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Definitely. The standard of beauty is impossibly high and less alien than Miami. Just go to any affluent gym like Lifetime HI or Camp.
/r/seduction05/07/26 08:59 PM
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Go to downtown Tampa
/r/seduction05/07/26 08:05 AM
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Love her!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:10 PM
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I mean... not really. The concept of virginity got tangled up in morality, sexuality and politics but it actually had a very important sociological function - to ensure a legitimate heir in a world without birth control or Maury. Perhaps it would be better stated that the concept of virginity was created by men who wanted ownership over a woman’s reproductive capabilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:35 PM
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Never devote your time and energy to someone who will suck the life force out of you, yes. We are all in a constant state of growth and transition - but a LVM is a black hole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:21 PM
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You just added a lot more information than what’s in your post title. I hate to break this to you but there’s no magic age where people suddenly become mature, functioning adults. You are still in your 20’s. Just wait till you hit your 40’s. People often get MORE screwed up. Careers aren’t “stabilized” automatically. Men still don’t know what they want. Whatever the age, the same rules apply. Learn to identify a HVM. Never put your life on hold for a man. Never sacrifice your dreams for a man. B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:12 PM
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Meh. In certain parts of the country it’s much more common for people to marry earlier in life. It really all depends on the person’s values and belief in marriage. I don’t like arbitrary age cutoffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:58 AM
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I could tell a million little stories but nothing sums it up better than this. I watched my HVM care for my father while he was dying from cancer on home hospice. He was loving and committed to helping him. He would talk softly to my father and tell him not to worry about me because he would always be there to care for me. Now THAT is a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:53 PM
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OH MY GOSH. That sub is literally insane. I’m irrationally mad at every girl posting their picture there, seeking some meaningless validation, and then meekly agreeing that they are, indeed, a 7. This world has gone mad, that just tipped the scale for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:25 AM
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Amen! This sub sometimes emphasizes the scarcity mindset too - and that scares me. HVM are out there. I have one, I recognize them. You HAVE to believe!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:30 AM
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I mean, it happens! Big Ang did this, if I recall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 12:13 AM
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I also work with a cancer organization. It’s a cancer that’s caught later in life, so perhaps that is a factor, but i don’t see a lot of divorces. I do see women accompanied to events with friends or daughters though. It seems as if they rely heavily on a female support system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:37 AM
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Nope. She was the wicked stepmother :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:28 PM
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Not true. Divorce rates were “elevated” - not that they “usually” left their wives. I think it’s important to recognize that this isn’t an absolute. It’s just citing a statistical increase in probability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:27 PM
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OMG! It hurts so much worse. I have been there done that! When you’re ghosted by a 4 it makes you feel like a 3 :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:20 PM
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I’ve certainly seen this firsthand, so I’m sure it rings true to a lot of people. I could dissect this a lot but since I haven’t read the actual study I don’t want to extrapolate. Bottom line: FDS is great because it teaches women to focus on becoming their best selves and recognize quality characteristics in their male counterparts. Finding a partner who is a natural “caretaker” is very valuable (for parenting as well).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:18 PM
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I think there are 2 issues here - men who are looking for a new woman right after losing someone, and men who are incapable of caring for a terminally ill spouse (which is downright evil). My beloved grandfather remarried shortly after losing my grandmother (a sudden, tragic passing). On HIS deathbed he expressed how happy he was to be rejoining my grandmother in heaven - it still brings tears to my eyes when I think of it. He just didn’t know how to be alone and care for young children. Life is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:01 PM
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This is basically the origin of the “evil stepmother.” Many men want to remarry as soon as possible after losing their wife. One of the saddest stories that stuck with me was a woman I knew who battled breast cancer for a decade. Her husband finally left her for another woman, saying “he tried to wait it out but he didn’t think she’d live that long.” She passed away shortly thereafter. I don’t want to believe this is true of all men. I KNOW there are truly good humans out there - but the reality…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:39 PM
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And this is why we should NEVER date “down.” Because if a guy knows you’re out of his league then the only way for him to recover his ego is to reject YOU first. Going out with you doesn’t make him feel better about himself, it makes him feel worse... insecure, lacking. BLOCK!!! Onward and upward, girl. Just a learning experience. Sometimes we need a harsh lesson for growth :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:36 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:50 PM
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This. This is why it takes men longer to feel a breakup - because by the time we’ve gotten to that point, they have become confident that we’ll always calm down and come back. They just have to wait it out until we send another “I miss you” text. Fast-forward to a month of them enjoying the single life, confident that they still have us on the back burner, and suddenly they realize we might ACTUALLY be gone for good. And that is when they finally reach out. Not because they care, but because the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:31 PM
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I never meant to imply you looked frumpy:) Be unapologetically YOU. Different things work for different people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:24 AM
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Amen, it’s all about what makes you feel confident!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:20 AM
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I don’t know. I don’t know what career path you chose or how you met these men. You can be the belle of the ball and end up with a toad; there are always circumstances beyond your control. It’s not a mathematical equation, it’s just another weapon in your arsenal. Anecdotally, the opposite is true for me. I am now happily married to a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:16 AM
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Being attractive is a power move. You certainly don’t HAVE to make yourself uncomfortable to please a man and women should NEVER feel they have to cut their perfect bodies open and have plastic surgery to please a man... But wearing certain clothes and shoes and appealing to a broad range of men (and having the smarts and drive to back it up) will often give you more options - both in your love life and your career. That’s the truth. I’m sure this will be a divisive comment, but power is power a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:07 AM
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That makes sense to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:04 PM
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Honest question - how are these guys getting laid if THEY NEVER ACTUALLY MEET UP!!?? I think a lot of these men already have gf’s - they just like getting messages and this is their breadcrumbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:34 PM
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Your comment is a little complicated. Acknowledging someone’s victimization is not conditional upon their “innocence.” I’m sure many of us can accept that we played a role in bad relationships with LVM’s. Regardless, the nature of their relationship, his infidelities, and her feelings of inadequacies for being unable to bear his children led her down a path of great suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:49 PM
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Yup, a brilliant, talented woman who sacrificed herself on the altar of love. So many things play into our obsession with LVM’s - our notions of femininity and romantic love, our own self-worth, idolizing toxic masculinity etc etc A lot to unpack if we want to heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:53 PM
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Regardless of whether or not she wrote this, Frida Kahlo is a good example of why we shouldn’t stay with a LVM. Just look at her painting “A Few Small Nips”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:52 PM
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One thing I learned that REALLY helped me is that when we’re in pain our brains try to make the pain go away. This often means that our brains kinda betray us - minimizing the reasons why you broke things off, rationalizing the times they hurt you as being “not that bad”, giving you urges to go back or contact them... ANYTHING that makes the hurt go away. You did the right thing by ending things. You can stop chasing him right now and regain your pride. You didn’t do anything wrong by loving him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:01 AM
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This. Because by focusing on the logistical steps of THEIR “game” they are no longer focusing on YOU. They’re just going through the motions. Think of it like a fisherman. He doesn’t care what kind it is or what that animal has gone through in life - only 1. Is it a big catch? 2. Can he take a selfie with it? 3. Will he enjoy using it or should he throw it back?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:13 PM
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Sounds cheesy, but I have read Beck’s final monologue and cried. The part when she repeats “didn’t I ask for it” - UGH, gets me every time. I thought she was a very honest portrayal of the modern woman. That’s probably why people didn’t like her. Too real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:03 AM
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He’s probably got an off again/on again girlfriend. The identical thing happened to me in my early 20’s. It was the longest first date I’ve ever had and I felt like we really bonded. We laughed, we kissed, we had great conversations. Then he disappeared. I saw him years later and he explained that he had had a complicated relationship with another girl and that’s why he disappeared. He asked me out again but I declined. If it doesn’t make sense then it’s not you. Bottom line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:01 PM
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You don’t have to keep finances “separate”. If you have substantial assets then meet with an estate planner and delegate savings in trusts for your kids, elderly parents etc. Have a pre-nup. (Very important). Besides, if you are married, the laws surrounding joint assets can be murky anyways. If your husband really wants to steal your money he probably can one way or another. Marriage absolutely requires trust. That’s why finding a TRUE HVM is so important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:44 PM
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I’m so sorry this happened and I can’t imagine your pain! I can assure you that you did NOT waste your best years. Your best years are the years that you dedicate to yourself and your goals... so they are yet to come. If you so choose. I would recommend finding a therapist to help you work through this terrible betrayal. The worst thing you can do is devote more time and space dwelling on the past or repeating past mistakes. Do not look for closure - I know that’s easier said then done. Throw yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:19 PM
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This was such an epiphany for me. I loved the book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:36 PM
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Beautiful ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:44 PM
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The fact that he is JUST telling you this now?! What a shock to the system that must’ve been. I’m so sorry. Just because someone’s actions are noble does not mean you have to accept and deal with the potential ramifications in YOUR life if you have a future with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:41 PM
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Wow. So true! I’ve put so much of my time into marketing myself (or some version of myself) that it’s taken a tremendous amount of emotional energy out of my daily life. Actually just talking about this “out loud” makes me feel better. It validates a lot of the struggle I’ve felt lately. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 03:14 PM
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Girl, I’m struggling with that on a daily basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 01:10 PM
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Tell her to take an Uber next time so she doesn’t drink and drive.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/20 07:58 AM
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Your boundaries are your boundaries. His capacity to accommodate them may or may not be possible. I don’t think this incident indicates an LVM. Perhaps there are other things that would represent his failings better. I understand trauma. Trust me. Our first responsibility is to ourselves - and this arguing will not help you heal. Whether you should choose to stay with him would perhaps be a question better suited to another forum (specifically dealing with trauma). Edited for clarity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:26 AM
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If you are actively engaging in a consensual sex act it might be too much to ask a guy not to orgasm. Imagine if it was reversed and he told you not to finish, and then got mad if you did. At a certain point the human body just responds to stimulation. If it were me, I would want to resolve the trauma further before going that far with someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:52 AM
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All the time. Guys would even stop to ask to have their picture taken with me (one time I was asked to take a pic with the NYFD). Lest you think I’m bragging, I can assure you that this has not happened in a loooong time. I’m still attractive but I’m no longer in my magical 20’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:16 PM
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This is EVERYTHING 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:37 PM
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People in relationships get unhappy and they seek to place blame on whoever they’re with instead of turning inward. Life is hard. Aging is hard. You can’t recapture the spark of youth and there are seasons in a marriage. Both sexes do this - and this leads to a lot of infidelity. I am a woman and I get unhappy but I am ALWAYS grateful for my partner. 10 plus years.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 06:27 PM
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I think social media/online dating are to blame. I grew up in a world without either. I believed in love. I worked hard to make myself into a good person/partner and I’m very happy in my relationship. Recently, I had to create a social media page for a public position. Within about 6 months my impression of humanity has gone to complete shit. People are no longer concerned with being a valuable human, they are only concerned with marketing a persona on social media. Men HATE women, view them thr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 01:55 PM
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This is how I am too. It doesn’t matter what he says. I just need to get out how I feel or I can’t move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:18 PM
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I know THIS guy. Brilliantly written!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:56 PM
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Understand that, despite what this website says, most men DO want a relationship. Raise your value by exercising and maximizing your looks and getting an education. Practice being sweet/cruel and slutty/virginal to keep yourself interesting. And, finally, sleep with the men you REALLY feel a connection with. If they break your heart, so be it. But maybe just maybe, if you feel a CLICK with someone then they’ll feel the same way for you. Remove your ego from the equation so that you can recognize…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 12:46 AM
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