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Question For MenChadChasingB/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:00 PM
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Neither of us should ever feel like we need to do something that we're not excited about or comfortable with because the other wants it. The idea that an experienced partner should do something they didn't really love doing to make a new partner less jealous is disgusting to me. This post is gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:21 PM
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I'm also a virgin. I only dated other virgins waiting for religious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 11:27 PM
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Nothing. Nothing would make me overlook a criminal record.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 09:33 PM
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I plan on adopting multiple kids, hopefully 4-6.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:12 AM
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Marriage itself doesn't benefit anyone. Only a good partner does that regardless of their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:52 PM
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It would make me instantly not into that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:49 PM
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I would be extremely grossed out if a guy tried to make a 1st kiss into a make out session. You look desperate, sloppy, and lack restraint. No thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:48 PM
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It's like a red piller that believes ALWALT and somehow their unicorn is special.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 08:13 PM
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The only questions I would ask would be if they're a virgin and what are their values towards sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:26 PM
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I have never dated outside of my social circle, but I have only ever dated one guy that I considered a friend before dating him. If I like a guy I don't try to befriend him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:32 PM
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Yes, yes I am. It will be a tattoo of you giving me a tattoo. Fix your life!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:38 PM
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I'm getting a tattoo to personally upset you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:35 PM
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I think the grandparents are keeping them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 09:05 PM
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They apparently have a lot of extended family. Grandparents on both sides and aunts and uncles. Those poor kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 08:25 PM
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I don't trust men that have one and I am a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 05:03 PM
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Are you going to pretend that women on this sub aren't told that they don't have issues, only chase Chad, and should shut up and appreciate that they get any attention when they discuss their dating issues? Really? That's why his argument doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:03 PM
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Being allowed to complain isn't just about technically being allowed, its being allowed to complain without being severely judged within certain circles. "I'm angry that I can't voice my opinions without others being allowed the same right." Would you enjoy being told you're a bigoted asshole because you're complaining about something a man did to you? Probably not because it sucks. I handle my feelings and move on with my life. I only continue interactions with those that I accept and respect. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:49 PM
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I would say that you're blind if you don't think that bigotry is openly accepted and tolerated. Politicians in the US run on the platform of bigotry. Who is stopping it? Who is shutting them down? Who is not allowing them to spew hateful things 24 hours a day? Does everyone agree? No. Does everyone disagree? No, but they're certainly allowed to say it. There is no argument of men aren't allowed to complain when he's here complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:36 PM
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I've had disagreements with my father before when he wasn't giving me enough freedom. My dad doesn't raise his voice, become disrespectful, or ever become physically aggressive. My mom will step in and shut down the conversation if she feels that someone isn't being reasonable. I can't see this ever happening in my family.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 12:32 PM
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Absolutely not. I wouldn't wish him ill will, but he would never speak to me again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 12:20 AM
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People validating or agreeing with your opinion has nothing to do with whether men are allowed to complain. No one is stopping you from complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:03 PM
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Do you understand that most people date others UNTIL they find the option that they want monogamy from? They don't go on a date and end up committed immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 05:21 PM
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I'm 23 and have acquaintances and family friends that are 30ish+ that I'll talk to or have lunch with occasionally. Do I have close friendships with anyone that age that isn't a relative? No, and I have never had any romantic interest in a guy more than 2-3 years older than myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 12:34 PM
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🤣 I would rather die a virgin that was never allowed to leave my parent's house.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 10:59 AM
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No, there's over 2 million people. I was always socializing from a very young age through school, sports, charity work, and church.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 10:21 AM
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I always dated within my social circles. I knew their exes, parents, and friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 04:10 PM
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This is why I only dated virgins that were waiting for religious reasons and not all virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:49 PM
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It depends on the person. I only dated other virgins for religious reasons and it was a requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 01:40 PM
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Would l date a man because he says he will treat me this way? No, because words mean nothing. Will I continue seeing a man because be treats me that way? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 11:45 AM
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Have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:44 PM
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That's such bs. It is not acceptable to harass, assault, or abuse men anymore more so than it is women. Men and women are both insulted and it's acceptable when it happens to either one by wider society.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:39 PM
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One is a crime of force committed against others by a specific individual and one is not. We should be promoting all individuals to care for their own mental health and to not insult others. You can't make anyone bond with them, like them, or pretend to feel something that they don't. That's an unfortunate reality. Indifference and a lack of attacks is all that people should expect from society.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:24 PM
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😂 Please yell more about words you put into my mouth. I said you can't compare someone not taking action to save you or your own lack to being murdered.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:02 PM
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You're comparing women being murdered to men not seeking mental health help and nobody else stepping in to save them from themselves? That seems like quite the leap in situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 07:19 PM
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It's illegal to charge for cases of surrogacy in many many cases for that reason and they aren't paid. Surrogacy and being paid are 2 different issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 04:52 PM
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Why would soliciting a surrogate be a crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 04:31 PM
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I don't really see the point in consequences for either as long as is stays as I don't personally care for sluts/virgins and wouldn't date one. It's a different story when you begin calling for harm against any group of people because they make choices differently than your own. That should involve legal consequences. Otherwise It's meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 02:59 PM
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It happens. Where are men killed for being virgins? Where do men face anything more than a few rude comments for being virgins? They don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 11:23 PM
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People do not face consequences for calling women sluts and more or less than people do for virgon shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 11:05 PM
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Multiple women in the US are murdered in honor killings every year. How many men are murdered for being virgins?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 10:02 PM
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For most women? No. For women Tinder looking for casual sex? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 09:30 PM
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I am getting married in October. I never said I have a husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 09:29 PM
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That's the baseline requirement of anything romantic or sexual. Everyone knows that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 09:19 PM
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No woman is going to allow you to approach them and be open to it if she doesn't find you hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 09:12 PM
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At first the only thing that matter is his appearance if he's a complete stranger and that he doesn't have behaviours or mannerisms saying there's something off about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 09:08 PM
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Only from the guy that she wants. Never from some random guy trying to get laid. Everything only applies to the guy that she finds physically appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 09:03 PM
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No I didn't. I said not being afraid of being stalked, murdered, or raped by him certainly doesn't hurt. I never said that was a lack of comfort. A lack of comfort is feeling uneasy, that's he's trying to use you, isn't listening, won't care about your pleasure, or won't take no for an answer if you change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:59 PM
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Being comfortable is more than safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:55 PM
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His appearance how he makes her feel are 100% a part of sexual arousal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:53 PM
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She has to trust him on some level. That trust is comfort around him. She has to find him physically appealing. She has to want more of him and that means liking what she already experiences with him. It's going to be his looks and how he comes across. Nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:48 PM
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Sexually arousing and being willing to screw you are not the same thing for women. That's the difference. Women can be aroused purely on watching a guy across the room. It doesn't mean that they're open to having sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:42 PM
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Nothing is sexually arousing on it's own. You need to be physically attractive to her and socially competent WHEN she is looking for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:37 PM
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He said I don't care about slut shaming because I know I am not a slut. Guys are being "virgin shamed" for being seen as losers, not virgins. It wouldn't bother guys if they didn't believe the same about themselves. I live and interact in the secular world with many non religious friends. It only upsets people if you believe that crap. Promiscuous women don't get upset about slut shaming unless they have guilt about having so much sex. They think you're a loser for saying it and defining their w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:36 PM
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Social competency is important for many many things besides danger. It's reading the room, knowing when to escalate, knowing when to back off, and understanding how she's feeling about you. Everything interacts. That's why where there's no move or something that any guy can learn to get the same results.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:33 PM
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The vibe is how he makes others feel. It's more than trust. It's his overall feel. Is he a cool dude that seems relaxed? Does he come across as awkward and socially incompetent? That's his vibe. It's how he makes other feel about him with his actions and demeanor. The vibe is why many people that aren't neurotypical get called creepy or make others uncomfortable. Others can tell that something is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:12 PM
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His overall looks and vibe are what make men sexually attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:04 PM
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Being her physical type and then his personality carrying the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:57 PM
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It's both. You need all of it. You can be as safe as can be and not be attractive to her. She needs to be into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:44 PM
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Not looking like a anxious guy that might stalk, rape, or kill them later definitely doesn't hurt. You guys massively underestimate the importance of social skills when it comes to women. Anything that comes across as "off" is going to make a guy an instant no.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:39 PM
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Their looks and social skills. Their super relaxed demeanor. "Their vibe." That's what the vibe is about. They're out having a good time not necessarily looking for sex or girls, but if it happens then cool. They don't seem like a guy ready to explode, nervous, anxious, awkward, or uncomfortable with wherever the situation is headed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:34 PM
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Clearly they do. They're horny, not desperate, and aren't accepting just any guy. He's the guy that pushes them from l'm horny to I am having sex rather than masturbating later.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:28 PM
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Women are usually looking for casual sex and then find the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:24 PM
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Being fun, safe, attractive to her, and putting her at ease will make her let her guard down. If she's looking for casual sex it'll be him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:20 PM
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I don't think it means anything for attraction. Body positivity was about being comfortable with yourself and not being ashamed. It's not you should find this desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:19 PM
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I know many guys that get casual sex constantly. They're all somewhat attractive, but they're also extremely socially competent. They know how to make people feel at ease, draw them in, and they're never awkward. They can read social cues and they're fun. They make women feel like they're safe with them and will have a good time. That's how they get laid. They're not ugly and they have proper social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 07:13 PM
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What is that? It sounds like cavities.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 06:28 PM
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virginity or lack of experience is seen as shameful to men because it represents no woman or not many women want him which proves my point and directly relates to the other issues i mentioned. Not being seen as wanted is shamed, not the virginity, or the lack of experience, because handsome guys don't experience that even under those conditions. They're not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 06:05 PM
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If it's not shameful then why do men call women sluts? It's the same thing. Men want women to feel bad for having sex on their terms. It doesn't make having sex shameful for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 05:54 PM
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Do you think women having sex is shameful? It's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 05:51 PM
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You're assuming that it's seen as something shameful by others. I have never seen anyone but other men actually thinking it's a genuine problem rather than an insult to cut at someone. He said he's never been virgin shamed by men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 05:38 PM
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My boyfriend is also a virgin. He's 26 and everyone knows. He doesn't get virgin shamed because they know it would be pointless. He's proud of waiting for his faith and so am I. You believe that there's something wrong with being a virgin, but there's not, and no one knows if you are one or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 04:55 PM
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Men trying to sleep with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 04:06 PM
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I have been slut shamed a million times. I'm a virgin. Why do people say it? Because insults are meant to get under your skin. It's the same as the little dick energy or calling a guy a virgin. I've been virgin shamed too and called a prude. I don't care. It doesn't hurt my feelings in the slightest. No one knows your sexual history until you have sex with them or share that information.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 03:55 PM
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It's Canadian too, definitely more than America, but you're going to look as though you're insulting her as most of the reddit users are American.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:16 PM
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Most people will take it as unattractive. Don't describe your gf with that word.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:05 PM
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homely plain; unattractive: a homely mongrel; lacking refinement: a homely country boy Not to be confused with: homey – comfortably informal; cozy; homelike; warm and friendly: a homey cottage https://www.thefreedictionary.com/homely
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:01 PM
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It means ugly in terms of appearance and you were describing her appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:58 PM
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But calling her homely??
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:56 PM
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But you said a little chub is sexy af and you also called her wifely in a "homely way".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:54 PM
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Is your gf your definition of sexy af?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:51 PM
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I'm going to say that he wanted it considering that he had been talking about it for years before he met me with exes and with his parents when he was single. When it was a possibility for us he was still not sure that he would want them. He was always leaning more against them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:59 PM
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Pimples and blemishes are acne.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:06 PM
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My gf’s face to me is the most beautiful in the history of the universe. At night, when I see her with her pimples and blemishes, and I say something funny to her and she laughs, or I tell her I love her and she smiles, it’s literally and unironically the most beautiful face in the world to me. Don’t care if you believe me or not Do you need the screenshot?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 01:29 PM
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You've described her as being flat chested, chubby, and having acne. How is she leagues above you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 01:02 PM
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Why get with the girl that has slept with a 100 people? Is it because you can't get anyone else? How are you going to cheat if you can't get anyone else? Have you worked yourself into a position to finally be desirable to women? Okay, good for you. That's awesome. Now you really need to explain why you're choosing a woman with 100 past partners to get with instead of a woman that you wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:37 AM
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I wouldn't be opposed to new male friends if it happened naturally through a mutual activity, but otherwise it's going to be a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:24 AM
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You can also harvest sperm for ivf surrogacy after a vasectomy if he would change his mind at some point, but I don't see that happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:04 PM
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The difference is that you want biological kids and he has never had that desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:00 PM
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He knew that was an available option. He's not being forced to marry me. He wasn't asked to get a vasectomy. I was going to get my tubes tied instead and he said he wanted to get the surgery. He doesn't feel a need to have biological children and that's fine. It's a personal decision. I am not being forced to marry him either. We made the best decision for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:28 PM
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I can have kids, but I also have a blood cancer that could return at any time and I couldn't receive treatment if I were pregnant. He had this conversation with ex girlfriends and his parents years before he met me. It wasn't an emotional decision. The only reason that he hadn't done it was in case his future wife wanted to have children AND adopt.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 06:30 PM
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Why is it weird? We both want kids. We don't believe that those kids need to be genetically related to us for them to be our kids. Do you have any idea how many children are up for adoption and need homes? He has amazing genetics. He's a university athlete. That has nothing to do with his decision. We always said we wanted to adopt and MAYBE have a child together naturally, but it wasn't a certainty. Not everyone feels a need to have biological kids. We want kids to love.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 06:15 PM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:20 PM
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No. He was on the fence about biological children before meeting me and has since decided against them. He always wanted to adopt.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 04:24 PM
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It's a sugar a sugar baby without the sex. They can pay for that now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 03:42 PM
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My future husband has had one because it would be a terrible idea for me to get pregnant and he didn't want me to have another surgery. He's been tested twice since then to make sure he's sterile. I feel perfectly comfortable with having unprotected sex once we get married. We plan to adopt when we're ready for children.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 03:38 PM
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There are insecure good looking men too. They usually have anxiety. I don't find them attractive. I need both in a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 03:25 PM
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Religious virgin men are looking for the same, not a harem. They have no use for that. Anyone can break commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 03:22 PM
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I have found him and we're getting married in October. It's hilarious that you assume there aren't good looking guys with options that also have standards and want the same. That's why you vet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 01:26 PM
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This post is why I would never have dated a guy that wasn't a virgin for religious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:27 PM
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Do you really know why women have the upper hand? Not because men are horny more often. It's because men think chasing and screwing anything is better than taking care of it themselves. Men screwed other men over with their BEHAVIOUR, not by being horny. That goes to every issue that you routinely complain about on this sub. A woman would rather get herself off, guaranteed, than have sex with a random.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:10 PM
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We don't deny that men will screw just about anything with a hole. We don't care. There's a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 04:53 PM
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Q4A: What song best describes your dating/intimate life? What is your "hoe anthem"? Hugs by Lonely Island is mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 05:53 PM
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Indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 05:39 PM
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Engaged, but no, never chased a guy either. It's a username, not a life synopsis.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 05:39 PM
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My name was a joke, because Chad is any guy that she finds really attractive, not a meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 05:21 PM
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10ish guys without the internet? I met hundreds through school, university, church, work, and friends. That is my social circle. I never used online dating and never met a guy through the internet in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 03:45 PM
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That short unattractive guy is trying to be with a mentally ill woman screwing other men and ignores him. He is his own problem here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:18 PM
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What is the message of these stories? It's acceptable to be a guy that chases after people that don't want you and treat you like shit, but it's not okay for a woman? He's no different. That's not hypergamy or female nature. That's people thinking they can get a relationship with that person because they want them and think they belong together despite the other party not wanting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 08:36 PM
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and i did not say olympians Also you ridicilously wrong. i've literally trained with olympic swimmers and this is not the case You did, unless you don't know that Olympic participants are called olympians?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:00 PM
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Yes, it's not a overly built body from the gym. Gym bros could get it. They don't, because they're not doing the same training.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:52 PM
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Bro come on. You? The same guy posting today that he doesn't know how to workout at home as a beginner with dumbells was "literally training with Olympians"? I would call that bullshit, but it's your story.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:49 PM
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Competitive swimmers do usually have wide shoulders and they do work out, but not like gym bros. They're going for very specific muscle groups and not for mass.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:46 PM
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You're not blind. It's not about believing anything. Their bodies are not the same because building overly developed arm muscles would be a hindrance. That's why you don't see them. Go Google professional bodybuilders at low body fat percentages and explain why they still have overly developed arms if they're the same bodies at different body fat percentages.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:38 PM
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Most women wouldn't turn down Chris Hemsworth if he were skinny fat. That's a terrible example, but yeah, there are plenty of women that aren't into guys that are that built.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:29 PM
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Seriously, go Google professional male swimmers and then ask yourself what kind of bodybuilders or gym bros have arms that small compared to the rest of their bodies. They are not the same for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:27 PM
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Then you should ask them, because what you're saying in not true. They train for muscle strength and joint support in the shoulders and back with specific exercises. They're not going for over a ton of added mass because that becomes a hindrance at certain point. They use more weight and less reps to build strength and speed, not mass. They're also focused on maintaining their flexibility. You apparently don't know how it works if you think that they're doing the same training as body builders a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:07 PM
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Okay bro. How many competitive swimmers do you train with daily?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:55 PM
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Swimmers don't do the same training in the gym as gym bros. They have specific exercises to improve their swimming and building specific muscles. That's why they look different. It's way more than body fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:52 PM
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If that were the case they wouldn't have different builds than the gym bros, but they do, even without steroids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:39 PM
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It's not about building muscle. It's defining your natural muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:31 PM
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I prefer guys that are consistently active with athletics as opposed to bodybuilders. It's not the same body. Swimmer's body is a thing for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:16 PM
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I don't think that most women like the look of bodybuilders and steroids. I personally don't, but I do find men that are fit from athletics very attractive. Lean and very toned.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:07 PM
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No one has the right to put their hands on someone else unless they are being physically attacked. No one has the right to force you to stay in a situation where your emotional needs aren't being met or you feel disrespected. That shouldn't be changed because you want to be able to use force against others in any situation to get your desired results. Walk away and don't associate with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 01:12 PM
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I find that out before dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 07:09 AM
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Is it true that he used to be a federal agent? Nm, he said that he did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:22 PM
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There's a difference between compromise and accommodating your partner at times and that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:54 PM
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No one likes a butt kisser or doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:37 PM
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It's only a date. Schedule them for different days if the first responds.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 12:18 PM
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Christian virgin waiting for marriage. He should live up to the values of our faith. That's an absolute requirement. Prefer average height or taller, 5'9. Education is important to me and he should have at least a 4 year degree. Be physically attractive to me. I prefer athletic men that play sports. 21-26 for age. I am very extroverted and engaged with a lot of charity work. I would prefer that he does the same, but he needs to have good social skills even if he doesn't do it too. My standards a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 03:07 AM
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I value it, but not more or less than any of my other requirements. There's no possibility of making up for any of them. He's who l actually want or l'd rather be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:52 AM
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Plus one? That could change everything. I'll get back to you on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:50 AM
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I won't pretend to like you as a person or fake attraction for money. That's what sex workers do. You can find a sugar baby relationship if you want that situation, but it's not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:48 AM
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No, not for any amount of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 10:00 PM
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I would expect a rental lease in this situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 11:33 AM
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The non virgins you keep getting into relationships with, those girls. Remember when you blocked me after you said that and I pointed it out? How's that working out for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 04:30 AM
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It is funny. How's that "used up pussy" you keep locking down treating you? 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 04:10 AM
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Yes, you have to be attracted to your partner, no shit. Chad is nothing more than who that girl finds particularly attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 03:05 AM
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I had just joined when that happened and hadn't said anything mean to anyone, but okay. Your joke was hilarious, about as funny as you being an involuntary virgin and saying assholes get the girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:53 AM
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When I was diagnosed with cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:34 AM
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I agree, like when you thought my cancer diagnosis was hilarious and said not even cancer could stop Chad chasing, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:28 AM
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You can feel all of those things without being devastated by disappointment when your fantasy doesn't come to fruition.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:22 AM
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Reality is now and your emotional investment should be based on today, not what you hope will be years from now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:04 AM
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Hurt yes, but not make you suicidal and think your life is over because a short relationship failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 01:56 AM
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It's a fantasy that you imagine, not reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 01:53 AM
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I don't understand people that are completely devastated and think that their life is over when a dating relationship ends after only a few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 01:39 AM
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Wanting people to have sex with you is equally as sinful as having sex according to the Bible. Those guys OP is talking about want to have sex and are upset that promiscuous women are judging their virginity and holding it against them. They are equally as sinful in the eyes of God. Being a virgin is only virtuous if you are waiting for marriage under religion. Being a virgin in itself means nothing good or bad. They're not judging virgin men choosing to wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 11:19 PM
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Or maybe you'd like to ignore those verses about lusting after a woman being equal to committing the sin of adultery, making those virgins the same as promiscuous women? That's not my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 09:25 PM
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Do you count religious preachers in "mind their own business" as well? Literally open up your religious texts and read it. There is shaming written there of all sorts of behaviors, and oh no, there are even "fear tactics" used, like the mention of punishment! Can you tell me where in the new testament of the Bible it says should slut shame people, because I can tell you about 50 verses that say don't judge until you fix your own mess and love everyone. Are we just going to pretend that Mary Magd…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 09:19 PM
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Become religious and then mind their own business. Problem solved. They can get their equally virgin partner. Shaming people that they don't want for existing? No, just as I don't slut shame men that sleep around. Sexual shaming is sexual shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 08:50 PM
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Because these men are not religious. They're self proclaimed incels screaming that they should get a virgjn because they are one, but only because they can't get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 08:40 PM
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3 years ago he was still with his ex wife and happily married. He had no relationship with his dad and had sued him for millions of dollars after kicking him out at 16. He mentions September of last year as when he got sick and his colon ruptured. That's what? Most likely 2 years or so since they first separated? In 2 years all of that happened where he's goes from happily married, to divorced, to remarried, and now his dad is back and they're fine after 8 years of not speaking, kicked out, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 04:46 PM
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I'm pretty sure that guy is a total larp.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 04:02 PM
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Again, you're wanting to make up a story that suits your ideas. You have no idea what their relationship was like before or after their biological kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 03:37 PM
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She was with that guy before she had kids and had been a single mother for several years before getting with Brad Pitt. You have no idea what she was like as a person or a gf. You want to make a story that suits your idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 03:32 PM
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She adopted her kids before him and her surgery was so she wouldn't die like her mother after she showed the same gene for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 02:27 PM
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I love and value all of the men in my personal life. They wouldn't be close to me otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 12:44 PM
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As in I have met multiple Christian virgins that have met my other preferences to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 03:22 PM
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I am a virgin that was looking for a guy that shares my beliefs. We're getting married in October.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 03:12 PM
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It's roughly 176cms. I am that height and it's for a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 03:10 PM
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Must be a Christian virgin waiting for marriage Age: less than 3 years difference of my own Education: at least a 4 year degree Body: athletic Attractice face Height: 5'9+ I don't care about income or race. My requirements have had no issue being met.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 02:56 PM
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I am so sorry that he lied to you. That's heartbreaking and of course it hurts. Honestly, I would leave in your position. His vows were not meant in good faith. You can't build a life together on a lie. I hope that you can work out what is right for your heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 12:04 PM
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I don't actively fear men, but I don't trust them or give them the benefit of the doubt either. I don't fear being robbed, but I don't wear visible diamond jewelry at 3am at a nightclub alone either. Trust is earned.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 11:56 AM
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Some things do indicate much less attraction, like what the OP describes. It's why I will only marry a virgin as a virgin too. I'm not accepting less than what I want. Would you stay with or want a man that makes you feel less valued in any way? I would hope not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 11:52 AM
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That's basically our equivalent to that situation though. They know nothing about each other and are willing to risk pregnancy and life ending stds after a few dates. That's terrifying. You don't put your health and trust into someone that you've just met. That's insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 05:06 AM
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I don't either, but wouldn't you find it a bit strange if you met a woman tonight and tomorrow she was willing to marry you without any further information and didn't care if you were a good fit or what type of character you carry? You wouldn't question her sanity or morals?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:48 AM
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Everyone is entitled to their own boundaries, but wow, imagine thinking that potentially having a kid with someone you've known for weeks is a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:24 AM
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The situation l'm suggesting is dating someone new and having sex quite soon, say within a month of meeting, and they're okay with absolutely nothing more than a pull out and a prayer. No std tests and no condoms or other bc either. To me that is absolutely freaking crazy. That's putting your life and entire future at risk, because "they seem trustworthy". I wanted to see how many others felt the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:14 AM
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It's rude to not hold the door open for someone in your immediate vicinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:03 AM
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I am leaving if my partner isn't giving me what I need, for any aspect, in a relationship. There's no pouting or worry about what he did or didn't do for an ex. None of that matters to my relationship. No one is telling men to stay in relationships where their needs aren't met either. People are saying that no one is entitled to a behaviour because someone did it in the past. They are not the same thing and no woman is entitled to any sexual behaviour because her partner did it in the past eithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 12:59 AM
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It's not a real situation, but a new partner that says they're fine with absolutely no protection involved of any kind and hope for the best. They're also okay if you're pregnant 2 months after meeting and insist on you having it. Most if not all people who are into NFP are extremely religious. Oddly enough I have seen them and even on this sub. Regardless of your beliefs on premarital sex it's a sun sized red flag if you're fine with unprotected sex with people that you don't know well enough t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 12:25 AM
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Best answer ever 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 11:13 PM
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"Natural family planning"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 11:06 PM
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Q4A How big of a red flag would it be for a new bf/gf to suggest not using birth control of any kind? Would you still want to be with that person? Would you believe that they didn't do the same with past partners? Would you demand std tests before any sexual activity because of that risk?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 11:02 PM
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Social circles, school, work, church, or other hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 07:13 PM
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It comes across like you're asking what will my presence buy from you in ADDITION to you providing the same things to me. This isn't a question that normal people ask, because it shows that you don't value the relationship as something that stands alone to be wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 02:12 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 03:58 PM
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It's not "effortless", but that effort isn't work either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 02:41 PM
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That doesn't seem to be the norm for ppd men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 02:01 PM
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I hope that you can both reach a healthier place in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:51 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:41 PM
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Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:41 PM
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I think there are a lot of people that romanticize mental illness and codependency as "true love".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:38 PM
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That's not part of a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:55 PM
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100% and that doesn't include the mental illnesses you see where people threaten suicide or have massive breakdowns and you're only dating. That's a massive red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:29 PM
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Why would i want a GF that her happiness didn't hinge on the relationship? Seems indifferent. Remember that when she's unhappy with you. That's your fault too for not being enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:23 PM
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Happy Mother's Day to all of the PPD moms!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:06 PM
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Q4All: Would you be comfortable with a relationship where your partner's mental stability and happiness hinged on your relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:04 PM
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No. I would remain single.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:29 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:24 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:59 PM
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Can you link a news article with anything about the law for people outside of the US? That's awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:57 PM
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Morals are important to me, but also for own life. Do people look down on others that also engage in the same behaviours as themselves? Probably not. Do you have any evidence that these girls chasing "bad boys" aren't the same types of people? I haven't seen any.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 06:06 PM
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I have the best dad in the entire world and he raised me to expect the best from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 05:12 PM
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JP also says that women are right if they're avoiding those men and that they're the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 03:48 PM
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Sugar babies have to be paid, not taken on dates. Women don't pretend to date as sugar babies. It is always transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 02:25 PM
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Sugar babies are prostitutes, not gfs or dates, or relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 02:12 PM
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You do realize that if men stopped dating these women that "the problem" would solve itself. They're sugar babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:39 PM
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None of this matters because no one is forcing you to date them. These women telling women to use men for money are no different than red pillers saying use these women for sex and not commitment. There's people that suck on both sides. Don't date them. It's not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:26 PM
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Where did she say he should be killed or even that she's happy that he was killed?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 11:44 AM
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Non consensual. He's talking about rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 11:26 AM
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hinges on women's ability to trust the man for whom she feels a mixture of fear and exhilaration towards. I am not dating a man that makes me feel any level of fear. That's how you end up with a restraining order against you. I wouldn't date a man that has this kink. The need to be dominant in a relationship tells me that you have no power in or over your own life. That's not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:57 AM
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I've dated co-workers multiple times. It depends on the policy at the business more than anything. Some places ban all workplace relationships or even flirting. Those rules should be respected if you don’t want to lose your job.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 07:49 PM
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Intellectual disabilities
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 08:08 PM
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Please explain the point. What does a man’s instincts have to do with women and equality if they don't want or expect their man to be in that position. I would break up with a guy that needlessly put himself in danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:14 PM
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What does that have to do with women expecting it or equality if they don't? That becomes completely his decision and has NOTHING to do with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:08 PM
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How many times have you risked your life to protect a partner? Seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:58 PM
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I've always split the bill or paid entirely. I am not dating a man that puts me in situations where he's expected to protect me. Where are you people going?? Are you walking through gang neighbourhoods at 3am? Women do not want men they love placing themselves in danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:56 PM
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He's died on 4 dates in the past month. What more do you want from him?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:52 PM
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I hate using the dishwasher. It's my arch nemesis. I really like using my my floor sweeper that doubles as a mop. I love clean floors.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:48 PM
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I agree. That's why I rejected men that weren't virgins too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:23 PM
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It's mandatory for marrying me. He is not getting my family's assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:03 PM
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If it's a small patch on a regular harness they're not going to see it until he says yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:20 PM
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What i mean is a regular walking harness and put on a patch that says autism service dog and one with his name. That won't prevent people from approaching him, but it can explain the rest for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:05 PM
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You could get him a service dog harness for walks
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:01 PM
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Can he be a good bf to you if he doesn't want to be your bf?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:40 AM
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Why won't you answer the question? According to your logic he can not want you and still be a good bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:38 AM
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Would he be a good bf if he didn't want you but did everything that a boyfriend should?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:33 AM
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Would your bf be a good bf if he didn't want to be with you? Would him spending time with you, paying bills, and making sure that your needs are met make him a good bf if he didn't want you? That's why.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:30 AM
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Because parenting isn't a skill set to be acquired. It's more than cooking them dinner or washing clothes. It's you wanting to be with them. If you don't want kids then it stands to reason that you don't want to be forced to dedicated almost all of your free time to them for multiple years.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:22 AM
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What kind of job do you think you would do raising and being responsible for a child for 18 years that you never wanted and don't want? It's a perfectly valid decision to not have kids. My saying I think that they would be a terrible parent doesn't mean that I think they're a bad person in any way at all. They could be great people, but absolutely no one should have children that they don't want, because children are hard. It's the hardest and most unappreciated job in the world. It has to be wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:17 AM
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They don't want the kids. There has to a be a reason for that and they would probably resent being forced to be a parent. Not wanting kids is not the same as indifferent or undecided.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:07 AM
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They would probably be terrible parents and shouldn't have children. Good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:57 AM
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Then you're blocked
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:47 AM
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Deleted is deleted. Unavailable is blocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:43 AM
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They're great for sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:33 AM
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That's almost as unbelievable as the post earlier about attractive guys getting passed over for "homely looking assholes".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 01:14 AM
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Only celebrities and super models are now getting laid? That's shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 01:11 AM
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When did physically attractive men begin getting treated as if they were invisible?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 01:03 AM
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I'm not shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 12:55 AM
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It's called Tinder, parties, or meeting at a club.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 12:31 AM
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Men could say no too and they choose not to do that. That's not inequality. Everyone has equal opportunity to ask out, accept, or refuse a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 12:10 AM
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There's a story of a guy and I think he's from the UK. He's autistic and searched how to make friends. He was charged. No, it wasn't for "approaching". He did this twice to the same girl. He waited until she was in a secluded area, never said a word, and put his hands on her. She ran away both times and told him to stay away from her. That is not approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:58 PM
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There are plenty of good looking girls only looking for a quick lay too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:42 PM
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It's true, but also not true. Are some people more sexuslly attractive than others? Yes. Does that mean that they're the only ones having sex? No. It's like saying that these top percentage of men are regularly having sex with below average women. There no need for those guys to do that when more attractive women want them. It's more likely that the most unattractive of both genders are unwanted by all, including each other, but some guys will use them as free prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:25 PM
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I think it's a whole mess of guys, but the situation is the same with women. Having casual sex once makes you a participant, but so does doing it with 100 different partners. Are most men participating constantly and consistently? No, but it's the same for women too. Which is why many guys also complain about how it's "easier" for women to do it. Can they do it? Most likely. Is it going to be the 18 year old cheerleader that they really want? No. Is it going to be on demand? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:51 PM
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No, not really. I think if anything it comes from a fear of rejection or is a bad attempt at manipulation. Not in a "nice guy" secretly an ass kind of way, but she has no reason to not like me now kind of way. Neither of these are a niceness issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:48 PM
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There are some genuinely traditional guys that don't believe in sex outside of committed relationships, but I find that most of them don't care. Most of my guy friends fall into that category and have the same opinions as myself. It's not for me, but let them live how they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:43 PM
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The cheesecake sounds perfect!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:34 PM
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For being nice? No. For never having his own opinion, being passive, and always saying what he thinks I want to hear? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:32 PM
1

Chocolate cheesecake or lemon cake are the go to favourites in our family.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:17 PM
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It's the men that can't get relationships or casual sex that mainly hate it. These are the same men that have to make a million reasons why it's everyone else's fault but their own too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:15 PM
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I don't believe that it's only a small minority. I have seen many men say that if they can't have casual sex then women shouldn't be able to have casual sex, because it's not fair. Many men that have slept around also seem to feel an entitlement to a virgin wife, "because it's different". I don't think it matter what a woman chooses to do, because she's a bitch to someone either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:09 PM
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Generally furious and jealous if they're not able to participate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:03 PM
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I don't think guys that identify as incels can be fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:40 PM
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My brothers never struggled to have girls interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:29 PM
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Doesn't bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:04 PM
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Any standard is legitimate. I only dated virgins waiting for marriage. Is your standard realistic? That's only your problem too if it's not and you can't find that partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:55 PM
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Paranoia or weird behaviour. Those sites existing and women subscribing doesn't show any sort of rate that they're dating the same guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 03:23 PM
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I feel for her, but this isn't a case of trying to have it all. She's upset because of a divorce settlement and that was her last realistic chance at pregnancy because of multiple factors. Can you have it all if one spouse decides they no longer want the same dream and leave? No, but I don't see men or women claiming that is having it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 10:11 AM
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It's also wrong to choose a promiscuous woman and then justify cheating for your past failures. That's not her fault and you want to her to be punished with a cheater and possibly exposed to stds because you failed earlier? Hell no. Choose a non promiscuous woman. You can't get one? You're the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 08:40 PM
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Yes, and my partner had to be a virgin intentionally waiting for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 08:24 PM
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A woman should choose to wait to not end up with an admitted sexual failure with no morals that chooses to cheat? I don't think so. You choose not to see a prostitute despite your "suffering". You choose to commit to promiscuous women too. You're looking for reasons to justify your behaviour. This is why l only dated virgins. I can't deal with hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 07:58 PM
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Yes, but she doesn't want to feel like the woman you settled for and wants the same experiences. That doesn't mean she doesn't want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 07:45 PM
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Cool, but you were in admitted relationships with at least 2 used up snatches. Your actions don't match your words. You do chase it and even commit to it. That's fine. It's your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 04:32 PM
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So you were indeed chasing that "used up snatch" and not biologically grossed out by having sex with multiple "used up snatches". Thanks for admitting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 04:27 PM
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Maybe she's a gay man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 04:23 PM
1

How many virgins have you slept with?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 04:21 PM
1

You're 27 and you slept with 8 unicorn virgins that gave you every sexual experience under the sun??
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 04:14 PM
2

How old are you and how many relationships have you been in?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 04:11 PM
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You're claiming to be biologically wired to be grossed out by women you seek out for casual sex? After you explain that explain how you end up needing to make up for "missed sexual experience" and how this is tied to be grossed out by sluts. Why are you staying with a woman that biologically grosses you out? Why are you chasing them for sex? I can't be attracted to a man that has sex with people that gross him out. Sorry, but that's biological too and why he must be a virgjn.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 04:03 PM
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We hear you and we don't care. I don't know you think women aren't sexually attracted to multiple men too. If you want to screw around then expect her to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:57 PM
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Women can do the same if they also find out. It's either wrong or it's not and apparently it's not wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:53 PM
8

Yes, it is typical to leave people that lie about important things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:49 PM
5

That's why I said I only dated virgins, but if the man I married lied about it I would have no issue having sex with others and leaving him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:46 PM
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You can't expect girls to not fuck around while you do. We also want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:40 PM
4

It's exactly the same thing, which is why I only dated virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:33 PM
5

Remember to tell this to women that waited too if he wasn't a virgin. She also deserves it!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:31 PM
1

I was never asked out by a shorter guy and had none in my social circles that I was attracted to either. 🤷‍♀️ That's not a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 02:30 PM
1

If I was attracted to him I would date him, but that never happened. I dated multiple guys that were my height.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 01:54 PM
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Okay, best of luck to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 07:03 PM
2

because if I'm too upfront about my intentions, they will always say they don't know what they want now or in the future This is a polite way of saying no. Be upfront and take that as a no and a yes as a yes. If they say yes ask them to pick a day and time that works for them. It leaves it in their court. If they say they're busy it means no. If they eagerly plan a date it means yes. If a woman isn't equally participating and reciprocating in physical contact take it as a no and back off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 06:56 PM
2

It might have not been you, but a past experience for her and she now believes that is normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 06:50 PM
2

You should have also shared that grovely is not a word.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 04:25 PM
2

Women are just as horny around hot men. A woman being horny doesn't equal a desire to screw anything available. We can fix that situation for ourselves without regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 04:07 PM
2

Many people don't want to be tied down in a relationship or to be in a relationship with someone they don't want. If you're saying that the top 20% are all sleeping around they would identify as single not in the other 40%.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 03:57 PM
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I think it's more that men will screw anything, because women get turned on by guys that they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 03:52 PM
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Are you talking about love or relationships? You can love someone that you know is a toxic POS and you can't be with them because of it. That doesn't change their feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 07:49 PM
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You make the first move with guys? I am definitely not afraid to make the first move. I've met many people that I was interested in initially. I also approached a few of them. If l was potentially interested in them l would ask them to hang out and do something with my group of friends to get to know them better or out for coffee/tea. I never tried to befriend them. There was interest or there wasn't. I don't do fake friendships, waiting for him to decide if he likes me to make a move, or using …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 07:08 PM
2

Even single single, not dating anyone, l don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:56 PM
2

First of all we've been together for longer than 9 months, we're engaged, and it's not for him. I don't want guys waiting around for some chance that's never going to happen. If I am interested in a guy l will tell him, not befriend him. I have friends many guy friends and they're not potential opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:44 PM
2

From what I read it was the same in America with something like 1/3 of brides already being pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:37 PM
5

Wouldn't those guys be in the 63% listed as single??
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:23 PM
5

I don't befriend any guy that has shown interest in me. I don't have a need for friendships that aren't based in real friendship. Girls that keep guys on the back burner will do the same to you. Don't expect them to change for your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:06 PM
2

A lot of them are from bastard bonds.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:51 PM
3

Exactly this!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:57 PM
11

This isn't historically true. Birth and marriage records exist. source Almost half of births in 1852, more than 40%, were conceived before marriage. More than 60% in Scotland.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:30 PM
1

Social media profiles, Internet history, and is he a Christian.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 02:45 PM
1

Your answer is I wouldn't cheat, not I don't find her sexually attractive. There's nothing wrong with l would if I were single.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:20 PM
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You can not control who you find attractive. Your brain doesn't shut off because you're in a relationship. You can control your actions to not intentionally sexualize people. You can't control their being hot. To me, my gf is the only woman I’m sexually attracted to. But that's not how you answered their question. You said according to your words, "I have a gf." Those aren't the same. I have a gf sounds like l would get in trouble for answering rather than I don't find others attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:11 PM
1

I was tested for it, but for a friend. We weren't a match. I would have done it for anyone that I love. Now I can't because I was diagnosed with cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:08 PM
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I would guess it's most of them. Having social issues or being ND is going probably going to be the root cause of their issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:05 PM
1

Extremely weird. It's my house. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:01 PM
2

I think that's ridiculous. You're asking someone to lie for your feelings when you do that. No one should be offended by a celebrity being attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:58 AM
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I know. The question isn't would you cheat on your gf to have sex with x. The question comes down to are you sexually attracted to her and there's nothing wrong with answering honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:51 AM
1

The question is are you sexually attracted to her. No one should realistically be offended by that. They didn't ask would you cheat on your gf with X or do X right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:32 AM
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"Do you find this celebrity sexually attractive?" He can answer however he feels. It's not like that question hurts me. I don't want him to pretend that other attractive women do not exist or lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:11 AM
1

We looked through several sites online for wedding vows. We're also writing a small piece ourselves, but all of the vows listed there are an important part of our Christian faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 11:12 PM
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We consider them to be more accurately worded.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 10:47 PM
1

They're actually not custom vows. They're a set of traditional vows that mean the same things, but they're worded differently
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 10:46 PM
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He's stuck by my side through cancer. He's an amazing beautiful soul. I don't think there's any chance that he could ever do something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 07:52 PM
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We're getting married in October. These are the vows that we have decided to use for our wedding. I believe in you, the person you will grow to be and the couple we will be together. With my whole heart, I take you as mine, acknowledging and accepting your faults and strengths, as you do mine. I promise to be faithful and supportive and to always make our family's love and happiness my priority. I vow to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share in the sile…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 06:03 PM
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Becky's responsibility to her marriage and husband was tell him how she was feeling BEFORE it happened. Now she needs other people to hold her accountable? Hell no. So, imo, it’s less about expecting your partner to never choose things that hurt you, and more about whether they’ll recognize they’ve hurt you, own up to their mistakes, and make choices to assure that it never happens again. She didn't. She got caught. That's totally different. She took no accountability until it was forced upon he…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 04:32 PM
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A man that helps without being asked is a sexy man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 03:08 PM
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They might believe that, but it's not true, and there's also "forsaking all others."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 02:52 PM
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You said something important. or not caring about your partner enough to put their feelings before your own desires, which aren’t things that can be solved or forgiven. That is what they did in your example. Their unresolved trauma doesn't make their actions not a choice. They chose to put their own desire for validation from others or their own feelings of wanting to feel loved above their relationship/partner when they cheated. They didn't seek counseling and talk to their partner about how to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 02:50 PM
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That's a decent income for that if you own a house and have no debt. If you have 3m in debt for a mortgage it's not great.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 12:54 PM
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Boyfriend. He's priceless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 12:47 PM
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Neither of us care.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 12:44 PM
4

What do you consider an income that can afford a "luxurious lifestyle"?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 12:28 PM
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That's covered under love, honour, and cherish. If you break that vow it's grounds for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 12:25 PM
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He's a teen.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 11:23 AM
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Not being the most important doesn't make physical attraction any less of a requirement. Most women have multiple requirements for their partner, but physical attraction is definitely one of them if they're not asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 11:13 AM
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It also says the exact same for men and a whole lot more. People love to pick and choose what they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 10:58 AM
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Oh no, as far as I am concerned this type of man can burn in hell before he is ever allowed near me again. It is absolutely a fundamental character flaw that you can make all of these decisions to hurt your partner and then expect them to work past the trauma that YOU caused to accept you again. No thank you. You don't accidentally stumble into sex, physical assault, drug addiction, or anything else. The point of marriage is to promise to do everything you can to keep the love alive and to not g…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 10:29 AM
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You made the claim. It's your job to prove it, not mine. You have nothing to share and that's fine. Have a nice evening!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 09:09 PM
1

So you have none, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 08:23 PM
1

Please link one saying that there are no available young men to date or hook up with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 07:56 PM
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Many also have boyfriends from high school, that they met on break, guys that work on campus, or a nice guy they met out with friends. Some aren't looking for commitment and date casually with multiple men while they do the same. They date other guys too, even guys without a degree. Some date slightly older guys, but I have never seen any girl say that there aren't men to date. Can you show anything that says girls in college can't find a date because men aren't available?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 07:04 PM
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You're a good man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:56 PM
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She's most likely talking about you too. Those same people probably all know your secrets too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:42 PM
2

You seem very nice. That's a very unexpected and nice change to see here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:34 PM
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That is an extremely unfortunate circumstance and I empathize with you. I went through a fight with cancer recently and it really does make things complicated. I hope that you're receiving good care and are in the best place that you can be health wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:38 PM
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That's not really typical. You should continue to make new friends and connections throughout your life. Your circle would be smaller, but it shouldn't be nonexistent. You should have married friends and be invited to events and parties. It doesn't simply end.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:36 PM
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Women in college date men also in college. Are you unaware of hook up culture or parties? Do you think that nothing is happening at them? You're not aware of the relationships happening in social groups? Women are dating guys that are also in university.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:25 PM
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Vs numbers of people who attend college and women saying they are having issues finding men. How do you go from these girls have endless options to no, they can't find a man and surveys lie? You're wildly inconsistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:17 PM
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Vs numbers of people who attend college and women saying they are having issues finding men. Finding men they want a relationship with, not dates. Those studies have been pointed out flawed because most women think they are in a relationship and the men don't. They're still dating and not single, regardless of it's monogamous or not. Where are they meeting their partners?? It's through social circles at work, school, church, family, friends, activities social activites.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:13 PM
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Only 32% of women aged 18-29 are single. That's not lots are not dating. It means 32% are not in a committed relationship. Where are 2/3's of young women meeting their partners when it's not on apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:05 PM
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Uh in person is heavily dependent on having an existing network. You are 100% correct. Why don't these men have existing social networks? Where are their friends? Where are the people they go out with and meet new people through them? You have some kind of social issues if you don't have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:55 PM
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I asked you where these younger women are meeting guys if it's not on apps. You quoted the ratio and now say on apps and then say they're using them for validation and not meeting them. Where are these girls meeting the guys they're dating if it's not on these apps? Colleges have more women in them now than ever before. Most ladies are not interested in guys are not in college. So, when you go to a college that is 70/30 not like there are enough guys in the social circles. Your social circle sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:53 PM
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He said he would never agree because in her country it's not a thing to see men struggling. He didn't mention sex or being used at all. I think you replied to the wrong thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:36 PM
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But they were unattractive fat women. Do you have no sympathy for the 6'2 shredded male model that can only get fat unattractive women?? It's that bad out there!! 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:53 PM
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Not even the numbers. He's complaining that even attractive guys are struggling to get dates or attention from attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:45 PM
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That applies to social media as well, where even a shredded 6’2” model gets only a hundred or so likes and comments and almost entirely from unattractive, overweight or trashy women. Meanwhile a barely above average woman throws some makeup on and racks up hundreds, even thousands of likes, heart reacts and comments from men and women alike gushing about how unbelievably beautiful they are. From OP on the this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:34 PM
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There are 0 other options! None! Zilch! You can't meet people out, through friends, at school, through church, sports, clubs, work, or anything else. It's an app or nothing! If you're fortunate enough to have a female give you attention she's ugly and overweight. You, the 6'2 male model, get nothing compared to the average woman with make up! Nothing!! The struggle is real! Acknowledge their struggle, Lift!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:29 PM
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Where are these young girls filled with options when not using apps or social circles? I am 23. Everyone l know dates from our social circles. People looking on apps generally want a ons or they have no one in their lives that would date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:08 PM
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People using profiles of models and getting 3-4 likes a day when a women who is a 3-4 gets 3x4 times that. OLD is mostly men with some areas having up to 80+% of their user base being men. Of course the small amount of women are getting more attention compared to a larger pool of men. Most people aren't dating through apps. I would say that's the biggest struggle. They're dating through social circles and meeting people while out with them or through them. You're screwed if you're relying on app…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:12 PM
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demonstrably false as even attractive men with loads of personality struggle They don't. Attractive men do not struggle unless they're ND.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:00 PM
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I can't judge anyone's reaction without knowing what the insecurity was about. Everyone should have boundaries, but not every feeling or thought needs support and engagement. Your friends would be right if you felt that her response was lacking after saying something like other girls don't stare at me and it makes me feel unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 12:34 PM
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I don't have a height standard, but I have never been attracted to a guy shorter than myself. They've ranged from 5'9-6'6. I don't find the 6'6 guy more attractive than the guy that's 5'9.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 12:22 PM
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Does B reject him or his advances?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 11:19 AM
1

I quickly glanced for you, but no. "House of memes"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:45 PM
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I looked. It's memes, nothing but memes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:37 PM
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At least a 4 year degree. University is about important life and social experiences beyond the degree too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:31 PM
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Very important
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:24 PM
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It's pretty weird how many people think that people can't be genuine friends despite someone being attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:08 PM
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They do, but they also involve talking about the things that trouble you in order to be worked on by both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:06 PM
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Don't ignore them or hope they correct themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:03 PM
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She doesn't need to lord it over you to feel that way. Feelings are not the same as actions, but her actions do include commenting negatively on men that earn less. She was apparently open about it concerning her brother in law. Stuff that makes me feel she's above me is when she tells me to clean my room like she's my mother or something, its like, dude, its my room. That's exactly what she's doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:00 PM
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You need to decide if you're okay with that, but I wouldn't be okay with my partner ever feeling like they're above me. Her actions don't control her views either. She can be "the woman" to you and still view you as submissive or below her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:51 PM
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What does keeping it to yourself mean? I would talk to my parents, grandparents, or pastors if I felt that I needed help with something in my relationship. Gossiping or casually talking about it with friends? Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:40 PM
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She views men like a red pilled man view women, but you're now the woman. She sees herself as above men that make less. Make of that what you will, but I wouldn't tolerate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:37 PM
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It's not a problem for anyone I know. We all hang out multiple times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:11 PM
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I want to know how this comes up between friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:09 PM
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Not true. If they keep you alone, they also keep someone else alone. If there's a population of 5 guys and 5 girls, and one of the girls has impossible preferences, only 8 people will have partners, not 9. How is this my problem? Who said or thinks there's an obligation to have a partner at all? Relationships are not a participation trophy for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 07:52 AM
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I agree with you,, but no one wants to be an unpaid "employee". If men really want to "lead and be the boss" they would have to provide that at a minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 07:09 AM
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I hope you find him!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:12 PM
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Being only friends is a weird concept for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 09:38 PM
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All preferences are fair when no one is forced to accept anyone they don't want. At worst your preferences keep you alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 09:37 PM
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No, the question at hand from OP is why does any woman think that any of her male friends are only friends rather than orbiter. He's basically saying that men can't be friends with any gender that they find attractive without wanting more. If you have a male friend attracted to your gender he must secretly be an orbiter and not capable of not wanting to screw you. Your sexuality, relationship status, or their own makes no difference. If he is a man he wants to screw you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 07:21 PM
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Not dating someone is very different than calling them whores, referring to their kids as bastards or Chad spawn, or calling men that choose to be there a cuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 07:00 PM
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Why do you think people don't view adoptive parents with the same stigma as step parents? Both choose to love and parent a child that they didn't create. Why is only one seen as a negative in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:58 PM
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The gay friend would know that the other friend was straight at the start of the relationship. Strange that he didn't exclude lesbians for this question. Oh wait, what was that? It doesn't stop an orbiter? What about women they meet that are in relationships? Oh wait, that doesn't matter either. What about when a woman says she's not interested? No, that doesn't matter. The other part is that, even if the gay man develops attraction for the gay man, I think the straight man might have empathy fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:48 PM
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Also you How is this even remotely similar? The gay friend would know that the other friend is straight. So please tell me, do men worry that their bi/gay male friends are secretly waiting to date them or have sex since men are apparently incapable of platonic friendships with the gender their attracted to sexuall?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:26 PM
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With that logic your gay/bi friends may be orbiters. Your being straight doesn't stop them from being attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:20 PM
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I did when I said he needs to live up to our religious values.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:11 PM
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Apparently many men on here think that's all men that have any female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:05 PM
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Men in the comments. Her being in a relationship or not interested doesn't matter or make a difference. He's still an orbiter somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:56 PM
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Doesn't matter if he's straight and not interested anymore so than a woman being in a relationship or not interested. No sexual attraction or interest means no regardless of the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:52 PM
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If a man isn't paying 100% for EVERY thing and giving her money then no deal. People don't pay bills with their own money at their job and they don't work for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:47 PM
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Do men think that any gay or bi male friend is secretly waiting for the chance to date or have sex with them based on this same logic?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:45 PM
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If he's trying to have sex then we have different values and are not compatible. That's the end of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:30 PM
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It absolutely works that way. Either you think every single man is ugly or all men are secretly gay for that to be true. You know when someone is objectively attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:27 PM
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Like if he was a virgin for religious reasons he probably wouldn't have too much relationship experience either We don't marry the first person we date. We date to find the right partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:26 PM
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That means nothing to me. He has to be a virgin for religious reasons or there's no chance of any relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:23 PM
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Many of my guy friends are physically attractive. That doesn't mean I find them sexually attractive or want them. It means they're objectively attractive people. Finding someone attractive doesn't equal wanting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:18 PM
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Different people have different values. It's the same with men choosing partners. Some won't care about her body count and others will care. For me he has to be a virgin waiting for religious reasons. He can't be someone that has tried and failed and I don't want a partner that doesn't have experience with relationships in his mid 20's when I am looking for "the one".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:14 PM
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They're not waiting for a chance because they're not single and they know that there is none. That's not an orbiter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:53 PM
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If works men should do. Men also shouldn't complain when their "employee" is sending out resumes and telling their company secrets at that point either.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:41 PM
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Almost all of my guy friends are in relationships and I make it very clear that I am not interested in anything else with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:18 PM
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Obviously I want a man that I find attractive, but that doesn't equal Hollywood good looks. He has to share the same religious values as myself, genuinely want to live them, and enjoy church. I really love my church and being involved with it. I want a man that loves me as much as l love him and puts as much effort into our relationship. Has emotional intelligence, maturity, and stability. You need those things to maintain a relationship. Has great social skills, including being good with kids, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:03 PM
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None of mine are on this list and would cost too many points. Thankfully he still exists! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:48 AM
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Suggesting that women should be grateful to have anyone they aren't attracted to use them as a free prostitute is not a privilege and has the same appeal as it does for you, but again, you can go chase morbidly obese ugly women too. You already said you didn't want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:45 PM
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Do you say that to other women ? Or you just say that to men because except the men you value, anything else is disposable therefore not important ? I tell them not to have casual sex if that's not what they want and to not use sex to try to get relationships. Why would I say anything different? I didn't say men are trash. I said if you expect women to have sex with people that they're not attracted to sexually then you should be willing to do the same. That's equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:40 PM
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Why women have the right to only date handsome men and top 1% but I have to go for undesirable women ? They don't, which is why they can't always get the relationship they want and certainly not instantly. What makes you think that desirable top men are dating women that aren't also desirable? They are dating desirable women. Also these same women you cited earlier, they still get lot of play, people dating them far and left. They are almost in a simulation where they can just go out and have pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:35 PM
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Women can get sex easily, not relationships they want. If you want women to date easily you also need to date undesirable people. Men can date single moms, obese, or mentally ill women. Men could do that, but they choose not to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:21 PM
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Sorry, not true, but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:17 PM
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I am going to play a game. Let's assume you are right. Can we go to the root and say maybe these men don't want personal relationship because of rejection when they tried to get one. Also you I hate everything. I don't think I have ever loved nor even have affection for anyone or anything. On the other side, I hate when people try to befriend with me. That's not about rejection or society. That's about you rejecting any people and not liking anyone. That's a problem that no one is going to toler…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:16 PM
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You literally hate everyone and relationships with other people according to your post history, including your own family. You don't want a personal relationship with anyone, but somehow women are the problem and you think that you're totally normal. No, that's not normal. Good luck to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 08:56 PM
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I don't think all women are like me. I acknowledge that plenty of asshole women exist and chase bad boy abusive assholes. I won't acknowledge something that isn't true, like most men in relationships are assholes, because they were picked. Looks, height, popularity among peers, these 3 traits are all the obvious traits the men I know in relationship have in commonn. So women being interested in them is not surprising. What is surprising is no matter how these guys beat them, no matter they refus…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 08:44 PM
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Almost every man you know in a relationship is an asshole? All of your partnered family and friends are assholes that mistreat women? Why would you want those men in your life? That's a genuine question. Why are you associating with a bunch of people that you consider assholes that mistreat women? I don't have men like that in my life. I had one, but he was gone the moment I became aware of it. Men in my life don’t disrespect me, talk badly about women, try to sexually harass me, or anything els…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 07:32 PM
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It makes perfect sense if you think of women as property and sex as something they shouldn't want or "give" to men. It makes far less sense when they call women broken locks and yet still complain that a single woman only accepts 1-2% of keys. Seems like the locks work just fine or these pills wouldn't exist. They have also never heard of rekeying a lock.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 07:23 PM
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I tell women not to date known assholes and to leave at the first sign. You're the one saying that most men being picked are assholes so that means most men in relationships must be assholes since they were picked.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 07:02 PM
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Once again, you are doing what I despite in this convo. Not acknowledging women pick bad men. And instead redirecting the fault on me or the men seeing it. Do you know good men in relationships or not? These men were picked by women. But when men remark women pick assholes most of the time, it is men should pick better friends. I guess that's a yes, most of the partnered men you know must be assholes because that's what most women pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 06:56 PM
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I don't know any women who have been victim of sexual harassment. All women I know can clearly spot a bad man and avoid these uncomfortable situations. I don't think you know what harassment is, because it's not avoided or sought after. It's any sexual attention despite not wanting it and telling someone to stop. That's it. You're telling me that every man you know in a relationship is an asshole? Meet new people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 06:47 PM
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The fact that these men in itself have women says a lot already about women. But as I said somewhere, getting women pregnant, speak to them like dirt, abandoning them, putting them under emotional distress etc. Does it say something about women? Now you're saying that men chase assholes and are shocked that these assholes act like assholes? Interesting. Men not doing that are not rewarded. Maybe men should take their own advice and not chase after assholes? If anything they are told by women lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 06:23 PM
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The topic is deciding that women pick assholes because he sees those traits and he mentions them from beginning to end in his post. Those traits are not bad and do not define an asshole. His definition of nice is being respectful of boundaries, not vulgar, humble, mild mannered, and apparently quiet. Not a single one of those things has a thing to do with being nice. You can be a raging asshole and do all of those things too. What are these "assholes" actually doing? Discussing sex with people t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:56 PM
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Yeah, the difference between being nice and the guys that he sees with women, or him flat out calling them assholes. None of these traits make someone a good person or an asshole and it's ridiculous to present them as an argument that they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:34 PM
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It has nothing to do with what I said. But if anything it is more protection your original fallacy to be honest. Being an asshole is not about being extroverted or confident. It IS how the OP described them, not me. It's not my fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:26 PM
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Same to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:08 PM
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I have several great male friends that are extremely attractive. Do they have quirks, habits, or differing views that would be deal breakers for me in a relationship that don't apply to a friendship? Yes. That's why they're friends and not a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 03:36 PM
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1 in 4 young women (aged 15-24 years) who have been in a relationship will have already experienced violence by an intimate partner by the time they reach their mid-twenties. Men need to change. I am one of those women. I have been on over 100 dates. I have been in 3 relationships and I am now engaged to a wonderful man. I am not going to blame those that didn't hurt me and never tried for the actions of one drunk asshole that decided to punch me. I am not going to blame the multiple men at that…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:49 PM
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I have shy introverted friends of both genders. They're wonderful people and that's why we're friends. I tend to go out with my extroverted friends with group activities more. They're more comfortable with it, but I have no negative opinions of shy people. The only thing I will say is that interacting less in person with others makes it harder to meet potential partners and those types of people are less likely to advertise themselves on social media or dating sites. That is lowering their odds …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:35 PM
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Extroverted, confident, or loud people are not assholes by default and more shy quiet people are not nice by default. Being an asshole has nothing to do with those things. It's behaviours related to the treatment of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:43 AM
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It's not hard depending on your social circles. I grew up with more conservative religious circles and most of my friends have also made the choice to wait until marriage. I never used online dating or anything like that. I imagine it would be much more difficult trying to find someone like that by chance randomly in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:38 AM
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OP is a guy asking, not a woman trying to avoid it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:33 PM
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I would tell her to live how she sees fit. She might want casual sex or to wait for marriage. The right guy for her, an actual high value male in her world, is going to be the one that doesn't judge her for it and they can develop a happy healthy relationship. I personally am waiting for marriage, but no man is ever going to be high value to me if he's slut shaming other women or trying to have sex. Women seeking casual sex aren't being pumped and dumped. If you're having sex at 3 dates it's sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:29 PM
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A great role model
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:17 PM
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I think there's a lot of things happening here. What do the women you're referring to define as nice, respectful, or whatever? Do women say that that they value that trait above everything else? I can only give you my perspective on it. Do I want a genuinely good nice guy? Yes, I do. Is it the bare minimum? No, he has has to have other qualities. I, and most people, are not dating a person for being nice on its own. I understand that, but it doesn't justify the fact that guys who seem genuine wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 01:16 PM
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I don't want to see my friends go through any of those examples, but everyone does need to learn realistic expectations for themselves. I am not going to feel bad if they're hurt because they set unreasonable expectations. That's a part of growing up and is necessary to being a functional healthy person. I am speaking of those expectations being seen as personal failures. It sucks, but it has to happen. Otherwise you will be miserable all of your life over the things you "failed at" rather than …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 09:23 PM
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Failure doesn't necessarily equal hurt. You're trying a new thing and you suck at it for a while. That shouldn't hurt you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 09:10 PM
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Not being able to do something the first time is also failure. You can't expect instant success either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 09:04 PM
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I wouldn't care if he was bi, but l wouldn't be with a man that has a sexual history of any kind. Attraction is not controllable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 09:02 PM
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I don't want to see my loved ones hurting for any reason, but that's not the same as failure. I want to watch them grow as people and learn that they're capable of more than they imagined. That growth can come from the required repeated attempts to attain success. Failure isn't always a negative, but it usually feels that way in the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 08:55 PM
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By being affectionate. Asking how my day was, listening, and genuinely caring. Buying my favourite little candies for no reason. Taking care of me when I am sick, even when that means sitting in a hospital doing nothing but talking. Seeing that I am tired and suggesting that we stay home and order food instead of going out. Drawing a hot bubble bath and lighting candles after dinner. He tells me to go soak and relax while he cleans up the kitchen. Anything that shows he pays attention to how I a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 11:37 AM
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The OP very clearly stated having no kids, but go off. No, someone shouldn't be responsible for more bills by default only because they received an education and earn far more. There's 0 reason that a couple without kids can't do 50/50 living within the lower partner's income, unless that person doesn't make enough to support themselves independently. I wouldn't be with that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 08:13 AM
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You either live within her means or you pay and don't complain. You're making the choice to be with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 10:27 PM
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Her glow up doesn't mean he regrets it or even finds her attractive. If she was ugly then she's still ugly, but skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 08:05 PM
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No, women are not regularly dating men that they don't want or dating them to cheat on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 08:00 PM
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You can become more attractive, but most likely not attractive. Most people are average looking even under the best of circumstances. Even if you can become attractive she's not going to regret achieving her goal. She would have to really want you for that to happen and if she wanted you she wouldn't have done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:55 PM
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You can't "become attractive" to someone that finds you unattractive. They already have their view of you formed
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:50 PM
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How? She would need to feel bad about it and she never wanted you and didn't find you attractive. There’s no chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:44 PM
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There's nothing you could do in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:39 PM
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50/50 and live within the lower partners financial means.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:21 PM
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He must have similar views on things that are important to me or there can't be any relationship. That's 100% a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 02:49 PM
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I am waiting for marriage. What does that mean? It means waiting until after marriage rather than waiting for the guy I will marry. He also has to be intentionally waiting for marriage. To me, this is akin to going to an ice cream shop and asking for a sample. The store clerk gives you a sample and then you ask to buy it and he tells you it's not for sale. Except a more accurate analogy would be that there was a sign that said "No ice cream for sale here" on the front doors. If she only wants a …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 02:42 PM
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I'd move on with my life. Narcissists hate not being special.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 02:35 PM
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Happy Birthday!!! 🎉
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 02:32 PM
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Most men are fat and I specifically addressed THEM, not men in general. Feel free to blame others for your lack of reading comprehension and pretend that any other type of man was mentioned, which the other guy understood. You have the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 12:25 PM
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A man has no obligation to stay or to leave you, but you will be left to deal with the baggage. Do you want a man that values you? Don't settle for less than that, because he doesn't respect you if he expects you to change your values for him. That makes their opinion irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 12:15 PM
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You responded to my comment saying fat men wanting healthy weight women are not being reasonable. "Most guys are fat there too. Seems unreasonable for them to want healthy weight women."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 01:49 AM
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How is unreasonable to not accept a partner with negative traits that you don't have as well? It's unreasonable to expect people to look past your unattractive features. Fat people not wanting other fat people is pretty unreasonable. They can choose to remain single if that's what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 12:48 AM
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There is no consequence for either one except for shaming, which most definitely goes both ways. You can't expect one side to "be better" because you only want it to be one sided.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:31 PM
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Skinny doesn't mean unhealthy or underweight. Healthy is a range with cut offs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:27 PM
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A single mom that got knocked up twice and married a drug addict AFTER he started abusing her. #goals
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 02:22 PM
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But what are some good modern female role models in your opinion? SPECIFICALLY in terms of relationships, not just "good human being", "accomplished writer" or "good mother" way. Michelle Obama
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 12:00 PM
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Your post says a few things and they're all bad. Women make men wait, but only if they don't find him as sexually attractive. You admitted that when you said they don't make high smv men wait because they know men will leave them without it. If you really cared about a guy why would you treat him like that? You're telling him that he's less to you when you apply strategies. Therefore, it is in a woman's best interest to APPEAR as though she is virtuous, modest, demur, and chaste - If she wants y…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 11:39 AM
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"Good luck with your cats and your future inkwell. Why would any man give a crap about what you want when he has options??" If that man has desirable options he wouldn't be upset about your preferences excluding him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 10:16 AM
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Model a healthy relationship the same way that my parents and his parents have done for us. Keep him involved socially and physically with athletics. Encourage him to try new things and to not be afraid of failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:20 PM
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Wolves don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:11 PM
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Like the wolves you mentioned in another comment. Most wolves in a pack don't get a mate. The dominant pair breed, not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:10 PM
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You can have whatever standards you want. I want a guy that's a virgin waiting for marriage. No, I don't care if a man thinks that I am supposed to admire his sleeping around. No, I don't care if a man wants to say that other women want him. Shut up, go get those girls, and leave me alone. You're free to chase women that value that experience, but you don't get to tell me that I need to feel the same. It goes the same for men too. Nobody is worth more or less because they had sex, but nobody has…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:06 PM
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Would you look down on someone because of their family or if they don't want you to meet their family for several reasons? Would l look down on them? No, there wouldn't be a moral judgment of them because of their family dynamics. Would l date them? No, because I want children. I wouldn't intentionally Invite toxicity or cut off half of their family when it could be avoided.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:09 PM
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Yes, there are fat men saying that. Fat men complain a lot about women not wanting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:51 PM
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Most guys are fat there too. Seems unreasonable for them to want healthy weight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:46 PM
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He wants someone at least average looking. That knocks the lower half. He wants someone not promiscuous when the average n count is 7 for women. 70% of Americans are overweight and 40% are obese. Yes, he is most definitely not searching for the average. That doesn't include no children or a healthy diet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:26 PM
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I wouldn't call 40% of people rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:59 PM
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Almost 56% of Europe is also overweight, so l think you might like overweight people and not realize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:42 PM
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Average girl next door in the US is 5'4, 170lbs, and has an n count of 7. I hope that's average enough, because that is the average.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:39 PM
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Hahaha, you lie all over the internet and then get butthurt that no one believes your bullshit. Okay? No, no one believed that you had a prenup and no one believes that you have a wife and kids either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 07:20 PM
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Is this the same 16 year old wife that somehow magically signed a prenup with a weight clause in it? That wouldn't be legal. Minors can't sign prenups and parents can't sign for them. Either of your lawyers would have explained that to you if any of this shit that you say is real. Do you understand that? That's why her parents had to sign for her to get married. You just said that they had no problem signing them. She couldn't enter into a legal contract of marriage without them. They couldn't d…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 07:09 PM
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Of course the guy that thinks it's appropriate for grown ass men to have sex with children in school says "aBuSe". Yes, it's child abuse and her parents should have never allowed it. Did it take much to convince them to sign the papers?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 06:22 PM
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No one is asking you to change them, but understand that it's not average and you are now looking for an above average girl that probably also has higher standards. She's not going to change them either and has no reason to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 05:52 PM
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That's going automatically be an above average woman. You want someone in the top 30% of weight in most countries
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 05:44 PM
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It's no different for guys. They're not talking about promiscuous women, women ugly, fat women, single moms, drug addicts, or unemployed losers when they say they can't find a woman. They can't find someone that they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:52 PM
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I think that the ideal is that you both feel like the other party loves you more, but not because there is an imbalance. You feel that loved by your partner and don't think that there's any way that they could feel the same from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:45 PM
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You have to click full mod list. She's still there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 03:40 PM
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What kind of parents sign papers to let their 16 year old get married to a 27 year old? That is child abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 02:49 PM
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I'm 23 and he's 26. We're getting married in October, but we don't plan on adopting kids for at least 5 or 6 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 02:22 PM
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👋
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 11:01 PM
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Here is a screenshot of the rest of the tweet that someone else pointed out he cut off to make her look bad. Her husband was on paternity leave to help her. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 03:55 PM
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Shaming a sexual history is the same behaviour from all sides. Men and women, in general, both do it and people are often hypocrites. I often see men complaining about not wanting a girl that slept around and then also complain about virgin shaming. It definitely goes both ways. I only dated virgins because I am one and wanted the same in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:24 PM
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Men are offended when women won't have sex with them too. Is anyone rightfully offended? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:50 PM
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I think the way it was worded here is too open to interpretation: including the unnecessary ‘Exist’ makes it seem like bragging to some, while others understand it is hard to exist while breastfeeding The guy left out the entire second part of the tweet where she said marriage and parenting is a team effort and a real traditional marriage is not all on the woman to get those things done alone. They pick up the slack for each other. He very conveniently left that out as well as classifying her as…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:24 PM
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But what does a a Red Pill man bring to the table? A non-traditional man that wants a traditional woman for one sided commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 11:31 AM
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Do you think men rightfully should feel offended if he has to have money before you date him? No, because no one is rightfully offended when any individual doesn't want them or has standards. It's their life to live. Are women rightfully offended when men won't date single moms, fat ugly women, or ones with a sexually promiscuous past?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 11:23 AM
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I'd rather be shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:05 PM
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They're both gay and into it, but the handsome one is a bit of a man hater that's having some really disturbing fantasies about you while it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:02 PM
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Pull the trigger. Neither of these are happening and the decision being made for you amounts to sexual assault. Would you rather be assaulted by a handsome guy or an ugly guy? Is that choice really going to make a difference for you as a straight man?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 07:51 PM
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I couldn't do either one. I would feel violated and probably throw up on either of them if they attempted to kiss me. If you want to put a gun to my head then go ahead and pull the trigger. I am not gay or attracted to ugly people. Just kill me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 07:37 PM
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I have no issue if someone my age, 23, wants to date a 30 year old that they connected with naturally. It's not creepy. It's creepy when 30 year old men are telling me that they're in the same life stage, should be attractive to me, and I'm weird for not wanting them. No, keep it moving.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 04:58 PM
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It's fascinating that this is controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 01:37 AM
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We're both virgins, but I don't think it's strange. I think it's more strange that you don't know this person, but you know their sexual history, and are concerned about random Facebook likes. I could see concern if there was continous frequent contact between them, or flirting, but I wouldn't worry about random social media activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:49 PM
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Would you want to date that type of woman that is regularly at bars and out partying? That behaviour says something to me. It's not a moral or character judgment, but it's not compatible with my values or life. I wouldn't want someone like that even if they stopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:20 PM
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I'll get back to you on that one, but definitely not meth.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:16 PM
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But you did. People have different behaviors from when they are single vs when they are dating. When you're single you only have to worry about your happiness. When you're in a relationship you have to also consider the happiness of your partner. Idk just me if my partner came and simply asked me to wear less revealing clothes, which is very reasonable, I'd do it because their happiness is more important to me than getting attention from random people I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:53 PM
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I never said those can’t be deal breakers. The point you’re not getting is if your fiancé meets all those criteria but she happens to listen to Taylor swift and you have Taylor swift would you break off your engagement over that? If I genuinely hated her for some very specific reason and thought she was evil? Yes. Not liking something isn't the same as a disagreement or even a deal breaker, but your deal breakers can be anything. You are free to remain single for life. Thank fucking god you’re f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:49 PM
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It's up to each individual what is, not you or me. They can decide for themselves what is unreasonable and many other people on this thread also found it unreasonable. Everything can actually be a deal breaker, because most people don't want to compromise on what matters to them and you don't get to tell them what matters. For me it's that he has to be an attractive Christian virgin with matching political values and social beliefs. There's 0 compromise available in there, absolutely 0. That's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:21 PM
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Congrats welcome to the fact you’re going to have to make compromises in a relationship. Glad you finally made it here. No, I was going to have to find someone compatible. There's no compromise on anything important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:09 PM
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Ahh yes because you’re going to find someone who is perfectly 100% compatible with you. Likes everything you do. Has the same dislikes. Agrees with everything you say or think. For things that matter to me? Yes! Why would I be with any man that doesn't share my values? My values matter as much as his own and it's important that they match or i would rather be single. That’s like the slob that doesn’t pick up after themselves, leaves dishes in the sink saying “you must love me how I am! How dare …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 08:27 PM
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Bullshit. Again you’re not a perfect fucking person. That’s unreasonable to you. That doesn’t make that unreasonable generally. There’s a huge difference. Saying you don’t like broccoli is different than nobody should like broccoli. I don't date people that like broccoli and then tell them that they should hate it because I do. I date people that don't like broccoli, like a normal person seeks compatible partners. The idea you’re some magical person who is 100% perfect and should never have to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 08:06 PM
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Imagine being with someone in college. They play 8 hours of video games a day. Is it unacceptable to expect them to not do that when you both have careers and a kid? It's perfectly reasonable to expect change in someone, especially something like spending half your day playing video games. Is it reasonable for a girl to date that guy playing video games 8 hours a day to tell him that he can't do that the day after they enter a relationship because that time should be spent on her instead? That's…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 07:38 PM
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So yes it’s acceptable. Doesn’t mean that I would agree to it. However, some people absolutely would be. It’s called negotiation. This thread is not about compromise and negotiation. It's about "boundaries vs controlling behaviour" with what they can't do simply because you are now their partner. That is a demand. Is it reasonable for your new gf to demand that you stop golfing during these days and times to be with her instead or stop riding a motorcycle because you decided to be exclusive? No,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 07:22 PM
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I'm not. I am asking how is it okay to date and pursue a relationship with someone that you don't find acceptable and then expecting them to change for you. Can you answer that or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 07:12 PM
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I like golf. If I have a wife and kids I absolutely would be open to playing less golf to spend time with my kids. Does that mean get rid of it altogether? Of course not. But that’s up for me and me wife to negotiate what that looks like. Not your wife and family. Your new gf says that you can only golf at these times for this long, because she expects that other time to be spent on her. Is that accept behaviour? Your gf says no motorcycle and expect you to stop. Acceptable?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 07:09 PM
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The idea of it being off limits at all is again nonsense. That is what OP is saying. It's reasonable to him and she would be willing to do it for his happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 07:03 PM
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Why are you dating and pursuing a relationship with someone that doesn't meet your expectations for dressing appropriately?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:58 PM
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Do you think it's reasonable to date and pursue someone that plays video games for 6 hours a day, become an official couple, and then tell that they can't play video games because you want that time spent on you? Is that an acceptable expectation for change? Because according to OP it is one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:57 PM
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You mean things that you have to agree to and can't expect? Yes, those things. You have to agree to monogamy. You have to agree to commitment. Also who says 5 minutes ago? OP did when he said that it's because you're now in a relationship with them and it's reasonable to expect them to want to make you happy by changing that behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:48 PM
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Asking is not controlling. I never made that statement. Expecting her to dress differently, "because it's reasonable and she would want him to be happy", is controlling. No one said he can't ask, but he sure as hell can't expect only because they're in a relationship now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:45 PM
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No, you were fine with her behaviour when you met her dressing revealing and posting thirst traps. She was attractive and you pursued a relationship. Expecting her to now dress or act differently only because you're official is controlling. You were okay with it until that point and she didn't agree to this change is you're saying dress differently, because l have boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:28 PM
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She was dating other men too and you agreed to become monogamous in that relationship. You can also agree to keep seeing other people. She can agree to wear less revealing clothes and she can also say no, that's not acceptable. You can't tell someone what to do and expect them to do it because it's what YOU alone want and it was never a problem before.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:17 PM
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I would have no problem with a partner expecting someone to grow, mature etc appropriately. Is not that same l now expect you to stop doing the things that made you attractive to me and I enjoyed 5 mins ago because we are now "official".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:11 PM
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I don't wear revealing clothing of any sort unless it's a party dress, but I would absolutely not change how I dress because it was what he wanted. He can go find a woman that likes that and leave me to be happy on my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:05 PM
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To improve the relationship? Yes, but because you want something doesn't improve the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:30 PM
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Changes on our own? Yes. We decided to spend more time together rather than with friends. That is completely unrelated to a boubdary. Changes that either of us asked for? There were none.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:26 PM
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Do you think the happiness of your partner is importnat Not if he wants to be in a relationship with someone that isn't me and who he dated and claimed to want. No, absolutely not. I don't date people that I don't want and my expectations and boundaries for their behaviour do not change because we both single or in a relationship together.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:24 PM
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I'm engaged to a man that loves me exactly the way I am now and still the same as the day we met. I feel the same about him and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone that wasn't already what I wanted in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:19 PM
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Idk just me if my partner came and simply asked me to wear less revealing clothes, which is very reasonable, I'd do it because their happiness is more important to me than getting attention from random people I don't know. I have a boundary about not changing my behaviour that was acceptable and even attractive to you because you have developed an insecurity and nothing else has changed. That's a boundary and a break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:17 PM
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It is controlling when you expect someone different in a relationship. That's not a boundary. You wouldn't have been dating them of it were a boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:13 PM
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You think it's a terrible idea for your partner to not expect you to be the person you chose and presented yourself to be with them? That's new. Why else did you select them? For what they could be? How much time are you willing to waste waiting to see if that turn into that person?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:06 PM
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What if you didn't know the person you were dating took meth before you started dating them. Are you controlling because you try to get them to stop? Full stop instant break up, because I don't date meth addicts. If something is unacceptable to me then it's 100% on me to find a compatible partner. It is not on the partner I chose to mould themselves into what I decided I now want from them. You didn't know these girls were dressing like that when you dated them and posting thirst traps??
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:03 PM
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No, they shouldn't have the expectation of turning into someone else because they are with you. Behaviour is acceptable or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:00 PM
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I don't want a relationship with a meth addict. I also don't date them or pursue them, ask them for commitment, and decide that meth is now a boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 04:55 PM
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I think it depends on if they were doing it when they met you or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 04:43 PM
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I don't think most virgins would immediately assume underwhelming means bad at sex, but if it continued repeatedly then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 04:25 PM
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If she was never promiscuous, there is NO comparison (esp sleeping with half people in the same city) and you'll never wonder why sex is BAD I am a virgin. Being a virgin doesn't mean that I don't know if something feels good or not. We'd still know what bad sex is when something is unpleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 04:17 PM
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I see the disconnect now. Depends on how serious things get, or if you're even looking for something that serious. I don't date casually or have sex. There's no need for me to play games. There won't be a date if I am not interested in potentially pursuing something serious. Sometimes the downsides of having a certain conversation outweigh the benefits. Only if you're playing childish games, assume conflict will happen, or you don't want the conversation because you're afraid it would result in …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 12:34 PM
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It's not wrong, but it also applies to all of the past. That includes a sexual history or a lack of success or ability to get a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 12:22 PM
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Most men are perfectly capable of having the conversation, it's just that women don't like it when we bring it up because by and large, they want us to pay. Do you really want to date someone that you can't talk to because they won't like the conversation? There will be much more difficult conversations than splitting a bill. The point of doing this is so that the woman doesn't find out...... I have had waiters ask at the table if it's separate or both and l have had waiters assume it's one bill…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 12:16 PM
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TL;DR get there early and ask the server for separate cheques before she gets there. Can't believe this advice isn't more widespread. I've also seen a post on TRP before suggesting something similar: you excuse yourself for a bathroom break, find the server, and ask him to bring separate cheques. I think the other one is better, but if you don't get there before her you can try this. I'm sorry, but this makes you look like a bitch that's intimidated by women. This would be an instant no for me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 12:06 PM
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My very best friend happens to be a guy and there is literally nothing that I can't talk to him about. I do have friends that talk about sexual topics, but it's quite rare, even from the men. We have conversations about who we like and traits that we find attractive, but everyone tends to be respectful. I think it has much more to do with your lifestyle and individual values rather than gender. I wouldn't be friends or keep speaking to anyone that made me feel uncomfortable or disrespected.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:43 AM
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Choosing not to date or seek out relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 01:23 AM
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By that definition it's probably the majority of people that weren't waiting for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 01:21 AM
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No, it's saying that she views all men that way. That girl didn't say I see my man's house as a reflection of me. She said a man's house is a reflection of the woman that he is with, not herself, but any woman in a relationship with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 07:27 PM
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Yes, because kids have a mind of their own. I have a lot of very nice things. Is it an attack on men or not if I say that your woman's purse collection is a reflection of your worth as a partner? The only thing a man's house is a reflection of is if he's a slob or too poor to hire a maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 07:04 PM
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“A Man’s House is a Reflection of the woman he's with" is most certainly an attack on women that aren't homemakers. Is your parent's house spotless? Hope so, because it means your mom is otherwise trash to her. She could have said I feel it's my responsibility to take care of my man and our home, but she didn't. She made it about other women and that is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 06:51 PM
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You can't be a pick me without putting down other women or feeling superior to them. No one calls a more traditional woman a pick me for doing those things. It's 100% that attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 06:27 PM
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How are these sites any worse or worse than r/whereareallthegoodmen ? As long as they aren't posting their names or contact information it's no different. Their allowed to post pics on there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 08:41 AM
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No, it wouldn't change. I would throw away the man and get a new one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 01:38 PM
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Anyway, if women were judgemental about it then it would matter Many men on this sub constantly say "it's different" when sexually conservative women have the same standards for a partner. Many women are judgmental about it. It matters to anyone that cares about it. They don't need to lower their standards. What they need to realize is that the people they want don't need to lower their standards and accept them either.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 09:45 AM
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My husband will be a virgin or there won't be a relationship. This premise is ridiculous outside of that. Your partner doesn't owe you something because they did something or tolerated it from an ex. People are allowed to have growing and have changing boundaries. Those boundaries are allowed to be applied to their spouse too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:57 AM
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I would leave him if he didn't meet my needs regardless of the reason. It's my responsibility to make certain that I choose a partner that meets my needs. He's clearly not the one in that situation. I wouldn't care about how he treated his ex or what he did for them if it doesn't matter to me. The only thing that matters in my relationship are the 2 people in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:44 AM
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It's not blaming them, but it is saying that it's their responsibility to handle the trauma. I didn't ask to have cancer at 22 years old. There was nothing fair about it either. I had to handle it either way. No one could do that for me. There was no point in being angry and bitter. I could have blamed things on God. What would living that way get me? How would it help me? That's how you have to face it. That bitterness and self hate, regardless of the source, only hurts you, and it keeps you fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:27 AM
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It could include therapy, but treating any mental illnesses, and working through past trauma. Not being bitter or resentful towards people. Working on your self esteem and self image.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:10 AM
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It only ups their odds if that is the thing that is turning others off despite being attracted
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:23 PM
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Also, that's a clever distinction between creating attraction and removing obstacles to attraction. You're not removing an obstacle from creating attraction. You're removing the thing that is ending it for their side.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:12 PM
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Would you classify the classic PUA techniques like push-pull and negging as simply removing obstacles or are they examples of creating attraction? I don't think it works. The attraction was already there. Same for confidence. Some level of attraction was already there. I would recommend self improvement for yourself, because there's no guarantee that it will change anything else at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:09 PM
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You can not create attraction, but you can have obstacles that turn others off. A lack of social skills will turn off most people making their initial interest end almost immediately. They'd be able to date with that issue removed. That's not creating attraction. That's removing an obstacle. It's not contradictory.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:48 PM
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Figure out why they're single, and try to change it,, because most people aren't struggling to find partners whether they're women or men. Or get money and look for a gold digger. You can't create attraction or feelings if nothing is there for you. No amount of self improvement is going to give someone that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:24 PM
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Have you talked to her about why she seems to be feeling differently towards you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 06:09 PM
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No one can force themselves to be attracted or like you on any level. It's not possible. What is it that would help them in that case? Forced companionship?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 05:28 PM
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I don't think anyone is saying they have no right to be sad. They're saying you have no right to be angry at people for not developing feelings that they can't control for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 04:34 PM
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They don't feel that any man has oppressed them by not wanting them. They made choices to live their lives that way and most of them could have married.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 04:28 PM
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I know women that regret not meeting the right guy, but not a single woman that has said she wishes she had married someone she did date. There's a difference between regretting not meeting the one and not getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 04:24 PM
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You don't need to be married to have children or to raise them. You need money. I know multiple women that remained single in their lives and adopted children. They almost became nuns, but decided to become single parents instead. Some people genuinely don't want a relationship or the responsibility that comes with them. Most men also have multiple relationships and sex partners in their lifetime and aren't excluding women that have done the same. Most women are not struggling to find men that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 04:18 PM
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Some women want that. Just as guys shouldn't be worried about women that exclude them from their preferences too for the same reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 04:04 PM
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I think of improving yourself as looking your best, improving your social skills, and working on your mental health. All 3 of those things are to YOUR benefit, but they may or may not attract help you attract a partner as well. Any self improvement should be about your benefit. There's nothing you can do or change that is going to guarantee attracting someone that wants you, but you should always want to be the best version of yourself whether single or in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 02:50 PM
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conservative (male friends are a no go, high bodycount is disgusting etc all those things) Neither of these things are traits of "conservative" people. You shouldn't find people disgusting because they're not compatible with you. You simply don't date them. You also don't try to control people or live in constant jealousy. These are traits of jealous insecure people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:24 PM
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It makes you normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:21 PM
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I mean, she can do all of that, but not in a relationship with me. So you agree with everyone that says she can do what she wants, but you shouldn't date her if she isn't on the same page as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:52 PM
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Women do not report that they will take a man because he's intelligent and ambitious. They want that in a man that they find attractive. Attraction is the bar you must meet first.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:57 PM
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This is about men ( who you don't know) choosing to pursue younger women with low body counts ( who you also don't know) for relationships. This is about whether those men can realistically attain those women. There are statistics and studies for both height preferences and age gap relationships that are available. Less than 8% of relationships in western countries have an age gap of 10+ years. The countries with the largest average age gaps, being almost 15 years, are African Muslim countries. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:08 AM
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10 years of living, normal life lived experiences, working, and friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 03:27 PM
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There is a difference in those situations, but it makes no difference to anyone that feels like they have been settled for or are settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:44 PM
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But you're no different. Are you saying that you don't have the ideal woman in your head that you know is unachievable as a partner? You can't get her. Why does that only matter for her and not you? Very few people get their ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:28 PM
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You are more likely to find an older woman that has lower expectations for a parter. That's all it is or will be and they're not wrong. Younger women are the most wanted and have their pick of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:22 PM
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That's not because they older as much as most of them are sexually experienced and they want that in a partner. There's no other real difference though. Women not finding you attractive isn't going to change if they're younger. There are going to be young virgins that want a sexually experienced guy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:14 PM
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I think it would be the same at any age for women. That's not going to be different with younger women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:06 PM
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This is the tough one, but I knew girls from overseas who came from more conservative cultures where it was the norm for older men to court younger women. One of those girls married a guy over 10 years her senior shortly after high school. His best bet may be to travel abroad either for a wife or to build experience and sort of reinvent himself in new environments. I don't disagree with this, but the fact remains that he's 40 and hasn't figured out what makes him undesirable. He has to figure th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 11:35 AM
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He wants her to be sexually conservative, never had casual sex, and physically desirable. He also doesn't want a woman settling for him because she's running out of options. He's screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 10:59 AM
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The market dictates your value, not you. It works that way for everyone. People get together because they are attracted to each other or whatever so what is attractive about a women that no one wanted that would make me want to date her? What would make any desirable woman want to date you? That's a genuine question, because it has to go both ways in order to have a relationship or sexual desire. You said you don't want a woman that is settling for you. That's understandable, but what do you bri…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 09:55 AM
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He's a 40 year old virgin. The only real shot he has is with a woman that no one wanted or a gold digger.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 09:14 AM
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So only you are allowed to want what you want? No one said that. Want all you want, but it doesn't become a problem when you don't get it. I would rather have stayed single than to be with someone that didn't fit what I wanted, but you also wouldn't find me online complaining that I have options, but I want better. My choices are my own and not someone else's problem. You wanting a girl without experience doesn't become our problem. You have to face it that younger experienced women are the most…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 09:03 AM
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Yes they are the same age but they are at two different stages in life. Not to mention some men will be bitter because having no success until later on makes you look like a consolation prize (yes I know most people don't marry or stay with their first choice but that's different than having no success). I'm 23. I am not in the same stage of life of someone in their 30's because we are both virgins. I also don't want someone bitter or inexperienced with relationships either. I want a virgin. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 08:38 AM
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I think that's reasonable. She would be intentionally wasting your time at that point if she didn't disclose those things and the conversation had been had about what you both want.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:38 PM
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So that's what I'm imagining when I talk about the moral obligation to say things you know probably matter to the other party. Even though you're not "in a relationship", you're spending time building a relationship with that person, so I find it reasonable to expect the woman to disclose certain things. Do you go out with friends? Have lunches and dinners? Invest time? Spend money? Do you expect them to tell you those things or would that be inappropriate for the relationship that you have with…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:37 PM
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Unless that man says he is looking for a relationship and commitment with her then none of that is his business.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:30 PM
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Why does cheating matter if someone only wants sex? There's no relationship in the future for cheating. Why does a fwb matter when you only want sex and are also a fwb? Why does porn or prostitution matter when you're using them as a free prositute only for sex? That's exactly what is happening if you're having sex without a relationship. Why do you have a right to that information, not asked for, if you haven't said that you want a serious relationship and she should assume that you're like tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:28 PM
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I believe in waiting for marriage, but I also believe that a person has a right to their past until there's commitment on the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:21 PM
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It's not morally wrong to do that, no. If someone wants a serious relationship and doesn't want just sex, they should be upfront about what they want. Because it's reasonable to assume that the guy might just want sex. It's now reasonable to assume that she's having casual sex then too, even with a fwb. If it's reasonable to assume a guy only wants sex then why does disclosing any other that matter until he says he wants a relationship with her? You have different expectations for women. It's no…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:20 PM
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If you're not bf/gf then there's no relationship. You're "friends" that have no obligation to see each other or to share things that you don't want known. Would you expect any other female friend to disclose that to you? So you think the reasonable thing to do is to go on multiple dates with the guy, wait for him to ask the girl to be his GF, and then once they're officially BF and GF the woman says "Oh, btw, I've done 9 porn movies in my life, many of which had gangbang scenes. Thought you shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:12 PM
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Do you think it's morally wrong for date women and have sex with them if they have no intention of having a long term relationship with them? If not then why does it matter? "I'll smash a hoe, but not commit to one." Do think it's morally wrong for a man to not disclose that past behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:09 PM
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Before any relationship? No, not really. I would expect them to disclose it at that point, but not before then unless specifically asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:58 PM
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I never dated men that I didn't know from social circles with a strong feel for their background. They were usually in my friend groups AND from church. I already know their histories and reputation and they know mine. Like, you probably care about knowing that a man you're interested in murdered someone in the past, but you'd probably not ask it. No one is admitting to that either, but you're a fool if you don't do a background check and allow yourself to be alone with that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:52 PM
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I wouldn't date a guy that's not a virgin. What other people do is their private affairs until you have commitment. If it's important to you then ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:41 PM
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I don't think any of that "needs" to be disclosed if you're not in a relationship, but I would also look at them and ask if they're still a virgin the moment they attempt to ask anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:37 PM
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I convinced my friends to do the thought experiment. Whenever you see a conventionally attractive woman. Keep all her traits but change her into a man. Then ask yourself what should be as sexually successful and would she be able to get away with the same behaviors? Right now from my perspective as a young black man you get compared to the worst types of men but you don't get their benefits. Every single type of bad man A woman describes that she went for or was dating is always a thug or correl…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 05:24 PM
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It appears that the US Supreme Court has already ruled on the issue here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:00 PM
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Happy Easter, Passover, or Sunday to you all!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 02:56 PM
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It's the same for many men. She's not feminine, submissive, or has the sexual appetite of a male. Ick! People that endorse and want gender roles for the opposite sex get the ick from those that don't comply. Many of those same people also fail to live up to their own gender roles in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 02:55 PM
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Did or did the police not raid the underage sex shop? Facts do indeed matter, because it was govt administration task force of the govt and not the police. It's right there in the article. No police stopped the child prostitution or any of the prostitution and ALL of it is illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:01 PM
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evidenced by governmental action to stop it and punish perpetrators Including multiple local police officers hat were responsible for stopping it and didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:24 PM
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You should be welcomed at any church to watch and check it out. There's a ton of variation between then even from the same denomination.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:07 PM
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It's estimated that 1/4 to 1/2 of "prositutes" in Thailand are minors and their families sell many of them. A special government task force arresting a handful of people, including police officers, or shutting down a handful of clubs and ignoring the rest does not support it not being tolerated. Prostitution is illegal and not stopped. Do you really believe that they're checking ages for criminal activity? Why aren't all of these clubs shut down if it's not tolerated? Why are there police allowi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 12:58 PM
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The legal age to drink in Thailand is 20. The legal age to work in Thailand is 18. The legal age for consensual sex in Thailand is 18 The age of consent is 15. The age children can work is 15, but they have different working laws as most countries have them for minors. But, it's also true that these districts have no shortage of law enforcement and are not some fly-by-night operation holding girls hostage. There was a raid 2 weeks ago shutting down multiple businesses for offering underage child…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 10:27 AM
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I always find it interesting that men refer to it as taking half of "their assets" as is half doesn't legally belong to her. It's her money/property too if it was acquired during the marriage and there is no separate accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:48 PM
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Well, women aren't entitled to the relationship either. A claim l have never made. I don't think people are entitled to sex or relationships. Casual sex should always been seen as casual sex and a date is nothing more than a date. There can't be added expectations from someone wanting more than what the other party consented to in either case.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:17 PM
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The same way men claim they get used for food dates. How does one get used by taking a girl out that he asked for dinner? It was his idea and he consented.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:41 PM
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Ok and so why is it an issue to get married for sex? When the bible literally says its a good thing for you to get married and have sex within marriage if they are lustful. You're again saying something that I never said, but okay. I said the Bible says sex and marriage are not a need or a requirement. The OP said that sex is a need if you are religious, but it's not. You're creating your own argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:16 PM
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It's a good thing that I've never made those claims. I quoted passages that show the Bible doesn't say sex or marriage is a need for anyone. Its literally a guide for how to live a good life and that includes relieving your sexual urges as a man. The Bible does say that lust or looking at anyone with lust in their heart is a sin. It says that it's better to be married and to have sex only with your spouse rather to be sexually immoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 10:48 AM
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Genesis 2:18 — The New International Version (NIV) 18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” There was literally 1 man and only one man. That does not mean that you or any man are deserving of a wife or given one. She was made for him alone. 1 Corinthians 7:9 — The New International Version (NIV) But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion Yes, because sex outside of mar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:43 PM
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The church disagrees with that take too. Sex is only to be had in a marriage and the Bible doesn't require or say that marriage or sex is a need. 1 Corinthians 7:8 — The New International Version (NIV) 8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:12 PM
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I saw the post before you edited it. You said that you were currently 127lbs. You are clearly mentally unwell and that is much more important than your height issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:25 PM
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How does you having no issues help me ? I’m looking for advise You might want to go back and edit that eating disorder post again. You changed your weight by 11lbs to be the same as the one you listed here, but over there you forgot to adjust the height to 5'11...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:17 PM
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5'9, athletic, and never had an issue due to my height.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:09 PM
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You're acting like height is the end of it. How many of those women are also attractive or have a nice build? How many of those women are also dealing with racism for being black or weight issues? Many taller women also feel the same way I do too. You feel that way, not all taller women. It's more than height unless you're over 6'+.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:06 PM
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I've never had issues dating as a taller woman. Your experiences are the complete opposite of mine. I get compliments on my height.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:02 PM
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You literally said preteens and teens are looking for love, sex, and companionship. All in one sentence, so yes, you did say it and it's creepy af.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:05 PM
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You specifically mentioned preteens. No 10-12 year olds are in no way sexual and they are CHILDREN, not just minors, and it's creepy af to sexualize children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:59 PM
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No, most minors have friends, sports, and social lives. They do not sit at home crying into the void about being unloved because they experience platonic love. There are other ways of getting your emotional needs met besides a partner. Pills have nothing to do with the natural biological impulses of preteens and teenagers for love, sex and companionship. Don't sexualize children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:22 PM
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That doesn't absolve a parent from having to spend lots of money on the ER visits for a mentally unwell child that has had their sanity destroyed by the superficiality of a future dating market. Something is wrong with your parenting AND your child if your minor is obsessed with dating and into all of this pill stuff. Kids are not thinking about this stuff. Or did you mean adults that are responsible for their own lives that want to be seen as helpless children while also being seen as sexual ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:16 PM
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I think you need to narrow down "relationship". A friend with benefits is a relationship. Poly people are in relationships. What kind of relationship do you define as a relationship? Marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 08:33 PM
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I would tell them to see a sex worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 07:03 PM
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I think approaching is fine, but do it where you would be comfortable being approached by a man as well. A nervous man following a guy through a parking lot to his car is going to look weird no matter what he wants. Be respectful, accept a no gracefully, and don't push into their personal space. If you can do those 3 things then it's perfectly fine to approach someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 06:47 PM
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“It’s obviously better to capitalize on [good looks and youth] and land a better man, no?” I've always seen that as people wanting women to act like prostitutes to get "better men" that want them for those things in exchange for what they value. I don't value men that think women are prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 04:20 PM
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"Okay, but do it somewhere else. Blood stains are so hard to remove."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 04:10 PM
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You had 3 dates. You literally don't know anything about this girl except that she's clearly unstable. Don't put yourself in stupid situations and then expect others to look have acted like you assumed they should based on statistics and projections.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 03:16 PM
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She's not too young to have kids if she or her family can financially support them. You want her to feel that way. The average age of first birth for women in the US is apparently 27 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 03:05 PM
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Do you know what fixes depression? People that love you and can't leave, just saying, plenty of very depressed people have children in an attempt to fix their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:56 PM
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Too mentally unstable to date, but stable enough to not risk trapping a man with pregnancy? Okay. You tried to break it off and she slept with you, unprotected, on a 3rd date. I don't want to know what kind of woman you consider a risk if she doesn't strike you that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:46 PM
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You had unprotected sex with a mentally unstable almost stranger as if stds don't exist or she's not doing this on the regular? You do know a woman can remove or dislodge an iud herself too, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:29 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with people that sleep with whoever they want, but as a virgin I only want another virgin, no exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 06:50 PM
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Conservative/religious girls want conservative religious guys. Nothing in that statement says that they want a man that isn't still sexually attractive on top of it. Going to church, being a virgin, or having a conservative family background also doesn't mean a girl is religious or conservative herself. You're making assumptions based on circumstances. Being a sexually attractive guy that women want has nothing to do with how he behaves if he is conservative or religious himself. That man is att…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 04:25 PM
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If she doesn't, either she has a disease or she doesn't love him. Or she feels disrespected and not valued as his partner and that will turn her off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 01:24 PM
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They're not using them for attention or validation. They're using them to vent their problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 09:17 PM
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Male attention from men they desire, not men they rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 09:11 PM
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If I say no then I mean no. There's no attraction or a serious compatibility flaw exists and neither of those are capable of being changed. Asking a 2nd time looks desperate and will make me completely avoid you. Asking a 3rd time will make me think that you're possibly a stalker. Asking after that will have the police telling you to never speak to me again.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 08:44 PM
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He isn't getting it now and keeping him doesn't seem to be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:30 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:27 PM
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A Dickmas Carol is a holiday classic.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:10 PM
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There’s a saying that goes “it takes money to make money” and a similar analogy holds for the dating market. Chad’s charm and poise often comes with experience from previous relationships. Things such as knowing how to approach, properly read a girl, escalating comfortably, good pickup lines, etc. come from having many relationships. Even if a virgin guy has a 6 pack and 6ft it doesn’t mean he has the other part down. That has nothing to do with sexual restraint. I don't want a guy that has had …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:12 PM
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I mean look at your own username. You yourself want a Chad . Almost certainly he won’t be a virgin, but you’ll still go for him once he shows interest. Chad doesn't mean he has a lack of sexual restraint. Chad means women want him. It has 0 to do with his beliefs or actions. I got him and he is a virgin like myself, because our faith is the most important part of our lives. I have rejected plenty of men for having had sex. I dated 1 exception, because he had been married and had no other experie…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:33 PM
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What they don’t tell you as much is that in order to get those types of women, you need to be traditional and religious yourself. How is that not common sense? That's as bad as "no one told me that people need to find me sexually attractive too."
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:20 AM
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But she gets a man with sexual experience that could (maybe?) please another woman. He definitely isn't single because he couldn't keep another woman nor does he have commitment issues. Those unicorns are waiting by the field full waiting for her to walk by and be overcome by their alpha experience. Hold me back ladies, I might not be able to resist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:45 AM
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Do you care what other men do or how they feel? No, because you're not trying to get with them. Why would a woman care about your opinion when you're not the type of man that she wants? Do you think anyone cares if you, me, or anyone else ends up alone? No, and why should they? They're your standards alone to have in selecting a partner. There are many men that don't care despite what you tell yourself. Yes and your average man can't sleep around anyway because he's average so it sounds like a f…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:21 AM
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I was raised in the Christian church and wouldn't have dated a convert for that reason. I want someone that was raised with the same faith/views and followed them. It's also interesting how many non virgin men in the church want a wife that lives by the faith. Keep it moving, buddy. I'm happy that you found God, now go find a different woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:13 AM
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They have 0 reason not to do it because men have routinely been caving on their actual standards to not end up alone in this vicious dating climate we currently have. That's not her problem. Many people have no issue staying single rather than accepting someone they don't want. She has no reason not to live how she wants, especially for a man that she doesn't want. Nothing is a better predictor of future loyalty than a woman that can't be tempted by casual sex and has always preferred long term …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:09 AM
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You should go read the Quran. The father has to approve. He doesn't say yes or make the decision for her. Forced marriage actually goes against Islam, which is a part of my point. They want control, not religion. Religious women want men that share the same values.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:04 AM
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With all of the men talking about spinning plates and seeking casual sex? Absolutely not. No religion condones premarital sex of any kind. What they seek is the control of women through religion while thinking the rules don't apply to them too. That's not religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:57 PM
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It's a complete non starter. Men are upset that more women don't act like they want so they're willing to date them, but those women never wanted that type of man regardless of their n count. I am a virgin waiting for marriage. I would never be with a man that judged sexual history on anything other than religious values and I wouldn't be with a man that's not a virgin. I don't care how others live, because I don't want them and they don't want me. Women that want to sleep around have 0 reason n…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:53 PM
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Women don’t need to justify or defend their sexual choices to anyone, because no one is being forced to date them. Men don’t need to justify their choices either. You have your personal opinions that can be applied to your future partner, but they don't apply to the girl that doesn't want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 09:56 PM
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It depends on the action and the person receiving it. It's not perceived by gender, but by the individual. That's why you see so many mixed signals. There are many people that won't like it and reject a person and those that won't care or mind it at all. It doesn't work the same for everyone, regardless of their gender. There's very little logic or consensus to it. Men want sex. Many men want casual sex. Many of those same men don't want a relationship with someone that has had casual sex. Some …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:09 PM
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So I have to consider whether I'm being unrealistic or not What you have to consider is whether your morals and beliefs are more important than sex or a partner that you know you don't actually want. That's what it comes down to in the end. I would remain a virgin and single for life than to compromise on my religious beliefs or what I want in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:31 PM
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Are your moral standards high? Yes? Cool, but if they're beating the crap out of your psychological state by preventing you from existing in a stable state, sometimes you need to reconsider what's more important, or whether you've set yourself an impossible standard. Been there, done that, and stuck to them despite it. Why? Because they matter to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:04 PM
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I think I'm a moral person, I'd like to achieve success by moral means. Why are we even giving power to these idiots who can't even think clearly, straight and logically? Why are we letting them to sexual-select? Why are you chasing and complaining about women that you consider to be immoral and shallow instead of focusing on women that share your views and values? There's nothing logical about that behaviour. You're selecting them and then complaining about your choices. We might as well all be…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:49 PM
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Everyone should learn how to be attractive, but we're not going in circles. Is it manipulative for a girl that has casual sex to not have sex with you early in a relationship because she's learned that's what gets men? Men don’t want a relationship with easy women. How does that relate to being authentic being better for a man or a woman? It's not authentic when you're doing that. If she was authentic she would have sex or not based on what she wanted instead of a script, but she learned it as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:54 PM
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I'm going to use something you said here as an example to show you the difference. Interesting. Wouldn't a naturally flirty man (if attractive) get away with saying "Good morning beautiful?". Wouldn't a naturally flirty man be able to break the touch barrier easily (he just wouldn't use those terms)? I'm interested to hear your thoughts, could you explain more? What happens when you can't break the touch barrier, but you know she has a body count of 25? You can't break it because she's learned t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:38 PM
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To answer your first question, of course I would want a woman who wants me. But that's not mutually exclusive with the process of learning how to become more attractive to me so that she can get me. That girl would be doing the same thing. She's pretending to be someone different so that she can get with you for whatever reason. That's why I said it has to become natural behaviour that goes across your entire life. If you're pretending to be someone else it's manipulation. That's different than …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:25 PM
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Would you want to be with a woman that didn't genuinely enjoy doing things with you or felt that she had to act a certain way to get the results that she wanted from you or do you want a woman that wants you? The first is performing the social script too. That's why it comes down to being authentic and comfortable. Learning social skills is great, but it needs to become natural to you in a way that's not about manipulating a situation to get a specific result.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:51 PM
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If a man was socially competent and comfortable in all of those situations it wouldn't make a difference, because we all "learn" our social skills throughout life. It would be strange and very noticeable to only have them related to one area of his life. That case wouldn't be learned social skills, but more like reading a script. That script isn't going to help him make friends, be out in groups on the weekend, or spending the weekend with her family. What you are calling natural is someone that…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:42 PM
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Someone that has learned game or techniques is not going to have the same outgoing nature or charm that goes along in the rest of their life outside of trying to meet women. I want someone that is naturally social and good with ALL of those situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:32 PM
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I think you'll be alright. That's a good amount of time to know if you both really mean what you're saying about building a life together. It's going to be scary no matter what, but I think 2 years really helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:51 PM
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How long have you been together?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 02:56 PM
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Most guys do not give advice to another men about women and which one to avoid. We let them figure it out themselves. That has nothing to do with did they know. Did they know better? That's a personal opinion, not a lack of awareness of their past actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 01:14 PM
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Do you really think that some random person in their school knows all of these details about their being exposed and their partner from the same school isn't aware too? They know this doctor married a stripper and the doctor doesn't know he married a sex worker? People in your condo complex somehow know details of your sex life and you don't have a reputation? Yes, these people know. They clearly don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 01:02 PM
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Not everyone cares about sexual history. Those people obviously don't care and it's their lives. Why does anyone else care about that if they're both happy and aware?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 12:42 PM
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Are these men ugly or suffering from some social deficit that prevents women from dating them like every other guy? Most men are dating, having sex, and getting relationships. Women are already interested in them if they're not ugly or suffering from social/mental issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:49 AM
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They are still only 2% of the population. By default it's extraordinarily rare, not easy. Many of those 2% are already married and many don't want to marry too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:40 AM
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When I say rich men I mean men who are plastic surgeons, judges, neurosurgeon's, business owners, or anyone whos earning around 300,000 usd a year 300k is the top 2% of men. How is that easy for women to marry?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:35 AM
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He's a hot millionaire that couldn't pull women on his level in the west because they're don't care about money. 😂 That's his claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:55 PM
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So your super submissive traditional woman actually likes attention from other men, made no move to stop it even after dating you, and you had to do something about it. Definitely traditional and submissive 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:39 PM
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Totally. That's 100% the answer. Can you explain what I'm jealous of exactly? Is it the guy that his own "friends" don't respect and he had to move halfway around the world to get attractive girls despite being a "hot millionaire" or the girls that he admits sleep around because no other man wants them? Am I jealous that your friends think she's a hoe and are trying to bang her too? Help me out here, because traditional submissive women that you claim you're getting there don't act like that. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:14 PM
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I feel good that I have a fan girl who stalks my post history though ! I find you hilarious, especially when you post about how you get consistent sex on Tinder whenever and then admit that the girls that sleep around are men no one else wants. But of course your 10/10 unicorn, that might or might not be your girlfriend depending on the post, can't talk on social media to these same types men hangjng out with in person. You don't need a club to talk to friends. You don't need social media either…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:04 PM
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You're a trip. You’re talking about a totally different topic. It's a different topic why her getting attention on social media is different than being out. You 24 hours ago. If a girl is getting just as much attention on social media as she is getting in the club that it’s literally the same thing It's literally the same thing according to you, but you can't answer for your inconsistencies. Also you yesterday: I’m saying because if a dude has a lot of friends and is exposed to lots of women he’…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 04:44 PM
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Why are you deleting guys off of her social media and then asking why do guys get jealous of other dudes? You're clearly jealous and insecure about other men having the opportunity to talk to her and then asking me what's the issue. Why can't she have male friends on her social media? Why are you jealous of her relationships with them? Why are you worried about her screwing them or something if you're a high value hot millionaire and she's a 10? Why is it not a problem in person, but it is onlin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 04:27 PM
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No one said married. I said you are inconsistent with your stories. You're deleting men off of her social media, but keeping men around in person that disrespect you the moment you walk away? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 04:19 PM
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I would say fake. One minute she's his girlfriend that allows him to control her social media and who she talks to and the next he's only dating, too young for commitment, and she's surrounded by jealous men putting him down. There's no consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 04:12 PM
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What are some things you’re willing to look over? Or some things that you know will likely cause discord in the home? Nothing. He's right for me or he's not. I wouldn't be with someone that had different beliefs or values, because I will never bend for mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:16 PM
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I have a paraplegic family member. They're paralyzed below their rib cage and have full use of their arms. I think you mean a quadriplegic. I would hire help for physical care.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:07 PM
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If she can post thirst traps then so can he. If she can like other pics of others then so can he. He or she can't do something completely different and call it the same. That's like he says hi to his female co-workers so that means she can sext with hers. They're not the same thing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 02:27 PM
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You’re looking at the stats for both genders. “The new study found that 52 percent of single young men (ages 18 to 29) were not dating but open to it, So roughly half of single men are not open to dating. That's a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 11:12 PM
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According to the Survey Center on American Life, single people were about as likely to say that they’re not currently dating anyone and not looking to date (41 percent) as they were to say they were not dating someone but open to it (42 percent). Did you miss that part of the article? I’m saying non single men have better social lives. Being single poses disproportionate social penalties onto men. Yes having a poor social life gives you worse odds for dating, but it’s a two way street. For me, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 11:06 PM
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That doesn't mean they're not dating or are struggling to date. It doesn't mean that they're not actively socializing in mixed groups either. Single means not in a committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:54 PM
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None of them are currently single. They casually date around until they find someone that they want to see exclusively for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:51 PM
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That l see regularly outside of that group? Maybe 10-12. Do you think that you have the average male life if they're struggling to socialize or have friends? You're commenting about hooking up with some of your friends or how women are very friendly and will talk to you at a bar if you have the tiniest bit of confidence. Those same women will invite you to sit and talk to their friends. You're not in a relationship or needing to rely on it to network. What makes you different than them?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:39 PM
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You only have experience with men who have gotten by but still nonetheless rely on relationships as a form of social networking That's not even close to the truth. We've known each other since we were children and grew up together in church. They're not relying on their relationships for a social circle. They were already there before and after each relationship. You're making assumptions. Are you the average guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:28 PM
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A man shouldn’t have to be in a relationship to be stable and have an active social life. No one said they have to be in a relationship to have a social life, but they're all in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:23 PM
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Those men are out multiple times a week. We're young, 22-25. I know their friend groups, because we're all friends. They're not remotely socially isolated and that doesn't include the church functions that we all attend together. We go out as groups, a few couples, guys nights, and girls nights. Those men have dated multiple women and are all in relationships. Not one of them has struggled to find a partner. I've known them all since we very young kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:05 PM
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Do you think in men in relationships with active social lives are struggling with dating and social isolation? Those are the complaints made here. They're happy well adjusted guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:49 PM
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They're all in relationships and we all go out together. They're not secretly struggling in silence.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:09 PM
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Some women can only tolerate dating men who are content with how society is for men. Men don’t want to date women that hate them either or blame men for their problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 06:35 PM
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I don't dislike men at all. There are very specific men that I don't like, but I can't say that I have ever met a man that lives like this either. It seems like most of the men here are extremely bitter and unhappy. I don't know any guys like that or guys that are struggling with their personal/social lives either. It's definitely opened my eyes a lot to a subsection of society that's pretty disturbing to me. It also makes me sad and more appreciative that I am fortunate enough to be surrounded …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 05:47 PM
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Don't keep toxicity in your life and focus on your own goals. A partner should fit into your life. Your life should not fit around them or their goals. Take care of your health, including your mental health, and be happy with whatever you're doing. Make time for what is important to you and that includes your social life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:33 PM
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I want to say credit first, but only if you can fully pay off the bill before interest accrued and you have nice benefits from your card. After that debit and then cash. Who uses money orders or a check except for extremely rare occasions like a tax bill?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 03:47 PM
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You could be right, but it hasn't happened. I still hope my exes are happy and have good lives too. I don’t carry around ill will for people. It's a waste of time and space in my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:22 PM
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All of them. Maybe you have something to hide, but not me, and I expect my partner to be the same. I'm not marrying someone that doesn't live up to their religious values. Sorry, but the past matters for men and women. Your feelings don't change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:20 PM
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That wouldn't be problem at all. My fiancé has met my exes and everyone else including current and past classmates because we're still friends. I've met his too. He can talk to any of the over 500 people on my Facebook. Why is this a problem if you're not hiding something?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:07 PM
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I know that I couldn't. Nothing is more important than trust for a relationship to work and it would never be restored.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:49 AM
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I would never be with again, but I would still want him to be happy. That is love.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:47 AM
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Do you mean if he cheated on me? Yes. I would still want that. I'd still love him even if knew that I couldn't be with him. I would do my best to find forgiveness and move on with my life, but I still wouldn't him to be unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:36 AM
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I would rather he be happy, because I would be unhappy either way if he were miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:14 AM
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No, but if he was unhappy it would make me unhappy by default, because I love him as a friend and as person too. There's no point in both of us being unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:12 AM
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I would want him to be happy and have a good life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:11 AM
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No it doesn't. That means you're making her believe she's dating UP when in reality you may both be in the same league. This doesn't happen unless she's mentally ill. Leave your phone (unlocked) on the table with the fake bitches in your DM's. Never went through a guy's phone once. I don't want him if I can't trust him to handle it and act respectful at all times. Recount stories from work, which often involve another female coworker in the story. We don't see that as competition. It's a woman w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 07:18 PM
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Yes, I have dated them. We expect you to apologize when your gf sees it get out of hand and handle it, not tell us about it. A woman that knows she's got it will walk away, because you're trying to make her insecure and displaying disrespectful behaviour. Neither is attractive. This only works on woman that know they have actual competition from others and something to fear. That means you are dating down. Why are you dating down AND insecure about her leaving? That's a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:42 PM
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This will backfire in a spectacular fashion if a woman knows her worth. Why are men dating women that can be easily replaced? Why would a good woman stay with a man that gives out his number and allows women to disrespect his relationship? Why would she tolerate a man that disrespects her openly by proudly telling her that other women want him either? Fear of losing you to another bitch Never once in my life have I felt threatened by another woman. Perceived preselection makes you more attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:35 PM
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I don't know where they lost God during the 3 years of consistent Bible study that they attended next to me, appearing in church every Sunday, and attending all of our church functions, but apparently it happened. All you can do is move on and keep looking for the right person. I hope that you too will find your partner and mutually fulfilling relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:27 PM
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The tricky part is that a lot of women are sluts for one kind of guy, but they play "good girls" for other guys. I do vet them, and I am going to sniff out such games but it's still a huge waste of time, it makes dating a shitty experience. I had the same experience with men that lie. They chased the crazy for sex and then "found God again". That's great, now go a find a new date too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:06 PM
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A lack of self respect and self esteem that causes many girls to "try to fit in" with society. It's the same with men. I don't think that there's anything specific to a gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:47 PM
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It's fine. I hope you meet the right person for your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:44 PM
2

Additionally “stay single”. Are you making fun of me? Or are you staying that I am free to stay single if I want to based my personal views. No, I am literally saying stay single if you can't find who you want. No other relationship is worth it. If this is only referring to the context of purity culture and having a virgin, sure, then my comments don’t apply . It did.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:41 PM
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I've never found a lack of great guys to meet through my church or social circles, because we tend to share the same values. I've met a lot of great guys, but I was looking for something very particular. I think everyone, generally, has to go through a lot of things to meet their right person. I also think a lot of men don't vet women. Why are men trying to date women that have a history with bad men or women that fell for this and that? It's both sides. If men want "good girls" then they have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:39 PM
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It still wouldn't help many of the guys on here that have no social circles or even friendships in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:24 PM
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Because he's not against premarital sex. He's saying average men can't get it therefore women should be slutshamed and purity culture enforced so men can claim their virgins regardless of their beliefs. Where did I say any of the crap you spouted about how men should have to accept this or that? Stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:23 PM
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Their potential partners shouldn't have to settle either if that's not for them, because no one has to date anyone that they don't want. It has nothing to do with a sisterhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:21 PM
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Explain to me where I said anything like that. I said it does nothing for a woman waiting for marriage to accept less than a man that is also intentionally waiting for marriage. You are free to do what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:54 PM
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It really depends on their beliefs of why they are waiting and what they personally want. It's not something you can apply broadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:30 PM
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You're free to disagree, but it's not wanted in my experience with my social circles of intentionally waiting women and we intentionally seek men also waiting for marriage too. Different experiences and desires for different people. Religious people looking for religious partners tend to want them to actually follow their faith. Never kissed and never had a relationship are not the same as a virgin until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:04 PM
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Doesn't matter what one person thinks, if the messaging being received by men is the way I described. Your perception doesn't speak for other men. Then perhaps somebody should tell the feminists who believe they should have ultimate freedom and no shame, yet constantly demonise men's sexuality merely for existing. Then it's a good job I don't run around shaming women for their sexuality, isn't it? Which view is it? Do your individual actions matter or what the other gender perceives as the mass …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 03:59 PM
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She gains a man who is sexually experienced who can help guide her in discovering her sexuality That's not something that many intentionally waiting women want and for those women they get nothing but a man that believes in double standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 03:36 PM
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I think that is a good point to be made. I wouldn't date someone that I didn't have connections to and the ability to vet properly. I wouldn't be comfortable with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:18 PM
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When I was single it was due to my high behavioural and moral standards for a compatible partner. I wouldn't be in a relationship only to not be alone and the type of men that I sought out aren't that common. He was worth the wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:14 PM
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Which is why the past matters and why you dig for it. People that have a history of lying continue to lie. People that have stable relationships and continue them when dating ends don't usually end up turning into someone completely different. I'm not listening to a man about what he says about past relationships. I am going to the source and getting their sides too and comparing common themes among them. People rarely change who they are, but you have to look for who they are rather than what t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:08 PM
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Why is it only oppressive and bitter when men do it, but virtuous and correct when women do it? So you're making up whataboutisms that I never said? Okay, carry on. Why would they feel inclined to encourage women to do whatever they feel like when they don't feel afforded the same acceptance or freedom themselves? When were women ever not slut shamed? Never. A lot of women have started treating men like they've been historically treated with double standards. Men find that to be a problem, but t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:59 PM
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Oh but I don't need to be one, just need to appear like one. I wanted a religious guy that lives his faith. It's like saying that going to church on Sunday makes you appear to be religious. No, it makes you look like someone that goes to church on Sunday. You can't appear to be something that you're not living with good vetting. It will come out.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:26 PM
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Very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:17 PM
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Even if you do feel like this, you cannot openly say it IRL because it makes you look like a bitter loser... and nobody likes that. You are a bitter loser if you're saying you want sex, but since you can't have it no one should have it. This is why women need to be taught how to vet men better. Meet their family, friends, and their exes too. You need to question why you can't meet their exes. Do they hate them? All of them? Really? You haven't been able to maintain any friendships or civil relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:57 PM
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I am a virgin waiting for marriage and I would never date a guy with this attitude. This attitude doesn't convey values about sex or intimacy. This attitude says I want sex, because I am jealous, and if I can't have it then others shouldn't be allowed to either. You want to socially punish others and shame them for you not being able to achieve it. What do women waiting for marriage gain by ending up with a bitter man that sees them as nothing more than an unused hole rather than someone that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 10:35 AM
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100% agree
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 03:37 AM
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The truth is, if you allow that to happen in a relationship then you are letting your partner down If you lack the self awareness required to maintain that desire, then you don’t belong in adult relationships. I hope you're telling that to men too and that the spark and work to maintain a happy home and partnership is 2 sided. Sex isn't something that just happens because of hormonal desires in a relationship. That's what l hear from most women that lost their desire. Their partner wants sex, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 03:05 AM
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Again you have made a bunch on assumptions. No one said guys cold approaching are only trying to screw. And it's not a man’s job to look at a woman and look for various signals that may or may not be there, he should always approach unless she gives him a mean mug or explicitly says to leave OR her body language also demonstrates in a blatant way she wants to go. Then you guys cry online that girls are crazy when you get a reputation for a lack of self awareness and looking desperate. Women don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:41 AM
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But the fact you consider physical attraction one of the most important parts of a compatible relationship shallow/etc is very odd unless....you believe in body positivity which I guess that would make sense then Your assumption, again. Physical attraction is extremely important. I wouldn't date anyone that I wasn't extremely attracted to, but I would never date someone only for that. You jump to a lot of conclusions. Approaching random women regularly tells me you either don't have options in y…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:23 AM
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Yes. I think it's shallow to ask out random people based on nothing more than physical attraction. I don't want that man. That's not being shallow to reject that person. Men like you make me laugh. A woman is responsible for every bad decision she makes and it's always totally her fault for dating a bad guy, but she's also shallow for not wanting to date men that she doesn't know and that approach her because of her appearance. Thanks for the laughs tonight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:15 AM
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Befriending women solely for the purpose of learning more is shady just make your intentions known and.if she says no move on who cares it's her loss if you really a good guy and vice verse. I never said befriend. I said get to know her and at least make sure she's single and interested first. Getting to know a woman is a waste of time. This is the entire problem, but you try to avoid it by say His choice to ask a female out is a random choice based on a lack of data that he cannot possibly be t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:06 AM
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Yes 1 choice That he consistently makes no different than someone consistently choosing casual sex. Single mom = 4 choices minimum all with time gaps [excluding.rape/widow] Guy asking out female = 1 choice! Birth control fails, people lie and put on masks, and you have to assume that she knew he was dick for these choices to make sense. Some times relationships fail or is every guy that has been left now a dick that showed red flags? There is a difference. Single mom has all the agency to.not le…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:50 PM
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The flip side is a guy has to walk up ask out a girl who is taken/doesn't find him her type/just thinks he is ugly/wants to be single rejected.......in all of these situations the guy isn't choosing this outcome that's just the luck of the draw, can he do things to increase his odds? Of.course but it's still OUT of his hands at the end of the day It's 100% his choice in who he choosing to ask out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:40 PM
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Single mom no, because there is blatant evidence that she through her own actions[excluding rape] chosen poorly/made bad decisions and that could negatively impact him. I can make up the same stuff too. I wouldn't date a guy that hasn't had a relationship because he clearly has a history of poorly made decisions in asking out women that weren't interested. That shows a lack of social skills and inability to guage interest/boundaries. That's based on evidence too if he's saying every woman has re…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:33 PM
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Is a virgin guy that doesn't want to date a single mom or a promiscuous woman being shallow and unkind?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:23 PM
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It's not a personal judgment on him of any kind, but it's not someone I would date. That's not being unkind or shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:19 PM
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It doesn't create attraction for me at all. He could be attractive on his own, but his attitude towards money will be an instant turn off if he thinks it makes him more valuable as a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:17 PM
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I don't think it's a red flag at 24, but I wouldn't be interested in someone without relationship experience. There's a lot of growing pains to learn through dating. I don't want to be with someone that expects me to tolerate all of the things that they didn't learn or experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:07 PM
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If men mainly want sex and nothing more why all of complaints about women sleeping with Chad? If you want casual sex you want the most attractive. You don't need to commit to anyone and neither do women, but many men certainly do complain about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:40 PM
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What expectations for a man do you have in regards to his behavior and actions should he be doing to expect this treatment?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:57 PM
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Your chart shows a recent decline in the last few years for sexless men and a rise for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 12:39 AM
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Your sperm your choice. Once you deposit that sperm and risk pregnancy it's not about you anymore to think what's best for you and what's not best for you, but what's best for the child. It just goes to show why statistics say 27% of single fathers never have contact with their children and don't do any job raising them. Children do better with parents that want to be parents raising them. Nothing is preventing those men from following up and filing a paternity suit besides not wanting it. Don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:40 PM
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Why does anyone feel a need to justify it or randomly talk about it where it needs justification? Look for partners you want and move along when someone doesn't fit your lifestyle. I think feeling that you need to justify something indicates a level of shame. There's no need to shame anyone that chooses to live differently than yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:24 PM
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Being legally allowed to act in your own best interest by notify some one of paternity is a privilege. Men have the same right. They have the right to pursue paternity or deny it and ignore her. Receiving a financial benefit from a man for conceiving a child illegally is a legal privilege. Child support isn't for the mother. It's no privilege to her. It's for your child that you conceived. Being given a financial payment for carrying a child to term with out a man’s consent is a legal privilege.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 05:29 PM
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What privilege does any woman have that stops a paternity suit? None. There's no privilege for women in not being forced to act for the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 05:04 PM
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Yes, it must be sent to your listed address or last known address. Where does it say served, signed for, or proof of delivery? It doesn't. It's your responsibility to keep your info correct for the court.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 04:56 PM
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You edited your comment. Paternity can be legally compelled. You have no argument that it's not. Any man can file a claim at any point and claim he is the father and have his rights and responsibilities enforced. What you are asking for is that it's on women to be legally accountable for men that don't keep up with women they had sex with to compel them to be fathers. The court disagrees, just as the court has made it available for any man to make that claim. It's on him if he wants it and she d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 04:54 PM
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Let me apply your logic to the legal system. imagine being convicted of a crime and sentenced to jail with out being NOTIFIED of the trial and the court telling you “[your] not keeping up on [your] responsibility”. 😂🤣😂 that’s funny. That actually happens and is perfectly legal. Not going to court or getting the notice can still end in conviction and sentencing, so go ahead. Just like not showing up for a paternity case will result in an automatic finding of paternity and result in child support …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 04:47 PM
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What right? The right to not name a father that's doing nothing to be named? The same right that he is acting out now becomes a woman's special privilege. No, that's bs and another time men don't want to take accountability for their actions and blame women for not doing it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 04:11 PM
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How is does a man know to file if he wasn’t notified of the pregnancy or birth? That's on the man if he's not keeping up on his responsibilities. If you screw random women and walk away you can't complain that she didn't keep up with the legwork of your mistakes too. She's already handling the pregnancy and baby. Be a man and follow up. What about as you said “the child’s inherent right” you mentioned? Why should a mother have a choice to violate the child’s right? The child has no father in tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 03:49 PM
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Do you have a better solution to protect the child’s right to financial support then to to compel women by infringe on a women’s privilege of government subsidies. This already happens! You have to name the father for benefits for that reason. Under US law a women gets yo choose to name the father. If she chooses not to name the father that would mean she is violating the “child’s inherent right”, Under US law if you, any man, can file for paternity too. That's not her choice in any way. She can…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 03:41 PM
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You would have to compel mothers to establish paternity by denying government subsidies until the father paternity is established. You have to name a father for that. The state then goes after him for that money back, because it's the child's right to be well cared for financially. The state sues him for owed money to them and also orders child support to the mother. Now that the child’s rights infringes on a women’s privileges how do you feel about the child’s inherent right to financial suppor…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 02:46 PM
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The thing is. I'm not particularly remarkable. I have some stuff I guess it's objectively really nice to men: I have a really feminine face, small nose, pouty lips, a lot of neoteny, long healthy hair, petite, pear shaped. I think I come across as really warm and motherly even though I'm usually really shy, but I don't think I'm someone that would stand out. I'd get lost in a sea of people. Also directly from you: Anyone else thinks neoteny + thick eyebrows + really full pouty lips create a mass…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 05:18 AM
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How would you have ended up in a committed relationship with that person unless they had lied to you about their past? It's your responsibility to find these things about before getting into a relationship unless they lied.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 01:49 PM
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I think it's fine as long as you don't expect them to be promiscuous for you too or as long as promiscuous men don't get mad when virgins/conservative women reject them for the same reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 09:45 AM
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There is 0% chance that I would find someone being a virgin because they are sex repulsed to be virtuous or attractive as a potential partner. There's nothing virtuous about finding sex with your spouse to be dirty.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:53 AM
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The child has an inherent right to financial support from both legal parents. A woman was raped and notified the police. When she filed for welfare the court named him the father and demanded child support. He got shared custody by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 06:59 PM
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Men will never have a right to legally opt out if women don't have a choice but to carry to term unless their life is danger. That's a ban on abortion. Those are equal rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 06:38 PM
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And equal legal protection from financial responsibility to a child conceived from grape and conception by deception. They have that now. Women have to share custody and be ordered to pay support to their rapists too. There's no protection.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 05:58 PM
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You're the one claiming that abortion is fully legal across the US when it's not. That was your point. What was the point of your stating things that are not true? There are no federal laws that stop any one from traveling to get one. States are trying to pass laws to make it a crime for their citizens to have them elsewhere. At a minimum each state allows abortion for health reasons. No, they offer abortion if the mother is actively dying from the pregnancy, not for health reasons. It's only al…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 05:46 PM
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Meet their family, friends, and their exes. You need to have open talks about these things. If I am interested in a guy one of the first things that I will ask him is if he's a virgin and what are his views on sex. If they lie about that they will also lie about other topics. That's why l am waiting for marriage and have thoroughly vetted my future husband. It's not a secret if you're religious and waiting for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 02:41 PM
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It should be changed for cases of rape. Rapists shouldn't be able to get custody time with those kids either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:33 PM
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What are these many places your talking about because we are specifically discussing the US where abortion and abandonment are legal nationally. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abortion_law_in_the_United_States_by_state There are multiple states where it is fully illegal and states have tried to punish women for traveling out of state. Abandonment isn't as simple as you think if there are 2 legal parents. You can't give a child up for adoption without dual consent. You can drop your child off at…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:30 PM
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You can not blame men for a women’s choice. It’s a women’s body and her choice. You can't blame women for the state's decision to enforce child support regardless of circumstances under the same logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 11:38 AM
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It is saddening to learn that women don't ascribe moral virtue to male virginity. It's not a sign of moral virtue on it's own. Do you consider incels virtuous? They're virgins, but complaining that they can't have sex due to others. Many virgin men try to have sex with anyone and fail due to a lack of social skills or not being attractive. Is that virtuous? No. Would you consider a woman virtuous that wanted to have sex with 100 men and only didn't because of parental restriction on her freedoms…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 11:31 AM
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But a women gets to choose to have the child when she is graped. Not always. Abortion isn't legal everywhere even for rape. It would be equally as traumatizing as saying abortion is not an option to the women and she has to have the child and care for it. It’s telling the grapes person being grapes is their fault The same thing happens in many places to women, even children, and your argument is not one that I once made. I said that it's wrong. When a woman is raped and gets pregnant she either …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 09:39 AM
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I wouldn't date someone that old. I'm 23, not 28. He's 26 and we're both virgins by choice. I wouldn't date someone more than 2 years older. He's not quite 3 years older.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:02 PM
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No, it wouldn't be worth it to me and would have wasted my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:56 PM
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No, and l only care if they are waiting for marriage due to religious values. Not having sex doesn't make someone a better or worse person. It doesn't change your opinions or heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:05 PM
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I don't find it cute. It's nothing more than a requirement. If he tried to have sex and failed he's not an option. It's more about values and restraint than virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:02 PM
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Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:19 PM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:54 PM
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That's why I would only also be with a virgin choosing to wait for marriage. I don't believe in double standards and neither does my faith in regards to chastity until marriage. I want my partner to share the same values or there's 0 point in not going out and having sex with every hot guy I see. We want sex too!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:06 PM
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Your personal feelings on cheating don't dictate how or if it will hurt your partner. You can never control that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:32 PM
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Do you not realize that women get turned on by seeing really hot guys too? We do. That doesn't mean that you need to have sex with them. Being turned on isn't a choice for anyone, but acting on it is a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:29 PM
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Thanks, we're getting married in the fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:09 PM
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Of course, because if she leaves you or accepts it then it's no longer cheating. Cheating is doing it without their consent. She can do the same to you and you have the same options.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:07 PM
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I think anyone that cheats or knowingly sleeps with people in relationships is extremely low value as a potential partner regardless of their gender. What does it say about your thoughts on your partner if you're willing to stick your penis in random trash and risk the relationship? It doesn't say anything good. You don't value loyalty in a relationship or sexual fidelity and she has no reason to stay faithful to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 12:59 PM
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There's nothing wrong with anyone being promiscuous. No one is forcing anyone to be with anyone else. Does this entitlement that you believe men have change my views? No, he has to be a virgin if he expects the same from me. I don't care that you have to work harder to go against my morals. You'll find someone that accepts you or you'll be alone. Everyone gets to make that choice for themselves and no believed entitlement changes it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:16 AM
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get your passport or settle for a feminist. These women are feminists if they're having sex with boyfriends or men casually in a conservative society. Submissive traditional women aren't spreading their legs. They most certainly aren't at clubs approaching men and hooking up. That's none of those things. 🤣 What you found are gold diggers that are willing to play the game. Rest assured that they also didn't sleep with every man that came along within 2 dates too. No, you men are super special uni…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:25 AM
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It might be nature's choice. Stuff doesn't work the same at that age and women can't be expected to have painful sex. That guy might be sad because he can't get it up too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:01 AM
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Are you really shocked that people in their 70's aren't having sex? Of course they weren't embarrassed about it. They're in their 70's and have been together for 54 years. Who do they need to impress?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 12:54 AM
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Most men aren't interested in older or fat women and will avoid them when possible. It would have very little change except for wasting swipes to avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:02 PM
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I don't think there will be one. This is like asking how an influx of old obese ladies will change dating. It wouldn't. People that can't date might choose it, but no one that can date people they want is going to choose that over a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:05 PM
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Less people you aren't interested in to swipe through isn't going to be a negative. Don't dating apps have limited swipes too? That's going to be seen as a positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:00 PM
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No, not if no one is selecting them. They're not actively dating. They're attempting to enter the dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:50 PM
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How will masturbating a different way affect dating? It won't, but it will give the people that can't have partners something different to focus on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:46 PM
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But the logic is the same. The majority of people say yes or no on do I find them attractive and like them. Can I do better isn't a part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:17 PM
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No, I think that I am not attracted or we are not compatible. I rejected all men that aren't virgins. Does having sex make them worse than other men? No. Does having different religious views make them worse people? No, but they certainly aren't potential partners for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:51 PM
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When someone of the opposite gender rejects you; they are saying the unspoken part out loud. If l reject someone it means nothing more than I don't find you attractive or think that we would be compatible. I have rejected guys for many reasons, but not ever once was it I think I am better than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:33 PM
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Don't you have male friends that are better looking, more social, or more successful either? I don't see why their traits would make you feel insecure about yourself in a friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:26 PM
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I never formed friendships with guys that interested me. There was interest or there wasn't. There was no in between. Each woman has different boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:10 PM
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If he obeys the "philosophy" of the red pill strictly will he be able to get tons of random hook ups with new women every weekend? No, random hook ups are based on physical attraction. It won't help if he's ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 03:26 PM
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Is it creepy? No. Would l ever accept a cold approach and say yes to a date or give out my number? Also no, but that never makes it creepy if they were respectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 03:00 PM
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"Why is it unfair for ugly men to be called creepy for approaching women? Why do ugly men believe that women should be open to their advances?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:55 PM
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It doesn't become creepy because you don't find them attractive. It's not creepy to ask someone out politely and accept their answer. Stop calling people creepy when they're not being creepy. I absolutely hate being cold approached by anyone and l don't call it creepy when people are respectful. That's the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:50 PM
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27.3%
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:46 PM
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😂 Most taller women are not built like men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:44 PM
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I'm 5'9 and I've never met a guy that said he finds my height unattractive. They like my long legs. I'm not built like a man. I am a tall woman. I wear high heels too and it's never been a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:42 PM
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speculatively Yes, because you can't know or assume their reasoning for not wanting those things. Your opinions are not their own. You have no idea who has examined the reasons of why they want what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:54 AM
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Some people simply also don't want to sleep with multiple people, have casual sex, and they would like a partner with similar values too. Caring about sexual pasts can come from an insecurity, but it doesn't make it the default reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:30 AM
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Or it goes against their religious values. Not everything is about insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:20 AM
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This post is funny. You went from most women to no woman would reject a man for his sexual history. It's an absolute deal breaker for many women. It's also not a deal breaker for many men. People are different and have different standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:48 AM
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Just to be clear, court ruled custodial parent does not lose custody to her rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:20 AM
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Somewhere else you said that a child receiving child support from a slightly older child(boy) is what's best for the child. If you bothered to read this thread you will see that I said it's wrong, but the COURTS have decided that the child has an inherent right to financial support from both parents regardless of circumstances. it doesn't say anywhere that it was violent. The article states she was meeting a boy her own age and this older guy held them hostage for 2 days, raped her, and he threa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:17 AM
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The custody decision had been reversed. He didn't get the kid so he didn't get support. Your argument there is pointless. Non custodial parents don't get support, but the non custodial parent pays it regardless of rape or gender. It applies to both.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:14 AM
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you're ignoring the right of a boy or a man being a victim of sexual assault and still paying It happens to women and girls too. Children get child support from both parents, not only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:08 AM
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A grown woman fucks a 12 year old boy, and she gets custody and his money. You really can't make a good point here She didn't "fuck" him. She raped a child and this is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:06 AM
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Hey my girlfriend let me delete all the guys from her social media and she’s a 10 so you act like these women don’t exist. She’s from another country though so they tend to be more submissive and respectful in Thailand OP
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:46 PM
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In order to say how I'd compete against another woman I'd need to know more about what she brings to the table so I can compare it to what I bring. You can probably read that as their idea of "submissive, loyal, and feminine".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:40 PM
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Why would women compete for men that can't get the type of women that they want? That doesn't make sense. If you're an attractive as a partner you don't have issues getting what you want unless you're looking for something that you can't offer, like being ugly and wanting someone attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:29 PM
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They don't care. They want people, not happy healthy people. They're fine with poverty. "Don't have sex."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:50 AM
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The courts have already decided that it's a right of the child. That's not going to change. It's not about either parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:58 PM
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You're not wrong, but it's because men don't get pregnant and it's bodily autonomy. Men have to accept that they can't choose for her under any circumstance and sex might lead to a child. They know that they have no consent in terms of pregnancy. It can never be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:41 PM
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That child couldn't exist if the father didn't have sex too. It takes both.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:27 PM
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No, but I respect that those laws are based on their religion and they believe them to be true. They stone men for adultery too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:50 PM
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Of course not, but it was a different time with different standards. I don't blame people that were raised to be that way for not understanding why it was wrong either. It doesn't make it acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:44 PM
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But a single mom can drop a baby off at a fire station in many jurisdictions So can a legally listed father. The other parent can claim the baby through a simple police call.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:35 PM
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I do, because it was the choice of the people. Do I agree or like it? No, but I respect it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:19 PM
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Who said you did? What you have to respect is what the law says regarding those opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:11 PM
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You can have your opinions and people can feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:03 PM
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And yet millions of kids have dads that don't pay and aren't in jail. They don't see their kids either. They're not doing anything for their kids and no one cares. There's no need for paper abortion when it's not enforced at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 04:55 PM
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Men would have to want their kids for that to happen, but instead they're arguing for paper abortions to abandon them. I don't think we will see that happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:47 PM
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But you consider it harm to be forced to be life support after birth, not before, like women don't have bodily autonomy. They do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:26 PM
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Well your body is their medicine, same as pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:23 PM
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You chose to have that child too and apparently are killing them if you don't provide temporary life support. Consenting to sex is risking pregnancy, not consenting to pregnancy. Pregnancy is being forced to provide life support to a child that you may not want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:17 PM
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Teens are having less sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:34 PM
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Oxygen isn't the same as a machine breathing for you. Why do you keep ignoring the question? 🤣 Are you not okay with being forced to undergo a medical procedure to surgically attach a child to your organs, at risk to your health, for their survival for 9 months? What's wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:24 PM
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I think giving men this option would just lead to even more irresponsible behavior. So many already refuse to wear condoms or take accountability for their actions that led to the pregnancy/child. If you give them the ability to walk away at any point I fear for how much worse they’ll become. Outside of rape that says just as much about the women sleeping with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:18 PM
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Judges have already decided. They're not the parents and can't have contact until that child is an adult. i still want to discuss the government database. You like the idea of the government having everyone’s DNA and alerting us when we commit crimes? Or are you talking about only men? I would be okay with that. Your DNA being somewhere isn't an accusation or conviction. It's not proof that you did anything. It's proof that you were somewhere at some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:07 PM
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I personally don't think it's ok to kill a 5 year old girl who's on dialysis and is due to get a kidney in a few months because it costs me money. I don't think dialysis is 24 hours a day either. It's a medical treatment that lasts a few hours. Hey look if you think you should be able to let a 6 year old die of a temporary illness because it costs money I don't really think we can have a real conversation Would that child be alive if no ventilators are available? No. Did the parents murder him b…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:05 PM
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No, you both made a choice to have sex and risk a child being born. Since her body is life support for 9 months she gets to decide if she wants an abortion. If it was the man that was pregnant instead it would be the same circumstances. You can't force her to have a medical procedure against her will or carry a child. They both have risks for her, not you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:59 PM
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You are still biologically the father. Biologically you should always have the right (to atleast attempt) to be apart of a child’s life. Again, I believe he should still be paying child support even if he gives up parental rights. That should allow him to request his rights back at any time(allow a judge to decide if he should get them). Go adopt a child and see how you feel about parents changing their mind in 10 years and their rights to your kid. This conversation is about paper abortion. Ter…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:57 PM
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Because a child has a right under the law to receive financial support from both parents. That's as far as his legal obligations need to go if he doesn't want a relationship. You can't be forced to raise a child, but you can be forced to pay child support regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:55 PM
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all those things would take time. he's on the life support in the sense that without constant supervision he'd die. Is your child physically attached to your body and dependent specifically on you for survival? No. He could survive with anyone the same as he does now. That's supervision and assistance, not life support. A baby can survive with any competent adult taking care of them or even many. A fetus can not survive without using her body. It's not the same. Should a parent be legally obliga…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:52 PM
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Your two year old is not on life support. Your 2 year old could survive if placed in another home. They have their own body functions keeping them alive. People on life support do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:39 PM
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Because only one of them is pregnant. Only one of them is at risk from a pregnancy or abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:37 PM
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To identify paternity. If every one is listed then so is the father to be immediately notified of his responsibilities. No paternity fraud, no hidden children, and no running away from your responsibilities. I’m sorry but what??? Why would there be criminal charges for getting back into a child’s life? That’s not in the best interest of the child. If you terminate your rights you are no longer the father. You have no rights and you are harassing someone else's child. That's a crime everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:37 PM
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Don't you? No. I don't think it's murder to remove support when a family can't afford hundreds of thousands of dollars and a duty to for care because you can't survive on your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:31 PM
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I support a DNA database for all men from birth to identify their paternity by default and no, they shouldn't have to pay for kids that aren't theirs. Paternity testing can be done with a blood test very early in pregnancy too. A man should have to pay support for kids that are his or sign away his rights completely and be eligible for criminal charges and full back child support if he tries to contact the child at any point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:28 PM
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It can't survive without the woman's life support. Are you religious? I actually am and the Bible says life begins with the first breath. Genesis 2:7, He “breathed into his nostrils the breath of life and it was then that the man became a living being.” It doesn't breathe and can't breathe. I'm not saying that you can't consider it a baby. I'm saying other people are entitled to their beliefs and to act accordingly. Women shouldn't be denied a medical procedure because of your beliefs. Do you th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:25 PM
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It's not a baby at that point. It can't be born or survive on It's own. It can't breathe. Viability is something like 24 weeks with medical technology like ventilators to keep it alive. This is from a pregnancy site for women keeping track. At 13 weeks, your baby is as big as a lemon. Your 13-week fetus is about 2.9 inches long and weighs about .81 ounces, and proportion-wise, their head is now about 1/3 the size of the body instead of 1/2. At 13 weeks pregnant, you're three months pregnant, alt…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:11 PM
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The first trimester ends when week 13 begins. You are 6 weeks pregnant when you find out that you are late.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:00 PM
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93% of abortions are done within 7 weeks of a woman missing her period or being able to test positive and the majority are apparently done within 3 weeks of it. That's not a long wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:59 AM
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So 93% of abortions are performed in the first 13 weeks as I said and the rest are a small minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:53 AM
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I found it on there. Calculated from the CDC data, which doesn't say that. CDC data
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:48 AM
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It doesn't say where they got their numbers from! Where did they come from? A survery of a few abortion clinics? Government statistics? Where? There are 0 citations, that I saw, for where their abortion numbers are coming from in that page.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:44 AM
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The link to their data source doesn't go anywhere, but the CDC has much lower numbers that match the 93%, but the CDC data also isn't 4 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:36 AM
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Where is your data from? Please link a source.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:20 AM
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Less than 7% occur after 13 weeks. no, they're not common at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:16 AM
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😂 You believe they're infants, but if you kill them early enough for your liking it's okay. The majority of abortions occur in the first trimester according to statistics and 2nd trimester abortions are because the fetus has severe medical problems that couldn't be found earlier. When exactly does it become wrong for a doctor to perform a medical procedure?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:04 AM
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An infant is an independent being, not a fetus or embryo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:56 AM
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There's nothing to sue. You are not their father legally and have no right to any relationship with them. You signed that away and didn't want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:30 AM
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Comparing child abandonment to a private medical procedure is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:22 AM
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He should have a lawyer explain why they can't have contact and nothing more. Anything else and he should face criminal charges.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:21 AM
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Who is opposing men having birth control or making their own reproductive choices, which is the point of this post? No one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 09:21 AM
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Idk. I suppose that would depend on the amount of men that decided to use it. We can't have a ton of unsupported children living in poverty and suffering because of it, which is why the law is the way that it is now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:48 AM
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I would have no issue with that if the mother was guaranteed financial help from the govt to help support the child if she couldn't give them a decent quality of life with safe housing. Would you have a problem with taxes being raised for that? I wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:40 AM
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I wouldn't be against them if men were forced to terminate their rights and faced criminal consequences of harassment and owed full child support for attempting make contact with the child in any way. I would have no issue with it at all, but even then it's not equivalent to an abortion. If I have to become a father because you want to become a mother, then you have to become a mother if I want to become a father. Do you know why this can't be a thing in most places? Because it violates a person…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:34 AM
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Abortion is a medical procedure for a woman. Pregnancy and child birth has 0 physical or emotional impact on men. Child support has nothing to do with gender. It's owed by both parents under the law and is the right of the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:26 AM
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Can a woman give up a child without the father's permission because he doesn't want to help? No. Can a woman abandon the child on him without paying support? No. Those are equal. Choosing to parent is about adoption. Abortion is about the right to not be forced to not endure a physical pregnancy, which men can never experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:22 AM
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That's what they're trying to do in many places and those places can do what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:19 AM
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I never said that they were equivalent. I said men have unopposed access to birth control and sterilization of their own. I also said child abandonment, aka paper abortion, is not equivalent to a medical procedure that carries risks and consequences for the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:16 AM
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Feminists always insist on body autonomy but drop the ball when it comes to bodily autonomy of men. Where is financially supporting your child violating your bodily autonomy? Women don't want accountability for their own actions. They want abortions to be legal, but STILL want to force 18 years of man's financial life for their "right." if they choose so Abortion is a consequence. It's a painful medical procedure that carries risk. The government decided that children have an inherent to financi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:14 AM
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You can feel that way, but the rest of society that had no say in your child's birth also feels that they have no burden to support your child.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:09 AM
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That’s a false equivalence. The equivalent example of abortion for a man is paper abortion. No. A medical procedure that carries risks pertaining to only her body is not the same as a man having the ability to remove a born child's inherent right to financial support from both parents or abandoning a child without consent of the other legal parent. Paper abortion is child abandonment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:08 AM
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Since men can't be pregnant or deal with the physical ramifications it won't ever be the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:05 AM
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Thus, abortion should be illegal. Right? It's not legal everywhere. That medical procedure is also considered a consequence of pregnancy and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:04 AM
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I would support it if that meant that men can not have any contact with the child, are charged with harassment, and are forced to pay all 18 years of child support if they do attempt to contact them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:22 AM
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Child support is not about being ready to be a father. Governments don't force any contact. They enforce a child's right to financial support. A father has that choice us protection or don't have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:28 PM
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Abortion is becoming illegal in several places. People shouldn't have sex if they're not prepared for the outcome, whether that's a baby or AIDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:14 PM
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Are you okay with your sexual partner having the ability to force you to get a vasectomy? That's what it would equal to say that men should have a say in her body when she's pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:01 PM
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Unless they were raped they made a choice to risk it knowing that couldn't control the other person afterwards. At the same though why can't those people also acknowledge that this is an inherently sexist situation where men have less rights than women. Because abortion is about bodily autonomy and nothing more. If men were the ones that got pregnant it would be the same. Once a child is born they both bear the same rights and responsibilities as legal parents. Both parents have a legal obligati…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:44 PM
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The right for a child to receive financial support is a matter of their well being and held up by Supreme Courts. A man that raped a woman is a physicsl danger to mother and child. Don't cry about one side when you don't care about the other. Stuff like so what is why people don't care more.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:42 PM
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"Laws change." Hang on to that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:34 PM
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You said men should be able to choose to not parent financially before 10 weeks. Abortion is about bodily autonomy, not abandonment or finances. They're not related. Children have a right to financial support from both parents. Why should men get rights that women don't have? She can't give your kid away or not pay support for it either without your consent. There's no autonomy issue happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:28 PM
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Last year. Only 15 states have laws to terminate the parental rights of a rapist without a criminal conviction, no matter the evidence. . Only 32 states allow the termination at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:20 PM
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A guy raped a 12 year old and now shares custody of their son. He raped a child and now has shared custody. What happened? You need more than proof. He was convicted. Served 6 months and got out and raped someone else. He given custody AFTER that. Because the mom filed for state assistance. The state did it. source
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:13 PM
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Men don’t get pregnant. It'll never happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:04 PM
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How did she get a restraining order when the same courts say he did nothing wrong? It makes no sense at all. He should be in prison!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:50 PM
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That's exactly what I mean. How do you know that she didn't change her mind after all of that?? We'll never know the "truth". Can't convict him!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:40 PM
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To a child? Yes, once paternity is established. To tell a woman what she can do with her doctor? No, and he shouldn't have a say in that unless you want women to be able to force a vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:37 PM
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Did you miss the part requiring criminal conviction or clear convincing evidence for it to end it? That's if the court considers it "real rape" and not she said no and it still happened. A conviction or evidence doesn't guarantee it either. It all comes down to a judge. Every state in America requires males who were sexually assaulted to pay child support to their rapists. That happens to women too. It shouldn't be happening at all, but it happens because children that exist have an actual right…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:29 PM
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That's wrong and so is men getting custody and rights to children of the children that they raped, but that also happens. That's not a gender issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:57 PM
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That is the argument for making abortion illegal, but abortion is about bodily autonomy. Pregnancy is not easy or always safe. Men don’t carry a pregnancy or carry any risk from it other the same financial ones put on the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:47 PM
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Was the man raped? Did he not have a choice to not conceive said child? That was his right. Same argument people use against abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:26 PM
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Children that exist are entitled to support from both parents, regardless of custody. Paper abortion violates their rights and that's why it's illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:21 PM
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It is a legal imbalance. Abortion isn't a right or even legal many places and is an issue of bodily autonomy. Just as no woman can force you to have a vasectomy so she doesn't get pregnant. Birth control is an option to men, but so is for women, and yet you can use that against abortion being legal too. It is a little hypocritical that same pro-life argument is only selectively used against men. Who claimed that birth control and access to not being a parent was available to women but opposed fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:13 PM
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Yes it is but your feminist attitude is exhausting of holding men accountable but not women. It’s like rapping is an excuse for abortion when 1% of the abortions are because of rap. Then that get rapped by women still have to pay CS I never said that was okay. Men that are convicted of raping a woman or even a child still get parental rights and visitation in court. Or getting pregnant is the penalty when their is a choice to be pregnant. You don't think childbirth, raising kids, giving your bab…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:08 PM
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Abortion and birth control to prevent parenthood. Not criticizing this, but they do strongly oppose stuff such as paper abortion for men to give them same window of time for choice. Condoms and vasectomy exist too and no one is opposing them. Men have a choice. All birth control can fail. Abortions aren't legal everywhere either and both parents bear the same legal responsibility once a child is born.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:49 PM
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A medical procedure that is also emotionally draining for patients that can have lifelong effects on their body. It's not getting your nails done. That's a consequence.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:38 PM
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You mean there can be consequences for a man not a women. Pregnancy is a consequence. A man can pay tens of thousands of dollars trying to find a child the mother abandoned or gave away may not get the child depending on how long it takes. If he's the legally listed father all he has to do is call the police. His child is a missing person to them. All he has to do to be legally listed is file a paternity action during the pregnancy. But women should have no consistencies and should be able keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:35 PM
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Can a father file for parental rights prior to the child being born? Yes Could a single father get legal rights before a mother chose to put the baby up for adoption on the day of birth? Yes. Could a single father get legal rights before a mother chose to put the baby up for adoption on the day of birth? Yes How can you take some one to court if you don’t know your a father? There are consequences to random sex and this can be one. Her lying and saying she's not pregnant or it's not yours isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:24 PM
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Now tell me how you can't take her to court and file for declaration of paternity and you have a case, but you don't. They are not named by default and I said that originally, because you do not have any responsibility to a child until a judge says so. No, she doesn't have to name you. That doesn't stop you from taking to court. Those men have no right to complain if they don't want to do that. It can be done before the birth, including paternity tests. The court adds the name to the birth recor…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:06 PM
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Fathers sign the birth certificate, file for a declaration of paternity in court, or they wait to be contacted and do nothing because they don't want the responsibility. Those are all choices. Proactive single dads can file before a baby is ever born. Look it up. Paternity tests can be safely done extremely early in pregnancy and the father can be named.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:40 PM
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Then he's not the legal father and it has nothing to do with paternity or having different rights. You can take her to court before a baby is born too and ask for a test and custody order. Most people don't do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:30 PM
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The dad can call the police and claim his child if the mother abandoned it if he is listed as the father. Safe haven laws apply to both parents in most places. There's no kidnapping charge, but the mom can get her kid back. Safe haven has nothing to do with child support still being owed. She can't give up a baby for adoption without either his consent or the court ordering it. The father can call the police and get his child back too if they've been abandoned. The rules are the same in most pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:42 PM
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Doesn't mean they're not happening or aren't a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:05 PM
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"The Bible says nothing against gay people" where merely 20-30 years ago Christianity as a whole was heavily criticized because books like Leviticus (and others) explicitly do just that, and Christians had no defense against it because its plainly there in black and white... backed up by over 1000 years of doctrine. So which is it? The Bible says nothing about being gay in itself. It says homosexual acts are to be punished by death. It also says the same about adultery in the same book. Adultery…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:16 PM
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You shouldn't love sin, but we're all sinners. You should love the person and reject the sin. You don't reject the people or start hating them because of your opinion of their sin. Like so many hating gay people and yet you never hear a word against straight people having premarital sex. Sexual immorality is sexual immorality. The Bible says nothing against gay people. It does define marriage and sexual activity outside of it is a sin for all. People use religion against one and God forgives for…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 10:13 PM
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The Bible is quite clear that you are not to hate anyone, love them as your neighbours, and leave judgment of their sins to God.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:52 PM
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I plan on adopting multiple kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:38 PM
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He had a test result that showed a lesion. He doesn't have any diagnosis. They're trying to get him out of prison and sent to Dubai for treatment as if Romania doesn't have hospitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:11 PM
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Call the police and end the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 08:44 PM
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My number is 0. I asked if they were a virgin and how they feel about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 06:53 PM
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These are my instant deal breakers. -Not being a Christian. -Not thinking as an actual Christian and hiding behind "religious values" to be a hateful bigoted person. -Not living as a Christian and expecting everyone else to overlook your "past mistakes" that you happily made. That includes any sexual or attempted sexual history. -Not taking care of your mind and body to maintain a healthy active lifestyle. -Lacking decent social skills and good manners/behaviours. -Someone selfish that doesn't h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 05:59 PM
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There's fill in material for beards, glue on stuff, and tattooing for patchy beards and hairline.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 01:22 AM
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Many people, both men and women, want commitment and hate the idea of the person that they care about being with someone else sexually or on dates. That's the point of commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 07:44 PM
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Then you should have made a post about that instead of what you actually wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 07:35 PM
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I already said that's fine, but you have now made 2 arguments that don't stand up with meeting people, flirting, and changed your argument too but what if better women would have wanted him. You not wanting commitment or seeing it as pointless does not present any additional risk to Men that seek LTR if it ends. The man that had opportunities will still have them and the ones that don't weren't missing out on getting other women. People shouldn't commit if they don't want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 07:26 PM
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Men that can get "better women" and get casual sex have always had the ability to do so before, during, and after relationships. They're not losing anything unless they don't want commitment and that's 100% a choice. There's "no risk" in the way that you're talking about. Men break up with women too when they aren't happy or like someone else more.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 07:07 PM
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Which you should be continuously doing in your relationship. You haven't stopped meeting people or lost your social skills to flirt. What exactly has been lost? If you don't want a relationship then don't have one, but the 2 arguments that you have made here about meeting people or flirting have nothing to stand on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:42 PM
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You should be meeting new people in your life regardless of your relationship status unless you never go out or socialize. In that case it will have nothing to do with being in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:36 PM
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They're the same skill. Flirting is flirting and different women respond to different things. A woman is never going to give you 25 chances to try a different approach that you learned on someone else. You're really not losing anything if you have properly developed your social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:30 PM
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You're supposed to keep flirting and dating your partner throughout your relationship. Those shouldn't be lost skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:22 PM
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I would feel weird about a hair piece if he didn't tell me about it. I think many guys would feel the same if they discovered their date was bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:18 PM
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Do you consider yourself friends with them or where do you interact with them? I have a tendency to cut people out when they have a crush or feelings because it makes me feel weird being around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:44 PM
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All actors are wearing make up. I know many men that use concealers for acne. Men grow beards to cover a bad jawline or wear hates to cover balding. Some guys wear lifts in their shoes. Men also wear coloured contacts and hair pieces. Different people are going to have different feelings about it, but let's not pretend that it's not already happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:19 PM
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That's me. I'm doing okay and have finished my first course of treatment. Hopefully I won't need any for a few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:43 PM
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🤣 No, no sexual activity of any kind until marriage and I wouldn't date a guy that had sexual experience. Telling me that you have sexual demands regardless of the health of our relationship or how you make me feel would be an instant turn off. That's not even considering that you're already comparing me to your ex that hurt you. That would be a giant red flag and instant deal breaker even if he were a virgin too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:28 PM
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What good is a single high paying job that can be lost and not necessarily replaced? An education can't be fired or laid off. It's always going to be there to rely on in the future. I care about the investment in his future with his time and effort towards school. I don't need his income nor do I particularly want it, but I do need a man that put in the effort to solidify his future. Markets crash every day. I'd never look for a man to financially support me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:44 PM
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If she continued, I’d cut her. You may be missing a word in that sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:38 PM
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It's definitely separate for me as someone waiting for marriage. I've had other relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:25 PM
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I care that he has the degree. I don't care about the particular school that he attended as long as it has a solid educational reputation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:22 PM
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It's a 5. Everyone in my family has a degree. I care more about having the education than I do income or his career path.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:21 AM
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I do vet for sexual values. I am a virgin and will only date a virgin that is choosing to wait for religious reasons. It was talked about growing up. People should live how they want, but I am also free to seek a partner that shares my views. I don't look down on others or see them as being worth less, but we're not compatible in any way. You have to vet for things that have meaning to you personally and not what the world says that you should want. It doesn't matter if that's a open relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 03:18 AM
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I have no need for it. I'm a virgin and my fiancé has had a vasectomy so I could avoid another surgery. We plan to adopt multiple children instead of risking my health or the unnecessary risk of passing my condition on to a future child.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 07:50 PM
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you are basically saying you want someone who's life from the day they were born to mimick yours without any deviation Yes, I want a man that was raised in the faith, truly believes in the tenets of it and has stayed true to them. I've never had a lack of those men to date. how are the two of you not compatible? That's not a man that has followed his faith or has had self control. Not committing adultery is not a difficult thing to ask for and is and was always completely within their control. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 12:08 PM
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I was at plenty of parties, including for my church and at school. I am still a virgin and have never done anything beyond kissing a boyfriend. I don't think it has anything to do with going to parties. Yes, even frat parties. People that want to engage in casual sex will do so regardless of the environment and people that do not want it won't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 11:39 PM
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There's nothing for me to forgive and also forgiveness doesn't mean acceptance. There are plenty of virgin men that haven't tried to do it. Yes, I would still turn him down. We are not compatible. He can find another girl that doesn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 11:37 PM
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What do you consider a party phase? Going to university parties with friends? Drugs? Clubbing on weekends?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 11:03 PM
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Christian
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 10:32 PM
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I have turned them down. My religious beliefs are too important for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 10:11 PM
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I only want a virgin partner that shares my beliefs, but he has to have social skills too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:18 PM
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Women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:16 PM
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You said I am confusing compatibility and equality and brought up doms and subs as a point as some strange counterpoint. They both choose actively to be in those roles and subs don't stay with people that they don't agree with or submit to things that they don't actually want to do. Their views have aligned and they actually have equal power. They can leave the moment that they disagree. That's an equal relationship. Inequality is not having an equal say in the relationship, which doesn't exist …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 08:17 PM
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If l had to pick it one it would be the virgin, but I wouldn't date a man without relationship experience. I need to know why he hasn't had a relationship before now and why he is suddenly capable of having one if he wanted one previously or why he suddenly wants one if he didn't before.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:34 PM
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It's not about an equal or unequal relationship. It's about wanting the same things as your partner. If you don't want what they want then it becomes an issue or authority that doesn't happen if you're genuinely compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:30 PM
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Compatibility is not having a need to dictate or control things, because you naturally align. That has nothing to do with equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:05 PM
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You don't sound "pilled" at all. You're looking for an equal relationship with someone that can be your best friend and is mentally stable to not seek attention from random people and make sound decisions with you. It would only become red pilled if you like and if she can't then I make the decisions. You can't make someone compatible with you by making decisions for them. They're still that person underneath it. To me the redpill seems less about finding a compatible partner than it is saying a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:33 PM
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Why are you worried about some girl you just met when you're about to spend a year in federal prison? Do you really think she's going to stay with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:55 PM
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It's a feeling of complete disgust that can't be pushed aside. What triggers it for me is being rude, terrible manners, bad hygiene, older men flirting with me, or attempting to be sexual in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:39 PM
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People confuse love and feelings with a willingness to tolerate any circumstances or treatment from that person. Feelings and putting up with things are not the same. You can love someone that abuses you and realize that you can't be with them for your safety. Staying isn't love. You can love your heroin addicted brother that robs your house too. It doesn't mean you need to give him the keys and trust him to show that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:25 PM
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That being said, I think if you already went on a date with someone, and it didn't work out, I believe closure is important. I know from my end, I have been thanked for it. I personally always like to know if it was me who fucked up, or if it was just general incompatibility. That has always worked out horribly for me. I learned to answer strictly with I don't see us ever being more than friends. The real reasons were they were rude, terrible manners, and attempted to speak or act sexually despi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 06:19 PM
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I would say the least painful way is for either party to just explain their position and (ideally) not be shallow and provide a realistic reason for the incompatibility, so that the "losing" party can improve on themselves if possible. Physical attraction is inherently shallow. It doesn't make someone a bad person to not be or to not find someone else attractive, but it also can't be controlled. Please don't ask for a reason when you're rejected. It's most likely not something in your control li…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:24 PM
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I'm flattered by your interest, but I don't feel the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:46 PM
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"Dang, he's hot!" That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 06:43 PM
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It can be easier if you're willing to settle, because everyone single in that age bracket realizes they're no prize. The average age of marriage for men in North America is roughly 32. If you're single at 40 It's because either no one wants you or you don't want to be tied down. The only way to be selected and not be actually desirable is to have money and be used for it, or to be with someone equally undesirable. Money is attractive, but it doesn't make the man attractive. You're pretty screwed…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:33 PM
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It's only different for women that think it's different. The opinion of men on the subject of how women should see it is irrelevant, as is the opinion of women on the subject of how men should see it. Your opinion has no bearing, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:16 PM
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That's not what I said at all. I never said him paying more or him helping at home makes her a prostitute. I said she's a prostitute if he's paying it all and then doing everything at home while she provides nothing but sex. Relationships cannot be one sided unless someone is being used.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:12 PM
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He met her as a prostitute and originally paid her for sex before asking her to move in. He's never been anything but a client.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:36 AM
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I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:13 AM
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That's pretty messed up, but I get the basis for it. If you're sleeping together then your marriage is considered intact and the adultery isn't the cause of the divorce. It becomes irreconcilable differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:13 AM
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I covered that much earlier in another comment. Nevada only allows licensed brothels and only occuring in those brothels. All other forms of prostitution are considered illegal and punishable by arrest. The escorts themselves have to be registered with the office of the sheriff and undergo continuous health testing. There are several laws regarding it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:10 AM
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Doesn't matter in a no fault state and without a prenup. No fault means equal separation of property without one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:05 AM
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They were married in Nevada and Nevada has a clause in their law saying it's void if the agreement was severely unfair (unconscionable) when it was signed; and before signing the agreement. Saying sex is required would fall under that since it would violate consent and bodily autonomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:02 AM
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She lives in California. Here's a quick site saying that it absolutely can't be put in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:31 PM
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I don’t think that they're incompetent, but I doubt anyone either wanted to tell her no or that she cared if she was told that it could void it. Lifestyle clauses are becoming more common and I have heard of some ridiculous ones, but they're definitely more likely to get it voided and have you look like a jerk that intentionally tried to screw over your spouse before you were even married.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:28 PM
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It's not misogynistic to have a 50/50 relationship and a lot of men and women have them. Most people take care of each other in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:20 PM
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No, you can have a clause about cheating. That's perfectly legal, because it doesn't violate their consent to have sex with you or not. The other clause voids it because you are saying have sex with me or l have the right to legally punish you with this piece of paper and the court. That's going to be considered coercion or prostitution and both are illegal. You can definitely have an infidelity clause that has a financial penalty in the divorce if you can prove cheating. Cheating is 100% only t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:19 PM
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I wouldn't date a guy with a sexual past because it goes against my beliefs. It has nothing to do with jealousy or insecurity. I think maybe men believe that women are comparing them to past sexual experiences and I don't think that's actually happening a lot. I don't know if men are doing that with their experiences with women so it's assumed that it's happening? I've never heard women comparing guys sexually. I think it comes down to why would they be with me with if they want someone else? Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:00 PM
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Yes, but this entire thread was sparked by saying you can put sexual demands in a prenup. You can, but it also voids the prenup and is not enforceable by a court. Any divorce for any normal reason would result in a prenup being enforced as long as it doesn't violate any standing laws. You can divorce for a lack of sex, but you can't stipulate that you give me this much sex or these acts or I can financially punish you and divorce over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:31 PM
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That's true, but a sexual clause for a demand for sex can't be a part of it. It would void that. The terms of the prenup would apply to other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:12 PM
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That's completely separate than they stopped having sex with me. They wouldn't be considered married.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:10 PM
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Sexual behaviour isn't the same as illegal behaviour. Contracting sex or trying to force it both count as illegal and cannot be enforced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:09 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:06 PM
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Close to mid 20's religious virgins, just got engaged, not under 6 months. I bought him several things including sweatshirts, hats, gift card for the apple store, favourite snacks, and some little knickknacks. He probably spent roughly the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 09:41 PM
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But you can say that I am putting words in the mouths of all women? Okay then.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 09:01 PM
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Men can't afford to be as picky as you Some men can, but apparently you're speaking for them. You could have said some men or even not all men, but you didn't, and apparently mean that no men have options. Well done.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:44 PM
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Okay, so how long can you date before you have to marry her since wasting time isn't a social construct? A year? 2 years? How many women do you get to have casual sex with considering wasting time, risking pregnancy, spreading stds, and sleeping around in general go against "good cooperation" between the genders? You're fine with waiting until marriage to prevent those things right? Tell me how time is alloted and respected in this worldview. Forced marriage still happens all over the world. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:04 PM
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That depends on who they marry. It's usually a 50/50 split. Don't marry a housewife.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:57 PM
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Casual sex was still a thing and dating multiple people goes back to the 1920's. Dating in itself wasn't really a thing for a very long time as fathers decided who got their daughters. No, it doesn't have anything to do with instincts.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:52 PM
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2-3 dates is your personal guideline and it's fine to want the same in a partner. That's why you have adult conversations about expectations and agree to them. People can have whatever expectations they want. I could see 20 guys for 1st dates. I know within 2-3 dates if I want to keep seeing them for more too. No one is entitled to anything, but it's ridiculous to blame a gender for something that both sides frequently do. People that have causal sex should always be aware that it's only casual …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:26 PM
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That's fine, but it's still the expectation of exclusivity without any type of relationship. You can have whatever standards you want. I expect a man to wait until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:08 PM
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You can divorce her, but you can't require something that requires consent from another party. You agree to remain or leave. It's still a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:00 PM
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Move out and leave him the place. It's a cat and there's no hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 05:56 PM
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Can you contract a relationship? Yes, arranged marriage. Can you force a spouse to have sex? No, marital rape still exists. Can you divorce them for a lack of sex? Absolutely. Can you legally punish a person fot it? No. Your prenup is automatically voided legally if you attempt to violate standing law. Can your lawyers put it in and allow you to both sign it? Yes, they can still do that. You agreeing to it doesn't change the law and law is what matters in a court. Then, legally, the money that g…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 05:32 PM
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We must be related. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 05:18 PM
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I would agree if they're in a loveless marriage where she's contributing nothing at home. I disagree if she’s taking care of the house, cooking, raising kids, but not working outside of the house. He's financially providing in exchange for those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 05:00 PM
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I can't speak for any woman except myself, but I am a woman. Not all women see it that way and men make a choice to tolerate women that do. It's not different than women dating men that expect sex like it's a chore or something and then complaining all men feel entitled to sex. There is no men or women think this or that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:40 PM
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I didn't say only. Sex isn't a gift and women don't see it that way. It's a problem if men see sex as a gift or something that they should be getting. Sex should be occurring as a natural result of desire and a happy home. Most relationships are not prostitution or men doing everything. All relationships are conditional and they have to be, but you choose the conditions that you allow yourself to live under and no one else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:35 PM
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They're aware. That's why they only have sex with guys that they want. It's a mutual act, not something one gives or receives in a relationship. Again, it doesn't sound like you have ever seen a healthy normal relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:30 PM
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I spent $300 on my boyfriend for the day. We're both virgins. It doesn't sound like you have ever seen a healthy or normal relationship where both parties care. Sex isn't a gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:28 PM
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I have never heard of it and any man that's not a loser isn't going to tolerate it. How common is it really? How many men do you know that are paying all of the bills and then coming home to do everything for her and himself while she does nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:20 PM
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If you want a prostitute then go for it. ATM > men with demands? It depends on what you want from life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:18 PM
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Men that do all of the housework, cooking, and pay the bills are also unicorns. Making less money and contributing a lesser amount as agreed upon is not the same as not contributing. How many prostitutes have heard of financially contributing to their clients? 0. Any one sided relationship is rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:16 PM
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He doesn't say, but he does say roommate and fwb, not gf or exclusive and she might still be working. I doubt OP knows that answer. She might even be working out of his house while he's at work. Who knows?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:13 PM
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Rent free isn't not helping around the house, cooking, and cleaning either. How many guys have girlfriends that live there and do nothing and he expects to do everything for her on top of no rent? That's not common. Let's not pretend that they're the same. Money is being exchanged in this situation when he pays for everything, has no relationship with this girl, and she has sex with him for that rent, utilities, food, and his cleaning services on her behalf. She's a tenant that pays with sex. OP…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:06 PM
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Women also give their time, gifts, and even pay for things for boyfriends. Most men are not out there doing the cleaning, cooking, and paying the bills. It's shared. That's no form of prostitution at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 03:56 PM
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They're not ready for that conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 03:45 PM
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Transactions don't equal prostitution. Transactions to get sex equal prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 03:36 PM
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in a sense a wife is also a prostitute to a point if we use this definition Prostitutes don't work to pay your bills or take care of you. They don't have your kids or feed you. They don't do anything except have sex. That is their job. Wives don't even have to have sex to get your money. They're entitled to half of it. No, they are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 03:25 PM
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Nevada is the only U.S. state where prostitution is legally permitted in some form. Prostitution is legal in all but seven of Nevada's 17 counties, although only six allow it in every municipality. Seven counties have at least one active brothel, which mainly operate in isolated, rural areas. The state's most populated counties, Clark (which contains Las Vegas) and Washoe (which contains Reno), are among those that do not permit prostitution. It is also illegal in Nevada's capital, Carson City, …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 02:53 PM
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Because you can't contract sex, just like prostitution is still a crime even if both consent to it. Someone always has the right to revoke consent to sex too, even during it, and it's considered rape to keep going. Sex is an act that requires active continous present consent. You can contract a maid service and can put it in there that one party is responsible for cleaning, but not illegal acts like prostitution or rape. It legally becomes prostitution or coercive the moment your marriage hinges…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 02:36 PM
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It's okay to have hard standards too and to say no to anyone that doesn't meet them. It's your life and you have to live with the consequences good or bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 02:17 PM
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She's not living there for free. That's payment for the sex. She's a prostitute that he has hired in exchange for those things rather than cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 02:05 PM
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You can have whatever standards you want and so can other people. The only time the "It's different" argument is brought up is when the other person uses those same standards against you. No, it's not different and you can both feel the same way and not date each other. You're not compatible. That's 100% okay and there's nothing to argue about. It's no different than any other standard. Many men want younger woman, because youth is attractive, and they have less baggage and experience from life.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:58 PM
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I've seen men complain about the very same things. It's not a gender thing. "I expect a girl I am interested in to only date me until we decide if we want a relationship or not." Those men are demanding exclusivity over a single date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:47 PM
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Maybe it's some sort of denial to paying a sex worker for their ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:38 PM
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You can put anything in a prenup, but a judge will most likely throw that it. You can't contract sex in most places, because prostitution is illegal and forced sex is rape. It's not legally enforceable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:23 PM
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She's not an fwb. She's a prostitute that he's housing and fully financially supporting in exchange for sex. Fwbs have sex for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:07 PM
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Testosterone peaks between 18-25. That might be why younger girls are attracted to younger men too. People do all kinds of relationships. Your appearance doesn't determine your morals or desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 02:09 AM
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I haven't been attracted to anyone more than 3 years older. I can't control what I don't feel, but I haven't felt it. There's a lot that goes into it, but they aren't attractive to me on many levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 02:01 AM
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You look older. That's when you're working full time, guys start thinning, you're usually not as physically active, you develop fine lines and gray hair too. Those things beginning happening after 25. You start showing the stress of adult life in your looks. It's not attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:30 AM
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Maybe for you, but not for me. I can't be turned on by a guy that I don't also like. That's why it's sexual attraction and not only physical attractive. You can be an attractive jerk, but you won't ever be seen as an option for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:22 AM
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It's more than physical, but that's when people begin showing signs of aging. Most people have found their partners by then as well. Older men also tend to have a lot of baggage and different levels of life experience. I don't find any of that attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:12 AM
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Chad is any guy that a particular woman find sexually attractive. I find probably half of the men my age to be attractive. I've never found any older guy sexually attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:51 AM
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I don't find older men physically attractive. I am 23 now and wouldn't date older than 26.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:09 AM
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I would have an issue with a person that has a bad ongoing relationship. It's a sign of dysfunction that they're actively engaging with by choice. I would prefer someone with a close and healthy relationship with their family, but I wouldn't take issue with someone that cut out unhealthy abusive parents. What I find more odd are the people that don't have a good/close relationship with family and they really never have a reason for it. "We're not like that." That's a person that l wouldn't date,…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 04:14 PM
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Women already approach men that interest them. Some will directly ask them out and others openly flirt or let it be known that they're open to them making a move. This is common.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 08:33 PM
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I don't mind the height, but the weight conversion gives me feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 06:20 PM
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Beyonce wrote Single Ladies while she was married. It was released the year that they got married. It's about breaking up and saying if he wanted her then he should have proposed. "If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it." The song is about not being jealous if you break up and see them moving on with another man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:56 AM
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They're equally repulsive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:03 PM
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I went to class in my pyjamas! 10/10 recommend
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 04:05 PM
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How would you explain what that looks like to someone that is autistic like the OP? What advice would you give to someone that sucks at reading social cues other than to be polite but direct for them to know whether to proceed? He has a ton of posts saying that every social cue he has been told has resulted in "l only see you as a friend." I don't see another way for that to change. If she says she's open to making new friends then he knows that's it. If she says I would like that then maybe she…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:51 PM
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Flirting with someone is demanding an answer. They flirt back or they don't. That's your answer. Saying you want to get to know someone means you want to get to know someone and see if you would want more. It's not saying date me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:06 PM
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That's not doing that. It's saying I don't know you yet, but I find you attractive. It's less forward that flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:31 PM
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If you want a traditional relationship then you need to fill those traditional roles yourself. Just like you can't sleep with half of the town and expect a man to take care of you financially while you're at home. That's how it's always been.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:21 PM
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What exactly do you think your new acquaintances are expressing when you suggest that they flirt with you? Perhaps you should add a time line to that flirting unless you really mean to say keep your mouth shut unless I make it known that I like you. You're saying flirt with me, but also that you don't want to hear if they're interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:14 PM
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I don’t think any man expects this or not enough men to be relevant. Men don’t have the luxury of being delusional. Hard enough to get a date in the first place. How many times do you see on this sub that if she's not having sex by date # he's out? It's very common. If she’s interacting with a broke, mentally ill man then his looks are probably high and she’s ignoring other factors. She's not. They're on here complaining about hypergamy and women won't settle for average. Average doesn't pay the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:09 PM
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Not every woman is open to being cold approached or having men she doesn't know flirting with her. I am one of those women that would instantly not be interested in him. People like different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:05 PM
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You can do both at the same time. "I'm interested in getting to know you and seeing where this goes or if there's more than friendship." That's honest and makes your intentions known allowing you to get to know each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:50 PM
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You are the one living in a Disney fantasy. People like who they like and they date them. There is no we're perfect and complete each other. That's not real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:19 PM
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I was friend with a girl over Internet and i was pretty much a perfect match for her and she rejected me just because of distance and because she had someone else in mind. You were not a perfect match. She didn't feel the same and she wanted a different guy and type of relationship. You weren't any type of match.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:17 PM
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This works in reverse too. Men want traditional relationships where they lead and make decisions while expecting her to defer to his judgment, be low n count, and take care of the house and family. Meanwhile many of them are broke, mentally ill, and can't fill those traditional male roles that gave that authority to be trusted by a woman to support them and make good decisions. They expect a woman with a career to walk in the door and treat him like he's the second coming of Jesus. There's delus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:51 PM
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I haven't used dating apps, but I don't see them differently than in real life. I wouldn't be comfortable going out with them immediately anymore than I would be if some guy cold approached me. I don't know this man and would want to get to know him before that happened. If I was interested in meeting him quickly I would invite him to a group outing with my friends rather than a proper date.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:58 PM
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I listed that as a red one! But maybe a guy not looking for commitment? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 10:26 PM
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