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I'm on the spectrum....so men HAVE to approach. I will not. Eye contact is super uncomfortable for me, as is speaking to people I don't know and touching people I don't know and people that I don't know touching me. Makes for awkward meetings of the opposite sex. My current boyfriend had to approach me.
/r/seduction19/05/21 10:03 PM
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Who the hell wants to be with someone who can’t better themselves? That’s just begging for frustration.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 10:56 PM
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You are a rather angry and irritated man. I hope you know that comes through in person and any woman worth her salt would run in the opposite direction after a bit of conversation. Just because women have screwed you over, it doesn’t give you or any other man, the right to treat other women badly who had nothing to do with what other women have done. If I decided today that I was done, I’d be fine without a man. My parents, especially my dad, raised me to be able to take care of myself BEFORE I …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 10:55 PM
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You know what we’re called when we say that’s what we want or that’s what we do? I can’t tell you how many men have called me a liar when I say I don’t have sex without a commitment and that sex has meaning to me. Usually I get called a liar, or like on this thread, you have a lot of men applying a certain thing to ALL women, like we treat men as disposable, when it’s not even half. So no, that’s not all we have to do...apparently we have to constantly defend ourselves because there are SOME wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 10:44 PM
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No, it’s not. But let’s say we don’t want to use that word. I’ve got another one for what you’re talking about and your characterization of women: offensive. It’s not even most women who operate like that and I sure as hell don’t. I’d be very upset if my intention was a relationship only for a man to do what you’re talking about. NO ONE is disposable; we’re talking about real people and real feelings, not emotionless robots. Honestly I’m a bit pissed off. Why is it that all women get blamed for …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 10:36 PM
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There are very few women who are going to outwardly show their hurt over a failed relationship. They don’t want to give the guy the satisfaction. There are women who can jump from guy to guy, no problem; that isn’t a majority. I have never told a guy I missed him after we broke things off....it may look like I considered him disposable, but that’s only on the outside. Given we can’t read each other’s minds, it seems short sighted to say all women think of men as disposable, especially since a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 10:23 PM
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The thing is, you can want to stay home and take care of house and home and not be religious. You can also be religious, educated, and want to stay home. I fall into the second category. I have two degrees, and I adored my job. An injury at work ended my ability to work, so I changed tracks. However, I never had an issue with being stay at home, except that I spent all that money for school for a career I loved. It kind of seemed wasteful to then stay at home. Also, a lot of the time when men sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:02 PM
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Even if you think it doesn’t; there ARE Western women that are like the foreign women you’re talking about. You just haven’t met them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 05:50 PM
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No intact hymen doesn’t mean she’s not a virgin. That thing can be torn riding a bike, or running; conversely, the hymen can heal and this would be intact, when the woman isn’t a virgin. That’s why defining virginity that way is dumb...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 10:39 AM
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That’s an over generalization. There are plenty women over 17 that are virgins. I didn’t have sex until I was 20. And it was a long-term relationship. Definitely didn’t and STILL don’t do anal. That is not an interest to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 10:26 AM
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It should be considered that maybe she came to the realization that she wanted something different and that happened to be when you showed up. I tried to just have casual sex a few times....and I just couldn’t do it without hurting my heart. So I set the boundary of no sex without a long term committed relationship or marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 10:17 AM
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No, women understand perfectly well that we can have sex with men who are “ugly”; however, a lot of women, myself included, attach more to sex than looks. Looks are part of attraction, but so are are actual relationships. Sex means something to me. It’s giving a part of myself to a man, so it’s not something to just do because I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 09:53 AM
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Have you READ Russian literature? A lot of it sucks. I took a Russian lit course for fun in college because I had to stick something in so I’d have full hours for my financial aid. I could have picked an easy fluff class....but I love reading and learning, so I chose Russian lit. Some stuff was ok, and others? Just like “classic” American lit; it sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 09:40 AM
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Western “girls” don’t; Western Women do. I adore English: grammar, syntax, reading and writing. Reading is my favorite thing to do and I read everything from Things Fall Apart, to To Kill a Mockingbird, to Harry Potter, to anything Biology related (other than English, science is also a favorite of mine, not really Chemistry though.) Its something that depends on how a girl is raised and what happens in school. Women, at least in the US from what I’ve witnessed, learn, as girls, that we’re “not g…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 09:35 AM
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I love sex....a lot. But I attach great meaning to it, so I’m not having sex immediately. I’m waiting until marriage (again) ideally, because I have no interest in having sex early on, and then it’s a short term thing. I don’t want that upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 12:17 AM
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Bigamy is being legally married to more than one person. Polygamy is having several “marriages” that are spiritual and only the 1st person is legally married to the spouse, not that some polygamist groups DON’T break the law...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 02:54 PM
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Why in God’s name would anyone want to specifically date someone with a criminal record? I mean, if you meet them otherwise; but why target a population where some guys can’t even get a job because of their record? I’ve seen how that messes up someone’s life because no one hiring wants to deal with a record that contains felonies. 4 of my dad’s brothers can’t hold a job because of their records. They have to have a side hustle and some live with one of my aunts because their record has messed up…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 03:46 AM
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I wouldn’t date someone with a felony. Having that on record can seriously mess up my life by default,(trying for loans, housing, etc.) so that’s a no go.Also, I have an uncle in prison for life in Cali, his offenses were all felonies, and he didn’t have a significant other because of the same reasons I mentioned. Most people with felonies who have done their time are really great, but I’m not willing to have to explain things forever and a day. Also, my family would pounce on something like tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 03:32 AM
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Only those who are on the fringe on the left; they’re the same as fringe conservatives. Both are shitty and should know more about the world than they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 12:39 AM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 09:42 PM
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Yup. Which honestly...I’ve read the whole Twilight series...Fifty Shades is sooooooooo bad; nowhere close to Twilight.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 07:14 PM
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Ever visited a mosque? I’ve been to several. I suppose I could have mentioned this before. None of the ones I went to believed that. The first time I went to one was in HS, and the girls in my class all covered our hair and then we get there they tell us it’s not necessary and most of their women attendees don’t cover their hair and basically the rest that I talked about. We even looked at the Koran, the parts people like to quote, and they talked to us about what it actually means, versus what …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 04:05 PM
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shrugs my biggest thing is that people are trying to apply blanket statements about people. We’re all varied. Just because there might be a sizeable percentage of women that are into it (from experience or not,) doesn’t mean all women are like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 03:52 PM
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For some offenses and behavior, yes. When you’re talking about consent to sex, and you just wanted to go and watch a movie or have ice cream because it was too late to go get any out and about, just going to a man’s house isn’t consent. It also isn’t being a dumbass; is it really too much to ask for a date to not assume we’re fucking? If a person can’t read body cues, they need to learn before trying to attract anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 03:49 AM
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So.....let’s say you aren’t having sex until marriage....and it takes a year to decide you will marry your partner.....does that mean neither person can go to the others house because sex is supposedly expected when you go home with someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 03:43 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 03:40 AM
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That is the most awful book on the planet. Besides that topic, the actual writing is TRASH. At least in my opinion, which means a hill of beans for all the people that liked it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 12:18 AM
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The important word there is man. Women get told they’re wonderful and delicate little flowers and all that crap, but we didn’t start that idea. It seems like it was started to keep the most amount of women servile as possible. I have worked with some horrible excuses for women and had female coworkers try and sabotage my job, because they didn’t like me because I realize that sometimes you’ve got to adapt to a situation as a woman to make sure you keep a job. I’ve had to let men treat me as thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 12:16 AM
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That’s people taking scripture and putting together the parts they want so it says what they want. Christian religions do it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 12:05 AM
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That’s actually not what that’s for at all, according to the friends I have that are from that culture and the religions that believe in covering up. They’ve told me that it’s only zealots and people who know only what they hear about that think that’s what it’s about. It’s religion-based; the hair of a woman, and where clothing might make an outfit risqué have to be covered because that is only for the sight of her husband, not every Tom, Dick and Harry. Her male relatives can see her without t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 12:04 AM
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No the hell it does not. It says something about those particular women. I wonder if any of them have ever been a victim of violence.....I’m pretty sure that wouldn’t be so appealing then. Having a person, much less your partner, be violent towards you, isn’t anything close to pleasurable. A fantasy like this is only a fantasy; if it happened in real life......whole different ballgame.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 11:51 PM
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My mom is 63 and looks like she’s in her 40’s. She got hit on the other day by some 30 something guy while I was with her(I look like I could be under 18, my face hasn’t changed since....9th grade? So he wasn’t even paying attention to me), but she mopes right out of that interaction. Not only would she never go that you g, she just lost my dad three months ago to cancer, and the end was.....bad. I think what some men, or maybe people, see as “the wall” is not universal, hence your question and …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 07:37 PM
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Yeah. That part about the money....I ended up screwed when I separated. The state my military ex moved me to had a pay freeze in effect for teachers, and with all the stuff I had to pay for, I had left 240$ for the rest of the month. There were a lot of times I didn’t eat because I needed gas to go to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 04:00 PM
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That phrase doesn’t mean what you think it means. Especially when taking into account my response. What I said meant that of course there are going to be SOME that do.....seriously? We can’t use context clues?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:07 PM
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I don’t really care about their desire to provide resources. I’m still not interested in a man’s money, no matter where he happens to fall on the “status” spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:05 PM
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I also win the award for “its never all or nothing.” Where’s my trophy 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:03 PM
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Honestly, sometimes I still wonder. I tried everything to save the marriage and I should have walked away more than once, but I didn’t want my marriage to fail. Then there was the fact that he had moved me to a state where I knew no one. His orders were 300 miles away from any family in either direction, North and South. But I’ve recently started to date seriously and I’ve set boundaries and stuck to them; I just ended a relationship, even though I really liked the guy because a month ago, I sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:52 AM
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He wanted to divorce and so I said fine. I printed out some information on military involved divorces and left it for him(he moved into the second bedroom) and he apparently read it before I got back to the apartment. He was in MY room on the bed facing the wall and told me he didn’t have the money(600$ a month; would have come out of housing allowance and with where we lived he had 900$ left over) and I was being selfish. I told him I had to be because he wasn’t concerned with my well-being any…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:35 AM
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He’s out by now; that’s years ago....I got a three year restraining order because he kept trying to contact me and was being ugly about it. He showed up to the divorce hearing with his new girlfriend, but he said she was his witness(I don’t know why the person filing needs a witness, but that’s neither here nor there) All I wanted was to get it done and go...I don’t and will never trust him ever again. What’s worse is that his fucking mother texted me when he was on his way to jail to ask me to …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:20 AM
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It seems like you are exactly like my ex. I ended up going to the ER and on anti inflammatory and pain medication because he DID injure my arm; a lot of fluid built up in my shoulder from stretching the muscles and ligaments and tendons in a way they shouldn’t have been. Just because there’s no black eye or broken bones doesn’t mean it’s not domestic violence; ever heard of emotional abuse? And the court apparently agreed since he got jail time. But whatever, I’m not entertaining your idiocy any…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:11 AM
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So do these people already know each other? Because in essence, one or the other will suggest it first, regardless of if they both want to go on the date before that point and they decide together.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:07 AM
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Ah....I would have been SO curious!!! But I’m just really nosy sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:00 AM
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What do you consider young?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:59 AM
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Did you ask her who Craig is?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:56 AM
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I think whoever does the inviting is the one who should pay. I’ve paid before because I was the one who came up with the idea and I invited the guy. I have never been on a first date where I paid though. I’ve reached for my wallet to pay and been told to put my wallet away. If he wants to pay, that’s up to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:53 AM
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Since he locked me in the bedroom for 10 minutes and then when I got the door open he blocked it with his whole body until I found a sliver of space to force my hand into to get out of the room and then he was pulling on me to get me BACK in the room so hard I ended up in the ER after I called the cops? No, pretty sure it wasn’t that. I’m fucking sick of ANYONE, in person or online, downplay domestic violence. That’s not what you do; just because I didn’t go into detail the first time doesn’t me…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:48 AM
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I’m thinking you dodged a bullet on that one. I reject guys who DON’T use proper punctuation/grammar. Maybe it’s because I’m an English teacher.....
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:43 AM
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Well given that I had to end a marriage with a physically and emotionally abusive ex husband, I’m not a wife at the moment. I WAS a happy wife, until my ex stopped taking his vows seriously and had no problem trying yank my arm out of its socket. Not looking for sympathy, just giving info.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:32 AM
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If there’s no first picture, like it’s a logo or a group pic and I have no idea which one he is, that’s a no go. I also will not choose a person with NO profile information. Past that, if I find you attractive, f anyone else thinking you are or not, and you actually have profile information and it’s interesting (to me at least), things like that will make me swipe right. We may find we still aren’t compatible, but that will be after having a good bit of conversation. I came across a like I had y…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:28 AM
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I don’t pay attention to a man’s money. I was brought up to always try to take care of myself first and I have mostly done that. If I want something, I buy it. I don’t wait for a man to buy it for me. Besides, anyone in any relationship is going to get sick of paying all the time; I just want a partner that can SHARE expenses, not pay for all of them. I’d feel like a freeloader..,.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:20 AM
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Ok, now you’re being intentionally obtuse. Have a good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:11 AM
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Too bad it’s true. Where in my comment did I say all men? Or even most men? Does saying “no man” mean all or some? Because I’m an English teacher and as far as I know, it means neither of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:09 AM
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Did I say all men? I’m pretty sure I didn’t...I didn’t even say most like you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:06 AM
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Yeah, because no man would want to be with a wealthy woman....
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:03 AM
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There are women like that, but as someone else said, that’s not all women. I notice the trend of men here having black and white thinking when it comes to women. Similarly, there are a few women who do this with men. As I believe and always say, the only thing that everyone has in common is birth and then death. I don’t associate with people like that; they tend to want to tell you about their exploits and I am not interested in a sexual play-by-play. I’m also not like that. Why would I want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 01:58 AM
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Oh....honey no....all the money in the world wouldn’t make me date or marry someone if I can’t stand looking at them. They’d expect sex and I wouldn’t be able to do it.....I’m not saying money isn’t nice, but it is NOT a complete problem solver nor the end all, be all. For me, at least, I need more than that. I can buy MYSELF what I want; I don’t need a man to do it for me. I WANT a partner to share my life with, to love, to have kids with. I don’t know why EITHER SEX has issues with the opposit…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 01:44 AM
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I’d be so sad if I couldn’t get books. The bookshelves in my house cover the whole wall. It’s glorious.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 01:33 AM
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But he’s not having a bunch of women knocking at his door or divorcing pretty women and marrying new ones or any of the other things that describe Trump, even though he is rich and famous. Money and fame isn’t everything. I’ve met famous people; they are no more interesting than anyone else, they just have more money. Some of them are assholes. There’s not enough money or status in the world if I don’t like your personality...or your family for that matter...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 09:10 PM
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He’s rich and famous, so he should be like Trump is her point, but he’s not. He’s super well known because he was on Game of Thrones.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 09:03 PM
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Nope, definitely started disliking him because of his policies, like taking away the teacher’s ability to take the deduction for using their own money towards supplies for their classroom and for hiring that idiot DeVos, who is trying to chip away at funding to public schools and has no real idea of what those schools need, much less failing schools that she mentions every 5 seconds. Then there’s the fact that we are now a giant joke to the rest of the world. He got LAUGHED AT when he got to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 09:02 PM
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I don’t give a shit about status.....but a guy asking for money to pay off HIS student loans is a problem, just like I don’t think it would be right for me to ask the same of him. It’s HIS debt, he needs to pay it. Likewise, my student loan debt is mine and I will pay it. Now, if none of my friends like my boyfriend, I’d ask why and take a step back and look at him again and see if they have valid points. If it’s just based on his looks, they can all shut their traps. If it’s red flags that I am…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 08:51 PM
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Age differences mean absolutely nothing to me. My parents were 16 years apart. My dad met mom when he went back to college, and that was that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 08:45 PM
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SOME people actually get married because they love the other person, and everything else between them mostly lines up. My parents were married for 41 years, lovingly, until my dad died from stage 4 cancer in September. THAT is the kind of relationship I want; long and loving.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 08:27 PM
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The rest of society does NOT agree, given the draconian ideas about sex before marriage, even if a lot of people do it. If I ever wanted to offend a man, I insult his mother, not his penis size....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 08:23 PM
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I LOVE bookstores because reading is a serious hobby of mine. I have 4 books I’m in the middle of right now. If a date took me to a bookstore, there would be second date, because that means he paid attention to my likes. I wouldn’t have the time to take pictures, because I’d be reading! I’m not sure what kind of women YOU have been around, but applying a blanket statement to us all is inaccurate, annoying and incredibly offensive. I am not concerned with status; I’m concerned with how you treat …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 08:15 PM
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All of us? You are quite mistaken. I realize those assholes in high school had their own damned issues. I don’t project that onto every person I meet. I did have boys that made fun of me; however I now know they liked me; found that out after graduation. Even if I hadn’t, how does one take the actions of a few idiot high school boys and then apply that to all males? People mature. While there are some men that are stuck, most are not and they’ve moved on from high school behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:47 AM
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In relation to what?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 12:20 AM
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I have an aunt that’s a JW.....let me tell you how much fun it was when we had my dads funeral in October....no, I don’t want to drive you to the Kingdom Hall, I want to sit at home and mourn the loss of my DAD!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 04:20 AM
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That’s not the same concept as the phrase....
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 04:18 AM
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Something he was: a toxic abuser. However, it took a long time to admit that and go through with moving on. He made any kid of communication impossible after I had to call the cops on him for putting his hands on me. I got a restraining order for three years and then divorced his sorry ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 04:16 AM
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You’re my favorite person now.....lol. I kinda wish you could have seen his face when you said all that..
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 03:48 AM
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I don’t particularly enjoy a man being dominant. I am not some child who needs guidance; I’m a grown ass adult. The person I’m with needs to be a partner to me, not someone who thinks he’s the alpha. We’re not dogs, we’re human beings, and working together is way more pleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 02:22 PM
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I’m not in the military. My boyfriend is; I couldn’t care less what his rank is. I didn’t even know he was in the military for a good while after we got together. It actually made me have to decide if I wanted to continue; my ex husband was military and he had to have the cops called on him because he put his hands on me. The desire for any man in the military ever again after that was LOW, and I hadn’t even been trying to find someone in the military when I met my ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 02:13 PM
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There are a lot, but I won’t dates younger guy. I find a lot of them have maturity issues, are usually the ones who want to push sex early in the relationship, and the bad experience I had with my ex husband who was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 11:14 PM
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I didn’t ask that for statistics sake. You act like because of the small sampling of women you e dealt with were like that, that all of us are, and I can tell you right now, we all are not. My mom wasn’t raised that way and my mom didn’t raise my sister nor myself that way either. My mom would be ashamed of me if I behaved that way. It sounds annoying and exhausting to be that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 04:40 AM
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Both of those views are cringe worthy. If a woman thinks men are so bad, why are you with one?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 04:38 AM
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Both?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 04:34 AM
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You do know you’ve not even met 1% of all women right? You cannot say most when you haven’t even MET most women. You’re projecting the behavior of the few women you’ve dealt with onto EVERY woman. That’s seriously unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 11:45 PM
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Again, just because there are SOME women that do that, doesn’t mean all do it. I don’t even know what virtue signaling is. My ex husband was physically abusive, tried to hold me hostage in our bedroom, and had to be arrested; does that mean every man is physically abusive? Are you abusive? I’m concerned about others because I like making other people happy. It makes me sad and unhappy when other people are in distress. I’ve always been that way; I will do anything (legally) possible to make peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 10:50 PM
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🤣, just because a woman doesn’t care about your health, doesn’t mean no woman cares about a man’s health. I most certainly do care about my partners health. I cared about my fathers health right up until he died this year; I care about my boyfriends health; if he gets really sick and dies, I’d be devastated. I was raised to care about EVERYONE. That means men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 10:25 PM
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I don’t mind being a bit fluffy. Obese is an issue because I’d be concerned about their health all the time. That is not stress I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 08:51 PM
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True enough.(I hate autocorrect; Trie isn’t a word!!)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 07:27 PM
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Not necessarily. Not obese. Fat isn’t a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 07:26 PM
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I’m far from perfect. I just don’t want to go through what I did with my ex again. I need a real connection before I can give myself to someone. That’s exactly how I view it: having sex with a man means I’m giving him a part of my heart; i cannot so casual. That’s too many pieces of myself given to people that don’t actually care about me. Why would I want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 07:10 AM
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I have a serious question: who the hell are all these women that just jump from man to man, sleeping with all of them? Does anyone attach feelings and meaning behind sex anymore? I can’t sleep with someone I’m not in a serious relationship with. Otherwise it’s more likely my heart will be broken because I can’t separate emotions from the act. As such, I haven’t had sex for three years; my current boyfriend, we’ve been together 7 months and we have not slept together because I’m still wanting to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 07:05 AM
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I do agree that there are women who do what you describe, but there are quite a few of us that don’t want a “for right now” guy, and are looking for a LTR. I’m 34 and I am dating. I was married for 6 years, but my ex became abusive and there was no saving that marriage after he put his hands on me AFTER all of the emotional abuse. I would have left sooner, but he was military and said he wanted to work on us (before he got physical) and I moved to NC when he got his next duty station. And then t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 06:58 AM
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Nope. I’m not saying I want a fat significant other, but he doesn’t need to be super buff either. My boyfriend now is muscled, but he’s in the military and works out. My ex wasn’t muscular; he was skinny; I didn’t care. Maybe it’s because my dad was tiny....big personality though!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 03:50 AM
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I find both attractive. As long as the person is healthy, I’m good....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 03:43 AM
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Most females and males. I played with dolls just as much as I ran around outside with footballs with boys. My parents didn’t steer my sister and I towards traditionally female things. If I liked it and it was a birthday or holiday, it didn’t matter that it was hot wheels or a Baby Alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 01:05 AM
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But I’m not talking about superficial charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 09:59 PM
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It is the same for men. If ANYONE wants something from the opposite sex and faking lust/love is the way to get it, some people will do that. That’s not everyone though; I also am trying to figure out why it matters if you trust in women’s displays towards people that aren’t you. Now, if it’s in your direction, are you just never going to have an exclusive relationship? Because I winder how a completely genuine woman would end up being able to show you her affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 09:57 PM
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If a guy hasn’t had ANY type of sexual or romantic relationship, it would seem as if he may confuse the lust he feels after getting laid for live. I mean, what would he have to compare it to? Parents can emulate an ideal relationship all they want, but they can’t give you the feeling you have when you’re in love with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 09:50 PM
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I don’t have any opportunity to be confronting anyone or anything else. I prefer to stay home or go out with family, friends or my boyfriend. I don’t associate with people who are rude to others; I cut those people out of my life a long time ago. The older you get, the more that behavior pisses you off. I cut off a friendship because the friend was acting like she knew everything about the creep she was dating and he had assaulted another friend of ours and there were COURT RECORDS but when that…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 10:59 PM
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I don’t have an issue with men approaching me; the problem arises when I tell them I’m not interested. I am never rude because I wouldn’t want someone I expressed interest in to be rude to me. What I have often when I politely decline, is verbal abuse, as if the man was owed my affection. That is never the case; if I say no, find someone else you’re interested in an go for it! But don’t all of the sudden turn on me because I am not interested. That’s not contributing to anything bad with anyone;…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 10:43 PM
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Most guys are going to be average or below. The number of guys with model looks is just not that high. Also, everyone has a different definition of what they think is average and below. I don’t particularly think Brad Pitt was ever that cute, but some women adore him. What I expect from guys,again because most of them are, is that they won’t turn into an abusive creep if I tell them I’m not interested. Or that they don’t keep needling me and trying to wear me down. If I say no, I mean it. Same i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 06:16 AM
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Your experience being the opposite and some other people have been that, means nothing for me and my life and experience. Just because a few women do that shit doesn’t mean we all do. I was not at all raised that way. My parents were married for 42 years, very happily, until my dad died in December.l; that’s the type of relationship I want. They had a true partnership and watching them gave me the ideas about how you treat your partner, and how you must work together. You also know nothing about…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 10:14 PM
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What’s wrong with expecting your partner to actually be a partner in the relationship? I don’t expect anything extreme from my boyfriend; honesty, kindness, faithfulness to name some things. I don’t expect him to buy me everything I want, to be perfect, or anything like that. He’s human and I just expect to act like a good and decent one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:32 PM
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That question is hard to answer because attractiveness IS so objective. I think he’s really attractive; other people may not think so. My friends think he’s attractive, I don’t know if that answers your question.....
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:19 PM
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I’m laughing so hard, because you only knew about my financial life. I’m no wealthy person, and military pay isn’t great, so if I wanted someone wealthy, I wouldn’t be with my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:16 PM
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Yes, because I feel like you should show people you love them period. Hugging a little tighter now; like I said, I want to make sure people know I love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:11 PM
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No, we’re not. Are all men rapists because a few have committed that crime? Nothing is black and white like that. I’m a serious romantic and until I met my current boyfriend, none of the guys I dated after my divorce were romantics, and just wanted sex, so they didn’t work out. I can’t have casual sex; there’s nothing casual about giving yourself to someone that way. My parents were married for 42 years until my dad died I. September. And they were in love the whole time. My dad adores my mom an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 01:49 AM
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My love only requires you love me back....that and you’re not an abuser. Does that make it transactional still? That’s a legit question, by the way, I’m not being facetious.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 01:40 AM
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Probably not most of them, but I met my boyfriend on Tinder and we’ve both deleted the app and we are exclusive to each other. He wants to meet my mom and I want to meet his. Even on dating apps that pretty much are for finding someone to sleep with, you can find a guy that is a wonderful person. That’s what I went on there for, even though I knew what most guys replying would want. I made it clear that hooking up was not what I wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 12:56 AM
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SOME women. I’m not an anomaly. All women aren’t like me, and I readily admit that. However, it’s way more women than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 12:27 AM
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Thank you. I especially want men to show feelings because of what happened with my dad. I love him so much and at the very end, he couldn’t speak....the day he died, I went to the hospice center and I got to tell him I loved him and he had been pretty much unresponsive except for tracking my and my mom’s movements. When I told him I loved him, he took his hand out from under his blankets and grabbed my hand and he squeezed it. He hadn’t done that for anyone else. From diagnosis to the day he die…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 12:25 AM
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My nephew is 4. He’s a twin and his sister is much smaller than him. You’d think that maybe she’s the emotional one and he’s “all boy” and whatnot; you’d be very wrong. He adores cleaning so much that we got him his own hand vacuum for Christmas and I have never seen a kid so excited about a gift. We had to immediately put batteries in it so he could use it. He is the emotional and sensitive one and we don’t discourage that in him. I love that he’s perfectly fine with showing emotion; I’m not su…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 11:45 PM
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I would rather know what my partner is feeling. I’m an emotional person and if I’m with someone who isn’t and they try that “men don’t show emotions” crap, we’re not going to last. If I don’t know how my partner is feeling, how do I know he’s happy, or sad or angry or whatever the emotion may be? If I don’t know that, I can’t keep doing something or stop doing something else or work together to do something. My dad was that way until he got closer to the end of his life(September of this year), …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 11:38 PM
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Some might....but more than those, there’s a biological reason we pick who we pick. That’s not to say people don’t override that, because we know they do, but how stable will a relationship be if you keep looking at your partner and all you can think is “I can’t believe I settled for this”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 04:36 AM
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It was just a question based on what you typed,
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 04:34 AM
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I don’t care what age I reach, if a guy is unattractive to me, I’m not giving them a chance. Both parties in a relationship need to be able to stand to look at each other day in and day out....
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:04 AM
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Again, how would you know if the person was old? I’ve seen women in their 40’s and 50’s who look better than some girls in their 20’s. It depends on genes and self-care. Women in my family have good genes and don’t look anywhere close to their actual age; we typically look much younger than we are. So if you encountered a woman like that who was 40 and looked 25, and you don’t find out right away, once you find out are you going to drop her like a hot potato 🥔?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:56 AM
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You’d have to be able to tell someone’s age just by looking at them. That is not always something you can guess without knowing a person. People are terrible at guessing ages just from looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:51 AM
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I sincerely hope you’re joking.....
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 07:24 AM
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That may be true, but the analogy would be the same also. So still not accurate. I had to make analogies in my French classes, and word order is different, but the meaning is still the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 06:19 PM
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It can be about anything....it’s always going to be related to language, because in any language you have comparisons. Even though the things compared here are about logic, the analogy has to be correct for the comparison to hold any water; I, and a few others, see this as a false equivalency, which would bring down the comparison and require the =with the slash through it. I hope this makes sense because I have a migraine and it’s 7 am where I live....
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 12:12 PM
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None of that is too much to ask, but so many people are stuck on looking“cool” or “hard” that they ignore everything else. My sister and I had the expectation that after high school, we were going to college. We both did. I think back to high school and the students in middle school that I taught. It’s not considered cool to care about your grades and plan out your college life and beyond. I was made fun of mercilessly because I took school seriously and took honors and AP classes. I was often t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 03:39 AM
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It’s not that, that’s just a really shitty analogy(I’m an English major and teacher, this would have the equal sign with the slash through it)and sounds like someone is bitter. The situation mentioned has NO relationship to your little analogy. There’s a thing called false equivalency, and that is exactly what you introduced.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 03:19 AM
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It definitely isn’t, but it causes it’s fair share of problems. I saw it a lot when I was teaching before I was injured in my classroom and it ended THAT career. I had so many boys that I had to talk off the ledge and let them know that being upset and showing it didn’t make them gay, a pussy or less of a man. It just meant they were humans and not robots. It’s especially prevalent in my community- African Americans. We are notorious for telling our boys to man up and then people are surprised w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 03:08 AM
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It’s not healthy if it goes on for 10 minutes, but I have yet to see a boy cry for that long that wasn’t an infant. When a little boy who maybe plays t-ball gets hit by the ball and starts to tear up or starts crying, it doesn’t even take 30 seconds for someone to yell at the child to “man up”; a male has the right to express that particular emotion, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 02:45 AM
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The fact that from person to person “hot” is a relative term? For example, a lot of women think Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise are soooooo good looking. Me? They’re just there. I can’t say that I find either of them good looking. They’re not ugly, but if they walked by, I wouldn’t break my neck for them. And this part isn’t directed at you, it’s in general and if I don’t type it now, I’ll forget: being “cute” is only fun and great for so long....when you get into your 30’s and try to share a wine tasti…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 02:42 AM
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But that may not be feminine to another male. I happen to have a deep voice, when I started talking it was like that. Not quite as bad as a smokers voice, but my voice is deeper than most females. However, I’ve been told it’s a sultry, feminine voice, so that’s why I say it’s subjective. My boyfriend LOVES my voice. Some guys may not though....
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 02:32 AM
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Because that’s usually when it’s used. Like when a little boy cries because he got hit by a ball or something...”man up and stop crying!!” I have yet to hear that phrase used in a positive manner....and I worked with quite a few men in my last job and most of my relatives on my dads side are male. You especially hear it in sports.:..
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 02:29 AM
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No the fuck I don’t want a man to lead. I could do my job before I got injured without the male supervisor I had, but a supervisor is required in that job and even though there aren’t a lot of men in it, they disproportionately make up the heads of the workplace. They tend to think they know everything and how it should be done even though they aren’t the ones doing it and when you point out things that are being done wrong, all of the sudden YOU’RE the problem. I wish to high heaven I could hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 02:23 AM
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I don’t know what women you deal with, but I don’t burst into tears whenever I have an argument. Sometimes I get pissed and have to walk away, sometimes I try and talk about the issue, and yes, sometimes I cry, but that’s when I get so angry I can’t express it properly and I want to possibly murder you. Not because I’m trying to be comforted. The last thing I want during or after an argument is for my partner to touch me; I usually just want to be left alone for awhile so I can process my own fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 02:14 AM
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There’s no correct way to be a woman. And femininity is about whatever society you’re living says it’s about, but even then, it’s a social construct, not a biological one. Babies are cute so that people will want to take care of them-man or woman. In quite a few countries in some of the sub populations, the women run things and its not a patriarchal society. A lot of Western countries are the opposite. So is there a right or wrong definition? I don’t think there is; I think it’s whatever works f…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 02:00 AM
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No one should be told to “man up” because usually when someone says that to a man, it’s because they’re exhibiting softer characteristics. What does man up mean anyhow? Have sex with a lot of women? Go out to bars and get drunk every week? Be a physicist? A man can stay at home with his kids, or be a teacher or hell do hair or become a ballerina (which would pay a lot for a man since not a whole lot of men are steered in that direction) and still be manly. Being “a man” isn’t even the same from …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 01:54 AM
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True....which is funny because I’m 5’8” and I’m in a program to lose a lot of weight because I’ve had two back surgeries and still can’t exercise or stand more than 5 minutes at a time without a walker. I’m so tired each day just from existing that I only ate once a day and I still was gaining weight, simply because I literally couldn’t do much outside of going to the bathroom, kitchen and back to my room to lay down. I gained SO much weight and I hate the way I look right now, but when I was ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 01:36 AM
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I’m sure some do, but I don’t. I don’t particularly want someone who weighs 500lbs, but if a guy doesn’t look like a bodybuilder, I won’t pass them by. I tend to like guys that are just a bit soft; not all rock hard abs and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 11:23 PM
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Given that, again, that’s what we’re told is attractive and what we should aspire to and I was saying that most women don’t even look that way? I didn’t say that people who look that way were awful looking horrible people; what I did say is that “unrealistic expectation” is not what I look like and my mom let me know that that’s ok. I have plenty of friends who DO have that body type....I don’t think they’re unattractive, but why everyone thinks anyone who doesn’t look like that(the people makin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 10:37 PM
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That’s not shaming. It’s literally what we’re told we need to look like and if we don’t, we’re either fat or not meeting that standard of beauty so we’re less attractive. Whether it’s a masculine or feminine body is immaterial. If the standard was a porn stars body, I would have put that in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 10:28 PM
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But it’s typically not women who make those ads, movies, and tv shows that show this stuff. It’s men. So while we may internalize that and be insecure, for the most part, we are not creating the content. It’s not normal to be 5’11 and 140 lbs.....but magazines and movies would have women believe that it is. My mother always let me know that my body type is normal for our family. We have big hips, butts and boobs(in my case, I have way more boobs than most of the women in my family), and that wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:13 PM
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I don’t at all enjoy that professionally. It’s how I got pushed out of my last job. The place was already in trouble and then I came along and pointed out things that weren’t being done right, including dealing with a particularly difficult class that no one was having success with. All of the sudden, I have poor classroom management skills and nothing I do is right anymore, nevermind that the other team leaves their kids unsupervised in the hall and I had to break up a fight with their kids bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 09:35 PM
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For me, it wasn’t, especially the risks I was taking, like going to the persons house in a city I’m not familiar with, things like that. They seem like a great idea when you’re manic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:23 PM
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I’ve done that on several first dates. However, I REALLY don’t do that type of thing. I’m diagnosed Bipolar 1, with Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I had a long period of mania where I was hypersexual, and made some bad decisions. Then my mood flipped and I hated what I’d done. Went to my psychiatrist, switched my mood stabilizer to another and upped the dosage of that and my anti-anxiety meds. Also started therapy. I’m currently stable and have been able to make boundaries and not cave.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:35 PM
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I like bacon too much to be Vegan...and eggs...and chicken tenders....look, animal products are delicious.,,.and having a man explain something to you that you’ve already done and done well is annoying. You don’t have to to like that....but I suspect you’re a man who does this and doesn’t like a woman who protests. I don’t particularly care if I’m right or wrong about that.....but my experiences are my experiences regardless of you liking and accepting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:26 AM
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Ok....I didn’t disagree. I said what said as a comment that my opinion and what the poster put up matched.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:42 AM
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Excellent
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:40 AM
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Uh, not QUITE true....Baltimore, DC, Atlanta.....I’ve seen cute fat women and not so attractive skinny women....I think the averages may depend on how far north or south a city is.....but that’s just a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:27 AM
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Professionally and medically though...it’s incredibly frustrating because I get talked down to. I realize that even people with Masters degrees can be idiots, I’ve met people with PhD’s that are, but I can say something and support it with evidence and still end up being talked to like I’m 12. I worked hard for my degrees and I’d love to be able to say something and not be challenged because I look young.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 12:58 AM
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You could say the same thing for men, because while I was married, I had men approach and when I showed my ring and said I was married I was met with “So? Is he here?” Like seriously? Does he need to be? I just said no!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:33 PM
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Nope. My mom goes to church, and my dad was Catholic in name only. He died in September and a part of my mom went with him. I miss him every day even though we argued..too much alike...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:13 PM
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No. My ex cheated on me. I know how that hurts, so I would NEVER do that to someone else. Ever. If I experience pain caused by someone else I do not visit it on them or anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:11 PM
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Nope! My parents were married for 42 years(I’m black by the way) most of my friends who are married still are. Some of my relatives are, at least the ones who even bothered. In the ones where someone cheated, it wasn’t the woman. At least from the ones I know of.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:09 PM
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I didn’t overeat. But when you can’t move at all, you’re going to gain weight. I was goin Grindr appointments and all. I was walking a lot at work because I had a job where I had to be up and about all day and going walking at home, because I have a dog. Once I ended up injured, that all went to crap. If I wasn’t in bed, I was on the couch. Also: steroids. There wasn’t really a way TO overeat; I couldn’t get to the fridge! clears throat Unless you’re my doctor or my surgeon? Zip it. They have my…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:05 PM
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Holy crap!!! Why would anyone turn down a STEM guy?! Well, I read that and I know why some do, but seriously?! My dad was an engineer! I adore science and almost ended up with that major; Biology is my favorite. I have a boyfriend now, he’s military, but if he’d been STEM? He’d have gotten equal consideration....sooooo much stuff to talk about!!! And big words to use!!! I’m an English major....I have a thing for big words...that’s not a euphemism 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:41 PM
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My boyfriend is an NCO. Anywho, it make landfall sense, however, I’ve found that when I know what I’m doing and I bring it up because I must correct someone, if it’s an older adult, they do NOT take it well. Like, at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:37 PM
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Are you aware that if you look at some medical studies, a woman who is 5’8”, like me, should weigh 140-150 lbs? However, I am in the process of losing weight that I gained from inactivity from surgeries (still can be active; back still messed up) and I threw that number out and my doctor looked at me like I had grown another head. Apparently, that is highly unrealistic and too low. 180 is better. I was told I was too fat when I was that weight at another doctors office....but my new one and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:34 PM
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That’s why I asked. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:29 PM
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BMI isn’t really accurate anymore....or did you just list that because you said “statistical analysis?”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:27 PM
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As in like, the STEM in schools? I have no idea why women wouldn’t! I’ve met some attractive men in those fields.....unless you mean something different and I’m naive and that is perfectly possible. On a lot. Though I do like to learn new things!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:13 PM
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You just made me snort. I wouldn’t turn down a man that was bald. I might turn down a man who was balding and in denial and had a horrible combover. If you’re balding, do something. That ranges from shaving everything off to hair plugs. But PLEASE don’t think women, or anyone with working eyes, can’t tell that’s a combover.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:10 PM
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Who the hell said looks don’t matter?! I mean, you don’t need to be Jason Mamoa, but you need to be pleasing to look at TO ME. Why would anyone, make or female, be with someone they didn’t find visually pleasing? Now that I’ve said that, I don’t need a man who’s 6’4” with a six pack and has that v cut. As long as you’re at LEAST my height or taller and aren’t fatter than me (I’ve gained SO much weight because of a nasty back injury and two failed surgeries,) because seriously, two people don’t n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 08:57 PM
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Oh dear lord, no! I just get the nasty comments from guys on here. With online dating, I usually just get “hi” instead of something gross
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:57 PM
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I suppose! It’s a trait in my family. So i made this post to see what others thought and see what suggestions I could get because I can’t change my face, lol. But I’m sure there are other changes I can make. There have been a couple good ones here!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:17 PM
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Less makeup makes me look like a total child. It’s why I wear makeup period. Otherwise, I’d probably only do lipstick and eyeshadow.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:06 PM
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Yup! I totally feel you there. My mom is 65 and can easily pass for being in her 40’s. We get confused for sisters a lot....which neither of us mind. However, my dad, he passed at the end of September, was 16 years older than my mom and people always thought he was my MOM’S dad!!! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:04 PM
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Good suggestion! I tend to follow seasons with my makeup...maybe I should stop that habit....
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:01 PM
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I had a librarian ask me what class I should be in when I was subbing. I held up the sub id and told her I was a sub and she said she was so sorry, that I just looked so young. I think I was 26?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:59 PM
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I don’t know how much more mature I can act other than doing my adult job and not doing childish things. I know I mentioned men, but I taught in a high school, so I never dressed in anything but dress pants and button down shirts or other “adult” shirts. I had a parent that wanted to meet because her son had gotten in trouble three times in my class, the last time for cheating. She tried to run over me once she saw me, because she thought I’d cave since I was young. He had told her it was a grou…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:57 PM
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PSA If you intend to come on here and be antagonistic when I’m asking a genuine question, I’m not going to bother to engage you. I’m just going to block you. Just because you’re an incel and decide you want to show your whole ENTIRE ass, doesn’t mean I have to respond or leave it on my post. Have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:48 PM
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I don’t find those methods work. Maybe it’s because I’m Bipolar with Anxiety? I stick with low level meds. I take Norco, and I won’t take anything stronger unless it a serious flare. I had hernia repair surgery in 2013, and was given 60 pills of Dilaudid (military hospital-ex was Army,) and afternoon 5 days, I had to just take the Percocet....Dilaudid makes me feel like I’m trying to slog through jello.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 03:01 PM
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Well, there are people who do get addicted to it, just people get addicted to opioids or alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 02:57 PM
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On here is where I’m getting those messages. Ive gotten some in OLD, but those are the stubborn ones. My voice is not the issue, I have a deep, husky “phone sex”(not my words!!!!) voice, that’s been since I was 3. The way I dress may be an issue, but due to pain conditions, I am only at a 3-4 if I’m in leggings and a tunic....looser clothing on my legs brushes my legs and causes nerve pain. I haven’t found a happy medium there....
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 02:55 PM
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As far as career is concerned. I’m not sure that sexy is appropriate for a school setting....but thank you for the advice! I’ll try for something in the middle maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 02:47 PM
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The grey is only a few strands that you can’t really see.....
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 02:44 PM
1

Herniated disc at L4-L5. I’ve had 2 surgeries, neither completely fixed it, so I’m down to pain meds for management because it’s permanent.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:29 AM
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She helps me find clothing that’s professional and not going to irritate my skin. Especially since I basically became immobile because of my back injury. She’s had to put my socks on or help me get out of bed because of the pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:25 AM
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I do this; my mom helps me because she’s seen how people treat me because I look so young. I wear a lot of skirts and nice shirts...the one issue is that regular jeans and dress pants irritate me because of my nerve pain from fibromyalgia. The waist is too much and the loose fabric brushing my skin, so I wear dressy leggings and layer a nice dress over that and always the nicest, comfortable shoes.I may not be able to go back to work anyhow.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:36 AM
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It is pervasive. I’m a teacher; 7th graders. I’m not teaching anymore because of a back injury, but omg, the number of kids getting in trouble because they just COULDN’T last without their phone? I took phones all year long.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:44 PM
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Lmao, you misunderstood what my post was. I wasn’t asking for advice, 😂 I’m 34, I pretty much got it down as far as posting what I want to post and not posting what I don’t. It was rhetorical. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:40 PM
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Lululemon leggings are ridiculously expensive! After a woman where I used to live was murdered in one of their stores, that solidified me never going into a store. I mean, 99$ for leggings?! WTF?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:38 PM
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But what if you don’t like that kind of attention and you only take face pictures because you want people looking at your face instead of your chest? I purposely don’t take pictures of my body because of this. A guy inevitably makes a comment about my chest or butt. I was an early developer and that kinda scarred me a bit because of all the jokes and stares and comments. I may have 1 full body picture on FB, but the way I dress is modest, due to my religion and I’m perfectly fine with that. I ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:35 PM
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I can’t hang around anyone who is glued to their phone, male or female. None of my friends are like that because that type of stuff annoys the 💩 out of me. I actively avoid those individuals. I love to read and to teach and cook and bake...that all came from both my mom and dad, especially the reading. I learned early because I wanted to do what my older sister was doing...there are plenty of women like my friends and myself. We get called dorks and geeks and weird by guys who complain about all…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:29 PM
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I had my wedding on a base and the reception was in a family friend’s backyard. I wanted to not wear shoes....my mom nixed that idea. Dress came from David’s Bridal and so did the bridesmaids dresses. Just told them what color I wanted and they could pick whatever style they pleased, though I did suggest one that everyone could use more than once. People see those stupidly expensive weddings and lose their minds and I don’t see why a wedding should be over 10k. My mom, my best friend and myself …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:23 PM
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I guess because I’m older than your age range that’s not true for me. Although it wasn’t even when I was that age. I married right after turning 23....so social media was never that serious for me. I’m divorced and 34 now. I DO enjoy posting selfies, however, I don’t stalk them to see how many likes I get or the comments I get. It’s simply because I now like the way I look. I didn’t when I was in high school and early college years. I honestly couldn’t give two sh**s if someone doesn’t like my p…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:15 PM
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I don’t k ow why, but this struck me as funny. And reminded me of my recently passed father. I loved that man, but good GOD, he couldn’t figure any of us out to save his life. He was 16 years older than my mom and I remember he got her a bread maker for her birthday one year....right after she started a diet. Not to mention she’d NEVER expressed the desire to make bread. I nearly died laughing when she opened that box. After that, I picked her gifts for him...poor daddy....lmao...I miss him....
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:32 PM
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If I did this, my mom would be so offended. She raised me to be inquisitive, to read, to research, to form my own opinions. I can be feminine and still argue my point or views artfully; but so many guys take one look at me, look at my chest (which is always covered for personal and religious reasons) and then all thought of intellectual conversation flees and in its place “Must get her naked” shows up. Make no mistake, THIS IS NOT ALL GUYS, but when you meet enough of them....you kind of just...…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:21 PM
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Surface level conversation makes my eye twitch. I don’t care if I’m interested romantically in a guy or not. I have varied interests and things I love and like to talk about in depth. If I couldn’t have anything other than surface level conversation with a man(hell, with ANYONE) I’m out. I like knowing about people and what they like and having them explain it to me from their point of view and vice versa. I learn a lot that way and I adore learning new things. Maybe it’s because I’m a teacher..…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:09 PM
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Can we adjust this to “some” unless it’s dying, pretty much nothing is all. For example, I see a lot of women posting just pictures of their chest or their butts of both, but not their faces...I can’t understand why anyone would want to do that. Any picture I take and post here is just my face. But you know what still happens? I get messages from guys asking me about my underwear color or telling me what my picture does to their privates. I don’t know if it’s because of porn or because they’ve s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 06:49 PM
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Given that there is a whole industry for therapy for porn addiction in couples relationships, I’m not sure how accurate this is....it may be true for some, but there are plenty of men who have a girlfriend or wife or get sex regularly that have a porn addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 06:42 PM
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No, from exercising. I’ve started a program to help me be accountable for what I eat and I go in every week.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 05:04 PM
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I wish I had had more self worth at the time to know enough that I’d be ok and I should leave. He knew how to manipulate me though, because he knew how much I cared. I had filed and had the paperwork sent overseas, but he refused to sign. He called me for two weeks straight and I finally answered and he asked me why I had filed....the man who told me he wanted a divorce. Then he said he wanted to try.....and we got sent to another state away from my family. Thinking back on it, he was trying to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 07:47 AM
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Especially since ha had already threatened my stuff and my dog....with throwing them from the balcony....
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 07:42 AM
1

Yeah, I’ve gotten that sentiment from a lot of soldiers I’ve met. He joined at 18 and was quickly propelled out at 26 at the rank he came in at, all because of a dumb incident overseas and losing it over money he could have taken from the housing allowance. I never could think of why his brain went straight to rage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 07:40 AM
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He was Army. Went in as an E-3, Left as an E-3 because of all his screw ups. They really fast tracked him after the domestic violence. I still have love for the Armed Forces; my current boyfriend is Army; he’s nothing like my ex or anyone I’ve ever dated. Pretty sure I’m going to marry him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 07:32 AM
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ANYONE “ugly” is cute or attractive to SOMEONE. They may not be to you, for example I can’t stand Tom Cruises’ face, he just look ingenious more than unattractive, but to me, that’s unattractive. However, a whole bunch of women looooove him, so beauty is subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 05:13 AM
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Most definitely. I slept through Thanksgiving; that one hurt. We were at my aunts house and I love seeing family but my back hurt so I took my medication and slept until we had to leave....ugh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 05:07 AM
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Thank you 😊 I want to lose the weight mostly because I know it can’t be helping my back. I would be lying if I said I didn’t want to look better too, but the primary for right now is my health. I don’t go out a lot because of my back pain. I just came out of a three week flare of fibromyalgia and my back....times like that, all I can do is sleep and the only reason I eat is because my mom will wake me up. I unfortunately can’t live on my own with all my health problems.....
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 04:57 AM
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I’m a woman and I can’t stand that crap either. Maybe it’s because I’m a woman, I spot that right away, and it’s annoying, especially if they do it to keep from getting into trouble. I’ve taken my lumps when I did something not right; hell, I’ve taken my lumps when I didn’t do what I was punished for! (There’s no point in arguing with administration in a school) Crying just to have the outcome you want is a b**ch move and my mom would smack the hell out of me for trying it and since I tell her e…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 04:41 AM
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I only cry when I’m seriously angry. People think I’m sad, but I’m just trying not to cuss someone out...or throw something at someone. My dad died at the end of September; I cried the night he died and the day of the funeral when I walked into the church and saw his casket; I froze and just lost it for 2 minutes. After that, nothing. Not even at his burial. I was devastated, but the most important thing was being there for my mom and sister....I also had two best friends come and they kept me g…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 04:32 AM
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I’d have murdered that woman with that leaving out the detail that something was missing. It’s like a group project in college that inevitably one person screws the pooch on...now I’m having flashbacks to senior year in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 04:26 AM
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I’ll say right up front, I am a woman. If I EVER thought the man I’m dating said ANYTHING about “questioning his authority,” that would be the day we’d not be together anymore. The man is not a parent to be obeyed, a cop to be obeyed, etc. A man is supposed to be a help to his partner, not be the parent. I have no issue with not questioning his manhood; I would never do that, because I wasn’t raised like that. However, my father raised me to be smart and caring and kind and to make sure that whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 04:15 AM
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I adore her. She helped me through that....I stayed up all night that night and she kept licking the tears off my face. She knows my emotions very well now, just like I know her. She will come in my room when I’m not feeling well and asleep and (she’s got a bulky, muscular front) get on her hind legs and punch the side of the bed to wake me up and make sure I’m still alive. I always put my hand down, she licks it and leave the room. I think it’s making sure I’m alright because she a lot of that …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 03:41 AM
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I have no clue, because I have never experienced that....then again, if I don’t find you attractive, I’m not rude, I just say we’re not compatible so that person doesn’t go incel on all women. I’ve seen “unattractive” men who treat women like crap; however, attractive to one person is ugly to another. My ex was not everyone’s cup of tea; then again after 4 years of marriage and some time in Korea, he lost his mind and....things got ugly. So, to other, in the beginning of our relationship, this w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 03:35 AM
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I wanted to add..my dog was 4 at the time. She hid under the couch during the whole thing(thank god; I don’t know what he might have done to her) I had to call a locksmith because my ex locked the door knowing I didn’t have my keys...she didn’t come rushing to the door like normal and I had to call out to her and then she ran to me and I got a zillion kisses. That’s when she started sleeping on the bed with me. To this day, she’s 10 now, she doesn’t like men she doesn’t know around me. She barks…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 03:30 AM
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Uhhhh, I might have been slow to leave my ex, but I DID leave; a lot of women have that breaking point, some do not. The day he snapped and really showed his ass? There was no way in hell I was doing any sort of talking to him. I got the locks changed on the apartment the next day, went to court and got a restraining order and pressed charges. He was arrested on base that afternoon. In no way did I enjoy what happened. I wish I had seen the manipulation earlier; one of my issues was that I was s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 02:53 AM
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With the amount of people being catfished apparently nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 02:23 AM
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At the time I wasn’t. I know why women stay though. My marriage lasted 6 years. I should have left year 4. But I thought we could do therapy and be ok. Obviously that didn’t work. I see it for what it was now and how I can avoid things like that now. When I was married to him....not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 02:05 AM
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Yes, well, when you’re dealing with someone in the military, they’re bigger and taller than you and all you are is a teacher and you’re panicking....all I would have needed would have been to hit him. He would have killed me, and I’m not lying. He was in a rage and not even hearing anything I said. I’m not getting physical in a third story apartment with a man that could pick me up and chuck me over the balcony.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 02:00 AM
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Understandable. But saying that the first mistake is believing the women were abused makes it sound like no one is telling the truth. I do t have my paperwork anymore, but I could go to NC and get it. I’d hate to not be believed because my abuse happened in another state.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 01:58 AM
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The man I’m with now, who is also military(higher rank and nothing like my ex,) is amazing. I wish I had met him before my ex. He lives an hour away right now, but I’m moving to the town he lives in in a month. Our first date he came on his lunch so we could have lunch. I have never been so comfortable with someone on a first date in my life. I told him we’d have to take this slow and he said he’ll follow my lead. He makes me happy, I feel completely comfortable and safe with him. So, we’ll see …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 01:55 AM
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That would be me, and it sucks. I suffered a back injury, which I will never not have problems from, and have not really been able to be active since June of last year; I have had two surgeries that have not fixed the issue so I’m in pain management, and occasionally steroids, until the disc reherniates(because eventually it will.) Right now, there’s not enough of an issue to justify a third surgery, which would be a fusion of the vertebrae at L4-L5. I have gained so much weight and I hate it so…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 01:51 AM
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👋🏾 Victim of abusive relationship here. I had to call the cops on my now ex husband because he tried holding me hostage in our apartment(he was going to owe me money as a soldier, because that’s the rule during a separation and he lost his shit when he called me selfish and I said I had to be because he wasn’t worried about me anymore); I was in the main bedroom and he shut the door and held it closed. It took me a good ten minutes to yank the door open only to be met with him having filled the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 01:46 AM
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These are my thoughts: it shouldn’t matter who the hell else that worked on. No one is the same from woman to woman, just as all men are the same. I think men need to learn some damned decorum, unless they just want the caliber of women that language attracts, because I’m not the one. I have value; I have with and I don’t deserve to be talked to like I’m standing on a street corner just because SOME women decide to do things I would never. The next time I get a message like that, I’m calling the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 02:36 PM
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That’s not who THIS woman is! I do not pose for pictures that are inappropriate and post them. The pictures I take are of my face or my nails. Yet I get obscene messages from men telling me in explicit terms what my selfie does to their privates. As if I asked. So is that who men are? Because I’ve gotten more than three messages like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:29 AM
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Ownership? A woman isn’t a possession to be OWNED!!! We’re humans to be loved, just like men should be. This is honestly the most disturbing part of this to me and it’s only a small part. This stupid shit is why I had to call the cops on my shitstain of an ex.....he wanted a divorce but one day when he snapped and I told him I was leaving, he basically tried to keep me hostage. When I finally got out, I yelled at him asking if he’d lost his mind and he said no, only my wife. WTF, dude?! YOU want…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:22 AM
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I really need this to say SOME women. We are individuals and not all the same; this is not Star Trek and the Borg. I am traditional in wanting a family and a long, loving marriage. My parents were married for 41 years until he died at the end of September. I have no desire to put myself out there line I’m standing on a corner; I would just like a guy to not try to figure out how he can bang me when I clearly tell him a ring and a marriage are required before he gets into my pants. I can’t separa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:08 AM
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