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Why do you care what it means... Either it's true, or she's spinning it in her head that it's true to justify her actions. You should be focused on you and your children, and dngaf what she's thinking. You need to figure out a living arrangement... if you're going to be living in the same house for the time being, you're not hugging her and your conversations are nothing more than logistics. She doesn't get anything more from you. Talk to a lawyer ASAP and stop holding out hope that you can save…
/r/askMRP23/03/23 01:55 AM
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At this stage STFU isn't the solution - that's meant for kids with dynamite. That's for men who haven't yet established frame to be able to speak and be heard and respected. A respected captain speaks and his crew listens, they may have input, but they ultimately listen. My wife works a couple days a week, house is never spotless...when I see shit needing done, I DO IT...and when she sees that, she jumps in to help because she knows it should've already been done. I have communicated expectation…
/r/askMRP27/11/22 03:00 PM
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Takes a while to truly internalize it all. I LARP'D for a while before I actually started living for me. Most everyone that comes here does so by googling "why doesn't my wife want sex," so it's easy to see why new posters dwell on it. They might be able to LARP for a while, but if they don't ever recognize it's not about her, or sex at all, they will go back to their blue pill ways.
/r/askMRP02/05/22 03:25 AM
5

All your questions are about what you should do about her. Showing your "micro emotions" (the fuck is this shit?), worrying about how often you should initiate, her, her, her. Fix this now, forget about her for a while. Work on you - lift heavy shit, sort yourself out - who are you, what's actually important to you? Go ahead and stop expecting a fucking thing from her, she might come around, she might not...this is about living the life you want to live. Funny thing is, from my experience and fr…
/r/askMRP02/05/22 01:06 AM
2

Could be that she somehow looked past your retarded response and thought she'd test the waters. Either way, stop overthinking it, have fun with it and see where it goes.
/r/askMRP11/03/22 12:45 PM
7

You're a man that gets flirted with... No reason to talk to the wife at all. Just act like it's normal (abundance) and have fun. The wife sees it much better than op does
/r/askMRP11/03/22 03:12 AM
1

I would tell her something like "I see you, but I won't cheat on wifey, so your gonna have to line up a threesome with her." Worst case it's a funny joke, best case your wife treats her HVM to a threesome. This all assumes you're not a total sperg completely misreading the situation... But even so, there's plausible deniability there.
/r/askMRP11/03/22 03:08 AM
15

Nice, lure her to bed with the expectation of watching TV, then molest her until she's pissed or gives in to get it over with. Game her during the day, not just when your peepee gets hard (which I guess you're calling big dick energy?). I wish you weren't so awkward, bud.
/r/askMRP28/01/22 02:48 PM
1

Play your cards right and you'll create babysitter dread with the MIL when she sees your parents taking care of your needs. She'll drop whatever she's doing to come watch the little lad 😊
/r/askMRP06/01/22 04:48 AM
6

When you broke up with her, she just said "ok"....lol, she's already fucking other dudes and never saw you as a high value man. It's best that you broke it off with her now. Have some abundance mentality bro, you're here writing a book about what should've been a side piece (like she is to 20+ Chad's) instead of focusing on your mission and/or moving on to the next lucky lady that gets a chance to spend time with you.
/r/askMRP27/08/21 10:36 AM
5

Stay plan = Go plan. You're likely never going to get the truth. Best approach is to judge the current situation and weigh that against your feelz about what may or may not have happened. If she adds value and sees you as the prize, you may decide it doesn't matter that she guzzled some Chad's cum, since you were a bitch at the time. You may decide you can't live with it, whether she docked him, or just wanted to. That's for you to decide. Work on yourself, then make that decision.
/r/askMRP23/07/21 09:06 PM
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There's nothing humble about this validation seeking bragging. Get that shit under control ASAP. Most men would be envious of high numbers, but when you go around looking for internet strangers to give you high fives and pats on the back... It's no longer impressive, just needy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 05:31 PM
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We all did, keep working.
/r/askMRP28/06/21 10:30 PM
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You give a lot of fucks about her mouth noises, huh?
/r/askMRP26/06/21 12:52 AM
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No lifts, just been doing cardio of late Wish I could help, stopped reading here.
/r/askMRP13/01/21 03:07 AM
9

There's a cute for anxiety, stress and anger... It's heavy shit and you need to lift it often. Channel your anger into that and lots of things will improve for you, mentally, physically and socially.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/20 12:33 PM
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If you're looking at it as trading in doing all the other things you love, then no, don't get married. You need to have the mentality that you're going to live your life, on your terms and you're inviting her along. The reason most of us are here is that we didn't approach it this way, we gave up hobbies, friends, etc for a woman and it resulted in severe disappointment.
/r/askMRP01/12/20 05:32 PM
5

What's the concern here...afraid saying no will make you feel guilty? There's a way to sort that baggage; it's over there somewhere.----> The build up in your head is always the most difficult part. You'll feel relieved once you rip off the band-aid. Just man up and do it calmly and confidently. Just make a clean break with as little explanation as possible ( she probably deserves some explanation, but don't DEER). Stick to the point and just state facts, over and over if needed without feeling …
/r/askMRP01/12/20 04:23 AM
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Yeah dude, this one isn't crazy pussy... She's just crazy and not giving up any pussy. Either that, or, more likely, she's fucking everyone but you. Either way, not a situation I'd be interested in.
/r/askMRP01/12/20 01:06 AM
5

You may also notice in the dress like a child pic, he's obviously NOT in great shape - maybe not a total fatass slob, but fast enough to have what appear to be low level bitch tits and not at all vascular. You're skinny fat at best. This, and the other reasons given are why wifey treats you with total disdain and throws your garlic salt in the trash before telling you how you are to handle getting reimbursed for your grocery runs. Jesus christ dude, time to man the fuck up. I'd STFU, lift and si…
/r/askMRP26/11/20 03:24 PM
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Better that you know now, rather than finding out after a kid or 5. Time to absorb this, then get to work building your life on your terms. Lift, read, define and focus on your mission, the rest will fall into place.
/r/askMRP25/11/20 08:05 PM
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Why would there be? Chad has abundance...If she doesn't want to be with him because his dick's little, he has that little asian chick he can hit up. He certainly isn't wondering how many cm are required to fuck properly... He just fucks, the rest will sort itself out.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/20 07:33 PM
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Good for you that SHE DECIDED to break things off, otherwise you'd have spent years eating Chad's cum out of her mouth everytime you kiss her. You seriously offered a cheating whore therapy as a way to deal with that shit? You need to seriously improve your mental mindset, you clearly DNGAF about yourself and don't see yourself as a high value man. Work on this ASAP, or every relationship, employer and random person in the street will smell your weakness and eat you alive.
/r/askMRP15/11/20 02:54 PM
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Might as well jump off a bridge with that little dick! Betcha chad doesn't ask for BJs, he just grabs her hair and she knows what's up. The difference is confidence, she'll suck chad dry because she doesn't want him to go elsewhere with his 11cm's because he fucks her like he's packing 10". He takes what he wants, he doesn't make love to some CC riding whore. She knows what she is, treat her like you know what she is too.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/20 08:36 PM
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Honestly, you're getting off easy because you found out now and have the tools to move on with your life and live on your terms. Your OYS is so needy, this will be good for you if you don't act like a pussy. You said you'll get divorce raped because of income... But then you say you're trying to lock down a job before you move on serving her? What's the logic? To show stability for custody? If you have assets you could afford to live on, it might be good timing to slow play employment and fast p…
/r/askMRP09/11/20 11:15 PM
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Yeah dude, I can envision your sex tracking spreadsheet. If you'd just focus on being awesome, you wouldn't care how often your little peepee is getting sucked... She'd likely be worried about how often she's sucking it, and concerned that she better suck it before someone else does. High value men don't constantly look at the scoreboard, and they sure as dick don't act butthurt when they don't get what they want. Possibly the biggest long term problem with MRP is that early on, people tell you …
/r/askMRP30/10/20 12:52 AM
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What do you mean most of your assets are in joint accounts - joint with whom? If they're your assets, why are they titled jointly? This post reeks of bullshit. 150lbs is weak, no matter your height. Suspect you're lying to us about several things... Hopefully you're at least honest with yourself.
/r/askMRP18/10/20 01:51 AM
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Are you attracted to her? Have you gotten your T levels checked?
/r/askMRP10/10/20 08:43 AM
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Definitely this. When I first started getting noticable results, my wife said she didn't like muscles and constantly made cookies and snacks "for the kids." No doubt, she wanted me to fail, or at least wanted to test whether or not I'm for real. Her actions have said that she loves muscles, and they seem to help keep her hamster spinning. Dread is a beautiful thing.
/r/askMRP30/08/20 04:08 AM
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What the fuck are you doing? You're negotiating "a deal" with someone who clearly knew the deal before and didn't give a fuck. Given the right circumstances, she'll choose to disregard this deal too.
/r/askMRP23/08/20 09:25 PM
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Don't dig around in the trash. There's a reason you left her, probably had to do with her being a disrespectful crazy bitch...that hasn't changed.
/r/askMRP23/08/20 08:53 PM
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If you DEER half as hard with her as you do with strangers on the internet, you're in for a rough road ahead. You say you're reading, but you're texting all day with her, you're very concerned with her reactions to your changes, as opposed to focusing on yourself and how you feel about your changes. This stuff is RP101, which you're failing. A word of caution about doing too much too fast - if you're obsessing about red pill, you're going to go Rambo. Slow down, STFU and focus on the levels of d…
/r/askMRP01/08/20 02:10 PM
1

Yes, OP is missing the point badly. His mindset is totally fucked. He clearly wants the cheat code so he doesn't have to do the work. I didn't even read the replies that pointed out that they have a new baby. I'd revise my advice to STFU, lift, STFU, sidebar, then STFU. Rinse and repeat as needed. Her hormones are fucked, her sleep is fucked. Women are irrational creatures, new mom's are on a whole other level. Use this time to unfuck yourself.
/r/askMRP31/07/20 07:29 PM
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Texting is for logistics, no way you should be texting anything that devolves into "we need therapy.". Let this be the last thing you text about anything other than the kids, dinner plan, what you're going to do to her later, etc. It's her feeling like she's losing control over her beta. If you don't want to do it (you shouldn't), tell her so. It will likely turn into a comfort test - if so, hug her, kiss her head, tell her everything is ok, then either flirt and escalate or walk away to do some…
/r/askMRP31/07/20 01:03 AM
1

No wonder your chick brings up Jill all the time - you're fucking obsessed with her.
/r/askMRP28/07/20 04:26 AM
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Next time she brings up Jill, you should AM and pressure flip that she seems obsessed with Jill, offer to set them up on a date together. I love it when I see my wife's hamster spinning so hard. It's fun.
/r/askMRP10/07/20 11:33 AM
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TL;DR:. STFU. No, really, STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/20 11:50 PM
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Had scarcity mentality, felt like I was lucky to lock down "the one" for life. Wish I could go back and make different decisions, but I can't. Things have gotten way better since MRP, but I'm ashamed of the man I was.
/r/askMRP19/06/20 04:35 PM
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I can't believe nobody's said it yet - lift heavy shit, faggot. You've probably got decent arms, shoulders and chest from pull-ups and push-ups... But those fucking bird legs - running 5 miles is all they get? Your calories should be directed to building muscle, not wasted on running.
/r/askMRP22/04/20 01:45 AM
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like an end of the line where I can say "I'm a perfect husband!" and stop working. Stop thinking it's desirable to be a perfect husband. That should get you closer to being desirable.
/r/askMRP19/04/20 02:21 PM
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Weak men make excuses and don't do shit to improve their situation. High value men turn the shitty hand they've been dealt into the fuel they use to leave the past behind. It's hard to think about being slapped around as a kid when some hb8 is slobbering on your cock, begging for your cum.
/r/askMRP07/04/20 10:29 PM
1

21M - 148 lbs - 5'3'' I think I found the problem you short, weak faggot. Sex on demand is reserved for men with muscles. Lift and sidebar, report back in 6 months.
/r/askMRP07/04/20 10:24 PM
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You think anybody gives a fuck about you? That's hilarious!
/r/askMRP02/04/20 07:39 PM
3

She woke up today.... "Oh wow, that tea helped, I feel a lot better". If you had any game at all you'd have fucked her after she said that. "Of course it helped. Dr. MassiveLeftist did it again. All you need now is this (whip out your cock) Vitamin D to get you over all of this"... At least a man with a wife who is attracted to him, could pull that off - could you? If not, get the fuck to work.
/r/askMRP02/04/20 03:54 AM
2

LOL @ "I'm not a dick, so yeah, I made some tea, got her vitamins." The fuck you doing, man? Sounds like she does nothing but sit on her ass and play video games. She probably gets more feelz from talking to online nerds than hanging out with your weak ass. You've made zero progress. She doesn't give a fuck about your tea and vitamin fetching beta ass.
/r/askMRP02/04/20 03:43 AM
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And listed it under lifts before posting his lifts (which seem to be made up numbers, just based on squats being low relative to bench).
/r/askMRP21/03/20 06:16 PM
1

As the market achieved record high after record high, I slowly shifted from 100% equity to 70/30 stocks/bonds. Now I'll do TLH trades and add my 30% fixed income to equities over the next couple of months. Fortune favors the bold (and relatively young). Small cap value stocks have underperformed significantly for a while, I will be overweighting there.
/r/askMRP14/03/20 02:58 AM
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Best post I've read here in a long time. My real progress started when I recognized that I'm not responsible for the next thing... Only for what makes me happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 04:55 PM
1

Am I the only one who thought this thread was gonna be about anal?
/r/askMRP06/03/20 03:02 AM
5

She's happy you killed the puppy and she's looking forward to riding the cock carousel. What difference does it make? Focus on you and your mission, not on her mouth noises or even her actions at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/20 11:43 AM
1

OP, you've said you have spoken to a lawyer after she gave you the ILYBINILWY kiss of death. What does the lawyer say about what to do next? Good chance he'd advise you to hold off on significantly increasing your income prior to divorce to minimize alimony, etc. All depends on your location, but generally that's true.
/r/askMRP05/03/20 02:04 AM
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Yep, he thought he turned a cheating whore (ILYBINILWY likely means she already cheated) into a submissive for him in a month. Her was so happy to have gotten anal, etc... Then she overtly demonstrated that she's still a cheating whore that doesn't give a fuck about him. My guess is he'll stop posting here within a month and will stay with her.
/r/askMRP04/03/20 06:05 PM
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Damn dude, that's cringy as fuck, but it's the past. It's up to you to re-program that shit. Self awareness is a powerful tool to improving your future
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 02:49 PM
3

Because she wants more than anything for him to demonstrate that he's not a massive faggot. With this guy's lift numbers, I'm going to guess that he wasn't always a fat ass with a paper thin frame. I'll bet she didn't marry this version of him.
/r/askMRP15/02/20 01:20 PM
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Good thing you posted decent lift numbers... If you were that heavy and didn't have some muscle in there, you'd be hopeless. If I were you I'd run a substantial caloric deficit and just try to maintain as much existing muscle mass as I could. Cut, cut, cut, bulk, cut, cut, bulk...until you're not a fatty Lose the weight and maintain those lift numbers while cutting and she'll be coming out to tell you she cleaned up the baby and now she wants to clean your balls before you go to work. Own your f…
/r/askMRP15/02/20 02:43 AM
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Even the way you respond to criticism here by telling everyone what they wanna hear. Your frame is paper thin if it even exists. Get busy reading and lifting things that are heavy. Forget the treadmill until you have respectable lifts.
/r/askMRP10/02/20 02:06 AM
1

Keep your fire. If you work at it, you'll be amazed by the results. You'll have noob gainz if you lift hard and steady for a few months while dieting, but at some point that will stall - you'll need to learn how to bulk/cut in cycles. Your wife will submit to you in ways you thought were no longer possible. These things are likely to happen around the same time, you will feel a tendency to call it a win - you look decent, you're fucking regularly, people are praising your gainz...it will feel li…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/20 08:11 PM
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OP, sounds to me you are a validation seeking faggot. This is just some chick that knows your wife, she's not at all interested in your treadmilling 18% BF ass. She speaks to you because she knows you through your wife and she sees you staring at her in the gym... Nothing more. Either your seeking validation from her, or you're hoping she'll make some comment to your wife about you... Either way, not something a non-beta fucktard would be concerned about. If anything, you should say little more …
/r/askMRP08/02/20 02:27 PM
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I guarantee you will like it. What are you waiting for, OP? You have the internet stranger guarantee.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 11:52 AM
1

You're not in a whirlpool, you're being flushed down a toilet. This is because she sees you as shit. I'm not gonna say she's wrong.
/r/askMRP02/02/20 11:12 PM
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She used exactly the same lines my ex-wife used right before I found out she was fucking someone else. Yep, changes are she's already done something...maybe kissing, maybe more, she'll never say. I'd proceed assuming that's the case. Talking to a lawyer is a good first step, manning up and squashing her idea that this is even a possibility is a good 2nd step. Sounds to me like your relationship is fucked - it's one thing for a woman to fuck around, but for her to straight up tell you she wants t…
/r/askMRP30/01/20 02:29 PM
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You haven't made much progress at all over 4 years! Sounds like your only mission is getting validation from your wife via sex. Withdraw attention for bad behavior, reward good behavior... Do the same to "daddy"... He's a guest in YOUR home.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 12:42 PM
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She was more concerned about my recovery time and her perception of having to do things for herself than my recovery. Shocker.
/r/askMRP27/01/20 12:36 PM
1

Bummer, but shit happens. I had a bulging disc that's only just resolved to the point I can lift again. Use the time to dial in your diet, read, exercise what you can and work on other things that need work. If you lay around whining about it, then yes, your progress will be lost. She most definitely will shit test you on new levels.. But the program is the same, minus lifting. This is where the frame you've built will come in handy
/r/askMRP27/01/20 12:26 PM
4

Sounds like your biggest issue is that you are making yourself too easily available to someone who adds little to no value to your life. You also seem to have a lot of unattractive behaviors, like gaming, locking yourself in the office and drinking beers (alone). You need to learn to lead your family - making 200k (did you say that somewhere?) is fantastic... But you get no prizes for providing for your family. She resents you for being a beta provider instead of the fun bartender with sexual op…
/r/askMRP26/01/20 04:36 PM
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OP's 2 days in and he's become alpha AF. Settle down you spergy fucktard. The only things you should be working about are lifting, reading and getting your shit together as a man. Acting tough with your girl and being a dick to her after 2 days, with your paper thin frame is the definition of "going Rambo." We all have done it to a degree, but slow the fuck down dude.
/r/askMRP19/01/20 03:52 AM
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"what reason would I have to cheat on you" is all I've ever said to my wife. She seems to seriously contemplate the question, but I've never gotten an answer from her because I've always walked away to do something else. Give less fucks bro.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 02:30 AM
2

Your game is shit, get busy reading and talking to women.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 02:21 AM
1

Are you initiating until you get a hard no, or just assuming she's not DTF because she's not escalating? Are you beating around the bush, or making it clear you want to fuck? Did you do anything to build tension while you were away? When I go away and return from a trip, my wife knows I'm horny and want/expect sex when I get home.... Because I tell her that with verbal and physical communication. You seem to lack confidence...I dare say timid. Weak initiation, afraid to progress dread. At 12% BF…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 12:19 AM
2

When you say your wife has cut you off sexually after you not being clingy/needy... Are you still initiating and she's storming you down, or are you waiting for mommy to give you the validation you so desire? Not much to add on the social advice, just get out and do fun things, don't be afraid to talk to people
/r/askMRP10/01/20 12:27 PM
2

Push her head down onto your cock so she can't talk. Throw her on the bed on her belly and grab a handful of her hair while you pound her out. Set the tone, she will follow if you're a man she desires. Not much room for small talk or jokes when you're fucking her right.
/r/askMRP09/01/20 03:09 AM
5

Nice job, that's handling shit within YOUR frame. Her sexual interest may be hysterical bonding, and may be short term. Don't think that because your getting laid means you've won - she may be looking for a second branch to swing to now that you're is unstable.
/r/askMRP07/01/20 08:51 PM
6

How ironic that "figure it out" is your mantra for your son, yet you've posted multiple times here asking for help on this issue. FIGURE IT OUT
/r/askMRP06/01/20 08:59 PM
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Nice stats, you've been lifting, done some reading...now it's time to lead. She's questioning you because she doesn't trust you to handle money - what is the extra money for? Also, you working more means she's taking on more at home in your absence, yet only you are getting the benefits of working (OT pay). Couple this with her not trusting you to handle finances and you can see why she is opposed. I'm not saying you shouldn't hold your line, but if you're going to be "the family alpha" being di…
/r/askMRP05/01/20 12:36 PM
3

I don't have it all figured out just yet, but 2 years in and life is pretty fucking good.
/r/askMRP05/01/20 02:49 AM
3

Would you, IRL, drop option 2? Depends on your situation/value - I could pull that off with my wife in front of her friends, and they'd all laugh hard. It wouldn't be said with malice or butthurt like OP would be saying it though. A high Enough value man can say anything he wants and it's "fun"... A beta could say the exact same thing and his wife and her friends act like he's a terrible person.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 10:55 PM
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You're missing a lot of basic RP principles. Specifically, you're 100 percent in her frame, seeking validation from her and you seem to have oneitis. How are you still with a woman that doesn't fuck you? Even at my lowest, I got starfish 2- 3x/month...and I wanted to burn it all down. What's in this relationship for you? I'm not saying to go Rambo and burn it down before you do the work, but use it as motivation to get your ass in gear and build a better life for yourself - maybe that includes h…
/r/askMRP04/01/20 04:15 PM
4

Yes! Bottom line is that anything would've been better than OP sitting there butthurt that his wife gave a compliment to another man. Point is that he should've been so busy chatting up other people that he didn't notice or care what she said at all.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 04:05 PM
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Holy fuck dude. Your wife essentially told you that you are a beta bitch (she stopped short of beta bux). She literally told you to man the fuck up and lead your family. No wonder she's yelling at your kids, she's raising them herself while you work on your "projects" - YouTube, video games and other pointless shit. She's misdirecting her hostility towards you onto her kids. Man the fuck up faggot.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 04:57 AM
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Feeling alpha as fuck for communicating with a hostess that you have a party of 12 and then the hostess does what hostesses do and seats your party? The fuck is that? How did you get so butthurt by your wife joking about a retired chef? "Hell, I'd love to have a retired chef around, maybe I'll hire one." When she shut you out of the conversation, you probably sat there, not talking to anyone... Because she was the only person you were even trying to engage? Be more fun, engage everyone, not just…
/r/askMRP04/01/20 04:46 AM
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Next. Ordinarily, I'd agree that you need to fix yourself before leaving her. She's a land whale who wants to lock you down with kids while she sits on her ass as a SAHM. Get out now. You have no kids, equal incomes. Nothing to lose, everything to gain. If you wait until your income is higher, the state will give her part of it as a parting gift.
/r/askMRP01/01/20 12:08 AM
3

If you are truly having suicidal thoughts, call a suicide hotline ASAP. If, however, you're just being the drama queen you come across as: Her telling you it's all her fault, due to her lack of sex drive... then, instead of stating your needs and expectations, you "apologized for how she feels" - strike 1 Asking her what she wants to do ( instead of LEADING and telling her what's going to happen - strike 2 Her saying "you're the one with the options" and still not recognizing you're in the drive…
/r/askMRP31/12/19 12:11 PM
2

I'm confused. You're not in a relationship. You seem interested in strange. What's keeping you from getting strange again?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 08:07 PM
3

Where'd you pick up those dope PJ pants?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 08:06 PM
11

TL:DR - Acta Non Verba
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 06:49 PM
1

I'm hoping to pay off this 0% card before end of February when interest will kick in. Stop "hoping" and just do! Don't buy things you can't afford just because you can finance it with cheap intro offers.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 03:33 AM
7

He's probably got some hysterical bonding sex coming his way. Good time to use her as a rock to and push boundaries.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 12:37 PM
5

The irony that she gave him a letter about having already spent 9G's on a class about how to communicate.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 12:28 PM
1

Wow, you're a pussy.
/r/askMRP13/12/19 12:47 PM
3

Yeah, how could he be sure it was from the pro? Wife doesn't fuck (him).
/r/askMRP10/12/19 03:26 PM
4

Dude, you’re fucking gay. I am my own mental point of origin, straight out of the sidebar. That's great, but your mental point of origin apparently makes you a lowlife shit bag if you think intentionally giving your wife an STD that you contacted from a hooker is a reasonable action.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 02:57 PM
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A lot of moralizing faggots are downvoting us. Dude, I was only making a stupid joke. Knowingly giving someone an STD is definitely not cool.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 01:58 AM
5

No. He never implied giving her herpes. That would be really fucked up. Fucking Christ, my post was just a joke... Obviously he wasn't saying give her herpes. I thought it was so absurd that nobody could possibly think I was serious... But then some 'sperg comes along actually suggesting to give her herpes. I think I've seen it all now.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 01:55 AM
-13

I think what he's saying is that if you're not going to file first, you might as well give her herpes before telling her. That way, she won't go around telling everyone - out of shame of admitting to everyone that she has herpes...Am I translating that right?
/r/askMRP09/12/19 09:04 PM
2

If you don't want another, don't do it. Could end up with twins, ask me how I know!
/r/askMRP08/12/19 03:54 PM
22

Focus on saving you, not the marriage. It's still about her, but at least you're aware that it shouldn't be about her.
/r/askMRP08/12/19 03:53 PM
7

It's simple - you told her you were ready to leave her before she has her next branch ready to swing to. She's doing what it takes to keep your resources around until she can leave you on her terms. In the meantime, she can't believe you did this, so she's hysterical bonding.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 12:10 PM
2

Only thing you can do is man up and suck his dick before your girl does, you seen to be pretty into him.
/r/askMRP04/12/19 01:38 AM
3

You might consider just doing something too, instead of an exercise bike. I'm a big fan of riding a bike to go places. You get more fresh air, you waste less time. I like this. I am not a fan of working out on stationary machines. I like to see and experience things. If I can hike or bike instead, it's a no brainer.
/r/askMRP30/11/19 03:27 PM
5

Looking at my chart, I was same height/weight at 23%, but had MUCH better lift numbers at that point. Can confirm OPs BF % is bullshit. You don't win at life by getting internet points from strangers. Take a look in the mirror and be honest with the fat fuck staring back at you...then come back here and be honest with us. You "estimated" your BF #, buy a handheld scanner... Not perfect, but better than your estimate.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 02:18 AM
14

Nice OYS, as for the Carry on, I would have simply told her that it would be helpful if she would let him use it so that you don't have to borrow from a friend or family member, or go spend money on a new one. If she declined, I'd say "that's disappointing" and leave it at that. I'd then figure something out and "carry on." It's always good to demonstrate that you're just fine without her. This is almost like giving her first right of refusal of being FO... Either she gets on board or not... Doe…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 12:03 PM
12

The fuck is this? You want to fuck, but don't initiate and won't fuck when she initiates? You don't like the way she fucks? You need to lead her better, if she's starfish, turn her as over and push her face in the pillow while you caveman her. She's laying there like that for one of a few reasons - You are unattractive and there's no desire. You can't fuck the way she wants to be fucked, so there's no desire. She doesn't know how to please you (doubtful) and you need to lead better. Either way, …
/r/askMRP14/11/19 11:35 AM
4

Nice work initiating and carrying on with cool shit when meet with a hard no. She's holding on to the reins and controlling sex for now. That's fine, keep initiating when you feel like fucking. Are you gaming her? Are you initiating late in the evening? Be mindful of building up to sex, not just "hey, you wanna" right before bed. Saturday morning, I pulled my wife into the bathroom, pinned her against the wall, grabbed a tit and kissed her like I was going to fuck her on the spot. I then told he…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 06:03 PM
2

the past week has been starfish. I’m thinking I wont initiate for a week to see if this affects anything. The fuck? Why wouldn't you initiate? She's probably just so used to giving you the starfish, she's forgotten how to fuck a man with any passion. Where are you in terms of levels of dread? I ONCE stopped and pulled out mid-starfish, told my wife it wasn't doing it for me, kissed her forehead and left the room to work on something in the garage. My actions were authentic with what I was feelin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 12:13 PM
2

Keep doing cool shit and keep spending time around other women. If you initiate and she doesn't go for it, it's no big deal, you'll just spend more and more of your time doing awesome shit instead of hanging out with her hoping tonight could be the night you get your dick wet. Her vagina isn't special, they all feel more or less the same. Don't give her any power over sex. She withholds sex, you withhold time and attention. Work the levels of dread!
/r/askMRP10/11/19 06:32 PM
3

You said in your OP that she didn't go to SEMA, not that you wanted her to. If you don't want her to go, don't invite her, and don't feel guilty about it (I seem to remember a book about not feeling guilty about such things). It's absolutely fine for you to do things without your wife. It's absolutely necessary for you to do things without your wife.
/r/askMRP10/11/19 11:51 AM
4

Great FR. Guy starts getting his shit together, goes away to do some epic shit, slightly withdraws attention, wife sees it and dusts off her old unused pussy for him. Keep doing cool shit, keep 2/3 text ratio at all times. My biggest takeaway is that you said neither of you initiate sex - make sure she knows your a man that plans to fuck a lot (I'm assuming you do since you're here posting like a 15 year old that got some for the first time). Not initiating it's cowardly. Not initiating gives he…
/r/askMRP10/11/19 11:41 AM
8

No you don't! I literally said this in one of my threads when I was still a fat fuck. 6'3" 220 is nearly skinny fat territory. You probably aren't fat, but you sure as fuck aren't in good shape. You probably wear a shirt in the pool and when you fuck your wife.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 09:37 PM
1

Do you even want to be married to her? If not, GTFO, start living your life on your terms, see a lawyer and be the one handing her the papers.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 06:11 PM
7

Saying she gets attention from men and could cheat sounds like dread to me, though at 24% body fat it's hard to see why. Keep doing what you're doing. Your likely not far from a main event... Be prepared for that! Make it clear that you will not be moved from your course by her words. If you want to be with her, you should also make that clear that you want her to come along, but you will follow your mission where she does or not. At the same time, I'd go ahead and see a lawyer and have papers d…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 06:08 PM
5

When you feel the road rage coming on, just remind yourself that you're 5'7" 145 and most any trucker will beat the shit out of you if it ever comes down to it. Focus that energy on lifting and adding muscle mass instead.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 11:58 AM
8

Yep, she's avoiding fucking you. Could be that you're unattractive, you're autistic, not gaming her, whatever the reason, she'd rather scrub grout than fuck you (let that sink in). The bright side is that many wives who avoid sex with their beta husbands do so while sitting on their fat ass watching tv. At least yours does it constructively. The path forward is clear - put in the work to be a high value man. Then, if she'd still rather clean than lap up your cum, it's decision time about how to …
/r/askMRP04/11/19 02:27 PM
2

Seek legal guidance asap. Does she know you've cheated? Not sure what she would expect after 11+ years of abandoning your sexual needs, but it's obviously best if she doesn't know about it. You need to mentally prepare for war, you are feeling sappy about losing someone like a sister, while she'll be selling revenge for "what you've done to her and abandoning your marriage" as if she didn't Anand the marriage herself. Since she doesn't work, get ready to give up half your income, half your retir…
/r/askMRP03/11/19 12:45 PM
15

What in the fuck is wrong with you? I suspect it's Asperger's, if not full blown autism. You're really considering sleeping in your car rather than confronting her about slamming a door? She's been trying to apologize to you (she did apologize, and is at your house). Go let her apologize, then withdraw your time as you see fit, or choose to move on, but don't avoid like a little bitch.
/r/askMRP03/11/19 12:24 PM
3

Edit: disregard this reply, I just browsed your post history...too many videogaming posts for anyone around here to take you seriously as a man. What in the fuck did I just read? The donut conversation should've ended almost immediately, rather than dragging on. When she offered sex for donuts you should've AA'd the hell out of her being a fat donut whore... In a fun and absurd way, not just calling her a fat whore. Despite you being in her frame and driving around for hours to get your feelz in…
/r/askMRP03/11/19 12:17 PM
3

I want her to want to have sex with me. Textbook validation seeking. I get it, you have improved yourself and don't feel like she's responding as she should. Keep working, keep reading and figure out your mission. Your mission cannot be to have more sex with your wife. After you've really put in the work, and have really figured out what you want, she can either come along or not... You'll be ok either way.
/r/askMRP02/11/19 07:53 PM
20

Invent a time machine, go back and don't get married.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 07:01 PM
2

Your only addiction is mommy's validation. Be honest with yourself as to why you want her to have sex with you... It's validation seeking, isn't it?
/r/askMRP02/11/19 06:56 PM
2

What in the fuck did I just read? Before I unplugged, my wife told me on a couple of occasions that she just wasn't sexual anymore... It wasn't that she didn't want sex with me, she just didn't think about sex anymore, it wasn't something she wanted at all. "I guess that's just what happens when women get older", I thought. Nope, turns out I was just completely unattractive (fat ass videogamer). Once I had muscle definition and a backbone (frame and confidence), sex became top of mind for her. F…
/r/askMRP02/11/19 06:48 PM
1

See so_woke_the_wookie's response below. In my example, I would be having fun for my own sake, she's not affecting how I feel, I laugh at the thought of a high value man like me possibly needing anyone's permission. It's absurd. In your response, you're mad at her, you probably say it with a shitty tone that lets her know that her words...the words of a woman have you rattled and feeling defensive. It's not what's said, it's who says it and how it's said that matters.
/r/askMRP25/10/19 02:04 AM
7

I suppose if a woman said it, you can take it to the bank.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 06:08 PM
12

"that's fine" is just something people say. If you don't like that she says it, you either need to exit her frame (if this bothers you, you're clearly in her frame) or AA/AM, but go way over the top with "thank you your majesty for allowing me this excursion, perhaps when I return, I shall tap thy royal ass m'lady" smack her ass, curtsy out the door and don't give her comments a second thought. Either way, you care too fucking much about this
/r/askMRP24/10/19 06:03 PM
2

You really only have one path forward. Do the work, improve yourself, lift, read, do fun shit, meet people and send your time with them instead of moping around the house, angry at your wife. You'll reach a point where it's decision time, stay or go... But you're not a man who can or should make that decision yet. Don't approach it with any level of concern for saving your marriage. The goal is to live the life you want to live... Maybe that includes her, maybe it doesn't. Assume for now that it…
/r/askMRP23/10/19 11:09 PM
10

Even your victim puke is weak as fuck. Get busy doing the work, faggot.
/r/askMRP21/10/19 12:34 AM
5

Go see a lawyer, get guidance specific to your situation and your locality.
/r/askMRP15/10/19 11:20 PM
1

You will never torn things around by just reading here. It takes work, physical, mental, emotional. It's different for everyone. Get busy faggot.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 12:51 PM
1

It's choreplay because you're doing it with the that it will somehow lead to sex. If there's something you should be butthurt about here, it's that she's taking naps while there's a lot of work that needs to be done. This is also your fault, as you're not leading properly Read, lift (doesn't have to be in that order) and get shit done because you want it done... Not because you think washing the dishes gets you sexual credit.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 12:42 PM
3

She also told me that the girls in the fantasy always do "slutty" and forbidden stuff - they do anal, they squirt. they do ass to mouth, and in the fantasy I treat them like whores they are. I never kiss them and I never cum in their pussy, only in their ass or on their face/mouth. They are always blondes. Switch things up with her...try getting nasty with her and call her a dirty whore while you do it. As for your quick draw problem, do you masturbate? Porn? It's ok to stop and change positions…
/r/askMRP12/10/19 11:50 PM
1

Good that you're pushing boundaries with her. Now stop obsessing about and seeking validation from her response to you. Be your own source of validation. Similarly, if you're ok staying with someone who cheated on you, move on with it and stop looking back. You may find that it nags at you too much and you can't stay... But the stay plan is the go plan and it does you no good to obsess about it in the meantime.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 07:05 PM
1

One of the more cringeworthy parts I've read on MRP. He's skipped all levels of dread and expects to be an alpha in the bedroom. Nothing screams butthurt like "that was 3 hours ago. I'm not in the mood now"
/r/askMRP10/10/19 11:38 AM
1

Sounds like you handled it well. Her shitty attitude change is her feeling her beta slipping away. Don't DEER, just continue to do what you want. She will continue to take up the shitty behavior (shit tests), but this is good.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 10:54 AM
1

The evolution of your mindset is great to see. I think if you're not immediately hard nexting a cheater, the only thing you can do is demote her to plate and just go on living your life on your terms. You're really starting to swallow the pill now. What I don't like in your posts is the sex for the sake of validation. You're using her reaction to you, as well as sex as a measure of your success. The improved sex you're getting is likely hysterical bonding mixed with some dread due to your new be…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 01:48 AM
3

I had it easy as well. I worked out, started doing shit I wanted to do, gamed her a little and she changed instantly. Just be careful not to use her reaction to you as the measuring stick for your progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 12:57 AM
3

Yes, we all regret having been men who made sure women knew we didn't just want to get in their pants. Now we're in relationships where we don't get our sexual needs met. Your approach will spend you in the same place. Focus on being a good value man, the women will be there, and willing to do just about anything to be with you.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 08:22 PM
8

This question is only being asked because you view love as validation. Get past that shit. Spend time with women you enjoy spending time with - for conversation, fucking, sucking, being your wing chick so you can lure in other dudes you can fuck... Whatever the reason you enjoy spending time with her. Stop seeking validation and definitely give up on the idea of everlasting fairytale love.
/r/askMRP28/09/19 06:08 PM
7

My go to:. "Alexa: play 'Hero' by Mariah Carey" ... Best part is not having an Alexa device. Slap that ass, smirk and out to the garage to do something more important than bicker with a harpy about her being upset that I'm more fun with my kids than she is. This technique of basically dismissing her silly bullshit with AA or amused mastery, removing myself (attention) and carrying on being fun has never failed me. In addition, she'll often come find me and after a couple shit or sometimes comfor…
/r/askMRP28/09/19 03:32 AM
1

Sounds like your head is in a good place. She's adding value, so keeping her around makes sense. Knowing you have options knowing your relationship isn't what you thought it was makes it easy to essentially plate her. Do you frequently travel to the same cities? If so, you might try to establish plates in those cities... Don't focus on airport women rather locals who you could see more than once. ASD makes it tough to ONS unless you're Chad. If not Chad, you may have to see someone a few times t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 03:48 AM
1

What is your plan for chatting up chicks in the airport? Do you plan to fuck them? Is it catch and release for the sake of building abundance mentality? Is it revenge for your "wife" fucking someone else in the 70s? I have no judgment either way, just curious about your motivation. First time I've commented on your posts, but I have read most, if not all. Given your age and the time between her cheating on you and you finding out about it, your story is fascinating to me. AWALT. Have you, or are…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 08:07 PM
1

I also tracked wife's cycle for a while... It was eye opening how her moods were day and night depending on her cycle. It helped me realize that her hormones are some powerful shit. Also that anything she said was feelz AT THAT MOMENT and because of her feelz, she's incapable of consistency. I stopped tracking, but I just know now when shitty behaviour occurs, it's her cycle. Likewise, when she drops to her knees to greet me at the door with head... That's her feelz as well, it can change in an …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 05:04 PM
1

If your sex drive is falling off, could be low T, have you had your testosterone levels checked? Could also be that you're avoiding the shame of being a 2 pump chump. Develop an IDGAF mindset and it will take the pressure off, allowing you to last longer. Otherwise, when you feel close to cumming, and you want to last longer, it's ok to stop, pull out for a second, reposition her (bonus points if you throw her around with your big muscles), then get back to it. The main thing is to get out of yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 10:11 AM
5

Holy fuck dude. I get that you're putting your kids first, and that's noble...but at the cost of your dignity and self respect. Her sister suggested you should stay in the house with this cheating whore? Who the fuck is she to suggest anything about how you should live your life, or what's best for YOUR children? Other than yourself, the only person whose opinions should matter to you is your attorney... You do have one, right?... Or were you just planning to let your wife's sister dictate that …
/r/askMRP15/09/19 02:58 PM
2

Just stop caring so fucking much. Treat her opinions like they're the opinions of a child. As a high value man you should be so far above this bullshit that it just doesn't matter. Stay the course, it shouldn't matter what she says/does, you're on a fucking mission, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/19 04:20 AM
2

What is it that I've said that makes you think I'm angry? Just the bit about calling her out for the way she talks to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 08:33 PM
2

Fighting down the urge to tell my (ex)wife all my stupid feelings and express my anger and disappointment. It’s my fault. Fine. STFU. She wants to be friends. I don’t; at least, not yet. Keeping things businesslike and in the kids’ interests. Good, keep fighting those urges. No need to tell her anything that doesn't pertain to the kids. What's your plan/approach for meeting women? Already crushing new ass? Not ready yet? Monk mode/focusing on yourself isn't a bad idea for someone who didn't unpl…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 11:13 AM
2

It sounds like you're angry - is it your wife? Does the pill hurt to swallow? Doesn't matter why, you're angry and it shows even to a stranger over the internet. You don't sound fun at all...most of game (especially in a marriage) is being fun and being attractive (or at least not being unattractive). If you're going to fake it until you make it, this is where you really need to fake it. Game her, have fun. Even if she's a total cunt and doesn't deserve it... She's practice for the next one. Sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 11:05 AM
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All the validation you need comes from within. You give a fuck what she thinks, you're living your life in her frame.
/r/askMRP26/08/19 07:51 PM
1

I'm glad you found my post useful, but I'm just some stranger on the internet. You figure out your situation and take the course that's right for you. Just seems obvious that she (and you) have to get some help dealing with a major life tragedy. I hope the counseling you're referring to process to be a good first step in getting her (and you) to deal with the loss. If MRP is RP on hard mode, you're RP on impossible mode. Good luck, looking forward to following your progress. The road ahead will …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/19 01:41 AM
7

Do you tell him about the aquifer? We do not talk about aquifer club.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 10:19 AM
1

You don't have a typical MRP situation. You guys lost a son. She is still dealing (not very well) with this loss and she's depressed. She needs professional help. No amount of lifting, reading, gaming, etc is going to address this. If she doesn't want help, or tried to get help and nothing changes, then you make your decision about whether you're right together. I'm assuming your vows said something like "for better or worse, in sickness and in health". This are the for worse and in sickness par…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 09:00 PM
8

Only you can decide what's best for you...I just don't see how you can lay divorce on the table, then turn the page and offer her "a way to move forward." There's nothing wrong with YOUR decision to work with her, but you clearly have no frame to see this through. At best you've bought yourself time to get your shit together, at worst, you've given her notice that she should lawyer up and divorce rape you.
/r/askMRP20/08/19 05:23 PM
6

You're choking on the god damn pill, either swallow the fucking thing or spit it out and go back to living in your fairytale world. Go on... Swallow it already!!!
/r/askMRP20/08/19 12:51 AM
25

What the actual fuck is this? In one breath, you talk about how great you are and that she would never leave you...But isn't this post all about how she just fucked some other guy, yet you are unable to burn it down because you're a scared little cuck?
/r/askMRP18/08/19 12:25 PM
7

You have undoubtedly been running your mouth too much, telling this side piece what YOU want. She would like to secure your provisioning for herself, so she's checking the boxes you told her you want checked. AWALT. My wife used to tell me she loved sucking my dick, thinks sex should be at least once a day, etc. It's a new relationship, it's exciting, it's "dangerous." Of course she seems great, she hasn't put the beta in it's cage yet. If your only complaint with your wife is that she's fat, le…
/r/askMRP17/08/19 01:09 PM
3

What I read was a lot of people posting about married where their partners have not said they don't love them romantically before. Half the men here have been told "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" aka ILYBINILWY. There are plenty of posts about this, there is plenty of material about this in the side bar. The bad news is that your relationship sounds pretty fucked. The good news is that your relationship isn't what's most important - you are what's important. Focus on you, not on savin…
/r/askMRP15/08/19 12:43 PM
2

I stopped reading when you said you haven't read the sidebar... Get busy mother fucker.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 11:44 PM
1

There's a lot of faggottry in this post, but you seem to be doing the work. She's most likely fucked this"friend" and it's your fault. Seems you recognize that it's your fault. Whether true or not, it's entirely possible and you might as well mentally deal with it. The stay plan = the go plan, but work as if you're leaving - it's more motivating that way. Good work on lifting and weight loss. After your noob gains slow down, you may want to focus on bulk/cut cycles as it gets harder and harder t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 11:42 PM
2

I really did not say anything other than I am glad you are feeling that way. So your response to a woman who is concerned about the possibility of you leaving her is "I'm glad you are feeling that way"? My standard response to "I'm afraid your going to cheat" or "I'm afraid your going to leave me" is "what reason have you given me to do that?" *Hug, kiss, ass slap, on to doing better things.
/r/askMRP10/08/19 10:44 AM
3

Not sure this sounds like dread so much as negotiated desire?
/r/askMRP07/08/19 05:08 PM
1

Sounds like you have the right attitude. Keep putting in the work, but know that she may not come along... And that's ok too. Stay plan = go plan
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 11:19 AM
1

You say she doesn't cook, clean or fuck...what value does she add? You should think long and hard about that as you continue to unfuck yourself. With no kids, you've got an easy exit if she doesn't step it up. Keep your foot on the gas and don't let her drag you down.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 05:22 PM
1

You are a ZERO on the "worry about comfort" scale. You need to worry about dread. Everything in this post is you hovering over your wife's pussy. No dread. Exactly what I was thinking... Then confirmed when I got to the shower portion. You've read a few tricks here and there, and it's good to try them out... But you need to focus on the bigger picture here - this is about living the life you want to live, not about getting your wife to fuck you. The touched out thing is a legit issue women have.…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 05:07 PM
3

It's been 8 months and you still take your wife serious and get concerned about mouth noises? The only mouth noises you should be concerned with at this point is her choking on your cock... And even that shouldn't worry you.
/r/askMRP02/08/19 02:09 PM
1

This isn't a main event, this is her being confused by you being an asshole. Yes, be more alpha, no, don't be a stonewalling asshole. You're 10 days in... You're not ready for a main event. She doesn't even notice your changes... Even if she did, she doesn't believe they're real or permanent. Keep reading and try not to go totally Rambo like this. Good for you for setting a boundary of not being ok with your wife being impregnated by sperm that is not yours. You haven't heard the last of this, b…
/r/askMRP30/07/19 01:41 PM
1

In your mind, proceed as if you're single (where you set your boundary is up to you). Don't base your decisions on her. Don't make plans around her. Do your own laundry, clean up after yourself. Don't really in her for anything. Know, and display that your life is fine without her. You're both too comfortable in the relationship. She thinks she doesn't have to do shit to keep her beta bitch in his cage. It's good that you're channeling your anger into lifting, but a word of caution...find other …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/19 12:39 PM
1

If this is starting over, don't start over as a beta bitch. Why not start off as a guy that fucks when and how he wants to. No, don't say that... Just know that you are that guy and put in the work it requires to make it so.
/r/askMRP26/07/19 02:57 AM
1

The anger phase is a real son of a bitch, but it will pass and you will live the life you want to live, with or without her...if you put in the work.
/r/askMRP25/07/19 03:08 AM
1

My thought exactly. OP - Until you know it to be true, that you are the captain, you're best to stfu, least she show you you're still her bitch.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 04:40 PM
2

Nice lifts. You need to chill the fuck out and drop any expectation of what she should do in response to your words, actions, etc. Those are covert contracts. Stop over analyzing everything, have fun, be fun. Stop doing this to get HER to fuck you more, or better, or whatever.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 02:48 PM
4

WTF is this? 6 days without calling your wife? She has a right to be pissed. It's one thing to not call a plate for 6 days, that might create good dread and lead to crazy fucking...but this is your wife, a new mother. You are the definition of Rambo, a kid with Dynamite. Stop being a 'sperg and give her some comfort once in a while. MRP focuses so much on upping the alpha behaviors that newbs like you come here and think they need to "kill the beta and flip on the alpha switch.". It doesn't fuck…
/r/askMRP24/07/19 01:58 PM
1

I started out 6'4" 283 and ran quite a bit as part of my weight loss plan. I am down to 225 now, but I cut running out of my routine except on an indoor padded track. I developed sciatic nerve pain while running one day, hasn't gone away, been several weeks now. I'm going to have to see a doctor. Stick to lifting, plenty of stretching and walking fast. Not much to be gained from running at your size.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 11:18 AM
8

How to deal with this? Choose to exercise self-control and be disciplined - and stop yelling at your children faggot. If I may slightly shorten this: Choose to exercise faggot.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 01:21 AM
6

You, my friend are in the anger phase, but you also have one big, nasty covert contact on your hands. "I've been lifting, I'm looking good, I read the sidebar, I track her cycle - she's fertile, she has to want to fuck me now." Drop 100% of your expectations of her. Just because you think you've improved doesn't mean she sees it, and she certainly doesn't believe your changes are real or permanent! Your anger stems from her not doing what your covert contact says she should do. The biggest probl…
/r/askMRP22/07/19 06:06 PM
1

"Don't worry babe, even if I drop a few pounds this will still be nice and thick"
/r/askMRP21/07/19 12:21 PM
3

God damn, that's poetic. I think you just made me stop drinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 12:57 AM
1

You're early in your journey. Stay focused on lifting, eating right and building frame. In your mind, consider your wife gone...Do the things you'd do if that were the case. Start getting out of the house and spend time with other men. As for her calling you a rapist, etc... Just realized this takes time. My only advice here is to not engage in these conversations, the most you can do is fog and be honest that you find her attractive and that you want to fuck her and often. Just don't be a creep…
/r/askMRP13/07/19 10:01 AM
5

All answers are subject to change because AWALT. And she might be right to do so: When my wife and I first started fucking/dating, I asked her how often she thought we should have sex in our relationship. "At least once a day" she said. That all changed when I became a fat, video game playing asshole who was no fun.
/r/askMRP09/07/19 02:11 AM
1

The nerve for a woman to say this to her man after he treats her well for the night... At some point you just got to respect yourself enough to next when this sort of behaviour surfaces. I hope this is sarcasm.
/r/askMRP08/07/19 10:25 AM
2

Yeah, you're right, it doesn't fucking matter.
/r/askMRP07/07/19 02:16 AM
9

I didn't say it to her, but the reality is that we used to fuck in her parents house right next to their room. The craziest, drunkest sex we've ever had happened in that room the first time I met her parents. I was 22 at the time, and I'm 41 now. We've fucked in other relatives homes, friends houses, a fucking hotel room we shared with other people... She's never given a single fuck until this, that's why I'm confused.
/r/askMRP07/07/19 01:28 AM
2

That's what I think too, but wanted to get others' thoughts to be sure I'm not missing anything else. The old adage that women make rules for betas and break rules for alphas ran through my mind when I thought about the initial interaction.
/r/askMRP07/07/19 01:17 AM
1

A little background - I used to get 2-3x/mo and almost all of it was duty sex unless we were wasted, then we would really fuck. A large chunk of the sex we used to have was transactional - I'd massage for a blowjob or do choreplay for sex. It was important that I kill all of the bullshit - negotiated desire, choreplay, massages, concert contracts, etc. As for the business trip, that was probably close to a year ago, and that was the first time I ever said no to anything sexual with her. I firmly…
/r/askMRP07/07/19 01:15 AM
9

Yep, this is the angle I was missing. Next time she's getting fucked outside on the trampoline.
/r/askMRP07/07/19 12:58 AM
4

I probably am over thinking it. I credit much of my progress to being thoughtful and deliberate in my actions, so when something happens that I'm not sure about, I think it's worth asking for the MRPs collective wisdom.
/r/askMRP06/07/19 10:04 PM
2

Fair enough. Just trying to stay sharp. I've admittedly slacked a bit in reading in recent months. This event struck me as odd, so I've definitely given several fucks thinking about what I could've done differently.
/r/askMRP06/07/19 08:51 PM
2

Ok, I had to Google "clitoromegaly"... I'm sure you'll grow to enjoy it once your gag reflex gets under control.
/r/askMRP06/07/19 08:49 PM
1

This is probably partially true. I definitely have a sense of contentment recently, things have gone well, and this just seemed an unusual situation considering she's always eager to please recently.
/r/askMRP06/07/19 08:46 PM
2

I also thought it was a legit concern she had until she pulled a 180 the next night. Parents had their door closed, tv on and dad snoring. House is solid, very rarely hear anything from another room. Just trying to make sure I'm not rusty and missing a bigger issue.
/r/askMRP06/07/19 08:12 PM
3

You're ahead in life. AFAIK, my wife has been faithful and all my kids are mine... Even so, life would have been much easier had I been RP aware at your age. I'm sure it sucks to have found out about her cheating, but you're much better off for it.
/r/askMRP03/07/19 09:28 PM
5

Congratulations dude. You're lucky to have found this out now instead of 10 years into a marriage after having kids. No real loss for you, and now you're fully RP aware and awake. Onward and upward for you
/r/askMRP03/07/19 11:30 AM
3

Solid post, solid progress. I admire that you've done so much work before posting here. 290 lbs at your height is fat as fuck, good for you for taking action to do something about it. Foot on the gas!!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 12:56 AM
1

It's not going to work so long as you're doing it for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/19 11:23 PM
2

Surgeons make a lot of money... Most surgeons have very little money.... Because they are married to surgeon's wives, who have to maintain a surgeon's wife's lifestyle. Wasting money on shit like horse shows, lessons, taking the horse farm owner to expensive dinners and staying in nice hotels with him while at said horse shows. You will get divorce raped in a major way, but it is the best logical step if you ever hope to have any self-respect and accumulate wealth for yourself. At this point, yo…
/r/askMRP17/06/19 02:59 PM
1

Love my kids, would do that part again... But I'd absolutely not have gotten married. I gave up all other possible pussy in exchange for 1 that was made available to me less and less over time. I assume she's been faithful, but no way to know for sure that nothing ever "just happened." I'd rather spin a few plates, all competing, all giving their best than settling.
/r/askMRP12/06/19 07:29 PM
3

You should shame yourself for worshipping the ground she walks on brother. Cut that shit asap...go to the concert, go to the brewery. There's nothing stopping you except that you have her on a pedestal. Sounds like you don't have biological children with her. Getting out should be fairly easy if it comes to that. Follow the program first though... It tends to work miracles in my experience.
/r/askMRP01/06/19 01:48 AM
1

He's gay now and we've always been cool. Bet you have...get to work faggot!
/r/askMRP21/05/19 01:51 AM
2

Just that she doesn't take your changes seriously because you start things and don't stick with them. She thinks you'll lose 10lbs, then put on 20 after you quit.
/r/askMRP21/05/19 12:38 AM
4

It might not be that she doesn't care so much as she doesn't believe your changes are real and permanent. She thinks it's a weak ploy to get more sex - especially when you've obviously started that's what you want from her. I'll bet you don't have a track record of following through on things.. She has no reason to believe you're really going to suddenly be a man after all these years of acting like abitch.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 01:43 PM
1

She probably doesn't even remember you making the comment in the bedroom. Chad says way crazier things to her, your words don't even register on her bad girl scale.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 02:21 AM
1

You said you are a SAHD - the only thing in that job title that's a problem is the SAH part - get out, build a life, don't act like your waiting around for her to have sex with you... It's such a panty dryer. She needs to see that you're a man with shit to do, not another kid. You don't need to explain where you're going, or what you're doing.. Just do something - go to the gym, go look at clothes and figure out a new style for yourself. It might not make her hamster run yet, but it will grease …
/r/askMRP19/05/19 12:06 PM
1

Sounds like she's not attracted to you. I'd suggest sidebar and lifting. Should improve your outlook on getting what you want from life.
/r/askMRP19/05/19 02:56 AM
2

Where do you see that? If that's the case, the past forward should be clear, though it's not what OP would want to hear.
/r/askMRP16/05/19 07:23 PM
3

Direct it towards the iron. I did this, it works well. Biggest issue now is that the anger is mostly gone, and I need to find other sources of energy and motivation for lifting.
/r/askMRP16/05/19 05:49 PM
6

Of everything I've learned from MRP, knowing that I'm really just angry at myself has been the most beneficial. I wallowed in the anger phase for what seemed like an eternity. It passed, but not until I recognized it's not my wife, or society, or Chad, or anyone else...but ME that I'm actually angry at. Be the fucking prize and you'll stop feeling jealous when she goes out and plays these games. A married woman would have to be a fucking fool to cheat on a high value husband.
/r/askMRP16/05/19 03:17 PM
2

So you're saying this was a FM(the way I want to be fucked)OFY talk?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 11:01 AM
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Is this actually a main event, or just him overtly stating what he wants sexually (maybe even more like negotiating desire)? I would think a proper main event, by a high value man lays out the vision and a full range of expectations for many aspects of life... Not crying to her that she doesn't make you feel wanted. It sounds like you have decent frame to be able to calmly talk through your issue and tell her what you want... But I had this same conversation as a blue pill beta faggot when I tol…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:12 AM
2

Sounds like you're well on your way. I actually enjoy when my wife pokes fun at me...just let's me know she's a strong 1st officer that's willing to call me on my shit. Just as she wants me to be a strong man who will stand up for himself and his family, I like knowing that she doesn't tolerate a lot of bullshit either. If your dick wasn't about to fall off from all the fucking you'd already done, her calling herself the prize would've been a good time to initiate and throw her around a little m…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 09:36 PM
1

If he hasn't fucked your chick, he could do so at any time. She probably really loves you though, since she wants you to be the one holding her down while he fucks her... Go see a divorce attorney and get your ducks in a row - go monk mode, as far as she knows you believe her and all is ok... Meanwhile, you're planning your escape with 100% focus on your best interests.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 06:43 PM
2

Just BE the captain... What's to be gained by talking about it (or about much of anything else for that matter). Her "I'm the prize" comment screams that you talk too much... Where else would she get that terminology? She was making fun of you, knowing how hard you've had to try to be the prize... Knowing that giving you some pussy and a blowjob gave you validation and feelz...in her mind, she is still the prize. If you talk about fight club, she will see what lengths your blue pill (or former b…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 06:10 PM
4

Yep, it's fucked up that SAHMs constantly talk about how much they do around the house...while their husband is out earning a paycheck. Post divorce, the male gives up 1/2 of that paycheck a while she no longer has to provide him with 1/2 of the childcare, cleaning, logistics, sex, etc. She continues to receive his provisioning while she returns zero value. Doesn't sound like much of a difference to OP. Best thing a guy can do is get their SAHM back to work before leaving her ass.
/r/askMRP12/05/19 04:31 PM
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They typically equalize household income - if it's all his income, she'd likely get 1/2 of it... Until she remarries some other BB. Varies state to state and I am not a lawyer.
/r/askMRP12/05/19 02:38 PM
9

Usually 50% in the US for shared custody. Would hurt badly, but he'd be better off without this bitch. Money is worth less than dignity.
/r/askMRP12/05/19 12:57 AM
2

Your post is all "she, her" you're living your entire life in her frame. If she wants you to earn the money to pay bills and you're ok with that, then fine... But she doesn't get to buy a house and vehicles you can't afford. Take control of your finances and live within your means. If she wants the extras bad enough, she'll contribute or leave... Either way, you're better off for it. If my wife ever told me she wanted a divorce because I haven't done well enough in my career, her ass would be ou…
/r/askMRP12/05/19 12:54 AM
2

Most importantly, be that guy because it's who you want to be...not because it's who you think she wants you to be. Otherwise you'll find yourself disappointed when mommy still doesn't love you after you put in so much work to make her happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 07:35 PM
1

Solid, haven't heard that approach before, but it makes perfect sense. Burn it all down and rebuild it the way it should be built.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 07:02 PM
4

Outcome Independence - I reached a point where I no longer care what she says, or does, or doesn't do sexually or otherwise. I used to get really caught up in how she reacted to "the new me" - why isn't she fucking me right now, or wow, she is letting me do things I never thought she'd allow. Over time, it became exhausting and I have had to let it go. I've visualized burning it all down, the financial effect, effect on kids, etc... and have gotten enough IOIs from other women to know my dick wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 06:18 PM
3

You're a fucking garbage fire.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 02:31 PM
1

Welcome, your situation sounds a lot like mine was - fat fuck who just accepted whatever. Follow the program, this shit works - may not save your marriage, or you may find you don't care to save it...but it will save you! Definitely read WISNIFG - it will help you build frame and be able to respond to her shit storms. I never had my wife tell me she wants a divorce, or blow up in me the way yours does...but I suspect she's really just telling you to be the man she married (the badass athletic Ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 02:28 PM
3

Good stuff, especially coming off an OYS in which you were failing shit tests left and right and wanted to blow your brains out. I had extreme highs and lows like that - one day thought I was the man after she fucked me well, or after pushing a sexual boundary....to the next day being butthurt that she hadn't cleaned the house the way I'd told her to. What I've since learned is that I was always reacting to her...and you're doing the same! Don't allow her to move you - you're a fucking oak. If y…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 01:47 PM
3

Good points. I wish I could say that I absolutely don't give a fuck about her scoreboard, and I think I'm close to that, but every once in a while she'll say something that I allow to get to me. I usually snap back with something and catch myself deering, then STFU or AM. I'm a witty smart ass as well, so AA & AM comes easily to me. My wife has been nice and submissive to my re-establishing myself as captain of the ship. I guess some part of me still wants to think there's some point where she w…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/19 01:57 AM
2

Thanks for linking this. I'm 15 months in and am at this point where the scoreboard needs to go. What is the best method for destroying the scoreboard? Wife and I are in a good place, but sometimes I find one or the other keeping score. Is it just acta non verba and turning off the scoreboard on my end, and demonstrate that her scoring system is funny to me (AM)...or do you overtly tell her that the scoreboard is off on my end and that I expect the same of her.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/19 12:30 AM
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Nice update. Good for you on following through on fucking someone else. Is the money she makes really worth you forgoing the life you want for yourself? Only you can figure out what you want in life, but you seem to have a strong case of oneitis - you'd think pounding out some strange would've taken care of that for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 06:47 PM
6

This post is dangerous, given the spergs on these forums. Yes, push boundaries, escalate to a hard no, but for fuck sake... Don't rape anyone.
/r/askMRP03/05/19 01:24 AM
1

If you're not angry, you probably haven't really unplugged, or at least recognized your nice guy tendencies and how they've prevented you from really living your best life. At first, it's normal to direct your anger at her... But it should really be directed at yourself, or at least at the beta bitch version of yourself. It's not her that didn't do x... It's your covert contracts that prevented her from knowing that you expected y in exchange for X... That's not on her. When I unplugged I went d…
/r/askMRP26/04/19 09:05 PM
1

I'd kill to have known RP at your age. You are the prize, live accordingly. Why settle for one woman at this point? Sample them all, and choose wisely if you still feel you want to settle down. You're too young to have the proper life perspective. I've never heard an older man say "I wish I'd have fucked fewer women when I was young"... While the majority of men wish they hadn't settled at a young age.
/r/askMRP26/04/19 12:56 AM
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Not that it matters, you've chosen your course of action already, but what circumstances make you think she cheated on you? Just because you were a beta bitch...or was there an actual questionable event or circumstance you can point to that just doesn't feel right. You can drive yourself crazy rehashing potential situations from the past.
/r/askMRP19/04/19 06:33 PM
1

"My wife"
/r/askMRP17/04/19 01:45 PM
13

Worried about losing the 10? Go fuck five 2's.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 06:12 PM
3

Sidebar
/r/askMRP12/04/19 05:20 PM
1

My sister and i used to do shit like this... When we were 8. Your long history as a drunk captain puts you at a severe disadvantage. You need monk mode - focus on your substance issues and lifting without a god damn word about either to her. After you've assembled something that even remotely resembles a frame, you can start running your stupid fucking mouth again. Are you surprised that she doesn't respect you? Is she an addict too? Clean yourself up, get professional help. Channel your addicti…
/r/askMRP12/04/19 05:02 PM
8

Hope you enjoyed your turn with her.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 04:48 PM
3

Last year went camping and kayak fishing with 2 old college friends. It was awesome...doing it again this year in late May.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 02:45 AM
2

I had a pretty nasty initial anger phase, largely related to having missed out on living MY life and having fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 02:06 AM
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It's primarily doing what you would want to do if you were a single man...and inviting someone along. I no longer say things like "what do you want to do this Saturday?"...I announce something more like "I'm going kayaking on this awesome River Saturday, you should come along, I can arrange for an extra kayak." I do this with friends now too - I've got Tix to X concert, you should come. Do what you want to do and invite others along...if they don't want to go, do it anyway, it's about you enjoyi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 03:35 PM
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I should have added - make sure to take time to do things on your own as well... Is nice guys have a tendency to get caught up in "helping" to the point that we don't pursue our own interests. Twins make that an easy trap to fall into... But it's essential that you get away from her and the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:37 AM
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What do you do to get her excited? Do you take her out? Does she have any fun in life? Have you had an overnight with just her? I have 3 y/o twins and a 7 y/o son. After unplugging, it became abundantly clear to me that I was boring as fuck - I didn't make plans to do fun things (with or without the wife). Twins are brutal, it's hard to find a sitter you can trust, they've a lot of work, cost a lot of money, chasing them around is draining, etc. One of the best things I've started doing over the…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 10:47 AM
2

Haha... she doesn't want to be in the same room as you when you're home and barely acknowledges your presence when you're there, but you think you're going to instill some sort of fear by not coming home? If anything, she'll enjoy the break. Savage and 100% accurate.
/r/askMRP09/04/19 02:07 AM
2

Damn dude, you don't get it at all. I'm surprised you are getting laid as much as you are. If you're not speaking to her, you're not gaming her. If you're not gaming, your not exciting, you're giving her nothing to look forward to except compliments from her friends at work, and yes, eventually your neglect will end with her fucking a Chad. What is her value to you? I assume you once enjoyed her company and she once enjoyed yours? The difference is you... It's your attitude, your lack of leaders…
/r/askMRP09/04/19 01:24 AM
6

You haven't been seeing this chick for long...is it possible she's pretending to be someone she's not... You know, like you're pretending to be an alpha male? You have fallen prey to the principal of least fucks given - she pushes you away, telling you that you should stay with your family and now you want her even more. She's the one gaming you, faggot.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 02:09 PM
2

She'll still be free daycare during her share of split custody. If rather pay for part time daycare than fuck a landwhale who is fucking me out of pity and/or to use my resources. The fact that you have actually calculated your close percentage to one 10th of a percent tells me all I need to know about whose frame this relationship operates in and where the problem lies. If you're willing to risk permanent injury to your dick to add a little length for the benefit of someone who can't feel it an…
/r/askMRP06/04/19 09:34 PM
2

Your wife is 250, she doesn't fuck.... What is her value? Leave her, go fuck someone who wants your little penis.
/r/askMRP06/04/19 06:12 PM
6

I credit reading NMMNG with the majority of my unfucking, but there are 2 parts of NMMNG that I strongly disagree with: 1: The party that said you should tell your wife that you're working on improving and even have her read the book. 2: You guessed it... Sex moratorium. Initiate whenever you feel like fucking. If fucking is important to you, and she is refusing to do it when you initiate, you have some choices to make. If you're not initiating because you're afraid of rejection, you're really j…
/r/askMRP06/04/19 05:50 PM
4

Agree with the other posts - do it if you want it done. Don't expect a damn thing from her (that's a covert contract to think - if I clean, she'll do x). Demonstrate in this way and in other ways that she is not needed, rather you choose to have her around. She'll either add value or not and as you progress you'll either choose to keep her around for the value she adds, or you'll move on. The stay plan is the go plan. I'm about a year in. If my SAHM wife sees me cleaning, she says something like…
/r/askMRP06/04/19 02:28 PM
4

I'd kill to have known RP kung-fu before I was married with 3 kids. You are in a position to take control of your fucking life instead of selling out for the first chick to open her legs for you. You are a doctor, you should be fucking countless nurses. If you want to settle down with a woman, make it one that demonstrates, through her actions that she would walk through fire to be with you. Her taking steps to distance herself from you via LTR should tell you all you need to know about where yo…
/r/askMRP27/03/19 08:24 PM
6

Holy fuck, her pedestal is huge
/r/askMRP23/03/19 12:57 AM
1

Take your time, always remember that the stay plan is the go plan - get yourself right, then you're ready for the good life whether it's with her or other women, you'll be bullet proof.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 05:31 PM
5

Holy fuck, you've got work to do. What's keeping you with her at this point? Is the relationship salvageable... Is it worth salvaging? You've got a long road of unfucking ahead. Whatever you do...DO NOT CUM INSIDE ANYONE... Your wife, the babysitter or anyone else. A kid is there last thing you need.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 01:12 PM
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Check out the frame on this stoic mother fucker. The most pathetic part is she's probably convinced herself that she did the best she could . Women (especially victims) are masters of rewriting history...to the point that they even believe it themselves. Keep up the good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 02:35 AM
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Can't argue with the wisdom in that post. It really is that simple on this and most any other situation in life. I do still find myself being a "nice guy" at times. My first thought when I read the text was "cool, that's solid dread" and smirked...but my nice guy hamster turned it to "I wouldn't like it if I were worried that she's actively cheating on me"... I need to remember that her thoughts and feelings are hers to deal with...no matter how wildly hamstered they may be.
/r/askMRP17/03/19 03:00 AM
6

Bitch please
/r/askMRP17/03/19 12:44 AM
3

Good stuff, thanks.
/r/askMRP17/03/19 12:40 AM
8

Only once since the great "came in her mouth" crisis of ’18, and she didn't complain about it. Most BJs are foreplay...even during shark week. Fucking during shark week used to be off the menu, recently it's been at least once per cycle, if I want it. I also haven't fucked her in the ass yet if you're planning to read my entire post history to ask similar questions. PS: take my upvote, faggot.
/r/askMRP16/03/19 06:08 PM
5

Good stuff, thank you.
/r/askMRP16/03/19 05:49 PM
1

Haven't had a main event yet, but it probably is coming. I'm ready if/when it does.
/r/askMRP16/03/19 05:43 PM
1

OP said that he can’t believe his wife would actually think he’s cheating on her Where?
/r/askMRP16/03/19 05:22 PM
5

Probably more this, but mostly just want to make sure I'm not oblivious to comfort seeking. She adds value - good mom, good in the sack, pulls her weight around the house, etc. I'm glad the 1k ft rope tightened for her, but should it slacken, I'm prepared to cut it.
/r/askMRP16/03/19 05:20 PM
4

She gave me her (new) phone to set up text voice mail...I haven't looked at her phone otherwise in over a year. Only looked at it because it was right there... Though I did choose to read the prior conversation after seeing the one text. I definitely used to care where she went, what she did and with whom, but I honestly do not give a shit about that anymore. If she wanted to cheat, she would. If she wants to talk shit about me, she will. I just haven't experienced her being legitimately concern…
/r/askMRP16/03/19 04:39 PM
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Soon (if all goes well) she should start getting in better shape herself and dressing / acting sexier for you in an effort to chase you a little bit and make sure you stick around. I hope so, so far she's only talked about it a lot. My SMV is a good 2 points above hers at this point.
/r/askMRP16/03/19 02:46 PM
7

I haven't said a word and won't unless she directly asks. I have pretended I didn't see anything and have offered no info on my whereabouts that night.
/r/askMRP16/03/19 02:42 PM
6

Every man here who takes RP seriously and puts in the work found this place in their own... Because they were ready, they had hit a bottom, they knew something was broken and for the first time they could clearly see it was they who were broken. Otherwise, they're not ready for it.
/r/askMRP16/03/19 11:26 AM
4

Is it disgust with the universal truth of AWALT? Will the grass be greener?
/r/askMRP14/03/19 05:05 PM
3

For me, and it sounds like you as well, there were 2 anger phases. The first was just reading the MRP material and realizing it was all true...that you were played by society, by your betadom, or whatever. You did everything the "right way" and still weren't living the life you wanted and felt you deserved. The second, and more bitter, was seeing 1st hand the way my wife (and other women) acted towards me after I lost weight, added muscle and started gaming them. This is what I could've had for …
/r/askMRP14/03/19 05:02 PM
6

The problem with what you just said is that the outcome you're focused on is sex with your wife. The goal you might instead set is to be a man with a fulfilling sex life. If that's your goal, it doesn't matter if your wife turns you down...You can achieve your goal with or without her. You don't need to get butthurt when she turns you down, you will still have what you want...it just might not be with her. It's one thing to be outcome independent about one off sexual denials... It's better to ac…
/r/askMRP12/03/19 02:15 AM
5

No doubt there's a lot of that here too, but most want to help you see why what you're doing is clearly not in line with red pill principles. I'm a highly analytical person myself, so my natural tendency was to track and measure...until I realized that my wife (AWALT) is not a logical creature...she reacts to emotions, feelings, her sister's feelings, the feelings of some TV character, you get the point. Pushing the right combination of buttons doesn't unlock the pussy, so it isn't worth trackin…
/r/askMRP12/03/19 01:53 AM
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I'm glad you found it constructive, but honestly, you deserve everything else that got thrown at you in this thread. You obviously aren't a red pill man yet. It appears you've read little to none of the sidebar. You're operating in your wife's frame and seeking validation in a major way. You probably get mad at her when you do the things that have worked in the past but still don't get laid? That's a covert contract, my friend. Expecting that if you push UP, UP, DOWN, DOWN, LEFT, RIGHT, LEFT, RI…
/r/askMRP12/03/19 01:07 AM
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This is absolutely ridiculous OP. When I started MRP, I tracked her cycle and # of times we had sex. After 3-4 months, I had learned all I needed to know and scrapped following it. A few questions about your spreadsheet: Don't you have better shit to do? If she discovers that you are tracking all of this, how desperate and pathetic will you look-being so preoccupied with her vagina? If you're not trolling us, scrap the spreadsheet and re-allocate the time you save to reading the sidebar...you're…
/r/askMRP11/03/19 08:49 PM
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Thanks for the update...sounds like all went pretty well. I think we focus so much on dread and "alpha behavior" around here that it can really fuck things up for a lot of guys who haven't yet figured out the proper recipe for their wife. The reality is that nice guys come here, pick up a few tricks (usually being assertive) that work for them, so they keep upping the ante. Before long, you're just being a dick to your wife all the time. Marriage is just not the same as spinning plates or pickin…
/r/askMRP03/03/19 12:15 AM
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This was my line of thinking too. It seems she needs comfort and reassurance that she's part of OPs plan. Dread is a wonderful thing, but once the hamster goes into overdrive and she's accusing you of cheating, you have to offer some comfort. Prepare your main event speech because it's time. Let her know you have great plans and they include her.
/r/askMRP28/02/19 11:26 AM
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Sounds like you talked to much during the argument. I'd wager most anything that her words were just her regurgitating things you said to her in an effort to appease you. Her words say that she trusts you and recognizes you as captain. Her words, her words, her words.... You know what a woman's words are worth around here, right? She was just echoing the fight club talk you shared with her. Also, it's telling that OP considers this exchange a win for him... Since she provided some word validatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/19 11:47 AM
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250 lbs is WAY more than size 9 though. Seems you suffer from ONEITIS and you need to lose that shit. A big part of MRP progress is taking her off the pedestal - women are attracted to men who have the ability to fuck other women - if you're begging at the feet of a 250 pounder, you don't appear to have options, she knows it, you know it - that's why your sex life is pathetic, your behavior is unattractive & you lack abundance. She doesn't want to fuck someone who doesn't respect himself enough …
/r/askMRP22/02/19 06:48 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/8nodzo/fr_dread_from_guys_trip/ FR from my first guys trip after unplugging. Have another planned for this spring and expect to do these at least annually.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 04:11 PM
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I love to cook and I'm a firm believer that every man should be able to cook well. We preach lifting around here, but diet is just as important. Healthy foods don't have to taste like cardboard, you just have to have some idea what you're doing in the kitchen.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/19 07:10 PM
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Crane kick to the taint!
/r/askMRP18/02/19 06:56 PM
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I haven't cooked any of the recipes, though the salsa looks awesome. I love the concept and look forward to more of these Rian.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/19 06:55 PM
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”Hire a sexy maid”, smirk, ass slap into hard ass squeeze, peck on the head, go do something else. Or, if you're into what you're doing say ” hire a sexy maid" smirk, ass slap into hard ass squeeze, then ”I was thinking you could make that XYZ dish you make that's so good... Yeah, you should do that” (as if it was her idea). "Maybe we'll have some wine with it.". Delivered correctly, by a desirable man, you're basically communicating to her that she’s making dinner, then we're getting drunk and …
/r/askMRP11/02/19 03:57 AM
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To me, it's more about pushing yourself to run another mile, or lift another set. The quit voice can be ignored. Also, his thoughts on looking inward & calling yourself out in the mirror resonated with me. I made a post once about my awakening moment and finding motivation in the mirror. I certainly don't aspire to be like him, but it's motivational shit and his techniques can be applied heavily by MRPers.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/19 03:36 PM
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LOL - Gottman is so hot right now
/r/askMRP10/02/19 02:57 PM
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No question the dude is nuts, but my greatest take away was the way he uses bad experiences as fuel for his mind to make his body push through when it wants to (and probably should) quit. Half of my success with unplugging has come from channeling my anger in a constructive way (running and lifting), so I know the methods are effective for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/19 11:41 AM
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Surprised not to find any search results within MRP or ASKMRP. This book applies so directly to what do many men here are going through. The experience of unplugging, the drive to make positive life changes, to keep pushing, being accountable to yourself, pushing through setbacks, dealing with your past.... It's all in the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/19 01:22 AM
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I call them Weapons of Mass Erection and Weapons of Mass Ejaculation. I think I just figured out why she won't fuck. 😀
/r/askMRP07/02/19 08:10 PM
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You can't control what she will do... Only your actions. Try to be attractive (be the oak) and don't be unattractive. Keep initiating - recognize that her body is changing and she probably hugely self conscious about it, so offer some comfort - game her, let her know she's sexy...make it known that you still want that ass.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 08:01 PM
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Are her nipples big, dark and weird yet? That shit creeped me out.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 07:57 PM
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Who the fuck knows...Her hormones are going crazy, and she's a woman, so that could change by this afternoon. Worry more about yourself... Stay focused on your needs and getting them met. I wish I'd known RP principles when my wife was pregnant...she smiled in the Dr's office at 2 months when he told us she couldn't have sex (twins & high risk pregnancy). It was my low point as a man seeing her thrilled that she didn't have to fuck me for 7 months. 3 years later and me being a better version of …
/r/askMRP07/02/19 06:55 PM
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It was actually the smell of ass that bothered her and I couldn’t get rid of. Yeah, can't blame someone for being bothered by your poor hygiene and not wanting to smelling your ass while sucking your dirty dick. WTH man, wash your ass. I was 283 lbs when I started MRP - my fat ass didn't stink though.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 01:55 AM
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I think I would've just played along and fucked her aggressively in her hoodie - pulling the hood a bit to apply pressure to her throat while I pound away from behind. I think her saying it speaks volumes about where op is in his progress, but him acting like a butthurt bitch didn't help his cause at all. BPP, you are man enough to tell your unruly first mate what is expected of her...I suspect OP doesn't yet have the frame for it. In this case, the boundary should've been set when she attached …
/r/askMRP05/02/19 12:07 PM
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Keep yourself clean and smelling good, bro.
/r/askMRP03/02/19 12:45 PM
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There is no way you can bring up the voucher and look hot unless it's some agree and amplify shit involving other women and it pisses her off, and I don't think you're ready for that. This. I'd only ever bring it up as an A&A like if she sees you looking at a hot chick and calls you on it "I wonder if she accepts BJ vouchers?" Smirk, ass slap, on to something else.
/r/askMRP02/02/19 12:21 PM
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Stop making deals. I used to make lots of overt trades with my wife (and covert ones too) - either choreplay or back rubs for bjs. It was the only way i got BJs! One of the first things to go when I unplugged was that weak beta bullshit. There was one occasion where she asked if I wanted to "make a deal" for a shoulder rub - she said she'd give me a BJ in exchange. I just told her that I'm not interested in making deals like that any more. She said "so you don't want me to suck your dick" and I …
/r/askMRP01/02/19 08:35 PM
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Holy fucktard batman. EVERY man on the thread said STFU...you told her every god damn faggoty thing that came into your not yet red pill mind. Whether you were going to leave her or not (to each his own) you needed more than anything to STFU. She now knows that you're thinking about divorce and she has to prepare to fight (watch out for DV claims and other attempts to make you appear to be the bad guy). She now knows that you know she fucked another man. She now knows that you're so worthless (a…
/r/askMRP26/01/19 03:58 AM
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Agree with others here who have said to keep your mouth shut. Talk to a lawyer asap so that you KNOW exactly what divorce will look like. I'm sure this all hurts you tremendously on an emotional level, but it's time to lose the emotion and make rational decisions that best suit you and your children. How you choose to treat your wife after this is personal preference - I'd probably use her as a fuck toy, take out some of your aggression on her various holes, but you may be disgusted by her. Eith…
/r/askMRP24/01/19 06:23 PM
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Perhaps the biggest problem with not owning your shit and handling things around the house is that you're now in a bit if a no-win situation with regards to frame. If you don't do it after her asking, you're a worthless piece of shit. If you do it because she asked, you're a bitch boy who has to be told what to do by mommy. As another poster suggested, you need to 1) shovel the snow. 2) speak to her face-to-face and tell her you slipped, but it won't happen again. 3) step up your game and own yo…
/r/askMRP22/01/19 01:55 AM
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Post less, read more.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 01:30 AM
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My previous post basically called you a frameless bitch who was over reacting. After re-reading your post, though, it sure sounds like she's projecting - saying you're in the wrong spending time with your co-worker, when she's the one fucking around. That's her hamster trying to justify what she's doing by convincing herself you're likely doing it too.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 03:44 PM
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What's the nature of her relationship worth the guy she met at the mall? Presumably, if she's lying about it, it's not ok...but then again, I just read an OYS of yours where she lied about googling pizza, and you turning down her attempt to fuck you as an apology after you acted butthurt about her googling pizza. Stay plan = go plan, bit you've fucked up by making an ultimatum you're unwilling to enforce.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 02:48 AM
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My wife has literally never bought me any clothing that increased my smv. This year, she bought me several items at Christmas (she's a SAHM, so she bought it all with MY money) - I had her return every last bit of it. She acted upset that I didn't like it, etc. I just said it didn't match my taste and told her I prefer to buy all my own clothing from now on. That was the end of it. The worst example: I previously told her that I had been looking for a pair of canvas sneakers, but hadn't yet foun…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/19 01:53 PM
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You said "if no kids I would have cut her loose long ago." You should spend some time really thinking about that...especially before having another child (regardless of the method). Also, if you're somehow going to be resentful of an adopted child, you shouldn't go forward with adoption. It takes a big heart to adopt a kid and provide "someone else's kid" with unconditional love....if you're in the mindset that it makes you a cuck, it's probably not the move for you (and would result in a damage…
/r/askMRP15/01/19 12:04 PM
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If you were on the verge of divorce 3 weeks ago until your wife had a mushroom induced epiphany, you're still very much on the verge of divorce. Be the one driving that decision, not along for her wild psychedelic driven ride. Get it out of your mind that the purpose of you implementing red pill tactics is to save your marriage - the purpose is to fix yourself (you are obviously completely fucked at the moment). The stay plan is the same as the go plan - work on you, for you and take control of …
/r/askMRP14/01/19 02:44 AM
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Has been typical for me...without fail, if I start cleaning something inside the house, my wife acts like she has failed in her duties and steps up immediately to finish the job. She apologized to me a few weeks ago after I vacuumed the den. She's started packing my lunches, makes sure dinner is ready when I get home, etc. I take it as the rope tightening and her trying hard to add value to a high value man's life. Whatever the reason, I like it and rewards her good behavior
/r/askMRP13/01/19 07:10 PM
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More often than not, when my wife goes out with friends, she wakes me up to fuck when she gets home. When I was a bitch who cared why she did that, I would ask and she told me it's because all her GFs either don't have LTRs, or did nothing but complain about their LTR...and reminded her what she was coming home to. Could be that she just swallowed Chad's cum and wants me not to suspect anything, but I tend to believe her explanation.
/r/askMRP10/01/19 12:18 AM
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Demonstrate that you have options, either she'll shape up, or she doesn't care if she loses you or not.
/r/askMRP09/01/19 05:39 PM
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This morning we woke up and she was cold and disengaging, so I brushed it off with an IDGAF attitude, and she went to get breakfast for our blended family children. Reset every day. Even if she's stonewalling you, have fun, offer to include her - either she comes along or she doesn't, but enjoy your life. Don't let her pull you into a multi day standoff, you'll be butthurt about no sex and that's really unattractive. Just because you're changing doesn't mean her perception of you has changed - s…
/r/askMRP06/01/19 02:28 PM
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You're completely in her frame. When you're analyzing every interaction, initiating sex for validation (you may have a covert contact of watching shows leading to sex - im sure there are others too). Your response about not apologizing for initiating sex with your sexy wife was good. After I unplugged, my wife said a couple of times that she didn't like that i was initiating so much. I found that my wife responded well to me being very direct that sex is something I require and that I wouldn't e…
/r/askMRP05/01/19 01:45 PM
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Perfect time to bond with your children & work on making yourself attractive. Either she bounces back, or she doesn't, all you can do is be or become awesome. The stay plan is still the same as the go plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/19 04:55 AM
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It's a different ballgame with little ones...I have 3 year old twins and a 7 year old. If marow is red pill on hard mode, the 1st year of twins was marriage on impossible mode. The hormones, the lack of sleep...Christ!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/19 04:23 AM
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Sounds better in this context
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 03:05 PM
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I guess she was right...you are coming back to her, aren't you? Make sure the chores are all done the way she likes them done or you'll be sleeping on the couch.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 04:16 AM
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Could be that she's along for the ride, and there will be no main event. I haven't had one and feel like things are getting pretty close to what I want. Since she hasn't fought you on giving up her power, it could be that she trusts you to steer the ship and is just relieved that you're now man enough to do so. Keep working, just know what you want out of life and refuse to accept less than that. Overtly state that should a main event occur and be prepared to outline your vision ONCE during the …
/r/askMRP30/12/18 01:35 AM
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Do whatever works for you. For me, I did the things that I envisioned the best version of myself would do...that included fucking often. I have never been a believer in sex moratorium unless you have an addiction or just don't want sex. That's not to say your methods aren't valid for you. The main thing I changed was my expectations surrounding sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 06:42 PM
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You're talking about fight club and not fucking. WTF is going on here?....seems to me you're digging a deeper hole and not unfucking yourself at all. I get monk mode, and I get sex moratorium while you clear headedly sort things, but what is the method to your madness?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 01:07 PM
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From the title and preview of this thread, I came in just to call you a faggot, but that was an amusing read. Merry Christmas!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/18 12:34 PM
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Background: Age 40, wife 39, Married 12 years, together 17. 3 kids, 7, 3 & 3. Unplugged in January. Life is pretty good. Physical: 6'4" 240 lbs (down from 283). 20% BF (Omron handheld scanner). Posted an askmrp about a preliminary low T test result last week. Got retest results this week, but it game back in the normal range (low-normal) but my Dr says insurance wouldn't cover anything if I seek treatment. Currently weighing options as I think TRT could benefit me substantially. Never mentioned …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 12:37 PM
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Buy yourself some new underwear and leave the house!! Doesn't matter what you do - go to the gym, clothes shopping, get some strange, work on a car with a friend. Dress yourself better and make yourself scarce.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/18 08:59 PM
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I believe she does tell me her full medical situation....far more of it than i care to listen to. She is my medical POA (power of attorney, not piece of ass) should I become incapacitated, so that, to me is reason enough for her to need to know my medical history should I have a heart attack related to the T. I honestly don't see the downside to telling her....I believe the faggot move is to not tell her, as she will almost certainly find out one way or another.
/r/askMRP12/12/18 09:48 PM
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The obvious first step is to be more interesting...but if you are interesting and she is finger fucking her phone, then go do something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 01:28 AM
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Time and feeling like I have options now. I stopped believing the narrative that she was the only attainable source of sex for me. I talk to random women every chance I get. I no longer hang out by my wife's side at parties, I talk to other women. At a halloween party, the hottest girl in our circle of friends pushed her huge tits into me and said something to the effect of our spouses being in our way. When that happens, and your wife turns you down for sex, you know you have other options. I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 11:58 PM
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You said you showered when you got home so she would think you were with another woman. You're so deep in her frame that she knows you're not fucking another woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 07:53 PM
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Excellent progress. Thanks, still a lot to do in the fitness department, but overall life has improved dramatically.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 03:39 PM
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Background: Age 40, Married 12.5 years, together 17.5. Wife 39, SAHM. 3 kids, 7, 3 & 3. Low 6 figure income. Unplugged in January '18. Physical: 6'4" 240 lbs (down from 283), 21% BF (Omron handheld scanner). Got an initial test result suggesting low T - 265 ng/dL last week. I went 1st thing Monday morning for a follow up lab test per my Dr's suggestion, hope to hear from him today. He will refer me for TRT (injections he says). I've been researching and I'm eager to start treatment. My mind is f…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 11:55 AM
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These comments have helped me immensely this week. I've let myself be hungry, and have started to like that feeling. I know it's good for me. Almost like I've come to like lifting, and the burn of a nearly failed set. I will try to apply this to the birn of running as well. Great perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 03:21 AM
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Let them figure out the tip... She'll figure out the tip, the shaft & balls if OP doesn't get that BF % down. They were just out having drinks with friends and it just happened. It didn't mean anything, she still loves you, etc. Likely nothing to worry about OP, but if you're concerned, it's because you know you're deficient as a man in some regard...you're scared that she would fuck around. Do the work and remove that doubt. She'll do the mate guarding.
/r/askMRP10/12/18 02:57 AM
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I will neither hide, nor make proclamations. I will, however, tell her about it once confirmed and once I've determined my plan of treatment. I value her medical expertise and want her to be aware of my medical history in the event of a medical emergency. She has been named in my legal documents as my medical power of attorney should I become incapacitated...so there are practical reasons to consider beyond "OP is a faggot for speaking to his wife outside of gaming her."
/r/askMRP10/12/18 12:17 AM
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Yep, I still get shit testing the morning after I push sexual boundaries or caveman the hell out of her...I'm convinced it's her lizard brain testing me to make sure she didn't give up the good shit to a weak beta.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/18 04:13 PM
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I'm not delaying anything, not sure what you're getting at. Full steam ahead
/r/askMRP07/12/18 09:22 PM
2

I have a biometric (fingerprint) gun safe I can store them in.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 07:00 PM
1

I can see my wife saying something like this. Once we started fucking more (after I stopped being a bitch about initiating and started being fuckable) one day I was going in for round 2 and she said "jesus, are you on testosterone supplements or something, all you want to do is have sex." Then we fucked. I can handle her response to it, and her words can tell me that she won't like it...but we know what to do with a woman's words around here.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 05:44 PM
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I am not making a big deal of anything...just want to hear from others about their experiences in epithet telling our not trekking their SOs...judging from the responses, it's a total mixed bag. Whether I tell her or not, is not the same as whether I get TRT or not.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 05:38 PM
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Finally someone who knows the score. It seems all anyone here wants to do is call everyone else a faggot...it seems to get upvotes somehow. I certainly don't need anyone's permission to do anything...if my retest comes back low, I will absolutely seek treatment regardless of what my wife or Internet strangers think.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 04:46 PM
1

I could absolutely do that at work...hadn't thought about that.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 04:30 PM
1

I think you think about my feelz too much. I don't feel any kind of shame - I suppose I'd prefer not to have any medical diagnoses that require any treatments, but I certainly do not feel shame over it. Great pointers about needle storage.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 04:27 PM
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But why should I hide anything?
/r/askMRP07/12/18 04:24 PM
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Simply a well documented medical condition for which there is effective treatment available. This treatment is being recommended by my doctor to treat my symptoms (fatigue and slower than expected muscle gainz/fat loss from working out for close to a year). Whatever her response, I think I can handle it, was just hoping to get perspective from those who did or did not tell their SO.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 01:58 PM
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This is my train of thought as well. Just curious how others have handled and pros/cons of having told their SO or not.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 12:26 PM
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I don't think I'll have any trouble handling the discussion, and I don't feel a need to explain to her, It's as simple as "my doctor recommends T and I trust his judgment." It's more recognizing the fact that she'll certainly shit test me over it.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 12:24 PM
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It's definitely not a mommy look at me scenario. If anything, I'd rather not tell her that I'm not naturally man enough without TRT. I can definitely see her throwing it in my face at every initiation - "it must be the T," "I can't believe you'd put that in your body," or "I liked you more before you started shooting yourself full of T." I can totally see those coming. I think my frame is strong enough to handle it because I am doing it for ME, not her. On the other hand, she's a well educated m…
/r/askMRP07/12/18 12:18 PM
1

Sounds to me like you telling her to shut the fuck up about it came more from a frame of not wanting to be on vacation with a negative nancy, and not that she was making you feel bad/causing anxiety. Not a bad thing. It feels like a fine line - I feel like I'm losing frame if I'm at all affected by that nonsense. The other thing that I lost frame on was a couple of shit tests related to driving (which I did 100% of and always do). I let it get to me instead of using amused mastery or agree and a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 08:43 PM
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The best thing I've learned about her constant crises is to just carry on calmly and be the oak. Being the oak isn't trying to fix her problems or to explain that she's over reacting...just be unphased by anything that comes your way. Easier said than done, of course. I've read at length about stoicism, and it really helps in this regard...negative visualization (picture everything in your life going to complete shit, really visualize it, feel the pain it would bring, then think about how you'd …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 04:00 AM
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Background: Age 40, Married 12.5 years, together 17.5. Wife 39, SAHM. 3 kids, 7, 3 & 3. Low 6 figure income. Unplugged in January '18. Physical: 6'4" 241 lbs, 21% BF (Omron handheld scanner). I've gotten myself completely fucked when it comes to diet and exercise recently. In my last OYS, I had stayed a keto diet, but it's just not sustainable for me, so I'm getting my shit together for a Calories in - Calories out diet. I had also cut back on heavy lifts and was strictly concerned with rapid we…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 02:28 PM
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Definitely very horny right after for about 10 days, then neutral for a week, then cold until her period ends. I don't think AWALT necessarily applies to cycles - some are shorter than others, some women on birth control pills don't have drastic swings, so it varies. I highly suggest tracking for a few months to figure your wife's specific behaviors rather than applying a one-size fits all approach. It's fascinating just how predictable it is once you've seen it in action. It's not just sex eith…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 10:00 PM
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Try not to measure your success by her reaction to you. I did a lot of this, and still catch myself doing it sometimes. Likewise, don't allow her seeming lack of interest towards you get you down. It's not about her, it's about YOU! My wife is day and night depending on where she is in her cycle. If she's ovulating, she's seeking out my cock and it's monkey sex time. The week before her period, I have to provide comfort and initiate. If I measured my success based on her eagerness to fuck, I'd b…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 03:21 PM
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I used to be such a faggot, about the only time I got blowjobs was trading massages for them. First thing I implemented when I swallowed the pill was refusing any such trades. I told my wife explicitly that I was done doing that. I probably give her more massages now than I ever did before, but it's because she adds value, I know she likes them and I want to give them....not because I have any expectation of her doing anything in return. On the flip side, I get blown regularly as well - I assume…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/18 01:57 PM
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Reading this I'm realizing what a faggot I am for wanting her to see people say nice things to me. It's validation seeking and weak. FUCK. At least I can recognize it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 02:42 PM
1

I do, I often straddle her and put it in her mouth...or push her head down, or just outright tell her to suck it...she doesn't usually protest or anything. I guess I meant unsolicited BJs - though I realize that the reason I want those is validation seeking in recognition of my gainz.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 02:39 PM
1

Background: Age 40, wife 39, Married 12 yrs, together 17. 3 kids 7, 2 & 2. Reformed nice guy, unplugged in January, life has turned around. Physical: 6'4" 243 lbs (down from 283). 21% BF (Omron Handheld scanner). Lifting, though not heavy at the moment - focused on maintaining muscle as best I can while losing fat as quickly as possible. Started a keto diet 3 weeks ago, still need to dial in macros and find the right balance. Felt light headed after running a couple nights ago - questioning if I…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/18 03:17 AM
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Background: Age 40, wife 39 Married 12 yrs, together 17. 3 kids 7, 2 & 2. Unplugged in January. Physical: 6'4" 242lbs (down from 283). Focus recently has been on diet - started keto about 2 weeks ago after weight loss stalled. Finding it easy to eat keto foods. Only set back so far was a gigantic and terribly painful hemorrhoid that I believe was the result of no fiber in my diet. Ramped up broccoli and other high fiber veggies. Staying regular so far, will add a supplement if necessary. I feel …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 05:43 PM
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Regular lifting and exercise is a great start. 24% body fat is sky high, and you know this. Figure out your diet ASAP - it makes all the difference. Just by exercising you'll lose weight and add muscle tone...as a beginner, but that will stall unless you get your diet on point...ask me how I know. Daddy-daughter time during workouts is fine for now while you're fucking around with beginner weight...you're going to need focus to push your lift #'s higher...might want to find other time to spend w…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 02:57 PM
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Lost me when you didn't let the 25 y/o suck your wife off of you. Sounds like you handled your shit on planning the trip.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 01:35 AM
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My guess is that she fucked another guy when she went away for the weekend. Her inviting you to bed is her version of hysterical bonding. I'm kidding, but you never fucking know. Just keep working on you FOR YOU and the rest will work out fine.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 03:19 AM
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Background: Age 40, Married 12 years together 17. 3 kids: 7, 2 & 2. Unplugged in January. Physical: 6'4" 243lbs at last weigh in (haven't weighed myself since Friday as I'm on a business trip) down from 283lbs. 21% BF using handheld scanner (last checked a week ago). I posted an askmrp thread asking for diet advice (how to balance weight loss with maintaining muscle gainz). I've since started a keto diet, primarily eating meat and veggies, eggs, avocado, nuts and cheese. Had the keto flu for abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 12:38 PM
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I think you nailed it. Help her contain her emotions, let her know everything's ok and nothing to worry about. A let of guys mess up in belittling her for doing something stupid - if she's upset, she knows she fucked up, no need to be a dick about it. Be stoic, help her weather the storm of emotion, in 2 weeks it's a forgotten issue.
/r/askMRP20/10/18 04:42 PM
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Not only should you let her blow you, you should take what you want from the BJ - push her head down, pull her hair, cum in her mouth or on her face...however you want it. Stop making it about her, or about the argument and make it about you. She may protest your actions, but inside she wants you to man up and take what YOU want.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 03:14 PM
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Do you want to be married to this woman? Does she add value? Is she a good mom who fucked up this once, or do you feel your children are neglected when under her care? If you're legitimately concerned about their welfare, carry on with what you're doing. More likely, this is an isolated incident and she already feels terrible that she allowed your child to be injured. You, the kid with dynamite in his hand, decided to use some of it without proper training. You don't have the appropriate frame t…
/r/askMRP17/10/18 05:04 PM
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I'm going to start the new week off with a serious effort to lose weight by doing a keto with IF diet and continued lifting & cardio. I will Dial in my macros as I go. I lost significant weight on the Atkins diet around 13 years ago...gained it back because I lost focus and determination. Just didn't have the right mindset to maintain weight loss. I do now!
/r/askMRP14/10/18 01:28 AM
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At 245, even at 6'4, you're probably pretty fat. No question i'm still fat. I stopped patting myself on the back for making gainz thus far...lots of work left to be done, nowhere near my goals. Progress is nice, but hot girls walking past me on the street don't see a dude who has made gainz, only a 245lb fatty.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:47 PM
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She goes on to tell me that they once ate edibles together before I met her. She tells me that during her upcoming out of town conference next week they might sit in his hotel room together (they all get their own rooms), eat edibles and watch this movie. Good chance she fucked him & sounds like she may be planning to again (though she is just planning to hang out and it will "just happen"). Grow a pair and set hard boundaries now. Guarantee his wife doesn't know he texts with her, let alone tha…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 08:39 AM
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Tell your self not to get fat next time. I like this, I talk shit to myself all the time. I lift in a mirror and channel all of my anger and frustrations into my lifting. It's a great tool for motivation. When I run and start to feel tired, I call myself a fat ass to keep myself going. Thanks for the advice/encouragement.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:41 AM
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Lifts: Dumbbells only Change this, start lifting at a gym following Strong Lifts 5x5. Do it for at least 3 months. Take it seriously. Channel all of your anger into your lifts. Stop being angry at your wife and be angry with yourself for not being your best self.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/18 02:31 PM
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I think the key is in the 21% BF. Thanks for this, you are 100% correct. I'm too busy patting myself on the back for all of my progress I sometimes fail to realize I'm still such a fat fuck. I remember reading posts that say something like "sure, you may have lost 50lbs, but women on the street don't see you as the former 300lb man that lost 50 lbs, you're still just a 250lb fatass in their eyes." (Paraphrasing). I need to internalize this and stay motivated!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 10:16 PM
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down from 283 overall, so 38 lbs of flab gone This is good. 245lbs (down 1 lb this week This is decent. But then I looked at your post history and saw that in 25 weeks, you've lost 15 lbs. What's going on there? I quit smoking weed a little over a month ago. Oh, okay. This one decision will probably get you on track weight loss wise. Good on you for quitting! Thanks for pointing out the 15 lbs in 25 weeks. I hadn't realized how slow it had been myself. There was a stretch where I was making posi…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 09:35 PM
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OYS 9/25/18 Background: Age 40, Married to 39 y/o SAHM for 12 years, together 17. 3 kids, 7, 3 & 3. Unplugged in January. Have read most of the sidebar, countless posts. Substantial early gains, have gone Rambo at times, but always recognize & recover. Life is steadily improving. Physical: 6’4” 245lbs (down 1 lb this week and down from 283 overall, so 38 lbs of flab gone). 21% BF (Omron handheld scanner). I tweaked something in my shoulder lifting this weekend - short on time, I skipped warm-up …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 11:19 AM
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In what sense do you find her unattractive? Physically? Is it related to anger/resentment that she hadn't always given you all that you now know she's capable of?
/r/askMRP20/09/18 02:18 AM
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You haven't read the sidebar! Give her a chance at a fresh start with you everyday. Don't carry over negativity from the prior day. Don't carry over butthurt about not getting laid the day before. Start each day like you're happy...because you are, with or without her, right? This is fundamental to MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 06:26 PM
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Great response! Thanks, I was proud of that one...really surprised myself in the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 06:19 PM
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Do you want to be in a relationship with her? Do you want to fuck other women?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 01:04 PM
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Yep, heal then get back at it. No reason to take a chance of a greater setback or permanent damage.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 12:58 PM
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I’ve basically been in a constant state of STFU with her and I can tell her hamster is on the wheel solid. Constant STFU just sounds like you're shutting her out and constantly being cold to her. That doesn't lead to the good kind of hamstering (ask me how I know). Don't forget to hit the reset button each day.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 12:45 PM
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Background: Age 40, 6'4 245lbs, 21% BF (handheld scanner). Married 12 yrs, together 17, 3 kids: 7, 3 & 3. Unplugged in January. Physical: Down a pound this week, slacked on diet a couple of days, so happy to have lost at all. Down 38lbs overall, significant body composition changes as well. Got up early today to lift and run. I've always said "I wish I could be the guy that could get up at 5am and workout" with my RP attitude and focus on my MAP, I've decided I will be that guy. Life is busy, ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 11:36 AM
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Your "physical" section only talks about diet. Stopped reading there. Lift faggot!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 11:16 AM
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LIFT! When your wife sees another woman rubbing your bicep and shoulders and hears her saying you look amazing...she'll change! At that point, if she doesn't you have options. LIFT mother fucker!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/18 02:02 PM
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Her: 😘 Your next step is to stop seeking validation from her. The fact that YOUR hamster spun to the point that you had to text her about the incident rather than let it go until it came up that evening is pretty weak (I was the king of doing this type of shit - I once emailed my wife in the middle of the night because my hamster was out of control). The fact that you texted for anything other than logistics or nudes is pretty weak as well. But the thing that screams that you're still a validati…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/18 01:58 PM
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Question for the old pros - Is his "setting boundaries" about sexual frequency not just negotiated desire? I had that discussion ONCE, the frequency picked up big time for about a month, then died back down because she was fucking me out of fear of losing me (and/or my provisioning)... not out of desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 11:37 AM
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Be damn sure that it's what you want... it's not for everyone and for fuck sake don't do it for her. With that said, my kids are the best thing in my life by far.
/r/askMRP12/09/18 05:58 PM
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She dared you to cheat because she knows you can't because you are a fat fuck, have no game & can't attract a better woman. She knows that you're lucky to be getting the occasional starfish from her (you know it too & that's why you're pissed). Instead of getting pissed at her for not fucking you enough, why not work on yourself and make yourself fuckable?
/r/askMRP12/09/18 02:20 PM
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I think most any man putting in the effort could find women to fuck him... whether the opportunities are worth acting on or not are another issue. Part of the OI I have to develop is whether our relationship works out or not. I'm 8 months in, probably beta bitch for 15 years, so I've committed to work on my shit until May of next year before I cheat or consider nuking the marriage. At times, she's clearly coming along on my ship, other times, it seems like she wants to sink it. I'll keep working…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 06:23 AM
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Background: Age 40, married 12 yrs to 39 y/o SAHM. 3 kids under 7. Unplugged in January, have made great progress with many stumbles along the way. Physical: 6'4" 246lbs (down from 283), 21% BF (Omron handheld scanner). SL 5X5 early on, since have focused more on reps, cardio, running, basketball in the name of accelerated weight loss. Have been counting calories, but not yet managing macros. I get constant compliments from friends, family and my wife about my looks and the drastic changes. This…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 02:16 AM
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Can always anon tip the irs And subject himself to an audit? I'd rather be divorce raped!
/r/askMRP02/09/18 11:58 AM
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This sucks op, but it sounds like your head is in the right place - you've accepted what's happened. If he's only 3 hours away, that's 1.5 hours they'd each need to drive to meet up somewhere in between... they've fucked. Either way, Act like nothing is happening, focus on being the best you that you can be, so your frame is strong and you can LEAD the whole process and ensure the best possible outcome for you and your children. Talk to an attorney ASAP. Laws vary from state to state. Paternity …
/r/askMRP02/09/18 11:51 AM
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I doubt he stopped as an adult
/r/askMRP31/08/18 11:54 AM
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So far it's not difficult, if I think about it, I just remind myself it doesn't fit into my mission and doesn't otherwise add any value to my life (it's actually a detractor - $ spent with no return, less motivation, social stigma, illegal, kids could find my stash, etc). I thought it would be tough to do, but other than affecting sleep (which will pass) and a little irritability (which should also pass) it's been easy enough so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 07:38 PM
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I say before bed, I would rush to the garage as soon as my kids were in bed, smoke, chill for 2 hours, then go to bed. So, the majority of the time I have alone with my wife was spent stoned. Definitely not burnout status, but it's just not something that adds value in my life. Apparently insomnia is a withdrawal symptom for long - term users. Honestly, I used it to suppress feelings about my relationship, childhood, stress, etc. Now I'm just feeling more comfortable with who I am, and don't nee…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 11:20 AM
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Did you smoke daily before? Yes, two hits from a vape pen before bed
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 10:35 PM
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Squats- I use dumbbless and do lots of repetitions Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 06:54 PM
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Background: Age 40, wife 39,married 12 yrs, together 17. 3 kids 7,3,3. Unplugged in January. Solid early gains and results. Physical: 6'4" 246lbs 21% BF (Omron handheld scanner). Started at 283lbs, so down 37 lbs. Feeling great about weight loss and body composition changes. More energy, more stamina (including sexually). It's being noticed by everyone in my circle. Bitch tits are giving way to pects, shoulders are looking good, solid legs... but the fucking belly fat and love handles are stubbo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 05:53 PM
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Fuck You.... for being so right. Fuck Me.... so much work to do still! This is why I do OYS weekly, great to get this kind of perspective. All I see is more sex, everybody seems happier, shit's getting done... but the reality is I'm holding onto pointless anger and wasting energy thinking about it constantly, resenting her for the same thing I'm now doing. Mad at myself for not having known instead of celebrating that I do know now (I could've lived my while life not knowing the truth). Covert c…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 04:10 PM
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It's a great fucking point man. I guess BP me is having trouble letting go of the fairytale I was fed. I need to kill it - I know the truth and there's no changing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 03:03 PM
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OYS #12 8/14/18 Overview: Age 40, wife 39 SAHM, together 17 years, married 12. 3 kids (ages 7,2,2). Unplugged in January. PHYSICAL: 6'4” 250lbs (down from 283). 22% BF. Made amazing gains in body composition and weight loss early on. Wright loss has slowed but muscle gainz are still progressing. I'm very focused on diet now (early gainz were almost exclusively from exercise). Trying to eat loads of protein and limit carbs. I like craft beer, but have cut back to 1-2 beers on one weeknight and ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 11:09 AM
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Out of curiosity, why didn't you NEXT her for fucking dad Chad?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/18 11:26 PM
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If she told you that she was wet for you and you didn't close you're autistic as fuck. If you didn't close because you have reservations about cheating, that's fine, but you didn't say that, you made it sound as if you wanted to fuck and she wouldn't... sounds like you didn't try, or you are oblivious.
/r/askMRP12/08/18 11:36 PM
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In a couple months she'll throw that test at you and you'll laugh at her, grab that nice ass of hers and fuck her over the dining room table...ask me how I know. Keep lifting, reading and stfu-ing.
/r/askMRP10/08/18 02:58 AM
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Intentional given that my behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 06:03 PM
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Time will tell brother. Shark week itself isn't so bad, it's the days leading up to it that are brutal. Thanks for the jackten link, I read ALL of his posts early on in my journey, but it was great to revisit one so timely to my situation. One thing he said in that thread that hit home was recognizing the difference between disrespectful disobedience & incompetence. I took her not getting the kids' bedtime started as direct disrespect towards ME, but it wasn't... she needed to make adjustments t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 05:21 PM
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Yes, I haven't set that as a boundary previously. I was shocked that SHE suggested "clocking out" before I did. I enjoy being a major part of our kids' bedtime routine (snuggling, reading books, talking to them) - it's important to me, so clocking out isn't the solution... getting the routine started at a reasonable time is. Good option as a backup plan if we fail for some reason. Wife proudly told me last night how she had adjusted their naptime during the day to set up a positive outcome for b…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 03:59 PM
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Do you already have your shit together for the divorce BATTLE that is about to ensue?
/r/askMRP08/08/18 11:14 AM
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Talked to wife (I know, STFU). Started off saying I overreacted by leaving and that I shouldn't have left while there was work to be done. I then told her that I was unhappy with her actions and set boundaries related to bedtime. Before I could do so, SHE suggested that I "clock out" if I have things I need to get done. She agreed that it's important to get them to bed on time and will plan to do so from now on. She said a few things that made me realize that I'm still not leading as strongly as…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 11:09 AM
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Try having twins...the first 2 years will make you value your personal time and sleep time.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 10:56 AM
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Yeah, total failure and frame loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 12:02 AM
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OYS #11 Abbreviated for time constraints, but wanted to get it in. 40yo, wife 39, married 12yrs, together 17. 6'4" 250lbs (down from 283) 22% bf, unplugged in January, making great progress on SL 5x5 & running. Physical: my main focus has been my diet this week. I've started counting calories and have lost a couple of pounds this week. Feeling great, eating clean: Lots of eggs, chicken, avocado, nuts, beans, fruits and veggies. The most difficult part is finding the time for meal prep, trying to…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 08:11 PM
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I would laugh if my wife came at me with that, then smack her on the ass on my way out to do whatever I was doing.
/r/askMRP03/08/18 04:25 AM
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It's necessary to do that occasionally
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/18 03:58 AM
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I'm noobish myself (7 mos in). I agree that the name calling and her using his insecurities about his parents is crossing a boundary... but isn't a lot of that just shit women say? Some of it is good for her to be saying, it shows her hamster is running due to his changes, no? Is the logic in nuking the relationship that she KNOWS that he's weak and is using it against him? Pre-MRP, I shared things with my wife way too much about my childhood & insecurities and how they affect(ed) our relationsh…
/r/askMRP02/08/18 03:02 PM
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I don't know, it's a fine line between communicating that I'm not willing to take subpar sex because I'm an alpha with abundance vs communicating that I don't want starfish sex because it doesn't provide the validation that my needy little beta ass needs from it. To be honest, I'm not sure which of those I communicated. I only know that I WILL kill the starfish!
/r/askMRP01/08/18 03:59 PM
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My wife is taking the kids to her mom's house a few hours away for a couple of nights. She spent all last evening packing, etc. I gamed her some, a little kino. She rubbed my bicep and without me flexing at all commented "Jesus, I can feel the definition while you're just standing there...mmmmm." Seemed like it was going to be on for later. As the evening wore on, it became evident that she was stressed and packing, so I went on about my business of playing with the kids and getting them ready f…
/r/askMRP01/08/18 02:42 PM
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Mmm, space dust. I'm on a big New England IPA kick as of late. If you can get your hands on it, this stuff is delicious: https://untappd.com/b/offshoot-beer-co-relax-it-s-just-a-hazy-ipa/2494337
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 05:35 PM
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Right. I just take her talking as her initial recognition of "if he keeps this up, I'll have to get into better shape myself or he'll be fucking around on me."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 03:47 PM
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I really like beer, it's a major part of my core guy friends social circle. I think if I can drink it in moderation, it's no big deal...i just have to moderate and factor those calories into my deficit. I'll try to use that as my cheat calories - if necessary to achieve my wrought loss goals, I will absolutely give it up entirely.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 02:21 PM
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Keep doing your things and I bet she will follow suit in regards to diet and exercise. I suspect she will, her talking about it is likely the first sign of her feeling the rope tightening. Do you flirt with other women in front of her? Started this about a month ago. I posted in OYS a couple weeks ago about flirting in front of her and the sex that followed (deep throating, ass play, rough sex with dirty talk). Since then, she has made mean comments about the other girl for no reason other than …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 01:12 PM
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I get angry when she challenges what I say, having my decisions questions.....I have a history of making half assed decisions. It's going to take time and demonstrating that you are even capable of leading. Just because you've decided you're leading now doesn't mean she's on board... that will take trust and trust takes time after being a fuck up for so long. Decision making is a skill, be thoughtful, rational & non-emotional in your decision making. Demonstrate that you're capable and she'll co…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 10:45 AM
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OYS #10 7/31/18 Background: Age 40, wife 39, married 12 yrs, together 17. 3 kids under 7. Unplugged in January. Posted a FR oriented towards noobs this week that gave more of my background "motivation in the mirror" Physical: 6'4" 251 lbs, down from 283. 22% BF (Omron handheld scanner). Solid early gainz on SL 5x5 (usually lifting 3x/wk), running (usually 2x/wk) and basketball (1x/wk). Starting to like what I'm seeing in the mirror. My bitch tits are shrinking and giving way to emerging manly pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 10:28 AM
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I do accept my shortcomings, but just feel taken advantage of. In some ways I feel like her best years are behind her, mine still lie ahead... questioning if she really deserves exclusive rights to my best if she didn't fully give me her best, if that makes any sense?
/r/askMRP31/07/18 01:15 AM
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Something about the word "nudes" catches my eye when I'm scanning
/r/askMRP31/07/18 01:10 AM
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Could it be becausee a long time ago, she caught me having a lot of nudes from her sister? It's a long time ago and I don't find her attractive anymore, but she still perceives nudes as cheating, which I would perceive the same. Yes, she likely doesn't want you spending time around her sister.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 08:33 PM
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I don't have any answers, I suspect you answered your own questions in the OP. I was asking for personal reasons. I'm 7 months in and feeling much the same way. She has responded well, but now that I see her through the RP lens, she's less attractive to me. In my case, it's less physical and more that I'm so angry and resentful that she didn't step up all along... only when she began to fear losing me. I had hoped it would pass by the time I'm as far along as you are, mauve it never will. I thin…
/r/askMRP30/07/18 08:21 PM
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I'm curious whether your waning attraction comes from anger about your past betadom (she wasn't sexually eager to please you all along) or your abundance mentality leads you to believe you can do better than her? Are we only talking physical attraction? There's the old phrase "show me a 10 in a LTR and I'll show you a man that's tired of fucking her"
/r/askMRP30/07/18 07:15 PM
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Working on it!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/18 05:49 PM
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Its a confidence boost & motivator for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/18 09:23 AM
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There's only one answer - Lift, read and STFU. She doesn't care at all what you SAY your going to be... she cares what your ACTIONS say you will be. Talking is pointless, acta non verba you weak ass oneitis having mother fucker. Be a better man, if she wants to be part of that, great... if not fuck it, you're a better man and you'll get laid and find quality women who like quality men like you.
/r/askMRP29/07/18 03:04 AM
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Go get 'em tiger! A few nights ago, told my wife I didn't like a pair of her panties... they were in the bathroom trash can when I got up the next day. A few months ago she'd have worn them everyday to keep me away from her pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 08:47 PM
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It's impossible to keep improving at the same pace...newb gainz end, easy weight loss ends...oh well, I have no intention of taking my foot of the gas.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 07:59 PM
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I just remember enjoying the feeling of fucking a new girl from when I was young and had abundance. I think half of my anger related to unplugging stems from having given up all the strange only to have her withhold the only sex available to me. That shit is what's amoral.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 07:16 PM
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Also cringed at “negotiated massages for sex or blowjobs.“ Me too, it's astounding what "men" will put up with.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 07:13 PM
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It also means she does not fully accept you as her Captain and is trying to fight you for control. I can see that. At times, I feel like she's giving up control too easily. She has often asked for direction on certain issues. Other times, she tests the hell out of me and I wonder if she's coming along at all. Appreciate the insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 04:01 PM
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Pre MRP: 2-3x/mo, total starfish, often negotiated massages for sex or blowjobs. Only on rare occasions was there any actual passion. She basically let me masturbate with her pussy. Now: 2-3x/wk, warm up blowjobs when I tell her to, dirty talk, rough, whatever. She's really into it. Rubs my arms, scratches my back during sex. Tells me things like "I need your cum inside me." There is no negotiation for massages (I still give them, but in no wary attached to a sexual expectation). Sex is high qua…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 03:39 PM
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Question for you - we had killer sex last night. She resisted at first, but i just kept it cool and pressed forward throughout the evening. Today, she shit tested me all morning, I played it all cool and all is well... but I'm wondering why the shit testing? Is she just checking to see if I'm for real? Checking to be sure she didn't give it up to some beta chump? I've only recently noticed that she tests the morning after we have sex (especially when she didn't initiate it).
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 03:27 PM
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Thanks RPC, I've enjoyed your new videos. I consider myself fortunate to have found the tools I need to do this already laid out for me by others like yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 03:21 PM
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Lol, probably so.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 01:26 PM
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Practice, practice, practice. To do this lift, read and stfu. Considering this is your first post (unless this is a burner account), you have a lot of work to do. What are your specific issues? Most of them likely come down to confidence (or lack there of).
/r/askMRP28/07/18 01:09 PM
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finally following the path she had pointed out to me. Like I said, quality. Can you elaborate on the path she pointed out to you? Did she tell you about MRP? Keep up the progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 01:00 PM
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Thanks, this isn't a victory lap by any means - I'm still fat (6'4" 249 - down from 283) & 22% BF, but my bitch tits are giving way to pects, my arms and shoulders look good, my legs are solid and gaining definition. Still have belly fat and love handles to work off. That's why it's surprising to me that I've gotten such results already. I guess it goes to show that you don't have to do that much to be better than MOST other men.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 11:42 AM
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I guess I'd be at level 8. Though not yet frequently, I have openly flirted in front of her, with expected results (see my OYS from 2 weeks ago). Honestly my wife responded around level 5 - something about new clothes makes a woman's hamster spin - "lost 30lbs & still working out? No longer bending over backwards for me? Now new clothes and cologne? Manscaping? Must be trying to get some strange, I better fuck him before someone else does."
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 11:31 AM
2

One of the best things I did when I unplugged was to literally take a long, hard look in the mirror. It's corny, it's cliche, what the fuck ever...that fat son of a bitch in the mirror showed me everything I needed to know about the source of all of my problems and what was required to fix them. 6 months later, I am gaining mad respect for that guy in the mirror.
/r/askMRP27/07/18 03:32 AM
1

A meal prep plan is what I'm working on. Yesterday, I had my wife make salsa chicken in our instant pot - 15 minutes and I've got healthy shredded chicken for days. Makes for easy meals for the kids (quesadillas, tacos, etc). Today I took a salad with shredded chicken to work for lunch instead of eating out somewhere - extra calories and overspending. I just need to get a good routine down.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 05:21 PM
3

The advice I got from Rian Stone on this is to pressure flip it - which you did. "What reason would I have to cheat on you" is a brilliant phrase I borrowed from the forums. I could see that it actually made her think about it. I can only assume that "not enough sex" went through her head because she initiated that night.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 01:53 PM
1

I said lots of things like this pre MRP (we joke around a lot), but now she does seem concerned about my motives at times (oh well). She said similar things when I bought new work clothes and new gym clothes.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 01:15 PM
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She has probably picked up on OPs "fuck it, I don't need her in order to fuck" attitude. DREAD FTW!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 12:40 PM
2

Hopefully you'll put actually owning your shit on your "things I'd like to do one day list". This reads like you think about doing things and haven't actually taken any action. Maybe it's the anaesthesia... but come back and complete your post when it wears off.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 12:37 PM
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OYS #9 7/24/18 Background: Age 40, wife 39 SAHM, married 12 yrs, together 17. 3 kids under 7. Unplugged in January. Physical: 6'4" 252 lbs, down from 283. 22% BF (Omron handheld scanner). Solid early gainz on SL 5x5 (usually lifting 3x/wk), running (usually 2x/wk) and basketball (1x/wk). Weight loss has slowed to a crawl, starting to focus on dialing in my diet.. finding this difficult given our large-ish family and hectic home life. Ill get it done, as it's the only way I'll get my weight loss …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 11:17 AM
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You are your own judge. Keep up the good things you're doing. Focus on actions, less words and internalizing that your life will be exactly what you want it to be... just like you invited her to play pool, you're inviting her along for a great life... she may say "no."
/r/askMRP23/07/18 06:05 PM
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Re-read your own post. It sounds as if you can't imagine "being fun" not including her. Go out with guy friends, make new friends, have a hobby. Read the levels of dread - create a life apart from your wife for fuck sake!
/r/askMRP23/07/18 05:34 PM
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No vaginas tingle for the guy whose idea of fun is couch & tv (especially that panty dryer of a show family feud). If her ass is on the couch finger fucking her phone 5 hours a day, you're failing miserably as a leader and as a man. Have you figured out that the reason you're here isn't (or at least shouldn't be) to have more sex with your wife? You should know by now that the stay plan = the go plan. If you get divorced, is your plan to find a fat ass to watch tv with you and give you blowjobs?…
/r/askMRP23/07/18 05:31 PM
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Calm the fuck down bro. STFU and get your aspbergers under control. She thinks any changes you've made are bullshit. You're talking too much and it hasn't been long enough for her to believe your positive changes are legitimate. She just doesn't think they're real and/or permanent. In her mind (and possibly in reality), it's just a ploy for your needy ass to get pussy (stop calling it NSFW, live a little). She may be right to believe that at this point based on your past behaviors. Keep working …
/r/askMRP23/07/18 02:51 PM
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I get that it's hard to admit your own failures...but you failed, and hard. I hope you're just trolling us, otherwise you're a complete fucktard, faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 06:44 PM
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I'd have called you a faggot for being such a faggot. I get not helicoptering over your kids, but your #1 job and your #1 concern is keeping them alive. You did the right thing by accepting their criticism after the fact... no point having the police show up and also call you a faggot, then throw you in jail for assault and child endangerment. The worst part of this post is that you seem to not see that you did anything wrong. Faggot!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 03:10 PM
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Yes, it does...as i recall, that's the only baf advice in the book. Never, ever talk about fight club with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 12:39 PM
2

She brought you something you forgot at home... you see it as compliance by her, she sees it as "white boy doesn't even own his shit, I better take this to his beta cracker ass so me and my kids' meal ticket thinks I care and doesn't leave us." Drink less, alcohol isn't good for having important, potentially life altering interactions with an unstable spouse. If you lift, read and don't get sucked into her emotional shit storm, the starfish will die and her freak will come out.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 11:33 AM
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Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" (I credit this book with half of my progress) "When I Say No I Feel Guilty" and "Married Man Sex Life Primer" (I've only started reading this one, but its universally praised here). Don't just read these books...WORK them. Don't just start being a dick to your wife out of nowhere (aka going Rambo)... take some time to make changes, this is a marathon, not a sprint.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 08:09 PM
2

Good report, my jaw dropped a few weeks ago when my wife said "sometimes I just need you to tell me what to do"...she has also recently said that she would like for us to be able to work out together. I really don't want her there when I'm lifting (my anger phase is my motivation when I lift - and some of that is directed towards her). I may set up some workouts we could do together at home on my non-lifting days to lead her to tighten up. Foot on the gas brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 07:47 PM
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OYS #9 7/17/18. Unplugged in January. 6'4" 255 lbs (down from 283). 22% BF (Omron hand-held BF scanner) Fitness: SL 5x5, solid gains to date. Skipped a lifting day this week (soreness in shoulder from lifting) in favor of running. I was running on an indoor track that goes above the weight room, basketball courts & pool. Looking down at the people exercising, it was clear to see what every attractive & in-shape person in the place was doing...LIFTING! I will continue running & playing basketball…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 03:09 PM
2

Lol, logic and reasoning... with a woman!?
/r/askMRP17/07/18 11:17 AM
1

Thanks, I had only seen MMSLP on Amazon and apple, and I have no apple devices... I'll grab it from B&N.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 01:37 AM
1

I haven't read MMSLP - only because i haven't figured out a way to order from Amazon without wife seeing it (shared account). I think I have a lot of the concepts down from reading MRP extensively. I do have a plan and vision for my life. My family and marriage are very important to me, but I will blow up my marriage in a heartbeat if it goes back to the way she was before I implemented MRP. Having a vision is critical...until you really think about what's important to you, at your core, you're …
/r/askMRP16/07/18 08:37 PM
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My wife read those books too. I haven't tied her up yet, but that's on my to-do list. I'm fairly confident that within 6 more months, she'll do anything I want, when I want it. I spent 17 years with oneitis doing all I could do to "make her dreams come true" all the while she hated me for it. I've adopted the mindset that I can and will fuck other women if necessary & shown her examples that I could do so and now she can't get enough of my cock? It's mind blowing. This. Shit. Works.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 08:13 PM
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6 months ago, my wife told me she thinks she may be asexual. Sat. night she deepthroated me (a first), I stuck my finger in her ass (a first), she came three times and repeatedly told me she NEEDED my cum inside her. I'm not bragging, I'm not even that attractive yet. The point is, fuck what she says!! Work on yourself, your mental and physical...she'll come around, and if she doesn't you'll be in a good position to readily fuck other women. The minute you internalize that YOU are the prize (and…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 07:22 PM
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Get some strange, that'll knock her off the pedestal. Her vagina isn't special, nor is anything else about her...nail some strange to open your eyes.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 05:09 PM
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Great advice from others...also get your testosterone levels checked. You sound defeated, weak, skinny & lacking confidence... some of that could be hormonal.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 11:17 AM
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You'll get to the point where you don't even hear the harping because you're focused on your mission, and not her BS. Just don't engage that nonsense at all. Keep making decisions. Be unaffected by her criticism of you handling your shit.
/r/askMRP14/07/18 06:45 PM
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Results will come when you make them come. Have you initiated with your wife? Have you lifted? Read? This shit works, but you have to work. Do it right and your life will change. Ok, I initially stopped reading before the cheating part. Next. That. Bitch.
/r/askMRP14/07/18 04:13 AM
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There's only one solution... you need to fuck Jess...HARD.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 04:33 PM
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So what are you going to do... marry her, then try to improve the situation? Pump the brakes and figure all of this out before it's too late!
/r/askMRP12/07/18 11:01 PM
2

Good update, suspected it would go something like that.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 09:45 PM
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I can't imagine having discovered RP before marriage. My life would be completely different and my n- count astronomical. As it stands I'm working on actualizing the first part, and haven't ruled out bumping up the n-count down the road.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 09:42 PM
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Knowing what I now know about women & relationships, there's no fucking way is have gotten married without being 100% certain that my woman was completely submissive to me. As it so happens, my woman had long wanted to be submissive to a strong man, but I've not been the strong man all along. It's not about her, it's about you... and you're crazy if, knowing what you know, you get married without having your shit together.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 06:41 PM
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Brilliant post
/r/askMRP12/07/18 03:35 PM
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Some states have specific laws about infidelity. Better to have this evidence than not. Each state also has laws related to recording phone calls without consent. Either way, your badass lawyer Vann better advise you.
/r/askTRP12/07/18 03:32 PM
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Sorry you're in this situation OP. Add others have said, don't act quickly out of emotion. Time to be very selfish, and stack the deck entirely in your favor while never letting on that you plan to leave her (assuming you will leave her over this). STD tests are a must. Paternity tests are a must. Talk to a lawyer ASAP. Get her working at a paying job ASAP. Stash cash for yourself ASAP. Take 100% control of your finances ASAP. If you play this right you can minimize the amount of spousal support…
/r/askTRP12/07/18 02:36 PM
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Nice lifts. Covert contracts and OI are a bitch... every time I think "I've really got this, IDGAF, I'm OI" I realize I'm running a huge covert contract. Just have to remain vigilant.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 08:31 PM
1

What method are you using for BF %. I'm 6' 4" 253lbs and 22% BF according to my handheld scanner. What are your lifts (mine are still noobish and weak)? At 6'4" 240, I can't imagine that you're not still fat like me. If you were thinking "I'm not getting this suite to fuck my wife, I'm doing it for the family" you were lying to yourself... you absolutely did it for sex. Upgrading is simply part of game and isolating her for escalation. Own it! The problem would be if you then got pissy that she …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 06:05 PM
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Sounds like you're mostly doing it right to me. She's wondering why the good little beta bux she settled for is acting up in his cage. I'd respond with "lets talk in person" then, when you see her, just hold her tight and let her know you care about her and didn't realize she felt that way recently (NEVER APOLOGIZE). Let her talk, listen to her without DEERing, hold her tight again, tell her you love her and everything is ok...escalate and fuck her before her period starts.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 05:07 PM
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Definitely a change I will make. I have 2 friends who are bigtime intro craft beer who had lost over 65 lbs each by eating right, exercising some and not drinking beer... they started drinking beer again and are back above their pre-weight loss weights. Sad to work so hard only to fail in the end. They're not RP aware, their wives disrespect them openly. Perfect examples of why I should cut out the beer.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 05:56 PM
1

I drank 2 beers during this, though they were high alcohol content NE IPAs. I do drink too much (in terms of diet), usually a beer per night, and 2-3 when I go out. It would be an easy way to cut calories (and expenses) for sure. Thanks for the workout advice, I know now after realizing some back, shoulder and core gainz that curls are a waste of time unless I'm just pumping up my biceps for vanity before I go out.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 05:25 PM
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"I purposefully held her hand while we were out for the first time in years. I reached over, grabbed her hand and walked. She said “What are you doing?”, I replied “What I should have done years ago”. She said later that just doing that made her feel loved." You're getting sone of this right. Lifting and being a dick isn't going to save your marriage... you need to balance alpha/beta like this. Her calling you an asshole is not a bad thing, she is noticing your changes and strengthened frame... …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 05:00 PM
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You have to make your own happiness... it will never come from her. If you have to "pretend" to be happy playing with your toddler, your head needs more work. Notice I didn't say that i pretend to be happy with an expectation that it will change her behavior. I give her a chance to get in on the fun, if she doesn't the fun still goes on. Don't do any of this for her... in the end it is about achieving your own happiness, with or without her.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 04:44 PM
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lose the covert contract of "if I give physical attention, I'll get physical attention" same with "if I withdraw the physical attention that she likes, ill get the physical attention I like"... She can smell the stink of a needy little bitch boy (you) from a mile away!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 04:31 PM
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She doesn't have to be malicious or consciously thinking of ways to undermine you...AWALT....AWALT....AWALT... it's in their nature, it's how they're programmed. Now that you know, reprogram yourself accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 02:59 PM
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Agree, I didn't understand early on. Wife typically runs her hands on my back and shoulders more than anything. Also, improved posture has been huge in my change in appearance. That didn't come from curls.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 02:00 PM
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I've also had a bit of a shit test carnival lately. Instead of leaving the house when my wife doesn't respond to me being fun, I just redirect my fun towards our kids - it doesn't come across butt hurt, demonstrates that her shitty mood doesn't affect me, shows her that my fun is 100% transferable - if she doesn't like it someone else will. I epically failed a shit test a few weeks ago, that I did a FR about "captain in uncharted waters." One thing I realized from that was that I was coming acro…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 01:38 PM
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OYS #8, Skipped last week (frustration and busy) Background: Age 40, wife 39, together 17 yrs, married 12. 3 kids. 6'4", 253lbs (down from 283). 22% BF (handheld bf scanner). Lifts: Are disproportionate because I slacked on SQ, DL & ROW early on due to some back pain (seems to habe resolved with increased muscle) and desire to focus on quick arm gains. I started with light weight and focused on form and just getting my fat ass off the couch the first month or 2. Now following the SL 5X5 App each…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 11:44 AM
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Maybe swipe right on her newly created Tinder profile before Chad does? Is she someone you want to be with? If so, you might need to speak to her instead of being such a fucking 'sperg. Own what you did with Tinder instead of making excuses, etc
/r/askMRP09/07/18 08:45 PM
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That's a noble gesture on your part, to reach down and try to pick him up. He has clearly demonstrated he's not aware that there's a bigger picture problem. He's only focused on shredded books. OP might as well buy a Fleshlight, it's going to be a while...
/r/askMRP06/07/18 09:16 PM
1

Buy board books dude.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 04:48 PM
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You don't "lose" by actively pursuing divorce. For some men, that is the clear path once they've unplugged. You win by having your eyes wide open and pursuing that which you believe is your best life (which you are the one and only judge of). For many here, there was a good reason we married our wives, but something went off track... hard mode is getting back on track now that she's seen what a little bitch you are. At some point, you make a decision as to whether or not she's adding value to yo…
/r/askMRP06/07/18 10:36 AM
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Am I the only one who opened this hoping it was a FR about a man asserting himself sexually? Instead it's some weak faggot whose GF would rather finger fuck her phone while pretending to get ready for bed just to avoid fucking him.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 02:36 PM
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OP, is you having cheated the big issue? If so, and if your SMV is high enough, you are going to have to confront it head on. Either she is willing to accept that it happened and move on, or burn down the whole shit house. You can't go on in this state of get throwing it in your face all the time. Once you find your way out of her frame, you can build your own and that issue must be squashed in your frame, not festering in hers. If you're your own judge, it doesn't matter what she thinks of it.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 12:10 PM
1

Dad said nothing as he died. That's fantastic
/r/askMRP05/07/18 02:01 AM
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My mom remarried the first beta (though no bux) she could lock down. Having 2 kids by my dad and facing the wall, her options were limited, I suppose. As for my step mom, it has been said "I don't see why she puts up with his shit"...I have at least thought it myself at times. She is extremely happy in her life with him though... they have no children together either (she has no biological children at all). 30+ years married, both seem perfectly happy... something can be learned here.
/r/askMRP04/07/18 09:55 PM
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Savage, but almost certainly true.
/r/askMRP04/07/18 01:18 PM
1

You DEER way too much.
/r/askMRP04/07/18 01:12 PM
1

Sounds like great progress mentally and with your frame. Surprised that your wife making a comment about having sexual attraction for a woman, when she's supposedly low libido (for you) has you excited? She's basically saying you don't give me tingles, but she does. Keep working on you, for you... like you said, others aren't just going to fall in line, but it doesn't stop you from living the life you want to live.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 11:17 AM
1

Thanks for the good advice. No doubt it's attractive to women when men take what they want (rape excluded)
/r/askMRP03/07/18 09:11 PM
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I agree with you, he SHOULD just walk...just based on her having cheated on him, and sexual disinterest. Not married, no kids, seemingly no value added. But I'm assuming he wants to stay since he's posting here, hence my FMOFY advice... he has little to lose either way. Hitting some strange likely has OP on his way out the door anyway.
/r/askMRP03/07/18 05:19 PM
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Based on OP, maybe he should fuck a few dudes just to be sure that not what he wants. In all seriousness OP, you are so much better off than the rest of us here...not married, no kids, you could walk without much consequence. A house is just a commodity, you could find another. Would you be in a position to buy her half of the house (assuming that's the arrangement)? Sounds like it's time for a fuck me or fuck you ultimatum.
/r/askMRP03/07/18 02:21 PM
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Don't stop initiating - she has to know that you want to fuck. When you turned down sex, she seems to not be concerned about it...she doesn't see you as valuable...keep working on yourself. Good job resetting and acting like nothing happened after returning from the casino... you should've initiated again that night, that would have told you whether you made her hamster run around about you turning her down.
/r/askMRP02/07/18 08:19 PM
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If you plan to divorce her, she absolutely SHOULD be caught off guard. Also, if the stay plan=the go plan, why would you provoke her and cause drama.. is that what you want in your life? I would be treating her as if she's the next woman, maybe she'll come around, but if not, you're ready to game the next woman.
/r/askMRP01/07/18 11:49 AM
1

You'll get no DEERing from me on this one. Extremely fun 1:1 time has already been had with all three kids this weekend, and it's only Saturday. They ate it up, and so did I. I had no intent of this sliding down on my priorities list again. The invite from my friend included my wife as well...I assume he wouldn't be thrilled if I were to bang his wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/18 03:36 AM
1

You have to come to grips with the fact that she may not come along for the ride...or better yet, you may conclude that the new awesome you is better suited to take someone else along for the ride. Does she add value? Would crushing a 27 y/o's pussy knowing what you now know outweigh that value? Could you have the best of both worlds and spin 27 y/o plates? Since I started asking myself these types of questions, eliminating oneitis and becoming OI about sex and our relationship as a whole, my wi…
/r/askMRP01/07/18 03:31 AM
2

I have a friend who married a virgin. Had 2 kids together. She fucked another dude. My friend had let himself slip into betadom... predictable result.
/r/askMRP30/06/18 12:28 PM
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I don't have a problem with what OP said. He's overtly communicating his expectations. She WILL either step up and do what he's asking (because she values him) or she will keep doing what she's doing (she doesn't see him as high value). I see it no differently than telling her to blow you or "I like when you do that thing with your tongue." LTRs are prone to laziness and complacency, OP is reminding her she can do better. EDIT: I do have a problem with his response to her "you don't like my kiss…
/r/askMRP29/06/18 06:59 PM
1

Thanks for that. I totally relate to your struggle. I drink the shit out of diet Mt. Dew. I eat a little better than I did before unplugging, but I don't plan, measure and track like I should. I've cut out evening snacking, candy, ice cream, etc, but mostly just eating reasonable portions. This has worked well so far, but weight loss is stalling somewhat. I was a high school athlete, 6'4" 205lbs, lean muscle, looked good, fucked a lot throughout college. Settled down with my wife, work, etc, my …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 10:16 AM
2

I'm 22% BF according to my omron BF scanner. No idea where I was when I started.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 02:30 AM
2

Awesome FR...keep working, almost sounds like you're taking a victory lap...256lbs sounds like a lot of work ahead! I'm in the same weight range (253, down from 283) st 6'4". What is your weight loss/ muscle gain strategy? I'm trying to figure out the best approach... I've been lifting 3-4x/wk and running 1-2x/wk - mostly reps of 50-100yd sprints, walking back between reps. Haven't really dialed in my diet as I'm paralyzed trying to decide if I cut calories and go for rapid weight loss (at the e…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 02:54 AM
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Should've handled your shit, it's that simple. Your boundary sounds like it was never communicated. If it was a communicated boundary, enforce it, cancel the painters and offer a better solution (you doing the work or finding a better contractor to do the work). If I we're you, after not owning my shit, I would tell her that I understand why she felt the need to handle it (because you failed as captain), then communicate that spending that kind of money in the future without your approval is una…
/r/askMRP28/06/18 01:19 AM
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Has she always been like this, or just since you "changed." Sounds like she's reacting to the power shift you're attempting to implement. In my relationship, I saw some pretty crazy reactions from my wife early on - usually when she didn't get the response she had grown accustomed to getting from me (stopped being her good little beta boy and started asserting my needs). She usually followed those shitty actions up with apologies and comfort seeking though... not next level craziness like you're…
/r/askMRP27/06/18 02:11 PM
1

You're LUCKY to be aware at your age. I was staring 40 in the face when I started turning my ship around. Yeah, it would have been nice to be aware at 17, I'd have been lifting, living well & crushing pussy all along, or at 21, 25, 30... It is what it is man. There's only one way forward - lift and live life on your own terms, to your own standards. This from a guy 6 months in and still in the anger phase on a daily basis. I know what the right mindset is, but it's easier said than done. Take ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 03:36 AM
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Agree, autistic as fuck to point your kid to TRP. I fully intend to teach my kid the way things really work, but not by pointing him here... by imparting my wisdom and values over time and by example. Fuckin' sperg.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 02:13 PM
1

OYS #7, Age 40, married 12 yrs to 39 y/o SAHM, 3 kids under 7. Unplugged in January. Physical: 6'4" 255lbs (down from 283), 22% BF. 1st BF reading using Omron BY scanner bought last week. Expected a worse #, but there's work to be done. SL 5x5, lifts are all over the place as I started low, then increased some faster than others. Lifted 3x this week at the gym (not at home), ran once. Mental: Still deep in anger phase. Some days I resent my wife for her AWALT characteristics. Focused on getting …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 01:39 PM
1

4 FUCKING YEARS? AND YOUR SOLUTION IS TO KILL YOUR SEX DRIVE? Even before discovering MRP, I'd have taken drastic measures to correct this. If you have other women interested in you, you should act on it. She has made it clear through her actions that she doesn't give a fuck about your needs. You're giving commitment without getting sex. How long are you willing to continue like this? Literally set a date when you will say "fuck me or fuck you" to her... and mean it. Get prepared for divorce, pr…
/r/askMRP24/06/18 07:56 PM
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Stop avoiding her. Everything else you're doing sounds good. Do you game her? How is your sex life - guessing non- existent if you're avoiding her.
/r/askMRP24/06/18 01:10 PM
3

Haha, even the "this is us" fat chick fucks her fat husband... probably because she saw his smoking hot skinny ex wife in one episode.
/r/askMRP23/06/18 08:53 PM
2

I don't talk about it, but she's noticed changes and asked what, why, etc. All I've really said is "I've been lazy in certain aspects of my life and I'm working on that." She's brought it up during comfort tests, shit tests, arguments, etc. Other than what I said above (said once, and only once) I don't feel the need to tell her what, why or how I'm doing it. Yep, foot staying on the gas. I realize there's no finish line.
/r/askMRP23/06/18 10:25 AM
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Well said. Even at my fattest and bluest, I wasn't a complete dumpster fire either. I attribute my quick turnaround thus far to: 1) Having not been a beta bitch my whole life (captain of the major sports teams in HS, high n-count prior to developing one -itis for my now wife). I think I'm showing flashes of my younger confident (if not downright cocky) self and she likes it - a lot. 2) Really internalizing that the stay plan = the go plan. I have set a timeline for my own improvement and expect …
/r/askMRP23/06/18 01:33 AM
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Thanks, no doubt that if this had happened a few months ago it would have been WW3 in our house. I'm eternally grateful to MRP for giving me the tools I need to unfuck myself. Still a lot of work to do.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 10:45 PM
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I'm guessing he became a man whose cum she was eager to swallow.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 10:18 PM
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Instead of negotiating for it, I'd give her a nice surprise sometime when she blows you and just cum in her mouth. Notice in my OP, I didn't tell her it was coming until it was about to happen, not pre-arranged, not agreed upon, I just did it. That came from a place of "this is something I want, either she does it, or I continue working on myself and I'll find someone else who wants to please me." What you're talking about doing is some combination of going Rambo and negotiating desire. Obviousl…
/r/askMRP22/06/18 08:05 PM
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As my wife told me - she only did it as a favor, and I (in her WORDS) disrespectfully came in her mouth. If you listen to their words, you'll believe that. If you buy into hypergamy and read about countless examples of women who changed when their husbands alpha'd up, you'll realize that what they say is meaningless. Bottom line is she'll blow you if she feels it's what's necessary to keep a quality man. You're likely not a quality man in her eyes yet (just as I'm not yet there myself). She does…
/r/askMRP22/06/18 05:22 PM
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The stay plan = the go plan. Work on yourself, she'll epithet come along for the ride and seek to please you, or you'll be a better man and better positioned to find a woman (or many women) who will sell to please you. Either way, your life will be better. Lift. Read. This shit works!!
/r/askMRP22/06/18 03:46 PM
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I've had my share of Rambo moments as well, but agree this is just being assertive.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 02:17 PM
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I've read your thread previously. I too had many girls swallow before I got with my now wife. Loved it. Had one girl that let me finish 100% of the time in her mouth and swallowed every last drop. 1st BJ my wife gave me, she swallowed like a champ (I didn't ask, just did what I wanted). She told me to never do that again, she didn't like it & I didn't. In hindsight, I could've had my loads swallowed for the past 17 years if I'd played it right in that moment. She was crazy about me, continuing t…
/r/askMRP22/06/18 02:14 PM
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I do game her - all day every day. As far as our window for having sex goes, it's at night.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 11:17 AM
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She didn't bring it up, so I didn't bring it up. I did what I normally do - blew it inside her. We climaxed together. It would have been completely autistic to bring it up or to try to blow a load in her mouth. Her actions (comfort seeking & initiating) tell me she was ok with it. Next time she blows me to completion, I will do it again (with the same warning I gave this time).
/r/askMRP22/06/18 11:13 AM
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UPDATE: Fortune favors the bold. Wife was perfectly happy today - like happier than she ever is. I mentioned earlier that she handled her shit around the house today, tonight she handled my dick with much enthusiasm. There was a hint of comfort seeking, which I provided, then SHE initiated as I was getting ready for bed. I rewarded her with all the dominance I could muster late on a Thursday night...a good time was had by all. Lessons learned - do what I want & pay attention only to what she doe…
/r/askMRP22/06/18 04:10 AM
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Thanks. I definitely need to change my strategy on this... we have 3 kids under 7, initiation are almost exclusively after bedtime and after I've worked out and chilled a little. I usually excuse myself to either read or write, rarely actually leaving the house after a rejection. I realize this should change as it stinks of butthurt when I do that, or worse just shut down and go to sleep. I make OI statements, like "I understand you're tired after last night" or "that's alright babe, rest up for…
/r/askMRP21/06/18 11:36 PM
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It feels a little Rambo, but I'm really just making it clear what I want sexually. When I got home, she was completely happy, dinner ready, kid ready for me to take him to swim lessons (I lift while he's swimming). Guarantee you I thought about this more than she did today.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 10:58 PM
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God damn that's funny.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 09:36 PM
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Whew, escaped without being called a faggot this time.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 09:35 PM
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That's my attitude, enough walking on eggshells, enough pretending I don't want to do despicable things to her, enough of the BS. If I start being who I really am, and She's not cool with it, I'll find someone younger and hotter who is (after I stop being a fat 253lb hunk of shit of course).
/r/askMRP21/06/18 09:34 PM
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We got together when I was 21, broke, working in a restaurant, partying, driving an old beat up pickup truck. She's from a wealthy family. She wasn't initially south me as her BB. I'm not a career beta bux, though I've let myself become BB. I'm completely on board with the rest of your post and working the program hard.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 09:29 PM
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Still early (haven't really talked to her today), but I think I'm ok. Actually, I know I'm ok, but I think she's ok too.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 09:26 PM
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My take was "I was doing you a favor" was just her words after I blew my load in her mouth... months ago, I just wouldn't have been getting blown. judging by her actions (blowing me) attraction is building, though still a ways to go.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 09:17 PM
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There's a fine line for noobs when it comes to owning your shit vs doing choreplay and expecting something (sex, appreciation, cookies, trophies) in return. You do things because you want them done and you're not waiting on someone else to do them. Women talk, men do! I have young twins. The first several months were hard (sexually and otherwise) . Don't go Rambo and expect porn star sex - your wife is focused 100% on the baby...assuming her potential as a mother is one reason you married her? U…
/r/askMRP21/06/18 01:30 PM
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I'd prefer to not talk about fight club. Would also prefer not to have her think I'm doing everything I'm doing to get more sex...it definitely started out that way, but it's much more than that now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 11:45 PM
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"Fellow Redditors, is it a sign of improvement or just her getting her needs met?" It really shouldn't matter either way - GTFO of her frame. Either you do things with her because you enjoy it for what it is, or stop doing it. How will you feel if after playing flirty games with you, she gets railed (better than you ever could) by Chad later that night? I'm guessing not good - she owns you, she'll give you just enough attention to keep getting her emotional needs met, without fucking you. If you…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 07:50 PM
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Quit worrying about impressing your guy group with expensive craft beer. Keep going because you enjoy their company, but start doing it on your terms. Be you and be unapologetic about it. As for blowing your loads quickly, get out of your own head... if you're immersed in sex, you should be able to feel it coming. Slow down or pull out and switch positions. Either way, don't let it get into your head... initiate more, fuck more, you'll last longer if you're not anxious thinking "oh boy, here's m…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 07:38 PM
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6/20/18 – OYS #6 Physical: 40 y/o 6’4” 253lbs. Have been saying body fat % too high to bother for several weeks now, but today I ordered an Omron Fat Loss Monitor for $30. I’ve lost 30 lbs since I got off the couch and decided to stop being a fat lazy fuck (in all aspects of my life). I feel that my body composition changes are starting to far outweigh my weight loss in terms of impact to my physical appearance & overall health. Bottom line – weight doesn’t tell the whole story, so I’m going to …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 06:04 PM
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OP, read lots of posts around here before you get married. I'd kill to have known then what I know now. I may have still gotten married, but only if my life felt perfect. Internalize "does she add value to my life" question. When it comes to cleaning, it sounds like the answer is "no." I'd clean as if I'm single... in fact, do EVERYTHING as if you're single. This demonstrates to her that you can be and possibly will be fine without her. 50% of marriages end in divorce. In your case, with you wor…
/r/askMRP16/06/18 10:02 AM
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"Do you even care anymore?" Not about this conversation. Smirk, ass pat
/r/askMRP14/06/18 04:56 PM
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I had probably my best lifting session yet last night. I used my bowflex adjustable dumbbells instead of barbell for OHP. Balance was a bit more difficult, but shoulder wasn't an issue (though I didn't bench press on my machine). Lifting was a chore at first and I wasn't 100% sure I'd be able to commit to making it a permanent routine, but I now really enjoy it. Love feeling pumped afterwards, love the gainz...the better posture it's producing, watching my bitch tits give way to pects, wife rubb…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 02:56 PM
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OP, you didn't give any background or whether you're following the program, etc. Whether you need to celebrate anniversaries or not depends on your particular relationship - sounds like it's important to her, though her bringing it up is probably actually less about the anniversary and more about general lacking attention to her. Give her the afternoon she needs, or she will look for it elsewhere. Women want to know that a high quality man cares about them. If you're Chad Thundercock, you might …
/r/askMRP14/06/18 11:07 AM
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Thanks man, funny thing is I'm not trying (initiating) every day, maybe every other day. She said she thinks once a week is a good number, and I just responded that I wasn't trying to negotiate a number, but that if she's not feeling it when I am, I'm fine with that and told her that I want sex to be pleasurable for both of us, not something she dreads doing or that feels like a chore. I went on to remind her that she seems to have really been enjoying herself lately, and she just blushed and pl…
/r/askMRP13/06/18 05:45 PM
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I've been a beta bitch, I haven't gotten many comfort tests... I'll recognize better next time.
/r/askMRP13/06/18 01:34 PM
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Thank you for the great reply, I clearly have work to do and intend to keep at it. I showed way too much butthurt over a simple shit test comment. I let my hamster spin, threw her hamster into overdrive and we both wanted the same thing... for me to be a man and lead. Once I did, I've been treated like I want to be treated, ficked like I want to be fucked and my house is running like a well oiled machine (for only 2 days so far). The worst part of validation seeking is that when she said somethi…
/r/askMRP13/06/18 12:04 PM
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OYS #5 40 y/o. 6'4" 253lbs (down 30 lbs). BF% still too high to bother measuring. Physical: Doing SL5x5 + barbell curls 3x/week, shoulder has been hurting some, i think from using a bp machine in my garage. I need to go to the gym more, but convenient to knock it out quickly in the garage. I'm also running 1-2x/wk, been focusing on 50 yd sprints, walk back, immediately go again instead of ruining for distance. Parenting: 3 kids, 6 y/o son, twin 2 y/o daughters. It's tough finding quality time gi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 03:44 AM
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No doubt, this has revealed to me that I'm definitely still seeking validation from her...mainly in the form of sex (fucked laat night and tonight FWIW). I still get douche chills thinking about sending the email in the middle of the night...DEERing, validation seeking, cowardly to not look her in the face and discuss what needed to be discussed. I am fully aware that I have a lout of work to do - I'd say I've been fucking up for 15 years, I'm 5 months in, so at least 10 more months. I'm improvi…
/r/askMRP13/06/18 02:49 AM
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OP sounds like you could use some work on your social circle to me. There will be zero tingles derived from "I went to two movies by myself while you were away." That's not to say that your goal is to create tingles all the time, but that's something you did in the absence of better options. Doing what you want to do is awesome, going to movies alone because your social circle is lacking...not so much. Screams to me that without her around, you don't have a lot going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 02:34 PM
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Thanks for that. I can already see that she's over it and stepping up her game in the areas we discussed.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 01:03 PM
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Can you expand on tell her to keep her ass in your bed? Should I tell her that I expect her to sleep in our bed, even if she gets angry? I thought the MRP line of thinking was to stay in your own bed... I've not given much thought to her leaving for a night or 2.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 01:00 PM
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When I wrote my email, I was not implying getting my sexual needs met elsewhere. I can see where it comes across that way, but I have been VERY careful to not negotiate desire. I would not cheat on her, though I also would not tell her that as it would take that aspect off dread off the table. She is a quality woman, a caring mother and based on the recent trajectory of our sex life, I'll have no reason to have my needs met elsewhere. I appreciate the rest of your reply, good points.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 12:56 PM
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Thank you. I definitely let the "needy" comment throw me waaaay off my game. I obviously can't allow things like that to get to me. I need to brush it off as if one of the kids caked me poopie head. A few weeks ago, she said she hated me (over something relatively trivial), I just laughed at her, went out to handle a few things, came home to a tearful apology, blowjob and monkey sex that night. I should have learned from that experience and handled this one much differently. The email had made m…
/r/askMRP12/06/18 12:36 PM
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Damn good reply, I think you hit the nail on the head in many ways. I don't think she actually thinks of me like a child at all, definitely a shit test. She wants to please me, she defers to me on most every decision, sex has been frequent (about 3x/wk on average, up from about 2x/mo) pre MRP. You're right about my piss poor attempt at leadership - I was definitely operating from a place of anger and trying to "win" and push her into obedience instead of leading by example and pushing through th…
/r/askMRP12/06/18 12:09 AM
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Thanks, the new captain with a good attitude feels like he fucked up months of progress here though. Onward and upward though!
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:43 PM
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Yep, knew when I was writing it that it was autistic beta behavior.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 07:47 PM
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Can you expand on this? I know that my wife avoids conflict like nobody I've ever known, if I didn't ask to talk about it, she would still be clammed up and angry at me?
/r/askMRP11/06/18 07:39 PM
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I wouldn't lay my shit out here like this if i didn't want the harsh truth! The pill has not been at all easy to swallow - it has hurt going down. I do realize I'm still a fat fuck, but committed to changing that long term. Thanks for the encouragement.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 06:37 PM
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I do get it, and working aggressively to improve the situation. Solid early gainz, but much more work to do.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 06:22 PM
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Ouch, but thank you. There's work to do, for sure.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 06:16 PM
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Understandable comment. I wasn't entirely fucked coming into MRP - started relationship as alpha, slipped quickly. She always respected me, defers to me on all decisions, I handle finances, etc. Sex was lacking... that has mostly changed in short order with my improvements and a little dread. Not quite as simple as resistance to her good little beta getting out of line.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 06:12 PM
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So you think it's as simple as failing the one shit test? Fucked me up for a whole week?
/r/askMRP11/06/18 06:05 PM
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I'm 6'4" 254lbs, yes fat, nowhere near my goals, but my height hides it ok. I'm (now) confident and witty, far more attractive than her beta bux husband. She'd fuck me, and there are other women in our circle of friends, business contacts, etc who would as well. Wife is aware of this, and not from me telling her.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 06:04 PM
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I am very good with A&A, I'm pretty ballsy with comments to her related to sex...but, a lot of this seemed to me to border on comfort testing (mostly new to me).
/r/askMRP11/06/18 05:59 PM
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We've officially collectively spent way too much time and energy analyzing OPs chick's bullshit words that dribbled out of her mouth. OP, do nothing more than carry on with what you're doing. Don't give another thought to her feelz, or her words, they will change tomorrow. Today it's I'm jealous, tomorrow it may be I don't like that you spend so much time playing, the next day she's blowing you because your skillz gave her feelz for a moment, then back to disliking it. My chick literally contrad…
/r/askMRP08/06/18 02:12 AM
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People are saying "anger" even though that wasn't your wording because what you're describing is commonly referred to as the anger phase. I'm about 5 months in, and I'm still feeling it in a big way. So far the best remedies I've found are lifting (channel those feelings into motivation in the gym), outcome independence (just know that knowing what you now know is making you a better man with or without her) and just recognizing that you now have the cheat codes... to all women, not just your wi…
/r/askMRP07/06/18 09:27 PM
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Seek legal advice, laws vary from state to state. May be as simple as putting it in accounts titled to you individually, may need to set up a trust... either way, a competent lawyer can help. May also want to get a referral to a fee only certified financial planner to advise how best to invest the money. As for the wife, she doesn't need all the details right away. Tell her it's complicated when it comes to large inheritance and you've been told it's prudent to seek professional advice...if she …
/r/askMRP07/06/18 01:40 PM
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I'm 5 months in, stopped masturbating and watching porn entirely out of the gate. I have the same problem of ejaculating somewhat quickly if I haven't had sex or masturbated in about 3 days. On the one hand, I could just cum quickly when we have sex and it's her fault for not fucking me enough, or I can rub one out if I feel like it and it's been a few days and make sex longer lasting and more satisfying (sounds better to me). I find that not jerking off as much makes me initiate more aggressive…
/r/askMRP06/06/18 08:17 PM
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Now that I do mostly "get it" it's almost laughable how simple women are. It's literally difficult to hold back laughter when I see her shitty behavior in the moment for what it really is...a test to see if I'm man enough to fuck. I'm still a fat slob, but just recognizing and passing shit tests, losing some weight, slight muscle gainz and frequent initiation have already led to a better relationship and better sex than I ever imagined I could have with my wife at this point in our lives. Unbeli…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 07:17 PM
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Great post, thank you! I do recognize that she hasn't done anything intentionally or maliciously, and it's not just anger towards her, it's at myself, society, other women I was with, parents, etc. I suppose it all comes back to accepting responsibility that its my fault I've been naive. I've swallowed the pill, but my throat is sore!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 07:10 PM
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How have you gotten past the anger? It really bothers me that I've spent so much time and energy DEERing and trying to address her concerns over the years, trying to make her happy, gently making love to her with her satisfaction my primary concern...and all she wanted was for me to be aloof, tell her what to do, have better things to do than spend time listening to her nag, look good and fuck her hard! I guess if she knew that's what she wanted she might have told me.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 05:16 PM
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Thanks, I'm sure I get 5 situations like this wrong for everyone I get right... but I'm trying to stay aware and differentiate between her valuable logical input, and her worthless emotionally fueled input.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 08:41 PM
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It's fucking maddening at times. We were on round #2 of sex Sunday and she said "I just love having your dick inside me." For some reason, it made me think of her asexual comment, I grinned and she probably thought it was in response to her "loving my dick"....it was really just me recognizing her for what she is and finding it amusing that I have the cheat codes now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 08:37 PM
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OYS #4, 6'4" 255lbs (down from 283). 40 y/o, wife 39, married 12 yrs, 3 kids under 6. SL 5x5, just passed 100lbs on all lifts. BF % to high to bother. Unplugged in January, RP aware (and angry about it) for about a year. Physical: early focus has been on losing weight (portion control, no snacks, running & lifting). From the fat sack of shit that groaned getting up out of my laz-e-boy to having some level of energy and endurance feels great. Solid early gainz in terms of weight loss, energy, sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 01:41 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement. I read a TON of posts here because I KNEW it all made sense and really believed it would work and would help me lead the life I want to lead (which includes getting laid well and often). The hardest things for me at this point are dealing with the anger phase (I put up with shitty, infrequent sex for years. I spent years trying to make her happy so that shed love me and fuck me... turns out I just needed to make myself happy to make her love me and fuck me enthusias…
/r/askMRP04/06/18 10:36 PM
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Thanks, you're right, getting these results with her is nice, since that was initially my goal, but it's definitely about more than that. It's about being a great dad, rocking it at work, improved relationships with friends (something I've let side big time), and just living life to the fullest and enjoying the fuck out of it. She has asked questions about my changes and I've really only said "I've realized that I've been lazy in several aspects of my life and I'm stopping that." I'm certain she…
/r/askMRP04/06/18 11:20 AM
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I don't think there was anything wrong with overtly stating you'll go in exchange for road head. You're being clear in your expectation and she went for it. Where you fucked up was continuing to negotiate instead of letting her blow you and then cumming in her mouth without pre- negotiating it... just doing what feels right in the moment.
/r/askMRP04/06/18 11:12 AM
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You'll need to sweeten the pot with some choreplay to get her to swallow your load.
/r/askMRP04/06/18 11:08 AM
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The idea is to realize that things may not work out with your wife. If you were single, what steps would you take to attract quality women? I would work out, socialize, work on game, be a good dad, focus on my career, etc. MRP basically says that these same steps should drastically improve your marriage...i.e. the stay plan (stay with her and improve yourself, which will improve your marriage) is the same as the go plan (leave her and improve yourself, which will help you attract quality women).
/r/askMRP03/06/18 11:33 PM
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This. I'm 5 months in and it wasn't until I started to not give a fuck what she thought, what she did, and just doing things I wanted to do without much regard for her opinions of my actions that she started being respectful & fucking me enthusiastically. She worked out yesterday for the first time in recent memory. Last night after we fucked, she said "my pussy is sore from all the sex we're having" (4 times now in 3 days), I STFU, then she said "I'll just have to get used to it." I couldn't be…
/r/askMRP03/06/18 04:27 PM
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Why bother deciding if he wants her back or not? Might as well fuck her if he wants to fuck her, regardless of her expectations of what fucking means for their relationship
/r/askMRP03/06/18 04:32 AM
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You need to get over worrying what other people will say about you. You are your ONLY judge. What do people say about you as an atheist? Do you care? It really doesn't matter does it?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/18 02:08 AM
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She's a capable F.O. I don't want to micro manage her, or be bothered with insignificant spending decisions like that. I do like that she values my input and seeks my approval, but it's annoying to get that call or text when I'm doing something more important at work. I like the idea of framing it as I'm giving you discretion over this decision.
/r/askMRP01/06/18 04:15 PM
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It's funny, I went on a work trip maybe a month ago, but no tingles. I think she knew there was little to no chance I was fucking around, there was nowhere the same level of 'welcome home' sex when I returned. Not sure why such a difference, maybe something about the manliness of camping/fishing as opposed to work training & presentations? All I know is I'll be doing more of both as well as going out more with friends.
/r/askMRP01/06/18 03:39 PM
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I'm trying not to go full Rambo... as I said, I've made sexual demands that were beyond my SMV and led to setbacks, so I'm proceeding with a bit of caution until my SMV is high enough to make straight up demands. I can tell that she likes being told what to do, or me just doing it without any mention, as opposed to me asking if I can fuck her doggy style, I now aggressively grab her and put her where I want her, then pound away. Old me would have said "do ya think we could do doggy style?" then …
/r/askMRP01/06/18 03:31 PM
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IDK, she told me after I got home that she masturbated during the sexting. I recognized when she made the "come home" comment that it felt like a pussy power test, but could also be that she just wanted a good hard pounding.
/r/askMRP01/06/18 03:21 PM
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Thank you, I'll STFU and keep working out.
/r/askMRP01/06/18 12:55 PM
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Assuming she's just coming along for the ride, and there's no main event - (I've been told in a previous OYS that if you started the relationship alpha, that sometimes just being a man again avoids a main event and shit gets on track) how best to overtly vocalize the captain/ F.O. model, your vision and your expectations of her? She wants to be submissive, I handle finances with zero questions from her, she consults me on nearly everything she does (I've insisted that she stop some of it, like c…
/r/askMRP01/06/18 04:15 AM
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Don't get me wrong, I've fucked up plenty in the last 5 months - DEERing, failing you recognize shit tests, saying and doing things that are way beyond my SMV. I just try to remind myself that it's a long game and when it comes to what i want and expect from our relationship-the stay plan is the go plan. She's a quality woman, I got with her at 21-I was 22 - drove a beat up old pickup, worked in a restaurant and partied a lot...I was definitely not seen as beta bux, but I became it. I suspect sh…
/r/askMRP01/06/18 04:00 AM
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Seems like she wants to make you happy so she's blowing you. If she's typically initiating and enthusiastic most of the time, I wouldn't sweat it. Often, when my wife is just down for a BJ, and I want sex, I let her suck it for a while, constantly talking dirty to her and telling her how much I like having my cock in her (which she responds to with her own dirty talk)... I'm usually able to get her to fuck enthusiastically instead of "just" finishing the bj. I usually play with her tits and fing…
/r/askMRP18/05/18 03:10 PM
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Roger that. Sex life aside, I need to clarify my mission for ME, not for her. I think I could "fake it" the rest of my life, and she'd possibly eat it up, but it's not about improving her response to me, it's about improving myself to maximize the joy in MY life.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 02:17 PM
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Yep, lifting is an area where the short fuckers have a definite advantage. I'm also a 6'4" noob and even when I lifted regularly before slipping into betadom, I didn't put up impressive #'s like my shorter friends...but I'm only interested in results, not the pissing contest. I'm also a very hairy guy, and have never figured out a really good way to deal with my chest. A kid at the beach once said to his mom "is that Austin Powers" - funny little fucker! I've shaved it clean (bumps, itching), I'…
/r/askMRP10/05/18 07:30 PM
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So is it under water? Would you at least break even on a sale?
/r/askMRP10/05/18 10:40 AM
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I understand making those around me aware of my vision through actions and some words. I guess from reading through so many posts, I had the impression that if done correctly, MRP (and particularly progressing through appropriate dread levels) will inevitably lead to a main event?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/18 10:35 AM
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Why are you renting out the condo as opposed to just selling it. If you sell after having used it as your primary residence for 2 of the last 5 years, you wouldn't pay taxes on up to $500k of gains on the sale. What is the rent vs expenses and the market value of the condo? Was it her idea to rent...if so, for feelz or for logical reasons? Contrary to popular belief, owning rental property just for the sake of owning rental property isn't a good idea. Is it profitable vs selling and doing someth…
/r/askMRP10/05/18 12:45 AM
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OYS #3. 5/9/18. 40 yo, wife 39, married 12 yrs, together 17, 3 kids. RP aware around a year, MRP dedicated since around 1/2018. 6'4" 253lb (down from 260 a week ago due to the flu). Overall, down 30 lbs. ND percentage too high to bother calculating. Lifts: only lifted once this week - as I said, I've been sick. Doing SL 5x5s, for a couple of months - excellent noob gains thus far and I love the way I feel after lifting. Relationship: it's amazing how she is absolutely a reflection of me. When I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 11:53 PM
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Thanks from a noob with moobs. Your writing speaks to me - I like the idea of using my moobs as an indicator of progress. Damn that's a solid metaphor for a fat fuck like me. I was alpha AF when i met my now wife and my sex life with her reflected that. I wouldn't fuck me, though she still does (already gone from 3x/mo to 2-3x/wk). While I was getting fat and growing bitch tits, I let the beta bullshit enter my relationship, then our marriage and now it's bled over into the way I interact with m…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/18 01:59 AM
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3x a week sounds awkward to me. I'd be more concerned about that than the ice cream (not more concerned than the lies and encouraging the kids to lie). Does she get her shit done at home? Could she work part time? I'm not one to talk as I also have a SAHM that used to bring in about $60k/yr before we had twins (now 2). Can't wait to get her back to work, but for now it makes my life easy - she does all the laundry, unless I decide to grab a load or 2, cooks meals for the most part, half assed cl…
/r/askMRP05/05/18 01:08 AM
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I'm a bit of a noob, but I think your original mistake was making a "course correction" on her doing a little something special (an ice cream) when she has lunch with the kids. How often is that? Maybe we're bad parents, but between the two of us, we've had lunch at school with our son 3x this year! As for telling the kids to lie to you... set yourself a BIG FUCKING HARD BOUNDARY ON THAT SHIT!! Even the most feelzy, illogical woman can follow why it's bad to train your children to lie to parents…
/r/askMRP05/05/18 12:00 AM
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Exactly what I'm trying to do (work through breaking free). NMMNG hit me like a TON of bricks when I first read it. Threw my anger phase into high gear. Though I've identified and eliminated what feels like countless covert contracts, I find more almost daily - with my wife, my parents, co - workers, my boss, clients... they're every-fucking-where. It's liberating when you start to realize that me doing x in no way obligates anyone else to do a dann thing. I've lived my whole life resenting peop…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 09:31 PM
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"She actually just got it today" doesn't cut it. That indicates that you're leaving it up to her... in reality, she may decide she wants to lock you down with a kid. Proceed with caution... you've been warned. Are you sure you're not a troll?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 06:23 PM
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OYS #2. Age 40, 260 lbs, fat fuck - obese BMI, body fat too high to bother measuring. Lifting: SL 5x5 3-4x/wk, started with low weight, just breaking 100lbs in all lifts. Results becoming noticeable. Running or playing basketball 1-2x per week and walk around 1.5-2 miles 3 days/ wk. Trying to lose weight and gain muscle at the same time. Weight has held steady at 260 for around a month now, but body composition is changing and it feels good. Goal is to start to dial in my diet to better achieve …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 04:03 PM
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Damn, OP. You let her stop having sex with you and allowed her to openly fuck another man. How much more can she do to tell you she's done with you and you should move on? As others have said, it's time to assess this situation and simply do what's best for YOU. Step one is to consult a good divorce attorney. From there, figure out your exit strategy - get your finances optimized for the divorce, make living arrangements for you and your kids, etc. Read No more mr nice guy, then literally take a…
/r/askMRP20/04/18 05:07 PM
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Probably right...I suppose if your SMV is already on par with, or slightly higher than hers, those minor changes can set the hamster in motion pretty quickly. Also, at least in my case, I'm not saying she remembers how it was back then... after all, attraction to alpha behavior is mostly subconscious, I'm just saying that she's seeing it, had been craving it (probably without being aware that she's craving it) and is instantly responding to it.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 07:30 PM
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I'm relatively new here as well and have had a similar experience to that of op. I'm a couple months in, and my wife has been all over me the whole time. I've lost 25 lbs, being more fun, handling shit tests and being assertive. 5x5 strong lifts, with noticeable, but not yet impressive results. My theory is that she's just seeing some newbie gains, initiative and assertive behavior. After putting up with a fat slob beta bitch for 13 years (17 year relationship)... maybe she's just seeing glimpse…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 06:24 PM
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I deserve that. It's definitely beta bitch bullshit that I must get rid of.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 08:43 PM
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Thank you, you're absolutely right.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 05:44 PM
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You're right, it's beta bitch talk, oozing with my lack of confidence. Goes right along with your comment on breaking the habit.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 05:22 PM
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My first OYS, I'm sure I'll fuck it up. Age 40, 6'4 260 (down from 283 in Oct), up from 200 & muscular when I met my wife, much too high BF percentage. Married 12 yrs, together 17, 3 kids - 6yo & twin 2y/o's. RP aware about 1 yr, MRP engrossed about 3 months. Physical: been focused on losing weight just to get my fat sedentary ass to a point where I can exercise without having a heart attack. I've cut 23 lbs and started really lifting SL 5x5s 3-4x/week about a month ago. Instant newbie gains, al…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 03:20 PM
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