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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
35	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men	Discussion	Character-Limit-774	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 02:48 PM

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0	If men take what they can get in dating, then why should women bother with relationships? Not approaching doesn't make you socially awkward.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/25 04:46 PM
1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men To the person who said it, it's what it means.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 07:56 PM
1	30 year old women hitting the wall and regretting things won’t change anything for men. 95% are unattractive in the eyes of women. Even with equal numbers women would go for the most attractive guys. "If I was on an island with 1000 women across the full attractiveness spectrum I’d have loads of options and probably only sleep with the top group. The vast majority of women would want sex and I as the only male would suddenly be extremely attractive. Since I’d only bang the top group due to limitations of being just one guy, it doesn’t mean I don’t find the second or third group una…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/25 10:20 PM
2	30 year old women hitting the wall and regretting things won’t change anything for men. So why don't they work? What better alternatives are there? At least apps are low effort and high reward.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/25 07:00 PM
2	30 year old women hitting the wall and regretting things won’t change anything for men. Dating apps still work for plenty, you're just unattractive if they don't work for you. They're hardly any different to real life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/25 06:46 PM
0	30 year old women hitting the wall and regretting things won’t change anything for men. They do have little to no options. Look at app data.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/25 06:10 PM
–	Being funny is not attractive to women A guy I know would wear a bra over his shirt/jacket when going out. People laughed but he never got any.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/25 05:40 PM
1	how to maintain the "Abundance Mindset" in world without "Abundance ? Because they're trying to sell you a product.	/r/seduction	05/11/25 03:22 PM
1	how to maintain the "Abundance Mindset" in world without "Abundance ? You have a "scarcity mindset" because that is your reality. If you had abundance you would magically have an "abundance mindset."	/r/seduction	05/11/25 09:51 AM
1	Guys who have only been able to meet women via apps, how do you deal with the feelings of alienation from the fact you’ve never gotten a date with someone you first met in real life? Nothing. Unless the women approach me then they are not attracted.	/r/seduction	05/11/25 09:38 AM
1	If men take what they can get in dating, then why should women bother with relationships? Nope. If you're attractive then it will find you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 09:36 AM
2	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men It pretty much is, though. I routinely tell women that I don't like putting in effort for them. If they're not putting in most of the effort then I'm not attracted. They should be throwing themselves at me. If I go somewhere and there are women and none approach me then I realise they do not find me attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 11:31 PM
3	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men No, it doesn't. It's the truth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 10:47 PM
1	Guys who have only been able to meet women via apps, how do you deal with the feelings of alienation from the fact you’ve never gotten a date with someone you first met in real life? I have thousands of Tinder and Hinge matches respectively but I know that I won't get anywhere irl.	/r/seduction	04/11/25 04:55 PM
1	Women get rejected just as often as men, it just happens after the sex. The vast majority of men have zero options and are unlovable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 02:30 PM
5	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men If you need to put in effort then she's not attracted to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 02:28 PM
1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Wtf is rizz? "It basically means that if you don’t shoot your shot (with a modicum of rizz), you’ll never know, and it genuinely makes women feel undesirable if you don’t. You don’t have to be hitting them with Indian style shit, just be normal." Why would I want to make them feel desirable?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 02:27 PM
1	If you lack options for ltr as a male you aren't avg Why is it a myth?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 10:52 AM
1	If you lack options for ltr as a male you aren't avg Brutal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 10:42 AM
1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Also, why should I try something (approaching women) where I know it won't work? Why fix something that works for me (women making the first move)? That's absurd. If it's not broke, don't fix it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 10:39 AM
2	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men I'm not here to gas women up/overinflate their egos even more. I want women who are attracted to me and the women who are attracted to me approach me/make the first move. You can't even give a single reason why I should act against my own interests (approaching women). I said I tried to approach a woman once in 2015 and it didn't work. I then realised it's better to wait for them to approach me. "You being "confident" that the girl will reject you is the opposite of confidence." It's still confi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 10:34 AM
0	Women hurt themselves with their extremely high standards, not just the men. Leave them to it. Reality always comes back to haunt you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 10:10 AM
1	Women get rejected just as often as men, it just happens after the sex. Only men with options (a very small number of men) can do that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 10:04 AM
1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men "Sorry, you're right. I fucked up. I reread your initial post and got lost in the sauce of the replies and your interactions with others but I see now that you're not complaining about your lot in life or lamenting a lack of confidence, just asking why it's important (or what it is?)" It's okay. I just see approaching women as part of the issue in modern dating as it just gasses up women's egos even more. "Either way, if they aren't attracted and they don't approach then move on. Not sure how "a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 10:00 AM
6	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men She either finds you attractive or she doesn't. That's it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 12:08 AM
2	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Your mindset doesn't matter with dating. "People are trying to help you in this sub, read the replies with openness and curiosity. That is the path towards growth." How exactly are they trying to help me by telling me harmful advice like "approach women"? If they don't approach me then they aren't attracted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 12:04 AM
1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men So it's good to approach (harass) women? All approaching does is boost the woman's ego.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 11:22 PM
1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men All approaching does is boosts the woman's ego. It's stupid and pointless. "So having a woman not make moves is quite normal for most guys for sure. I guess maybe you expect for them to make the move and buy you a drink, lol." I expect them to approach. Sometimes they buy me a drink. Again, if they don't approach me then they are not attracted to me. I don't approach as I tried it once and it didn't work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 08:03 PM
-1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men If I go to a bar and no woman approaches me then I figure they're not attracted to me. It does hurt my confidence if it doesn't happen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 07:36 PM
1	If men take what they can get in dating, then why should women bother with relationships? They're not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 07:13 PM
5	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men It's a load of shit. You need to accept your reality. Why would you want to be deluded? Just don't put yourself out there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 07:10 PM
0	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men It really doesn't. If she has a high level of attraction to you you do not need to jump through these hoops. Putting on an endless performance is just a tiresome task.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 06:46 PM
2	Men would rather roleplay as sigmas than bother cultivating social bonds. "I keep forgetting empathy is actually hard for guys here to understand. What does watching porn have to do with simply not sending porn of Tails to your friends after being warned to stop doing it? Missing such an obvious point is really proving why so many guys suck at forming even platonic relationships," Just like you seem to lack empathy. I said that many of these men started watching porn BECAUSE they were endlessly rejected IRL. IDEK what "porn of tails" is. "Assholes, whi h is why they g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 05:58 PM
2	Men would rather roleplay as sigmas than bother cultivating social bonds. "So?" So porn is the symptom, not the cause in most cases. "Whats the problem?" What kind of men do you think consistently talk about "R?" "And they also get kicked out when they ignore warnings to stop." Women will always have other options to fall back on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 05:47 PM
3	Men would rather roleplay as sigmas than bother cultivating social bonds. Many men watch porn because they can't get any IRL. I'm not sure why people are so obsessed with porn here. What? Over what? Women do it all of the time yet it doesn't really affect them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 05:40 PM
2	Men would rather roleplay as sigmas than bother cultivating social bonds. Such as?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 05:33 PM
2	Men would rather roleplay as sigmas than bother cultivating social bonds. Many of these men tried to create social bonds but were sent that way due to various reasons.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 05:30 PM
1	How can I get girls without going to bar or pub? Dating apps.	/r/seduction	03/11/25 05:14 PM
5	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men That just means that she isn't very attracted to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:51 PM
1	Guys who have only been able to meet women via apps, how do you deal with the feelings of alienation from the fact you’ve never gotten a date with someone you first met in real life? I realise that women don't want me talking to them in person so I only do it online. I have good results from the apps so why should I try?	/r/seduction	03/11/25 04:41 PM
4	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men "I fear you just don’t like the social contract that makes alluring people alluring." Sometimes I do, but I never approach women/message them first or even talk to them at the gym or fitness classes as I've been told it's a bad idea.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:38 PM
1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men I'm not here to entertain others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:33 PM
3	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men If they say that men are "boring" as if I am meant to entertain them then they see me as a clown. If they are attracted to you then you don't need to put in much effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:31 PM
4	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Because women go after attractive men. All approaching them does is boost their egos. Why is that good?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:30 PM
7	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men They're cool, I like them. But the difference between a friend and a lover is that the lover is sexually attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:15 PM
8	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Or just give up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:14 PM
1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Yes, and if you are confident that you will be rejected you are just accepting reality. Mindset doesn't matter with dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:14 PM
6	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Define "personality." What is the personality of a damp tea towel?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:13 PM
3	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Believe what in particular? Having to put yourself out there? If you were attractive then it would find you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:12 PM
4	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men They said to not be "boring", as if my sole purpose is to entertain them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:11 PM
6	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Well constant rejection can have a major toll on your self-esteem/confidence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:07 PM
1	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Fair point. I am in a similar position myself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 04:06 PM
2	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Men shouldn't put themselves out there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:57 PM
2	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men That sounds pretty brutal, if you need to put yourself out there as a man then you are by definition unattractive. You need to let women approach you first. If you need to approach then the woman is not attracted to you. Confidence barely matters for men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:54 PM
6	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men I have plenty of male friends, yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:47 PM
6	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men The "no spark/connection."	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:43 PM
8	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Yeah, also men have typically very low standards for women's looks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:43 PM
6	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Gym and physique can only do so much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:39 PM
6	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Someone told me that it means that you are unlovable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:39 PM
6	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men So I have to be some clown/jester?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:35 PM
1	No reply after strong interest the night before? Delete the number and move on.	/r/seduction	03/11/25 03:31 PM
15	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men IDK, I've been told that I lacked a spark following dates. That pretty much means I'm unattractive physically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:29 PM
2	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men I mean, I never approach women/message first as all it does is boost their ego. That isn't necessarily being risk averse, it's just being logical.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:28 PM
2	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men It's still "confidence" isn't it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:25 PM
6	When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for Men Why? If you are confident that something will happen, then why is that not confidence?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:10 PM
1	There are 5 types of women when it comes to first dates You're paying for it.	/r/seduction	03/11/25 02:20 PM
1	There are 5 types of women when it comes to first dates What thought would that be? What should the average guy be doing for dates?	/r/seduction	03/11/25 02:19 PM
1	There are 5 types of women when it comes to first dates If you need to take her to dinner or some other crap then she's not attracted to you.	/r/seduction	03/11/25 02:19 PM
2	To continue or move on If you've got to ask: Move on.	/r/seduction	03/11/25 02:13 PM
1	Women get rejected just as often as men, it just happens after the sex. That's extremely rare.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 01:48 PM
1	If men take what they can get in dating, then why should women bother with relationships? No one is special.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 01:36 PM
1	If men take what they can get in dating, then why should women bother with relationships? No they don't. If you need to put yourself out there then you are not attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 01:35 PM
1	What age is no relationship/dating experience start to become weird/ Unattainable? I would agree. It's unfortunately becoming more and more common.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/25 04:26 PM
2	Men need to stop drinking the kool aid Because most men aren't in a position to be picky.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/25 09:21 AM
1	You spend money on a date, thinking sex was supposed to happen, but she refused? That's your mistake, not her problem. Or a coffee/a walk. It should be cheap.	/r/seduction	31/10/25 07:58 PM
1	Red Pill advice surrounding the Male Loneliness Epidemic is confusing and bad Out of interest, which dating sources would be good for men to learn from if they wanted advice as opposed to the manosphere?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/25 07:21 PM
2	What piss you or please you the most about dating and male-female dynamics? I like that I am able to live my life the way I want more or less. Yes, dating has become much harder for men with women's standards getting higher each year, but I I'm happy with my position.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/25 08:12 PM
1	What piss you or please you the most about dating and male-female dynamics? It's best not to approach women as a man in fairness as you look like a loser. Plus women go after the men they want. I wouldn't say that's passive, that's being strategic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/25 08:01 PM
1	It doesn't matter. Everything always leads back to it being men fault. Men don't care about men and women don't care about men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/25 05:33 PM
1	Got Pulled By An "Unattainable" 8.5/10 Baddie W 100K On IG \| Here's 6 Male Behaviors That "Work" With Women Of High Beauty I already know that I don't have a shot with them so this is irrelevant.	/r/seduction	28/10/25 02:58 PM
–	The Minimum "arousal/attraction" threshold MUST be met before one can consider someone a viable dating option - regardless of compatibility. Being in a relationship with a woman doesn't mean she's attracted to you, necessarily.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/25 12:09 AM
–	Traits that are associated with attractiveness (humor, kindness, charisma, etc) are (mostly) irrelevant to success with dating or sex. His girlfriend is not beautiful lmao. She's average at best. He's an anomaly as well as ugly men rarely get anything. You have very low standards, as most men do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/25 11:58 PM