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ChocolatChipLemonade/r/ExRedPill19/06/21 12:00 AM
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WHO CARES “Incel” is a buzzword made to lower your self esteem, making you buy books and watch YouTube ads. It’s not real. I’ve yet to find it in the DSM. Let this stupid YouTuber vernacular leave your brain.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/24 04:16 PM
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An array of half-truths don’t exactly make a truth. For example, “hot women have many options.” True. But so do hot men. And hot people in general. It’s convoluted enough to make people forget to step back and question the logic. It says, “follow these guidelines to pull a 10/10 woman” when it should be saying, “choose a woman who cares about you, which most likely will not be a 10/10. And that’s okay.” And there’s the whole, “I want a hot woman that I can show off, but I don’t want her to want …
/r/ExRedPill21/09/22 03:47 PM
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I’m total opposite. I wouldn’t touch my last partner with a 10 foot pole, for nothing whatsoever other than his toxic beliefs. He can’t come back from that. I certainly don’t miss him at all.. Girl, abuse is unforgivable.
/r/ExRedPill10/09/22 03:29 AM
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When you’re in a committed relationship/living together/building a future and the man falls for red pill ideology, it really makes us women feel cornered in the worst way. Initially, the woman sets up her life together with the man she loves, but one day he’s suddenly gone, including the qualities she adores him for. A new, disrespectful man shows up. Should she wait it out? Will he come around? Or should she give up on the future and assume this is permanent? So she’ll make no big moves and kin…
/r/ExRedPill29/08/22 02:28 PM
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Prefer men with low, but accepting of high body count if the man is trustworthy
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 05:41 PM
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Become monk-like if you want to sign up to be a monk. Otherwise, don’t try to think like anything. Be your natural self. It just comes down to using the self-awareness to stop trying to change and tweak yourself, and that everything will work out. It always does.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/22 06:11 PM
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I would never want to go back to my early or mid 20’s. What a fallacy..
/r/ExRedPill01/08/22 12:10 PM
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Maybe the original red pill had some sense, but add in all the internet messengers and all their opinions, it’s moral chaos. Everything is full of contradictions. Anyone believing in red pill - their belief system isn’t on steady grounds because the current set of beliefs spreading across, say, the red pill subreddit, are all over the place. It has to be maddening to make a major shift in who you are, all while knowing a lot of it doesn’t add up or line up properly with other parts.
/r/ExRedPill30/07/22 01:50 PM
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If you meet a woman who says “fuck men, they all use women for sex and they’re incapable of any real emotional connection or actually caring about a woman. They’re all just obsessed with sex.” Then she’d get online and complain about how men didn’t seem to want her and she didn’t understand why… you’d think she was a nut.
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 07:27 PM
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I had a very similar experience. None of them are “alphas”. They’re all broken men and exhibiting red pill behavior brings it to the spotlight. Alpha men, if you even believe that’s a real thing, are just themselves; they don’t rely on Google fringe theory to tell themselves how to act.
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 04:32 PM
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You’d have to change your thinking to have a relationship with a woman. But that takes work. So saying “fuck ‘em all” is so much easier. Best course of action for the lazy type
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 04:25 PM
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You mean one woman. The woman that hurt you enough to turn to trp. She was bad, most women aren’t.
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 12:37 PM
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I was in a LTR with a man that started spinning plates while I was the perfect little submissive homemaker. I was starting to catch on to what he was doing before long. Basically, he got a selfish high off of the chase and the variety. Every woman was a big boost to his ego, and he didn’t care about the girl or feel uncomfortable or awkward. The plates were objects. It was a cold, calculating, narcissistic thing. If you’re a relatively normal man that doesn’t have deep seated emotional issues, i…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 12:33 PM
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There’s no such thing as a beta male (that’s a myth perpetuated by TRP) and you’re not less than anybody. Humans are very complex and all men have different personality traits of all the different “males”. Nobody fits as a puzzle piece into one. Women don’t give you attention because they’re just as uncertain about themselves as you are about yourself.
/r/ExRedPill26/07/22 10:53 PM
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No idea what you’re on about. It means don’t fuck him immediately. Spend time with him first and get to know each other. If you fuck him immediately, good chance those quality times getting to know each other won’t happen.
/r/ExRedPill24/07/22 10:59 PM
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I’m only one woman, but I like it! Even if I’m not physically attracted to him, I’m still open to listening to what he has to say - not everything is looks-based for us. Regardless, it’s very flattering for a man to put himself out there like that. All my girlfriends in that situation also felt flattered. A lot of relationships start with cold approach. Some women dislike it and find it offensive…. which I find ridiculous and unhealthy.
/r/ExRedPill24/07/22 06:43 PM
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The idea that if a girl jumps into bed with a man, he’ll just use her and not think of her as more than that is pretty ubiquitous in the world. A woman that gives him some work to reach her is worth considering dating. The ole’ “why buy the cow?” saying
/r/ExRedPill24/07/22 06:37 PM
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If a 10/10 guy is nearby, I’m going to ignore him. What am I supposed to do? Stare at him? Plus men don’t respect women that they don’t have to chase (so we’re taught), so if I start up a conversation, I’m easy. Then, if a man is looking at me, I look up and smile, but he’s actually looking at something on the shelving behind me, now I’m embarrassed. Point is, I promise you, women are also going through a whole array of thoughts that we aren’t good enough. We’re sad to be single and think it’s s…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/22 11:31 AM
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Happy Birthday! I’m a pretty social woman but I celebrated my last few birthdays doing nothing. It’s just something that happens as you get older. Go get an hour massage at a nice spa or buy yourself something nice. Make you feel good.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/22 05:24 PM
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Like relationships? For a short time. Enjoy it at first. Hate it if it doesn’t fade away as the man begins to actually care.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/22 12:36 AM
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If I’m understanding this correctly - you order an IQ test before having sex with a woman? Why does a woman’s IQ matter in transactional sex?
/r/ExRedPill12/07/22 09:51 PM
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Wouldn’t a man do the same? Choose the one woman with the better career or the better sex or better whatever. The better choice overall. That’s just caring about your future, if the two options are otherwise equal.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/22 04:07 PM
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That’s not unusual either, I feel no obligation to get married. The problem is when a man wants his long-term partner to be traditional and submissive. If he prefers for her to care for everything in the home and she obliges, then he decides he wants to be with someone else, theres no safety net. She spent years caring for and supporting a man at his request, only for her to be pushed out with nothing. Plus the stress of always knowing in the back of her mind that could happen. Of course, as lon…
/r/ExRedPill09/07/22 01:45 PM
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Women’s POV: Women love romantically, men love sexually. There absolutely are women that choose men based on what they can offer rather than a man’s personality and common interests. We call those gold-diggers, and fellow women tend to not respect others that are that way. Gold-diggers are our “bad eggs”
/r/ExRedPill09/07/22 01:26 PM
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The like me part is already decided by look, wealth, etc. This is categorically untrue.. what type of women are you hanging around?! Also, transactional sex feels very different from authentic sex. Honestly, it’s just not worth it.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/22 01:47 AM
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Because in my initial comment, I was referring to any man walking by. I didn’t mean a guy that’s attractive and who you happen to know. Obviously that’s a completely different thing
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 01:13 PM
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objectified by some rando you’re not attracted to?
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 11:58 AM
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This is exactly right.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/22 05:14 PM
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It’s not even that we receive huge amounts of compliments, but that we know the compliments are mostly for sex, objectifying us like subhuman
/r/ExRedPill07/07/22 05:06 PM
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Gosh, this resonates with me. You can throw anything at me in life and the tears just don’t come, aren’t there. Like I feel sad superficially, but empty and numb. It’s like everything just bounces off me. That was my lifeline growing up with a narcissistic mom. Either ignore the feelings or be emotionally beaten every day. It’s something I’ve never been able to reverse, unfortunately. I hope I can get to where you are eventually.
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 02:59 AM
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Women ask questions and gauge the answer to see if the guy they’re really into doesn’t actually care about them, only wants to use their body for sex. Any “testing” beyond that is just a woman who may not be a good person, or may be an insecure person. The “soft no” thing is horrible. We say it softly to not make the man mad - it can be a dangerous moment. But PUA says to keep pushing her? Real life isn’t a rape porno
/r/ExRedPill26/06/22 03:24 PM
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Do you have health insurance? You could use some form of a counselor or life coach (the kind where the person actually cares about you, not a red pill coach that wants your money) and help capitalize on your areas of highest potential
/r/ExRedPill23/06/22 03:17 PM
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The opposite is true in my experience. I guess men assume like you and that she must be taken. So pretty women oftentimes don’t have that many offers, no one wants to take the risk.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/22 02:45 PM
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When a man is doing the red pill stuff when he’s in a relationship and withholding various things from her, keeps to himself, it’s not a real relationship. It’s a waste of both partner’s time. Trp will help you get meaningless sex and variety, but you’ll just fuck every girl until you hate yourself and hate that you’re so lonely. It’s not a happy place to be. You most certainly won’t remain alone the rest of your life. Find a respectful woman and treat her well, and that’ll give you the relation…
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 05:40 PM
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I was the woman that dated a guy that did that stuff. For what it’s worth, it always felt unnatural to me. I felt there was a normal, affectionate guy in there but he forced it away so he could hold the cards. In reality, he never had them, because I could never connect with him enough to care deeply. I got bored of him over time because he never let me get to know him, and I knew he was closed up in order to play the role trp had laid out for him. He was a massive disappointment in all ways. I …
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 05:14 PM
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Are you surprised the stress of living paycheck to paycheck depletes the romance of a marriage?
/r/ExRedPill03/01/22 05:43 PM
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What an oxymoron!
/r/ExRedPill03/01/22 05:40 PM
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Try again old man, that girl is a millionaire
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 12:20 AM
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So it happened one time with a drunk woman? That’s pretty insignificant. It could be one of a million reasons she was attracted to you, that’s the science of attraction, and may have nothing to do with your internet “strategies”. I’m not saying no woman is attracted to the bullshit but “gaming” a woman and playing trp mind games is a juvenile way to start a relationship. Of course women need to be attracted to something about the man - humor, intelligence, looks, money, status. A lot of women fi…
/r/ExRedPill13/08/21 03:28 PM
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i think my question would be, why do women need to be seduced in the first place? Women date men that don’t initially wow them in sex appeal, but want to be with them because of how well they treat the woman/respectful and interesting. Seduction is very relevant for hookups but for a long term partner, putting sexual seduction high on the list is thinking too much like a man. It’s like a woman saying, “I’m really trying to game men by having a good personality.” When she should be focused on her…
/r/ExRedPill13/08/21 01:04 PM
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Making her miss you/not responding back when you normally would is playing games with her head. If you’re “learning game” you’re still redpilled. If you have to create strategy in what you do, you’re not being yourself.
/r/ExRedPill13/08/21 11:55 AM
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That’s a good point. We try to make it about actual peer-reviewed, authentic scientific research, but to fall for trp, a person is most likely not a science-based person in general. Otherwise, the truth is that they’d most likely see through it. Also, deciding which is fringe science/wrong information is not arbitrary. If something is wrong, it’s wrong. You obviously don’t dictate that, so I’m not sure what you’re trying to say there. It is interesting you say that you’re not into science regard…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/21 04:35 PM
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I mean, this is on the main sub page right now. This sub is an array of posts like these and posts that show how trp is fringe science. Some people do better with personal anecdotes, some with fact checking. Why not have both?
/r/ExRedPill18/07/21 02:44 PM
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Being a man is taking care of the shit that needs to be taken care of. It’s about being responsible and taking care of your family. That means getting up at 3AM and checking the doors when your wife hears a noise, or meeting with the HVAC guy when the AC unit is having issues, or changing your old neighbor’s tire when it blows. It is absolutely not riding on the back of a horse with a sword in hand, ready for battle. Be realistic. If you want to do that crap, join the army.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 06:56 PM
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Biology undergrad or grad level is tough. The university is basically preparing you for medical/dental/PA school so it’s gotta be challenging. Almost everything you learn is molecular so you’re well-rounded enough to basically extrapolate on the bigger things like humans and sex. So there’s a reason scientists don’t agree with redpillers. Trp idiots are missing years of education and that really shows through in their theory. It’s crazy watching someone be so wrong while being so confident
/r/ExRedPill26/06/21 03:54 PM
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Since women have human DNA but they don’t consider women to be people, I wonder what their criteria is for a human being..
/r/ExRedPill20/06/21 07:49 AM
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Really? Why do we constantly see AWALT on their posts but almost never AMALT? And if they feel both genders do it, then they must dislike the reasons women feel the way they do. They don’t realize that’s completely subjective and arbitrary? So to make guidelines based on facts that are really just some YouTube Jim Jones’ opinions is ridiculous and sort of hilariously sad
/r/ExRedPill19/06/21 09:18 AM
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I guess that depends on how close in your perspective is. I’ve never met two people who are exactly the same though
/r/ExRedPill19/06/21 09:13 AM
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In my personal experience, this is very true, more issues than Vogue. What’s the thought on the most common issue? That it’s something clinical, or just low self esteem?
/r/ExRedPill19/06/21 09:12 AM
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Who knows. Maybe something subtle about your body language or something, or if you looked at her just long enough to make her feel uncomfortable, especially if you’re a big dude. Yeah, just don’t look and focus on yourself and where you’re going
/r/MGTOW210/06/21 09:29 PM
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You’re making her uncomfortable, maybe the way you’re looking at her, so she kisses her boyfriend to let you know she’s protected. Also, that’s twice. Think of all the times you’ve passed a couple that didn’t do that. I’d say it’s pretty unremarkable
/r/MGTOW210/06/21 09:08 PM
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I don’t think OP has been around kids much? plus i plan to get a huge house one day. Little kids say crap like that. I want a big house/pretty car/a unicorn/to be rich, etc. The “teacher friend” shouldn’t have been surprised by that at all
/r/MGTOW206/06/21 03:36 AM
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My parents have always paid for anything I needed, so I never thought to have any man finance anything in my life. I’m only comfortable depending on my parents or myself. I’ve never expected anything materialistic from a boyfriend, like dates or flowers. I’ve found that this thinking has attracted a certain kind of man that often ends up using me for money. Growing up comfortable financially, money never was never able to impress me, but personality, ambition, and wit does. Going for a woman tha…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/21 10:33 PM
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I was in sorority at university, and they mostly were trying to meet their future husband. The idea that college girls just want to fuck around isn’t really true
/r/ExRedPill26/05/21 06:12 PM
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I watched a guy be in a faithful relationship with his car. So yes, you can choose anyone for any reason and still be loyal. It’s more about self control and maturity than anything. I’m not sure which perspective you’re asking about, but I’d say a man’s personality for a woman is very important. Men tend to be more visual. Usually a decent-looking guy without much luck with women is a guy with an unattractive personality. And yeah, try not to read too much into evo psych; it’s not exactly a resp…
/r/ExRedPill26/03/21 01:39 PM
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I could’ve written this word for word! My last partner was super controlling even though he swore he didn’t care to control me. He was absolutely unwilling to budge on any of his beliefs, and I either believed his opinions or was wrong. And we had a nice relationship for about the first 6 months, and that version of him disappeared as he got more into this stuff. He no longer would talk about anything emotional, was cold and distant, stopped seeming to take interest in me, became combative, didn…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 12:31 AM
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He’s actually still full-force into it. He was absolutely heartbreaking to be in a relationship with. Initially -as it typically goes with a narc- he love-bombed me and I fell for him. He seemed caring and attentive to my feelings (couldn’t be farther from that now), was charismatic and amazing at sex, seemed like he really had it together. Now I view him totally opposite, like a lost soul. I feel a part of him hates himself, and he uses this stuff to escape those feelings. He saw how loyal and …
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 12:09 AM
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You might be narcissistic in nature, but maybe not to a pathological degree. Hopefully with age and increasing responsibilities, you’ll grow out of some of that. Yeah, the Buddhism thing is a bit different; he was raised Buddhist rather than finding it later in life. I think red pill and Buddhism are mutually exclusive, because (IMO) trp = indulging in your desire for sex and manipulating women to get what you want, whereas Buddhism = escape suffering through discipline from those things. It’s g…
/r/ExRedPill20/03/21 02:34 PM
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Well, yes. The history helps me better understand him and vet the post. Take a look
/r/ExRedPill20/03/21 01:15 PM
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Do they all read the same douche bag manual or something? I heard the exact same crap. I still have a hard time not thinking that in the back of my mind. What do you think about it now?
/r/ExRedPill20/03/21 12:43 PM
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You seem like a cookie cutter version of my last partner. It’s almost bizarre. Y’all must’ve been reading the same exact bs. Him: wOrKouT eveRy dAy bro, heighten your T levels, don’t jack off, be stoic, delete social media, obsessed with his own success, spin plates and don’t tell your girl then lie about it, offended constantly and easily, Buddhism (while treating people the opposite of it) and philosophy, trp and anti-woman, etc etc. been there done that. He would never admit to being a narcis…
/r/ExRedPill20/03/21 12:33 PM
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I went through something similar, because my last partner was really into trp and would push his “women are nothing more than objects” ideas on me about how men think. I’m not a man, so how could I know? Things like “all men really want an 18 year old. Any guy of any age will always pick a ‘girl in her fertile prime’ over someone in their late 20’s” (me). It makes sense, I guess? It is a stereotype among Hollywood men anyways. But it’s not true. I asked multiple guy friends about my ex’s blanket…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/21 01:03 PM
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This is only a perspective as an outsider, but if they truly wanted self improvement, there’s endless healthy resources for that. Trp/mgtow pulls people in with underlying issues, resentment, rage. It’s a way to express and release anger under the guise of self improvement. When you’re consumed by hating on a large group of people, it becomes an escape from having to deal with your real problems, and a deviation from harsh reality. IMO, it’s unchecked anger + escapism + feeling apart of a group …
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 02:27 AM
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Hi, I listened to your testimony and first of all, thank you for making it! There’s plenty of stuff out there about trp, but not much from the people it damages. I relate to your story so much. Based on your experiences, your ex-husband and my last partner are cookie cutter versions of each other. It’s shocking how much of what he told you was word-for-word the exact same thing my SO said to me. It’s such a confusing place to be, because you know yourself and you know you’re nothing like what th…
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 07:28 PM
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I think that’s a big selling point. They have their own terminology and special vernacular. So a man feels like he’s in the cool crowd if he learns and uses vocabulary that only others in the group understand. Aka: They use loaded language and clichés which constrict knowledge, stop critical thoughts, and reduce complexities into platitudinous buzz words. “They” in this quote is specifically referring to warning signs of a cult
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 02:08 AM
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I’ve had a similar situation with my last partner. He was a normal, loving guy, and he moved to a new city alone for school. I guess with all the extra time on his hands, he fell into the mgtow rabbit hole. You can tell they’ve been radicalized because of the harshness and shock factor of what they say about women. Especially in their beliefs that all women have an array of all negative traits, but men don’t. It is irrational thoughts pushed by someone who believes they have been enlightened by …
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 04:27 PM
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Sure, every person has their own preferences
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 06:07 AM
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No, it’s definitely not always true. I tried to put in that anyone can be attracted to anything. There are no rules, only patterns. I don’t necessarily believe in hypergamy, only that conventional attractiveness tends to be correlated to a person’s fecundity. A lot of research has been done on this, like female waist-to-hip ratio is positively correlated with both attractiveness and fertility. This particular bit isn’t as much about who you choose to date as a serious partner, rather why people …
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 05:46 AM
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They find people who are equally on their physical level usually. Think of a man with a feminine figure - narrow shoulders, little frame, etc. So due to his genetics, he might be small due to low testosterone production - that’s common in this situation. So he finds a woman of about equal quality, and they try to have children. Due to the low T and a string of other subsequent issues, he has low sperm count. So the couple cannot reproduce. So that lineage ends. As far as a less attractive couple…
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 03:35 AM
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The science of attraction is a real thing. Women wear blush/rouge to have red cheeks, they wear extensions or volumizing spray to have full, thick hair, and things like large pupils and white teeth are all indicative of good health in a woman. As a generalization, good health = fertility. We can all find different things attractive, particularly things that sparked our minds in our formative years. But wide hips, curves = healthy womb size; large shoulders in men, muscles = protection. For someo…
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 03:04 AM
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I’d take anything re: evo psych with a grain of salt. Although there is some quality science-based research, it’s one of those disciplines that has a reputation of publishing bad science
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 02:46 AM
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Tbh I didn’t really understand what was going on as it was happening. He’d never get married because he didn’t want a woman to take his money, so him making me rich without a career wasn’t an option
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 01:02 AM
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Trp: A woman is either young, hot, and a horrible hypergamous user, or she’s 30 and “old”, and wants to settle down after her whoring out years because nobody wants her anymore. Imo, there’s a female sieve for Red Pill guys. They sift every type of girl out (she’s a whore, she’s too career motivated, she doesn’t put out enough, she has too much of a history, she has too many hypergamous friends, etc) until, naturally, there’s nothing left. Then they feel that proves their idea that all women are…
/r/ExRedPill13/03/21 03:19 AM
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My last partner was red pill, and I moved in with him under the assumption I had to, basically, prove I was one of the “good ones” and could live like a 1950’s housewife. He made it clear that he did not want me to work because it would introduce competition into the relationship, causing me to be less attracted to him, resulting in him receiving less sex. So I stayed home, cleaned the apartment, did all the shopping, and had dinner ready for him every night when he got home, and couldn’t declin…
/r/ExRedPill12/03/21 03:38 PM
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I’ve been on this rollercoaster for a while now. 3 years ago, my guy was sweet and thoughtful. 2 years ago, when he moved into an apartment alone, he started getting into Red Pill. I initially only found out because all sorts of TRP links would pop up on his computer. He also denied ever being into it, but I linked that to their phrase, “first rule of Red Pill, never talk about Red Pill.” So he was absolutely into it, depending on it for his life advice, and centering his beliefs around it. From…
/r/ExRedPill10/03/21 12:23 AM
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I was with a major red pill wannabe alpha guy. He almost never opened up about emotions (he believed no woman wanted to hear about his feelings, which is really the only thing I ever wanted), so I never felt close to him. He never told me about himself or his past because he’d been taught I, as a female, didn’t care. There were a few times he opened up about something small, and I tried to be as supportive and appreciative as possible. However, he seemed calculated in when and what he opened up …
/r/ExRedPill09/03/21 12:00 AM
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