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I do pretty well with women besides being, on paper, someone who shouldn't. I'd like to be helpful to others and be a counter-balance to voices online that talk about romance and seduction in dehumanizing ways.
/r/seduction30/07/21 10:30 AM
3

I would recommend trying to have as many conversations as possible OUTSIDE of a seduction context. If you're a hermit like this you just need to get social. This might seem silly but when I was trying to grow from an impossibly introverted person to a more social animal, I practiced making old people smile at the grocery store and on campus. Senior citizens are usually bored, good at conversation, and of course have the same social responses as people in your peer group, but lower stakes. I shit…
/r/seduction27/07/21 06:00 PM
2

I'm your height, not particularly well-to-do and would cosign the original post as the sort of thing that works for me. Chicks like me because I'm talented, present myself well, and I'm fun to be around.
/r/seduction04/06/21 10:08 PM
2

I've dated/hooked up with women I've met in the US, Canada, Europe and Asia. You don't have to be in the top 10% of men (whatever the hell that even means) to get with attractive women. There are plenty of dudes with money and great fitness levels who are excruciating to be around who only get sex that they buy, and there are poor dudes who are well groomed and a blast to be around that are doing great for themselves. Human beings don't live cookie-cutter lives.
/r/seduction04/06/21 07:55 PM
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I disagree with the notion like any sort of objective percentage rank can be credibly made in a world with 8 BILLION different viewpoints. as far as a well written counter-argument, what could I say that hasn't been posted here ad infinitum by all of us short, fat, poor, guys who ARE getting laid that the math-gremlins aren't already choosing to ignore? If you are some combination of well-groomed, pleasant to be around, and "open for business" women will FIND you and try to make romance happen. …
/r/seduction04/06/21 07:38 PM
-4

Your worldview is simultaneously depressing and incorrect. If you're going to live your life based on a fantasy, why wouldn't you make it pleasant one?
/r/seduction04/06/21 06:46 PM
97

Accepting that some things are out of your reach is infinitely more attractive than basing your personality on being sad about something you can't change. In this way the power and responsibility are back in your own hands.
/r/seduction04/06/21 06:33 PM
5

Way to take a small piece of good advice (don't text too much about stupid boring stuff) and turn it into an overly programmatic mess of rules.
/r/seduction02/06/21 07:50 PM
2

If she HONESTLY isn't someone you'd want to be friends with, then this is the right move. There is literally no point in being "just friends" with someone who you don't want to be friends with. THAT SAID, if she's actually the type of person you'd enjoy being friends with and you're not struggling with some type of internal attachment to her, then friendship is a great move for all kinds of reasons. Just be true to yourself without making others feel shitty and you're winning the game.
/r/seduction18/05/21 03:31 AM
22

For older guys, my advice is just to look open for business. Running around trying to chase everything that walks into the room is a bad look at a certain stage, instead you're trying to make sure that a woman who's trying to meet a guy like you knows you're there to be met. Doing simple stuff like wearing slightly more colorful or form fitting clothes than the average guy your age makes a huge difference. Same thing with a newer, more stylish haircut. I'd recommend going just about as daring as…
/r/seduction16/05/21 08:15 AM
285

I go to open mics for music, poetry, comedy, or whatever. I feel like a fair number of the women at these sorts of things are actively looking to meet people.
/r/seduction06/05/21 12:43 AM
1

Are you being serious here, or are you just fishing for a pep-talk? I'm sure you hate to hear this, but there are guys out there who are measurably worse off than you in all of the ways that you're most insecure about who are engaged in meaningful romance... and this generally coincides with them having a great attitude about life or being fun to be around. Based on your comments, it seems like misery and pessimism are the main things you offer to a potential partner.
/r/seduction02/05/21 06:36 AM
1

Why try at all? So, you're determined to be in a romantic relationship with the woman who left this specific comment?
/r/seduction01/05/21 05:16 AM
9

Yeah, go OUT and try. Online is space that will not give you any advantages.
/r/seduction28/04/21 01:57 PM
12

You almost got me there.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/03/21 01:14 AM
3

It sounds like you know what you need to work on then. That's a great boat to be in.
/r/seduction16/03/21 12:36 AM
1

I'm gonna sum this up so people don't have to deal with a multi-part post Doing generous things from a position of power without expectation is merciful and kind and attractive. Doing generous things from an inferior position hoping that these actions will boost you in some way is subservient, pathetic, and slimy.
/r/seduction11/02/21 03:16 PM
1

Witness the chosen one who likes intelligent women. The rest of us are all out here trying to mate with rocks and car bumpers.
/r/seduction05/02/20 10:47 PM
-1

I do sit ups while watching anime and I have abs. Must mean I'm a wizard.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/10/19 06:57 PM
0

Guys with abs aren't doing anything magical that the rest of guys can't do. Eat less and do a couple of sit-ups while you're watching your anime or whatever.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/10/19 06:34 PM
-4

As a nigga with abs, why would you expect a fine woman to lay up under you if you're fat and in too bad of shape to please her? Go jog twice a week and then you don't have to live in fear of a nigga who does stealing your woman.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/10/19 06:27 PM
-6

Dude, I'm trying to enjoy some funny memes here. Pump the brakes on your political talking-points.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/10/19 06:24 PM
2

Appealing and interesting are two wholly different things friend. After pulling someone's most interesting story out you may indeed find that you no longer wish to be with them. The moment and the conversation will still have been engaging and they'll feel closer to you
/r/seduction03/07/19 05:44 PM
2

Enlarge the talk then. Be bold and ask people about stuff like their hopes and dreams or (politely) challenge their views on a subject. Seduction mostly boils down to being charismatic and engaging with people. If you have a full conversation that's all small talk that means you're not doing what you set to.
/r/seduction02/07/19 10:54 PM
23

This is the winning comment. If you want to be REALLY charismatic, you've got to learn how to make other people interesting, and in a world full of people working full time and watching netflix when they're off, that can be difficult.
/r/seduction02/07/19 04:34 PM
22

Maybe it's because you treat the conversations more like a test?
/r/seduction02/07/19 04:32 PM
1

I carry on a fair number of FWB situations and I find the key is being ACTUALLY friendly like you'd be with a good friend who you don't see sexually, but also making sure that the people around you know that you're available for casual friendly sex without being a creep about it. If you're good at describing what you want and making it seem like a low-pressure good time it's not so hard. It becomes easier if you treat your fwbs well as even when they transition into more permanent relationships …
/r/seduction29/06/19 05:40 PM
6

They hate shitty gym pics and most gym pics are shitty.
/r/seduction29/06/19 05:31 PM
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This video probably got her pregnant.
/r/seduction25/06/19 02:18 PM
2

I'd be more likely to read something than watch a YouTube video, tbh.
/r/seduction18/06/19 08:35 PM
3

Value your self and your life and realize that no one person's approval can make it break you.
/r/seduction18/06/19 08:19 PM
3

First, stop thinking of her as a "10". Imagining that a woman is somehow superior because she gives you a boner is sure to make you act weird around her. Also this is how you stand out from other dudes.
/r/seduction18/06/19 08:05 PM
8

When you consider how many dudes spend their lives unwashed, playing video games and being a junk-food dumpster it's really not too hard to be above average.
/r/seduction16/06/19 01:28 PM
2

They stop what they're doing to greet you and enthusiastically introduce you to others.
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:16 AM
5

If you caught feelings then it wasn't a "pump and dump" and you're sad because you weren't honest with yourself about what y'all had going on.
/r/seduction19/05/19 02:47 AM
20

If it was a real emergency she'll probably reschedule things herself. No need to chase.
/r/seduction14/05/19 05:01 PM
5

You know, I completely skimmed over the token piece. That's sorta cringey to me.
/r/seduction10/05/19 08:52 PM
7

Cool, he screened a woman who he's not super compatible with while enjoying a fun evening in his home doing his favorite hobby. As long as he's talking to other women and not obsessed with this one he's just fine. Being overly obsessed if this one woman keeps seeing him is kinda weak.
/r/seduction10/05/19 04:56 PM
4

Does this post have any point besides complaining that someone in the world has it easy because they're hawt? This content should be on /r/IncelTears
/r/seduction30/04/19 12:12 PM
17

And dudes act retarded for hot chicks. Humans get stupid for hot people, especially on a medium as visual as Tinder. Next story: water is wet.
/r/seduction30/04/19 05:30 AM
1

Eh, that's a lot. If you're gonna be in the same place as the woman for a while it's often enough to notice something funny/odd about the room, mention it and just kinda walk away. Then if she's vibing with your observation she's likely to approach you later because you're the person who's already made a connection.
/r/seduction11/04/19 01:13 AM
0

Or he thinks that it's silly for you to say "these days"
/r/seduction04/04/19 10:25 PM
7

What does this have to do with any of the comments above it?
/r/seduction24/03/19 10:44 AM
13

PREACH! Playing the numbers is just for practice.
/r/seduction06/02/19 05:57 PM
5

I get hit on by women every now and then, I think it's because I'm kinda small and nonthreatening? Also it usually only happens when I'm at the beach or wearing a shirt that shows my shoulders and such.
/r/seduction06/02/19 05:56 PM
13

STARING is bad, looking is ok. Also, if you're looking and she sees you, make eye contact and smile. If your smile is warm and you're not horrible to look at (grooming, fitness, etc) she'll probably smile back and lord knows what'll happen from there.
/r/seduction31/01/19 05:47 PM
2

TBH it depends on who you are and how you feel... If you're a really hilarious guy that can make a great joke out of anything, go for it. OTOH if being super funny isn't your thing, just "pet the elephant in the room" by mentioning it honestly and moving on. As an example, I might say something like "I'm 21, that's not a big deal to you, is it?" in the same tone as I'd say "I enjoy the color blue, that's not a big deal to you, is it?" If she's a normal human being she'll probably be fine and wil…
/r/seduction26/01/19 06:37 PM
2

My bad dude. I should say... it doesn't seem like she wants exactly the same thing you want. She seems pretty satisfied with being flirty when she's drunk, and you want to have a full-on carnal relationship with a woman who's happy to get her freak on with you whenever the mood feels right. Neither of you are an asshole here. YOU COULD CONCEIVABLY "technique" your way into this girl's pants with expertly timed push-pull and whatever else, but trying to convince someone to feel a particular way i…
/r/seduction26/01/19 04:21 PM
4

I made a big effort to just be super friendly and open to talk to everyone, so when I decide to talk to a beautiful woman it doesn't feel weird, it's just the shit I always do.
/r/seduction26/01/19 03:24 PM
3

even made some joke about how I’ve turned into her gay best friend. Don't do that anymore.
/r/seduction26/01/19 03:19 PM
2

Should I chase her and be open about the fact I like her? Or should I be more casual and friendly and just see how things will works? You shoud be open about the fact that you like her and be be casual and see how things work out.
/r/seduction26/01/19 03:18 PM
1

Lying is for cowards and cowardice is unattractive. There's nothing wrong with your age and you don't need to feel bad about it. She'll probably only have negative feelings about your age if you make it obvious that you have negative feelings about your age. You're not trying to sell yourself to this person, you're trying to see if you two get along enough to... do whatever it is you're aiming for. Just talk about life stuff dude, bonus points if you can get her to explain something that she's p…
/r/seduction26/01/19 03:16 PM
28

Sex is worth more than your ego I'd say. This is one of the most desperate things I've ever read. There are millions of women in the world, none of them are so special that they're worth being shit on.
/r/seduction25/01/19 01:43 PM
2

Talk about the world around you. SOMETHING in it is interesting or noteworthy or funny to both of you.
/r/seduction24/01/19 04:17 PM
5

I bet you're in super-high demand!
/r/seduction21/01/19 12:15 AM
2

I'm with you. As I get older I'm better at just leaving my "available" signal on and not having to make a big move. If I'm doing everything right then there are plenty of invitiations for her to express interest and I have enough practice to know when I see a first move, even if it's a shy one.
/r/seduction18/01/19 08:24 PM
21

There are some women out there who are super into height but most don't care so much as long as you look ok together. As for the women who love height so much that they'd make the first move... they're not chasing you, they're looking for the guy who's 6'10"
/r/seduction05/01/19 04:05 AM
3

This sub needs a bot that answers every "How do I tell..." post with "Just tell them" and then locks the thread.
/r/seduction23/12/18 11:55 AM
1

Just... get to know each other, find out interesting stories about her life. When you're walking ask if she wants to hold hands... just be present and enjoy the moment.
/r/seduction22/12/18 08:38 PM
1

Lol, no. It's creepy.
/r/seduction22/12/18 08:06 PM
4

Off the top of my head: Eat more nutritious food. Wear clothes that you feel good in. Build new skills that you can be proud of. And maybe the biggest one. Check your media consumption for excess negativity and try to consume more encouraging stuff. TV and movies are a powerful alternate reality. So much programming is created to either make you feel angry or inadequate. This is to control you and sell you shit. Try to get a nose for when things are trying to make you feel this way and disengage…
/r/seduction22/12/18 06:45 PM
15

I never want to discourage anybody on here... but a mindset that the world is against you and that you must always be in combat against it is dangerous. Just wanted to pull my brother back to the light side. He says I misread him and I take him at his word. I just wish more dudes realized that brave positivity gets you laid a ton. Maybe we can spread that shit around more.
/r/seduction22/12/18 05:57 AM
3

It's my view that everyone is pretty lost in life, for at least the first few decades... that's why we're so addicted to being led and told what's normal and how to feel about things. The most attractive thing a person can do is to have things somewhat figured out and to give other people a path to follow. That's where the whole "girls like assholes" thing comes from. Some people are willing to look past you being a dick if you seem like you understand life and aren't afraid. However, if you can…
/r/seduction22/12/18 05:07 AM
5

I must have misunderstood. Best wishes with everything. We're all gonna be alright.
/r/seduction22/12/18 04:28 AM
6

I'm saying don't get mad at regular-ass people who are fooled by shit. They're just folks trying to get by. Don't be mad at "society" - you're a part of society. If you understand that you're being bullshitted, that's great. Just don't hold it against people when you could be positive and a leader instead. Don't add to the negativity.
/r/seduction22/12/18 03:54 AM
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You're CLOSE dude, but there's something that you're missing here. "Society" isn't against you. "Society" is just a bunch of confused people looking for a leader and trying to survive and for better or worse they don't care too much about you. Yes, there are COMPANIES that want to sell you shit and don't care how it effects your life, but those are algorithms and corporate boards and old dudes in suits and not representative of shit but themselves. Hollywood isn't real life. The shit you see on …
/r/seduction22/12/18 03:30 AM
2

I didn't say that it's not respectable, I just wanted to point out why he felt the way he did and prescribe a method to not feel that way in the future. As an aside, I'm of the opinion that thinking too much on "How do I get THAT girl?" is a massively harmful mindset. Every moment that you hype someone in your mind warps how you'll interact with them in the future. Getting to know the person is tainted, because you'll start trying to give them a pass on all of the real standards you usually have…
/r/seduction21/12/18 05:06 PM
3

You're doing it wrong my dude.
/r/seduction21/12/18 03:47 PM
6

I feel inferior, and i feel like im a cheap person.. i feel like i have a child like, cheap personality.. You feel this way because right now there's not much to you outside of your desire to please others. You need to have a thing. Something that you love and enjoy for it's own sake... something challenging so that when you do it you feel validated and like you've learned something. The thing can be bodybuilding, rock climbing, music, programming, WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT - it just has to be …
/r/seduction21/12/18 03:46 PM
1

Holy shit, a productive post! Listen to this guy people.
/r/seduction21/12/18 03:42 PM
5

Say something respectful that acknowledges their existence and maybe that you're glad they exist. There's gotta be something like that in your language/culture.
/r/seduction21/12/18 03:30 PM
81

This is why you're supposed to form good interpersonal relationships with as many people as possible. If you were the type of guy who says "hi" to the lunch-ladies, janitors, and every stranger you meet, nothing would seem weird about starting up a convo with this beautiful girl. Hell, she'd probably be like "oh, it's that super friendly guy everyone likes, I'm glad he's talking to me!" and your common ground would be that you would have SOMEONE in common in your extended social circle, even if …
/r/seduction21/12/18 02:40 PM
3

So if you're just really kind-hearted, there's nothing inherently wrong with that, it's just a bad thing if it drives you to suck up to or bend over backwards for approval and seem pathetic. The solution is to have the same high standard for how you treat everyone and have your own lines and boundaries that you always enforce no matter what. Then you're not the loser sniffing pretty girls' farts trying to curry their favor... you're just the really kind person that cares about everyone. Shitty p…
/r/seduction18/12/18 10:24 PM
2

I always recommend being KIND over being nice. Nice sucks up for approval, kind is powerful and benevolent. Nice goes out of their way hoping for a reward, kind gives from abundance because they like to see the people around them happy. When you're kind, people feel like you're their king, when you're nice you're more like a peon.
/r/seduction11/12/18 10:04 PM
2

I'd be interested in seeing your profile and giving polite feedback.
/r/seduction30/11/18 04:14 PM
2

If both parties have a really bizarre sense of humor this could be a good thing.
/r/seduction29/11/18 02:19 PM
1

Lol, the only thing that matters is that you feel comfortable and confident with the haircut my dude.
/r/seduction04/11/18 07:42 PM
4

Someone already did the difficult research on you and gave the stamp of approval. Also you probably seem happier and more confident when you feel liked.
/r/seduction06/10/18 03:11 AM
3

My next step would be to add a tl;dr to this post.
/r/seduction01/10/18 10:32 AM
5

Tinder is an imaginary thing though... if you get a woman's number while you're out and about you're immediately much more of a priority than some tinderoni that she's never met IRL.
/r/seduction21/08/18 05:38 AM
3

Smart post
/r/seduction24/07/18 12:21 PM
2

You can make it clear to everyone around you that you're a sexual being who's interested in forming intimate relationships without being a groveling beggar or a creep about it. I've never read that dude's book, but he probably means don't tell a woman "I need you to be mine" or some other needy BS.
/r/seduction12/06/18 02:02 PM
16

You're not wrong "Can I ask you a question?" Sounds really childish and submissive.
/r/seduction12/06/18 11:55 AM
2

Personally, I'm broke. Like, so broke I go to the bar and order a tall boy and nurse it all night unless someone buys me other drinks. I drive an 8 year old car with dents in it, and I'm 5'5" too. None of that stuff is important. In my experience, it still all seems to come down to being good at making interpersonal connections and taking really great care of your body/mind. I'm leagues better at this now than I was at 25 and I don't feel like I'll get worse at it when I'm older.
/r/seduction08/06/18 01:37 PM
1

I'm 35 and I get attention from more 22-27 year old chicks than I ever have. I guess everyone's mileage varies?
/r/seduction08/06/18 01:23 PM
4

If you take reasonable care of yourself, opportunities like that increase as you get older.
/r/seduction08/06/18 11:13 AM
1

There are billions of women on the planet and OP doesn't have time for ones that don't come correct or write in full sentences.
/r/seduction08/06/18 11:11 AM
6

This comment is significantly better than OPs pseudo-scientific BS. Thanks for writing it up.
/r/seduction17/05/18 02:46 AM
0

I'm a short guy, (5'6") who hooks up with tall girls every once in a while and I think I've noticed certain patterns. I'm most successful with taller women when I've just done something impressive and they approach me. I don't think I've ever walked up to a tall chick at a bar, said some smooth lines and gained interest a single time. On the other hand, if I play an open mic and really kill it, or give a cool presentation at work, or read my (not amazing) slam poetry women of all stripes and hei…
/r/seduction10/04/18 04:35 PM
2

Being able to scan the room and tell which women look like they want to meet someone that night is the most bankable attribute of them all, tbh. If OP's friend is decent at that, sky's the limit.
/r/seduction16/03/18 03:43 AM
2

I know a guy in a motorized wheelchair who's arms work just about enough to get the chair going and he's got a hot girlfriend who hits the gym and whatnot. Just gotta make the moves.
/r/seduction16/03/18 03:40 AM
1

Any fun conversation works, you're just trying to have both people walk away with contact info exchanged and excited to meet up later.
/r/seduction09/03/18 06:59 PM
1

You don't exude sufficient sexuality. There could be a dozen reasons for this. Work out a little bit more and wear better fitting clothes.
/r/seduction29/01/18 01:24 AM
0

If you actually think of them as targets, then yes it's a bad move. If you're just an awesome guy who puts love in the world that maybe chicks can grab onto if they want, then it's actually pretty great. Just be awesome in the group text with both of them at the same time and it'll pay dividends.
/r/seduction28/01/18 11:26 PM
1

If you were a legit guy on a regular basis, SOMEONE would want to hang out with you, right?
/r/seduction26/01/18 05:56 PM
1

When a third person shows up just rope them into the conversation. If dude is trying to be MEGAALPHA and you're having fun and being mellow he ends up sorta looking like a boob.
/r/seduction26/01/18 05:53 PM
3

That... title
/r/seduction26/01/18 05:47 PM
1

I'm 5'5" doing pretty well NOW after a long miserable before. All I can say is that you were never gonna bang them all, and that your negative feelings about your height are at least as damaging as the actual height. Conversely, displaying real self love is hot.
/r/seduction24/01/18 11:09 PM
5

Realize that nearly everyone feels a little bit awkward most of the time. If you remember this everyone is more relatable.
/r/seduction23/01/18 05:41 PM
3

Depends on what you have to say? I personally feel like text is almost the worst way to say anything, but sometimes it can't be avoided.
/r/seduction08/01/18 09:43 PM
4

Depending on how you say so, it can even make you seem thoughtful. Some chicks really like the idea of a thoughtful fuck buddy
/r/seduction08/01/18 09:33 PM
1

Maybe just don't neg?
/r/seduction08/01/18 08:33 PM
9

Say you don't feel like being with anyone right now and you prefer to be honest about it. Saying so up-front shows confidence and backbone.
/r/seduction08/01/18 08:32 PM
1

Less maturity tends to coincide with self centeredness. If she posts more selfies than calls to save the world she probably doesn't give a crap about anyone but herself.
/r/seduction13/12/17 10:05 PM
1

Do you have the expected number of eyes, ears and teeth? If the answer is yes, then some meticulous grooming should get you where you need to be.
/r/seduction30/11/17 09:48 PM
2

I mean, SOME women care... but you were never gonna fuck EVERY woman anyways
/r/seduction30/11/17 09:44 PM
2

I'm 5'5" and stuff like this works for me. If anything, being smallish can make a guy seem less threatening and more approachable.
/r/seduction30/11/17 09:41 PM
1

These are things that work and your tone wasn't douchey or dramatic. Have my upvote!
/r/seduction30/11/17 09:39 PM
7

Some women find the money less attractive than the idea of a person creating something. That sort of woman is usually a better time to be around and the second description speaks more directly to her.
/r/seduction27/11/17 06:26 PM
2

You're not starting that late. As long as you're alive you have time.
/r/seduction22/11/17 03:53 PM
1

If that's how you honestly feel, that's alright. If that's your excuse for being scared then cut it out.
/r/seduction12/11/17 02:40 PM
4

Yeah, its a little weird, but I own being a weird dude, so it works for me. Also, I know that my face always betrays how uncomfortable I am with receiving a compliment, so acknowledging that in an oblique way feels honest.
/r/seduction07/11/17 08:30 PM
2

"Thanks, I gladly accept your compliment!"
/r/seduction07/11/17 08:23 PM
13

Needy is a having woman-shaped hole in your heart that you're hunting to fill with anything that meets minimum requirements. Desire is noticing and being hooked on a specific thing about her presence and wanting to more. It's more observant and proactive than neediness.
/r/seduction31/10/17 11:41 PM
5

Both things are true. You're attractive AND you're nobody. Knowing that we're all nobody should hopefully be liberating for you.
/r/seduction30/10/17 10:20 PM
10

Treat them like amusing people who don't threaten you. You'll be alright.
/r/seduction20/10/17 03:36 PM
2

If she liked you enough she'd be over the other guy. You should only mess with girls who really really like you. Date other women .
/r/seduction14/10/17 01:21 PM
0

"This song is my jam, let's dance" I have no idea why this got down voted, it works.
/r/seduction08/08/17 04:16 PM
2

Wear sleeveless shirts during summer. Invite girls to the pool, river or lake. If you've got a nice V-taper, wear T-shirts that fit you well. Have fun!
/r/seduction08/08/17 04:16 PM
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The key to a great compliment is making about something the person has done, rather than about who they are. So, "you're sexy" is a cheap compliment, "that's a great looking dress" is an ok compliment, but "I like how your earrings match your dress is an amazing compliment." Also, compliment everyone so you get practice and don't seem overly thirsty.
/r/seduction15/05/17 04:42 PM
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Outside of doing something so incredible that she hears buzz about you and reaches out of her own accord? Not really.
/r/seduction05/04/17 10:18 PM
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I had a similar situation... I just practiced at being better socially. To be less shy I tried to be as charming as possible in low risk situations. This meant chatting up all the lunch ladies in the cafeteria at work, being super nice to strangers and generally trying to make the day of any cashiers and waiters serving me. I never actually hit on them, I just try to think "what would turn this into an actual human interaction, instead of us mindlessly dealing with each other".
/r/seduction20/12/16 09:47 PM
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I'm talking about the belly.
/r/seduction02/11/16 09:16 PM
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Maybe you're counting this as being well groomed, but taking care of your body is important. You don't need to be built like Hulk Hogan, but if you look down and can't see your dick, that's unattractive.
/r/seduction02/11/16 05:29 PM
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Exactly. The moment she finds herself thinking "why isn't he hitting on me?" is a very powerful one.
/r/seduction01/11/16 04:11 PM
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Go someplace where you can focus completely on the activities that you're enjoying
/r/seduction22/10/16 10:25 PM
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If it's a deep convo about the two of you hooking up... maybe
/r/seduction31/08/16 07:53 PM
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My dad was in the military and frequently absent as a result. I picked most of my of role models through fiction, tbh.
/r/seduction28/07/16 11:10 PM
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Negatively is the stinkiest cologne.
/r/seduction27/02/16 08:00 PM
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Do you act like you feel ugly? People can tell when you're down on yourself and it isn't sexy.
/r/seduction08/06/15 08:27 PM
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Ask her out like it's a normal thing. It can only be awkward if you act like it's awkward. You create the reality.
/r/seduction26/04/15 02:51 AM
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Thanks, we all need a reminder of this sometimes.
/r/seduction26/04/15 02:50 AM
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Do get awesome at something and do it in public. Women will preselect themselves and seek you out.
/r/seduction07/03/15 12:23 AM
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MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT
/r/seduction28/11/14 10:39 PM
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How much of your feelings you disclose has a lot to do with what those feelings are and how much control you have over them. Also, make sure that you're talking about your FEELINGS and not your PROBLEMS. Some guys don't know the difference. If you're tearing up at the unadulterated beauty of a sunrise or Old Yeller taking a slug to the face, then you're fine. If you suck at your new job, cry yourself to sleep at night over it and you're in real psychological pain, maybe tell a therapist instead …
/r/seduction30/07/14 12:21 AM
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I once read an article that said to find your "true" voice, you should (alone, preferably) say "no" forcefully like you would to an unruly dog. Do it a few times and pay attention to how your chest and throat feel and be mindful to maintain similar conditions when speaking normally... just not yelling.
/r/seduction30/05/14 08:09 PM
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