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No, if you love you love someone then you don't want to cause them pain and hurt. Abuse is not love in any way!
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 07:01 PM
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All 50 states treat military pension as marital or community property.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:28 PM
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Federal and state law allow money from military retirement pay to be withheld to meet most child support and spousal support (alimony) obligations. The Federal law is called the "Uniform Services Former Spouses Protection Act" (USFSPA) and is 10 United States Code Section 1408 et seq.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:26 PM
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How much will a former spouse receive under the USFSPA? The maximum amount that can be paid under the USFSPA is 50 percent of the member's disposable income. DFAS will pay a former spouse the monthly amount or amounts awarded in the pertinent court order up to the 50% limit. This is the law on that
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:24 PM
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Actually no it's not, that VA disability pay. Military retirement pay is actually an asset. It's divided as an asset and usually 50/50 especially if marriage is 15 years or more.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:17 PM
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Unless it's retirement benefits you are receiving from military if retired while married, 401k, and other things that are considered martial assets. If you are also not helping your spouse and/or financially abandon them, they cam go for spousal support for a determined time frame also. Check with your states laws.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 06:33 PM
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When do kids ever listen to their parents?? Lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 01:13 AM
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Women can also be narcissist
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:35 PM
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I'm just saying if she is saying he is a narcissist, then it could be either he is or she is- or maybe it's just toxic. Dismissal of things is not a way to ignore things, patterns are patterns. Maybe she sees things he is not observant too. We like to think others are doing thing when many time they are reactionary in manner. We also don't know the whole picture and hearing 1side is flippant in explaining scenarios. Hindsight is 20/20. What the wife sees is maybe not what a man sees, perspective…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:22 PM
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It seems like you cannot handle others giving imput also. I'm not here to argue, just insight thats all
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:13 PM
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Well, women can also read and have imput also. We divorce men for the same reason also!
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:12 PM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:10 PM
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Is it because we should just be quiet and only speak when spoken too??
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:09 PM
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*snarky
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:07 PM
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Is it sparky or the truth??
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:07 PM
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There are 9 criteria to NPD SPECIAL ME Sense of self-importance Preoccupation with power, beauty, or success Entitled Can only be around people who are important or special Interpersonally exploitative for their own gain Arrogant Lack empathy Must be admired Envious of others or believe that others are envious of them He rarely ever apologized and he was rarely wrong even when he was very wrong. He would rage if I stood up for myself and told him no, then give the silent treatment for days, but …
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 03:16 PM
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Is it because she started to see patterns where you thought she would stay blind?
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 03:11 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 03:25 PM
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Your a failure if you abandoned your spouse instead of being an adult and communicating. Your a failure if you blamed everything on them and never saw your wrongs in the relationship. Your a failure if you think going from partner to partner solves everything. Your a failure if you believe it's your partners job to make you happy, fulfilled, and your self worth is continent on them in everyday. Your a failure if you feel that your issues was their problem and not something you needed to deal wit…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 10:40 PM
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Well, my ex is a man (in theory lol) and he always left when it got hard or there was conflict. If he needed to take any accountability on the crap he did, he would do everything to not do that. So it's not always women!
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 10:33 PM
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Is this about both women and men!
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 12:24 AM
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Well, I'm not trying to be a bad person here, but you are responsible for your own happiness. Putting that on your partner is like stabbing yourself and hoping she bleeds. In counter productive and toxic. She is not responsible for your happiness. Only you can do that. That is codependent to put that on another person. You need to take a look and wonder why your not happy. What happens if you and her get divorced? You think that will make you "happy". And what if it doesn't? You will still blame…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 01:31 PM
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Your marital home is a joint asset. She should be entitled by law to half of it. Unless you bought it before marriage, it will be 50/50 split. Renting it to her might not be allowed since it's a joint asset, and she has nowhere to move too. If there are children involved, she might have more rights to the house than you know. Renting to a former spouse that is joint ownership of the house just looks bad on you, and the courts see that as vindictive. If there is alimony/spousal support then your …
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 10:38 AM
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Mayne she isn't a cheater. Maybe she is moving on and he hates to know that about her. We don't like to be forgotten about, and when someone we loved and loved us back moves on, we question that and ourselves. We like to play the victim, think we are faultless, and want another chance. But, sometimes, those chances are gone. We are left questioning once was good or "what ifs"?! I think he should go to therapy and see why he feels the need to check up on her? It's easy to blame the other person w…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 04:37 PM
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I think a better question would be- why are you checking her dating profile and remuinatiing about her?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 04:28 PM
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When someone states "she's someone else's problem " and other things, I tend to think that is blaming the other without context. Same thing when woman do it to men. Passing judgment without knowing is just not helpful at all. Who's to say it wasn't him that caused the marriage to break up??
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 12:32 PM
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Why is almost everyone bashing on the ex wife? I am just wondering this?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 10:19 AM
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While it may take 2 to make a marriage successful. It doesn't help if one partner is selfish, never makes an effort, blames their spouse for their mistakes, they never take accountability for anything they do wrong, takes them for granted and thinks they are so entitled that their partner will never get fed up with their crap. That goes for both men and women. Yes, one person can destroy a marriage by those things above and also emotionally and physically neglect them or expect the other partner…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 08:57 PM
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In 2022, adultery by some definition is still a crime in 16 states: Arizona, Florida, Kansas, Illinois, Massachusetts, Oklahoma, Idaho, Michigan, Wisconsin, Minnesota, Utah, New York, Mississippi, Georgia, South Carolina and North Carolina.Sep 12, 2022 So, if your in those states you can be charged with a crime. But, the affair partner can be sued also in many states. Hope this helps
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 07:02 PM
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Gaslight
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 06:06 AM
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Wait, how old is your wife??
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 02:14 PM
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Hunny, thos is what's called a smear campaign. Let it go, lies eventually come out to people and they see the truth. She's hurt, insecure and wants drama. Your divorced so that's that ok
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 02:28 PM
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Well, I married this last one not knowing he was a covert narcissist. It wasn't until I got tired of the way he would give me the silent treatment, withheld cause I said NO or stood up to him, called hom out on his behavior or something he did and realized it was always about him. Never appreciated or rarely appreciated, thinking the bare minimum was what I deserved, never thinking I deserved respect and then having to Google why he has tantrums or act the way he did, then thinking I need to rec…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 10:49 PM
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Actually when someone get a military retirement pay and spousal support is issued in the final divorce decree, it will be taken at a 25% rate out of their military pay but no more than 25% of the amount for spousal support will be paid out of that. Any VA pay for disability is not allowable under law to be attached in any divorce decree under law. Check your laws, all military retirement pay is an asset and so is other things except VA disability payments. That is the sole property of the retire…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 09:10 AM
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If you were married over 20 years it is a marital asset. If you retired and were still married at the time, she gets 50%. Plus if you are going to pay spousal support, that comes out of your pension at the 25% rate in the US. Plus she doesn't lose it anymore if she remarried, it's not considered income but a judgment award by the courts. And if you don't disclose that on the financial statement, you can lose more than just money. That's fraud on the courts and hiding assets!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 01:16 AM
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Well, I'm getting divorced now. This is my 3rd and final. Tired of going broke for dumbasses and Im a woman!! FmL and being a hopeless romantic!! Lol Be safe ok!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 12:52 AM
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Anything that is bought before marriage is not a marital asset as long as she is not on the title or deed. It is solely your property, but if you intended to buy it to save it as sole property knowing you we r e planning on getting married, then that is up to the courts. It could be seen as a way to hide assets. But in all honesty, if you are planning on getting married knowing you might get divorced or or will happen then don't get married. When you get married, you don't start planning in your…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 05:31 PM
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Plus their delusions of them never being wrong is frustrating. My soon to be ex husband told menI was delusional for holding him accountable for the crap he did. He always deflected and blamed me when he screwed up. I am so glad he is gone!!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 02:55 PM
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I'm divorcing a covert narcissist, I know what you mean. They only give so they can keep taking, they only "care" when it benefits them, they only do things that they make sure they will always be seen as this great person or the victim. They neglect, but are needy. They withhold, but expect you to always give to them. They will never admit they did anything wrong and they never make mistakes, but sure as hell will remind you that you messed up 10 years ago on the stupidest thing. Their double s…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 01:43 PM
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What did she do that she treated you like shit?? Just wondering?
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 12:28 AM
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Is it really being selfish or is it not putting men 1st all the time when they put us last?? That's not selfish, but to someone that is now not the main priority it can be seen as "selfish"?! When when do what ever they want and we have to wait and wait and wait, when we're tired of waiting how are we now selfish?? Why are men the "priority" and your ego gets a taste of when we go thru and how we are treated for too long, you now don't like it?? You can dish it out, but can't take it?? Please ex…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/22 09:29 PM
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Plus this would be in small claims court if you sued, no attorneys needed.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 02:59 AM
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1st- did you buy it while married? If you did, it is a marital asset and is jointly owned. To get reimbursed, you would have to prove you bought it after you separated. That's not really gonna fly if it was acquired while still legally married. Then if you were married it would be under equitable division under NJ law. So, your divorce decree would have to state what you will take and retain and same with her. New Jersey is not a community property state, but they are still recognize joint owner…
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 02:58 AM
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This goes for men and women, but its so true. If I had known I was marrying an emotional abuser, a cheater, an alcoholic and someone that pretending to be something they are not and someone that was incapable of taking accountability for what they said or did and could only blame others for everything they wrong, I would have left a long time ago or just walked past him. It was always such a burden to be made the reason he did the things he did, make me responsible for his feelings and happiness…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 02:57 PM
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Yeah, actually you can. As long as your contract you signed has clauses in it to your attorney's conduct? If not, you can fire her and get a new attorney. Make sure you get all your files also. They belong to you, not her ok. Remember that. If this is an ongoing problem, maybe check the ABA and see if she has a complaints against her?? Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 03:15 AM
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Your walking a very thin line with this. Since they are marital assets, you could cause more problems then you know. Hiding assets isn't just fraud it is also financial abuse, the courts do not like this at all. They can make your life a living hell if you do this and you can face jail time if the courts see this as willful and with malice. Talk to your attorney, but don't do this.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 03:39 PM
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Ok, so what state are you in??
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 04:21 AM
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Its not taken out of what you would get. Go to the social security website. Thats one thing that cannot be stopped in a divorce decree.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/21 03:42 AM
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Even if she did get your social security, it would not impact you at all and that is something that cannot be stopped if eligible for.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/21 03:11 AM
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Since VA disability is not awarded in divorce it doesn't matter if you report to them, but the DOD will usually help with that if your awarded over 20% due to the spouse pay on that you will lose from being divorced. But, if you do get military retirement pay that will be split up to 50% awarded to a former spouse. The divorce decree if you have been married over 10 years while active duty and spousal support can be garnished the max is an additional 15% of your take home military retirement pay…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/21 10:39 PM
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If the closing is after the divorce then wonderful. She still doesn't need your Financials since you will not be a part of the mortgage loan. Unless your co-signing, but that would be stupid lol. Don't let her scam you, if you are not gonna be on the loan or on the deed there is no need for you to submit anything to her. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 05:34 PM
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They do not need anything from you if your name is not on the mortgage loan or deed. She can use her tax papers for a mortgage, but you will need to sign off on a claim release or quick deed if it is bought within marriage even of your getting divorced. Anything that is acquired while still married is community property under the laws. Talk to your lawyer about this and do not give anything until you get info back from your attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 05:22 PM
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Not all women want to suck men dry. Glad I could help.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/21 10:53 PM
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Not a problem.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/21 08:20 AM
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Under the Uniformed Services Former Spouses' Protection Act, VA disability payments are exempt from being treated as marital property and cannot be divided as part of a divorce.  https://www.nolo.com › how-divorc... How Divorce, Alimony, and Child Support Affect Veterans' VA Benefits Plus I'm in law school and divorcing a retired asshole. 🙃 I have done my homework and she will not get that benefit in a divorce. I hope this helps out.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/21 12:32 AM
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No, only your military retirement pay is hit for spousal support and division of assets which they do how many months married would be applicable to the divorce settlement. Your VA award whether it is 10% or 100% is off limits in a divorce. She couldn't touch it no matter how hard she tries. Child support so would be off limits to the VA award. Hope this helps you out.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/21 12:07 AM
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I'm actually a female. But your welcome
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/21 01:09 AM
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Actually in all states it's not a marital asset.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 10:33 PM
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Inheritance is not subject to equitable distribution in marriage. That is one thing not a marital asset.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 10:32 PM
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If you are found to be hiding any money or assets you can be in trouble with the courts and it will backfire. Don't ever hide assets in any divorce actions. That can be seen as fraud and willful to the court. Trust me that's very bad!!
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 10:30 PM
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You will need to declare it on the divorce papers though. If you hide it then that doesn'took good. Plus if there is any income derived from that inheritance that might be a marital asset. That's the only difference on that. Check the laws yourself also. Your attorney should have told you this info.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 10:28 PM
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Inhereatence is not a marital asset. It is separate and remains with the person that is owed or has gotten it. All 50 states it's separate. I hope that helps you out
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 08:57 PM
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Then you need to stop dealing with asshole women!! I am far from selfish. I will cook a meal from scratch then work on your car!! That's equally!!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 03:19 AM
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OK, I am a women that reads this an I see a lot of you have been hurt by selfish women. I am sorry that happened to you all, but not all women are like that. Some women are really caring and kind. I speak from experience. I loved my ex husband unconditionally. Through all the manipulation, all the gaslighting, all the emotional abuse and when he abandoned me and cheated on me. That was the last straw. I understand what lot of you are saying. I worked while he quit his job. I busted my ass all th…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 03:15 AM
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I think you are lumping all women together. There are some women that do love unconditionally but then people see that as an excuse to treat them bad and they should let them do whatever they want because of that. Unconditional love should still have boundaries and equal give and take. But when you are loved unconditionally does that excuse the bad behavior of the one that is loved unconditionally? Unconditional love does not mean unconditional tolerance for bad or abusive behavior. There is a d…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/21 02:26 AM
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No, when I ask if you you it is without her. But if you have filed for your entire marriage together then it would be joint under the laws. But if you filed with out her or have not filed for years and the tax bill is in your name then it is your debt not hers. She can file innocent spouse exemption and get that taken off her name if that is the case. Just because your married doesn't mean the tax bill is always joint. That goes under your or her ss# and that will be a separate debt issue and no…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/21 03:31 AM
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Well, if you have been separated over 6 months in a calendar year then she can legally file her own taxes. If you owe money to the IRS then that is one reason to file on her own and not be part of the debt. She is not obligated to file as married if not living together and should not be held down by someone else if there is a debt owed to the IRS, plus if she paid for all living expenses without any help from you then she can file without you. Is there other reasons that is why she filed without…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/21 12:57 PM
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