Classic_Overthinker Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	Women need to realize why men be so hurt and angry when a divorce comes up I paid for the rings AND all the divorce papers. God damn 😭🤣	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/22 08:25 PM
3	How do I not let my feelings towards my ex affect my children? But OP didn't say she has no positive value. If she's a bad mom and unhealthy for kids to be around her, then yes... It's a different conversation. But if it is good for kids to have her in their life, then that relationship should be nutrured with positive reinforcement. I can't stand my ex wife either, but she's a good mom. So I keep that resentment away from the kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/22 07:35 PM
3	How do I not let my feelings towards my ex affect my children? Speak positively about her to/around the kids. Don't lie, but leave out the negatives and only highlight the positives ("mom loves you", "mom misses you", "mom is excited to see you", "do you want to call mom today, I bet she's love that") You can feel the way you feel about her, but shelter your kids from those feelings. Vent your frustrations to friends and family or anyone who will want to support you. That's where you can deal with your resentment. But when dealing with kids, forget about yo…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/22 06:46 PM
1	Not even close to divorced yet and she’s had another man in the house Yeah my ex wife had someone in my bed within a couple days of agreeing to a trial separation. Needless to say the trial became permanent pretty quickly. It's frustrating to say the least. But it did help validate my decision to give up and move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/12/21 12:46 PM
3	Why can I not hate her? I understand how much it hurts to see her stuff. that will fade too. I remember one time I went to her place to pick up kids. I had to go into her room to get something. It was our old room and i had to get something of our old bed. I stood at the entrance of the room and had a panic attack. Freaked right out. Ran into the room, grabbed the thing and ran out. And I consider myself a pretty emotionally tough guy. Don't be embarrassed or ashamed. Remember that the people who are by your side seein…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/18 01:21 AM
9	Why can I not hate her? I relate to you, man. My wife and I were fortunate enough to have 2 kids, but pretty much everything else you've shared reminds me of my own story. My wife grew distsnt over the last few years. She often talked about wanting a big change and being unhappy. I knew things were bad between us in August when she blew up over a high water bill and said she should just move out to save money (as if that somehow made sense). It was over 2 months later. And she started seeing someone almost immediately.…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/18 12:53 AM
5	Advice on what I should do. First, you should cut off all communication with this other woman and not contact her unless you end up leaving your wife. No good can come from that. And if you cheat (physically or emotionally) it willl only hurt your case if you divorce and go through the courts. Don't send her another msg and ignore all incoming msgs from her. You also need to sit down with your wife and talk about this. Its a hard talk to have, but it has to happen. You say you love your wife but are unhappy. That's common.…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/04/18 02:50 PM
2	Losing the Kids - How to Manage? I have split custody of my kids. Only been split for 5 months so this is pretty new to me. Right now, we share the kids throughout the week so I don't have to go long stretches without seeing them. That makes it easier. But when I don't have them, i always try to keep busy. I try to get together with a friend or go to the gym or just go to the mall. Anything to keep me from being alone. Eventually, I think i will feel okay being alone. But until then, I just try to keep busy. And like a previous…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/18 06:19 PM