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Good news, many women love men with red flags
/r/seduction28/06/25 02:57 AM
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The idea that you don't think common sense would apply, and that you can't even cocieve of what that is, is the true comedy
/r/seduction14/04/24 01:44 PM
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If she doesn't bring it up, then it's not your problem. If you don't have a girlfriend then it's not your problem. It's only natural to use whatever resources are available to meet someone who is interested in you. Why should you be made to feel ashamed or guilty of the same thing they are doing? If someone does press you about it ask them why they care and what's so wrong about it or dismiss it nonchalantly. If she doesn't want you chatting up her friend challenge her on it. Tell her if she wan…
/r/seduction14/04/24 07:48 AM
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Meet her for lunch. Why is this hard?
/r/seduction14/04/24 07:25 AM
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The most seductive outfit or style is the one that makes you feel the most confident After a while you realize that some dudes will be picking up girls left and right while wearing basketball shorts and crocs because it really doesn't matter what you're wearing but how you're wearing it
/r/seduction14/04/24 07:24 AM
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Sounds like he doesn't really know what he is doing
/r/seduction14/04/24 07:08 AM
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In a public place, especially a social venue, is fair game. When someone is at a place where it's reasonable that they would expect privacy or alone time is a no no
/r/seduction14/04/24 07:01 AM
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Start asking yourself "if I don't do this, will I regret it later?" If yes, use the 3 second rule. Countdown from 3 and then go do it
/r/seduction28/10/22 05:17 AM
5

Always flirt. It keeps you on top of your game and if it attracts girls you aren't into that also social proofs you with girls you are. It also demonstrates a consistent personality
/r/seduction19/10/22 01:08 AM
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It definitely signals that you have your shit together if you're at least paying rent with roommates. Living at home makes you look dependent and like a failure to launch even tho most women aren't held to the same standard
/r/seduction18/10/22 04:46 AM
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If you have her contact, give her a call as if that was the plan all along and then just invite her to whatever your planned activity is. The worst that could happen is a no or a ghost, which would leave you where you were before. This gives you possibility
/r/seduction18/10/22 04:43 AM
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A better response would be closer to the truth. There's nothing wrong with positive vulnerability. Something like "I'm waiting until I meet the right person". It's a true statement. Or if you want help maybe say you're having trouble meeting eligible women. This endears them rather than signaling that you think there's something wrong with you. If you think that then they'll believe it and natural mating behaviors will steer the ship. To fix your real issue, stop worrying about how you look. You…
/r/seduction18/10/22 04:41 AM
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That and patience and flexibility. You guys might make plans but then need to cancel and be ok with staying home because of social anxiety or onset of temporary homebody-osis
/r/seduction07/10/22 03:59 AM
1

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Ask her out. If she says no, then you can walk away knowing you tried, and with no hard feelings.
/r/seduction04/10/22 12:21 AM
1

Just indifference and understanding. "Oh ok, cool. Maybe we can still be friends" even if you're friend zone you can still enjoy her friendship and let her be your pivot
/r/seduction04/10/22 12:10 AM
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Uhh I could search for some sources but you could probably get faster results by googling and looking at mental health sites. Effects of toxic relationships on the brain/mental health. Stuff like that. Particularly in narcissist involved relationships
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:28 AM
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There's more to it than that. There's an actual psychological process that includes biological chemical cycles in the brain that causes people to chase or stay with people that treat them poorly. Essentially the oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine, endorphine, and cortisol get a weird balance issue that makes abuse/toxic behavior addictive. This tends to happen through a cycle of "abuse". A smaller version of this is often employed by PUA in the push/pull method. Showing interest/affection and then wi…
/r/seduction23/09/22 03:08 AM
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There's a few books that could be helpful. Mark Manson's "subtle art of not giving a fuck" Thibault Meurisse's "master your emotions" They're pretty good listening for the commute and have a lot of interesting perspectives and exercises that can help with your own emotional awareness and somewhat emotional communication. I'd also recommend looking for books on communication. Maybe also "the dip". A book about struggle before seeing success "Don't believe everything you think" can be decent if yo…
/r/seduction23/09/22 02:46 AM
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If she's not busy busy, then just ask. The critical thing is to already be ok with a "No," and a "alright friends is cool too" response.
/r/seduction12/09/22 09:52 AM
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Yah keep it simple and easy for her to reengage. The only other viable option I can think of is to make the reconnection more of a joke. Kind of a dumb rip but something like "earth to blah blah, seems we've had a communication disconnect. Are you there. Over" it's dumb but it's goofy and if there's interest it's funny.
/r/seduction03/09/22 03:38 PM
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The lower the pressure the better. Contacting is left field not matter what so make it something that has no risk for them. The less investment required on their part the more likely they'll respond.
/r/seduction03/09/22 03:12 PM
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Yes and no. I've taken girls home within sentences of talking. If you're having a good time why not shoot your shot? If it doesn't pan out you can still be friends and pivot. If it does then you have a date or a hookup
/r/seduction03/09/22 03:11 PM
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No. You are entertaining but you aren't taking any action. Do what you're doing but then at some point you have to ask for what you want. Hey let's get out of here Hey let me take you to dinner Hey let's go back to my place.
/r/seduction03/09/22 02:31 PM
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Masculine and feminine energies don't really matter. Find the connection and build that
/r/seduction03/09/22 02:29 PM
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Sounds like you are the entertainer but not a closer. Take risks. Ask girls out. You aren't taking steps to move things toward your goals
/r/seduction03/09/22 02:24 PM
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I wouldn't mention the unfriending. Send a meme or something innocuous like that. If they respond pick uo like nothing happened
/r/seduction03/09/22 02:21 PM
1

Mostly practice but also laughter and jokes isn't the only way to flirt. Being interested in things about them and asking about them and their experiences/feelings has worked really well for me. Essentially ask them about something and then how it was. If you want to try and make it flirtier ask them if it was the extreme opposite of whatever it would be or exaggerate whatever their response was. Oh you went to the thing? How was that? You hated it?! You're right free sushi at a five star restau…
/r/seduction03/09/22 02:19 PM
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If you dont like you, then why should they? I recommend reading books about self help related to your mental health situation
/r/seduction03/09/22 09:56 AM
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You just show interest. Do you mean with like a stranger for a hook up or with your current person?
/r/seduction15/08/22 06:06 AM
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Yes and no If you are high value because you're running script or routines or faking it, then she'll figure you out pretty quick. If your value is genuine because who you are is high value to her, then you may be ok but again, if you are over doing certain behaviors it becomes unattractive because she doesn't understand why you're so overly invested. Cat calling is unattractive because the person didn't do anything to earn it and therefore it is unwanted attention. The same goes for general and …
/r/seduction12/08/22 12:29 AM
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This has been similar to my experience. Not necessarily toxic but being less interested has yielded better results. I chalk it up to being relationship oriented. Sometimes it makes you seem a little too eager and too available. This sort of ruins the mystery for them and they don't have time to wonder and build up interest for themselves. Typically the longer a guy talks to a girl during a pick up, the worse his chances get. Men constantly talk themselves out of getting digits or hookups. By bei…
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:25 AM
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Lesson learned.
/r/seduction31/07/22 04:12 AM
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Being friends with an ex is not a big deal
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:00 AM
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It could be a shit test but also it's just an anecdote. Possibly showing that she is interested in days to those types of things
/r/seduction15/07/22 04:44 AM
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It's probably not you. Most people are just out to have fun and experiment at that age.
/r/seduction15/07/22 04:38 AM
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That's not teasingthat's just a sign of attraction.. or creepy
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:47 AM
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Try "hey I've noticed you haven't had much sexual interest lately. Is everything alright? " If he says things are fine then you'll have to do a bit of dialog to assure him it's ok to talk about and that you'd like to know if somethings bothering him or is just tired. Maybe suggest he take a couple days off from work to get some rest.
/r/seduction12/07/22 03:20 AM
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Gotta warn em up with compliments about their choices in clothes or hairstyle or things they put effort into, or behaviors. Physical compliments don't often go well
/r/seduction09/07/22 10:44 AM
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Typically if you and her have not had sexy time then it puts you in the friend category and she will use you for the emotional support she isn't getting from the guys she is dating or hooking up with. It becomes a self sustaining situation that isn't healthy for either of you. If it's your ex then it's a bit different because it brings her closer to you and you might be able to use that to rekindle a relationship between you.
/r/seduction09/07/22 05:21 AM
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See you're thinking about JUST cold approaching. I'm using normal venue contextual conversation and then when it seems positive, applying a bit of charm to turn it into a flirty chat. You can chat more easily and without your agenda being obvious by engaging in normal conversation first. And if they don't really open up with that you can always walk away as it was just a convo about produce
/r/seduction05/07/22 10:14 AM
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They want you to know your worth. That you can make decisions. That you are pursuing goals. That you aren't afraid to maintain healthy boundaries. That you expect respect and aren't going to be a doormat because you are willing to stand up for yourself. Seeing this doesn't show the way you think it might. When it comes to flirting and interacting you demonstrate this by entertaining yourself without worrying how people will react. It when you chat up a girl or all her for her contact info that y…
/r/seduction04/07/22 04:11 AM
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Seems like your reading comprehension is low. That sub is an echo chamber for the vocal minority and is not a representative sample group size. Clearly I am talking about using some awareness and being able to read the room and only stepping things up as is positively recieved. My dating record speaks for itself.
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:58 AM
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That's a pretty generalized statement. I'm taking about communicating with s human being, being aware of the context and if it feels positive and genuine then start flirting and asking for contact info. I think you're thinking of guys coming up in full pressure mode and running lines or being too direct without being considerate of the other person's feelings. People who are not self aware and can't read the room
/r/seduction03/07/22 06:00 AM
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Honestly anywhere is fine as long as your energy and behavior is appropriate. Remember to keep it brief unless you're getting heavy interest returned
/r/seduction03/07/22 03:36 AM
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Not necessarily. As long as you aren't preventing her from doing her job it's ok. Like if it's a slow day and she has time to chat. But you also have to be ok with them suddenly dropping to convo to do something. Also if you're just there talking to her for a long time. So you want to be brief and then let her go so she doesn't feel trapped by being at work. Like if she's your server just flirt a bit when she comes by each time and then ask for the contact info as you are leaving
/r/seduction03/07/22 03:34 AM
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I dont really recommend buying girls a drink as an opener. A lot of girls will take the drink and just leave. If you've been chasing with her for a while and it seems Tammy positive with maybe a lot of laughter and she is showing good body language then maybe "I'll get this round if you get the next"
/r/seduction02/07/22 10:33 AM
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Only one way to do that, get to trying. Is the turn down asking for their contact lateral to friendship and treat them as such. That way you can start hanging out with them for that social proof.
/r/seduction01/07/22 10:48 AM
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Keep it clean and decorate like an adult. Have some cool souvenirs that have stories behind them they can ask you about. Some items that express your personality and show that you are a the dimensional person. A dry bar or at least done alcohol on hand and know how to make a few common cocktails and maybe a fancier one. Or have some fun games. I like to keep it fun so I have connect four but if a group comes over I bust out the uno or twister. Fun is seductive too. I also have instruments here a…
/r/seduction01/07/22 10:44 AM
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Just start. Getting a no is better than not trying. You'll see that you actually have a better chance than you think. Eventually you won't even care about getting nos
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:13 AM
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There's a rare girl here and there that is baby feverish but usually it's just s flirty way to say you're attractive and they might see something long term. Try responding like: maybe we should start practicing Just make sure your response is an obvious light hearted joke
/r/seduction30/06/22 06:12 AM
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Why try to get her to say it at all? That's her responsibility. If she doesn't bring it up then it's on her. Girls will often stay with a guy until they have a new one lined up to monkey branch to
/r/seduction29/06/22 10:45 AM
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Perfection
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:33 PM
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I usually chat a girl up in produce. Dumb but funny questions. Grab two bad looking onions or something and ask "do these look ok to you?" Maybe act like you have no idea what you're doing. Or ask if they've seen X item. I can never find that. This place is a maze!
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:52 AM
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While it's true that most people date within their main race I don't think it's exclusionary. Don't rely on dating apps to guage your potential. 90% of women only go for the same 10%of the guys on there. There may be some hesitancy about cultural differences. Just keep at it until you eventually hit your stride and can get a groove going socially
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:59 AM
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Yah. I do it all the time. Have a set of regular bars where I've made friends with all the staff and know all the regulars and maintain some friendship with the ones who are decent people. Everywhere you go you run into friends and have social proof for your self esteem and any potential ladies. It makes it easy to get into your hood vibe state and naturally present a good time/experience. Maybe harder to do in some areas. Doesn't have to be bars. Just whatever facilities are related to your int…
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:48 AM
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So let them stay behind and you go talk to the girls. Just make sure you are talking openly to the group of them and not just your target
/r/seduction25/06/22 03:18 AM
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I think it's about getting out of your own way. Guys actuality tend to talk a girl out of hooking up with them so chat a bit, take some space to talk to other people, come back and chat a bit, maybe take space again, but then shoot your shot. Focus on, focus away, focus on, focus away, then come back and ask for what you want in a way that isn't high pressure and let's them know you are ok with either result. Hey let's get out of here. Hey I'm going to eat at this place, you should come. I'm goi…
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:38 AM
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Might need to add some tools to the kit. If you're all shtick all the time or might come off one dimensional. Try getting them to join you in being goofy. Or I tend to migrate from group to group and talk to different people for a bit and then come back. Maybe take breaks from goofing around to ask them about themselves and their opinions about things
/r/seduction22/06/22 11:45 AM
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Bring the entertainer isn't bad if you also learn to close and capitalize on it. I was the same as you and tried to move away from it but now I feel like I've lost my sense of humor and come across as too quiet. I see guys who can play the entertainer holding the attention of girls easily where I have to get girls into a conversation which is a lot harder to do.
/r/seduction22/06/22 10:25 AM
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The most masculine thing is probably just being secure in who you are and passionate about your interests and hobbies
/r/seduction15/06/22 05:42 AM
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Go for it but be ok with her saying no. Better to try and know than to regret wondering what if
/r/seduction14/06/22 03:38 AM
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You're just going to have to make peace with it. Try to make it a strength by not shying away from it. It's ok to make a couple light hearts short jokes. If a girl turns you down or says anything yet to have a couple light hearts comebacks. Don't attack her back but just things like "I have it where it counts, my heart" "what I lack in height I make up for in personality" "well my mom says I have a good personality" or something funny because it is confident to not care about it. Eventually just…
/r/seduction14/06/22 03:08 AM
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Depends on the girl and her level of interest. Some girls will see you as a player and run. Some will see it as manly. Some will get anxious about losing their chance and will escalate. Either way, it'll be polarizing. A vague general answer is usually best
/r/seduction13/06/22 03:26 AM
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It is as you say. Clubs are very much about physical attraction at first sight and bars are more about interaction. I prefer bars because you can talk and there's usually stuff to do like darts or pool, even if you aren't good at it. Not being good at bar activities can actually be part of your appeal if you have the right attitude about it. Some of the bars around here have board games like connect 4 or crocodile dentist and stuff like that. They can be fun props to use as ice breaker
/r/seduction12/06/22 05:53 AM
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Getting her to chase more is going to depend on her personality and her level of attraction. She obviously has her fall back that's she's holding onto incase things don't work out. You could wait until she initiates and then reward that with more of your usual banter and light flirting. You could take a riskier tactic by keeping it low key like you just now. This has a higher risk of her thinking you aren't interested and she gives up though. You could also just continue as you originally were b…
/r/seduction09/06/22 05:56 AM
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Nice. Take the pressure off yourself but don't be afraid to chat a bit to keep things warm
/r/seduction09/06/22 05:07 AM
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Hard to say. You might just have to feel out the situation. Either of those could lead to feelings going cold. You could try talking it out if you think she has enough interest in you and you are interested in things with her. Or at least talking it out to a point of friendship if you think you'd rather go that route so it's not awkward at work
/r/seduction08/06/22 09:12 PM
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Well if she's leaving the dude then she needs to finish that process but girls have a habit of monkey branching relationships. Where they don't leave one until they have another lined up. I'd say keep flirting but don't take it past that unless she's left that relationship. Set your boundary and maintain it that you aren't interested in being a side piece and that if she is interested she needs to be single first. If a relationship starts from cheating it sort of okays cheating later on.
/r/seduction08/06/22 08:19 AM
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Sounds like she is making herself available and can't figure out if you like her
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:40 AM
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If you're not dating either then just play cool and let them figure it out on their own. They might start bidding for your attention and trying to out do each other
/r/seduction29/05/22 03:24 AM
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Good good. Sometimes girls are going to test you to see how you will react in a relationship when things get rough. It's not something they even know they are doing. It's in their nature. Just come as you are and be understanding of their point of view and their feelings
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:59 AM
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You didn't do anything wrong. The situation changed and you communicated that. She's just testing you to see if you'll be overreactive when she calls you out on shit in future arguments. Apologizing and moving on was the right choice
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:19 AM
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Dress in a way that shows who you are. Otherwise you will only attract mismatches.
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:15 AM
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Respond to negative comments in a light hearted joking way
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:05 AM
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Just go out and have fun. Talk to women like they're people and eventually you'll see those glimmering moments where you suspect a girl is into you. Then you shoot your shot
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:01 AM
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People do change if they WANT to. You're going to have to feel the situation out and trust your instinct
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:58 AM
3

Yes. Age is irrelevant when it comes to hook ups and women love the forbidden fruit of a younger guy
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:56 AM
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Yah sometimes the attraction in that first connect fades if you keep staring to get more eye contact and it kills the vibe. Next time shoot your shot after the first lockstare
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:53 AM
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It's not you. She's just hoing. Don't beat yourself up over her toxic behaviors
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:51 AM
1

Sounds like homophobia to me. You seem very jealous of bi, curious, and queer men who explore with trans partners. You need to do some self reflection and healing
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:48 AM
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I can't tell if you're a frustrated woman or a fedora tipping neckbeard
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:43 AM
3

She definitely wanted you to make a move. Hope you got the contact info
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:42 AM
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You're over generalizing. If you want to find guys that you have things in common with then go places that pertain to that. Have conversations that can go deeper
/r/seduction18/05/22 04:45 AM
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You start by letting them take your contact info if you like them and maintaining your boundaries about how you feel you should be treated. If a guy is interested and respects you enough then he'll be fine taking it at your pace
/r/seduction18/05/22 04:44 AM
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Sounds like you are attracted. Go for it or risk regretting your inaction forever
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:24 AM
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If you want her to be your official girlfriend then you might as well do it. Don't make it huge and weird. Just take her out on a date like normal and say hey this is great. I enjoy dating you. Would you like to make this official and be my girlfriend? Relationships are full of weird things and tasks and activities you aren't going to be into but you should do because you like them and they like to do those things. If it didn't hurt you and it'll make things better, then why not?
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:27 PM
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I mean it's less than ideal but yeah. If you feel their interest is high enough that's the time to ask. Worst they can do is say no
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:22 PM
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First, so being hard on yourself and telling yourself there's no hope. You are capable of this and there's always hope. Second stop worrying so much about the outcome. If you dont sense their interest or don't get s number, so what? At least you talked to someone and had s conversation. Maybe, after you get a bit more comfortable, it might be a fun interaction with some laughs. I think the mall or grocery stores are a good shot to practice. Basically just find a girl and ask where something is. …
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:13 PM
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Sounds like it went well to me. She agreed to a second date. Don't over analyze every little detail. That'll only lead to negativity. Focus on the positives. You guys had a nice walk, a good chat, and shared some laughs. Most of all, she's interested enough for a second date. Maybe follow the coffee up with an activity. Go to one of those game centers with games to play or an arcade where you can compete with each other and sometimes cheer each other on. Do a little teasing and alternate with so…
/r/seduction15/05/22 02:52 PM
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I highly recommend the books that people keep talking about on this r Mark Manson's subtle art of not giving a fuck and models attract women through honesty Dale Carnegie's how to win friends and influence people These are good books. I'm about to read Thibault Meurisse's master your emotions. I think it's a good idea for guys like us to get educated on emotional intelligence. It'll really help you understand your feelings better. Maybe look into learning about the ways ADHD affects how our brai…
/r/seduction15/05/22 02:09 PM
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Just trying to help. These are things I wish I would have learned decades ago
/r/seduction15/05/22 01:57 PM
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Talking negatively about other people just makes you look bad. It's one think to play at repartee, but straight talking shit will only back fire
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:45 AM
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Typically girls will bring it up. That doesn't mean you can't but you do have to ask in the right way. I'd suggest something like: hey we've been seeing each other for a while and it's been great. Do you feel the same? (Here's where she either agrees which is the go ahead for the next part or she says something that is not an agreement and you have to decide to keep things as they are or what to do based on her rrsponse) if she says yes then : I think it would be great if we were to date exclusi…
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:42 AM
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I think you're crutching ADHD as an excuse. ADHD and ADD do cause some emotional confusion but if you spend some time learning about that then you can actually make a lot of progress in correcting that. I did. What you lack is emotional awareness. You aren't being present in what's going on and you expect women to come to you. You're also clearly narcissistic and like to shove your self obsession in people's face to the point that your attractiveness is unattractive. You're lazy. You think just …
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:33 AM
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If she's in a relationship then it's best to keep it to yourself. If your feelings are hurting you then maybe take some space and just hang out with her once in a while or maybe hang back until she's single. If her relationship ends on its own, then go for it. But remember she's going to need some time to get over that break up.
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:20 AM
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Hey good try though. When it comes to getting turned down. It's not that YOU are being rejected it's that they aren't interested for whatever reason. Just adapt a "ciest la vie" attitude or "can't blame a guy for trying" mindset.
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:17 AM
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Stop worrying about being left on read. There's a lot of reasons that happen other than playing games. Don't play games, it's toxic behavior. If you like this girl then you should probably just interact in a normal way.
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:13 AM
1

Think Harrison Ford as han solo or Indiana Jones. He was kind of an arrogant guy but not an asshole. Cheeky but charming. The attraction there comes from being about his goals and not worrying how other people react to that while still being able to joke and connect with people who appreciate his values.
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:06 AM
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Unless you like dancing and club music I would recommend bars and lounges. Just be yourself but act with confidence in that. Don't focus so much on looking to hook up. Put your focus on just having a good time and making friends but keep an eye open for girls who show interest. Swap socials with everyone. This will take the pressure off of that exchange for you and any interested girl. Girls that you befriend today will be social proof later. It'll also give you confidence to know that girls do …
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:01 AM
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Be yourself. Whoever you are is who you need to be. Just have fun being you and that will be attractive to the right ones
/r/seduction15/05/22 05:41 AM
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Confidence is attractive. If you push it just past that and have a flirty bit of arrogance to you then you become sexy
/r/seduction15/05/22 05:40 AM
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All you can really do in that type situation is make jokes. Anything serious will come across as defensive and insecure. Picture yourself as a Harrison Ford character or as James bond saying: "hey I'm a grower not a show-er"
/r/seduction15/05/22 05:38 AM
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It's been a day. She might have gotten distracted or is being indecisive. Just chill and relax. Give it some time like a few days or a week or whatever. and then invite her to join you for some other activity later You're rushing way too much. And you're jumping to conclusions way too quick
/r/seduction15/05/22 05:30 AM
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Girls WANT YOU TO SUCCEED at picking them up. They really do
/r/seduction13/05/22 02:52 PM
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Relax. You both frequent the same place so you can take your time to build up communication and familiarity and trust. Keep chatting like normal but remember to ask emotional questions like "how was that?" "What was that like?" And "how do you feel about that?" Joke around. Flirt a little. Maybe find a dog friendly Cafe and ask her to join you for a drink there after. Don't push for everything all at once. When the vibe feels right, after some time try again for a dinner or something like that.
/r/seduction13/05/22 04:33 AM
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Yah. Why not? Just have a few casual convos with her. Build up the communications and a bit of familiarity. Ask her questions about herself. Ipen ended questuons wherr she has to express something, keep the yes or no questions mininal . Ask the magic questions: how was that? What was that like? How do you feel about that? Make some jokes if you can. Light flirting. And if the vibe are right, invite her to join you doing something "you were going to do anyway". Like "hey I'm going to check out th…
/r/seduction13/05/22 04:27 AM
1

Nothing wrong with being quiet. Read Marcus Aurelius's literature about stoicism. Also start behaving like your presence there is more of a mild joke to yourself, like you're just there to entertain yourself. To improve your appearance of confidence learn to give that Harrison Ford smirk when a girl makes eye contact with you and then return to what you were doing as if you caught her checking you out and that you are unphased by it.
/r/seduction13/05/22 03:40 AM
4

It was confident but you complimented her physical appearance and that feels to them like it's un unearned compliment which is off-putting. Basically it's like a catcall Try complimenting her outfit choice or one of her accessories or her mood or behavior that day. Compliments based on a person's choices feel earned and therefore appropriate. Giving a girl a compliment about being pretty or sexy or whatever isn't necessarily bad but you have to have the confidence to do it right and then flow it…
/r/seduction13/05/22 03:35 AM
3

It's s good book
/r/seduction30/04/22 07:53 AM
8

Learning behaviors that draw people to you and allow them to connect with you on an emotional level. Being more vulnerable. Being more curious so that you can show more interest in people's personal lives and their emotions. Practice at humor. Always have a decent bad joke to tell if you run into an awkward silence. Learn some personal finance. Work at behaviors and activities that allow you to generate and own your own confidence and self esteem.
/r/seduction30/04/22 02:50 AM
1

You did the right thing. Women are like cats. If you chased or pushed for more she might have gotten scared off and had a negative polarizing moment. Chances are you might run into her there again and so there's a chance things might go differently then. Sometimes you take a small L now to get a W later. Being able to accept that and know why small Ls Ok will help a lot with confidence
/r/seduction30/04/22 02:23 AM
2

I'm going through a similar situation. Get on YouTube and start watching a few videos a day about it. And then just make yourself do it little by little. At some point it gets easier to the point of over sharing but this will help you too. And eventually you throttle back and forth until you find an equilibrium that you feel comfortable with
/r/seduction30/04/22 12:47 AM
1

Not a shit test. She most likely just changed her mind. Could have been self conscious of who might see her or something like that. Maybe she has a boyfriend who wasn't there. Maybe she realized something important and had to go deal with that. Maybe she needed to take a shit.
/r/seduction30/04/22 12:32 AM
1

Remember that things happen. May have been stuck in traffic or just not watching the time or maybe couldn't find the place. We are also living in an age of procrastination. If it bothers you then you need to address it but in a way that has no agenda. She most likely did not do it maliciously or to manipulate. Ask from a position of curiosity. Hey did you have trouble finding the place? Take them at their word. Don't let your mind fill the gaps with negative scenarios. And then express your feel…
/r/seduction30/04/22 12:22 AM
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You need to work on being more vulnerable. It'll allow you to let down your guard and relax. Also there's nothing wrong with not being funny. Just focus on your emotional connection with friends or whoever and they'll still enjoy your company. Ask them questions about the things they tell you about. What was that like? How did that feel? And then share a story about yourself that made you feel the same way. Be ok with talking about your imperfections. On dates this is like admitting to being ner…
/r/seduction30/04/22 12:14 AM
1

So what you're saying is you want to prey on the vulnerabilities of their relationship for your own personal gain. No matter the circumstances, unless the two of you are honest with him and HAVE HIS CONSENT for his wife to go outside the marriage then you are both cheating on him. You're betraying his friendship and she his betraying her relationship. It is obvious that you are only applying your personal values and interests to the situation without any consideration for theirs
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:50 AM
1

Super selfish to trash a marriage just because you want to have some fun. There could be some context like if her husband was into cuckolding and you guys wanted him to watch you two go at it or if there was a possibility for him to make it a threescore but if you're just after her and trying to get to break the sanctity of that relationship then you are a selfish and toxic sociopath
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:41 AM
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Try to connect with her emotionally. Ask questions about how she feels about the things going on in her life or when she complains about a situation what she's thinks she'll do about it. Don't give her advice unless she asks for it. Beyond that do activities that put you on thr same team but also some that pit you against each other so you get a chance to tease and shit talk a bit and build that flirty rapport. Then when it feels like she's drawing in and that connection is strong enough, you sh…
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:36 AM
2

Just do and say whatever comes to mind without filter because it'd entertaining to you. People will gravitate toward that
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:33 AM
2

Maybe you should reevaluate why you're chasing a person in a committed closed relationship and what you're trying to do. Really shows a lack of values and integrity on your part. Quite selfish. Really
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:31 AM
1

Sometimes it does but really is just like when you're trying to find something to watch on Netflix and you keep seeing stuff you normally like and things you're interested in eventually watching but it's just not what you're in the mood for at that time.
/r/seduction22/03/22 05:40 AM
2

Probably nothing. Sometimes a relationship just isn't what they're looking for and sometimes they're just not ready to commit regardless of what they said. It's not always you
/r/seduction22/03/22 03:52 AM
2

Humans are strange things and devoid of logic
/r/seduction20/03/22 12:34 PM
2

Some girls really enjoy the chase or the validation
/r/seduction20/03/22 12:29 PM
1

Work on your hobbies and do something to stay fit. Things that will give you a sense of accomplishment. That'll get the esteem up and then just start going to social activities that you like and then some where there will be girls and just make friends. The rest will come
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:17 AM
0

As if she were a human being
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:16 AM
4

It's performance anxiety. Let it go hard and enjoy the cuddle and making out until you relax and it comes back. Maybe use it as time to do some foreplay. If she bails then she wasnt a keeper anyway
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:12 AM
1

It takes time and practice
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:10 AM
1

Go for it
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:09 AM
1

They're not sensing your attitude from your profile. Your profile is just set up wrong. There's a whole reddit about the specific things that need to be in your profile to make it appealing. Your attitude sucks in general
/r/seduction14/03/22 09:55 PM
1

No it's your attitude. You see yourself as unfit so they do too. If you see yourself negatively you'll broadcast it with your body language. You need to correct your attitude about yourself.
/r/seduction14/03/22 06:36 AM
1

Probably need to get on the r/tinder and learn how to fix your profile. And fix your shit attitude. That's your problem. Girls don't care about aesthetic as much as you think. Look up all the hot ass girls pete Davidson has been with and he looks like quatto from total recall. Keep in mind he isn't even close to as rich as any of then either. Fix your attitude
/r/seduction13/03/22 11:46 PM
2

You never know what you can get until you at least ask. Good job dude
/r/seduction11/03/22 06:14 AM
2

You come out and say it before the mood even starts. Like next time the two of you are texting to set plans just ask
/r/seduction27/02/22 02:49 PM
1

Honestly it sounds like you're trying to over seek how fancy your job title is. It makes you seem like one of those d-bags who has some bullshit home brew company that doesn't actually do anything or even turn profit. Just keep your job stuff to the simplest layman description you can. Almost like you're talking to a kid. Don't get more specific unless they ask. Be careful using your job to draw women as you'll mostly attract gold diggers and they'll only want transactional encounters, ie sugar …
/r/seduction27/02/22 02:46 PM
1

Yah, you're going to need it to set up dates
/r/seduction22/02/22 09:52 PM
1

Go for it
/r/seduction22/02/22 03:34 PM
1

Ask her out. She's the one who chooses, anyways. What's he going to do about it, cry?
/r/seduction22/02/22 03:22 PM
7

Maybe is just that. Maybe. Depends how she said it. I say go for it. Either she accepts or you accept her as a friend. Better to do it sooner so you don't build it up in your mind
/r/seduction22/02/22 03:20 PM
9

Age means nothing but no one is looking to go back to your parents house to hook up or date someone who can't function independently
/r/seduction21/02/22 01:44 AM
2

Retail stores, grocery stores, coffee shops and cafes
/r/seduction21/02/22 01:42 AM
3

No one said you had to be Mr universe ready or that you needed to work out for 20 years. You just need to be making positive choices and doing things that make your life better. It's a fact that going to thr gym will make you feel better. It might take a few months but you do get there. Even if it's not noticeable, the fact that you are going and doing all those other positive things builds your self confidence as well as boosting you in other people's eyes. Pull your head out of your ass.
/r/seduction19/02/22 05:51 AM
1

Bang for a few months. Don't get any more attached and don't get jealous. Eventually ask if she wants to do something innocuous like hey I'm gonna eat at such and such place and do you want to come, and if she does then do the same thing a week or two later and keep going until either she'll eventually ask the "what are we" question which you always respond with aski g her what does she want it to be Buuuut if that doesn't work, at least you will have banged and you can walk away with your head …
/r/seduction11/02/22 07:29 AM
2

Her even bothering to message shows she's interested in you trying again. I'd give it some space and then just be like "hey come over tonight and hang out" and then don't watch a fucking movie
/r/seduction05/02/22 06:17 AM
0

Suit yourself. It sounds like she was looking to "have fun" but wasn't ready to do emotional relationship stuff
/r/seduction04/02/22 11:54 AM
3

It's not that YOU got rejected, you're just not what she is looking for. It's sort of like when a movie shows up on your Netflix menu but you don't watch it because it's not your genre or you're just not in the mood for that particular movie even though you may end up watching something similar. I would say don't do boyfriend things like holding hands. That's not escalation. Let her choose when to start doing that. Just keep her on the entertainment Rollercoaster and keep the vibe loose u til th…
/r/seduction04/02/22 11:44 AM
4

Hook up if you can but otherwise move on. She is not over her ex and should be treated as toxic
/r/seduction04/02/22 11:39 AM
1

Still recoverable in either direction
/r/seduction04/02/22 10:44 AM
3

Sounds like you yoked it back a bit and turned it into a date rather than a warm up to banging. Definitely flipped the fuck or date switch
/r/seduction04/02/22 07:02 AM
1

If you still have a pulse then it's all put here waiting for you
/r/seduction01/02/22 07:36 AM
1

Women are into it because they like confidence, affluence, resources, and social proof. Hiphop also tends to involve fashion which Women are also into
/r/seduction27/01/22 01:58 PM
1

Don't stare but if you do make eye contact you had better hold it and smile like she's your good friend
/r/seduction27/01/22 01:54 PM
1

Let her have it. Use the art of the deal and walk away from the table and start looking for the next one. She may or may not come back but you should NOT wait for her or maintain any regular relationship with her u less she is serious about getting back together. You should be aware that most likely she wants to try dating and hooking up with other guys that she most likely already knows and has been planning on. I say drop her and move on to someone who is worth your time
/r/seduction27/01/22 01:52 PM
3

Women want an emotional Rollercoaster. You win them over by creating a fun experience for them, so yes, being funny wins them over. Their preference of humor will vary
/r/seduction27/01/22 01:47 PM
1

If religion isn't something you're passionate about then it's a terrible idea. Only try to date girls who are I'm places you would normally be because the chance of friction is less, you'll be more likely to have hobbies and ideals that align.
/r/seduction27/01/22 01:45 PM
1

No way to tell with the info you gave but there's always a chance
/r/seduction24/01/22 05:26 PM
1

Depends. Are you cool with being just friends? Then it's good. If you want more than friends then it's bad.
/r/seduction24/01/22 05:19 PM
1

If you can't tell that she for sure has a bf then always assume she doesn't. Its up to her to bring that up, not you
/r/seduction24/01/22 05:17 PM
2

Do it anyway. It's a test to see if you'll give in to her easily
/r/seduction24/01/22 05:11 PM
2

This was sort of satirical/joking but there are cultural differences like to start dating-dating you should do a kokohaku, which means confession. It's basically like when you were a kid and you would literally walk up to the person and ask them to be boyfriend and girlfriend. They'll do flings and ons and whatever but some will only date after kokohaku and some are a little more westernized and you can date for a while first and some are very westernized and don't care about kokohaku. In japan …
/r/seduction20/01/22 11:53 AM
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Maybe not the train or on public transport, but I do it all the time. I love asking girls これは何ですか at the grocery store all the time. Or I like to sit outside at cafes and "bird watch" and I'll chat a pretty girl up as she goes by and ask her and her friends to join me and my friends. Japanese girls are quite desperate for boyfriends culturally so it's pretty easy. But you have to play by Japanese rules if you want to date
/r/seduction14/01/22 12:58 PM
1

Kind if sounds like you guys are friends so just keep on doing what you're doing and your behavior will open up naturally. If you're really cool with being just friends but want to hang out more then try inviting her and her bf to do something
/r/seduction09/01/22 01:04 AM
2

Not really worth it
/r/seduction08/01/22 03:01 PM
1

Just gonna add that a date is at least two hours of effort, so if you're guaranteed to get what you want and it only takes an hours drive each way, why not?
/r/seduction08/01/22 02:41 PM
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How good is the guarantee? Is it bona fide?
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:25 AM
1

Shoot your shot and then you'll know. Don't ask her if she likes you because that's too much to decide. Ask her to go out for drinks and do something fun that let's you flirt and see if it ever feels like you should kiss her
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:24 AM
3

You're obsessing over her because you don't have perspective. If you only ever saw one movie you'd think it was the greatest movie too. Just remember there are plenty of movies out there that are just as good and PLENTY that are way better that you just haven't discovered yet. This is a metaphor. The movies are women.
/r/seduction06/01/22 06:29 AM
3

It happens. Sometimes a girl has that itch and the moonbeams are hitting just right that she takes you home and then she got what she wanted and she bounces.
/r/seduction06/01/22 06:27 AM
2

Lowers testosterone and therefore causing tiredness and then depression. It also rewards laziness so you have less desire to try to meet a girl in order to get that organized related brain chemical. It can also desensitize your brain and penis to regular sexual activity making it harder to stay aroused and harder to finish
/r/seduction05/01/22 09:17 AM
5

Most likely just speed scrolling through stories
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:06 AM
1

I'm saying looks matter a lot less than most people think.
/r/seduction26/12/21 09:03 AM
1

Whether you are spending or just displaying it is a part if female calculations on how attractive you are. If they know you got it then they will behave differently.
/r/seduction25/12/21 01:31 PM
1

Two days is nothing. If you don't hear back for a month then it was bad. Don't wait for her, start working on the next girl in the meantime. It's never a bad idea ro talk about your passions but you gotta remember they're going to be pretty polarizing, especially since it's in the political realm. It may not be a failure just a mismatch. Alsobpossible that she is actually just busy
/r/seduction25/12/21 01:15 PM
1

Once you start using money to get any kind of interaction it makes your relationship transactional. You will always have to pay up for any kind of interaction. Better off to leave money out unless you're going for a couple hit and quits. Even still better to have game than buy your way in
/r/seduction25/12/21 01:03 PM
1

That kind of shit gets a serious No and you walk away. If you act soft they're going to keep working you until they get you into a patterned behavior of paying up. It's a scam
/r/seduction25/12/21 01:00 PM
5

Regardless of what you have, its your confidence about it that matters. You could have a literal horseshoe hairdo but if you owned it girls would be on you
/r/seduction25/12/21 12:46 PM
21

You're an oblivious rabbit. Girls are very aware of the space around them. If you're touching frequently it's because they want to. They're trying to escalate to the point of you making a move. Stop waiting for them to make the move. You also seem to get scared and run when you know they're into you
/r/seduction25/12/21 12:43 PM
2

It's ok to say "actually I don't want to have sex now and I'm really tired" and if she throws a fit then that's on her
/r/seduction18/12/21 09:05 AM
2

Oh that's fine then. Just stick to moving on and if she contacts then take it from there but don't bank on it
/r/seduction18/12/21 08:39 AM
0

I live in japan, thanks for noticing.
/r/seduction18/12/21 08:34 AM
2

Still, if she can see that you deleted it (I have no idea how whatsapp works) like a reddit post, then it'll still have that appearance. Next time I'd recommend giving the bread time to rise. Does your app not let you just hide convos on your chats tab like Line?
/r/seduction18/12/21 06:02 AM
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Sounds like she has some history of trauma or self esteem. Next time things get weird like that just take the L and say it's ok to not have sex and just chill and relax, maybe cuddle and go to sleep. It'll increase her desire for sex in the future and save you a lot of frustration. Remember women can't help that they're like this. They hardly know why they behave the way they do. Also if you think she should pay for half the drinks then tell her to. Men of abundance have standards and integrity.…
/r/seduction18/12/21 05:58 AM
1

I mean 24 hours is a pretty short window seeing as you ghosted her for a month, and then you deleted the thread? That's going to look real petty and toxic. Ouch bud
/r/seduction18/12/21 05:52 AM
2

Don't call it's weird. Say it's random or out of the blue. If you say it's weird then they see you as weird.
/r/seduction15/12/21 01:29 AM
3

Go for it. Enjoy the roller coaster for a while. Build up your repertoire and try some new shit.
/r/seduction15/12/21 01:16 AM
1

Girls do it quite often but a lot of the time they're just scamming for free drinks
/r/seduction15/12/21 12:17 AM
1

There's nothing wrong with oneitis. All of the education here is to achieve what YOU are after. Hit the gym, eat healthy, and practice a bit of flirty or just joking convo wherever you are. Like Robert Redford says in the Old Man and the Gun, "talk to every woman like you're trying to sleep with her." Basically don't put any one woman on a pedestal so you never get nervous and don't over give but mostly always be practicing charismatic conversation skills. I like to ask girls produce questions a…
/r/seduction14/12/21 06:07 AM
39

She's scouting you for herself or a friend. Keep up the mystery and if she tries to hook up, you should run
/r/seduction14/12/21 06:01 AM
3

Things like voice or being tall or fit are like the covers of books. It may help get attention and attract initially, that wears off quickly if the content isn't quality
/r/seduction14/12/21 05:57 AM
10

Women are a lot better at sneaking peeks. You're just going to have to watch for orbital behavior
/r/seduction06/12/21 07:32 AM
0

Drugs and performance anxiety. Standard first time stuff. Can sometimes happen with a new partner
/r/seduction06/12/21 07:17 AM
7

Money and celebrity status
/r/seduction28/11/21 05:35 AM
1

Don't work out with a girl unless you just want to be friends. Why would it be cringe? Your mindset on asking girls out should be that even if she says know it doesn't matter because you have options. You should be as friendly and unbothered by a girl after asking them out as you were before because you are the one with the value. If she wants to be weird then that's on her and her problem to deal with.
/r/seduction19/11/21 11:14 PM
1

If you're half way decent looking and have something exotic about you, like an accent, girls will find you. Best bet is cafes or maybe a teen club
/r/seduction19/11/21 10:29 AM
1

Kind of sounds like you talked yourself into the friend zone. Give it some space and time away to reset her. And next time you see her, flirt and be bold
/r/seduction19/11/21 10:23 AM
2

No that's polarizing. Because it moves her feelings toward attraction or unattraction. Normal dude shit is"uh can I follow you on social? " "do you want to hang out sometime maybe if you're not busy" Totally neutral and lacking intent and self worth
/r/seduction19/11/21 09:58 AM
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Say and do things that are more polarizing. The bolder your behavior the more quickly she will move toward one end or the other and display her feelings in the process. If you always play it safe then she will always be between attraction and platonic
/r/seduction18/11/21 03:15 AM
16

While the bro code isn't an actual thing that exists, it's pretty uncouth to hook up with someone who left some emotional scar on someone you are supposed to be friends with. If its just an ex that they don't still have feelings for then it's kind of whatever but if it's someone that dumped them and they're not really over it then it's kind of a dick move that shows a lack of integrity on your part.
/r/seduction14/11/21 05:49 AM
1

This has significantly less importance than you think
/r/seduction07/11/21 01:27 PM
1

Four months is a long time. I doubt anyone grieves a relationship that long
/r/seduction07/11/21 09:14 AM
7

That's the beauty of those books. They're not about being ladiesmen they're about being about yourself and creating positive things in your life and not having to front or pretend to be something you're not and that THAT is what attracts people to you .
/r/seduction07/11/21 08:39 AM
15

The three main books around here are Dale Carnegie 's How to win friends and influence people. And Mark Manson's Subtle art of not giving a fuck and Models attract women through honesty. A popular fourth is Corey Wayne's How to be a 3% man.
/r/seduction07/11/21 07:52 AM
41

He's respecting your boundaries. Just because your friend told him to message you doesn't mean you actually wanted him to. He did the correct thing by asking permission. Something he has no way of knowing if your friend did. Many males feel that it's rude or creepy to message girls you don't actuslly know on social. Also you sound kind of arrogant and he may have detected that and swerved
/r/seduction07/11/21 07:34 AM
1

No. Its called the Opposite Effect
/r/seduction02/11/21 01:39 AM
1

I mean there's that but also the mindset of not worrying about pick up game because you plan or expect to and that working in your favor.
/r/seduction01/11/21 11:02 AM
1

Sounds like a standard first time. A little chub sex never hurt anybody. I would say continue on until you believe she isn't into you. Maybe rub one out earlier in the day if premature ejaculation or minute manning is an issue
/r/seduction01/11/21 01:48 AM
2

Sometimes it's just that not-goving-a-fuck vibe that attracts them. It's confident or is perceived that way. Sometimes when I'm the least prepared to chat up a girl is when I do my best. You know when you just got off work and haven't showered in a couple days, forgot to brush your teeth or put on deodorant because you were in a rush that morning but you go out to hang with the boys anyway and since you're so rough you don't put any thought into trying to pick up but then bam! You get one where …
/r/seduction01/11/21 01:45 AM
9

With the right behavior and fitness. All things are possible
/r/seduction01/11/21 01:38 AM
1

You sound kind of toxic so she probably detected and intuited that and so chose correctly.
/r/seduction05/10/21 08:40 AM
7

I'm just going to throw out there that masturbating often can also desensitize you to sex. Do it too often and sex just won't do it for you. As they say in Models, a vagina has a different friction and lubrication and is a lot gentler than your typical masturbation session will. The visual stimulation is also very tame in comparison because you're either in the dark, looking at her face, or maybe even "into the distance" at a pillow. Too much porn and masturbation can be a problem so try to limi…
/r/seduction26/08/21 10:43 AM
1

Relax. Part of being young is realizing it's ok to want things and make moves and the decisions to enable those desires to happen. You'll have to get past the fear of your feelings being known and accept that not everything you want or do will be appreciated. When a girl makes a move on you it stuns a lot of young or inexperienced guys. Sort of a cognitive dissonance caused by the realization that girls get horny and want to fuck too. I had the same thing happen to me a couple times in high scho…
/r/seduction24/08/21 10:35 PM
1

Well saying you're not interested or telling her you think you're mismatched is not a rejection. This sub needs to stop calling it a rejection all the time. If the vibe is off then the vibe is off.
/r/seduction24/08/21 10:26 PM
3

I'd wait abother week or so then maybe go back to buy something. I wouldn't worry about chatting up a girl working retail. It's not a busy job like service jobs
/r/seduction24/08/21 10:16 PM
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Just tell her you have to cancel and you'll let her know when you can reschedule. Don't burn bridges if you don't have to
/r/seduction24/08/21 06:49 AM
2

You're over thinking it. Always assume everything is fine until she tells you it isn't or you see real evidence otherwise
/r/seduction21/08/21 02:45 PM
0

That guy was being a white knight and simping. If she doesn't like it she'll say so or she'll walk away
/r/seduction21/08/21 02:44 PM
1

The three best places that ate not bars to meet women are grocery stores, cafes, and retail stores. I'd say keep your eyes open at the grocery store and be in hunt mode before you get there and be ready to justvstart asking a random girl about what's their opinion on what's the best of product x or whatever produce you're both next to that you are actually going to buy. If you like coffee become a regular at a coffee shop. Learn the baristas by name. Get your coffee and just hang out and listen …
/r/seduction21/08/21 03:19 AM
3

It sounds like you're in the wrong venue. If you dont like bars you're mostly going to meet the wrong types of girls. If you like coffee and guitar music you should hit coffee shops and look for music events there. Especially open mic type. If you talk to girls there then you'll probably meet people that are more in tune with what you're into and I bet your feelings about the whole thing will turn around. Maybe even perform at some open mic events if you're decent enough.
/r/seduction21/08/21 02:57 AM
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It's a masculine move to make the approach just remember to soften back into your feminine energy after dialog begins. Masks are an issue for everyone. Practice smiling with your eyes. Do NOT bring your brother. The most awkward thing I've ever done is try to flirt with a girl in front of her brother. Maybe your brother can screen the Cafe owner tho...
/r/seduction13/08/21 06:00 PM
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You want to know how to get his attention? Take action. Buy him a drink. Its something that almost never happens. Women DO NOT do nice things for guys, so it'll really stand out. Guys are also super oblivious so just standing around him hoping he will approach you is going to go unnoticed. Or if he already has a coffee and is sitting somewhere ask if you can sit at the same table and if he isn't actively doing something like working then make some light convo until his brain regains traction and…
/r/seduction13/08/21 01:28 PM
4

Ask the guy if you can buy his coffee. It's just an overt enough gesture that he might actually pick uo on your intent😉
/r/seduction13/08/21 01:10 PM
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I mean you're not wrong. Really it comes down to the finesse of how natural it comes across.
/r/seduction12/08/21 10:22 AM
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This looks like a tinder convo? You small talked yourself into a box and didn't ask her anything. You need to ask interesting questions. They don't need to be wild but something she'll want to respond to or that'll give you somewhere to follow up
/r/seduction12/08/21 07:40 AM
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It kind of sounds like you're escalating too fast and it's probably seeming formulaic and forced. Relax and take your time. let them earn you.
/r/seduction12/08/21 07:36 AM
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Nah man it'll be fine. Go for the gusto. She'll think highly of you for prioritizing yourself. Just don't fuck it up by over texting and being needy when you're apart
/r/seduction12/08/21 07:34 AM
1

Movie dates are for established relationships and friendships. DO NOT GO TO THE MOVIES. You'll just be sitting there in silence
/r/seduction12/08/21 07:30 AM
1

You may have matured but she hasn't. She's using you as an emotional parachute. Recommend you pull back. Don't initiate anything. Don't text her first. Don't do any physical contact first. And don't let her use you as an emotional tampon. If she tries to do cutesy stuff and doesn't want to kiss then you need to stand up for yourself and draw the line that she isn't allowed to use you like that if she isn't actually interested and that she can call you when she figures herself out. Then you move …
/r/seduction12/08/21 07:29 AM
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Give it a week and then let him know when you're available for that second date. If he doesn't have a favorable response or a reason why he can't then I'd move on
/r/seduction12/08/21 07:18 AM
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Don't be afraid to reread them again after a month
/r/seduction11/08/21 05:33 AM
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Thr fact that you're talking to her will let her know you're interested. Women are much better at detecting intention and feeling. Actually.. even if you're just asking a lady for the time or to pass a napkin or something she'll probably assume you're hitting on her. You're already damned so might as well shoot your shot. A light convo isn't too hard when you realize you only need to fill 5 minutes of dialog with her talking about herself. Ask her simple questions until you can think of better o…
/r/seduction10/08/21 10:32 PM
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Being funny helps but if you can't fake it focus on conversational interest, but don't talk about yourself anymore than you ha e to and only in a positive light.. Push/pull doesn't have to be as extreme as you think, like basically chat a girl up for a few minutes and then excuse yourself to do something else like play darts or get a drink or talk to your friends and just see what she does. Then float back by her and strike up a little more convo or invite her to join the activity you're doing (…
/r/seduction10/08/21 11:13 AM
1

So true. Girls love it when I talk about my son and show his cute pictures. Things that you think are holding you back can actually be your best strengths
/r/seduction10/08/21 10:16 AM
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Nonsense. It's easy to be a good conversationalist that women will enjoy. Just ask them about themselves and then ask more about what they just said and then rephrase what they've said and maybe pay a small compliment about it. Then do it again. The key here is showing interest in them and then remembering things they've said. They will feel like you are genuinely into who they are which if you're on a date with them you probably are. Bring a dad can really suck a lot of energy out of you but if…
/r/seduction10/08/21 10:14 AM
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You're doing the right things to get her interest up. Just let some sexier jokes fly here and there and if you can get a bit of physical contact. I like putting a hand on a girls shoulder or squeezing her elbow when I tease them.. But the big thing you will have to do is actually ask her on a date or make a move physically but only if you believe she's attracted enough or if you dont care about the consequences
/r/seduction01/08/21 04:59 AM
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If it's a nice hotel with a good restaurant or bar you could go there and if it seems like things are getting spicy then just "hey let's just get a room here so we don't have to drive drunk" or let's have a staycation or something like that
/r/seduction01/08/21 04:54 AM
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When are you going to show me this bike When are we going to meet up so I can check out your bike
/r/seduction01/08/21 04:47 AM
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Ignore it and just ask when she's available to go on a "date" in the future
/r/seduction01/08/21 04:46 AM
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So true. I have a date in a couple hours with a college girl, half my age
/r/seduction01/08/21 04:13 AM
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Well you need to be what you want to attract. So stop being hard on yourself life happens to everyone differently. Work out each day, even if its just push ups and squats. Try to make healthy eating decisions and get adequate sleep. That should help get your mood to a good starting point. Then you ha e to realize that girls will be in relationships with dudes that are total shitbag parasites for years. You are not in bad shape. I have a friend that I let live with me, due to some diplomatic issu…
/r/seduction01/08/21 04:12 AM
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Relax. You don't have to have texts flying back and forth all the time. You don't have to engage in sexting, tho it really just sounded like he is trying to escalate your sexual interest because eventually he would like to have sex. A lot of the time a girls sexual interest has to be built up over gradually through cheeky flirting amongst good conversation skill/entertaining skills, well paced interactions, and a bit of physical contact. He is just trying to continue that process. Do it when you…
/r/seduction01/08/21 04:01 AM
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Totally doable. I do it all the time. Sometimes I'd just go to a bar and have a drink quietly and some group would eventually just adopt me and sometimes I came in like I owned the place. Make friends with the bar staff if able. Play bar games like darts, pool, shuffleboard or whatever, don't have to be good just play for fun. The most important thing is just be a positive element that people would want to add to their group's chemistry. I like to give lots of genuine compliments, treat anyone y…
/r/seduction01/08/21 03:37 AM
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More like fucking the top 3%
/r/seduction01/08/21 03:32 AM
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What that means is essentially "you may be attractive and fun but I do not feel that certain zing that makes a long term relationship enticing with you" Its not that you didn't measure up or weren't enough of anything. It's just a lack of that X factor that makes us choose a person as a long term partner. Best course of action is to kindly retreat diplomatically
/r/seduction01/08/21 03:31 AM
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It's true. Analytics show 80% of women on tinder are only pursuing the top 20% and probably only dating the top 5%
/r/seduction01/08/21 01:07 AM
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If she's asking about what you do without her it's because she is interested in you, in some way. Beyond that it just sounds like she is just being conversational
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:34 AM
2

Might as well. But... cheating is bad. If you're going to date multiple girls you need to be at least honest enough that you aren't exclusive
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:32 AM
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You want to seduce her? She's already seduced. Just ask her out for drinks after work casually as if you weren't trying to seduce her. That'll at least get you to the"date". She clearly enjoys chasing you and torturing you with flirting. Your shyness is working to your advantage because you seem aloof and stoic. Have a few drinks for courage but don't get drunker than her, you have to be stable and on your game. Also whiskey dick happens especially if you're nervous but if it happens to you just…
/r/seduction28/07/21 04:01 PM
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If he's asking personal questions then he is interested. As the female (I assume) is your responsibility to escalate and increase periodicity of the dates until you get to that groove where you spend a large portion of your time together, work and life schedules permitting, at which time you would ask what your status is. If that doesn't sound appealing, you can always ask what it is he is looking for in general. If its just sex then he'll say that. If its just casual dating then he'll probably …
/r/seduction28/07/21 03:49 PM
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Go to a nice lounge bar, like at a fancier hotel. Most likely they will be some traveling guy there who will see you alone and try to talk to you. If the mood is right let him take you to his room for the night. Then he leaves after his trip
/r/seduction28/07/21 03:40 PM
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Kind of sounds like you are over pursuing. Don't text as much and don't expect her to text you more than once a week for a few months
/r/seduction21/07/21 07:27 AM
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Nope it'll imply that she was unattractive before and is only now physically attractive. Stick to skill and decision based flattery. What a great outfit.. wow that hair must have taken hours.. Yada Yada. If she looked you up after this long she is probably quite interested.
/r/seduction21/07/21 06:50 AM
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Observations and environmental. Just ask them opinion questions about trucks you're interested in trying or what they're eating and where they got it or how they feel about it. You ate there? How is it? Really?! Maybe I'll give it a try. Have you tried this one? I'm going to give this one a try, you should join. And then at some point get a number
/r/seduction21/07/21 06:43 AM
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