TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

ChironGhostHugger Archive

View 0 posts and 119 comments by ChironGhostHugger on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
2

There are some traits that show better in text/conversation than physically (or are communicated equally well through text). For example, if someone is only interested in articulate writers you're not going to be able to see that through a date, you'd need to see examples of their writing. Or if you're into alt people, there's a certain vibe that comes with certain groups that shows physically through a person, that cannot be replicated just by putting on the outfit. (Compare it to how certain p…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 04:43 PM
1

Uh, I technically gravitate towards platforms kike that right now, so yes. I don't care about the face of the person, only if their behaviors and personality match up with their face, and if they're not lying we should do fine together :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 04:11 PM
1

Yes. But I'm an anomaly for several different reasons, and the ones I like tend to be the ones men would be interested in as a result. In some cases though I'm watching it for elements not depicted elsewhere (ex. stepsibling incest porn because there's no porn where the man and woman have a cordial, intended to be platonic BFF relationship, rough sex because I want to see a man be more aggressive to the woman without seriously hurting her/being focused on her pleasure, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:46 PM
1

I'm going to argue that it probably has to do with physiological differences, maybe the change in quadrupedal to bipedal gait? Maybe some women who are better at orgasming have different pelvic arrangements. But there's also psychology - many women report a trauma or abuse history, and that could cause hang ups about sex that translate to low arousal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:54 AM
1

The cruising aspect/the fact that they can get sex pretty easily. I guess that's me more envying gay and trans men, but I wish there were more spaces that allowed me to just get people whenever without having to invite them to my house.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:52 PM
1

Ehh, while I believe it can be part of the problem for a lot of women (so I'm not totally against the idea) I believe some people are very comfortable with themselves and will still have these issues. I also think that part of it is that women are put in the unnatural position of having to pick suitors while men come to them. In nature, female chimpanzees (man's closest relative) are the ones who go out to look for a new troop and mates, and the males choose, not the females. Humans still retain…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:32 PM
3

Why do you believe that? If nobody was fully comfortable with themselves orgasm problems would be a lot more widespread in both genders, especially given the amount of insecure men out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:10 PM
13

Why does Chad want a woman that has meltdowns every time something strange happens, can't handle bright lights or noise, and has no social tact? Even beyond the fact that this is taking advantage of disabled women, if this is all Chad can pull then he's not really a Chad, is he?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:26 PM
–

Literally never heard that one here. Lol I think I've actually heard that one before, not as a literal statement but somewhere either here or on one of the askmen threads. I could be misremembering but at least it's not just the op
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 04:19 PM
3

It seems like a lot of women simply don't have that instinct to take care of children. Which makes sense, having the instinct isn't important when humans are tribal animals that will raise each other's offspring if the mother doesn't want it. Also pregnancy is quite dangerous, and if you don't have that drive to reproduce or the instinct to take care of kids, it's 100% a risk that cannot be taken. For me, even outside of liking kids and biological urges it's about leaving behind well... Not a le…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:19 PM
1

I'm into weirdos, strange men, strange looking men, feminine to egg-ish men and others not deemed "normal" (not nerds, autistic people and the like, but more like alt people, paranormal obsessed people, etc.) I'm not into normies, masculine men, or people who dislike weird people. I have a preference for softer looking men too, (unfortunately for them, since obesity can be deadly) so fatter men are more likely to get in the door than fit men. I'm extremely disgusted by men who want to make me fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:50 PM
–

That's exactly what I'm trying to fix. If they do have more rights, it puts them in the same level, and I think in a lot of cases that's where they belong. I disagree, at least with tweens. Teenagers around the 16/17 age mark seem to have enough rights too to me? They can drive and get jobs around this age, and it seems decent enough as a marker of independence. Do any of you reading this who consider yourself feminist even recognize the ideals at that link as feminist ideals? Personally I'm not…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 10:20 AM
–

The sense that I get overall is that we've drawn this line right in the middle of a group of people (adolescents/young adults) who without it probably wouldn't have much trouble perceiving each other as peers. Well in some places the age of consent is around 16/17/18 for that very reason. It's hard to determine where the line is, but usually around there people are somewhat more independent and able to associate with adults. But that being said, even in those situations a lot of people seem to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 10:16 AM
–

Tweens and adolescents. For tweens I don't advocate for much beyond voting rights and education, but maybe even the right to work after an observation I made recently. Tweens are a little young to be with adults, aren't they? For that to change a whole portion of society would need to declare them adults or near adults, and they neither show the maturity nor the intelligence for it on a large scale. Their bodies are just developing, their brains even moreso. Little dude already had a job. He pic…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:33 AM
–

I don't advocate for or talk about children. I advocate for the youth. Which are what age range? Where are they? Go to r/askredditatterdark and search 'age gap'. You will find infinite threads filled with infinite responses that back up my claim here. Why would I go to a porn subreddit (a place where people will naturally vocalize the stuff they enjoy to do) as support for those claims? Especially when men of all stripes complain about being taken advantage of by women but not getting taken seri…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:04 AM
3

Yeah, I've never had an "emotional phase"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:44 AM
–

Are you arguing that adult female pedophiles should be allowed to have their way with little boys? Because if so, a lot of men are forced to compartmentalize and see an older woman preying upon them as a good thing, and many men don't like it but feel afraid to speak up. There really isn't much difference between girls and boys in this respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:36 AM
–

First of all, the women throwing themselves at guys in prison (or should be in prison) are not something to be envied. They're likely trauma survivors looking to replicate their trauma in a partner, or are idealizing a criminal because he's in jail and physically cannot hurt them. It's not a normal relationship. You're essentially getting jealous because mentally ill or traumatized people are finding each other without therapy. Secondly, in what context is it okay to tell someone they're ugly? I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 11:22 PM
–

To be fair, if a man's asking the question I assume he's wanting the honest truth, no lies. Don't ask if you can't handle the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 11:11 PM
2

Yes. I hate the dynamics of dating the way they were before, it would be easier for me if everything was flipped
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 07:45 PM
5

Pick me seems to mean anything from "woman who likes men's stuff" to "woman I dislike"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 07:11 PM
1

Why does almost every debate post about the negatives of marriage or child rearing on this sub boil down to "you're going to get baby trapped by a pedo who hates fat women"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 03:51 AM
2

I think that would require a little bit of teaching on the part of society and/or parents, unfortunately. Men tend to ask women out because they've been trained into it, and they're usually expected to be the more experienced, tougher gender. In order for women to get as comfortable, people would need to be comfortable with their daughters showing interest in anyone to begin with (something which is taboo in a lot of cultures) or being "tough", which is more accepted these days but not for datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 11:34 PM
2

I get what you're saying. It's like two cats playing, you spar with each other but you don't want to hurt each other. It's like a friendly debate, or a battle of wits.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 11:30 PM
1

I agree, but I think this only works for a certain subset of women. Anybody else is just gonna get repelled
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 11:21 PM
1

Teaching women how to handle rejection and be more assertive. Those seem to be the main things preventing a lot of women from approaching, because they fear they're either going to get rejected or used, which would be less likely if they were assertive and strong about rejection themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 11:11 PM
0

Only the power imbalances and maybe autistic children are actually a valid concern - the rest are subjective and won't even generally apply to age gap relationships. And power imbalances can be mitigated by the woman having some independence and her own income, and genetic counseling could maybe help with determining whether a couple is willing to risk issues with the child. The rest, don't automatically make an age gap a bad deal, or leave the only incentive money. If you have nothing to relate…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:10 PM
6

Hit dogs are hollering every time someone posts a question like this and a whole bunch of "non-biphobic" people come out of the woodwork to defend their "preferences"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:58 PM
7

Maybe we should stop pushing people to give detailed reasons on why they don’t want to date someone especially if it’s coming from a place of trying to reason or change their view based on someone’s subjective opinion or logical thought process. If there's a group who's been historically maligned by society in the dating area, and people see someone saying something that might indicate that they have those harmful views, people are naturally going to question them. And preferences are not above …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:51 PM
–

These aren't the same women complaining. I know a woman who seethes the second a man tries to interact with her, and she is not me, the woman who doesn't mind if men interact. There needs to be a way to tell the two apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 01:26 PM
0

A lot of the negatives are subjective, or only apply to a certain subset of women (for example pregnancy can be easy or rough on the body, it's very individual) so it's not a de facto net negative for women. There's only one or two there that I could see as actual negatives for me, and even then that doesn't outweigh the positives of starting a family and having your own kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 01:13 PM
–

Yes and yes, although the masculinity of the trans man might put me off a bit (I'm naturally attracted to more feminine people).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:47 AM
1

Some women fear and dislike men, but assuming they have no ill intent men should interact with women. Or else only the bad men will, and the women who don't mind men interacting with them will also miss out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:51 PM
5

Generally anything that would get a man in trouble, or make women in general look weak and feeble (or otherwise incapable) I come down against. The big one for me right now is using PMS as an excuse to behave abusive, rude, or unreasonable - if you're that much of a terror that people can't even approach you, maybe seek help. Besides that, I can't think of anything in specific but it's generally across the board for me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:42 PM
3

Instinct, I guess? I want to have kids because instinct compels me to, and because I'm kinda miserable not following that instinct. Maybe I'll hate it, idk, but not following it irritates me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 03:47 AM
0

A bit pedantic of me, but I think this also applies to any genderfluid or genderqueer woman too. As long as they have some appreciation of the male struggle, it can work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:41 PM
2

I personally think they're all pretty good looking, but I'd be surprised if someone thought they're ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:24 PM
2

Assuming this thread comment is accurate, here's some of the men posted there: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/FFjSCgSBJg
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 07:05 PM
1

Well, there were plenty of unhappy marriages, women who were doing everything in their power to get away from their husbands, traumatized women who could barely function and lots of husbands who died under "suspicious" circumstances. Whereas now if a woman doesn't want to interact with men, get married, etc. she can just do that, and not take innocent lives with her or be miserable. It's better for both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 05:15 PM
–

NGL, I do see a lot of Tumblr mutuals hooking up/getting into relationships, if you're a weirdo (positive connotations here) you might wanna give it a try. Be authentic though, people can sense fakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:01 AM
2

So they could function in society. Without a man you couldn't do many things in society, so in order to be independent they needed those rights, and the government shouldn't be able to prevent people from living their lives. Whereas with a subreddit, or even a private woman only group, it's not restricting men from living their lives (a man blocked from a woman only subreddit could still talk about the same subject, or even make his own group) and it doesn't impede on a man's rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:37 PM
3

But not all groups need to be inclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:15 PM
3

How so? If weird and inappropriate men are bothering them, and the group isn't even oriented towards men, might as well ban them. Being excluded doesn't mean they can't interact on other subreddits, and the amount of non-inappropriate men that would access the sun would be fairly small. Why cater to the smaller group when they're not even your main focus?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 09:27 PM
1

I personally don't care at all. Like status is important don't get me wrong, but I'd rather make it with the person I like, rather than leave for someone I don't really like. More generally, I would say that status matters to some women, since they've been taught to marry up. But that's old fashioned and not every woman will do that or cares about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:20 PM
5

Yes there is? I don't know if you know this, but some guys will lurk subreddits just to be weird to the members, especially some women-only ones. Like a woman might share a personal story of assault and ask for support, only for a man to send her explicit material later. Or a woman will ask for advice from women about something personal (like period cramps) and a man will respond despite having no personal experience with the topic. It doesn't happen all the time and not to all women and not fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:09 PM
14

Yeah, just realized. It's changed from last I checked. But there's also r/whatmendontsay, which allows women to comment but not post. And because safety outweighs hurt feelings? In any situation, not just this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 08:23 AM
17

women can post on all subs No? I can't post on r/guycry (edit: r/whatmendontsay), but men can. There are plenty of men only subs. And usually they're segregated because the other gender wouldn't be able to relate to the topics, or because men have made an area unsafe (ex. women only trains). Most women aren't naturally looking to segregate themselves, it's a need that arises.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 08:14 AM
1

Thank you. Yeah they're definitely overstepping and being abusive there. While I expected a certain level of toxicity, I didn't expect... That. Well then yeah the Tea app might not be a good thing in any sense. By the sounds of what the OP was describing I thought the most people would do would say embarrassing stuff that might be a little annoying to refute (like possibly being gay, man is a little much in bed, etc.) or things with clear evidence behind them, but if it gets to stalking, defamat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:46 AM
1

Any proof of this? Not necessarily doubting the possibility (I can see that happening) but I'd like to see it for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 11:58 PM
1

I could be wrong, but I think your approach is unique. I’d presume most women would just move onto the next guy if multiple red flags are raised. Yeah, I suspect it may be. I tend to assume everyone has a few red flags or weird traits in general (we're only human), so something minor and harmless ultimately won't be a dealbreaker as long as the man's relatively to my standards. I'm more likely to be suspicious of "perfect" men, because most men who seem perfect, aren't, or are hiding something.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 08:08 PM
-4

It could be good for dating, if you're looking at the bright side of it? Obviously it won't be good for any man posted there generally, but if someone is angry at a guy and the worst they can put is "he might be gay" or "is a little handsy", etc. it could verify that a guy is generally "safe" to go home with - that the worst you'll be getting is a touchy guy or someone who is a bit feminine. At least for me, I worry a lot about whether a guy is a serial killer or not, and if someone can verify h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 07:19 PM
3

Not really? As it doesn't benefit me to do so. I might do it for fun or gender validation of myself and others, but in a serious manner? Never
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 03:19 PM
1

Again, it depends heavily on the three I put before. Like if they said they're not going to do other stuff with me, if I'm pressured into IVF or if I can't do anything romantic with them, I'm out. If there's a compromise where maybe we'll do anything except direct sex (even an open relationship) and we can have kids a different way, I might be willing to try it out. It will depend heavily on those, because without sex the relationship becomes limited in some ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 04:57 PM
1

Yes, but I have a few stipulations. What counts as 'sex' in this relationship? I would still have needs, so if we could get off in other ways that would be fine. If not, it may not work. How are we having kids? I would want kids, so if we're not having sex how are they being made? Would they be willing to do other stuff with me? Sex is not the most extreme pleasurable sensation I could have. I'm esoteric, so I can do much more. Would they be willing to participate in those activities with me? Be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:37 PM
2

Human women are analogous to male orangutans when it comes to secondary sex characteristics, I presume? Like how male orangutans with flanges are seen as mature, human women with bigger breasts are seen as mature. Only thing that pokes a hole in that theory is that ancient humans didn't view breasts as sexually alluring.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 03:30 AM
12

Not OP, but: • A man who is kind hearted and sweet, yet strong enough to take care of dangerous circumstances • A man with no homicidal tendencies towards the family • A man who is flexible enough to handle different human interactions successfully (not resorting to violence when teamwork would be best, only becoming violent when there's a valid threat, etc.) • A man who's willing to help raise the family
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 03:21 AM
11

Partner passed away, so I'm in an unusual circumstance. I wasn't single for a long time. I have very little options even if I were lowering my standards lol I don't think men see me that way, or I've never noticed... Which would probably be one of the issues. Refusing to treat me as an equal both sexually and mentally, or being coy about it. That being said, I also have specific requirements that would make it hard to find another. Basically, must have the same core identities and beliefs I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:28 AM
1

(part 2) They're (both trans and non trans people) calling for self identification laws, access to female only spaces, free healthcare to cover surgeries (we should have free healthcare period but it's a leap to ask for free srs while nothing else is free), access to sports where they have a physical advantage over women, asking to make "misgendering" a hate crime under the law, etc. I think the female-only spaces and sports should be exclusive to fully transitioned women, and it seems a lot of …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 07:20 PM
1

2 part comment since Reddit doesn't like long text replies. It's not other people's place to co-opt indigenous people's culture and use their terms. No one's co-opting? It's not like there aren't LGBT indigenous people. But I'll concede on two-spirit for now. Yes, a mental health condition where people feel distressed about their body. The same way anorexia, body dysmorphia, and body integrity disorder are a brain thing. It's how the brain responds to the body, it's connected. Fair enough. Becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 07:19 PM
2

Neither of these concepts even support the claim that they believed in a third gender, yet we're supposed to pretend that they do. It is nonsense. You're right that a lot of concepts are lumped into the term (and not all natives felt the same way about two spirited people) but in some cases that could be something equivalent to what we consider gender identity. But even outside of that, there were other cultures that had gender identities, that are being recognized as gender identities today. Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:51 AM
2

I agree. I was moreso referring to the experiment Money did on David, and the subsequent conclusion OP came to about biology and trans identities conflicting with it biologically. It wouldn't be too relevant here, as David was in all other aspects a normal boy, and would have been expected to have grown up feeling like a boy anyway, whereas trans people are expected to have grown up normal children and instead profess a different gender identity, so the impact of hormones and chromosomes wouldn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:29 AM
3

I think co-opting Indigenous people's culture to validate the idea of being transgender is a bit problematic. From this source it sounds like they used it to identify someone's role in society, not gender. It seems to be a mix - it could be a person's gender role, or their gender. At least from deeper readings on the subject. However, it's often included when one is choosing a LGBT identity to identify themselves on websites, so it leads me to believe in part it can be treated as a gender identi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:19 AM
3

Other cultures have had different, or even third genders for centuries. This is not a new thing. Native Americans had two-spirit as a gender, for example. The words we use for it (gender) might be new, but that's fine - words get repurposed and reused all the time. Why does biology existing have anything to do with trans people? Trans identities are in the brain, not typically in the body, and if it weren't biologically possible no one would even think they're trans to begin with. If you're able…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 04:34 AM
3

For me, yes, it's on a spectrum. I don't always mentally think "oh, he's a x" but I do/can rank them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 03:35 AM
10

Yeah, NGL in threads where men ask women stuff like "hey, how can I approach X" many women will say "don't approach ANY women" in an absolutist, matter of fact way. Even for anatomy and physiology questions some women will speak for everyone as if every woman deals with the same thing, such as periods sucking. Why many don't push back is that you end up getting dog piled by women while also feeling like a pawn, so it's kinda uncomfortable to do. Women can also be quite vitriolic, so it's best to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:25 PM
2

You need to know the type of woman you're dealing with. Some women are extremely happy when a guy friend attempts to court them, others are not. If you can identify which one you could proceed from there. If you feel chemistry with a friend, go for it. If you see a woman stranger and she seems open, go for it. Those seem to be safe ways to go at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:06 PM
1

I would be a little irritated, but I'd tolerate it. But my irritation would be also if it wasn't for his comfort, and was a statement on my character (ex. "you're a "lady" and I don't want to make you feel dirty") so it's fine if he wants to do it for himself. But if it's for me, that's not going to fly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:00 PM
1

For me too. I can see someone and know whether they're my type or not, or whether I'd be interested in getting to know them further. I get what the other poster is saying, though - attraction may involve other senses, like if a woman is olfactory focused, she might need to smell a guy to get that immediate attraction. Then she wouldn't be demisexual by definition because she's reacting the same way a visually oriented person might, just in a different sense. (Like, imagine she's blind - she'll p…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 08:50 PM
2

Maybe 50% sex and 50% everything else? So like, he might be sad if I get into an accident and I can't do anything sexual because a portion of our bonding ability would be gone, but 50% personality and identity could make up for it, and we can find a workaround for the rest. You don't want sexual desire to be too high, because then he might start ignoring you in favor of sex (wanting you but not you, if you get my drift) but too low and it'snot a sexual relationship. So I'm fine with 30 to 50%, 7…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 08:34 PM
1

I think it does, I sometimes hear of women giving a regular guy a chance and then he grows on her. But he has to be able to win her over, and that's not the same as actively showing him as a sexualized person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 06:00 AM
2

Not telling, but showing. You need to make the person look sexy (ex. maybe a cartoon where women are fawning over a fat man, instead of showing revulsion), not just saying "be attracted to me!" and attacking people because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:47 PM
1

I think it could. But you wouldn't be telling, you'd be showing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 07:10 PM
5

A good question would be how do you get women to WANT to sexualize a lot more men? What can men do to become more sexually desired? Same thing that led to men sexualizing women. Show them in media a lot more, all different types, make it clear that they're sexy, and reduce the pressure on women to be pure and avoid saying their thoughts to men. Because even when women do have tendencies towards men society deems unsexy, they're kinda pressured to hide it or choose a more "normal" type. Like, rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 10:03 PM
0

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:09 PM
2

What if you got overwhelmed? Genuine curiosity here
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:12 AM
40

Don't women already do this to some men? Justin Bieber, anime men and guys who look like them, K-Pop and boy bands, true crime criminals, etc. But a larger variety of bodies could be focused on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:06 AM
1

No offense to the women here, but they make shit men, since most of them still adhere to socialized rules on how women are supposed to behave. Anyway, being trans requires you to actually identify as the other gender, not just behavior. You could be a trans man and be the most feminine presenting person alive, infact some are before they transition. Do men become trans women when they want to spend time with their kids, become a nurse or educator, and express emotions freely?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 06:45 AM
–

Well, encouraging and positive for me, not necessarily everyone else lmao But basically stuff like "women can get hookups whenever", variations of "most men are undesired by women" (positive for me because it indicates that it would be easy to get a potential partner if I saw one, but I totally get that to men it's upsetting, don't mean to make light if that), etc. I don't have one post, it's moreso the messaging. Also stuff that sort of confirms behaviors I've observed but never had explanation…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:41 PM
9

I'm not here for dating advice. I saw interesting debates happening, and like a stray cat I let myself in. However, I am using some of this information as a source of encouragement, and positivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:18 AM
1

What most people seem to want is companionship and sexual gratification, which you can get from having close friends and masturbating.' Yeah, but if you have your best friend and you love them, wouldn't you want to bridge the gap and become more than friends? And masturbation isn't as fun as doing it with a partner. More specifically for me, I want a close friend to share my life with, and have fun with. I have very eclectic tastes in everything, so if I have friends I probably won't be able to …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:49 PM
3

I'd probably bother him with questions (I'd wanna know what it's like, how it felt, etc.) but honestly I'd probably take silent offense at the "you're wife material" bit. Like I'd get what he means but I'd also wanna do those things too, so it'd feel a bit like putting me on a pedestal. But as long as he wants to do those things with me, I wouldn't mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 03:18 PM
2

You don't have to divide up the chores and work like that, you could have a house husband or you two could both navigate it in different ways. And if you're having kids, assuming it's consensual and mutual I would think you wouldn't mind dropping the career for them? You don't have to, plenty of women use daycares or babysitters, but assuming you love the kids, it's an easy choice to me. That being said, a lot of these things depend on the individual man and woman anyway. If the woman doesn't ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:47 PM
2

I think emotional and anatomical differences. They probably are better able to separate their emotions from the experience, probably don't want a long term thing, and are probably comfortable with their body and sexuality enough to have fun. Also anatomical differences because a minority of women seem to enjoy solely PIV, but if you're in that minority it might be better to find a guy that can just jackhammer you, rather than a sensual partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:52 PM
–

You can hate how someone's body has changed but still love them. I'm not only my body anyway, so assuming he was fine with the rest of me and this didn't affect the relationship sexually, I wouldn't really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:06 PM
1

I'm not 100% familiar with all the dating advice men give out, but from what I've seen I think a lot of men are just throwing stuff at the wall and seeing what sticks, instead of being systematic about it and trying to figure out what attracts X girl and what are the red flags to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:40 PM
1

The fact that a guy happens not to be horny or that a girl makes her heat known doesn't change the fact that male impression displays to attract females exists in almost every sexually reproducing species, including mammals, and that in almost no species does the female have a similar impression display beyond just letting him know she's in the mood. Your previous words. You said almost no species has a similar impression display, and I provided an example of how female chimpanzees have a simila…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:35 PM
1

The fact that a guy happens not to be horny or that a girl makes her heat known doesn't change the fact that male impression displays to attract females exists in almost every sexually reproducing species, including mammals, and that in almost no species does the female have a similar impression display beyond just letting him know she's in the mood. Your previous words. You said almost no species has a similar impression display, and I provided an example of how female chimpanzees have a simila…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:34 PM
1

No, I'm using the chimpanzee as an example for why it would be natural for human women to pursue men (genetic basis), as opposed to the idea of men displaying and women selecting, when humans have little relation to animals that do that. Humans literally live in groups, and still have the same shared ancestry as chimpanzees, therefore similar enough natures. Chimpanzees have swellings which add to that behavior, but even without that humans are apes, and will display behavior roughly in line wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:14 PM
3

Probably also depends on the type of porn too? Whenever I hear women cry on about the evils of porn, it's usually hardcore stuff that kinkier women might be into, but the average woman might not. Women also seem very supportive of erotica, whereas they seem to demonize visual porn heavily.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:22 PM
1

One animal does a thing because it's that animal, therefore it's a standard thing for humans to do. Well no, we were still talking about chimpanzees then, right? Who are closely related to humans, and share 99% of their DNA with us, and thus some behaviors. Human women may not swell, but human men don't have natural displays either. And since we're both social species that live in groups, that sort of selectivity wouldn't be as adaptive anyway, when other potential mates are literally right ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:12 PM
2

The fact that a guy happens not to be horny or that a girl makes her heat known doesn't change the fact that male impression displays to attract females exists in almost every sexually reproducing species, including mammals, and that in almost no species does the female have a similar impression display beyond just letting him know she's in the mood. Wouldn't that be the swellings that female chimpanzees have? It's not just her making her heat known, they can swell up in response to female compe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 09:11 PM
2

But not in all species, and humans aren't directly related to any of those species where males present and females select (like birds). The closest living relative to humans, chimpanzees, has females making moves just as much as males when ready, sometimes being rebuffed by choosy males. It's definitely in the nature of some women to make the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:59 PM
3

Legally, medical security (as in, being able to visit and comfort them when they're sick), to be a part of their family, and to be the one presiding over my partner's remains and having say in what happens to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:48 AM
1

Ngl yeah, I've noticed that a lot and think it's weird. I'm guessing they're used to overreacting? Or there just aren't a lot of men pulling the same stunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:41 AM
1

I don't mind being a stay-at-home mom if it's for the kids's sake. I could work from home, and as for if he resents me... why? If it's because my body looks different then tough luck, it is what it is. If it's just that he hates it but still loves me, that's fine, an after pregnancy body's not for everyone. Admittedly, if he wanted more from me during after childbirth like sex, I would try to meet him in the middle with that need. But also a lot of this would have been felt out before I had kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:11 PM
1

Since I'm heavily masculine in traits, desires, and needs, I want a man that compliments me. So I'm going for a little bit of both, tbh? I want someone who I can be friends with and at least discuss the important stuff, but I also want someone who compliments that masculine energy I have. I don't think it would work if we were both overly masculine, and I can't really behave as a woman, so I go for more feminine men. My prior partnerships have all been to more feminine, soft men, and it didn't m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 07:57 PM
1

While I mostly agree with the energy of this post, this: A man going behide a woman to dance without verbal consent, would be a terrible idea. Because a woman might have a serious reaction. Well duh. Kinda implies consent. Since you're at the club. I think the setting matters heavily in situations like this, because if a woman or man is at the club, it's implied they might want to do stuff at the club. Of course you could ask, but it shouldn't be any big sin if you came behind her and started da…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:34 PM
2

No. I personally don't care about height, nor money (if I can get a job and bring in a steady income it doesn't matter too much what the other guy makes) or being provided for. Nor would I fall *in love* with anybody attractive - I might find them attractive, but that's a far cry from head-over-heels in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:53 PM
5

Honestly, extremely flattered. The only thing I'd be wondering is how that came up (did they bring it up out of the blue, were we talking about it, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 06:02 AM
1

Yeah, I wouldn't mind or really care, as long as they were being safe about it and not abusing others for it. It's all just work to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 01:37 AM
1

Three different categories, but they're different for me: 1: Ugly. This is rare, most men are in category 2 or 3 but ugly is someone I'll never get with, whether it's their personality or their looks. 2. Okay. I'd sleep with them, but I'd never have a relationship with them. They could be more or less attractive, they could be the most conventionally attractive man on earth but I won't be seeing them as anything more than a temporary thing. Most men are here. 3. Perfect. They're my type, they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 01:29 AM
0

No. I said long and scruffy, not tall and handsome. No stubble, he has to look a little like he doesn't take care of himself. Long, as in he should be skinny (but weight doesn't matter too much to me as long as it goes with the overall look.) Most women are repelled by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:56 AM
0

I don't think it can be forced, just be yourself. I'm saying that not to be cliche, but because what one likes won't be what another likes. My type is long and scruffy, or esoteric and mysterious, like he's hiding something. If someone looks like that, guaranteed I'm gonna take interest in him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 09:03 PM
3

Women often don’t think about sex as much as men do. Their sexual urges seem to be a lot less frequent. So for most of the month, many women live without strong sexual feelings, and sex isn’t really on their mind day-to-day. That's a few select women, not all. Those women aren't gonna be sexual no matter the conditions and will be seen as "normal" (same as some low libido or asexual men), so they wouldn't really be the ones displaying any sexuality in any circumstance, even a liberated society. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:56 PM
1

Genuine concern doesn't make it not racist and wrong. Hmm, you're right. It would be morally wrong, though "genuine concern" and "racist" don't cancel each other out, not even in your example. I'll agree that immediately assuming the older male partner is a predator is ageist, but it's still well intentioned on the part of the woman. Like, it's not coming from a place of spite, jealousy, or envy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:48 PM
1

I've seen it before, and it's not rage bait nor something I'm actively seeking out. Honestly not hard to find if you're watching a variety of content or are in any way sensitive to double standards in "ordinary" content.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:03 PM
1

Because women are so often framed as victims, it’s become difficult even risky to suggest that a woman might be capable of harming a man. Zebra are the prey of most animals on the savannah - lions, leopards, hyenas, wild dogs. They can also do a severe level of damage with their hooves, injure and even kill people, and have. People need to understand that a person that belongs to a victimized group can also be just as dangerous as the group that typically harms them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:59 PM
1

But women do not tell WOMEN to avoid age gaps, which would be understandable. Actually, they do. If you're 18-25F or have a significant (10+) age gap and mention it expect women to come insinuating you're being taken advantage of, or implying you're going to be abused. I assume they don't outright say "young women, don't fall for age gaps!" because they expect younger women to naturally have disgust towards older men, and a younger party going after the older one (and even having a good time) do…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:28 PM
1

No, just because it seems people naturally go towards freaking out and shaming things they don't like, instead of figuring out better ways to prevent harm. Like how drug PSAs and prohibition were aimed at preventing drug and alcohol use respectively (similar to how women right now say all age gaps should be avoided), but each failed because they didn't get to the root of the problem (abuse in age gap relationships for this one), and in some cases made things worse. It's a natural strategy to tur…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:26 PM
2

I completely agree - that's why I say it's not being handled the right way. Right now the strategy seems to just assume abuse, or freak out and assume the couple couldn't possibly have anything in common, when making information on what toxic age gap relationships look like and supporting women would be the way to go. Otherwise you end up with weird situations where an 18 year old is old enough to drive and can hurt someone (through military action, war, murder, etc.) and is held accountable for…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:18 PM
19

I don't think porn consumption is wrong (hey I consume it myself), though if it's getting to the point where it's affecting your life, then yeah it's a problem. At the same time though I don't think it's the porn that's the problem, but addictive personalities and the porn being used as a substitute to hide deeper issues. A porn addicted man would just as soon turn to alcohol or drugs if porn wasn't available.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:59 AM
1

That's fairly limiting even for non-age gap couples. I'll agree that big life things like whether or not you want kids, marriage, etc. is important in any relationship, but things like having a similar culture, maturity and having the same career goals isn't wholly necessary to a good relationship. A fast food worker from Ethiopia would be limited from having a relationship with an American CEO by that logic. And an age-gap partnership doesn't have to be as drastically different in that way, esp…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:54 AM
1

So do you not believe that men just find women aged 18-25 the hottest age group for reasons that aren’t untoward? It can be multiple things... Men who exclusively go after 18-25 do find them attractive for fertile reasons, but it's not advantageous to women because it actively hurts them. Most men going exclusively after 18-25 don't treat them right, and while they might be able to pass on their genes, it comes at a detriment to the woman. If it just happens naturally, then yeah it's fine, and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:35 AM
2

Honestly, it does come from a place of protectiveness, since it seems quite a few get taken advantage of by older men when they're younger. It might not always be handled the right way, but they do come from a place of concern. Then of course there are always the crazy ones who think that any age gap is pedophilia no matter if the parties are consenting or not, and those seem to stem from more psychological issues or insecurities related to a woman's "value" or age.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:56 AM
39

I think in the animal kingdom most creatures are indiscriminate about it. As long as a female's able to reproduce and available, they'll go after her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:01 AM
2

Honestly, yeah. Although I will say that you're also going to get a bit of a bias here, because the women who love being hit on by older men will generally not be complaining or finding it creepy. The ones who know how to navigate an adult relationship will also not report any issues, so you're really only getting the failed relationship side to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:43 PM
2

Also do women really need to "advocate" for it as much? As some posters here like to imply, women have options, so it's not like we have to convince anybody that we want a type of guy. Men, the ones who want women and are often seen as the pursuer, have to convince society that it's okay to go after x type women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:55 PM
11

Female friends can also be quite backstabby if you meet the wrong crowd, they can sometimes bring drama or insecurities, and sometimes they're just immature. Obviously this isn't applicable to every guy, but I can understand why women would become friends with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 10:49 PM
1

Yes, you can see this in the way society talks about young women in age gaps. People will say she's wasting her youth, or make it seem as if the mad is ready to fall apart or as if they could have nothing in common. That's at least partially because they see the older party as past his prime, and a pervert for making a move on a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:48 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter