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| – | How did you acquire your GF / wife / casual relationship? (or your last one)I lazily perused the options at my company department and on a particularly slow day I asked one with some promise if she'd like to grab lunch. We had a great talk and since she was moving some time later I set up a trip to a builder store as I needed stuff myself anyway and it doubled perfectly as a date with plausibe deniability (being colleagues and all I needed to know if this was a bad idea so I could still nope out with grace). It was a fun trip and from then on it was in the bag and just … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 07:01 AM |
| 2 | “Men want to be truly desired” is just code for “I want to be treated like a Sex God”.You hated casual sex since "you were small" 🤨 and also your religion says sex is only for procreation? I don't know man your situation sounds very particular... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/25 01:02 PM |
| -2 | “Men want to be truly desired” is just code for “I want to be treated like a Sex God”.Low self confidence mindset. "Used up" is just fear of competing with her previous experiences, so why not just compete and knock them out of the park? The ever-elusive "n-1 bodycount" girlfriend will have a problem as well - she doesn't know much about what's out there and if your idea of competing is to trap her in the smallest pond where you're the biggest fish then she may still get curious about all she's missing some day. People who actually get to fuck don't give a shit about body count. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/25 12:01 PM |
| – | Men are not upset about not being able to date, they're upset about not being able to participate in hookup culture.Resentment is definitely counterproductive. However, the way our bodies and brains and personality turned out doesn't have much to do with hard work. Hard work is a tiny cherry on top, for most it isn't hard work, it's just dealing with life one day at a time and growing, which is what everyone has to do. This "everyone can be the next big NBA player, even timmy in the wheelchair" is idiotic and toxic and just some fair world delusion. And regarding finances: Your chances of getting rich if you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 12:15 PM |
| 9 | Do you think men who can’t attract women are losers?Oh yeah, if people get offended by being proposed or rejected, the immediate instinctive knee-jerk reaction is to insult you, and they put zero thought into it, picking the most ridiculous insult that applies. I remember gently letting down a fwb who started fishing for a relationship. She was very creative and insulted me back immediately by saying she can't believe she's getting rejected by a guy who's ass crack is showing like a plumber's. Now mind you this happened afaik exactly once in like… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Girls do well in school not because teachers prioritize them, it's because the female "nature" is more suitable for that environment than the male nature is.It was mostly created by capitalist men who needed a bare minimum educated workforce. Even today, the thought if something is useful to the individual learning it rather than to a potential employer is dead last, and if it ever comes up, people understand it's a glorious exception. But the actual environment created by Prussian men two centuries ago is dominated by female teachers "one level down" in actual reality. I didn't have a single male teacher before I was 11, that's basically 5 years of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 06:19 AM |
| – | It's much harder for men to build a hot body than it is for women.The issue of this thread is actually that OP thinks women want the gym bro who could wrestle Arnold Schwarzenegger at his peak. If you think you need to go 4-5 times a week to reach and maintain max attractiveness for the attractive girl group you're wrong. Women show in a million studies that they like the fit but average muscle guy the best, not the gym beefcake. Gym beefcake is for girls with a very specific fetish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 11:39 AM |
| 0 | Is it just human behavior?!In general manipulation (which is different from influencing as that may take into account the well-being of the influenced person). The shittiest people of both genders will try to coerce you into a shape they want you to be "by almost any means necessary" and for men violence or threat of violence is easier to pull off (and is sometimes seen as attractive, see murderers getting fanmail in prison), whereas women who are machiavellian tend to use a grab-bag of manipulation tactics that they can … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/25 06:04 AM |
| 8 | Is it just human behavior?!LOL One of the biggest delusions is to be immune to delusions. Edit: There are mountains of science books about how having an objective lens is impossible because seeing isn't just an act of mental photography, seeing always means interpreting which will heavily depend on your worldview and preconceptions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/25 05:56 AM |
| 11 | The resentment for women will grow drastically in years to comeI think the reason it is perceived as funny is because there is a kernel of truth buried in it, and we recognize it. Maybe not literally a box, but to point is that men burn a lot of money to obtain status symbols (useless or useful - such as a house) that may increase their mate value. If that dimension was gone, we would spend a lot less money on things we don't actually need or desire just for ourselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 07:03 AM |
| 0 | There is a serious hypocrisy in modern dating.Businesses. Multiple lol. Just starting them though for the bragging rights, not actively running them. Being a pidgeon girlboss like Elon, flying in once every couple of months, pecking at random-ass buttons because they know best, and then the actual people working there can clean up your shit instead of getting things done. Best of this manic idea is that's on the side next to cleaning at home. As opposed to getting a cleaning lady... Absolute delulu land. Are you sure you're the one passing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Most provider men do not end up with traditional womenThat's not a liberal vs. conservative issue, keeping a relationship exciting and happy for years and years is a challenge for everyone. One of the top redpill neuroticisms with her having experience is that they think they'll be compared unfavourably so the best course of action is... to make sure she's as naive and pure as possible... instead of saying "challenge acepted" and learning some fuckskills and adapting it to her desires to ensure that you're the best fuck she's ever had and probably … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/25 10:42 AM |
| 13 | Most provider men do not end up with traditional womenI live in the most interesting time humans have ever seen and there is much to do and experience. Men who tell me their pet theories about what a real man is and that I'm not in that category because of spin roulette wheel... squint "enjoying life" can go to a farm and suck some dirty sow nipples. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 04:59 PM |
| 21 | Most provider men do not end up with traditional womenI fail to be upset about this, if I was a girl I would probably do the same since it's both the hedonistically and logically correct play. But instead of taking a conservative man I'd probably commit to a more liberal man who's not obsessed about my sexual past and then I can be as perverted as I feel like instead of putting on a Madonna facade. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Question about single moms that RP love to hateGood point. One is just a relative of my ex, the other a guy I studied with at university. So in my mind quite random to be honest and I'm not very close with either of them. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/25 09:40 PM |
| -1 | Data show men are as unsafe around women as women are around men. 40% of women could imagine making a false assault claim against men, while 32% of men could imagine forcing women to do something sexual against their will.Inconvenienced is a pretty harsh euphemism for "good chance of being shunned by everyone you know, losing almost your entire social network, and quite likely losing your livelihood". And if you get falsely convicted by some dumb-asses your life is basically over. I thought OP did an alright job in presenting some data. Is it equivalent? Not really but honestly, if the guy falsely does get put into prison for it then it conceivably is about as bad. I think the most haunting reason given for false… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 02:44 PM |
| -6 | Question about single moms that RP love to hateI have the misfortune to know these two stories in detail. Both happened in two different European countries. In retrospect one seems to just have wanted a baby without a man attached from the get-go, the money from him was just a bonus and it's less complicated than IVF and "free". It was also speculated she was lesbian (not that that matters in morally, but she kind of showed some characteristics, and claimed she was bi-sexual). Perhaps the motive was that she liked women more and wanted a kid… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/25 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Question about single moms that RP love to hateI wrote that ideally both parts assume 100% responsibility for their own partner selection and contraception. And obviously men can be deceptive as well. Redpill panders to younger males, so in their limited experience the fact that she's a single mom means "she selected wrong" (read: not me or someone like me) and now she's not wanted anymore on the "dating market", therefore it's her fault. That a lot of relationship deteriorate and fail that started initially perfectly promising without any r… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/25 12:00 PM |
| 4 | Question about single moms that RP love to hateThe most productive personal mindset would be that it's always 100% our own responsibility, no matter which sex we are, who we choose to procreate with. The issue is highly asymmetrical though, so women will pay more for their poor choices than men, both literally as well as in sweat and tears. Women also tend to be the ones selecting partners more harshly and are better at spotting psychological issues than men (who if they spot them don't take them as seriously) and with our current societal n… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/25 08:39 AM |
| -15 | Question about single moms that RP love to hateI happen to know two men personally who were just used as sperm donors that come with a monthly paycheck. As in - the women walked away immediately after they got pregnant and that was all on purpose. And these men weren't even rich, if anything rather the opposite. I don't know a thousand people this closely, so it's kind of weird that I happen to know two guys this happened to. I suppose the answer is: it takes two to make a kid, and also a working relationship, and either sex can fuck this up… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/25 07:56 AM |
| 11 | Feminine names for baby boys should be commonplace and first names should not be gendered at all"My name is Sue! How do you do? - Now you gonna die!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Gbtm-93oqE | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/25 03:39 PM |
| 1 | The root of the orgasm gap seems to be genital mutilation more than anything elseComment has severe "Look Ma' - I'm on top of the world!"-vibes 😁 Congrats. My new partner is extremely easy to get to orgasm compared to anyone I had before. I am now also certain that G-spot and cervical orgasms are also a thing and both separate, with her it's just extremely obvious. And also how much other erogenous zones can contribute to her orgasms (neck, grabbing hips with strength etc. ). Your list is pretty good, but there are some women who can't even make themselves orgasm and others … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 07:47 AM |
| 2 | The root of the orgasm gap seems to be genital mutilation more than anything elseI know two women who never had an orgasm in their life. As in not even on their own and with using vibrators despite trying, and neither is prude or FGM'd and both are sexually active. So realistically the gap won't be able to disappear even in principle because there is no analogue in men. Even with most types of ED men can take pills and have sex with orgasm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 07:26 AM |
| 2 | CMV Women are overly dramatic about viable dating options."The analogy I used in a previous post was that in a swamp you can filter and boil said water almost infinitely to the point where you’ll never have to even consider drinking the swamp water. In a desert you would suck the blood of a lizard or eat a cactus for an ounce of water." This is a class of thinking error called "over-fitting the analogy". An analogy could make sense initially but in the end you do relate two different things... and because they are different things, rather than the exac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/25 06:17 PM |
| – | The best course of action for unattractive beta males is to utilize the sugar dating and passport bro strategies.I think the difference he meant to imply is that in western countries women aren't (or don't feel) dependent on having the man as the breadwinner, while outside of the west they perhaps are or feel that way to a much larger extent so they are at least thankful for it and "provide benefits" (doubtful). So he wants to buy dependency essentially... while in the west it seems like providing buys you nothing because women aren't thankful to nor dependent on him, so he would be literally just burning … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/25 11:52 AM |
| 2 | If you’re going to hookup with a guy, or you get into a relationship, and you find out he’s got a larger dick, is this generally seen as a “plus”?I agree, I had two "long term" partners in the last ~12 months and they were more towards the two oppose ends of the female bell curve. It can be a huge difference for us men as well. I really hate this "tightness based on useage" bullshit pushed by the clueless "manosphere" but it's definitely true that some women are naturally a lot tighter than others and often it's immediately obvious and sometimes even surprising. To be honest though - "just go with the flow" seems like the best advice, we … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 01:21 AM |
| 9 | If you’re going to hookup with a guy, or you get into a relationship, and you find out he’s got a larger dick, is this generally seen as a “plus”?It's just a bell curve like with almost anything else. Depending in your definition 75%-95% of dudes are gonna be in the average range and the rest are at the extremes. I'm a tiny bit above average for a Caucasian but watching porn in your youth can make you feel a bit inadequate regardless, because you don't quite understand the bell curve thing and you think you compete with what you see in porn which are like the 3% guys who are mostly chosen to guarantee headache-less penetration shots with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Who makes for better partners, men or women?Both, neither. Mom. Are you dating a completely random person you pulled from the random distribution of all men/women or do you qualify them beforehand? Even if there was a significant statistical difference between the sexes what does it matter, you aren't dating the bell curve of all people out there, you pick a specific person that YOU get to choose or decline. I feel this is the correct answer to 60%+ of these men vs women questions here in general. So what if there are differences on avera… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/25 12:48 PM |
| 5 | Majority of "misandrists" are men.Yes, I agree it's a bizarre comment - for the same reason. Unless it's some sports team feedback "bullshit" men tend to be more stingy with compliments towards other men, so if you get one from another man it feels more real and deserved because they are harder to get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/25 11:41 PM |
| 0 | CMV : playing seduction "mind games" only works with women who are more interested than you areObviously he shouldn't actively rub in your face that he has other options, that's a super low value move that would backfire badly in a lot of cases. I meant more that it becomes implicitly clear during a conversation that he has options, possibly even just hypothetical ones... There's the phenomenon that men who have trouble getting laid in general become needy and this neediness tends to seep out in conversation, sometimes not even verbally but through body language. If a guy is chill on the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/25 12:49 PM |
| -2 | CMV : playing seduction "mind games" only works with women who are more interested than you areYes and no... I think the core idea is wrongly framed or explained (maybe even within PUA circles)... it's not about displaying that he doesn't want the woman it's about him turning the tables through conversation and wit to the point of her wanting to (!) qualify herself to him (aka wanting to impress him). Basically he shouldn't be saying or signalling he doesn't want her, but rather he should generate the (ideally truthful) vibe that he has high standards because he also has options and lots … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/25 10:20 AM |
| 14 | "Lower your standards" is good advice for women but bad advice for menWhich are funnily always the same people putting deranged mentally ill "strong"men on a pedestal, people who clearly -actually- don't know their place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 07:48 AM |
| 6 | Women can be attracted to you but until they see another girl interested have no interest in pursuing or being receptive to engaging with youIt's not strange at all, women are hyperselective so if other women hang out with you and are having a good time or even one step further show attraction towards you that's a big seal of approval which is basically* unfakeable. It's not irrational either, if women are around you and show interest it objectively should raise their probability estimate that you are good fb or relationship material. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/25 12:06 PM |
| 1 | What are some negative habits/ traits that are commonly attributed to men that you actually feel is valid ?Dissing a tree here, dominating an anthill there, negging that trickle of a brook. Nature is my bitch and I tell her by spanking that bark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/25 09:35 AM |
| 4 | Women do actually hate the idea of sex robots despite saying otherwise.They have magnets inside, down there... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 06:48 AM |
| 3 | I think my boyfriend is falling down the red pill pipeline, how can i stop this?I have no patience with most of these clowns, there are some that I could tolerate like GriffinMind who are a bit right wing but let's say if we were childhood friends I wouldn't feel the need to cut him out of my life and 70% of the stuff the guy says maps onto my own feelings but then he has some shittok of women doing jobs poorly and feels like he needs to comment on that as if there couldn't be found one with men doing the same. Mostly the guy comments on tik toks of women behaving shittily … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/01/25 11:40 AM |
| 3 | Is it common for women to have had a negative experience with an autistic man in their life?It sounds like a silly question but are you actually professionally diagnosed? And even if, you are aware autism comes on a huge spectrum so if you have a mild form you may have already learned many strategies around the issues it causes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/25 08:44 AM |
| 14 | Men who don't want to get married, why?Same. Also no shared finances for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/24 09:38 AM |
| 3 | There are no consequences to being a "bad person" and no incentives to be a "good person" when dating for short-term.Oh yeah definitely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/24 03:51 PM |
| 23 | There are no consequences to being a "bad person" and no incentives to be a "good person" when dating for short-term.There's one person who will always know how rotten you are... how can you meet your own gaze in the mirror? I'm good these days and I like the person looking back. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/24 07:52 PM |
| – | Expecting for men to pay for your first date sets a bad precedent for the relationshipMight have been true of myself 2 decades ago because I clearly knew everything and listened too little but in all fairness many women also don't say what they want and like due to the fear that the guy can't handle the advice/instructions... you women and your bodies work spectacularly different and the idea that the guy needs to intuit it all from your body language alone - even if he's good at - will hit diminishing returns and then intimacy will stagnate at a lesser level than it has to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/24 07:54 AM |
| – | Expecting for men to pay for your first date sets a bad precedent for the relationshipThen it seems you are attracting men that don't care if you enjoy it or not for some reason... obviously both should enjoy it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/24 07:15 AM |
| – | Expecting for men to pay for your first date sets a bad precedent for the relationshipStrangers or not if your idea of a relationship benefit is as base as getting a food stamp out of every meeting then a lot of men are wasting their time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/24 06:15 AM |
| – | Expecting for men to pay for your first date sets a bad precedent for the relationshipThe implicit scenario here is probably meant as the first date, possibly after deciding to meet on an online dating platform... at which stage neither can know yet if they are wasting their own or the other person's time so you are strangers no matter how long or good the texting was... I also don't owe the woman payment for her dinner even if I like her and even if it's clear that "we are not wasting our time". That makes the relationship transactional and in my eyes almost a bit gross from the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/24 10:33 PM |
| – | Is this the ideal/typical female strategy to get a boyfriendI think it's a myth that such a vastly huge percentage of men "don't get the signals" - maybe some autists and really inexperienced or socially awkward ones don't, but honestly I catch them all the time and don't respond to them because I don't really want to escalate with that woman - and I secretly wonder if they think that I don't get it to protect their ego. I think that must happen a lot more than women think it does, because the interpretation that he is not interested is a lot harsher to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/24 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Many Men Struggle in Dating because they are Not Very Interesting.So when do we take you accountable for not wanting to get your D wet in a 1/10 who weighs more than a little car and got acid thrown in her face? Attraction can't be negotiated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 04:00 PM |
| 5 | Many Men Struggle in Dating because they are Not Very Interesting.It's women's fault that they don't find gruel without salt or sugar tasty? Get based, bitching is pointless. Fault doesn't matter only solutions matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 11:44 AM |
| 10 | There's no reason a modern woman SHOULD date in her league. Men need to quit complaining about it and accept reality.What bullshit, did you ever realize you can use the doorknob to get out of your house instead of receiving your pizza? Parts of what you say are true for some women who want a life like that but it's not even close to universal or the majority. They have a different problem than us, it's the selection problem and it sucks, just in a different and basically inverse way than the male getting selected problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/24 11:51 AM |
| 2 | What do you think about the idea that women may put men into two groups- those who are “hookup/ONS” material and those who are “relationship/husband” material?Do you want to elaborate a bit on those standards? How do you think of them in your own mind is it like a dozen basic "categories" like "competent enough to do all household chores on his own" or is it more granular and super specific where you often don't even know you had that standard until it's violated, like "doesn't put toilet seat down" and "can't remember how to fold the towels despite my four attempts of showing him"? I mean if you have 100 standards half implicitly half explicitly at t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/24 02:02 AM |
| 2 | What do you think about the idea that women may put men into two groups- those who are “hookup/ONS” material and those who are “relationship/husband” material?Let's suppose you're a 6, even a 7, which on a normal distribution curve is quite realistic and tbf rather optimistic. Maybe we have a different understanding of the word "standards" and you actually mean "rock bottom bare minimum in every category"... but if by standards we both mean "this level of ability in category/skill X would be nice to have any anything below that would bother me"... are you telling me if a 9 that you also perceive as such shows genuine interest in a relationship with yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/24 01:40 AM |
| 4 | Women with at least one son: Did having a son make you more sympathetic to men's issues and more disturbed by the prevalence of mainstream open misandry?Don't take it too hard, I think kids in general are almost biologically hardwired to do whatever it takes to keep their parents together while they depend on them - unless one partner is extremely abusive and "an actual danger" which is when they hopefully pick "the right" side. Chances are he'll get it when he's older and has some relationship experience, maybe you'll get an apology or just an "I get it now" but no need to force it, kids just don't get it and try to keep their parents together … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/24 01:17 AM |
| -2 | What do you think about the idea that women may put men into two groups- those who are “hookup/ONS” material and those who are “relationship/husband” material?"No man is so attractive that I'd bend my standards for him." *Snort.* I really don't care (in an unoffensive way) but that one got me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/24 01:08 AM |
| 5 | Women are inherently predispositioned to utilizing men in a uni-directional transactional nature in female to male friendships - and this is the reason why most male to female friendships do not have implied loyalty - a hallmark of male to male friendships.In general you make a lot of sense with your posting spree here compared to the men you rip to shreds, however the "men are hornier than women" trope is really a myth. It's just that male sexuality tends to be more in people's (or rather women's) face because dudes have to approach while the ladies get to select which can be a lot more passive and invisible. However, if your picture were correct you could go to r/DeadBedrooms right now and may expect to find that it's just dudes circle-jerking a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/24 01:01 AM |
| 8 | Why is Autism basically a contraceptive for men?Ultimate compliment response protip: Brief eye contact (if not already happening), "Thanks" and then you just continue talking about whatever it is you were talking about. Unless they are clearly hitting on you, then you decide if you want to escalate thr interaction. If you're neurodivergent or not used to compliments just remember that one word. That's literally it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/24 03:02 PM |
| 0 | Honestly as a man who is in his late 20s I hate that we live in a patriarchy.So they know better coz they're older? | /r/ExRedPill | 22/11/24 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Yesterday, men used women as their therapist. Today, too many men are in therapy.Bro. Schizophrenia or bipolar disorder are mental illnesses and going to a therapist to help cope with them in addition to the medicine is an excellent idea. Your parents or god forbid child dying in a car crash and you going to a therapist is not treating a mental illness, yet it's an excellent idea to find ways to cope with your grief. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/24 12:19 AM |
| 12 | Yesterday, men used women as their therapist. Today, too many men are in therapy.Jesus you don't need to be "mentally ill" to go to therapy. For some it's just a form of mental coaching they are happy to pay for regarding stuff going on in their life. You know - except it's not a lifestyle coach leech or random friend who talks out of their ass but (most likely) an intelligent professional with good ideas rooted in sciencentific models, and with a bird's eye view on issues like yours that sound unique to you but actually aren't if you dig down a bit. And they provide good co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 12:15 AM |
| 3 | Do you think most men would forgive a cheating girlfriend if she was a good girlfriend ?I separated from my ex about a year ago (after 12yrs) for other reasons but the second I found out that this happened once (a handful of years ago) every shred of doubt if I made the right decision and if I should give her a chance just completely evaporated. The weird thing is, if another suitable couple that I and my hypothetical new steady partner fancied offered a foursome/partner swap I wouldn't even mind and go for it. It's not the "physical disgust" thing that's bothering me, it's a lot m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 03:32 PM |
| 3 | Q4A: Women are praised for being in the same situation that would be "normal" or "derogatory" for men. Why?Yeah some real beginner big lip shit. Keeping a relationship alive and well let alone happy for decades is an astonishing feat. The eventual collapse of a relationship is the normal outcome and second place to that is resigned co-habitation with no intimacy. Being legit happy together with your partner after decades is rare, not usual and even your superior "traditional" lifestyle ambitions don't even remotely guarantee that happy outcome. These 20yo redpill dudebros don't know what they're sayi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 08:39 AM |
| 9 | Why is men’s dating advice “you are wrong”, and women’s “he is wrong”?It's also funny how many women don't really get dating apps. They are doing the reverse of the dick pic fallacy where their brain goes "well I would like to see this from a man so they will want to see the same". And then you get a bunch of pictures of them skiing in ten layers of winter clothes, face is five by five pixels big. We men don't f-ing care about your "adventurousness" we need to see your face and body from a bunch of angles and a text that credibly signals you're not a stuck up gold… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 06:39 AM |
| 3 | Prostitution should be legalizedSigned: Married to HS Sweetheart lol If there wasn't any demand there would be no supply. And just because the supply isn't visible to HS Sweethearts doesn't mean it's not there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/24 09:22 AM |
| – | [STUDY]: Almost Every Woman Thinks She's 'Hotter' Than Average – Gender Differences in Self-Assessed Physical Attractiveness - Subotić & Borojević (2018)Nah I think a lot of them believe they're hotter than average but you see they need to be in the top 1% to marry without being settled for and top 0.1% to get laid regularly before or after that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 12:36 PM |
| 4 | Why Do Women Think Their Feelings Matter More Than The Truth?I would have been nodding to that argument a few years ago before having been cheated on by someone I thought was unimaginable. The reality is you can't actually "vet" a person regarding infidelity. You can perhaps notice the most obvious signs of real or potential infidelity early on, but beyond that it could be anyone and they could start a decade into your relationship and they could even be all-in-all "good people" caught in a bad situation. It's too engrained in our species, cheating is com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 07:09 AM |
| 6 | Why Do Women Think Their Feelings Matter More Than The Truth?Cos he's paying for the rest of his life and this "test" isn't exactly jamming a needle into anyone's spine. I'm not pro mandatory tests but if the man has doubts let's stop being assholes, it's a cheek swab that no one even notices, that's like getting consent to wipe the baby's ass - so "medical procedure consent" my ass, that's just disingenuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 04:35 AM |
| 3 | Men need to learn to be happy being singleAll decent advice that I agree with, wouldn't have fixed my/our particular problem though. Maybe dragged it out even more if anything. But yes all in all I would agree with these thoughts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 02:17 PM |
| 6 | Men need to learn to be happy being singleOh I had some other ones before as well but not the kind where you buy a washing machine together. But regardless, some men talk about their lives and relationships quite openly as well, so some things can be learned vicariously instead of the hard way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 01:36 PM |
| 6 | Men need to learn to be happy being singleThanks, though I enjoy being on my own way too much right now. However, I know very well how you feel. Good luck, let's hope we both find lasting happiness in whichever way we choose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 01:31 PM |
| 15 | Men need to learn to be happy being singleBecause of friction, living with someone 24/7 without getting tired of them and their shit (and they tiring of yours) is a huge challenge. Dating and especially living with someone is like pulling a huge tangle of ropes apart in two directions and they will result in knots somewhere and sometimes the issues are under the surface and you maybe can't fix them or don't even realize there's something to fix or you do but they don't admit it or they procrastinate/refuse to work on it (or vice versa).… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 01:00 PM |
| 16 | Men need to learn to be happy being singleSo fucking true. Was in a 12 year relationship, one year separated now... I'm still happier now than ever and she wasn't even a bad person/partner. But goodamn why do they need to nag us into "husband material" at a glacial pace why can't they just be fucking content once in a while? Also single does not mean no sex. Especially not for women but also not for men if you have your shit together. I have a varied sexlife again, yay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Men: what are some ways that women have treated you "horribly"?Oof. And you think that's the optimal way to process that childhood experience and a rational/useful takeaway? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/24 08:33 AM |
| 14 | Men: what are some ways that women have treated you "horribly"?Two 8 year old girls shut you down badly so to this day you don't initiate conversations anymore and drag this up in a thread about "WOMEN" treating men badly? I think women are not the problem in your life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/24 08:14 AM |
| 3 | Did redpill ruin me? Why do I feel totally in love with a girl but not so much sexual desire?Yeah was gonna comment the same, definitely sounds like the Madonna-Whore complex. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/08/24 05:45 AM |
| 4 | What is the answer to wrongful rape convictions?I see what you're getting at with making it a ritualized thing and all but we would probably be very negatively surprised how much money is suddenly missing from our wallets each month because what comes to our attention are just thr most outrages or otherwise prominent cases. Plus there would be false false rape accusations because that's quite a sweet deal at that point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/24 08:37 AM |
| 20 | Why is there always so much pushback to young men who claim that the reason they can’t get a date is 100% the way they look?I think this is a big one often overlooked and not explicitly mentioned. Women look for partners with at least similar ambition and discipline if not even more than themselves, while men in turn often overlook this in a potential mate until it's too late, they moved together, and they realize how big of an impact it has on the relationship. If we realize that even though almost everything about the other person matches, but they are a couch potato with no ambitions and no discipline and we're th… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/24 05:47 PM |
| 12 | All love is transactional and some men simply have nothing to offerSounds like an unloved person's idea of love as seen from a distance. I would say romantic love is definitely not unconditional like the love of a mother may be if you are lucky. But once the conditions are met then ideally both parties get some fireworks in their tummy and if you do love someone like that (and ideally are loved back the same way) then you give each other a shit-ton of slack and don't "nickel-and-dime" them in a transactional way. Transactional friends are shit friends as well. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/24 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Do you think that men actually want to have children?Absolutely +1 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 08:56 PM |
| 3 | On the dating book for women "Why men love bitches"Good take. +1 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 12:46 PM |
| 3 | Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for yearsGetting uncomfortable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 05:30 AM |
| 28 | Tall husbands and short wives make the happiest marriagesHow much did this RP/BP fuck with your head... You are together with a girlfriend already and were able to attract her in the first place and instead of focusing on making her happy and your time together fun with whatever pros and cons you both bring ot the table you obsess about something you can't control. Focus on the other stuff you can control, your relationship isn't doomed or slave to a statistic. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/07/24 10:29 AM |
| 1 | It's honestly ridiculous how much easier dating is for the average woman these daysAre you new to this subreddit? Just about every fourth post here is a dude complaining about hypergamy and "alpha widows" and women getting infinite D on the C carousel and thus "zeroing their value as a wife" while their D can't find a job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 11:09 AM |
| 15 | It's honestly ridiculous how much easier dating is for the average woman these daysTrue. Often there are no real solutions to these types of problems though , the globe isn't a village and people will do what they feel driven to do, some subculture raging on the internet means nothing. You can't coordinate people on this national or global scale from a reddit post. A lot of RP mindsets are also internally inconsistent. One the one hand as many girls as possible but on the other girls with a body count over 4 are labeled gross. Pick a lane, you as a man just want to get laid ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 07:49 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: What's your feelings towards women?Let's see... if I'm in a remote forest I'd rather be in a woman than in a bear. /jk I would say it just depends. I don't think sex/gender is a useful thing to even think about when deciding if you like someone, I try to not stereotype too much based on looks because even someone who looks like a dolled up bimbo could actually turn out to be a great and fun and interesting person desirable beyond just their looks. On average I like women, if you draw a random woman out of the normal distribution … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/24 01:56 PM |
| 0 | Why do women like giving blowjobs?I misunderstood what this top lvl comment meant by porn brained. To me oral sex is 100% in the "vanilla, nearly everyone does it" category, so basically teenager stuff. I didn't get they referred to the way OP described it rather than just the act itself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/24 06:38 AM |
| -5 | Why do women like giving blowjobs?Why porn branded though? Oral sex is not a porn thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/24 05:18 AM |
| 7 | Actually, getting into a relationship DOES fix many problems for youNo(ish) this was before and after measuring of the same people. The other four personality traits were also looked at and how they change over years and decades and they found neuroticism plummeted in people who have or had a LTR while it didn't tend to do that in those who didn't get into at least their first LTR. Of course you can't randomly assign who gets a LTrelationship so causality can't be conclusively proven but it is fairly strongly implied. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 09:22 PM |
| – | Actually, getting into a relationship DOES fix many problems for youThere is scientific evidence that having had your first long term relationship will significantly lower your neuroticism. (One of the big-five personality traits). There were several studies so not sure how they define long-term but speaking for myself it was definitely true for me. I became a lot more socially aware and less anxious around people after my first LTR. Just to make sure it came across: On average it permanently improves a shitty personality trait and the benefits persist even if t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 07:56 PM |
| 1 | How will WW3 effect the SMP?Shame. I heard once they get it up they tend to stay hard forever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/24 07:19 PM |
| 3 | If men want more casual sex from women why do you support/vote for policies that will discourage thisI'm not RP, only picking the juiciest berries that are not bullshit from that bush. Also a big time slut lover. I don't mind and assume I'm favorably compared based on their tendency so stick around. If women were as prude as mainstream RP demanded you'd never get your dick wet outside of your miserable teen marriage that will tank your sexlife a year into it and then you need another 6 years to pinch it off and learn a lesson. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 07:18 AM |
| 2 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?Damn, saltier than the dead sea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 02:57 PM |
| – | I think before anything, The system of men chasing and women choosing needs to changeThis isn't a culture thing, this is a biological sex thing. It's nature and in almost every animal species the male chases and "wins over" the female. It's not going to change, make your peace with the hand you were dealt and learn how to play it best, the other sex has their own problems as well. Who has it better? Well this isn't the suffering olympics and if anything it's just "statistically better" or probably just different in may ways. What happened to the good old pickup artist days... "j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 12:51 AM |
| 5 | Does it make sense to expect lust if you can’t authentically inspire lust? Does it make sense to expect your partner to fake lust for you if haven’t made explicit what they get in return?Sounds like a very sad life if you're neurotypical though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 11:49 PM |
| 6 | Blue pill: "We are equal", Red pill: "We are different", Purple pill: "We are different, but we have to treat each other equally at least some of the time"The redpill is a catastrophé, it's trying to solve the legit problem of men not getting laid by societal engineering (which can't work and won't happen) and it's just meme-flooding rage-bait content that sticks but on average it surely makes people more miserable than happy. You know there was a time when a man realized he could get laid more if he improved himself and if he understood better how mating dynamics and rituals work and hence the PUA was born for better or worse. You'd read a PUA bo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe life is generally easier as a single person?I broke up a decade long relationship because it suffocated the fuck out of me and made me miserable. I was in the process of fixing this to some extent I would have found acceptable when something came to light that left me no choice but to end the relationship. Living alone is the fucking best. I would never in a million years move together with another person again. Seriously when I was young without "serious relationship experience" living alone seemed a bit sad but now I did a 180. It's exa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Modern dating strategy: Dating multiple people before being exclusive - Are males against this?I'm mid-30's and ended a decade-old (pretty okay) relationship. I don't want another committed exclusive long term relationship. I think ever.I definitely do not want anyone to move in. Ever. I love being social or alone entirely my own terms. Can't say I care particularly for age but my target group is 22-40, I live in a student city, and I don't want to spin plates under the false pretense indefinitely that I will some day maybe become her monogamous life partner when that's 100% not going to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 12:18 PM |
| 1 | My bf broke up with me because of my body countI personally don't care, but the redpill manlets around here and everywhere are completely neurotic about this topic. If I was a woman I'd always lie from now on given the prevalence of these inferiority antics. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/24 02:14 PM |
| – | Single dads are probably the worst partner for a woman to consider.But plenty of single people are still okay with it if they really like the parent with child, so what's it to you at the end of the day? Too much effort to swipe? How do they make you so miserable that they should amputate half of their potential dating pool? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 01:25 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women who proclaim "where are all the good men", "there are no good men", "I will never settle" etc are actually red flags and are the loud minority.My decade+ LTR recently ended and I feel jaded in the same way as her though. Like seriously, what is a single woman in a monogamous relationship gonna provide me with that's better for me than spinning plates? Relationship quality always seems to drop when people move together because instead of the nice white peak of the iceberg you got to see, you suddenly you have to deal with the entire fucking iceberg all day every day. Endless domestication attempts or nagging even if you already do your … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 05:15 PM |
| 0 | Perspective of a grandfather who married and had a successful wholesome relationship with a foreign women and how it’s shaped my view on the passport bro movementI assume from his pov you are free to browse an infinite sea of quality men and open your legs for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/23 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Why do players keep a harem of girls when he could easily get a girl he wants?I can comment on it from the other perspective. I'm decently attractive, have been called a 7 and 8 (I can even see the latter being true with working out to my "peak" shape and serious grooming). I can be very charming, routinely pick up signals of interest by women now and again. I've been in a monogamous relationship with an extremely intelligent and capable and in my eyes good-looking woman that I really clicked with and loved for over a decade, but now we are (amicably-ish) done. I can't wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 11:33 AM |
| 2 | Question for women: What profession, if any, do you find most attractive in a man?When it would make him look like an appendage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 07:16 PM |
| – | What are some green flags/turn on/ weird things you find attractive about women?Nice. Congrats on holding on to a high value woman 👍 May I ask what it was? I don't care about n-count much but it seems most RP do, was it just that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:32 PM |
| – | What are some green flags/turn on/ weird things you find attractive about women?VISIBLY handling the majority her own emotions like an adult instead of outsourcing that burden to me. We had a relationship crisis half a year ago that came within a hairs width of separation. I wrote a long-ass letter with a shit-ton of things that must have really, really hurt to read (not because I wanted to hurt her on purpose (which was clear to her as well) but because these issues needed to be voiced and some things just can't be sugarcoated). She asked me why I felt we couldn't just tal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 01:59 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: How would you react if a woman asked, "What do you bring to the table?"Sounds like a shit-test to me if asked a bit flirtatiously. In that case I'd laugh, make a playful upper body flex and say: *this body* and literally nothing else, I'm actually homeless and live in a tent. So what do you bring to this table apart from your body? Honestly it depends a lot on how this question is asked. No manner of asking it is very pleasant but if it's asked flirtatiously and with a glimmer in her eye I would cope and just handle it, but if it's just asked in a matter of fact wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 01:40 PM |
| 1 | Women are against the legalisation of prostitution because they want the "hoeflation" to continue, and are ok with men being miserable.I heard you are only allowed a maximum of 6 dildos in Texas. This sounded too out-of-this-world-demented in a bizarrely random way even for Republican standards so I looked it up and it's fucking true. Like where the fuck does this number come from? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Technology killed regular socialization and that’s why dating is so hard now.There you have it boys, become religious. *Weird Al Yankowich playing* | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 10:42 PM |
| – | Why do men make fun of things women like?Those two personal things are in completely different universes. I absolutely wouldn't care about Taylor Swift, that's just music taste so it's 100% fine. But astrology to me is clear sign someone has very poor rationality (aka. world model building) skills. And yes, probably mid intelligence at best. A person who goes for something as obviously demented as astrology will sooner or later also fall for other kinds of bullshit as well, like multilevel marketing, crystal healing etc.. Believing in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 10:06 PM |
| 2 | Women, what do women need to improve?Cletus 🤣 RIP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 07:49 AM |
| 2 | Women, what do women need to improve?I really don't think most men expect this nowadays, especially if they meet you via dating app. The high-n obsessives should praise you for your vetting game, except of course this rule of yours shouldn't apply to them. I don't know if I would do this, you'd both have to be quite impressive and also credibly signal that you're into me (if you are). What's your experience how many men do you sort out yourself before they get to have sex you (IF you meet for at least a 2nd time)? How many men seem… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 07:46 AM |
| 4 | Men lowering their standards didn’t widen the dating pool so stop doing it.I had to re-read I think I used same with in the sense of gorilla jungle flex, there wasn't a deep theory behind it. I mean if I have beautiful partner and they show off a little skin then that makes it a social status boost for me and I feel good and proud to have what it takes to keep her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/23 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Men lowering their standards didn’t widen the dating pool so stop doing it.It's not about being uncouth to me, it's about drawing an unwanted amount (or rather unwanted quality) of male attention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/23 05:09 PM |
| 16 | Men lowering their standards didn’t widen the dating pool so stop doing it.She's right though. I don't care about high n-count, sorry but if she has a high count and sticks with me that's the ultimate gorilla flex in the jungle on "these types of loser men". Yeah she could sit on any dick... but look where she's happy sitting now! Same with dressing provocatively, hot af if not overdone. Provocative dressing would only bother me if it was waaay over the top bordering on trouble and inviting SA, but what redpillers and incels [and culture groups X & Y] consider provocat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/23 09:05 AM |
| 6 | Is she a tease or are your feelings just hurt?I think the key is "alone" at a bar. If you ever spot a woman *alone* at a bar then she's actually waiting there for someone being temporarily alone for a few minutes. Or she's an alcoholic police prostitute I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/23 10:35 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend (M25) told me(F27) his relationship history and it made me feel sad and confused.I think way too many posters here take his story at face value and underestimate that he is very likely just trying to signal ("humblebrag") that he is a desirable/selective male to her and he may or may not have embellished the truth to a significant extent here. Turning down three or four girls by the time you're 25 means absolutely nothing out of context. If his intent was to make himself more desirable by raising his perceived mate value he may have missed the target and just made her insecu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/23 10:24 PM |
| 13 | Asking a woman how much a men should make to date her. Its always at least 200kHigh quality concise reply to this sad desperate display, nice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 10:11 PM |
| 2 | I think the gender wars (division) in the West are inflamed by a psyop campaign from Russia/ChinaI estimate Russia / China would probably try feeding any gender divide issues to stoke the craziness. But they are surely not the origin of this. I became aware of the Pickup Artist scene shortly after "The Game" was released in around what... 2006? Really went down that rabbit hole, but wisely took a shit on any misogyny content plus any fake gimmick bullshit and stuck solely to "inner game" and mindset stuff and tbh it really paid off. Back then a lot of what are now very basic "redpill" ideas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/23 04:42 PM |
| 7 | I think the gender wars (division) in the West are inflamed by a psyop campaign from Russia/ChinaSimple problems require a simple man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/23 04:17 PM |
| 3 | I think the gender wars (division) in the West are inflamed by a psyop campaign from Russia/ChinaWait are they not using VPNs? How hard-r is that? Nevermind, everyone already forgot about it look at the cats and the jiggly tits instead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/23 04:15 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Love and romance is dead by the time people are in their 30s...these are not mutually exclusive statements. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 02:09 PM |
| 5 | If a man is the type to always want a paternity test, he should make that clear to his partner BEFORE they decide to have kids.Rates are only around 1-2% so it is very low. Sucks big time for those men affected though... IF they ever find out. People here need to worry about world hunger instead, 1 in 50 or 100 is nothing to obsess about on behalf of others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 01:55 PM |
| 3 | Does organised prostitution indeed prove that sexual intercourse is more important for gynophilic men than for androphilic women?True story: I had to fulfill a lost bet and straight-up ask a "random" woman in the middle of a pedestrian zone if she wants to have sex with me. I picked one out that was decent looking and was prob around ~20yo like me back then. Her answer blew my fucking mind, she said something like "Well... perhaps if I get to know you first". And she said it sincerely. I was so mind-fucked I just noped out of it like a sissy. My brain just went... "what the fuck is wrong with that one?" Goddamn where is m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Once a woman stops being attracted to her husband, and the bedroom is dead, there is no reviving it.If one of the doors is closed but not the other, then the open-door-partner could also try to find out what could bring the other person to open their door. I'm not saying this will always work or even in the majority of cases, but if you're the open door partner and willing to try then it's worth a shot. I mean if both doors are closed and you open yours it may still take a little convincing to animate the other one to open up beyond convincing them that yours is open. Paint a picture (together… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Once a woman stops being attracted to her husband, and the bedroom is dead, there is no reviving it.Probably true, in that case it's time to figure out why they think its not worth it to "work" on it. I don't think "work" captures the spirit, I didn't feel like work at all to us, quite the opposite actually. All change requires some effort though but given the payoff that effort was always dwarfed by the rewards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Once a woman stops being attracted to her husband, and the bedroom is dead, there is no reviving it.As much as he's a pita otherwise in this thread, he is very right about SSRI antidepressants. There may be a new drug on the horizon that could actually work to heighten libido in men and women: Kisspeptin let's see how that one turns out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Once a woman stops being attracted to her husband, and the bedroom is dead, there is no reviving it.I disagree about the "feeling like work" part based on my own experience, but it took time for us. I think if you take joy in the small victories and in kindling the flame bit by bit rather than wanting the 100% firestorm right this moment then it can actually be a very nice experience. Focus on the small things you are adding to your sexlife each time, not on "what is still missing". And I hate to say it but fucking talk openly, that's the "work" you put in but why anyone would think of this as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 01:03 AM |
| 72 | Once a woman stops being attracted to her husband, and the bedroom is dead, there is no reviving it.I raised my decade+ LTR sexlife back from the dead. Had sex like four times a year at some point (not hyperbole). Now every 3-4 days or so with more variety than ever before and it's fucking great. Reading "Come as you are" together(!) was fucking gold. OP is full of shit it's 100% possible, just a bit difficult. Also not having sex and not being attracted/attractive to the other partner are two very different things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Not coming across as creepy to women when approaching is incredibly simple and boils down to 4 things, does not involve "mind reading", and coming across as creepy once will not ruin your lifeI saw and still hear that some men do this gift bullshit all the time. Wasting money on "gifts" and eventually they grow frustrated and blow their lid because they "wasted their efforts" and were "misled" because the other party accepted their drink or trinket whatever. Or in the better cases they just ghost out. It's the same shit some sales schemes /people try to pull, they give you some meaningless cheap gift to then "subconsciously" guilt you into buying the "big thing". Some guys can pull i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 06:51 PM |
| 0 | Not coming across as creepy to women when approaching is incredibly simple and boils down to 4 things, does not involve "mind reading", and coming across as creepy once will not ruin your lifeI think buying a beer without "talking much" before (or after) buying it is major creep vibes. "You owe me" mentality... Goods for social interaction/sex. Absolute no-go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/23 11:14 PM |
| 8 | So, what is the solution, in your humble opinion? Date someone you are not attracted to?Too many Men abused or belittled the hell out of women since women had a hard time leaving relationships and often no money, and then the women gradually and collectively found ways to say "fuck that". You are technically right though, the nuclear family marriage at 18 model is good for relatively unattractive men... and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 06:22 AM |
| 3 | New study shows that 5% of men sleep with 66% of young women. Will society destabilize from most men being neglected?"High-Value-Man" me clicking video LOL guy in a bathrobe "humble"bragging. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 10:50 AM |
| 0 | Most men cause their dating issuesTruth has been spoken. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/23 05:09 AM |
| 3 | Why does it matter whether someone rejects you, or has high standards?I can tell you exactly what it is, it's the same response as beggars who don't get what they want and then "to restore their status" from being the party who is asking the other for something and then being rejected they overcomoensate and overshoot by going "well fuck you too then". I mean this probably goes as far back as monkeys I'd be surprised if you didn't find this response in other apes and even monkeys. There is a secondary thing. Until recently men (and women) evolved in small tribes s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 07:48 AM |
| 4 | CMV The Concept of „Male Friends“ as a taken Women is completely ridiculous and if you think logically about it, it makes zero sense, and the manosphere is right about this one.Imagine somehow suckering a high value woman into seeing you with pickup artist bullshittery and at some point you pull super low value male shit like: Yeah so I hate to break it to you, but you gotta cut all friendly ties to all men in your life who you are not blood relatives to now. Bruh right in the dumpster with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 06:15 AM |
| 2 | THE SEX GOD METHOD: How Can One Avoid Overdoing Dominance During "Token" Resistance?Absolute MVP. After reading into it I just wanted to say this is the most fucking awesome book on female sexuality I've ever read by miles and miles. Thank you again for this rock solid recommendation. If you got any other recommendations please don't hold back. | /r/seduction | 12/10/23 04:01 AM |
| 2 | THE SEX GOD METHOD: How Can One Avoid Overdoing Dominance During "Token" Resistance?Will jave a look, thank you for the recommendation. | /r/seduction | 09/10/23 07:54 AM |
| 1 | THE SEX GOD METHOD: How Can One Avoid Overdoing Dominance During "Token" Resistance?I read it back in 2007 or so, a friend recently brought it up and I actually found my old copy on a harddrive. Had a bit of a rummage through the chapters, still sounds decent and some of the insights are real bangers. Is there any more recent, better/complementary literature on this? My decade old LTR is going to shits and I'm slowly getting ready. | /r/seduction | 08/10/23 05:23 PM |
| 1 | THE SEX GOD METHOD: How Can One Avoid Overdoing Dominance During "Token" Resistance?Maybe he should stop posting here and just go out and get more experience. | /r/seduction | 08/10/23 05:20 PM |
| 4 | What would happen if all Men abstained from sex for a entire year?I swear the fucking bullshit in this sub. Like 30% of all posts read like men or women could somehow coorinate to change sexual dynamics at scale except you are not living in a hunter gatherer tribe of 50 people where such insane schemes might actually work, you like in a world with 4 billion women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 08:18 AM |
| 7 | What's the reason for why people need a 'hoe phase'?Because variety is fun and if you don't have it how do you know what's good anyway. Fucking morality police patrol everywhere, I'm glad these people don't get laid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 10:02 PM |
| 18 | In most "predatory" relationships, the actual predator is the womanSloppy-ass low resolution model of reality and no valid stats that warrant using the term "most". Congrats 10/10 purple pill post. Edit: Also what you describe isn't predatory, since that implies that there is necessarily a victim. The term is transactional since both agree to the "deal". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/23 01:50 PM |
| 5 | Daily Reminderlol Both work 40h a week, she gets paid 30% more. Grab the apron hubby and clean the windows while she watches netflix. A big part of being in a relationship (or a friendship) is to heighten the bar of what counts as favors so you don't have to be paranoid and keep track 24/7 who owes whom to nickel-and-dime them. Looking at relationships in purely transactional terms is peak sociopathy. So welcome to the right sub I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 03:57 PM |
| 0 | Men are a lot more Sapiosexual than women; Women are a lot more looks obsessed than menAll gob no substance. Typical "all men vs all women" drivel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 03:48 PM |
| 16 | "Actually, I've dated short guys in the past but it just-so-happens....."Most demented shitpost I've seen all week, doesn't even make sense to people suffering a psychosis. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 03:27 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Red Pill is nothing more than a misogynistic women hating movementAI will take a lot of other jobs very soon as well, the road to universal basic income will be long and littered with conservatives. Use AI as a tool while it's still dumber than you to achieve your goals, if you don't then you'll fall behind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 10:52 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Red Pill is nothing more than a misogynistic women hating movementYou don't need your view changed, you are more or less correct. As long as you don't suffer from nice guy syndrome or delusions about how human relationships work then you don't really need the redpill. Unfortunately, bluepill stuff is pathetically blind towards or in denial of human nature and will likely cause you suffering as a consequence of that. Redpill has some valid stuff but it's like wading through a cesspool to fish for gold nuggets below the surface. Anything valuable you could find … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 10:16 AM |
| 2 | How the red pill attracts young menWhen this phenomenon was still called pickup artistry I went hard into it (way back when it was brand new after The Game was published) and it genuinely helped me a lot. I found developing my social skills, shedding (or masking?) my desperation and gaining more confidence very helpful. And also just unlearning the idiot dating tropes you pick up from culture and substituting them with evo psych facts was an extremely helpful mindset. Ain't such a thing as a free lunch, you have to genuinely beco… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 09:37 PM |
| 6 | Getting Muscular Is A Terrible Return On Investment When It Comes To DatingJust a suggestion worth throwing in here: Not all women are looking for the same type of man. Appealing to a nieche is a thing. But for appealing to a broader audience I think adequate muscles will help you out, but they will by no means carry you to the end on their own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 08:59 AM |
| -1 | Transgender men are our greatest source to confirm what cis-men already knew about dating as a manGotta play the hand life deals you instead of bitching about it. The gains are tangible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 09:38 PM |
| – | I feel like I’m a serial monogamous person and these days monogamy is dead in a long term context. Most people now seem to honestly be in EMTs (ethical non monogamy) or divorce. Is this just where the generation is headed and should we just embrace it rather than trying to fight it?Revealed preferences. Looking at what people do instead of what they say is often a better picture of what's real. Get some statistics if it genuinely interests you. I've been in a relationship for 10 years now so I hope it'll last but I can see the allure of someone new. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/22 09:00 AM |
| 6 | Societal Shift in Attitudes Towards Becoming a Stepfather/Dating Single Moms in Younger Generations?He bought the virgin birth thing so really he's the ultimate cuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/21 12:29 PM |
| 2 | Why are women doing "body enhancements" seen as normal but men doing it are seen as "insecure"?It's not a Willy Wonka chocolate factory wtf | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/21 06:45 PM |
| 6 | Blew up at wife on Saturday. Thinking nice guy behaviors sunk me here.Imagine losing your cool over a fucking TV | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/03/21 11:00 PM |
| 2 | Is there a red pill for beta females?What I mean is that it's a mirror image of what I observed in the pickup artist scene 13 years ago: A few legit nuggets of wisdom are dispensed but the community that develops around them often turns toxic - just like in politics without good community management the most radical and extreme voices will rise to the top and then steal and run the show. The pickup artist scene was very balkanized back then and many smaller communities were taken over by ridiculous zealots who also tried to crystal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/20 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Is there a red pill for beta females?I usually only skim the stuff on the "hot" page so I thought maybe I should sort after "new" for once - but nah it's pretty much all the same there as well. I mean let me put it this way if I had a daughter would I want her to hang out in FDS sub if I thought it would get her a better man? I don't think so, the sub is fucking toxic echochamber. There are a few life lessons in there for women who really might need to hear them but you should just absorb them and move on. It's the same as with pic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/20 09:24 PM |
| 3 | Is there a red pill for beta females?See this is wrong though. In most animals the male is the pretty one who needs to show off, but humans are an exception because a relationship with a woman is a big commitment for the male and unless it's a pump and dump act most males care about quite a bit more than just how she looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/20 06:06 PM |
| 12 | Is there a red pill for beta females?Fair enough. I'm not really concerned about myself here I'm 8 years into a wonderful relationship. What I don't get is how the infinite entitlement mindset preached by FDS is supposed to get you a HVM. Putting a woman on a pedestal and orbiting her is exactly what practically defines LVM behavoir, so why would an actually HVM want to prostrate himself and invest the rather extreme effort to enable a grown woman's princess fantasy? Whatever males FDS is actually selecting for if applied in its pu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/20 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Why does PPD never talk about r/thebluepill?Fun fact: Looks follow a normal distribution curve with lots of average people in the middle and comparatively few people in the tails. Half of all people are less attractive than average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/20 05:05 PM |
| 20 | Is there a red pill for beta females?I have lurked around FDS for amusement for quite some time now and I never read anything about them trying to raise their own value to attract a better mate. They just flat out assume that they are all super high value females worthy to be treated like the empress Cleopatra for no other reason than because they have a holy gape between their legs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/20 04:39 PM |
| 16 | The myth of the anti-male conspiracy. An explanation.I agree completely with OP. Feminizing males on purpose (or even by accident or subconscious bias) and de-valuing masculinity is a very fringe occurrence in society. What I believe is more common is that men simply tend to lack masculine role-models more than was the case in previous decades and thus struggle with their own development because they don't have anyone to copy or learn from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 10:22 AM |
| 1 | How to be “led” when you don’t feel like your leader is wise?Try out soft and indirect leadership. I learned this when I was working as a salesman and it works stunningly. The best way to sell an idea is always to make the other person think it's their own - when in reality you guided them to the conclusion. This doesn't mean it's against their own best interest, but rather that you try to uncover their real interests by asking genuine questions and -if appropriate- presenting your preferred solution as the thing that will achieve their goal and make is s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 10:17 AM |
| 2 | Texting before going on the first date; opposite strategies with the male RPWhen I think of giving advice to women I always try to think "would I recommend this to my daughter?" in an attempt to not let my male POV and biasedness seep in too much. I'd say it definitely doesn't make you seem more important from a male perspective, just more difficult (which isn't necessarily a value judgment). What making him wait effectively does is that is screens out the most ADHD-riddled short-term mating strategy ones, but if you draw it out for too long then you will definitely als… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Would you trade all the struggles of your sex with the struggles of the opposite sex?I believe it's very possible that there is an evolutionary rather than cultural reason why sons are more coddled than daughters by parents. Men are much more likely to entirely fail at the mating game, while almost every woman will eventually get children. Genetically speaking, having a daughter is a fairly safe bet, while sons are at a much higher risk of fucking it up and producing no offspring at all - so parents invest more resources in sons and cut them more slack. Not saying that's a good … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 08:56 AM |
| 1 | Are PUA's really that Red-Pilled?I labeled myself a PUA after "The Game" came out ~15 years ago... I tried quite a few things with mediocre and eventually decent success, but I never saw mastering a bag of tricks as the endgame of PUA and at the time there were very very different "philosophies" throughout the PUA scene. Some were utterly objectifying women, others were quite chill and much more about mastering frame and inner game, the latter of which appealed to me. Personally, I saw "fake it till you make it" as a bootstrap … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 08:20 AM |
| 1 | Poll: Does a guy going after a woman out of his league(3 or more points higher in attractiveness) show a lack of social awareness on his part? Or is it simply a guy trying his luck? Or both?I don't think 3 points are realistically feasible. You can possibly make it work for a quick fling if circumstances are just right but there's no way you will permanently bridge a gap that wide in a relationship. And by attractiveness I obviously mean overall mate value, not just looks. There's quite a few 5'er males with 8'er women if they are somehow able to compensate it. 8'er male with a 5'er female is more rate as far as I can tell though. Edit: Also someone said the 1-10 scale for looks is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 07:39 AM |
| 2 | [CMV] It is fair for a man to be envious or even resentful of his female partner's romantic and sexual success.See I already dislike you and can tell we'd never become decent friends in real life. "It probably sounds childish..." Yes, yes it does because it is childish. Obsessing over shit like that is the telltale sign of a small mind living in a small world. You could've been born a peasant in the 14th century, but you have no fucking problems so you need to manufacture them like a drama queen. I'm a dude but I cringe just thinking about how fucking unattractive of a manchild someone must be if they ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 07:22 AM |
| 3 | Cheap women can often be obnoxious and distasteful."As Nietzsche once said, "Stupidity in a woman is unwomanly". " Ah yes Nietzsche, the famous womanizer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 07:11 AM |
| 3 | [Q4All] Why are some of the men on PPD obsessed with single moms?Damn right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 07:04 AM |
| 3 | Would you trade all the struggles of your sex with the struggles of the opposite sex?And you think that's specifically because he's a dude? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Do men WANT to be lied to?No she said an actual number I just can't remember if there were 5 before me or if I'm the 5th but either way doesn't matter to me. Also she's not the type to be in need of pulling the x3 trick but I already fucking know you are gonna argue about it so like whatever man you believe whatever you need to believe "about all wimmin". Edit: There were 5 before me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Do men WANT to be lied to?I never cared particularly much, my Fiance had around five before me when we met around 23yo. I would have raised an eyebrow if it were 10+ but more due to the implicit question if I should expect to be number 14 in a line-up of 25, or if this is an attempt at being serious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/19 10:42 PM |
| 3 | Do men WANT to be lied to?What the fuck is this? I think you are looking for the incel subreddit or a Trump rally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/19 10:37 PM |
| 6 | [Q4All] Why are some of the men on PPD obsessed with single moms?I think this is exactly it. This is why they resent single moms. Let's face it, a single woman with a child is simply perceived as having lower mate value. I imagine that even if I was rich beyond reason and had no trouble or worries about throwing as much money at the kid and the relationship as necessary, I'd still prefer the same woman without a kid. I think it's not just about resources and ape things in your head, it's also simply about having to accept and care about another person and the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/19 10:33 PM |
| 2 | How would YOU define the male hierarchy?I'd actually pay to watch that one. Satisfying a woman along every conceivable metric they care about in a mate? Definitely a tier A superpower. Can you imagine having the ultimate power of not being nagged by shrill voices? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/19 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Video games are low-status because of their amazing cost effectiveness.Who the fuck buys all their games at release prices? I haven't paid more than 30$ for any game in years, almost all that 100$ shit is discounted by 75% within one or at the most two years and there are already more excellent games at that price point out there than you can ever hope to play. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/19 01:29 AM |
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