ChickenLegs614 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Desperation Are you 100% sure you are the father? I would do an at home DNA test first if there is any doubt as that could possibly be the first step to resolve your issue completely.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/03/25 03:02 PM
10	Pictures of the ex. Keep any pics of her with the kids, as the kids may want them someday. Delete everything else with her in it.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/03/25 04:15 PM
4	I want to sell the house and split 50-50. But STBXW’s dad wants to help pay the mortgage for her so she can stay in our house. Would his payments to her reduce spousal support calculations? This is the way.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/01/25 04:53 PM
17	fuck that bitch Ain’t ruined brother— just a temporary set back. The lower the valley, the higher the peak. Start climbing and make sure she sees you when you’re at the top.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/01/25 02:40 AM
2	Hate Same brother, but hate / anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die from it. Forgiveness is hard for me as well— I’m Sicilian and we hold vendettas forever, but I’ve found radical acceptance as a much more palatable approach to release the anger without necessarily absolving the individual. Hang in there bro	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/25 07:21 PM
9	To divorce or not I think you owe it to the kids to agree to change your partnering style if she is willing to change hers. She provides zero disciplinary support because she thinks you are over disciplining. A strong dad doesn’t need to be a drill sergeant to be effective. Weak men lead through fear and intimidation. Let her know you’re willing to take a softer approach if she is willing to support your efforts and provide a unified front to the kiddos. And even if this doesn’t save the marriage it will at least…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/25 03:15 AM
13	Being Alone Sucks The first holidays hit hard— hang in there buddy. The only way through is forward. That chapter of your life has closed— gotta stop thinking about it as it’s not going to help you heal. Read up on and start practicing radical acceptance and go write your next chapter.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/25 10:30 PM
4	How do you get the courage to leave when it's bad, but not that bad? Exactly— it’s hard stepping into the unknown but 1000x worth it once you get there	/r/Divorce_Men	12/12/24 07:33 PM
6	How do you get the courage to leave when it's bad, but not that bad? Same— emotionally and (to a lesser extent) physically abusive wife for about 10+ years. Tried to hang on for the kids but in the end my health started to fail. Looking back 6 months after the fact and I can say it was honestly soooo worth it. I’m currently broke and have lost a lot of fair-weather friends, but I haven’t been this happy since I could remember. IMO, the interim pain is worth the long term happiness.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/12/24 07:08 PM
2	I’m lost Highly recommend digging in and practicing radical acceptance and other tenets of stoicism. Hang in there brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/12/24 08:51 PM
5	Staying for the kids Not worth it IMO. You are hurting yourself and the kids. Your health (mental, emotional, and even physical) will eventually break down. This will not only hurt you, but also the kids as it will severely limit your ability to function as a dad. Add to this the fact that you and your wife are not modeling a loving and committed relationship for the kids. So you’re going to skew their perspective on what a healthy relationship is and inadvertently set them up to accept the same level of abuse when …	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 05:47 PM