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Clinton, in his prime, was the smoothest man to ever live, I swear ​ ** p.s. smooth is not a good thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 11:43 PM
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I dunno if I agree with any of this. (Not in a negative way, I'm just generally pondering!) My husband and I both feel that our educational experiences were... not NOT worth it but like maybe not exactly the right choice at the time. We are absolutely not forcing our children to get a college education and definitely not going to be paying the whole way if they do go. I think we have forced this crazy narrative about what is needed and what is not to have a fulfilling and 'successful' life. ​ We…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 11:12 PM
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Yup... been saying this for years and it's considered so fucking controversial but like use your brains... sperm are constantly dividing, that is when mistakes happen. We are all born with the eggs we will have, it's a total toss up on what comes up for women but that doesn't change with age. Later pregnancies are just harder on the woman's body but in terms of healthy babies... older sperm is much more of a concern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 01:38 AM
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It can happen! You have to vet, just like anyone else of any age. And same! Would basically never encourage anyone to seek it out, but if it's happening... think about it and the possibilities down the line and decide if there is something that will bother you down the line, if so then move on but you gotta know yourself and what you like and want from your life.... which is true when vetting at ANY age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:06 AM
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My now husband is 15 years older than me, 29 and 44. I would never have thought I would be married to someone this much older than me but it's what happened! I've written about this before in past comments so I won't go into all the details but basically, it works for us and we are very happy. We both know what we want out of our life which includes buying a small house on some decent land where we can grow beautiful gardens with our doggies and raise a couple kids. He is getting his sperm check…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 11:00 PM
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I was surprised! I didn't see a single comment saying he was right. Miles of comments dragging him. It was nice to see. Gives ya hope that some people, some where are getting it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 02:23 AM
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I think she probably got an opportunity to relax standards she felt obligated to keep and realized she doesn't actually want to partake in them anymore. Waxing and shaving is fucking exhausting and painful, make up is work, heels and dresses are often painful and or constrictive. The pandemic gave a lot of people time to think about what was actually important to them and it seems she found that all this hullabaloo about meeting feminine standards wasn't it for her. Probably not going to end wel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 01:30 AM
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Honestly worried he is going to ki** her ​ (had to re add the comment becuase apparently it looked like I was breaking rules or something??)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:42 PM
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Idk. Having a partner at all inherently makes things more difficult when you are an independent person. Having someone to have to like coordinate with and organize with and plan with and move with. Two people is inherently harder to do those things than just making decisions all by yourself. At least that's been my experience. Idk about this person though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 09:33 PM
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Yeah they tend to be of the type who 'dont believe in therapy' And it's like bro...I don't care if you don't believe in it, you need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 01:29 PM
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I'm also mentally ill (bipolar) and I would absolutely avoid mentally ill men. The entitlement makes them way fucking worse and the way the generally express their symptoms are outward towards others, way less onto themselves, which is more common with women. Yeah, Kanye is an extreme case because he not only has the mental illness issues he has the cushion of fame and money but either way, if you are looking for stability and calm healthy dynamics, why date someone who has a history of instabil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:38 PM
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Some people take things too far... I have to assume some are young or perhaps they feel they've been unfairly judged for aging (which is true for basically all women!) but I don't know how trying to avoid all the things that come with age and trying to fight against the realities of aging is serving anyone... let's all just be allowed to age and show the wear and tear of time and experience, it's a beautiful gift to be able to age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:26 AM
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My ex husband died from a drug overdose when I was 26 years old. It's a major part of me and my life and my values and the way I see the world. To me, it was incredibly important to be able to speak about this with my future husband and I needed him to 'get' it in the way most people don't. FDS is a strategy for dating that helps you clear away the riffraff to find someone who meets your personal standards for a life partner. Practice FDS to the letter until you rebuild confidence in your intuit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:04 AM
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The only thing I can think is that they are talking about the wake up to the harsh reality of having a new baby that needs you for everything and cries all the time and your sleep is fucked and it's like oh shit this is really stressful and scary and hard and frustrating. Obviously babies are not dogs but there is pretty well known term called 'puppy blues' where the high of having this new adorable thing in your house kinda wears off and you realize it's actually so much work and really hard an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:48 AM
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She's didn't say he was bald... Just that it's likely he will eventually as his father and uncles are bald. He can do some work but it happens to a lot of men as they age. In fact, everyone's hair thins as they age. I don't think it's reasonable for anyone to expect someone to keep the exact same appearance as they age. Hygiene, healthy weight, general caring for yourself, absolutely. But like... If you think you are gonna get into old age without your skin sagging and thinning, your hair thinni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:34 AM
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I'm so sorry. It's a terrible feeling. Try to treat yourself gently and do some calming and soothing self care things. I don't know your exact situation but I AM sure it's not 'all your fault'. That's not how these things work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:37 PM
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You are right. Two things can be true. And the nuance is important. It's just a hard thing to reconcile in your own mind when you know you had been willingly engaging in the same behaviors throughout many different circumstances. I think if anything, it just makes me feel sad for my past self. I was going through such a hard time and self harming with all this behavior. I've been out of that for a long time now. I just feel almost motherly compassion for my past sad little self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:37 PM
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Thank you. It was and it wasn't. It's from a time period in my life where I was engaging in all sorts of very risky behavior, lots of drugs, lots of alcohol, lots of willingly sleeping around. I read an article about a women who had done sex work and she talked about the like harm you do to yourself. She didn't want to call it rape because it was fully consented to and possibly even sought out, but it can create personal harm on the outset. In this specific time, I feel confident that I was purs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:54 PM
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damn. this happened to me on a work trip. I literally blocked it out until reading this. Welp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:05 AM
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ugh. the pms got me to tears. literally shedding a tear for this sweet boy who took his mom out to dinner with his first paycheck. so heartwarming. he is so proud and happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:52 AM
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Thank you for being reasonable on the age gap here. To me 33 and 42 is not really that big. Once you get past your mid 20s and definitely once you are into your 30s you are mentally developed or at least should be if you put in the work in your 20s to grow up. People freaking out about the age gap here just seem young to me I think. 9 years in your early 20s is a lot, not so much when you get to your late 20s and early 30s. BUT! I am in a large age gap relationship myself so I obviously feel ver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 09:31 PM
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Yeah. Unless you've had experience with this kind of lying and conning in your life, it's really a lot harder to sus out than you realize. My late husband was a fucking smooth ass talker. He could get you to buy a winter coat in a phoenix summer and you'd be grateful. Good liars are fucking good. They know exactly how to play it and if you are looking for love, you've already blinded yourself more than they ever needed to. I feel so sad for them. This is why FDS is so important. No one needs to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:13 PM
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Before we go married, we would cook together. And by we would cook together, I really mean, he would suggest something and I would say yay or nay, w would walk to the store for him to shop and pay while I get to push the cart around and just ad lib and dance to the music, then we get home and I unpack the groceries as he starts getting the pots and pans together, then I get the music going and maybe stir a pot if he is busy managing the rest of the meal. I make sure our drinks are full and cold …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:28 PM
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This whole post made me think of Nietzsche and Maste-slave morality. The focus of humility as power and quiet and gentle energy as so spoken by the bible and more modern morality is known as slave morality. It's the concept the was developed out of Christianity and the church. 'be meek and humble and that's how you will make it to heaven!' aka let us run train on you and you will be paid after your death. The concepts of glory and power are called master morality. This was the correct and right …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 03:26 PM
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As long as he is consistent... aka not prescribing mental health medication etc. I actually support this. ​ It's always always better to see a specialist. I haven't seen a general practitioner in ages. Anyone getting BC should be working with a Gyno anyway and managing their genital health... so much shit is going on every month for woman and you should be seeing a doc who knows wtf they are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:14 AM
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Yeah, I've always been referred to specialists for anything needing prescribed. But then... I can't even remember the last time I saw a GP... I always just see my psyc and gyno.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:10 AM
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Haha no no, it's totally fine!! My ego got bruised for a second and then I thought about it and was like.... Yeah, a bipolar man who isn't doing everything to take care and treat themselves would be an absolute nightmare. I hope you are doing okay! He may not have been able to help the yelling in specific moments but he could absolutely help himself by not getting to those moments with proper treatment. Mental health is a reason, not an excuse. I'm sorry!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:44 AM
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I am a total evangelist for The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up.... I hand out copies constantly. ​ Someone on the street mentions disorganized closet... Me: "Have you heard the good word? The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 12:05 AM
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We aren't all bad! But when men have bipolar... it's all the same bad shit all men have plus a million other terrible things that come with the disorder. They gotta have their shit ALLLL worked out and I can't imagine any man that would do the work needed to be in a place where they would be worth dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 12:00 AM
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Ooof. Idk. The younger guys have been brought up completely consumed in easy access porn. They are all fucked up from it in a variety of ways... not just broken dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:45 PM
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I know everyone is all about toys.... but I am against them! I got like kinda addicted to the ease and like the ability to force an orgasm really quickly. I think I also had gotten myself into a bad sexual place mentally and I had to work myself out of it. I stopped using toys and taught myself to make love to myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:35 PM
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YES! Love this. On my solo self-journey in 2020, I got it to practice different experiences of sexual pleasure and it's such an amazing resource. My kids could have access to this if they want to learn about sexual pleasure... it's not pornified. It's fucking educational!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:33 PM
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I just trained myself to feel good without make up. It look a long time. I have had a skincare routine for many years but I've also pared that down to absolute minimum (facial wash, moisturizer, sunscreen am/aquaphor pm) It look a long time to get comfortable but I forced myself to do it. I've gone back to make from time to time but always caught myself wearing it when I felt a sense of feminine obligation and now I'm at zero make up. I got married at the end of the year and didn't wear any beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:02 AM
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Perhaps is time and money, it's a greater commitment over your life span if you always and forever engage in makeup practices but you can always decide to not to it anymore. Unlike plastic surgery that is a permanent change, only alterable by additional surgery and very unlikely to ever take you back to your original state. But I think we are ultimately on the same side of this argument. I've given up the argument with people on make up and hair removal because it always ends in 'i feel better t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:11 PM
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I think it's level of degrees. Plastic surgery is definitely a step up in intensity due to the permanence of it. Like permanent hair removal is more intense than shaving. I stopped wearing make up completely and don't partake in body hair removal because I was never doing it for me. I do get my eyebrows threaded every few months. And I'm in hair school because I freaking love hair changes. I've had all different colors mostly done by myself. I've had all different cuts from a shaved head to down…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 06:24 PM
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They would get engaged. Not marry. Engagements meant you could spend more time together and a wedding would be planned etc which took time. And engagements could be broken. It's just a point that it really should not take years for a man to figure out if he wants to be with you. Months at the most, I think. Now, whether you need longer or want to take longer to be sure, fully support that! Women should be more judicious and logical and practical about these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 08:52 PM
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But like... That's what they get when you block. Why do you feel the desire to know when they are reaching out? What does that give you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 03:02 AM
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I'm a widow. My late husband was absolutely not a HVM and we were actually in the process of getting a divorce when he died. But I still think of him and have love in my heart for him and always will. I have one large picture of him framed and I expect to keep it in my house whenever and wherever I move. Death and grief of loved ones (regardless of relationship status) is very complicated and long and that is apart of who I am now. It's not for everyone but my fiance knows all this and has accep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:31 PM
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I'm completely debt free! I paid off a little remaining credit card debt and my car at the beginning of the year and last weekend I paid off the remaining 18k+ of student loan debt. I also started cosmetology school. I've been working in the corporate world making six figures for a little over a year but I'm not happy. I know FDS says get your money, and I agree, but I also want to get my happiness. I've finally worked enough to pay off the student loans I got in undergrad and now I'm ready to w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 03:34 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:33 PM
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I might be dumb... But I'm still missing on how you do get a flair. Does it just happen at some point? Or do I have to submit a request through some channel (not DMs) I don't know about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:05 PM
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My fiance and I had a serious conversation around amount of sex we expected. I'm all about quality over quantity and have a fairly long recovery time. I like to let my engines fully recover and actually feel a desire/want/need for sex, not just like 'oh, this again'. I would be completely satisfied with one really good, long session a week but am capable and content with every other day. So we understand a normal range for us is between 1 and 3 times a week. Another thing I've noticed since havi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:05 PM
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I have no doubt in my mind he would take mine if I wanted him to do so because of a deep affection and connection to my name, but as it stands, I don't feel that way and he does have that connection as a third of a family name. If I do change my name, I will put my surname as my middle name (really not a fan of it to begin with) and our kids will have my surname as their middle names as well. I do not have any particular academic achievements or publication of any kind in my current name and don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:22 AM
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Yeahhhh. I was adamant about not changing my name in my first marriage and now that I'm very nearly engaged again, I'm very likely to do it. It's a lot of work but I do like the idea of having the same name as a family with children and I know this man will freaking do all the work for me if I even casually mention I want it done but it's too much work, point being, he just wants me to be happy and does anything to make that so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:49 PM
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I'm glad to hear that! Yeah, I've been a bit nervous about sharing my situation on FDS because it's staunchly against age gaps which I totally understand, but the post was made and so I thought, now's the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:17 AM
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My current boyfriend is 15 years older (44 and 29) than me, which is wildly against FDS but I am very okay with it and have never been happier. We have both been married before. Neither have kids. He had a 6 year rough marriage and divorce. I was married, in the process of divorce, when my husband died from a drug overdose before we could finalize anything. Very, very few people my age (or really any age as far as I have seen) have the life experience, wisdom, or capacity to understand what I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:59 PM
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I am 29 and am finally dating a man who has bought me two arrangements. It can happen!! Id never received anything before but I'm dating someone who wants to do these things. I was flabbergasted. I know it can get easy to fall into bitterness and dejection but it can happen for any and all of us, though I fully believe it's just dumb luck. I also have bad mental health issues and have a really bad past with relationships. I took a year off dating to focus on myself and reading books about relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:11 AM
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Damn... I've surprised a guy friend of mine in college with a trip, coordinated with his roommate and he had a better reaction than that. ​ He was in total shock then gave me a massive hug and kissed my head and then started jumping up and down when he realized... that was just a FRIEND. Poor girl. Needs to dump this boy immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:35 PM
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I actually thought that was a great episode... obviously not in good character that he did it to begin with but the way he evolved and learned. He had never seen any other way and thought that was how relationships worked but came around completely and it only made me love him more. Sighhh. Jamie Fraser, when will I find you!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:51 PM
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I was railing on about this like two years ago and everyone was like you are kinda crazy... And then I find FDS and I'm like yes! This is exactly why I'm saying I can't subscribe to modern feminism. They stopped working as a collective and raising women and women's work as a whole and leaned into this 'sex positive' (can you even call it that?) Girl boss feminism that's all about how I as myself can be like a man and the 'exceptional' woman can survive in men's jobs and fucking like men and so o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:08 PM
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You are so right. I only need to feel good for me and myself. And someone will either love my body and appreciate it as is, or not at all and they can goooo awaayyy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:15 PM
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Thank you!! I will just keep trying to push through the feeling. I love seeing other women with hairy legs and frankly if I ever have children, I don't want them to see me altering my body hair as if it's an unnatural thing or something to be ashamed of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:14 PM
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Ugh. I know. I have been in queer women's communitys before as a bisexual woman and it really helped reframe all my ideas on performative feminity but I just struggle with it still internally! It drives me crazy. I understand why I feel the pressure and why it's all bullshit but can't stop the feeling inside of feeling 'less feminine' or 'less attractive' when I don't remove my leg hair. I love seeing it on other women! And always feel so proud of them for shaking the patriarchal chains... I gue…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:12 PM
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Yes! I only trim my bush cuz it gets caught in my underwear and I hate the tugging. I switched to shorts for swimwear years ago and it helped! I just struggle with the dichotomy of wanting to feel classy and sexy and feminine (little visible hair) and my own comfort and beliefs that women have and should be comfortable and seen as attractive with body hair. Such a long running internal battle and I don't know how to settle it.sigh. I guess just keep working at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:30 PM
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I've thought about it but I guess I just feel the struggle against the idea of putting myself through costly and painful procedures for what? To meet some fictitious ideal of a woman? It's this constant internal battle. Over what I like and want and actually feel comfortable with (having body hair) and the pressure I feel from society to fit what is feminine and attractive and sexy (hairless)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:26 PM
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How did you manage the shame? I'm asking genuinely, I haven't shaved my armpits in like idk 5 years but I can't let go of the leg hair shame. I struggle so much with it. I've gotten down to only trimming occassionally but that's really just out of weird insecurity and desire to look like I shave without doing it. I just can't make myself feel sexy attractive and confident in my feminity with leg hair and I have tried for YEARS now (like 6 or more). It's such a struggle. I'm a beautiful woman but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:53 PM
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Ugh. I want to call a shaving strike forever. I've been struggling with leg and bikini line hair shame for years. I stopped shaving my armpits years ago and that one was much easier to feel confident and hot with but the legs and bikini line are such a challenge. I struggle to feel attractive and sexy with it and I hate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:47 PM
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Thank you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:31 PM
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Thank you <3 Such an amazing group here. Love you all!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:30 PM
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Thank you. This group has been fundamental to my healing. I deserve better. I deserved better, then. A lot of my friends don't understand my consumption with this subreddit, but frankly, they haven't been through the hell that I have. They don't understand that this kind of experience has been the norm, not the outlier, in my dating life. I'm happy that they haven't had to know this level of betrayal and loss, but they also can't understand my need for the support I get here. Truly can't thank y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:44 PM
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Yup. Not knowing or believing the level of lows. My ex was an addict. I believed he wanted to live a different life and then I went to support groups, I read books, I went to therapy.... I believed there were just setbacks, a normal part of recovery. No. He just said what he thought I wanted to hear and then did what he wanted. I'm incredibly traumatized from the relationship. He was sexting other women and making plans to meet up with an ex two months after we got married and so I said enough. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:18 PM
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I feel you. When I use to watch porn I could get off in less than 2 minutes. But now, I have to make an event of it. In fact, I started calling it "making love to myself" For me, it helps to think of it as something special, I go slow, take my time, like literally try to slowly get myself turned on with gentle touches on my legs and just allow myself to get in the right head space. With that, I don't do it as often anymore. It's not an every night thing. In fact it's maybe twice a week on a good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:47 PM
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I wouldn't totally write it off!! It took me until this year to discover some pleasure from penetration... But I figured it out using a dildo and my hands but all alone. But I also think I just started to develop more sensation over the years. My point, is be open to it but you don't need a man to explore it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:57 AM
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Yeah! I'm bisexual so I recalibrated my idea of sex a long time ago.... Going down on me IS sex. Fingering me IS sex. In fact, it's the best part of sex. Maybe don't even being your dick over here actually...I'm good without it haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:48 PM
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Im glad you really liked it! But just as a warning for others, it has eucalyptus oil in it and it would burn my fave every time I used it. I was so bummed because I don't even have particularly sensitive skin but it was a no go for me! I use the fragrance free hydroboost gel-cream and then top it with la posay roche Lipikar Balm at night for the extra hydration. Working well so far!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:09 PM
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As a bipolar bisexual woman... Yes. To absolutely all of this. My god. Im not here to make your life interestingggg or exciting or change your life and give you passion or direction. Like I'm fucking amazing and super fun and I know it. But I'm also difficult and intense and can be very hard to be with. I'm a full complete person with all the ups and downs but maybe more extreme. I'm not some ideal version of something to make your life better. Gosh. I was dating a guy in the fall and when I end…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:08 PM
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This! I squirt but it's NOT an orgasm. So many partners, men and women, love love love the visualisation of like something tangible happening when they are penetrating me but like... It's not an orgasm, it is just a small little release, mostly just makes me super tired and dehydrated and leaves a massive freaking wet spot to deal with. I hate it. I'm actually about to have a conversation about it with the guy I'm seeing before we actually have sex so he understands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:33 PM
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Sorry but I'll never stop gossiping. I love it. It's the most local form of news and I think it's considered bad simply because it's a common form of communication among women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:07 PM
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Haha so cute. I totally get the electric thing. I needed to get my eyebrows waxed but they needed up not good and I was annoyed but then decided it was actually fine because the human touch was so phenomenal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 08:56 PM
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Literally had the guy I'm seeing do this to me yesterday. We had a sleepover with no sex and he cuddled me all morning and tickled my back and then since it was such a beautiful day suggested we go to a winery and invited his friends so I could meet them.... ADDITIONALLY, he loves football and has never missed his team playing but skipped it without even really saying anything to me about it. Just would rather spend the day with me since I hate football and refuse to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:19 PM
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haha I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:24 PM
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Everyone hates Geminis.... I'm just misunderstood haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:18 PM
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So far they have! But... they are on thin ice and I'm looking for unacceptable behavior even more closely than usual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:08 PM
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Honestly, it might turn into that but I just started dating again and I'm using the apps so I'm still testing out some strategies. I think the standard has gotten so low on the apps that men just don't even realize they should ask you to a restaurant. So I'm gonna see how it goes with my ONE time clarification of how I expect to be treated as someone you are interested in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:31 PM
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You are right. There are other options! I will definitely keep them in mind as my life keeps going on. Might start working on a timeline of sorts for myself so I don't miss my opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:28 PM
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My new reply is: "Usually when someone asks me on a date they make a reservation at a restaurant :)"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:32 PM
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I thought I didn't want children from about 21-24 after having wanted them for years and years. But around 25, I realized I was lying to myself, and I do really want to experience being a mother. I want to experience pregnancy and birth. Women have this incredible ability to grow a human life and it's something I want to experience. I absolutely adore children and want to participate in development of humankind by raising a human being. I get that it isn't for everyone but I've really sat with m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:33 PM
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I got rid of all social media nearly three years ago. (I lurk reddit (FDS only theses days) occasionally, and made an account so I can post here cuz this group is amazing!) I honestly don't remember what I ever got out of it. I have more time for self care and general maintenance of myself, my home, etc. I read again. I have strong, intimate, friendships that span across the world. My friendships are solid because we make time to keep in text and call and visit each other. Our conversations are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:06 PM
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I LOVE FDS. Nothing to add really but my GOODNESS. I took over a year long hiatus from dating (minus two times where I went on a date but I would freak out and get stressed) and I spent the time investing in myself and began researching about healthy relationships, dating, and figuring out what I was really looking for. I found FDS about 6 months ago and it's life changing, revolutionary (but also classic and old school?) I decided I was ready to dip my toes into the dating pool again and loaded…
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