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Nope, spark is that feeling of wanting to do all the things with that person. It's a very real thing that even men feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 10:15 PM
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"if you have to communicate the most basic things, it gets annoying and you probably aren't compatible to start with". Such as? I don't think the examples you used are considered basic (moving in together, joint finances, chores, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 10:13 PM
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Because you generally know pretty quickly if you want to spend more time with that person or not. It doesn't take months or even weeks to determine if you want to spend more time with someone. It might take more than a single 1-2 hour date. So maybe 2 dates, maybe 3 if the context calls.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 10:02 PM
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Not really. Women just aren't interested in wasting time, hoping that a feeling that isn't there grows.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:58 PM
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Yes, I think I'll trust my own feelings over that a strange man who thinks he knows my feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:15 PM
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Honestly though, how hard is to buy a card on a national fucking holiday. 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:13 PM
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I would just think they are gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:09 PM
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I never suggested it was creepy to want a grandkid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:58 PM
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I don't think that any of this is accurate. There's a huge gap between 0-1 and 30+.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:57 PM
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Who is angry? I'm not angry. I'm vibing watching a movie and wondering why comprehension is such a struggle around these parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:56 PM
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He doesn't have soap and water on hand? He's got a brand new couch but no soap and water?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:53 PM
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Lol. Nope. Still incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:51 PM
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Idk depends. There's no hard and fast rules. But generally, you'll know if you want to see them again or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:50 PM
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Well, I wouldn't immediately leave. I'd ask for hydrogen perioxde to pull out the blood stain. And then I'd leave. Immediately leaving without letting know is fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:49 PM
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Are they? Can't say I've seen that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:45 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:44 PM
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It's not really a competition. But there's nothing appealing about multiple men wanting to fuck you because you have a vagina. There's nothing appealing at men sending dick pics, calling you names because you won't send nudes or have sex on the first date. There's nothing appealing at being rejected because you don't send nudes, have sex on the first date, etc. ghosting/rejection after a date because "he didn't make me feel that initial spark". Good. Don't waste the time of people who you aren't…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:41 PM
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Ew. I don't eat fast food. Fast food is good in a pinch, but it's not quality or something someone should eat daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:37 PM
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Where did I say that I'm going to hop on Bumble? I'm getting concerned at the lack of reading comprehension in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:35 PM
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Dating apps suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:33 PM
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Well, they've had to change strategies lot over the last decade. All the tiered paid levels, etc. Sadly, there will always be someone desperate enough to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:28 PM
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How is he not my equivalent? Only date up? Well, he is taller than me, so I suppose I did date up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:14 PM
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Those Bumble billboards are fucking atrocious. "You know full well" is such a condescending statement. The idea that women don't know what they want and need to be told by a dating app is so 1830s. Good job Bumble, way to speed up your bankruptcy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:09 PM
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Many experiences have been shared over brunch, lunch, dinners, sleepovers, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:06 PM
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My husband isn't an incel.... So this doesn't really make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:51 PM
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Women would stop having sex and children. More women would get surgically sterilized.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:23 PM
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Women would stop having sex and children. More women would get surgically sterilized.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:23 PM
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Nope. It's seen as leading and being assertive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:22 PM
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Always send a follow up text. It's what leaders do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:17 PM
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Yup, I see messages all the time and still take 4+ hours to respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:04 PM
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Ooh, that's weird and creepy. I hope your husband tells his mom to stfu. Politely, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:03 PM
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4 hours? Chill. People work, sleep, and have shit to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:02 PM
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Yes, let's check again in 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:55 PM
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What are you referring to? I'm one woman, and I didn't say that at all. I swear this sub is reading challenged.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:53 PM
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And my point is that most people will still end up married.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:52 PM
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Yes, so high 60s is still most.....
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:48 PM
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I think true love still exists for many, if not most. Familial love isn't true love.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:33 PM
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Some boys on the small corners of the internet are. Most men still end up married.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:29 PM
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Yes, it's a made-up fear spread by charlatans, aka unmarried men with podcasts. It also seems to come from the boys who don't see women are people and thus they don't deserve anything in a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:23 PM
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Umm....okay. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:37 PM
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Neither of those sound like appealing options. I just like to own a basic 2/3 bedroom home in the city I live in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:20 PM
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No. My previous LTRs ended because we wanted different things. All 5 or so of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:15 PM
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I'll always find a problem with a 20 year ago gap. Been there done that, well 17 year age difference. It wasn't horrible but I wouldn't recommend it. If someone wants the experience, go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:14 PM
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Nope, men complain about the age gap here far more than women. I wasn't talking about Tiktok. I was talking about single virgins obsession with divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:11 PM
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ACAB.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:08 PM
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I don't understand the point of caring so much about a stranger's divorce. If some dude gets divorced, why do you care? That dude isn't complaining, so why are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:55 PM
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Yes, they change and go through rebrands to align with pop culture. It moved to RP and BP after The Matrix. Prior to that, it was PUA, players, etc. We'll see another rebrand here soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:53 PM
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Yup. What's your reasoning? Are you ever going to share why you're so upset about someone else's divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:51 PM
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It says that women get shit done. 🙄 Again, why are you upset about someone else's divorce? Why aren't these divorced guys whining and complaining? We never hear them complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:48 PM
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Emotions are reality. This post just reads like someone upset that they can't express their feelings or that their feelings aren't validated. Men need to validate other men's feelings. Women can't do it for y'all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:46 PM
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Honestly, y'all seem far more upset any divorce than the dudes being divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:43 PM
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We repeat patterns from childhood. Sometimes, they're good patterns to repeat, sometimes they're not. We repeat these patterns in our romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:42 PM
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Why are women filing 80% of divorces? Because someone needs to file the paperwork. the lesbian divorce rate 75%. Cool for them. Most women hate monogamy Can't say I've seen that as the truth. They don’t want to work anything out either, once they decide it’s all man’s fault More made-up nonsense. but women are much more physically violent because they usually face no consequences. Women just punch you and hit you with stuff they don’t care. More made-up up nonsense. Women cheat lot more because …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:40 PM
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It made waves in 2015. Same manner as now. A song about masturbation is, in fact, glorification.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:40 AM
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So, still different contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:38 AM
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Buzzfeed has 40 and this is from 2011. Dozens of those songs are well known. https://www.buzzfeed.com/gavon/40-masturbation-songs Male equivalent of Billie Eilish? In what context? Talking about masturbation in an article? Daniel Radcliffe .
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:23 AM
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There's no biological factors, it's all society. Women's sexuality has been reduced to an extension of male sexuality. The concept of a woman finding pleasure, alone without a man, is incredibly taboo. There's dozens of songs about masturbation. Some by and about women. But those were and are still considered taboo. Showing a woman masturbating in media is still seen as breaking barriers. It's changing slowly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:53 AM
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Nobody is expecting you to do anything about her fears. Unless you're bothering her and actively making her feel unsafe. If you're just both in the same grocery store aisle, nobody is expecting you to do anything. She'll move to another aisle if she feels that unsafe. I can't really think of a scenario when someone is being passive and a woman is expecting him to do something to soothe her fears.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:43 AM
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Very different contexts. Feeling safe is as simple as others keeping their hands to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:21 AM
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Okay, did that....very briefly and found 1 comment that mentions "bored", but really it sounds like they aren't compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 01:38 AM
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It's the internet. People overshare all the time. If it was so common, you'd think we'd see posts a lot more.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 01:26 AM
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It's hard to argue with wild ass scenarios and made up fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 01:19 AM
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Objectivity is objective. The reasonable answer is that you can't be objective about the female experience with men because you aren't a woman. Thus, your frame of objectivity isn't truly objective. You can apply the objectivity of other women who don't agree with other women, but that still doesn't make you an authority on objectivity or the objectivity of other's objectives. Objectivity can't be an authority because it's limited to our individual perspectives. It's not an agreed upon authority…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 01:19 AM
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People are leaving relationships because they got bored Where are these people? Why is there never any posts from these people? because they "explored their sexuality" and decided that it's incompatible with their family status Good for them. Sexual compatibility is important. hell, people are leaving relationships for the sake of career opportunities Sucks but good for them. EXCEPT when I decide that it's not okay Oh they can leave. It's bullshit to leave someone because they are sick. But yes,…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 01:08 AM
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Well, now you're bringing different stats. Had you shared those the first time, my response would have been different. I'm still not seeing the issue. Why does women being vocal about their own lives bother you? What do you want women to do? Stay in abusive relationships? The one you described is abusive. Why would anyone want to stay in that relationship? People aren't leaving happy, healthy, and love filled relationships. Eta - re the cancer study. It's bullshit to leave someone when they get …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 12:14 AM
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I don't believe women actively choose to do a thing or are doing a thing simply because they are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:46 PM
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Yes, I shared the worst part from my perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:40 PM
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No. This just isn't true. Nobody cares about men unless that man provides tangible value Men can care about men. I care about the men I personally know.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:39 PM
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I don't need to justify my choices. If I choose to divorce, it would be because the situation is toxic and unbearable. If someone wants to divorce because their husband is "rough around the edges" and abusive, they've got my support. I'm not responsible for my father. I can't abandon an adult. Women initiating the majority of divorces is not "just paperwork". Except it literally is. It's literally filing the paperwork to start divorce proceedings. If someone wants to leave, let them. Why force s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:36 PM
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Lol. The concept that women don't feel pain as deeply as men is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:31 PM
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No. Trends aren't just related to fashion. I don't really think of qualities or characteristics based on gender. Humans have qualities and characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:29 PM
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It's unreasonable to you. So, you questioning their critical thinking becomes unreasonable. Because you're not the authority to determine if they are unreasonable or not. Their answers are just different than yours. Which is perfectly reasonable. "Poor women"? Why is that necessary. Just say you don't agree and move on. Why do you need to insult people you don't agree with?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:28 PM
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It isn't a quality exactly. Maybe a trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:56 PM
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I don't think so....
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:56 PM
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It's more lack of interest or aversion. And used for silly trival things like soy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:55 PM
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Men are entitled to safety. Everyone is entitled to safety. A romantic relationship requires two people. You're not entitled to someone else's hands, lips, heart, etc. Everyone is entitled to safety. It sucks not feeling safe. You should feel safe. Nobody is entitled to someone else's hands to hold or lips to kiss or love to give. It a choice two people make together for each other and themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:50 PM
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It sounds like silly 18 year olds to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:46 PM
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Worst thing? "He's not your type, he's your pattern".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:45 PM
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Okay, and? They think dating their friends is "ick." I'm not seeing the issue. Why be upset about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:43 PM
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Immature people date all the time. Unfortunately, there's no certification before dating. Just move on. Acknowledge their immaturity and move on. Why dwell on it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:42 PM
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Do you expect every woman to be attracted to every male that is attracted to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:37 PM
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If they want to. I don't recommend it, unless you know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:32 PM
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Oh I'm so thankful that guys want to fuck me simply because I have a vagina. I'm so grateful I'm pretty so that men feel entitled to my body or my time. So much to be grateful for, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:31 PM
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What's sad about it? Sounds like 18 year olds are being 18 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:29 PM
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Buddy guy, you aren't the authority on what is or isn't reasonable when it comes to hypothetical scenarios. My point is, that it's silly to say someone doesn't have critical thinking because they choose different than you might. Someone choose differently than you, big whoop. It's weird how many men are acting like they are the authority on people's choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:11 PM
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Oral sex. Knowing where the clit is. Prioritizing her pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:06 PM
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Objectively however, I cannot fathom a single reason why anyone alone the woods would be safer with a bear. That's fine if you can't. Surely we agree here No, we don't agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 09:58 PM
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It does. Attraction morphs and changes over the course of a relationship. Chemistry keeps that attraction thriving.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 06:35 PM
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Chemistry is a real thing. Chemistry is what keeps us laughing and sharing, and attraction builds off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 06:21 PM
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Idk never paid attention. It ebbs and flows. Nobody keeps track.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 05:20 PM
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Critical thinking is there. It's just that some boys don't agree with how they arrived at the conclusion. It's okay to not agree. It's disingenuous to call it a lack of something because you don't agree with the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 04:09 PM
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Same, we split based on income. Whoever is earning more at the moment pays more. 60/40 usually. Household upkeep is more 50/50. He does the majority of cooking. And then we just do whatever needs to be done around the house. No nagging required.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 03:40 PM
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The men I've dated have always insisted on paying. I guess those men are all entitled. I'm so glad I've married my entitled husband. He treats me like a queen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 03:13 PM
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It's definitely you (general you). I've always lived in large cities and never had pointless dates. If someone is struggling with dating, it's them. Their location might be second.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 03:10 PM
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Most people would assume "relationships". Meaning you can have 1 or 2 or more relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 05:07 AM
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I wasn't alluding to hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 05:04 AM
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I didn't suggest at once. Assumptions are pretty degenerate. I don't imagine my husband having sex with other people. That's weird. Why would I do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 05:01 AM
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I encourage having sex with people you love. And you can love a few people before you marry. Or you love one and marry one. There's no "right" way. Do whatever works for you and let others do what works for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 04:56 AM
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Nope. Can't say I've seen that in real-life. Evolving and changing discovering more than you ever thought possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 04:54 AM
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At work to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 04:53 AM
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Cool. Enjoy and carry on. 👻
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:28 AM
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So beta is based on job/looks/personality? Seems most refer to it as men being married to wives who aren't attracted to them and they pay for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:07 AM
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This sub isn't full of married men whose wife isn't attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:04 AM
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Lol. Okey dokey.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:03 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:02 AM
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You don't have a uterus, so you're not the person they are referring to......
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:36 AM
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Seriously. Obviously, my wants in a relationship changed between 20 and 30. That's going to be reflected in my dating choices, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:30 AM
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Scientifically, I am a person. Having a uterus doesn't make me any less of a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:26 AM
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Yes, I don't tend to see stupidity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:21 AM
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Don't see the joke....
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:18 AM
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So you're married to a woman who isn't attracted to you and you fathered her children and pay all her bills? Tell me about yourself. What makes you a beta?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:18 AM
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I'm not sure what that has to do with "people menstrate." Are women supposed to be called "women" all the time? We can never be people?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:17 AM
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That people bleed is being implied. Still not seeing the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:04 AM
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That doesn't make any sense. So you don't know any 35 year olds in real life?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:03 AM
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People menstrate. I'm a woman. I'm a person. Saying people menstrate makes perfect sense. I'm a person with a menstrual cycle. Why does that bother you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:02 AM
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Where are all these so called, "betas"? This sub goes on and on about them. But we never hear from them. You'd think this sub would be full of men warning others about these harpy over 30 women desperate for a husband and kids. Here beta, beta, beta 🍪 🍪 🍪
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:56 AM
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I wonder how many here even know what 35 looks like. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:49 AM
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I don't agree with what you're trying to say. Don't do what someone else does because it works for them. You're not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:47 AM
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Who is? Where are these men? Why aren't they here complaining about their wives and warning men? Why is it always single men warning about this concept? If it's so damn common, where are these men? Why does no one hear from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:47 AM
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if a guy in high school sees Well, there's your first problem. It's high school. Nobody knows what the fuck they are doing. He's not going to come to that conclusion based on you alone He came to it alone because women weren't the sole focus on his life. His career, his hobbies, his interests were the focus. And continues to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:29 AM
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The bulk of male suicides are fathers? Do you have a source? Usually you don't see them complain or whine because they're under gag orders following divorce rape Oh of course. Always an answer for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:27 AM
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And those fuckboi turn into single dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:25 AM
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The pun in the title is cracking me up. Anyway, yes, porn can ruin relationships. Luckily, you don't have to stay in any relationship ruined by porn. If a man doesn't respect your sexaul boundaries. Leave. If a boy can't tell the difference between porn and reality, don't date him. Or break up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:04 AM
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You realize that married women can become single moms after a divorce. Or widowed women become single moms after their husband dies. Not every single mom is because of some fuckboi.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:01 AM
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What patterns?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:56 PM
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People say stupid shit. Don't build an entire world view around stupid shit people say. Idk what being unmascline is. I don't I've ever seen it. It's not like you're masculine one second and not the next.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:55 PM
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Lol. Masculinity doesn't stop because someone using nail polish. Y'all really have some rigid views of masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:48 PM
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Masculine men can still screech when seeing a spider or mouse. Lol. Masculinity doesn't stop because spiders are fucking creepy and mice are gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:47 PM
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Lol. A woman can have a kid without being tied to a boring man and marriage. And why don't we ever see these men complaining? We only ever see men complain about the so-called existence of these "beta male provdiers". But we never see them complain or whine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:28 PM
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Lol. This is such bullshit. their mate selection, women are deciding what masculinity is. What the fuck? So because I selected my husband, I decide what masculinity is, and other men are going to copy his success? Well, all he did was have a job, have hobbies, and have interests. That's the key to masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:20 PM
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So y'all keep saying but never actually prove. It's just a fear sold by charlatans that boys buy in bulk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:06 PM
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In both cases, the man is happy and getting laid. What's there to be disgusted by?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 10:11 PM
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Yes, just screams evolving, changing, trying something new. And then succeeding at that new things. Love to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 10:08 PM
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The bear or a promiscuous 30-year-old single mom? The bear or a slutty 23 year old? The bear or a virgin woman who talks back, leads the relationship, and makes you stay home with the kids? The bear or a woman who settles for you but doesn't want to have sex with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 08:48 PM
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Lol. There wasn't any offer to go live in the remote forest with bears. This is precisely my point. Just making up ways to feel upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 08:29 PM
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Nope. I was talking about the wedding industry. Marriage industry =/= wedding industry Less marriages....but not less domestic partnerships or other non married but living together relationships or other LTRs. Less marriages just mean more ways of creating family and using other legal means. Marriage isn't the only way to having a long-term relationship/partnership. Hooray! Isn't that what boys here want? Seems like this is great news for dudes who don't want to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:47 PM
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Lots of social status in being a wife. And even more social connections being a wife. At least in America.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:23 PM
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The man is in green..... So your theory doesn't really hold up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:21 PM
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Definitely agree with you there. There's lots of shitty parents out there. It sucks and they leave adults with traumas who recreate cycles. But this is why therapy is great. Helps you move through childhood traumas. There's all kinds of therapy, too. Emdr, somatic, horse, water, talk, cbt, art, dance, etc. Therapy can be incredibly validating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:17 PM
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he was raised to So this isn't something just happening to him. It's someone actively being a parent to him. without a quiver of doubt in his mind You ever ask him about his doubt and how much he has? he didn’t have to work on himself, or “hit the gym, bro!” or any of the other bullshit platitudes; things just worked out for him. So this guy didn't work out at all? Sounds like he was raised well, so I'm not sure what precisely he needs to work on. I'm sure he works on himself constantly as a fat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:12 PM
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Still no status in being a sister.....
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:07 PM
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Lol what? Y'all really just make shit up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:06 PM
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This is why people don't take these comments seriously. Y'all rant on and on about something you can't even describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:05 PM
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No idea why you brought up gaslighting. I literally said, "go see a therapist".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:52 PM
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Why is he green? Is he a zombie? Has he single rage made him green?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:50 PM
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Lol. Doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:47 PM
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Lol. And your response to a hypothetical is irrational and illogical.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:46 PM
1

Can you explain them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:45 PM
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You're so upset that women picked a bear, you think they shouldn't have rights. That right there is the picture of being illogical and all up in your feelings for still not being chosen in a hypothetical scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:42 PM
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Not yet. Just some Chad banging. The day is still early, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:39 PM
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Lol. No. Therapy does help.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:38 PM
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What the heck is "raw sexual way"? What does that even mean. What does that look like? how much they worship you ect. What sexual acts they will do for you Ick. Worship? do for you? Ew. Sex is a mutual party between 2 (or more people). A lot of woman are not genuinely attracted to their male partners in a raw sexual way Whoever started this lie needs to be tarred and feather. This is such fucking nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:37 PM
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Nothing falls into place for anyone. Normal is a dishwasher setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:35 PM
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Marriage isn't expensive. What are you talking about? Marriage rates are rising in age, but people still overwhelmingly get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:34 PM
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Lol. Okay, buddy guy. why nearly every human culture since the dawn of civilization prevented women from being involved in politics More made-up nonsense. Appreciate the laughs this morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:33 PM
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Nope. Younger ones, too. If you don't want help, just say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:21 PM
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Uh huh. It says a lot about men. It's quite funny watching men getting all hemotional about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:20 PM
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Another day, another ridiculously large protein filled breakfast. Eating breakfast feels like such a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:19 PM
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Male therapists exist, bro. See one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:15 PM
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What the heck is visceral female desire? What does this look like in practice?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:12 PM
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What the heck is visceral female desire? What does this look like in practice?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:12 PM
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What the heck is visceral female desire? What does this look like in practice?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:12 PM
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The whole bear discourse from boys here has been too funny to watch. Every single poster who has been upset the bear was chosen has said some horrible stuff about women in the comments/posts. The moment something unflattering is said about men, they go off and cry and whine and moan about it. They act all big and tough, "women are lying sluts", but can't take the heat when the tables are turned. It's been a delight to observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:56 PM
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If you don't go, you'll never know if she's into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:53 PM
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I didn't even know them in my 20s. Lol. That's what cracks me up the most. They act like us 30+ women intentionally rejected them. They want to punish all women because 1 woman rejected them in 8th grade.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:47 PM
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I’d rather be anywhere else So don't go. Nobody wants to spend time with a drunk first date who doesn't want to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:45 PM
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Marriage isn't dying. Marriages aren't getting more and more expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:44 PM
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Lol. Yes the fuck it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:43 PM
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Not necessarily. Saying I'm a sister doesn't carry the same social weight as saying I'm a wife. You brought up the social component of marriage. I agree with you. Socially, within society, husband ranks higher than sister. Once I'm a wife, my family became me and my husband. I'm still a sister, but it's no longer my primary family. Thus, societal context ranks my wife status as higher. I'm agreeing with your original statement re marriage is a social status.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:43 PM
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Nope. It's still true now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 12:42 AM
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Maybe an example. Nobody has provided one. Just their own fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:32 PM
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Not that I've ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:20 PM
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She doesn't want to be with you for the rest of her life. You = general you Why would a man invest in a woman that has told him she plans on either being with no man for the rest of her life, or being with other men for the rest of her life? Break up if he doesn't like this. She'll date or marry someone else. When a woman has multiple bodies, doesn't it show that she doesn't even take her own self seriously? What?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:11 PM
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I have no idea what fictional character you're describing.... The comment I was responding to was social. Social is more than the single scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:05 PM
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We don't have kids. Our prenup outlines various scenarios for dividing our income/assets. Or just vet better and uphold your vows. Easy enough to have a loving, happy, long marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:02 PM
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Being recognized as family is status, especially in a social setting. I wouldn't consider sister to have status in a social setting. Except in specific contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:56 PM
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Because marriage isn't about housework... You're misrepresenting the statistics. "22 percent of those who had never married between the ages of 40-44 reporting that they were living with a partner." (Your source) What problem is knocking on our doors? Our unmarried 40-something neighbors? We'll invite them in and rant about how we never expected to rely on SSI anyway. Or maybe we'll discuss jobs and the cost of living today, how it's not sustainable. But sure...that 3% of unmarried men currently…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:54 PM
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Neither of us have power then either. There's only pain, grief, and sadness in divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:47 PM
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I think y'all call it, "pre selection".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:45 PM
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I don't have power over my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:44 PM
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You're forgetting the most prominent reason at all: social. This. For a sub that goes on and on about "status". They forget that husband is elite status.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:28 PM
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So are you going to wash the dishes or fold the laundry? In return, there are clean dishes for the dinner you cook and clean clothes that your wife gathered, washed, and dried, while grocery shopping + food prepping. Wait. 25% of 40 year olds are unmarried? Okay. There's a whole thread about men who won't ever marry. So.... You and rest of females will soon discover the difference between society that is dangerous, oppressive and poor, and society that females imagine to be so. Huh. Okay then.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:25 PM
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Okay, so nothing to learn. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 09:13 PM
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What's there to learn? That some random guy isn't attracted to them? Big whoop.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:57 PM
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Cheat, obviously. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:57 PM
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It doesn't seem like they actually want love. They want power over someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:56 PM
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Necessarily bitchy js
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:48 PM
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With a modern woman, the man is getting nothing in exchange for those incentives. She will expect him to do just as much cooking, cleaning, and child care as her, even if he marries her. Oh no! A man is expected to clean, cook, and care for his children. The horror, the absolute horror. My God, don't get married. Nobody is asking y'all to get married. Why are y'all so pressed about marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:48 PM
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🤢🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:26 PM
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Where are these women? I'm over 35 and still don't see them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:20 PM
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I'm a married late 30 something. And for someone of your big age and stature making up fantasies, it sounds like you're the one who needs to touch grass grandpa.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:17 PM
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Men? Like the overall gender of male? Don't really care one way or the other. I don't really think about "men" in the abstract. I can think of things I admire, appreciate, and enjoy about my husband. But that's just one man. What characteristics in the opposite sex do you genuinely find enduring? None that are specific to a certain sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:15 PM
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Thank you for confirming this sub is full of below average boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:07 PM
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Lol. That's a cute insult. Too fucking funny. I'd rather be me than you any day. Good luck with your weight loss. Maybe one day you'll be picked.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:06 PM
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I'm married and having sex. If that makes me a loser, what does it make you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:38 PM
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Awesome. Now I can haunt you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:37 PM
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Oh, golly, mister.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:36 PM
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Oh good, so I'll live. Fantastic!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:35 PM
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The only insults I get here are "fat", "old", "304", "cat lady", "dumb". Oh and someone just said, "oh ya, well some people here want to insult you." They aren't even good or clever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:35 PM
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Lmao. Should I be scared some virgins online want to insult me?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:33 PM
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Ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:30 PM
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I'm proud of every action I take. Because why the fuck not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:30 PM
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I really wish we could be mean here. I love a well placed insult. It would be so nice to put a few of these losers in their place. Oh well, I'll continue to be nice here and laugh offline.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:29 PM
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Well, I'm married and much older than him. But he's cute and looks like an ex from my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:27 PM
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Ew. Leave me alone. Bear, I pick the bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:24 PM
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I don't usually eat breakfast, so I'm trying to actually eat breakfast. At my big age. Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:19 PM
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What a qt
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:17 PM
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Well, I didn't eat eggs or a protein bar. So no, I'm not commending myself for eating eggs or a protein bar. Why does me being happy about eating breakfast bother you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:16 PM
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Oh... so that was a made-up fantasy. Thanks for clarifying. however many of the other engineers I work with did… and regret it. I'm sure they did. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:15 PM
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Are you sharing your specific experiences?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:12 PM
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Succeeded in eating 10/30 grams of protein for breakfast! First breakfast down. This is going to be a fucking challenge.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:10 PM
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Shadow someone in those careers. My dental hygienist loves her job. She works 3 days a week. Teachers....I hear lots of bad things. Especially lately with how many schools are underfunded, parents are crazy, and kids can't read.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:01 PM
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Alright. So don't get married. Plenty of men find benefits in the things I listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:54 PM
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This exactly. The ones who are upset the most are the ones who say the worst things about women. Seems like they can dish it but cry their little balls off when it's directed at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:51 PM
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Nope. I'll take being eaten alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:49 PM
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Marriage is a government contract. So, the benefits of marriage are also tied to government benefits (taxes, healthcare, spousal specific laws, and legalities). There's still a lot of social benefits to be a husband vs a boyfriend (especially after age 30). Men who are husbands are seen as more responsible, dependable, etc. Similar to men who become fathers. There's a lot of societal benefits/perceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:23 PM
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Divorce is unfair for EVERYONE involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:09 PM
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What nerve? No nerves hit. Just thought it was a silly concept. If it works for you, good on ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:57 PM
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What truth am I supposed to accept?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:56 PM
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What's unbelievable about life being a risk? Accept what truth?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:46 PM
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If by 26 it is sub 2 years then the person is fundamentally incapable of commitment. Does that sound fair? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:43 PM
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Life is a risk. If it's dying, why does it continue to increase year over year?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:41 PM
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There are zero benefits a man gets from getting married as opposed to just a regular committed long term relationship Lemme go tell my husband we should get a divorce because he's got "zero benefits". Men who desire long term relationships who are smart will not sign this unfair contract that clearly is not in their best interest So why are a majority of men married? Why is the wedding industry still growing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:35 PM
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Lol. No, it's not. People don't divorce for no reason or for shits and giggles. People divorce because they are unhappy. Why do other people's divorces upset you so?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:26 PM
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Divorce will never be non-existent.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:18 PM
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So fat, poor, losers...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:00 PM
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Yes because adults have agency and can leave relationships they don't want to be in. If a man wants to leave a woman, he should be able to. Nobody should be stuck in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:00 PM
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That's extreme. It's leaving an unfulfilling relationship. Staying in an unfulfilling relationship will definitely make someone never feel whole again. Why do you want to punish strangers?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:57 PM
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What exactly are you expecting strangers to feel when they get divorced?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:53 PM
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Divorces do hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:45 PM
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That's horrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:41 PM
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I want to live in a society that clearly punishes divorce Why, though? It seems like you're unable to state why you want this. Eta: a divorce is the punishment. They aren't fun, they are costly, and they are emotional. And women are often in worse financial places. What more do you want? Death? Dismemberment?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:32 PM
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Again. I'm asking WHY you want to punish people you don't know for making decisions about their life. Why does someone else's divorce bother you so much you want to punish strangers? Are you unable to articulate, WHY YOU WANT TO PUNISH STRANGERS FOR DIVORCING?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:28 PM
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I asked why you want to punish someone you don't know for making choices that are best for their life? Nobody should be PUNISHED for leaving anything. Adults should be able to leave anything that no longer brings them joy, love, happiness, safety, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:24 PM
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You said she failed. So which is it? A woman capable of exceptional work or a failure? What do your 3 "great" men have to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:18 PM
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They are both. They put it on display for us daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:17 PM
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Lol. "Failed". A well-known author whose satire and cultural criticism is still being applied today in literature and media. But sure, she failed. We get it. You hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:13 PM
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make the life of those that divorce/fail to uphold the vows as close to a living hell as they legally can Why, though? Why does someone else's divorce bother you so much that you want to make their life a living hell?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:10 PM
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What is lopsided in a marriage contract?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:09 PM
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So why are there so many virgins in this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:02 PM
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Where are the great men you're referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:01 PM
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Everyone should get a prenup. Even if you've got nothing going into marriage. A prenup can help with the dissolution of a marriage. Also, if you don't want to get married. Don't get married. It's really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:00 PM
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So what exactly is the difference between modern and traditional women’s standards? From my observations of the discourse in this sub...... Traditional women = are allowed to choose/frequently chosen. They receive a bit more respect because of her deemed "goodness" (femininity). Modern women = need to settle for the nearest single man seeking a woman for any means. ONS, FWB, LTR, etc. If a man wants LTR from a modern woman, she better be prepared to settle. She won't get a "Chad" man to commit. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 09:34 PM
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Because getting drunk doesn't mean there still is fear in another completely different scenario. Like what do you want exactly? For women to never feel fear? Why does it matter to you if a girl gets drunk on night and isn't necessarily scared because her inhibitions have been lowered due to alcohol AND a completely different time when she's sober and alone in her home with a stranger? Both things can be true. It's not one or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 09:05 PM
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If your partner is going to cheat, they don't need a girls' trip to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:17 PM
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Normal in the sense of using it to determine compatibility. That's what a first or second date is. To have conversations to determine if you want to do it again (and again, and again). Using humor is a way to communicate a complex topic and see how someone responds. Or using humor to rebuff someone's comments. So yes, it sounds normal for a 20-somethings in a large metro city.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:09 PM
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Spa, shopping, eating. It's beautiful! I went as a kid and remember the air and rain during a lightning storm.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:34 PM
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Yes, he's absolutely wrong. W-r-o-n-g, wrong. That's my final answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:11 PM
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Never believe your girl won't cheat, she will the second she gets the chance and knows you won't find out. If you believe this, stay single. Ladies, enjoy your girls' trips! I know I enjoy mine with my friends. We're headed to Sedona, Arizona, next.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:00 PM
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Chris Brown was right about something, "I don't see how you can hate from outside the club. You can't even get in." 😆😆😆😆
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:55 PM
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Definitely you, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:42 PM
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I guess I gave them the benefit of the doubt. It's shocking to see a generation of men unable to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:41 PM
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Makes sense why they lie. And why they can't read. Seems to be a lot of discussion around teenagers inability to read, comprehend, apply critical thinking. Teenagers are always trying to be cooler than they really are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:39 PM
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Nope. Just applying the same logic. Don't dish it out if y'all can't take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:34 PM
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I hope they've at least updated the video and it's still not from the 80s.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:33 PM
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Today, I discovered that the avg PPD man is a liar who can't read. Thanks to that poster who helped me come to this conclusion. PPD men can all thank him for being a representative for all PPD men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:32 PM
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Wow, y'all really just make shit up and run with it. Won't be taking anything you say seriously. As a matter of fact, you just taught me that the avg PPD man is a liar who can't read. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:30 PM
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Birth of what? Animals, I can handle. Humans, I'm skipping class.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:26 PM
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We're back from our vacation. It was such a nice getaway. It's time to start planning our next trip!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:25 PM
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Precisely why your comment about average men failing is incorrect. Average is going to look different for everyone because of dozens of other factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:17 PM
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5'11. Is avg defined only by height?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:13 PM
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Huh. I don't agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:10 PM
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Lol. And I'm saying that shit doesn't exist. My husband is an average man, and while I think he's "better," it's because I love him. Not because of some physical thing different than previous exes. But my feelings for him make him the best. Not his height or his physicality. The average man is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:01 PM
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You're suggesting that women shouldn't be scared because men are more likely to be murdered by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:58 PM
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Lol. Seriously. I'm so curious to meet a woman who is still pining for a ONS.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:57 PM
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Nope, drunk driving is intentionally getting behind a wheel. Drunk and barefoot downtown isn't necessarily intentional so much as a possibility. It's kinda rich to complain about dangerous men whilst downing alcohol and reaching a state which would make you more vulnerable. It's almost like humans are complex and can be conflicting. Shocker.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:56 PM
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Idk. Anecdotes is a good place to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:54 PM
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My comment about digital literacy was about people not understanding an algorithm. I see the difference and already mentioned it in my first comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:52 PM
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never in their whole life forgot a ONS Where are these women? I'd like to meet them. I have so many questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:43 PM
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alpha widowing Doesn't exist. It's called heartbreak, and everyone gets over it eventually. Like you said, it's more common in relationships, which means heartbreak. Well, maybe not some men. But most women move on from the man who broke her heart. Most often, she ends up even happier with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:42 PM
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So because men kill men more as a woman, I shouldn't be scared?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:37 PM
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My tea cup with a chip said the dresser always lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:35 PM
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Ha. My husband is Gaston height. You might have inspired a Halloween costume. Belle and Gaston.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:35 PM
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A man who was being punished as a bear. I'd still choose the bear over that beast Gaston. Ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:31 PM
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you'll always be compared to your girlfriends past partners No. You won't. This is your insecurities talking. Tell them to shove it. This isn't true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:30 PM
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Because there's no such a thing as female sense of danger, That doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:29 PM
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Again, these are different contexts. Alone in your home with a strange man is scary. It's your home. They know where you live, they know the layout, they know your name, and they know so many intimate details that can be used to hurt or harm. Being alone and drunk is also scary, but you're drunk, so your inhibitions are lowered. You feel more emboldened or that you can do it yourself. You can be taken off the street, sure, but again, alcohol makes you feel invincible. Different scenarios mean di…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:28 PM
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1/3 of all murders in the USA are women. This doesn't make it less scary. Men in general have twice the chances of getting murdered By whom? Other men, right? See why we choose the bear. 🐻
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:14 PM
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Yes, TV shows have the same effect on bingeing them. Rage bait isn't social media, though. It's something that's been done even before social media. It just has a new name, "rage bait". None of this is new. It's just new packaging. Blaming it on social media is continuing to pass the buck instead of taking accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:12 PM
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I imagine people are laughing in response to this. A whole lot of words saying nothing and changing nothing. Lol. Good luck with that!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:06 PM
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No, you hear of the gas station being the last place they were seen. Yes, people still take group trips to resorts to Mexico. There's very clearly different levels of danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:04 PM
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Every women talks about how dangerous it is to go to a gas station at night but will go and all female trip to Mexico at the height of when people are getting murdered there. With analogy like this, no wonder you're confused. Alone or with a group? The group is probably safer. Idk what's confusing exactly. A woman, a person really, can determine at any moment if they feel in danger. There's no specific parameters.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:00 PM
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Before social media, there was TV. Before TV there was radio. Social media isn't the issue. The cat has been out of the bag long before social media. What seems to be happening currently is a lack of digital literacy. Far too many kids take a Tiktok as fact or the only way of thinking. There's not enough critical thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 02:53 PM
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Yes, because I alone am the one creating capitalistic conditions. Why do you love billionaires so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 02:46 PM
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And this stagnated wages making any gain moot Lmao. That's too fucking funny. It's wild the way people trip all over themselves to defend billionaires. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:01 AM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:53 AM
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This very sub has a bad faith view of women. Honestly, it reads like some can dish it but can't take it. Women are gaslit in this sub daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:47 AM
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And yet you used a twox sub example. Fascinating. Thanks for sharing! Good luck with your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:37 AM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:27 AM
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Not really. They are a bunch of incoherent ramblings filled with what aboutism that. I never suggested my feelings matter more. I suggested that being offended by this is fucking stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:22 AM
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I could be wrong. It's only dudes online who go on and on and on about how upset they are. Nobody in real life is talking about this much.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:21 AM
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Lying has consequences. So lie all you want but deal with the consequences of your actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:16 AM
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If they could express their feelings, then I'll listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:16 AM
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Nothing has ever stopped me from having sex. There's no set frequency. Too many variables.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:06 AM
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My guy, if I was offended by misogyny, I wouldn't leave the house. Lol. I'm not offended that some RP dude hates women. I don't take it personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:02 AM
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Is it possible someone is offended for some reason that has nothing to do with whatever you're implying? Not with this specific example. It's only a specific small subset of men who are offended.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:52 AM
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We got a prenup for our marriage. Prenups are great. They are a protection for both parties. I always encourage prenups. marriage because women have intentionally fucked guys over in divorces are you offended No. There's nothing to be offended by in your example.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:52 AM
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I've dated two different bald men who were bald at 25. So it does happen. Just not frequently as previously. So where does this thing that men go bald at 30 come from? Previous generations. It's not really keeping up with today's 30-somethings.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:48 AM
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Cool. I still don't care that you doubt me. It doesn't bother me. I stand by my general comment that I intentionally made.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:44 AM
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Some boys are just hemotional over this. It's too fucking funny. If you're offended, you're likely the strange man women fear. If you're offended, do some self reflection on why.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:40 AM
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You brought up your very specific anecdotal experience. So I brought my statement down to my individual level to match your anecdote. Overall, even with your anecdote, women dating older men aren't in the woman's best interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:26 AM
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Lol. What? I'm saying you overestimate the number of men that are metaphorically knocking down the doors of women. Most women don't have dozens of men clamoring for their attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:24 AM
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Lol, okay. You're the expert on advice for women and the experience of women. Go off, king.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:20 AM
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You severely overestimate the amount of "options" the average woman has.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:03 AM
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To invent what? A different perspective than you? I wasn't aware your perspective was how I should live my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:02 AM
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Agreed. The burden is on you to provide proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:01 AM
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And yet, people commit crimes all the time. If you lie, expect consequences. Property destruction, reputation destruction, the opportunities are endless for lying liars who lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:56 PM
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I don't care. That's cool, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:54 PM
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Good think there are lots of words in many different languages to phrase things. If you're using OLD, just put it in your profile, ffs. And really, it's not cringe. It's honest communication and expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:52 PM
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Never said anything about the relationship. If you're gonna lie, deal with the consequences. If you're gonna manipulate, deal with the consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:45 PM
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What I described is exactly what she's saying. Bad boy smart guys exist. Bad boy nice guys exist. Bad boy considerate guys exist. People don't fit into neat little boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:43 PM
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None of that has anything to do with being open with intentions of purely looking for causal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:41 PM
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Well, then they (the lying men) need to deal with whatever consequences occur. Slashed tires, keyed cars, blasted online, gossip, "are we dating the same guy" FB groups, and all the other things they will complain about that a woman did in response to his lies and manipulations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:39 PM
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60 with one foot in the grave lol How old do you think 60 is? Tom Cruise is 60 and still making Mission Impossible movies. Angela Basset is 65 and currently starting in a TV show. Sure, these are celebrities, but 60 isn't on the brink of death.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:34 PM
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Doubtful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:30 PM
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Lol..it's not a drawn-out conversation. How many women have you had causal sex with? It's certainly not most. That just sounds needy and creepy I guess, if you don't know how to flirt or talk to someone. Most women don't want that conversation with a stranger or a male acquaintance. The ones having causal sex are having these conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:30 PM
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Lol. That's a terrible comparison. Do whatever you want, but don't be surprised if women get pissy or hurt or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:28 PM
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No, they don't have to resort to any misleading. It's having a conversation with the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:21 PM
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Have all the causal sex. Just be honest about your intentions. Don't lie to have sex. Don't have sex with someone, and then determine if they aren't worthwhile. You already knew that before sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:15 PM
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My gf is 18 years younger and we're doing great. 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:49 PM
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The wall doesn't exist. And yes, it's not in a woman's best interest to date older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:38 PM
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The quote and myself, are referring to dating without the intentions of marriage. You like these people to date. Not to date to get married. It's not about dating people you don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:29 PM
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Nobody is forced to do anything. But it is like grabbing things at a buffet and trying new items. If you don't like it, don't eat more. Its not that difficult. Why would you date someone you don't like? That's stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:22 PM
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Good thing people are able to choose whatever works best for them. Dating someone gives a lot more things to be introspective of or discovering that you actually don't want that in a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:12 PM
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Learning about yourself and what you want, don't want. Dating is like a buffet. Try all the things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:43 PM
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Why? Because you're not looking to get married right now. The 20s are the entire decade. Date around, have fun, and experience different kinds of people. And when you're ready, date with the intention to get married. I dated for 16 years before I started dating for intention to get married. Not suggesting that everyone should do that but spending a couple of years dating around without an intention to marry should be more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:18 PM
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I disagree. There's a whole advantage to dating different people, especially if you want to get married. There might be some hurt, but that's just a part of the human experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:14 PM
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Yup, and wouldn't consider The Ghoul a bad guy. A guy who had bad stuff happened to him and him acting accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:25 PM
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Yes, I'd absolutely agree with this. Date around, have fun. And when you're ready you'll know everything you don't want and what you do. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. The sexiest qualities to look for when seeking long-term partnership like marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:17 PM
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They can't be defined because they are purposely vague so that they can be customized to soothe some angry boy. The best they can do is some fictional example from movies/TV or their own made-up fantasies. It's a cult full of charlatans getting rich off the insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:07 PM
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Do you agree that they would have a better sex life by changing geographies? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:04 PM
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Yup. He's too old, a cheater, and a father. 3 strikes and he's out. Not to mention, I don't find him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:56 PM
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Tom Brady isn't a bad boy. And The Ghoul isn't either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:55 PM
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I don't think of them. In responding to this, all I thought of them was "silly little weirdos". I find it funny they seem to think they are the first to do this or that they are somehow special in doing so. My favorite though is that they seem to think that women care they are leaving to find relationships. Nobody cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:56 PM
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No, 9/10 it doesn't. Please don't make up stats. It's beneath all of us. And no, you kinda always aren't developing crushes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:54 PM
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Because of who he is, not because of his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:48 PM
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initial flame or passion will die out Not always. Stoke the fires, and the flame never dies. you’re always susceptible to developing feelings No, you're not. If my husband had feelings for someone else, we'd be divorcing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:46 PM
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No. I wouldn't. Ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:11 PM
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I'm not making fun of him. I'm saying, to me, he's bland. I look like pumpernickel bread.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:06 PM
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Yes, men find Tom Brady attractive. Awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:51 PM
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Men seem to find him very attractive. Maybe they should date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:24 PM
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I said he's toast. Meaning he's bland, basic, and looks like generic. I guess the average man does remind me of bland, basic toast.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:23 PM
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He looks like a piece of a toast. A boring old 6'4 piece of toast.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:14 PM
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You have hard 3-6/10 women running around calling themselves “beautiful” And? What exactly is the problem with women calling themselves beautiful?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:03 PM
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Insecurities. It's always insecurity. They want to ensure the woman feels as worthless as they do so they can pretend to feel powerful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:59 PM
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Stranger encounters are set as 1 per woman per day. Encounters here are actual communications, not passing on the street, which is evident from 1/day setting. This needs to be increased to 3 per woman per day. It's far more than 1 per day but less than 5 per day on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:58 PM
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Tom Brady isn't "the most handsome". He looks like the Ghoul fron Fallout TV show. And looks aren't everything. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:53 PM
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It's photoshoot day!! Time to be delulu.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:56 PM
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I've experienced both. But right now....Quit the job in the first example. Found a job like in second example AND a pretty caring and kind partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:55 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:33 PM
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Aw, this is so sweet. My husband brings me treats when I'm sad. Sad it's not real for her. Again, though, the graphics are terrible and seem to imply she's alone because she's brown and ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:18 PM
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Honestly, some people aren't interested, don't have the time, another priority to center stage, etc. Mostly the reasons that don't have anything to do with you. They just weren't interested for whatever reason. but I can't actually imagine them having much better dates This is a bit odd. Maybe this is the reason..... this vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:09 PM
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Did it fail? Or has dating apps changed since Bumble first started TEN YEARS ago. Seems like a whole new generation is using it and doesn't need to follow the same rules it did 10 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:59 PM
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What quality do they lack? I have no idea. It's not necessarily about lacking a quality. Not everyone is interested in casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:51 PM
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NO. That is bullshit Nope. Not bullshit. Literally, some dudes are himbos and other dudes are for long-term relationships. we want relationships with are also fully acceptable for casual sex and FWB. And that's when feelings get hurt for either gender. When one decides, it's "acceptable" when they fully want more.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:40 AM
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Sometimes, I just want to build on the tension and focus on other elements of the relationship before getting sexual. Depends on so many things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:08 AM
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Every long-term partner has been treated differently. There's no one size fits answer or approach. How did your partner take “the news” that you maybe have been sexual on every first date you’ve been on, but made him/her wait longer? Never had any issues. Nobody has ever cared. Does/would it matter to you to learn your partner was looser with others than s/he is or was with you? No. Again, there's no one size fits all approach. Everything and everyone is different, and thus no one has ever cared…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:06 AM
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I'm in my late 30s and people are still getting married and having kids. Idk your age but people are still getting married and having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:01 PM
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Okay so that's why women choose the bear. If a man is allowed to be scared in that situation, women are allowed to choose the bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:56 PM
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It doesn't seem natural to be scared in that situation. Seems natural to find a security guard or check in with your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:34 PM
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Interesting doesn't describe any women I know. I do see lots of boys here who fit this.... Is passive-aggressive (posting inflammatory content meant to provoke Is condescending and superior (all the time on social media) Denies and dismisses others’ feelings Identifies as a victim Makes unreasonable demands Focuses on unfairness Envious and vengeful Holds a grudge Rage and contempt in private
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:33 PM
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Women aren't as horny as men. Literally, everyone knows this. It's not the fucking problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:29 PM
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I'm unclear why this would even happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:27 PM
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So it's a dumb scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:26 PM
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Again, still not seeing what is particularly scary. I never said anything about hitting. There's dozens of things to do before fucking hitting someone. Nobody has been able to describe what is so scary about this scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:26 PM
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Again, still unclear why this scenario is particularly scary to where the hypothetical bf is so scared.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:23 PM
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Guess we'll never know what is so scary about this scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:17 PM
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In this example, the bf didn't start shit. So again. I'm unclear what precisely is scary about this scenario that another man would be visibly scared. This father example sounds like a bully of a father. And has nothing to do with the example of the bf in the club.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:09 PM
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I'm confused why a man would be scared in this scenario. What exactly is scary?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:58 PM
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I'll do it myself Exactly. I've had my ass smacked in clubs before. I always smack back. Keep your hands to your mother fuckin self and you won't be brought to your knees by a woman. Still don't know what's so scary about this hypothetical man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:43 PM
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Be curious about why a bear is slapping my ass in the first place. And then probably roll over and go back to sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:24 PM
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Oh, that's a cute response.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:19 PM
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Idk it's probably similar to how dudes approach it. There's not a specific formula or equation. Some guys you just want sex with. Some guys you want relationships with. even though the latter get to experience sex with you in a more unconditional, equal, and visceral form? What? Are you suggesting that causal sex is more visceral than sex in a LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:17 PM
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Yes I'm not sure I would either. Like he's incapable of getting security? Or he's "scared"? Like what? Scared of what? They always make up the silliest scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:12 PM
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What a silly scenario. its clear as a day that your man was scared. This would be concerning. What's scary about this scenario? The man, is the man scary? Because if the man is so scary, then you understand why women chose the bear. 🐻 Would you find it hot if he punched his face in like a g? No, violence isn't hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:11 PM
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Easy A, Superbad, Can't Buy Love, etc. There's plenty of movies and TV shows that depict this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:30 AM
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Right? Like I'm not getting frost bite in my kitchen.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 09:08 PM
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Most women live in homes, not out in the woods....so independent and build a castle that you have to defend and maintain on your own,just get married be a princess and live a soft life. Or just enjoying whatever home you have and give yourself the soft life. No man necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:57 PM
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Where are you working that you're discussing sex lives with coworkers? This seems very specific to either all young coworkers or industry specific (clubs, restaurants, etc). Not particularly common.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:39 PM
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I have no idea. Depends on how his dating app is set up. Does he have good pictures? Is his profile interesting? Did he have good banter when first connecting?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:30 PM
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Idk how I would even know my female coworkers are celibate or virgins...... People assume single women can work more because they don't have a spouse or children. As if that's the only way to have a thriving social life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:58 PM
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Ya...poor pictures can make someone look way less attractive. The dance class is an example of how having a wide social network creates better opportunities than OLD. It seems they get their cues from what works for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:59 PM
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Oh I thought of more... Real-life experience is key. Don't build your entire worldview based off shit you see online. Charlatans are gonna grift. Take advice from married couples or people who are in long term relationships. Don't take advice from single men who aren't in relationships. Offline is where the magic happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:44 PM
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Drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:34 PM
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Is it? Maybe I've just done too many non sex acts in a Porta potty, too, assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:30 PM
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That's a wild ass accusation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:08 PM
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The neighborhood nice guy isn't interested in "more women". That's the whole point. A slutty man isn't appealing to women. Unless that woman is looking for a slutty man for the evening. I never suggested your experience weren't real. I was asking if that specific example was fictional. And you still haven't answered that so I'll assume it was. Yes in both the booty call and the friendzone both examples are self made prisons.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:05 PM
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What a wild ass scenario. Idk what there is to bring up. You: "Mom, I saw you go into a porta potty with a dude at Music Festival?" Mom: "Huh? Oh that was Trevor, our coke dealer. I found out I was pregnant with you that next week. Sorry hun. You got coke for brains."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:53 PM
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Nothing learned. Nothing gained.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:47 PM
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Genuinely nice, yes. "I'm a nice guy", no.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:46 PM
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Putting timeline expectations is a recipe for disaster. Don't take response times personally. Our phones are on us constantly, which doesn't mean our minds are ready to engage. Even besties get left on read. If dating feels like work. Take a break. Focus on a hobby on something, date yourself for a month. Not everyone can articulate why... sometimes it's just "no".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:45 PM
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Maybe. I've dated men who don't have casual sex. So I'm not sure I agree. And plenty of men who have casual sex are unable to have relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:39 PM
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Okay, cool. I don't think most women would have sex or a relationship or marriage with someone just because they are nice. They'd probably prefer to remain single. Great talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:38 PM
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To clarify, I still think it's "extremely uncommon".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:36 PM
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I guess causal sex is a win if you're not capable of anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:28 PM
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So, it's extremely uncommon. Thanks for confirming! Eta : for consistency
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:25 PM
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Women enjoy sex. Good for them. How is this shocking in 2024?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:10 PM
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The truth? Some people are different from other people? No. I don't need your photos for "proof."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:08 PM
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Thanks for that additional context. I'll rephrase my question: Does anyone use "nice" as a singular reason for engaging with another in the sexual marketplace?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:06 PM
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And I've experienced it myself, and I'm sure tons of other women here have experienced the woman choosing the nice guy over the mean guy. Well, good for you, I guess. If you think you're successful "with women", kudos! Yes, women also have friends, and we can see the types of men they go for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:00 PM
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I never said I didn't know what it meant. Yes, women are attracted to caring and empathy. Women do like nice guys. Women don't like boring guys or guys who use niceness to manipulate. because they were lied to. They should be mad at their parents for lying to them. Pretending to be nice to get sex or relationships isn't a method of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:56 PM
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Lol. I'm good on your "pics".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:52 PM
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I'm responding to your words. Maybe you could expand your response. You used "sexual marketplace", does that not mean sex? If not, your statement should include a definition of "sexual marketplace" we can all understand. You said rewarded for being nice on the sexual marketplace. You didn't include any other traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:52 PM
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Yes, I dismiss many "scientific" articles from here because they are either outdated or have questionable methodology. When something of quality comes along, my opinions are changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:47 PM
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Because I'm responding to a comment about the "sexual marketplace". And you responded to that comment. I don't consider fuckbois to be "killing it". And I'd suspect the women they go after aren't "nice". It's just a fuckery of trauma. Nobody is winning. No, I don't think they have eyes here. Because there's only fictional, fantastical, and online examples. There's no real lived experiences, only the experiences of others. The friendzone didn't exist. It's yet another self made prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:45 PM
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I used the same words you did. Women also would choose the nice one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:41 PM
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I never suggested they didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:39 PM
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keep fucking around with violent criminals because they make tingles tingle. Is this an extremely uncommon example. Do you have anything more mainstream or average? Just don't read sob lectures to preschoolers about how it was everyone else's fault when you hit 40. What are you referring to here? Is this a fictional or fantasy example? If currently women started having sex with men completely regardless of how nice or not-nice those men are, it would have been a progress Um.... no.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:37 PM
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are seen as "nice", Okay, but that's not actually nice. That's "nice" because they are "attractive"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:00 PM
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Oooh, "the dark triad" sounds like a villain in season 3. So scary. Pardon me if I apply critical thinking and other knowledge, and I don't simply take this silly article as the cornerstone for my entire life. Some do, some don't, it's really not that common in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:58 PM
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College campuses have historically always been a place for protests. I got a diploma AND waffled around a protest.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:43 PM
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Young and dumb or wise and experienced? Neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:38 PM
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I know most boys here where don't know this because they don't have those traits, and their only frame of reference is someone else's experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:36 PM
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Some men here seem to think that feminism is why they are having trouble dating. At what point do these men turn inwards and have some accountability? Some of these dudes wouldn't have been chosen in 1830s, 1950s, 2002. There's always been duds who couldn't get a crumb. Way before feminism too. Lemon laws. 🍋
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:34 PM
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Oh, what does it say? Please enlighten me?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:30 PM
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Again, WHO is having sex with women because they are nice? Whoever is doing it shouldn't expect everyone else to have sex with someone simply because they claim to be nice. Women are attracted to caring and empathy traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:29 PM
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not necessarily attractive or your type, would you seek relationships more No. I'm not interested in relationships where I'm not attracted to the person. Nobody should be interested in a relationship where they aren't attracted to the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:22 PM
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In my experience, nice guys finish first. And nice girls also finish first. Actual nice guys have no issues or challenges dating. Guys who aren't nice are the ones calling themselves "nice guys". And those are on the ones never finishing or finishing last. Nobody wants a guy who pretends to be nice. Idk about women. I can't say that I've seen a woman act nice for sex the same way that men pretend. The cliché is specifically about men for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:20 PM
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Who rewards women with sex for being nice? Why, as a woman, would I have sex with a man simply because he's nice?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:17 PM
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They think it's a smooth opening line and that she'll reply back.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 11:25 PM
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Being short isn't the issue either. She was looking forward to her date with a 5'9 guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 11:24 PM
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Exactly. It tells me more about them and how they're likely to be always wondering and never trusting. Which I suppose is their right. I just don't want to deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 11:15 PM
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Alright, cool story. Thanks for solving that puzzle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:58 PM
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Nope. I was out in nature with predators. Makes sense someone would say, "what was she doing all alone in the woods?" It's a question about my motives or state of mind. Saying that I should have worn different clothes is blaming me for the behavior of the wild animal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:35 PM
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tech-y Reddit bros. The real betas.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:31 PM
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That's fine. Because I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:30 PM
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I'd pick and species of bear. If my skin is ripped off and my arms crushed the only person who has to deal with that is me. See you at the funeral.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:27 PM
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Or they'll take two of the same opinions and say, "ALL WOMEN ACT LIKE THIS".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:25 PM
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Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:24 PM
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Yes, it's called self-improvement to improve oneself. Most men don’t. Sucks for them. Maybe if they focused on doing it for themselves, they might have better luck romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:24 PM
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All of this. I find it useless. If you find it different, go for it. Doesn't impact me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:23 PM
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Exactly. They just keep reinforcing why they are alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:20 PM
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Most women improve for themselves. It's why it's called "self improvement".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:19 PM
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I fear they will whine about this for decades to come. They are upset about not being chosen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:16 PM
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Shakespeare has far more depth in his characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:13 PM
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Awesome. Good for you. Doesn't change the fact that you keep bringing up the bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:13 PM
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What self-improvement are women doing that they said isn't for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:11 PM
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Wow, 2 short stories in 1 day. You're like a budding Ernest Hemingway. In this story, Billy should have more self-respect. What a loser waiting over a decade for a woman who doesn't know his name? Lol. Lu-who-ser.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:10 PM
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Yes, we know bears are dangerous. Seems like even with this knowledge, many women choose the bear. If a bear kills me, nobody is gonna say, "she should have worn different clothing. She was dressed like she was asking for it."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:01 PM
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Women in this sub, aren't the ones bringing it up over and over and over again. Are you a woman? Because you just brought it up again. I've been on Tiktok multiple times today. Haven't seen a single video about it. Yes, an online magazine writing about days of pop culture. If Glamour is writing about it, it's definitely time to stop talking about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:56 PM
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Nope. Just know the stats and would still choose bear. And that's my choice. I'm not sure why it bothers so many. If I die because I choose the bear, that's on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:50 PM
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He will investigate Good luck, have fun. he believes you are promiscuous he simply won't take you seriously That's cool for you. Lucky me, I don't build my life around your beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:47 PM
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Stranger danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:44 PM
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So bored that you keep bringing it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:43 PM
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Still choosing the bear. 🐻 These stats don't change the outcome
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:39 PM
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that the good men (us) 😆😆😆😆 This was funny. I appreciate the laugh. I don't think of any of men up in arms about it are "good men".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:38 PM
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This is absolutely a revenge fantasy. the beta husband Doesn't exist because this scenario is fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:35 PM
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Awesome, oh wow, like totally freak me out, I mean, right on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:33 PM
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It doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:23 PM
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A fun dress or bottoms/top that makes you feel fun and confident. I hosted a soiree a few weeks ago and wore a polka dotted dress.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:21 PM
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Revenge Fantasy DGAF69
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:17 PM
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This is a cute short story. You should define the setting a bit more to tie it all together.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:14 PM
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Have I? How would you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:07 PM
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Their pay structure is quite crap. You don't get paid until the airplane door closes. I personally wouldn't want to do work that I wouldn't be paid for, ie greeting airline passengers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:06 PM
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I don't think I ever have. Maybe, but it didn't have any lasting impact. As for women? Maybe occasionally happens to those who engage in casual sex. I'm not sure why I should care, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:03 PM
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This also sounds like some folks here. Like if they can just convince us that body count matters or that they are nice guys, we'd finally see the truth. Also, congrats on getting out!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:57 PM
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Because it's hormones impairing our brains. Especially if there's a hormone imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:56 PM
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Caught where? Go back and read those comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:54 PM
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I said it was in your flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:52 PM
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Right? They crack me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:50 PM
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Me? 24? 😆😆😆😆😆 Nope, I never said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:48 PM
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It's so weird to be old enough to have friends with kids in high school and yet still young enough that some friends are having their first kid this summer.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:47 PM
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Makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:27 PM
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He's correct for calling out his so called friends. If having friends is "gay", then men have no right to complain about being lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:27 PM
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If you're a plain-looking and chubby woman earning 30-40k, what are the chances of a conventionally attractive man earning six figures choosing to commit to you People usually date in their own socioeconomic circles. Has nothing to do with so called "options". I don't want to be chosen for a lack of options, I want to be the special snowflake he chooses out of countless options, many of whom are more conventionally attractive and successful than myself, because I'm just so amazing and a deserve …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:25 PM
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Soo....what's your n count? Is your personal n count your threshold? Or do you demand that your romantic encounters have less than you? 🍆🍆🍆🍆🍆 Idk my n count. I don't care about my romantic encounters n counts. I do care about ensuring it's consensual and they they know their likes + dislikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:07 PM
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Uh huh. I'm sure this story happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 06:12 PM
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I don't make the thread. Mods made weekly threads to discuss recurring topics. I'm just engaging with this week's topic. I'll engage with next week's topic, too. Still don't understand how, "it matters".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:57 PM
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Why does me engaging in a conversation with a different claim than you mean it matters? What does "it matters", even mean? Matter how? I just don't like what? Your claims? I'm not obligated to like your opinions. Where's the dedicated threads about the sky being red? There's probably some r/sunset subs. Sky turns various colors every day when the sun sets.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:48 PM
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Why does it bother you that I don't think it matters? Do you really think that because I'm countering your claims (it does matter) that somehow it matters? That doesn't even make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:25 PM
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What the fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:23 PM
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Lol. I'm sure it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:55 PM
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Points for acknowledging the slutty. I was slutty too but didn't have a rep. Stealth slut. 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:50 PM
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I wouldn't count this as slutty. It seems like open and honest intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:44 PM
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I'm not really sure how this analogy tracks. But go ahead and try it out and report back. I've only ever asked after I've had sex with a girl Quickest way to get a woman to never have sex with you again.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:28 PM
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Women aren't stressed. The men who are taking it way to personally are stressed, upset, and acting out. Women have moved on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:17 PM
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So you had a conversation with a "friend" who you didn't like her point so you verbally attacked and tore down your "friend". I hope she ended the friendship. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who throws taking a fucking a sick in your face. Nothing about what you did to your "friend" was logical. It was absolutely emotionally manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:15 PM
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Birds of a feather. People who have similar experiences tend to be friends with others who have similar experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:12 PM
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“I need a man who will support me when I step away from work to be with kids Was done in the 90s. This isn't new. You previously called it "mat leave". Do you think maternity leave stopped? Princess treatment; Why does women being treated well upset so many men? simping Why do other men's actions bother so many men? getting flown out, Again, why does this bother you? only fans Sex work was around in the 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:11 PM
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My life isn't a fairytale. It's pretty great, though. And that seems to upset men who are angry they are alone. It's not my problem. Stay mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:07 PM
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That doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:04 PM
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Lol. That's cute. I love when online strangers tell me about my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:02 PM
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Lol. If thinking that makes you feel better. It just makes men sound like little children incapable of making their own choices. If that's how you view men, go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:00 PM
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It's 2024 and everything is an app. Imagine the dating app as a virtual bar/party/club. You get enough visual information to determine if you want to speak with them. Just like at a bar, that person is a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 06:10 AM
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Oh no. Poor thing. That's tragic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 03:55 AM
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Lol. Too fucking funny. I appreciate the laughs. It's good for the soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 03:47 AM
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If a guy has 0 feelings and is asking my body count, that's weird as fuck. Not insecure just fucking weird. Agreed, making wild conclusions is a very low IQ take.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 03:31 AM
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Lol. Never had issues or challenges being in a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 02:29 AM
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You're forgiven. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 02:19 AM
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I'm not bragging about getting dicked down. I responded to your comment saying that I can get dicked down and post on Reddit. Apparently, you think it can only be one or the other. Which honestly tracks. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 02:13 AM
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Yes, I don't read them. I'll look at methodology and measurements. And then determine if it's worth reading. Of the maybe 2, I've read, I haven't found them compelling enough to build an entire world view around or to hold a candle to lived experience. I'm always on the lookout for compelling data to challenge my views.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 02:10 AM
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Really bad? Lol. Definitely gonna change my whole perspective off "really bad". recylcing works, cause youre still breaking the bond with one partner to make new one. Recycling means having sex with an ex instead of a new guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 02:05 AM
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I agree that shared values and morals are key. Seems like most people here just want to complain and attack a specific sex to feel better about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 01:17 AM
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Never said I was trying to be assertive. I don't think my action of choice is unique. Just my actions. It's not off limits. It's not important. Do I enjoy discussing it online and seeing how much it upsets some men? Yup. I don't live my life to make sense for you. I don't really care if my actions don't make sense to you. I don't cook. And what am I supposed to be killing? Ps you're the one who responded to me, seemingly upset that I would end a conversation with someone who asked, "what's your …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 01:09 AM
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No, I would have laughed when the question was asked. And then end the conversation. You guys are hilarious. We're just talking about me here. Care to share what is hilarious about my exercising my right to end a conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:42 AM
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I'd assume you should be more worried about him deadbedrooming you since you're on reddit all day Aw cute that you don't think you can be dicked down and on Reddit. Must only be one or the other. As I assumed, there's no real data on pair bonding. I am shocked that you're okay with recycling previous partners aka a harem. I thought it would be okay with men but a no go for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:40 AM
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No, I'll end a conversation because it's an indicator of insecurities. I don't have time to entertain an insecure man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:36 AM
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I'm still waiting for what that has to do with feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:24 AM
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Well, none of that advances feminism. None of that has anything to do with feminism. You're just living an existence that men have been living. There's nothing inherently celebratory about that. I'm so baffled why you keep trying to connect you doing regular adult things to feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:16 AM
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Cool. I said being celibate isn't ADVANCING feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:09 AM
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A single celibate man is advancing feminism This isn't actively advancing feminism....
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:06 AM
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Especially the men here. They write entire posts about one specific woman and say that all women are that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:53 PM
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that if a pretty girl with 20 bodies showed interest in dating the men here I think that girl has too many options to be at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:52 PM
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My current burning questions.... 💕 at what point is "pair bonding" unachievable? 🍆 at what point in my marriage will I find my husband unattractive or create a dead bedroom or cheat because I was promiscuous? ♻️ is recycling previous partners better than getting new ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:51 PM
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I asked my husband, and he looked at me like I had three heads. And he's a car guy. You'd think he would do this. But nope, he doesn't and he's never discussed similarly with his friends / in locker rooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:34 PM
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It does. Men here talk poorly about women all the time. I don't take it personally. Men attempt to shame or insult me here all the time. I'm not taking it personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:09 PM
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That's cool. I'm not gonna build my whole life around what some dude might do. And frankly, if a man ever asked, I'd laugh in his face and end the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 10:20 PM
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Yes, agreed. If someone suggests alcohol, I'm assuming they are hoping to get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:18 PM
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Yes, same. I've never been asked or even talked about it. My favorite is the hypocrites. The ones who have sex with "promiscuous women" and then think they are somehow qualified to a non promiscuous woman. And their definition of promiscuous is like 3 people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:14 PM
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Thank you for that clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:09 PM
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I did and still had those questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:01 PM
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That's something you should process on your own. It's not up to women or society to help someone process things that aren't personal and they took personally. Journal out your feelings. Talk to a therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:58 PM
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Depends on their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:57 PM
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"Don't take things personally." - The Four Agreements People talking about men doesn't mean they are specifically talking about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:55 PM
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So you want applause on a societal scale for not oppressing women? Seems kinda oppression-y to demand that women praise you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:50 PM
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single, celibate man who lives with his parents and has a steady job is very unlikely to be celebrated by feminism Why should this be celebrated by feminism? whereas a chronically dating, high body count woman who lives alone and does onlyfans is generally going to be very celebrated by feminism as strong and independent Yes, this makes sense that it is celebrated by feminism. The whole point of feminism is for women to choose to live whatever life they want. Feminism would also celebrate the wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:49 PM
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A recruit? Lol. I'm not wallowing. I'm laughing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:47 PM
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To me, it seems insecure and rooted in jealousy to think that 4-5 sex encounters is SLUTTY OR PROMISCUOUS. Makes me giggle because it just reads so insecure. Good luck, hope this car dealership approach works for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:46 PM
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I'm curious how many men agreeing are single. Seems like the men who care the most about "promiscuous women are undesirable" are single men that aforementioned women wouldn't even look at. It just reads like jealousy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:39 PM
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So it 6 what made Vicky a slut? Maybe it was 7? 10? At what point does mythical Vicky become a slut?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:30 PM
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Those are your expectations. I was asking how society or half the population should show respect to some random dude who has a job, is single, celibate and lives at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:20 PM
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Promiscuous women are desirable, just not for relationships According to whom? PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:15 PM
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Men look at dating like a car dealership. Sucks for them. They are just gonna be matched with this energy. Guys who think like this can handle the consequences of their own actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:13 PM
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Why isn’t this a lifestyle that gets respect? Where or how should respect be shown? I have no thoughts about this guy. Why should I, as a woman, think about this dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:05 PM
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I wouldn't be in a relationship we're someone felt like they were settling. There wouldn't be anything to leave because I wouldn't even begin a relationship to begin with. I'm not sure why this concept is so difficult to grasp. I wouldn't be happy in a relationship where someone felt like they were settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 07:45 PM
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I suppose godlike in that there are men who worship us. All attractive women work in some capacity, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:35 PM
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I wouldn't have guessed you're 24, so I suppose we are even in our judgments.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:33 PM
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When did I say anyone has a high paying job? I said he doesn't have childcare expenses, so he's got a bit more money to spend on himself. Neither of us makes 6 figures, what I consider high paying. We do have higher than average incomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:32 PM
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I know, went to college and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:28 PM
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Use words.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:23 PM
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We're not having kids. His benefits include doing whatever the fuck he wants, when he wants and not being tethered to the schedule or needs of a child. He's also got money to spend on whatever he desires. He gets to sleep in on weekends and stay up as late as he wants. He has someone to build a life with and have fun adventures. Those are just a few benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:19 PM
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Already done.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:10 PM
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of us focusing on your emotional reaction to the idea of if he hypothetically settled for you. Maybe don't focus on the emotions of someone via a text-based medium. You're bound to be incorrect about the emotions. Like you are in this case. Can we please focus on why you would be resistant or react negatively if he did settle for you and you weren’t his idealized/dream perfect woman manifested in real life. Because I wouldn't be in a position to react negatively. There's nothing to react to. why…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:09 PM
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If you aren't a strange man, you shouldn't take offense. If a man is taking offense about a hypothetical scenario, one could assume that man is precisely the man they are referring to in the hypothetical. Men make blanket statements about women here all the time. I don't ever think they are talking about me, despite me being a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:01 PM
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Uh huh. It's minimal compared to male on women sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:59 PM
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Nobody thinks bears rape women. Bear over man. Woman over bear. Stay mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:59 PM
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If you feel he always dreamed of being with a 38 year old woman and that’s always been his dream. Lol. What? If that’s what you believe. That’s what you believe. Lemme guess, you know the truth. Why would it matter IF he settled for you and you are not his dream and idealized perfect woman he had unlimited desire for? Yes, we wouldn't have made it past the first date if he felt he was settling or that I wasn't his "dream or idealized perfect woman he had unlimited desire for". his dream and idea…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:58 PM
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Weird that you assume women are calling you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:54 PM
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The chances of a woman raping another woman is minimal in comparison to a man. You're right, bears don't rape women. That's the whole point. Between bear and woman, I think most women could pick woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:53 PM
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How? Magazines, movies, TV shows, friends, real-life trial and error.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:50 PM
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Yes. Nobody ever suggested that the average man is a rapist. The scenario suggests that if you're alone in the woods, a woman would rather encounter a bear than a strange man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:49 PM
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He didn't settle. I am his dream idealization of the perfect woman that he desires. Hence, why we are married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:47 PM
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I need therapy to understand your claim that you can't explain? It's quite normal. It's been done for centuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:45 PM
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Rape is the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:44 PM
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Nobody is talking about you personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:42 PM
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What's hilarious is the men rabidly upset that they still aren't chosen over a hypothetical scenario involving a bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:42 PM
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Absolutely, women have the same capacity for violence. All humans have the capacity for violence. Violence isn't the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:40 PM
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There's no fucking way these women truly, in their heart of hearts, think it's better to meet a bear in the woods than a random man. Yes, we truly do. I'm unclear how women having a similar experience and choice is the same as non-player character.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:38 PM
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Okay and? I'm still not sure why some men are taking it personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:36 PM
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I hate the idiocy of women. Care to explain? The choosing the bear scenario doesn't show anything about idiocy of women. but women keep making it so hard to do so. How do all women do this to you specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:33 PM
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Idk why some men are so upset about this. It's like they are taking it personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:28 PM
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The meme All got it. Fantasy and myths.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:05 PM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:03 PM
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A man we like and respect who likes and respects us back.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:59 PM
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A man we like and respect who likes and respects us back.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:58 PM
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it shows that men are settling for "older" women who they are inherently less attracted to. We got married at 38. I guess he's settled with me, an older woman, he's not attracted to. How tragic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:54 PM
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Wait, why is someone having sex if they don't want to ?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:48 PM
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I never had friends on that list. Exes and FWB were great for recycling. ♻️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:32 PM
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Who is offended? I'm just asking how to "keep a man"? It sounded like you knew. Guess you don't actually know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:28 PM
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So if a woman wants to fuck a man, that man is a slut? I'd presume most people have had sex. Not sure that's really playing the field.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:27 PM
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Oh really? What does it say?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:15 PM
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Yes, women are learning about pleasure for the male body.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:14 PM
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Ooh I love dining out alone at a fancy restaurant.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:13 PM
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No idea what that even means.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:00 PM
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Umm.. it's not 1865. Women learn about male anatomy. 🙄 Yes, they do learn techniques to please a man. Women have to learn to flirt and escalate (or not).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:57 PM
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I'm not trying to diagnose you with anything. I'm saying the world has suffered trauma. And we're really only beginning to see how that trauma plays out. And that trauma will continue to play out in a variety of ways for the next 1-2 decades on many individual and societal levels. Everything is trauma. Some are bigger or smaller. But a pandemic, a parent nearly dying, those are all forms of trauma. In the context of dating? Trauma could lead to apathy, depression, lack of socializing, not seeing…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:56 PM
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why people think the pandemic has such a lasting affect on peoples dating lives Because that's how trauma works. I lost my job and my mum almost died from covid but it didn’t impact my dating life because it’s two entirely different kettle of fish. I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, our individual experiences with trauma aren't a barometer for everyone else. And frankly, I'm willing to be my left ovary that you indeed have traumas due to what you've shared. And yes, it will impact your datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:48 PM
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Women don't learn sex or how to be conversational? What do men have to learn to do that women don't? Please be specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:43 PM
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How do you "keep a man"? Is it like keeping a plant?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:42 PM
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How do you spot a slutty man? Is it on his attire? His vibe? How he talks? How quickly he pressures you for sex? I've found you can always spot a slutty man by the way he brags, the way he pressures for sex, or his constant need for validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:40 PM
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Because that's for trauma works. I'm still waiting to hear how old these kids are and why we're are pressuring them to have as much causal sex as previous generations?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:38 PM
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Again, what are the ages we're talking about here? I have a hard time putting sexual expectations on an entire sub generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:37 PM
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Nope. Too much choice just means more time to figure out what I really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:30 PM
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Yes. I'm going to feel for any wife who is cheated on. If a husband cheats, he's a coward. If a wife cheats, she's a coward. Get a divorce. It's really that fucking simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:28 PM
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I'd agree with this sentiment. Seems the ones complaining the most have the least experience and the least desire to try something new or different.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:26 PM
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How old are these people you're referring to? A massive part of Gen Z isn't having sex at all. I'd imagine a pandemic impacted this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:24 PM
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Idk what "feeling feminine" even means. I don't need to paint my nails or wear lipstick to feel feminine. And I don't think doing my best at something is inherent masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:14 PM
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This sounds like you want validation from "some other girl". Doesn't sound like someone who should get married or being in a LTR. Maybe polyamory or open relationships suits this validation seeker better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:56 AM
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I'm saying that people don't fuck strange bartenders in alleys. Your formula doesn't even make sense. Good try, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:07 AM
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while I agree your partner can't satisfy EVERYTHING Um.. why not? IMO, a man needs variety Variety of what?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:05 AM
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What are the other ways? I don't think sex in an alley is a representative example. I've only seen that in movies/TV.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:58 AM
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That's a typical situation? Alley sex? Does she already know the bartender? Was the bartender on break? It's measured by the time between rejecting someone and having sex with someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:49 AM
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How would this be calculated?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:07 AM
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What's the frequency?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:38 AM
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I believe couples bond. I don't believe there's a limit on how many times someone can bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 10:02 PM
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It's 15+ years old. It's hardly relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:58 PM
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Simply put, "pair bond" doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:56 PM
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That's a blog post. From 15 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:56 PM
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Right. Have your personal preferences. But why insult women in the process and imply that someone can't be in a relationship because they made choices your personal preferences don't like?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:54 PM
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What studies? Religious studies?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:53 PM
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What's not sustainable? Choices to be single or not? A mother or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:51 PM
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And what's that? Seeks like there's all the talk about these women. But are these women even interested in the men who claim they don't want them for a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:51 PM
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At what point does previous sexual encounters make someone not valuable for a long-term relationship? Is this a personal preference or one that is well known and enforced by society?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:46 PM
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Lol. No, it really doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 06:44 PM
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Validity, authority, methodology, replication, etc. Mostly, though, lived experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 06:24 PM
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Now believing that you´re perfect and that your only flaw is picking wrong men is being 100% delusional. I've never met a single woman who acts like this. I'm not convinced this actually happens. Women do the same things you did. to believe adult ppdwomen think they were able to put their bias, childhoold trauma, ego, etc... aside and all of their issues came from the men they chose is being braindead delusional. Who here believes this?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 06:23 PM
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It's not compelling enough data for me to build a world view around it. If you want to live your life by the data, go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:52 PM
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None of what you quoted said, "it's his fault". If she had said this somewhere where he could read it, would you consider it abusive then? No. Not finding pleasure in sex isn't abuse. Bffr.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:49 PM
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In high school, we called those guys "Monets" . Cute from afar, but not so much when you get closer. Anyway, good luck in your celibacy! Hope it brings you the satisfaction that you're seeking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:46 PM
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The wife, in this scenario, definitely has some issues. Wouldn't call it abuse. But I'd certainly support my partner in figuring out what the issues are.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:41 PM
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Alrighty then. Good luck to you! I hope this thinking works out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:35 PM
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Alrighty then. Good luck to you! I hope this thinking works out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:34 PM
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All those comments and still no answers for what accountability looks like for women. Delusional indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:15 PM
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No, they aren't impressed. They are just horny and he's an easy himbo.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:08 PM
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Yes, they are. Just like pick me, women are swimming in dick. You can't be both. The man described by OP is absolutely a pick me. There's nothing high value about a man with 20k+ IG followers.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:07 PM
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Its over for womanlets Finally. Some peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:00 PM
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Having sex with someone doesn't mean you're interested really.... Idk if men want to place their value on how many women they have sexs with, go for it. Don't expect women to also be impressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:59 PM
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A bot.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:31 PM
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Wouldn't occur to me to think anything about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:30 PM
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That's not what a pick me. A pick me is a slutty man "swimming in pussy". Or a woman desperate to be picked and probably swimming in dick. Jessica Alba 43 is married. Ana de Armas is 35 and divorced. Do you want to try different examples? OP used 20k IG followers as the metric for high value. Jessica Alba and Ana de Armas are far higher than "soft celebrity" example.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:18 PM
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What are you trying to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:08 PM
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Women aren't interested in some dude who is "swimming in pussy". HTH.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:08 PM
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Nobody cares. That's the point. Only other dudes care that some random guy is "swimming in pussy". Dudes care. What a silly way to determine your value. Pathetic really.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:01 PM
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Swimming in pussy is only high value to dudes. No woman finds that "high value".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:55 PM
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There's nothing wrong with this dude's face. This is an average attractive male.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:53 PM
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Or just enjoy the university for the experience and stop stressing about losing your virginity. Join some clubs, make friends, make memories, and the rest will follow. Maybe try growing a beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:53 PM
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Their method of choice is often more violent than women's. They refuse to seek help, unlike women who seek support.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:50 PM
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High Value Man = Has a lot of women interested in him Ick. Sounds like a pick me man. Not anything of value, let alone high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:48 PM
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High Value Man = Has a lot of women interested in him Ick. Sounds like a pick me man. Not anything of value, let alone high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:48 PM
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Option C: fathers who abandoned their kids are ruining society.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:41 PM
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genuine 20k+ on Instagram as a sole Person can be labeled "high status." Lol. That's not high status. lets see who can get more laid in 30 days, we will measure Women aren't impressed by this. The slutty "soft celebrity" example would be a turn-off for most women. I don't understand the obsession with men you don't know having sex with women you'll never meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:40 PM
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"I know you're a naive young woman, but if you don't prioritize being a wife and homemaker you will die alone in a big sad empty house." This is a fear men have that they push on women. I've never heard of anything like this happening to women. But we hear it happening to men all the time. It's their greatest fear. Ladies, be 32, unmarried, and no kids. There's still plenty of time to get married and have kids, if that's what you choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:38 PM
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MIT has 30% virgins compares to Average College with 15% virgin. Cool. And?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:35 PM
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My comment answers this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:32 PM
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Lol. 2 to 78. Always such wild ass ranges. People really think women are sitting around remembering sex of yore. It's got nothing to do with "too high". And everything to do with the passage of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:31 PM
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The same blog post? Lol. That's cool. Pardon me if I don't build my whole life around blog content.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:29 PM
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Yes, as I said, men are looking all the time. Women aren't. So it makes sense that a man would have an easier time finding another man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:27 PM
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Yes, women consider more factors than looks. No surprise. Women don't find men attractive most of the time because we're not looking for men most of the time. Men, on the other hand, are always looking. Always ready. Doesn't mean women are only going after some undefined 20% of men. It's a silly made-up conclusion for clicks and views. It's nonsense and not something to build a world view around.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 02:52 AM
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I'm just trying to figure out what exactly women should be held accountable for. Haven't been able to get an actual answer. If you don't blame women for almost anything, than what do women need to be accountable for? Still no examples. These conversations are pointless because nothing concrete is shared. Just more smoke and mirrors.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:52 AM
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Doesn't really seem like lives are improved given the topics of this sub and RP charlatans. Maybe if it improved their lives, there wouldn't be a need to debate if RP even works.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:48 AM
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Intelligence is very sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:35 AM
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Blame women for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:33 AM
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How are you able to see women do this on a societal scale? Because I see women do it all the time over the course of their dating years.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:09 AM
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The PPL is cracking me up. And yes, we all try every day. They won't believe us. No matter how many times we try and tell them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:07 AM
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I read them in Dexter's voice. Which is probably more of a disservice to Dexter.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:04 AM
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I'm still just trying to figure out what exactly folks say when they say "women should be accountable". Nobody has been able to answer it. Guess, it isn't that much of an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:58 AM
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What does taking accountability for picking toxic men look like? Again, this whole thread has been asking for examples of accountability. And still.... nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:50 AM
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Intimacy closers?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:46 AM
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I sleep just fine. Thanks for your concern. Still curious to know how other people's opinions impact me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:46 AM
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No shit?! Omg. This makes it 100000x times worse to cling to. How embarrassing. I can't stop laughing. Oh wow. Imagine building a whole identity off a BLOG POST. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:44 AM
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Lol. No pal. I don't care how I appear to you or other people. What are those other people going to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:42 AM
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Always Be Closing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:30 AM
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Sounds like the female streamer is creating content for clicks and views. Can't say I'm going to presume that any or all women do this. Also if a woman can't even remember her number then it's probably safe to assume its too high for the guys who care about it. Or one can assume the woman doesn't remember because it's been 5,10,15, or 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:23 AM
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I've dated lots of men who are smarter in various different subjects. Never had any problems. I've had problems with men who think they are smarter or men who say that they are smarter despite knowing nothing about my areas of expertise. Oh, and problems with men being condescending trying to imply they are smarter.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:21 AM
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Some online dating study that is like 10+ years old. Nonsense. And they cling to it like it's the Titanic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:19 AM
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They can be happy with a great man. Any man can be a great man in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:18 AM
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This is what I've always wondered. After 20+ years, I've forgotten more than a few. 🤣🤣 Seems like some of these guys think that women keep diaries and rate men accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:15 AM
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Sucks for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:53 PM
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Well, it's not an epidemic. It's mostly self caused. And something that is solved on an individual level.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:43 PM
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You couldn't upset me if you tried. I was returning your joshing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:39 PM
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Good luck! Don't be afraid to follow up with a suggested time/place for the next date. If you're both into anime, is there a local exhibition or book signing or store or whatever to check out together.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:33 PM
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Okay. Cool. I'm so very glad to have your approval. Thank goodness.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:32 PM
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Yes, my husband's 5'11 stature is a status symbol. Gets me all sorts of perks. I can't describe what those perks are, but I've been told there are many.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:26 PM
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If she's a fan, no idea what the problem is. Two people talking about a mutual interest is a good sign. Are there plans for another date?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:25 PM
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Honestly, it's not a new phenomenon. The whole "bounce back" concept or pressure for new moms to be back down to baby weight. The same concept of Hilary Duff looking good at 35 with multiple kids. There's still so much disgust towards women while pregnant, after pregnancy, as a mom, after 30, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:04 PM
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How should women show empathy towards men?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:00 PM
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Almost 700 comments and I've come to this conclusion.... Men just want women to not complain. Men can complain, but women can't. And women must say, "it is all my fault". Oh and women are not allowed to leave unhappy relationships. Ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:59 PM
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Such as? I'm looking for specifics for ways to for women to be accountable for men's issues. What does this look like in your perspective?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:46 PM
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Yes, I was specifically talking about me. And then you told me I was lying. I was still talking about me. Just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:40 PM
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No, idea that's my metric of a "slut". That's my definition of "many". I don't find 10, 20, or even 50 to be "many". Triple digits....that is MANY.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:37 PM
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I don't care how I appear to others here. I don't care how I appear to strangers. I do care about how I appear to a very small subset of people, like my husband or my BFFs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:35 PM
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Ooh I like this metric. X in a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:34 PM
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Triple digits. More sex workers than not. Only ONS, FWB, etc. Cheaters. Can be all of the above, one of the above, combo of the above, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:32 PM
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What is "a male woman"?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:31 PM
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I read it. You don't believe that causal sex can be intimate despite saying sex is the most intimate act between two people. Clear as mud.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:08 PM
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What do women have to do with men's issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:59 PM
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Well, alright. That's certainly a way to think. Good luck to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:39 PM
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Well, sucks for them. Guess they'll have to narrow it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:35 PM
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Go for it. Set it up and have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:19 PM
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How should women be accountable for it being taboo to talk about men's issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 08:46 PM
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I'd love to see examples that are more defined than "something something". The first one seems like like a non gendered thing. People will test someone's knowledge on sports, fandoms, cars, whatever. If it's something specific to women, please be more detailed. Yes, women are socialized to be passive and not directly ask for their needs. This seems to be a growing improvement, women are asking for what they want than their mothers or grandmother did. 19 year olds, men or women, are dumb and shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 08:09 PM
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Okay, two fictional examples.... Women brush off men they aren't interested in. Big whoop. Move on and find one who is interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:39 PM
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So you can't answer my question? It should be a simple answer. I'm not surprised, but you'd think you'd have an elevator pitch down by now. Keeping working on it. Maybe one day you'll get there, and you can quickly retort what intimacy has to do with "body count."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:37 PM
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I have no motive to lie here. I don't care how I appear to others. So, there is no need to lie. If I don't enjoy something, I'll say so. If I enjoy something, I'll say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:33 PM
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Sounds very specific. Do you want all women to have accountability for that specific example? This example seems like a conversation in a relationship. Seems like a healthy communication style or at least working towards one. Or is this something that exes should say after the fact? How long after the fact? Otherwise, sure this sounds reasonable on an individual level. I've seen friends and media depict similar statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:09 PM
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Yes, please give the example we've been asking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:03 PM
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if you meet someone and vibe with them and spaces aren’t directly flying right off the bat (which isn’t a good thing btw, more often than not the adrenaline from trauma responses and the ‘love at first sight’ feeling feel be very similar if attraction is in the mix), give it a little bit of time. Explore around (under the assumption that yall vibe to some extent, obviously), and see if it goes somewhere. Sure, if you want to do this. Go for it. I'm glad you encourage others to do so. I don't, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:38 PM
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Yes people have the choice to be happy. If a relationship isn't a happy one or a fulfilling one, why should someone stay? People don't leave happy and fulfilling relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:34 PM
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Saying that your standards weren't high enough and you didn't love yourself enough is reflection on inadequacies. It means she also didn't hold herself to high enough standards. She didn't love herself enough to act or behave differently. Standards aren't just for the partner but yourself as well. Please describe what accountability looks to you? We keep asking for a description, but nobody can tell us what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:33 PM
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Yes, people have options. Why is this a problem? If someone doesn't fully fit your checklist, and it's important that they do, dump them and find someone who does. It seems your implying people should stay in relationships with the hopes that things change or evolve. “date anyone and see what happens”, Yes, do this. Exactly this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:21 PM
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Idk why some men think that you just meet one, and it's done. Are they time travelers from 1830s? It's such a fascinating romanticized notion of relationships. Hard to believe that are younger than Google.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:13 PM
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Why are women allowing themselves to get sucked into this whole “the next one will be better than the current guy I’m seeing” fallacy? Because the next one is usually better. Why? Because you get better at knowing what you want and what you won't put up with. Or maybe after seeing the current guy, they aren't actually interested in a LTR or anything with him. So they move on. Or maybe they just aren't interested. am constantly rejected from more serious relationships. Choose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:02 PM
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"I was too good for my exes" Another example of accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:21 PM
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didn't have high enough standards and didn't love yourself enough That's accountability. So next time, they'll raise their standards and love themselves enough to either stay single or find a great man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:01 PM
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Sex is the most intimate act, two people can share. And what does that have to do with "body count"? Is there a limited amount of intimacy someone can have? Is intimacy in limited resources? What does your comment have to do with "body count"?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:41 PM
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Well, more reason for men to stay single and nurture their friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:37 PM
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So... what is it that women are doing that they need to be accountable for? - Being the object of desire of men? Yes. They want women to be accountable for not choosing them. They can never actually describe what accountability looks like because the talking points never do. They just repeat the same 6 phrases. Like parrots.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:30 PM
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None of this is well known.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:21 AM
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My definition of success looks different.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:21 AM
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Awesome! Sounds good, man. Keep up the good work. Seems like it's working out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:59 AM
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I did answer, genuinely. Only one person knows, and that's you. Because you're the one who is ranking sexual partners to determine who is the best. What does my reply suggest? Do share.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:49 AM
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Lol. No, my sexual history hasn't impacted my relationships. You're the one defining "the best". Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:41 AM
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who have you shared the best sex of your life with? Only one person knows the answer to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:26 AM
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Hey if that's how you want to live your life. Go for it. Have fun and good luck! I hope you find what you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:18 AM
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The data does lie when it's misconstrued and conducted on slimey circumstances to begin with. Pardon me, if I don't find your "averages" to be accurate representation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:15 AM
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Never suggested that my previous relationships didn't. I suggested that my having sex hasn't impacted my long-term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:13 AM
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I got married. Haven't had any issues with long term relationships. Almost like the sex I had at 19 had zero impact on my future relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:54 PM
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Can you elaborate? Whose actions? Whose words? Mine? Yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:51 PM
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I act like I'm their daddy and not their equal which never used to happen in the past. 🤢 ick. I'm all about a good dick down. I'm dickmatized for sure. But he's my equal, not my parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:19 PM
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Well, you've got all the answers. I don't agree, but oh well. Good luck with your romantic endeavors!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:54 PM
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I've done it by myself. I'd rather ask for help.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:32 PM
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Joining a community actually would help the goal of getting a date. Chances are there's other "awkward ugly kids" involved, or people know who they could introduce you. People have always met through community.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:09 PM
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Sexually harassed, you're a bitch/stuck up, rich, no problems, face card solves everything, no traumas, always down for sex, seeking attention, dumb, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:22 PM
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Damn that's depressing. TIL, I've never desired a man in my life. What a crazy world. These kinds of thinking is a cage of your own making.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:15 PM
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Nope. Sounds like things he did in the past. He sounds well traveled and like a good friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:05 PM
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It's not inconsistent. Each human is different. There's nothing consistent about human interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 07:57 PM
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it just shows she's not as attracted to you and / or expects you to invest more to get what the other guy got cheaper or for free, No it doesn't. If you want to distill men down to just their penis. Go for it. It's clear women view men on much deeper levels then just sex. If someone desires oral sex and isn't getting oral sex, that is about sexual satisfaction. Oral sex isn't degrading.... You'd leave them because they did something you don't enjoy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 07:49 PM
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Unfortunately, I don't feel as though my questions were answered. If a woman was willing to sleep with her ex on the first date and expects you to wine and dine her, dump her This makes zero sense. This feels oddly competitive with the ex. This scenario has everything to do with the ex and feeling like you got exactly what they got. Like it's some kind of step by step order with each romantic encounter. I wonder how often this scenario actually occurs. If a guy was willing to give lots of oral s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 07:26 PM
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You don't need to describe previous sexual encounters to discuss boundaries. What exactly are they ranting about? Idk. You gotta ask people that actually have these conversations with their partners. Hopefully someone will answer. I think a lot of people care or curious about it but refuse to learn more about it because they're afraid of getting hurt by it. Getting hurt by what? That they had sex previously?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 07:05 PM
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What does that even mean? How would this look in conversations? I can't even imagine how this plays out. What would be done sexually in the past that tells me he's more liberal or generous sexually? Neither of us had sex with other people in the exact same order. I've never followed the same order for having sex with someone. It's different for each guy because he's a whole different human than any other guys. I'm confused how this is such a difficult concept to understand here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:56 PM
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How do you think women are affected by beauty standards for men? Yup, people with traumas and their own toxic behaviors find themselves in relationships that repeat traumas and toxic behaviors. Makes perfect sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:37 PM
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Beauty standards don't set my personal attraction standards. Women would rather be single than in an unfulfilling, boring, or toxic relationship. Plenty of average men are in relationships with their equally average women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:19 PM
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Why would anyone want the details of previous sexual encounters? What does it bring to the relationship? I don't care to know. Why should I care?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:15 PM
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I honestly didn't even think about what you would reply. I thought what you said was a great point and should be extended. Your example wasn't really comparable and was more fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:14 PM
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Yes, a prostitute from the Victorian era is gonna have a lot more than 20 sexual encounters over 5 years. STDs don't change the fact that prostitutes had far more than 20 sexual encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:11 PM
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Most men are unattractive. Has nothing to do with social media. I've never in my life walked around and found every single man attractive. There are just men. People. Whose attractiveness doesn't even hit my radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:09 PM
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"Held accountable" simply means that nobody should feel sorry for her. With this logic, no one should feel sorry for men who are lonely due to their choices of refusing friendships or refusing to build community or being hateful people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:03 PM
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I didn't replace anything. I asked for help.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:59 PM
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We know. It's why we pick the bear. And why we will do what we can to help another woman in danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:57 PM
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akin to punching yourself in the face and running around hoping others feel some type of way about it. Best description of most of the posts in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:55 PM
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Idk why I would care about a partner's sexual history. Like I don't want the details of his hookups. What would that bring me? How would it improve our relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:54 PM
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Lol. None of your points were proven. Good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:51 PM
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Dude, a prostitute from the Victorian era likely served 5-10 men per week. So easily 20 men in a month. Syphilis dementia doesn't develop until 10-25 years AFTER infection.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:49 PM
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Yes, beauty standards are unrealistic. Yes, some men are just ugly. So are some women. What works both ways? There was a media outlet who said Travis Kelcie had a dad bod and was fat. That's pretty unrealistic standards for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:23 PM
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No. Because there's not only 2 scholarships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:21 PM
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I didn't survive without them. I found new friends and community because I couldn't do it alone. Humans aren't meant to do things alone. Someone leaving isn't always a reflection of me. In fact, it's rarely a reflection of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:21 PM
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Men just want sex” According to posts here, men do just want sex. There was an entire post yesterday about "pump and dump". Men tell us constantly they only want sex. Men can’t do the bare minimum” It doesn't seem like some man can. They can't even treat their woman like a princess. Nobody bats an eye because men reinforce this by telling us were only good for the streets or that we don't deserve a happy marriage. These comments are just repeating what men tell us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:17 PM
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My dude prostitutes had sex with more than 20 people. Come on, be serious. The STDs are the same. Herbs were used as treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:14 PM
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Men haven't given up anything for women to have access to education.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:49 PM
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Have you ever lost everything? And lost all your friendships and support? And had to fend for yourself and figure everything on your own? Have you been in a position where you were useless/undesirable/adding no benefit to anybody? Ect ect Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:47 PM
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20? A prostitute? Lmao. That's too funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:38 PM
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Idk if they are in a port city or something probably comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:37 PM
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remedy the dating landscape, Remedy, what exactly? That some men haven't been picked? What economic and educational advantages have been given up? Men would rather play the victim rather than acknowledge or give up their advantages.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:36 PM
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Pal, I'm not basing my world views on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:28 PM
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Are people who have never had to be on their own (fully). Or people who have never had to overcome their emotions to survive/succeed. Or people who never had everybody in their life leave them to fend for themselves emotionally/physically/mentally. I've experienced this. As have most women I know. It's why we value our friendships and community so much. We know the importance of support and that nobody should do it alone. friendships and love in the same way now. Love comes in many forms. I love…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:21 PM
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It's pretty rude to call an entire gender "delusional". Repeatedly calling an entire gender "delusional" comes off as hating. HTH.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:12 PM
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their lack of accountability I'm not accountable for some guy's constant rejection or inability to maintain a romantic relationship. What should women be accountable for? Very few men hate women, this is just silly. Comments I read here daily disagree. This, along with the overuse of the word “mísogyny” has sort of diluted the value of these words and diminishes genuine cases of them. In that case, "male loneliness" is overused, diluted, and has no value. Genuine cases are diminished.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:11 PM
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What the heck is "structural inequality in dating"? Ps - married people usually go on dates with their spouse. Try it sometime. Dates are quite fun. Are there any policies I don’t see that could be implemented to help these poor guys? No policies. Make friends, build in person community. Lean on other men instead of waiting for a woman to "solve" their problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:07 PM
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I prefer Queen treatment myself. Similar to princess treatment, it is just a bit more elevated and sophisticated. I don't drive (except for fun), I go to galas, I use services like Instacart so I can avoid the public, I do get jewelry regularly, I don't make big decisions alone, and I do my best to ensure my villagers are taken care of.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:00 PM
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Or maybe her fans are pick mes too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:31 AM
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Everyone to your mirrors! 🪞
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:17 AM
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I loved living alone. So peaceful and calming. It was so nice to come home to an empty house where nobody needs me or expects things. Try it out. If you don't like it, get roommates. Or pets.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:33 AM
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Can't take this place too seriously. Or personally. People are gonna say and think however they want about me. Fine by me, have it. Doesn't bother me any.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:28 AM
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hilariously sad So cute. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:21 AM
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Aw, I love this. Keep it coming.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:20 AM
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Seems reasonable for 16-19 year olds. Imagine both parties aren't interested in long-term relationships at 16-19. I know I wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:16 AM
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This is a good place for it. So many creative revenge fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:58 PM
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Being a 10. ✨️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:57 PM
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I'm good. Thanks, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:57 PM
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I'm still trying to get you to explain your claims. But it's clear you're unable to further uphold your claims. This leads me to believe your claims are false.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:56 PM
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No services were provided.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:52 PM
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I'm not hurt. I'm still just waiting for you to answer my questions. But you can't. No points proven. I had lots of sex at 19. And at 24. Lots of toe curling sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:50 PM
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Alright, kid, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:48 PM
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That was unhelpful but thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:47 PM
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What am I rationalizing exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:46 PM
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Lol. Boo hoo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:44 PM
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Lol. Says someone who can't actually articulate what is crazy about a woman having sex. Go off, kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:43 PM
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unfairly picking these parts because they can’t argue the rest. Or just picking out the main arguments
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:38 PM
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According to you? Fine by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:37 PM
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I don't need to accept someone's personal preferences. I'm not judgemental of men who sleep with a certain number of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:36 PM
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Hence why I posted my point of view.... in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:32 PM
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Tells him what, that she's had sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:31 PM
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Which men have I previously judged for having too many sexual partners? you just have different standards for what is an ok amount of sexual partners. Yes, everyone has their own standards for what is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:29 PM
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Women say one thing and then do another. Do you have an example of this? look for when women say that money is not important to them, and then place heavy value on it. What does this look like in practice? Money for a first date isn't important. Money for providing for oneself is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:27 PM
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You seem to care because you're the one who thinks people exhibit bad judgment and have character flaws for having sex. I'm just trying to understand how having sex is a character flaw. 🤔 Oh well, I guess it's not. Kudos to this young woman! May she enjoy her toe curling sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:23 PM
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Right. Every time it's so funny. Why would I trust men who lie or try and rationalize ghosting women after sex? I wouldn't date any PPD recommended dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:17 PM
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Aw, thanks, my man. 🫂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:14 PM
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10-11 bodies by 19 is not normal Normal doesn't exist. my comment before offends you I'm not offended. I'm asking why it's crazy that a sexually active young woman would have sex. Shows she has a lack of character, judgment and decision making How so? Please be specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:13 PM
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Oh good thing I don't base my life off what people on Reddit perceive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:12 PM
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It's called Purple Pill DEBATE. Not Purple Pill Shitpost and Memes. You think you’re better at debating? Yes. With worthy opponents. Here? I'll bring myself down to "shitpost and meme" level because folks can't live up to the debate name.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:11 PM
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Honestly, though, that's what seems to be the crazy part for some people. They are jealous of her sexual success and thus must insult her to take her down a peg. No way some women is gonna be more sexually successful than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:09 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:08 PM
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A guy sleeping around isn't a red flag. Now, it can become a red flag but just having sex isn't a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:06 PM
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Thank you for this excellent example!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:02 PM
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Bruh, are you going to answer my questions? Or just ignore them and try whatever that comment was.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:00 PM
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If this was a debate class, most of y'all would fail. No supporting evidence with rebuttals, constant insults instead of sources, and vague arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:58 PM
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What precisely is crazy about it? Assuming first being sexually active at 16, that's 3ish per year. And in previous relationships? No idea how "she's for the streets". Being mad at someone's sexual history is lame and insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:57 PM
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Nobody gatekeeps anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:33 PM
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Exactly, they lock themselves in cages. It's sad to see but only they can unlock themselves. A romantic relationship isn't going to do it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:22 PM
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Taylor Swift is the essence of a pick me girl. Pick me girls write 31 songs about some musty icky dude who didn't pick them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:18 PM
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What's your whole deal with trying to redefine the term and wanting to "pump and dump"? To feel cool and validated by other men. To encourage men to think of FWB as "pump and dump". It's kind of scary learning about how they truly think on the internet Right. Like this entire post to justify being intentionally cruel is wild. And men wonder why we choose the bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:13 PM
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Absolutely. It's very obvious why they struggle or are constantly rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:10 PM
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Make friends and build an in person community.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:06 PM
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Because Tinder and Bumble aren't the only avenues. Stop asking out random strangers who are just going about their day.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 09:54 PM
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This all sounds self caused loneliness. Honestly, I struggle to see any problems when people don't take advantage of the options available to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 09:23 PM
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I think the problem starts at home. Parents, especially in lower socioeconomic brackets, don't have enough resources for support for their children. It's not all men who struggle to socialize. It's the ones who grow up with fathers who abandoned them. The ones who struggled to socialize as a child and didn't get the support they needed. The ones who won't take accountability because they weren't modeled accountability at home. It has nothing to do with sexual relationships. And everything to do …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 08:52 PM
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Of what ages?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 08:44 PM
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My argument is that the majority behave a certain - observable - way. Could you describe it? . All I am doing is pointing out what to look for. Can you share what to look out for?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 08:34 PM
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Society is constantly changing....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 07:10 PM
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There is only so much value, whether that be social, monetary, you name it, anything that people want, to go around Not really. There's endless value, social, and monetary. We just currently live in a society that uses fear and scarcity to determine value.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:52 PM
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Do you have an actual example of a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:50 PM
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I'm not mainstream. I'm just asking if DAYTIME TV is mainstream. Most people I know are working and don't watch DAYTIME TV. But... guess, we'll never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:41 PM
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Yes, all 4 must be hit for it to be considered "pump and dump." A situationship or FWB ending isn't a pump and dump. Not matter how hard OP is trying to rationalize it as one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:40 PM
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Does it count as "mainstream"? I don't know anyone who watches it. I guess, except men here. Who knew that some men here were into daytime TV.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:23 PM
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We've all heard women say "men are emotionally unavailable", "young men don't want to commit", "men just want 1 thing", etc etc I've actually heard men hear echo the same thing. Men here constantly say that they want sex immediately, they will hold back their emotions, and they don't want to commit. Women are just repeating back what we hear from men. But for most women on here to have bold face claim they've never been pump & dumped is just a statistical anomaly. Lol. That's not how statistics …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:18 PM
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Because they are baby adults, they should be enjoying their life. Dating and figuring out what they like and don't like. Who they want to become and who they want to leave in the past. 22 is so young. It's just the beginning of adulthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:10 PM
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was the case in the past What past? 1950s? 1860s? 1830s? underlying implications for the state of modern dating What are the implications that 22 year olds are single? Seems like massive improvements in society to have a majority of 22 year olds single. if you're not even remotely interested? I'm not interested in 22 year olds being single. I think it's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:08 PM
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Well, you seem to think something is concerning. So why not just share what you think is concerning?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:04 PM
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Why don't you tell me when and why I should be concerned? Because I'm fairly certain you wouldn't like my response to your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 06:21 AM
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22-year-olds for the most part not being in relationships is an interesting and maybe even concerning thing to take note of. Not really. It's pretty common for 22 year olds to be single. It's not even interesting. Not even a little bit interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 06:19 AM
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There are lots more pressing issues than 22 year olds being 22 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:51 AM
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Opinions of which men and women? I value the opinions of my loved ones (male and female). They might see or know something I might not about the person. I'd want their opinions. Their opinions can help inform my actions. I can also ignore their opinions and find new ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:48 AM
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"Fuck me since I'm nice" That's not a nice guy. That's a fake guy. If makeup fools you, maybe watch some YouTube tutorials so you can better spot makeup and not be fooled by fake blondes or fake eye lashes or fake cheekbones.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:46 AM
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I would expect a high amount of 22 year olds are single. That's not shocking or concerning at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:44 AM
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I was making $35k before I got my degree, technically. 2008 was a hard time, but 2024 is definitely worse for new grads.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 10:37 PM
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Nope. Still waiting for an example of how, when and where this is being TAUGHT.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 10:19 PM
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metoo and the sentiments surrounding that. Me too is about sexual assault. It has nothing to do with telling people that gender norms or masculinity is bad. I’ve seen posts on Reddit So nobody is TEACHING you. Which was my question. In general a lot of media sentiments have scared men into being submissive, because they’re afraid of being cancelled or arrested. What media sentiments? Men should be afraid of being canceled or arrested for sexual assault. certainly healthier aspects of masculinity…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 10:17 PM
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Can you provide an example?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:54 PM
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Hitting on women in the grocery store is a sure fire way of getting escorted off the premises by security; Umm..... maybe if you're running up and bothering every single woman. Making small talk in line leads to a number exchange in the parking lot? No issues. Building rapport with the same cashier and shooting your shot? No issues. I do work in a female dominated industry, but have never met a woman who is actually single Conferences, professional associations, friends or family of coworkers, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:45 PM
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Growing up being told how awful masculinity and gender norms are Who is telling and teaching you this? I don't know your age but I'm curious who is teaching or told you how awful masculinity or gender norms are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:18 PM
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I think so. Mommy Twitter and Daddy Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:16 PM
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I'll let them know to contact the departments a decade post graduation. Ya...it's how I got my last job.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:04 PM
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my friends You're right, I don't make sweeping conclusions based on the friends of someone on an online message board. Seeing as they don't even work in a tangentially related field Seems like that's the problem. Not their degree choice. Idk their challenges so I can't speak to specifics. But their college career centers should be able to provide support, advice, etc for transferring into their intended fields.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:47 PM
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Perhaps you've never heard of raises. Or promotions. Or that a career lasts.....30+ years? I might have made $35k/year my first year out of college.... but by this point, my income has far surpassed the cost of my multiple degrees. paying off the student loans let alone save for retirement or enjoy life. Seems like a cost of living issue. Not a degree issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:17 PM
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Bars, friends, family, clubs, social networks, concerts, pottery classes, the grocery store, work, community, neighborhood events, the list goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:13 PM
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Good luck to you. Hope it works out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:07 PM
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😆 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:06 PM
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earn the same as someone who didn't go to college you fucked up Not really. I'm not bothered that my friends who didn't go to college make comparable incomes. they have jobs that don't even need degrees That sucks. Doesn't mean any degree is "wrong".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:05 PM
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she's done nothing to show I have no idea what this even means.... She wouldn't have even looked at you when she was younger She didn't know you when you were younger. She doesn't even look good so there's no point. You're both old. You look the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:01 PM
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It's not single in any relevant way when they claim it. Yes, it is. Having causal sex is still being single. BS if I could pump and dump a girl every month I wouldn't give a shit about getting in any relationship ever. That's how you feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:56 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:54 PM
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six figure minimum that every ass faced fatty on Tinder requires before she’ll swipe right Okay so don't use Tinder. Simple. that’s only if you also have a six pack and are over six foot Sure, kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:44 PM
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They are doing casual with the good looking guy every couple of months and consider that single. But that is single. If she didn't give you a chance when she was young, DO NOT take her now that she's old If she knew you and ignored you. Sure don't give her a chance. If you've never met young and now you're both "old" and she wants you, there's no reason to not give her a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:41 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:36 PM
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I fail to see how any of those are "wrong". Perhaps you don't listen to music. This entire sub is dedicated to sharing silly research papers done by folks with gender studies degrees. Perhaps you don't read either. Perhaps you don't watch movies. It's cool if you don't listen to music, watch TV or movies, or read books. But it's pretty ignorant to say that those who study and then work in their fields are somehow "wrong".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:35 PM
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It means you're living up to your sn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:27 PM
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People trash all kinds of things for views and clicks. Don't take the internet too seriously. You can learn, connect with people in different circumstances, and you can ignore obvious click bait content. ETA: also good for you. 24 is young, you've got plenty of time to enjoy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:24 PM
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Ooh so only women who are online dating in their 30-40s are the problem for you. That tracks. They're single for a reason Likely on purpose, if we're talking about the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:17 PM
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picked the wrong major in college What the heck is a "wrong major"? working some entry level job for 50k This is an above average income. I feel ashamed and don't know what to do. Seek therapy. An above average income is nothing to be ashamed of.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:13 PM
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What is a fact?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:08 PM
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Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:08 PM
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Lol. I remember this. 😆😆😆
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:52 PM
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Nobody is entitled to free trauma dumping in a romantic relationship or a platonic friendship. Find an expert to discuss your trauma with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:51 PM
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I don't think I'm old enough to be a grandma.... I love memes. Well drawn and pithy memes. Not whatever those are supposed to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:47 PM
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How do you know she didn't communicate? OP never provided an actual example. Just hypothetical.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:45 PM
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What? 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:41 PM
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Why are the graphics always so poorly done? Lol. These are such silly revenge fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:40 PM
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If you're on a dating app into your 30s and 40s there's definitely something wrong with you lol Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:38 PM
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Humans aren't products.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:30 PM
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Nope. Not once in 22 years of dating men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:30 PM
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Maybe grow some thicker skin instead of being so emotional about someone choosing the bear over you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:28 PM
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Uh huh. Okay, kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:26 PM
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That's cool. Ranking coworkers at a holiday party isn't the same as ranking men for romantic dating. It's concerning how people don't see the differences in their examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:26 PM
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Could you provide an example?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:25 PM
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Nope. All people do NOT rank potential romantic partners. There's no ranking required.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:24 PM
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Who am I signaling to?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:18 PM
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Nope. I think between the two of us, I've had more conversations with women about men they're interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:18 PM
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Sure, I've got criteria. I'm not ranking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:16 PM
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Nothing is wrong with you. Online dating is trash. I don't think most men who use online dating apps are looking for commitment. I'd focus on finding romantic connections through social groups, community, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:14 PM
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Lol. No, they won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:06 PM
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I don't. And haven't. And haven't ever participated in a conversation about ranking men. Decades of conversations with women and never any about ranking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:05 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:05 PM
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I've never ranked men or been involved in conversations that rank men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:04 PM
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Encouraged by other men? Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:03 PM
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Sure, kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:03 PM
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Women are choosing to fuck guys out of their league, knowing full well that those guys won't commit to them. Again, no idea who or what you're referring to here. Seems like more rants about nothing. And then to deal with the shame when they realize those guys won't commit, taking SSRIs So doctors are writing prescriptions for medications because they said, "I had sex with a guy and he wouldn't commit"? I had no idea it was so easy to get Xanax. Make sense yet? Nope. Just reads like some fiction.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:02 PM
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And you don’t think women rank men by those criteria? We don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:57 PM
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Picked for what? The kickball team?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:57 PM
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Idk happiness, travel, how many times you've seen your favorite band in concert. I can think of dozens of more "success" metrics than dick size or height or income or body fat %. If you want to claim your height or dick size as a metric of success, go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:56 PM
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I have no idea what you're referring to here. Seems like some kind of string of buzzwords with no actual meaning behind them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:52 PM
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I always gave up, too. I'm too awesome to compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:47 PM
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Look at the way men tend to measure their success. Income. Height. Bench press. Body fat %. Dick size. Age he lost his virginity. Kind of silly ways to measure success.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:45 PM
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That sounds like someone actively working on treatment. I said people with "untreated". I didn't say anything about remission.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:28 PM
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People with untreated mental health problems should stay single and focus on getting treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:40 PM
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Because it's all fiction. I watched Little Shop of Horrors recently (never seen it before) and all I could think about was the RP concepts in the film. None of their fiction is new, it's just recycled again and again for each generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:24 PM
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and will cheat after prolonged exposures to chads, anyways I read the cutest revenge fantasies here. Not every man gets it, so they end up in shitty-ass depressing lives with a woman that doesn't't love them I'm not sure this happens so widely anymore. Maybe in 1950s. Definitely in 1830s. An absolutely with "mail order brides" and "passport bros".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:11 PM
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Many women start to withhold sex. It's very common. I wonder what the common reasons for doing so are. I'd imagine the top three would be kids, work, and stress. But instead of viewing it as a widespread issue, you view it as an individual one Yes, it impacts the individuals. Doesn't really impact society. It's like if I said "people are starving in Africa" and you said " well if a person is starving they should try and immigrate to someplace with more resources" No. Just get a divorce instead o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:08 PM
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I wouldn't marry someone I don't wanna fuck. And if my marriage evolved to where I didn't want to fuck my husband, I'd get a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:58 PM
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What widespread issues? Men's inability to communicate and instead jump straight to cheating? Cheating in a marriage is a great way for the wife to take everything in the divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:57 PM
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Both people in a relationship should communicate. If one isn't communicating, the other should try and communicate. If neither married party can communicate, one should file a divorce. Not cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:56 PM
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Why wouldn't you wear heels to class? And how do they work at the club? They go on your feet, and you dance. I though they hurt Some do. Some are comfy. im college rn Seems heels aren't as trendy now as they were 10-20 years ago. Trends change.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:54 PM
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He just doesn't want to. So get a divorce, my guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:52 PM
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Communicating with your spouse isn't placing "all the burden on the man". The husband can easily say, "we haven't been intimate in a couple of months. Is everything okay with you? Is there anything I can do to increase our sex frequency?" How is having a conversation with your wife a burden?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:51 PM
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What's amazing is the husband's inability to communicate or file for a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:47 PM
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Some men today are just mad that women have choices now and aren't choosing them. Women are choosing to stay single, wait longer for sex or marriage, or pick the bear over a man they aren't interested in. And that makes some men unhinged, angry, and full of hate at anyone, especially women, to avoid dealing with their own inadequacies, traumas, or illnesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:46 PM
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Isn't not only the husband's job. But in the provided example, the husband isn't communicating either. Why is she not communicating why she is denying him sex? Idk. Her husband should ask and find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:41 PM
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What's your age? In college, I wore heels to work, to class, to the clurb. Heels, in general, aren't trendy like they were in my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:40 PM
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Again, the husband can communicate his feelings. Not communicating isn't emotionally cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:37 PM
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You can't withhold things from your partner for extended periods of time and expect them to simply deal with it Again, this is where the other partner should communicate. Not deal with it. But communicate about it. When you get into a relationship there's a set of expectations. Such as? Are all relationships having the same expectations? Do expectations change and shift with life changes and shifts? Denying your husband sex for months and then acting surprised when he tries to find sex elsewhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:36 PM
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Isn’t this a form of emotionally cheating on your partner? Lack of communication isn't emotionally cheating. It is lack of communication. Which the husband didn't communicate either, he just cheated. Do you find that in most cases this is how things play out? The woman emotionally checks out from her partner, it’s not really communicated why, sex becomes less frequent, man cheats, woman blames man I also would blame the man. He can communicate too. Why isn't he communicating? Why isn't he filing…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:06 PM
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Oh goodie, another post about how women aren't people and only exist for the enjoyment of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:00 PM
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Did you read my comment? The very first words were, "I disagree".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 02:57 PM
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You shouldn't have any expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:48 AM
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See, I don’t buy that. Cool. Doesn't impact me. I'm done engaging in conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:26 AM
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It's not a dress. To me as a man Cool. I don't make decisions based on what you or other men think.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:20 AM
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Why would you dress like that? A rave/music festival or Halloween. Did you even read my response? anyone who dresses like that is looking for sexual attention imo and looking to have sex Nope. Just looking to dance at a rave. And looking to have a fun night at a house party.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:17 AM
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I did dress like that at her age for a rave/music festival. I think also for one Halloween.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:14 AM
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Fuck that. I'll say whatever I damn well please. And I'll be feminine while doing so, wearing a fun outfit that makes my ass look fabulous!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:12 AM
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is not a win for the society as you think it is. Where did I say anything about a win for society? These people still exist in society, they'll take up jobs and role in society and they'll influence things. Okay and?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:09 AM
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who actually locks you down Ick. I don't want to be in league with that. In my fuck boy days I wouldn’t be afraid to say anything to get a lay. Especially promises of a future. Yes, we know you're lying. Eventually, we get tired of lying to ourselves and live and learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:04 AM
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Damn, she looks good. I wouldn't consider this slutty.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:54 AM
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People secretly hate other people. It's not gendered specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:45 AM
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And I gave a level-headed response. If someone feels upset by my response.....That is not my problem. They should process their feelings on their own or with help.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:43 AM
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Idk. Does your comment make you feel bigger and better?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:38 AM
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I don't really recall. No interest, other priorities, no inspiring 🍆.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:24 AM
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Disagree. I've not wanted a relationship with men in my league. I have "hit it" because that what I did want. collect all of the people who were willing to settle down with you, and average out their looks... That's basically how attractive you are to the world. That's your "league" essentially... Awesome. Very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:23 AM
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Maybe you didn't see where I said ZERO to #. Meaning there were some years that were zero. Or 1 per year, meaning "one stable long term partner".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:18 AM
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I have no idea what that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:12 AM
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Some men are angry that women have choices now and aren't choosing them. They throw temper tantrums online because no one will listen to them IRL. The only place they find "validation" is online.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:11 AM
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Idk. Depends on the woman. For me? Combo of all of the above +FWB. Different people, different intentions, different vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:10 AM
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0-6 Depends on the woman and her intentions. As a 30+ woman, I've had 0-4 depending on the year.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:05 AM
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More creeps stare.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 02:13 AM
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Again, men look while wearing a hoodie. If you're a woman, men will look. I'm not sure I'll ever accept that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 02:06 AM
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Ew. No. There's laws against public indecency. Why are you comparing boobs to genitals? Men expose their boobs all the time in their button-up tops or their v neck cut blouses. Men cleavage is very sexy. Shirtless. Hell, I've seen more of David Beckham's boobs than his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:18 AM
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Those men can prefer younger. Good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:13 AM
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The second is to demand you go 50/50 on the first few dates. Don't request. Demand And this is where I'd lose interest and cancel the date. The third and final step is to expect sex after the third date And this is also where I'd lose interest. My advice for not getting screwed over: treat people as individuals vs everyone the exact same.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:21 AM
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Yes!! Favorite season of the year. 🩳
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:13 AM
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Not really. It's the same level of attention. Yes, it's offensive to stare at someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:11 AM
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Nope, just wearing clothing. I get attention in sweats and a hoodie. No cleavage necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:07 AM
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Yes, I'm wearing clothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:06 AM
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Lol. No. Boobs are there. They are going to be seen regardless if I'm in a hoodie or a tank top.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:05 AM
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N = 1-10 I finally figured it out. 🤯 I find this number to be really low. But that's probably my big age because by this point, people have dated, been married, been divorced, widowed, and have more than 1-10.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:04 AM
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Said by someone who doesn't have boobs and has never tried to buy clothes for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:33 PM
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K.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:31 PM
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Not really. We usually giggle and high-five over brunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:26 PM
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Because cleavage being slutty is fucking hysterical.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:22 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:21 PM
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I have no idea what the "acceptable maximum" would be. I honestly don't think I'd care to know this level of detail of my child's sex life. 100+ sexual partners indicates a psychological issue, likely formed during childhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:21 PM
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Lots. Friends are usually a smaller group. Community is bigger. For example, someone can have friends and have a church community. Someone can have friends and a LGBTQ community. Someone can have friends and a neighborhood community. Someone can have friends and a scene/niche/hobby community.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:19 PM
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Do you think the next guy who you aim to get into an LTR with, will enjoy hearing that you were in multiple FWB's at the same time? I don't really talk sexual history with LTR. It's kinda a moot point. Do you think he will be a man of value, one that accepts that his woman was riding the carousel and able to do so without any emotional attachment? Lol. What? There were emotions. There wasn't commitment because neither party wanted that. You've never caught feelings for these FWBs and were able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:16 PM
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If I had a child and that child decided to have consensual sex with 100+ people I'd assume that I fucked up somewhere along the parenting journey. It would be something I did as a parent that sent them to find validation in sex form.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:12 PM
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Cool. 10-20 still isn't "thot" behavior in my view. I'm not even going to be shocked or bat an eyelash if my hypothetical child had sex with 20 different people. I'd just make sure they used protection and it was consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:11 PM
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What did I gain from my FWBs? Orgasms, some fun memories. What does one gain from sleeping with multiple different men at the same time? I wasn't having sex with multiple different men at the same time. You're telling me there's no downsides to this and it's healthy? Communication is healthy. Orgasms are healthy. I've yet to experience a downside. If that ever changes I'll run to PPD and share the downsides of a woman having consensual, protected casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:08 PM
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What? Lol. I just said, I wouldn't clutch my pearls at 10-20.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:04 PM
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How did you get to gang bangs? And I'm assuming watersports is a euphemism. Ick. If a woman does this, it just shows to me she could never be trusted and enjoys being used. Neat. Think away. Has no impact on me or my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:03 PM
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I'm not a thot. I'm an adult who has been sexually active for 22 years. I have no idea why I would calculate anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:00 PM
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Lol. That's your opinion. Adults having consensual, protected sex isn't the reason why "society is in the gutter".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:58 PM
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Miles? Huh, what a weird measurement. But, no. Why would I count or calculate? I'm not in a competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:57 PM
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No. Slut shaming doesn't stop a woman from wanting to have causal sex. I've had lots of causal sex. Who has shamed me? People behind my back? Dudes on the internet? Nobody has shamed me to my face. So it's not slut shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:47 PM
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100+ for me. 10-20 isn't even on my thot radar. That's such a small number it wouldn't even ruffle my feathers or clutch my pearls.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:46 PM
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If the office door is closed and someone doesn't answer it, it's safe to assume they are busy/on a Zoom call/etc. It's not really rude so much as it is just being busy or preoccupied. If the door was open, I'd agree it would be rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:41 PM
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I can't stop laughing. Too fucking funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:33 PM
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Yes, your male coworker is being too sensitive. I've experienced similar. I always kinda giggle like....being polite to a new coworker isn't a sign of attraction or interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:32 PM
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Muscle shirts, suits, any uniforms, snap backs, and sneakers are peak slut outfits for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:30 PM
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Cleavage is slutty? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:28 PM
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He's too available when he's got no hobbies, no friends, no passions, no interests, no community. I want a partner who enriches my life. Not one who is depending on me for all their happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:27 PM
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Tell that to my friend who only dates men who wear eyeliner. Not to mention all the gay men who wear makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:24 PM
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FWB are great for some occassions but not great for others. I've had multiple FWB at the same time. I'm not monogoamous with FWB. And FWB aren't my besties. They are simply men whom I've had an uncommitted sexual relationship with. Sometimes I prefer FWB. Sometimes I prefer LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:18 PM
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Everyone is beauitful. Why does that bother you so much? Cleopatra wore makeup. Women have been wearing makeup for centuries. None of this is new. If makeup is such a problem for you, date women who don't wear makeup. I swear, folks on this sub love to make up their own problems and challenges.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:15 PM
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They always have these uber specific definitions that no one else knows about. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:06 PM
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What? Those relationships were committed..... I'm not sure what you're referring to here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:00 PM
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I am literally operating off of professional advise. What are their professional qualifications? I wouldn't someone who told me to buy a Lambo. literally getting some addict.... If someone is getting addicts, they aren't offering much, they are on par with addicts. If someone is offering a lot, they aren't even interacting or around addicts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:53 PM
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I haven't seen Stranger Things. Lol Damsel on Netflix was pretty cute. A bit oversexualized in some parts but fun movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:48 PM
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n practice AF/BB is very real and easily observable with modern dating and relationships. How does one observe it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:32 PM
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Yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:31 PM
2

Enjoy your porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:20 PM
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When I was your age, younger actually, we had AOL chat rooms. Today, it's Reddit daily threads. A/S/L means age, sex, location People often lied.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:18 PM
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It's popular dating advice because confident people are sexier. People misunderstand and assume going to the gym means you'll become more attractive. Plenty of ripped gym bros are ugly af.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:06 PM
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He exists. It's okay if you don't think you're special. I think I'm special. I think my partner is special. I think everyone is special. You don't have to agree. It's okay. It's not going to change my mind or convince me I'm not special.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:02 PM
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Dating coach told me to buy Lamborghini as it appeals to women. A specific kind of woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:58 PM
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This is why I don’t trust statistics Nobody should. Stats are just guidelines or points of reference. Stats shouldn't be taken as the gold standard. Unfortunately, this sub loves to believe and trust all their silly little stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:52 PM
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A/S/L
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:50 PM
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What is with some dudes obsession with "objective reality"? Did this come from some podcast bro? Some loser who is 34 and has no relationship experience and sells courses to other men? Maybe it's that balding loser the candy bar name? Such a silly ass term only used here in an attempt to deny other perspectives. Other perspectives can't exist....it's objective reality. (Eta I know it's a philosophy term but it's misused in this sub daily. )
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:36 PM
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Yikes, poor financial choices, spending for external validation from women. I am also thinking about getting orbitat implants, jaw implants and also laser skin treatment. All that easily gonna coat additional $20-30K. Waste of money So, how the fuck average guy who neither got looks nor money surviving in dating market with such entitled women? They don't view women as entitled. They view women as other humans who are interesting and get to know them human to human.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:33 PM
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Huh? What responsibilities do all women have in a relationship? Is the manual given on the wedding day?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:30 PM
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How am I having so many what? Relationships? Is there a limit to how many relationships someone should have? Commitment = romantic exclusivity, a closed romantic relationship, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife. What does commitment mean to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:26 PM
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Idk this reference....
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:24 PM
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The same thing that makes my partner special.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:23 PM
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If you say so, it must be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:22 PM
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Yes, I'm unique AND special. Nobody’s perfect Never said anyone was.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:39 PM
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Besides 70% of divorces are initiated by women This means women file the paperwork. If you're gonna use stats, use them correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:37 PM
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You missing the point is the funniest thing ever. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:34 PM
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No, I'd say that the sky is going to look different depending on where you are in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:33 PM
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There's nothing to lighten up about kiddo.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:32 PM
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K. Wasn't by point but go off king.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:30 PM
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. I guarantee you she won’t send another message. Okay. So move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:29 PM
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Is Kate Middleton still missing? Tell me more about the power that heiresses have.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:28 PM
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Me being special doesn't make me better than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:27 PM
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I have dated women before. why someone hasn’t responded to a message 48 hours later, they don’t care about you. Why is that so hard for you to understand? Because that's not the case. 1) they don't know you enough to care about you yet 2) it's the weekend, people have shit to do 3) it's been 2 days, I wouldn't spiral until at least Day 5 4) some shots are missed, try again with someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:26 PM
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Millie Bobbie Brown is her generation's Keira Knightley. Same vibes, voices, and movie choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:23 PM
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Settling down means not being wild, young, single. I do believe almost everybody settles to an extent I don't. Hence my post. Rarely is there a relationship where both parties get 100% of what they want. I do enjoy being rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:20 PM
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And dozens of things prevent you from messaging someone. A shower, a phone call, a movie, a nap, out with friends, reading a book, cleaning, visiting family, taking a break from your phone, work, etc. People have lives off their phones bffr.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:18 PM
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Careful, though, that prince might toss you over a bridge to the dragon his family owes a sacrifice to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:16 PM
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I'd need to see the reactions. 20 is young so it's probably less jealous and more, "you sure". Because yikes. rather than why does she get that, but not us? What were the reactions? Where are these reactions taking place?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:14 PM
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People have shit to do. Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:11 PM
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40+ never married dudes have the dumbest concepts. "Dual mating strategy" 🤣🤣🤣 fucking clowns came up with this. Coupling (beta bux) and Dual Mating (alpha fucks) JFC. This is so stupid. Honestly, sounds like these men are bad at sex and that's why they can't get in a relationship. Nobody wants bad sex regularly. TRP loved to rationalize their worldview by citing science "Science" 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:08 PM
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And why do some think it's a flex to say, "I'm 41 dating a 23". Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:02 PM
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He would probably find me irresponsible, and I would think he wasted his youth. We wouldn’t get along. You said this better than I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:52 PM
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Dude.....I thought that person was like 21. Omg this just makes it so much worse. 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:49 PM
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Never said it was. 39 and 61 are very different. Hence why I said, "Ew, I could never."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:46 PM
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Yes, it's such a depressing mindset. A or B. Red or blue. Such a limiting life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:40 PM
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Exactly why I said this person sounds like an insufferable prick, and I'd pass. Think about a SAHM Is doing more than this guy retired grandpa who reads books Who is doing more than this guy Like a trust fund or inheritance, his income is coming from a segregated pool of assets. Like I said, insufferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:39 PM
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I know of almost no women who have visibly "settled for betabux Because it's not real. It seems more like women just keep dating the same types of men until they find one who is ready to get married. The wedding only comes after a long period of courtship, cohabitation, and etc Yes, that's the whole point dating. What do you think should happen? Marriage proposal on date 5?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:31 PM
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"Chill stuff all day", "divorce me and you get nothing", etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:25 PM
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No jealousy. Just ew. I couldn't imagine dating a 61 year old man at 39. Ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:22 PM
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This whole "Every relationship is someone settling" story line is such bullshit. Some of them men here are like Eeyore. Depressing, angry, wet blankets who think everyone in relationships are unhappy. They struggle to find any connections with women because they are such rain clouds. So their only hope is that people are as unhappy and miserable as them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:18 PM
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I have no idea what you're referring to here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:15 PM
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No. Not because he doesn't have a job. But because he sounds like an insufferable prick.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:12 PM
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If that's how you interpret "continuous conversation," go for it. Seems it wasn't a challenging concept for others to understand. I guess some things are harder than others to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:11 PM
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25 is young. It's hardly in the place financially to have kids. Having kids at 30-35 isn't much different than 25. At least by 30, you're a bit more financially and mentally prepared. Having kids isn't a walk in the park. People should have them when they are most prepared. Which likely isn't 25 or younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:09 PM
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Never suggest it was the only outlet. If you don't want a relationship or don't see the point, don't have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 03:03 PM
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I don't want kids. But yes, I had men who committed at 20, 25, 30+, and ages in between. Friends have had kids at 20, 25, 30+. And have started families at various ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 02:59 PM
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We still get fleeting attention. Thanks for the concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 02:56 PM
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That's not at all what I just said.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:49 AM
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Nope. They are young. Go be young.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:36 AM
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So they love to say in this sub. If that's how people wanna live their life, go for it. They are certainly missing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:35 AM
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I believe in continuous conversation. If you are already in a relationship the expectation would be to carry on as you started, Nah. We'll talk and discuss and figure it out along the way. if you try and say what you expect after already being in a relationship it would feel like a bait and switch Life happens. Shit changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:33 AM
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It doesn't stop. It just shifts age brackets. And the frequency seems less because your environment shifts (and sometimes pretty frequently). It was a disappointing thing to realize that it just keeps going. There are a lot of downsides that come with being desired, especially from aggressive or emotionally manipulative guys who don't give up. So many. It can be really demoralizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:30 AM
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Then he moves on We know. That's the whole point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:23 AM
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If you say so, it must be true. Thanks for enlightening me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:20 AM
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