we'll talk when you've been attracted to a man and taken his cock up you and liked it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 09:42 PM
1

Yes... it's part of a whole story. While I lived with one of my parents I dated a friend who was living with his parents. It wasn't a deal-breaker. He had a job that he'd got through job hunting as did I, he'd lived away from his parents before as had I. I also looked at the situation of another friend who was keen on me and and was living with his parents and I saw his dependency on his parents as being frankly a bit horrific and 100 percent a deal breaker...he lived with them, they had created…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 03:01 AM
5

The other similar thing I have thought is...does he have student debt and she does not... maybe she decided against a tertiary education or went to a community college? Having massive amounts of debt is definitely being in a different place in life. Also...has he completed his degree and she has not? A lot of young women are extremely cautious about being with men who are done with education until they themselves are also done with it. Aaaand finally.... there's a chance he unknowingly dropped s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 09:48 PM
9

Were you the same age? If lets say she was 19 and you are 28...no you are not bloody well on the same curve in life if you're both got the same savings while saving up to move out. If you both have let's say three thousand dollars put away, she'd be way ahead of the game and you'd be dawdling.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:18 PM
2

I'm having trouble working out why anyone who matters should care. The people who would really get upset at you missing your last shot because you are disgusted with yourself that this is your last shot...your ancestors who made it through war, famine, plague pestilence etc to reproduce and raise their kids with great effort are mostly all dead. Disappoint them as much as you like they can't do shit to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:57 AM
1

I get on well with one of my exes and we see each other regularly just as friends. I left him because the relationship wasn't going to anywhere good for anyone and he refused to see the truth of it. I have no intention of stepping back into that nonsense but I'm fairly sure he'd take me back in a heartbeat. Not gonna happen, we are both better off apart and someone needed the common sense to make that call on the future of the relationship...that someone was me My other ex is currently incoheren…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:51 AM
6

Men are not being forced to do jack shit and I sincerely hope that one day you experience someone or something actually forcibly recalibrating your ideas of what the word "forced" does and does not cover. Men who decide to make racking up approaches their main strategy usually do so because they are crap at assessing if an approach is appropriate and likely to be successful...and unwilling to consider other people's points of view long enough to improve. Sucks to be them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 05:38 PM
1

I don't see same sex relationships between primarily same sex attracted individuals as currently being so easily compared to heterosexual relationships. There's just so much different from the heterosexual experience for young adult lesbians and gays in how easy/difficult it is to find same sex partners for all different types of relationship (even for just friendship) the degree of moral and legal support offered by society in general for such relationships, the early need for some sort of bulw…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 04:04 PM
2

If in a city or its greater urban area you approach strangers in random public situations wanting something from them, they're going to deal with that however they see fit, including telling little lies to extract themselves from the situation. This is true whether you're looking for sex or begging for a dollar or trying to get them to buy lottery tickets or attempting to convert them to some whackadoodle religious cult. Nobody likes or respects a panhandler on the train unless that panhandler i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:51 AM
0

She's a weirdo with unusual needs and he's an idiot who took four years to start realising she's a weirdo. In no way is either of them representative of most of their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 08:48 PM
4

It is worse for introverts who go with the flow, accept the options that result in them being alienated from society and then leave it real late to do anything about that. Everyone else is better off.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:04 PM
1

It's like saying you won't find the local rich landowner at the local pub in the nearest country town. You may find him there....for an hour a month when he drops in on his way from airport to farmhouse, has one beer, says hi to the publican, asks about any local issues he wants more info on and indulges in a bit of making the locals feel he's a top chap. You're not going to reliably find him there propping up the bar and drinking his hours and dollars away. The guys propping up the bar on Reddi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:22 AM
1

Normal question to ask. For a relationship social class matters...not just from a gold digger point of view either. Women who aren't gold digging usually prefer to choose a man who is successful within their social class because that's going to be happier in general than being targeted by a guy who is dumpster diving because he's unappealing to women within his social class. It cuts both ways. You're just going to have to get used to it, and it isn't like you aren't sizing her up too, is it? You…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 10:25 AM
4

Do you seriously think the middle class are the only people who count?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 10:10 AM
8

There's plenty of jobs that use male strength and that women will never have more than occasional representation in. Men are doing fine out of being men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 06:56 AM
1

I have no idea what they were referring to because the word just doesn't make sense in the context they have used it in.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 01:05 AM
2

"emotionally neglected and abandoned" Hazard of living in a free, individualistic capitalist society...the safety nets for all sorts of stuff are minimal and highly targeted to just about precisely what most people can barely get by on and a few people can't survive on at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:20 PM
3

"If you're going to the kitchen can you grab me a water bottle from the fridge?" At which point he will usually say yeah sure...or explain why he won't...for example he's coming back with his hands full of something else or he's not going to the kitchen. Often he will go get me the drink even if he isn't going to the kitchen.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:09 PM
1

Constant anxiety will be the result in any woman who has an attention span longer than a mosquito. If she's capable of not burning fried eggs she's gonna end up making a plan and getting the fuck out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 03:05 AM
5

No dude. If a woman is in constant anxiety that relationship is doomed. She may leave it to the perfect moment for her to blow things up...but the relationship is doomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:50 AM
6

Oh you silly billy. Women don't hang on to relationships suffering in anxiety over their men's behaviour any more. Women divorce men when they find the relationship is nothing but anxiety. You're fifty years behind the times.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:32 AM
4

Yes... just realising they were being silly and catastrophising perfectly normal stuff would have done wonders.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:26 AM
3

I was looking forward to OP making attempts to describe it....but turns out he's abandoned the post instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 09:43 PM
–

I can understand wanting to be super rich...I don't get the super expensive but super common bracelet fixation. I'd probably commission jewellery if I was super rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:30 PM
–

True crime is actually quite a diverse genre and different people like different things about it. For example I like mysteries...if we already know what happened and who did it that's boring. To me it's normal that intelligent social creatures are drawn to investigate and mull over the unexplained death or disappearance of a member of the group or the discovery of an unidentified corpse Other people get other things out of it. For example some really like true crime in settings they are familiar…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:08 PM
14

"an exponential amount" Describe how that is graphed in this instance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:29 AM
10

You can divorce for any reason. That's how no fault divorce works, you prove the relationship has broken down not that anyone did anything specific. When I divorced back in the nineties my proof was the required year of separation plus a short but compelling statement about how little I trusted my ex and how I didn't think I could ever trust him again. Didn't say a single thing about what he'd done to no longer be trusted...I still had enough respect for a handful of members of his family not to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 11:42 PM
–

Is a bit. US $2000 would, if you looked around for the right supplier, get you a whole butchered cow in Australia with some decent change left over to go buy yourself some salad and breakfast eggs and some chicken. Is he eating a whole cow a week? Is he going through a herd of cows every year? How do his kidneys survive?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 10:11 AM
1

Talent is not superficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:13 AM
0

There's a lot of men who are simply incapable of a decent level of talking, joking, flirting. There's something wrong with those guys. Deeply wrong. It isn't just superficial. They are lacking in some basic components of adult human competency.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 06:28 AM
–

Funniest thing I've read all month. TRP men. "Women love the roided man. All women do. No exceptions. You're all lying when you point to other looks and say "that's what I personally like" Also TRP men...."I turned my entire life into a support system for what performance enhancing drugs do to me and all I got was this mid-looking alcoholic druggie woman who doesn't appear particularly interested in me"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 05:55 AM
3

IDK dude. Is having a healthy body superficial? Is knowing how to be comfortable and make others comfortable in public superficial? Is dressing appropriately to the interactions one wishes to have superficial? Seems to me that they are people playing a superficial game but a lot of the things they have to do to win that game requires attributes that are deeper.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 05:47 AM
3

You wouldn't give two shits about them wanting some ripe fruit if you were ripe fruit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 05:26 AM
4

From her perspective she's not entertaining him. He's entertaining her. You guys got to stop seeing casual sex as a decision to reward someone else. Casual sex is the decision to reward oneself. If the fuckboy is the one at the bar who is lighthearted, speaks well, dresses well, goes to the gym twice a week not twice a month...why the fuck shouldn't she take him home as her prize for the night? She's not currently intending on putting several years of effort into some shy socially inept boy to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 11:48 PM
2

Lol. I know you are but what am I, eh? Great arguing technique if you're seven years old. The post asked very specifically about men. I gave, therefore, an answer specifically about men, what a goddamn surprise! Men are predatory. Thats my opinion after sharing a world with them for half a century. That's the conclusion most men come to as well...once they've got a daughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 03:18 PM
3

But the cat is still a predator. Sooner or later it's gonna drag a live rat in through that cat door...or piss on the front door step to warn off other cats ...or decide your foot under the covers is moving just perfectly temptingly to be chomped. That's how it is with men. The guy trying to chat you up on the train at 10pm is maybe not a rapist...but that doesn't mean he's got anyone's interests in mind other than his own or any concern for damage done so long as there's some sort of plausible …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 08:36 AM
0

They're sort of all predators. Functionally speaking you can't go wrong assuming they all have a predatory edge. Sure, they aren't all rapists. But there's almost none of them that take proper consideration of the impact of their sexual behaviour and the things they do to enable their sexual behaviour. Tigers and domestic cats. Both predators. Tiger will kill you. Domestic cat will roll on its back soliciting belly rubs then scratch your hand and wrist sending you to get a tetanus shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 08:11 AM
1

Dude... how the fuck would we know? Maybe she's trying to work out if she feels ok fucking about on you to stay entertained during your weeks of absence, maybe she is just about done with not seeing you for a few weeks while you're dating someone else and is about to dump your arse Don't know, why would I know, your arse would have been kicked out long ago if I was her because I don't tolerate weeks of absence.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 08:00 AM
1

I don't leave until I am sure it is for the best for everyone involved. In both cases my male partner was perpetrating a miserable dynamic I could never just accept but he thought I would grow to accept. I thought it through where do we each potentially go from here and it seemed better for everyone. It wasn't that I was "over it"...it was that I knew I was doing the right thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 01:47 AM
1

Good. Glad there's suffering all round rather than just for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 12:36 PM
0

"without the influence of modern culture blah blah blah" https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success Sure whatever dude. Personally I think men nowadays have it better than they've had through most of history.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 12:34 PM
3

It's sometimes a solid choice for practical reasons if you both work in the central business district and commute some distance from town. Nobody enjoys getting home at 9pm only having had a goddamn icecream or cup of coffee and a long walk ..youre going to have to talk a whole longer before someone is willing to see you if when you see them you're going to keep them in town past the time the buses and trains are regular but not have the date include real food. And obviously if you only meet peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 11:01 AM
1

Women are accustomed to hiding anything that makes them look foolish...our peers teach this to us ruthlessly age ten to about fifteen or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 07:20 AM
6

You need to be more specific than that because most of us have known at least one failed relationship in our friends group that the man would describe precisely that way but he was actually being unreasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 09:33 PM
1

Want whatever you want... people are going to judge you for it if they find out...and there's no amount of arguing you can do that will win everyone to your side because the number of reasons people will choose to judge you for is infinite. That's life. That's the price of doing things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 11:28 AM
9

Well yes..."why aren't men more scared of each other" is a legitimate question. Especially when we do things like suggest to men maybe having more female friends and men respond with their intense and disabling fears of things like... being asked to give lifts or help move house.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 09:49 AM
1

Sure. What's the point of dieting that much if men ain't gonna simp?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 06:29 AM
1

https://www.worldometers.info/gdp/gdp-per-capita/ Says it all really.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:06 AM
-2

Women talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 03:50 AM
10

Too complicated to say without more info really. Prenups can be fine decent things negotiated in a dignified private manner with intent to do things like preserve ancestral estates and family businesses...or they can be vile attempts to strongarm you after the wedding invitations are out into accepting that the marriage is all about helping someone else of similar poverty level to you become rich with money you will never get a stake in. Hidden bank accounts can be all about having just enough t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 02:18 AM
2

Yeah it's fraud to hide assets on the statement of assets you provide in a divorce case. That really doesn't have anything to do with the most common form of secret bank account though which usually involves enough money to make it to safety without having had to beg, hitch hike, sleep rough or use homeless shelters on the way. So it's usually comparatively small compared to total assets being considered for distribution and is long since spent by the time the divorce is in progress.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 02:09 AM
2

My personal experience is that at certain times when raising kids, if the breadwinner works office hours there is going to be basically no lively happy untired husband/wife time five nights a week unless the breadwinner chips in to help with the evening schedule. Because there's a lot to do in just a few hours that basically is hard or impossible or unwise to shift to other times of day. So yeah if you're willing to keep sex to weekends only you can play your computer games while the homemaker p…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:26 AM
1

I think giving people things just because one feels they deserve those things is an expensive business and must necessarily be somewhat limited in extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:04 AM
1

Apollo and Artemis Amaterasu and Tsukuyomi There's actually a fairly diverse set of treatments given to the sun and the moon in both the east and the west. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_solar_deities https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_lunar_deities
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 07:59 AM
1

If there wasn't a ring on it, tough shit boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 07:40 AM
2

No but the weather here is so putrid right now I'd be willing to get involved in something like that if the city watch house had aircon.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 06:04 AM
11

Well you know.. maybe it's a good idea to insist on having that exclusivity conversation if exclusivity is important to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:58 AM
1

Well surely the reasonable conclusion then is that men who want casual sex should wear makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 11:02 PM
1

I keep several dresses suitable for a nice restaurant. So I probably wear one of them. He wears an outfit that includes a shirt with a collar. Not in a relationship right now but eh, I've spent 31 years in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 10:13 PM
1

They aren't seriously trying to win and somehow they've been blessed genetically with exceptional joint health.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 10:09 PM
1

I rarely read romance recreationally. I'd be fine with negotiating that as a deal. So long as in the occasional event I need to read a romance for research we could negotiate it be done in a way he's happy with. For example listening together to an audiobook and stopping it occasionally to discuss the relevance to my work If he doesn't want me to write novels with a romance subplot he needs to go. Like... yesterday. He needs to be gone. Preferably stop existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 10:03 PM
2

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vegeta_(condiment) It's a popular condiment...I shall take my chances with Croatian deliciousness.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:53 PM
6

Yep. There's been literally zero guys my father thought would be great for me that I haven't hated on sight...yes even the ones I had already met before my father took it into his head they were perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 06:42 PM
1

Hmmmm. Do they try to stop other countries running odds?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 11:39 PM
1

We don't always say it is a good solution. There's several categories we say it is potentially a good solution for including most obviously men who hate women and just want occasional access to a vagina and a bit of being blown and want to interact as little as possible with a woman to get that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 10:41 PM
1

You on a bulk? Gnocchi with carbonara was my cheat meal when I decided to lose twenty kilos during the pre-vaccine phase of the pandemic. One cheat meal a week and that was it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 10:31 PM
1

Add a carbonara sauce and that stuff packs on the pounds like nothing else other than maybe icecream.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 10:26 PM
8

Sure, give it a go if you're an ordinary dude with some social perceptiveness and street smarts, don't go anywhere your government officially warns you is dangerous (if your government doesn't issue travel advisory warnings look at the warnings other countries offer) and even if you have no luck at worst it's an interesting holiday. I think it's a problem that it is being sold as an idea to autistic men who basically don't go to more than five or six locations outside their own home and family m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 10:08 PM
1

Is anywhere taking odds on one or both of them carking it of natural causes before the election? Or is that something that would have the secret service on your arse despite it being very much a possibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:23 PM
1

I shrug my shoulders, donate several rounds of eggs young to secure my genetic stake in the future and concentrate hard on making money and getting laid. Hopefully by age thirty I've got enough resources to have a kid of my own for my mother to dote on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 08:16 PM
4

If you stick around here long you'll quickly see how deep some guys lack of social skills and bitter resentment of any activity that will gradually build social skills goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 07:35 PM
5

You absolutely need to not come across as creepy if you wish to keep doing this . If you come across as creepy you will be reported to security, security will show up, photograph you so they can stick a copy of the photo up in the security office so they don't forget your face and you will be escorted off campus and then if that happens a few times you will be told never to return and if you do return it is trespass. You've basically got no official business there so your presence is completely …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 06:48 PM
1

"Pinterest has no interaction with other users whatsoever" Lol. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 10:20 AM
1

Yes. Even if you put your real name on your Pinterest it's pretty easy just to have public boards full of aesthetics that basically say nothing about you. Nobody really knows what people are putting on private boards unless they invite you to that board...and even then it's rarely more than mildly spicy and is mostly just shit that might identify address like renovation pictures etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 10:11 AM
1

Pinterest. Basically any place that is majority women will attract all the men unless they are made to feel uncomfortable there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:59 AM
2

You don't want my chicken soup. I put a cupful of gin in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 08:25 AM
0

Dark auburn.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 08:18 AM
3

He's having a bit of a piss and moan because I posted a link to a YouTube about making money shearing in Australia. I did make sure to point out that I'm not suggesting this for everyone but for some it could be a way to get unstuck, see the world, broaden their horizons, put some cash in the bank But no apparently waiting round to vote every four years is the way. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 05:37 AM
2

Hey young guys who feel stuck in life but don't have problems with hard physical work or travel... here's a possible option. Learn to shear sheep then travel the world shearing sheep. If you are in a menial job right now this could be your ticket to on the way affording to take a few passport bro style trips through Asia to see what that's like. https://youtu.be/NGIWUDHa0XA?si=BgnI3RYHgh42UXsY If you can't see it working for you no probs I'm not saying it's for everyone. Just possibly good for s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:02 AM
4

The thing about trying to avoid shitty people...be it sexually or in friendship or in business or wherever....is you can dodge a thousand of them then one finds a gap in your defences you didn't realise was there and catches you anyway. Maybe the catch you real bad and you end up in a relationship and have to escape the relationship. Maybe you just go on a date with one and it's a whole terrible evening. The fact is that attempting to dodge the shitty people in various ways is still a really goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:08 PM
0

I understand that I've sat with young women swiping and have seen them swipe no to dudes who probably get forty likes a day, and yes to guys who probably get one like a week. Something about the popular guy turned her off. Something about the guy with less broad appeal made him worth a second look. But you're right in that some guys are probably getting no likes. That's what happens when you present almost nothing likeable and a great number of things that are intensively disliked by many. Guys.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:11 PM
43

Because they know that if they were on those guys position they too would completely lack the self control to have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 01:26 PM
0

At a bar or club one or both of you are likely drunk. If you're drunk, chances are you're not looking as suave as you think you do. You may look like an openly leering lech who is softly swaying from side to side almost spilling his beer. If she's drunk chances are she's feeling disinhibited and is telling you what she thinks. Look...places with a bit of alcohol have an upside and a downside. This is part of the downside
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:59 AM
2

Not since I was like...five years old?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:20 AM
2

Lol "Praise me!" "No" There's plenty of guys getting plenty of praise out there. A man who isn't one of the has some thinking to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:34 PM
1

A man who chooses to see things this way may very well have chosen failure. And that's ok...he has a right to choose to fail. What he doesn't have a right to is to have everyone else see it as not his choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 08:41 PM
2

It's not rocket science. Spending time being social does so many useful things. It teaches you to feel comfortable around other people and how not to cause discomfort in other people. It hones your perceptions of other people and your knowledge base about other people. It increases the number of people and social situations one has access to. We keep telling them...spend the time necessary to build your social circles. And they keep saying no.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:35 PM
2

Five years older and they are likely to be a more boomerish gen X. Icky. Five years younger they are likely to be a more Millennial gen X. I'll go five years younger kthnx.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 11:12 PM
–

I deliberately worked during my own time at getting rid of my reading fluency problems when as primary school students we had to take turns reading a book out loud in class. I decided after seeing the first victim of this process that like hell was I going to be anything short of damn impressive. But ummm...I'm a girl and from eighties Australia. I know why I fixed it. I didn't want to look pitiful. I don't know why they aren't fixing it..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:48 PM
–

Meh. I'm in my mid fifties and completely understand the attractiveness of fifteen year old boys because I was a fifteen year old girl once. A startlingly beautiful boy can still make me smile. Doesn't mean I want a fifteen year old boy sexually...more that I appreciate their existence along with sunrise, sunset, petrichor, birdsong, rainbows, and all the other glorious things of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:25 PM
–

Nasal saline spray (FESS is the brand in Australia) and take some allergy tablets, if that doesnt work swap the spray for use of a nasal irrigation kit (Also FESS brand here). And if that's not enough take some pseudoephedrine if they haven't made it almost impossible to obtain in your country. And if that doesn't work see a doctor. You might have something growing up there like fungus or you might need a septum deviation correction and maybe some turbinate reduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:21 PM
–

"Learn to appreciate the small things in life, like masturbation...." I'm fully of the opinion that fewer women would have anything to do with men if women learned how to properly get off without toys.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:12 PM
–

Are you arguing with me about what makes my heart skip a beat vs what gives me thoughts that make me decide to instead look somewhere else on a guy who seems otherwise charming to see what else there is I can like instead? Because dude...you can want to fuck another man yourself for any reason you feel is right for you but what makes you want to take a guys cock right up you obviously isn't what makes me what to take a guys cock If he looks like a hunter gatherer who spends all day running and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 11:01 AM
–

What people are attempting to communicate with you is that if there's something to like about you, some woman somewhere is sure to like it. They aren't saying anything about your overall chances. Or your specific chances of getting with Pam. To get with Pam you might need to ask yourself well what does Pam like in a man that isn't all the things about that frat boy that I am not. It's a request to stop seeing things in such a good/bad black/white polarised manner... because that's not helping an…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:34 AM
–

I like it best when the upper two abs are just barely partially visible and the rest is kind of flat but not pudgy. I'd rather encounter a little belly though than very chiselled abs. I find those to be disturbingly exaggerated and reminiscent of emaciation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:22 AM
–

Imma just assume then that you shook a baby like a British nanny.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:11 AM
–

Well that's not what a lot of guys here keep saying about felons and dating. The way they talk every two bit drug dealer and angry guy throwing fists at the bar gets first pop at all the prettiest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:56 AM
4

Some people get raised in incredibly social households.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:22 AM
0

I have no intention of watching a whole seven minutes of that. You need to understand what asking someone out is and what it isn't, what it can do for you and what it can't do for you. And then dating just becomes part of your toolkit. And you bring it out when you feel it functional to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:12 AM
9

I'm not sure scheming is the way to put it? It's more like...some people are good at lane merging in traffic and some aren't. Some people know exactly how to ask "can you do me a lower price on that" and some don't. Some people know when to leave the party and other people are still there when the fight breaks out. It's a gift for reading the situation and responding correctly in a timely manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:58 AM
1

Ok so I checked the video but not the rest of it. If there's an an out of all proportion reaction involving many comments against something that really ain't that bad...you should always consider whether some of them are bots. Just getting that out the way...the current situation wrt bots requires constant reminders that what you see in the way of reactions is easily supplemented for a variety of reasons. Anyhow I think a small but very upset percent of men find it a bit upsetting to see women f…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 09:50 PM
–

Ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 08:49 PM
0

When we tell you to just be honest what we are really telling you is that it appears you're not the competent liar supervillain type you might like to think you are and that lies that are detected usually read as very wrong and creepy and a danger sign to most women. It's wise not to deviate too far from that in how you present yourself . You're clearly not this guy https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_Gerhartsreiter And even he was eventually detected. So maybe it is best to keep your lies s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 10:31 AM
–

Things I care about... The constellation of bad behaviour around sourcing porn. Any man who fapped to the Fappening rather than deciding nah I will source porn that isn't stolen is basically trash. Some of them are actually damaging their dicks with their death grips. And the fact that porn and gaming easily make a huge amount of time disappear from a man's life. So we've got a lot of guys who sacrificed a bunch of highly relevant life experience acquisition and still expect to be treated like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 05:08 AM
1

Neither really maps particularly well to what I know of traditional Australian Aboriginal social organisation so I'm rather inclined to think the people you have cited are basically full of shit on this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:16 AM
5

We advise you to do something...you don't want to do it. That doesn't mean it was bad advice...it means you didn't want to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 10:11 PM
2

It's unreasonable to assume monogamy. Not everyone is by nature willing and able to be monogamous. It's not unreasonable to reject someone because you need monogamy and they are not monogamous. You're the one who needs to be more reasonable in this story...you need to do the reasonable thing and move on from a relationship that completely lacks one of the elements basic to meeting your needs. You need to treat yourself more reasonably.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 09:36 AM
1

Basically this... it's a piece of redpill sophistry in order to define women in well matched couples as marrying up anyway. He earns five thou a year more but she brings fifty thousand of savings and he brings no savings? They'd call her hypergamous. It's the other way round...she has the higher pay job but he's the one with savings? They'd still call her hypergamous. As soon as I hear a man using that term I'm on the lookout for more general intellectual dishonesty from him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 07:05 AM
–

Nothing specific because incels are largely beyond anyone's help. They each have argued themselves into a corner they refuse to get out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 06:35 AM
2

No I'm talking out of your arse dude...I keep a holiday home there for when I'm not living in your mind rent-free.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 08:28 PM
–

I only see the photos of her available on Google. She looks normalish weight and of fertile age with features that conform to normal human expectations. She's not going to be much below a 4 unless she's smelly or clearly criminally insane. Who is she anyway and why is everyone upset with her? She's right...she could get herself an unlovable tech guy fairly easy. Good on her for y'know... rejecting that option and not ruining what's left of some charmless dweeb's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 05:15 PM
-1

Dating apps are generally unpleasant places for women and that minority of single women who are still on the apps do various things to make it still worth their effort to keep apps as an adjunct to mate seeking through social circles. One of the things they do is only swipe yes if the man is upfront exhibiting clear and provable aspects to him that in some way place him ahead of other men. This eliminates most of the large number of men on apps who basically offer nothing but lies. It also elimi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:51 PM
1

People's opinions change all the time, none of us hold precisely the opinions we did even a year ago. We're built for change. What's silly when people regard it as just two sets of diametrically opposed ideas and people changing straight from one to another. That ain't it. Humans are more complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 09:46 AM
4

Both change one's opinion of a person. I don't particularly give a shit if my opinion of some random female acquaintance changes to thinking she's excessively reckless and dumb as shit for not finding a better way to make money. I can easily push her further out in my friends circle or all the way out. I do care if I am in an established relationship with a fully grown man and my opinion of him becomes significantly lower due to a new stupid habit he acquires. Throwing the whole man out because …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:31 PM
3

I find both those things unacceptable? And I think I am not unusual in that. You're basically arguing that things should be exactly as they are...and also acting like things aren't as they are and this is some big gotcha? But things are as they are so no gotcha moment there. The consequences of either of those things is that most normal people who find out are gonna think it's incredibly likely you're a fucked up person and aren't going to be thrilled to be around you on a personal basis. You're…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 05:21 PM
0

Men who have had a haircut more often than they have sex with a woman should probably stop trying to have conversations like this about women's desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:04 PM
1

Because nobody cares about the gold diggers marrying old men. They made their bed and now they get to birth a few autistic kids in that bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 12:10 PM
–

Well yes... cheating is understandable by a great many people under a great many different conditions. And precisely none of those conditions meet with general approval. And everyone has their "well that's the most understandable" type of cheating. Personally I think cheating to meet sexual desires is bullshit and inexplicable..if you're gonna cheat just because masturbation isn't good enough then just fucking leave, weakling. You weren't strong enough to do this. To me the most understandable c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 12:08 PM
2

Generally, for a woman who is making a bedroom dead, the dead bedroom is the manifestation of a phase of grief. Deep down she knows the marriage is crap, nearly dead and needs to die but she was heavily invested in her marriage and she's got grieving to do before she can accept it is dead and walk away. So maybe she's angrily feeling unsexy like damn that shitty man I hate him so much I just want to gouge his eyes out when he leans in for a kiss, or maybe it's denial... she's feeling unsexy but …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:47 PM
2

Whatever dude...if they want a formal diagnosis they can see an actual medical professional at an actual appointment...if a possible autism diagnosis is consistent with a whole lot of stuff in their lives the should probably do that. But they probably won't of course unless some woman in their life tells the to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 04:42 PM
–

Maybe you're just not as good at some things as they are. That's the reality in life for many people. Some people don't drive because they are crap at it. Some people don't have careers they just have jobs. Some people never graduate from high school. Some people desperately want to be a performer, a star, but never will. And that's...life. That's something most people gotta find a way to work around and still have a good life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 02:22 PM
–

You could at some point try just dating a single mother and keeping it at dating. Either the relationship falls through or the kids age up and the whole scenario maybe looks different once they've found their own way as adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 02:16 PM
11

Yes. I think a lot of them arrive at late adolescence and the strong desire to date already well practiced at ignoring the blatantly obvious facts about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 02:08 PM
1

Basically this. If she clearly married for the money she's not trustworthy with your husband or friends husband's because she might try to trade up or sideways. When she eventually cashes out on her marriage it's gonna be a vicious divorce and a social nightmare. Gold diggers are kept at a greater distance socially than women who marry up but are not perceived as gold digging. Women who just marry up are generally at a distance initially but gradually permitted entry as children are produced and…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 11:18 AM
2

Do you have a current passport...or are you just a bro?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:37 PM
–

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/counterpoint
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 07:06 AM
1

The whore has no use for the John once she's secured the money. You should know this is how it is. Any chance she has of not doing the work and still getting the money she will take. So let's say your dick stops working well. A woman who is with you for you is gonna try to help you work out why and fix the situation. A whore isn't going to tell you if she suspects your snoring is undiagnosed sleep apnea and part of the reason why your health is poor and dick floppy. She's going to smirk to herse…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 10:00 PM
–

And eventually forced family formation leads to a species that has less innate drive to have kids for their own sake than is necessary to breed and carefully raise enough kids. Which is...bad. Very bad. It taken to its ultimate conclusion will make us bad doomed mammals. Like the giant pandas. That's this era's societal challenge. To maintain positive aspects of environment, culture, population level and our resourcing and military security while the climate changes and we shed a bunch of now le…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:52 PM
2

Baby hoarding. Baby hoarding would be a thing just like animal hoarding is. We'd need laws to deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:28 PM
0

Well I'm in Australia so we've got a bit of a geographical advantage here. Pity we're not leveraging it like crazy l.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 09:52 AM
27

"offering purpose" There's always someone willing to tell other people what to do. I'm a bit over it dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 09:51 AM
-3

The sensible thing would be to shut borders to male migrants unless they bring a wife with them...and allow very generous entry conditions for female migrants...as in show up on a tourist visa then apply. That would slow the process and make it easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 09:31 AM
41

"the sanctity of marriage" Ah yes. The role of the church in threatening you with hellfire and eternal damnation if you didn't comply ... also the role of the church in providing some quite dire nunneries to hide away and prevent proper economic and social participation of the women who truly would rather have any life at all so long as it wasn't motherhood. All while abusing choir boys and starving orphans and passing that collection plate round.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 09:07 AM
52

For thousands of years we've been in essence systematically forcing the breeding of women who feel very little maternal instinct and men who do the bare minimum or less if they can get away with it. This problem has been a long time coming but make no mistake it was inevitable. It's been building up. Unattractive unpleasant incompetent lazy men. Women who dislike their kids but kids are the only mealticket they've got. It's not a question of if we should go back. If we go backwards it will just …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 08:50 AM
–

Unremarkable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:29 AM
–

I'd be dead at age 9 if I hadn't had stranger danger and suspicion about men drilled into me Feel free to neglect to prepare your own daughters for reality. They can be the ones found dead in a ditch.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:56 AM
5

As a fat old woman, if by any chance there is a man who fits that wealth description here and isn't just a Walmart greeter lying about it, I say please do go knock up a sugar baby or two. It sounds like the most entertaining train wreck for third parties to observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:48 AM
2

The military sometimes has standards that are different to those outside the military. For example cheating on your spouse is in some militaries viewed as misconduct. I'm assuming that in defending himself against an accusation of rape he confessed fairly conclusively to other things that were misconduct by the standards of the military tribunal. My opinion on it is that if you don't join the military you don't interact that way with military tribunals. I have never joined the military and milit…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:33 AM
6

Yes. If they want women to return to the apps then women have to receive something women want. Restricting the number of chats for women doesn't exactly do anything useful for women Useful might be ... allowing people to set their profiles up in ways that rule out matches that haven't interacted with the profile in certain ways highly indicative of having read the profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 12:30 AM
3

I keep saying...if we were willing to fund it through taxes the government could run a significantly different sort of dating app. Then at least you'd have a meaningful choice of apps
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 11:26 PM
–

Nah. Bus you can access the driver if you're scared for example you can go sit nearer the driver or ask the driver to let you back on if anyone follows you off the bus. But the train... especially a night train with fewer travellers you're basically on your own with whatever happens. And most train stations have places that are basically traps like pedestrian underpasses or a long walk through nothing whereas most bus stops let off outside businesses or housing. Plus you've got more bus stop opt…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:13 PM
–

Nah. Night time train approach on someone who was clearly working not partying tonight. It's all the worst of everything. Approaches on the way into town at the beginning of the work day are infinitely better. She doesn't feel threatened that you will follow and assault her because she's getting off the public transport onto a crowded busy street.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:58 PM
–

Ultimate as in best or ultimate as in most challenging?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:50 PM
–

It's a gentle way of hinting to you that some of your mate seeking behaviours seem to be doing more harm than good to your chances.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:13 PM
–

Not armageddon. Just another world war.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:36 AM
–

Well the pretty girls will take a short guy after a half a dozen or so tall guys have died defending them and the food supply and both tall guys and food supply are depleted. Horses for courses. If you're only good during starvation...and we aren't starving yet... you're no good.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:50 AM
–

We're headed into the resource wars consequent to climate change. You got fuck all chance of persuading women not to prefer the man who can throw further and hit harder. A longer set of levers is a longer set of levers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:45 AM
–

Exactly. Also...it's very difficult to maintain some sort of fantasy that you're either going to come good and get the partner you really want or that you are being unfairly treated when you live and seek a partner in a small tight knit community. It isn't some anonymous "Chad" who beats you to the pretty girls without a sexual history....it's twenty or so other guys you know personally and in each case you know exactly what they did to win.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 04:20 PM
1

Limit their chances of wasting large amounts of time and ending up very discouraged, with no motivation left to dedicate to more useful activities that actually will change the game for them. Look you can keep approaching strange woman after strange woman just because you like how she looks and keep getting told to go away. Then after weeks of humiliation get one who talks to you for a while...and then tells you to go away. Because the roll of the dice isn't just once. The dice are rolled hundre…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 02:55 AM
–

Exactly. A niche discussion online... largely in response to other niche discussions online. And as in all other historical eras ordinary people are sort of peripherally aware of a bunch of niche discussions they don't actually regard as particularly interesting or impactful. My experience of young low income people is they are mostly dealing with poverty and high prices by either staying with their parents or forming relationships... friendship or sexual...with other people in similar circumsta…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 08:15 AM
–

Poor people should do whatever the fuck they think is best for themselves personally and ignore the reproductive "wisdom" of a middle class that is at this point so reproductively incompetent it doesn't even manage to replace itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 07:23 AM
–

Yeah whatever. You've never been poor or lived among the poor recently have you? Just about everything in the life of poor people carries risk of trauma. Their housing is crap, their neighbourhoods are full of meth and the discarded defective mentally ill children of the middle class, their landlord is often a huge problem,often they can't even properly secure their residence or must live in a share house, their jobs are often dangerous in a variety of ways, they walk and take public transport a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 07:03 AM
–

Meh. Don't fuck if you're in place that doesn't allow abortion. If a woman is in a place that allows abortion and she knows she can afford birth control and scrape together enough for an abortion if absolutely necessary, fucking is probably the cheapest entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 05:06 AM
5

If she's using an app seriously she's having first dates with men she's not attracted to. It's the nature of most women's attraction....a photo is enough to say that's an attractive photo of a man but it isn't enough to say and I am attracted to him. And she's probably having a second or third date with the ones she still isn't attracted to but desperately wishes she was.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 04:47 AM
–

No. He could still find a woman who thinks he's somewhat attractive....but is already in a relationship with another man. Low value men are still going to get turned down.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 04:33 PM
1

Lol. You have chosen for your future sons participation in the pick me to toxic boy mom pipe line. And now are encouraging the guys here to do likewise. I'm not gonna argue with your chosen method of obliterating your Y chromosome lineage. You do you. Just the other guys here should mull it over carefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 10:12 AM
1

Not as general formal rule. If you want it as a personal rule go for it. You each decide how much effort to put in. You decide how you will react to the effort the other person puts in. There's no "should" about any of it. Workable matches have occurred between high effort and low effort people... it's not common but it has been known. A formal set of rules basically making those matches even more difficult to make would be unfair on those people who like it that way. You shouldn't need a formal…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 09:52 AM
1

There's a bunch of points in the whole casual sex selection and early courtship process where a woman is going to encounter a whole lot of objectionable and often frankly threatening behaviour from men if she's dating strangers. Everything from some moronic dickhead on Tinder sending a first message complaining that she's fat and how dare she swipe yes to his profile to guys who cut up rough and send death threats when she doesn't reply to a message immediately. A woman has to be very dedicated …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:50 AM
2

They all need the Boogie Nights treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:25 AM
1

A good writer, script doctor, director and producer can make almost anything entertaining. Redpill bluepill blackpill...its not the material it's the artistry. The careful choices. But something has to be more than just entertaining to justify all that production cost. It has to sell. In the case of movies it has to sell to people who aren't just gonna wait for it on a streaming service. And a lot of those people are going to be on dates and the guy is gonna want his date to feel good and a litt…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:20 AM
1

You should be very very careful and do a lot of thinking as soon as anyone seems willing to knowingly harm or distress you or harm something you are clearly invested in, in any way, without willingness to provide an explanation that is reasonable and rings true. I'm not saying that its always wrong to be doing something that makes your partner a bit anxious... sometimes people do have to not care about causing mild anxiety in each other...but if it's clearly deliberate and no good explanation is…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 05:44 AM
-2

Yeah. Women guard their words fairly carefully most of the time around strange men. We don't alway say the things we think, with very good reason. There's a sizable minority of men who have no common sense at all when dealing with their emotions concerning rejection. And walking past a woman and receiving the information that she finds you actively repugnant is going to read emotionally as rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 05:02 PM
–

A group of girls will usually tend to have similar opinions about making efforts to look more beautiful. That's the FSM at work. We tend to sort ourselves into groups that don't irritate each other by being too try hard or not trying hard enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:10 PM
7

We don't care. It would make our lives harder. We don't want some guy we thought was hot camping out on our doorstep during exam week trying to poke his dick in us.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 07:06 AM
8

I think some men would just murder us if they knew what we thought about their looks. Also I don't want some mentally weird ass guy chasing after me just because I thought he had a nice butt. Also...we literally evolved to hide our receptiveness level. As in many hundreds of thousands of years ago we probably had heats....and then we didn't. And then we became the most socially and technologically complex species on the planet. You should mull over the wisdom of messing with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 07:01 AM
-3

Well good luck then dude. I'm sure you'll make whatever your particular set of new but significantly reduced compromises have to be and have significantly reduced your necessary compromises through a rigorous program of self improvement. How's it been going now as a Mr High Value Male? Appropriate women tripping over their own feet to buy what you're selling?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 04:34 AM
1

Sure. If I can get an apartment that has more room and better views or is a lot closer to work or has higher ceilings I might take a hobo apartment so long as the damage is manageable for me. Have you ever actually gone out with a limited budget to shop for real estate? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 04:26 AM
-2

Why would a person pay the boomer $400,000 for a house the boomer paid $6000 for back in the 80s? Because they have decided they should have a house, it's a market and there's only so many options for getting one, and that house is in the top of their viable choices. I occasionally wonder about what sort of lives have been lived by men who have formed and maintained this mindset... because in my experience it's just impossible to do things to meet major life goals without coming up against the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 04:18 AM
-2

But can you? I mean that's an issue for a lot of guys. They were slow out the gates at the start of the race, they stopped to smell the grass, they pranced around a bit doing basically nothing of use. And all of a sudden the only girls left are the ones who also messed about doing nothing much of lasting benefit and a tiny smattering of younger girls...not nearly enough to go round...who are willing to pretend to overlook wrinkles and saggy balls so long as they never work again and get a credit…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 03:36 AM
3

You probably shouldn't outright believe anyone...real life isn't a game like chess with a fairly simple set of rules. Nobody has chess "solved" and life itself is even further away from being solved. The sensible thing for most people to do is have a vibrant social circle including diverse people of all genders and many different perspectives living their lives and whom if observed by just living their lives will be providing continual reality checks to the things that other people are saying ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 01:35 AM
16

"be themselves, be nice and be a gentleman" That's just a tactful way of telling someone their fake it till you make it just isn't competent faking, they come across rather quickly as rather horrid, and they're totally devoid of class, respect for self and respect for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 08:07 PM
1

Meh. There's a market for that sort of stuff and the majority of conventional authors that put their hand up to write it turn out to lack the necessary mindset. So publishers recruit fanfic writers with a proven history of writing that smut. Needs must, eh? You've got to understand... it's hard being a publisher in this current era. They still want people to desire to buy traditional books in large part because paper is harder to pirate and a physical book well that's like the customer paying fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 10:19 AM
2

A lot of the guys who say these sort of things appear to have difficulties with correctly perceiving visual inputs. I mean seriously...how many of them also call makeup "cheating" like somehow it's impossible to tell how much makeup a woman has on when she's wearing enough to hide a huge amount of pimples, a double chin and a crooked nose?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 04:30 AM
1

They clearly want a woman to choose them for their money and then to get any sort of respect or cooperation from them dedicate her entire life to an ongoing labour intensive process of comprehensively faking both to society at large and to the man as an individual that she choose him for his huge dick, sparkling mind and handsome face. It's too much to ask for. Unless a girl's a natural whore she's gonna find that real stressful and demeaning...and if she's a natural whore she can usually do far…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 03:50 AM
1

General acquisition of wisdom tends to lead to a reordering of priorities without it feeling like a lowering of standards. Therefore he should seek wisdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 01:38 AM
0

Meh. If we found all the effeminate and camp guys their butch woman equivalent...a nice hefty muscular girl with a booming masculine voice and tendency to pick them up for dates in a motorcycle she drives too fast so they squeal in terror, I doubt those guys would handle it particularly well. Do you guys get angry when you watch Some Mother's Do Av 'Em?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:26 PM
1

Well of course if a man's determined to be a wimp then nothing I say online will stop him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:38 AM
16

I live a very traditional life...alone. I keep house, and have a bunch of feminine hobbies. I just don't care to share any of that with a man. I don't care if men are trad or not. I'm all about a tidy home and fresh clean laundry folded in the dresser. I'm not about doing that for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:03 AM
3

Advice to men... 1 Don't be a wimp, wrap that dick up. 2 Don't be a wimp, get a vasectomy if you never want kids 3 Don't be a wimp, tell her early that a DNA test is always going to be something you insist on...that way if she wants a victim she can move the fuck on to some other guy who is happy to be a victim and you can look for a better person to replace her in your life...and if she doesn't want a victim she is at least spared the suffering of you springing what looks like a sudden change o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 02:57 AM
3

I'm not feeling any need at all to stop calling socially inept men socially inept.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 03:34 PM
-2

You know exactly the difference I am talking about you're just being disengenuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 07:52 AM
-4

Because y'all be acting like your life's fucking over because don't get sex The things we are willing to advise someone to do to save their damn life is considerably longer than the list we'd advise them to do to avoid feeling a little sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 07:45 AM
36

And most guys can probably cum from a suitably skilled and persistent finger up their bum.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 03:24 AM
1

Why should she try anything to attempt to help people who are angry and ungrateful about her previous attempts to help?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 11:47 PM
0

Good people tend to not feel strangers owe them much.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:34 PM
2

A large number of men here need to realise that if someone gives you something for free and you attack them for it because it wasn't exactly what you wanted...they aren't ever going to give you anything for free again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 05:08 PM
–

I'm done with offering advice to autists. They expect us to offer descriptions that frame real life into some sort of computer game because that's the only thing in life theyve bothered to understand. When we do our best for them on that front they are inevitably ungrateful at the limited success that results... blaming us for it rather than blaming the restrictions that were placed on us in how they required to be assisted. I think it would be good if we just cut these dudes lose entirely from …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:18 PM
21

I think you guys overestimate your ability to handle being evil masterminds.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 07:01 AM
–

I can't say when it is for "a man" because that's an individual and I know jack shit about what he is what he's looking for and what work he's willing to do to get what he wants. There's a huge difference for example between a 34 year old average man looking for women 30 to 34 and if he is still looking for 22 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 06:21 AM
6

It's almost like having a relationship with someone means you have to deal with them as an actual human being not just as an abstract concept. No I don't give a shit that maybe if a man one day gets a girlfriend she might do something that leaves him feeling uneasy about her motivations and gives him the problem of trying to work out what to do about that. That's just how having someone else in your life is. It happens in numerous different ways not just the specific way you describe and it happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 10:39 PM
–

High output tik tok content providers wouldn't be high output tik tok content providers if they actually liked the idea of 9 to 5. They wouldn't be there working hand in hand with the algorithm to supply you with rage bait. They'd be doing the 9 to 5. Maybe you wanna try getting off tik tok if you don't like the lifestyle they are choosing to live. You're basically enabling them. I don't use tik tok. And of late if I end up in YouTube shorts I get shown farming stuff and crochet videos. The algo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 10:19 PM
2

I think...based off what I see from governments lately on other issues....what would be offered would in essence be the chance to be beholden to both a man and the government....and what would be paid for that would be intended primarily to support the children not the woman. It will be another recipe for drudging one's youth away behind the walls of a house for an ungrateful man then ending up as a penniless old woman. And to make young women take it they will probably take away contraception a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 10:02 PM
14

I can't imagine any government paying what it costs....let alone what it is worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 02:40 PM
1

There's more IUD use and less condom use. Doctors got the fuck over their reluctance to give IUDs to nulliparous women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 05:08 AM
1

Yeah the impression I get is that apps are mainly for "shits and giggles" nowadays. Like reading junk mail advertising material. Bored while hanging out with friends? Hey let's look at profiles together. OMG look at that guy did he wear that tshirt when he was twelve years old it fits all wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 05:03 AM
2

I don't use apps. It seems to me that there's too many variables and the apps are too opaque about how they operate to really know what the fuck is going on? Clearly apps in general have experienced a slow down. You're a year older and maybe that makes a difference...but the difference it makes in one town might be different to the difference it makes in another town. Time of year might change stuff. And maybe the change is purely associated with strategic thinking by the people who plan for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 04:05 AM
–

What's the controversy? She wrote a song about a breakup she had, expressing some fairly common feelings other people have during breakups...that the other person wasn't particularly good at loving them. Personally I think the key in that song about what lead inexorably to her specific breakup was "say things you don't understand" Her ex either genuinely had no idea what she was talking about sometimes or he feigned not knowing to not have to deal with it. I don't for sure know what the topic wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 03:24 AM
2

They boast about such experiences. That's a whole lot different to having such experiences. Now maybe a hot model or actor who is also very very famous and definitely has a bit of money? Possibly. Chalamet could probably walk girls off into the bushes. But even he could not do it reliably. He'd get plenty of no, and have days when nothing worked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 12:42 AM
1

Most women don't do it with conventionally hot guys either. Like...in the same way getting a ONS in a hotel room same night he meets a girl is a once in a lifetime experience for an ugly dude who works real hard at pickup, getting a sober woman he basically doesn't know to go off to fuck him behind a bush in a public park is a once in a lifetime experience for a hot guy who works real hard at pickup.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 12:10 AM
–

People, both male and female, who aren't top tier for their social class have always had to make lifelong compromises of what they really want in order to accomplish major goals like financial security, marriage and kids. It's just the reality of being second rate. You're probably not going to have the sort of car, house, job, spouse or kids you really want if you're second rate. Maybe you can have one or two things you really want. The chance you get to freely pick which things though is slim. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 11:25 PM
–

"80% below average" That was an OK cupid study? 80% of OkCupid male profiles...at least in my age range (a while back I hunted down the profile of someone I know to show it to a mutual friend) are well below the average of the general population. They're not a random sample. They are men who are single...and are using OkCupid. It's like walking into a bar and thinking "geez this place is full of fat mingers"...it doesn't always mean you're being fussy, the bar might indeed be full of fat mingers…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:03 PM
14

This. They desperately long for anonymous sex in parks and public toilets with women who don't require them to be part of a social scene she's already into and don't require them to be anything other than horny. They want sex...actual sharing of the soft and possibly infectious parts of the body, in private with all the vulnerability that entails...more easily than I'm usually willing to give something totally safe like say fetching someone a coffee from the coffee stand at an event. They're del…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:29 PM
0

Yep. "Whats the cheapest crappest half arsed measure the voters will accept?" We see it all the time in drug related stuff. Let's make codeine, benzadrex inhalers and pseudoephedrine incredibly hard to get... because that's another way of avoiding doing anything real.about addiction issues..Too fucking bad if you had legitimate reasons for that stuff and now getting it is an obstacle course.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 11:08 AM
9

Well...women only gyms are a commercial choice much like gendered clothing stores so I don't think we can really see them in the same light as say women only train carriages. From the point of view of women, all this women only stuff is a half measure. What we really want is that if some men are making all train carriages unreasonably unsafe for women, all train carriages should be policed vigorously and those particular problematic men as soon as they offend be tackled to the ground by law enfo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 05:12 AM
3

It's not just the West. Eventually it will be most of the world. We're basically adapting to a world in which reproduction is largely avoidable. This is a bottleneck moment. And it's been made more pronounced by economic conditions, housing and job shortages and conservatives stigmatizing the poor thereby making fewer people willing to take the economic risks that children involve. The bottleneck can pass. There are people with strong innate drive to have a family. I recommend developed nations …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:53 PM
6

Well it isn't any of his business. The purpose of a go bag is to avoid potentially being murdered by escaping with more resources than the person who is likely to become a threat thinks you have. So he's looking for you out in the street because you couldn't have got far...but you're already in an uber to the airport. He's looking at the gas station because you don't have warm clothes...and you're in a warm coat and boots and on your way in the opposite direction to catch the 11.15 bus. Now...is…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:28 AM
4

Lol. If it could be properly independently verified I would bet my right hand against his right hand that the "search for mold" stopped and stayed stopped when he found the thing he was really looking for. Dude was not blindsided. He knows he's been enough of an ass to warrant a woman making some emergency plans for herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:08 AM
1

High and low are not absolute terms they are terms that involve position...they have an element of relativity to them. For some men, excluding single mothers is setting a high standard. There's men for whom it is just a standard neither high nor low. For other men, excluding single mothers is setting a low standard. Let's examine the case of a man who is setting a high standard relative to himself when he excludes single mothers. Let's call him Roger. Roger is 39 years old and has failed to have…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:41 AM
10

You know what? It's fine if you don't want to compromise on one thing or some other thing or whatever. But. If you're low enough value and likely remaining so, you will be compromising on something major or there is a nearly 100 percent chance you will go without. Maybe back when low value men were children they managed to persuade their mothers to fix them the precise lunch they wanted by giving reason after reason why they couldn't eat each of the other options. Their mothers cared deeply if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 11:25 PM
–

None of you are all that attractive until I know you. Not attractive enough to be making googly sex eyes at in a pub when we've never interacted before. Sorry. That's just how things are with girls who have my pattern of attraction. But hey the girls who feel attraction to strangers easily and act on it freely and spontaneously and regularly and do make googly sex eyes at strangers in a pub do exist and make a lot of men very happy so if those girls aren't eyefucking you specifically feel free t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:32 PM
–

Yes women who have my pattern of interacting manage just fine in getting long term relationships. And those long term relationships involve men who were happy to interact even though sex was not signalled as an immediate prospect. The logical conclusion therefore being that men who are generally friendly and outgoing towards strangers are attractive to more women than moody introverted men sitting with their guy friends at the pub and glaring resentfully at women they don't even know because tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:53 PM
–

That's fine dude. I know you well enough from your interactions here to know someone like you and someone like me wouldn't be good together. The system is working fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:39 PM
–

Well fuck those women who act the way you want, then. I never said all women do have or should have the same sexual responsiveness pattern as me. I'm sure there are women who make googly eyes at strange guys at the pub every Saturday night and more often than not bring one home and fuck his brains out. And that's perfectly fine for her to do if that's her pattern of natural attraction. However the thought of me behaving that way fills me with repulsion. It's sexually unappealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:37 PM
–

If he can't even bring himself to say hello unless he thinks I am sure to fuck him, he's not someone I want to be alone with...let alone get naked with. Does it matter why? I can give rationalisations but really...I'm just not feeling it. A man has to be solidly outside that category before I can feel more than the most abstract and distanced forms of attraction to him. I might think "nice butt" however I am not going to be thinking of stripping his shirt off Some things are sexy some things are…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:25 PM
–

If a man only wants to talk to me if he thinks I'm a sure thing, he's not a man I want to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 12:59 PM
3

Yeah. Cutting a ligament that connects the penis to the public bone results in a penis that hangs lower and looks larger. It's cosmetic, the surgery does not make more dick. But that cosmetic change has a price...that ligament helps the dick to in use be more...idk there's even a word for this...pointable? Stable? Less all over the place? Controllable? Follow through on what the hips do? It's not a good choice unless the dick is only to be looked at not used sexually. I think a man with that sur…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:21 AM
5

Well....if you think having a child is very very important then being a single parent via surrogacy is probably better than not having a child. But most people can do better. Even most single parents manage to provide a known noncustodial parent for their kid that their kid sees occasionally. I think it's not something to rush into if a delay to think carefully is possible. You need to come to terms with how truly hard this will be. So you don't go looking for anyone else to blame for the hardsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:04 AM
2

Visiting a friend is often a good thing in itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 12:57 AM
1

Got any friends in those places? If you are lucky enough not to work weekends and you have someone who will let you crash on their couch, the occasional full weekend trip to scope out the local bars and other social options is maybe possible? At least it's a different thing to do so you're still learning and not just living the same experiences over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 12:35 AM
1

Are there no reasonably accessible parts of Florida that are less idk...less like what we perceive Miami to be? If you've got access to a source of social statistics by suburb or district or town, pick places with a lot of people with trades qualifications. That's usually a sign of people who were raised such that they accepted early that their life wasn't going to diamonds and champagne every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 12:07 AM
3

Go to a different district or suburb to find a girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 11:57 PM
8

Well things change as people age. Most of their demographic are in relationships and what's left of both genders tends to be a bit unsatisfactory. Plus they gradually lose any bonus they were being given for their perceived potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 11:54 PM
3

I thought most poor black women were pathetically grateful for a guy who could hold down any sort of job, keep it in his pants around other women and do a little housework occasionally? So what gives with you being sexually unsuccessful?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 11:50 PM
5

Yep. 1 in 200 people worldwide are descended from Genghis Khan. But this is absolutely no guarantee that any particular one of those men who has inherited a tendency to be a pushy asshole is doing well out of it in the current environment he lives in. Guarantee you multiple asshole descendants of Genghis are bemoaning their status as miserable betas who are laughed at by groups of blonde girls at the club. A lot of them are probably in prison, caught the first time they tried to do something sig…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:48 AM
–

No. I fully understand disliking Pitbulls but like what's the chance it's the only phobia he has if I found out his phobia accidentally on the first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 02:52 AM
–

Ok I'm not a guy but the answer clearly is later when you are alone with him you admire his strength and ask him to show you round his gym because now you're going to be lifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 02:50 AM
–

Cats. I choose cats. House cats got no truly effective strategy for putting to sleep a large mammal intent on doing them violence. Theoretically cats could kill a human if they nick an artery or something like that. It's a possibility. Humans can definitely kill cats. Grab tail, nice swing to build up momentum then smash. Repeat until desired effects obtained.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 02:39 AM
–

Everybody misses out on something because not all things are possible at once.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 02:26 AM
–

My own country at Commonwealth level? I've been a bit sentimental about the now retired Malcolm Turnbull recently because of how effectively he pressed Trump to honour a deal made by Obama. https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2017/aug/04/full-transcript-of-trumps-phone-call-with-australian-prime-minister-malcolm-turnbull At state level? Jay Weatherill. The sheer gratifying nature of him ambushing Josh Frydenberg. https://youtu.be/RHrVtEeMOW4?si=Mq4QapjSISj3eMR-
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 02:17 AM
5

I don't kill people who fuck my spouse. I make the spouse an ex spouse, warn everyone about the cheating behaviour and move the fuck on. Let the side piece take on responsibility for the mess...or not. I don't want a polyamory interface. One partner is complicated enough. Two isn't going to improve that. And every new person added exponentially increases the tensions. I don't want a polyamory interface and will go to some lengths to avoid having polyamorists in my life. I don't want to date poly…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 12:42 AM
11

It doesn't matter how much or how any one person deals with their jealousy and devotion...other people aren't them and aren't gonna do it a particular way to fit in with them. Sensible people assess the risks vs benefits on this one vastly differently to how polyamorists assess the risks. Y'all a bit stupid, reckless, overconfident. Please stay the fuck away from me and when you do get chopped up with a meat cleaver because someone told you their husband was cool beans with this when really he w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 10:54 PM
40

Polyamory has a ridiculous level of difficulty to make work, a level the polyamorists seem to systematically under estimate. Polyamorists are also usually very smug, reckless and dismissive of the concerns of others....and it's all fine and dandy until someone is being chased with a meat cleaver because they weren't careful and thoughtful and humble enough and suddenly the polyamorist wants the rest of us who did assess risk correctly to back them up rather than shrug and say well what do you ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 09:13 PM
1

I'd tell him he's not as high value as he thinks he is and yes it is probably the social awkwardness. I'd also point out that one first date every seven years or so indicates there is something off about his degree of effort or how high he is aiming in value. I would suggest that he begin by dropping his standards to anyone who is safe to date and doesn't absolutely revolt him...and work vigorously to have more first dates and perform well. This wouldn't have been necessary if he'd taken this ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 08:50 PM
1

Ask her before she realises he wants her too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:42 PM
1

Just aiming for people they can actually get isn't enough? To do well in dating one needs to be having fun. And a lot of them don't actually lack attraction to the women they can get. They will cheerfully fuck all sorts if they can do it without their friends and family noticing. We all know this is the truth. They lack the willingness to accept that maybe one day all their friends will see they have accepted the most fun they are getting is a fat girl or a black girl or a crazy girl or a slutty…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 11:56 PM
1

"trying' is a complicated idea though isn't it? A lot of them are in repeating cycles of unsuccessful behaviours they've been in for years because they've let negative emotions block them out of all the other possible paths.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 10:49 PM
1

I don't think you can create attraction out of nowhere but if you're suppressing or not acting on some existing attraction due to negative emotions ...well all of those things are addressable with some sort of talking therapy if you actually want to make the attempt. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acceptance_and_commitment_therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 10:15 PM
–

I don't think it matters if it's a bit weird. If it works for you and you can realistically see it continuing to work for you for the next five decades or so then that's fine even if it is weird. Ghosting can be a bit shit but like whatever most people are a bit shit in one way or another...if you want to change anything to be more normative change the ghosting. Geez. We live in a world in which some people move mountains to get their genitals cut then reconfigured to fit in with how they wish t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 11:56 PM
–

The societally favoured beauty standards for women in the late eighties were much much closer to how Christina Applegate was then. And Brad Pitt as a young man looked considerably more like all the other good looking young fashionable men trying to make it big than he did a few years later...he really hadn't fine-tuned himself to stick out from the rest at all. I was in my late teens then and I totally get it that Christina would see him as just another guy with nothing special to offer. Because…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 11:41 PM
0

I think the people who have it easiest are those who accurately judge how little they can do and still have it turn out ok...and then scrupulously do the little it requires. There's both men and women doing this. I don't think the different things that people do when they want an easy life but have failed to do this have anything to do with those who are effectively doing this. The male suicides? That's those guys not these other guys who have chosen ease. You have to actually choose ease if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 09:18 PM
–

It's more that having a social life outside of dating supports your dating at a variety of points in the dating process. Yes there's a chance you meet a girl through a male friend who decides hey that new girl at work isn't my sort of girl romantically but she's definitely a mini golf sorta girl and we're doing mini golf tomorrow so might as well ask her if she wants to tag along. It's also likely you know a whole lot more places to go and things to do and ways to have fun because of your broade…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:39 PM
3

Nothing sexy, lol. I've had several jobs none of them sexy. One of my side hustles is bordering on sexy...though it's a lot sexier for a guy than a gal. That's part of how I know a bit about the paths to choosing unsexy jobs. Looking at my coworkers and working out what brought them to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:53 AM
2

You internet men think accountancy should be sexy. Well it isn't. That accountancy isn't sexy is part of how a kid with a shitty childhood decides he wants accountancy and then manages to get into accountancy though... right? Accountancy pays. You can very much plod in accountancy so being a bit of a mess socially is less of an issue you just gotta keep it together enough to keep plodding.And since he already isn't getting laid it doesn't involve any perceived immediate cost in that regard...so …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 03:39 AM
0

"Is the online dating phenomenon reflective of real life?" So you are attempting to solve this question through playing with it as a logic puzzle rather than... having experienced enough variety of real life experiences to make a proper comparison. Sigh. A really loud SIGH. Go out there and live, young man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 02:49 AM
1

Whatever. He gets to marry a fat chick or something. She gets to marry an accountant with no charisma or fun There's plenty of consolation prizes in the twenty-first century. We're not running out of consolation prizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:27 AM
–

Those sound like Shirley Valentine but for delicate Indian sensibilities. Shirley Valentine is absolutely brutal by comparison. Go watch that. Truly horrify yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:53 AM
5

If anything, capitalism is breaking Christianity at the same time it is breaking community and family. For the most part the forces that break Christianity don't come from atheism. Atheists generally just laugh at Christians and push for Christians to respect religious freedom. It's capitalism that rosters people to work when their pastor says they should be in church, that says you not getting paid enough to afford to welcome babies into your marriage isn't a problem for the government to inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:21 AM
–

I've always enjoyed Illuminati. It's not exactly a board game, there's no board, but despite using cards it "hits" the same spot emotionally as a board game. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Illuminati_(game) What are you after out of a board game anyway? Are you into heavy thought and competition like chess or into something more sort of social fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:36 AM
–

"let's start this relationship by thrashing him at his favourite game" Ya think?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:08 AM
–

That's one of the reasons many women don't try to carry the conversation on dates. Women like to let you run out of rehearsed material.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:05 AM
24

"it's totes that she doesn't want me to see her reality and not that she's totally uninterested in my reality" Suuuuure. Whatever makes you feel better about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 03:36 AM
1

The thing is if your chances are solidly zero for reasons totally unrelated to niceness... maybe she just detests the whole band geek scene you're part of or whatever...no nice thing you do is going to have a significant effect. A fat guy can't "nice" his dick into the cheerleader who thinks fat is a sign of weakness , sickness and personal depravity. A scrawny sedentary game playing dweeb can't "nice" his dick into the girl who is into becoming a farmer and thinks guys who shear sheep and fix t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:10 AM
1

Eh..I think putting every guy on it is too much but I can just offhand think of four categories of guy who should be on it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 12:35 AM
3

"ONE minor thing they thought was "weird"..." A mask only has to drop for a moment, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:54 PM
0

Dude...I don't want a man. Ranking the quality of men in this immediately post patriarchy world is like ranking the quality of poop....its all still poop innit. Passport bros should make their minds up where they want to be and go be there before governments wake up to the fact they don't need more men they need more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:36 PM
-1

He gets the girls rather than turns off the girls by knowing to wait to bully you at a moment she's already pissed off with you about something. And of course it isn't fair. There's not a lot of stuff in schools that is fair. Schools are remarkably similar to prisons.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 10:36 AM
2

I'm not sure they'd enjoy all the Sims 4, sewing and water colour painting and comparative lack of porn they'd find there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:19 AM
3

Nah. Maybe for a one off shove or something but if the bullying is ongoing there's always something about the victim that the bully is trying to socially neutralize. Some other source of power or way to get attention or power of perseverance or being the same as the bully but more able to attract sympathy or a willingness to fight back or a spark of resistance that always rises or you tried to be friends with the bullys sibling who the bully likes to control or the bullys mother said you were a …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:26 AM
2

That sort of dreaming among girls is a lot less common than it used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:11 AM
2

I look forward to your cage fight with Jordan Peterson to determine who gets that role
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:40 PM
2

Eh. From what I've seen of adolescent boys bullying other adolescent boys in front of girls, a lot of it is about suppressing orbiter behaviour. Which is...well I'd hesitate to say a teenage boy who sees another boy just showing up wherever his crush or his girlfriend is should be expected to see that boy as "nice" rather than sneaky and terrible. Whether or not the orbiter is nice, the other guy isn't going to ever see his finer points. That's asking too much, really, considering how teenage bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:48 PM
10

Bullying is a toolkit for suppressing competition for all sorts of social rewards. It makes sense that those who are bullied are of competitive standard in some way. Maybe not comprehensively competitive but enough to make someone want to suppress them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:37 PM
6

Not surprising. Bullying is a toolkit for suppressing competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:30 PM
4

Oh we know it can happen. It's how a lot of relationships happen. We all know couples who started as friends. But often, if it isn't going to become a relationship then once it all reaches a crisis point a bunch of evidence emerges from the guy's mouth pointing to what actually did happen. For example if he appears more upset about losing the "effort" and "resources" he put into the friendship than about possibly losing the friendship itself...well that sort of points to a degree of calculatedne…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:26 PM
1

Yes....I live in one of the places that maintained COVID zero pretty much until we had vaccines. It sure as shit wasn't of biblical proportions here. If that's the best the horseman of Plague has to offer then War is going to be a trade dispute, Famine is going to be the failure of the lettuce crop, and Death is going to be voluntary euthanasia.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:02 PM
1

You're coo coo bananas girl. The world isn't safe for sure but the causes are entirely mundane and nothing to do with any religious eschatology.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:53 PM
7

Not a government...but there's been a few religious cults that collapsed. The original Shakers for example. The Cathars probably would have too if the Catholic church had just let them run their course instead of launching a crusade against them culminating in a genocide.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:46 PM
5

Lol. Most passport bros should jump soon I guess....at some point every country will only accept as immigrants very rich people, exquisitely skilled people, single women or families with several children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:35 PM
11

I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where the bride and groom weren't already dealing with the everyday responsibilities of married life . That's how things are done in this era. It's ridiculous to say people don't want the day to day reality. They are so keen on the day to day reality they organise to do it well before the wedding. What universe does someone who says people don't want the reality live in? Certainly it's not anything anyone with the slightest clue could say while living in…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:58 PM
–

Are they popular because they are good design that really does the job, or popular because it's a trend?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:01 PM
–

Good for you. Art is a great way to celebrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:42 PM
–

Go get a massage of the nonsexual sort? Flowers? Buy a piece of jewellery or an artwork or a brand new set of nice sheets? Perfume? A fancy bath with nice soap and candlelight? A new houseplant?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:34 PM
–

Sure. I can take the reduced life expectancy on the chin to increase my kids' inheritance that much. I'd order a lot of icecream and eat a litre a day on top of a healthy diet.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:21 PM
2

The problem with most guys examining the issue of women who like shitty men is men aren't interested in what men do with themselves so they examine this as only a girl thing. Then they get all upset like there's something particularly wrong with women and it's some sort of personal affront to them because idk... something like if she wasn't fucking that guy she'd be fucking me boo hoo hoo. The reality is some people seem to be into shitty people. A guy who is into shitty people is less likely to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:07 PM
9

I think with a case like Homolka what would be most likely is the new guy sees her as a ride or die chick who picked the wrong guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:04 AM
–

You really hate being told you're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:26 AM
9

It's not what you personally want to talk about because it directly contradicts your argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:16 AM
2

If you were a girl I'd be referring you right now to the beginners guide over at r/Abrathatfits As it is I'll probably get banned there for even mentioning it in this hellhole of a place.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:43 AM
1

What I currently see around me in Australia is a lot of young people who aren't into marriage and having kids but do the LTR thing basically to save money by sharing costs especially rent. It's especially common in rooming houses. For example one room with a double bed is $200 a week for one person or $300 a week for two. So people just talk to the landlord then move in together, save $50 a week each, also do a lot of making shared meals, sharing of various stuff like online entertainment, compu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:21 AM
17

Why is it a double standard if two entirely different companies presumably with different internal rules and procedures and clauses in employment contracts treat differently two entirely different cases involving different people in different roles accused of what you seem to be indicating are quite different forms of behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 07:03 AM
3

Something is either unique...or it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:55 AM
6

"more unique"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:38 AM
17

That's not something experienced by all woman in all situations. Pain during medical procedures especially. https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/interactive/2022/women-pain-gender-bias-doctors/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:05 AM
11

Well if you express a preference other people not gonna like you expressing...they aren't gonna like it? This isn't rocket science. There's preferences I have that I do not go needlessly discussing in real life because it will upset men for no good reason. Like my disdain for even the idea of a man with early signs of Peyronies disease, or any degree of crookedness from habitual unbalanced masturbation. Not a lot a guy can do about his battered sausage, his crooked cock. But why anyone gotta pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:52 AM
1

We're gonna have a war before then. So idk...are you in a country that wins the war or a country that loses the war?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:13 AM
10

I've had kids of my own and my parenting is a whole lot more relaxed than my parents. But it's literally impossible without at some point differentiating between approval and disapproval...and while a kid may still know they are safe and provided for it doesn't make being put in time out any less of an ostracism. And schools. OMG. The disapproval.of a teacher vs the approval of a teacher. Other kids too. The shunning. The embracing. Most of a child's life is experiencing deliberately fluctuating…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 01:39 AM
9

As a child I experienced a whole lot of what the people who post here would call highly conditional love if it was between a married couple. I mean don't get me wrong my mother would have died for me if necessary but there was also plenty of stony faced silence and being dragged home from the shops early if I misbehaved. I'm always amazed at how guys here complain we won't love them unconditionally like their mother. Did they receive any discipline at all as kids? Was there never a chill in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 01:32 AM
–

Well only time will tell. Personally I think Islam in western countries will end up like Amishness and Islam in Islamic countries will end up only nominally including the poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 01:01 AM
1

Well there's always been hold out groups for any major change... experiencing various forms of attrition until one day they are gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 12:02 AM
6

If you can't see the difference that's a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 10:53 PM
9

Women use the system that is used to label bras.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 10:11 PM
5

I think men who are congenitally unable to handle the usual, average, normal manifestations of female sexual freedom in current western society (like...a lifetime average body count of 3 to 8).are going to find their RMV and ability to navigate finding reproductive opportunities being downgraded all around the world... except in certain Muslim enclaves. And even those places will be under constant economic pressure to loosen their hold on women once the oil is gradually superceded by more sustai…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 10:06 PM
21

It's not much different to men saying "D cups" all the time as though it's meaningful when they've really got no fucking idea how bra sizing works and how they could be walking past a girl with D cups without even noticing her breasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:08 PM
3

"The only question is price." Not round here it isn't. There's a chance she'll get your miserable arse arrested. It's an offence under the Summary Offences Act to go approaching women for sex. The question will be how much of the maximum penalty you will be sentenced to. First Offence AUS1250 or 3 months imprisonment. Subsequent offenses AU$2500 or six months imprisonment. And if you're not a citizen you'll probably be deported. And if you are a citizen have fun being someone with a criminal rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 11:39 AM
1

I'm in my fifties. We've always had the ick. We've always turned men down because their laugh was girly or the end of their nose twitched while eating. Just now we feel confident discussing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:05 AM
7

She's a bit anxious. Works as a cleaner. She doesn't go after men. I think her family kind of messed her up...her father liked to hit. Her brother is messed up too. Looks wise just your average skinny white working-class woman with dark brown hair... getting old now but things weren't different when she was young, average for her age but visibly working class..she's a few years younger than me and I've seen her occasionally over the past three decades. Personally I think her prospects would impr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 05:58 AM
–

The whole league thing is a little true but a lot bullshit. Most women have turned down lots of men "out of their league" for the exact same reasons they have turned men in their league down. The simple question of "well if I do...how does this play out?" and how there's plenty of ways for the answer to that to be "probably not good at all" which don't have anything to do with how leagues are calculated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 12:29 AM
–

Ikr? Even a decently long cohabitation could have given him some time off from what he obviously sees as an unreasonable grind. If all he wants to do is rack up his numbers then well nobody except him really gives a shit because he's clearly getting enough. The dating market has done its job.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 12:17 AM
–

"women I actually close" Well that's not charming.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 12:09 AM
–

If it is bawdy it has to also be witty, funny or clever for me to enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 08:40 PM
–

Fight back by inflicting interpretive dance on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 08:35 PM
3

Nooooo don't do that. Come with me and we can steal from the rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 05:59 PM
–

Like I said at the start in my first reply....I used to think in a way similar to you. I gained some wisdom and now see it as advisable for the barrier between relationship and community to be a bit more permeable. If something big is happening in the relationship a little should leak out. You don't like that? You haven't gained the wisdom to understand that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 05:38 PM
1

I don't think you're anywhere near ready for the subtleties of the challenge that is marriage. People live in communities and the community has always been a powerful force in seeing to it people behaved well in marriage. If a relationship is definitely on its way out due to matters that are currently being kept secret, letting those matters leak out a bit is nowhere near the terrible thing you seem to think it is. Because the situation is one in which there are only two directions to go...upwar…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:59 PM
1

Well yes divorce ends all marriage problems very very effectively and if you're into divorcing early as soon as there is trouble so you can then just immediately say whatever to whomever about the crazy ass behaviour so yes that's another solution I guess...but most people feel that having made a commitment sort of warrants sticking with it through a bit of hassle in hopes it comes good. I personally think it's best not to ever have a relationship with anyone at all ever if something like a part…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:41 PM
0

I think there's a statistical difference between the ways men's stupidity and women's stupidity are distributed and this is one of those ways men are overwhelmingly more likely to be dumbasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:49 AM
2

Well that level of not compatible is definitely covered under "take anyone" isn't it? If a guy is saying he would "take anyone" well Eugenia Cooney is someone isn't she? Amber Heard is someone. That chick who persuaded her boyfriend to get back in his carbon monoxide filled car and die is someone. I'm saying women don't go saying they will take anyone because they don't want to give the wrong idea...and men don't even know what idea they are conveying when they use those words.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:00 AM
0

I used to be heavily socialised into this way of thinking and I never have done public whining about current relationships. And indeed there's a lot to be said for tight boundaries around the privacy of a relationship. I don't talk about personal stuff almost at all on Facebook etc. But I've attained a more nuanced view lately. Keeping your mouth completely shut about the things that are wrong is rarely something you're going to get anything from if eventually you must give up on a partner and y…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 05:36 AM
2

I don't think any sane women think "just take anyone" is acceptable as the final fallback position. Women at their wits end either find a candidate they think is tolerable but completely uninspiring, or they stay single, possiblity become a single mother. "Just take anyone" is a somewhat workable strategy for a man in a world in which you're allowed to publicly beat your wife or deprive her of food or chain her up in the garden shed or any number of other terrible illegal things to suppress beha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:43 AM
1

They try to steer you away from that part of your life and keep life heavily compartmentalized. Someone who is fucking around while he visits family is probably going to want to keep you from forming stronger ties with his family. Someone who is fucking around on work trips is probably not going to be keen on you inviting work colleagues round for dinner. And when you start gently pushing they are way more pressed about it all than one would expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:55 AM
0

It's not a flaw so long as you don't let him in your house like ever or attempt to live in his house or have kids with him. He's fine to go live with himself or stay with his momma.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 07:35 PM
2

Well that's certainly going to take late bloomers from being low value to being no value
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 12:35 AM
3

Well yes... that's what women do when they encounter those guys. Block and delete. Don't want him any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 12:13 AM
2

Why yes exercise is more important than checking your phone to see if some guy you've only been chatting with a couple of days has texted you "'sup" again. A whole lot more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:59 PM
2

If you're at work? Or asleep? Or exercising? Longer than those idiot men can endure. If you don't like that women sometimes forget to test a man they particularly like...be supportive of your female friends and relatives by reminding them of the potential to test a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:32 PM
12

Women should choose better. But women are terrible when they test men's willingness and ability to do stuff for them. If a woman doesn't text you back immediately she's not what you want. But you also want a woman who has a job and exercises.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:10 PM
2

OK I've gone back 8 days in my comment history and the letters "narc" don't come up in any comment of mine except my replies right now to this comment of yours accusing me of calling you a narcissist. I'm just going to assume you're mistaking me for some other woman you've argued with recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 09:25 PM
2

"Well considering the fact you called me a narcissist earlier..." Did I call you a narcissist? I don't seem to recall doing so. Was it recent? But then I am interspersing Reddit with a different activity so getting distracted is a possibility. Any chance of linking to the reply in which I called you a narcissist? Just to y'know....check that was actually me and refresh my memory of what statements on your part may of prompted it. Edited to add...I'm not commonly in the habit of calling other ind…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 09:04 PM
2

Nope. There's always a perception of at least a tinge of humility to someone a normal person wants to allow in close. Humility and arrogance btw are not exact opposites. Someone can be both at once. One tends to bring the other down but that's not the same as one precluding the other I don't think you've actually given much thought to what humility is. Also I wouldn't usually say this so bluntly but you did just accuse me of lying...I think you're an incredibly self deceiving person. You lie to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 07:50 PM
3

A human being with no humility isn't someone most people enjoy being around.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 07:30 PM
4

You are aware that men being in competition with our peace in solitude fits certain observable aspects of reality very well...for example how psycho bitches are usually in and out of relationships with turbulent men like a revolving door because theyve never had much inner peace for a man's turbulence to compete with I mean I'm not sure what you want us to do about this part of reality being something that annoys you and makes you feel men are being victimised. You're probably better off learnin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:48 PM
7

The young often like to attempt lifestyles that are contrary to the wisdom of their elders. Five years from now expect most of them to be brand new crop of divorced single mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 03:16 AM
–

What's regarded as necessary for autistic kids and what has been on offer from disability professionals has been in an incredibly fast state of change. It pretty much a fact of life that if you're an autistic person in your twenties or older you didn't get what is regarded as appropriate for autistic kids nowadays no matter how hard your parents tried. I've got a brother in his sixties who is clearly on the spectrum and suffers significant impairment socially. When taken to a specialist as a kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 03:11 AM
3

This. And if you ask people for free advice and they give it to you...be goddamn polite about it. Getting angry is like going up to someone and asking for food and they reach into a grocery bag they are carrying and pull out some of their food and offer it to you and you start screaming because how very dare you offer cheese and crackers when you're a vegan. Dude.... that's their food they are offering you. They are giving you what they have to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:57 PM
2

This is not an advice subreddit. We aren't here to fix you. That is not what here is for. That's the apparently new-to-you concept that I offer you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:49 PM
–

I don't have lifetime trauma from anything sexual I've done... because I've always done sex with partners who communicated rather than just did stuff. I'm not sure what I'd do if some guy touched my pucker without asking. I guess if I was sober I would either leave or throw him out. And if I was drunk I might find it amusing to poop on his hand and then blame him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 05:59 AM
–

Well you're probably not going to find out what a prostitute is thinking during paid sex by asking women who aren't prostitutes. Similarly you're not going to find out what high count women think during a surprise thumbing by asking people whose sex lives have tended towards LTRs. You see...if a couple are well aware they probably have a lifetime together they worry a lot less about spoiling the hotness of one aspect of one fuck and a lot more about not giving their partner an unwanted lifetime …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:53 AM
–

What's stopping you discussing this with the woman you are having the sex with?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:50 AM
5

People should settle or not as they will. It is entirely an individual decision and influenced by personal attributes and priorities. Men who are gradually becoming too old to get anyone and yet desire to start a family and find themselves having less trouble than you in accepting a thirty year old career woman shouldn't surrender all opportunity to have a family just because you have more trouble accepting a career woman. That's a prissy guy's problem, that he doesn't have what it takes to resc…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 01:46 AM
–

Lad, if you had no one in your childhood who firmly told you not to go proactively pointing out your flaws, you had no socially competent person who cared about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:53 PM
2

All the irredeemably orbiting men claiming they never wished that they had Jessie's Girl. Lol. https://youtu.be/u2T7wKdQsTo?si=K-uL5MSNhZ5zcijh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:25 PM
2

Power fantasies I guess. I don't properly understand it just like most men don't properly understand why men become serial killers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 06:37 PM
–

Well that's good. I suppose you could buy or improvise a cheaper necklace that hangs similarly and wear it a day or two, see if it sits in a nice spot as you do all your usual stuff... that's about the only other thing you could do to work out if it's going to be useful enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 06:31 PM
–

Every time I see blah blah blah mass ozempic blah blah here, I wonder whether the person saying it is for or against vaccines.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:42 PM
–

It's ok but not really my style? I tend to use necklaces to fill in a neckline so it looks less bare or provide colour that pulls a look together. Can you see it working well with most types of clothes you wear? That's the important thing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:34 PM
–

So fucking what. The mods investigate before taking action. All reporting really does is say look at this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:53 PM
–

It's fast food. If you're only shopping for yourself for one meal maybe it's best you buy only what you can carry in your hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:46 PM
0

Date irritable fat chicks who don't exercise. They match your energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 03:34 PM
0

Excuses excuses. Anything to get out of work. If you haven't yet improved to be as good as you logically should become for your own sake....you've got no business complaining that people say that self improvement is going to be immensely useful to your efforts to find a partner. Tell me...if you're not being the best thing for yourself should any woman trust you would be the best for her?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:21 PM
1

I think it's perfectly fine if it happens before the dating couple start having sex. Even after having sex it can be ok if all the signals the other person is giving indicate firmly that this is casual. One free cup of coffee and two plates of cheap restaurant food I pay for myself and a couple of hours chatting about random stuff do not constitute agreement to be exclusive. Now is it wise to be sleeping with your FWB while seeking a long term partner? Probably not. But unwise is not the same as…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:12 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter