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Heh. Now that’s a blast from the past. Reading it now, I feel like a dick. But HOA was always very good about extracting value from every source- including me. He was a couple months ahead of me on the MRP journey, and he took it to some incredible heights. I’m grateful to have been part of his story. So what about you? Are you going to mine this forum for value? Or deceive yourself about how great your progress is?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 11:17 PM
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She comes from a long line of short term relationships with player type guys she was having sex with tons of guys before me and all of them were awful to her but reading how she talked she was always super into them I am a 39m married 5 years to 37f and we have one kid. She had her party years, hit the wall, and locked down the best beta provider she could find and sealed the deal by having a kid. It's almost like there was a script or something. On the positive side, you aren't fat. On the nega…
/r/askMRP10/03/24 02:56 PM
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Major DTC vibes.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/24 07:12 PM
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That’s 20% off his usual rate. Is it worth it? Depends on you OP.
/r/askMRP26/07/23 06:42 PM
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Slap her on the butt and add some kino. If it worked for Alex J Anderson, it will work for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 12:44 PM
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Sounds like “The Captain and her Husband”. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2yrxtp/the_three_dysfunctional_captains_and_first/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/askMRP23/10/22 02:41 PM
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Ok. I see from your other comments that you are engaged and living together. That changes things a little for me. Decide what boundaries are important to you and you are willing to enforce. Then communicate them from a place of abundance and be willing to enforce them when necessary. I’m married for 20 years. I don’t really care if my wife texts a guy or has dinner with him or goes dancing with him. But she cares about our relationship so she would ask me before doing any of those things. If she…
/r/askMRP23/10/22 12:01 AM
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She clearly has options. The question is: do you? And I guess we already know the answer for this. If you had options, you wouldn’t care and you wouldn’t be here asking this question. So go become a man that has options. How? Lift, sidebar, STFU, OYS. Just like everyone else.
/r/askMRP22/10/22 11:09 PM
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Red gets pegged? We have a channel for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 03:59 AM
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Yes you are. Specifically, you are HER little bitch. She doesn’t work, doesn’t keep house, cheated on you, and the sex sucks. But you don’t want a divorce…
/r/askMRP23/08/22 10:02 PM
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Leading your wife into fitness
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/22 05:53 PM
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In my marriage I have developed only "defensive" MRP techniques ​ Here are some thought pattern posts you should read and contemplate on how they might apply to you. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2w6qjy/bprp_thought_patterns/ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4c4f9l/a_theory_of_alpha_beta_and_frame/
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/22 05:50 PM
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It's the sex that God can't see Such a catchy song.
/r/askMRP16/02/22 04:27 PM
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I think he needs something more like this shirt.
/r/askMRP03/01/22 02:32 PM
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Fat fucks don’t fuck well (h/t HOA). When you drop from 315 lbs and 44% body fat down to a ripped 200lbs you can play computer games as much as you want (which won’t be much). Until then, stop asking lazy stupid questions.
/r/askMRP02/01/22 05:40 PM
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Epic comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 11:01 PM
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RP isn’t a philosophy. It’s a set of tools. We share notes on how to use them, but it’s up to you to decide what you want to build with them. Trying to find this universal unifying philosophy just takes you to the purple pill circle jerk that is all talk and no action.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/21 04:27 PM
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Field reports are for when you did something. If you must victim puke, do it at r/askmrp. You get one.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 09:24 PM
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Worked for Dom. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l59yCKxrjfM
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 09:07 PM
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Damn. Now I like him even more.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 12:27 PM
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Apparently I'm into redheads, because the far left chick is definitely a 10 to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:13 PM
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This is quite possibly the most beautiful bullshit you have ever written.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:10 PM
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You are doing good work here. /u/Blarg_Risen 's comment on addiction was very insightful and I encourage you to read it over a few times. Here is what I see: Your mental conditioning is that you *need* (thus the addiction/fix comment) sex, but you don't actually *like* sex. So you look forward to the fix, but wrestle with self-judgment afterward. You feel most free when sex is off the table either because you just had it or it's shark week and not expected. I don't know if that is right or not, …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 04:41 PM
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Everyone looks up to me and takes my advice and money Fixed that for you. They aren't taking your advice. They don't look up to you. ​ she won't have a job and leave the apartment I'm renting for her he won't grow up and move out of my parents' house You don't get to fix their problems via therapy or "getting a drivers license". But you do get to withhold your money, time, and attention. People will treat you as shitty as you let them. Expect better.
/r/askMRP06/12/21 02:26 PM
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"When Other People Say 'No' I Feel Guilty" by Shuttha Fuccup.
/r/askMRP06/12/21 02:11 PM
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TIL that there is apparently an existing gas station with a "largely young, female, attractive staff."
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/21 08:07 PM
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Because they abuse him. https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/p2cs6f/my_gf_24f_doesnt_respect_me_28m_and_abuses_me_but/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/askMRP03/12/21 07:01 PM
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It sounds a lot like this situation: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/r75xzd/the_more_authority_my_wife_got_at_work_the_more/ Since you are stressed about the situation, I recommend letting her really dominate you in the bedroom. It will reduce the stress and you will feel better.
/r/askMRP03/12/21 04:16 PM
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You fucking deserve every DM you get for this. That is all.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 01:55 AM
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4th kid: let the dog lick it off before giving it back to the kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 10:32 PM
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unless for sure I find out she cheated on me; that's unforgivable in my book How clear does it need to be for you? ​ I want to explore other options = she's already explored other options be with someone else =she's been with someone else I'm not wife material = she's cheating on you hidden from me through lying by omission or refusal to share = she's cheating on you She said I sabotaged her plans for a quick and easy divorce and am making this difficult = she's already left you. She has already…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 04:25 PM
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Sometimes the mental work is in fact the hardest work. And sometimes it's just mental masturbation. Which one is this? We will found out next week if it led to action or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:11 PM
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But he makes a ton of money on Pokémon cards.
/r/askMRP13/11/21 07:20 PM
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It confirms my personal theory about brats. They brat it up until the man gets angry enough to show some alpha. She gets her alpha fix and they both go back to normal until she needs her fix again.
/r/askMRP13/11/21 12:37 AM
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I've lurked Red Pill for a long time. I discovered it while married, read The Game and then it took off from there. I was getting more pussy from the misses than I wanted, but we had other issues You were getting more pussy than you wanted? I was in the same boat, she hit 325. I was ready to leave, but asked her to go to counseling with me. We did that for 6 years. Ahh ok, yeah. That's more pussy than I want too. Glad you got out safely.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 10:09 PM
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At some point in the next few years I'll probably start This sentence right there is the story of your life. Ambiguous, non-committal, self-deceiving bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 10:40 PM
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I like field reports with "I" statements. This isn't one of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 06:16 PM
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I am ok with this, and not angry. But it pisses me off that... We aren't fooled. Neither is she. ​ Read through your past several weeks of OYS reports. What do you see here? OY18 - I do not want to invest 30 or 60 minutes pushing her doors. OYS17 - I refused sex again. I was passive, she initiated. She touched me, then I moved to touch her and she shut down. Fine. This is the second time I do it and I am getting the fun of it. OYS16 - I started for sex again and got rejected. Not actively reject…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 06:58 PM
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Sometimes I wish that dude would check in. Same. The best part of MRP. The sentimental part of me hopes they all settled into a poly commune in Hawaii and lived happily ever after. The cynic in me is still sure that the whole thing was an elaborate troll written by bored woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 06:28 PM
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He asked me if I could describe my ideal sex life. I had a lot of difficulty coming up with something beyond frequency. Check out /r/TooLivelyBedrooms for some inspiration. ​ I want it to be enjoyable and free of any unnecessary shame or guilt. Shame and guilt are indicators that you are internalizing other people's beliefs or expectations about you and your actions. In other words, you are living in their frame. If you haven't already read Unchained Man, add it to your reading list. You will pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 06:23 PM
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He needs to have the kid soon so we can move on to the next stage of getting the babysitter pregnant.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 02:04 PM
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But you have no idea the skills required! That man has skills! This is epic level hamstering. ​ Yet, you have no idea of the skills I had to learn and the effort I had and have to peruse to keep a bedroom interesting enough to initiate successfully 20 times at month for 7 years without a chance to touch a vagina properly or put a dick inside. The fantasy and the psychological I had to come out with.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 08:35 PM
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Desire, immersion, and frequency of sex and sexual moods was high for the first month or two. Hysterical bonding. Newbie gains. Happens every time. ​ Since then, her desire has gone off a cliff and things are now actually worse than when I started in this area. The initial excitement of your dancing monkey routine has worn off and she found out it wasn't real. In response to my initiations, she now states she has to “pay me in sex for things she wants;” So what? Cuddles aren't free. she cannot b…
/r/askMRP28/10/21 07:00 PM
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Mission To be a man of balance. To be intuitive enough to identify the nuances of every situation and apply alpha and beta behaviors in the right balance and times as outlined by Athol Kay. To be a rock for my family. Be the calm in the storm when shit hits the fan. Easy to talk about, but much harder to put into practice. Be a man of doing and not a man who is concerned with being seen doing. Never settle. Live a life of continuous improvement and refinement. Influence the things within my cont…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 04:48 PM
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I had been taking shitty comfort tests as comfort tests and eventually it would just become a shit test anyway. ​ I is amazing how far you have not come in 2 years. ​ I wanted to start practicing fogging but came up against a giant shit/comfort test. In hindsight and with Horns' post, it was a shitty comfort test. It started with tears but the complaints were all “you” which made me think it was a shit test. Combination of STFU/attempted fogging failed to defuse the situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 07:34 PM
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As long as she’s not a horse girl, you are probably fine.
/r/askMRP21/10/21 11:41 AM
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Lifts: Don’t lift atm, do calisthenics. I don’t lift ass to mouth either. Calisthenics is pole dancing for dudes that can’t get big. https://youtu.be/NHjsROer218 LIFTING IS NOT OPTIONAL.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 10:51 PM
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+1 for Holmes of Apathy
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 10:10 PM
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Stay out of her head. Stay out of her head. Stay out of her head. How many times have you been ruled 9? She is not the problem here. These are all statements from your previous OYS posts. ​ but the wife is the only person I've had sex with. She was much more experienced than me. Sex has been a major source of validation for me I have had a history of slut shaming my wife in the early years of our marriage. I'm really enjoying it once I get into it, but I'm starting to notice more of a dip in act…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 09:43 PM
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5'8, 285 At initiation, wife verbally offered starfish. Dude, take the starfish. Fat fucks do not have the luxury of turning down sex. ​ The next day, I felt angry about it. If you are angry at her, it is because she didn't validate your feelings. If you are angry at yourself, do something. Anger is the gateway to action.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:06 PM
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No kids. Horse girl. Professional Horse Girl. It's over. Time to bail. Get a lawyer and end this. You can do it nicely, but set a fucking deadline and be out by then.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:52 PM
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It is currently complicated by the fact that we are in our monthly 2 week period of “no touch”, for religious reasons (I’m not asking for opinions on the religious aspect). Yeah, that does complicate things. I am curious if this is your choice. If so, own it. If not, remember: Women make rules for betas. They break them for alphas.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:16 PM
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He is an OYS poster. But the ego is strong so I’m betting you get a mod mail.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 10:21 PM
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The ultimate end goal for all of this is growth as a man, not just chasing pussy. Actually, it is all about having pussy come to me. If you chase a pussycat, it runs away. As soon as you start doing something attractive, it comes to you. Rule zero, my friend. ​ You become the King so you can Lead, Serve, and Bless your Kingdom. That mormon conditioning is hard to break isn't it? I'm guessing you are not a fan of the Dark Triad posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 09:03 PM
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Kids.... Play with your kids! Be physical. Wear them out every night. Take them away from the house. The more you play with them, the easier it will to father them. Social Life... One thing that is missing from your OYS is your social life. I went back and read several of your OYS and saw nothing except OYS 1: "Social: I have no social life." "The most important trait a married man can cultivate – even more important than appearance, wealth, or status – is social aptitude." Read this and work on…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 08:44 PM
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Our RP journey here can be summed up as a lifelong exercise in stepping through our Shadow Selves and coming out the other side as stronger, more complete Men. You are confusing growth as a man with sexual strategy. There is overlap, but they are not the same journey. ​ I’m writing this because, as a beginner, the RP stuff is overwhelming. It's actually quite a bit easier than becoming the "ideal man". ​ And if you just want a cheat code -- become Aragorn. I like Aragorn, but having to become ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 07:15 PM
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I miss your old flair.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 08:09 PM
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Corollary 1a: Having sex is better than not having sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 12:35 AM
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“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” Frank Herbert “Dune Chronicles” There is power in choosing to face the fear, to feel it, then letting it pass over you. That is the fight. That is what we choose to do as men. There is always a…
/r/askMRP03/10/21 05:39 PM
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This comes up often enough that I just save my comment and repost it. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/j2q24m/stfu_and_couple_therapy/g7769k1/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/askMRP30/09/21 08:26 PM
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"This the sub where you can ask basic questions, have a victim puke, find a NMMNG safe person, or otherwise ask questions too basic for MRP. The kinder antechamber to the locker room that is MRP and avoid owning your shit in in the weekly threads."
/r/askMRP28/09/21 02:45 PM
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There’s a lot that isn’t adding up here. You are leaving out details. Digging through post history… “New to fatherhood”, but have a 9 year old. Wife works 2 days a week but makes “significantly more money” than you do even though you got a promotion. Heroin addict alcoholic that has always had a “passion for fitness” Whatever. The one thing that is clear is that you are a whiny bitch.
/r/askMRP25/09/21 09:58 PM
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She wishes John would take a queue from you https://www.dictionary.com/e/cue-vs-queue/
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 06:11 PM
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Last night, in the middle of the night, I rolled over and made the moves - and we had sex. No more of the rejections, or the 'not tonights', or the 'ughs.' Yay. You have sex. ​ She's like a feral cat living in my house, and I treat her accordingly Great description. You must be a writer. Why yes, yes you are! I know I don't want my erotica penname made public knowledge and I wouldn't share those stories on my facebook because they're all about cheating wives and cuckold husbands and big, black c…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 09:28 PM
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WIDDIFG When I don't DEER, I feel guilty.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 03:45 PM
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Or Poon III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority VII. Always keep two in the kitty XVI. Never be afraid to lose her ​ Or The Principal of Least Interest: The Core of OI and frame Or How to become Outcome Independent Or Start changing the rules ​ All of which are linked on the sidebar. Read the sidebar. STFU. Lift. Somebody should write that down.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 10:57 PM
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I do get desperate Does anyone actually read the sidebar anymore? Book of Pook. Kill the desperation. There is a KEY to removing desperation forever. There is no simple 'trick' that will kill the desperation. It will not be in how you dress, how you talk, or where you go for dates. No, the KEY is in how you think. The KEY to killing desperation (and attracting crowds of women) is to THINK and BELIEVE that you are The Great Catch. ​ As long as you think there is only one pussy on the planet and n…
/r/askMRP30/08/21 10:00 PM
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There is no substitute for lifting weights. Lifting is not optional. "been together 10y, DB 6y" (source) "Yeah, it's been some short periods where we had it more frequently (once a week). We can't get any kids of our own. She's got the egg reserves of a 45yo so she's gonna hit menopause any month now and also got endometriosis. Intercourse got gradually more painful for her until she introduced me to anal which she appearantly loves more than regular piv so the pain isn't the problem. If you've …
/r/askMRP20/08/21 04:53 PM
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Even your usage of "the wife" Such a great tell. Now that you've pointed it out, I'm seeing it everywhere.
/r/askMRP09/08/21 02:36 PM
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There is always another dragon.
/r/askMRP03/08/21 01:42 PM
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Your wife probably doesn’t like big muscles. Just slap her ass a couple times and you should be all set.
/r/askMRP01/08/21 12:36 AM
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No. Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was. Also, NO.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 01:47 PM
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No. Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was. Also, NO.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 01:47 PM
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very controlling about daughters hair cuts, bathing, and clothes I’m guessing he’s extra vigilant here because he sees his daughter being raised by lesbians
/r/askMRP23/06/21 01:48 AM
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No. Keep initiating. That’s what men do. Just don’t take it so seriously. Pussy is the by-product, not the goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/21 02:01 AM
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Have you read The Rational Male? If so, then you know that you are currently at the bottom of your SMV chart. And yeah, that kinda sucks, but the good news is that it will get better EVERY YEAR for the next ~15 years. Hold on to that hope and keep doing the things now that will move you along. Based on your poor social skills, you are probably even lower on that chart than your peers. Relax young man. You are in this for the long game. Pick a couple of things and focus on them. Start with the gy…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/21 03:57 PM
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I knew that was coming. Wait - did ICM write this?
/r/askMRP18/06/21 01:42 PM
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Schrodinger's butthurt askMRP in a nutshell
/r/askMRP11/06/21 06:44 PM
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I'm genuinely curious what you think about YOUR actions here (as opposed to examining hers). What do you think you did well? What do you think you should have done differently? Run this through the Sexual Validation Diagnostic Scenario and see how you answer.
/r/askMRP11/06/21 06:37 PM
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I still need to do that more I need more of that I need to internalize I need to get that back on track I need to deliver I need to plan a vacation I need to be very aware This is why you suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/21 02:11 PM
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And we, unplugged men, know that there is something more out there. Something we begin to understand. And implement this knowledge in our life. I fucking hate it when f@gg0ts do this. Speak for your fucking self. Drop the "We, the enlightened brotherhood of MRP" shit. edit - just saw the ban. Makes perfect sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 08:33 PM
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All testing is congruence testing. To the extent that these are "shit tests", the women in your life are testing to see what is actually important to you and do you have the strength to fight and defend what is actually important to you. As other men here have noted, you have no frame. I'm not here to beat you up over this - men that put in work in OYS get a better response. So treat this as a tangible exercise in learning to build frame. Here is comes out from what you wrote: You are trying to …
/r/askMRP10/06/21 03:57 PM
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Meh. He just deleted all the posts I linked. I guess it got to him.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 03:31 PM
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So you are unemployed, "Depressed AF trying to find a job, overwhelmed by 'adult' things like paying bills, ever getting ahead". At 30, you are wanting to move back in with your parents because you can't handle rent. You have a 2 year old kid and another on the way. Which was obviously her idea. This is a dumpster fire. But fortunately, you know the basics like: when you are married, things like dont go get the remote or whatever when she is closer. whoosh... ​ But...for my role in things, wtf d…
/r/askMRP07/06/21 01:49 PM
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Yes, it’s always a bad idea as you have just learned. If you need to talk it over with someone, do it with the men in your life.
/r/askMRP31/05/21 10:49 PM
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This. Anyone have the link to FSM article/discussion? I remember reading it years ago and it was excellent. Found it. http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/05/female-social-matrix-introduction.html?m=1
/r/askMRP31/05/21 07:19 PM
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Congrats, you get a medal. Bench 35kg Maybe someday you will have a chest you can pin it on.
/r/askMRP28/05/21 10:45 AM
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What should the husband do? He should lift, STFU, read the sidebar material and start posting in the OYS thread. And he should cut off everything with the "friend/mediator" since that man is clearly a beta male that is white knighting to the wife. Marriage "counseling" doesn't work. There is a fucking reason that this is an iron rule and it's worth repeating. Whether that number is 4 or 100, you keep it to yourself. "NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women …
/r/askMRP19/05/21 06:06 PM
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LMAO. Someone please award this flair.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 01:52 PM
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A couple weeks ago she started a new fanfic. I asked if she knew what it is based on. Yes, 50 Shades of Grey. Supposedly the fanfic doesn't do the BDSM. LOL. Fifty shades was originally fanfic based on the Twilight series which didn't have BDSM or sex. So I guess she's going full circle on that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 01:37 PM
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I've seen this in action myself with the men I surround myself with. From plumbers to CEOs. They always break the "rules". And win. ​ There is so much fucking truth in this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 10:01 PM
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God Bless You ​ Hopefully this doesn't catch me another ban Heh. Apparently he didn't "do better then".
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 08:46 PM
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HFS. Last week /u/HornsOfApathy told you that your entire identity is wrapped up in the crossfit BS. And you just spent 700 words talking about how you *probably* don't get validation from crossfit. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 08:28 PM
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outcome independence with my wife I know my wife is my only option Although I've been playing it off as no big deal when I get a sexual denial, I was still feeling pretty pissed off inside that I was not getting what I wanted. ​ This was pretty much exactly me for the first several months of my OYS journey. Sexual denial for pretty much any reason really fucked me up, so I know where you are coming from. It's a long journey and you are on the first leg. It gets better. Two things to understand: …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 03:13 PM
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As I write this I can see I’m a little boy trapped in a fat 40 year old’s body who is still looking for his fucked up dad’s approval wherever I can get it. This time it happens to be in the form of strangers on a Internet forum. ​ This is probably the same story for 50% of men in the world. Most never fully realize it. Even fewer grow past it. Do so and you begin to separate yourself from the pack. More importantly, you become a man in your own eyes.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 01:59 PM
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Frame is the window you see the world. Not anyone else. It’s what you really want at your core and who you authentically are. I'm dying.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 08:30 PM
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Today we will have our first couple counseling session. ​ I've re-pasted this comment about 4-5 times now. I should probably make it a post so I can just link to it. Couples counseling is never a good idea. My wife and I went to marriage counseling about 3 years ago. I think we went to 3 or 4 sessions. Our counselor was a Christian male who specialized in marital counseling and sex addiction (for men). The first session, he told us that divorce was a real possibility and we should be prepared fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 02:22 PM
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That being said, I’m back in the game boys, and it feels fucking good. It's about fucking time. You are still way too far in her head, but at least you are out of your ex's head. Keep your foot on the gas.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 02:52 PM
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Too bad this post was removed. You were clearly sending out the bat signal.
/r/askMRP21/04/21 11:28 PM
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I don't even know where to start with killing my ego. You've started. This might help: Killing the ego by /u/BobbyPeru Ego protection is tightly tied to " Fear of failure". You aren't the only man to struggle with this. It is part of learning to live on your edge. It's what makes life worth living. The Way of the Superior Man delves into this deeply. It's graduate level stuff though so read the pre-reqs first. ​ If your blushing bride has an Abe Lincoln shaped birthmark just to the left of her b…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 04:17 PM
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look your wife in the eye and say "Let's have sex now." is a Manning 101 step. It's overt, and it can come from a place of solid mental frame and assertiveness. It can also be an autistic retard move if the frame is fake and the game is missing. Depends on the man.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 03:58 PM
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She has expressed that she would love to come and travel to see me, which would be good, but her parents will not let her Hahahahahhahahahhahahahaha. ​ 20 plus posts to /asktrp 7 posts to /theredpill 3 years of opportunity for knowledge And yet you know nothing. Full on Oneitis for a "LTR of 2 months" LOL. oh wait - "new LTR of 1 week" Fuck. But at least you are lifting right? I am 5'11', weigh 160lbs, slim frame After 3 years? GTFO. This is what happens when you are all game and no frame - eith…
/r/askMRP19/04/21 01:45 PM
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I’m thinking about discussing with him about what I’m doing, but I don’t know if that’s a good idea. It's not. A primer on power.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 01:29 PM
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I remember this guy. She's definitely already opened up the marriage. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/dwfikr/wedding_ring_shit_test/ Better yet, you go to Ibiza (known for sluts and crazy night life) on a guys trip and she doesn't really care? How much fucking did she do while you were on your trip? Probably more than you did.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 08:17 PM
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Escapism..Lying, etc. You will get more out of your OYS if you use "I" statements. ​ Escapism is a lie. Because the situation is not what *I want* to escape from. *I am*. The problems that *I create* are what *I want* to escape from. Leave this life because *I outgrew* it. Not because *I want* to escape from it. You are doing some good work in examining your mental models. But don't get stuck in the rabbit hole. There is an age old truism: Men make themselves. Women find themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 07:53 PM
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9.OYS Violation :: "She" Doesn't Matter OYS is about taking ownership of the things YOU control, not about other parties like your wife, dog, boss, etc. The vast majority of the focus should be on your mindset, your thoughts, and your actions. The primary agent for your post is a third party -- and as a result you've wasted your own time. ​ Further explained here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/df0oxb/oys_posts_are_for_you_to_own_your_shit_not_to/
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 07:10 PM
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So really, not having sex was already something you were quite good at. Good to see you're continuing to work on that skill. nailed it
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 03:46 PM
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There is a reason dillberryhoundog still has his flair. ​ LCWIFOSAAPRTDWT stands for Lazy Cunt Who is Full of Shit and Avoids Problems Rather Than Dealing With Them. ​ SBIII gave it it to him about a year ago. Still works. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/cz20iv/own_your_shit_weekly_september_03_2019/eyyj54f?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/21 09:09 PM
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I hear you. Like /u/HornsOfApathy said. The guys that say "FUCK YOU" are more likely to do something than the guys that say "I hear you." You already know this though right :) I deleted my old account and told myself 'Fuck these manlets, I can do this on my own.', and I did for a while. Dropped 40 lbs, was in the 1,000 lb club for reps, and the dread at home was almost palpable. Anger provides the fuel to get started, but it isn't discipline. Discipline is what makes it stick. That and not runni…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 07:05 PM
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and boom, he's gone
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 06:48 PM
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This. Anger/PissedOff leads to action. I don't see very much action here.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 06:46 PM
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My vision is freedom. My missions are the instantiation of freedom in several life areas. Ok - let's imagine you are free. No wife, no kids, no work obligations, no family obligations, and enough money to do live a decent lifestyle. Basically, assume you have what Caleb Jones preaches. What do you want to do with your freedom? Where do you want to live? What do you want to do? What do you enjoy? What is your purpose? ​ A man progresses in his life through stages. Boy -> Cowboy -> Warrior -> King…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 06:43 PM
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even though we agreed that Saturday to do it Sunday Stop pretending like this means something. It's a blue pill covert contract. The agreement only meant that she didn't want to do it on Saturday. Women have a variety of reasons for a having sex, but a scheduled agreement isn't one of them (unless she is operating from masculine energy). ​ You will likely hit several more anger phases on this journey. Here's a few links to read: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2xi8sc/moving_past…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 04:53 PM
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If you want to get creative , buy real organic ginger at the grocery story and jam it in a masticating juicer. Same general amount. (Masticating juicers - old school metal kind - are beautiful things.) It also makes for great homemade moscow mules. Just juicing in general is great for you. Ginger, grapefruit, kale, beets, celery, carrots, and apples make very earthy and healthy combination.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 04:35 PM
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Nothing must deter you; this is literally life and death we’re talking about here. Go forth and conquer. Reading this post from you from 4+ years ago really helps put this post in perspective. The details are as follows: I'm a big dude. Over 6'5" (1.96m) in height, I currently weigh in at about 330 lbs (149.7 kg, 23.6 stone). My body fat percentage is about 30%
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 03:33 PM
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Interesting. I never followed his personal story. Is she an artist or Instagram personality? Or is that a porn name?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 10:22 PM
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24, single, looking aesthetically good but getting back to phenomenal shape after getting covid. Single, 24, 6 foot, 209 lbs, Fit Mid 20s, 6' 205lbs, BF15%, Single. Single, 24, good shape. DL 315, BP 225, SQ 245, SP 135 He's the man. I don't see how he could possibly improve from where he is right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 02:12 PM
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Well, there is always jerking off at work. As all high value men tend to do. https://www.reddit.com/r/jackoffconfessions/comments/cicver/the_office/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/askMRP07/04/21 01:34 AM
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To put it another way, it costs a ton of money and favors for her to be willing to be with you.
/r/askMRP07/04/21 01:20 AM
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What exactly is the Shit You are Owning here?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:40 PM
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Got laid on a second date last night, managed to get out of my own way and just let it happen. After we'd banged it out, she asked what kind of porn I like to watch, instead of hiding my preferences I told her I like watching anal porn. Instead of having a bad reaction, she told me that she likes anal sex and how she'd like for us to prepare for doing it. /u/Tyred_Biggums this guy is going to catch up to your flair. Anal on the third date maybe. I haven't been following the OYS threads very clos…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:36 PM
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Your life sucks. You cover up this sad fact by distracting yourself with porn and video games. Take away the distractions for a month and let yourself really feel the pain. When you do that, one of two things will happen: 1) You will get angry enough to make real changes to your life or 2) you will give up, get depressed and go on a porn/gaming binge.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:15 PM
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My Mission I want to be at my absolute best and I want to continue with building with the girl I'm with. Fuck. Even his mission is about about "her".
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:03 PM
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After 10 years of taking her meal ticket grade A plowhorse for granted and sees that he may finally leave, is desperately trying to save herself from having to re-enter the world, get a job and find a lower value mate. Maybe because I see it that way, that is the source of my misery. I am cynical which is not a happy way to live. If you are angry at her for being a woman, then you haven't really swallowed the red pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 08:58 PM
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My head may be all fucked up from the TRT This is a very real possibility. Don't make major life decisions until you are sure. ​ But I never laid out all of those things and then considered my happiness in relation to it. For Jones, money and sex were the minimum necessary to maintain happiness. Not even that much money, but the freedom that live how he wanted and pursue the sex he wanted. What does that look like for you? I met some good friends for drinks about 2 weeks ago and one asked me how…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 08:47 PM
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Unchained Man (the book) hits everyone like this when they read it. Just let it pass through you. Caleb Jones is a convincing motherfucker and tries to convince you that his life is better than yours. Word. In some moments, I think he may also be trying to convince himself as well. It's still a damn good book, but it should come with a disclaimer.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 02:29 PM
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Find a chiropractor or physical therapist that also lifts heavy.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 08:39 PM
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Good to see you back again. It's been awhile. On paper I’m killing it in every way. Yes. Yes, you are. And it's killing you. :) You are stronger, fitter and higher value than you were a year ago. But you are still in the same space mentally. You still don't know what you want and you don't want to risk anything to get it. You have loss aversion. " I have struggled with this. I have made enough money to comfortably support a very nice lifestyle for the rest of my life. This would suggest that I s…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 02:54 PM
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I do this sometimes because I enjoy the game. I don’t think you realize how advanced your manipulative tool set is compared to the average person. A long time ago you referred to it as having a “superior beta game” leftover from your BP days, but it’s a lot deeper than that. True story: I once had a girlfriend that was really into hypnosis. She taught me how to hypnotize her. She was extremely susceptible to suggestion and could even have something like an orgasm with just a word from me. Talk a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/21 05:24 PM
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I love watching you two go back and forth. I think the female anxiety with a HVM is comparable to what a beta male feels talking to a beautiful woman. There is fear that she will reject him, but there is also an evolutionary fear that she belongs to alpha male who will be returning any second and may attack the beta for being dumb enough to go after his woman. She knows she needs to complete and fears her inadequacy. And that is why Same with anything. Praise. is so effective. It reinforces that…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/21 12:41 AM
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Yes and no. Do I need this to feel good about myself? No. Nor does it have much to do with frame and game. The career stuff by itself is somewhat BP. A chunk of this list - especially the inclusion in a group of other high value men, comes from Kevin Samuels definition. Prior to hearing him say it, it wasn't something that I considered, but in review it makes a lot of sense. High value men seek out other high value men. It's something I'm looking at in my own life. My group of male friends conta…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/21 06:37 PM
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MRP's Principal Anal Consultant would be excellent flair
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/21 10:11 PM
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Good write-up. You've clearly modeled it in your own life. It also fills in several of the gaps between BPP, J10, and various sidebar pieces. Autist alert: You need to calibrate this relative to where you are on the high-value man scale. If you were a high-value man already, you probably wouldn't fucking be here after googling "why won't my wife fuck me?" Short definition of a high value man: You meet the minimum requirements for being a man (see Manning 101) You are strong, fit, dress well, sme…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/21 05:16 PM
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would also accept "married to a dude"
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 07:48 PM
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Congrats indeed. If you are willing to put in the effort, it would be awesome of you to put together an OYS arc like HOA did. The oldest buck in the woods does pretty well with the does.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 06:05 PM
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Anxiety is ramping up, but I can deal. Fighting off depression very desperately. I do not want to slide into that fucking rut. The emotion of anxiety is a tell. Welcome it and listen to it. It shows you that you need to wake up, right now, and that you need to be present to the now rather than living in fear of the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 03:24 PM
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Lots of "she's"... But the big one : This morning everything looked normal. I mean on a positive note. She's smiling at me. Telling me funny story about our daughter new drawing. It turns out, it's okay to fuck fast then sleep. What makes it ok? The fact that SHE is smiling in the morning? It she wasn't smiling would it not be ok? Do you see the frame here?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 03:16 PM
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These are all things you can do this week. I picked that list because it's a good tangible representation of manhood. If you work on the things on that list, you will have a good baseline for your next MRP steps. I asked the question because I think you are going to start a 3 month circle jerk of mental masturbation and I think you should focus on something tangible. You are probably ready to read The Unchained Man, if you haven't already.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/21 09:00 PM
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Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/21 08:46 PM
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Excellent field report. This is exactly the type of frame I expect to see from someone who doesn't post in OYS, but readily shares his wisdom in dating_advice, relationship_advice, purplepilldebate, and (of course) asktrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/21 06:47 PM
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You read like you are treading water.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/21 07:43 PM
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How are you doing for "Manning 101"?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/21 07:35 PM
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I failed in this area once since my last OYS. Looked up escorts but resolved to watch porn instead. It's a small win because it's the lesser of 2 evils No, it's not. It's fucking pathetic. Quit the porn and use that energy to drive your life. ​ My intention is to use my hand and my imagination for now, at least until I have seen consistent progress in my life to the point where I feel like pursuing women again. You will never "feel like" doing the work of pursuing women and facing that rejection…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/21 06:59 PM
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Didn't do legs for the past 1.5 years because I am a pussy Fixed that for you. ​ Got a workout routine written up by GLO a few years ago Fuck me. That's like following a workout routine by Richard Simmons. Post your actual lifts. ​ I'm engaged to get married in September. She is 23, pretty submissive to me, and I get sex/bj basically any time I want. Yeah. Most engaged guys do. ​ I want to be the man she thought I was when we first met. So your goal is go even deeper into her frame? Get the fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/21 06:48 PM
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I lose my shit and asked what's wrong... When she locked herself in the bedroom, I kicked the door open. I feel satisfied. I got my steam out. As predicted four weeks ago. All of this over an "unwelcome look" and a nag. JFC, you are like a 7 year old girl. Anger is almost always a "tell" of weakness in your frame, your thinking, in owning your shit, or in your situation. It is thus a great diagnostic tool for discovering areas needing further improvement. I have been neglected myself this week. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/21 06:33 PM
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Hmmm Posts in /r/gaychristians (https://www.reddit.com/r/GayChristians/comments/m6bu5s/peace_on_earth_good_will_to_men/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) Next day, no longer attracted to wife... ​ I'm going to need to call in our resident transitioning expert on this one. Paging /u/johneyapocalypse
/r/askMRP17/03/21 08:10 PM
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At 35 I feel like I'm at a crossroads, where my SMV is near its peak in terms of youth, physical fitness, career You are the exact type of guy who will be back here here in a couple of years talking about how you "used to be alpha." ​ I've started feeling like I'm ready I feel like I'm at a crossroads You know who makes life decisions based on their feelings? Women.
/r/askMRP15/03/21 07:37 PM
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Thanks for taking one for the team.
/r/askMRP15/03/21 12:02 PM
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Didn’t read, doesn’t matter. I mentioned this to another man awhile back and it’s absolutely true: if you become an attractive high value man, she will literally re-write history in her mind to justify staying with you. Will that happen here? Probably not. Depends on you.
/r/askMRP15/03/21 12:00 PM
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Already done Read that again. " You need to digest the sidebar at least another 6 months". As in 6 months more than whatever you have done already. Calm down. Relax. Don't be so defensive. Right now you come across as the very embodiment of "men with no frame and the things they do." You are too easily triggered and butthurt by random people on the internet. Demonstrate frame. Then you can write about it. We can wait.
/r/askMRP02/03/21 10:51 PM
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Chapter on Frame (follow the links) and A practical guide to building frame ​ You need to digest the sidebar for at least another 6 months before you attempt to write a high quality post on frame.
/r/askMRP01/03/21 09:31 PM
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When I was 18, I made a pact with my best friend that we would duel to the death (highlander style) when we turned 40. I couldn’t imagine anything worthwhile happening after age 40. I’m now 45 and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/21 08:41 PM
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You know how when a bunch of women live together for awhile their cycles start to synchronize? I'm pretty sure this is what is happening with MRP and anger phases.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/21 02:22 PM
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hitting some rough times. major internal conflict. So you have a constant internal struggle? No interest in initiating sex? A war within yourself? Hardly ever happens, you must be a special snowflake. But hey, your soul is at war, so I'll show some respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 06:09 PM
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Your next anger phase is going to be a big one.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 07:09 PM
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Couples counseling. I posted this comment a few months ago and it’s still true. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/j2q24m/stfu_and_couple_therapy/g7769k1/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 11:37 PM
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100%
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 11:31 PM
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Join the Sons of Patriarchy
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 07:58 PM
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link above. But the bottom line is this: " You have to like your wife. Not love. If I asked if you loved your wife, you'd probably reflexively say "yes." That's not a meaningful question. The more important question is: "Do you like your wife?" Dread will be effective if your answer is: "She's a great person. She's caring and generous with me and my family. She appreciates and respects me. I just wish I knew why she never wants to fuck me anymore, or why she's so unenthusiastic when she does..."…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 02:22 PM
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Hamster maze you have to scroll down a bit to find the specific reference. J10 was a wordy mf.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 02:19 PM
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Solid post. I can see this one being referenced every week in OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/21 07:00 PM
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MCT had a great post on this. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/g8pd33/mct_rules_for_pandemics/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/askMRP09/01/21 09:02 PM
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You've been at this for 20 months. You started researching divorce lawyers a year ago. You are still trying to make a divorce decision? A month ago, u/HornsOfApathy challenged you to get real. " I challenge you to post about the shit going on inside of you next week. Or are you REALLY that boring? And without any energy? Are you really that much of a shell of a man that recipes and retard progress is what you REALLY are after? Then maybe you'll see what this place is for. It's not for what you t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 09:15 PM
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On the flip side, suppose your in-laws told you that your ex just got a new boyfriend. He's a 34 year old bitcoin multi-millionaire and they are getting married in Palau next summer. Do you still feel great about the progress you are making socially, mentally, and financially? If so, then you are on the right track. If not, what do you want to change?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 07:31 PM
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Now that’s a mission statement.
/r/askMRP17/11/20 06:16 PM
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So gentlemen, my question to you is do I have a blind spot around this boat? It's not really about the boat. ​ Am I making an idiotic financial decision? Probably. You have a low income for your area. Her parents already help with routine expense. The maintenance and storage costs on the boat will easily cost you another $10k over the next few years - unless your dad is going to cover those for you. Which is kind of the vibe I'm getting here. I'm guessing they (hers or yours) helped you buy the …
/r/askMRP08/11/20 10:07 PM
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The expenses will outweigh the initial cost of the boat over the next five years This guy boats.
/r/askMRP08/11/20 09:49 PM
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I imagine you are a ton of fun in person.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 03:48 PM
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As crazy as it sounds... Great way to illustrate this.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 02:41 PM
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I aim to achieve a level of ownership in life where most of the people, things, and consequences that arise in my life are there because I’ve consciously allowed them to be put them there. Fucking own it. You CREATE your environment. Don't "consciously allow" life to happen to you; YOU HAPPEN TO LIFE. ​ I’m moving out tomorrow. Will be living solo in an apartment. About fucking time. ​ A lot of what I’ve been doing in the past month, as retarded as it sounds, has been to enjoy activities I previ…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 07:34 PM
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Entering negotiations for a position that combines two technical skillsets. This combination is uncommon, so hard to baseline. What is this skillset combination worth to the company? How do you add value to them? Are you basically just able to do 2 different jobs and maybe they save hiring 1 person? Or does combining them open up some new revenue streams or increase profitability? What is the longer term upside? Are you trying to extract maximum salary now or is there space to grow in the future…
/r/askMRP03/11/20 04:05 PM
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Unsure whether to disclose my nofap pact to the wife. Don't want to muddle the new sex frequency with any new info (it's a risk). But disclosing the pact might generate good feelz. Any other upside? Stupid idea. No upside. Stop going to mommy-wife for approval. ​ I shouldn't let the wife be in control of whether she gets pregnant. There is an iron rule about this. Break it and you are an idiot. ​ I want to get her to eventually take the birth control in front of me, at my request in the bedroom …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/20 05:50 PM
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I took the advice (either horns or pirate? Can’t remember) of managing two levels up and made another meeting with my director. In the course of our conversation he even mentioned not knowing me well, and that just put an exclamation point next to that bit of advice I got. I’m going to be meeting with him more often because I think that advice was really critical in helping me improve my corporate image. Cool. Way to go taking the feedback and putting it to work! ​ “can I deduct more than I earn…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 06:33 PM
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Holy Shit. Frame, vulnerability, authenticity, and outcome independence all in one post. ​ A little voice crept into my mind and just said "You'll be less attractive. So. Fucking. What." And what ensued was intense and pivotal. But now, I was like "fuck strategy - just express what you want and are trying to do, honestly, and let the chips fall." ​ Sometimes you can break all the "rules" and still win. Because frame. Keep the frame and start upping the game and see where it takes you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/20 05:09 PM
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Echoing /u/HornsOfApathy and /u/Professional-Owl-309 here. You are angry because you are taking this personally. Your ego is invested in her attraction to you. ...MRP can't do is make one particular woman attracted to me ...that would make her want me I knew I wasn’t attractive to her ​ You are extremely butthurt about this. Maybe because we all want to be desired. Maybe because you are playing the game and want the prize. You know. But in that butthurt, you are using your improvements (your "dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/20 04:12 PM
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Never change.
/r/askMRP21/10/20 07:37 PM
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Based on your other numbers you can maybe do 225-250 squatting to parallel. If you are half-repping squats, you are likely half-repping in other areas. It hurts to go all the way down. But it’s necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 04:45 PM
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Lifts (3x10): Bench-- 175 lbs, Squat-- 375 lbs, Deadlift-- 240 lbs These are wildly inconsistent numbers. It's novice level bench and deadlift and exceptional level squat. What is going on here?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 04:15 PM
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There is some next level autistic shit going on in this post. Whatever. Keep it simple. Lift. This means squats and deadlifts as well as upper body. STFU. For you this means stop arguing. Read the sidebar. This means the books. Start with No More Mr Nice Guy. Then When I Say No I Feel Guilty. OYS. Keep posting. The discipline will help you organize your mind. Hopefully.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 04:06 PM
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I finally got into a new hobby I couldn’t when married, and I’m in love with it Awesome. ​ I started to see that people around me tend to push/advise me in whatever bias direction they think is best for them. This is at least partially a result of the fact that you don't know what you want or what is good for you. Until you do, you won't be able to establish boundaries. ​ I want people I can trust in my life again Trust to do what?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 09:56 PM
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Managing up /= ass kisser. It's much more about people at your manager's level or above knowing your performance separate from your how your manager reports it. They aren't generally going to have free time, so you need to make it easy for them. Good managers are ALWAYS keeping an eye out for talent. It doesn't take much additional work to make yourself more visible if you are already doing a good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:40 PM
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Getting to “yes” means understanding the subtext behind the “no.” This means understanding the other person’s mental and emotional state based on their words and body language. Why did they say “no?” what do they really want? What could I give them that would make them more likely to give me what I want? I practiced this on my wife. ​ I think /u/man_in_the_world would probably tell you to stay out of your wife's head. On the other hand, I think /u/blarg_risen would probably tell you that your wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:29 PM
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Boss fucked my co-worker and I over for a promotion. He claimed we had to check off 3 things to get it. The boxes were checked, he got promoted, but decided not to promote either of us without explanation. In fact, he hasn’t even told me that I won’t be getting one. I heard it through someone else instead. ​ I'm curious about this. Was this an agreement with your boss or a more general company policy? As a general rule, you ALWAYS need to manage two levels up. You need to manage your boss and hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 07:56 PM
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You are a classic Captain with a Constantly Complaining Passenger. ' The opposite of Dread is taking you for granted, which is what she's essentially done for most of your marriage. Your bible is WISNIFG. For too long, you've attributed your value to how pleased others were by you. That needs to stop, especially because chances are your wife isn't the only codependent relationship you're in. But while your game is boundaries, this is going to instill a radioactive level of Dread in your wife wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 02:51 PM
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she is unaccustomed to me being oak-like You aren't being an oak. You are being a rock (in a bad way). An oak moves and sways with her emotions while still staying fully emotionally present with her. At the same time, an oak is firm and solid and not threatened by her winds. A rock is solid, but in a cold and disconnected way.
/r/RPChristians19/10/20 08:41 PM
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Taking the last few remaining pieces that she would contribute to: laundry, childcare, and finances What is her role then? Taking over everything isn't leading and it isn't being the Captain. You need to give her a job and encouragement as First Officer. The masculine grows through challenge, but the feminine grows through praise. Lead and encourage her into the woman that you desire she becomes. ​ But honestly, what is the real question here? It looks like you just wrote this to whine to intern…
/r/RPChristians19/10/20 08:23 PM
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I wrote this as a homage to some the best posts on frame. Follow the appropriate links.
/r/RPChristians16/10/20 05:44 PM
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I've found that I tend to mostly do the things that I most enjoy, and really don't think about doing stuff that I enjoy less. Ok, sounds stupid to say it, but it is profound in a way. When I don't need sex for validation, the sex I have is really about what it should be about, pleasure and intimate connection with my wife. Ok, this does sound simple, but it is definitely profound. I've always thought I had spanking fetish. It was my porn of choice in the sexual rejection stage of my marriage. La…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/20 04:31 PM
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We're not here to hold your hand. We're here to put your hand in the box. Fuck yeah. Great scene. Great application.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/20 02:53 PM
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"Reading sidebar books means I'm working on my frame." Reading the sidebar (and internalizing it) builds up your intellectual frame. But what I see from your comments is the difficulty you have with what u/strategos_autokrator called Emotional Frame. " a weak emotional basis leads to most of the issues of unplugging: the anger stage, being butthurt by shit tests, being needy, and the worse of all, victim pukes. " and " As a man, instead of ignoring your emotions like a beta, or living through em…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/20 02:52 PM
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It reads like a movie script for a shitty coming of age story. Ha. Exactly. Thanks for reminding me why I hate TRP. TRP is good for game. But I swear it's 95% dancing monkeys with zero frame. It would probably bleed more into MRP without our mods. So thanks for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/20 01:52 PM
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Despite my success and my new-found observation, I still find myself asking internal questions that ooze insecurity. Probably because you are LARPing all over the place. 20yo in " an LTR for a few months now ". You don't have an LTR, you have a girlfriend. One month ago you wrote a TRP article on how to get free sex by stiffing a hooker. Great way to get charged with rape. Two weeks ago your wrote a TRP article on hating the monster you've become. Take your confessions to your priest or whatever…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/20 07:10 PM
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Reading this is incredibly awkward. It’s great that you are pushing yourself (and to some extent your kids) out of your current comfort zone. I guess. But it doesn’t seem at all congruent with who you are. What are you trying to accomplish here?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/20 02:23 PM
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Less resentment. Less compliance. More ownership. More calm. What do you attribute that to?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/20 02:18 PM
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Prior to meeting my wife, at 28, I slept with 30+ women and had no problem creating attraction... I posses a lot of the alpha traits Sub 7:00 mile, 275 BP, 365 BS, 425 DL, 270 Power Clean, etc.. I am a martial arts instructor at an mma gym, a crossfit coach Started dressing nicer for work Financially I am in pretty good shape So you have game, fitness, and finance. What could you be missing?
/r/askMRP14/10/20 06:46 PM
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I struggled for a bit trying to figure out HOW I’m the prize Borrow/Adopt a cat and observe it for awhile. It will teach you everything you need to know about prize mentality. ​ As mentioned above, I am heavily driven by money. I feel the need to justify this to myself because I have been raised to believe being driven by money won’t ever lead to a fulfilling life. Go back and read Unchained Man again - especially the money part. It sounds like you are still fighting societal and family programm…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 04:57 PM
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Hey Foxy, you seem different... in a good way.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 02:55 PM
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/u/boozycowboy Welcome to your Authentic MRP ExperienceTM I'm expecting you to delete out and disappear. But I'm hoping that you take a deep breath and seriously evaluate what it's going to take to kill the ego. That is when real progress begins.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 02:20 PM
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Johney is temp banned for impolite language.
/r/askMRP09/10/20 10:06 PM
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He actually posted to BOTH /r/deadbedroom and /r/deadbedrooms. He might be the one on the spectrum.
/r/askMRP09/10/20 03:31 PM
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It doesn't sound like you've reached your bottom yet.
/r/RPChristians09/10/20 01:19 PM
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Isaiah 55 asks "Why do you spend your money on that which is not bread, and your wages on what does not satisfy?" Try to remove the guilt and "Christian" expectations here for a minute. Does your porn use satisfy your desires? What would satisfy your desires?
/r/RPChristians08/10/20 03:39 PM
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So much good stuff here. Keep it up, your honesty is refreshing. You have a long road ahead of you, but that is ok. You can do it, and you don't have to do it alone. Porn: It's clear you have a ton of self-judgment here. Let me give you a couple of thoughts. 1) The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. You are feeling a deep emptiness and disconnection. Porn temporarily covers it with a dopamine rush. But lust never satisfies. It only wants more and more…
/r/RPChristians08/10/20 12:48 AM
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I have one more bonus comment while I wait for my daughter to finish up swim practice. Your post title says "Tactics for ASD during Comfort Test". You will eventually learn (or you won't progress) that Mindset > Tactics. Every time. Neo: "What are you trying to tell me? That I can dodge bullets?" Morpheus: "No, Neo. I’m trying to tell you that when you’re ready, you won’t have to. "
/r/askMRP08/10/20 12:07 AM
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Find the value in what you receive. I'm going to second this comment /u/fireBadMeGood. Here's the thing, it takes more than a couple of minutes to evaluate the "value" in each comment. One of things I appreciate about /u/HornsOfApathy was his ability to extract value from a wide variety of men and comments - including those that shit-tested and AMOG'd him. I remember a few colorful exchanges between him and /u/red-sfpplus. One of things you notice after being here awhile is how easily men are tr…
/r/askMRP08/10/20 12:00 AM
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In my relationship, I'm not happy with my own prior submissiveness. Release the past. Accept your previous mistakes and learn from them. ​ I'm not happy with my own shitty responses to my own frustrations. Anger is almost always a "tell" for weakness in your frame. Thus anger is a VERY good diagnostic tool. ​ I am not happy with my unattractive behavior and appearance. This is a great OYS topic. It is also basic MAP (Mindful Attraction Plan / Male Action Plan). What behaviors and appearances do …
/r/askMRP07/10/20 06:54 PM
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I think you'll get better answers here and in OYS if you remove all the mrp buzzwords (ASD, AWALT, dread, DEVI, covert contracts, comfort tests) and just write normally. It feels like your trying to adopt MRP Frame instead of developing your own. It also sounds like you are trying to "overfit" your wife's responses in the categories and optimize everything so you can write an amazing field report later. Are you happy with where you are in your relationship? If not, what are you unhappy about?
/r/askMRP07/10/20 05:16 PM
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wHat the fuCK was this?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 12:37 AM
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Whoosh
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 12:34 AM
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Set up the gym equipment in storage. That way you can get out of the apartment to go lift. No room in storage? Get a bigger unit or get rid of stuff.
/r/askMRP06/10/20 08:14 PM
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Women make rules for Betas. They break them for alphas. Which one do you think is happening here? That a Beta male would ever hold conditions for his commitment triggers indignation in women. Read and contemplate: https://therationalmale.com/2019/10/17/the-truth-about-standards/ https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/17/indignation/
/r/askMRP06/10/20 07:25 PM
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It’s hilarious of you to assume that the babysitter (or any other woman) would be willing to fuck him.
/r/askMRP05/10/20 11:54 AM
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Don’t make boundaries you are unable or unwilling to enforce. Her not getting drunk with girlfriends seems like a stupid one to me, but if it really is a boundary for you, then you need to enforce it. In this case you get to choose between looking stupid or looking weak.
/r/askMRP04/10/20 02:31 AM
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If grip strength is holding back your deadlift, use straps. In the meantime, work on your grip strength. Don’t use straps for your warm-ups and keep building your forearms. 225 for switch grip is weak.
/r/askMRP03/10/20 10:14 PM
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Who did you write this for?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/20 01:57 AM
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Epic. You are a wild ride bro. This should be added to the sidebar for multiple reasons. It's a detailed example of the journey with it's ups and downs. Progress is not linear. It's a good example of how to OYS in transparent way that solicits feedback. It's a reminder that even MRP Approved legends say some really stupid shit. :) It saves me from having to look up your old posts ​ (Also, the current /u/weakandsensitive would have banned your ass on OYS3 for saying "she" every other sentence.)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/20 07:04 PM
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I will add more after work I have a really good feeling about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/20 06:13 PM
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Rule 11 bait. It's been a slow week for banning and WNS is bored.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/20 05:02 PM
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I just feel I feel manipulated and confused I feel I wasted ​ You know who makes decisions based on their feelings? Post to r/askmrp or better yet /r/redpillwives
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/20 03:57 PM
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So - you still going to do couples counseling if requested or will you decline?
/r/askMRP30/09/20 09:09 PM
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Sneaking weed because you can't deal with life is the real issue here. But I'll copy/paste what told someone else about going to couples therapy. Don't do it. My wife and I went to marriage counseling about 3 years ago. I think we went to 3 or 4 sessions. Our counselor was a Christian male who specialized in marital counseling and sex addiction (for men). The first session, he told us that divorce was a real possibility and we should be prepared for it. The second session, he referred my wife to…
/r/askMRP30/09/20 06:14 PM
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/r/redpillwives or maybe therapy
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 04:35 PM
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you and red finally have that talk you’ve been putting off LOL. Fucking gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 12:12 PM
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“My view of casual dating is that both parties can see multiple people at the same time. During this phase, I’m doing a vibe-check and simply trying to connect with the person on an emotional level. And if things go well, I definitely want to connect with this person on a physical level. So, I’m not looking for specific labels such as a fwb or a girlfriend, I’m simply going with the flow. I do however expect the casual dating process to probably take a few months, simply because our culture is s…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 10:00 PM
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Usually when guys start posting here, they are mad. They are sick of their life and they want to improve. They have The Fire. They are usually wrong, and make a ton of mistakes, but they are mistakes of action. Men do. Women talk. Maybe you are already past that phase, but I just don't see the fire in you. ​ have some accountability to myself to do what? Right now, my mission is the generic “Become a high value man with options” your whole post is generic ​ I am getting ready to start a new care…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 09:28 PM
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For Science: "She" count: 41 "I" count: 31 Frame detected: 0 Leadership detected: 0 Beta traits: 5 Alpha traits: 0 Analysis: Classic Nice Guy Beta Bux Recommendation: Read the sidebar, STFU, Lift. Key statements analyzed: > I get along with her dad but he's very whipped. > She’s overweight > She wanted a house with a yard and garden, so we rented a place out of my financial comfort to make her happy > We went on an expensive holiday but ended up fighting over something minor, and no sex
/r/askMRP29/09/20 08:30 PM
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There is always another dragon.
/r/askMRP27/09/20 10:44 PM
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I blame science. It’s fun at first, but it gets boring and repetitive quickly.
/r/askMRP27/09/20 08:19 PM
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Johney, you are still the heart of MRP. Horns is more like... the mouth. :) But since this is a HOA love fest, I’ll chime in. I started MRP about six months after he did. Watching him progress was like watching Neo become fucking Neo. And then become Neo/Morpheus/Oracle all in one. But the thing that most impressed me was his ability to kill his ego and take feedback. It didn’t matter who it came from, if there was value there, he took it. Fuck, I gave him advice when I was maybe 3 months in. Am…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 02:30 AM
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I can’t even imagine how much dread Horns must have created the first few time he STFU. “He’s not talking to me... he MUST be talking to someone else”.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 12:07 AM
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If my wife calls, I assume it’s an emergency and I answer immediately. Non-emergencies are handled by text. When your wife calls and you don’t answer, I assume it’s because you are doing something creepy. And so does she.
/r/askMRP24/09/20 11:50 PM
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In the browser, they are part of the sidebar. In the reddit app, it's in the "About" section right next to moderators. ​ 1.No Concern Trolling 2.No Shaming 3.No Moralizing 4.Rule Zero Violation 5.No Solicitation 6.Lacking Self Control 7.Own Your Shit 8.No Value Added 9.OYS Violation :: "She" Doesn't Matter 10.OYS Violation :: Whining About 3rd Party Actions 11.Failure to Maintain Standards 12.Shitty Advice
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 05:24 PM
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Counseling has not gone how I expected or hoped, and has actually accelerated us toward divorce. My wife and I went to marriage counseling about 3 years ago. I think we went to 3 or 4 sessions. Our counselor was a Christian male who specialized in marital counseling and sex addiction (for men). The first session, he told us that divorce was a real possibility and we should be prepared for it. The second session, he referred my wife to a counselor for some of her own issues (separate from marriag…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 02:42 PM
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The physical was never a problem for you, it was always the mental. ​ I’ve been catching myself thinking here and there about wanting to date again, but for the wrong reasons. Instead of wanting someone to add to my life, the reasons why I want to date again are to fill some void(s) I have. Fucking aside, I know I’m not ready to date again until I know that I only want a female because she adds value to my life. I don’t want to go back into the dating world with the same insecurities and leaders…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 02:57 PM
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Rian' is just salty that Fuccfiles isn't listed in the extensive library below. ​ Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power of Now, Sex God Method, The Way of Men Currently reading: Never Split the Difference
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 01:54 PM
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It's actually an old term that has found resurgence lately. It comes from a 1938 play called Gas Light. The husband tries to convince his wife she is going crazy. Among other things, the gas powered lights in the house dim every night because he is using diverting the gas to light the adjacent apartment where he searches for jewels. He covers his tracks by telling his wife that she is just imagining the dim lighting because she is going crazy. It's now considered "psychological abuse" and I'm he…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 01:19 PM
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My question is how/when I should address my sin with this girl (or another girl I end up dating). I want to be honest, but this isn't obviously a topic you broach on a first date. Any suggestions? Rollo is still on the sidebar here right? Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2 NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover. The single most disastrous move a man can make is to OVERTLY…
/r/RPChristians18/09/20 03:51 PM
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Fuck me. That was unexpected. Thanks Johney.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/20 02:47 PM
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Pop quiz hotshot. You are 24 years old, not married, no kids, and your “partner” is cheating on you. What do you do?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 10:10 PM
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I'm impressed by this. I'm confused. Are you impressed by the effort her character puts into looking good in the morning? Or are you impressed by the connection? Or something else
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 09:18 PM
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Boundaries are about you, not her. Don't set a boundary at her attitude because that is about her not you. You can't defend or enforce that boundary. You can only set a boundary around her actions directed at you. "Our boundaries are for us to respect. Since we respect them so much, we defend them. " How to build boundaries during your transition. Eventually, if/when she respects you enough she may ask you to help her with her attitude when it is out of line. That isn't a boundary though. That i…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 09:11 PM
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All calm, some shit testing but no attraction and little connection. I was not focussed on the relationship. At weekend I was bothered with no sex and I told her. It’s nice to see that I can now tell my wife that not being intimate does not work for me, and there being no other message, not a threat, just a fact. ​ So do you want sex with your wife without the connection and attraction? Because that is what it sounds like. My read is that stopped gaming her, she stopped responding, and then your…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 07:05 PM
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Sex is good. I have been feeling in the mood more often. Gave in to porn badly last week. For whatever reason my mind was deep into sex-daydreaming, more than usual. ​ Why not act out the daydreams with your fiancee? Did you try and she declined? Are you a man that fantasizes or are you a man that fucks the way he wants to fuck?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 06:13 PM
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OYS 1 Fitness: good. Finances: good Career: good Relationship: mostly good. Fuck off. Why are you here then? You know who makes the most progress? Men who come here and say “shit is fucked up, and this is what I’m going to do differently based on what I’ve just learned.” Men who show up and say “everything is good, I just need to display more leadership” or some other BS. other areas of my life running smoothly makes it easy to think the grass is greener somewhere else. Sure. this probably comes…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 05:54 PM
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It reminds me of Ms Maisel where she gets up before her husband, puts on her makeup, does her hair, then gets back in bed and pretends to wake up perfect.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 09:44 PM
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Sure you don't. That's why you went back and added that beautiful post script right? "So how can you quickly tell when a man has no frame? No sense of his personal reality? Because instead of being dismissive of anything that doesn't match his reality - he feels the need to try to peacock and dick measure." hat tip to /u/weakandsensitive ​ (P.S. I've been doing the above for a month. This morning I am contributing this because yesterday she gave me a surprise afternoon BJ - insisted on "sucking …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 04:20 PM
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I saw some value in the post or I wouldn't have commented at all. I had a slightly longer comment highlighting the good parts that I trimmed down because OP doesn't post in OYS and I was curious how he would respond the obvious criticism of his frame. He didn't disappoint. I specifically liked the following: Once you're up, you're always in motion, but never in a hurry. I don't work from home and when I am home, I usually work outside. But when I'm inside, I have a tendency to lounge - especiall…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 04:04 PM
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Frame is everything. If you lose your frame, you lose your life. If she's not in your frame, she's not in your marriage. So, frame every one of her days with you. You start with this, but then you frame almost everything in the post in RELATION TO HER. - Rise from bed BEFORE SHE does. Go to bed AFTER SHE does. - Squeeze more out of life THAN SHE does. - Take up more of the bed THAN SHE does This is not frame. This is just posturing. I get up when I need to get up to complete my mission. I go to …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 02:33 PM
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My wife is I am boring in bed and it's my fault. I'm overweight Fat fucks can't fuck well TM
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 10:17 PM
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I often equate accepting help with incurring a debt that I must repay some way in the future and I hated that. Basically accepting the other persons Covert Contract. My new mental model is that I will freely give and freely receive from my own abundance and because I am a man of value.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 11:19 PM
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Unchained Man by Caleb Jones has a chapter with exercises for charting out a mission. I found it useful.
/r/askMRP11/09/20 03:39 PM
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MRP is a community that continues to humble me and make me better as a man. It's also really fucking brilliant with flair.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 10:49 PM
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My thought process is that no one can help me, no need to burden anyone with my issues, so just say I'm fine. I don't need anyone to care for me, even if they want to. I left her place one day last week and she was crying worrying about me It is the mark of a high value man that men and women want to do favors for them. Learn to accept that and embrace it. It is also a mark of a high value man, that people feel good when they do those favors. Accept her help as an offering to the prize and make …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 05:40 PM
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Jaw wired shut Best STFU solution so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 03:36 PM
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You are so deep in her frame that you pay attention to how often she shits?! I think my wife gets her period once a month. Not totally sure about that though.
/r/askMRP05/09/20 04:37 PM
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I fucking love that this is the “competition” in the 21-25 age bracket.
/r/askMRP05/09/20 04:34 PM
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Conversely, there is Corollary #2: Her being bitchy is not a shit test. Sometimes she is just bitchy. She may not even want to be, she just is. And she may need your leadership to stop being bitchy.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/20 03:34 PM
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Hinge is a dating app. “Sarged” is a seduction community term for being on the hunt and signaling social versatility and competence. I’ve seen it used in the TRP cesspool a couple of times.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/20 02:16 AM
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Don’t take your women anyone so damn seriously I've always seen stoicism as being full of dry wit and humor about life. I think this quote from the stoic Epicetus sums it up nicely: “I laugh at those who think they can damage me. They do not know who I am, they do not know what I think, they cannot even touch the things which are really mine and with which I live.” -Epicetus ​ The key to amused mastery is knowing the things that are really mine and knowing that the antics of others (aka shit tes…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 04:21 PM
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we fuck more than once a day almost everyday I am completely in her frame on this, we listen to her music, watch her tv shows, she makes plans, she carries me into her Hobbies. I ended up not being the dominant one in the couple She's a lot more open minded than me in sex ​ This sounds like type 3: The Captain and Her Husband by J10. You need to be prepared for it to get worse before it gets better. And what exactly does "better" look like for you anyway? ​ Degree of Difficulty: If you fail, it'…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 01:56 PM
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Current sex life is poor. Fat fucks can't fuck well.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 01:33 PM
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I'd been scared of loss, and to a lesser degree I still am. I’m much more comfortable with the idea of failing at something than I am of being seen as a failure. Another layer of ego there. At times I still feel like that 18 year old kid, sitting alone in his shitty apartment and desperately trying to figure out how he’s going to survive on his own. ​ It takes a long time to change a mindset. I see the scarcity mentality in you. For some men, abundance cures this mindset, but I don't think it wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 10:42 PM
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Fucking Morpheus
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 10:19 PM
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where I'm a lot more of a plan-carefully, draw-it-all-out, measure twice-cut-once type. ​ is not congruent with ​ I've told all of you that what I really want out my relationship is spontaneous sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 09:15 PM
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I am employing STFU in all dealings with my wife over the past week....maybe even to a fucking mongoloid level. I quit smoking on 8/21 cold turkey and havent touched a cigarette since. I deleted all material from my phone and computer and have not engaged in porn for the last 10 days. I hired a trainer to keep my fat ass in the gym 5 days a week and to eliminate fuckarounditis. Wife was bitching me out last week for going through the kitchen and throwing out all the junk food. I just STFU and to…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 08:03 PM
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Chick wrote this.
/r/askMRP28/08/20 02:22 PM
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Fuck yes. Toasting you tonight Johney. I’d send you a pic, but that is more redsfplus style. Cheers man. I’m super happy for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/20 03:19 AM
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Ah yes, the quintessential nice guy bemoaning lost opportunities while seeking catharsis by sharing your laments on internet. You must break free from your entrenchment of failure. You must rise to it's occasion and hoist up your masculinity. You must.. . ah Fuck it. Man up, buttercup. ​ Go read No More Mr. Nice Guy. Do the exercises. Then read it again, and REALLY do the exercises. After that, you can give the book to your dad.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 06:20 PM
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LOL. Good one Ross. You ever go to a party and think, "Would anyone really miss me if I weren't here?" Did you make a really good sandwich while you were waiting for them to finish?
/r/askMRP20/08/20 08:41 PM
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You ever read The Dosadi Experiment by Frank Herbert? Basically a prison plant created specifically for the elite to send their own to hone power and survival of the fittest, and then come back to rule to galaxy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/20 07:10 PM
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On a scale of 1 to 10, with ten being Ser Jorah Mormont, how afraid are you of being rejected for sex? LMAO
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 01:36 AM
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I am interested in the words men choose to use and how they use them. Sometimes those words reveal more than intended. ​ Somehow you tend to get into your old bad habits after a while when you lose touch with basics. Rephrase this and OWN it. I get into MY own bad habits when I lose touch with the basics. When you choose to make it a general observation about others, you are choosing not to own it. And then notice how this carries into the rest of your post. ​ Due to how I was raised I always be…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 05:01 PM
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I'm a bit surprised that your immediate assumption from my sharing of warning signs is that I have a "deep mistrust of anything resembling authority, especially church authority." On the contrary, I have deep respect for authority. In parallel, I also believe in checks and balances on that authority. Control of sex and money go with abuse of authority 99.9% of the time.
/r/RPChristians11/08/20 06:21 PM
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First, thanks for sharing this. I appreciate your honesty and passion for your church and how it is incorporating biblical concepts into dating and marriage. Second, I don’t think your church is a cult. My mom was raised in a actual “Christian” cult where they routinely gave people new names and re-arranged families (assigning children to live with aunts/uncles, sending a husband off to a new church plant and letting the wife marry someone else, etc). That was pretty extreme, but they also calle…
/r/RPChristians11/08/20 03:41 PM
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Horns, I hope someone got something out of that, because I’m sure OP didn’t. Let’s see, several years posting in NoFap. (Either you quit or you don’t) A couple of posts pretending to be an 18F looking for PlayStation friends!! (can’t even make imaginary friends?) And a BDSMadvice post about not feeling connected anymore. (I’m guess she stopped pegging him). JFC this sub is one gigantic faggot dumpster fire.
/r/askMRP01/08/20 12:42 AM
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OYS #44 Abbreviated version. My goal for the rest of this week is to stop fucking stepping on my own dick. That is all.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/20 07:40 PM
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You're like Herman Pewee stumbling across MRP. LMAO.
/r/askMRP30/07/20 06:48 PM
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I haven’t been to the gym in a while, so no gains there. I recently bought a big jar of creatine and have been taking it, getting a pump from it Holy Fucking Shit. I can't even. ​ that will let me directly target my neck muscles. FFS, you are 155 at 6'2. Your scrawny neck muscles are the LEAST of your problems. ​ Sigh. It's pretty clear that you have zero self-awareness. The only objective external feedback you have is “below expectations.” /u/resolutions316 has more patience than I do. Read his…
/r/askMRP30/07/20 06:46 PM
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Just out of curiosity, what have you done in the last 6 months? I see one whiny OYS post on RPC about how you were too busy at work to do anything else. Lifting 3-5 days per week? How much have your lifts increased in the last 6 months. How much muscle weight have you added? What MRP sidebar books have you read? What have you learned and applied? Do you understand how to game and flirt with women (including your wife)? How has your frame and leadership improved over the last 6 months? Are you ow…
/r/askMRP30/07/20 05:22 PM
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Probably, but it would be short. I know at least one guy that can write 500 words about saying thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/20 03:02 AM
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My plan is to move forward with the divorce with her and confront her in about 2 weeks as I think we can amicably do this and not waste money with lawyers. Every guy says this. Most are in for another rude awakening.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 07:32 PM
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Solid progress with good first steps. The mental shifts get harder, but you will get stronger.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 07:11 PM
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This is womanly progress. She is now blaming her body, not herself. Big difference. My wife went through this. She won't take ownership for a long time. It's OK. Don't expect her to. There is probably an MRP article here. It's funny watching it happen. The lengths my wife will go through to avoid owning something is truly impressive. But she has no problem calling out other women when they won't own their issues. It is solipsism at it's finest.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 07:06 PM
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fat fucks can't fuck well. And lo, a new nursery rhyme has been created. I look forward to reading your book.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 06:07 PM
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Will post again next week. Why bother? If you aren't going to take a risk here on an anonymous forum and actually talk about something that matters to you. Most of this crap is a cut/paste from your last boring OYS. Fuck. Even your goals of government job security and early retirement are risk averse. If you didn't have decent comments to other posters, I'd assume you were a bot.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 06:00 PM
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OYS #8 - at war with myself Obligatory
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 03:25 PM
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I have tried to think hard on map and where im going with life but just end up drawing a blank. I can kind of parrot/copy goals materialistic wise such as bigger house, car etc but nothing insofar as what I want or the person I want to be. Figuring how what YOU actually want is probably the most difficult beta=>alpha transition. I found the exercises in Unchained Man to be helpful in thinking about it even if they didn't finalize it for me in the end. More than anything, the satisfaction is in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/20 06:28 PM
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If you were on top of it, you wouldn't need to feel so defensive about it and could easily play AA/AM. But your own comments betray your disorganization: I haven't been finishing house projects in any particular order (often because I didn't carefully research the tools / materials needed before starting and then have to wait for them). Combined with Reviewed my tax return and discovered I'd confused business and personal and paid my personal tax return with business funds. and the ongoing clust…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/20 06:16 PM
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I haven't been finishing house projects in any particular order (often because I didn't carefully research the tools / materials needed before starting and then have to wait for them). Translation: I'm not owning my shit around the house. ​ The wife respectfully "asked if we could talk" then asked that I please finish one project before starting another. Translation: Wife asked me to start owning my shit. She did it really nicely because she knows how easily I get butthurt. ​ I figured that was …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 02:41 PM
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I get what you are saying. And maybe I will be disappointed if she doesn't choose to follow there. But honestly, I'm happy now. I don't need to change her to be happy. So when I look at her and my family and think about where to lead her, that is the direction that I believe will bring deeper happiness to both of us.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 09:14 PM
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Well said. OP - Listen to this man. I started 2 different responses attempting to say something very similar, but ultimately deleted that part because I couldn't articulate it clearly enough. You are blaming the context (i.e. "The difference here is context"), but in reality the context is you and asserting your frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 08:14 PM
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Fuck. Given how much you write, I can't imagine how much you talked. Solid post. I'm learning to communicate more with my eyes and actions and less with my mouth. Putting them together sounds like the holy grail, but right now it's guarded by vicious rabbits with big pointy teeth.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 06:24 PM
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Have a large income from multiple businesses I own a percentage in with an emphasis on my overseeing the tech side of things. Be noticeably physically strong. Look sharp. Be socially adept, be comfortable with approaching women or anyone I find interesting without appearing like a bumbling idiot. Be confident. Write a book. Be popular. Get a large social network and have parties with many people who attend it. Want to have the appearance of a strong man. Translation: What do I want? V-A-L-I-D-A-…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 06:11 PM
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My wife likes when I spank her. Lately, she verbally asks for it. I'm jealous for this. Good for you. ​ Question - Where do I go next? How do I build on this? Where do you want to go? What turns you on? It's great that you have created the freedom for her to verbalize her desires. Keep it judgment free and see where she goes. ​ When I was growing up, my father pushed me to play competitive sports, fish, wrestle, hunt, etc. I was not really into these things and would rather spend my time reading…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 05:55 PM
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She was ready and willing for sex, but wasn't going to take the lead. I used to be angry about that. Now, I'm angry at myself for not initiating / escalating all the time and learning OI. This is exactly right. Her sitting on the couch near you was probably her version of "initiating", but who cares, you went for it and got what you wanted. Good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 05:40 PM
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The only thing that has actually worked so far has been "scheduled" home date nights (kids in bed, bottle of wine, charcuterie plate), and that does the trick pretty well. I just hate that it's scheduled/orchestrated. ahh yes. Keep wining and dining her at home. Remind her that you are a good beta provider and she'll keep up the monthly sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 05:21 PM
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OYS #43 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: ~195 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (17y,14y,11y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM pre-COVID): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 235lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man, Models Currently reading: Fuccfiles The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 05:07 PM
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Sex was same as last week, 2 nice HJs and one unenthusiastic sex session. Trying to rationalize whether I should withhold sexual activity if it isn’t up to my standards or even just to hit the reset button on the currently lackluster sex. I’m going to ponder this for a bit this week and continue reading. ​ Look at this this way: She is 100% locking down her beta provider by "managing" your sex drive with hand jobs to keep you from wandering off without having to actually fuck you. HJ's are passi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 02:59 PM
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Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/20 01:27 PM
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A while ago someone mentioned to me that “anger + drinking = complete loss of frame.” Yep. That was me. You are one of few men whose story I still follow. IIRC you also had a simple goal for this summer: “I want a fucking six-pack”. Did you accomplish that goal? If you did, then you will have no problem curbing the alcohol. If you didn’t, are there other places in your life where you are also setting goals and not meeting them? If alcohol is preventing you from accomplishing your goals, you are …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/20 07:17 PM
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OYS #42 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: ~195 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,11y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM pre-COVID): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 235lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man, Models The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spirit…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 11:31 PM
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The OP reminds me of you of some ways. High performance, high capacity. I still don’t know how you transformed your mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/20 02:26 AM
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It should go without saying, but DO NOT GET HER PREGNANT. Make sure you are in control of the birth control. (Iron rule of Tomassi #5)
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/20 07:15 PM
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Congrats on reaching Level 100 Dancing Monkey. That's epic. It's exhausting though right? You are pretty much the exact guy I pictured when I wrote this post. Next book you read should be Unchained Man by Caleb Jones. It will help you diagnose the social programming that is fucking you up and then you can decide what to do about it. In theory, your physique and social life and income (potential) are generating tons of dread. But since you struggle to pass basic shit tests you are technically at …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/20 03:39 PM
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To get you started... You think you are at a power disadvantage, so you think you need a lever. You have a mental picture of what "taking control" means. You think that you aren't in control and you think it's something you can take back (from her) "again". ​ Frame. I'd tell you that you are 100% in your wife's frame, but you would probably just agree with me without understanding it. So here are some examples. Mental - why did you write that you needed to "reassure your wife" about YOUR therapi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 04:21 PM
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but I think this may be the lever for taking control of the finances again. ​ This says volumes about your mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 02:10 PM
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Lol. Just my 2 cents. You’re a wild ride bro, and I have 100% confidence that you are going to finish strong. Thanks for being so authentic about the process. That takes balls and you have enough for a tribe.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 08:47 PM
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2) convince them you really want the job. I'm somewhat indifferent in agreeing with this. While I agree there should be enthusiasm there still remains the fine line of playing the game and being the prize if you really believe that you are. You have to think win-win, that's a better approach. I agree it's a fine line. Rollo (I think it was him) says that a girl moves from a 9 to a 10 based on her enthusiasm in the bedroom so there is no such thing as a 10 you haven't slept with. Flipping the scr…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 08:12 PM
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So a chick that is a 7 says she wont sleep with you because you will probably leave her as soon as a 9 comes along. How do you respond to that? In the interview, you have two tasks. 1) convince them you are (the most) qualified, and 2) convince them you really want the job. Sounds like you nailed number 1, but not number 2. You have to close her, not just her friends. ​ I did my best to quell his fears without DEERing- he did give me an opportunity to respond. "If I were to get bored, that's my …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 05:44 PM
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OYS #41 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: ~195 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,11y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 235lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, financial, physical, spiritual, family, re…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 07:19 PM
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Fascinating post. Thanks for sharing it. Women aren't stupid. Your wife likely knows, but it is either rationalizing that 1) it doesn't happen very often, or 2) the other women are fat/ugly, or 3) whatever she needs to believe to function. I mean, you could put her hamster in a corner and force her to confront it, but does that give you what you want? ​ Great takeaways: In fact, I learned that it’s my role to keep escalating, to be the catalyst Abundance changes everything. Be bold. When the tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 05:56 PM
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However, if it gets out what she did and who she is cheating with and how she is cheating, and the whole story around it, her reputation will be absolutely destroyed, and her family will likely disown her, which could destroy her. Our kids wouldn’t even want to be with her anymore if they find out the truth. If anyone knows of any great iPhone spy apps, please let me know as I’d like to get more evidence. ​ It sounds like you are playing out a revenge fantasy in your head. Give it up. You deserv…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 01:49 PM
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Meds and a couple extra weeks of food. But my wife usually stocks extra food and supplies anyway. Be prepared for short term rolling supply chain disruptions amplified by general stupidity and panic buying. Edit: Also, for those of you that are stockpiling toilet paper... what the actual fuck?!
/r/askMRP13/03/20 04:31 PM
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If he did, the forward would be longer than the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 09:04 PM
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Ditto. But I'll buy it out of appreciation even if everyone says it sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 04:14 PM
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BPP = little red riding pill Best line of the day. ​ Stoney's still here. He has a red pill coffee cup.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 03:36 PM
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Right here. It's all you need. In short, I literally smacked her butt 4 times and told her she looked great and that did it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 07:47 PM
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I liked Blargs post for the discussion it generated. But it was over my head. This was clear and accessible. But the bottom line for me is still this: when in doubt, STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 06:16 PM
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Professional musician Skinny fat Alcoholic Ego Doesn’t need help with his sex life I guess he’s Alex J Andersen?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 12:13 PM
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Work out in the morning instead of at night. Have her Breast pump and you bottle feed your son.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 10:09 PM
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Heh. “Go not to the Elves for counsel, for they will say both No and Yes.” -Tolkien
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 09:56 PM
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Yep. I don't know your background, but some it resonates. Two quotes for you: "To sell your soul is the easiest thing in the world. That's what everybody does every hour of his life. If I asked you to keep your soul—would you understand why that's much harder?" - Ayn Rand, The Fountainhead and " To the extent that we try to abandon the pursuit of our own pleasure, we fail to honor God and love people. Or, to put it positively: The pursuit of pleasure is a necessary part of all worship and virtue…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 09:49 PM
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I'm thinking of this line: Write down the number of women besides your wife you could call right now to chill this weekend My number is maybe 1 or 2. In reality it might be zero. I mean actually testing this would drop an incendiary bomb on my wife so it's still theoretical. I assume that's what you mean by handling the fall-out.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 08:50 PM
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Keep at it. I've gone at least 3x a week for over 3 years. And yet you still can't bench press your bodyweight. You may need to get your T checked.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 08:41 PM
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This past week she's also started saying, "I don't like being groped" when I grab her ass (which I do a lot). I think it's a comfort test, but I'm not sure how yet. Yeah, this isn't a comfort test. Kino is about escalation and building rapport. Start smaller and work your way up. Having said that, my wife said they same thing "I don't like it when you grab my ass." She kept saying it until suddenly she kind of liked it. And now she gropes mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 08:22 PM
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you already have an abundance (objectively speaking)…So why isn’t it enough (subjectively)? To me "abundance" is entirely subjective. Not sure if should be though. ​ But I don't know how much good it would do if you are trying to fill some other void/prove something else to yourself. I'm not sure how to respond, but I appreciate the feedback. There is something here that I need to dig into.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 08:17 PM
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I've known a couple of "brats". In retrospect, I look at the brattiness as a way of getting their "dom" to up his alpha characteristics in a particular context. Basically, they agitate in an area so that he comes down hard on them and they get their alpha fix. In my observation, men with already high alpha have no interest in playing that game.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 08:03 PM
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u/cloudy_pirate talks about imagining his best day ever, and working toward living it every single day. It's not a bad idea, but I honestly don't remember writing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 07:54 PM
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Volatile. Intense. Wild. Quick to anger. Impulsive. To be fair, many of these are "alpha" traits.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 05:16 PM
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I still struggle with anger Pay attention to what triggers the anger. It's a good diagnostic tool. Most of my anger is due a covert contract I didn't realize I had until it wasn't met. Also: Anger + Alcohol = complete loss of frame
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 05:12 PM
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I'm confused about your lifts. Frankly, they suck for someone your size and age that has been lifting for 3 years. Or is it 2 years? ​ Lifts (3x5) Squat: 185lb Deadlift: 190 lb Bench: 152.5 lb OHP: 75 lb ​ So I went back and read your previous posts and lifting comments and I'm even more confused. OYS1 - Great week at the gym. 5 days with good effort. With rare exceptions I’ve consistently done this for over 3 years. OYS 2 - Really stepping up my game in the gym. While I’ve been consistently lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 03:53 PM
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It was temporary. His tweet showed a lock for too many incorrect password attempts.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 01:35 PM
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Tweet is deleted
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 01:49 AM
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If I'm not banned for Rule 9 already WNS got locked out of Reddit. You should be good. (Link removed) Seriously though, great explanation of your thinking behind the communication.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 09:30 PM
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Maybe I need to try a different approach; I just haven’t figured out what that would be. You've done a good job of continually experimenting with new ideas and tactics. I applaud you for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 07:30 PM
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Wouldn't that be a fun plot twist. I still think there is a scenario in the multiverse where OP, wife, and babysitter move to Hawaii, embrace all their fetishes, and fuck happily ever after.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 07:28 PM
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You don’t need to cultivate options - but you need to know in the core of your being that you are capable of cultivating those options. I think I need to do it to help break the scarcity mindset. I don't know of any other way. I know there is some internal work to do here. I might be stuck in my own echo chamber.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 07:21 PM
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It helps to see it. Basically ask the following questions: 1) what are the facts? 2) what are the stories/judgments about those facts you are telling yourself? 3) what are your feelings? 4) what can you own? (typically the hardest one), 5) what do you want/need in this moment?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 07:14 PM
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why you feel you want her to need you I didn't see this as me wanting her to need me. More of wanting her to "prefer me" which is possibly a validation issue. Typing it out, what I really want is for her to up her "girl game" because that would make our relationship more enjoyable for me. That is what I want to lead her into.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 07:02 PM
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OYS #40 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 195 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,11y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 235lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man Current: Models The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, financial, physical, spirit…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 04:21 PM
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Crawl before you walk. Walk before you run. Figure out how to date a girl before you project all the sexual adventures you want to have with her in marriage. Graduate from high school before you project about your PhD. You have many, many, many, real life lessons to learn before you begin to address this topic. Eventually, you may understand that the truth of "All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be mastered by anything" ha…
/r/RPChristians02/03/20 03:58 PM
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Status: 25M, Together 8 yrs, Cohab 2.5 yrs, 23F. So you've been together since you were 17 and 15? Whoa. ​ she basically gave me the ILYBINILWY speech and said the there was a guy at work giving her tons of attention, and even Ubered together to our home after the Xmas party You are 25, not married, don't have kids, and she probably (99% chance) cheated on you. Do not freaking get married and don't get her pregnant. And lift actual weights. 60kgs/132lbs is manlet size.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 10:02 PM
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dumpster fire Dumpster fire would be a massive upgrade to this situation. It's not an LTR. It's maybe 2-3 months. OP still lives at home with parents and older brother. Clearly has one-itis for the first girl to sleep with him and she is apparently using him for sex since he is too boring for anything else. Sadly, TRP sent him here. Probably got tired of deleting his whiny posts on communicating. ​ OP - work on getting your man card. Until then shut the fuck up.
/r/askMRP27/02/20 03:14 PM
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Do you think the bot is intentionally using bad grammar to throw us off?
/r/askMRP27/02/20 02:03 PM
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Stoney's post on container words comes to mind. Look, trying to reconcile all the different MRP posts, word usage, and ideas is like trying to debug another guy's Excel macro's. No thanks. Short version? Good: Frame, own mental point of origin, confidence, other's opinions are interesting/amusing Bad: Ego based on other's opinions of you, false confidence, defensive (DEER), self-protective
/r/askMRP26/02/20 08:07 PM
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There are plugins you can use to add your own flair to keep track of users. I think I remember/u/rocknrollchuck mentioning that he does this. But I think it’s because he cares a bit more than I do.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 11:58 PM
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I like you, but the ego thing has got to go. And you don't even see it. Start participating in OYS. It will do you good.
/r/RPChristians25/02/20 11:24 PM
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Not to say that I fully agree with everything you wrote, but it's very good perspective on how this looks and sounds outside of the "Christian" echo chamber.
/r/RPChristians25/02/20 11:16 PM
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I'm not sure what happened to your other comment, but it was a good response.
/r/RPChristians25/02/20 09:24 PM
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> Be honest, when is the last time you were approached by a girl you would call a 10? It's been a long time since I've even seen (in person) a girl I would call a 10. > David had like a thousand wives David had 8 wives. You maybe confusing him with his son Solomon who had about 300 wives and 700 concubines. > Do you think the king of Israel, battle commander, slayer of giants, and man after Gods own heart needed to “seriously work on his frame”? In that stage of his life, yes. The prophet Nathan…
/r/RPChristians25/02/20 07:53 PM
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A blue-haired lesbian feminist just needs the love LEADERSHIP of a good GODLY man. Personally, I like 'em feisty. Boundaries and polarization take care of the rest. She will either be attracted or repelled. edit: I forget woman post on RPC. Love the flair.
/r/RPChristians25/02/20 05:22 PM
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I came up with a solution that is centered around me not communicating like a retard. Lol. Rule #2. Don't be unattractive. My relationship would be exponentially better if I could stop communicating like a retard. ​ the only opinion that matters is mine Always.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 04:56 PM
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I realized I mostly want sex for validation. I’ve been on a once a week ration since well before we were married. I think that mostly upsets me because I know other people have it so much better. It’s kind of like how a $70,000 salary might seem fine, but if you find out your co-worker is making $71,000 for the same job, you feel poor and get pissed off and indignant. ​ You switched from "I's" to "You's". It is an attempt to make the audience feel what you are feeling and thus validate the feeli…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 04:50 PM
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I need to post how I'm going to change these things, not just state the weaknesses. Yes! ​ Should I not post the other sections if I don't see a glaring weakness I'm focused on improving right now? Depends. What are you trying to accomplish? And yes, you do have glaring weaknesses in those areas... they are just a bit deeper in the onion and you haven't peeled them back yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 04:35 PM
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I don't want to come off as a judgmental prick You don't want to be one or you don't want to come across as one? There's a difference. ​ Secretly hoping she would either gain 100lbs or spontaneously turn into a wildebeast so my raging hormones would not melt through my skull. LOL. But don't blame her for your issues. One of which is self-pity. all I can think about is how single I am, and how lonely I feel So do something about this. ​ ask God every day for the right woman to come along, but my …
/r/RPChristians25/02/20 04:30 PM
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So a quick recap: Mindset: nothing Career: nothing Financial: nothing Social: nothing Sex: no sex, but no at least porn Habits: playing video games ​ This is how your OYS reads to the casual observer.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 02:25 PM
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A man makes his choice and lives with the consequences. What do you want? What consequences are you willing to accept?
/r/askMRP25/02/20 01:55 PM
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He would have made a fantastic speaker for the next 21 convention.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 07:04 PM
3

I don’t want to go back to blue pill but It's OK. Not everyone was meant to be unplugged.
/r/askMRP24/02/20 06:42 PM
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Physical Keeping to the program, three times per week. Been adding weight. Numbers are still pathetic. So what. Own them anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 05:43 PM
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Overall, I’m realizing my mediocre sex life isn’t going to be a quick fix. I’ve been a beta almost our entire relationship. I’m not going to be the guy who lifts for three months and then suddenly gets unlimited sex. Sounds like you only initiated twice this week. Is that all you wanted? If not, initiate more often.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/20 12:03 AM
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I read the title and knew this was a HOA article before I even saw the by-line. I'm pretty sure you are co-writing the WOTSM sequel. But it went in a direction that I wasn't expecting. The whole "beyond the epic test" part is interesting. I'd classify it as one of the choices in the MRP End Game that /u/man_in_the_world wrote about. I don't think it's necessarily a natural result of MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 08:40 PM
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My ego was 100% tied to how my wife felt about me. Heh. I told you that with all of 3 months of MRP under my belt and while I still had no idea WTF I was doing in my own marriage. This is why OYS threads with feedback are so helpful. It is so much easier to see this in others than it is to see it in yourself. Actually receiving the feedback and choosing to act on it are even tougher.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 08:26 PM
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At your weight / lifts, you are still doing body re-composition. Just keep doing what you are doing as you are making good progress. You might hit 15% BF without a focused cut.
/r/RPChristians21/02/20 05:01 PM
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Heh. My money is on the guy who is 6'4" 220lbs and currently actually deadlifts. /u/Umar_Neo you do understand that the 1000lb club is ONLY bench press + squat + deadlift right?
/r/RPChristians21/02/20 04:51 PM
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You combat this by being authentically vulnerable yourself ​ Yes. Modeling what I want to see. I'm doing this, but I suspect there is a 100ft+ rope here as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 04:09 PM
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I didn't put in the details. Background: I have 3 close acquaintances who lost their fathers in the past week. We were talking about one of them and his relationship with his dad. My wife kept circling around this topic and asking leading questions. I answered them honestly, but they weren't the answers she was fishing for. Finally, I called her out and basically said that it was clear she was fishing for something, why not just come out and ask it? First she denied it, but later said that yes, …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 02:52 PM
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Chick wrote this?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 02:02 AM
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You owned your history so I’ll re-engage and answer your questions. Do you disagree with scripture, or do you have a different interpretation of the first 3 verses I mentioned? No. I don’t disagree at all. It sounds like you memorized scripture for the purpose of scripture memory. No, I memorized it for the express purpose of replacing a pornography and gaming addiction. I wanted to fill my mind with truth, and meditate on it. In the short term (2 years) it seemed like it worked. I feel like you…
/r/RPChristians20/02/20 01:36 AM
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Jlo and Shakira are still impressive at 50 and 43.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 11:03 PM
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>butthurt Yes >Unkind I don't think I'm being unkind, but then again I think "faggot" is a term of endearment so I'm probably not the best judge. ​ > it sounds like you're trying to talk to her like a man This is probably the biggest issue. Outside of normal family logistics and everyday gaming, the only thing I've directly/overtly communicated is that I want her, fully and authentically, and without walls. And that I want this both emotionally and sexually. I've only said it once. She said she …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 10:11 PM
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OYS #39 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 193 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,11y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 235lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man Current: Models The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, financial, physical, spirit…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 08:11 PM
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​ What can this mean? Can it really mean that just storing the word of God in your heart will prevent you from sinning? Yes. ​ I'm going to strongly disagree here. I used to believe this, but I don't anymore. I believed it so strongly that I memorized a verse a day for nearly 2 years. I once memorized all 176 verses of Psalm 119 as well as several of chapters of the OT and NT. Humble brag: I could quote Scripture for well over an hour without repeating a single verse. No one cares. Knowledge puf…
/r/RPChristians19/02/20 05:10 PM
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It warms you 3 times: when you cut it, when you split it, when you burn it.
/r/RPChristians19/02/20 04:01 PM
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Lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 12:51 PM
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"Curbed his enthusiasm"
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 09:19 PM
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Switching to 5x5 during bulk. Loved 531 and will come back to it during the cut. I'm with /u/Cl_ARK on his comments. 5x5 is only good for novice linear progression. Once you are off NLP (and you are!), you need an intermediate program. Either stay with 531 or look at another intermediate program. I'm doing the Candito 6 Week Strength Program. I like the variety of heavy volume in the first 2 weeks, building up heavier weight, and testing new maxes every 6 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 08:45 PM
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Turkish women are smoking Young Turkish women are smoking. But man they hit the wall hard. (source: lived in Turkey for awhile).
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 05:49 PM
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Lol. As if they have to invent new fake betas.
/r/askMRP18/02/20 01:43 AM
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When someone lies/deceives about one thing, everything is now in question. For instance: Married 10 years. 3 months ago the wife cheated ​ But in Sept 2018, it was: The GF and I have probably fucked 17 times in the last 10 days. and I've dated this girl for 7 years ​ So I'm not inclined to believe anything you say. And you shouldn't believe anything your wife says either.
/r/askMRP17/02/20 09:05 PM
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The woman in this story has more value than our OP does, and I feel like chuck was being apathetic and derogatory towards her. You don't deserve this relationship in the first place ​ Ahh. Found the white knight.
/r/RPChristians17/02/20 06:43 PM
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Dang, that's brutal and strangely apathetic. ​ LOL. I'm pretty sure this is the first time I've ever heard /u/rocknrollchuck referred to as "brutal". Not only is he 100% right, he was downright sensitive about how he responded.
/r/RPChristians17/02/20 02:41 PM
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You should absolutely celebrate the wins. I posted a PR of 235 for bench last week and I’m fucking celebrating that. The next day it’s back to the gym to build towards 245. Celebrate the raise, celebrate the PRs, the milestones, the goals you achieve. If it’s relevant, post a Field Report about it. But like I said in the post, for most of those things you don’t have to say “it felt good” because it would be redundant. If you need to say it to wake up your manly emotions, then it should have felt…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/20 05:22 PM
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Don’t over complicate this. If you like shibari and she likes it, then do it. After that, initiate if you want sex. If you honestly don’t, then stop at the shibari. If you initiate and she says no, then no big deal, you have an abundance mentality. Not initiating via monk is generally a bad idea and has its own set of cc’s. She needs and wants sex too. From a man. Give it to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/20 02:26 PM
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If you're going to puke vomit on the internet, you're probably going to come back to tell us that you cleaned it up by yourself. Good point, and I don’t want to take away from the men that do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/20 02:10 PM
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Take it up with Cogsworth
/r/askMRP13/02/20 04:24 PM
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If it doesn’t have a squat rack, it’s not a gym. Find a new gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 01:37 PM
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He also has very strong semen.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 12:04 PM
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Still Lifting, Reading and STFUing If she treats me like shit, if she puts in no effort, that’s fine too You have been at this for quite a while. Your Primer on Power, was excellent. But one flaw that I see is your willingness to fight, improve, and change in silence. There is... a time to be silent, and a time to speak. (Ecc 3.7) I think you need to speak more. Man is created in the image of God. God uses His voice. A king uses his voice. A man uses his voice. Once you have achieved congruence …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 01:31 AM
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So you went on a "date" with a woman You didn't kiss her or escalate - but she wanted you to You didn't tell her you were married Then, you told her that "we need to tone things down" Then you admitted "intensely personal things" to her Then told her "we need to stop for awhile" ​ Congratulations on your emotional affair. ​ I have no plan in mind Obviously ​ You are going about this in the most beta way possible. You are sucking up the validation of another woman expressing interest in you while…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 10:27 PM
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The usual... Flowers, Chocolates, Promises you don't intend to keep.
/r/askMRP12/02/20 08:00 PM
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If only someone could have told him that last week.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 07:44 PM
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Put down the 5 love languages and read Steel's guide to the married red pill. STFU. Did you shut the fuck up? No. You said yes to fucking marriage counseling, you shared your feelings of resentment. Next time just shoot yourself in the dick and save time. Seriously. Shut. The. Fuck. Up. Also, let’s cover this: you do not talk about fight club. You DO NOT TALK ABOUT FIGHT CLUB. YOU DO NOT TALK ABOUT FIGHT CLUB! " Still confused? STFU. LIFT. Lifting is not optional. Do you lift? No. " I can’t lift…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 07:35 PM
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My wife is a reflection of myself and I have been very lazy in the last month How about the last 8 months? You started this in July 2019 and posted your first OYS in Oct 2019. Other than listen to about 30 books, you've done fuck all since then. Your lifts suck and you have yet to be able to bench press your weight. You can't pass a basic shit test. You have no social life. You are failing "Manning 101" You are dread level 0. When are you actually going to do something? Your user name is TheActi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 06:52 PM
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60kg = 133 lbs. You are a stick. Stronglifts 5x5 AT LEAST 3x per week. Drink a gallon (4 liters) of milk per day and eat 3-5 meals. Sleep 8 hours per night. At age 26 with newbie gains you should be adding significant muscle mass over the next 6 months. Enjoy it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 05:11 PM
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BP: 100Kg DL: 150Kg You are missing squats. THE MOST IMPORTANT LIFT.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 04:53 PM
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The difference between rape and ravishment is love. I think “consent” was the word you were looking for there. Just to make it clear to the autists and mgotw incels that roam this space.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 01:17 PM
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OYS #38 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 193 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,11y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 235lbs (+10); Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man Current: Models The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, financial, physical, …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 08:24 PM
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Dude, I have no words. Seriously. Shut. The. Fuck. Up.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 06:33 PM
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Upvoted for truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 06:18 PM
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If it's effort, then you need to allow some time for the slack to come out of the 1000 ft rope. If it's not, then I guess you still need to figure out what you want. ​ As for all the flexing, cool. You come across like a kid who finally has biceps and now takes every opportunity to show them off.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 05:32 PM
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If I were single tomorrow, I doubt that my wife is the type of woman I'd be dating. ​ About 5 weeks ago, you said this: The thing is, my wife makes me very happy when she puts in the effort. The problem is, she doesn't always put in the effort. ​ Maybe you are growing beyond her. Or maybe she just isn't putting in the effort you want. But, I smell some bullshit here. I just can't tell if it's fresh or five weeks old.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 05:00 PM
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I enrolled in a clowning workshop. I'm actually scared to ask. But, I'm hoping this ISN'T the new fetish that you and babysitter discovered last week.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 04:20 PM
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Start with an empty bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 03:09 PM
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Another week of machines Remind me again why you aren't doing bench press, squats, and deadlifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 02:52 PM
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Why are you here? What are you hoping to accomplish?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 01:51 PM
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How long ago was that?
/r/askMRP06/02/20 02:10 AM
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It has all the best words.
/r/askMRP05/02/20 09:18 PM
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I'd like to have more sex. How much are you initiating?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 06:26 PM
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How much can she bench?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 11:57 PM
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Sex is different than those biological needs though. It’s not about the food. It’s about the mindset. Why do you want to have sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 11:56 PM
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Soo, I have been initiating every damn day the last week, either via text during the day or bundled with some groping when we meet after work. No success, nor did I expect any. Initiating sex via text is weak. Texting is logistics only until she starts sending you nudes. I'll just see her as a measurement for how far I have come. She is not a good measuring stick. Why would you want her to be?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 11:47 PM
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Mentally wrestle with the deserve/want Deserve is a covert contract. Figuring out what you really want is the challenge of every recovering beta.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 11:38 PM
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Hey Ferb, I know what we are going to do today! And damn, that was good. Maybe your best so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 09:07 PM
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paging /u/HornsOfApathy/ or /u/SteelSharpensSteel/ as much as I love the username
/r/askMRP04/02/20 08:37 PM
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but somehow we started talking about this fetish she has (which apparently I share) and then we banged the hell out of each other. Congrats on discovering a new fetish. Combined with the potential move, you really do an amazing job of bringing a new plot twist to your OYS arc every time. ​ My next challenge is to learn how to lead (in the relationship) - while not being the financial leader/breadwinner. It's the same process whether your are the breadwinner or not. You have a long way to go, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 08:11 PM
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the conversation escalated from "people in healthy relationships have sex" to "I can't do all of the work to fix our marriage myself" to me flat out saying, "there are plenty of other options for me if our sex life doesn't work out." ​ I've had this conversation before. Several times. I've decided that the whole "I can't do all the work to fix our marriage myself" statement is her picking a fight. It's based on a false premise that you need to "work on the relationship" to keep her. Read "Relati…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 08:05 PM
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Let me see if I can operate the hamsterator properly: I’d say you nailed it.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 07:45 PM
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I've found that option2 works in the moment, but it isn't a long term strategy. I've shared this before because I think it's key: /u/MrChad_Thundercock : " If a man comes home to an empty refrigerator, will he starve? No, he’ll go out and find some food elsewhere." How you practically decide to solve that problem is entirely up to you. But the mentality behind it is the essence of an alpha mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 07:22 PM
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From this thread...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 07:14 PM
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Also Wife is north of 290 she is following suit and going to the gym as well As in your wife weighs more than 290lbs? No wonder she's tired.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 07:08 PM
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Wife also since then has thrown me 3 or 4 comfort tests. Told me this one has a crush on you or has asked me why I’ve been dressing up to go to AA and that girls must be making passes at me. ​ These are still shit tests. They are still focused on you and your actions. Amused mastery or agree/amplify. Comfort tests are more about her feeling inadequate or unneeded and almost always include "I" statements rather than "you" statements. All testing is congruence testing (thanks /u/weakandsensitive l…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 07:01 PM
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"Hell yeah"
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 05:49 PM
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Speaking of mother You have mentioned your mom in all 3 of your OYS posts. Cut the fucking umbilical cord already.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 05:48 PM
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I went back and read of few of your previous OYS posts. ​ 4 Feb - My wife has been DTF every day this week and she's initiated most of them. 28 Jan - Her lack of interest in me sexually bothers me - it makes me feel unattractive 21 Jan - Sexually my wife has been frisky and has initiated multiple times. Unfortunately, this hasn't led to much sex since her vagina is still sore from 2 weeks ago. When I stick it in she instantly feels pain. 14 Jan - My wife and I are trying to get pregnant, and las…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 05:32 PM
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OYS #37 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 193 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,11y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man Current: Models The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, financial, physical, spirit…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 03:30 PM
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I guess this means my Beta divorce plan is working. Next phase is recalibrating to keep things from escalating after serving her papers. I don't believe they will stay the same as they are now. ​ I've never gone through this, so this isn't coming from experience. From what I understand, you currently "live with / rent from" your parents in their home and you are in a high cost of living area. So after the divorce, you have a built-in place to live whereas she does not. If her safety is threatene…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 03:10 PM
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I didn't want to post this, which is exactly why I had to. If writing an OYS is fun, you are probably doing it wrong. Too many guys are wasting their time.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 02:57 PM
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Thanks for your reply. Yes I probably am a set of memes. Just a few questions: You can always tell who's really read WISNIFG. The point wasn't the specific questions. Nothing is wrong with the actions. The point was the mindset behind them.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 02:50 PM
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Yep, it's easy to be a dancing monkey a couple of days a week, but being a dancing monkey 24/7 is tough. And you never get a break from being the dancing monkey if you want that sweet sexual validation that you know you need. Maybe do lots of cardio to keep up that dancing stamina. That's the only tip I can think of that might work for you. ​ Edit: should have known this lazy-ass pathetic question came from MGTOW. But TIL that MGTOW is now quarantined. The tears are flowing like a river.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 02:36 PM
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You're lucky u/hornsofapathy is such a big softy and is going through a den mother phase as a new Mod. I’m dying.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 03:42 AM
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using mostly I statements I lead recovery meetings and this one is so key. People that use I statements progress to sobriety much faster than those who don’t.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 02:37 AM
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When I do stick the landing One more thing I’m learning is that tactics and execution are not as important as mindset. Put another way: First you learn to dodge bullets (execution). Then suddenly you realize you don’t have to (mindset).
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 02:33 AM
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Ha. Took me a minute to notice the flair.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 02:27 AM
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Insane. ADJ's wife started escorting not too long after they got married. It's like taking investment advice from the guy who lives in his van down by river.
/r/askMRP30/01/20 10:33 PM
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Wife is approaching the wall and wants freedom to do whatever she wants with zero consequences. All women (and men/teens/children for that matter) would love to have the freedom to do whatever they want with zero consequences. But that is not reality. You need to inform her what the consequences will be. And then enforce it.
/r/askMRP30/01/20 08:12 PM
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Marriage counseling. Similar boat, fixed it for me. ​ Your wife also cheated on you? And this is your dating story? ​ This was confusing for me for weeks since I’ve never dated an overweight person. Long story short, we fell madly in love, I no longer see fat(where before I may have had fat repulsion), ​ Lots of ups and downs but we did months of marriage counseling and are way stronger together for it. We’ve been married for over 3 years so far. She’s still obese and extremely pretty, but from …
/r/askMRP30/01/20 07:48 PM
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How many OYS#1's are you planning to write? Since your last one, you've gained 2kg, reduced your lifts by 10%, and pushed your divorce out from spring 2020 to June 2020. She's been openly cheating on you for how long now? Apparently your self-respect is worth less than paying some alimony. Whatever dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 05:30 PM
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Going to go shit my pants while I squat now... Thank goodness you have plenty of buttplugs.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 04:48 PM
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Good stuff. When I'm feeling it, I do stuff like that. Fix the feels, not the problem. But right then, I wasn't feeling that and it would have been inauthentic to force it. I discovered later that she just started her period that morning so it was definitely more comfort based and not a sexual hint.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 04:19 PM
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It seems everybody LARP's, and bitches, and wanders around for a bit until everything clicks. It's fascinating/encouraging/funny-as-shit to go back and read some of the posts of MRP vets from several years ago. The current WNS would have been banning them left and right. This gem of J10 absolutely losing his shit on Persaeus for his post formatting is my current favorite. But damn that guy gave good advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 03:45 PM
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Maybe. I was willing to burn it all down when we were in separate bedrooms 2 years ago. That was a no-go for me. Am I willing to burn it down because she won't fully surrender? I'm not sure. Thanks for the input. I need to settle on this or I won't hold to the vision when she tests it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 10:17 PM
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Then she loses out. I lose too, because I don't get her best. Does it end the marriage? No. Our relationship and sex life is already significantly better than it was 12 months ago because I am a better man than I was 12 months ago. But now I see that much more is possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 09:52 PM
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/u/Tyred_Biggums is right on at least one thing - I'm overly concerned with how she will react. I didn't realize how true that was until I started getting a negative reaction. Sex isn't the only value I see in my wife, but it's definitely the first priority right now. My vision for our marriage requires her emotional (and sexual) surrender to me - because it's in her best interest and mine. Right now, she doesn't want to surrender because I haven't been worthy or trustworthy of it. That's fine. …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 09:42 PM
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lol. Probably (h).
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 11:42 PM
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I went back and re-read some of your previous OYS posts. I've kind of skipped over you because you were boring. (I probably sound the same way.) But after reading it again, I realized that a) you aren't boring, you just write that way and b) you are actually doing stuff. I mean - you moved your family from New England to Florida - and back! You went into a sex shop, bought some stuff and tried it out. You apparently run multiple business and are financially set. That's good stuff man. Have you d…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 11:40 PM
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MRP has now ruined all movies for me /u/Red-Curious has a good post on The Happiest Millionaire It's especially relevant here because one of the key points was one of the characters discovering his passion/mission and committing to it. What is your mission? What do you want your new life to look like?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 10:43 PM
1

Moving past the anger stage
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 10:33 PM
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Here's the thing. Do you want her to get out? Or do you want to watch her struggle for awhile. Do you like her? Dread will not be effective if your answer is: "Well, I.... yes, I think I like her. Although she's kind of a bitch. And she can act really selfish sometimes. I don't like her when she's acting that way. Which I guess is like, half the time. Fuck. She really is goddamn annoying sometimes." Dread will not be effective in the second scenario because you will probably like watching the ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 09:33 PM
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Interesting. Are you the OP here?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 08:48 PM
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Foxy, you've been at this for quite awhile. Where do you think your wife is in the dread maze? (since J10 is all the rage this week) a. The hamster becomes aware its in a maze and gets pissed off. b. You made the maze too easy. c. The hamster gets legitimately lost in the maze. d. The hamster can never exit the maze, because that maze has a dead-end you didn't realize e. The hamster doesn't exit the maze gracefully, but just busts through all the walls in the most direct path.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 08:43 PM
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IMS: And I had to put my foot down Stone: Stop externalizing your actions. You didn't have to do anything, you chose to, and everything you are doing in this FR reflects this faulty mental model of distance from your own wants. IMS: ...under the previously established rules. Stone: I find it weird how you constantly detach the household rules from you. You treat them like they were sent from tablets on the mont. Do you not trust your ability to lead your family that you need an invisible authori…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 08:34 PM
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OYS #36 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 193 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,11y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man Current: Models The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, financial, physical, spirit…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:52 PM
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When /u/HornsOfApathy says he's "a little verbose ", it's a bit like /u/weakandsensitive saying someone is "too blunt". If RPC = BPP, then this is amusing. For the posting guide: As /u/BluepillProfessor has reminded us many times in the past: Do not use ten words when you could have used two.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 02:48 PM
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Before you press that save button on your post. Ask yourself if it can be instead submitted as comment to the Own Your Shit Weekly thread. Could this have been a weekly OYS? Yes. Albeit a shitty one due to complete lack of ownership.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 01:00 PM
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Women will treat you as shitty as you let them. If she is treating you like crap, it’s because you allow her to do so. Why do you allow it? If you want to figure it out, read the sidebar and do the mental work.
/r/askMRP26/01/20 05:22 PM
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https://twitter.com/brothermorpheus/status/1219221159247564801?s=21 There’s probably a YouTube video of the whole train wreck, but I didn’t look very hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/20 02:04 AM
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very good point
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 09:38 PM
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tm:dr (too married; didn't read)
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 04:15 PM
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Over the years I lost my social skills. All the guys around me started careers I am living out of my car Suddenly, I have no friends. My old one was a false identity Fake everything. It was ego protection. ​ Is this the dude in the red hat that Piers Morgan interviewed a couple of days ago?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 02:59 PM
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Sarcasm is my primary love language
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 08:01 PM
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Exactly
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 11:47 PM
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I know my logistics need to improve, and I have been working on them by not initiating too late at night, and trying to anticipate roadblocks. Maybe. But if you are initiating without having gamed her throughout the day then it doesn't matter how good your logistics are. Are you gaming her? Everyday?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 11:38 PM
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14 years – to be financially free. I'm curious what you think this means.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 11:35 PM
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But I do still get angry that I get turned down. I'm angry that I am don't get laid or blown on demand by the woman I chose to be with. I hear you man, I hear you. This was (and to some degree still is) exactly me. It stabs at the ego doesn't it? I've toyed with writing a post on it. All I can say is that I'm learning to enjoy the process. Play the long game.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 11:33 PM
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My mission has always been to raise a happy and healthy family. it is flawed because it is not within my control. At least you recognize this. ​ It was what my dad role modeled (granted he was more alpha in many way, physically and socially) I get the sense that there is some history to unpack here.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 11:20 PM
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You never used to lose your temper with me, no matter what If you lost your temper even with AA or AM, you still showed that you were impacted by her and thus failed. She is (for now) asking you to be the oak - sway with her, but not be moved by her. I love this because this is how women bring out the best in men. ​ I let my good vibes flow unimpeded until she has no choice but to feel them too. Exactly. Great example. Also very WOTSM. But there is still a catch here... do you see it?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 10:55 PM
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You are probably too passionate and genuine to pull off AA.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 10:43 PM
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Lukewarm. Neither hot nor cold. That is what I see here. *You want to progress at work, but start your own company. *LTR is great, but tests are more frequent. Sometimes they amuse you, sometimes they confuse you. *Everything is under control, but has it's ups and downs ​ This is a half-assed OYS. You are probably half-assing it as the gym too. Stop Half-Repping. Yeah, it’s hard, painful, and scary to go all the way down. You might fall over and do the walk of shame. But to get the results, you …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 10:25 PM
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I got actually angry, really angry used it as fuel ​ Anger is best used as a diagnostic tool. It points to weakness in your frame. A Mr. Nice Guy suppresses the anger until it bursts over into everything. That sounds like what happened here, except that you made the small improvement of channeling it into your gym workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 10:14 PM
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Thanks. I appreciate that.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 05:18 PM
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Same for a kitten (or any cat honestly). Watching a tiny 3 month old kitten kick the dog out of his kennel at night is an object lesson in frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 10:53 PM
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Truth suffers from too much analysis. -ancient Fremen saying ​ -edit: I accidentally hit save before I was done. ​ Take control of yourself, cut the unnecessary explanations out of your life and become your own mental point of origin. This is Frame. The rest of your post was largely unnecessary. But you had to add a few headers, drop in a few quotes and buzzwords to fill out the body and you ended up wandering around in circles. If you really want to dig into it, read all of u/strategos_autokrat…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 10:11 PM
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DTC.... He got that sweet taste of desire and validation and burned it all down to get more. Deleted his account, but he’ll probably come back. MRP was part of his validation loop.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:00 PM
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LOL. Now get Red-sfplus to write the forward to TFA's new book.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 07:45 PM
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If your book is as good as this post, I'll buy it.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 07:43 PM
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I got my first number close in 20+ years from a lesbian I know how this story ends. Don't become little dutchboy 2.0 !
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 05:43 PM
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You can do everything right and still fail. You can cry out to God for a decade and the answer can be cold silence. Sucks dude. Your entire life is one giant covert contract with God. And He isn't holding up His end of the deal - am I right? So what are you going to do about it? Live a life of rebellion to get back at Him? That will teach Him to ignore you right? Tell everyone you know about what a failure He is? ​ I'm sure this has never happened before right...? John 6 As a result of this many…
/r/RPChristians21/01/20 01:06 AM
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Damn. First, you threw shade on both Red and TFA simultaneously. Next, you brought Res316 out of his purple pill hiatus. You are on fire this week. What’s next?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/20 02:55 PM
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Examples; bondage cuffs, light spanking, pinning her hands above her head, forceful blowjobs.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/20 01:23 AM
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> try to reconcile the two worlds Me too. I'm not Catholic but, I like Richard Rohr's writings about non-dualistic contemplation. Approaching RP and Christianity non-dualistically has been very helpful for me. https://cac.org/dualistic-nondual-thinking-weekly-summary-2017-02-04/ https://cac.org/different-way-knowing-2017-02-06/
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 08:56 PM
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Yes. I'm just barely getting started and making slow progress. In retrospect, the whole "we are playing a sex game" thing seemed to help with immersion which is something that seems to be a problem at higher levels of dominance.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 08:04 PM
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oh I don't regret it at all. It showed both of us what her inner slut was capable of.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 04:25 PM
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Very good response. I don’t think it’s going to sink in though. Probably should add “and Lord, please help me to stop eating paint. Amen”
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 12:54 PM
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Thank God he is dead. I think I said this before, but you are a wild ride bro. But I'm genuinely thrilled for you and your transformation. Faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 06:43 PM
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I have the most respect for hoa as a contributor, but his wife fucked him hard from essentially day 1 of RP, and that makes him IMO blind to the realities of those wive's who don't. ​ Dude. I don't want to shit on /u/HornsOfApathy but you might need to re-read this. Keep in mind this was written 9.5 months into his MRP journey! ​ OYS #24 The "I'm about to fucking lose it" edition. MRP journey is 9.5 months now. Fuck the format this week, I just need to get this out there and own my shit. Probabl…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 05:07 PM
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We had a lot of fun with Bedroom Battle. Albeit while drinking and in the most beta way possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 04:26 PM
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You DEER'd a whole bunch of rhetorical questions. You are very defensive. Your ego is killing you. You need to kill your ego. Progress begins when the new guy has finished all of the sidebar readings and is starting over. Progress begins when the new guy can honestly post all physical stats Height, weight, and lifts . Progress starts when the new guy doesn't lace his post with pats on the back or please tell me I'm a pussy pleadings. Progress begins when the new guy realizes he's been brainwashe…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 04:19 PM
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emotional intimacy
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 12:59 PM
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The endings tend to be somewhat abrupt Sounds awkward and creepy. Women love to talk, but most of them are actually crappy conversationalists. You need to get her started talking about herself (her favorite subject). Your initial approach is fine, follow up with something authentic about yourself to build that trust and ask her a related question about herself. Another good read for you would be Models as it talks about that authenticity. run day game Kid, that’s just ego protection. 21 year old…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 11:26 AM
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I asked last week. I'll ask one more time. Did you talk to any girls this week? Did you number close any girls this week? If you aren't going to even try, then get the fuck out.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:33 PM
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From now on, rather than saying "I need to...", I will say "I will..." and make commitments to myself that I intend to follow through on. For most guys here, saying “I will” is bullshit. Since you are a “potential wild card” maybe this will mean something. Maybe.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:08 PM
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OYS #35 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs, BF ~17% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,11y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man Current: Models The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – financial, sexual, physical, spirit…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 08:51 PM
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> I wanted to be alone with the ideas for a while Stop ruminating. Start doing. https://psychcentral.com/blog/why-ruminating-is-unhealthy-and-how-to-stop/
/r/askMRP13/01/20 05:38 PM
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Nothing any amount of RP can fix for you. Tainpanshimshon would like a word.
/r/askMRP13/01/20 04:43 PM
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OYS #1 “Tear Me Up, Boys, I’m ready” (April 30, 2019) 27M, married 3 years, 2 dogs, 5’4”, 133lb (start: 160, goal: lean 125) OHP: 75, squat: 140, bench: 80, dead: 140, row: 80 Today - 13 Jan 2020 28, 125lb, 5'3", 5x5, squat 205, bench 125, OHP 95,row 125, dead 220 ​ You started off small and somehow managed to get even smaller in the 8 months you've been here. WTF dude. ​ You need a reality check. Before you decide to "throw in the towel", let's take a took at how you are doing vs this list of w…
/r/askMRP13/01/20 04:32 PM
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​ The point is i don’t want to spend 10 days abroad with her and the kids atm. the main problem is the way she behaves when her son is around, too much to go into now but it completely changes the family dynamics. The initial problem here was that you wanted to change/confront her behavior, and you tried to do it by withholding/postponing vacation plans. In other words, you set up a boundary that you couldn't enforce. You started off completing operating in her frame. You looked at vacation with…
/r/askMRP13/01/20 02:30 PM
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It was evident from his very first reply. But at least the example (and your excellent breakdown) is worthwhile.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/20 03:24 AM
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Good rule
/r/askMRP11/01/20 10:53 PM
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Speaking of math 300/hr * 4 hr gig * 11 gigs a quarter = $13,200 and I'd eat u/red-sfpplus 's ass if he's at more than 5-10 gigs per quarter. = one awesome GoFundMe idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/20 03:52 PM
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I just noticed that he deleted. Too bad. And RR/LR too.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 11:00 PM
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I know that skinny, drugged-up musicians have sex appeal. But... she makes more than he does, she refuses to share a checking account with him, complains about his lack of income, they can't afford a house yet, (and don't have kids yet). I wonder how this story is going to end. Tick tock.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 10:14 PM
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I'm sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 10:02 PM
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Exactly! If you read the modmail, he is "naturally what red pillers are trying so hard to be"
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 09:21 PM
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ok, that's funny shit. I'm sure it gets repetitive after a while, but I read the whole thing. I especially liked "I am glad that you think your opinions are important and that they matter". I assume that's a common mod response. The delusional "My value is, I am naturally what red pillers are trying so hard to be" was really good too.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 09:17 PM
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dammit... I was hoping this would stay up a bit longer. It was going places!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 09:08 PM
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As amusing as this faggot question is, we probably need an auto-filter that immediately blocks anyone that has posted to FGOTW.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 07:32 PM
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Fuck off. You need someone to tell you how to live your life? You’ve made zero progress because you refuse to do the mental or physical work. You are wasting your time and mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 02:07 AM
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It was the advice you gave him several months ago. Apparently he still doesn’t get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 02:02 AM
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And see where this train goes typical passive beta mindset
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 11:10 PM
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I was in a similar situation 3 years ago (pre-MRP). Her therapist told her to stop having sex with me while we "worked on our issues". We moved into separate bedrooms. I was pissed at both her and the therapist. So I've been there. I get it. It sucks. But it still comes down to attractiveness, frame, and game. You are weak in all three. Fix that. ​ And she'd like me to give her space to recover until she feels understood and heard and safe This means you are unattractive And frankly had sex when…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 07:56 PM
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Right or wrong, it was logical, insightful, and very persuasive. Unsurprisingly, your initial comment was heavily downvoted -because the guy that does this professionally has no idea what he’s talking about right?! I blew off askMRP for several months because it’s usually a dumpster fire. But occasionally the deeper meta layer is revealed and it’s fascinating.
/r/askMRP08/01/20 06:46 PM
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Get busy living or get busy dying.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 04:32 PM
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Lol. That was painful. Still not as bad as the sons of patriarchy video though.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 02:34 AM
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Imagine you both have a sliding scale of behaviors. You can slide along yours and she can slide along hers. Some combination of your and her position on those scales has her be the slut you want her to be. However, if you've slid as far as you're willing to go on your scale, and that amount is not within the zone she needs to be a slut, then you will never get your slut unless you sacrifice where you want to be on your scale to achieve that. ​ This is very interesting thought exercise. ​ You can…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 11:13 PM
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The post would benefit from headers and better overall organization. The audio and production values on your youtube video are poor. If the presentation fails, unfortunately it doesn't matter how good the content is.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 10:24 PM
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My goal will be to read the posts on shit tests. Here is some good info. SHIT TESTS: A FUNDAMENTAL PRIMER : " A shit test can be passed by literally any response which shows that you are not rattled." THE SHIT TEST ENCYCLOPEDIA :" Shit tests are used to “determine your frame.” Frame is a concept which essentially means “composure and self-control.” ​ We’ve gone 3 months with no sex. I’ve stopped initiating the past few weeks as I’m getting hard no’s. What do your initiations look like? Are you d…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 09:04 PM
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All lifts except rows have increased which is good Good I managed to get all my clothes shopping done Good I've started properly budgeting again. Good But... How many girls did you actually talk to this past week? How many did you number close? Get out there and fail! (which will help you succeed).
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 07:00 PM
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It's an indicator that he is viewing the relationship from her frame of reference, not his own. The focus should be on his own mindset/actions, not hers. He already knows this, I'm just reminding him.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 06:50 PM
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I read this and I hear how hard you are working to do what you want to do (hiking, sports, relaxing, new restaurants, lifting, hunting trips), but it's not doing it for you. It sounds like you need her attention (dare I say love?) for you to be happy. You are angry because you have an expectation (covert contract) that if you do fun and interesting things, she will want to join you and be excited and cheer you on. ​ is anything tied to the other end of that 1000 foot rope? For sake of argument, …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 06:38 PM
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RELATIONSHIP: you write "she"/"her" 26 times in this section.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 04:54 PM
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Point 5 is recursive... and still correct. Nicely done.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 05:07 PM
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Now THIS is how you OYS. Well written. Thanks. And thanks for taking the time to comment. Your gifts of fun are given freely without expectation of them enjoying them. Great lesson and I hope it serves you well. Very good point. An excellent opportunity to lead her here. Did you? No, I completely missed that opportunity. I doubt I could have said the above without getting pulled into her drama and further argument. But as the dynamic continues to shift and I get stronger with it, I will get to f…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 02:49 PM
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using the Daylio app. I started using this as well. It's handy for tracking all sorts of things.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/20 07:24 PM
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Still struggling with motivation. 241 lbs. 31%BF(digital scale). I've allowed binge eating to derail me most days. I'm getting off track with my reading. Net worth: -140k You are not going to make progress on any of these areas until you deal with this one: Weed still is struggle for me though, smoking causes no action with work & falling behind a little each day until something gets missed.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/20 06:46 PM
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This is like reading bullshit translated into Russian and then translated into English with MRP/PUA buzz-words randomly dropped in. Cart before the horse? More like head up the ass. ​ I've known some beautiful Ukrainian girls, but an 8/10 post wall divorcee... nope. ​ I also met a new girl two weeks before that, and we are getting into serious vetting. Vetting after 2 weeks of knowing her!? Vetting her for what? Or you mean serious petting? ​ I took her confidence down and build it up on my comm…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/20 06:40 PM
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OYS #34 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs, BF ~17% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 305lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM, Unchained Man The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual Lead (Most of m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 11:42 PM
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Progress is progress. Congruence is what is important. But read through this (https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4o8123/dont_communicate_leave_communication_is/) and re-evaluate how much you are overtly communicating to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 05:28 PM
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to quote Stoney: What you think you have is probably not the main event. You held frame and stated what you wanted - great. She wants a baby with you - great. She chose to be emotionally vulnerable - great. But your account doesn't sound at all like the "mother of all comfort tests." These lines She flared, and without skipping a beat said, "then why don't you do something about it?" The implication was that if she wasn't making me happy, then she would rather me kill the puppy. She was very gua…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 04:18 PM
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Suck me in the arm tonight? Kinky Muck me in the ark tonight? Biblical
/r/askMRP13/12/19 05:00 PM
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I am a peacock, you gotta let me fly! ​ I think we finally found your mission statement.
/r/askMRP13/12/19 04:43 PM
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And his frame grew three sizes that day.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/19 12:11 PM
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It begs the question: if you missed this up front, what else are you missing?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 09:06 PM
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The progression here doesn't make much sense. ​ June 26th, 2019 Career: Basically working my dream job, have built a great team for the firm's future (fired 9 people, hired 9 replacements who all answer to me), started an internship program, currently retooling lots of processes and job definitions, and have dramatically changed the firm in a 7 month span. Have landed half a million in new business for the firm and the clients now ask for me, not the CEO. Nov 19, 2019 Career: Landed 400k in new …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 05:45 PM
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Male friends are overrated. Once they lose the ability to move your shit for pizza and beer, they become pretty pointless Nope. They are also good for lifting buddies, job networking, building things, fixing things, sharing tools, and (if they are men) reinforcing a masculine perspective on life.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 04:57 PM
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You don't have enough fingers to plug all the holes in this dike. Slow down. Breathe. Think about what the fuck you are doing. Read through this again (assuming you've read it once already). Most mentally unstable and hostile women are preparing for a head-on collision with you in Lane A (Alpha). She's going to play the alpha, hard-ball strategy. If you've got a divorce 2.0 judge, you're not going to win in Lane A if you try to collide back. Don't fight fire with fire. Switch to Lane B (Beta) an…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 04:26 PM
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I still have a lot of work to do here with OI. You don't have true OI. You aren't independently wealthy or self-reliant on your own business. You need a job. This is why candidates that are currently employed usually do better in interviews. But that's ok. You are a high value man. You have a ton of capability and the right mentality. You've got this. Your OI comes from the fact that even if this company doesn't hire you, the next one probably will because good companies NEED men like you. Just …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 03:58 PM
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Make it so she's not your only option and you'll instinctively know how to answer this. Exactly. He should consider polyamory. Instead of not having one girlfriend, he could not have 2-3 girlfriends.
/r/askMRP09/12/19 04:36 PM
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lol. I said that exact phrase 16 years (and 4 kids) ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 09:41 PM
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Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7lolrm/thoughts_on_frame/
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 06:31 PM
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OYS #33 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 192 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual Lead (Most of my life, I have …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 09:57 PM
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According to your other posts, this happened three years ago... What have you done in the last 3 years?
/r/askMRP25/11/19 06:11 PM
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I’m getting around 7 hours of sleep on a weeknight. Go to bed between 930 and 10pm and up at 445am. Weekends, I usually get a full 8 hours. Keeping balance is hard. I’m overextended for about a month, but should be back within margin in December.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/19 03:12 PM
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This was a good post, but honestly I initially read it as "Training Day, A FR inspired by /u/red-sfpplus's Anal training" and was kind of disappointed.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 02:06 PM
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Thanks /u/itiswr1tten for this great fucking explanation of what was happening to me. That was a really good thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 08:42 PM
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Thanks for the comment. I've been mulling it over for a bit. If anything, it sounds like you’re siphoning off too much energy into people and activities that ultimately don’t advance your life in a way that’s joyful/meaningful to you. This rings true. On the one hand, there are a few people in my circle that do add to my life. But we get together infrequently. I have tried increasing the frequency, but we are all busy and there are too many scheduling conflicts around increasing it. In response,…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 07:53 PM
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OYS #32 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs, BF ~18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual Red Pill Awareness – “The Matr…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 05:15 PM
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Your stated needs are a great sex life with a woman who desires me and wants to explore sexuality together and a relationship with a woman who adds value to my life. It's up to you to determine if your sex life is great and if she desires you and adds value, etc. Which is fine. But 2 weeks after the blow-up you are already saying "these needs are being met in my current relationship" whereas before the blow-up you were going to give it a about a year. So it sounds like you are already choosing t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 01:05 PM
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I continue to have issues with being 100% authentic. It’s fear of being vulnerable. I still am caring too much what others think - especially everyone on MRP. Weren't you bragging about this last week? Something like " I’m not forcing myself to LARP anymore. I’m simply being authentic and caring which is fully congruent with who I am." With the opsec breach you are now writing for 3 audiences: yourself, your wife, and MRP. (Maybe even 4 if you count her friends.) To maintain congruence you have …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 06:20 PM
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I let my nice guy out and told my ex I was going to work out when I was actually going to see my buddy. I did that because I didn’t want her to have an excuse to see any of her friends or to hold it against me, but I lied to someone who I don’t answer to, and I feel fucking pathetic for doing it. ​ Why do you need to talk at all? You still living together? How soon can you physically separate?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 06:05 PM
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Big difference from when I started here. For our 7th anniversary ​ The evolution of your posts has been interesting to say the least. I didn't realize it was only seven years though.. I'd have figured you for 10-15.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:48 PM
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During sex she keeps bringing other women into our dirty talk, asking who I would like to fuck. A few days ago she woke me up sucking my dick so hard and again asking things like that. I'm not sure if I should be happy as fuck that this seems to be going the direction that I want or scared. ​ It's a fun fantasy for her. If you don't know whether to be happy or scared about that, then you are probably not ready for the reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:44 PM
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OYS #31 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs, BF 18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,6y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual Lead (Most of my life, I have b…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:30 PM
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It's hard to give red-pill advice to women. You might like the /r/redpillwives or /r/RedPillWomen reddits although they are secular. Not to take away from the excellent advice already coming from DeepStrength and RedCurious, but there is only so much that you can do. You cannot change your husband, you can only pray and work on yourself. Become more and more feminine to draw out the masculine within him. But I wanted to chime in and thank you for your honesty. In all likelihood you speak for man…
/r/askRPC04/11/19 07:36 PM
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Yay. Another post where I get to feel genuinely sorry for the shit that women have to put up with. ​ Edit: to answer your question: No you cannot make your lazy directionless life attractive.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 07:13 PM
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Step 1: be attractive You are skinnyfat and doing Stronglifts with dumbbells. -2 How is your dress, grooming, posture, social life etc? Step 2: don’t be unattractive. Your wife runs the house. You react to her. You are taking baby steps to change this, but you have a long ways to go. When you are attractive and have killed off the unattractive behaviors you can look forward to lots of sex AND a clean house. How do we know you aren’t there? Because her actions say that she cares more about how th…
/r/askMRP04/11/19 12:10 PM
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Kids are awesome. The jump from 2 to 3 isn’t a big deal. Yeah, you are always outnumbered, but the oldest will step up a bit. It creates more play opportunities for everyone. Just make sure you can fit 3 car seats/boosters in your vehicles. Moving from 3 to 4 is more complicated. You need to have a 6-7 passenger vehicle and getting a hotel room sized for 6 is a challenge.
/r/askMRP30/10/19 12:13 PM
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She was killing you mentally... This is a gift. You have no kids. You are young (I think), fit, and RP knowledgeable. You'll be fine. Go ride your motorcycle and enjoy the freedom. ​ (PS - Don't take her back again under ANY circumstances).
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 04:47 PM
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You didn't go for the sexy ninja costume?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 09:34 PM
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It is. Making her work for it is next level judo for me. And honestly, I was happy with her behavior, it's my own that still needs a lot of work.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 04:18 PM
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Still in progress. I have the vision of how I want my life to look. I have short term goals and systems in place that support both. But I'm having trouble determining my next mission. There are things that sound nice on paper, but either a) I don't really want them or b) they have consequences that I don't want.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 04:16 PM
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> And I still do feel sorry for the men on here We don't (with a few rare exceptions), you shouldn't either. checking your post history - Older narcissist ex that committed suicide - doesn't want to be responsible for another MRP story - post to r/insaneparents The overdeveloped sense of compassion and history of codependent relationships would be red flags to me.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 01:39 PM
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Good answer. Another way of saying “be feminine” and he will be more masculine. And if he starts slacking off in a few years, send him here. Don’t feel sorry for the men here OP. It was entirely our fault.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 11:55 AM
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OYS #30 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs, BF 18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual Lead (Most of my life, I have b…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:54 PM
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Thanks for the comment. I was kinda planning on sex both nights and probably on the car ride as well. But your suggestion is intriguing. I'll admit that I probably need more time to grok everything you are saying here. I'd like to take more time and think before replying, but I'm headed out the door and wanted to acknowledge the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 04:22 PM
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Listen up. You have a lot of conflicts going on here. Before I jump into those, I'll give you some of my background because it's similar. My wife and I "dated" long distance for nearly 4 years. For about a year and half of that, I was in a foreign country about 5 time zones away. I was (and still am) a Christian who was taught that premarital sex was wrong for moral, ethical, and biblical reasons. As RP and Rollo explain, there is no such thing as a long distance relationship. It specifically sa…
/r/askMRP18/10/19 04:15 PM
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Good post and good example of expressing emotion like a man. Also, since you reminded me to "don't fucking let people get away with shit, ever..." You still owe me a post on defining your mission - and your plan - and how to turn your ideas into something you can practically execute upon. I haven't forgotten and I'm still looking forward to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 12:47 PM
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Ultimately, I may need to shift to early morning workouts… aka 5a or so I made this shift a couple of months ago. I found that it helps with consistency because there are never scheduling conflicts at 5am. You do spend longer warming up so overall gym time is less efficient.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 02:23 PM
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I usually want the gf 3x a week just based on pure release. We are still having sex a couple of times a week just for this reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 12:37 PM
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OYS #29 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs, BF 18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual Lead (Most of my life, I have b…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 10:31 PM
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Some dancing monkeys are (outwardly) very successful.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 02:31 PM
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My weakness is my ego...help me kill my ego as quickly as possible Ironically, you actually need a strong ego structure to let go of your ego. You need to struggle with the rules and against a worthy opponent. You develop your internal values by butting up against external values (for awhile).
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 01:40 AM
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Most of the guys here posting in OYS claiming to be under 15% are just full of shit and deluding themselves. I don't disagree. But then I also don't understand the obsession with BF% on this sub. I think it was one of the first questions that I got asked. But: BF% is extremely hard (and inconvenient) to measure accurately People carry weight differently so the aesthetic value varies from person to person I have no idea what my real bodyfat is. I measure and report 18% Navy method, but I could ea…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 06:07 PM
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I don't want to Do things I want to Be things. This isn't about getting things done its about being That. You become by doing. Saying you want to be a billionaire is useless. You get there by doing shit and making money. Saying that you take responsibility and ownership for EVERYTHING is useless. It's like acknowledging that water is wet. Here are some suggestions: Stop playing video games. Stop gambling. Stop writing your wife letters. Make a plan to increase your income and start executing it.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 04:09 PM
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Unchained Man has some chapters about moving past social norms and conditioning. But if flows naturally from a place of confidence and abundance.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 03:41 PM
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Lol. Yes it is.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 01:01 AM
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Shit. I take everything too literally. People actually try to game me, give me playful openings, and I just give straight factual answers and don't engage further in the interaction. ​ I do this also. I'm doing it less and less. It's (probably) because your are defensive and reactive because you lack confidence and care too much about social norms and meeting expectations.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 08:27 PM
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Reading MRP posts (like this one) frequently make me feel sorry for women. All they really want is a MAN. Too bad there are so few of them.
/r/askMRP08/10/19 08:23 PM
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See you next week. Apparently not. Double or nothing?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 07:05 PM
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OYS #28 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs, BF 18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual Lead (Most of my life, I have b…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:26 PM
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Show her lots of videos of guys getting unsolicited blowjobs. That's still your mission right?
/r/askMRP03/10/19 04:43 PM
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So of course, working her way up HSP's famous bitch ladder The real question: where is she on the Evolution of Fitness Chick's ladder Fitfluencer or Bad Bitch (or She-Beast!?)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 09:26 PM
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TLDR: His wife is addicted to Instagram. She no longer exercises and their sex life has dwindled to nothing. The best part is that he is a counselor that "specializes in using mindfulness to treat issues related to stress, anxiety, panic disorder, addiction, trauma, concentration problems, anger, depression, grief, pain and relationship difficulties." Apparently its not working. Apparently dread works better than mindfulness counseling. Who knew? ​ ​
/r/askMRP27/09/19 09:39 PM
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I can imagine the comments I will get I’m not sure why you think anyone would bother to comment. You aren’t going to do anything about it anyway. Set an actual goal and follow through on it and you might be worth giving feedback too.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/19 11:36 AM
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There are lots of freelance writers out there that aren’t very good writers so in order to get clicks they have to mine their personal life. It doesn’t take long before they scrape the bottom of the barrel.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 10:30 PM
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Good point. They aren't yours, it's just your turn.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 09:19 PM
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I read some of your other posts. Sounds like you have shitty family situation so I have a couple more comments. First, I really think that lifting and building physical frame is going to help you a lot. The stronger you are physically, the stronger you will be emotionally and other areas as well. Also, you are marrying an older single mom with kid. It sounds like she has been very supportive of you. Make sure you don't turn her into wife-mommy.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 06:08 PM
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Yes, I feel you feeling up my new triceps. BP 120, OHP 85 I like your sense of humor.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 06:00 PM
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Old news. Also, who cares? Who the hell finds this sub by googling "married red pill"? I had no idea what red pill was before I got here.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 05:41 PM
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I access MRP 100% through mobile, so the app, so the sidebar doesn't exist for me. You can get it on mobile clicking on the ... in the top right corner and selecting "Community Info" Also the wiki has the full sidebar. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index /u/weakandsensitive (who doesn't care about you and wants you to fail) copied the sidebar over to the wiki a couple of months ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 05:30 PM
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Is that what happened?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 04:33 PM
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but the ideal is that she wants to fuck because I turn her on Sounds like Attraction Validation " Many a husband takes every word, action, or denial regarding sex by one woman (his wife) as a profound affirmation or rejection of his attractiveness, or even his fundamental worth as a man " ​ But I think you're making good progress. Next step is turning that dread into desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 03:19 PM
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The paradigm changes are all well and good (and necessary), but I think you are beating around the bush here. You have some real shit that you need to own. You aren't going to make real progress until you name it and start owning it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 02:25 PM
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A week ago she put on lingerie for the first time in a year and blew me for the first time in a couple. This week we fucked twice in one night for the first time in at least a year. It feels a little forced still, like she is still trying to do it for me I'm not seeing the problem here.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 02:07 PM
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here I am to get ridiculed and mocked at. I instantly lose respect for guys that say this. If you don't respect yourself, why should anyone here? We all start somewhere, own where you are and execute a plan for where you are going. ​ Getting married next month and its scaring the shit out of me. I am not from the US My first thought was arranged marriage - but you said both families don't like it. You have a ton of fear, no job, language issues (although your English is this post is better than …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 01:54 PM
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I'm going back and forth through the kitchen and she calls out to me "What are you doing?" In that tone that tells me she wants to have something to say about it no matter what I answer. So I think for a second before answering. A week ago I would have told her right away. Today I didn't like being micromanaged. So I said, "do you need me for anything?" She says, "no." I say, "then what does it matter?" ​ You are going to face a thousand more of these while she tries to figure out what you are c…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 01:38 PM
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Good post. I found this sub on a weekend and did my first OYS two days later. No lurking, I just jumped in. My initial feedback was actually relatively welcoming ("not a total sperg" by /u/The_Litz). I've found that it's helpful for me to keep a journal. Doing it publicly increases my accountability and also opens it up for feedback from other men, but the biggest help is just knowing that I'm going to do it. Simply knowing that I'm going to log it helps me get up at 440am to be at the gym by 5a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 01:29 PM
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But there's no risk and limited excitement. Bored of suburban life. Heh. Women aren’t the only ones that need drama. You aren’t living on your edge. You are extremely competent so what is living on the edge for many men probably isn’t that edgy for you. But you’ll be happier when you find it. Or just have another kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 12:40 AM
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One thing which she did say after we were done was "you really are the best at this" I smiled at her and didn't say anything. Mentally I was yelling "then if I'm the best as you say why aren't we doing this every night?" My brain is still trying to decipher why she said that ​ Good out of her head. Don't pay attention to what she says. Focus on you and what you need to do and what you need to have. ​ Edit: also - start sleeping in the same bed.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 06:40 PM
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As I work on lightening up my own mood I'll get better at AM. "Study these techniques, but never forget that a shit test can be passed by literally any response which shows that you are not rattled. " https://www.trp.red/p/whisper/772 (How to Handle Shit Tests) Finally, if you don't have the frame for an alpha defense (AA/AM, etc), then the right choice is to remove yourself from the situation (you have better things to do right?). She isn't improving or changing because frankly, you aren't wort…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 06:34 PM
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Tell the mandoline player this. What do you get when you combine a mandolin with a banjo? An instrument so bad that even the bass player can tell it's out of tune.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 02:29 PM
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Starting Strength or Stronglifts 5x5 You need about an hour three times per week. Lifting is not optional.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 11:43 PM
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I don't know what I want in life, but I don't think this is it. You are absolutely not ready to get married. Don't do it. ​ There's an expensive ass ring on her finger, that neither of us will want to keep. There's a deposit down for the wedding. Lots of money, relationships, and emotions tied up in this shit. Believe me, right now is the cheapest it will ever be. You have some sunk cost. Don't buy into the sunk cost fallacy. ​ Sex is off the table during the week while she is studying, that's j…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 08:47 PM
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In the future, focus harder on making stupid girls the side piece, instead of the ones smart enough to realize what is ACTUALLY going on. Or you could focus on being a higher quality man.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 08:23 PM
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I haven’t had any sexual contact in weeks. She cried but since the talk last week has put in more effort, which is that I wanted to see. What effort is she putting in exactly? ​ I’m proud of my emotional growth. It’s still my weakest link, but damn if I haven’t gotten so much more emotionally intelligent from this process. Good
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 07:59 PM
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So, get better at comfort and this all goes away. Her hamster is going 1000 miles and hour because your SMV is better than you, as a whole, and she wants this congruent so she can submit and be vulnerable. Good insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 07:22 PM
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On the other hand I struggle with anger. My STFU can stand about 9 shit tests, but the 10th I usually cave. The tests are at the point where I have lost a lot of attraction for my wife. You make it sound like an shit test is a test of endurance. They aren't. They are a test of fitness. And they should be very easy to pass from someone that you don't have much attraction for - because you don't value their opinion that much. On the other hand... She isn't desirable from a weight or attitude stand…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 06:49 PM
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5'6" 133 13.3% Founded running schedule to get rid off all extra fat. ​ Dude, you are small. You don't need to get rid of extra fat. You need to pile on the muscle. ​ Goals: Start lifting TODAY FTFY
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 06:42 PM
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The section on your wife is full of passive beta behavior. ​ and told her that, if she wanted, we could have sex after all that So I told her it was fine, if she didn't want it now then I was fine going to bed. So clearly you are operating in her frame regarding sex. I get that you DGAF and were "mildly interested" in sex, so you probably think you are outcome independent. ​ She continued on that that wasn't the point and I didn't understand her. Yeah. What she really wanted was a man - a man wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 06:37 PM
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So, bad shit happened, but I feel good. Sometimes I just need an enemy. Or you need to be challenged externally. That is one reason the sub exists - so that we can challenge each other. It's also a primary benefit of our wives fitness-testing us. We just don't like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 06:10 PM
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OYS #27 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs, BF 18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM Bigger, Leaner, Stronger (25%) Unchained Man (20%) The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 05:54 PM
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Meh. Not sidebar material. The speaker is a self-confessed Purple Pill manosphere theorist with MRA sympathies. If you get excited about mansophere theory, the video is decent as an introduction. Otherwise, it's kind of boring and does nothing to improve game, frame or masculinity. It might be marginally useful for guys that "get caught" with red pill material and don't have the frame to defend it. They could use this video to pedantically explain red pill ("see honey, it humanizes women!!!") an…
/r/askMRP23/09/19 07:16 PM
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From OYS 16 (2 months ago) > Stuck in a position where these shit tests are no longer fun, and I don’t want to have sex with her and get her pregnant because then I’ll be locked in ​ oops
/r/askMRP20/09/19 08:02 PM
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usually uttering the phrase "fuck this, fuck the world." Oddly enough I’ve been using that phrase quite a bit this past week. It was way more helpful than therapy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/19 12:24 PM
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I saw this list as something that most women ASSUME that a man can do. So failure at any item is an immediate DLV. In a one night stand or STR, it’s unlikely that most of them would even come up. But in a LTR, many of these will. As an example, in the part of the country that I grew up, football wasn’t a big deal. But where I currently live, if you can’t throw a football, you aren’t a man. Period. I’ve had to learn. When my wife sees other guys throwing a football around, she just assumes I can …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/19 10:04 AM
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He was here 2 years ago with a fat wife and a bad marriage. He is still trying to fix/control her. He may be looking for answers, but he’s unwilling to put in the work.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 01:12 AM
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Good list. I found myself looking around the office and realizing how many “men” I see on a daily basis that wouldn’t qualify. As a dad, it’s also a good list to pass on to my son either directly or indirectly. Edit: It goes without saying that this post is WAY better than "27 ways to be a modern man" from NYT. It's hard to pick a worst offender on this list, but I'd have to with either 25 or 26. " 25. The modern man has no use for a gun. He doesn’t own one, and he never will. The modern man cri…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 10:28 PM
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I'll give sufficient time but it cannot be infinite. I read this line and immediately thought of InChargeMan's Story. I'm sure you've read it. Particularly, this paragraph: " For me, on the early days, the list of what I needed was short. I needed respect, peacefulness at home, and good enthusiastic and frequent sex. I had been with my wife for 15+ years at this point. I planned for up to one year grace period, then after that if my needs were not being met, well, that wasn't an option, I decide…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 04:59 PM
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I've been red pill aware for almost two years now There is no such thing as Red Pill Aware. ​ Are you reading the sidebar? I see no mention of it. You really need NMMNG. Cut the 4x12 miscellaneous exercises crap and commit to Starting Strength or Strong Lifts for at least 6 months. Your whole post is just a meandering list of things you don't like. Eventually you will figure out what you actually want. Until then, move past the "Red Pill Aware" bullshit and start taking real action. As much as y…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 04:40 PM
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Eleven years of smoking have been successfully curbed. Good. Been off the sauce for a little over a month. Good. Finally managed to score a gig doing some old tech work I used to have a handle on Good. You are starting at the bottom. But that isn't bad place to start. You've recognized that you need to start taking care of yourself physically and financially and you are taking baby steps to do so. Keep doing that. Start with the basics. Read the sidebar articles and books. LIFT. And STFU at home…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 02:32 PM
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Hormone imbalance? Yes, You are way too low on testosterone. You should get that checked.
/r/askMRP19/09/19 11:59 AM
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This therapist sounds... weird. I appreciate the feedback from you and /u/00Pi. I've not seen very many therapists and frankly I haven't really liked any of the ones that I have seen. This one got the benefit of the doubt because she has a similar life story to mine. I don't think I have long term depression/anxiety. I think I have avoidance behaviors and stepping out of them has been tough and possibly bringing on other issues. But mostly, I think it has been triggered by a few recent events th…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 07:41 PM
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Emotionally stable Sigh. You were doing so well, too. Stop being so defensive.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 07:14 PM
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Have been getting the duty blowjobs 2 out of every 3 nights. She still refuses to kiss me, like a prostitute. I still think frame is the thing that needs my most attention, however. ​ Frame always needs attention. But if she is giving you duty blowjobs while refusing to kiss you, I'd guess that game is missing. Are you gaming her? ​ Edit: also... EVERY day is leg day :)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 03:24 PM
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I know rocknrollchuck has a whole sheet of links. Manintheworld pretty much just links back to about 3 of his own stellar posts. Every time you write Johneyacoplypse it seems fresh and from the heart. You just need a small amount of inspiration and it bursts out of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 11:30 AM
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Finally hit a 4 plate A2G at 5:20am was I was pretty stoked about. Nice squat! ​ PS - is that FitChick spotting you?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 07:04 PM
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OYS #26 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 44y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs, BF 18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM Bigger, Leaner, Stronger (25%) Unchained Man (20%) The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 05:22 PM
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You just gave a magical cornucopia of beautifully written excuses. Or maybe it went over my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 01:17 PM
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Well Rockstar, Apparently you give enough of a fuck to defend yourself with /u/Blarg_Risen so /u/red-sfpplus has his question answered. At least this rant is about 10,000 words shorter than your last post about anger and motivation. Some relevant advice from that post: " Like, say wife turns around tomorrow and it’s sex for days. Will I just find something else to freak out about? " weakandsensitive: "yes. you're that type. might as well embrace and figure out how to mold that knowledge to a lev…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 01:59 AM
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I am happy and back to 220#'s. That is all you need to know. I thought you'd be bigger.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 04:55 PM
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You should refine this and make it a stand alone post. Good stuff. As someone who struggles with escapism and attachment, this resonated.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/19 02:45 PM
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Defend Explain Excuse Rationalize You are doing a lot of it. This is a place where you called on your shit. You have a victim mentality and you need to break it or you won’t progress. I don’t have disdain for you. I don’t know you well enough to even care about you. I’m glad you decided to come out of the woodwork and post. But if you can’t handle the feedback, this probably isn’t the place for you. A warrior looks at a one-armed man doing a power snatch and thinks “that’s awesome!” A victim loo…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 11:44 AM
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A couple of weeks ago you were going to take some action on your wife's drinking and possible postpartum depression. Did you do anything?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 07:26 PM
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Intentionally or not, you are hitting dread level 3 and she is feeling it. Keep at it. ​ The poor performance really bothers me. That is your need for validation talking.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 07:22 PM
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this is not actually about sex anymore; it's about defeating my wife I want her on her knees to blow me, because it's more about the power transfer than the blowjob. ​ Sounds like you want revenge. You want revenge on your wife for all those years that you were acting like a bitch. I know the feeling. I usually have it after a sexual refusal or less than awesome sex session. It's always about the validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 06:12 PM
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Age: 63 Financial/Retirement plan Went to buy a lotto ticket from the lotto ticket machine. I hope you're joking
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 06:05 PM
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What do you want? Why are you here? Most guys show up here because they have been married for a few years and their sex life has dried up. You are 25, unmarried, no kids and she still wants to fuck all of the time So what are you looking for? I can read between the lines of your OYS, but it will be better for you to identify it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 06:03 PM
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food addiction validation addiction gaming addictions internet addictions porn addictions diagnosed myself with ADHD "codependency" ​ You seem fond of labels. I realize these are all real things, but you are hiding behind them. It's ego protection. Bring all those excuses to this guy and see what he thinks of them. Actions. Not words.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 05:17 PM
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OYS #25 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 191 lbs, BF 18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM Bigger, Leaner, Stronger (25%) Unchained Man (15%) The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 04:56 PM
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I read this yesterday and it terrified me. To the point where I considered dropping this whole MRP business and walking away, rather than facing my fear. Congratulations on facing your fear. Do you want a medal or a chest to pin it on? ​ So let's say you were starting a social life from scratch. Where would you begin? I was at the gym a few weeks ago and a guy I know there told me it was his last day at the gym. He was still on linear progression and making great gains, so I asked him why. He to…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 03:53 PM
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I think the phrase you are looking for is: "Don't chase her, replace her."
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 04:16 PM
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OYS #24 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 191 lbs, BF 18% Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 19 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM Bigger, Leaner, Stronger (25%) Unchained Man (10%) The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 03:58 PM
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My current base is $120k, with bonus I'm at $140k. So it's a 40k increase. I make a similar salary with good benefits and concluded $180k for contract/hourly was only break-even. Paid vacation, 401k match, retirement, insurance benefits, etc were worth $40k. I wouldn’t do a startup as a contractor. Without stock options, your upside is limited.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 11:46 PM
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Fourth, her sister is much less well off than we are and has a very beta husband. I could visibly see my wife getting prouder the past few days of everything we've (read: I've) accomplished by contrast. Yes - it frequently produces good results. ​ Friends Nothing to report here. I'm holding off on dread level 3 until things settle down with new baby. You've been putting this off for 8 months. As noted above, increasing your social life has positive effects on your marriage. Set a goal for this a…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 10:02 PM
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The point is that even though I'm in the process of fixing that shit, the damage that I did to our marriage may be impossible for her to heal from. Not impossible. She will literally re-write history in her mind to justify her conclusions. So it depends on what she decides to conclude about you. Which depends on whether she wants to be with you. Which depends on if you are a high-value man or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 07:29 PM
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wife pipes up. "Its his price tag, he has no value I cant give him away" That's because I'm priceless baby... Too me, that's funny. But I highly encourage witty banter at my house because I think it toughens up my kids and encourages them to think on their feet. You need to decide if you want that type of environment. It sounds like maybe you don't. But from your other comments at AskMRP (e.g. I called out whilst laughing... "you filthy pig look at the mess you have made") , you are also dishing…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 03:28 PM
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I’ve read here over and over that red pill and Christianity / bible doesn’t mix and it’s not true, it does and that post was no different. RP is an awareness of truth. It is not in conflict with other truth. "For where I found truth, there found I my God, who is the Truth itself" -St Augustine ​ Anyways, there's a sub for that as well if you haven't see it yet. But if you've read Dalrock, you are likely aware of it. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 02:52 PM
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Thanks. But now I’m picturing Paul writing“Love does not get butthurt”. Lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 01:26 AM
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The More Excellent Way Very clever. I like it. This reads almost like inspired Holy Scripture. It does flow nicely. There are deep parallels. For me, it prompted the question: “can you truly love without frame?”
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 01:23 AM
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kind of like looking through a glass which has been frosted over Or dimly through a mirror? 1 Corinthians 13:12 though the man who wrote this is obviously very, very clever I see him every day. He’s honestly not that clever. But I’m glad it was useful to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 01:17 AM
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I have an echo chamber that I historically keep locked Reminds me of the song “Mansion” by NF.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 01:08 AM
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Well, he did it: my son is officially in the Navy’s Delayed Entry Program! I’m so proud of him! He took CTR as his guaranteed job – Cryptologic Technician Collection Agent . Awesome! I was hoping he would choose something like this over the Marines. It seems more aligned with his longer term goals. ​ He also expressed a renewed interest in lifting weights Even better. Good job rollnrollchuck.
/r/RPChristians23/08/19 07:30 PM
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Johney, you are like the soul of MRP. Good stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 03:18 PM
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For those that are confused, this is a semi-humorous adaptation from the Bible (1 Corinthians 13). It is referred to as the "Love Chapter" and is frequently read in part or in whole at weddings in the US.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 03:03 PM
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There is deeper meaning the more you know about the original.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 03:00 PM
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we have a lot to learn about ethical non-monogamy Given what you've shared so far, I got a good chuckle out of that
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 06:59 PM
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(My ex can only watch my kids for about 35 minutes - between work and pilates) Did I miss the part about an ex?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 03:06 PM
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Truth. Too bad it's so far buried in the comments.
/r/askMRP21/08/19 01:57 PM
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I don't understand, how am I deferring to her leadership? From this statement: "I help as much as I can"
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 01:09 PM
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my wife is something of a unicorn Nope. And the longer you believe that, the longer it will take you to make progress. ​ we've gone back and forth for a year about the lack and quality You can't negotiate sexual attraction. ​ she'd get jealous and want to even the score So she doesn't want to have sex with you, but she might want to have sex with someone else ​ Honest question - does she orgasm with you?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 01:08 PM
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Is there such a thing as Captain Save-a-Schmuck? There are others more needing and deserving of your time and insights.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 11:38 AM
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DREAD pirate Roberts - Thinks he's a bad ass but is actually like the guy from princess bride? Exactly. And he also believes in true love and thinks he has an immunity to iocane powder.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 10:37 PM
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I’ll definitely look for it. I’ve gotten a lot out of your posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 10:34 PM
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The middle schooler I am mentoring was available this last weekend, so I let him buy me lunch and we played games for a while, then started to try repairing my car What? -edit: I'm trying and failing to picture a any high value man that I know that would let a middle schooler (that he is mentoring) buy him lunch.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 08:02 PM
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It's on my list, but I haven't read it yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 06:19 PM
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I made a conscious decision to prioritize those over lifting. At least you stopped blaming your wife (or your fear of her conflict) for this. You are sabotaging yourself. The longer you put this off => the more you will need to deload => the less motivated you will be. Are you sure about crossing "Stop being lazy" off your list? ​ Half the bottle was gone. but I can tell she is overwhelmed by everything. Huge red flags for postpartum depression. I'm a little surprised that you can have sex with …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 06:11 PM
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5x5 Lifts: Sq 220, Bench 135 But the shit tests I get I’ve been failing I don’t make enough to have 3 kids in the city I live in. One area I am failing miserably in is Sex. not having many close friends any longer ​ Low lifts, failing shit tests, low income, failing at sex, no social life ​ But you think that My SMV is already a few points above hers. ​ See the ego problem? Yep. ​ But at least you are focused on yourself. Work out your MAP and start addressing your weak areas.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 05:36 PM
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I am also kinoing more. Grabbing her ass, touching her mound furtively. Kino is about building rapport. You should be starting lower on the ladder an escalating to those actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 03:08 PM
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OYS #23 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 189 lbs Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook, TRM Bigger, Leaner, Stronger (25%) The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual Lead – B…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:00 PM
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My comments from OP's OYS last week: My biggest fuck up by far was opening my stupid mouth. You want to keep repeating that mistake? The number one piece of advice here (for a new guy) is to SHUT THE FUCK UP. But not you, you are going coach your wife on her issues because you have it all figured out right? There is a 99% chance you screw this up. She is by far the superior communicator in this relationship. Man up, get big, get strong, dress well, develop frame, and learn how to game. Her issue…
/r/askMRP19/08/19 04:24 PM
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I will keep gaming her and hope it at least gets me a handy or something. Pray for me, boys This is funny. But this one short segment says quite a bit about your mentality. Think about what you are really saying here as you start writing up your next OYS for this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/19 04:06 PM
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At this point I'm lost in my career. The reality is my father won't let go of any amount of control. I didn't get a business degree to be a tech. I want to be able to grow a business. Have a future where I can make more money. The potential is there but I'm not allowed to do it. I don't feel capable of leaving the job either. When I say I do most of the work, I mean it. It's at a point now where I do not think my father is capable of 90% of the tasks I do. If I were to leave the company would di…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 05:06 PM
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Thanks. I think I hit maybe 2 of the criteria. I'm definitely depressed, but probably not clinically depressed. I'm doing more mood lifting activities like being outside and exercising and I decided to schedule a few visits with a counselor who focuses on my type of family issues (since they are probably the catalyst).
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 04:38 PM
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I told the wife while at the beach yesterday that I was going to go down on her after we showered when we got home, and she said she was looking forward to it, but I didn’t say anything else about it again. When we got home she said she felt sick and didn’t want it anymore and to not bug her about it. ​ What did her actions say? If they were consistent with her words, then your failure was that you raised sexual interest, but then didn't maintain it through the close. If she told you that she wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 03:18 PM
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Missing were things like the unsolicited and enthusiastic blowjobs. This seems to be a popular theme in OYS#1's.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 02:55 PM
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”Confident, stable, physically fit, tattooed father of two awesome kids I have custody of. You will have to be spontaneous and adventurous if you expect to hang. You will find me out living life, not sitting around. Are you fun and interesting? Cool. Lets chat.” An acquaintance of mine has similar circumstances to you. He limited his matches to 22-29 year olds. His profile said: “Daddy issues? Let’s work them out together.” He was very pleased with his results.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 11:04 PM
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No.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 10:56 PM
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OYS #22 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 189 lbs Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook TRM – (75%) Bigger, Leaner, Stronger (25%) The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual L…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 07:26 PM
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I never wanted kids to begin with You had them anyway. So no more excuses. How a man is at home is who he really is. If you are a spectator in your family, you are a spectator in life. Lead your family. Use some beta-bucks to hire someone to handle the minutia. From what I can see, the only leading you are doing is on saving for an early retirement. Which is kind of funny for someone who dreads an 8 week vacation.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 09:24 PM
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You kicked her out for crossing a boundary (downloading a dating app). That was a position of strength and boundary enforcement. You took her back because "I was too weak alone"... That was a position of weak-ass faggotry. You said this a couple of months ago: " Regardless of her physical attraction towards me, emotionally she found me pathetic. Newbs of MRP, it doesn’t matter how great you look, your woman can still be as dry as stale bread if you can’t change the foundational behaviors that pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 04:06 PM
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Fucking Red Pill. Fuck me. I can't unsee what I've seen and I can't unlearn what I've learned. Would you really want to?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 03:27 PM
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> Involuntary laughter ensued. I read it while resting between squat sets this morning. Took me a few extra minutes to regain focus.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 02:46 PM
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OYS: I don’t trust my wife. I don’t know if I ever will again. She’s LD (with me) and no amount of kino and play and abs is helping my cause. Why did you get back together with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 09:36 PM
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The plan is to take my formal 8 weeks paternity leave at the end of the year. I'm trying to figure out how to shorten it without my wife losing it. I don't want to be home that long. ​ Seriously? Develop some imagination. Your baby will be 3-4 months old by then. Go somewhere. Go visit relatives. Take a long vacation. Take your kids to Disney World. Go skiing. Do all of the above. Hire a nanny or recruit a younger cousin/niece to travel with you and help babysit. ​ I am trying to make the best o…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 07:09 PM
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She has issues and she needs help. I'm going to help her. maybe she does... but : My biggest fuck up by far was opening my stupid mouth. You want to keep repeating that mistake? The number one piece of advice here (for a new guy) is to SHUT THE FUCK UP. But not you, you are going coach your wife on her issues because you have it all figured out right? There is a 99% chance you screw this up. She is by far the superior communicator in this relationship. Man up, get big, get strong, dress well, de…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 06:52 PM
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I get the new car smell. Also known as New Relationship Energy. It's awesome. With the whole D/s thing, you are launching a brand new relationship and the sex is on fire. The sexual power is a drug - for BOTH of you. But for the drug to keep working, you have to increase the dosage. You are already investing a ton of time and mental energy into this. How much can you keep escalating? How much do you want to? Think hard about what /u/red-sfpplus is saying. Think hard about where you want to end u…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 06:39 PM
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Where do you go from here? ​ The problem that I see is that you have to keep escalating (or crash). ​ It's a great story though. Way better than 50 shades of trash :) -edit
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 03:28 PM
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"I am the captain now!" She said "captain underpants!" LOL. When If you learn to handle shit tests as well as she does, you will be doing great. ​ Until then, don't talk about fight club and don't talk about how you are "improving". Demonstrate. Show, don't tell. Women talk. Men do. ​ I will be leading us in marriage counseling using some materials that I found Umm what?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 03:24 PM
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OYS #21 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 187 lbs Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook TRM – (35%) Bigger, Leaner, Stronger (25%) The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundance, generosity, and adventure in all areas of life – sexual, mental, physical, spiritual L…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 02:53 PM
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I am going to assume you JackTen’d that shit. lol I'll always wonder if JackTen was as eloquent with his wife as he was here.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 06:21 PM
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My cold approach game is terrible. I did take some time to practice. The only fun one was where I chatted up a barista for a few minutes, but I dropped it when other customers showed up and she got busy. Otherwise, I mostly talked with men.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 06:21 PM
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OYS traveling edition Out of town for most of the last week. Skipped two workouts and two nights of sleep. Sex just before I left even though she was sick. Mild arguments when I got back, but nothing too serious. I made some progress on upgrading the wardrobe. I spent a little more money on clothes and new glasses than I normally would, but I really like the look. I did a lot more leading with my extended family even though I was the odd one out. I still worry too much about what they think. I g…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 02:55 PM
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I am not beta, lately I have been very mission focused ​ LOL. Ok. Hey bro, you figure out what you want yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 02:23 PM
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Well... that was entertaining. I barely know where to start. But that doesn't matter because time is not linear I guess it's a flat circle? ​ So, OP was a fat fuck with premature ejaculation issues who married a 9. BUT... After 2 years of lifting, he is now constantly meeting women who are hotter than his wife who he can have at any minute of any day because he is always the hottest guy in the room (apparently he likes to check out other guys too?) or he leaves. Also, he's the best lover in a 50…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 02:57 PM
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Finish the Fountainhead and SGM Why the Fountainhead? I read it in HS and remember it fondly, but why now?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 07:32 PM
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Are you taking anti-inflammatory meds and icing the shit out it? Frequently, it's the inflammation from the herniated disc (and not the disc itself) that it pinching the nerve. ​ Get a second opinion from another doctor and one from a reputable chiropractor. You really don't want spine surgery if you can avoid it. I herniated a disc in my lower back. Dr. wanted to do surgery asap. MRI's showed it clearly flattened and squished out of the spinal column. Dr. asked me if i had lost bowel control ye…
/r/askMRP24/07/19 05:20 PM
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OYS #20 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) ​ Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 188 lbs Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs ​ Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook TRM – stalled (15%) maintain mystery - woman loving "figuring" out men with their own intuition Bigger, Leaner, Stronger (20%) ​ The Vision: Lead. Be the oak. Enjoy abundan…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 04:38 PM
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- Wrote and recorded a record that SO many people tell me "saved their life;" the songs I've created are many people's favorites of all time. - Started a company that provides an incredible living for 9 people. Multi-million dollar business that runs nearly without me; I didn't get a single work call while on vacation. I'm putting kids through college and leading an incredible team. - Married my oneitis and fuck her regularly. - In the top 30% of all men physically (I'm told) (and only getting b…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 02:22 PM
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You're a wild ride bro. Glad its working for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 04:04 PM
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Congrats on the new baby! As a parent of three, you are now permanently outnumbered. I've found myself to be much more introspective when witnessing new life. Now might be a good time to: Figure out what I want out of life
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 03:22 PM
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After 500 lbs you go for the centaur babes.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 09:52 PM
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It's weird how emotional some of your wives are. ​ Heh. It's a feature, not a bug.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 02:56 PM
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I find myself confused, I am stuck between who I am and who I want to be. ​ Who do you want to be? What does your ideal life look like?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 02:52 PM
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I'm not really looking forward to being their primary caregiver for three weeks straight (not to mention a full 8 weeks later this year). They are great in small doses but I get bored with them. ​ Get them out of the house. Go to a zoo, children's museum, waterpark, playground, trampoline park, etc. Let them go exploring and get physical. Find an environment that they can be active with minimal supervision. Depending on the venue, you can day game with the young moms that are there doing the sam…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 02:32 PM
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The only issue that I can fix is to not revert back to passive avoidance and similar beta behaviors. In my opinion, my wife wants to outsource ownership of underlying issues by transferring them to a counselor. I see no benefit in this. I’m already confronting them head on and have been for about nine months. I will continue to be the oak here as the rock is a trigger for her. Mostly, I think she has been successful in getting her way by using highly emotional appeals that I have eventually give…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 02:26 AM
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OYS #19 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) ​ Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 187 lbs Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​ Summary: There's a thousand you’s, there's only one of me. I spent quite a bit of time really thinking through /u/Blarg_Risen comment last week about being the Prize. ​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 340lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs ​ Sidebar reading : MRP Posts, MMSLP, NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, Pook TRM …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 04:25 PM
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Welcome back. You definitely need to post at least once a month. Weekly would be better. Stick with it this time. I'm not sure what triggered your return, but yeah, you're a faggot. Just like the rest of us. Once you are down puking all over everything, you can stop calling yourself names, write out your MAP, post it, and start following it step by step.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 09:58 PM
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MMSLP – men want better sex, women want better men. Be a better man I know it says this. But it reeks of covert contracts - i.e. if I become a "better" man, my wife will want to have sex with me. Become a better man for you. Better man /= alpha. There are lots of really good men here that aren't getting any.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 09:47 PM
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My wife and I have a typical AAAAAF relationship What the hell is that? Almost Always Avoiding Absolutely Any Fucking? On a more serious note... When my wife and I lived in separate bedrooms for a couple of months, I started scheduling massages and the local massage therapy school. It was cheap and relaxing. She went to counseling, I went and got massage therapy. I was way happier after my massages than she was after her counseling.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 07:49 PM
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For squat form, hold and an imaginary (or real) tennis ball under your chin. It will help position your head and eyes correctly. You should be looking at a spot on the floor or wall about 3 feet away - not looking up. You also need to go quite a bit deeper to get the full benefit. I'm guessing you have some flexibility issues preventing that (like I did). Try squatting with your heels on a 2.5 lb plate or buying squat shoes with a raised heel. I can't see your hands, but the way the bar is rolli…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 05:02 PM
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a) funny story b) you have way too much time this morning c) are /u/aggierogue3 and /u/RK4765 the same person? Because I don't see the connection
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 03:42 PM
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I could see most of that, but I still appreciate the explanation. You are very adept at the art of narrative.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 01:22 AM
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Thanks, that was thoughtful and provoking.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 02:16 AM
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Your life situation sounds really good, actually. You have an attractive wife who has put up with far more shit from you than you deserve, and is a good mother to your children; you have a good, well-paying job; your life would be great if you would simply OYS... Impressive illustration of frame. You completely reframed his life and it was compelling enough that he embraced and accepted your framing of his life over his own.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 01:00 AM
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When I read this the first time, I totally saw "I discussed my leave plans with my manager and I he made it clear that, while it was my right to take the leave when I wanted to, it would be very detrimental to the project, my team, and my career if I were to choose to take the full 8 weeks of leave immediately once our son is born." If that were the case, I could understand. When we had our third kid, I was completely ready to go back to work after 2 weeks. And taking off 8 weeks around the holi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 06:49 PM
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It's definitely ego. I view myself as the prize and her rejection reminds me that she doesn't see it that way - and that I still have lots of work to do. So in that way, it is also motivating. But it also taps something much deeper and more primal than ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 05:49 PM
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Although unlikely, I still see a scenario where you keep both the wife and babysitter and everyone lives happily ever after in Hawaii. IIRC you were having sex with both of them (separately) a couple of weeks ago. You may be a train wreck, but at least you are hitting rule zero. As a counterpoint to my personal theory... I could offer an alternate narrative. If all I knew about you was that you were banging a 19 year old while on vacation with your kids in Hawaii and that your wife knew about it…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 02:58 PM
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Yes. But this little corner of Reddit is called Own YOUR Shit. So stop blaming and start owning.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 01:39 AM
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Seems I need to really build my mental muscles around what I want first here Yes. Also, I’m starting to understand why guys get paid for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 12:06 AM
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a remark or statement, especially one with a moral content, that has been used too often to be interesting or thoughtful.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 10:38 PM
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On the plus side, at least you’re not a fake, posturing alpha. On the down side, this is the poster child for blue pill beta responses. The past 22 years “just happened “ and in the future you want basic happy platitudes. Care to try again?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 10:27 PM
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What do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 09:47 PM
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See why I love to throw around the word 'faggot' so liberally? Yes. A thousand times yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 09:00 PM
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I guess if you are dead set on being a beta orbiter, you might as well do it with a young model. Might as well plan on buying her meals when you get together. And if you could spring for her therapy sessions, that would be cool too.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 04:10 PM
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You are doing it again... ​ Honestly, I think mainly over the last while she is so attached to her business and the negative things in the news that it tends to wear her down. Last night at 10 pm she was telling me everyone goes to bed at 10 am and gets quiet. I said who said at 10 pm its time to go to bed everyone? She seems to be sold on some story that she needs to go to bed at 10 PM to wake up at 8 am that is 10 hours of sleep and she is still irritated and aggravated? But I do not want to g…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 03:52 PM
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FFS this is painful to read... ​ What would you do if your wife comes out after Judo and asks you to clean the toilet because your pee in on there? Then hits you with the shower too around her being embarrassed to have someone clean? I felt bad after she laid it on me. Part of me thought of saying well, what part of paying the bills do you do ? I know that would be reactive ... But then she proceeded to say crazy shit like, there will be some disease someone gets.. This is all fucking extreme be…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 03:43 PM
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I had the same feeling of diminishing returns over the past few weeks but it turned out to be a lull and I realize I have a long way to go still. That's a good perspective. I do still have a long way to go. You know this needs to change, right? Working on it. A year ago, any rejection led to me shutting down the relationship for 2-3 days. Now I'm just irritated. Why do her rejections affect you? It's primal.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 02:30 PM
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Well it’s all done on a smith machine, so.... Lol Part of me would rather just be a monster brick shithouse at the same numbers Some people are just genetically strong. I knew a chick that was less than 150 soaking wet that could deadlift well over 400lbs. But man... what you could lift with another 25 lbs of muscle!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 02:37 AM
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5’8” 172 lbs Squat: 350 1RM DL: 465 1RM Bench: 315 1RM OHP: 185 1RM ​ Damn... I mean, I don't want to stoke your ego, but damn that's a lot of weight for a 172lb body.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 09:35 PM
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OYS #18 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) ​ Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 188 lbs Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,14y,10y,5y) ​ Summary: Took a 4 week break from Reddit/MRP. I was super busy and felt like I was hitting diminishing returns for my time invested. Came back to see lots of quibbling in the “manosphere” that is frankly embarrassing. I do see value in keeping a weekly journal though, and this is the right place to do it for now. ​ Lifts (Demonstrated 1RM): Squat…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 08:36 PM
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She threatens to leave/divorce almost every week. Must be fun - even though you generally know she isn't serious. You've previously identified that you feel like your parent's divorce really messed you up as a kid. She knows that you fear it. She uses it as leverage because it works (for now). ​ All the stuff you list above is correct. And honestly, it's a low blow. You expect her to fight fair? Lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 07:32 PM
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Lots of comments here about your wife. I just think she was being snarky. We already know that she got barred from a supermarket for a year for confronting a bad driver and making him apologize for his driving (and his small manhood). ​ I think you are witnessing the polarity reversal. She has the career and manages the finances. She's taken on the masculine role. You are the caretaker for the children which is the more feminine role. Her comments are pushing you further into a caretaking role a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 06:53 PM
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She took the initiative during sex to sit on my face, which shows effort on her part. Cool ​ For someone who was hesitant to take off her bra, this seems like a big step. Nice progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 02:13 PM
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Comfort tests! I still struggle with these. I hate the “do you still love me? Are you even my husband? Etc.” tests. I just try and give her a hug and reassure her, but I know I could be doing better on these. Any help would be appreciated. ​ Those sound like shit tests to me. Shit tests almost always have an accusation and the word "you". ​ Comfort tests include the word "I" and are about how she feels bad. The comfort version of the above would be "I feel alone" or "I'm a bad wife, I feel unlov…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 04:20 PM
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Ok Rockstar, let's review. ​ 8 weeks ago with the ex: Everything was sold out, and we ended up sharing a room I got the sense that if I had made it physical, it could have happened...but I didn't want to (or, I wasn't willing to). She's very sexually open in general, but has engaged in a whole lot of extreme sex I could literally see my old programming running through my head. "Buy her flowers!"... Given a total lay up, if I had followed my natural instincts I would have completely killed all at…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 04:00 PM
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I started commenting on others' OYS and askMRP posts and it went pretty well. My comments were received well for the most part. Don't turn it into validation seeking behavior. ​ I don't put her on a pedestal any more, but my fear of divorce is enough to do the trick. This fear is holding me back from breaking through to where I need to be. ​ I get the sense from some of your comments that you think your parents divorce really messed you up as a kid and that you are afraid of doing that to your o…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 02:44 PM
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TLDR - you have ONEitis (and lust) for your step sister. It isn't actually that unusual, and you are not a special snowflake for feeling it. ​ Then read some of the side bar content here before posting. ​ You should probably read this one again. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/8vpsn5/dealing_with_oneitis/ ​ And read it again, and again, and again until you grok it. Then move on. There are millions of women in the world and this one isn't nearly as special as you think she is.
/r/RPChristians14/06/19 01:56 PM
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Thanks for the feedback rnrchuck, you always have good insights. It's a storm, Captain - batten down the hatches, and steady as she goes. Will do. This too shall pass. 4-6 months seems to be the point where many men here get impatient. You're backtracking because you don't feel like you're making progress. Focus on not losing ground. It's gonna take longer. Yeah. Now that I look back, I think I had one of these episodes at the 4 month point too. The STFU routine was basically focused on not losi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 01:11 AM
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Yep. But I would be a better me.
/r/askMRP11/06/19 06:47 PM
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OYS #17 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) Lifts: Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 325lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. Play the Infinite game. Game her every day. Anger is a tool to diagnose fram…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 03:58 PM
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Red Flags: 1) Mission is to get pussy. 2) She's at work 3) She works for you 4) She is your only option 5) Not planning to wrap it up
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 02:33 PM
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Time to start building up immunity to iocane powder!!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/19 10:13 PM
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God dammit that was a good break down. You vying for Jack10 status? Seriously. I guess this happens often enough that it runs in cycles, but yeah - it's basically a personalized version of this: ' It is impossible to follow Red Pill "word for word." If you tried to combine all the Red Pill content (the subreddits, the prerequisite books like NMMNG/MMSLP/etc, and the the popular blogs like Rollo/Dalrock/etc), you would find countless paradoxes, if not literal contradictions. This is why your beha…
/r/askMRP10/06/19 05:03 PM
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READ – Rereading Scott Adams "How to Fail" very slowly, it's better on the second read, incredibly. A must read book. ​ Completely agree. I read it 4 years ago and still go back to it. Since RP, I see the book differently and it's even better.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 01:58 PM
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No amount of vanilla sex is going to make me happy. From a vanilla-sexless “marriage” pre-RP, to anytime I want vanilla-sex post-RP, has not made me happy. I need a return to a hard-core sex life. Perhaps the brief dip into BDSM and the intensey fucked my head. ​ I had a kinky girlfriend before I got married. Sometimes I regret not continuing that relationship. She never said no. But then I remember that she was psycho-crazy, deceptive, highly likely to cheat, and would have been a terrible moth…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 08:07 PM
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Women talk. Men do. Pull her into your physical world. Sex is obviously the preferred option, but chores work too. She can talk and you can "listen" while you do something productive together.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 04:43 PM
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Thanks to all the guys who wrote submissions for 60 DoD this year. It’s tough to write a good quality piece for MRP, and I appreciate the time and effort that was put into it. All of them were very helpful. ​ Special thanks to u/simbarlion for the write-up on happiness as it put the whole 60 days of dread into perspective. Lesson #8: - Happiness is attractive ​ Rating system (5 = nailed it, 1 = failed it) Lifting for Life - I've been lifting regularly for 12 months. It is already instilled as a …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 09:04 PM
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made me realize he is total piece of shit. It did not make since to keep this from my wife because I felt she had the right to know since he is living with us now... I basically said he sucks, I am pissed at him, but hes my responsibility now so I need to move on. ​ Why is he your responsibility? I obviously don't know your circumstances, but this strikes me as nice guy care taking behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 07:10 PM
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I can clearly see my mistakes. I fucking know better than to act how I did. But I still did it. That’s on me. I have restarted this week as if each day is a new day and the past is dead and gone. ​ Good introspection. Reset and keep going. You've lost some of you illusions and gained some understanding. Yeah... your wife is probably trying to gaslight and manipulate you. But it only works if you let her.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 07:03 PM
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Your flair is congruent with the post title. ​ Nice write-up.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:36 PM
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I didn’t pay for anything You are paying with your most valuable resources - time and attention. I’d rather just have fun and try out my shitty PUA in a relatively safe space. Ok. But you've already dated her. She's an ex. Heck, you already shared a hotel room with her. If you really want to try out your "shitty PUA", you need to try it on new women. You don't learn anything when you play it safe.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:06 PM
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OYS #16 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 188 lbs Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) Lifts: Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 325lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. Play the Infinite game. Game her every day. Anger is a tool to diagnose fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:00 PM
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https://www.amazon.com/Saving-Low-Sex-Marriage-Seduction-ebook/dp/B01BGZO1WK
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 03:12 PM
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My ex invited me to a show with bands I know personally, so we went out. Had dinner, got drinks, went to the show, ended up hanging out after, etc. I find her and this situation fascinating. While I'd like to fuck her, I legitimately don't care if I do or not. I enjoy hanging out with her platonically enough that it doesn't matter. ​ So your ex is getting your attention (dinner, drinks, hanging out). What are you getting? Her attention and some attraction validation. I know that you think you ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 03:11 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 02:26 PM
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She threw a curveball at me though this week. Told me that she feels pressured to have sex when I initiate. ​ It's possible she is feeling the emotional pressure to validate you by having sex with you and sensing your neediness is a turn-off for her. ​ I can't find it, but I think one of the MRP Approved guys had a post or comment about sex being "emotional labor" for the wife and that being a validation issue. ​ So if that's an issue, try to address it within yourself. But otherwise, I would fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:24 PM
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I need to embrace being the Father Figure, and treat my wife like a little girl instead of an authority or a peer. ​ Yes... but its going to take you awhile. It should be a natural, organic process of you getting stronger mentally, emotionally, and physically until she is naturally deferring to you. If you have to insist and remind people that you are in charge... you aren't. ​ Internally, you can say "Because I'm the Captain" and eventually you will say it out loud - because at that point every…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:44 PM
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I’m still unsure of how to distinguish shit/comfort tests. It seems like my reaction isn’t well suited. Any advice here? ​ Short version: Shit tests almost always have an accusation and the word "you" Comfort tests include the word "I" and are about how she feels bad ​ Links for further reading: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3dzppv/how_to_distinguish_between_a_shit_test_and/ ​ https://www.trp.red/p/whisper/772 ​ https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:12 PM
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Thanks for sharing this. It is kind of sad, but very interesting. You are a good writer. I'm about 2 years behind you in my MRP journey (although I guess we all start at different places and proceed at different speeds). ​ I have great respect for how you have worked systematically to increase your SMV, up your game, increase passive dread, and trigger a main event where you stated what you wanted. And it worked right? She agreed and gave you exactly what you asked for! But... I'm getting exactl…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:29 AM
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Updates from last OYS: Broken Xbox ended up being not a big deal. Wife wasn't upset with me. Sigh. Focus less on her and what is going on in her head.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 05:14 PM
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It was at that point that I truly understood that she doesn’t care about ME, she cares about my resources, even though she always says she cares about me. She cares about me being a supplicating beta provider. It's a bitter pill. Don't forget it. Work on developing indefatigable frame and stand my ground regarding finances are closely related in your case. She spends your money because her frame ("I’m a great mom, I deserve it") is stronger than yours. You might find this links helpful: Elements…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 05:00 PM
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So you are taking her back?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 04:47 PM
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Ok so I had a go at shutting down shitty behaviour. Wife: "your sister buys our kids shit cheap gifts" Some techniques from WISNIFG. Fogging: "Yeah, she could spend more money or thoughtfulness on gifts to our kids" (everyone could spend more so this isn't wrong, even if you don't necessarily think that she should) Negative Inquiry "yeah, they weren't the best gifts the kids ever received. What do you think would have been a more appropriate gift for her to give?" Negative Assertion "yeah, my si…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 04:43 PM
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She doesn't want to lose her plowhorse. She may have 100 different reasons or no reasons. You worry too much about what she thinks. Why are you going to the gym? Is it because it's important to you or because a bunch of random guys on the internet told you to? Maybe that is too harsh. Rather, is it because you saw the results that other men achieved and you want those results and lifting is part of that program? You need to internalize this. Lifting is part of building physical frame. Reading is…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 03:51 PM
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Chief Pharmacist in Charge
/r/askMRP15/05/19 01:59 PM
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She asked if I Ioved Babysitter, and I said that “love” is a strong word but that I’m not indifferent to her. Then my wife said that I was pathetic and to fuck off. She did text me from the airport, though, to remind me not to do anything drastic. Your wife cracks me up. She is totally treating you like the "most responsible teenager". And you are ok with it since: In fact, I think I’ve always followed my wife’s lead; she’s very competent and easy to follow.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 08:13 PM
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OYS #15 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 188 lbs (-1) Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) Lifts: Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 320lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. Play the Infinite game. Game her every day. Anger is a tool to diagnose…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 06:41 PM
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I mean how can you take the time to start a business and research how to invest when you need to level up your Warcraft character. lol. I wonder how many lurkers here can identify with that. I'm betting quite a few.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 04:27 PM
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Every single time I go to the gym, it's a fight with her. She is waging a war of attrition here and you are losing. It is only going to get worse when baby #3 comes along.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 03:36 PM
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Seems like threatening separation/divorce is part of her schtick every time she is mad. It reminds me of how my teenager used to threaten to run away when she got mad. In response, I casually mentioned that her younger sister would probably get her room if she left. The fear of losing her room was immediately more urgent than whatever bratty point she was trying to make.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 03:28 PM
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She asked me to take 24 hours to think about the job offer. I told her I didn't need to. They're doing the contract now. Congrats. Enjoy for a day. Then put your foot back on the gas. This job will not last the rest of my life. Start tomorrow to begin cultivating abundance in this area. Just like approaching women, you need to start applying for jobs just for practice. Apply to enough to get at least 1 in-person interview per year. It keeps you sharp and takes the edge off. Keep it up and soon p…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 02:59 PM
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Thanks - that's really good advice. I used to think I was pretty good at STFU, but looking back I generally had it backward. I spewed when I was angry and kept quiet when I should have been leading.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 07:37 PM
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Good introspection. she didn't really appreciate my sacrifice (women never do, of course) Yeah... that was a bitter pill for me to swallow as well. Especially because she often says that she appreciates it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 06:38 AM
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The kids have not wanted much to do with me since I got back from the trip. When I traveled for work, I usually brought back a token inexpensive gift from wherever I went. It added to the excitement of "daddy's home!" and helped me re-connect with them more quickly. They saved some of that stuff for years.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 06:22 AM
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I bought a small magnetic dry-erase board and put it on the fridge with the debt we're trying to pay off quickly. It's a small thing, but making it visible is a great idea. Good leadership. I’m active duty military and have my physical test next month. (Get off my lawn voice) "Back in my day, the USAF physical fitness test was ummm… riding a stationary bike for 3 minutes." Glad to see they went back to real fitness tests again.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 06:16 AM
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I became so angry that I was basically boiling from the inside out. I went to bed angry as fuck and I woke up even angrier. I spent the whole day angry and only got angrier as the day went on. Anger is almost always a "tell" of weakness in your frame, your thinking, in owning your shit, or in your situation. It is thus a great diagnostic tool for discovering areas needing further improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 05:52 AM
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All feedback (even the stuff that doesn’t seem helpful at the time) is a gift.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 03:03 AM
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I am still not convinced that some fear based decision making isn't an evolutionary advantage. Prison is filled with a "No Fear" bunch. And my ancestors with no fear were eaten by predators. You sound like prey.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 09:46 PM
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Did you read SGM? For myself, I'm excited about adding more dominance and variety, but being the "Passionate Lover" is tough because it feels very inauthentic to me. I'm working on changing that. A baby step for dominance is pinning her hands above her head while kissing her. A baby step for emotion might be passionate language or dirty talk during sex. It's a risk because she might start laughing or it might totally kill the mood. It might make me look like an austistic idiot. My wife wanders o…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 09:05 PM
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I finished my professional accreditation today. Congrats
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 08:31 PM
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Put on the game face. You got this.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 08:01 PM
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Despite what I see as progress in my mental and (to a lesser but still noticeable degree) physical states, sex still sucks in both quantity and quality. Maybe you are leaving out the emotional. "Having a strong emotional basis means that you understand and accept your emotions, and know how to properly display them to get what you want. Your own inner work to really understand and accept your emotion is the source of having a strong basis. Emotions are the way women understand their relationship…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 07:51 PM
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Best Traits: A willingness to be honest and work on my weaknesses.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 07:16 PM
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Seek internal validation. Is this what I want? Am I satisfied? Much better this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 07:11 PM
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Lots of new guy showing up lately. Something in the water maybe? You talk quite a bit about wanting sex, but not too much on your self-improvement. Loved me for years when I was a complete, unemployed rudderless loser with little potential for success. What are you now? Visionary successful multi-millionaire? Outside of sexual strategy, I consider myself unplugged since grade school. LOL. Yep, something in the water. What scares me the most is that my wife recently said... but I am afraid I will…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 06:23 PM
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Finances- Not as bad as they were but Dave Ramsey would happily bitch slap me and pay my wife to blow him. LOL. Sounds like you are using humor to cover up a weakness. Own it when you are ready. I have the frame is contradicted by: But... I'm still failing shit tests Shit tests are a test of frame. If you are failing them, then by definition you are losing frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 05:46 PM
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My Sister-In-Law is in town right now. I think I might actually hate her. Bitch gets under my skin like few others. Makes life hell by starting shit with my wife and other family. She challenges me constantly for no discernible reason. I fuck my frame up by caring too much about it. I'm almost always on the defensive around her, which sucks. Having to constantly tell yourself "Fog, NA, AA" reminds you it isn't natural yet. I blew off a family thing tonight to write this OYS and to just not be ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 04:47 PM
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I think it was sbill that called me out on treating things as a battle something to win. I'm doing my best but not always succeeding on dropping the scoreboard. I struggle with this as well. When I escalate to sex, I WANT TO WIN. I got some good feedback on this that I've been trying to put into practice (e.g. enjoy the fishing). But I recently came across this post by noted philosopher /u/MrChad_Thundercock that gave a good perspective on playing an infinite game vs. a finite game. Seriously, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 04:31 PM
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He’s also still looking for a job right now, and went last week to talk to a recruiter for the Marines to check out what they offer. On Sunday one of the guys from my church was talking with him, and told him that with his skill set he should look at the Navy or the Air Force if he wants to make a good career doing something with computers. He is considering using the service as a springboard to joining the CIA – we’ll see if he’s serious about that or not but he certainly has the knowledge to m…
/r/RPChristians09/05/19 01:59 PM
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Damn good link. Most of TRP seems like a waste to me. Thanks for dredging through it for the pearls.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 03:02 AM
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I've been reading through more and more old posts lately. Killing the ego was really good too. "Progress begins when the new guy realizes there are guys on this board who have put in a ton of effort, way beyond what he has put in, and he is willing to listen to feedback, no matter how much it stings." "Progress begins when the new guy has finished all of the sidebar readings and is starting over." - that stings a lot
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 08:20 PM
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It's not exactly the same, but your post reminded me of something from /u/bobbyperu. Biggest lesson lately is it's ok to loosen up. When I first swallowed the pill, I became an asshole, which seems to be a fairly common theme. From my observations on MRP, some of the directions after a 2-3 months of assholeism are A) Become purple, and then eventually slip back into BP and B) Dust yourself off, learn from your mistakes, keep reading and lifting, and realize that all you can expect is progress as…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 07:59 PM
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I learned more about Advanced Fogging That was a good post. Thanks for sharing it. Jack10 digs deep. Whether I can grasp that concept (remain the same despite her ups/downs) and run with it is a different matter. . This week seems like good progress. But it might still be part of the cycle. Sexual rejection => shitty mood => reset alpha behaviors/mindset => sexual acceptance => happy mood => beta behaviors/mindset => sexual rejection (repeat) Time will tell I guess. In any case, sexy update and …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 05:04 PM
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OYS #14 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 189 lbs Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) Lifts: Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 320lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs ​Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. MMSLP – Have a higher SMV. Craft and execute a MAP NMMNG – No covert contra…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 01:56 PM
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My wife has been noticing that every time we go out I’m constantly staring at motorcycles. I notice them in the parking lot, I notice them when they drive-by. They always seem to catch my eye. My wife asks why I am always checking out motorcycles. I could say that I think they look really cool. They look like they’re fun to ride, and I just really like motorcycles. I could say that I’ve been planning on getting a motorcycle, and I’m checking out all the models to see what’s out there. Or, I coul…
/r/askMRP04/05/19 04:40 PM
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It went well....maybe too well. And left me with more questions than answers. Nice cliffhanger.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 07:52 PM
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I can't decide if the flair here is genius or a self-fulfilling prophecy. This post is living up to your "in limbo of fuckarounditis" flair. You need a MAP and a mission. You know this, I'm not going to dwell on it. Talk to Air Force Recruiter about reserves by end of 2019. You are giving yourself 8 months to "talk" to a recruiter? Dude, that is something you can do tomorrow. You aren't signing up for anything, just learning and getting options. I need to set my goals higher than weight loss. Fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 05:02 PM
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Good intro. Why are you here? What are you planning to do next? (and yeah... nobody here is going to buy your excuses for not lifting heavy. Most of us over 40 have bad shoulders, injured backs, poor flexibility, etc. We still lift anyway.)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 03:00 PM
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Lol. I’m a newbie to Reddit, but most of the subreddits I’ve seen are either dead or full of useless/contradictory crap. This one is both vibrant and focused. You must be doing something right.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 11:53 AM
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Honestly, you mods are the best thing about this forum.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 01:09 AM
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He wrote one as a comment in this post But it should really be its own post.
/r/askMRP01/05/19 07:57 PM
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Agreed. LOL at "crap-testing" though.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 06:27 PM
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I wish I knew why she's shit testing me so much lately. She wants to know if you are a man. She's testing your masculine strength to see if you can handle first her and then the world. It's a feature. That is pretty much straight from TWOTSM. Are you sure you read it? It's also a way of flirting with you. Treat it as such and flirt back. Also, if she is staring at you now, she's going to be drooling six months from now when you are lifting real weight. Those are warm-up level lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 06:08 PM
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I have a 5 and 10 year old. They go to bed at 8:30. Once you have the routine established there is plenty of time in the evening. One of my initiations is to say that I will put the kids to bed and ask my wife to take a shower and put on something interesting while I'm putting them to bed. I sometimes go lift after they are in bed which cuts into my wife time, but that is a personal choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 04:56 PM
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Please tell me that at least you didn't apologize for it. Because I have a sneaking suspicion that you did.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 03:41 PM
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(I am also terrible at initiating and have done it when she was asleep/almost asleep both times – one at night, one in the morning). I used to do this as well - especially in the morning. Ray Romano had a funny bit on his Netflix special where he talked about waking up horny and trying to awkwardly and passively initiate sex while his wife was sleeping/waking up - and getting shot down cold. My results were maybe 50/50, but it was generally lame sex. I decided that if she woke up horny, I would …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 03:29 PM
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This was really good.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 03:20 PM
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Drinking: Week 2- Worked on FILs leftovers. Got drunk 3 or 4 nights in a row. Gym Week 2- Didn’t go at all. These are obviously related. But at least you corrected: Poured the rest out on Fri or Sat. Week 3-No drinks at home. Week 3: Went MWF as planned. But then you say: Reflected on it a bit and the 3-4 day stretch of getting drunk was 100% due to availability and being bored. I understand the availability. I'm guessing your purposely overbought alcohol during your FIL's visit. Using your MIL'…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 02:17 PM
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It's interesting to me that your AskMRP post said 35 with no kids and your OYS says childless 35 The first is more typical. The second suggests a desire for children. So reading into your AskMRP post a little deeper, you say: I would prefer kids but it isn’t a deal breaker for me. So with no sex and no kids... what exactly would be a deal breaker for you at this point? I'm not advocating for you to go crazy. You have some mental work to do. /u/SBIII is right on in his warning. Like most Beta mal…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 01:50 PM
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So you want her to act like a porn star, but you are worried about how she gets the ideas to act like a porn star? I guess that makes sense with: •I always assume the worst.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 08:55 PM
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all posts on MormonRedPill TIL there is a MormonRedPill.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 08:50 PM
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"Many a husband takes every word, action, or denial regarding sex by one woman (his wife) as a profound affirmation or rejection of his attractiveness, or even his fundamental worth as a man." Attraction Validation
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 06:00 PM
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Where is she getting these ideas? Why do you care? I have this awesome Saturday morning, she submits and gives herself to me the way I want her to. "It's quite common for an insecure beta to seek validation through the performance of specific sex acts, where the symbolic validation matters more to him than the physical sensation or the quality of the overall sexual encounter." Does this sound like you? link
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 05:59 PM
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Let's roll back the clock a bit here and take a look at a few previous posts. Feb 12, 2019 (after "main event"): "My wife knew exactly what happened to our relationship in her own words and TOLD ME OVERTLY with desperate love and I was reminded why I loved and chose this woman as my FO" (emphasis added) Feb 19, 2019 "We had sex 7 times this week. Every session was amazing and full of energy" [For Valentine's day] " I got her a used trombone and a handmade card that said 'Happy V-Day. Blow me.' a…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 03:44 PM
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OYS #13 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 189 lbs (-1 lbs), Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) Lifts: Squat: 300lbs; Deadlift: 320lbs; Bench Press: 225lbs; Overhead Press: 150lbs ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. MMSLP – Have a higher SMV. Craft and execute a MAP NMMNG – No co…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:51 PM
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A tale of how you can imagine you are RP AF "Neo, sooner or later you're going to realize, just as I did, that there's a difference between knowing the path and walking the path." - Morpheus
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 07:21 PM
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Good detailed breakdown. Too detailed for me, but I’ve always focused more on increasing income rather than controlling expenses. One thing I would add is to start at your desired goal and work backwards. That helps to frame your overall priorities. If you got an extra $500 this month, where would you use it? How about an extra $100 every month. What about $1000 per month? How could you most effectively use another $20k? Take on an investment mindset. You are investing every dollar. What kind of…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/19 06:09 PM
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This post seemed to resonate with guys that are already grinding and putting in a ton of effort. Maybe that underscores your point. I appreciate your commentary and example though. Next time I’ll give a more thought out critique rather than jumping straight to sarcasm.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/19 10:51 PM
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Yeah, that was the point. Succinct, unlike the post. It wasn’t terrible. I’m sure it was fine for TRP. But overall, it’s on the low end for MRP... which is ironic for an article about excellence.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/19 09:07 PM
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A mediocre article about mediocrity. Thanks for the illustration, I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/19 07:55 PM
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You are entering a season of life that is going to last for a few years. It's going to be tough. You are going to busy. The key is to re-frame it. Some of it you can re-frame as "fun". Some of it you can delegate. Some if it you can hire out. Some of it just isn't that important, and it doesn't need to be done. You are the Captain. You decide what fits in each category. Teach your kids to do chores and enjoy it. Do it with them. It can be productive Daddy time. Dads can make everything fun. Do s…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 05:03 PM
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I’m here because I find guys getting together makes the world a better place for ourselves and our families. Cut the bullshit. That is most of my shit and I own it - I trust you to do your worst Reddit Figure out what and why you are holding back and maybe you will make some progress. As far as "do you worst" goes... honestly you are probably just going to be ignored until you cut the bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 01:31 PM
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Heh. I was just wondering if you were ever going to post in OYS. Welcome aboard.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 10:47 PM
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Nice introduction. Why are you here? What are you planning to do next?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 10:23 PM
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You have kids right? Hire the ex as a live-in babysitter!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 09:36 PM
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I recently scored in the 98th percentile on the LSAT, and my first instinct is to turn into a dancing monkey, seeking approval from anyone who would give it to me. GREAT JOB ON THIS! WAY TO GO! Feel better? Instead, I’ve been shutting up and focusing on studying for a retake, as I underperformed a bit due to nerves. Ummm… if the first one was so praiseworthy, why do you need to do a retake? Need more validation? Still, I’ve let my wife brag on it a little, and I’d be lying if I said the outpouri…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 08:57 PM
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It's just that I review our credit cards and if I feel she is spending frivolously I speak with her about it. Totally depends on how you define frivolous. To avoid DEERing, I think you need to tie this to your mission. If the spending is off mission or out of budget, you are the captain and you are calling for a course correction. If you are just whining because she is spending "too much" then you are pretty much stuck with DEERing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 08:43 PM
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well... there's this: I did accept a part-time job at my church
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 08:38 PM
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About all I can say is that I admire the stoicism with which you type up this weekly shitstorm.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 08:37 PM
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Had also received an email that someone recorded me jerking off to a porn website. They had an old password I hadn't used in years and demanded $1400 to a bitcoin account else they would release the video. This is the first such email I've received like this. I get varieties of this in my junkmail at least once a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 08:29 PM
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Goal: No random drinks at home. This is so easy. GET RID OF THE ALCOHOL IN THE HOUSE.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 08:27 PM
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Relationship: In my frame, until after ovulation. Ugh. Her wanting to have sex at ovulation /= in your frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 07:55 PM
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it saves me time. lol. WNS, you are famous for your word efficiency. I'll just repeat my comment from 2 weeks ago: I want to build a fucking empire. That is frame. Being [still] scared shitless of your wife because she saw a "sexy book cover" last week = not so much. Find a way to reconcile these 2 halves and you are on you way.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 07:47 PM
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33 Married 1.5 years. No Kids. Mine and my wife's relationship is ok. Not great. Not terrible. I am also not really attracted to my wife. Since December [1 year into marriage] i've fucked three women in addition to my wife. Why did you get married? The wife and I are moving into that house in June and we will rent out our primary in the mean time. This is mostly to avoid short term capital gains taxes on the house. I get constant push back on this situation from the wife. She doesn't want to mov…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 06:26 PM
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Thanks for the suggestion of Symmetric Strength. Very helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 08:58 PM
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OYS #12 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 190 lbs (-5 lbs), Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) Squat (3x5) 300 lbs Deadlift (1x5) 320 lbs (+5) Bench Press (1x2) 225 lbs (+2.5) Overhead Press (3x3) 150 lbs ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. MMSLP – Have a higher SMV. Craft and e…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 01:53 PM
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I’m calling bullshit on this. You are just rationalizing that it’s a different problem. The solution to fear is always to face it. “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain” - Frank Herbert. “Dune” Be the Rockstar. I’m rooting for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 01:06 AM
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It's been about being a fucking pussy. Too afraid of being alone to live life on my own terms. ​ Um yeah. Dude, I've only been following your story of a few weeks and even I can see that. And not to be a dick, but several of these guys told you that 2 fucking years ago. ​ "Your problem, in a nutshell, is you're a pussy. A big, fat, throbbing, ineffective pussy. You're afraid of a woman, and given her nothing but encouragement to act a damned fool. Not only do you put up with it, you reward, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 10:31 PM
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Your formatting is kind of hard to follow (at least for me). You might get more feedback if you clean it up a bit. You have set a ton of goals and are not making progress on several of them. Reduce it to a manageable number for each week (like maybe 3) and resolve that you are going to accomplish them that week. Otherwise you will keep putting off the ones that you don't want to do. Start instilling some habits. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bc0loy/unfucking_habits/
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 03:58 PM
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I sense some validation issues from the following statements: I have a solid well-paying job where i am respected and loved. The people around me are loving and friendly toward me. In general people have always treated me with much love and respect. Only after i became popular ofcourse. Everyone here knows how that works. no matter what i do, its never good enough. You can do all the external stuff like get a good job, be in shape, wear nice clothes, etc. But if you are insecure and needy, you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 03:44 PM
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Work - what's the point of a 1.8% raise? 2-3% is more typical, but yeah it's funny. If you aren't making bigger jumps every few years, you start losing to inflation.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 02:36 PM
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“In packing for the trip I owned my shit by packing myself” Congratulations “Mr. Packs His Own Suitcase”. That must have really wet your wife’s panties. Hopefully you packed some extra. Any other shit you plan on owning?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 12:14 AM
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Yes, you need custom made fitted trays from the dentist. Whitening is considered cosmetic so dental insurance doesn't cover it (at least mine didn't). I try to do at least 30 min, but 1-2 hours is better. I can't imagine leaving them in overnight. As an aside, my saliva is very high in calcium. It naturally prevents cavities, but it tends to leave deposits on my teeth that build up around any food particulate on my teeth. These deposits are extremely hard and very difficult to clean off. I've fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 07:50 PM
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I think the phrasing and presentation was fine. The cringe came afterwards. When she said, "I don't do either of those..." you had an opportunity to lead or playfully game her and you passed it up. Obviously STFU and walking away is better than backing away from the statement and DEERing, but you could have smiled and said something fun like "kitchen or bedroom? let's fix that right now".
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 07:28 PM
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"A loaf of bread, a jug of wine, and Thou" Omar Khayyam. Great quote. I'm going to have to use that. To be followed with: "full stomach and empty balls" - ParaXilo
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 07:16 PM
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I agree with JCX (at least partially). Go ahead and buy the belt. Good ones are made to order and take 4-8 weeks to deliver. I think belts are fine once you pulling or squatting 1-1.5x your body weight. But yeah, wearing a belt won't fix your form and isn't a correction for bad form. Talk to a trainer or check out /r/startingstrength and post a video (use a burner account for opsec) and get feedback on your DL form. You shouldn't be having lower back pain.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 07:04 PM
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This is a good answer and it's clear from this and your post history that you are really working on it. I know I went the long way around, but I don't think I can answer the questions "how are you going to get out of your wife's frame" in a couple of sentences. I think it takes a lot of fucking thought and self-evaluation. I'll do it in a couple of sentences. I want to build a fucking empire. That is frame. Be scared shitless of your wife because she saw a "sexy book cover" last week = not so mu…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 06:54 PM
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It's usually more the lying than the cheating. You tried to hide it and she found it. It's a trust issue. And it begs the question "what are you still hiding?" You wanted to have it both ways - the "respectability" of husband and family and the validation of "hot young girls". and say that while I feel badly for treating my wife poorly, I cheated in the first place because I wasn’t having my needs met, not because I’m the sex-crazed pervert Maybe I missed it, but did you tell your wife up front …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 05:05 PM
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No, not magically. Once you are going somewhere, you can lead/invite her to follow you and set the expectations.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 03:01 PM
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Frame: I don't control it. Yet. I liked this. It is owning, but hopeful. But hope is not a plan. What are DOING to a) get out of your wife's frame and b) establish your own?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 02:28 PM
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Only drink socially/ 3 drink max. Failed hard. Drank 5 nights at home. Honestly not sure why. Some combination of boredom and a false sense of mastery that I can skip whenever I want to, so just one night won’t hurt. Get rid of the alcohol in the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 02:25 PM
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You need a mission. A purpose. A destination. Since you don't have one, your wife is bored. She is perpetually in the waiting room and she is playing on her phone while she waits for something to happen. The longer that this goes on, the more difficult it will be to help her break this habit.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 02:01 PM
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I’ve done both. Online is definitely cheaper, but the gel needs to be refrigerated to maintain its effectiveness. It’s effectiveness degrades at room temp. So you run a risk of buying degraded product if you buy it online. I definitely would not buy online in bulk. That said, the most recent one I got through Amazon was fine. EDIT: Opalescence is the product name
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 01:29 PM
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OYS #11 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 195 lbs (0 lbs), Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) Squat (3x5) 300 lbs (0) Deadlift (1x5) 315 lbs (0) Bench Press (3x3) 222.5 lbs (0) Overhead Press (3x3) 150 lbs (0) Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. MMSLP – Have a higher SMV. Craft an…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 03:36 PM
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It just doesn’t matter. It just doesn’t matter. It just doesn’t matter. It just doesn’t matter. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e9mf3Bypyk8
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 01:43 PM
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OYS #10 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) ​ Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 195 lbs (-2 lbs), Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) ​ Squat (3x5) 300 lbs (+5) Deadlift (1x5) 315 lbs (+0) Bench Press (3x3) 222.5 lbs (+5) Overhead Press (3x3) 150 lbs (+5) ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. MMSLP – Have a higher SM…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 04:16 PM
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Honestly, I didn't think you could top getting invited to another couples' marriage counseling for the "affair that you didn't know you were having." But the Mary Poppins bit (complete with small penis insult) and one year ban from the grocery store is freaking gold. Does STFU usually cause this much initial drama? Should I be comforting my wife more? Or is she just shit testing the bejesus out of me? Women live for emotion and drama. If she was used to getting it from you (arguments, fights, DE…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:52 PM
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I certainly hope so.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 11:08 PM
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I’m clearly not getting the point here. Freerolling still plays with limited chips even if the money isn’t real. Otherwise everyone just raises to infinity and the game is pointless. How can it be a quality swing if you DGAF whether you hit the ball or not? I do understand that it’s a process and that getting better is a win.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 10:23 PM
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There are times when it’s unlikely, but I’ve never considered it impossible. Even so, isn’t that conditioning me to lose? If so, I don’t understand the point.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 09:52 PM
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I appreciate the feedback, but... Do you like playing poker with no chips? I don’t.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 09:48 PM
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OYS #9 (OYS Journey started Jan 2019) ​ Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 197 lbs, Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) ​ Squat (3x5) 295 lbs (+5) Deadlift (1x5) 315 lbs (+0) Bench Press (3x3) 217.5 lbs (+2.5) Overhead Press (3x3) 145 lbs (+0) ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. MMSLP – Have a higher SMV. Craft…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 07:28 PM
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Our 4th was a bit of a surprise, but I can’t imagine our family without her.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 02:03 PM
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I’ll play. edit for goals: •Week 1, Lifting for Life - I've been lifting regularly for 12 months. It is already instilled as a habit. Habit: Adding in HIIT 2-3 days per week. •Week 2, Eating for Health and Fitness: Goal - Cut bodyfat% Amount TBD after measurement. Habit: cut second helpings at meals. Desserts only on weekends / special occasions. •Week 3, Hygiene: Habit: swap cologne more often (2-3x year). Habit: teeth whitening at least weekly. •Week 4, Style: Habit: clear out old clothes ever…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/19 08:09 PM
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I appreciate the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 06:50 PM
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It’s because you’re a low value beta pussy who thinks that she is the prize, not you. Since you have no game, you think you need to buy her shit to keep her happy and get the sex you are hoping for. Speaking from personal experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 01:51 AM
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Fitness: I’m doing good here. In a few weeks I need to set up a SL plan, but for now I have been going to a globo gym and really going hard when I’m there, not fucking around but just lifting as hard as I can and I’m seeing results. They don’t have the best free weight options but I’m lifting as heavy as I can stand every other day. Maybe you are doing great. But if you aren't doing barbells, you aren't lifting heavy. Weight machines lie to you. The Iron never lies to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 03:30 PM
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I have a kick ass life. Lots of interests, company I am passionate about and enjoy. Family and friends. My goal here is more of a mental shift. I went back and read several of your OYS posts. Your emotions and feelz about your life seem to fluctuate quite a bit based on your circumstances or at least your current interpretation of them. Between the dark family crap that your wife is going through and the business product launch/cash stress that you have - there is a fair bit of pressure. Read up…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 03:18 PM
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I've found I still feel guilty telling her no about purchases we don't need. Why do you feel guilty?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 02:07 PM
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Not lifting => back to drinking => playing video games => drunk captain => unhappy marriage. You know what you need to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 02:01 PM
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OYS #8 ​ Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 197 lbs, Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) ​ Squat (3x5) 290 lbs (+20) Deadlift (1x5) 315 lbs (+20) Bench Press (5x3) 215 lbs (+5) Overhead Press (3x3) 145 lbs (+5) ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. MMSLP – Have a higher SMV. Craft and execute a MAP NMMNG – No cov…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 11:09 PM
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Good post. I appreciate the timing. After posting a weekly OYS for 7 weeks straight, I skipped this week intentionally because I've been re-evaluating it's value. One the one hand, it's extremely helpful for putting thoughts down, owning my issues, and getting feedback. On the other hand, it starts to feel like a covert contract for sex (faithfully OYS and the sex will increase/improve). . I posted how many times I had sex each week because a) people asked, and b) this a sexual strategy sub. Tyi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 01:37 PM
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Nice job. You have the Dancing Monkey Routine down to a measurable science. How my wife views me matters to me almost as much as how I see myself. I use the above to see if I have my shit together, in her eyes https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/74yepr/the_dancing_monkey_attraction_improvement/ https://www.rooshv.com/men-are-nothing-more-than-clowns-to-the-modern-woman
/r/askMRP11/03/19 07:27 PM
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Great post. It gave me a lot to think about. We’ve never really done this before. Most of our texts are pure logistics with a tiny amount of flirting. One thing that has held both of us back is privacy concerns. My 5 year old sometimes plays games on my wife’s phone. My wife was also concerned about photos getting accidentally backed up to the cloud. So we started using a separate texting app just for flirting. After some research, I decided on Telegram. There’s an option for end to end encrypti…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 12:19 AM
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I've been submitted for two positions under my current profession. Despite wanting a career change, I'm okay with this and I now understand this is my best route. Both positions are twice as far as my current job. But, the pay is a bump of 60-70%. That would be the most I've ever made. Both are one-year contracts on new projects that could easily run longer. Congrats on forward progress in this area. But you are not over the line. Keep pushing and selling until you close the deal. Don't slack of…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 05:01 PM
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OYS #7 ​ Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 199 lbs, Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) ​ Squat (3x5) 270 lbs (+15) up 15 lbs after major de-load for form adjustments, lifting shoes Deadlift (1x5) 295 lbs (+15) up 15 lbs after de-load for form Bench Press (5x3) 210 lbs (+5) Overhead Press (3x3) 140 lbs (+2.5) ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 03:25 PM
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Nice write-up. But let’s be honest here. I think what u/UEMcGill really wants is “Broomstick up the ass” flair. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 02:47 AM
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I see. Part of it was background context. He had friends over and didn’t know what happened. He saw me carrying wet boxes out to the garage, but he didn’t know what caused it. On the drive back from taking his friends home, he mentioned that when something bad happens, it’s impossible for him to get over it. I used the water break experience as an example to show him my mental process for how I deal with it. Anger at the situation Realizing that sometimes things happen that you have no control o…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 01:14 PM
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Thanks for the comment. I agree with the principle that actions and example are more powerful than advice and explanation. I’m not clear why you thought my words were incongruent with my actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 12:26 AM
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As I stated in the last OYS (2 weeks ago) I’ve had a complete change in my marriage over the past few weeks. Starting in December things were totally off track, no sex, no relationship. This week we had sex multiple times - sexy lingerie that I bought for her, waking up at 6 am for sex, enthusiastic BJs. Thanks to MRP for helping me get my shit together and change myself. The 1000 foot rope is working well to keep her moving forward. Dude- the 1000 ft rope doesn't move in a couple of weeks. Enjo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 10:13 PM
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My wife (easily) convinced me that since we were on vacation that I could live a little and eat whatever I wanted. I am a weak little bitch around all you can eat buffets and it did not end well. But food. Ah, food. This will have to be my hill to die on. Of all things, food. I took three bites in a row from a burrito without giving her a turn and it turned into a huge fight. Once we got home from the trip we ended up fighting once again about food she swore she would never share food with me ag…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 09:30 PM
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being stupid and using the “gym” of the residential complex, which sucks and doesn't even have a bench That isn't a gym. Find a real one. You are wasting time. Suffice to say that my wife will be leaving with our daughter, in August, to study in the city where her parents live (which is in a different state, very far) I am trying to take over to her commanding of this boat. The boat is leaving without you. You aren't in command. You aren't even on the boat.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 09:14 PM
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The reason why I don’t know if this is a win is because of the initial bitchiness. Shit-test? Possibly? My error here may be asking “to what end” ? But that assumes logic. Who cares? Stay out of her head. Not sure if this is a negative, but there has been an uptick in wife asking me if she has made me mad. I sometimes feel like she’s walking on egg shells but I am not sure why because my overall mood has been much better. Usually she does ask me when I’m in moments of intense focus, so I maybe d…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 08:57 PM
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Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 197 lbs, Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) Squat (3x5) 255 (-) lbs *major de-load for form adjustments, lifting shoes DL (1x5) 280 (-) lbs *de-load for form adjustments BP (5x3) 205 (+2.5) lbs OHP (5x3) 137.5 (-2.5) lbs ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. MMSLP – Have a high…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 08:34 PM
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How did you confront it head on? sent you a PM
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 04:32 PM
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I am so affected by wife's moods its insane. I know I need to fix that, but I don't know how. Its a physical reaction some times. I'm sure it stems from childhood issues. I can completely identify with this. I put some of it in my OYS a couple of weeks ago. We all bring childhood baggage into the marriage. Mine and my wife's clashed like crazy. It was so visceral, so automatic. It took me awhile, but I finally confronted it head on. Once I did that, it lost it's power of me.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 02:37 PM
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BP 175 - Failed today 5-5-5-5-2 - This is 3rd fail. Will deload. Don't deload. Switch to 3x5 or 5x3 or drop sets and keep increasing the work weight. DL 265 - Losing grip on L hand, so doing reverse grip with L hand after 3 reps. Try using a hook grip (fingers over thumb instead of thumb over fingers). It feels like it's smashing your thumb at first, but you get used to it. But will initiate regardless." FAILED I noticed me being lacking OI this week. I have to say I expected her to at least sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 02:25 PM
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I’m hoping that they get better. Some of your older posts were marginally interesting. You might be better off writing the full length paper on a blog and putting the executive summary here with links back to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 11:25 PM
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Downvoted for "WAY TOO MANY" quotations marks and distinct lack of "wet knickers" Bookmarked for when I get turned down for sex and need something to kill my sex drive and put me to sleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 09:54 PM
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Losing a job, even for a contract ending, really messes with your head. Acknowledge that, and then re-frame. Your job now is to land the next contract. LinkedIn sucks a job board, but it's great for networking. I get cold called 2-3 times per month for very good jobs by recruiters based only on my LinkedIn profile. Reach out to your network of people that you have worked with in the past. Let them know you are looking for another contract/job. Don't ask them for a job, just ask them if they woul…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 03:59 PM
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Low quality rant. Leadership is influence. Nothing more, nothing less. Leadership is simply moving other people into your frame. So yeah, if your frame is gay, then your leadership will be gay.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 12:49 PM
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the loss of respect may be permanent Yeah. I may have been too optimistic when I said "she loves you and she really wants this to work out." Actions, not words. She's a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/19 02:27 PM
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Damn. You could pretty much copy paste that for every askMRP one timer.
/r/askMRP24/02/19 12:08 AM
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Purely Cardio and strict dieting is going to fix those faster than lifting weights. I met a guy at a iron gym that was 6' and probably 300 lbs. He was fat with a huge beer gut. He was also strong as fuck. He was squatting at least 500 lbs with 2 spotters. He'll probably never have a six pack (of abs). But he has a very commanding presence. You don't have to be in shape to start lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/19 12:58 PM
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You didn't pass. When she switches over from covert to overt communication, she is basically saying "you are such a dumbass, you are never going to understand unless I completely spell it out for you." You would know this if you were reading the sidebar. From The Rational Male (year 1): "Lastly, I should add that women are not above using overt communication when it serves their purposes. When a woman comes out and says something in such a fashion so as to leave no margin for misinterpretation, …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/19 12:46 PM
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If you haven’t read it, this is a great post. It’s actually what brought me to this fun little sub. Good Sex Requires Emotion
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/19 01:01 AM
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It's really not worth a response. But I have 10 minutes to kill, so let's see what we have to work with here: I nearly went bankrupt through a bad deal handled wrong. As you would imagine it didn't last long until my wife filed for divorce It says something about both of you that you expected her to divorce when you nearly went bankrupt. only reason she didn't pull through was that the paperwork was too much effort on her part LOL. Seriously? Come on. She is a fine girl Contradicted by the above…
/r/askMRP22/02/19 10:06 PM
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New name for the journey? Good choice. Leave /u/throwaway-iwantmysil behind permanently.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 08:26 PM
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Lmao. Reads insecure faggot wall of text. Looks at username of OP. Easy decision for me. Too bad I’m not a mod.
/r/askMRP22/02/19 11:43 AM
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I went back and read those posts. Your flair totally makes sense now. You've come a long way.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 08:24 PM
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Instead I recognized that she is asking for something to do, a purpose. My response was to give her a kiss on the forehead, tell her that I want her to wear a nice dress today, find a recipe for dinner, go to the grocery to get what we need, and to be ready when I return from work because I was going to fuck the sad out of her. She laughed. I left for work. She complied. I delivered, and again this morning before work. Great response and result. Also... the feedback from /u/Cloudy_Pirate and /u/…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 10:01 PM
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Welcome to OYS. Nice lifts. Sounds like the career and finances are going great. Wife does not want to lead or be responsible, I am responsible and delegate. This alone improved her mood 100% and submissiveness came back Yes. Why else do you think she married a guy 10-15 years older than her? Almost all arguments have ended, due to my lack of arguing. No longer explain or ask why, just plan and we do. Stopped asking for input or discussing things repeatedly. Does she have a job as First Officer?…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 09:46 PM
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I’m letting my authority in making decisions around the house be criticized and overridden too often. I have not yet earned the respect as an effective and honorable leader....I tend to not be prepared to effectively handle these situations, causing anxiety and panic in the first officer and crew when they do happen. and responding to legitimate captain failures vs. addressing outright disrespect are related. I went back and scanned some of your previous OYS entries and I don't see much about wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 09:10 PM
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While covert contracts are gone, wife still offers sexual favors in return for things. Third one happened this weekend where she offered a blow job for something she wanted me to do, but I turned it down and said if she still wants to blow me whether or not I do what she wants me to do, she can decide. I didn’t get the BJ, but I didn’t think about it until 2 days later either. Still this kind of negotiation is something that must stop. It happens less frequently now, but it still does. I'll pass…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:44 PM
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Burying the lead seems to be a major theme in OYS. I'm with /u/weakandsensitive on this one. This is a major failure of leadership and ownership. Abortion can completely mess up her identity and mental health. It doesn't sound like she is fully comfortable with this decision either. I don't know your values on this issue, but you could permanently lose your First Officer over this if you are forcing the decision. Are you ok with that?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 07:56 PM
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This. Deep down, you know you aren’t the prize. You are running a great game and checked off all the boxes. But you know that it’s not real. You are afraid that either the game or another player is going to take it all away from you because you don’t really deserve it. And you are afraid to lose it because you need the sex to validate you as a man. Kill your ego. Kill your need for validation.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 01:36 AM
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OYS #5 Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 195 lbs, Relationship: Wife is 42y, married 18 years, 4 kids (16y,13y,10y,5y) Squat (3x5) 315 (-) lbs DL (1x5) 320 (-) lbs BP (3x3) 202.5 (-) lbs OHP (3x3) 140 (-) lbs ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions, not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she want/needs. Good sex requires emotion. Stay in my own frame. Reset every day. MMSLP – Have a higher SMV. Craft and execute a MAP NMMNG – No covert contracts. Don’t use sex for v…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 06:40 PM
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Good job
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 11:12 PM
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I think many men reach a point where they wonder if getting plugged back into the matrix might not be so bad. Also, there is a tendency to treat the MRP path (read the sidebar, lift, game, etc) as one giant covert contract for getting more sex. Every situation is unique, but usually it is more about reaching a threshold. Until you reach it, not much improves. After you reach it, everything is different. Neo had to die before he realized he didn't have to dodge bullets.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 04:52 PM
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Found myself getting irritated when I was putting my sexual gratification purely on her. Yes. If she owns your sexual gratification, then she owns you. Break addiction to pornography/sexual attention. You didn't say much about this. If porn is an addiction for you, you need to break it. Join a group or just decide that you are done with it. When you get the urge - get out of the house and go lift something heavy. Porn will mess with your head and expectations. Based on what you have written in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 04:43 PM
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Tough situation. Good reset at the end. "In addition to all this, my wife is a recovering alcoholic and dry for over a year yet started smoking weed a while back." "I decided that I wanted a drink. Since she has been dry, I stopped drinking at home and generally at all unless I was traveling for business. There was a part of me that rationalized that she isn't "dry", I don't have an issue with alcohol, I want to have a drink, and I did" There is a lot of rationalization going on here. You were a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/19 02:09 PM
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I have some toxic masculinity I want you to look at. Stealing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/19 01:28 PM
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Vacation: I sailed around the Caribbean for a vacation. Wife was invited but didn't want to go. I went anyways. I had a great time and learned a lot. I already knew how to sail but have been learning about cruising and living aboard sailboats over the last few years. This trip really increased my knowledge and experience. I am prepping for some kind of long term live-aboard after retirement. I have wanted to do this trip for about 10 years, and started working towards it about 5 years ago. I fin…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 06:05 PM
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Physically 5'11, 181lbs. BF 21% per US Navy method. Started SL5x5 again 7 weeks ago - I have exceeded my max working lifts from April 2018 in SQ and BP (had been training x4 months then). Now close to failure in BP. Deloaded in OHP. ​ I have also started training for a sprint triathlon, as I need to compete to maintain interest in training cardio. Besides SL5x5 I am Swimming/Biking/Running. I may need to adjust SL to work more on resistance, as my legs feel exhausted from squating ​ Current stat…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 05:34 PM
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I actually read that post earlier and had some of it in mind when we had our interaction. I’ll try to have a playful prostitute line ready if it comes up again. edit: note to self - next time hyphenate to alp-c-s
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 09:37 PM
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OYS#4 ​ Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 197 lbs, Relationship: Wife is 41y, married 18 years, 4 kids (15y,13y,10y,5y) Squat (3x5) 315 (+5) lbs DL (1x5) 320 (+5) lbs BP (3x3) 202.5 (+2.5) lbs OHP (3x3) 140 (+5) lbs ​ Sidebar reading - takeaways: MRP Posts – Actions not words. What she says she wants isn’t really what she wants/needs. MMSLP – Have a higher SMV. Craft and execute a MAP NMMNG – No covert contracts. Don’t use sex for validation. State what I need. WISNIFG, SGM – In progress ​ …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 04:04 PM
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I've fought on and off with how much gaming is healthy. I play with my kids sometimes, but I've concluded that for me anyways, my time is almost always spent better somewhere else. I was mostly using it as an escape. If it's a 2 man job, recruit or pay a friend to help you and be ready to jump on it as soon as the weather breaks. Ask yourself honestly - how much would respect the king whose castle was in a state of disrepair?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/19 08:23 PM
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Can't wait for this conversation.... Wife: So how was work today? Me: It was fun. I spent my break time debating Jesus' sexual attractiveness when a bunch of men on the internet.
/r/RPChristians11/02/19 08:00 PM
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Good point
/r/RPChristians11/02/19 05:54 PM
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Good, I'm here to make you think. This is red pill forum, I'm going to attempt to use Red Pill terminology. That doesn't mean I'm using their frame. Alpha and beta are much, much older than Red Pill. And there is a lot of circular reasoning within Red Pill. Such as, "these alpha behaviors lead to sex with women... and this guy has a lot of sex, he must by definition be an alpha". I'm not using any of that. Dogs know who the leader of the pack is. That was the running joke in the kids move "Up". …
/r/RPChristians11/02/19 05:50 PM
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Alpha - socially dominant, someone who displays high value, leader of the pack Beta - socially deferential, shows value by provision and emotional comfort
/r/RPChristians11/02/19 02:32 PM
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I don’t disagree. My only point was that both in traits and evidence of women’s actions show that he attracted the attention of women. He chose not to capitalize on that as it was not his purpose.
/r/RPChristians11/02/19 02:00 AM
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I tried to be careful. I didn’t say that it was because of his physical attractiveness or his sexuality. Jesus was not a Chad (although I don’t really know what that even means), but he was unquestionably an alpha. And yeah, he had men and women following him for many reason - not all of them godly.
/r/RPChristians11/02/19 01:14 AM
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He may have. I was going off Matt8:20 “Foxes have dens and the birds have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay his head” And definitely, people gave him money. Luke 8 says that certain women contributed to his support from their private means. I assume there were others. Only point that I was trying to make with that was that the attraction and (temporary) earthly popularity wasn’t due to his beta bucks status.
/r/RPChristians11/02/19 12:49 AM
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Maybe those lifts are supposed to be in kg's? I mean even doubled they are still aren't great... I'm trying to wrap my head around 6'6 adult male struggling to do an Overhead press with <5 lbs on the bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 02:42 PM
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Welcome to OYS. If I do that math, you were 25 and she was 32 when you got married. Given that she's "too much of an alpha female", I have to ask: Did she tell you to propose to her? You sound like a case of "The Captain and Her Husband" (https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2yrxtp/the_three_dysfunctional_captains_and_first/) If you haven't read that already, you should. Then decide if you are ready to become George Clooney. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 04:07 PM
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"Home repairs i need to tackle some storm damage to my porch which has been a nagging issue along with a side porch set of steps that got termites before we bought the place. ceiling in the upstairs has water damage that has also been an issue for 2 years that roof needs seen to. tree that fell on porch needs removing with saw and hard work and the preparations for this summers battle against the kudzu remain an ever present worry." How long have you been putting this off? Career: get off my ass…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 02:49 PM
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Solid advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 02:35 PM
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Yeah, that's the thing. A good coach is going give you the kick in the ass that you are going to need to keep going. I'm pretty sure that without it, you are going to quit. Your wife is going to nag you about being gone, not taking care of the kids, whatever. You are going to be sore. You will feel like aren't making progress. Then you will quit. Feel free to prove me wrong. 40 minutes is nothing. You will waste twice that messing around trying figure out what you are doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 02:33 PM
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Fogging is a new concept to me, but it sounds useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 11:15 PM
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Thanks. In retrospect, I probably could have switched to an intermediate program earlier. A good coach would have seen that. I’m still happy with the progression though.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 10:36 PM
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Bonus Points: Female trainer at gym I used to help me identify squat problems was acting like an idiot around me. Laughed at every stupid job and kept complimenting my strength and size. It actually got annoying after awhile. She was at best a 5, which surely contributed to my lack of patience over her fawning. Objectively, it was nice to see that I’m getting positive attention even when I’m not looking for it. I wouldn't read too much into this. You are paying her. Part of her job is laughing a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 03:19 PM
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I’m new here so I’ll limit my comments to lifting. For a guy that has “never set foot in a gym”, it might make sense to actually do some research. The sidebar has some good info, but Stronglifts seems to be the preferred program here. Stronglifts 5x5 is an ok program, but it is mostly marketing. Starting Strength is science. It sounds like money isn’t an issue in your situation. If that’s the case, check to see if there is a certified Starting Strength Coach ( https://startingstrength.org/site/c…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 10:46 AM
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OYS#3 Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 197 lbs, Relationship: Wife is 41y, married 18 years, 4 kids (15y,13y,10y,5y) Lifts: 3x5 Squat 315 (+5) lbs; 1x5 DL 315 (+5) lbs; 3x5 BP 200 (-) lbs; 3x5 OHP 135 (-) lbs ​ Sidebar reading: I read MMSLP 2-3 years ago, probably need to re-read it. Finished NMMNG this week. WISNIFG is on deck. ​ Updates: I finished reading NMMNG. I realized that I have been using sex with my wife as a lazy form of validation. I realized that I look to women for validatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 02:57 PM
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I wrote it to illustrate that I’m starting to initiate with outcome independence, but yes you are completely right. I spend too much time thinking about how my actions relate to her sexual acceptance.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/19 08:57 PM
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Excellent
/r/askMRP31/01/19 04:42 PM
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"I pointed out that we'd had sex on Friday, she was shocked and swore that was before the fight not after." I had something very similar happen with my wife where she had completely reversed the order of events in her mind in order to support an argument she was making. And it was about something that had just happened 30 minutes previously. It completely blew my mind, but she was totally serious. It was my first realization that she can inhabit a completely different reality and I had to wonder…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 03:34 PM
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In retrospect, it was just before supper and I was probably "hangry". A better coaching response would have been "ok, you don't want him to wear them anymore, what do you think we should do with them?" I haven't really transitioned over to the Most Responsible Teenager mindset yet. My wife and I did FPU by Dave Ramsey early in our marriage. I haven't read the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 08:54 PM
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I have a herniated disc in my lower back as well. It sucks. I will say that with enough recovery time, monthly chiro visits, and good form - I was able go back to squatting and deadlifting. In fact, heavy squats and DL's have strengthened my core way more than ab work ever did and I have fewer back issues now than I did before I was lifting. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 08:24 PM
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OYS #2 Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 197 lbs, Relationship: Wife is 41y, married 18 years, 4 kids (15y,13y,10y,5y) Lifts (3x5): Squat 310 (+10) lbs; DL 310 (+10) lbs; BP 200 (+10) lbs; OHP 135 (+5) lbs ​ Sidebar reading: I read MMSLP 2 years ago. Started NMMG this week. ​ Physical: Regular gym workouts this week. Increased weight on all lifts. Failed to get full reps on BP and OHP. My bench is still low. I tore my rotator cuff 2 years ago and it is still impacting my bench press. Resear…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 08:02 PM
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I'll check those out. Thanks!
/r/askMRP29/01/19 08:14 PM
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"I’m half your size and I bench more. Dafuq. " As stated in the post, I'm 195lbs. I've NEVER heard any man brag about weighing less than 100lbs. Congratulations on being the first.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 08:11 PM
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I've read that article. Squats particularly are a mental workout as much as a physical one. It's more about grinding them out and staying focused and mentally tough than it is about getting "pumped up and scream and puke". YMMV.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 08:10 PM
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Fair enough. I'm aware it's extremely taste dependent. I lift to classical and jazz sometimes if I'm in the mood for it. Usually, I'm not.
/r/askMRP28/01/19 11:56 PM
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Thanks, I'll check it out. Finding random stuff like "swedish power metal" is exactly why I went fishing.
/r/askMRP28/01/19 11:46 PM
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LOL. I knew I'd get a least one response like this and I was hoping it you would be you McChad. I'm a fan. Now if you could just put that to a decent beat, I'd listen to it.
/r/askMRP28/01/19 11:38 PM
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That makes sense. She has made that complaint before. I've been improving quite a bit in this area though and especially in the previous 72 hours to this statement. I'll probably dig into this more in future OYS/FR's. Her issue with me is primarily about lack of "emotional connection". I think I abandon and stonewall her emotional outbursts and don't provide the right presence and comfort. I think if I continue to stay present and hold frame, she will come around. I may need to tell her that I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 04:30 PM
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BF% - I haven't measured. I'd guess 15-18%. LOL. Good response. I wouldn't have followed thru on it since neither of us like period sex, but it might have fixed the feels. I made dinner the night before. I was very intentional. I bought the food and gave my son his first real grilling experience. She thought that was awesome. Normally, she would have done dinner before she left to meet her friend. Not doing so was kind of surprise passive-aggressive behavior on her part. My problem was being but…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 07:04 PM
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Thanks. Honestly, I'm not sure what she meant. I think it's a variation of pay more attention to her / make her feel something. I tend to err on the STFU side of the equation so I didn't ask her to elaborate or spend much time defending myself. If I dig into it, she might be feeling that I am too passive with her overall. I'll own that. I'm intentional on strategic things, but there is still a ton of stuff I am too passive on.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 05:31 PM
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Major problem with the sex is I do not initiate enough, and I spend to much time at the end of the night sitting in bed next to her while she watches trash TV. I already have the important books from the sidebar and a few others on my kindle, I need to go sit and read on my own as a first step. ​ Keeping the TV out of the bedroom is one of the better moves I've made in our relationship. I highly recommend it. It will help with initiating. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 03:37 PM
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OYS #1 Stats: Age: 43y, Height: 5’9”, Weight: 196 lbs, Relationship: Wife is 41y, married 18 years, 4 kids (15y,13y,10y,5y) Lifts: Squat 300 lbs; DL 300 lbs; BP 190 lbs; OHP 130 lbs ​ Why am I here? This post on emotion and sex by u/man_in_the_world is what brought me here. I’m fairly new to reddit and just discovered this sub last week. I’ve been digging in and realizing how little I understand. But I also realize how much I’ve been using sex for validation. Until a few months ago, a “hard no” …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 02:33 PM
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