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You can even tell them you’re trying to up your conversational game and ask them to provide you feedback. I had a friend like this and she eventually introduced me to her other friend who I dated and abruptly ended after a month so I lost that friend group. A breakthrough realization that came out of that I have a fear of getting close to people and really don’t even enjoy relationships because of that.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/26 12:46 AM
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OK, I know it’s degrading and need to be much better than that and there’s no excuse talk like that. It’s just the extreme frustration comes from being awkward, nervous, and incompetent when interacting with someone I’m attracted to. It’s not with every one or every time but when i do come off as awkward I can’t or at least find it really difficult to respect myself.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/26 12:33 AM
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I’m talking about myself and don’t talk about women like that.
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 09:58 PM
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Women want men with masculine traits it seems
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 09:51 PM
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Then you must be confident with not being that masculine. Generally I don’t have trouble with dating when I’m in confident with being not traditionally masculine but I’m very frequently not confident with that part of myself is attractive even if ive experienced otherwise.
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 09:30 PM
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Well I wouldn’t want them dating a version of me I don’t like
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 09:28 PM
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If you’re all bitch like and nervous around someone you have feelings for you’re not a real man either. Red pill or not.
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 09:12 PM
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I don’t have an issue seeing through the bullshit of red pills version of masculinity. But that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be masculine and there seems to be some truth in men who kind of stray from traditional masculinity being less desirable to women.
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 09:03 PM
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If they’re getting more attention which isn’t something I’m incapable of but I also don’t handle relationships with ease once im dating someone. It always feels like i cant be myself and even if its just a little bit i feel like need to put on a version of myself thats a little bit more masculine rather than whats actually authentic. This all means i just shouldn’t be dating and have a lot to address before im qualified to start again.
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 08:27 PM
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The sad part is this pua adjacent stuff is just mainstream modern dating lingo I’ve seen on non pua dating subs guys unironically tell other guys “you need to cold approach”. It’s cringe
/r/ExRedPill07/03/26 08:16 PM
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I’ve always thought thinking of it as a huge thing or like it’s a “trap” is the trap itself and just makes everything harder than it needs to be. I understand it’s a phenomenon but overall I’ve thought it’s better if you just never think of it bc its a recipe for over analyzing yourself and thinkjbg like “am I being too friendly or not flirty enough”. Making intentions clear is always a good thing but worrying about avoiding the friend zone all the time just seems a little exhausting.
/r/ExRedPill18/02/26 05:32 PM
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It’s really liberating to realize that friendzone, simping, alpha/beta bullshit are all made up.
/r/ExRedPill18/02/26 04:52 AM
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Being awkward to me means you’re uncomfortable and can’t express your true personality. I’m talking out of experience. How can I be authentic and vulnerable with others if I can’t be comfortable around them. That’s the problem I ran into in my last situationship where everything felt really forced
/r/ExRedPill17/02/26 06:00 AM
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After I ended the last situationship I was in I had a breakthrough random realization that if this is what I’m thinking of it’s no wonder why dating has always felt exhausting. It’s either because I’m attracting incompatible people or not able to genuinely connect at all if my basis for dating is fear and shame based. Ive been seeing mostly the same therapist for years with some exceptions to seeing a different one at a community college who I think worked a little better but the main key is sel…
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 08:25 PM
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No I’m not thinking about those guys at all actually on dates. I do care what she thinks and if she’s comfortable but also worried about coming off as awkward or feel nervous.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 03:03 PM
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If i make any mistakes in dating i lose to them and they were right about me. I need to be able to bully them. Theres plenty i can already have on some of them like never been married, mommy issues etc. I agree with what you’re saying though once I disregard them it doesn’t matter.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 02:45 PM
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40 yo Bachelor family friends and other losers who’d make fun of me for being inexperienced. A lot of times I’m afraid to use the word “date” when asking someone out and if I’m too scared to do that I’ll water down my message or leave out the word “date” but the fact I can’t ask them out directly enough creates a lot of shame and usually the anxiety kills the interest
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 07:53 AM
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I understand women are just humans but I’m also not willing to make mistakes that would make me look incompetent in dating.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 07:27 AM
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I’m not a bad looking guy and have tons going for myself. I’m in an artistic profession doing what I love and keep active by going to the gym and surfing but that’s really all I have. The fact that I’m 27 and never had a relationship automatically makes me more like the gooner type even if my unique dating history is a result of frequently moving and focusing on a career or not having good enough self esteem. I don’t really have an impressive personality or have “game”, I just get along with wom…
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 07:15 AM
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Yes I agree but this concept also suggests men need to step it up and be more supportive of each other
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 11:49 PM
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Yea I’ve been in it for years…it only helps a little bit
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 11:03 PM
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Limit time on the internet. Go outside. Exercise. Make new friends. Do what makes you happy. Love yourself. It sounds generic but these are the most affective strategies I’ve experienced.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/26 12:40 AM
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I mostly agree but I think the more important issue is how can I love others if I have bad self esteem. I lose interest, get the ick sometimes within a week or even before I even start dating someone. But it’s also dependent on how well I communicate or how good my “game” is (ik that’s a cringey term) As soon as I make a mistake in my communication that would make me seem less experienced. It’s over. I’m not interested anymore. I need to have flawless communication so it can fuel my confidence.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/25 09:21 PM
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I just don’t take all these imaginary rules and “zones” that make life harder seriously🤷but not stoping anyone who wants to
/r/ExRedPill24/08/25 04:50 AM
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This is good advice. But the reason my experience is so upsetting is if I admit to people I’ve always been single they ask why as if it shouldn’t be that way… bring 26 and never having a girlfriend would be normal and expected if I were an ugly unibrowed autistic incel but that’s not me so I NEED to be better than this. Some people irl might even think why I’m worrying so much bc they’ve noticed how naturally I interact with women, which again makes my inexperience work against me in every way. …
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 11:39 AM
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I don’t think it’s accurate to call Kanye red pill. He’s just off his meds and let whatever antisemitic website he looked at get to his head
/r/ExRedPill25/04/25 07:09 AM
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Since I’ve wrote this I’ve had some hook up experiences but nothing moving closer to a relationship. This isn’t new and makes me jaded bc none of the seven people I’ve slept with I’ve had a strong connection with. Another issue is it’s shameful just to even ask help. I shouldn’t need to be told to have the courage to ask anyone out. These last few times I’ve stayed over at someone’s house, I was asked. If you’re so much of a pussy you can’t ask someone out your value is the same as a homeless bu…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/25 04:39 AM
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Do you talk to women? If yes, you’re golden. No advice needed
/r/ExRedPill10/04/25 05:26 PM
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Avoid dating coaches
/r/ExRedPill10/04/25 02:03 AM
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I’m already talking to women but unsure how to handle any situation because the last time I had success in dating/relationships is coming up to two years ago. Because I’ve had prior success and validation from other men applauding me for it, I tend to think that the lonely, partner less man is something that should be foreign to me, I’ve figured this out before so I should damn we’ll be better than that. That’s why I believe your social value as a sexless man is the same as a fentanyl addict pas…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/25 08:25 PM
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Im sure they’re great people. I just want to be better than that because I know I’m capable(meaning better than how I am currently, no disrespect)
/r/ExRedPill30/03/25 08:34 AM
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Again you aren’t wrong but the guys I’m referring to are like 90% of the male population irl in my area. Like you said, they aren’t worth being around but it’s easy to run into them at bars and other social situations so it’s more of a challenge.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/25 08:41 PM
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So yea I’d agree with what you’re saying. But so far the way insecurities present themselves in my experience, seems to be a turn off for many. Do I genuinely want a girlfriend? Absolutely. I don’t know how to initiate a relationship at all which I also assume to be a turn off… and don’t have much previous experience. When I was seeing people more frequently I’d just let it happen. Maybe the key is not to think too much
/r/ExRedPill24/03/25 04:40 AM
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Not women you’re right. But if you’re trying to make friends in a college town, opening up about my experience with any male peers is asking to be humiliated. I’m not saying that’s all men but the fact is most men are trad con/red pill these days which makes it harder to make friends and it’s hard to be in a relationship if you don’t have a friend group.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/25 04:33 AM
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I’ve experimented a little here and there. Not quite my thing
/r/ExRedPill24/03/25 03:25 AM
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I’m sorry
/r/ExRedPill21/03/25 04:50 AM
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Bc isn’t being a beta male like that one loser guy who can’t get a girlfriend etc. ? That’s what I really want to try to avoid. There’s a reason people make fun of guys like that
/r/ExRedPill21/03/25 04:34 AM
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When people say ‘you need to work on yourself if you want to be in a relationship’ all I hear is you need to be perfect
/r/ExRedPill20/03/25 05:55 PM
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Yea I’ve been there too
/r/ExRedPill20/03/25 01:56 AM
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Not sure how else to think when it comes to dating. It just makes sense to me.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/25 06:37 PM
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What attracts me to women is I’m able to emotionally connect with them and get along pretty well
/r/ExRedPill19/03/25 05:41 PM
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It’s bullshit but it’s extremely convincing
/r/ExRedPill19/03/25 05:33 PM
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The one who was crazy was from a sleazy bar. Other more recent (and more people) were either from reconnecting since I’m back at community college or punk rock shows in my area.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/25 05:18 PM
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Previousl partners it’s bc they were crazy and abusive and possibly bpd.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/25 05:10 PM
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Most of them not really, until recently. I’ve been talking to someone and most of the time they responds until I try to make plans then get left on read for like a day but still keeps going? As for the social Darwinist idea. I can’t help but to think it’s about survival of the fittest and if you fall short of anything and have any imperfections or flaws you’re fucked and you’re going to die alone
/r/ExRedPill19/03/25 05:04 PM
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I got it answered
/r/ExRedPill09/02/25 03:24 AM
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No I was agreeing with you…I often tie my self worth to relationship status and it’s hard to convince me not to
/r/ExRedPill06/02/25 05:24 PM
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R/ virginityexchange
/r/ExRedPill06/02/25 02:49 PM
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Thinking shyness is hot is extremely rare in my experience. The only reason I have more success in dating than I should is because I’ve pretended to not be introverted
/r/ExRedPill05/02/25 11:26 PM
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Social currency is a big part of it and it’ll be hard to convince me otherwise that relationships give you that
/r/ExRedPill05/02/25 09:14 PM
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I just started with a new therapist the last one suggested I have adhd
/r/ExRedPill05/02/25 09:00 AM
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I was 22 and hated myself for being a virgin so I went on local hookeup subs and someone reached out. I probably would’ve done it before now if I “waited” but I didn’t want to be a 23 yo virgin
/r/ExRedPill05/02/25 05:28 AM
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You got it right in the last part. In my experience I might not feel comfortable right away but once I move on and maybe find someone else, a friendship could be possible if the relationship was always positive.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/25 01:09 AM
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Blah blah blah blah. That’s all I read
/r/ExRedPill19/01/25 08:12 PM
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Exactly what I meant
/r/ExRedPill19/01/25 01:06 AM
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This is exactly what I’ve always had trouble with since I virtually have zero relationship experience. all I know how to do is to approach it like a friendship since all my other intimate experiences have just happened kinda as a spur of the moment
/r/ExRedPill19/01/25 12:22 AM
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I can relate and empathize with the experience of feeling frustrated with having strong feelings that weren’t reciprocated and not being comfortable staying friends for that reason. However, at the end of the day, you’re right, it is just a construct. Unfortunately it seems to have become a phenomenon in modern dating thanks to PUA and red pill ideas and is hard to break out of that way of thinking.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/25 11:46 PM
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