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Chip512/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 09:35 PM
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Do what’s in the decree/custody order. Not in one of those? Don’t do it. Sounds like your ex is trying to control you. Give in on the little things then this happens.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 02:31 PM
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You’re about to get skinned. Get an attorney, a great one - ask around to see who’s good at keeping you as whole as possible. Agreement with spouse is a good starting point however you may be agreeing to more than the law requires and you may be missing things that will get your paperwork kicked back to you when it finally gets to the judge - both are bad. Having an attorney is vital when spouse changes her mind midway through the process.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 03:13 AM
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Get an attorney, a great one - a great one can help keep you from getting scalped too badly, a bad one will get you scalped and skinned. Get the best deal you can in your state. Don’t agree to anything - do everything through your attorney. In my case the ex started with a scalp and skinned agreement and after mediation and attorney work it was just a scalping.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 02:58 AM
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If she’s going to harm herself over feelings staying isn’t likely to help. Get out before she decides that a murder followed by suicide is the answer.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/22 01:46 AM
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It’s over. You can stay and hang on until she ends it but you’d be foolish to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/22 01:44 AM
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Dude, once you start the divorce (or have a divorce started by your spouse) these sort of things should only be discussed with your attorney until the divorce is final. Hire an expert attorney and then listen to them.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 06:46 PM
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Look for Facebook singles groups in your area (or state) in your age group. Join, participate in discussions, and go to their events. Might find someone who matches your desires. If you are only interested in sex consider a trip to one of the hot spots in the Caribbean or Asia. Consult single guy guides for ether hookup locations or pay for play locations. Consider reading Rich Cooper’s The Unplugged Alpha. It’s helped me understand some of the mysteries of the female makeup.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 04:00 PM
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Get a great attorney- sounds like you’re in fir a rough ride.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 03:38 PM
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Going to court is what you can do. You’re doing it. Win or lose you did the right thing.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 02:41 AM
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Went through a box of those on month 4 after she called it quits. Hurt for a couple of days.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 02:39 AM
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Hire an attorney, divorce and get on with your life. For some insight into how this happened read The Unplugged Alpha by Richard Cooper.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 08:08 PM
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Depends on state law. In general it doesn’t get more favorable because some state laws have changes as 5/10/15 years. Go back to the pitbull attorney to retain them and get an opinion (retain so wife doesn’t hire).
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 07:58 PM
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Quite a lot depends on your state law. A good attorney can advise you on how/when you might get child support modified.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 02:57 PM
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Tried the DIY. All fine until my ex hired an attorney. I hired one as well and got an agreement that was mostly fair.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 09:51 PM
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Hire an attorney. Going it alone against a knowledgeable opposing attorney is right up there with the do it yourself appendectomy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 09:49 PM
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Odds are if the love interest has no other address that there is something listing your ex’s residence as his residence. Tell your attorney that she is cohabitating and to file to end alimony. Your attorney will tell you what, if anything, else is needed.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 01:05 AM
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The Unplugged Alpha by Richard Cook
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 09:56 PM
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I see your point. Do consider the context - the degree of change in a wife from marriage day to divorce day is remarkable. Rich covers why this happens in his book and things men can do to avoid many of the problems. While Rich's primary audience is single men, a married man who takes his book as a wake up call could have a better marriage as a result.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 03:30 PM
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I finished it over the weekend. Well written, mostly easy to read, the hard to read parts were well written just hit a bit close to home. Well worth reading, highly recommended.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 03:26 PM
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An old rule of thumb is value = 3 times gross annual revenue. Other methods at https://smallbusiness.yahoo.com/advisor/valuing-business-190018352.html
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 02:53 AM
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There are calculators and consultants on the topic - Google turned up several of each. The answer may well be to sell the business and divide the proceeds. If there’s not a market for the business it may come down to assets and revenue.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 02:26 AM
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NYPA - not your problem anymore. Work on yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 11:29 AM
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NYPA - Not Your Problem Anymore. Let that sink in for a moment. It's time to look out for yourself and your children - you soon to be ex wife made her decision.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/22 12:17 PM
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When she says it’s over, it’s over. Get an attorney and do what you can to protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/22 11:55 AM
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Decide how much you want to spend to keep her from getting something. Spend that much in lawyer time to get it your way. If it doesn’t work and you’re at the end of your budget, stop and let it go.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/22 12:31 AM
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Decide how much you care ($) and decide how to fix it. For a 10 year level term policy it may be cheaper to just pay for her policy than to go back to court to get her to pay.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 01:43 PM
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Just stay in your children’s lives - they’ll form their own opinions you you and you’re ex.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 01:33 PM
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One of the podcasters I listen to is fond of saying “she’s not yours, it’s just your turn”. When the turn is over move on. He wrote a good book as well https://entrepreneursincars.com/
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 01:31 PM
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Have the FIRE discussion - financial independence /retire early. If you’re making six figures you might consider getting off the “work until you die” plan. If you’re spouse isn’t going to be a partner (as in, make lots of money now, retire at 45) then you might need a new plan.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 02:04 PM
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You’ve been replaced. Get an attorney, get divorced, don’t get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 01:11 AM
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Plenty of support on YouTube for independent men. I don’t hate women but am unlikely to make them the center of my life again - once was enough.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 12:36 AM
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Best of luck! The first settlement drafted by her attorney was so one sided my attorney suggested we not counter. Things got worked out in a 9 hour mediation session - was close enough to fair for me to agree.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/22 04:47 PM
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Mine was similar. After she said “I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore” I had a moment of thoughts about trying to keep her however I also said “OK”. Happened on the date that the Alamo fell.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/22 04:43 PM
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Get a good attorney. Listen to them - they’re going to have better guidance for you in your state/county than your fellow redditors, as well intentioned as we may be.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/22 02:58 AM
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It’s too easy for her to kick you out of your house if you’re cohabitating. If you’re going to divorce then get on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/22 03:32 AM
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Get an attorney that specializes is divorce, they can tell you what’s important and what’s not. In Texas it doesn’t matter whose name is on which asset - it all gets divided in the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 10:38 PM
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In Texas a divorce is a county matter. County website had much of the information needed fir the do it yourself crowd. Check it out and see if it will work for you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/22 02:17 AM
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Get an attorney and file. Your attorney will know the process in your state. Stop giving everything to your soon to be ex.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/22 12:49 PM
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Mediation worked in my case. Adding a mediator who had quite a lot of experience with the judge in my case helped. Mediator saying “well, you’re not going to get that if it goes to the judge” got most of the nonsense out of the draft agreement and kept most of the new nonsense from creeping in.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/22 07:49 PM
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Talk to people you know especially attorneys to find a great divorce attorney. If you’re convinced divorce is inevitable then go ahead and get it going. The sooner you get your divorce the sooner you can rebuild.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 02:30 AM
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Hire a good tax account, let them make the call. Your stbx is unlikely to listen to your opinion. Do yourself a favor, file and get the divorce final early in the year to simplify your taxes for next year.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/21 03:56 PM
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Sell the house. Being debt free in a rental gives you options you do t have being house poor.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 10:11 PM
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Look for a Facebook singles group in your area - folks get together in a group and there’s no pressure to form couples however there is that opportunity.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 08:03 PM
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Another good reason not to marry. If they want to go deeper and deeper into debt eventually you’ll split - they’ll have to keep working to float their lifestyle while you enjoy retirement on a beach somewhere.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/21 01:37 AM
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No need to get married or even cohabitate - the span between one night (often intoxicated) stands and marriage is vast. Find someone who has their own place, has their own finances, and isn’t looking for a meal ticket. Spend time with them as you both wish and have your own space when either needs it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/21 03:35 PM
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Perhaps you’re the sort to do their own car repairs however divorce is more like heart surgery than car repair. There are those who will ignore their doctor’s advice and skip surgery in favor of the advice they read in the Internet and perhaps they will be ok. Hire a good attorney for your divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/21 01:44 PM
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Get an attorney. Get the divorce done as quickly as possible (don’t give anything away, just keep it moving). Keep your discussions with your attorney short and to the point (they charge by the hour) however realize that you may have some long tasks (my mediation session was 9 hours and worth every dollar).
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/21 02:15 AM
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Keep in mind what your state code mandates as far as divorce. Pay close attention to anything outside that code. Let your attorney do the talking.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 11:35 PM
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Ask a couple of attorneys in your area. Much will depend on how “uncontested” your divorce turns out to be.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 10:00 PM
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If money is tight you can go with the low $ service described there - you’ll be doing most of the work. If you’ve got the money hire an attorney - a good family law attorney knows the clerks and the judges and can save you time and aggravation. Also, it’s easy to agree in general the trick is getting signatures on a final decree - if you have much in the way of assets get a good attorney to get through whatever is required to get to that signed final decree.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 08:38 PM
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Get an attorney, file for divorce, cry a bit when the divorce is done (emotionally and financially you may need a good cry), get on with your life. Don’t get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 03:34 PM
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In a Texas license to carry class an instructor summed up a justified shooting “you will likely be tried, it’ll cost you everything you have, and you may still go to jail”. Someone yelling at you on your property in Texas doesn’t seem to be a good justification for the use of deadly force. Doesn’t help the dead guy however there may be some surprises in store for the shooter.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 04:07 AM
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If you are in a state that allows it, get a handgun and carry it (licensed if your state requires such). Take classes and practice. As others have said, stay cool.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 03:59 AM
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Do mediation. In mine the mediator shifted between two rooms (zoom). I was a long day but at the end everything was settled. In Texas a mediated agreement signed by both parties is binding.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/21 05:14 PM
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Get a good attorney and get the divorce done. It’ll seem like a big expense however you’ll likely be surprised at how quickly you pay it and start getting ahead without a spouse who treats your income like Monopoly money (no cares at all about spending it).
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/21 03:31 AM
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Separated for two years is hardly a rush. You will know where you really stand when it comes time to sign - while I hope it goes well for you the odds of getting a signature on the first agreement are not great.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/21 11:50 PM
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Your attorney will know the right answer. In general, any finances after marriage not covered by a prenup are joint. You’re probably going to lose a lot of what you’ve earned. You can divorce now or keep going for years more and lose half of a larger amount.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/21 08:34 PM
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Get a good attorney. Do yourself a favor, write down your initial thoughts and hand them to your attorney- they can read faster than you can talk (you’re paying them by the minute, don’t have long discussions). Your attorney will have you disclose your finances (budget, income, and assets). Be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/21 07:12 PM
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Back to court. The only way to stop this sort of thing is to do attorney and court EVERY TIME, and the least infraction, as quickly as humanly possible. Recall the line from the untouchables “they send one of ours to the hospital and we send one of theirs to the morgue” (helps to hear it in Sean Connery’ s voice). Sure, you’ll pay your attorney but you were going to pay one way or the other - paying your attorney to strike back quickly will get you peace eventually.
/r/MensRights06/11/21 02:49 PM
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Let Gene Simmons of Kiss be your example. He was happily unmarried to a Canadian playboy bunny for 28 years (finally married in 2011). He had it all, beautiful partner, kids, career.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/21 12:31 PM
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Get out now. Waiting only puts off rebuilding. Get a good attorney, get the best exit you can, and start rebuilding.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/21 12:15 PM
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Now. Get an attorney and get it done. You may find that your spouse (you’re still married after all) doesn’t agree on some things and/or wants something you don’t want to give.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/21 04:05 PM
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The only way to win is to answer every challenge (let your attorney do the heavy lifting) and go find twice as much pain to drop on the ex (take them to court for two pain in the ass things for every one they do to you). It’ll cost money, time, and heartache but after a couple of rounds your ex will stop.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/21 02:39 AM
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Asking isn’t getting. Get an attorney and let them do their job. Don’t sign anything you don’t understand or agree to. Worst case it goes to a judge. If the judge does their job they follow your state law and likely will not give your stbx what they’re asking.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/21 02:35 AM
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You say “ex”. Check your divorce decree - what does it say about residence for your ex and children? You’ll likely have to pay an attorney to take it back to court but you can likely get an order for her to stay where the decree says to stay. For example, mine specifies the county where ex and child are to live.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/21 02:30 AM
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It’s all to be negotiated.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/21 02:27 AM
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Trying to hide assets is likely a bad move - consult an attorney. Get an attorney, file, start working on an agreement. If you’re in a state that has binding mediation do that - in Texas it’s not cheap (you pay your attorney and half the mediator fee) but worth it - at the end of the day we had an agreement signed that had everything as far as division spelled out.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/21 02:24 AM
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Even if you were recording something on the train, In the US recording anything going on in public view is allowed (there is no reasonable expectation of privacy). If you get harassed over this you should call the police. Laws may differ in other countries.
/r/MensRights21/10/21 02:21 AM
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The first statement is fact, the second is opinion, the third is wailing about the effects of the legal system we’ve all allowed to be put in place. If you don’t like the legal system write/call/email/text your elected heroes, early and often, to get it changed so the next guy doesn’t suffer your fate.
/r/MensRights20/10/21 08:18 PM
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You can call anyone anything in this country. If the feds have labeled a group as terrorists then we have something to discuss.
/r/MensRights17/10/21 05:18 PM
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Get out while you can - get an attorney and file for divorce. You’re likely to lose half your stuff and have to find a new place to live however if you’re both frequently unhappy you’ll do that sooner or later. Sooner is better so you can start to rebuild the half your stuff you just lost. Don’t make that mistake again - no cohabitation, no marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/21 05:16 PM
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Focus on fitness, nutrition, personal learning, and health. In other words: take care of yourself. Take some time before jumping back into the dating scene.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/21 09:26 PM
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If you’re considering moving in together take a leave of absence from your job (a couple of months) or even just a block of vacation and tell her you’re jobless and need to move into her place and have her pay all the bills. Prepare to empty out your apartment to make it (seem) real. You’ll learn a lot about what love really looks like.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/21 10:22 PM
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If you don’t like the deal then don’t sign. Worst case it goes to trial and you roll the dice on what the judge will mandate. In my case we the judge had been assigned and the judge had a reputation for keeping it simple - 50/50 and everything according to state code. This gave my ex and her attorney motivation to be reasonable. She got more in the mediated agreement than would have come from a judge. Read your state code and get an attorney that understands what will likely come from the judge …
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/21 01:18 PM
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Sorry to hear that it went badly. In Texas a mediation session (run by a mediator, in my case an attorney familiar with the judge who would hear my case) is binding and often can get to something reasonable. Paying for an attorney and half the mediator fee for a day was unpleasant but got my case to a somewhat reasonable agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/21 01:15 PM
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Get a good attorney, listen to them. You’re assuming you’re keeping the house - possible but unlikely is you wife wants it and the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/21 12:37 PM
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She’s using you until something better comes along. She has you marching in place until she decides you can move on. Is this really what you want, giving her a 2nd opportunity to crush you? Stop now, move on, don’t make the same mistake next time.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/21 01:47 PM
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If it’s fair, it’s fair. Finish the divorce and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/21 01:40 PM
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Dude, you’re letting your ex live rent free in your head. You need help, lots of help. Get a great attorney to deal with the affairs with your ex (and listen to them). Get a therapist for your anxiety (or a priest/pastor or other spiritual help) and listen to them. All that being said, your ability to “shield” anything from the decisions of the courts is going to be limited.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/21 12:58 PM
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Interesting. Was there any discussion on why she wanted marriage? “Til death do us part” is certainly doable without marriage, although it will require that both parties continue to work on the relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/21 11:39 PM
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3 carat for $3,500 is going to be a low quality diamond - might be big but the cut/color/clarity isn’t going to be very good. As far as the business aspect, the quote from the movie War Games comes to mind “The only way to win is not to play”. Our legal system does seem to favor the f**k boys who impregnate and flee leaving a lot of single moms in their wake.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/09/21 10:02 PM
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Get an attorney. The law in general and divorce in particular is no place for amateurs. You’re going to get screwed - a lot if you do it yourself, a little if you hire expert help. Likely you’re going to get less time with children than you’d like and your financial life is going to be a mess for awhile.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 11:47 AM
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People who represent themselves have a fool for a client. Law may look like English but it is not - our legal system has so many meanings for common words and other nuances to seemingly straightforward statements that attorneys who do this full time still have problems. At the very least talk with an attorney, many will to the first talk without charge, to see what settlement might look like.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 12:52 PM
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Depends on state law. Review carefully or better yet, wait for it, get a good attorney to give you the real scoop.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/21 01:29 AM
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Yet another chapter of things you find out in divorce. Do you own finances. Don’t get married again. Breathe in, breathe out, move on - as jimmy buffett says.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/21 01:38 AM
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Get an attorney, a good one. Have them review agreements an, probably, draft ones that are fair. Do not be rushed or talked out of getting an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/21 01:27 AM
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Get an attorney for yourself. Listen to them.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/21 10:36 PM
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Typical answer: talk with your attorney or check state law. In Texas it’s allowed and I did it in my divorce this year.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/21 12:44 AM
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Are you in state where you have to show cause? I am finishing up my divorce in Texas and it was all about finances - text messages never came up.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/21 12:29 AM
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Don’t be afraid to send your attorney into battle for you - if the response your ex gets for being stupid is a trip to a family court judge they will stop (or at least do stupid less often). Getting you flustered may be your ex’s goal - grey rock and/or attorney (had to look up grey rock - https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grey-rock ).
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/21 10:25 PM
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Talk to your attorney, they may have ideas beyond a prenup to protect your assets. At the very least keep an attorney engaged and get them to maintain a list of assets before and during your relationship (married or not). Stand firm on not spending your pre-marriage assets for that home remodel, dream vacation, or kids college - those assets are your lifeboat if the marriage sinks. Failure to pay close attention May cost you most of your assets
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 10:19 PM
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My soon to be ex says the mortgage company will only take my name off the loan with a final divorce decree. Check with your mortgage company.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/21 11:22 AM
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Until the divorce is final some women are concerned about reconciliation while others just get a bad feeling about seeing a “married man”. Get your divorce finalized and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 09:52 PM
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I would think that a spouse trying to have an ex thrown in Federal prison would be a big deal. Gives you an idea what to expect if you ever have a disagreement.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 09:32 PM
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Get a good attorney and listen to them. Sounds like it’s in your interest in getting the divorce moving.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/21 06:12 PM
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We’re I in your shoes I’d pick the job that has the lowest stress for now - divorce will put you under quite a lot of stress.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 10:21 PM
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If you’re on the road to divorce you might want to stabilize as much of your life as you can - a divorce is going to upend much of your life so stability in other areas (job) can help.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 09:31 PM
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Get an attorney in Florida and listen to them.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 09:26 PM
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Get a good lawyer and listen. They will know what the best and worst case scenarios are for your state. Remember: wasting your lawyer’s time is an expensive hobby - let them do their job and take your sob story to your buddy’s house (free) or a bar (far cheaper than your lawyer’s rate).
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 05:43 PM
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Depends on your state. Hire a good attorney and listen to them - they’ll have a good idea about the best and worst case scenarios for your state. Don’t talk to spouse about terms lest this show up as an “agreement” later.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 02:22 AM
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Hire a good attorney, listen, and do what they say. I suspect they’ll advise you to make long term living arrangements (apartment) and not force your way back into the house (avoid a domestic disturbance 911 call). Face it - the system will work in her favor not yours.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/21 07:28 PM
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It’s mentioned in the Texas divorce law.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/21 03:30 AM
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You would do well to slow down a bit with your new girl. Get your divorce finished and take some time to heal. Go ahead and have fun if you like but avoid the “I want t stay with you forever!!” talk for a bit.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 01:59 AM
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Go to your local restaurant supply. Buy a knife in the middle of their range (along with a guard/sheath). Their knives are built for all day every day use.
/r/MGTOW04/06/21 02:47 AM
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If your wife proposes divorce it’s going to happen. If you put it off it’s just going to hurt more later. Take the pain, get through the process, don’t get into that position again.
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