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Which of these is true: I've attempted an extended fast several times but always bitched out. or Fortunately for me I'm used to being in ketosis and find that I don't really get hungry when I'm fasting/in ketosis so the unmanageable appetite isn't a concern. So you bail on the fast because of a reason other than wanting to eat? The best program is the one you can stick to. You obviously can't stick to the fast. Which is fine, because fasting for 7 days as a means to gain a better physique is fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 03:00 PM
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Week 2.5 of my 500 kettlebell swing program. What size bell are you using, and what is your rep scheme? Is this 500 swings a day? My results with kettlebell swings changed dramatically when I started treating sets like sprints rather than jogs, if that makes sense. Heavy bell, sets of 10, catch your breath in between sets. I didn't lose weight either, but feel more "dense" in my midsection. Abs and obliques pop, glutes & hammies feel different. Doing swings alternated with rows sounds like it wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 06:09 PM
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I've attempted an extended fast several times but always bitched out. Fasting isn't magic. And if you do lose weight on an "extended fast", most of the weight you lose is clearing out shit and food from your bowels. Just because something sucks or is difficult doesn't mean it is worthwhile. In my fat years, I tried every diet & trick imaginable - fasts, atkins, south beach, warrior diet, anabolic diet, IF, master cleanse. What finally worked was simply counting calories, having about at least 40…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 03:12 PM
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They're all bullshit methods.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/20 04:16 PM
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Your reply implies that you are operating under the assumption that being vulnerable is limited to blathering things like "I'm afraid you'll leave me" or "Sometimes I think I'm a fraud at work." or "My mom always seemed to like my brother more than me." In WOTSM, the entire theme of "living at your edge" is about vulnerability. Any time you put yourself in a place to be rejected or fail, you are exposing vulnerability. Openly pursuing what you want is vulnerable. Approaching a woman is vulnerabl…
/r/askMRP11/05/20 08:23 PM
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The type of vulnerability you want to exhibit is simply being accountable to yourself, not hiding your failures, and allowing others to accept or reject what you are. Most guys see vulnerability as displaying to their woman that they love and trust them enough to show their fallibility, and they think women will find this endearing. They don't. Vulnerability is simply being honest in your values. This type of honesty is vulnerable because it gives the other person the space to reject what you st…
/r/askMRP11/05/20 02:35 PM
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If a guy is comfortable with his wage & career and knows he'd support himself just fine without her, it can pretty easily be a non-issue. It's all in the mindset of the man. Problems that get blamed on a wage discrepancy are likely a symptom of the guy being insecure about it. Or ceding control of the finances because it's "her" money. Or the guy being unable to provide for himself and thus needing her to provide. Women want a man to choose her, not need her. The cases you note are probably self…
/r/askMRP08/05/20 08:06 PM
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And when you can – with complete congruence to your desire for freedom and release from constraint that which could trap you – your woman will feel through this. She will know. And if you’re not a LARPing faggot she might just shut the fuck up, get in line, and get back to doing what a good woman does for a valuable man. This is the holy grail of power for everything marriedredpill. And, as you say, she will know. She'll know if it's real, and she will know if it's something you're just trying t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 03:06 PM
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But you have to know the basic rules first before you start breaking them, otherwise you can end up looking like a dick. Wearing a color you wouldn't find in fatigues is "breaking the rules" ? K. Here's a better rule. Sometimes posts steer too far clear of something that might confuse the retards.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/20 05:45 PM
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Your colour friends are – neutrals and earthy colours – black, white, navy, grey, khaki, olive, beige and brown. That’s it. Stick to a basic pallete. Not only is it easy, it’s masculine, refined and makes it really simple to mix and match. This really depends on skin tone. Ever find an outfit that looks great on the rack or the mannequin, or laid out on your bed, and then it doesn't quite look as good when you put it on and look in the mirror? Good chance the reason is that it doesn't suit your …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/20 03:33 PM
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I think you're using "negative reinforcement" to refer to what is actually "punishment". That the two are different is about the only thing I remember from intro to psych. Punishment is manipulating a stimulus to decrease a behavior. Reinforcement is manipulating a stimulus to increase a behavior. The positive or negative with either is whether the stimulus is added or removed. Spanking is usually adding an averse stimulus to decrease a behavior. I suppose spanking could be a reinforcement, if y…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/20 03:08 PM
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Yes, I married a single mother with 2 kids. If it makes you feel better, pretend they’re mine and feel free to chirp in with real advice. I generally agree with you here, but the fact that you're so butthurt about this reveals a chasm of insecurity about something. Whether that be judgement from people who don't know you, or the uncomfortable questions that maybe you prefer to hand wave away. If you can't take the drive-bys & frame tests that come with asking for advice on askMRP, how are you go…
/r/askMRP23/04/20 03:03 PM
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Evo Psych = Women's Studies applied to fictionalized cavemen.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/20 08:11 PM
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His poor wife. Even if she gets what she wants, she won't have what she wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 08:49 PM
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My wife of 16 years I just found out cheated on me very early on in our dating Ever considered marketing beard oil?
/r/askMRP21/04/20 01:35 PM
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I've been exactly where you are now. Irritated by the bullshit signaling that pervades places like this. You can't win that battle. You just kind of have to let the guys collect their internet points and eventually realize for themselves that they are worthless. Nothing you can say is going to convince them otherwise until they recognize the disparity between the persona they post with and their actual life. And if they never realize it, hey, good for them - the fake persona gets to be the anony…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/20 04:05 PM
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It's lazy, and it allows people to co-opt the language for easy internet-validation-points. I know this for a fact, because I found myself doing it. So, then if this is what's going on here, as you suspect....why bother trying to refute it? Isn't this probably just some guy formalizing his rejection of his old self by chastising people who do exactly what he used to do? I was letting anonymous dudes on the internet judge my life. ...and yet, you find yourself here being triggered by an anonymous…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/20 03:12 PM
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I am actually getting bigger and more toned on this gay ass machine. Hopefully that gives you some insight as to what you think is necessary in the gym vs. what is actually necessary. It's always a good thing to learn to assess in times like this....how much of your normal gym routine is productive and helping you reach your goals? How much do the things you have decided are your goals matter to you? Or are they just things that you think should be your goals? The things that got you to a certai…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/20 07:34 PM
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Looking at your reading list, you missed the Athol Kay and Bluepill Professor books. Those do the best job of translating theory to application within the dynamic of a marriage.
/r/askMRP17/04/20 01:21 PM
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Sounds here like you lift and you read the scripture. That's the easy part. Here's a likely red flag that you haven't actually done "the work": We fight more than anything else. By week 3, any OYSing Noob has figured out how to decrease fighting to 10-20% of what it was prior. Some fights can't be avoided, but most are just a waste of your time. If you feel the need to argue back constantly, you missed something. I've turned around a worse situation than yours. I'm sure most successful guys here…
/r/askMRP16/04/20 09:01 PM
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I've got a better setup in my house than I have at my gym...I just opt for gym under normal circumstances for the bro time. replacement for Squats and Deadlifts Plyometrics are your best bet if you wants to build power. Keep it simple. Plyometrics aren't conditioning. Jump as high as you can and bring your knees to your chest x5. 30-50 total reps. Spend as little time on the ground as possible. Low reps, full rest. Don't make it conditioning. Depending on how locked down your local area is, 20-4…
/r/askMRP15/04/20 02:02 PM
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You're fetishizing a situation that will only work if one particular person decides to give you something that they have no desire or incentive to give you. And you're using your kids as an excuse to feel noble for not facing the things that scare the shit out of you. If you aren't willing to choose yourself over this shit situation, you aren't a man. And your kids will know what a pussy you are. They might be grateful that you were present, on the one hand. And they won't be able to admit it to…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 06:33 PM
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2) Blow the whole thing up- Doesn't work for me. Why? What if your wife decides, without your input, that it works for her?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 05:40 PM
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You know she has been fucking around. Why are you working so hard to re-prove it?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 04:19 PM
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can't remember who I copped it from. Original story was from a guy who went by druganswer
/r/askMRP08/04/20 05:41 PM
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Right. You seem to get it. Ultimately, whether you get it right or wrong isn't that important. That's not to say nothing matters. You've just got to make your decisions you can respect yourself after making. That you don't have to bullshit yourself into "realizing" what you decided is "good enough". Do the thing you need to do, and deal with the consequences as they arise. One of the more important things I've learned as I went through my own unfucking process is that a) Most of the things you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 06:07 PM
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Bar Chart of frequency vs. ovulatory cycle was what ultimately convinced my wife.
/r/askMRP07/04/20 06:04 PM
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Sleep still sucks – without Lunesta it doesn’t happen at all. I’d love to kick it, but I need the sleep. It’s not even anxiety or thoughts keeping me up… I just don’t fall the fuck to sleep OR wake up 2 hours after falling asleep. Glycine is a decent sleep aid. 2 TBS ~ 20-30 min before bed usually does pretty good for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 02:54 PM
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I’d really appreciate feedback for this week concerning embracing self. If you aren't close to this point yet, then this stuff... I know that I need to let go, and re-embrace myself and my woman with love - be vulnerable, again. This is why I’ve began spoon-feeding myself TWOTSM. ....is kind of putting the cart before the horse. Vulnerability gets a bad rap here, because it's misunderstood as a concept. Most guys see it as a way to display to their woman that they love and trust them enough to s…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 02:25 PM
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How much data do you have on this? Many times women just don't realize how infrequently they are having sex. Start charting sexual frequency in a spreadsheet or something. If you have some concrete evidence to approach her with, it could help quantify to her how much she is neglecting your sexual needs.
/r/askMRP07/04/20 01:34 PM
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Meh. Doesn't seem to be a good faith question to me. Not even a comfort test. It's wife saying "Tell me how lost you would be without me." That kind of manipulation doesn't warrant an authentic response.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 06:05 PM
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I basically use swings, getups and chins as my assistance lifts with 531. For me, that's a 4 day/wk template of barbell training. I also do an additional 2 days of just regular S&S with no barbell lifting, and do nothing on 1 day. So if it's a bench day, it goes: Swings 10xL Swings 10xR Bench set 1 Swings 10xL Swings 10xR Bench set 2 ...etc Then I'll do my get-ups and do a set of 3-5 chin ups between each get up. So I lose the S&S concept of it being done in a fixed time period....But I can usua…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 07:11 PM
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I'm impressed...can't imagine doing a get-up with 70% of my press max. I've had kettlebells and been reading Pavel since the late 90s, but never got much in terms of results. The big missing piece for me was when I finally read S&S and incorporated the low rep hardstyle swings rather than just swinging away for high reps. And also, upgrading bells from a 24 to a 32. The difference between them was massive. I can feel the muscle that's packed on my midsection, lats, and lower glute area that I ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 06:32 PM
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Every day I’m working on Pavel’s Simple and Sinister routine This routine is awesome. You're doing 32kg swings & get ups at your strength level....how's that going? Just based on my own experience....all of my barbell lifts, aside from dead, are literally more than double yours. It took me a solid month to work up to the 10x32kg get up....i took it slow, per the program instructions. I'm working with the 40 now for my middle 3 sets of both and exercises it's a bitch. So I'm kind of amazed that a…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:14 PM
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Frequency is waaaay down and I'm still getting butt hurt here and there and not initiating as punishment at times. If your wife isn't begging to fuck you, this punishment has no teeth. Would be like telling your kids they haven't earned the right to do their household chores. Also..."Making me feel butthurt" is not bad behavior. It's a evidence of the current state of your frame. If frequency being down coincides with the quarantine, there's a pretty good chance the fucked up logistical situatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 02:23 PM
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Interesting. It is probably something my own mindset would have more control over than I had initially thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/20 01:28 PM
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On behalf of the internet, I bestow upon you permission to leave her.
/r/askMRP24/03/20 12:52 PM
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Buy this and a challenging kettlebell. A guy could have both at his front door by Tuesday for probably $120 or less. Something so minimal and effective really changes your idea of what is actually necessary to maintain a high level physique. I had some logistical issues with my usual gym over Jan & Feb, so I started doing S&S exclusively. Didn't touch a barbell for 2 months, and then was hitting PRs within 2 weeks of getting back to the barbell.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 06:04 PM
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When a guy attempts to help someone by introducing him to the red pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 08:55 PM
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I'm good with how I operate. Not about me.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 07:28 PM
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The only truly effective way to Red Knight another dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 07:11 PM
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I don't understand the paranoia around this. Having some other dude raise my kids part time creeps me out a bit, but everything else can be replaced or rebuilt. I honestly want to know Barracuda's why and how he frames his marriage in his own head.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 07:01 PM
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What does your 165 lb wife bring to the table that keeps you married?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 05:37 PM
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Internally, I am afraid of myself, of being an empty shell. I cannot come with any interesting thing to do. I can lift, read, work, surf but apart from that I am a robot doing chores. I am not sad, just... empty. I might be depressed, it is a feeling I have for a few days. If this continues I will visit a doctor. In the meantime I will read, work, lift, think... Depression & boredom can drive creativity if you don't get lost in it. Not necessarily creativity as art.....just in finding something …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 01:38 PM
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Having the right system in place is generally a good thing. You just have to realize the system does not perpetuate itself. You still have to be the thing to provide the energy to the system, every single day.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/20 01:32 PM
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It's only relevant to you, and that's because you draw so much of your identity and self worth from a school you attended 10 years ago. It's usually pretty easy to tell what guys think makes them special. It's not necessary for anyone here to know anything about your university, or the status you think it bestows upon you. But you think it's relevant for us to know enough about you to get a read on your situation. It doesn't matter, and your woman doesn't give a fuck either.
/r/askMRP14/03/20 09:25 AM
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https://70sbig.com/blog/2012/06/every-man-can-squat-405/ Those are pretty reasonable lifts for an athletic 31 year old guy with a more than 3 years of training under his belt. If the only lift numbers you're looking at are in OYS, you've got a pretty limited scope of what's out there. I played football at a shitty non scholarship D3 school, and 400 squat/300 bench was pretty standard for guys his size. If any of those guys had kept training strength, those numbers at 30 would be no problem. But …
/r/askMRP13/03/20 02:16 PM
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Background - 31M, Ivy League grad, Vegan & Crossfit too? You waited until the second paragraph. I'm impressed at your restraint. am I AW-ing her? Yes, you are clearly Alpha Widowing her. Just dial back your alpha a little bit so she feels better about fucking randos. Buy her flowers, watch Steel Magnolias and shed a couple of tears just to balance everything out.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 01:31 PM
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she told my wife about the affair so I don't know why she would've hidden a previous one Limited Hangout
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 06:49 PM
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my worry was that I was going too hard when my smv didn't back it up. Fat ugly guys fuck. Skinny ugly guys fuck. But nobody who doesn't initiate and escalate does. Project as much confidence as you can muster, and roll with it when you get rejected. "Monk Mode" and "Can't be bothered to try" guys are usually just scared of rejection. Whether successful or unsuccessful, sex is just something you do. It's not a metric to judge your worth by.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 02:53 PM
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Guess all I can do is stop being a pussy and keep doing the work Maybe stop being a pussy and initiate. Or is your dream to do all this work so that she finally mans up and initiates?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 02:10 PM
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Part of me would rather masterbate than go through the lacklustre sex we had yesterday. Sex god method yet? If you fuck once a week or so, you're at least not a dead bedroom. You're getting the opportunity to make it better for yourself. Bring energy that's worth connecting to. Don't expect your wife to do it for you. Initiate at different times and places. Change the energy of the encounters. You probably won't get to a completely fulfilling sex life until you're a more fully realized man....ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 01:34 PM
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This probably best describes the mentality I have had on housework. The precondition is probably letting go of the idea that what anyone else does should matter to you. Certain things need to be done in my house in order for me to feel comfortable there, so I get them done. If my wife gets them done before I do, then that's great. I also realized at a certain point that something like loading and unloading the dishwasher takes me less than 15 minutes, so it's not really worth the mental energy o…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 07:52 PM
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Continue to set small boundaries What do you mean by small boundaries?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 03:31 PM
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Well, obviously not gay. I assume it's a pretty natural brain chemistry thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 09:10 PM
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Also note - in many churches, shame is its vehicle for control. Not God's, IMO, but it is for the group of people who make up the church. And I think you've maybe internalized that and point it at yourself because it's the only way you know to assert control. It ultimately doesn't work, and is actively counter-productive to the ultimate goal here, which is operating from your own mental point of origin.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 08:02 PM
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Scolding yourself for following the wrong people still reads like blame shifting to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 07:51 PM
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Experimenting is fine, usually best done within a particular framework. My top priority is to never get injured. Main goal is to still be able to bench 3, squat 4, and dl 5 when I'm 50, 60, and maybe 70. Occasionally I'll decide I want to see how far I can push one of the lifts, but generally my goal is just to get in and do the work and slowly goose up the weight. Slowly being the key for me....since longevity is my main goal, I don't really care about what I can max out at on a given day. Even…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 07:47 PM
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If they said it was for human consumption, they wouldn't be able to sell it to you. take it or leave it. No negatives for me to this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 06:58 PM
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google "liquid tadalafil".
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 06:47 PM
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owning my shit. Bullshit. Is there a single actionable item? You're ranting about abstractions. This bath of shame you poured on yourself is nothing but a show. It does nothing to help you, but it sure makes you feel like you look tough and mean business to the new congregation you're trying to impress......randos on the internet. Shifting the approval you seek from your old church to this new one is an end that is just as dead. Would you talk to your own kids like you talk to your self? Or a fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 06:41 PM
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If you have thoughts of what I’m doing, You aren't doing anything except ruminating Need to set in stone that habit You have the 25 year old mindset that things will be automatic if you plan the right system. I've been lifting at least 4 days per week since 2011. It's as ingrained as a habit will ever be, and aside from the 10 minutes I take to drink my first coffee, it's my favorite part of each day. But at 445 each morning, I still have to make the decision drag my ass out of bed instead of hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 06:19 PM
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Did you come up with this routine yourself? Adding strength without smashing yourself into the ground is a well worn path. You don't need to reinvent the wheel. Pick a proven routine and just do it as written. There are loads of them out there that work, provided you follow the directions....and play the long game, as you say.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 06:01 PM
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Bullshit posturing. This post is worthless.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 04:51 PM
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Here's what I'd do: Just do them myself and not say a word about it. If I blew off a defined responsibility at work and my boss just did it for me without calling me out, I'd be both mortified and wonder what was going on. So let her hamster run. If she notices and says "I was going to do the dishes" or "Why did you do the dishes? I thought we agreed that I would do them." Just a simple "Oh, I just saw that they needed done. You seemed busy." without a hint of snark or resentment. Take down the …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 04:29 PM
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When she brought it up for a third time, I had enough. I said, “From now on, I want you to do the dishes.” She just said, “Okay.” That was it. Nice. I think you handled this well. When she starts getting lax on the dishes, how will you handle it?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 03:59 PM
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I want to make them proud A key realization. Holding yourself to their standard will most likely lead to resentment. Defining your own standard and seeking that is the only way that ends up with you getting what you want to get out of whatever you are pursuing. I grew up with helicopter parents to some extent....literally took until I was in my late 30s to fully let go of their expectations and judgement. And you realize, your relationship with parents is like a woman or anyone else - it's their…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 03:50 PM
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I'll take a stab... I get a better connection to my wife's emotional vulnerability when we communicate on the level Blarg describes. That's something I enjoy having access to. I couldn't have had that as an unattractive, weak, needy person. Who wants to share their raw self with an insecure leech who is going to poke at the flaws as soon as they are exposed? But coming from secure place, you get access to things like that. And there's nothing detrimental, in my experience, from being there. Quit…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 10:46 PM
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Put my 42 year old wife on Simple & Sinister. Showed her the moves about 3 times and turned her loose in the home gym with a couple of light but challenging KBs. 30 minutes a day. Start her off on a short routine (2-3 moves). Better to have her unavoidable complaints be "I feel like I'm not doing enough" rather than "This hurts", "Too sore", "What is this working" Training untrained chicks is so easy. Literally anything gets results. All they really want is to not look stupid and not be in pain.
/r/askMRP05/03/20 07:07 PM
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guilty
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 10:38 PM
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Well, that's up to you. But nevermind your wife - you might be surprised at the bomb it drops on you and your own psyche. But maybe that's what you need. Or maybe it's no thing for you. Every guy is different. Wives are all different too....for good or for bad, the results are unpredictable. Sometimes that incendiary fire is necessary to burn away layers of underbrush. ...or maybe it torches your house. Don't take this as me endorsing either route.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 09:42 PM
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My wife started fucking me and well around Christmas, after I notified her that either we started having an intimate and sex life or I was done. Now we are back at square one. And tonight I am in a rage. I’m in a rage because I want an intimate sexual partner and I don’t have it. In the heat of right now I’m repulsed by my wife and her un-availability, but I feel like the rage is aimed at me for not getting what I want. And what I want is not my wife, what I want is intimacy, sex and connection.…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 09:27 PM
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Good answer. The program is written the way it's written for a reason. A tenet of that program is training below your maximal effort. If you go up, you probably just end up plateauing sooner
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 08:50 PM
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On bench press day I accidentally lifted about 10 pounds heavier than I was supposed to do. Felt good just difficult. It's funny how believing you are supposed to lift a certain weight can allow you to lift it even if you have never gone that high before. So what happens next? Do you adjust your bench numbers, or get back to the program?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 05:43 PM
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Next, you should go over to /r/minecraft and post "I have no use for the game, I have all sorts of awesome shit going on in my life that keeps me too busy, so why do you think should I play?"
/r/askMRP04/03/20 02:39 PM
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I still don’t feel abundance because I haven’t cultivated options outside of my wife. Maybe so. It's a completely different dynamic to be choosing a person when you have options vs. making the choice to limit your options because of a choice you made a long time ago. I'm not going to say I recommend it, because not all guys are equipped to handle the fall-out. Only you will know what you can manage, and if you haven't been down that road, you probably don't even know whether you can.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 09:48 PM
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Then do that. I've always been under the impression that you're supposed to knock some weight off and work back up. The reason those popular programs are popular is that they adjust themselves to the pace you're at. Whether you slow down or you deload, doing that is how you follow the program. It's part of the recipe....It's not failure.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 08:15 PM
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Week 8 of the Stronglifts 5x5 program and I’ve plateaued. What does the program say to do when you plateau?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 07:18 PM
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Assuming accuracy Bodyfat and muscle measurements are best used as directional indicators, not accurate measurements. Don't worry about it. Just keep them going in the right direction. These stats, "13 lbs of muscle"...are not necessary for anything other than to stroke yourself to. So whatever you want to believe is great. Nobody cares but you.
/r/askMRP03/03/20 06:06 PM
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Most likely nothing too serious but when I decide it’s not serious then I stop being involved. Which leaves my wife to manage doctors, lab tests etc. and she goes nuts. Is that a covert contract btw? I will get involved with the daughter’s medical issues and you will be nice to me? I think I still have to be involved, for my kid’s sake. Right, this is obviously a covert contract the way you frame it. You should be involved because you need to be informed and involved. If you get involved in the …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 04:40 PM
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ECT...wow. Amazing the shit guys will put themselves through to please their woman. You seem to know this, but resenting her isn't going to get you anywhere. You've got to own that you chose all of these things....even if someone else steered you that way. With your mission, I found I had to just kind of start doing things until something sticks. A lot of the time, it's something that's sitting right there in your face that you don't notice because it's just become part of the ambient noise in y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 04:18 PM
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I think /u/HornsofApathy nails the missing piece: We must tell faggots here that open and honest communication IS a problem because they're doing it wrong from a place of neediness rather than abundance. In terms of my wife, I've generally got little use for manipulating the power dynamic to my strategic advantage in my marriage. I don't want anything from her that she doesn't want to provide. That's abundance. And that frees her to usually go above and beyond what I'd ever ask for, in ways I'd …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 09:29 PM
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Good stuff, Blarg. I relate. I want to feel everything, and then be able to handle it. Exactly. I'm in a place where I feel totally comfortable with stripping away some of the things I had built up as mechanisms to help me stand on my own. I want to feel my feelings, and I want to experience my wife's feelings too...without judgement. Good and bad...and splash around in them. When they cease to be scary, you see that feelz are really where life is lived and you can just experience it for what it…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 04:49 PM
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I do them for me, but it is hard not to see it as a dancing monkey approach Would it be a dancing monkey approach if you lived by your fucking self?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 02:54 PM
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It’s become very routine and a bit boring for me. Only boring people get bored. Probably time for SGM. I suspect 'bored and couldn't be bothered' is code for pouting about her level of enthusiasm. Quit expecting her to perform for you and 'give you' better sex. That pressure to perform and feeling judged by her level of performance ramps up her inhibitions. You'll never get the uninhibited fuck you want if that's how your sexual encounters are framed.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 04:20 PM
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You don't have to turn into a jackass overnight, or even see your wife as an adversary at this point, maybe ever. There are a lot of places to pick the low hanging fruit while you get your shit together. But if you think you can just fill in all the areas where you see gaps, and become Captain Awesome and your wife will see this and be fulfilled and appreciative, you've got it exactly backward. You'll get to that point and wonder why you still feel the same, and she'll actually be less attracted…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 02:34 PM
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This all reads like you're trying to do this without offending your wife. "Don't go Rambo" "engaging fully on all decisions" (sounds passive, offering opinions to things your wife asks rather than leading) "FO remains top notch in my opinion" Your wife is clearly on a pedestal. You're going to run smack into a dead end if you think you can keep it that way. What's this mean? I read about the levels of dread and am excited about the actions but really don’t see it in the frame of my marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 06:17 PM
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You start a perfectly valid confrontation about how you guys are dealing with the kid's smoking, and immediately bash her over the head with the fact that she doesn't desire you? Keep the woe is me act to yourself. It's not attractive, and no amount of bringing this up to your wife will ever do anything but repulse her. Never, ever, ever have that come up in a conversation with any woman, ever again.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 05:30 PM
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I proposed doing planning for our next five years together. This is probably on account of the "boring beta fuck" vibes given off by my currently low SMV. Honestly, I completely failed and yelled in a butthurt manner as a response. It has been a bit hard coming to grips with thet fact that we might not necessarily have a future together (applying the Brad Pitt test, "Would a woman jump at the chance to plan her next five years with Brad Pitt?") I don't know what types of things you are planning,…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 05:07 PM
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If this is your thing, good deal. Sounds like it's going well for you. But I struggle to understand the manosphere obsession with gym fighting.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 04:20 PM
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Bahahaha...
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 04:05 PM
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I was reading a mail from Mensa at the time, so it hit especially hard. Now this is how you humblebrag. Internet guys love to stroke themselves over IQ numbers, but it's kind of like being tall. Being tall is great, and I'd rather be tall than short. But if a big piece of what you see as your identity is the fact that you're tall, that's pretty fucking lame. I know more tall guys who suck at basketball than tall guys who are actually good at it. Same concept - it's a pretty small piece of the bi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 02:29 PM
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So this is all about getting to fuck one more time per week?....and if you get that, you'll be satisfied? Or will you just start working for 5? And eventually for the magical 7 for 7? I'm dubious. I suspect your libido is an abyss.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 08:36 PM
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When you initiate....how often is it just a check to see if she's receptive? There's a difference between a guy who wants to take a woman vs a guy who wants to see if she'll say yes and will take the sex as an added bonus. I think women can sense the difference. Just judging by the way you phrase things ("23 days since...."; "I still get them (hard no) half the time"), it seems you're at least mentally spreadsheeting....which makes me think the over-initiating is driven by your desire to get a y…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 04:30 PM
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Yet, she sits in my office and tells me how her husband doesn’t do this or that. How he only has his GED. He plays video games and on and on. Sounds like you're a great listener.
/r/askMRP25/02/20 03:58 PM
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Don’t worry about him he might figure it out some day. color me skeptical
/r/askMRP25/02/20 02:06 PM
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Nope. He's right. Your problem is no more complex than fortune cookie level. You want "insight", because you think this is complicated. It's simple. But Simple <> Easy
/r/askMRP24/02/20 09:39 PM
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My point is....does that even matter? It wouldn't to me.
/r/askMRP24/02/20 08:27 PM
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Same guy? Yeesh. You aren't directing yourself - you pretend to, then check her in the rearview mirror to see if what you did is OK. Your whole post is framed as giving her what she needs, and how you feel bad for how you reacted to her. You're still doing this to win her over. There's no winning - AG gets the attention and adoration from your wife that you want. You lost. Even IF she's never touched his dick. All you get is her obligation, he gets the desire.. Maybe this whole AG situation will…
/r/askMRP24/02/20 07:47 PM
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Betas don't fuck Alphas' wives. Alphas fuck Betas' wives. Your wife is drawn toward the Alpha behavior, not your belief in what Alpha is.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 06:25 PM
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Basically, you're attempting to demand something you have no leverage to enforce. You want her to behave a certain way. You can't do that - all you can control is you. The only thing you can do is communicate your disapproval, and then use whatever techniques you are comfortable with when she engages and tries to bait you into justifying your feelings (DEER). Your loss isn't that you had the fight - although the fight is pretty worthless. You are right that your victim mentality is hurting you..…
/r/askMRP24/02/20 05:42 PM
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Eventually, you realize that getting something wrong doesn't end up being that big of a deal. Real confidence comes from knowing that even if you fuck it up, you'll be OK in the long run. You only get that confidence by surviving through the mistakes.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 02:41 PM
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Apparently I'm here this week to tell guys to stop being such bitches about washing dishes and picking up their fucking laundry. This isn't a choreplay thing, or a "help your wife" thing. It's your house, dude. Keep it in a state that you'd find acceptable. This applies verbatim for you, so you can read my reply here. My wife would rather sit on my lap and fetch me glasses of wine than have me in the bedroom hanging up my clothes, or wiping off the kitchen counter. But she knows I won't be spend…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 10:35 PM
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Friends are great, but you're obviously looking for someone to tell you what to do, or that what you are doing is OK. Learn to deal with your own shit instead of offloading it on other people, or looking for validation/confirmation. A vision quest is done alone for a reason.
/r/askMRP18/02/20 08:55 PM
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I mean, you should do what works....and it seems you haven't figured that out. Did you start out too fat or too skinny?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 08:33 PM
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didn't make gainz on the bar until my weight started to increase Heavier guys move more weight. It's why competitions have weight classes. A bulk/cut cycle fools you into thinking you're progressing. Get skinny & weak > get fat & feel stronger > get skinnier & weak, etc. It's all fuckarounditis.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 07:32 PM
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PHYSICAL Switching to 5x5 during bulk. Bulk/cut cycle is outdated and counter-productive....especially for someone like YOU. Nobody who is 19% bodyfat should "bulk", unless you're trying to play OG in the Big Ten. The fact that you carry fat on your body this easily means you should almost never eat more than maintenance. You're an endomorph. Sucks for your appetite, but your bulk is just going to make you fat with minimal additional muscle gain. If you want to take a break from cutting weight a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 06:45 PM
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fixed the link
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 05:20 PM
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Stretching hasn't really helped the pain/stiffness in the hips when squatting. Warm up a with 3x5 of these
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 04:48 PM
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I’ve been letting my resentment get the better of me: the more my wife refuses to step up her game on the domestic front, Learn to handle shit on your own. It's the best thing I ever did. It's really not that difficult once you let go of the female driven idea that domestic work should be equal. Most of the shit I spent so much time avoiding can be knocked out in a grand total of 45 minutes a day. Figure out what things you find important, and what things you only upkeep because of this idea tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 04:15 PM
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I hate myself for bringing four kids into the world when I was so critically unprepared. I am afraid that I need to choose between my own development and theirs, that I need to sacrifice either them or me, because I don't have the time or resources to give all of us what we need to thrive. Somewhere deep down I know this isn't true, but this fear haunts me daily. Nobody is ever properly prepared for kids. Your own learning and work on development will give them an example to follow if/when they …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 03:55 PM
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made sure to brag it up to the workplace and any of her peers too. I hope you mean she did the bragging, not you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 03:45 PM
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I'm just not sure why you would want to do that. You either *can* do better, or you can get to a point where you can do better. You're locking yourself into a box by staying. You aren't staying out of choice - your conscience is telling you that this doesn't match up with the person you want to be. It's why you're "struggling" with so many things. You'll never respect yourself if you stay. Best you'll do is memorize the dance steps of living the lie that you 'chose' to stay.
/r/askMRP17/02/20 08:10 PM
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always holding myself to this standard to the point that I don't even try. In my experience, the perfectionist mindset is just a way that people who are afraid to fail lie to themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/20 06:12 PM
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Cardio is gay. Just take a walk. If you're getting dinged up kickboxing, maybe re-assess it as a priority. I don't buy the whole manosphere meme about combat sports. As I age, protecting my health is my absolute #1 priority. I can't imagine risking that for some play fighting. If you love it, great...I understand some things you just need in your life. You're 29, so maybe you have another few years of it before the dings linger. But there are lots of ways to scratch that competition itch that do…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/20 05:35 PM
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