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CharlesDanceFan/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 06:37 AM
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CharlesDanceFan/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 10:21 AM
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This is it The harsh fact in these situations is that there is absolutely nothing you can do about it other than sit back and take it up the ass. This isn’t Saudi Arabia where she would be hung, drawn and quartered for her deplorable behaviour All you can do is detach yourself, accept that your stbxw is a heartless, selfish, vacuous slut and use this experience to makes sure that this never, ever happens again. It’s business now mate. Cool heads prevail
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 09:33 AM
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I could have made my XWs life hell when I caught her cheating with a colleague In fact, most of the reddits on here tell you to do exactly that. Scorched earth and all that. In my case, spilling the beans would have caused a ton of unnecessary crap and it would have all been to satisfy my ego I knew my ex had some guilt lingering so I kept quiet and took a more business like approach. I had to because it was going to minimise the fallout and allow me to slip quietly away with everything I wanted…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 02:56 PM
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FFS mate complaining about meaningless sex You obviously never spent the last year ‘healing’ Unless you consider getting your dick wet as part of the ‘healing process’ Which it is by the way. Best way to heal IMO Now get out there and do more damage!
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 01:24 PM
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We all like to read a story where we come out on top This is one of those stories And guys, this will be your story It sucks at the start but grind through and you’ll reach your happy ending
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 05:55 PM
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I agree with this Prior to marriage and my kids being born, I had all the power. I could do what I wanted Once she popped kids out…. Jesus wept. I became Cuckleberry Finn overnight
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 09:16 AM
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AP moved in on my wife knowing full well she was married. He’s a scumbag However I’m genuinely glad he took her off my hands. She’s not right in the head. He did me a massive favour in a sick sort of way. Short term pain for long term gain and all that jazz
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 07:44 PM
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Kill that mindset mate Women are everywhere. Not just at bars. In fact, why would you want to meet a woman who frequents bars? Take up interests and meet like minded people bro
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 06:45 AM
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Mate as much as I tout the dating apps to help speed up recovery, they are not a match on the more organic process In other words mate, you need to put yourself out there. We know it’s tough right now however no one is coming to the rescue here. As long as you smell nice, dress well and indulge in good banter then you will always procure the interest of a fine lady. Take action brother. Use this moment as fuel to take yourself to the next level.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 06:42 AM
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As harsh as it is mate, she’s no doubt told the boy that you aren’t his real dad His head must be spinning He’s angry no doubt He’ll come round one day and if he doesn’t, then you’re going to have to just deal with it mate.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 07:14 PM
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No kids Divorce on cheat mode Do it while you can mate
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 07:07 PM
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Men are bound by honour. We live life following an unwritten code and we are conditioned to put our happiness aside in order to create stability. Women will literally give their husband 3 days worth of weaponised silent treatment because they had a dream that their husband was banging one of their friends The point I’m trying to make is that we’re wired differently man. You just have to accept that this is what they do so that you’re not surprised when it happens again
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 10:36 AM
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Exactly mate
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 10:28 AM
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Your wife is a monster. Probably for the best she’s willing to opt out the kids life A woman ditching her child so she can be someone’s glorified jizz sock. This is a horrible moment mate but it’s just that, a moment. Grind through it. Things will get better Be there for your child. They need you more than ever bro. This is your time to show the world what a real man you are. Grab it with both hands because when this passes, which it will, you’re going to look back with pride. Get to work mate
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 10:27 AM
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I’m sure she had moved on when CoWorker Chad was pummelling her fart cave. Amazing how their minds work at times. Well done mate. Mid 40s is peak time for the dating game. I was fighting it off post divorce!
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 05:09 PM
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Why are you bothered about her cutting off comms? That’s a dream come true I still have to communicate with my ex for the kids. As amicable as it is, it’s a nightmare. Regardless mate, sounds like you’re on the right path. Keep going!
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 04:50 PM
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Women don’t just up and leave mate There’s usually some chump who’s gave them the word that they want to take their new relationship to the next level 99% of stories in here, where the wife has initiated divorce, have all had the same issue ie she’s getting new dick
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 02:23 PM
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Time to do some digging There is always someone waiting in the shadows
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 01:38 PM
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I hope you waited a year and completely healed Seemingly this is what men have to do now What a time to be alive! Seriously though, nice work mate. Can’t beat getting your dick wet with some new vag juice lol. Thats the elixir for post divorce recovery man, do not let anyone tell you guys otherwise !!!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/25 12:46 PM
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I’m incredibly average looking. In fact I would say that I punch well above my weight considering the huge flaws I have (flaws that have been perpetuated by social media) I’m short and bald for example. However I seem to do well and land myself some attractive women Here’s what works for me I work out every day and my physique reflects that. Personally i don’t thing women care about this as much as men however it gives me confidence which is a good base to start from Updated my wardrobe and adde…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/25 10:15 AM
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I celebrated my divorce by hopping on a testosterone steroid cycle. Put on 20lbs and looked the best I ever have in my life. Female interest went through the roof actually. Probably a bit extreme but f*k it. No one bats an eyelid when the STBXW gets Botox and fillers. Time for daddy to pack on some lean mass and do some damage!
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 07:50 PM
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Something so quintessentially English about this post Spiffing, old chap! Seriously though, every divorce is unique to the circumstances that lead up to it. As long as you adopt a tactical/business mindset, you’ll get through it
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 08:14 AM
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Mate I don’t even know who the fiancee is. I was literally shown a random IG account for about 2 seconds
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 08:11 AM
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Great analogy mate. Yeah I was in IKEA a while back and every guy there had that 1000 yard stare, while at the same time trying to engage with their wife’s about what crap they should buy
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 03:10 PM
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I would hardly say one or two comments is most people But hopefully that doesn’t dampen your wee rage induced hard on
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 07:09 AM
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I would tell them to never doubt yourself and embrace risk. Fortune truly does favour the bold. I lost a lot of opportunities in life through fear and doubt and I won’t let my kids do the same.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 04:58 AM
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In all honesty bro, I have 50/50, work shifts as well and it’s chaotic. The biggest source of stress in my life is trying to organise work around my time with my kids But do you know what man? I make it work somehow. We always do. In saying that, I feel for guys who want to pull the D card in some ways. You just know the wife is going to go nuclear and make this an even more brutal process.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 04:55 AM
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That last sentence fires me up man
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 03:32 PM
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He’s actually in a relationship and has kids Slime ball status confirmed However as I mentioned, I work with the guy and sometimes you have to work with people who have a moral compass that lacks calibration.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 11:48 AM
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You won’t catch me complaining mate If anything I would love to buy AP a beer and shake his hand. He took a grenade out my hands If it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t be in a relationship with a younger, hotter and more genuine woman than my ex Thanks AP! You’re the best
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 10:13 AM
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Sounds like some 2007 era PUA stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 09:27 AM
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A common tale mate Mines was getting pounded by a co worker as well while chump here was out earning corn to keep the family going. And I never believed it when everyone on here told me it was happening…. Until I started digging
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 08:08 AM
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Thanks for your insight. The value you bring to the conversation is appreciated
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 08:06 AM
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You’re right mate. You’re absolute scum in her eyes and her behaviour is deplorable. My ex did exactly the same. I’m glad she did however in a twisted way because it allowed me to cut the cord quickly. And you have to question a man who wants to embark on a relationship with a woman who still co habits with her ex. I know men are thirsty but that takes the biscuit
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 04:34 AM
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Fair enough mate but that only lasts a few years. Alimony on the other hand….
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 08:41 AM
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Persuade her to get a full time job. Hopefully that way, she starts an affair with a co worker which will potentially lead to a more favourable divorce outcome. Affair fog and all that… Or the other option is you straight up tell her you have had enough and you want a divorce. She will do everything to take you to the cleaners. Hell hath no fury and all that…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 08:27 PM
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Hit the gym and focus your energies on getting jacked. Get a new wardrobe as well. Take action man. Who cares if your ex is getting boned off some poly neckbeards. Stop dwelling on something completely out of your control. She’s 18 months gone mate. Get that noise out your head
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 08:21 PM
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Why wait a year though? Say you’re in a dead bedroom for 5+ years before divorce You really want to add another year onto that? Thats like asking a prison to add another year onto your sentence lol
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 05:39 PM
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A few months I got right in about it. I’m glad I did. Felt good to get my dick wet with new vag
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 05:37 PM
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If it’s no fault then proof is pointless, other than to confirm what you already likely know
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 05:36 PM
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Wife asks for divorce Translation She’s met some other scumbag who’s gave the word that he will take her on Time to get digging mate Women don’t ask for divorces unless some chump is waiting in the shadows
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 10:45 AM
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I, 46 years old, got asked to go to a techno club a couple of months ago. I was up for it and cancelled at the end. The reason being I know I would have succumbed to rattling some xtc lol. The thought of a 4 day comedown was too much however. Maybe next time!
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 01:27 PM
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The whole ‘spend 8 years healing before you look at another woman’ is woo woo therapy clap trap. We all know, deep down, that getting our wieners wet is the best therapy to help a man get over a divorce. Even more effective when they’re hotter and younger than your ex
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 08:44 PM
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I did this for around 2 months and it was hell. My heart goes out to any guy who has to endure this insanity. Get the word amicable out your head. Your relationship is going to deteriorate hard while you’re under the same roof. Women can’t hide their contempt. Then she’s going to start dating and rubbing your nose in it. That parts fun lol. Get out as fast as you can mate. And make sure you’re carrying a voice recorder at all times!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 08:38 PM
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I caught mines cheating so I had to deal with that stuff from the start. Always better to get it out the way asap I suppose It’s a stinger mate but we’re only human. You’ll forget about it and move on quickly.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 08:34 PM
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Powerful words mate
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 10:15 PM
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She wants to separate because monkey branching perk has been activated. Some chump has decided to take her and your kid on. Time to get angry then use said anger to channel your energy into something that’s going to benefit YOU Women don’t leave marriages unless someone is waiting in the wings mate.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 03:21 PM
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Those last few lines stung hard bro I couldn’t give a rats ass if I never seen my ex again. My kids on the other hand. The thought of never seeing them destroys me. That’s why we suffer bro. For the kids
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 09:28 PM
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Exactly You did nothing wrong at all. They’re the ones who should be shamed
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 12:29 PM
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Mate, the hard fact is that you’re going to have to suffer for a while. There’s no getting around it. Your head will be spinning and for good reason Betrayal trauma, divorce, having to sell and buy a house, kids These events on their own are hard enough but altogether at one time?? Jesus Christ it’s total warfare on the psyche. The first thing,no sorry, the most IMPORTANT thing is lawyering up. Lawyers do the heavy lifting and will also allow you to focus on things you can control. Suck it up ma…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 08:45 AM
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It’s nothing to do being heartbroken If a hot chick came along and begged you for sex, you would be in about it like a dog eating beetroot After I split from the ex, I swore off women and relationships. 11 months later and I’m knee deep in a relationship with a woman younger and more attractive than my wife by a considerable margin I never asked to develop feels. My primal male brain kicked in and once again, fell under the spell of a hot woman. That’s just the way it works mate. We’re only men
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 09:46 PM
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Lawyer up asap Get the business head on as well because that’s all it is from this moment on. Only thing you can do from this point is realise you can only control what you do. Everything else is out your hands so don’t get caught up in it This is hell, you’re going to suffer hard. But you will endure and believe me, you’ll be a better man when you come out of this furnace. Get the head down and get to work
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 09:11 PM
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Mate you’ve won a watch here. No kids That’s divorce on easy mode…. With cheats She’s moved on and has done so for the last year. They don’t just wake up and go ‘think I’ll ask for a divorce today’ Let her bring the pain because it’s better you deal with it now and get it out the way. It’s all going to happen at some point. She’s setting you free. Embrace it. The good times are ahead but you have to make them happen
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 09:42 PM
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Mate if you think this is bad then wait until you find the butt plugs and sex toys. That will test your resolve lol This is what they do mate. It’s like some in built mechanism that they get more depraved with the new chad. Accept it and move on. You’re too busy working on yourself than to devote any energy to this trash
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 04:56 PM
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Emotional affair lol They’re only emotional until you find out that they actually had sex. That bit you have to find out yourself however. They’ll only ever tell you it’s emotional. I had to put up with similar treatment OP. There is literally nothing you can do about it other than quietly seeth, seeking comfort in the knowledge that you will eventually escape the hell that you’re enduring. Remember, it’s HER who is indulging in this decrepit, creepy, disrespectful behaviour. Not you. If a man w…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 06:07 AM
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It feels really good brother It feels so good that it will actually weird you out A loveless marriage is hell. Men need to be appreciated and touched
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 06:01 AM
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I hammered the dating apps once i got my head around the looming divorce Initially it was just for chat however I did a serious amount of damage on it lol. Was great for the ego. Now knee deep in a relationship with a great woman. Way younger and hotter than my ex as well. Get out there guys. Don’t let the ex dictate your future. Do you think she’s doing the same while she’s being boned by CoWorker Chad lol
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 06:05 AM
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My first one as well man. Tbh I’m kinda looking forward to getting some peace and quiet. I’ve had them all week and get them Boxing Day. Dig deep mate. We’ve come this far
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 04:05 PM
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I agree with most of your points. Here’s a question though How many guys have blown a marriage up into the stratosphere and blamed it on ‘low t levels’?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 09:08 AM
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Mate don’t talk to me about hormones I was married, have a daughter and was brought up with a single mother and have a sister. I’m still trying to shake the ptsd lol
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 08:57 AM
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I don’t know why you came to that assumption It’s more aimed at the lack of accountability and blaming behaviour on something ‘outwith their control’ I mean, what’s next? The Pre Peri Menopause?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 07:05 AM
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Peri menopause They played the menopause card so hard that they had to invent the menopause that comes before the real menopause lol
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 02:33 PM
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I get through it by treating the day I get my kids ie Boxing Day, as if it’s actually Xmas day. They’re happier because they’re getting two Xmas days. That’s the way kids see the world at their age. Don’t let it get you down brother. Kids grow up eventually. This pain is temporary however the armour it builds is permanent
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 12:54 PM
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You’re not a ‘cuck’ at all mate. Takes balls to put yourself in that situation. My ex stays with her AP now and like you, I feel strangely sorry for him. She’s an absolute nightmare. He thinks he’s won a watch as well. The dumbass doesn’t realise the world of pain that’s eventually coming his way lol. Divorce is amazing once the dust is settled. I can be driving to work and just get this amazing feeling wash over me when I realise I’m a free man and can now do as I please
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 07:59 PM
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Jesus man that’s a horrific read yet at the same time, uplifting Amazing what guys put themselves through to keep some stability for the kids. In a years time you’ll look back and be like ‘wtf was happening to me lol’ Anyway mate, onwards and upwards
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 07:54 PM
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Lawyer up bro and send this trash packing Your life is on hard mode right now however…. Once you complete hard mode, you’re going to feel like a real man Get to work
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 01:17 PM
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A trad wife is the last adversary you want to come up against in a divorce
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 02:55 PM
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