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I didn't think alimony could ever be more than 50% of someone's income even in the worst cases, but he's paying close to 60% and they weren't even married? That's absolutely bonkers. Do you know how long they lived together, and how long he has to pay for?
/r/MensRights16/07/23 12:38 AM
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Take this from a guy in his 40's who's both seen, and experienced his own share of relationship hell. Don't get married, and if you're 100% sure you don't ever want kids, then get a vasectomy. Focus on your career, your health, your education. Constantly work to improve yourself and live your best life. Date girls, have some flings, maybe have a few relationships. But don't focus on obtaining that, or use it to motivate yourself in other areas of your life. And for the love of god, do NOT have c…
/r/MensRights16/07/23 12:33 AM
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Wait, 70% financially liable? Meaning you were paying 70% of your income to an ex? I hope I'm misunderstanding that, because it would be absolute insanity.
/r/MensRights16/07/23 12:16 AM
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I'm not sure why you were downvoted so heavily, because you do make some valid points. But the big issue I think you missed is that his payments are indefinite. Even a housewife who gave up on her career for 20 years does not need 20-30 years of a free ride in order to re-establish herself. Why not give her 5 years? She's being paid enough by her ex to meet her basic needs, she can go back to school and get a degree without much stress. Plus another year to find a job. If an adult can't make som…
/r/MensRights16/07/23 12:14 AM
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I might agree with this if it happened a decade ago. But the divorce cost him the majority of equity he had in his house, and a big chunk of savings. The city he (we) live in is in the middle of a housing crisis, so he's currently renting with no hope of being able to afford a down-payment on a new home in the near future. Keep in mind this is Canada, but a six-figure income isn't that much money anymore, especially when you're losing half of it to your ex each month. The dude is in his 40's and…
/r/MensRights16/07/23 12:06 AM
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Nope, unfortunately that won't fly. Like I mentioned before, the judge is going to ask why you can't work. If you don't have a 100% legitimate reason, he's going to order you to continue payments. There's absolutely no other way to talk your way out of it. Don't want to work anymore and go out and live in a cabin? That's fine, as long as you can somehow continue paying $3k to your ex every month for the next decade or two. that ain’t legal It's perfectly legal. That's our family law system as it…
/r/MensRights15/07/23 11:58 PM
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Hey, fair enough, everyone has their own opinion on these things. I try to be as objective as possible and that's my take, but I'm willing to admit I might be wrong.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 11:50 PM
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This guy knows what's up. There's virtually no excuse that a judge will accept for reducing your alimony payments outside of the original agreement. Maybe if you suffer and accident and end up a quadriplegic, but even that I bet wouldn't be enough. As an aside, I hope you managed to get yourself out of that situation and are living a good life now.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 07:39 PM
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Yep, exactly this. If you wait 10 years and petition to get a reduction, you might end up paying more if your income has gone up, or even just to cover the rate of inflation.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 07:33 PM
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There's nothing unique or surprising about his case, there are millions of other men in a similar situation. Hell, my friend got off easy compared to some other cases I've heard of.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 07:31 PM
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Unfortunately that doesn't work. If you stop working and stop making your monthly payments, you will get summoned to court, or possibly even arrested. You will then need to explain to the judge why you can't keep making your monthly payments, and unless you've become quadriplegic, are in a coma, or are dead, no excuse will be good enough. Hell, even if you end up in a coma for two years, you'll wake up owing 2 years in alimony plus interest. It's literally either keep working and keep paying, or…
/r/MensRights15/07/23 07:29 PM
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Like everything else, it's up to the courts to decide. My friend is talking with his lawyer about it, but it will probably be another exhausting and expensive legal battle. But I'm not exactly sure how it all works.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 07:21 PM
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This is in Canada, I should have mentioned that in the post..
/r/MensRights15/07/23 07:18 PM
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As much as I disagree with the whole family law slave trade, the question of how to handle infidelity is actually one aspect I think they got right. Alimony is (or was, traditionally) intended to help the ex spouse get back on their feet after giving up their career to raise children. If that's the intent, I don't think their behavior during the marriage should affect this. Just because they decided to be a cheating asshole shouldn't result in financial punishment, since infidelity isn't a crime…
/r/MensRights15/07/23 07:17 PM
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As much as I think cheating is wrong and should never be done, it helped me to get some perspective from the other side. One of my female friends told me about how her previous husband had basically lost all interest in sex, wasn't romantic or spontaneous, and near the end of their marriage, the extent of their love life was a quick kiss on birthdays and valentines. They went to counselling and nothing helped. The marriage was already ending, but she ended up cheating at the end. It's still wron…
/r/MensRights15/07/23 07:05 PM
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Ironically, my friend said the cheating was the least painful part of the entire situation, which is saying a lot considering how much it hurt him.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 06:58 PM
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I get what you're saying and agree, but based on what I've researched, this is a no-go. I should have clarified in the post, he's not just paying 40% of whatever his take-home pay happens to be based on his tax return, he's ordered to pay a specific amount each month. I'm not sure what it is, but guessing $3-4k. So if he decides to pull an American Beauty and start working fast food, he will still be expected to pay that same amount. He technically could go back to the judge and request an adjus…
/r/MensRights15/07/23 06:31 PM
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Unfortunately, the divorce already liquidated all his assets. He ended up having to spend most (but not all) on legal fees for two lawyers, as well as a bunch of incidentals related to moving both families. I don't know exactly what this entailed, but I think it included temporarily paying for rent for his ex, moving trucks, mortgage fees, etc. He has a healthy retirement fund, but I'm pretty sure she get a big chunk of that also.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 06:26 PM
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What do you mean by direct expenses? He's currently working with his lawyer to see what his options are, but he's basically broke at this point, and I think he just wants things to be over. I get what you're saying, but he's got no fight left in him.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 03:43 AM
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The ironic thing is my friend said he would give anything to get even a single year of relief to be able to train for another career, one that isn't destroying his body every day. Even though it pays well, he hates working construction, and now he's in a situation where he's basically forced to stay in it "indefinitely". How is this not slavery?
/r/MensRights15/07/23 03:39 AM
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You regularly eat 4-person meals but you're blaming your metabolism on your weight gain? Come on man, don't make bullshit excuses. Take responsibility for your situation. You need to eat less, it's as simple as that. Learn portion control. When you cook a meal for 4 people, only eat 1/4th of the meal. Save the rest or give it away. Track your calories if you are struggling. I get that you like food, everyone does, but do you value eating more than you value being at a normal weight?
/r/seduction18/05/17 09:49 PM
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Unless you have a funky growth on your face that you're not telling us about, they almost certainly like what they see. When your eyes meet, absolutely do not break eye contact. stare right back at them until they break contact first. It can be very uncomfortable, but it builds confidence, and it's a great stepping stone to being able to smile at them and say hello.
/r/seduction12/05/17 03:48 PM
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I don't ever have to stand for myself and argue because I don't get into any arguments This is basically it. The type of behavior you described shows that you care more about how others perceive you than you do about standing up for yourself and what you believe. You're playing it safe because you're scared of rejection and afraid that you can't handle difficult situations. You probably do a lot of agreeing with other people about what they like / dislike (even if you don't actually agree). Same…
/r/seduction03/03/17 10:04 PM
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For the average guy, Tinder is going to be one of the most inefficient, frustrating ways to meet women. Guys who have charisma, confidence (looks help but aren't everything) are the ones who are making shit happen with these women. I'm a very good looking dude, and it's extremely difficult making anything happen on Tinder. Ton of matches, very few dates or hook-ups. Women on Tinder have the attention span of a goldfish. It's because they're being hit on by dozens or hundreds of other guys at onc…
/r/seduction03/03/17 09:43 PM
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